I loved how she highlighted the importance of post-traumatic growth. It’s not just about surviving difficult times, but coming out of them even stronger.
It took me way too long to understand that how we speak to ourselves impacts our mental health! If only I'd find Theresa's talk when I was growing up 😤😤
Such a cute story about that little boy who transformed after finding his inner warrior!! We all have so much power on the inside and this is such great proof of that
It's pretty cool that she gave us permission to celebrate ourselves and our wins, no matter how small. We're so quick to brush off our accomplishments sometimes. Time to start hyping myself up more!
I never realized how much adrenaline plays a role in how we react to stress! The way she broke it down made it way easier to understand why we react the way we do.
I never liked bullies, I enjoyed just sitting back to watch them fail, and now I see my own inner bully... This woman's path has really taken her some places, her ability to see the big picture... I see how she is going to help...
Theresa's talk reminded me that the way we treat ourselves matters just as much as how we treat others. It's time to stop being my own worst critic and start being my biggest supporter.
The analogy she makes about our inner bully as a toxic relationship is so accurate. We wouldn't tolerate that from others, so why should we tolerate it from ourselves?
I have been having a lousy time during the lockdowns, then seeing this makes me realize your life is as good as you make it. I have such admiration for this woman ... watch this talk!
I watched this talk years ago and actually started doing some of the things she speaks about, it has genuinely helped me. My self-talk is so much more positive and I also feel completely comfortable telling people to not say negative things about themselves.
We never know what battles someone might be fighting, your story really touched me. Life can be so unpredictable but hearing of your strength in the face of it is truly inspiring!
This is such an intense story!! Kind of makes me grateful for my own struggles in a weird way... like they sucked at the time but they were nothing compared to that
Calling that negative self-dialogue our inner bully is pretty interesting... Many of us may not even realize we have an inner bully, or how damaging it can be to our self-esteem and well-being. Personally I try to be aware of the negative self talk but calling it that really puts it in perspective and might even make it easier to control. Thanks Theresa, great talk.
I related so much to what she said about her inner bully telling her she was worthless after her injury. I think we've all had moments where we've felt like failures and struggled to see our own value.
The concept of post-traumatic growth resonates deeply. I've always felt that challenges can be stepping stones to a stronger self if we allow ourselves the right mindset to overcome them
I've struggled with negative self-talk for a long time, and Theresa's mantra of "I got this" is a simple yet powerful reminder to combat those inner doubts. It might sound cheesy, but repeating it to myself really does make a difference.
Making an agreement to challenge and counteract the inner bully is a powerful commitment. It's important to be kind to ourselves and nurture self-belief.
how many of us pay 1000s a year to have a professional teach us this and this lady simplifies it and puts it into a 15 minute ted talk. amazing! i'll be sharing this. absolutely brilliant.
I love that perspective change, and I can definitely see how viewing that inner voice as a warrior instead of a bully would be so empowering and I would think a lot easier to manage the negative thoughts.
Obviously she already had some serious strength of mind before her accident, but truly a bit of a miracle the way she made it out of that all, especially the traumatic brain injury... Wow.
Being left alone for a long period of time with only your thoughts. "The moment you start beating yourself up, your brain stops healing" so worth the listen.
The self-awareness or even just being sick of a cycle and realising that inner voice has been sabotaging me for so long. That dialogue is so important to be aware of. Thank you Theresa for this brilliant talk!
If self-awareness was gold, this woman would be swimming in it. What an incredible journey she has been on and to know and understand how her brain has coped and rewired is just incredible. This is such an important thing for us to understand
“You can’t hate yourself into success.” That line was everything. We’re always so hard on ourselves, but this talk made me realize how toxic that can be.
Wow, Theresa's story of facing adversity head-on is truly inspiring. Her message about turning inner struggles into strength resonates deeply with me. I've often found that our biggest challenges can become our greatest sources of power.
I appreciate the idea of living in a friendly universe versus a hostile one. It's empowering to think that we have the ability to create a positive and supportive environment for ourselves.
While I appreciate Theresa's encouragement to stand up to our inner bullies, it's not always that simple. Some days, the weight of negative thoughts can feel overwhelming, and finding that inner warrior is easier said than done.
Her honesty about how even she struggles with self-doubt was refreshing. We often look up to people like her and forget that they have their own battles, too.
We're also sort of brainwashed into being hard on ourselves all the time. Like experiencing something traumatic isn't enough but we often then go through all these mental gymnastics around feeling guilt or shame for feeling hurt and being sad... all of it is so exhausting
The whole idea of having an inner bully and an inner warrior inside us is so eye-opening. It's like, we've got this constant battle going on in our heads, and we get to choose which voice we listen to.
I love how she talked about the inner warrior being something we can rely on. It’s comforting to think we have that strength inside us, ready to help us through tough times.
I think our inner bully is so harsh because we know ourselves the most. We know all our terrible thoughts and actions, all the ways we've let ourselves and other people down...
The way she talks about transforming fear into ferocity is so motivating. It's a reminder that we have the power to turn fear into something useful rather than let it paralyze us.
This will be my 3rd time watching your talk Theresa and I really do love your way of explaining mindfulness, self-awareness and kindness to self. I feel like every time I watch your talk I'm getting a better understanding of my Inner Warrior. Thank you !
“The inner bully gets triggered by doing something outside your comfort zone.” YES! I feel this every time I try something new. It’s like my mind freaks out even when there’s no real danger.
That whole "fight, flight, freeze" concept is something I hadn’t thought of in terms of mental battles before but the way she explained it made so much sense
The part about the 11 year old boy who was bullying himself broke my heart. Kids are so impressionable at that age. I'm glad she was able to help him start to see his own strength.
"I got this" is such a simple phrase but it's so powerful. I'm gonna start saying it to myself in the mirror every morning as a reminder that I can handle whatever comes my way
What an amazing woman! I appreciate the way her brains works so very much. I can't imagine being left alone like that with my thoughts but I suppose one would have to make the choice about how to cope
I loved her point about how we'd never yell at a cut to make it heal faster, but we do that to ourselves all the time. It's so true - we're way harsher on ourselves than we'd ever be to anyone else.
The recount of the car accident and the subsequent journey through a brain injury is both harrowing and inspiring. It's a stark reminder of life's unpredictability and the strength it takes to face such challenges head-on.
The inner bully, I was raised on think the worst and hope for the best. This allowed for many wonderful and pleasant surprises in a household that could be quite turbulent.
Ngl I got a little emotional when everyone stood up at the end. Felt like they were all taking a stand against their inner bullies together. There's something really powerful about that kind of collective energy.
Thanks Theresa for reminding me about that quote [8:45]. Do we live in a friendly or hostile universe? I think the answer is both depending where we are on our journey through life.
Freeze response as anxiety sums me up so much. I just pause and don’t know where to go or what to do next, and then think I should be doing something, but don’t know what to do. It is just an infinite loop... Fun.
"You cannot hate yourself successful" - that line is gonna stick with me. I'm guilty of beating myself up when I'm working towards a goal and not seeing progress fast enough. Time for a mindset shift!
I loved how she highlighted the importance of post-traumatic growth. It’s not just about surviving difficult times, but coming out of them even stronger.
It's actually somewhat of a relief to know that everyone has a harsh inner voice. I've been making myself feel bad for making myself feel bad...
It took me way too long to understand that how we speak to ourselves impacts our mental health! If only I'd find Theresa's talk when I was growing up 😤😤
Such a cute story about that little boy who transformed after finding his inner warrior!! We all have so much power on the inside and this is such great proof of that
I'm grateful for the reminder to be gentle with ourselves. We all have an inner warrior; sometimes, we just need to give it a little encouragement.
It's pretty cool that she gave us permission to celebrate ourselves and our wins, no matter how small. We're so quick to brush off our accomplishments sometimes. Time to start hyping myself up more!
"You can not hate yourself thin, you can not hate yourself better." I don't have the words to explain how much that sentence has gotten to me.
I never realized how much adrenaline plays a role in how we react to stress! The way she broke it down made it way easier to understand why we react the way we do.
Loving the concept of our inner warriors. We all have the power to overcome challenges, it's just activating that mindset.
I never liked bullies, I enjoyed just sitting back to watch them fail, and now I see my own inner bully... This woman's path has really taken her some places, her ability to see the big picture... I see how she is going to help...
Theresa's talk reminded me that the way we treat ourselves matters just as much as how we treat others. It's time to stop being my own worst critic and start being my biggest supporter.
Challenges are inevitable, but so is our ability to overcome them.
Taking a stand against the inner bully is easier said than done. It's a daily struggle for many.
What an amazing person. The matter of fact way she tells her "accident" story won me instantly.
Love this talk so much. Very easy to dispel the negative self-talk once you see it for the bully it is!
The analogy she makes about our inner bully as a toxic relationship is so accurate. We wouldn't tolerate that from others, so why should we tolerate it from ourselves?
I have been having a lousy time during the lockdowns, then seeing this makes me realize your life is as good as you make it. I have such admiration for this woman ... watch this talk!
I watched this talk years ago and actually started doing some of the things she speaks about, it has genuinely helped me. My self-talk is so much more positive and I also feel completely comfortable telling people to not say negative things about themselves.
Your call to stand up to our inner bullies hit home. It's time we take charge of our narratives, declare 'I got this,' and move forward with purpose.
The inner warrior is a powerful concept. We all have the strength within us to overcome obstacles and tap into our inner power.
the importance of self talk! what a fabulous talk, with so many awesome pointers and tools. love this lady's energy!
It's really important I am realizing!
My favorite TED, she is amazing and strong!
I love the mantra "I got this." It's a simple yet powerful affirmation that can boost confidence and remind us of our capabilities.
We never know what battles someone might be fighting, your story really touched me. Life can be so unpredictable but hearing of your strength in the face of it is truly inspiring!
This is such an intense story!! Kind of makes me grateful for my own struggles in a weird way... like they sucked at the time but they were nothing compared to that
Incredibly powerful and inspiring, and so well delivered! Theresa fully embodies the spirit of "I've got this!"
You do @coach Lisha “you got this” Thank you for the kind words!
Something I'm taking away from this is that I need to get better at offering myself the same levels of kindness I'd offer a literal stranger
I saw this talk years ago and it really helped shift my mindset. Very nice to see it pop up again and reinforce just how far I've come mentally!
Calling that negative self-dialogue our inner bully is pretty interesting... Many of us may not even realize we have an inner bully, or how damaging it can be to our self-esteem and well-being. Personally I try to be aware of the negative self talk but calling it that really puts it in perspective and might even make it easier to control. Thanks Theresa, great talk.
I related so much to what she said about her inner bully telling her she was worthless after her injury. I think we've all had moments where we've felt like failures and struggled to see our own value.
The concept of post-traumatic growth resonates deeply. I've always felt that challenges can be stepping stones to a stronger self if we allow ourselves the right mindset to overcome them
I've struggled with negative self-talk for a long time, and Theresa's mantra of "I got this" is a simple yet powerful reminder to combat those inner doubts. It might sound cheesy, but repeating it to myself really does make a difference.
There is nothing wrong with you, everything about you is perfect!
Such a powerful and important message: How to overcome our inner bully to harness our inner super hero! This is a must watch!
@elainestarling THANK YOU!
Your journey resonates with me deeply. Life has a funny way of teaching us lessons we never signed up for.
Making an agreement to challenge and counteract the inner bully is a powerful commitment. It's important to be kind to ourselves and nurture self-belief.
This is a great talk, it's really important to be aware of our self-talk.
Love the emphasis on self-compassions! Why is it the default to be so hard on ourselves?
I am in awe of this woman, I can't imagine how difficult her recovery must have been.
how many of us pay 1000s a year to have a professional teach us this and this lady simplifies it and puts it into a 15 minute ted talk. amazing! i'll be sharing this. absolutely brilliant.
It is a great talk but I don't know that it could/should replace the work a professional therapist does.
@@jonathanvallers I think that depends on how harsh our inner bully actually is 😅😅
Thank you! I don’t disagree.
Therapists are amazing at diagnosing and treating mental illnesses that go beyond just self-defeating patterns.
And you can hire her for a fraction of that cost to coach you on a regular basis. She's an awesome coach!
@@RickReynoldsCCHTthank you for saying so! I love helping others through their own challenges - brain related or not. It’s all mindset!
You aren't damaged Theresa, you are different, and it seems to me better much better.
I love that perspective change, and I can definitely see how viewing that inner voice as a warrior instead of a bully would be so empowering and I would think a lot easier to manage the negative thoughts.
Taking breaks and practicing self-care is essential. Even a few seconds of intentional breathing can make a significant difference in our well-being.
Thank you for sharing your powerful story. It's inspiring to see how you continue to thrive after overcoming such a devastating experience
Obviously she already had some serious strength of mind before her accident, but truly a bit of a miracle the way she made it out of that all, especially the traumatic brain injury... Wow.
Being left alone for a long period of time with only your thoughts. "The moment you start beating yourself up, your brain stops healing" so worth the listen.
It's so very true!!
that made me think a lot
I want to quote everything she says. Just watch the talk, this is just packed with great stuff from start to finish.
Wow, thank you @LoveChannel, you made my day!
JAM packed. Everything she is said is so insightful and spot on!
You are such a light Theresa. Thank you so much for being vulnerable and open like this. There are many of us who need this message and your wisdom
never have i ever fully understood what was going on in my head until watching this. wow
The self-awareness or even just being sick of a cycle and realising that inner voice has been sabotaging me for so long. That dialogue is so important to be aware of. Thank you Theresa for this brilliant talk!
Learning more about my inner bully has been so enlightening.. Had no idea it was such a tyrant.
Once you see it, you can't unsee it. But then we can do something about it! Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
Her examples really made me reflect on how I talk to myself daily and wow. I can really do better.
If self-awareness was gold, this woman would be swimming in it. What an incredible journey she has been on and to know and understand how her brain has coped and rewired is just incredible. This is such an important thing for us to understand
Seriously though, she's so switched on, she gets it!
Wow thank you for your kind words - I’m still on the journey and your words remind me how far I’ve come!
It's a thing that more people should be taught to be aware of from a young age. Thankful to Ms. Byrne for sharing her story, it's really encouraging.
THERESA YOU BEAUTIFUL GEM OF A HUMAN!
Bless you, such a kind thing to say!
Floored by her journey, her recovery and being as noble as to share her experience. This will help me a bunch.
“You can’t hate yourself into success.” That line was everything. We’re always so hard on ourselves, but this talk made me realize how toxic that can be.
Wow, Theresa's story of facing adversity head-on is truly inspiring. Her message about turning inner struggles into strength resonates deeply with me. I've often found that our biggest challenges can become our greatest sources of power.
I appreciate the idea of living in a friendly universe versus a hostile one. It's empowering to think that we have the ability to create a positive and supportive environment for ourselves.
This woman is FABULOUS, she is my new hero!
Mine too, thanks for sharing it!
While I appreciate Theresa's encouragement to stand up to our inner bullies, it's not always that simple. Some days, the weight of negative thoughts can feel overwhelming, and finding that inner warrior is easier said than done.
Men say women are emotional and weak, no man would get up off the mat like she did. And still be kind - this is strength.
Her honesty about how even she struggles with self-doubt was refreshing. We often look up to people like her and forget that they have their own battles, too.
We're also sort of brainwashed into being hard on ourselves all the time. Like experiencing something traumatic isn't enough but we often then go through all these mental gymnastics around feeling guilt or shame for feeling hurt and being sad... all of it is so exhausting
@sandra so so true! Well said!
The whole idea of having an inner bully and an inner warrior inside us is so eye-opening. It's like, we've got this constant battle going on in our heads, and we get to choose which voice we listen to.
I love how she talked about the inner warrior being something we can rely on. It’s comforting to think we have that strength inside us, ready to help us through tough times.
I think I've been neglecting my inner warrior for a while.... thank you for the advice on how to reconnect ❤
I think our inner bully is so harsh because we know ourselves the most. We know all our terrible thoughts and actions, all the ways we've let ourselves and other people down...
WOW!!!! she is amazing!!!!
The way she talks about transforming fear into ferocity is so motivating. It's a reminder that we have the power to turn fear into something useful rather than let it paralyze us.
Such danger! I love Theresa's talk here. So much info and a reminder that we can always change and do better!
Timely reminder for me
This will be my 3rd time watching your talk Theresa and I really do love your way of explaining mindfulness, self-awareness and kindness to self. I feel like every time I watch your talk I'm getting a better understanding of my Inner Warrior. Thank you !
“The inner bully gets triggered by doing something outside your comfort zone.” YES! I feel this every time I try something new. It’s like my mind freaks out even when there’s no real danger.
My Hero, you are awesome!!!!
Thank YOU! I believe we see in others what we have in ourselves, so you're awesome right back!
This woman is a warrior, powerful and smart, no brain injury can stop her...
We all think we have issues to get over, then, we see a talk like this. This is perspective.
just what I was thinking.
Woke me up to my whining.
wow
It really is!
She is amazing, and really good looking too!
That whole "fight, flight, freeze" concept is something I hadn’t thought of in terms of mental battles before but the way she explained it made so much sense
"Our bodies are created not just for survival but for thriving" - love this positive outlook!
You so not damaged, you are so powerful and smart!!!!!!!!
Wow! Thank you. I mean really thank you!
The part about the 11 year old boy who was bullying himself broke my heart. Kids are so impressionable at that age. I'm glad she was able to help him start to see his own strength.
"I got this" is such a simple phrase but it's so powerful. I'm gonna start saying it to myself in the mirror every morning as a reminder that I can handle whatever comes my way
The description of her accident was vivid and real for me as I recently went through a similar experience. Wow, brought it all back in slow motion.
What an amazing woman! I appreciate the way her brains works so very much. I can't imagine being left alone like that with my thoughts but I suppose one would have to make the choice about how to cope
I loved her point about how we'd never yell at a cut to make it heal faster, but we do that to ourselves all the time. It's so true - we're way harsher on ourselves than we'd ever be to anyone else.
Love the parallels between self-defense and defending yourself from your inner critic... mental resilience really is as important as physical strength
I loved Theresa's call to action to stand up against our inner bullies. The power of positive self-talk is so under-rated.
The recount of the car accident and the subsequent journey through a brain injury is both harrowing and inspiring. It's a stark reminder of life's unpredictability and the strength it takes to face such challenges head-on.
The inner bully, I was raised on think the worst and hope for the best. This allowed for many wonderful and pleasant surprises in a household that could be quite turbulent.
Agreed!
Ngl I got a little emotional when everyone stood up at the end. Felt like they were all taking a stand against their inner bullies together. There's something really powerful about that kind of collective energy.
She might not of had the know-how before she hit that wall but she definitely did after. This is a really brilliant talk.
Thanks Theresa for reminding me about that quote [8:45]. Do we live in a friendly or hostile universe? I think the answer is both depending where we are on our journey through life.
Freeze response as anxiety sums me up so much. I just pause and don’t know where to go or what to do next, and then think I should be doing something, but don’t know what to do. It is just an infinite loop... Fun.
Definitely agree that it can be the loudest and most persistent voice...
You cannot hate yourself thin or brilliant or any number of other things but you can love yourself well and whole.
Navigating negative self-talk can be so difficult, it's always refreshing to find someone talking about how to overcome it.
“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.”
"You cannot hate yourself successful" - that line is gonna stick with me. I'm guilty of beating myself up when I'm working towards a goal and not seeing progress fast enough. Time for a mindset shift!
It's so cool to think about how much impact our self-talk has on our physical well-being. The mind-body connection is no joke!
She is a real force of nature... and very beautiful too...
I like the idea about setting boundaries with the inner bully. Honestly never considered it or how it might work. Thank you.