What if you feel that you don't care simply because you know he's game and its time for him to man up and learn a lesson so maybe he will think cautiously before trying these shananigins with someone else
My ex-husband was/is a mama's boy, and it wasn't until we had kids that o realized just how much I carried him and managed everything. Very sad and hard reality. Thankfully, he's in our boys' lives, and I'm in a balanced marriage now. Two self-sufficient partners is a MUST! It is very traumatic to have an adult dependent.
Naw she just did everything in the next marriage that she didn’t want to do in the last marriage. A lot of women give the worst experience to men their with just so they can’t play victim. Something my mother and sisters taught me about women.
I absolutely love ❤️ love ❤️ love ❤️ this episode. I am 60 and divorced for 14 years but I am still hopeful for a second chance at finding the Right One ❤❤❤🇬🇧🇬🇧
I'm currently divorcing a Narcissist who has some characteristics from the other categories. He is turning our 21 year old sons against me through gaslighting and pretending he supports my relationship with them. It's so difficult 😞
Phenomenal discussion and points given!!! Real Gems I’ll be sharing with my 20 year old daughter. Narcissistic man, shark man, player man, mamas boy, resistant to change man, stringers man, low character man!
In my dating past, I've attracted the mama's boy, the complainer, and those resistant to change. One man displayed characteristics from multiple categories, including a super-sized ego bordering on narcissism. I've encountered men claiming to be Christian and leaders but lacking good morals and high character, along with poor money management skills. Back in 2021, it became evident that I needed to take a pause, step back, and explore why I was attracting these types of men. Men who do not desire marriage also popped up on my radar. I believe that marriage-minded men reveal the good morals and high character that I'm looking for, unlike men in their 40s and 50s, who've never been married. I genuinely appreciate this list of men to avoid and all the perspectives from the panel! The episode offered valuable lessons, and I truly support Dr. Tartt and Mrs. Tartt. A huge thanks to Ryan and Tysean for showcasing an outstanding group of community leaders!
I think there's very limited self accountability amongst many of us women so the easiest thing to do is to label every single man that does us wrong as a narcissist. When you deal with a true narcissistic person... There's NO doubt about it lol. There definitely aren't as many out there as it's made to believe.
I've had the narcissist and mommas boy. I saw very early on that there was some behavioral issues . Me trying to understand how the brain works, took me on one he'll of a ride . I'm always open to learning new things, and boy, did i...
Please know there are different types of Narcissists and many do ask questions in the beginning in order to deceive you. It is not just about considering a future being in the Narcissist's shadow it is about knowing that you will be with someone that WILL abuse you. Narcs no matter the type have little to no empathy
The most dangerous guy I’ve come across is the “charmer”. Sweet, kind, takes you on dates, brings you around the friends and family, honest about where they are, aloof at times, may have characteristics like the “shark”, but they plays the long game. He makes you feel special. When it ends you can still be friends even though he was playing mind games🤷🏽♀️ the “good guy” persona comes to mind.
My self worth in the past was so low that I used to cling to people that were overly confident and self absorbed. Because I didn't know who I was or where I was going.
Thanks for showing us the positive Black marriages to us. These professional Black brothers got their stuff together and got their wives. We need to see and hear more of them. Hardly Initiated is the bomb ‼️🎉🥳🙌🏽
THERE IS A #8!! I'll call him "The Settler". Hebus marriage-minded to a fault. That fault is they want you only or mostly because they need you! He usually has a lot to offer, e.g. financial security, family-oriented, takes care of his elderly mama, handsome ...the whole nine. But he maybe has gotten a health scare or something that he scared to go forward without a wife. Yes usually older (60's). Looking for nurses or established marriage-minded women to care for him physically. But he is not showing any signs of his physical problems yet.
I feel like the mommas boy has so many levels to it. Because a mommas boy can also hate his mother or never had a nurturing mother so he seeks one in every woman he meets. If a man asks you for money, he’s a mommas boy..he may not be able to rely on his mother, but he needs a woman to nurture and guide him.
Love these guys …they are like my nephews..smart, intelligent ,intellectually curious , good character , vulnerable and honest …and they are learning !
To all the narcissist abuse survivors - pay no attention to this lady. She doesn’t know what she talking about. Just because you’re married to a doctor doesn’t make you one. And just because he is a doctor, it doesn’t mean he specializes in narcissistic abuse. If he did, he wouldn’t have let her come up here with that weak description of what a narcissist is. Most narcissists try to extract information from you when they first meet you so they can fine tune their abuse and destruction plan. Further, if there aren’t that many narcissists as she claims, then why was it number one on her list? Again, anyone with any real knowledge about this personality disorder would know that narcs are the least likely disorder to seek help which is why the stats are so low and because they have zero accountability. And they always have multiple victims at one time because they are desperately trying to numb their pain by causing pain around the clock. So it’s not about how many there are - it’s about how many people they’ve made their victims. It’s already enough that narcissists gaslight their victims into thinking they’re crazy and that they weren’t abused - we don’t need people like this telling victims they weren’t dealing with abuse. Stay strong and remember no one can take away or discount your experience. You’re a survivor ✊🏽
Thank you, i was looking for this comment! This woman has no idea what she is talking about and she does not know the difference between a narcissist and an egoist. Most narcs will love bomb a woman and intensely listen to her to gather as much information as possible to us it to manipulate you. Ladies, there are better places to get information from than from poorly educated grifters.
@@bellavega8048 Amen 🙏🏽 and thank you for replying. It broke my heart yesterday just thinking about anyone who may have been triggered by her words, and possibly even starting doubting themselves 😔.
Beautiful show!! ❤ I hope you guys have a mixer/speed dating event or create an online dating app to help people of character find their future wife/husband.
Trust me Sis. God is the dating App. Register with him and let him guide you. There is no good man than the one he appoints you. He is the best Matchmaker you could never imagine. He will bring you to one who love him more than life itself. He will fear God so much that he will bow before talking to you knowing that The Lord has put watch over him
I have attracted and dated mama's boys and narcissists, thank God that I ended those relationships. The reason why some women will date and marry these types of men is because the women see potential in them and think they can change those men. At my age I will be contentedly stay single, if I continue to meet these types of men.
MOMMAS BOY!!! Worst story of my life!! His mother was the devil & ruined him, forever! Unfortunate, because he has great potential. She is right, I was heartbroken from my previous relationship & thats how I got with him. Ladies run & run fast if you come in contact with a mommas boy!
Another great conversation! As a happily married woman in atl, it is so refreshing to see married people who look like me giving good counsel and speaking positively about marriage and relationships.
I believe there is some much dysfunction and untreated trauma in the society that we are inundated with narcissism. I do also agree there are and have always been lots of players and sharks.
Thanks to the brothers for their testimony of “Why She Got The 💍 Ring.” God has to be in the relationship and they know immediately she is the one. 🙏🏾❤️
Honestly, if you are a Christian and the man is as well and you are discussing keeping yourself for marriage on a first date, a true man of God that is honorable and not a turn-off. So I agree with most of what she discussed except that part.
Absolutely love what you guys do on this platform consistently is bring positive examples. In this culture we just see and talk about the negative relationships and situations. It is good to see what to aspire to. Really appreciate you guys.
A player wanting to settle down and marry says..I've found THEE ONE. A player wanting to run game and marry says...I've found my NUMBER ONE. He'll still have his number 2..3..4..5.
I was married to a mommas boy. We was together for 7 years, I left because I was tired of carrying the weight of the relationship. I was tired of being the blame for everything. I got tired of always having to fix it all. And your right about being what you attract, I am a caretaker at heart and in my career and now in school to be a therapist. So it’s a natural thing for me attract projects. Ladies its cute in the beginning to feel needed and loved because someone wants you without a shadow of a doubt, but it will eventually wear off because it’s draining.
Ryan asked that accountability question that I was so looking forward to hearing answered and NOBODY ANSWERED THE QUESTION! Have you run into the abusive man in your circle and how did you respond? The man that did speak gave a hypothetical response stating I don’t think a man like that would have friends but no one actually spoke to their personal experience and that speaks volumes! Ryan would you dear continue to bring that question up in an attempt to be your brothers keeper in men holding other men accountable
I feel like I’ve dated alll seven in one man!!! Wtf That narcissist description was so on point, the mama boy is running rampant as well. A lot of men don’t want to work and are financially abusing women alll over the place.
For some reason, I always seem to attract "narcissists (be they overt or covert). Nowadays, I refuse to date before I go through therapy. I need to see why I keep attracting these guys.
It's most men -- we live in a patriarchy _(the Black Community is a matrifocal patriarchy),_ so men are allowed to have narcissistic traits because that is the culture.
Ty your ad libs and introspect are so profound and Ryan’s questions are on point and exactly what we wanna know! I’m learning lots and I’m talking to the phone thru experience
Why would the dude just apologize for taking her book money & not give her the money back. That's probably the reason for his bad luck. It's not enough to just apologize but to make her whole & return the money regardless of the amount & he should have put interest on it & I believe God would've blessed him for that. Very sad.😮
The thing that needs to be done is re-evalute yourself. Then re-evaluate those around you. You will come to realize that I need to change....make these changes then drop the ones who don't align or agree with your change. The difference is growth no matter your past.
Hey, to the pediatric dentist: Hey Doc, impressed to look you up while watching this. I’ll have to tell my brother about you, in the event he needs a place for his grandkids to go. I live in the greater Chicago area, but I have plenty of family in your area. I even looked at your parody video you did with the kids. That was cool Doc. 😆Brotha to brotha, you’re all out, Story was encouraging, because I’m actually a somewhat older guy, rebuilding my life.
This concept of mama's boy is strikingly different from what we considered mama's boys when I was dating in the 90s. That mama's boy was more like the one resistant to change because his mama did it like this... or she thought he was perfect as he is.
Amazing conversation ❤I learned so much from Mrs. Mecca and the wonderful men who spoke about their wives and what they looked for in wife material. Such a wealth of knowledge 🙏🏿
Some of the information in these 7 can be very useful as long as you naturally have your feminine essence while doing, so but if you’re not careful, some of these can create a hard exterior and take you completely out of your feminine and you won’t know it but some good men will. You’re not going to enjoy the natural flow of getting to know one another because you’re fishing trying to disqualify. If a person is nice to you, check a few of your boxes value the same things and you feel yourself assuming it’s a manipulation, tactic or ulterior motive behind it you probably shouldn’t be dating right now. Not everybody is out to get you. If you want the Ring/ Longevity you have to understand the mission, and how to be an asset and if you want to follow a leader, you have to understand how to not always be in control.
Mama’s boys are really hard. Wow!! She was on it with that……it is very difficult…….to be with a mama’s boy. She done read my whole book. My ex husband was a mama’s boy. I bought cars. She is right you do ignore the red flags 🚩
Hearing the story of Ty’s college friend who was so bum that he didn’t even get a lawyer for the divorce - that man needs therapy. He needs deep deep therapy with his former caregivers as well.
Of all of the types of men mentioned, I ha e the most difficulty understanding the shark. I mean I get enjoying the chase and even the feeling of accomplishment when you "get" the person you want BUT never wanting to keep them makes me wonder if that kind of man really likes women. Notches on belts gives me "something to do and brag to my male friends about but much more enjoy and rather spend time with my male friends" energy.
To keep relationship/marriage people need to lower their standards. Everyone wants best of the best but failed to understand that they’re bottom of the food chain on others list.
I promise every time I listen to ya'll, I feel like I'm right in the studio with friends just kicking it...Ty you funny talking about ya'll forgot the broke man😂😂
I think women are really coming into the knowledge that they have the power of choice in relationships; that’s everything is not up to the man in the relationship, dating, etc. I don’t believe it is always a conscious decision of not taking accountability.
I would like to add: your best bet is meeting someone in college, if you attended college. Just like the Dr said meeting at Howard. Ya best bet is meeting a like minded person in those early years. If ya dating pool is the general population you are bound to meet these type of people..
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We women need to understand who we are and what we will tolerate
What if you feel that you don't care simply because you know he's game and its time for him to man up and learn a lesson so maybe he will think cautiously before trying these shananigins with someone else
My ex-husband was/is a mama's boy, and it wasn't until we had kids that o realized just how much I carried him and managed everything. Very sad and hard reality. Thankfully, he's in our boys' lives, and I'm in a balanced marriage now. Two self-sufficient partners is a MUST! It is very traumatic to have an adult dependent.
when u say carried him, are u saying u paid for everything?
@@stephancobb13she probably made all the decisions
Naw she just did everything in the next marriage that she didn’t want to do in the last marriage. A lot of women give the worst experience to men their with just so they can’t play victim. Something my mother and sisters taught me about women.
@@hatkingempire6286 I guess that's what they taught you about them. Since they taught you about women.
@@hatkingempire6286excuses
Don’t settle l know it’s lonely out here but you don’t want to be hurt.. stay true to yourself…if he loves he will show you…
Yall better stay with yall baby daddies than
“You don’t play with Gods people I got a covering over my Life “ This is my Whole Life ❤ #certified!!!!!!
I have NO DOUBT
MY FATHER GOD GOT "ME" THANK U ALMIGHTY GOD
I absolutely love ❤️ love ❤️ love ❤️ this episode. I am 60 and divorced for 14 years but I am still hopeful for a second chance at finding the Right One ❤❤❤🇬🇧🇬🇧
Men show you how they feel about you. Women must be strong and value themselves enough to just leave once the red flags are shown.
7 types of men women should NEVER date:
1. Narcissist
2. Shark
3. Player
4. Mama's boy
5. Stay-at-home dad
6. Abuser
7. Scammer
I believe 5 was men who are resistant to change, not stay at home dads
You forgot to stringers
I'm currently divorcing a Narcissist who has some characteristics from the other categories. He is turning our 21 year old sons against me through gaslighting and pretending he supports my relationship with them. It's so difficult 😞
Setting the pace is true game- something I never really done - but will going forward
Phenomenal discussion and points given!!! Real Gems I’ll be sharing with my 20 year old daughter. Narcissistic man, shark man, player man, mamas boy, resistant to change man, stringers man, low character man!
Be careful not to overlook the stable, consistent men! Reliable and know about our strength! Amen!
Are these stable men eating right and in the gym regularly 🤔 or look like they need to lose 60 lbs.... and gain a personality 😊
@@rainetravels1410You are absolutely correct
@rainetravels1410 There are stable men for every sista flavor!🙏🏾✌🏾💪🏾✌🏾
In my dating past, I've attracted the mama's boy, the complainer, and those resistant to change. One man displayed characteristics from multiple categories, including a super-sized ego bordering on narcissism. I've encountered men claiming to be Christian and leaders but lacking good morals and high character, along with poor money management skills. Back in 2021, it became evident that I needed to take a pause, step back, and explore why I was attracting these types of men.
Men who do not desire marriage also popped up on my radar. I believe that marriage-minded men reveal the good morals and high character that I'm looking for, unlike men in their 40s and 50s, who've never been married. I genuinely appreciate this list of men to avoid and all the perspectives from the panel! The episode offered valuable lessons, and I truly support Dr. Tartt and Mrs. Tartt. A huge thanks to Ryan and Tysean for showcasing an outstanding group of community leaders!
I think there's very limited self accountability amongst many of us women so the easiest thing to do is to label every single man that does us wrong as a narcissist. When you deal with a true narcissistic person... There's NO doubt about it lol. There definitely aren't as many out there as it's made to believe.
wish there was a LOVE button for this......
True
Thank you I’m so tired of that word !
Agreed
They aren't narcissists, it's that *men are allowed to have narcissistic traits.* That's the culture produced by the current iteration of patriarchy.
I've had the narcissist and mommas boy. I saw very early on that there was some behavioral issues . Me trying to understand how the brain works, took me on one he'll of a ride . I'm always open to learning new things, and boy, did i...
Lack of character is the worst, hide your credit hide your house hide your car hide your life from this individual
Gurl u r SERIOUS
Everyone MUST DO WHAT They NEED TO "DO" PEACE!!!
Please know there are different types of Narcissists and many do ask questions in the beginning in order to deceive you. It is not just about considering a future being in the Narcissist's shadow it is about knowing that you will be with someone that WILL abuse you. Narcs no matter the type have little to no empathy
So true!! That's what I was saying to myself. They'll ask questions but they willl just dominate the conversation .
At this point it’s exhausting dating cz dealing with these 7 types of men is very common 🤦🏾♀️
This was a perfectly balanced show. Ryan, Ty and the team you guys are doing an amazing job! 🥰
Agreed!!! They don’t miss… all shows on point
This was their best one!!!
Sending this to my 16 year old…. She’s so woke and if I can help her on her journey while I’m still learning on mine.
The most dangerous guy I’ve come across is the “charmer”. Sweet, kind, takes you on dates, brings you around the friends and family, honest about where they are, aloof at times, may have characteristics like the “shark”, but they plays the long game. He makes you feel special. When it ends you can still be friends even though he was playing mind games🤷🏽♀️ the “good guy” persona comes to mind.
My self worth in the past was so low that I used to cling to people that were overly confident and self absorbed. Because I didn't know who I was or where I was going.
That's a great self reflection! U are going to be an awesome woman for the man U truly want...🙏🏽 u will receive it 🤗
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I started watching this when they had Tony Gaskins on and been a subscriber. Ive never left. ❤. Love the platform
Thanks for showing us the positive Black marriages to us. These professional Black brothers got their stuff together and got their wives. We need to see and hear more of them. Hardly Initiated is the bomb ‼️🎉🥳🙌🏽
Neither one of them are married.
THERE IS A #8!!
I'll call him "The Settler". Hebus marriage-minded to a fault. That fault is they want you only or mostly because they need you! He usually has a lot to offer, e.g. financial security, family-oriented, takes care of his elderly mama, handsome ...the whole nine. But he maybe has gotten a health scare or something that he scared to go forward without a wife. Yes usually older (60's). Looking for nurses or established marriage-minded women to care for him physically. But he is not showing any signs of his physical problems yet.
Is everything about him pleasing? Is he showing up as a good husband?
Stringer
I feel like the mommas boy has so many levels to it. Because a mommas boy can also hate his mother or never had a nurturing mother so he seeks one in every woman he meets. If a man asks you for money, he’s a mommas boy..he may not be able to rely on his mother, but he needs a woman to nurture and guide him.
Some women choose Mama's boys because they want to "help" him. They feel sorry for him.
Love these guys …they are like my nephews..smart, intelligent ,intellectually curious , good character , vulnerable and honest …and they are learning !
My ex boyfriend was no where during the holidays, he couldn’t call me back. He was just texting and that’s how I knew something was wrong
I love the marriage stories! I'm so inspired.
I don't do fraternities and sororities as a believer but i do love to see the success of beautiful black people in love and in business. 🙏🏾
Momma’s boys & men with mommy issues have very similar behavior 😭
I can’t stess it enough.., I LOVE IT HERE! I didn’t get to watch this live last night due to a crazy work load. It’s always a breath of fresh air
I cannot stop smiling listening to Mr. Kappa's story. So sweet! The way HE'S smiling makes it impossible not to smile with him about his love.
Clarity is the enemy to the stringer that’s deep.
To all the narcissist abuse survivors - pay no attention to this lady. She doesn’t know what she talking about. Just because you’re married to a doctor doesn’t make you one. And just because he is a doctor, it doesn’t mean he specializes in narcissistic abuse. If he did, he wouldn’t have let her come up here with that weak description of what a narcissist is. Most narcissists try to extract information from you when they first meet you so they can fine tune their abuse and destruction plan. Further, if there aren’t that many narcissists as she claims, then why was it number one on her list? Again, anyone with any real knowledge about this personality disorder would know that narcs are the least likely disorder to seek help which is why the stats are so low and because they have zero accountability. And they always have multiple victims at one time because they are desperately trying to numb their pain by causing pain around the clock. So it’s not about how many there are - it’s about how many people they’ve made their victims. It’s already enough that narcissists gaslight their victims into thinking they’re crazy and that they weren’t abused - we don’t need people like this telling victims they weren’t dealing with abuse.
Stay strong and remember no one can take away or discount your experience. You’re a survivor ✊🏽
Thank you, i was looking for this comment! This woman has no idea what she is talking about and she does not know the difference between a narcissist and an egoist. Most narcs will love bomb a woman and intensely listen to her to gather as much information as possible to us it to manipulate you. Ladies, there are better places to get information from than from poorly educated grifters.
@@bellavega8048 Amen 🙏🏽 and thank you for replying. It broke my heart yesterday just thinking about anyone who may have been triggered by her words, and possibly even starting doubting themselves 😔.
@@bellavega8048😅😅😅 black men hate accountability
@@mimik2496ya hate accountability 😅😅😅
Yes narcissist is real. Let get our head out of the sand.
"Set the pace"... love it!! 😊
That’s my #1 strategy
Beautiful show!! ❤
I hope you guys have a mixer/speed dating event or create an online dating app to help people of character find their future wife/husband.
Trust me Sis. God is the dating App. Register with him and let him guide you. There is no good man than the one he appoints you. He is the best Matchmaker you could never imagine. He will bring you to one who love him more than life itself. He will fear God so much that he will bow before talking to you knowing that The Lord has put watch over him
@@nadinetchaho2618 Amen!!!!!! 🙏🏾🙌🏾🥰✨ I received that. Thank you sis!! All praises to the Almighty Most High God!!
We don't like our men in the streets either 💯💯💯
I have attracted and dated mama's boys and narcissists, thank God that I ended those relationships. The reason why some women will date and marry these types of men is because the women see potential in them and think they can change those men. At my age I will be contentedly stay single, if I continue to meet these types of men.
MOMMAS BOY!!!
Worst story of my life!! His mother was the devil & ruined him, forever! Unfortunate, because he has great potential. She is right, I was heartbroken from my previous relationship & thats how I got with him. Ladies run & run fast if you come in contact with a mommas boy!
Come on Tyshawn with the outfit. I love it ❤
Another great conversation! As a happily married woman in atl, it is so refreshing to see married people who look like me giving good counsel and speaking positively about marriage and relationships.
Yup!!! So glad I didnt get give up my body!!! Saw the crazy and dipped. 🦈 🦈 set the PACE
Love this… women need to know these red flags and negative characteristics of some men. Date wisely ladies cause it is some good brothas out there❤
Come through Dr Howard... you smiling like you just met your wife the other day!
That's a beautiful thang! God Bless your union!
These kind of brothers can be found everywhere. We need to open our minds ladies and pay close attention and get to hear 👂 what they are saying .
Moma's boy..is the laid-back dude with no desire to confront issues head on
My current husband is this way now
That dr Umar Johnson interview is going to be groundbreaking! I’ll definitely be here for it!!!
I believe there is some much dysfunction and untreated trauma in the society that we are inundated with narcissism. I do also agree there are and have always been lots of players and sharks.
Thanks to the brothers for their testimony of “Why She Got The 💍 Ring.” God has to be in the relationship and they know immediately she is the one. 🙏🏾❤️
Honestly, if you are a Christian and the man is as well and you are discussing keeping yourself for marriage on a first date, a true man of God that is honorable and not a turn-off. So I agree with most of what she discussed except that part.
Loving this episode oh so awesome. Came across this channel a few weeks ago and have to check in weekly w/all the new episodes.
Absolutely love what you guys do on this platform consistently is bring positive examples. In this culture we just see and talk about the negative relationships and situations. It is good to see what to aspire to. Really appreciate you guys.
A player wanting to settle down and marry says..I've found THEE ONE. A player wanting to run game and marry says...I've found my NUMBER ONE. He'll still have his number 2..3..4..5.
I was married to a mommas boy. We was together for 7 years, I left because I was tired of carrying the weight of the relationship. I was tired of being the blame for everything. I got tired of always having to fix it all. And your right about being what you attract, I am a caretaker at heart and in my career and now in school to be a therapist. So it’s a natural thing for me attract projects. Ladies its cute in the beginning to feel needed and loved because someone wants you without a shadow of a doubt, but it will eventually wear off because it’s draining.
Dr. Howard is my colleague and fellow alum! HU! You know!!❤💙
My last guy was literally a narcissist/ player/ momma’s boy who was super resistant to change with a dash of shark 🦈 😭🤦🏻♀️
I CANT WAIT TILL SUNDAY SHOW!! 5pm…!! I’ll be there!!! 🙌🏽
Ryan asked that accountability question that I was so looking forward to hearing answered and NOBODY ANSWERED THE QUESTION! Have you run into the abusive man in your circle and how did you respond? The man that did speak gave a hypothetical response stating I don’t think a man like that would have friends but no one actually spoke to their personal experience and that speaks volumes! Ryan would you dear continue to bring that question up in an attempt to be your brothers keeper in men holding other men accountable
I feel like I’ve dated alll seven in one man!!! Wtf
That narcissist description was so on point, the mama boy is running rampant as well. A lot of men don’t want to work and are financially abusing women alll over the place.
I’m excited to see Dr. Umar on your show!!!!!! 🎉
Why hasn’t these alpha males married you?
For some reason, I always seem to attract "narcissists (be they overt or covert). Nowadays, I refuse to date before I go through therapy. I need to see why I keep attracting these guys.
It's most men -- we live in a patriarchy _(the Black Community is a matrifocal patriarchy),_ so men are allowed to have narcissistic traits because that is the culture.
Ty your ad libs and introspect are so profound and Ryan’s questions are on point and exactly what we wanna know! I’m learning lots and I’m talking to the phone thru experience
We must definitely cannot get time back .
ANOTHER GREAT ONE!!!
Why would the dude just apologize for taking her book money & not give her the money back. That's probably the reason for his bad luck. It's not enough to just apologize but to make her whole & return the money regardless of the amount & he should have put interest on it & I believe God would've blessed him for that. Very sad.😮
This was by far my favorite episode I watched in twice. 🙏🏼❤️
Awww Pod cast! Thanks for dropping the Nuggets this is big Game🔥
Unmet expectations is the main cause of dysfunction in relationships. People dont accept people for who they are.
People don't have to accept nonsense. Moral character should be expected.
The problem with this narrative is that far too many people think too highly of themselves to recognize any of their flaws.
Men have become lovers of themselves (and very selfish), which is why narcissists are so prevalent (especially in the over 40 age group)
The thing that needs to be done is re-evalute yourself. Then re-evaluate those around you. You will come to realize that I need to change....make these changes then drop the ones who don't align or agree with your change.
The difference is growth no matter your past.
I appreciate these types of videos ❤avoid, do’s and dont’s
Hey, to the pediatric dentist: Hey Doc, impressed to look you up while watching this. I’ll have to tell my brother about you, in the event he needs a place for his grandkids to go. I live in the greater Chicago area, but I have plenty of family in your area. I even looked at your parody video you did with the kids. That was cool Doc. 😆Brotha to brotha, you’re all out, Story was encouraging, because I’m actually a somewhat older guy, rebuilding my life.
This concept of mama's boy is strikingly different from what we considered mama's boys when I was dating in the 90s. That mama's boy was more like the one resistant to change because his mama did it like this... or she thought he was perfect as he is.
I love ❤️ seeing these young handsome gentleman wearing their Wedding Bands Comfortably. Lord ThankYou!🥰🙏🏾
The “mamas boy” that’s the one ☝🏽 right there
Amazing conversation ❤I learned so much from Mrs. Mecca and the wonderful men who spoke about their wives and what they looked for in wife material. Such a wealth of knowledge 🙏🏿
The “Stringer” is the worst. Ty you are my favorite!
This was a great show! I am excited for Dr.Umar!
Some of the information in these 7 can be very useful as long as you naturally have your feminine essence while doing, so but if you’re not careful, some of these can create a hard exterior and take you completely out of your feminine and you won’t know it but some good men will. You’re not going to enjoy the natural flow of getting to know one another because you’re fishing trying to disqualify. If a person is nice to you, check a few of your boxes value the same things and you feel yourself assuming it’s a manipulation, tactic or ulterior motive behind it you probably shouldn’t be dating right now. Not everybody is out to get you.
If you want the Ring/ Longevity you have to understand the mission, and how to be an asset and if you want to follow a leader, you have to understand how to not always be in control.
This is so refreshing to see black men talking about LOVE!
"TRAUMATISED" BROTHERS
Mama’s boys are really hard. Wow!! She was on it with that……it is very difficult…….to be with a mama’s boy. She done read my whole book. My ex husband was a mama’s boy. I bought cars. She is right you do ignore the red flags 🚩
Hearing the story of Ty’s college friend who was so bum that he didn’t even get a lawyer for the divorce - that man needs therapy. He needs deep deep therapy with his former caregivers as well.
Of all of the types of men mentioned, I ha e the most difficulty understanding the shark. I mean I get enjoying the chase and even the feeling of accomplishment when you "get" the person you want BUT never wanting to keep them makes me wonder if that kind of man really likes women. Notches on belts gives me "something to do and brag to my male friends about but much more enjoy and rather spend time with my male friends" energy.
To keep relationship/marriage people need to lower their standards. Everyone wants best of the best but failed to understand that they’re bottom of the food chain on others list.
Thank you guys❤
Awesome show!!!!!❤🎉❤
I promise every time I listen to ya'll, I feel like I'm right in the studio with friends just kicking it...Ty you funny talking about ya'll forgot the broke man😂😂
These are some good looking solid men...this is encouraging to hear there love story🥰
I married the narcissist momma’s boy 😢 5 years of complete financial hell - anything that could happen…happened
I think women are really coming into the knowledge that they have the power of choice in relationships; that’s everything is not up to the man in the relationship, dating, etc. I don’t believe it is always a conscious decision of not taking accountability.
Omg.. stringers have been my last few. Over it
Men don’t share enough, they could so inspire and encourage one another‼️
I would like to add: your best bet is meeting someone in college, if you attended college. Just like the Dr said meeting at Howard. Ya best bet is meeting a like minded person in those early years. If ya dating pool is the general population you are bound to meet these type of people..
For Stringers especially, I think women play a big role in making it happen when they don't make a clear decision. I know of one pair.
Thank you for this‼️‼️❤️
Great show!