Trixi it's always a delight to see you! No need for self-esteem issues...remember this is delight YOU are bringing to the world that was not there beforehand!
I know exactly how u feel about being an introvert and socially awkward. Btw, happy birthday and 30 is not old. It is just the beginning. I can relate so much to this video. You and I sound a lot alike. Death and that subject is the same feeling for me
Wonderful that you are posting again! Those five things you haven’t learned are what some of the things about you that I really like! At 67, I have my own set of things that I haven’t learned including being emotionally attracted to someone who is authentic. I really admire you for how easily you share yourself with the world! Please keep on doing that . You’ll make an old man happy!
I am 67, just retired one year ago. I am starting a new phase in my life, I do things I never had the time to do, I also enjoy it to do nothing, I enjoy it to have no pressure any more, I enjoy to let the alarmclock ring in the morning, a pity a day has only 24 hours. I enjoy it, that Trixie makes a young older man happy.
When I was young I could go all day without eating or drinking. Not so today. As far as death goes, when I was young it scared me, my father died when I was 21, and it was a real shock and disturbed my dreams for a while. My mother died when I was 51, and it was much less of a shock, and her death didn't give me nightmares. At age 70, I still have a problem with compliments, and I am unsure of myself in social gatherings outside of my immediate family.
The funny thing is: When someone gives you positive feedback after a social situation (when you beat yourself about it), your inability to deal with compliments kicks in and you can't accept that they were actually having a good time with you.
Death being the official end of one's existence _can_ be overwhelming. It's a reason to make this life count while we have it, because we really have no reason to believe there's any existence _beyond_ this one. "When I die I shall be content to vanish into nothingness. No show, however good, could conceivably be good forever." -H. L. Mencken
Glad to see you again. I like the mix of personal videos. I personally have no intentions of learning German and initially started watching your videos years ago just because I found them interesting. Now I watch them (when you post) because I like your personality (which I think is probably the most critical component of a successful youtube channel).
5:00 From the perspective of a 51 year old who has had a heart attack and actually died, I can tell you the act itself doesn't hurt. It is not even like going to sleep. You are just talking to someone and then you are gone. Now the act itself doesn't hurt, but the getting from being perfectly healthy to being quite dead can hurt a *LOT* Having a heart attack was the most painful thing I have ever experienced. And I am an amputee who has fallen into the end of my stump the day after having surgery where my bone had to be broken. Yea, a heart attack hurts more than that. The way I see it, death is either just a transition from one sort of exitance to another, or it is a transition to something you have already experienced so you already know what it's like, non-existence. You did not exist for billions of years before you were born. Was that bad? If the latter is true, then being afraid of death is fearing nothing. There is literally nothing at all to fear. Personally I believe the latter will be the case, but if I'm wrong, and God is fair, I feel I have nothing to fear because I have lived my life as good as I could have done. So I doubt I will be facing a terrible justice either way.
Apparently I had five heart attacks before I decided to call for help. Then I had a stay in hospital for a week before they got around to putting a stent in. Lovely. Watched them thread though my body from the arm on the monitor. The worst part was the litres of fluid they pumped in and I desperately wanted to pee.
@@JordannGeorge My heart attacks came on as a felling that something was compressing the inside of my body. all around. It became difficult to breathe. One of my previous times in hospital was because I became very weak and needed oxygen pumped directly into my lungs through a tube in my throat so breathing has been a problem since. There are many symptoms to a heart attack and they are different for different people. Even a doctor might not spot them suggesting other things as more likely.
I am 40 and I have never learned to drive a standard (non-automatic) transmission vehicle. I am also very very bad at roller skating. I love your hair, it looks so nice. It is very pretty.
It's so good to see you again! Your willingness to be vunerable is so wonderful! Some might think that when you expose yourself like this that you must have bad self-esteem. However, I think a willingness to see your vulnerabilities allows growth. I applaud you! I relate to every point you make! I never register that I'm thirsty. I always seem to interrupt in conversations. I hate it when attention is directed to me, especially when compliments come. Thanks for being so relatable. In the Zeitgeist of our world, people have started to attach Christianity. I am not naive that some Christians are not good examples of kindness. However, Christ's teachings give me peace about the purpose of life and the life hereafter. I, too, have worried about death since I was a teenager. But trusting in Christ has given me hope and peace. I hope I'm not sounding preachy, our critical, and I'm not judging anyone who doesn't have this faith. However, He is the source of my comfort. Alles Gute, liebe Trixi. Ich hoffe auch, daß es immer gut bei deiner Familia geht.
Moin Trixie und herzlichen Glückwunsch nachträglich! Du wirkst ernster und ich hoffe für dich, daß du in der Pandemie nicht zuviele schlimme Erlebnise hattest! Es ist jedenfalls sehr schön, daß du wieder zurück bist! Ich muß dir etwas gestehen: Du hattest mal ein Vid über deine Arbeit in einer Spielefirma gemacht. Was dort deine Arbeit gewesen ist. Seitdem muß ich jedesmal, wenn Meinfrau mir von dem neusten Spie berichtet, welches sie bei STEAM gekauft hat, an dich denken. Und sehe dich in Gedanken am PC sitzen und die Macht der Gegner berechnen! XD Und tröste dich, auch mit 66 Jahren geht mir die Endlichkei des Lebens nicht am Allerwertesten vorbei. Aber iischa so, nütz jo nix! Vielen Dank für dein Video und dir und deiner Family einen schönen Sonntag! LG aus Ahrensburg Ben
4:44...Trixi, here's a pearl of wisdom I picked up many years ago from THE STANGEST SECRET by Earl Nightingale: "...my years in the newspaper business have taught me that people are basically GOOD- and that we CAME from somewhere- and we're GOING somewhere: so LIFE should be an ADVENTURE! THE ARCHITECT OF THE UNIVERSE DIDN'T BUILD A STAIRWAY LEADING NOWHERE!"
Many of my friends were either introvert or socially awkward and we ruined them 😄 I recommend you to surround yourself with a friend or a group of friends regularly because they can help you overcome these things by observing and trying their behaviors.
I remember being 30. I had my life pretty well together. Now that I'm 43, I don't. And as time passes, holding back entropy is becoming more and more of a struggle. 🤷
I understand you on the fear of death thing. I too have it, although it hasn't necessarily increased with age (I'm 44) so much as I've developed a coping mechanism to it. When I was a kid, I can distinctly remember having full-out panic attacks if the thought of my death marinated in my mind (and I am certainly wired to having things uncontrollably marinate in my mind, *especially* when I'm mad or upset about something); the very thought of not existing anymore was something that I used to even keep me awake with uncontrollable terror, it freaked me out SO badly! And the only thing that would calm me down and push that fear aside was to simply *force* myself to not think about it; because it was the thinking about it was what pushed me down that rabbit-hole which was so difficult to get out of.
You are a genuine human being. I am 60 now. I have done a lot of things in my life that I am proud and happy about. There are other things that I have said or done which I am ashamed of. I have few regrets. My point is: live your life to the fullest. Don't worry about the small shit, they just don't matter. You can't please everyone, do your best to be yourself and enjoy life. The rest will take care of itself. P.S. I still run 5 miles every other day and I still feel like I'm 30. Age is only a number.
Two things I’ve learned in being around a long time: be grateful for what you have and the things that keep you alive, side effects and all, take them in stride. I’ve found it a good philosophy to deal with my time while I’m here and on that note after a very long absence, we all welcome back Trixi of Don’t Trust The Rabbit!
Danke for the video!! With other people, an easy trick, ask questions, people feel attraction to people who listen to them ;). I lived in germany and i was shocked how people take life that seriously (i am french), so just dont take things too seriously 😄
I turned 40 in July and I definitely feel that there is a lot in my life yet to fall into place and for me to learn. I am an introvert like you, with borderline social anxiety and I can totally relate to how you feel exhausted after interacting with someone, be it a group or a one-on-one face to face conversation. And I have to mentally prepare for parties and get-togethers, whether it's with friends or family members because I'm always so akwkward and I'm never sure who I should talk to or how long I should keep the conversation going before they surely get sick of my obvious failed attempt at holding a coherent adult conversation with them. This type of interaction drains all my energy and makes me wanna spend the next few days just relaxing at home, not see or talk to anyone, at least not until my social batteries have charged again. Good video and overall very relatable. I think many of us go through life believing we'll have it all figured out by the time we reach this or that age but the truth is we always learn as we go and we're never really fully done learning life or how to live it. That's what I believe anyway. Also, I too need to get better at drinking water, I drink too little of it! :)
I tried drinking as much water as you're "supposed to", and I was always forcing it in and always at the toilet. It wasn't feasible. When I changed my diet to something healthier, I needed less water for it to come out clear.
Look at what comes out. The right amount coming in will result in a light yellow stream. Be sure also to eat well as what comes out is not simply excess. The latter is not actually difficult if you eat sensibly, so not so much a worry.
I feel the second one. Like you walk away from any interaction and you’re just like “Why did I say that???” And you kind of want to just curl up and die. I’m autistic so social situations are hard for me and there’s always something I mess up on. Whether it’s talking too much or interrupting people or saying something inappropriate. Every conversation is a mine field!
Not trying to accuse you of lying, but I am genuinely curious: Wouldn't you not care about embarrassment if you were autistic? I'm no expert, but I'm pretty sure that not understanding social cues is pretty much one of the main things that make an autist. So as far as I know, a autist wouldn't even know that they have a reason to be embarrassed, let alone actually feel the emotion.
I tend to solve my own problems and I don’t allow setbacks to deter me from getting what I want. Being an introvert, its not so much I can’t deal with being around other people so much as I find myself in my own world where everything becomes humanly more manageable and its not the worst thing in the world being alone with one’s thoughts shines a light on the road ahead of me.
4:05 To be fair, when I was 16 we were visiting friends in the Netherlands. They lived in a town called Leek and though it is spelled like a kind of onion, it is pronounced like a body of water, "lake". While out riding my friend's bike I met a very pretty girl and talking to her. I rode with her all the way to the next village, not paying any attention to what was around me, or what direction we were going. I was 16 and she was very pretty. Pretty girls are very rare in the Netherlands as everyone knows (I am being very sarcastic here). Anyway we got to where she was going and we parted company, only for me to realize I knew I was somewhere in the Netherlands but I had no idea how to get back to where I was staying. I knew the town I wanted to get to was "Leek" and there were signs with numbers so I made it back to Leek without much trouble, but all the streets looked just the same and all the houses looked alike. I didn't even know the name of the street I needed. I found a police car and asked for help, but they said they did not speak English, but they let me use the police radio to find a place with a phone. Looking back, I believe those cops did speak English, but they wanted all their friends to know about the stupid lost American kid. Once I found a phone I was able to find a phone book (remember those?) and call our host who directed me home. I was very careful after that not to fall under the spell of evil Dutch girls who want to lead Americans away and get them lost. She was very pretty though.
Perhaps your neurotic feelings are related to your German culture. I love myself. Because of that, I am perfectly comfortable in Germany. In the US, you would be widely loved because of your great personality, creativeness, talent, humor, and beauty. Feeling good and making others feel loved is what do best in the US.
Schön dass du ab und an noch Videos hochlädst🤗 Mein Orientierungssinn ist ziemlich gut, Angst vor dem Tod hab ich auch nicht wirklich, eher so allgemein vor der Zukunft. Deine anderen Punkte sind aber sehr relatable für mich, insbesondere Dir awkward moments bei Gesprächen und so😄
🌟 I think your comments will resonate with many. I remember years ago when you were starting out and you made a video about living with anxiety and depression, and how I related so well to what you were expressing. (Highly recommend viewers to search for that video if the topic interests you.)
The joy and comfort in a complimentary relationship with a life partner is we support each other's weakness and insecurity then encourage our strength and achievement. Always enjoy learning more about you.
Being able to take a compliment well is important. Your dynamic with others can be negatively affected by taking a compliment badly. When someone tells me I am beautiful, it is better that my thank you comes across as "Thank You" & and I know I am gorgous, than "Thank You," but I don't actually think so. In both cases, even if one just says thank you, the latter part may be implied in your manner. Just say thank you. Once you master the "you are beautiful" compliment, this should benefit the way you handle compliments in general. Hope this helps. Much Love
I really enjoyed your video, and have also dealt with many of the things you think you're failing at. But you actually said the most helpful answer yourself: You're not alone!! If something ever brings you down, whether it seems silly or serious, don't forget that there are so many of us that share that kind of experience. Hopefully it helps lift your spirits in those moments! And don't forget that you have a lot of gifts too, you are smart and funny, and it's so awesome that you take the time to share a bit of the German language and culture with the rest of us! Vielen Dank und ich wünsche dir ein schönes Wochenende 😀
It is nice to see you back again. Happy Birthday! I understand all of what you are saying. I am 33 and autistic so I find social interaction akward and I find it hard having a conversation with someone. I sometimes feel like I say somthing then immediatly think was I acting a bit weird or what I was saying came out wrong, even if it didn't. It means sustaining friendships for me a bit hard since I am not great at small talk and I don't know how to continue friendships beyond meeting someone and I have never had a girlfriend as a result, despite wanting one and being 33 I do think about my future a lot and wanting a family before its too late. I was getting help with my social interaction problems until 2020 happened and that stopped and I do feel I could do with more help in the future and will find ways of getting it. I have mostly come to terms with death but given my current social interaction issues, I don't know how I would deal with death if a close family member died since I don't currently have friends and they are the only people I know and can confide in, but again I want to improve my social situations. Like you, I also used to have a problem of going out somewhere and getting lost in an area until I finally found the right direction. A few years ago I went to a place that I had been to before so I thought I knew the path to where I was going. I walked along a path into a forest beisde a golf course and I knew which direction the golf course was in so I could find my way out. Coming back, I first thought I would walk down the hill in the forest in the direction of the golf course and ended up being stuck in thick bog mud and when I got myself out, I took the path that I thought would lead me back to the golf couse as I knew what side of me it was on, but I ended up by a lake on a road I had never been on before and it took me ages to get back to somewhere I knew. My phone didn't have a signal until I left the forest so I couldn't call anyone for help. I am far better with finding my way around now than I was then. 3 things I have learned in my 33 years are: 1. Don't take life too seriously. 2. Don't worry to much about what others think of you as that will probably end up effecting you more than them if you do. 3. Take your health seriously, its the most imporant thing you have. Overall, just try your best to live a happy, healthy life and if you are not a bad person and you find some people don't like you for who you are, then then that is their problem, not yours. Find people who will like and accept you for who you are.
A trick I learned about compliments is to say "Thank you" and nothing else. If you must respond, say nothing about yourself, instead give the other person a compliment. I believe women are trained to make themselves "smaller" in their confidence and don't want to seem "full of themselves" if they just accept a compliment. I know it's difficult, but try to not rebuff a compliment. Every time you negate a compliment, you're, in essence, telling the other person that they have bad judgement and eventually they will stop complimenting you. Remember, if you get a compliment, take it sincerely. I'm 39 and I'm just now understanding this.
Happy belated Birthday! I fell down a rabbit hole and found your channel. One video followed another and suddenly, here was this Rabbit I shouldn't trust and I thought that was a fitting end to my UA-cam adventure, so I clicked on the link and found your wonderful video about turning 30 and now I am wondering if we were separated at birth. With the exception of death, everything you said described me perfectly, or maybe that should be imperfectly, lol. In fact, even as I type this, my inner critic is telling me: I'm saying too much, I'm rambling, People who read this will think I'm a weirdo, I should just hit the "cancel" button and move on, I sound like a dork, Look, the cancel button is *right there*...Okay, you get the picture. Anyhow, I love the German language. I mean, how could I not?! It brought us schadenfreude! Language is so fascinating, as it not just a means of communication; it encapsulates the subconscious values, though processes, and experiences of a culture. Anyhow, as you can see, I did not hit the cancel button. I have subscribed to your refreshing, entertaining, and delightful channel and tonight, I will lie awake thinking, "Omg, *why* did I post all that ridiculous nonsense. She will probably block me and everyone else is thinking, "Sheesh, what a complete nut job", lol. Oh well. I hope 2022 is a fabulous year for you! And, if you don't end up blocking me (is that even a thing on UA-cam? I'm kinda new here.) I will apologize in advance for future long-winded video comments. I'm a writer. I kinda can't help it. I think I need help🤣 Cheers!
I'm the total opposite of everything you just explained. I have been like this since I can remember. I genuinely do not fear anything, especially death. You have to let go of all the mental constraints that instill fear in your mind. Lots of what you mentioned are innate. I do not know how I acquired these traits? It feels good not to worry about things that are out of my control.
“I know this place! Do I live here? I live here! I think…” I. FEEL!!! Even in video games. Recently I’ve tried to navigate through one of my favorite games, Red Dead Redemption 2, without using the mini map. I needed to go to the post office to complete some mission and I was walking the way I *thought* it was, I had even consulted the main map before going into town, and I started to think “This is a longer way than I thought. Maybe I should have brought my horse.” And then I finally caved and checked the map only to discover I’d been walking in the opposite direction. So I turned around and comedically ran the other way. If the NPC’s were actual people they would have thought I was a crazy person.
@@DontTrustTheRabbit Maybe it is time to put a handheld GPS in your purse. Just turn it on and it will lead you home. Fortunately for me, all of my property is uphill from the house so all I do is take the easiest path till I can see the yards.
Video games are much harder, I never know where I am without a map. In real world I always know where to go to get home (and sometimes a friends house). To find a store is harder
Great to see you! I’ve missed your regular video output. Despite everything you said for Number 5, I still want to tell you, I like you. I think you’re cool. You’re totally awesome and delightful. Don’t change a thing! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
I relate so much to most of these. Also, I haven't learnt how to make decisions. Not small ones like what kind of pizza I want to order, and not big ones like what I want to do with my life. I only turned 20 last week though, so I've still probably got some time to figure that one out, but it's intimidating.
Happy birthday!! I am glad that you are posting again. I can relate to all you have mentioned, especially to the one, when you don't feel fine after an encounter and think, you said something odd!
Happy 30! For me, things started to get much better at 30: my brain's construction was finally "complete" and I was finally operating on fully-functional hardware. It made emotional stability a lot easier; issues that vexed me in my 20s, barely even bothered me in my 30s. The 30s were a great decade for me and I hope they will be for you too. I can identify with a couple of your five issues. About social awkwardness, I deal with that by putting on a completely fake persona in uncomfortable situations, more like a genial talk show host than my real self. I let that persona do the hard work of dealing with other people; he's good at it.
Happy Birthday 🎂🎈. I also know the feeling of dread about death and I am nearly twice your age. I tell myself that it's a reminder to go out and do stuff.
That thing with the drinking, I can totally relate to. It is not so extreme, but it is there. And I'm above 40. Well, I always have a bottle of water on my desk, but that doesn't mean I drink regularly. Sometimes I take several sips but othertimes I don't drink for hours. Another thing, I haven't learnt is, that I need not care about, how others I know would think about that action of me. A long time ago, I recognised, that this is a problem, because it cripples me and I do nothing, but that process of new thinking is very hard to overcome.
You are special because you are special. You are authentic, what more do you need to achieve. You know this all, no need to go on. Just one question for you: If talent leads to responsibility, you might carry the weight of this world on your shoulder. With this burden any talented person must be even more perfect to meet the expectations. Thoses expectation might colour our senses. Anything is black if you fight windmills forever. What if you open your eyes and percept the world on first hand? No expectations, just use your senses to see, hear, taste, smell and feel. Whatever you perceive, it is true. This could be your missing anker in this world. Best wishes from an infp.
I have just turned 60 and have no damn clue. And now, it doesn't matter. Just have fun, take care of your loved ones and know worrying changes nothing.
I feel you exactly for most points. The only point that I am sort of mastered is not getting lost. All those others, yeah even with 38 I kind of not learned those. Lately the fear of death or better the unknown grew instead of leaving me. Covid had a huge part in why it grew, like for most I guess. Social interactions and small talk is hard. Talking about my hobbies, yeah, but make a loosely conversation about anything, nope. I really like your approach of not telling what you've learnt and instead focus on what you are still working on.
I am 30 yrs your senior and what you described still happens to me. People think I am better then them because I am so quiet in conversations. Most of the time it’s not being “stuck up” it’s because my interests are so small or not the same interests as the ones I am speaking to. I am an introvert it’s not that I do not enjoy being around people. It is the length of exposure to them. Because I feel so uninteresting to them I feel out of place so I want to leave. I never had an issue with getting lost and if I did the military cured this. Death not an issue for me I have peace as to where I will end up. But my Mutti always said, “Aber es gibt Hoffnung” it gets better because as you grow older you become immune to not caring what people think😁 Well except for family and even then that’s tricky 😌
Hallo Trixi :) ich bin 40 und habe viele der Dinge auch nicht abgelegt können. Ich hadere ebenfalls nach jeder Konversation und treibe meinen Freund manchmal in den Wahnsinn, wenn er mich fragt worüber denkst du nach und ich ihm dann sage "hab ich mich heute eigentlich beim Gespräch mit unseren Nachbarn lächerlich gemacht?". Er weiss gar nicht warum ich mir so viele Gedanken mache oder mich oft sogar damit quäle.. Ich weiss nicht ob es daran liegt, das ich introvertiert bin. Deine Ehrlichkeit hat mich jedenfalls zum schmunzeln gebracht, da ich mich darin wiedererkennen konnte.
Great video. I'm sure you will learn more about these 5 things as you move forward in the next 10 years. One piece of advice is to write what you feel, your strengths and weaknesses and take stock everyday. Writing makes a whole big difference. All the best :)
Drink only when you are thirsty. In the US they (government) used to say that everyone needed to drink at least 4 glasses of water per day. And, coincidentally, the enforceable drinking water standard for fluoride is 4.0 mg/L, where 4 glasses equals 1 L, and where, again coincidentally, the recommended fluoride intake is 0.05 mg F/kg body weight/day, which equals to 4.0 mg for a 180 lb person. Edit: Actually, for kidney health, you need to be drinking 1/2 tsp baking soda (not baking powder) in 8 oz water on an empty stomach, daily, whether thirsty or not, after which time you should be maintaining an empty stomach for at least an hour. (I am not a doctor)
I has hang ups about my mortality, but after losing some close friends I’ve decided to just get on with my life and be as happy as I can be! We don’t know how long we have so let’s make the best of the time we have. I’m 56, and feel I have not learned everything either, age is just a number x By the way you’re an amazing young lady x
it's been a while! glad u put this new vid out. ur so funny!!! hahaha. thank you for sharing those intimate things. i also share a lot of ur concerns and i think it's pretty normal. keep being u! ur really good at it! : )
Welcome back Trixi, thanks for the upload! I used to worry about what I'd said to people and then criticise myself afterwards. Eventually I realised that people didn't talk about what I'd said, didn't discuss my imagined faux pa's, and didn't do a group critique on me. I'd just been a normal human being. Looking forward to next week's upload. Happy birthday!
Absolutely love your videos! You keep me learning and entertained. I'm one of those passengers on the boat you're talking about and I'm a full 12 years older than you, so don't feel bad, you're not alone. Viele Grüße aus Amerika schönes Mädchen 😉
In one regard I’m the opposite, I’d love to get completely lost. I almost always roughly know where I am, at the very least I know the boundaries of the area I am in. It’s probably wanting to experience a sort of infinity. The closest I got to that was snowshoe hiking in the mountains above the tree line while it snowing with a visibility of maybe 100 metres and snowfall slowly covering my own tracks.
Du bist sehr nett, ich bin gerade doppelt so alt wie du. Nein, ich bin nicht weiser als du,vielleicht entspannter. Das ist ein Riesenvorteil. Du kannst etwas, machst deine Liebsten froh... und nimmst ein wenig Rücksicht auf Mutter Erde. Du musst nicht perfekt sein. Alles ist gut.
Von all den Tipps die ich immer wieder bekommen habe ist mach dir keinen Kopf der schlimmste, was ich mit 36 und eigentlich schon immer sagen konnte. Ich bin immer dann am besten wenn es mir egal ist. Danke an Die Ärzte.
Du bist nicht allein mit schlechtem Orientierungssinn - Tipp: Himmelsrichtung-Bestimmung auf einer Analoguhr mit rundem Ziffernblatt : halbiere den Winkelabstand im Uhrzeigersinn zwischen aktuellem Stundenzeiger und der 12 (ganz oben) dort liegt Süden (tagsüber). PS: Ich verlaufe mich sogar im kleinen City-Parkhaus auf dem Rückweg zum geparkten Fahrzeug bis in falsche Stockwerke, zum Glück sind Parkhäuser oft nicht riesig ... meine Exfrau zeigte mir oft den kürzesten Rückweg für den ich min. 10 Minuten länger bräuchte. Bei nachmittaglicher unbegleiteter Wanderung im hessischen Wald Vogelsberg kam ich bei Dämmerung nur noch mit Glück überhaupt zurück, im November sind Nächte dort kühl.
A book I read as a teenager has helped me cope with my own lack of confidence is "How to Win Friends & Influence People" by Dale Carnegie... I think its main contribution is teaching strategies to make others in your conversation group focus on themselves so they don't even give you a second thought...? ... unless of course they have already read Dale's book & realize what you're doing..!
Except for number 1, all the things you mentioned sound so much like me :D social awkwardness, frequently getting lost, fear of death, not believing compliments ... it's incredible :) but I have exactly the opposite problem with water - I'm too often thirsty and constantly need water by my side...
After childhood, we don't evolve because we age but because we have affinities and gain experience over time and that is changing us in some way. Nevertheless, this doesn't mean that we will automatically learn everything and lose all our "weaknesses" or fears over time. And we don't have to! I really appreciate this video! It is fine if we don't manage to solve each problem, don't have the perfect body, can't speak without any accent, or aren't happy all day and night. We are individuals as we are and nobody should be ashamed of it! Go on Trixxi!
I was terrified of death at 30. Now as a nurse at 40, I've seen so many people suffer before death, that death itself doesn't scare me as much anymore. We have been dead or nonliving for billions of years and we can do it again. Living forever scares me more.
Trixi it's always a delight to see you! No need for self-esteem issues...remember this is delight YOU are bringing to the world that was not there beforehand!
I know exactly how u feel about being an introvert and socially awkward. Btw, happy birthday and 30 is not old. It is just the beginning. I can relate so much to this video. You and I sound a lot alike. Death and that subject is the same feeling for me
Thank you! :) It's good to know I'm not the only one.
Wonderful that you are posting again! Those five things you haven’t learned are what some of the things about you that I really like! At 67, I have my own set of things that I haven’t learned including being emotionally attracted to someone who is authentic. I really admire you for how easily you share yourself with the world! Please keep on doing that . You’ll make an old man happy!
67 is not old.
I am 67, just retired one year ago. I am starting a new phase in my life, I do things I never had the time to do, I also enjoy it to do nothing, I enjoy it to have no pressure any more, I enjoy to let the alarmclock ring in the morning, a pity a day has only 24 hours. I enjoy it, that Trixie makes a young older man happy.
Happy 30! Something you accomplished : your English speaking voice (on camera at least) has gotten flawless. 👍😎👍
When I was young I could go all day without eating or drinking. Not so today. As far as death goes, when I was young it scared me, my father died when I was 21, and it was a real shock and disturbed my dreams for a while. My mother died when I was 51, and it was much less of a shock, and her death didn't give me nightmares. At age 70, I still have a problem with compliments, and I am unsure of myself in social gatherings outside of my immediate family.
The funny thing is: When someone gives you positive feedback after a social situation (when you beat yourself about it), your inability to deal with compliments kicks in and you can't accept that they were actually having a good time with you.
Death being the official end of one's existence _can_ be overwhelming. It's a reason to make this life count while we have it, because we really have no reason to believe there's any existence _beyond_ this one.
"When I die I shall be content to vanish into nothingness. No show, however good, could conceivably be good forever."
-H. L. Mencken
Glad to see you again. I like the mix of personal videos. I personally have no intentions of learning German and initially started watching your videos years ago just because I found them interesting. Now I watch them (when you post) because I like your personality (which I think is probably the most critical component of a successful youtube channel).
I litterally just woke up. And saw this video. So I was like... "Heh, Sure!"
5:00 From the perspective of a 51 year old who has had a heart attack and actually died, I can tell you the act itself doesn't hurt. It is not even like going to sleep. You are just talking to someone and then you are gone.
Now the act itself doesn't hurt, but the getting from being perfectly healthy to being quite dead can hurt a *LOT*
Having a heart attack was the most painful thing I have ever experienced. And I am an amputee who has fallen into the end of my stump the day after having surgery where my bone had to be broken.
Yea, a heart attack hurts more than that.
The way I see it, death is either just a transition from one sort of exitance to another, or it is a transition to something you have already experienced so you already know what it's like, non-existence. You did not exist for billions of years before you were born. Was that bad? If the latter is true, then being afraid of death is fearing nothing. There is literally nothing at all to fear.
Personally I believe the latter will be the case, but if I'm wrong, and God is fair, I feel I have nothing to fear because I have lived my life as good as I could have done. So I doubt I will be facing a terrible justice either way.
Thanks for sharing this with us👍 That is why I live like it is the last day of my life😉Just do things, make your dreams real👍
Apparently I had five heart attacks before I decided to call for help. Then I had a stay in hospital for a week before they got around to putting a stent in. Lovely. Watched them thread though my body from the arm on the monitor. The worst part was the litres of fluid they pumped in and I desperately wanted to pee.
@@geraldmcmullon2465 looking back, do you think you can pinpoint if and what the signs were of those five heart attacks?
@@JordannGeorge My heart attacks came on as a felling that something was compressing the inside of my body. all around. It became difficult to breathe. One of my previous times in hospital was because I became very weak and needed oxygen pumped directly into my lungs through a tube in my throat so breathing has been a problem since. There are many symptoms to a heart attack and they are different for different people. Even a doctor might not spot them suggesting other things as more likely.
Still stressing on all the things that I should have gotten done during the Paleolithic era when I wasn't existing yet.
Miss your story telling to teach us German !
AND HAPPY BIRTHDAY 🎉🎉
I am 40 and I have never learned to drive a standard (non-automatic) transmission vehicle. I am also very very bad at roller skating.
I love your hair, it looks so nice. It is very pretty.
It's so good to see you again!
Your willingness to be vunerable is so wonderful! Some might think that when you expose yourself like this that you must have bad self-esteem. However, I think a willingness to see your vulnerabilities allows growth. I applaud you!
I relate to every point you make! I never register that I'm thirsty. I always seem to interrupt in conversations. I hate it when attention is directed to me, especially when compliments come. Thanks for being so relatable.
In the Zeitgeist of our world, people have started to attach Christianity. I am not naive that some Christians are not good examples of kindness. However, Christ's teachings give me peace about the purpose of life and the life hereafter. I, too, have worried about death since I was a teenager. But trusting in Christ has given me hope and peace. I hope I'm not sounding preachy, our critical, and I'm not judging anyone who doesn't have this faith. However, He is the source of my comfort.
Alles Gute, liebe Trixi. Ich hoffe auch, daß es immer gut bei deiner Familia geht.
"To be fair, tongues are slippery" - köstlich, einfach genial!
Ich dachte genau das gleiche! 😅 🍌
Welcome back! We missed you SO much!!! ❤❤❤❤❤
Moin Trixie und herzlichen Glückwunsch nachträglich!
Du wirkst ernster und ich hoffe für dich, daß du in der Pandemie nicht zuviele schlimme Erlebnise hattest!
Es ist jedenfalls sehr schön, daß du wieder zurück bist!
Ich muß dir etwas gestehen:
Du hattest mal ein Vid über deine Arbeit in einer Spielefirma gemacht. Was dort deine Arbeit gewesen ist.
Seitdem muß ich jedesmal, wenn Meinfrau mir von dem neusten Spie berichtet, welches sie bei STEAM gekauft hat, an dich denken. Und sehe dich in Gedanken am PC sitzen und die Macht der Gegner berechnen! XD
Und tröste dich, auch mit 66 Jahren geht mir die Endlichkei des Lebens nicht am Allerwertesten vorbei. Aber iischa so, nütz jo nix!
Vielen Dank für dein Video und dir und deiner Family einen schönen Sonntag!
LG aus Ahrensburg Ben
Happy Birthday and welcome back :)
4:44...Trixi, here's a pearl of wisdom I picked up many years ago from THE STANGEST SECRET by Earl Nightingale: "...my years in the newspaper business have taught me that people are basically GOOD- and that we CAME from somewhere- and we're GOING somewhere: so LIFE should be an ADVENTURE! THE ARCHITECT OF THE UNIVERSE DIDN'T BUILD A STAIRWAY LEADING NOWHERE!"
Many of my friends were either introvert or socially awkward and we ruined them 😄 I recommend you to surround yourself with a friend or a group of friends regularly because they can help you overcome these things by observing and trying their behaviors.
I saw a post on fb once that said "Introverts don't make friends. We just get adopted by an extrovert."
At 40 years of age, I still haven't learned how to give a good compliment. Nice mosquito bites btw.
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I remember being 30. I had my life pretty well together.
Now that I'm 43, I don't. And as time passes, holding back entropy is becoming more and more of a struggle. 🤷
It is relatable for me as I also have the same things in me as an introvert and I finally see someone here who too is..
I understand you on the fear of death thing. I too have it, although it hasn't necessarily increased with age (I'm 44) so much as I've developed a coping mechanism to it. When I was a kid, I can distinctly remember having full-out panic attacks if the thought of my death marinated in my mind (and I am certainly wired to having things uncontrollably marinate in my mind, *especially* when I'm mad or upset about something); the very thought of not existing anymore was something that I used to even keep me awake with uncontrollable terror, it freaked me out SO badly! And the only thing that would calm me down and push that fear aside was to simply *force* myself to not think about it; because it was the thinking about it was what pushed me down that rabbit-hole which was so difficult to get out of.
Been watching your channel for years :), Keep up the good work!!!
Meingott! A new video! So glad to see you recording again.
You are a genuine human being. I am 60 now. I have done a lot of things in my life that I am proud and happy about. There are other things that I have said or done which I am ashamed of. I have few regrets. My point is: live your life to the fullest. Don't worry about the small shit, they just don't matter. You can't please everyone, do your best to be yourself and enjoy life. The rest will take care of itself. P.S. I still run 5 miles every other day and I still feel like I'm 30. Age is only a number.
Been a minute since I checked out your channel. And never knew you were an introvert. I feel you. Rehearsing your conversation or not, it's PAINFUL
Two things I’ve learned in being around a long time: be grateful for what you have and the things that keep you alive, side effects and all, take them in stride. I’ve found it a good philosophy to deal with my time while I’m here and on that note after a very long absence, we all welcome back Trixi of Don’t Trust The Rabbit!
Danke for the video!! With other people, an easy trick, ask questions, people feel attraction to people who listen to them ;). I lived in germany and i was shocked how people take life that seriously (i am french), so just dont take things too seriously 😄
Welcome back. I liked that video.
I turned 40 in July and I definitely feel that there is a lot in my life yet to fall into place and for me to learn. I am an introvert like you, with borderline social anxiety and I can totally relate to how you feel exhausted after interacting with someone, be it a group or a one-on-one face to face conversation. And I have to mentally prepare for parties and get-togethers, whether it's with friends or family members because I'm always so akwkward and I'm never sure who I should talk to or how long I should keep the conversation going before they surely get sick of my obvious failed attempt at holding a coherent adult conversation with them. This type of interaction drains all my energy and makes me wanna spend the next few days just relaxing at home, not see or talk to anyone, at least not until my social batteries have charged again.
Good video and overall very relatable. I think many of us go through life believing we'll have it all figured out by the time we reach this or that age but the truth is we always learn as we go and we're never really fully done learning life or how to live it. That's what I believe anyway. Also, I too need to get better at drinking water, I drink too little of it! :)
I tried drinking as much water as you're "supposed to", and I was always forcing it in and always at the toilet. It wasn't feasible. When I changed my diet to something healthier, I needed less water for it to come out clear.
Look at what comes out. The right amount coming in will result in a light yellow stream. Be sure also to eat well as what comes out is not simply excess. The latter is not actually difficult if you eat sensibly, so not so much a worry.
I feel the second one. Like you walk away from any interaction and you’re just like “Why did I say that???” And you kind of want to just curl up and die. I’m autistic so social situations are hard for me and there’s always something I mess up on. Whether it’s talking too much or interrupting people or saying something inappropriate. Every conversation is a mine field!
Not trying to accuse you of lying, but I am genuinely curious: Wouldn't you not care about embarrassment if you were autistic?
I'm no expert, but I'm pretty sure that not understanding social cues is pretty much one of the main things that make an autist. So as far as I know, a autist wouldn't even know that they have a reason to be embarrassed, let alone actually feel the emotion.
I tend to solve my own problems and I don’t allow setbacks to deter me from getting what I want. Being an introvert, its not so much I can’t deal with being around other people so much as I find myself in my own world where everything becomes humanly more manageable and its not the worst thing in the world being alone with one’s thoughts shines a light on the road ahead of me.
4:05 To be fair, when I was 16 we were visiting friends in the Netherlands. They lived in a town called Leek and though it is spelled like a kind of onion, it is pronounced like a body of water, "lake".
While out riding my friend's bike I met a very pretty girl and talking to her. I rode with her all the way to the next village, not paying any attention to what was around me, or what direction we were going. I was 16 and she was very pretty. Pretty girls are very rare in the Netherlands as everyone knows (I am being very sarcastic here).
Anyway we got to where she was going and we parted company, only for me to realize I knew I was somewhere in the Netherlands but I had no idea how to get back to where I was staying.
I knew the town I wanted to get to was "Leek" and there were signs with numbers so I made it back to Leek without much trouble, but all the streets looked just the same and all the houses looked alike. I didn't even know the name of the street I needed.
I found a police car and asked for help, but they said they did not speak English, but they let me use the police radio to find a place with a phone. Looking back, I believe those cops did speak English, but they wanted all their friends to know about the stupid lost American kid.
Once I found a phone I was able to find a phone book (remember those?) and call our host who directed me home.
I was very careful after that not to fall under the spell of evil Dutch girls who want to lead Americans away and get them lost. She was very pretty though.
LOVE your honesty and candour
. Don’t be so hard on yourself. You’re 100% endearing
Glad to see you back with more lessons in German! It has been a while. I look forward to more lessons!
Sometimes when I wake up, I go "Wow, I'm still alive. I could've been dead and would never know it, but being awake means I know I'm still alive."
love this
Perhaps your neurotic feelings are related to your German culture. I love myself. Because of that, I am perfectly comfortable in Germany. In the US, you would be widely loved because of your great personality, creativeness, talent, humor, and beauty. Feeling good and making others feel loved is what do best in the US.
Schön dass du ab und an noch Videos hochlädst🤗
Mein Orientierungssinn ist ziemlich gut, Angst vor dem Tod hab ich auch nicht wirklich, eher so allgemein vor der Zukunft. Deine anderen Punkte sind aber sehr relatable für mich, insbesondere Dir awkward moments bei Gesprächen und so😄
🌟 I think your comments will resonate with many. I remember years ago when you were starting out and you made a video about living with anxiety and depression, and how I related so well to what you were expressing. (Highly recommend viewers to search for that video if the topic interests you.)
The joy and comfort in a complimentary relationship with a life partner is we support each other's weakness and insecurity then encourage our strength and achievement. Always enjoy learning more about you.
Being able to take a compliment well is important. Your dynamic with others can be negatively affected by taking a compliment badly. When someone tells me I am beautiful, it is better that my thank you comes across as "Thank You" & and I know I am gorgous, than "Thank You," but I don't actually think so. In both cases, even if one just says thank you, the latter part may be implied in your manner. Just say thank you.
Once you master the "you are beautiful" compliment, this should benefit the way you handle compliments in general.
Hope this helps.
Much Love
I really enjoyed your video, and have also dealt with many of the things you think you're failing at. But you actually said the most helpful answer yourself: You're not alone!! If something ever brings you down, whether it seems silly or serious, don't forget that there are so many of us that share that kind of experience. Hopefully it helps lift your spirits in those moments!
And don't forget that you have a lot of gifts too, you are smart and funny, and it's so awesome that you take the time to share a bit of the German language and culture with the rest of us! Vielen Dank und ich wünsche dir ein schönes Wochenende 😀
I clicked on this video so fast! Welcome back 😇
Yay! I'm glad to see you again, and Belated Happy Birthday! 🍻🍻🥃 cheers!
It is nice to see you back again. Happy Birthday! I understand all of what you are saying. I am 33 and autistic so I find social interaction akward and I find it hard having a conversation with someone. I sometimes feel like I say somthing then immediatly think was I acting a bit weird or what I was saying came out wrong, even if it didn't.
It means sustaining friendships for me a bit hard since I am not great at small talk and I don't know how to continue friendships beyond meeting someone and I have never had a girlfriend as a result, despite wanting one and being 33 I do think about my future a lot and wanting a family before its too late. I was getting help with my social interaction problems until 2020 happened and that stopped and I do feel I could do with more help in the future and will find ways of getting it.
I have mostly come to terms with death but given my current social interaction issues, I don't know how I would deal with death if a close family member died since I don't currently have friends and they are the only people I know and can confide in, but again I want to improve my social situations.
Like you, I also used to have a problem of going out somewhere and getting lost in an area until I finally found the right direction. A few years ago I went to a place that I had been to before so I thought I knew the path to where I was going. I walked along a path into a forest beisde a golf course and I knew which direction the golf course was in so I could find my way out.
Coming back, I first thought I would walk down the hill in the forest in the direction of the golf course and ended up being stuck in thick bog mud and when I got myself out, I took the path that I thought would lead me back to the golf couse as I knew what side of me it was on, but I ended up by a lake on a road I had never been on before and it took me ages to get back to somewhere I knew. My phone didn't have a signal until I left the forest so I couldn't call anyone for help. I am far better with finding my way around now than I was then.
3 things I have learned in my 33 years are:
1. Don't take life too seriously.
2. Don't worry to much about what others think of you as that will probably end up effecting you more than them if you do.
3. Take your health seriously, its the most imporant thing you have.
Overall, just try your best to live a happy, healthy life and if you are not a bad person and you find some people don't like you for who you are, then then that is their problem, not yours. Find people who will like and accept you for who you are.
Thanks for providing such a Valuable Content!:) 😃
Not sure if that was sarcasm, but you're welcome! 😊
A trick I learned about compliments is to say "Thank you" and nothing else. If you must respond, say nothing about yourself, instead give the other person a compliment. I believe women are trained to make themselves "smaller" in their confidence and don't want to seem "full of themselves" if they just accept a compliment. I know it's difficult, but try to not rebuff a compliment. Every time you negate a compliment, you're, in essence, telling the other person that they have bad judgement and eventually they will stop complimenting you. Remember, if you get a compliment, take it sincerely. I'm 39 and I'm just now understanding this.
Happy belated Birthday! I fell down a rabbit hole and found your channel. One video followed another and suddenly, here was this Rabbit I shouldn't trust and I thought that was a fitting end to my UA-cam adventure, so I clicked on the link and found your wonderful video about turning 30 and now I am wondering if we were separated at birth. With the exception of death, everything you said described me perfectly, or maybe that should be imperfectly, lol. In fact, even as I type this, my inner critic is telling me: I'm saying too much, I'm rambling, People who read this will think I'm a weirdo, I should just hit the "cancel" button and move on, I sound like a dork, Look, the cancel button is *right there*...Okay, you get the picture. Anyhow, I love the German language. I mean, how could I not?! It brought us schadenfreude! Language is so fascinating, as it not just a means of communication; it encapsulates the subconscious values, though processes, and experiences of a culture. Anyhow, as you can see, I did not hit the cancel button. I have subscribed to your refreshing, entertaining, and delightful channel and tonight, I will lie awake thinking, "Omg, *why* did I post all that ridiculous nonsense. She will probably block me and everyone else is thinking, "Sheesh, what a complete nut job", lol. Oh well. I hope 2022 is a fabulous year for you! And, if you don't end up blocking me (is that even a thing on UA-cam? I'm kinda new here.) I will apologize in advance for future long-winded video comments. I'm a writer. I kinda can't help it. I think I need help🤣 Cheers!
I'm the total opposite of everything you just explained. I have been like this since I can remember. I genuinely do not fear anything, especially death. You have to let go of all the mental constraints that instill fear in your mind. Lots of what you mentioned are innate.
I do not know how I acquired these traits? It feels good not to worry about things that are out of my control.
the mini german lesson and personal sharing is really quite cool indeed!
looking forward to the next one miss trix =)
“I know this place! Do I live here? I live here! I think…” I. FEEL!!! Even in video games. Recently I’ve tried to navigate through one of my favorite games, Red Dead Redemption 2, without using the mini map. I needed to go to the post office to complete some mission and I was walking the way I *thought* it was, I had even consulted the main map before going into town, and I started to think “This is a longer way than I thought. Maybe I should have brought my horse.” And then I finally caved and checked the map only to discover I’d been walking in the opposite direction. So I turned around and comedically ran the other way. If the NPC’s were actual people they would have thought I was a crazy person.
Yep. This is me in every game, too. 😂
@@DontTrustTheRabbit Maybe it is time to put a handheld GPS in your purse. Just turn it on and it will lead you home. Fortunately for me, all of my property is uphill from the house so all I do is take the easiest path till I can see the yards.
Video games are much harder, I never know where I am without a map. In real world I always know where to go to get home (and sometimes a friends house). To find a store is harder
Hey Hey , and welcome back, your Videos make me always happy ! And no Panic, 30 is das neue 20 😉😉... das kannst mir mit meinen 40 ruhig glauben 😅
Great to see you! I’ve missed your regular video output.
Despite everything you said for Number 5, I still want to tell you, I like you. I think you’re cool. You’re totally awesome and delightful. Don’t change a thing! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
🤗Hay! Happy to see you're doing as well as can be. Hehehe..😜 You're doing good. Keep up the good work! You still have fans..!👍💟🤗
I relate so much to most of these. Also, I haven't learnt how to make decisions. Not small ones like what kind of pizza I want to order, and not big ones like what I want to do with my life. I only turned 20 last week though, so I've still probably got some time to figure that one out, but it's intimidating.
Happy birthday!! I am glad that you are posting again. I can relate to all you have mentioned, especially to the one, when you don't feel fine after an encounter and think, you said something odd!
Happy 30! For me, things started to get much better at 30: my brain's construction was finally "complete" and I was finally operating on fully-functional hardware. It made emotional stability a lot easier; issues that vexed me in my 20s, barely even bothered me in my 30s. The 30s were a great decade for me and I hope they will be for you too.
I can identify with a couple of your five issues. About social awkwardness, I deal with that by putting on a completely fake persona in uncomfortable situations, more like a genial talk show host than my real self. I let that persona do the hard work of dealing with other people; he's good at it.
Happy Birthday 🎂🎈. I also know the feeling of dread about death and I am nearly twice your age. I tell myself that it's a reminder to go out and do stuff.
Glad and happy to see you back online! Turning 30 hit me hard. But I got over it! Have fun and I'm looking forward to your next video.
That thing with the drinking, I can totally relate to. It is not so extreme, but it is there. And I'm above 40. Well, I always have a bottle of water on my desk, but that doesn't mean I drink regularly. Sometimes I take several sips but othertimes I don't drink for hours.
Another thing, I haven't learnt is, that I need not care about, how others I know would think about that action of me. A long time ago, I recognised, that this is a problem, because it cripples me and I do nothing, but that process of new thinking is very hard to overcome.
You are special because you are special. You are authentic, what more do you need to achieve. You know this all, no need to go on. Just one question for you:
If talent leads to responsibility, you might carry the weight of this world on your shoulder. With this burden any talented person must be even more perfect to meet the expectations. Thoses expectation might colour our senses. Anything is black if you fight windmills forever.
What if you open your eyes and percept the world on first hand? No expectations, just use your senses to see, hear, taste, smell and feel. Whatever you perceive, it is true. This could be your missing anker in this world.
Best wishes from an infp.
3:09 It sounds to me like "The end of a pencil..." is a small metal nub with a bit of rubber attached.
I have just turned 60 and have no damn clue. And now, it doesn't matter. Just have fun, take care of your loved ones and know worrying changes nothing.
No one has a clue. The ones pretending to have are lying or fooling themselves. And you are right, it doesn't matter at all. Cheers Mate!
So glad you are back! I really enjoy your videos, even if my German is horrible. I love the passion you have for your language.
how lovely to see you again
Once again, a lovely posting. Thank you.
Many of you issues are issued shared by many -
so at least, you need not feel lonely. :-)
I feel you exactly for most points. The only point that I am sort of mastered is not getting lost. All those others, yeah even with 38 I kind of not learned those. Lately the fear of death or better the unknown grew instead of leaving me. Covid had a huge part in why it grew, like for most I guess.
Social interactions and small talk is hard. Talking about my hobbies, yeah, but make a loosely conversation about anything, nope.
I really like your approach of not telling what you've learnt and instead focus on what you are still working on.
Was not expecting the existential crisis with my coffee this morning, but your feelings on death speak to me. You're not alone on that one.
I have learned that I love your videos and I need more!! Good to see you Trixie!!
I am 30 yrs your senior and what you described still happens to me. People think I am better then them because I am so quiet in conversations. Most of the time it’s not being “stuck up” it’s because my interests are so small or not the same interests as the ones I am speaking to. I am an introvert it’s not that
I do not enjoy being around people. It is the length of exposure to them. Because I feel so uninteresting to them I feel out of place so I want to leave.
I never had an issue with getting lost and if I did the military cured this. Death not an issue for me I have peace as to where I will end up.
But my Mutti always said, “Aber es gibt Hoffnung” it gets better because as you grow older you become immune to not caring what people think😁
Well except for family and even then that’s tricky 😌
Hallo Trixi :) ich bin 40 und habe viele der Dinge auch nicht abgelegt können. Ich hadere ebenfalls nach jeder Konversation und treibe meinen Freund manchmal in den Wahnsinn, wenn er mich fragt worüber denkst du nach und ich ihm dann sage "hab ich mich heute eigentlich beim Gespräch mit unseren Nachbarn lächerlich gemacht?". Er weiss gar nicht warum ich mir so viele Gedanken mache oder mich oft sogar damit quäle.. Ich weiss nicht ob es daran liegt, das ich introvertiert bin. Deine Ehrlichkeit hat mich jedenfalls zum schmunzeln gebracht, da ich mich darin wiedererkennen konnte.
We like you, Trixie! Don't feel awkward with us, and I don't think you're weird I think you're funny! Keep being your authentic self ✨ 💯 👌
Great video. I'm sure you will learn more about these 5 things as you move forward in the next 10 years. One piece of advice is to write what you feel, your strengths and weaknesses and take stock everyday. Writing makes a whole big difference. All the best :)
You are definitely a trip Trixie! I like it!!
Welcome back! We missed you :) If it's any consolation, I'm 52 and I still haven't got my shit together either :)
Yes, that helps, thank you :)
Drink only when you are thirsty. In the US they (government) used to say that everyone needed to drink at least 4 glasses of water per day. And, coincidentally, the enforceable drinking water standard for fluoride is 4.0 mg/L, where 4 glasses equals 1 L, and where, again coincidentally, the recommended fluoride intake is 0.05 mg F/kg body weight/day, which equals to 4.0 mg for a 180 lb person.
Edit:
Actually, for kidney health, you need to be drinking 1/2 tsp baking soda (not baking powder) in 8 oz water on an empty stomach, daily, whether thirsty or not, after which time you should be maintaining an empty stomach for at least an hour. (I am not a doctor)
I has hang ups about my mortality, but after losing some close friends I’ve decided to just get on with my life and be as happy as I can be! We don’t know how long we have so let’s make the best of the time we have.
I’m 56, and feel I have not learned everything either, age is just a number x
By the way you’re an amazing young lady x
it's been a while! glad u put this new vid out. ur so funny!!! hahaha. thank you for sharing those intimate things. i also share a lot of ur concerns and i think it's pretty normal. keep being u! ur really good at it! : )
From someone far older - stay curious.
Welcome back Trixi, thanks for the upload! I used to worry about what I'd said to people and then criticise myself afterwards. Eventually I realised that people didn't talk about what I'd said, didn't discuss my imagined faux pa's, and didn't do a group critique on me. I'd just been a normal human being. Looking forward to next week's upload. Happy birthday!
Absolutely love your videos! You keep me learning and entertained. I'm one of those passengers on the boat you're talking about and I'm a full 12 years older than you, so don't feel bad, you're not alone. Viele Grüße aus Amerika schönes Mädchen 😉
In one regard I’m the opposite, I’d love to get completely lost. I almost always roughly know where I am, at the very least I know the boundaries of the area I am in. It’s probably wanting to experience a sort of infinity. The closest I got to that was snowshoe hiking in the mountains above the tree line while it snowing with a visibility of maybe 100 metres and snowfall slowly covering my own tracks.
I'm so glad you're back. Thank you for the German vocabulary.
We missed you trixi
I missed you guys, too
@@DontTrustTheRabbit Awww Du bist so Süß Trixi
2:00 I am 51 and I have the same exact problem.
Amen... and I have another 10 years on you. :-)
I legit forget this channel exists lol, still its a pleasent surprise when i am reminded when a new vid does pop up.
Du bist sehr nett, ich bin gerade doppelt so alt wie du. Nein, ich bin nicht weiser als du,vielleicht entspannter. Das ist ein Riesenvorteil. Du kannst etwas, machst deine Liebsten froh... und nimmst ein wenig Rücksicht auf Mutter Erde. Du musst nicht perfekt sein. Alles ist gut.
Von all den Tipps die ich immer wieder bekommen habe ist mach dir keinen Kopf der schlimmste, was ich mit 36 und eigentlich schon immer sagen konnte. Ich bin immer dann am besten wenn es mir egal ist. Danke an Die Ärzte.
Du bist nicht allein mit schlechtem Orientierungssinn - Tipp: Himmelsrichtung-Bestimmung auf einer Analoguhr mit rundem Ziffernblatt : halbiere den Winkelabstand im Uhrzeigersinn zwischen aktuellem Stundenzeiger und der 12 (ganz oben) dort liegt Süden (tagsüber).
PS: Ich verlaufe mich sogar im kleinen City-Parkhaus auf dem Rückweg zum geparkten Fahrzeug bis in falsche Stockwerke, zum Glück sind Parkhäuser oft nicht riesig ... meine Exfrau zeigte mir oft den kürzesten Rückweg für den ich min. 10 Minuten länger bräuchte. Bei nachmittaglicher unbegleiteter Wanderung im hessischen Wald Vogelsberg kam ich bei Dämmerung nur noch mit Glück überhaupt zurück, im November sind Nächte dort kühl.
A book I read as a teenager has helped me cope with my own lack of confidence is "How to Win Friends & Influence People" by Dale Carnegie... I think its main contribution is teaching strategies to make others in your conversation group focus on themselves so they don't even give you a second thought...? ... unless of course they have already read Dale's book & realize what you're doing..!
That death anxiety and coming to terms with your consciousness being extinguished one day, paralyzes me sometimes
Except for number 1, all the things you mentioned sound so much like me :D social awkwardness, frequently getting lost, fear of death, not believing compliments ... it's incredible :) but I have exactly the opposite problem with water - I'm too often thirsty and constantly need water by my side...
Gut dich wieder online zu sehen
I like the format it is much more engaging thank you!
I loved it! Keep it coming! ☺️👌👍👋
After childhood, we don't evolve because we age but because we have affinities and gain experience over time and that is changing us in some way.
Nevertheless, this doesn't mean that we will automatically learn everything and lose all our "weaknesses" or fears over time. And we don't have to! I really appreciate this video! It is fine if we don't manage to solve each problem, don't have the perfect body, can't speak without any accent, or aren't happy all day and night. We are individuals as we are and nobody should be ashamed of it! Go on Trixxi!
I was terrified of death at 30. Now as a nurse at 40, I've seen so many people suffer before death, that death itself doesn't scare me as much anymore. We have been dead or nonliving for billions of years and we can do it again. Living forever scares me more.
So happy that you’re back. I’ve missed you. Look forward to seeing you more frequently again. ❤️
Viele liebe Grüße aus Nürnberg!
By the way;you're the funniest person that i know and i love your videos.