i am not ok | languishing in real time

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  • @katcook73
    @katcook73 3 роки тому +1

    This was so helpful! Just having someone identify wth is up with me. You hit the nail square on its head with this video. I’ve also noticed that once I go into this state of languishing, if it goes on for too long, then I get either depressed or manic about trying to come out of it. Manic if I’m seeing some success…like overdoing it to make up for lost time and depressed if I don’t see any success so I just give up. Thank you for living your life out loud! So helpful!

  • @brunettevlogging
    @brunettevlogging 3 роки тому +16

    Albertan here (the nice kind, I swear). I'm having a hard time showing up too, in all areas of my life. I'm beyond grateful for my job but I've been sitting in my kitchen alone for over a year now and it gets really hard to get up and be motivated everyday. The work doesn't even seem real because the world outside my four walls doesn't feel like it exists anymore. I can't imagine what it would be like to have kids right now, I can barely cheer myself through this at this point. Hang in there

  • @nikhilsrivastava9120
    @nikhilsrivastava9120 3 роки тому +2

    12:07 - what you said here made us feel, that this sensation is happening to so many folks. As much as it means, a lot to folks viewing your video - that you're helping us. Just want to call out, you'll be doing fine as well. Thankyou very much for democratizing this feeling.

  • @Sarah-ij3hg
    @Sarah-ij3hg 3 роки тому +4

    I see you. I’m not ok even with UK beginning to open up again. You’ve honestly kept me sane throughout this crappy time. Thank you as always for what you share and your honesty. Taking it day by day. Love to all 🥰

  • @GanyLil
    @GanyLil 3 роки тому +5

    What a powerful video Amanda! Thank you! We are in this together and it’s okay not to be okay! 💪🏻

  • @izabelarudd1470
    @izabelarudd1470 3 роки тому +3

    As I've said before you are a breath of fresh air with how real you are and how you interact with your subscribers.
    It's just such a tough time and I can relate with you on many levels. Hang in there! Hopefully we will get a better summer here in Ontario.

  • @lauralovestovlog
    @lauralovestovlog 3 роки тому +4

    Yes, ALL of this. Lockdown is heavy 🥺
    Things are back to "normal" where I am but normal things like going to a shopping centre feel really overwhelming and it feels too much, so much so that I have left after 20 minutes because I can't handle being around so many people in such a large indoor space.
    What a bizarre year.
    Big hugs.

  • @kawigirl100
    @kawigirl100 3 роки тому +4

    Hang in there Amanda, we all are feeling it right now. I'm glad you are sharing your feelings and letting us know that you are not bulletproof and that it is okay to feel what we are feeling and that there are ways to help ourselves. Sending much love

  • @rebeccaz6450
    @rebeccaz6450 3 роки тому

    Oh how I needed this today. Thank you for being vulnerable. I follow many influences who appear to have it all together and are thriving. I find it hard not to judge others and feel jealous but I am not okay. The hardest part is knowing that exercise, eating well, sleep, meditation and drinking less are so beneficial, but not making them a priority. I get motivated for a few days, then fall back into wanting to zone out. I don’t want to see others struggle but boy does it give me comfort in feeling less alone. I struggle with showing my kids that everyone has ups and downs, but how to handle stress well when I am not their best role model. Thank you ❤️

    • @AmandaMuse
      @AmandaMuse  3 роки тому

      You nailed it - knowing those things are good and yet not prioritizing them. It is so tough around here.

  • @ellenv.s.4913
    @ellenv.s.4913 3 роки тому +1

    As always, thank you for being real. This time sucks, it’s really freaking hard, and I don’t feel like enough people are talking about it. I appreciate you 🤍

  • @ErinGoBragh325
    @ErinGoBragh325 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you for your openness and honestly. I share so many of the same feelings. I feel like I've lost so much of myself during this pandemic and am still grieving my life pre-March 2020. I do see the light, though, and you will see it soon enough too. Do what you need to do now to just to get through. You're so resilient and it has brought you so far

  • @saskia16672
    @saskia16672 3 роки тому +1

    Your videos are key to me for your one of the few the creators who are real!!! Listening to podcasts and excursing key. Thank you for being there- be real with yourself for your doing really well- look after yourself first !

  • @bnelson52
    @bnelson52 3 роки тому

    Thank you for sharing Amanda! With this pandemic, our daily lives have changed too. My husband and I now both work from home and one of my daughters is doing school at home. The other two are in person. Things have opened up around here pretty much with sports opening up, we can go out to eat, etc. However, staying at home has taken a lot to get used to. At first I hated it, but now I’m loving it. I love going on walks and listening to podcasts, so I leave work in the middle of the day (sometimes in the evening) and walk 3 miles. It allows me to get outside, step away from my work and family, and be by myself. I love in Minnesota so winters are horrible, but I still bundled up and walked almost every single day through the winter. I had to buy grippy things for my shoes! I think walking and having time to myself is my secret to getting through it all. I also sneak off to a movie most weekends (by myself) and most of the time I’m the only one in the theater! They keep everyone spread apart so it’s very safe in my mind...although I don’t get too nervous about COVID. thank you for sharing your story Amanda! Take care!

  • @nathaliemoniz2231
    @nathaliemoniz2231 3 роки тому

    Thank you so much for sharing. I have spent the last 20 + years telling myself that I wasn't depressed and that I suffered simply from anxiety. For 20+ years I have moved from having some low days and good weeks. Reading everything I could on how to manage anxiety and always feeling like I was going in circles moving through the cycles. These last 14 months with the pandemic and being in constant lockdown (I too am in Ontario) and working from home, the lows became more frequent and more difficult to manage and so I finally sought out professional help. It was through those sessions that I finally came to terms with the fact that I was depressed and had been in and out of it for the last 20+ years. The moment that I said it out loud felt like a huge weight had been lifted. I spoke to my family physician about treatment options and finally feel like there is a light at the end of the tunnel. It took 20+ years to realize that there is no shame in being depressed and that I am still a strong woman in spite of it.

  • @Petemoss1976
    @Petemoss1976 3 роки тому +1

    In Nova Scotia, here where we just went into our second lockdown. I'm a social person and like to volunteer with a number of organizations. Back in the lockdown and all meetings have been switched to zoom, where I tend to just sit and listen. (If I were sitting next to the other people in the organization, I'd be giving my feedback and idea on things. Used to do visit the mental health & wellness clinic on a weekly basis, but that has since been cancelled. Physiotherapy seems to be the only thing still taking place and I'm a little nervous about the new therapist that I have yet to meet. That's about the only reason to leave the house nowadays. Hoping that people smarten up so that we can get back out of this lockdown.

  • @umansocietyletsgetinspired4367
    @umansocietyletsgetinspired4367 3 роки тому

    Having access to social media actually enabled us all to be more honest with how we feel and then share this feeling. Thank you Amanda for sharing this....

  • @MsRacheluk
    @MsRacheluk 3 роки тому

    Such a great video, knowing there are other people in the world suffering with the same issues as myself really helps. We will all get through this. X

  • @Genie519
    @Genie519 3 роки тому +1

    Oh Amanda! This has been such a hard and heavy time. So many can relate including myself. My kids have been home since last March and though I love connecting with them iit can be hard to keep patience. My peace has been a walk in nature and a quiet space to read a good book. We feel you and thank you for sharing and being open. It's okay to not be okay🙂

    • @AmandaMuse
      @AmandaMuse  3 роки тому +1

      Books and nature walks are so golden!

  • @nathaliasmit4638
    @nathaliasmit4638 3 роки тому

    You are such a big help and inspiration!! Thank you for this 🙏🏻

  • @sotellmedaisy
    @sotellmedaisy 3 роки тому +1

    I definitely have the same experience with exercising. I feel like a different person mentally, when I make time for it. Sending lots of ❤️ love.

  • @nutgeb
    @nutgeb 3 роки тому +1

    I find that reading books has helped me. I set a yearly goal. This is my second year reading with a goal.

  • @sineaddolan1413
    @sineaddolan1413 3 роки тому

    The bravery and honesty you possess is astonishing💗. Literally my very favourite person on the Internet!

    • @AmandaMuse
      @AmandaMuse  3 роки тому +1

      Wow, thank you so much 💗

  • @heatherstewart6758
    @heatherstewart6758 3 роки тому +1

    I really appreciate you sharing your feelings and thoughts, and things that work for you. It is helpful today-but even more so last spring, some of your videos were SO...affirming? I think that might be the right word. I think some of us try to cope like “it’s fine, I’m fine, others have it way worse,” and to say, “this is HARD. We’re all falling apart. It’s ok to be not ok,” is a step in healing or managing. Naming the emotions, trying to process them.
    I have been very, very grateful this entire year, that my husband is still flying, but it has also been very stressful in its own way. He was quarantining in the basement from us for 10 days after every trip (I think in May and June we had a handful of days he was “upstairs” with no mask on.) This was so hard for my then 4 year old. Since the summer he wears a mask/sleeps and eats separately for 2-3 days and we cross our fingers the other pilots in the cockpit weren’t infectious. I don’t mean to compare situations, just to make you appreciate that you can hug Dean all the time! And so can the kids!

    • @AmandaMuse
      @AmandaMuse  3 роки тому

      Oh wow! The other side of the coin is tricky too. Friends of ours have been apart for months, in different countries because of quarantine and flying. It's such a tough time!

  • @meneekoh
    @meneekoh 3 роки тому

    You're amazing! Keep going! Thank you for sharing! You're an inspiration!!!!

  • @LBRoblox
    @LBRoblox 3 роки тому

    Shaun sent me the NYT article to read yesterday as he thought I am also languishing....! Thank you for sharing this. It's so helpful to hear others speak about their challenges. Take care of yourself xo

  • @Popbasicgirl
    @Popbasicgirl 3 роки тому

    Re-entry anxiety! It's a real thing. I haven't left the house really at all since last March. My kid has been home since then doing virtual preschool, and now both my husband and I are working full time from home. I have so much anxiety about leaving the house. It's hard. I hope you're feeling better soon, just wanted to let you know you're not alone.

  • @sdfjhg9785
    @sdfjhg9785 3 роки тому

    This, Amanda. ALL of this. 👏👏👏
    Bravo on this video, you can tell it wasn't easy for you to make, but its appreciated by many. You have no idea how many people you are really touching by saying this.
    I'm pregnant with my 2nd child, hormones hormones hormones, and I am not okay either. 💜

  • @jessicabenvenuti6647
    @jessicabenvenuti6647 3 роки тому

    I totally feel you about not wanting to dump on friends/family. It's like I've lost how to conversate. Can't go anywhere/do anything so have no stories or anything to talk about. Just feel like complaining about how much sucks but don't wanna be that downer so just keep it to myself. Ugh.

  • @Guiguiiwt
    @Guiguiiwt 3 роки тому

    I really need to hear this today! I´m from Brazil, and I loved your video!! I´m studying to an essay about "languishing" (I have never neard this word before) and your video resume this theme very well, thank you! I hope you be okay, we are in this together, everything bad will pass soon I hope, wish you well!

    • @AmandaMuse
      @AmandaMuse  3 роки тому +1

      You got this! Good luck with your essay!

  • @robyncunninghamedl8252
    @robyncunninghamedl8252 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you for pulling back the curtain. It’s ok to not be ok. We are all in this together ❤️

  • @LauraHoyda
    @LauraHoyda 3 роки тому

    I feel low lately too. Are all Canadian's languishing collectively? I feel like we are. I hope you (we) are able to find joy in the everyday again despite all in front of us. With you in spirit!

  • @knj6915
    @knj6915 3 роки тому +1

    I’m sorry that you’re having a tough time. At the beginning, it was affecting me a ton. I quit looking at the numbers. It’s not completely back to normal yet but it’s getting there. How it is where we are is completely different from you. We expanding our little “farm”. I’m trying to make more of point to take me time. My son has been in school all year and karate. Our middle started karate in October. Being shut down can’t last forever and everyone here is finished with it.

    • @AmandaMuse
      @AmandaMuse  3 роки тому

      Finding those moments of "normal" are so important right now. So nice to hear you're able to do this.

    • @knj6915
      @knj6915 3 роки тому

      Going out with my camera is what feeds my soul. It’s hard to make time to do that. My hubby and I both are making more an effort to make sure I do that.

  • @coletterobichaud3465
    @coletterobichaud3465 3 роки тому

    It’s interesting to see how the lockdowns or lack their of have affected people. My mom is in Ontario and is feeling similar to you, Amanda. Whereas here in Germany (where I live) we (my state) have been in a lockdown since the late fall 2020. Having freedoms and having them taken away (again) seems to be worse than just being in a constant lockdown. I feel resigned 😑. Not being able to make plans for the future is the hardest part for me. Oh, and being able to come to Canada to visit my mom (who I haven’t seen in 2 years!!!) without jumping through 100 hoops. One day at a time! Hope you get into a better groove.

  •  3 роки тому

    Sending you a big hug. ♥️ I would recommend IFS therapy is very deep and therefore faster effect the talk therapy alone.

  • @easer
    @easer 3 роки тому

    Stay strong Amanda, this virus will be with us forever now so we need to adapt and reach out for help if you're feeling down in the dumps or affected by it in any way

    • @lawaincooley6788
      @lawaincooley6788 3 роки тому

      Yes, colds and flu are with us. Nothing has changed. Humans evolve to build immunity.

  • @chasingthetwins7951
    @chasingthetwins7951 3 роки тому +2

    ITS OK TO NOT BE OK ❤️ ITS OK FOR OTHERS IN YOUR HOUSEHOLD TO NOT BE OK ❤️

  • @thejillykilly
    @thejillykilly 3 роки тому +1

    Girl, I feel you. Let me tell you one thing - Take it SLOW. Its okay to slow down!

    • @AmandaMuse
      @AmandaMuse  3 роки тому

      It's so true - why is that so hard?!

  • @2daylayover
    @2daylayover 3 роки тому

    Hi Amanda! I’m sure you and Dean have heard of this but you guys might want to look into Flair airlines. I heard they are expanding :)

  • @christinemacdonald739
    @christinemacdonald739 3 роки тому

    SW Ontario(right across from Detroit,Michigan) I am retired, live alone with a spouse in LTC who I was not able to see for almost eight mths and now just once a week if I get tested weekly. I actually look forward to bi-weekly grocery shopping and try to take a walk daily. Each is exactly like the day before as will be the next day. Depressing? You bet.

  • @thuff1947
    @thuff1947 3 роки тому

    Sending hugs to you. I applaud you for being responsible as far as this pandemic goes. Here in Ohio, it saddens me how lax people have become. It has been almost impossible for me to get the initiative to work out at home. Since COVID, I canceled my membership. I miss working out!

  • @buildingamystery74
    @buildingamystery74 3 роки тому

    I know I’m really going to struggle with reintegrating after the pandemic. I’m a very introverted person who also has a disability and when the pandemic started, I felt like the whole world was joining me in being at home most of the time due to my medical needs. After the pandemic ends, it’s going to be hard to juggle the expectation to be social. I’m happy in my bubble a lot of the time. It’s also going to be equally hard for me to watch able bodied people go back to their ‘normal’ lives while I still have limitations because of my disability. It’s been eye opening for me to see other people learning to deal with physical limitations in society because of the pandemic. I tend to take the limitations in stride because I’m used to it but able bodied people are having to learn these lessons for the first time. I can imagine that must be very hard.

    • @AmandaMuse
      @AmandaMuse  3 роки тому

      Thank you for sharing your experience.

  • @tanyacab3439
    @tanyacab3439 3 роки тому +2

    Onterrible is sucking the life out of me. Painful is the best word.

    • @AmandaMuse
      @AmandaMuse  3 роки тому

      Yes. My goodness it’s intense.

    • @EC-iy7js
      @EC-iy7js 3 роки тому

      Agreed. I find unplugging is the best thing for me right now. Especially from the news and social media. It’s so depressing!

  • @whitec1981
    @whitec1981 3 роки тому

    Amanda you are the reality Queen and always have been. No matter what I will always be here. 🤗❤️

  • @tricianielsen4219
    @tricianielsen4219 3 роки тому

    I live in Ontario too. I'm hoping this is the last lockdown.

  • @FallingSkywardz
    @FallingSkywardz 3 роки тому +8

    Maybe I'm wrong for this, or our restrictions in my state (CO, USA) are lighter, but I regularly visit my family, my husband's family, and our few select friends. We generally don't ever go to bars or restaurants (although indoor dining is open here). But the restrictions don't make sense to me anyways. This isn't a way to live life, tip toeing around people and being afraid. I hope your area comes out of lock down soon Amanda, because it's so difficult to be separated from people. We're not meant to live like that.

  • @micheledeluca2246
    @micheledeluca2246 3 роки тому

    Thank you. 💕

  • @Barribam
    @Barribam 3 роки тому

    So I'm not great with the word things 😆, but everything you described really says depression to me. It can really look different than just sadness. The panic attacks and general mehs are apart of mine. Taking a mild dose of antidepressant has made everything less intensely crappy. Just something to talk to your therapist about if your open to it.

    • @AmandaMuse
      @AmandaMuse  3 роки тому

      Thank you for sharing your experience 💗

  • @rhiannonrigg3904
    @rhiannonrigg3904 3 роки тому

    ❤️ Just Keep Swimming ❤️ never has a Disney movie meant so much to my life.

  • @robyncavanagh8
    @robyncavanagh8 3 роки тому

    Love you lady! Here you for you always!

  • @ohMamarazziScrapbookingVicky
    @ohMamarazziScrapbookingVicky 3 роки тому +2

    Ooooooooooooooooh, mama. I can totally relate. Fellow Ontarian. The first time in lockdown was kinda fun and cozy.... but enough already! I, too, am not ok. I am actually angry at all the crap going on, deeper than the virus itself. I won't go there, but you know what I mean, I'm sure. I try to shut off my anger but then I do not feel true to myself. Oh all the feelings about everything!
    PS I have had a strong adverse psychological reaction to seeing people in masks. Such an effing trigger for me. Grrr.

    • @landbeforehoney5308
      @landbeforehoney5308 3 роки тому +1

      I, too, have found myself having these strong psychological adverse reactions to people wearing masks. It’s weird and hard to even explain but I’m just so over it. I hear you and I feel you. 🥺♥️

    • @ohMamarazziScrapbookingVicky
      @ohMamarazziScrapbookingVicky 3 роки тому +2

      @@landbeforehoney5308 right? And now, it's like a badge of honour to post pics of being vaccinated. I guess I'll be the outcast.... oh well. Not a guinea pig. Want one? Get one. But I don't wanna know LOL

    • @landbeforehoney5308
      @landbeforehoney5308 3 роки тому +1

      @@ohMamarazziScrapbookingVicky yesssss. The pics after getting the vaccine is wildly weird to me too. Seriously such a weird flex to me. I’m with ya in not getting one. I know people who have said they’ve had what they consider “hallucinations”, “waking up feeling like they were in a different realm”, “feeling psychedelic”, and my neighbor who is an older man that lives alone had to be taken to the hospital by ambulance in the middle of the night bc he woke up on his kitchen floor. I definitely won’t be getting it either, and I know tons of others who refuse too. So you’re absolutely not alone in feeling that way.

    • @ohMamarazziScrapbookingVicky
      @ohMamarazziScrapbookingVicky 3 роки тому +1

      @@landbeforehoney5308 crazy times - gotta brace ourselves for more on the way! Take care, you!!!

    • @landbeforehoney5308
      @landbeforehoney5308 3 роки тому +1

      @@ohMamarazziScrapbookingVicky you’re not wrong! Take care of yourself too! Thanks for the wholesome chat ♥️

  • @andrewkayla7994
    @andrewkayla7994 3 роки тому

    Keep working out. It will make you feel better.

  • @lawaincooley6788
    @lawaincooley6788 3 роки тому

    I pray that you can start to tune out the world and tune into, yes, the Lord. The Lord will not forsake you. You can turn everything over to the Lord and he WILL deliver you. I didn't understand this before. I have seen anxiety filled people set free! Seek the Lord. He will carry your burdens. I pray for your heart ♡

  • @Zerg1977
    @Zerg1977 3 роки тому

    hi Amanda :) vroooooooMMMM!!! ---------------->from malaysia.....still here :D

  • @blade-gal2019
    @blade-gal2019 3 роки тому

    helooooo Amanda, luv from Penang Malaysia 😘

  • @tracylee4633
    @tracylee4633 3 роки тому

    This is comming from a nice place,You say you have stopped doing what makes you happyand its hard to find the day to day things that make you happy.Have you ever thought you may be developing depression because of the pandemic.Watching some of your older videos when covid first hit you where very stressed with huge anxiety about what was happening .You seem from what I have only seen on this channel someone who has anxiety and depression.Maybe talking to a doctor may help. Like I said I dont know you and this is from what I have noticed and I dont mean any disrespect if it comes across like that.I suffer anxiety and depression so I know what its like to not want to get up and so the things that once made me happy or not worry about small things .Because small things to others are big things to me lol xxx

  • @wilsonk
    @wilsonk 3 роки тому +1

    watching from Malaysia hai friend..

  • @Onetypo
    @Onetypo 3 роки тому

    ❤️

  • @andrewkayla7994
    @andrewkayla7994 3 роки тому

    Move to Tennessee.

  • @B..103
    @B..103 3 роки тому

  • @crystalisedangel
    @crystalisedangel 3 роки тому

    💜💜🇬🇧

  • @naziakoko1181
    @naziakoko1181 3 роки тому

    HELLO

  • @alexfarmtv8983
    @alexfarmtv8983 3 роки тому

    Beautiful ❤️❤️❤️ New subscriber from alex farm tv

  • @eccentricity00
    @eccentricity00 3 роки тому

    you should move back to malaysia my dude

  • @deeb8733
    @deeb8733 3 роки тому +2

    One thing that really helped me is allowing myself to get the virus. Getting this flu strain gave me the antibodies and I don't worry about it AT ALL. I just do all the usual stuff.
    Food for thought! 🤗

    • @umbrelladay
      @umbrelladay 3 роки тому +2

      It’s not the flu...

    • @FallingSkywardz
      @FallingSkywardz 3 роки тому +2

      @@umbrelladay you're right the flu has a lower survival rate!

    • @umbrelladay
      @umbrelladay 3 роки тому

      @@FallingSkywardz I didn’t say anything about survival rates.

    • @sineaddolan1413
      @sineaddolan1413 3 роки тому +2

      @@FallingSkywardz
      We have to be respectful for all the ppl we have lost in this pandemic, its not the seasonal flu.

    • @FallingSkywardz
      @FallingSkywardz 3 роки тому +2

      @@sineaddolan1413 it wasn't my intent to be disrespectful, I was just pointing out a fact