The mother did what sooo many peopls do. Have babies at a young age they can't take care of and ship them off to live with other family members for years and years. They have children later down the road and are able to give them everything because they are in a better position while the older child gets nothing. The parent comes back into the child's life and tries to be the ultimate authority. At that point, "mother" is just a title and not a connection. You can't handle the situation using "my way or the highway" It's just sad
It's not the daughter's fault that the mother got pregnant at 15. It's not the daughter's fault that the mother was too young too raise a child. The mother is resentful and the daughter will always be treated differently.
Smtimes parents just have a bitterness toward a certain child, resentment, associated with the father whatever. Parents are just people with they own problems.
She either have resentment towards this girl's father, or she didn't have a bond/really know the father, didn't love him like she did (her kids) as she say. Sad but true!! She probably see the father in her!!
ha. im the only girl out of 4.. and my mother made me pay her back for everything.. i stopped asking.. she bought my brothers cars, helped them with getting approved for home loans... but when it came to me she never helped... i never understood. even when i was broke af unemployed but in college she NEVER helped me.. when she did i still had to pay her back.... i watched her give money to my brothers who werent doing shit. yall dont understand how much this affected me. females scream im independent this that and the third.. when i just want to have somebody to depend on for once. i was forced to be alpha when i wasnt ready to be.. its really funny how life goes.
xxPanterxx xoxo this breaks my heart to hear because i’m also the only girl of 4 but i’m 100% my mom’s favorite and she’s my best friend. i’m so surprised that your mom for whatever reason is cold to her only girl. so so sorry you’re going through this love hope it gets better 💗
Jennifer Allen Right! She should’ve got that money from her daughter before the pen even touched paper in that office. This whole situation was ridiculous and completely caused by miscommunication.
@@Bluestar4443 Yeah, i don't get why they couldn't just wait until she got her tax return and pay it that way or do monthly payments or something. The mom's story made no sense, how do you not check your bank account to make sure the money went through before CLOSING it!? I check my account almost everyday.
It’s like that with my mom. She can ask me for something I get it & she goes ‘it’s ok’. Now I don’t get anything I’m wrong. My older siblings can get her a rock & she’ll love it. We barely speak & I haven’t been to her house in over a year
@@teelovebooks2786 Sounds like you are the scapegoat and they're the golden children. My heart goes out to you: there is nothing wrong with you, nothing warranted that treatment and you deserve just as much love as anyone else. Your mother failed you as a parent, and robbed you of the childhood and family you deserved. I hope you are surrounded by a loving support system and that you give yourself the appreciation and care you were denied but deserved. *hugs*
@@lindaliriel thanks! I’m good I have a few people that ride with me. My older sisters were my arms but unfortunately they are deceased. I’m still doing my thing ❤️❤️
The poor daughter is on the brink of crying the entire show. It's truly heartbreaking to watch. She is a beautiful young lady but her self esteem is non existent due to that mother's treatment. 😢
I really feel bad for this girl. I see this so many times. They give the child away and turn their lives around and the new children get an entirely different life.
I feel the mom, because. That's a horrible feeling. Special win you've never been arrested Before, and then win she approach the daughter. Then. The daughter probley said some things that really hurt her. And she snapped. My mom even at an older age my would have slapped the shit out of me. She just didn't play that talking back. To her or no other grown person. I'm sure mom felt bad how it went down but she paid. For it. So Hopfully they would make peace with each other. Things happened. The daughter was wrong too.
That stung every time she said it out loud...I thought maybe the daughter was being a spoiled little brat, but that baby is hurt. She's hurt from being given away from birth, she's hurt from having siblings that didn't treat hurt her like a big sister, and I'm probably barely scratching the surface.☹☹
My husband grew up with his grandparents because he didnt get a long with his mom's husband(he was 5 and 6 years old). She went on 2 have 2 kids with the husband. My husband and his mom didn't start getting close again until we had our daughter. He is 37 years old and it still hurts him. They have never spoke about it and I think they should but I just stay out of it.
The mother definitely has some type of anger towards the daughter. At first, I didn't believe the daughter but it seemed more obvious as the case went on. In some ways, it feels as though the mother doesn't want her children making some of the decisions she made. With that said, they need to go to counseling. There is a lot of anger in their relationship. What a sad case.
Wow I didn't know skin color can change your behavior. And here I thought psychology was the basis behind behavior. Now I know skin color determines how people behave....
Marcus A Yes. It really is. I cried watching this. The mother is crying. she hurts. Her daughter is really hurting. I know that after they attended & then watched this... GOD has worked it out 4 them. FAMILY✊
I think the mother has a problem from getting pregnant when she was 15 years old and regrets having the child and has taken it out on her daughter all of her life.
So what is happening here is clear and simple. She had her daughter very young and ever since has blamed her daughter for being born. As crazy as it sounds it happens all of the time. She only took her daughter back at an unraisable age because she felt she was an embarrassment to her by falling behind in school. She stated that her daughter know education means everything to her...as we can see it's means even more to you than your daughter. She more than likely fell behind because she was taking her other children around, and still leaving her like she did day one. The mother made it very clear when she said, her and my daughter help me...as if both aren't her daughters. The mother also has a problem with taking responsibility.... she should have never wrote a bad check period, and I bet she closed that account before they charged it. I get the daughter is upset and felt it was unfair she was the only one who had to pay, however you can't make verbal contracts and not follow through. However I feel that mom intention was write a bad check close the account and keep the money her daughter would give her for herself period' lastly.....that woman is grown!! She had no right touching her at all!
What I think happened is that when she gave birth at 15yrs old her parents took care of her baby for her. I think that she didn’t develop a maternal bond because of it. I think that as she got a little older and had more kids that she developed a normal bond with them.
I almost never write comments on UA-cam, especially when it comes to sticky situations like family, but I just have to say I’m so sorry to all the people in this comment section who’s parents treated you any kind of way and you grew up and normalized these actions within your life. Physical violence against your child age 1-100 will never be tolerated by me. There is always a difference between punishing your child rightfully, which definitely includes spanking, and using excessive force against them as their growing up. Sadly this woman who had her first daughter at 15, which is NO FAULT OF THE CHILD, grew to view her as the physical embodiment of her “mistake”. She left this girl in the care of her parents and went on to “live her life” for 15 years. I know a lot of people think that respect from your child is automatic and not earned, but don’t realize that raising the child and nurturing that child was in its own rite earning the respect that is deserved when children get old enough to act out and talk back. This mother did not put in any of the grunt work that comes with raising a respectful, obedient child, and then was surprised when her child didn’t respect her?? Please. When the defendant was 16 her mother couldn’t have been older than 31. I’m 20 and have come to realize that getting older doesn’t automatically make people any more responsible or worthy of respect. Her mother had two more kids in that time span away and didn’t come back for this girl till FIFTEEN years later. I wish that this case wasn’t a statistic, and I wish that some of the people in this comment section wouldn’t encourage/normalize a detrimental style of parenting. Both my brother and I were punished reasonably as kids, and I can honestly count the times that I was really spanked on both hands. I’m in college right now, studying chemistry with a 3.9 GPA, working towards getting into a good medical school, and following in my mother’s footsteps. I’m trying not to speak out of my ass, but reading this comment section really had me shook. I am not by any means saying the daughter is in the right with some of the stuff she’s done, but so many actions could have been taken in her life, by her mother, to even prevent them even being here.😕
i felt this! my mom only spoke never hit, we were 5 year olds but we were people and we understood. we never acted out, didnt cry, never went to stores screaming etc. never begged for things, we just calmly stood by my moms side. she “trained” us, in a sense, at house. i hate hearing stories about people killing little babies for screaming, not all people know how to mold their kids into not doing that. alot of people dont have patience for kids, my mom sure didnt, she had us at home sitting quietly on a couch watching cartoons. some people scream at toddlers and that’s definitely not the way. the lack of love between them is very evident, the fact the mom would put her hands on her 30 yr old also shows the lack of respect she has for her daughter, truly sad. i am a freshman in college, studying legal studies on my path to one day be an attorney, and also studying to do real estate, my parents are very supportive and im very thankful because clearly that isnt always a reality
this made me tear up. especially when she said “nothing i do is ever enough”. i can relate so much but with my dad. it’s not okay for parents to belittle their kids. it’s really not
I have the same type of relationship for the most part with my mom. She had me at 14 and I felt she treated me differently .No connection constantly sent me to my grandma who basically raised me.
She was a child. The thing is at 11 I began my menses. At that point, even though a child, the onslaught of strong sexual urges, are fierce. Now I am able to bring life forward, even though I am still a child. I can see how the disconnect can happen.
The mother has extreme animosity against her older child .. the mistakes she made when she was young were made by the mother not the child yet the child gets punished for it .. ugh .. it breaks my heart you can see that she depises her daughter ..shame on her ..
I agree, the daughter had so much pain expressed in her face and eyes. Reading some comments, I will have to say as well the mom has some kind of resentment towards her. She should have never agreed to pay her dat $ back, even tho she might show favoritism towards her other siblings, in court dats not a defense. Can't believe she blacked her eye the way she did, and caused her to miss work. I can see if she swung first but she didn't, she had no right to beat up on her daughter like dat knowing she wasn't gonna fight back. Sad case
Once the "mother" asked me to pay her back, regardless of my credit standing, I would've declined her offer. I would've made a way to get a vehicle myself.
MsCeCe of course she does. but it's misplaced resentment. you can't blame your baby when you get pregnant at 15. but maybe she did just that. felt that her life was ruined by a baby she didn't want and could not care for.
+Andrew Lawlor Yes I think dats obvious in this case. This case really touched me, I can almost feel the hurt in the daughter's eyes. Seems like she always treated her like a step child
Assalt- it was such a shock how the judge addresses the punch. It is true abuse is abuse and there should be shame in it from all angles that exist. emotional, mental, physical manipulation -how anger abuses love...seminar
Showing favoritism for one child over versus the other child is never a good idea because this can cause the one child that feels ignored to build resentment towards either the parent , sibling or both over time.
Lord give this daughter peace and strength. She is so quiet (here) and clearly HURTING! No I dont know the ins and outs of the entire story but I can see halfway through it.
Two things; I'm sorry but it seems a little fishy that she wrote a check and it just so happens that she closes the account. I think the mom knew why she needed to close the account. Also I think she had her so young she feels resentment towards her. She probably had to miss out on things because she had a child so young.
Also I think we need to see WHEN the account was closed. I have a feeling she closed the account right away. I doubt the dealership would hold the check for 45 days and give the car to the person. That just seems shady. I don't agree with Judge faith on this one.
Right!! Closed account or not you know you write a check for 3,000 and it hadn’t cleared. Hell, she probably closed the account because she changed her mind and didn’t want it to clear..
Everybody was wrong. If the daughter was getting her income tax and said she was going to pay her back with that money, the mother should have told her to wait for her income tax and she can purchase the car with out her help. Whenever someone says they're going to pay you back with some money they're getting a month from now or a couple of weeks from now, they're not going to pay you back. Then the mother was also wrong for writing a check she didnt have in 1st place. You can see the mother and daughter have a strained relationship because the daughter showed no remorse for taking the money. She knew she was never going to pay back the money because she felt it was owed to her since her mother showed favoritism to her younger siblings. These women needs counseling.
wow. that's not a mom. mom's don't punch their kids in the face, no matter what age. and she's a nurse? I wouldn't trust her one bit if I learned she was able to harm her daughter like that.
That mother is a hater....she is jealous of her own daughter....I have a mother like that....and she is indignant about it and makes out like she is so righteous...
I agree with Judge Faith... This is one of the saddest cases I've ever heard on the show. When the judge said she nearly broke her daughter's eye socket, i started to tear up.
this case didn't make any sense to me - why did the daughter have to pay the mother $2,000 when it didn't cost the mother a dime and she had to have known that the cheque bounced, that's why she closed the account and changed banks !! it was the mother who did all that - the judge didn't get it right
Yes, you DID treat them differently, Natalie. Listen: 4:47 "Her, and my daughter, helped me clean those houses." Wow. Guess what? SHE is your daughter too. That's some Freudian slip, that is.
Bad decision by Judge Faith. Why should the daughter have to pay the $3,000 to the mom who wrote a bad check? The mother was never out-of-pocket the $3,000 as it never cleared her bank and the car had been repossessed because of it. Mom definitely owed the $1,000 for medical though. Bad call Judge.
That mother/daughter case was tough for me. The mom had reason to be angry after getting arrested, yet I could definitely understand (and relate) to where the daughter was coming from.
This reminds me of my mom and I a few years ago. We’re better now. I was the second child. My older sister was light skinned and loved and the younger after me were twins so I was the ‘unspecial’ middle child. It felt like no matter what good grades I had, how much money I’d get from my part time job to share with the household awards and accolades I received she just looked at me with disgust
I used to not like judge Faith to be honest but this case made me respect and like her shes very well spoken and very unbiased and tells people when there wrong i like judge Faith now alot.
i get where the daughter coming from because its the same situation with my mom, from the neglect all the way down to assaults also.ion owe my mom no money tho
Judge Faith, YOU are awesome. Thanks for standing up for that young lady, on the right side of the law. My heart goes out to the daughter, , , and to the mother!!!
This case is a tear jerker. They're both hurting. Children can tell when they're being treating differently from other children. That's a hurting feeling & you have resentment towards that person even until adulthood. Trust me, I know, I've gone through it...but not with my mom.
You can tell the daughter is hurting, I thank God for my Mother, I can't picture life without her I would go crazy, it's not a day go by I don't talk to her and I'm 32 with 4 kids. I pray they repair their relationship
They took the car back, she never put the money in her account, so that means the car is going to be repossessed because of the original $3000 check. The daughter could not be that stupid knowing that she never gave her mother the $3000 payback. The car should have been repossessed.
Damn that episode had me cryin! I had my first son at 15. I’m now 34 and he’s almost 19. He is one of my best friends. Yes I still have To discipline and guide him at times but he often helps me just the same. I’m really glad Judge Faith didn’t just cruise over the fact that she punched her daughter. That mom is a good mom and really needed a wake up call
The mom was on Judge Judy and her foster child was suing her! She countersued for the foster daughter's social security check. I knew this lady looked familiar when I watched Judge Judy.
The mother definitely made a difference. For 16 years, she left her child with her parents in another state. She had several other children who lived with her from birth to adulthood. She said herself she was hard on her daughter. She gave the other children cars and expected this daughter to pay for hers. That's huge differences in treatment! She should keep her fists to herself.
Mother is resentful that she had her daughter such a young age and she’s blamed her daughter for taking away her childhood. It’s not the daughter‘s fault. Most kids in that type of situation do not turn out as good as dependents. She’s a full-time job and married with three children. The mother may be jealous of the daughter because the daughter succeeded where the mother failed.
SurrealKangaroo She's probably a Certified Nurse Assistant. I can't count how many shows I've watched that had people call themselves nurses, but they are really CNAs.
The mere fact that she had her parents take care of her own child from age 1-15 speaks volumnes about the heart of this woman. I wonder how much she contributed to them for the expenses if raising their grandaughter, while she was out making more babies. Stop the excessive breeding folks. Most of us can't even give one child everything it should have in his/ her childhood. The entire transaction was ahady regarding the car, and I find it quite interesting that the mom's bank account was closed down so soon after the $3000 check was exchanged for the car. I've NEVER heard of such a business transaction - being able to write a substantial "postdated" check, and drive away with zero security deposited. That tells me that more than likely they had no full coverage insurance for the car they drove off the sales lot either right? Some underhandedness, treachery and lies in this family fiasco. P.S. NURSE mom you got off lightly in my humble opinion. Family- let's turn to each other, not on each other.
This is stupid. The mother never paid the 3k. The check bounced so she'll be 2k richer than she was 7 years ago. She deserved what she got for knowingly writing a bad check.
I would have to agree with the Judge. This is one of the saddest cases I’ve heard. The case brought me to tears. I couldn’t imagine having a toxic relationship Ike this with my daughter, let alone assaulting her.
How does that mother think she can give her child away for 15 years, then just call her back and expect her to act like nothing happened ! Also, hard to believe that the bank never contacted her about the bad check !
i was the first born child of my mother and father i remember looking at photo albums at young age and asked my parents why isn't there hardly any photos of my siblings in there and my mom came too me and said well " because we planned you we only wanted one child and your brother and sister they just came" instantly i jumped up angrily and spoke volumes "Why? how could you! you dont want them you didn't want too love them, I hate you!" even as a 33 year old woman i am still mad about it my sister died two years ago i take care of her three children treat them all the same i love all of them
Man this case broke my heart😩 True enough if you say you will pay someone back do that. At the same time I see the hurt in her daughters eyes! Me and my mother are close and I can only imagine what that daughter went through. I pray you both can find peace and try to build some kind of relationship 🙌🏾
Before I even continued with this case you could tell the daughter was mistreated. She looks so sad. Before she even said she was treated differently I called it. Another toxic mother with a dark skinned daughter, treating her with no respect. It's so sad😥
@PR RP Not really. You'd be surprised how toxic black mothers can be because the daughter is pretty or because they're darker. I'm not dark skinned myself but I know its common amongst our community. But ok🤷🏽♀️
@PR RP Reading back on my comment, I never said that's why she was mistreated. They obviously don't have a bond and that's a huge factor to it. I just was saying that a lot women that have dark skinned daughters( regardless that the mother is dark herself. We all know what self hate is), the daughters are very mistreated. They already have it hard because they are dark skinned, then they also have to deal with drama from their mother. Sometimes it maybe because they are prettier, or darker but in this case, its because she had her young. We obviously don't know her life and I obviously don't know what her other kids look like. But where not going to sit here and act like that MAY not be the issue. It's very plausible🤷🏽♀️.
It makes me sick to think so many kids have to pay the price because mom and dad made a choice. 15 or 35. Of course many of my friends had kids In middle or high school. But I also know people who had their first kids at my age 27 or in their 30s. And some of them still look at their kids like its the kids fault and thry ruin their lives sometimes And it's irritats me when I hear them complain about the responsibilities they have as mothers like the kids forced themselves Into this world. It's sad
This case is so sad it brought tears to my eyes..my heart goes out to the Conniqua, The mother/Natalie needs to understand that when you take your other kids and just leave her, it makes her feel some kinda way...If Conniqua's sister didn't want to share the bedroom , then put the other sister in the computer room since she's the one having the issue... Mother you are the adult but you gotta do better so healing can begin, she is missing your love from the ages of the time you left her with her grandparents til the age of 15... she misses her Mother...please notice that....Conniqua I wish you the best in all that you do...God Bless You, you are beautiful...love your babies better than your mom who tried to love you...she was young may be she just didn't know how..
As a mother, I do NOT feel bad for this mother. This is her fault. And for her to punch her own child is appalling, how is she allowed to be a nurse when she is violent?... She is a horrible mother.
The mom is so hateful, breaks my heart. The mom says she can't have a record, because she is a nurse... but then punches her daughter?? I love Judge Faith!
The mother did what sooo many peopls do. Have babies at a young age they can't take care of and ship them off to live with other family members for years and years. They have children later down the road and are able to give them everything because they are in a better position while the older child gets nothing. The parent comes back into the child's life and tries to be the ultimate authority. At that point, "mother" is just a title and not a connection. You can't handle the situation using "my way or the highway" It's just sad
Shawn Nixon WORD! This is what many people do!
Olivia Ivy right
Shawn Nixon right
You are so right! If I could hit the love button for this comment I would!
You couldn’t have said it any better
You can see that the daughter is hurt.
Of course she is, her mom beat her ass!
Pretty Brown Eyes 92
DoodyBoy67 it's not about that! Her mother mistreated her for years!
Southern StyleGal I
She needed her ass beat. She was disrespectful and rude. Her grandparents spoiled her and she wants her mom to do the same
'Her and my daughter both helped me clean houses'. Umm lady they are both your daughters.
Right
Christine Renney yes...this was weird to say!!
Christine Renney I guess she could have added other or said both my
That's when I believed the Defendant 100% about their relationship at least
She subconsciously didn't class her as her daughter
Boom! Happy you caught that
It's not the daughter's fault that the mother got pregnant at 15. It's not the daughter's fault that the mother was too young too raise a child. The mother is resentful and the daughter will always be treated differently.
I agree with you.
I have a mother just like her....
@@angelahagerman5693 Oh,dear....😒😕😦
edgehill66:You're sooo correct👏👏👏❗Perfectly👍❕❗
Yep. It’s such an annoying narrative when us the kids gotta figure a way out of repeating the cycle and being bitter forever.
Smtimes parents just have a bitterness toward a certain child, resentment, associated with the father whatever. Parents are just people with they own problems.
I thought the same thing especially the part about the father. She probably has a lot of resentment towards him.
Also possibly because she had her daughter so young.
I find it funny tho. Them bitches never seem to close their legs to mke more.
She either have resentment towards this girl's father, or she didn't have a bond/really know the father, didn't love him like she did (her kids) as she say. Sad but true!! She probably see the father in her!!
I agree with you. That is the case here
ha. im the only girl out of 4.. and my mother made me pay her back for everything.. i stopped asking.. she bought my brothers cars, helped them with getting approved for home loans... but when it came to me she never helped... i never understood. even when i was broke af unemployed but in college she NEVER helped me.. when she did i still had to pay her back.... i watched her give money to my brothers who werent doing shit. yall dont understand how much this affected me. females scream im independent this that and the third.. when i just want to have somebody to depend on for once. i was forced to be alpha when i wasnt ready to be.. its really funny how life goes.
xxPanterxx xoxo this breaks my heart to hear because i’m also the only girl of 4 but i’m 100% my mom’s favorite and she’s my best friend. i’m so surprised that your mom for whatever reason is cold to her only girl. so so sorry you’re going through this love hope it gets better 💗
Sorry to hear that. That is awful
Get ur degree and boss up and love all ur children equally I pray god heals u! And I wish u the best!!
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@kai kito she wasn't talking to you
I just want to give that girl a hug. It seems like she never got one from her mother.
indeed 😳
October3074 lol 😂
Tanise Bathaliar.....what's so funny
Angela Haberman what was said obviously, non else cud b funny?
Me too ..
The look on the daughters face is truly heartbreaking
I think the mom has a favorite and it's not her oldest child
Parents don’t ask kids for repayment on “loans “.
@@cawiltunot true if it's a loan it doesn't matter what you are it should be paid back regardless
You dont write checks if the money isnt in the acct...blame yourself lady.
Jennifer Allen Right! She should’ve got that money from her daughter before the pen even touched paper in that office. This whole situation was ridiculous and completely caused by miscommunication.
@@Bluestar4443 Yeah, i don't get why they couldn't just wait until she got her tax return and pay it that way or do monthly payments or something. The mom's story made no sense, how do you not check your bank account to make sure the money went through before CLOSING it!? I check my account almost everyday.
Thank you!!
Jennifer hello
DOT!
The lady is a nurse and she *punched* her daughter in the *eye?!*
*_Eyeronic_*
Tavon Fenwick The joke just flew right over your head, didn’t it?
Lol..
amazing
Lmao 😂
Don't ya think 😂😂😂😂
The way she said, 'Nothing I do is ever good enough for her... It will never be enough' it just breaks my heart I feel her... 🖤
It’s like that with my mom. She can ask me for something I get it & she goes ‘it’s ok’. Now I don’t get anything I’m wrong. My older siblings can get her a rock & she’ll love it. We barely speak & I haven’t been to her house in over a year
@@teelovebooks2786 Sounds like you are the scapegoat and they're the golden children. My heart goes out to you: there is nothing wrong with you, nothing warranted that treatment and you deserve just as much love as anyone else. Your mother failed you as a parent, and robbed you of the childhood and family you deserved. I hope you are surrounded by a loving support system and that you give yourself the appreciation and care you were denied but deserved. *hugs*
@@lindaliriel thanks! I’m good I have a few people that ride with me. My older sisters were my arms but unfortunately they are deceased. I’m still doing my thing ❤️❤️
You can see he pain in the daughters eyes and you can hear it in her voice!😔
The poor daughter is on the brink of crying the entire show. It's truly heartbreaking to watch. She is a beautiful young lady but her self esteem is non existent due to that mother's treatment. 😢
I really feel bad for this girl. I see this so many times. They give the child away and turn their lives around and the new children get an entirely different life.
I feel the mom, because. That's a horrible feeling. Special win you've never been arrested Before, and then win she approach the daughter. Then. The daughter probley said some things that really hurt her. And she snapped. My mom even at an older age my would have slapped the shit out of me. She just didn't play that talking back. To her or no other grown person. I'm sure mom felt bad how it went down but she paid. For it. So Hopfully they would make peace with each other. Things happened. The daughter was wrong too.
When she says "her other kids", that means she was never considered the child of that woman.
True
That stung every time she said it out loud...I thought maybe the daughter was being a spoiled little brat, but that baby is hurt. She's hurt from being given away from birth, she's hurt from having siblings that didn't treat hurt her like a big sister, and I'm probably barely scratching the surface.☹☹
My husband grew up with his grandparents because he didnt get a long with his mom's husband(he was 5 and 6 years old). She went on 2 have 2 kids with the husband. My husband and his mom didn't start getting close again until we had our daughter. He is 37 years old and it still hurts him. They have never spoke about it and I think they should but I just stay out of it.
The mother definitely has some type of anger towards the daughter. At first, I didn't believe the daughter but it seemed more obvious as the case went on. In some ways, it feels as though the mother doesn't want her children making some of the decisions she made. With that said, they need to go to counseling. There is a lot of anger in their relationship. What a sad case.
Just too much emotions on both sides.
I had the same impression you had. The mother needs to understand that you don''t assault people as a way of solving a problem.
Wow I didn't know skin color can change your behavior. And here I thought psychology was the basis behind behavior. Now I know skin color determines how people behave....
Marcus A Yes. It really is. I cried watching this. The mother is crying. she hurts. Her daughter is really hurting. I know that after they attended & then watched this... GOD has worked it out 4 them. FAMILY✊
how would u feel if u got put in orange bc ur daughter didnt put money on that check her mom wrote i would be pissed about that .
The pain in the daughter's eyes, I cry just looking at them. I can't imagine what she has been through all of her life.
The daughter is so BEAUTIFUL.Also, it's very heartbreaking she's carrying around so much pain & sadness. You can see it in her face and demeanor.
I think the mother has a problem from getting pregnant when she was 15 years old and regrets having the child and has taken it out on her daughter all of her life.
You got it right...she resents her.
My heart goes out to the daughter. She’s hurting.
she's 30 she looks way younger
Black don't crack 👸🏾
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Wow, the defendant in the first case is stunning! A beautiful woman, and you could see how hurt she was.
So what is happening here is clear and simple. She had her daughter very young and ever since has blamed her daughter for being born. As crazy as it sounds it happens all of the time. She only took her daughter back at an unraisable age because she felt she was an embarrassment to her by falling behind in school. She stated that her daughter know education means everything to her...as we can see it's means even more to you than your daughter. She more than likely fell behind because she was taking her other children around, and still leaving her like she did day one. The mother made it very clear when she said, her and my daughter help me...as if both aren't her daughters. The mother also has a problem with taking responsibility.... she should have never wrote a bad check period, and I bet she closed that account before they charged it. I get the daughter is upset and felt it was unfair she was the only one who had to pay, however you can't make verbal contracts and not follow through. However I feel that mom intention was write a bad check close the account and keep the money her daughter would give her for herself period' lastly.....that woman is grown!! She had no right touching her at all!
Well said
You Right!!
Very true
What I think happened is that when she gave birth at 15yrs old her parents took care of her baby for her. I think that she didn’t develop a maternal bond because of it. I think that as she got a little older and had more kids that she developed a normal bond with them.
I almost never write comments on UA-cam, especially when it comes to sticky situations like family, but I just have to say I’m so sorry to all the people in this comment section who’s parents treated you any kind of way and you grew up and normalized these actions within your life. Physical violence against your child age 1-100 will never be tolerated by me. There is always a difference between punishing your child rightfully, which definitely includes spanking, and using excessive force against them as their growing up. Sadly this woman who had her first daughter at 15, which is NO FAULT OF THE CHILD, grew to view her as the physical embodiment of her “mistake”. She left this girl in the care of her parents and went on to “live her life” for 15 years. I know a lot of people think that respect from your child is automatic and not earned, but don’t realize that raising the child and nurturing that child was in its own rite earning the respect that is deserved when children get old enough to act out and talk back. This mother did not put in any of the grunt work that comes with raising a respectful, obedient child, and then was surprised when her child didn’t respect her?? Please. When the defendant was 16 her mother couldn’t have been older than 31. I’m 20 and have come to realize that getting older doesn’t automatically make people any more responsible or worthy of respect. Her mother had two more kids in that time span away and didn’t come back for this girl till FIFTEEN years later. I wish that this case wasn’t a statistic, and I wish that some of the people in this comment section wouldn’t encourage/normalize a detrimental style of parenting. Both my brother and I were punished reasonably as kids, and I can honestly count the times that I was really spanked on both hands. I’m in college right now, studying chemistry with a 3.9 GPA, working towards getting into a good medical school, and following in my mother’s footsteps. I’m trying not to speak out of my ass, but reading this comment section really had me shook. I am not by any means saying the daughter is in the right with some of the stuff she’s done, but so many actions could have been taken in her life, by her mother, to even prevent them even being here.😕
Right on Stacy B and right on Judge Faith! It's never okay to ASSAULT anyone!
well said sis
i felt this! my mom only spoke never hit, we were 5 year olds but we were people and we understood. we never acted out, didnt cry, never went to stores screaming etc. never begged for things, we just calmly stood by my moms side. she “trained” us, in a sense, at house. i hate hearing stories about people killing little babies for screaming, not all people know how to mold their kids into not doing that. alot of people dont have patience for kids, my mom sure didnt, she had us at home sitting quietly on a couch watching cartoons. some people scream at toddlers and that’s definitely not the way. the lack of love between them is very evident, the fact the mom would put her hands on her 30 yr old also shows the lack of respect she has for her daughter, truly sad. i am a freshman in college, studying legal studies on my path to one day be an attorney, and also studying to do real estate, my parents are very supportive and im very thankful because clearly that isnt always a reality
this made me tear up. especially when she said “nothing i do is ever enough”. i can relate so much but with my dad. it’s not okay for parents to belittle their kids. it’s really not
I have the same type of relationship for the most part with my mom. She had me at 14 and I felt she treated me differently .No connection constantly sent me to my grandma who basically raised me.
Felicia Johns 😪😪
She was a child. The thing is at 11 I began my menses. At that point, even though a child, the onslaught of strong sexual urges, are fierce. Now I am able to bring life forward, even though I am still a child.
I can see how the disconnect can happen.
The mother has extreme animosity against her older child .. the mistakes she made when she was young were made by the mother not the child yet the child gets punished for it .. ugh .. it breaks my heart you can see that she depises her daughter ..shame on her ..
The very WORST people to loan money to are friends and relatives. What a sad and dysfunctional relationship between mother & daughter.
Tavon Fenwick I reported him. In Trump's America I won't stand for its use.
Lo mejor es prestar dinero a desconocidos y enemigos. (sarcasmo)
Yep. She had a need and could not right herself a check and she was grown.
I agree, the daughter had so much pain expressed in her face and eyes. Reading some comments, I will have to say as well the mom has some kind of resentment towards her. She should have never agreed to pay her dat $ back, even tho she might show favoritism towards her other siblings, in court dats not a defense. Can't believe she blacked her eye the way she did, and caused her to miss work. I can see if she swung first but she didn't, she had no right to beat up on her daughter like dat knowing she wasn't gonna fight back. Sad case
Once the "mother" asked me to pay her back, regardless of my credit standing, I would've declined her offer. I would've made a way to get a vehicle myself.
MsCeCe of course she does. but it's misplaced resentment. you can't blame your baby when you get pregnant at 15. but maybe she did just that. felt that her life was ruined by a baby she didn't want and could not care for.
+Andrew Lawlor Yes I think dats obvious in this case. This case really touched me, I can almost feel the hurt in the daughter's eyes. Seems like she always treated her like a step child
Assalt- it was such a shock how the judge addresses the punch. It is true abuse is abuse and there should be shame in it from all angles that exist. emotional, mental, physical manipulation
-how anger abuses love...seminar
Its just not right for a parent to do something for 1 child, and not do it for their other children.
Showing favoritism for one child over versus the other child is never a good idea because this can cause the one child that feels ignored to build resentment towards either the parent , sibling or both over time.
Lord give this daughter peace and strength. She is so quiet (here) and clearly HURTING! No I dont know the ins and outs of the entire story but I can see halfway through it.
Both of them are wrong and hurt. The mother wants her daughter's respect unfortunately, she didn't earn that respect by showing up as a mother.
I don't know what dealer or financier takes a post dated check for a down payment on a car and releases it before the funds clear. Geeze!!!!
AJ Owens Right?! I live in South Carolina and we don't do that...
AJ Owens Never heard of that kind of business deal.
Used Lots accept them all the time.
Lol
I live in SC too and some used car lots make agreements such as these so I think the mother is being honest about that.
The lady is so mature. The mother is dead wrong.
Yea but she the one who closed the account, maybe she did it on purpose, how would the daughter now anything about the account being closed
know, not now
judge Faith is not having none of the mothers assault in her courtroom
Two things; I'm sorry but it seems a little fishy that she wrote a check and it just so happens that she closes the account. I think the mom knew why she needed to close the account. Also I think she had her so young she feels resentment towards her. She probably had to miss out on things because she had a child so young.
Also I think we need to see WHEN the account was closed. I have a feeling she closed the account right away. I doubt the dealership would hold the check for 45 days and give the car to the person. That just seems shady. I don't agree with Judge faith on this one.
Alyssa Walker agreed.
But the grandparents raised her. And then she go and have two more kids. Not even taking care of the first one. Fuck that shit. Irresponsible.
Right!! Closed account or not you know you write a check for 3,000 and it hadn’t cleared. Hell, she probably closed the account because she changed her mind and didn’t want it to clear..
Everybody was wrong. If the daughter was getting her income tax and said she was going to pay her back with that money, the mother should have told her to wait for her income tax and she can purchase the car with out her help. Whenever someone says they're going to pay you back with some money they're getting a month from now or a couple of weeks from now, they're not going to pay you back. Then the mother was also wrong for writing a check she didnt have in 1st place. You can see the mother and daughter have a strained relationship because the daughter showed no remorse for taking the money. She knew she was never going to pay back the money because she felt it was owed to her since her mother showed favoritism to her younger siblings. These women needs counseling.
It was a lot more than favoritism.
@@Michelle-pn9xt elaborate please
This lady despises her own child and always have,,,,she is full of resentment and bitterness towards her own child. Period.
The daughter may look like her father and mom gets angry every time she looks at her.
@@rwoods1954 That’s exactly what I was thinking. My narcissistic father sees my mom in me, and abused me for it.
They need Iyanla...I wish they could just hug it out . There is love there, it's just buried under hurt.
serious question, what life has Iyanla truly fix?
Yep they do.....i felt their hurt and my eyes watered up.
Tavon Fenwick she did go to jail.
Naw that's not love that disfunctional as hell.
Iyanla would make the situation worse.
With tears in my eyes now this is me and my mother's relationship
wow. that's not a mom. mom's don't punch their kids in the face, no matter what age. and she's a nurse? I wouldn't trust her one bit if I learned she was able to harm her daughter like that.
I think that's one of the hardest ones to watch. Prayers for the mother and daughter that they may reconcile and develop a great love for one another.
That mother is a hater....she is jealous of her own daughter....I have a mother like that....and she is indignant about it and makes out like she is so righteous...
Sad
she's not jealous, she resents her. There's a difference.
Me too unfortunately
Angela Hagerman mine to
Sends *virtual hug*
Mother you should of followed up to make sure that check was taken care of.
Yes, that would have made this case unnecessary. I felt so bad for the daughter. I could hear the hurt in her voice. So sad!!
I agree with Judge Faith... This is one of the saddest cases I've ever heard on the show. When the judge said she nearly broke her daughter's eye socket, i started to tear up.
this case didn't make any sense to me - why did the daughter have to pay the mother $2,000 when it didn't cost the mother a dime and she had to have known that the cheque bounced, that's why she closed the account and changed banks !! it was the mother who did all that - the judge didn't get it right
EXACTLY SHE DID IT ON PURPOSE !
Yes, you DID treat them differently, Natalie. Listen: 4:47 "Her, and my daughter, helped me clean those houses."
Wow. Guess what? SHE is your daughter too.
That's some Freudian slip, that is.
Then at 5:15 she says "I was harder on her, yes."
She doesn't even get that she's doing it.
Bad decision by Judge Faith. Why should the daughter have to pay the $3,000 to the mom who wrote a bad check? The mother was never out-of-pocket the $3,000 as it never cleared her bank and the car had been repossessed because of it. Mom definitely owed the $1,000 for medical though. Bad call Judge.
It may be because she has to pay that amount to the dealership to close her case, but im not sure I was thinking the same thing
Weird. She never thought to ask about the money or the check in 7 years? Who paid the car note if it was a down payment?
That mother is a piece of work.
A WHOLE PIECE! SMH
I think the mom did make a difference between all her kids..which is very sad..and she shouldn't have punched her. They need prayer...and therapy
That mother/daughter case was tough for me. The mom had reason to be angry after getting arrested, yet I could definitely understand (and relate) to where the daughter was coming from.
She doesn't treat her other kids the same way. I would ask her, "Would you ever punch them like you just did her?" and see what she would say.
Something seems fishy about this whole story...
This reminds me of my mom and I a few years ago. We’re better now. I was the second child. My older sister was light skinned and loved and the younger after me were twins so I was the ‘unspecial’ middle child. It felt like no matter what good grades I had, how much money I’d get from my part time job to share with the household awards and accolades I received she just looked at me with disgust
She would've been dead to me once I grew up and left the house. I tolerate no colorism with people I know.
Two responses are focused solely on colour, Geeze.
I used to not like judge Faith to be honest but this case made me respect and like her shes very well spoken and very unbiased and tells people when there wrong i like judge Faith now alot.
i get where the daughter coming from because its the same situation with my mom, from the neglect all the way down to assaults also.ion owe my mom no money tho
I know exactly how that girl feels but I now have 2 Daughter’s of my own and cannot see myself treating them in this manner.
Judge Faith, YOU are awesome. Thanks for standing up for that young lady, on the right side of the law. My heart goes out to the daughter, , , and to the mother!!!
This case is a tear jerker. They're both hurting. Children can tell when they're being treating differently from other children. That's a hurting feeling & you have resentment towards that person even until adulthood. Trust me, I know, I've gone through it...but not with my mom.
You can tell the daughter is hurting, I thank God for my Mother, I can't picture life without her I would go crazy, it's not a day go by I don't talk to her and I'm 32 with 4 kids. I pray they repair their relationship
The daughter is a Fox she is beautiful wow!
I love judge faith following in her footsteps she’s so smart
They took the car back, she never put the money in her account, so that means the car is going to be repossessed because of the original $3000 check. The daughter could not be that stupid knowing that she never gave her mother the $3000 payback. The car should have been repossessed.
Damn that episode had me cryin! I had my first son at 15. I’m now 34 and he’s almost 19. He is one of my best friends. Yes I still have To discipline and guide him at times but he often helps me just the same. I’m really glad Judge Faith didn’t just cruise over the fact that she punched her daughter. That mom is a good mom and really needed a wake up call
The mom was on Judge Judy and her foster child was suing her! She countersued for the foster daughter's social security check. I knew this lady looked familiar when I watched Judge Judy.
Where’s the episode?
The mother definitely made a difference. For 16 years, she left her child with her parents in another state. She had several other children who lived with her from birth to
adulthood. She said herself she was hard on her daughter. She gave the other children cars and expected this daughter to pay for hers. That's huge differences in treatment!
She should keep her fists to herself.
My parents treat me this same way too ...always treat me different..but I thank god for my husband Jackson Pyne love u babe
Nobody won in this case. Its just sad.
I wouldn't allow a bitter/resentful mother like that visit my children un monitored. Thats a risk to the children.
Stupid, restrain order on ur mom? Seriously??
The daughter should have said for Lost Wages too and not just Hospital bills🙄
She said she agreed to pay her mom back then she said she told her she wasn’t gonna pay her back . Like which one is it girl ?
I think she resents her daughter.
Huh could that be because she put her in jail
Mother is resentful that she had her daughter such a young age and she’s blamed her daughter for taking away her childhood. It’s not the daughter‘s fault. Most kids in that type of situation do not turn out as good as dependents. She’s a full-time job and married with three children. The mother may be jealous of the daughter because the daughter succeeded where the mother failed.
If your child tells you they feel that they are treated differently than the others, believe them and check yourself because that is THIER experience!
you can see the pain in that girls eyes.
This woman punched her daughter in the face and she's a nurse?! That does not compute.
SurrealKangaroo She's probably a Certified Nurse Assistant. I can't count how many shows I've watched that had people call themselves nurses, but they are really CNAs.
SurrealKangaroo Nurses can't have issues?🤔
LVN, CNA, RN, NP ... the title has nothing to do with a person's behavior. Bad actions come with all sorts of job titles.
If you're her momma, why is your daughter staying with your parents?????
Very sad. The daughter is strikingly beautiful. Moms drink too much haterade.
The mere fact that she had her parents take care of her own child from age 1-15 speaks volumnes about the heart of this woman. I wonder how much she contributed to them for the expenses if raising their grandaughter, while she was out making more babies. Stop the excessive breeding folks. Most of us can't even give one child everything it should have in his/ her childhood. The entire transaction was ahady regarding the car, and I find it quite interesting that the mom's bank account was closed down so soon after the $3000 check was exchanged for the car. I've NEVER heard of such a business transaction - being able to write a substantial "postdated" check, and drive away with zero security deposited. That tells me that more than likely they had no full coverage insurance for the car they drove off the sales lot either right?
Some underhandedness, treachery and lies in this family fiasco. P.S. NURSE mom you got off lightly in my humble opinion. Family- let's turn to each other, not on each other.
This is stupid. The mother never paid the 3k. The check bounced so she'll be 2k richer than she was 7 years ago. She deserved what she got for knowingly writing a bad check.
I am in pure tears myself smh. Also, I am no one to judge BUT as a MOTHER...or an adult period....take that tongue ring out going to court! Nurse lady
I feel for the defendant. She has zero joy and it's probably because she has a violent mother who does not make her feel like she's enough.
“You Do For Them, Your Gona Do For Me” What Kinda Shxt Is That 😂
I would have to agree with the Judge. This is one of the saddest cases I’ve heard. The case brought me to tears. I couldn’t imagine having a toxic relationship Ike this with my daughter, let alone assaulting her.
How does that mother think she can give her child away for 15 years, then just call her back and expect her to act like nothing happened ! Also, hard to believe that the bank never contacted her about the bad check !
i was the first born child of my mother and father
i remember looking at photo albums at young age and asked my parents
why isn't there hardly any photos of my siblings in there
and my mom came too me and said well
" because we planned you we only wanted one child and your brother and sister they just came"
instantly i jumped up angrily and spoke volumes
"Why? how could you! you dont want them you didn't want too love them, I hate you!"
even as a 33 year old woman i am still mad about it
my sister died two years ago
i take care of her three children
treat them all the same i love all of them
Man this case broke my heart😩 True enough if you say you will pay someone back do that. At the same time I see the hurt in her daughters eyes! Me and my mother are close and I can only imagine what that daughter went through. I pray you both can find peace and try to build some kind of relationship 🙌🏾
congratulations Judge Faith for you excellent achievement i'm so proud of you.
Before I even continued with this case you could tell the daughter was mistreated. She looks so sad. Before she even said she was treated differently I called it. Another toxic mother with a dark skinned daughter, treating her with no respect. It's so sad😥
@PR RP Not really. You'd be surprised how toxic black mothers can be because the daughter is pretty or because they're darker. I'm not dark skinned myself but I know its common amongst our community. But ok🤷🏽♀️
@PR RP Reading back on my comment, I never said that's why she was mistreated. They obviously don't have a bond and that's a huge factor to it. I just was saying that a lot women that have dark skinned daughters( regardless that the mother is dark herself. We all know what self hate is), the daughters are very mistreated. They already have it hard because they are dark skinned, then they also have to deal with drama from their mother. Sometimes it maybe because they are prettier, or darker but in this case, its because she had her young. We obviously don't know her life and I obviously don't know what her other kids look like. But where not going to sit here and act like that MAY not be the issue. It's very plausible🤷🏽♀️.
Sorry Judge but if her daughter tried that ISH with a stranger in the streets, they would have done a whole lot worse.
The daughter looks like a young Regina King.
My heart goes out to the daughter..Hope they can mend their relationship.
My mother never did shit for me either but do hurtful things
She's a nurse and can't have anything on her record. Yet she assaults her own daughter. She should've went to jail for felony assault.
It makes me sick to think so many kids have to pay the price because mom and dad made a choice. 15 or 35. Of course many of my friends had kids In middle or high school. But I also know people who had their first kids at my age 27 or in their 30s. And some of them still look at their kids like its the kids fault and thry ruin their lives sometimes And it's irritats me when I hear them complain about the responsibilities they have as mothers like the kids forced themselves Into this world. It's sad
This case is so sad it brought tears to my eyes..my heart goes out to the Conniqua, The mother/Natalie needs to understand that when you take your other kids and just leave her, it makes her feel some kinda way...If Conniqua's sister didn't want to share the bedroom , then put the other sister in the computer room since she's the one having the issue... Mother you are the adult but you gotta do better so healing can begin, she is missing your love from the ages of the time you left her with her grandparents til the age of 15... she misses her Mother...please notice that....Conniqua I wish you the best in all that you do...God Bless You, you are beautiful...love your babies better than your mom who tried to love you...she was young may be she just didn't know how..
Nice comment unlike the rest of this section where people are so judgemental
Thank you so much 😊
As a mother, I do NOT feel bad for this mother. This is her fault. And for her to punch her own child is appalling, how is she allowed to be a nurse when she is violent?... She is a horrible mother.
The mom is so hateful, breaks my heart. The mom says she can't have a record, because she is a nurse... but then punches her daughter?? I love Judge Faith!
The Mom was angry😢 and things happen but don't punch her in the eye❤️🖤💚😘