You have to remember that our grandparents stayed married for their lifetimes because back then, divorce was Tabu. So many women stayed in abusive, demeaning and disrespectful marriages because they were taught to think they HAD to. Had divorce been an acceptable back then, I am sure more women would’ve have left. Todays generations have been taught to stay single, get an education, live life then get married if the it’s something they want. My generation, it was expected by a certain age. I have many single friends and they are much happier alone. The dating pool is awful and they’re not willing to settle. If my husband and I divorced, there is no way I would date😂
Been thinking about this topic a lot lately. I feel so content being alone and the freedom it brings. But id like to experience something whith someone i really feel something for. Time will tell what i choose
Just live your life have as much fun as you can go crazy go to your local down towns eat out bar hop travel do all that and if someone come into your life then see if he/she is the one that happened to me last year as Soon as I was done looking I was living my life doing all that ^ then I ran into a old girl that went to my high school now we are together and it’s been pretty good tbh
Always a pleasure listening to you speak your mind, Derek. If only more people thought the way you do about topics like these, the world would be a much better place. Massive respect for you using your platform to help bring these issues to light and advocating for change 🤝
Answering the question in the title. YES 😅 as a woman coming out of abusive marriage I feel so safe being single ❤ I don’t think it’s worth the risk.. the dating pool is trash trying to find that 1 person who might not exist..
i think the rise in singlehood is a direct impact of the dissolvement of the family cell, the individual was pretty much put above all else in the western world - career, self fulfillment etc. social movements such as feminism growing more and more extreme sure didn't help the matter either. there's also the issue of technology - we made it to improve our lives, but i think it has taken us back in many aspects. we've become a society of strangers, it's harder to find someone and grow a real and true attachment to them in an era where you "determine" someone's romantic fate with a single swipe left or right. people walk around (even those in relationships) with that constant feeling of "what if i could do better than her\him?" which easily opens the door to cheating and taking people for granted. great video as always, lots of food for thought.
I could write a small book on this because from seeing marriage and divorce from both sides it’s a scary thing to go through. I had two other siblings and we saw a lot with our parents divorcing. Then I get married because I was looking for a way to leave home getting out of a bad situation. I also went through divorce myself and then went through depression afterwards. It was a growing experience and then tried to date again and it just wasn’t for me. Sometimes we choose to be single because of the trauma we experience in bad relationships and bad home situations. I have my dog and I can come and go as I please and life is great. Thank you for sharing this video and always enjoy your other videos as well. Take care.😎
This depends on many variables, with country and culture being a couple of those variables. I, for one, was never content or happy being single. And I'm a guy. I'd never really searched for true love or whatnot, but I was looking for a relationship that would give me the peace of mind I thought it would. And I was right, I've gotten progressively more productive over the years because my wife and I (although we get on each other's nerves a lot - not in a destructive manner) both want the same things in life. She knows when it's time to let me take the reins of the marriage and I know when it's time for her to take the lead. But that's nothing to do with our relationship being modern; on the contrary, we're pretty conservative people. No, it just comes naturally from being very similar, wanting the same things, and being respectful. I wouldn't trade this for being single, no matter how much we can annoy each other, at times.
If I wasn’t Christian I would say (HELL NAH), but since I know there are good woman out there who share the same ideas as me, I will stay single till marriage. Having random sex with no commitment, is a sad life. Very sad using others. I can’t attribute no more to the destitute, I must attribute to the healing. It starts on a person by person basis, rejecting modern ideas, and getting back to the original plan. We hate to admit that people older than us knew what they were talking about, but unfortunately for us we didn’t know what was best. Time to go back to the good old days.
To you it may seem like a sad life, but there are people out there on both sides that genuinely enjoy promiscuity and the life it brings. They aren't hurting you or me. Just the ideals of a small group of people. I'm also personally not a fan of it either. But it really does not effect me so why should I care. Let people be free to enjoy their lives.
@@deans-rewind2882 they’re hurting God and themselves, anyone who pretends that they are satisfied with dating multiple people and committing the most sacred act a man and a woman can commit like it means nothing are lying. The hole is always there, the lack of fulfillment you can never run away from, you may be comfortable with sin. And that is a conversation you will have to have with god, I hope you repent sooner than later. But for me I will not stop my war against sin, I have morals and I will stand behind them and offer my advice to everyone. Because once all I said and done, I don’t want nobody telling me I didn’t warn them. God bless you
@@jeovannazz maybe you forgot that I didn’t tell you to respond to me, If you disagree you can move on. And maybe you forgot that there are Christian’s who weren’t always Christians who’ve experienced sex/dating culture and now have been saved and know the exact state of mind of non Christians going through that life.
speaking from someone in this demo I can definitely agree after getting out of a long term relationship I am definitely more at peace call me selfish but it’s nice not having to worry about another person 24/7 and structure your life around them and in many cases also get judged by your partner if on their bad side for your actions and decisions pertaining to them I’d also like to say modern parasocialism also attributes to these statistics at least for me
also dating so young kind of sucks because you’re always faced with the morality of if they’re the one and can lead to dread wasted time and excruciating heartbreak especially if the other person has options tmi
Have to agree. One of the biggest regrets I have is the pain of relationships when I was younger. The closest I ever came to s**cide was the pain of a broken heart. Wish I could have those years back I spent as a broken man from that relationship. Damn near ruined me.
Being single is awesome. But I understand if people are feeling lonely. Side note: How the hell are you 52?! You're doing really well at maintaining a youthful appearance!
Glad you are happy single! and I appreciate the compliment...I work pretty hard at it. I've done so many different things I will never know what the secret is....was vegetarian for 12 years but for the last 3 years have eaten a ultra high protein diet based on mostly meat. Sugar is my weakness and I indulge daily. I do use a face moisturizer every day after a shower but I also get tons of outside sun with no sunscreen ever...literally have never used it even once. Its so hard to know what to do or believe helps with health but I just do what seems logical. I used to workout every day but am now down to every other day. My joints feel 52 :) They remind me how old I am.
Interesting video as always. From an intuitive/gut feeling point of view I'm going to say it's a massive cope to pretend that singlehood will be a long term good for society. From a logical point of view (if you need it) weaker gene pools, falling fertility, aging population leading to potential economic collapse etc etc. From a less logical perspective life is sadly a multiplayer game - lone wolf ideology and a over focus on going it alone sounds unbelievably miserable. Human beings are social creatures and I don't see anything good coming of this trend. The west prides itself on its individualism but that can only get a society so far. Having worked with many young men in a clinical setting - I can already see levels of depression, anxiety, generalised mental illness and even suicide rates going crazy, even more so post COVID. Now obviously there is a myriad of reasons for this outside of single life but I have a hunch it has a part to play. I can't speak to women so much but I have equal feelings that they are likely negatively impacted by having poor if not any relationships/ being single for prolonged periods. It'll be interesting to see where all this ends, I hope I'm just being emotional and over blowing the potential damages and issues. I'll be happy if my gut is proven wrong on all this.
Dogs are the secret to being happy alone. I couldn't do this without them. I felt the need to expand a bit just because your comment was so thoughtful. I couldn't leave it at just the dogs. I have to agree with you that society is worse off by this trend. I truly made this to try to help the young men dealing with the problem. Picking the wrong relationship is truly more dangerous than being alone...in my opinion....domestic violence charges or worse...false accusations that can come from the fallout of a relationship ending. The dangers are endless. I don't have all the answers...doing my best to navigate the madness myself and trying to help others in the process. Truly grateful for the time you took to say what you did here.
You have to remember that our grandparents stayed married for their lifetimes because back then, divorce was Tabu. So many women stayed in abusive, demeaning and disrespectful marriages because they were taught to think they HAD to. Had divorce been an acceptable back then, I am sure more women would’ve have left. Todays generations have been taught to stay single, get an education, live life then get married if the it’s something they want. My generation, it was expected by a certain age. I have many single friends and they are much happier alone. The dating pool is awful and they’re not willing to settle. If my husband and I divorced, there is no way I would date😂
@@TallieStevens all valid points! Can’t argue with the shallow talent pool out there. That’s why I’m still single.
@@ASMRRealitysame.
Been thinking about this topic a lot lately. I feel so content being alone and the freedom it brings. But id like to experience something whith someone i really feel something for. Time will tell what i choose
My advice to you is to just live your life and if you find someone, go with it, but don’t make finding someone a goal,that never works out
If you focus on becoming great, women will surely be there when you're ready.
Just live your life have as much fun as you can go crazy go to your local down towns eat out bar hop travel do all that and if someone come into your life then see if he/she is the one that happened to me last year as Soon as I was done looking I was living my life doing all that ^ then I ran into a old girl that went to my high school now we are together and it’s been pretty good tbh
@@jeremiassaucedo4430Sounds like great advice to me.
Always a pleasure listening to you speak your mind, Derek. If only more people thought the way you do about topics like these, the world would be a much better place. Massive respect for you using your platform to help bring these issues to light and advocating for change 🤝
You’re a really good reader , u never fumble your words 👍🏾
Thank you for the compliment. Never might be taking it too far. I had a few fumbles:)
Love the content brother. Mixing the real life lessons with relaxing audio. Favorite creator right now 👏🏽
Appreciate the love, my friend!
Answering the question in the title. YES 😅 as a woman coming out of abusive marriage I feel so safe being single ❤ I don’t think it’s worth the risk.. the dating pool is trash trying to find that 1 person who might not exist..
Don't give up on finding a good man. They are out there. Stay single and heal...but keep an open mind. The right guy is out there!
i think the rise in singlehood is a direct impact of the dissolvement of the family cell, the individual was pretty much put above all else in the western world - career, self fulfillment etc. social movements such as feminism growing more and more extreme sure didn't help the matter either. there's also the issue of technology - we made it to improve our lives, but i think it has taken us back in many aspects.
we've become a society of strangers, it's harder to find someone and grow a real and true attachment to them in an era where you "determine" someone's romantic fate with a single swipe left or right. people walk around (even those in relationships) with that constant feeling of "what if i could do better than her\him?" which easily opens the door to cheating and taking people for granted.
great video as always, lots of food for thought.
I could write a small book on this because from seeing marriage and divorce from both sides it’s a scary thing to go through. I had two other siblings and we saw a lot with our parents divorcing. Then I get married because I was looking for a way to leave home getting out of a bad situation. I also went through divorce myself and then went through depression afterwards. It was a growing experience and then tried to date again and it just wasn’t for me. Sometimes we choose to be single because of the trauma we experience in bad relationships and bad home situations. I have my dog and I can come and go as I please and life is great. Thank you for sharing this video and always enjoy your other videos as well. Take care.😎
So excited to watch this video because it's a topic I think about a lot lately. Love from Germany ❤
perfecting timing, just hopping into bed. As always, cant wait to watch!
Hope you liked it, my friend!
Great video bro! It's great that the Discord has been so active lately. It's proved to be entertaining haha.
I've been watching this channel near religiously for over a year and this is the first time I'm seeing there's a Discord
@@JohnDoe-mx9ut He did a video about it a few months ago. I set the Discord up for him
This depends on many variables, with country and culture being a couple of those variables. I, for one, was never content or happy being single. And I'm a guy. I'd never really searched for true love or whatnot, but I was looking for a relationship that would give me the peace of mind I thought it would. And I was right, I've gotten progressively more productive over the years because my wife and I (although we get on each other's nerves a lot - not in a destructive manner) both want the same things in life. She knows when it's time to let me take the reins of the marriage and I know when it's time for her to take the lead. But that's nothing to do with our relationship being modern; on the contrary, we're pretty conservative people. No, it just comes naturally from being very similar, wanting the same things, and being respectful. I wouldn't trade this for being single, no matter how much we can annoy each other, at times.
Another banger Derek! Just keep'em coming!
Excellent timing!!
Appreciate you getting it started!
awesome video as always
Always relaxing and interesting to hear your thoughts! Thank you!
If I wasn’t Christian I would say (HELL NAH), but since I know there are good woman out there who share the same ideas as me, I will stay single till marriage.
Having random sex with no commitment, is a sad life. Very sad using others. I can’t attribute no more to the destitute, I must attribute to the healing. It starts on a person by person basis, rejecting modern ideas, and getting back to the original plan.
We hate to admit that people older than us knew what they were talking about, but unfortunately for us we didn’t know what was best. Time to go back to the good old days.
To you it may seem like a sad life, but there are people out there on both sides that genuinely enjoy promiscuity and the life it brings. They aren't hurting you or me. Just the ideals of a small group of people. I'm also personally not a fan of it either. But it really does not effect me so why should I care. Let people be free to enjoy their lives.
@@deans-rewind2882 they’re hurting God and themselves, anyone who pretends that they are satisfied with dating multiple people and committing the most sacred act a man and a woman can commit like it means nothing are lying. The hole is always there, the lack of fulfillment you can never run away from, you may be comfortable with sin. And that is a conversation you will have to have with god, I hope you repent sooner than later. But for me I will not stop my war against sin, I have morals and I will stand behind them and offer my advice to everyone. Because once all I said and done, I don’t want nobody telling me I didn’t warn them. God bless you
@@BasedChristianASMRMaybe you forgot that not everyone is Christian
@@jeovannazz maybe you forgot that I didn’t tell you to respond to me, If you disagree you can move on. And maybe you forgot that there are Christian’s who weren’t always Christians who’ve experienced sex/dating culture and now have been saved and know the exact state of mind of non Christians going through that life.
@@BasedChristianASMR If you make a comment and hope that no one responds, just don't say anything, keep your opinion to yourself.
speaking from someone in this demo I can definitely agree after getting out of a long term relationship I am definitely more at peace call me selfish but it’s nice not having to worry about another person 24/7 and structure your life around them and in many cases also get judged by your partner if on their bad side for your actions and decisions pertaining to them I’d also like to say modern parasocialism also attributes to these statistics at least for me
also dating so young kind of sucks because you’re always faced with the morality of if they’re the one and can lead to dread wasted time and excruciating heartbreak especially if the other person has options tmi
Have to agree. One of the biggest regrets I have is the pain of relationships when I was younger. The closest I ever came to s**cide was the pain of a broken heart. Wish I could have those years back I spent as a broken man from that relationship. Damn near ruined me.
Being single is awesome. But I understand if people are feeling lonely.
Side note: How the hell are you 52?! You're doing really well at maintaining a youthful appearance!
Glad you are happy single! and I appreciate the compliment...I work pretty hard at it. I've done so many different things I will never know what the secret is....was vegetarian for 12 years but for the last 3 years have eaten a ultra high protein diet based on mostly meat. Sugar is my weakness and I indulge daily. I do use a face moisturizer every day after a shower but I also get tons of outside sun with no sunscreen ever...literally have never used it even once. Its so hard to know what to do or believe helps with health but I just do what seems logical. I used to workout every day but am now down to every other day. My joints feel 52 :) They remind me how old I am.
@@ASMRReality That was the greatest response I've ever read and it answered all the questions I had. I genuinely wish you the best.
i met my soulmate and I'm totally happy with her
Happy for you...count yourself as blessed. Not everyone gets this lucky. Wishing you the best with her!
@@ASMRReality Thank you! I do consider myself blessed. I don't mean to gloat but just trying to give some hopium to people
@@bobby6849 Hopium is in short supply so spread it where you can!
Interesting video as always. From an intuitive/gut feeling point of view I'm going to say it's a massive cope to pretend that singlehood will be a long term good for society. From a logical point of view (if you need it) weaker gene pools, falling fertility, aging population leading to potential economic collapse etc etc. From a less logical perspective life is sadly a multiplayer game - lone wolf ideology and a over focus on going it alone sounds unbelievably miserable. Human beings are social creatures and I don't see anything good coming of this trend.
The west prides itself on its individualism but that can only get a society so far. Having worked with many young men in a clinical setting - I can already see levels of depression, anxiety, generalised mental illness and even suicide rates going crazy, even more so post COVID. Now obviously there is a myriad of reasons for this outside of single life but I have a hunch it has a part to play. I can't speak to women so much but I have equal feelings that they are likely negatively impacted by having poor if not any relationships/ being single for prolonged periods.
It'll be interesting to see where all this ends, I hope I'm just being emotional and over blowing the potential damages and issues. I'll be happy if my gut is proven wrong on all this.
Dogs are the secret to being happy alone. I couldn't do this without them. I felt the need to expand a bit just because your comment was so thoughtful. I couldn't leave it at just the dogs. I have to agree with you that society is worse off by this trend. I truly made this to try to help the young men dealing with the problem. Picking the wrong relationship is truly more dangerous than being alone...in my opinion....domestic violence charges or worse...false accusations that can come from the fallout of a relationship ending. The dangers are endless. I don't have all the answers...doing my best to navigate the madness myself and trying to help others in the process. Truly grateful for the time you took to say what you did here.
I wanna be attractive and stay single forever
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The good ole days are over. Technology has ruined it all. It'll only get worse.
Friends with benefits or nothing at all !!!!
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