answering questions i've avoided 🥴 (a tipsy Q&A!)

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  • @fatalbeautyx
    @fatalbeautyx 2 роки тому +245

    I had a professor who’s husband tragically died out of nowhere. She lost TONS of weight. People would tell her “wow you look great!” And she would literally respond with “thanks, my husband died and I’m so depressed that I just don’t eat anything.”

    • @katella2957
      @katella2957 2 роки тому +8

      Not the same situation, but I lost my job of 10 years a month and a half ago.. i've been losing weight drastically and I keep having people saying how well i'm doing (weight wise) but I dont want to tell them " hey it's because I am depressed and barely eat".

    • @justathumb
      @justathumb 2 роки тому +3

      i feel this...i remember being in a really low place once and i lost SO much weight, and it hurt so much when people would congratulate me on how good i looked, because they were so disconnected from how i felt.

    • @EbonyWarren
      @EbonyWarren 2 роки тому

      Not at all the same thing but when I fell in love for the first time I love 10 to 20lbs just because we hung out a lot and I didn't want to eat in front of him and I just didn't have an appetite when he wasn't around. Crazy time in my life tbh. I'm sorry to hear you're teacher go though the exact opposite and I hope she's feeling better.

  • @mias9164
    @mias9164 2 роки тому +326

    Love how you're unapologetically yourself and maintaining your boundaries.

    • @rxxrcousin
      @rxxrcousin 2 роки тому +3

      The people who don’t deserve to be in your life will take themselves out when you establish boundaries 💛

  • @courtneypokorny5735
    @courtneypokorny5735 2 роки тому +205

    I will never understand why people are so obsessed with you talking about your body or weight (or anyone else’s for that matter). I appreciate your answer to that question so much ❤️

    • @sarahherrian1703
      @sarahherrian1703 2 роки тому +13

      I think because she’s talked so freely about it before. But yes, In any size, she’s beautiful :)

    • @annan.3283
      @annan.3283 2 роки тому +1

      Because her channel is centered around trying on clothes as a size 16.
      I haven’t paid any attention to changes in her body and think she looks beautiful. I would wager to guess that there are people who follow her that are a size 16-18 and thus closely identify with her for that commonality. So they might feel they are losing the leader of their tribe. I observed this when Adele lost weight.

  • @dawnbassett6926
    @dawnbassett6926 2 роки тому +59

    You did a great job explaining about asking people about their weight. I am a high school teacher and I’ve tried to have this conversation a million times over the years with my students and it never comes out right! From now on, we will be watching that clip in class! Your videos are now officially an “educational film.” Congratulations!

  • @wordnerd23
    @wordnerd23 2 роки тому +82

    I would recommend checking out the list of doctors on the reddit childfree board. The doctors listed are more open minded and may be able to better help with a diagnosis.
    Also as a PSA with everything happening in the US, if you're unmarried or want someone other than your spouse to make your medical decisions if you cannot, I would recommend looking into a medical power of attorney. I learned that lesson the hard way when my mom had a medical emergency.

  • @Camiiillah
    @Camiiillah 2 роки тому +31

    I love how you inspire us not to judge others and to think about how we do not know what others may go through.
    I feel like you have made an huge impact on my life. making me judge other people less. feeling more comfortable with my body. And caring less about how I look and more on how I feel.
    I am SO grateful that your channels exists. Thank you, Carrie.

  • @breckbishop2085
    @breckbishop2085 2 роки тому +46

    I'm a 37 year old female and I visited the doctor about 6 months ago. It was our first time meeting, so he was asking me some small talk questions, which was fine. He asked if I was married, I said no. He asked if I had a boyfriend, I said no. Then he said in a derogatory tone, "you're not gay are you?" I was so bothered by this because I kept thinking, if I would have answered yes, would I have been treated differently? Obviously, I will never go back to him again.

    • @audenhere
      @audenhere 2 роки тому +13

      That’s a red flag if I’ve ever seen one.

  • @Kiwi88ize
    @Kiwi88ize 2 роки тому +47

    The questions never stop. When you have kids it just changes to ”are you gonna have another?” When are you having another child?” 🤣 You’re so sweet for answering a question that is really only yours and Drew’s business. 🥰❤️

    • @kimberlytheblob3997
      @kimberlytheblob3997 2 роки тому +5

      I’ll never forget being wheeled out of the delivery room from having my second child (a very traumatizing delivery too!) and the nurse asking if I was going to have a third!!! 🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @Kiwi88ize
      @Kiwi88ize 2 роки тому

      @@kimberlytheblob3997 - who does that?! 😱

  • @foutae
    @foutae 2 роки тому +61

    I love your videos and your candidness! I’m 37 and I recently lost a friendship of 33 years and I’m still grieving 3 years later…it’s hard. Also I’ve started therapy recently for childhood trauma that I never addressed before, your sharing has been so nice and I feel like I have a long distance friend 😊

    • @adak9381
      @adak9381 2 роки тому +5

      Keep it up Sister! Good luck!!❤

  • @rachelm8142
    @rachelm8142 2 роки тому +65

    I’m 22 and have struggled with my body image and self-confidence since I was a preteen, but I’ve been watching your channel for 4 years now, and I can honestly say you have been instrumental to my journey of body neutrality. I don’t know where I’d be without your guidance today. Thank you for all you do 😊 you are truly a role model to me and it’s such a pleasure to see you in this season of happiness and love and self-care.

  • @cayliemartucci5158
    @cayliemartucci5158 2 роки тому +15

    If you choose to try and see a doctor again, I highly recommend going to an obgyn that doubles as a pelvic pain specialist if you can. That’s what I did to get my endometriosis diagnosis, and honestly he’s my favorite doctor I have. Truly changed my life. They can sometimes be more open to exploring things like PCOS or endo because the specialize and have more experiences with those kinds of conditions.

  • @Shay2theT
    @Shay2theT 2 роки тому +32

    PSA: Like any medical procedure, YOU have the RIGHT to refuse being weighed. I told the nurse who brought me to the scale that I'd rather not and there was no other questions asked. I used to have MAJOR anxiety before any appointment just because of that and now I don't have to sweat it.

    • @joycempashby
      @joycempashby 2 роки тому +20

      I understand having anxiety about getting weighed at the Dr office, but some medication requires the patient's weight in order to give a correct dosage

    • @julialiebl5044
      @julialiebl5044 2 роки тому +12

      @@joycempashby true! But you can still ask to only be weighed if absolutely necessary for dosing purposes, which excludes the majority of situations. If you DO need to be weighed, you can request that they don't show you the number or print it on any of your paperwork, then stand on the scale backwards :)

    • @Shay2theT
      @Shay2theT 2 роки тому +4

      @@joycempashby This is true. But some people who have issues surrounding this are so anxious about it they refuse to go to the doctor at all. Your doc can discuss with you if they really want you to do it and why.

    • @Shay2theT
      @Shay2theT 2 роки тому +4

      @@julialiebl5044 yep. I used to just not look and tell them I didn't want to know.

  • @klararenee9845
    @klararenee9845 2 роки тому +33

    i’m not a doctor and it’s not my business, but i had awful periods and put off going to the doctor. once i did get bloodwork, i found out that something quite serious was going on. i think it’s important for all women to be educated on what is typical for periods and concerning for periods. i put off a serious and life threatening condition all because i thought i needed to be tougher.

    • @izy9911
      @izy9911 2 роки тому +10

      Do you want to share with us? Do you mind sharing some serious warning signs you were experiencing & what was going on with you that you later found out? Thanks if u want to share girl! Take care 💫💫

    • @DANNYTHEFROG123
      @DANNYTHEFROG123 2 роки тому +3

      Similar happened to me. Turns out I needed a hysterectomy. My doctor said alittle pain normal. Severe pain where it stops you for days even weeks get it checked out. I would be in severe pain for two weeks out of the month and heavy bleeding for a week.

  • @SarahBethBeauty
    @SarahBethBeauty 2 роки тому +56

    People don’t realize how triggering asking about weight can be. We just need to strike that from our vernacular.

  • @ashleyjones1415
    @ashleyjones1415 2 роки тому +20

    No one took my endo seriously until I was a year into IVF and refused anymore treatment until a diagnosis. Stage 3 endo and testing for more autoimmune diseases. Makes me sick no one cared about my body until I was trying to have a child and refusing to give more money until I got answers. 12 years of me screaming how much pain I am in always meant nothing :( Good healthcare is out there, and I do hope you find it!

  • @madisonross2721
    @madisonross2721 2 роки тому +47

    You’re totally in a new era!!! You have just been GLOWING lately and it’s amazing to see as a viewer 🥰

    • @CarrieDayton
      @CarrieDayton  2 роки тому +7

      Madison 😭💗 this means so much to me thank you!!!

    • @kellymanfredini3835
      @kellymanfredini3835 2 роки тому +1

      so true! so amazing to see people come into themselves.

  • @nauticalnausicaa7790
    @nauticalnausicaa7790 2 роки тому +6

    PSA: in the US, if being weighed is part of the standard check-in vitals/procedure, you can ask not to be weighed! If your weight is not the reason you are at the doctor, they will let you skip it! I'm extremely triggered by being weighed (I'm not in a great place with food/body/eating disorder, and I track it at home; I don't need to go to my physical and have someone weigh me, where I have to decide if I want to see the number or not, or how I can get myself to look away, etc.), and my dietitian told me about that trick. I do it at just about every doctor's visit I have honestly, and the spike in BP after getting weighed is no more lmao
    Sending you so much love and healing, Carrie!

  • @bordified
    @bordified 2 роки тому +34

    I saw a new doctor at my gynecologists office and she commented something like “well you’re a bigger person” or someone who weighs as much as you do”. Uh no ma’am. I switched doctors immediately and told the new doctor within her office what she said and why I switched. I also don’t let me regular doctor weigh me. I told him that I tend to have disordered eating and don’t want to be weighed and he was fine with it. Also (not sure if its related) that doctor who made those comments ended up leaving the practice like two years later. Wonder if she just lost patients??

  • @michtsiify
    @michtsiify 2 роки тому +19

    Took me 8 years to be diagnosed with PCOS. I went to the endocrinologist at UCLA after suggestion from a dermatologist of all people, and they confirmed my diagnosis. I highly recommend UCLAs endo department!

  • @RosyCastillo_93
    @RosyCastillo_93 2 роки тому +17

    Omg same! I had anorexia back in high school and only drank water and ate a few bites here and there and was miserable, all I could think was how hungry I felt, I would cry myself to sleep every night and people where telling me how brave I was, the amazing work I was doing, how proud they felt and how great I looked. It was awful because it made me more determined to keep hurting myself 😭💔

  • @el_izabeth_af
    @el_izabeth_af 2 роки тому +7

    As someone who can relate to the feeling, I love love love hearing others talk about the concept of not being in a rush to change anything in their lives. I will admit, I have had a few gut-wrenching realizations of things that I truly did want to accomplish but can't now after I confused not being in a rush with being afraid to get out there and therefore letting the time slip away. So again, it's nice to know that I'm not alone, it's nice to hear that things do work out

  • @amygibson8216
    @amygibson8216 2 роки тому +6

    Thank you for commenting on your take on the topic of weight. When I’m smaller, I’m told I look good, when I’m larger, I don’t. It’s a mental game of trying to stay on top of my eating disorder and feeling worthy in both seasons. Love you.

  • @Njcheerfan
    @Njcheerfan 2 роки тому +33

    After years of being misdiagnosed and told horrible things by doctors that in my gut I knew were wrong I went to an integrative medical practice. It was life changing. They are supportive and focus on education. I would recommend looking for something similar by you. They combine natural medicine with traditional medicine. Highly recommend.

  • @ElenaV.1314
    @ElenaV.1314 2 роки тому +1

    I just wanted to say THANK YOU for the points you made about 1) Never knowing what people are going through physically/emotionally when it comes to commenting on a person's weight/body and 2) That so many people with chronic illnesses (whatever they may be) or other situations are not listened to by doctors. It's so important to learn how to advocate for yourself! Both of those points are things I have personally experienced, as well as many other people I'm sure, and can be so frustrating/difficult/exhausting to deal with. 💜💜

  • @louisemckelvey
    @louisemckelvey 2 роки тому +42

    All my neurodivergent friends and family (I'm neurodivergent too) are on the same page as you've explained about kids and marriage. I've come to the conclusion that I think it might be because our brains are wired a bit differently and neurotypical people may find it hard to understand that we aren't driven by the same traditional/typical constructs. Marriage is just a piece of paper for me, I am in a long term committed relationship and I dont feel the need to validate it with a piece of paper. Its valid regardless of whether we're married or not. Same with kids. I love kids but dont really see me having my own 🤷‍♀️ I'm the cool wine auntie 😂

    • @KG-ul7nx
      @KG-ul7nx 2 роки тому +7

      I’m not neurodivergent, but defs don’t want kids or marriage. Sadly most ppl struggle to respect/understand that some ppl don’t want kids or marriage. I blame movies/tv for equating marriage and kids with “happily ever after”

    • @louisemckelvey
      @louisemckelvey 2 роки тому +5

      @@KG-ul7nx its a generational thing too isnt it. Older generations dont understand as its what they did and we have far more choice available to us now. It makes me sad when people say 'but you'd be such a great mum, look how you are with your pets' like I'm not a whole person without a child. I'm more than happy to have my pet family as thats what is important to me.

    • @KG-ul7nx
      @KG-ul7nx 2 роки тому

      @@louisemckelvey 100%

  • @pinktuliplove8977
    @pinktuliplove8977 2 роки тому +6

    Thank you for being you! I was feeling incredibly down over pandemic weight gain and your advice helped me so, so much in feeling like a worthy human being no matter my size. Never in my life would I have worn crop tops if it weren't for your body positive content. Sometimes intrusive people comment on my weight. Some think they are doing it as a compliment while others are prying or body shaming. It's rude, triggering, and not okay.

  • @zrae4389
    @zrae4389 2 роки тому +34

    The doctor experience you talked about literally had my mouth hanging open. I've had a few bad experiences over the years but nothing like that.. especially from a woman!! Wow. I'm stunned. I'm so sorry.

  • @emilymason8457
    @emilymason8457 2 роки тому +2

    For anyone with anxiety about getting weighed at the doctor: I always use a method that I learned in my eating disorder recovery which is saying “I’ve had an unhealthy relationship with my weight and disordered eating in the past. I would love to be weighed standing backwards and for you to hide the number when you write it down” I’ve never had a nurse or doctor tell me that wasn’t allowed and they’ve (mostly) honored it throughout the visit!

  • @susanma4899
    @susanma4899 2 роки тому +9

    What would I tell my 20 year old self? Be honest with your feelings and don't be afraid to communicate clearly, including telling people what you want (guys). I hid and denied my own feelings so much. Part of it was wanting to be with someone who was not right for me, so I was lying to myself too. I think you also need empathy to do this--understand where others are coming from, be able to express how you feel but at the same time be kind and understanding to the person you're talking to. The tough thing is that even if you can express yourself in a mature way, maybe that other person (that's your age...or not) isn't there yet.
    I do feel that "young people" these days are better at showing kindness and empathy--not everyone of course, but overall they seem more sensitive to this issue.

    • @izy9911
      @izy9911 2 роки тому +1

      Thx for sharing!!!

  • @loiskanter9877
    @loiskanter9877 2 роки тому +15

    When I was 17 I went to the Dr. for a check up and some vaccines. My parents didn't take us frequently, so it had been almost 10 years since my last appointment. The Dr. noticed that I had one breast larger than the other (which I later learned is completely fine and normal) and started flipping out, telling me I probably had breast cancer and chewing me (a child) out for not going to the Dr enough! I didn't have cancer, but I was scared to go to the Dr for 10 years! I sincerely hope that you find a good OBGYN and have the courage to go back, but I completely get how traumatic it can be!!

    • @samanthas3779
      @samanthas3779 2 роки тому +1

      I'm so sorry that happened! I also had a traumatic experience with a Dr when I was a kid and I haven't been able to see one since. The trauma is real. ❤️

  • @JennyWas13
    @JennyWas13 2 роки тому +33

    My sisters doctor told her having periods that run 20 days on and 5 days off was fine because technically they were “regular”. Doctors are horrible to women when it comes to periods

  • @kileyodonnell9823
    @kileyodonnell9823 2 роки тому +5

    I want to thank you so much for sharing you story and experiences, I know how hard it can be to get your feelings and concerns across in this society and I’m so glad that as women we are fighting for what is right! It’s absolutely ridiculous that people are always so concerned about the weight of a woman, has she lost weight, has she gained, like who gives a crap! I had gallbladder surgery last year and ended up losing 30 pounds from being unable to eat from pain, and it was unbelievable the amount of comments I was getting about how amazing I looked, because when I was looking in the mirror I felt like I looked frail and sickly and I couldn’t have felt worse in the inside! And I’m so sorry to hear about your experience with the gynecologist, it’s really saddening that we’re still being treated this way! I feel your pain as it took doctors around 5 years to take me seriously about my stomach pain, because they claimed it was just “anxiety.” With people like you though being comfortable to share on social media we have hope for this world!

  • @brookieatkinson
    @brookieatkinson 2 роки тому +1

    ugh i love you and your videos so much. i’ve found that i don’t have the same desire or time to go on youtube these days and watch videos, but i always make some sort of time for yours. you’re so genuine and i relate so much to you. thank you for everything and i’m excited for your new journey in LA! i’m also from LA so if you ever need anything i’m around. keep doing you 🫶🏻

  • @lindseyleggett7839
    @lindseyleggett7839 2 роки тому +1

    I think if you're in the place with yourself and really feel like it aligns with your values and life, you should absolutely call that doctors office and let them know that what they did to you was not okay AT ALL. Not only would this show them (and yourself) that you were not broken by their fatphobia, but it will give them a chance to recieve and further respond to some much deserved feedback regarding their standard of care. I'm so glad you've talked about this (and continue to) because I've experienced circumstances like this so many times and the trauma doesn't go away. Thank you, as always, Carrie 💓💓

  • @gracerolman9028
    @gracerolman9028 2 роки тому +3

    Literally so sorry about your gynecologist experience. That’s horrific. We’re vulnerable enough as is there. That’s horrific. Love to you, Drew, Layla, and Moo ❤️

  • @MakSav
    @MakSav 2 роки тому +40

    I had a horrible experience with an OBGYN too telling me I would weigh X amount by the end of the year at the rate I was going while in recovery for disordered eating. Luckily I found a better one and got my PCOS diagnosis and she even let me have surgery to see if I have endometriosis (I don’t). I hope after your move you can maybe find a new OBGYN that can help guide you through your pain ❤️

  • @laureny4558
    @laureny4558 2 роки тому +7

    Thank you so much for being so honest about how comments make you feel and validating your own emotions. It has helped me so much in feeling validated in my own emotions about body positivity and honestly so many other things I've also experienced similar to you. You're such a kind person Carrie and I just hope you feel as loved as you make us feel! ❤️

  • @Yourfavbroskye
    @Yourfavbroskye 2 роки тому +1

    Omg!! Ty for addressing the weight thing. My adult daughter has had an eating disorder for years. She is not eating (sometimes for days), smoking pot like it's a pack of cigarettes and she has lost so much weight. Everyone praises how she looks so trying to have a loving intervention has failed. It started with the Dr warning her about her BMI as a preteen. It's been very hard for me to see this happen and try to keep my others daughters from falling victim to the "thin" culture. Thank you for being a great fashion role model!!!

  • @amaribrown2739
    @amaribrown2739 2 роки тому +4

    Your view on joyful movement has helped me to think about changing my relationship with exercise and my body. Our value shouldn't be placed in how we look and I never thought about that pressure until you brought it up. Thanks Carrie (:

  • @erin597
    @erin597 2 роки тому +10

    queen you are glowing!!! excited to see videos in the new space once you’re all settled in 💕

  • @kathleenreynolds7113
    @kathleenreynolds7113 2 роки тому +4

    I just did all my classes and everything for fostering a child I’m so excited just waiting on a call . My hubby and I have been bothered since we got married about kids . This is a decision we made on our own . Going through the county has been so resourceful and awesome . I still get stupid questions about adopting and fostering 😏

  • @OzgeOlcay
    @OzgeOlcay 2 роки тому +2

    YES BSB IS WHERE IT'S AT CARRIE!!!! I'm actually seeing them next Saturday - super excited!

  • @hillarygrimm
    @hillarygrimm 2 роки тому +2

    Seeing an endocrinologist is the best for PCOS I think to get the the proper bloodwork and a treatment plan at first. An endocrinologist that I first saw 15 years ago when I was diagnosed still said losing weight would help with PCOS symptoms but I ignored her because she still went off of the old ways of height to determine that I should be X weight, plus she was probably 25 lbs underweight IMO. But I’ve moved out of state and now have an amazing OBGYN that is versed in PCOS, is incredibly sympathetic as well in all of my concerns, so she helps me treat it.

  • @anonymous12349
    @anonymous12349 2 роки тому +3

    It's "Kein Bier vor vier" ("no beer before 4:00") in Germany so you're good, it doesn't even have to be 5 o'clock anywhere.

  • @MissyA601
    @MissyA601 2 роки тому +1

    I love these vids! Thank you for telling people it’s ok not to have kids. I’m 37 and never had the pull to have kids. I felt guilty for a while, but have come to peace with it now. I feel the same as you, we enjoy our quiet time alone just chilling out. Thank you thank you!!

  • @Blessedtess27xx
    @Blessedtess27xx 2 роки тому +3

    What I would tell my 20 year old self… I’m 43 now, Quit putting yourself last. You are more than just Mom and Wife.. don’t forget who you are.

  • @blufluffya_496
    @blufluffya_496 2 роки тому +1

    I can't believe that doctor's appointment!!! I'm so sorry this happens!! Also, everything else you've spoken about .... TRUTH... keep doing you 💛

  • @giuliazocchetti
    @giuliazocchetti 2 роки тому +10

    Hi Carrie I saw your vlog when you went to the doctor's office and it made me so sad. I would suggest you write a Google review of that doctor, if your in a place mentally to do that. It could be very beneficial to another women that dose have disordered eating thinking about going there.

  • @torimull4079
    @torimull4079 2 роки тому +2

    I appreciate your honesty with the doctors. I have a very similar experience and I am happy I am not the only one. We appreciate you!❤️

  • @reese5380
    @reese5380 2 роки тому +22

    Thank you for not discussing your weight. I’m gonna leave it short and sweet..THANK YOU!!

  • @saldiamond
    @saldiamond 2 роки тому +24

    The range of facial expressions I went thru when you explained that appointment with the OBGYN....they need to be reported tbh. As a doctor you do not need to be promoting your own products or whatever and bypassing STANDARD BLOOD WORK. I'm so sorry you had to go thru that.

    • @AlleenLoveHope
      @AlleenLoveHope 2 роки тому

      At the very least, I encourage ppl to leave reviews so others can avoid that kind of mistreatment

  • @Officalsarahlister
    @Officalsarahlister 2 роки тому +3

    The whole marriage and kid question can get tiring! Amazing that you stick to your guns and yor opinion is validated! My parents got married when they were 30 and then had my brother in late 30s and sister in early 40s and me (the baby) mid 40s! And like you said you have a family and enjoy you quiet time ❤️ anyway love you carrie! 💞

  • @jessicakoenig8126
    @jessicakoenig8126 2 роки тому +1

    im a recovering addict (3 years sober) & i lost a SIGNIFICANT amount of weight while i was using & right before i got into recovery my entire family found out abt my addiction & i remember seeing a distant relative for the first time in a while & one of the first things she said was "wow you look great! what's your secret?" & i remember blankly looking at her & just saying saying "thanks, it's the h****n" followed by my grandma choking on her drink & my mom shouting my full name. like 1 why comment on my weight at all & 2 she knew damn well i was using bc my family can't not gossip so what the hell did she expect me to say when she asked what my secret was.

  • @kdorko
    @kdorko 2 роки тому

    Fellow Kari....my mom said I was almost a Stephanie. Ughhh I felt your 20 year old advice in my soul. Same stuff I would say to myself with the addition of, "it's all going to work out. Don't stress too much." Regarding kids...I'm also 34. My husband and I are both previously divorced. We have only been married a year. Everyone immediately started asking about kids. Unbeknownst to most, we started trying and when people started drilling us with questions, we kept getting more stressed. Long story short, we are now going through IVF, and my family (besides my mom) still doesn't know. Something I would say to everyone (and still do): "My fertility is my business, and I do not feel comfortable talking about this." You NEVER know what someone is going through...so please...stop asking. It's been hard enough on us without all the questions to remind us, you know?

  • @rachaelhegi9338
    @rachaelhegi9338 2 роки тому +13

    great q&a. I love your honest answers and you seem so great with yourself, introspective and confident. love this for you ❤️

  • @terisibley42
    @terisibley42 2 роки тому +8

    Love how you answered these questions! Such class!!!

  • @jennyoraskovich5590
    @jennyoraskovich5590 2 роки тому

    You are literally such a light, girl. Support you 300%. You’re stunning.

  • @izy9911
    @izy9911 2 роки тому +2

    YEAH just take life in your own pace and feel content with that. 🧚‍♀️

  • @nicolet7735
    @nicolet7735 2 роки тому +6

    Bad doctors are not just unfortunate but can be dangerous. I had so many symptoms disregarded or blamed on my weight and it wasn't until I found a good doctor that I was diagnosed with Cancer. I'm fine and in remission now but I can't have children and as a women in her early 30's that was a horrible choice to have taken away because my Cancer has progressed so far.

  • @Dandie630
    @Dandie630 2 роки тому +7

    So happy for you guys!!! I can't wait to see more videos of your new space ❤

  • @sharakate
    @sharakate 2 роки тому +3

    I like your answers to all the weight questions because honestly ITS NOBODY’S BUSINESS. Also I had an awful doctor experience too. Someone I was seeing lied to me and I ended up asking to get tested just in case. And the doctor told me I should be trying to meet people at church. Not online. And if I went to church, this wouldn’t happen.
    Yeah. No. Never went back.

    • @KG-ul7nx
      @KG-ul7nx 2 роки тому

      Wow. I’m so sorry shara. That sounds awful. You did not deserve that!

  • @rubescentpeach762
    @rubescentpeach762 2 роки тому +4

    Since you've lived in so many places, would you be open to doing a video about your advice when entering the rental market? I will be moving out for the first time within the next year or so and I'm really excited but also nervous! I would love to hear some sage advice from the internet's favourite wine aunt! (And Drew too if he is open to it) :)

  • @xtcharmed
    @xtcharmed 2 роки тому

    i just love you so much carrie! you are so genuine and kind. ive loved watching these past years and seeing you travel and how much you and drew love being in new places! and thank you for sharing it with us!❤️

  • @laurelmartin12
    @laurelmartin12 2 роки тому +13

    I love this color on you!!!

  • @jackiev1229
    @jackiev1229 2 роки тому +3

    I went to my doctor in person for the first time since the pandemic, and I was so nervous to be weighed because I have gained weight during those 2 years. I was very happy that they did not say anything about the weight specifically, but did mention keeping up physical activity. Still nervous for next time though lol

  • @FrankeeJ20
    @FrankeeJ20 2 роки тому

    I’m so grateful for your response on marriage/children! I’m 30 and get this all the time! I just want to scream it’s 2022, when are we gonna learn how personal it is to ask that question?! 🙈 x

  • @erikaoutlaw4842
    @erikaoutlaw4842 2 роки тому +1

    Spinach and artichoke dip as the sauce on the cauliflower gnocchi (air fried) is everything to me! I haven’t tried the sweet potato gnocchi yet but I’m adding it to my list!

  • @PinkFluteEli892
    @PinkFluteEli892 2 роки тому

    You are definitely glowing! Love to see how happy you are!

  • @stephanierichardson9391
    @stephanierichardson9391 2 роки тому

    I hope you will find a new OB GYN Carrie. My heart broke hearing that story! I am a size 22, obviously very "overweight", and was lucky enough to have an OB GYN who never made that an issue once. She gave me a lap surgery and diagnosed me with endometriosis, as well as a few ultrasounds. I have not been in extreme pain since March 2 of this year, usually I would have about 5-8 days of extreme pain a month. Sending you my love

  • @emilymodeen1851
    @emilymodeen1851 2 роки тому

    Thank you so much for sharing yourself and making us with similar experiences feel less alone ❤️ I love you and am so excited for your new LA adventures!!

  • @nicolefazio2272
    @nicolefazio2272 2 роки тому

    These are some of my favorite videos from you! I really appreciate your openness and honesty. I sadly missed this on your Instagram, but just in case you end up seeing this. I was wondering what your favorite non caffeinated beverage is? I can’t drink much caffeine now either and I’m struggling to find yummy, low-ish sugar, non caffeine drinks that isn’t sparking water lol. Lots of love to you ❤️ I hope you and Drew are loving your new LA apartment!

  • @adak9381
    @adak9381 2 роки тому +2

    I kind of feel są about friendship ending. Well I have view friends that Im not talking daily, but like once a year we meet and its all fine. Love that I have someone taht feels like no time passed 😀

  • @dancinggouine9909
    @dancinggouine9909 2 роки тому +3

    Idk how it is in the US but if you have a endo specialist radiologist in your area, you can get diagnosed (or at least almost) with just an ultrasound and a discussion of symptoms so maybe look into that? (I'm in France, so it might be different for you! the ultrasound was 190€ for me in the private sector, once again idk for the US)

    • @WholeFoodSpark
      @WholeFoodSpark 2 роки тому

      I’m in Canada so ymmv but generally it’s good to do a laparoscopy so they can take care of any endo they see. If they don’t find anything wrong, they just close you back up. The incisions are like 1 inch. My ovaries were glued together with adhesions… an ultrasound would not have helped that.

    • @dancinggouine9909
      @dancinggouine9909 2 роки тому

      @@WholeFoodSpark the 3 gynecologist I saw told me I wasn't a case that should require surgery and they didn't want to make anyone go through that if not necessary! I'm a bit scared that something was missed on the ultrasound but the radiologist wrote detailed description of where it was and how bad it was so I'm going to assume I'm okay! But thank you! I'm planning on going to a Endometriosis center soon, maybe they'll recommend something else

  • @melissacoviello2886
    @melissacoviello2886 2 роки тому +1

    Girl I remember your bad experience with the obgyn from last year, but I didn’t realize the details. Wow. You might want to consider filing a complaint with the medical board or whoever so that she doesn’t continue doing this.
    On a JC note, you should listen to Superfruit, Heartthrob. It’s the most 90’s song I’ve ever heard. And it I think you would enjoy it (it’s Scott and Mitch as a duo, from Pentatonix)

  • @anoek7201
    @anoek7201 2 роки тому

    Omg I still cant believe your OBGYN story. I remember you mentioning it in your vlog back then and happy that you feel like you would handle it differently this time! ❤️❤️ sending love

  • @taylorfranklin616
    @taylorfranklin616 2 роки тому

    This is my first video I have watched of yours and I just adore you!

  • @KateSynd
    @KateSynd 2 роки тому +4

    girl my dad wanted to name me Peekaboo... after a famous skier... nobody can top my "what were you almost named" game lmao

  • @bethanyrose9026
    @bethanyrose9026 2 роки тому +3

    My boyfriend and I have been together over 3 years. Neither of us want kids. Everyone keeps asking if we are planning to marry soon. It's a little stressful because I want to be married as I want more than the girlfriend title until I'm dead haha so I've been looking into a commitment ceremony. Would appease the friends, family and myself as I could be a "wife" from then on but we just would not be legally married and thats fine with me. The paperwork never meant anything to me its more about the promise we make to eachother.

    • @KG-ul7nx
      @KG-ul7nx 2 роки тому +1

      I feel ya on the kids thing. Pro tip: my partner and I have been together 12 yrs. He got a vasectomy 11 yrs ago. Obvs not anyone else’s business. But makes it more funny (and less annoying) whenever ppl say to us: “you’ll chance your mind”. It’s like - ah no, we won’t :p

  • @jessicamayer7924
    @jessicamayer7924 2 роки тому +1

    I’m so sorry you had that experience with a doctor. I was horrified when you told that story originally, and I’m horrified again - her behavior was completely inappropriate and, imo, medically negligent.
    I have PCOS myself, and based on the symptoms you’ve previously described, I think there’s a good chance you do too. I’m not a doctor, but in my personal experience as a PCOS patient, the main prescriptions suggested to manage symptoms are hormonal birth control and, if insulin resistance is a concern, Metformin. Not sure if you use/have used hormonal birth control, but if not that could be something to try that doesn’t require a formal diagnosis. However, if you do have endometriosis as well, that can require a lot more treatment and is pretty serious - I hope you will try and find a doctor that takes your concerns seriously, even if you have to try a few. Good luck!!

  • @kristyboule8768
    @kristyboule8768 2 роки тому

    Omg I can relate so much to the late teens/ early 20s codependency issues. I actually was only 22 when I met my now husband but we are such good friends and are so in love with our life that we have together.

  • @heyshay3337
    @heyshay3337 2 роки тому +1

    I've had bad experiences with gynecologists too. I have gone through 5 or 6 Dr's already in the past 15 yrs and still struggling with the same things you. My friend is a family practice dr and she said that gynecologists tend to have that problem where they don't know what they're doing so they blame something/one else. I'm so sorry you're going through that.

    • @WholeFoodSpark
      @WholeFoodSpark 2 роки тому +1

      Yep if they don’t know what’s wrong or how to help, they blame the patient.

  • @lilyjustice7920
    @lilyjustice7920 2 роки тому

    Love the authenticy and transparency in your Q&As. 💕

  • @trinascanapico6358
    @trinascanapico6358 2 роки тому +1

    I’m going to see BSB in Aug! I can’t wait! I also agree that you can’t even choose between BSB and NSync. I LOVE Lance’s Instagram. He’s hilarious and his babies are ADORABLE! 😍

  • @kackie
    @kackie 2 роки тому

    "even though she wouldn't LISTEN" OOF meeee

  • @bellaalexiss
    @bellaalexiss 2 роки тому

    Why did I get emotional at the end 😭 I love you so much even though we have literally never met or know I exist but I’ve been watching you for so long. You feel like my big sister 💜 🥹 you da best!

  • @kristinereynolds3041
    @kristinereynolds3041 2 роки тому

    Thank you!!!
    Thank you for being vulnerable and honest and for giving us this space. Thank you for being our virtual friend. AND Thank you for allowing us in your relationship but most importantly----THANK YOU for sharing moo and Layla with us!!!!!!! I LOVE THEM!!!!!! ❤️❤️🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼Every time I watch your videos I feel like it's an old friend visiting. I mean I'm excited to see the friend but I'm more importantly wanting to see their pets but you get the jest! 😅♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

  • @annalinneajohansson
    @annalinneajohansson 2 роки тому

    Thank YOU for being here. 😊❤️

  • @diamondpayne5959
    @diamondpayne5959 2 роки тому

    Sending you lots of love Carrie and can’t wait to see how you set up the new place!

  • @aliciashazzam33
    @aliciashazzam33 2 роки тому +4

    So happy for you ❤️

  • @biancacolmenares620
    @biancacolmenares620 2 роки тому +1

    OMG I am in the same place with kids! Just turned 34 last week and we are married, but I just am not sure if i want kids! I’ve always loved kids and never thought I wouldn’t have them, but 1. Can I do a good job and 2. I kinda like life right now and it sounds so hard

  • @meganvogt4042
    @meganvogt4042 2 роки тому +2

    I used to be SUCH a Brian girl. He was my first great celebrity love. He has disappointed me sooooooo much. He's such a Bible beater. He lives in my state, too!!!

  • @izy9911
    @izy9911 2 роки тому +2

    Brad Paisley is coming to my country this year. I'm pretty excited! Country-music is not my fave, but I do rly like some country songs/artist! Do you enjoy country music girl ? 🤣☺

  • @andreaohenry4578
    @andreaohenry4578 2 роки тому

    I love you and your videos so much 💕💕Going to see the BSB this Saturday 😍😍 I’m so excited

  • @eliushi6220
    @eliushi6220 2 роки тому +2

    You look amazing and happy.
    I hope that you, drew, Laila en Moe will have the most amazing time in your new home.

  • @lindseylarson5061
    @lindseylarson5061 2 роки тому

    THE CALL!!!! That song could literally bring me back from the dead

  • @whereshwaldo825
    @whereshwaldo825 Рік тому

    It sucks, but I SCREAMED at my dr to take my blood work and got my diagnosis. Shouldn’t have to, but don’t feel bad about advocating for yourself ❤

  • @shilohgoes5544
    @shilohgoes5544 2 роки тому +3

    We need a tutorial on how you keep your plants alive

  • @mollymason9182
    @mollymason9182 2 роки тому

    CHEERS to LA!!!! My husband and I moved here just about a year ago and we LOVE it...welcome back!!

  • @susanma4899
    @susanma4899 2 роки тому +5

    That doctor story is so infuriating! Please dump that doctor and find someone who'll take you seriously!! Also, her trying to unload her merch is so unprofessional...unethical...is she even a real MD?

  • @caseyfinnegan4139
    @caseyfinnegan4139 2 роки тому

    I can honestly see you as a Sarah/Sara!! BUT CARRIE IS BETTER OF COURSE!