One thing I realized seeing this video is that the grass is always greener the other side. I’m not a very conventionally pretty person but later I found good people in my life and I know that they are here for me because of my personality and not my looks and when I got to know few of them who are actually pretty I got to know their pov as they are only valued for looks and when people get to know their personality and everything their attitudes shift. It was new for me and it definitely changed my mindset towards beauty and the standards the society had set for being considered “pretty”.
This is so sad to be rich and/or beautiful. Life is so hard on people like that. Being praised for the looks is awful. How could anyone bear such a burden? It's definitely better to be broke and ugly and completely invisible to people around than to get everything you want without effort just because you are beautiful.
Personally the clearest sign ive had that i wasn't much of a looker was my mirror. All it took was a single glance. Was a real eye opener. Really made me see the truth of it.
Was a real introspective moment. I saw my true self bounced back at me. A reflection of who i truly am. There was a demon in that mirror staring back at me. But that was just my wife. She was there too.
@@posintabook597saying someone “you have a beatiful brain” is equally weird. people tend to say “you are smart” or “you have good soul” . also instead “i like how your face looks” saying “you are pretty” or “you are beatiful” is more natural lol
@@limbo815 complimenting someone intelligence is common and it’s not an implication that someone is unattractive, complimenting someone looks on the other side is uncommon , even if you are good looking people will tend to not say it cuz they either don’t want you to get the wrong impression since it’s smth that shows liking signs or they simply don’t want to compliment you for free , I think you guys are reaching with these wild extrapolations 😂
@@posintabook597 i didnt say that but complimenting someone’s intelligence by saying “you have a beatiful brain” is funny. its my first time hearing such a thing.
Here's a REAL EXPERIENCE I've had: · I only make friends in places where I'm mostly covered up like when I'm skiing or doing downhill mountain biking. This one girl was super friendly with me while we were skiing, she wanted to spend all day with me, let me choose the slopes, gave me her number, saw me without the helmet and goggles... and then she never answered to a single WhatsApp message.
@@DiegoRuiz1991That’s very rare, many people, even ones who think they dont care about looks, care about looks at least a little. You yourself probably have girls you wouldn’t date because your not attracted enough to them.
Nah, I've received decent customer service and I'm not good looking. I think it's a matter of expectations, just don't expect to be treated like a king, treat them as you would anyone else and they'll do the same. At best, i look like the wish version of Russell Brand, or Keanu Reeves, or Johnny Depp, but they're all on crack and severely sleep deprived.
In my case I can't relate but because I don't know, the thing is: I used to live in a country with very rude people where customer service was trash everywhere, not just in some places or towards some people. Less than a year ago I moved away and where I am right now people are extremely much nicer, so I don't know if I'm getting worse customer service than average or no because it's like 200% times better than the one from where I come from
Eh. I'm fugly af and I can't even remember a time when I've gotten poor customer service, off the top of my head. Could be that I'm a Minnesotan, though.
Hmmm i think IG reels have no mercy whether someone is attractive or ugly, fat or skinny, white or black, human or animal, baby or adult, etc @@un_mexican0783
Sometimes it is opposite. Most people won’t actually sit with the attractive one. I myself am very attractive at least to women, much often they touch me in a public transport, but rarely do they seat next to me. Before I found out I too subconsciously more often set with less attractive people, but now I use those free seats every time they’re present. If you’re not stinky or brutally battered they will sit next to you, if they’re not, most probably you are beautiful.
Nah not really a clear sign, let’s be honest, I prefer to sit alone too, so not everyone wants to be so close to other strangers no matter how they look
I dont know... i just simply prefer not sitting next to someone else whether they are pretty or not. Its actually pretty common in sweden where im from. Like no one sits next to each other on public transport unless they are friends or its absolutely necessary.
People like to say "Personality really matters." but the reality is "Having an attractive appearance always makes you feel like you're winning." and it's true, people will treat you like a doormat if you are ugly. I feel that since i was in grade 6th, now i'm focusing on my self-healing and improvement to build more self esteem.
I just realized that the people who used to call me "ugly" before are the ones who can't focus on their own lives and appearance, and one of them is my mother.
A person being hot is like a present with a nice wrapper. People are only interested in the actual contents/personality of the present if it’s well packaged
I was waiting at a train-station, standing on one of the platforms. Two blonde, chic, pretty girls (teenage or early 20s, don't recall precisely) were sitting on one side of a large bench on the platform. There comes this dude. You could tell from his body-language that he was a friendly, laid-back, nice person. He was obese, his clothes looked poor and old, his hair was greasy, he was sweating and out-of-breath from running to catch the train. He sat down on the bench, on the opposite end to the girls. The very second his bottom touched the bench, they got up and left, deciding to wait on the train somewhere else. He didn't seem to notice. But I think, on a subconscious level he did.
Not entirely, because charisma is what nets you attention. And beauty only makes for a part of it. So if you never get any you might want to check on yourself
I don't consider myself ugly but I have been stood up, given fake numbers, and ghosted before. Reality is they missed out on someone who's interested. Confidence is king.
Don’t consider yourself ugly if this happens. The reality is that even normal looking man are seen as not good enough by almost all girls. Even the ugly ones because they will always have some weird dudes simping for them which boosts their ego way to much.
Bro i remember when i was little i got dared to run around a building 5 times while it was raining, while others were asked “who do you find attractive” it was clear i was not supposed to be there
Women want to be complimented like men. Men want to be complimented like women. What a sad state. If only men valued their own brains and women valued their own looks.
All these, except the Kids one. Additionally, my Mom would say, "I don't get it, at Parties all these Ladies would tell me how Handsome you are." I would ask in return, "Then why are they telling you and not me? Face it, your Son is Ugly as Sin, they just want to make you feel better, not me."
A really bad one is peoples reaction to the possibility of dating/being with you. I have someone that really likes me now. But people I have NEVER shown interest in would pre reject me and get super offended when I would tell them that it wouldn't happen anyway because they aren't my type. Had many childhood instances of chicks im hanging out with outwardly being DISGUSTED if anyone even MILDLY suggested we could be a couple. Really a confidence tanker :/
@@JoJo-fan-right-here to be fair, for young men "ew" often doesn't mean it, if they hang out with girls. They just afraid to be found out, and it will ruin their friendship (because they believe that girl wouldn't like them back). That my childhood, and I often see it shows in older tv shows. If he was actually "ew", he wouldn't even hang out with them, since making friends with guys easier, and he would hang out with "the boys".
I used to be pretty overweight. Related to these a lot back then. One time, a few weeks before I started losing weight, I was walking down the street, and a little girl and her mother were passing me. The little girl started laughing and asked her mom, "Why does that man look so weird?" The mom quickly reprimanded her, probably because I was sometimes told that I also looked scary. Ever since putting more effort into my appearance, I actually get a decent amount of compliments. I'm not sure if I'm actually attractive now or not, but it's bizarre to go from being ignored to having people stop you on the street to call you handsome (sure, they're older women and gay guys, but a compliment is a compliment).
Most people relate to most of them Most of these people are mistaking unattractive with ugly , they are 2 completely different things Unattractive people are simply invincible, like the average person Ugly ones are attacked and stigmatised
I feel most of these "signs" are relatable even to people with little social skills. A couple of people told me I was cute and some even asked me out, but I usually freak out in public for my shyness and I believe many people consider me a weirdo for this.
As a quiet girl who minded her business 1. Got spit on multiple times 2. Got filmed and insulted for a reaction 3. Got called pretty for a dare 4. Always picked last for PE 5. Someone said i look like Billie Eilish and i am asian Any other time was called ugly out of nowhere And I don't even interact with people
Is being told you look like Billie eilish an insult though? I always thought she looked at least decent. Also, if you want me to respond to a reply, probably best you like this reply. I have reply notifications off.
Nah, I don't think so. When you talk with an online friend they build up a mental picture of you, yes, usually it's of a person who is conventionally attractive, but if you turn out to look different it doesn't mean you aren't pretty, just that you don't look like their mental image of you
Same man. I can't even go to a festival, where they spend literal days preaching about love and harmony, without a stranger yelling at me about how ugly I am
Same with me. It hurts. They tell me “you look like you got hit with a shovel” “Your parents must have dropped you in your head, your face is deformed “ “What! You can get upset it’s true!” “You look like the girl from Haredatry.” (The girl has Fetal Alcohol Syndrome) I dunno if I should get over it but it hurts I just want to be pretty, and popular,
One way I knew I was unattractive is the many women that looked at me with a grossed out expression a few have even said “ewww” right to my face haha dam that hurts more then getting kicked in the balls! 😅
Don't take little kids insulting you seriously, I used to babysit my three little cousins and I can tell you that little kids go through this phase where they're basically learning to be mean. It's like if you teach a kid a swear word, and suddenly they want to use it non-stop. The other day I saw a little kid say "Go away, no one likes you, I hate you" to a random bird on the ground at the zoo.
I used to be super ugly when I was in middle school since i was obese. Not even the ones with the lowest standards ever complimented me. Now I am healthy, attreactive and can get people's attention but lemme tell you something: Being ugly for a while made me acheive this important skill where I can identify people with right mind and become friends with them. Only the smart and good people will treat you for who you are, not by how you look. Judging someone by their look is an animalistic instinct. The real deal is learning to become a human. Never forget that all disadavtages come with advantages.
There was this one time when I was in high school during Valentine’s Day, this kid in my chemistry class brought a flower and he went around asking the girls in class if they wanted the flower and they rejected him until he got to me and he just looked at me and looked away and then asked the girl sitting next to me if she wanted the flower, I was the only girl he didn’t ask if I wanted the flower.
When I was in middle school, a guy that was a grade above me said "eww disgusting" when I was just looking at him (I never have a crush on him btw) and his friend make some weird suggestions idk, and up until now I still keep thinking about it, and him being in the same highschool as me and had a crush on my cousin (she's really gorgeous) didn't help me any better. And now my coworkers keep asking me for favours and said this "pls, I'll call you pretty if you want to do it" they keep saying that shit a hundred times and everytime they say it I just feel like crying. But then again this one coworker of mine is really heartless sometimes, she once said that she dreamed about me only wearing the same clothes for work and I knew she make fun of me because I'm broke and i really do only have a few decent clothes, so I told my mother about it and then my father brought me to a clothes store and asked me to pick some. I only choose one because I know we're tight on money. Sometimes I just keep asking myself why I'm keep on alive.
Yo same, this girl had a dare to ask out every guy and when it came to me, she was so disgusted and gave up om that dare. Awful feeling mate, I get ya.
Well I always thought that was the case with me when I was younger (and well now as well). This pretty much solidified itself with the following experience: I reached the end of my school day and was about to head home when I met my friend before leaving and we started to talk. Then after some time I heard the voice of a girl behind me trying to get my friends attention while we conversed and I looked back to see who it was. In that moment she saw my face and went „Eww“. To this day I am upset…. at myself for not finding a good comeback.
as someone who used to be chubby, with acnes and bad teeth and lack of flattering styling (in terms of hair & clothes, may i add that i was also horrible at makeup) through my entire teenage years and only had a glow up now in my early 20s, i still genuinely cannot tell that if somebody shows interest in me, if that's actually genuine or are they just joking but i used to get hit on as a joke back then too. and obviously i see myself as prettier now cuz only i know the differences that changed, but i'm still not a 100% sure if i'm on that level of fitting into the beauty standards yet so i can be treated better. cuz the truth is that looking appealing definitely gets you more ahead in life, if i'm being honest that's the entire reason i wanted/want to look better. cuz i was getting too tired of ppl whispering about me when i pass by or just being rejective despite of me acting nice & approachable. in an ideal world, we wouldn't have to worry about these things so much...
My brothers and sisters We're all ugly, The best we can do is be healthy. They can call us ugly but they can't call us out of shape. Who needs beauty when you can run circles around someone? When you actually feel energetic when you wake? Eventually your actions will prove your value. There's no reason to get down and you dont have to get a six pack... we'll all be skeletons in the ground one day so lets enjoy what we do and push forward. Right?
1:36 THIS WAS ME. I had horrible acne until I was 25, it which point it finally subsided (mostly). Literally, I started getting attention from women almost right away. It was legitimately disorienting to have women interested in me to that degree after basically being told (implicitly and explicitly) that I was ugly for most of my life.
@@Warpsmith-Perfide I tried a lot of things from my teens into my mid 20's. Every cleanser, pill, or treatment you can imagine. There's a lot of marketed solutions out there, but nothing really worked for me beyond simply minimizing the effects. I wish I had better advice for you, but acne mostly passes with time. For most people it's late teens. I had to wait nearly a decade longer than that.
@@Warpsmith-Perfide After having acne for 8 years, the thing that worked best for me was the medication "Isotretonoin". I had really bad acne and after taking the pill for a year starting 2022 It was way less extreme. While it didn´t get rid of it, It made the acne less deep and less visible. If you don´t have any other option left to try please ask your doctor about it. But please be careful, since the medication takes a toll on ones mental health and has many other side effects.
The worst part is when you have genuine interest in someone, and they are the one to ask you out, just for it to turn into a joke between her friends, so she leaves you because they're hurting her for it. Feels way too shitty. Single women keep other women single.
If she was interested in you, she'd never let them joke about you and she'd be with you. In the end adults are making the decisions for themselves. She didn't want you. Her decision has nothing to do with others.
It's so easy for attractive (or at least not-ugly) people to criticize others' lack of confidence because they're utterly oblivious to their own privilege. Newsflash: it's hard to build and sustain and confidence in yourself when all you're met with is rejection after rejection
If possible invest in a professional photoshoot. I am obese (still working out but it will take some time) I was fortunate to have a close friend that is a professional photographer and he gave me a good deal. Granted it took about 30 minutes. However the results were amazing! And there was no photoshop trickery. A good camera, good lighting and a person that knows what he is doing make a real difference!
Gave a picture of myself to an indirect friend of mine, actual friend of my sister, who claims what she knows a couple of women who are looking for a relationship. I am sure that the moment thewy saw me all of them probably went "eww." I know I am not attractive, I have actually been called a creep just for staring blankly, lost in my own thoughts. Receesing hair, and forehead that possibly looks like it could be used as an emergency bottle opener. I stopped caring after a while. By the way, even my parents tell me that I am attractive. I told them how much BS that really is, I could look like a Cronenberg creature and I would still be called "hsndsome."
Damn man.... I feel u I'm lil bit bigger than others in my younger days and I don't make a contact or making a sign of attracted to woman bcs people making fun of me since I was child. Then...everyone suspecting I wasn't attracted to woman or homo .
I am sorry for you man, I relate with the nobody sitting next to me one. At least family tells you that you are handsome even if they don't mean it, they just wanna make u feel better which is precious
I have always been the ugly girl in my crowd. Growing up I had no friends and was constantly made fun of my my brother's friends, and family members. My own dad has commented on me being ugly numerous times. I've known all my life that I am ugly, and accepted it. If I look at myself vs literally every single other woman I can find anywhere, the difference is shocking. For some reason, I have a massive frame, I mean larger bone structure than most men in my family. Huge hands, massive feet (size 12 shoes), developed a deep, masculine voice at a young age to go with it all. Get mistaken for a man or troon on the phone all the time to the point I avoid that at all cost. Used to be fat as hell but found out about intermittent fasting/keto and lost a ton of weight and look thin now but still huge. That made things look almost worse in some ways because now the weird proportions stand out a lot, and boobs got way smaller. Honest to god sometimes though, very rarely a man will take interest and say something about me being pretty to them. Theres this weird thing I have where I know I am so disgusting that it genuinely upsets me when they say it because I have this thought in my head like "holy shit you are messed up to like THAT, you crazy fuck". Then I feel bad because I wonder if they were really serious or not.
Hope your doing OK, the fact that your own dad called you ugly is horrendous, I was really big growing up so all my family members used to call me fat all the time to the point where I got used to it. The point is just love yourself for who you are, hating yourself won't do anything, because even though you may not like your appearance I'm sure you have a gorgeous personality, and if a man only wants you for your looks then that's them. Take care!
This is the first perfect score I've gotten on anything in my life! Wow, is this what not failing feels like, gosh it's nice to feel something other than sadness for a second. A person could get used to this feeling, but I'm sure I won't 🥰💯
When you say "Aight look, I gotta step up, I'm ugly" to your friends and they comfort you instead of laughing at your statement, you just got yourself some good evidence.
To me it's the fact people my age rarely ever hit on me in my late teens/early adulthood, it was mostly old predatory men. Guys my age would use me to get to my friends.
It's kind of wrong though. I'm one of the people who would tell them to stop it bc I genuinely think they are beautiful. Telling them they are just fishing for likes/compliments is just rude especially if you know them personally.
@@derrygorldefinitely is mean to say someone's fishing or denying then insecurity js bc their pretty, but at least it's a way to test if you're ugly or not 😭
The “friend zone”. Loaded term, but if you hit it off with single people of the opposite gender but they don’t see you as potential bf/gf material, you’re not hot.
Not true. There are many reasons one can land in the friend zone. Being unattractive is only one of them. Sure, if you're a 10/10, you won't land there, but that doesn't mean every person is in the friend zone because of looks. Also many women will not even be friends with ugly guys, or at the very least have a cut off. It's creep (1-3/4) friend (4-6/7), interesting personality (7-9)
@@manuelp7472 the question is "what's a clear sign?" not "what is indisputable proof?". If you're always a BFF, never a BF, it might be your looks. Yes, true, you might have a personality that they like as a friend but don't find attractive in a partner, but if you were physically attractive, a lot of people will find a way to rationalize how you're actually the perfect match for them. People will go from "we have so much in common" to "well, opposites attract I guess" in a heartbeat.
Yeah , the friend zone is for guys who do everything right but being attractive. Think about it. If you were an asshole , interesting with nothing going on in your life , you would be ghosted not friend zone. The friend zone is when the only problem you have is being short/ugly. Men don't do that shit but all women I know have a phone full of guys they friend zoned , it is crazy
when COVID was over and we weren't required to wear masks anymore a girl in my class told me she had a huge crush on me back when I was still wearing one
Back in school, the girls in my class made a list of the prettiest, to the ugliest boys, in that class we were 10 boys for 13 girls something like that. I arrived last, the ugliest. I'm pretty sure my grades dropped until the end of my scholarship after this, I would just go home and play video games instead of homework. I'm sure the reason my grades dropped isn't only because of this but, I still remember that story as an insane turning point and a realization that yep, I ain't the main character
Same, bro. I'm 19 and struggle with acne. Fortunately, I'm taking retinoid pills. I recommend you to visit dermatologist, we still can make it ✊@@mavi3348
@@mavi3348 bro I feel you, nutrition doesn't really help. Or at least, I have to limit it so crazy, that I can't enjoy eating bruh. What triggers your acne?
funnilly enough, the second last one might just be you putting yourself down, it did not say the person showing interest was just joking, but that YOU convinced yourself that that is the case
@@skulisoul not necessarily, "being convinced" don't necessarily mean you are in the process of being convinced, it may also mean that you already ARE convinced of that. English is a bit confusing in that regard. But anyway, if it was the case where someone is trying to put your hopes down, that wouldn't be any proof you're ugly, just that you have very VERY crappy friends
@@melo_maniac_studio i am literally explaining how in that situation YOU would be the one gaslighting yourself, but the amount of people i've seen lately who don't seem to get the concept of gaslight would make me believe a further discussion would be fruitless
Last summer i was laying on the beach minding my own business and suddenly felt that someone is looking at me. I looked back and it was two girls. 30 seconds later they hastily got up and moved where i can't see them. Bitches thought i was a creep or something 😂 it's fun.
In my personal experience I used to work in a nursing home when I was a lot younger and going to school. A lot of the elderly woman would tell me how handsome I was and ask if I was married. Girls my age would never say such things. Figured if only lonely old women found me attractive I’m most definitely ugly.
They may also tell you that just as a means of compliment. Old ladies typically tell my mother that I'm beautiful, but that doesn't mean I'm beautiful.
I don't know I've been told things given compilments on my looks and even have been called handsome by random people But me personally i look at myself in the mirror and just have an overwhelming feeling of disgust and animosity even Idk
i honestly think im average looking. some people think im attractive, some people dont. it'll go as high as someone wanting me and as low as someone blocking me
Asked a guy on the street for directions. I smiled. Just smiled. Didn't hit on him at all. He looked at me, stopped talking, turned around and walked away. All while muttering to himself: "Do I really look that desperate?"
Also i’m a 5’4 guy, skinny, wear glasses. I occasionally get laughed at by people in public (usually women) and women stare at me in disgust, or avoid/ignore me. People in general, not just women, don’t respect you or care about you, or ridicule you. It’s over.
What made me realize I was unattractive? Have you ever heard of mirrors. One look in that bad boy and I automatically knew that I was most likely going to die alone.
I can’t even tell if I’m pretty or ugly because of all the mixed signals I get. I’ve never been hit on and I’m almost 16, which is still young, but I’m seriously concerned that I may be ugly. But then again my female friends treat me like I’m pretty. I’ve been told I come off as intimidating and I never have shown interest in guys, so I wonder if that has something to do with it. Or maybe it’s the fact I’m 5’6 and always wear dark makeup. At the end of the day I’m convinced I appeal much more to girls.
It doesn't matter either way. There's no need to preoccupy yourself with it. Cliché but just be yourself, make yourself look how you want to look, don't change yourself for any perceived idea that society might have about what's pretty and what isn't. Getting to a point where you don't give a shit about what people think either way is best. Having been through my teens that's what I'd say.
Younger, same, not ugly tought. Are you even searching/searched for relationship? Im not because, i dont care that much as of now, but did people got grossed out by you or something?
That is simply incorrect , exposure to social events and extroversion are more important that looks, if you look good but you don’t mix in and have some type or conservative personality you ain’t getting any
@@posintabook597My situation is bit different. I love social events and I try to attend as much as activities that clubs do in my college, but I have a silent and observer type of personality so nearly no one notices me and I talk with few people. I also have lots of interests like science, movies, geography, history and my girl friends like me for being a cultured nerd. But I don't think that any girl would want to date me
1:37 sadly it does not matter what I do I keep thinking this and that is what I hate about finding someone or even making friends, you can NEVER be sure and that is the biggest reason why I am so asocial.
it sucks being ugly. not only are you not worthy of love you’re not worthy of empathy or even basic respect. at least my cat loves me, when she passes away i’m probably gonna self delete soon after
Get another cat. I assume you love and appreciate your kitty? If so, do that. It's good for you and for the cat. Cats are great, and they deserve great people. Be a great person for another cat, your current cat would approve, I'm sure.
Hey don't do that, life really fucking sucks and it isn't because you're ugly I swear. Like even if you are ugly bro there's so much suffering around. Struggle my ninja, struggle
Please don't do that, there's things in this life worth living for, we learn to endure this moments,I am a woman and I ended up in here somewhere so just hang in there, self-deletion is not the way.
If you haven’t tried this, set up your camera and record yourself talking. Talk to the camera directly for a few minutes about any topic. Then watch it back. You’ll see it. I did this and realized how ugly and socially awkward I am and how bad I am at talking 😂💀.
When only Mom tells you you're handsome or when you talk to a girl and her answers to your questions are only "Yes", "No", "Mhm" and she continues to show you're not interesting for her by doing stuff like sitting on UA-cam in middle of a conversation. Been there, saw that.
Maybe don't bother people who are clearly not looking for a conversation? That has more to do with being socially oblivious or downright obnoxious than it does your appearance
@sirpancherto she wanted that conversation and was more active during texting phase. If she didn't want - she could've told me about it and I would've said "Fine, that's it then. Have a nice day", but she preferred to leave me with this "hope" before taking it on the spot
This one resonates with me definitely. I’ve been referred to as creepy by others before. Maybe it’s my sinister look, clumsy social skills, or just ugly.🤷🏻♂️
well that was depressing...sometimes i wish everyone just looked the same it's so sad that some people will struggle their entire lives with being lonely just bc of how they look 😞
@@Baryccyon fine maybe not everyone looking exactly the same but there definitely shouldn't be so much variation in physical attractiveness across the human population
@@slavicprincess That’s crazy. Human nature will find deferences in those small variations we still have a perception of who is ugly and who is pretty.
A real experience : It was when I was 10-12 y/0. My father's office had arranged a picnic and my older cousin tagged along with my family.she is beautiful,according to society's standard.on the way back ppl Were waiting for all the buses to arrive outside the picnic resort. Me and my, we were standing side by side when suddenly a child came and asked me "who is she to you?" (pointing to my cousin) and I replied, "she's my sister" and the child was like "how can she be ur sister,she's pretty but you are not" I kid you not that i was hurt and stunned at the same time.on the way back I managed not to cry.
"Nobody ever sits next to you unless all the other seats are taken" Heck, my crush didn't even want to do that. She just moved someone's seat just to not sit next to me. My male friends don't mind sitting though.
@@LemonDani It's very one-sided. As she doesn't even want to talk with me, the only social interaction with her are occasional greetings and high fives. That love is now left to rot. P.S. however she talks to her male friends that treat her bad
@@user-wn8sp5ki9e It'd be logical but no. I'm very sure they are uglier than me. Just taller and raised bad enough to kick or punch her. She sometimes hugs them too. When I wanted one too, she just backed off and offered a high five instead. It's not like we had bad contact. We talked much over text, because she was busy talking to her (mostly female) friends. She was nice over the phone and we could maintain good conversations. Showing some interest. And it's not like I was bad or anything. It's her who showed signs of no interest like short (sometimes even unworded) responses, not giving a high five or just going away from me when I'm near. For no good reason. Now the contact is cut and I'm not asking her anything, because I know she has no interest in me.
Watching this video made me realise how bad it's in some countries,glad my society doesn't care much about appearance,i mean ofc they care but not to the point that people treat you badly or that you don't find friends
As someone who grew up fat and ugly, and was bullied for it, this is very true. I didn't realise when I had my "glow up" and I was extremely alarmed when people started treating me so differently. I just couldn't wrap my head around it. I went from the only compliments I recieved being "you're so funny" or "you're so smart" to a *whole* lot about my looks. At first I thought people were just being assholes and messing with me, and I became even more insecure, before I finally realised it wasn't the case. One particular thing is that I have really big, wide eyes. When I was ugly, people told me I looked like a bug, or that I looked creepy. Now I get told I have "doe eyes" or that my big eyes are adorable, and my wide-eyed appearance makes me look sweet, In terms of customer service, I went from being ignored by staff, to people being overtly sweet to me, recommending me foods/drinks, making conversation, complimenting me and informing me random things about drink sizes so I didn't get scammed lmao. People just started liking me a whole lot more in general. You get treated wayyy better if you're attractive. Pretty privilege is *very* real, and my every day life is a lot better now that I have it.
No matter what people say, the truth is that the first thing a person see's on you is your looks, no matter how many times people say that looks doesnt matter they will always be judge by there appearance first, thats just my opinion though and im sure there are people who treat all human being the same way they treat others
Back when I was in school, there was a girl who always ended up paired with me for activities. She would always make a fuss every time we had to work together. I still remember her reaction when the whole class was forced to bring a gift for Valentine's Day. I should note that I'm not an extroverted person and rarely interacted with her, so I don't know why she disliked me so much... Man, I just wanted to study. It's been five years, and the few memories I have of high school are always negative regarding my appearance.
the good news is, the more you grow up and people around you grow up the less people care about how you look when it comes to regular social interaction. people will like you if you're good to just get along with. doesn't apply to dating tho, there looks will always matter to a very large degree. teenage years and adolescence are by far the worst time in life for ugly people
there is a "halo effect" where people assume you're a good person with a fun life and treat you more charitably if you're attractive. It can affect you socially and professionally throughout a lot of your life, unfortunately. Anecdotally, it definitely seems more pronounced in youth though.
@@uranusuranus144yep like maybe 90% of people more biased for looks when young. When they grow up they will become less biased. Oh yeah... like maybe 5% and the rest will be still biased.
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One thing I realized seeing this video is that the grass is always greener the other side. I’m not a very conventionally pretty person but later I found good people in my life and I know that they are here for me because of my personality and not my looks and when I got to know few of them who are actually pretty I got to know their pov as they are only valued for looks and when people get to know their personality and everything their attitudes shift. It was new for me and it definitely changed my mindset towards beauty and the standards the society had set for being considered “pretty”.
Got pinned in less than a day bro, congrats both on discovering the truth and this
This is so sad to be rich and/or beautiful. Life is so hard on people like that. Being praised for the looks is awful. How could anyone bear such a burden? It's definitely better to be broke and ugly and completely invisible to people around than to get everything you want without effort just because you are beautiful.
It's like when rich people say "Money can't buy happiness"
This is like a black person talking about the struggles of white people in America.
Just like those imaginary women who are lonely because they are "so attractive that nobody even dares to ask them out" what a joke 😂
1) They ask question like this one
Right on man
Nah, a lot of people purposely fish for compliments online by calling themselves ugly.
People dont like hearing the truth.
Id assume this video applies to u which is why u commented this.
Low hanging fruit
lol
Personally the clearest sign ive had that i wasn't much of a looker was my mirror. All it took was a single glance. Was a real eye opener. Really made me see the truth of it.
Damn
Was a real introspective moment. I saw my true self bounced back at me. A reflection of who i truly am. There was a demon in that mirror staring back at me. But that was just my wife. She was there too.
@@Coomamon_MemesLMAO
Real
@@Coomamon_Memes😂
Damn, society really treats people like shit. That's sad, man.
Social Darwinism at its "finest".
be the change you want to see in the world?
Don’t use it then - anyone who is in social media is all by himself to
Blame
@@Inbraneinthememsane he said society not social media
Selfish genes make you do things that are unimaginable when you were a teenager. There is a scientific reason behind it. It sucks.
they use reddit
You're so swag
Real
@@attepatte8485Mayhaps even based
Real
Absolute truth.
On my twelfth birthday, one of my friends gave me a card saying I was funny and had a beautiful *brain* .
But like what do you mean ? It would be extremely weird if someone send a letter saying I always liked how ur face looked
@@posintabook597saying someone “you have a beatiful brain” is equally weird. people tend to say “you are smart” or “you have good soul” . also instead “i like how your face looks” saying “you are pretty” or “you are beatiful” is more natural lol
@@limbo815 complimenting someone intelligence is common and it’s not an implication that someone is unattractive, complimenting someone looks on the other side is uncommon , even if you are good looking people will tend to not say it cuz they either don’t want you to get the wrong impression since it’s smth that shows liking signs or they simply don’t want to compliment you for free , I think you guys are reaching with these wild extrapolations 😂
@@posintabook597 i didnt say that but complimenting someone’s intelligence by saying “you have a beatiful brain” is funny. its my first time hearing such a thing.
Wtf does you have a beautiful brain even mean?? 😂
Here's a REAL EXPERIENCE I've had:
· I only make friends in places where I'm mostly covered up like when I'm skiing or doing downhill mountain biking. This one girl was super friendly with me while we were skiing, she wanted to spend all day with me, let me choose the slopes, gave me her number, saw me without the helmet and goggles... and then she never answered to a single WhatsApp message.
Yeah man, I can relate to you, that's why I stopped wearing masks
@@NeonNova736 - I'm kinda the opposite, I wish to trick a girl to like me enough that she doesn't mind I'm f-ugly
@@DiegoRuiz1991That’s very rare, many people, even ones who think they dont care about looks, care about looks at least a little. You yourself probably have girls you wouldn’t date because your not attracted enough to them.
Looks are one of the thing people always look into at first. Yes, that includes me as well.
Damn
God, the one about always getting poor customer service is soo true
Yikes
I can relate to it too
Nah, I've received decent customer service and I'm not good looking. I think it's a matter of expectations, just don't expect to be treated like a king, treat them as you would anyone else and they'll do the same.
At best, i look like the wish version of Russell Brand, or Keanu Reeves, or Johnny Depp, but they're all on crack and severely sleep deprived.
In my case I can't relate but because I don't know, the thing is: I used to live in a country with very rude people where customer service was trash everywhere, not just in some places or towards some people. Less than a year ago I moved away and where I am right now people are extremely much nicer, so I don't know if I'm getting worse customer service than average or no because it's like 200% times better than the one from where I come from
Eh. I'm fugly af and I can't even remember a time when I've gotten poor customer service, off the top of my head. Could be that I'm a Minnesotan, though.
The part with the Tiktok Video is so true, they'd say stuff like that to make you feel better
Unless its instagram reels
@@un_mexican0783we don't talk about insta reels...
@@un_mexican0783 Then they'll insult you whether your ugly or not
Hmmm i think IG reels have no mercy whether someone is attractive or ugly, fat or skinny, white or black, human or animal, baby or adult, etc @@un_mexican0783
@@un_mexican0783 instagram reels will insult fucking adriana lima they don't care if ur ugly or not
A little kid looked at me one time and said to his mom: "Mommy, what happened to his face?"
Nooooo.. that must have been terrible to experience. I would feel like sinking into the ground :(
Damn… sending you a hug!
Yeah huets the most when little kids does this.. my cousin all of them calls me ugly not to mention my classmates BULLIED me for being ugly.
This was in a K-Mart btw
Damn
The people avoiding sitting next to you...is just so friggin real man, this shit hurts.
Sometimes it is opposite. Most people won’t actually sit with the attractive one. I myself am very attractive at least to women, much often they touch me in a public transport, but rarely do they seat next to me. Before I found out I too subconsciously more often set with less attractive people, but now I use those free seats every time they’re present. If you’re not stinky or brutally battered they will sit next to you, if they’re not, most probably you are beautiful.
Nah not really a clear sign, let’s be honest, I prefer to sit alone too, so not everyone wants to be so close to other strangers no matter how they look
@@smockingbardyeah, sure
Ikr😢
I dont know... i just simply prefer not sitting next to someone else whether they are pretty or not. Its actually pretty common in sweden where im from. Like no one sits next to each other on public transport unless they are friends or its absolutely necessary.
People like to say "Personality really matters." but the reality is "Having an attractive appearance always makes you feel like you're winning." and it's true, people will treat you like a doormat if you are ugly. I feel that since i was in grade 6th, now i'm focusing on my self-healing and improvement to build more self esteem.
I just realized that the people who used to call me "ugly" before are the ones who can't focus on their own lives and appearance, and one of them is my mother.
She loves to drag me down and call me ugly but now i'm getting older i can see how insecure she was to my father's exes.
A person being hot is like a present with a nice wrapper. People are only interested in the actual contents/personality of the present if it’s well packaged
personality matters for men looks matter for women
a girls value depends on her looks but men have to earn value, pretty women be with average dudes all the time
I was waiting at a train-station, standing on one of the platforms. Two blonde, chic, pretty girls (teenage or early 20s, don't recall precisely) were sitting on one side of a large bench on the platform. There comes this dude. You could tell from his body-language that he was a friendly, laid-back, nice person. He was obese, his clothes looked poor and old, his hair was greasy, he was sweating and out-of-breath from running to catch the train. He sat down on the bench, on the opposite end to the girls. The very second his bottom touched the bench, they got up and left, deciding to wait on the train somewhere else. He didn't seem to notice. But I think, on a subconscious level he did.
blackpill
Cut away obese, greasy hair and sweating, and it's literally my experience every time.
@@rinslittlesheepling1652this, this happens to me and I'm not even obese
Well being obese is one thing
There is no excuse for bad breath, bad grooming, lack of clean clothes and shoes
@@Inbraneinthememsane poverty
The comment about not getting any attention when you try being social is so true
real
Not entirely, because charisma is what nets you attention. And beauty only makes for a part of it. So if you never get any you might want to check on yourself
@@Jugement
The other thing is if one is charismatic enough, one may be perceived as being better looking by your audience.
Just got stood up on a date 10 seconds ago and this is the first video on my UA-cam feed. That’s how you know.
I hope you're doing alright man!
I don't consider myself ugly but I have been stood up, given fake numbers, and ghosted before. Reality is they missed out on someone who's interested. Confidence is king.
Big up partner. She was not meant to be with ya at that time
Don’t consider yourself ugly if this happens. The reality is that even normal looking man are seen as not good enough by almost all girls. Even the ugly ones because they will always have some weird dudes simping for them which boosts their ego way to much.
@@BubonicPlague1347 girl no 😭🫂
Being asked out as a joke/ being a "victim" of dares hits too close to home.
@@TheGabrielPT thank god I've never been there
Yeah
damn people can be mean..
Im so unattractive that i never experienced that too
Bro i remember when i was little i got dared to run around a building 5 times while it was raining, while others were asked “who do you find attractive” it was clear i was not supposed to be there
"You are smart and articulate."
Worse if that's clearly a lie.
@@djinnxx7050exactly that's salt on a scorching wound
That’s more smth that is said to someone who is perceived attractive than the opposite , a lot of people in the comment section are clueless
Women want to be complimented like men. Men want to be complimented like women. What a sad state. If only men valued their own brains and women valued their own looks.
yo people who are smart and articulate are beautiful, especially robert green
All these, except the Kids one.
Additionally, my Mom would say, "I don't get it, at Parties all these Ladies would tell me how Handsome you are."
I would ask in return, "Then why are they telling you and not me? Face it, your Son is Ugly as Sin, they just want to make you feel better, not me."
stop capitalizing random words n maybe you'll be more attractive 💀
It’s because u go to parties with your mom
@@baggedbreadOh yeah bc people find others "ugly" cuz the way they type lol! Be fr
@@UrFav_Crybaby8 ever heard of a joke?
@@baggedbread Jokes are supposed to be funny?
A really bad one is peoples reaction to the possibility of dating/being with you.
I have someone that really likes me now. But people I have NEVER shown interest in would pre reject me and get super offended when I would tell them that it wouldn't happen anyway because they aren't my type.
Had many childhood instances of chicks im hanging out with outwardly being DISGUSTED if anyone even MILDLY suggested we could be a couple. Really a confidence tanker :/
Oh yeah when someone says jokingly “oh Sarah likes Liam” and liams reaction is “ew what the fuck” when he knows it’s a joke :/
@@JoJo-fan-right-here to be fair, for young men "ew" often doesn't mean it, if they hang out with girls. They just afraid to be found out, and it will ruin their friendship (because they believe that girl wouldn't like them back). That my childhood, and I often see it shows in older tv shows.
If he was actually "ew", he wouldn't even hang out with them, since making friends with guys easier, and he would hang out with "the boys".
@@rinslittlesheepling1652 yeah ik I’m just using it as an example.
let the blackpill guide you
Bro awakened a middle school memory of mine, god damn it
I used to be pretty overweight. Related to these a lot back then. One time, a few weeks before I started losing weight, I was walking down the street, and a little girl and her mother were passing me. The little girl started laughing and asked her mom, "Why does that man look so weird?" The mom quickly reprimanded her, probably because I was sometimes told that I also looked scary. Ever since putting more effort into my appearance, I actually get a decent amount of compliments. I'm not sure if I'm actually attractive now or not, but it's bizarre to go from being ignored to having people stop you on the street to call you handsome (sure, they're older women and gay guys, but a compliment is a compliment).
Is it bad that I relate to most of them 😭
send image of your face
I do, too.
Most people relate to most of them
Most of these people are mistaking unattractive with ugly , they are 2 completely different things
Unattractive people are simply invincible, like the average person
Ugly ones are attacked and stigmatised
I should have said average man , cuz average or below average women are approached
@mohama😭😭🤣🥲dshafiqmohamadhanifa7853
A women said im ugly right in front of my face, she is a friend. I had to lock in after this one
Did you clap back?
She still your friend?
Women consider most men ugly
0:56 read the second sentence
Am still wondering why your still freinds with her
I feel most of these "signs" are relatable even to people with little social skills. A couple of people told me I was cute and some even asked me out, but I usually freak out in public for my shyness and I believe many people consider me a weirdo for this.
Same.
When they caught a glimpse of you, and they immediately switch to Flight or Fight response.
Hey, better to be feared but unknown
Machiavelli says it's better to be feared than loved
As a quiet girl who minded her business
1. Got spit on multiple times
2. Got filmed and insulted for a reaction
3. Got called pretty for a dare
4. Always picked last for PE
5. Someone said i look like Billie Eilish and i am asian
Any other time was called ugly out of nowhere
And I don't even interact with people
Damn other comments got deleted
But those m.o.t.h.e.r.ff.u.c.k.e.r.s. were ugly as shjt too 😂😂😂
Is being told you look like Billie eilish an insult though? I always thought she looked at least decent. Also, if you want me to respond to a reply, probably best you like this reply. I have reply notifications off.
@@burnttoast.2017 i mean i look nothing like Billie Eilish as i look total opposite, so that person told me a blatant lie
@@AbcAbc-oy2ledam bro gg I guess we both done lol
@@TheBoringAgent it's alright bro we all get old lol
When you send an online friend a picture of yourself and their reply is something along the lines of "Not what I expected"
Not always true, since I've reacted the same way to someone that is immaculate
The guy is a gremlin online though
@@amytgt903 that could also mean the oposit 🤷
Nah, I don't think so. When you talk with an online friend they build up a mental picture of you, yes, usually it's of a person who is conventionally attractive, but if you turn out to look different it doesn't mean you aren't pretty, just that you don't look like their mental image of you
Ive been called ugly to my face many times and rarely ever get compliments
That is pretty harsh, sucks man.
You’re beautiful
Same man. I can't even go to a festival, where they spend literal days preaching about love and harmony, without a stranger yelling at me about how ugly I am
Same with me.
It hurts. They tell me “you look like you got hit with a shovel”
“Your parents must have dropped you in your head, your face is deformed “
“What! You can get upset it’s true!”
“You look like the girl from Haredatry.”
(The girl has Fetal Alcohol Syndrome) I dunno if I should get over it but it hurts
I just want to be pretty, and popular,
I feel you,It's never gonna be over,for me neither
All we have to do is to take it,
At some point It'll be over
earlier at best
Later at worse
One way I knew I was unattractive is the many women that looked at me with a grossed out expression a few have even said “ewww” right to my face haha dam that hurts more then getting kicked in the balls! 😅
Aw man that sucks
@@polodok9988 tell me about it 😅
You gotta go to the gym
@@HeavyRaiden that won’t cure the ugly 😅
@@JesusLizarragaJrtry some skincare and clothes that look good on you
Don't take little kids insulting you seriously, I used to babysit my three little cousins and I can tell you that little kids go through this phase where they're basically learning to be mean. It's like if you teach a kid a swear word, and suddenly they want to use it non-stop. The other day I saw a little kid say "Go away, no one likes you, I hate you" to a random bird on the ground at the zoo.
This, they tend to say things out of impulse and exaggerate a little bit.
Ok that is so funny though😂
@@snowflake6421 I had to fight so hard not to laugh out loud at the kid tbh
In India there's a saying
Bache mann ke sache
Meaning kids don't just lie onto your face they will always tell the truth
God, the entirety of this video hurts me personally.
I used to be super ugly when I was in middle school since i was obese. Not even the ones with the lowest standards ever complimented me. Now I am healthy, attreactive and can get people's attention but lemme tell you something: Being ugly for a while made me acheive this important skill where I can identify people with right mind and become friends with them. Only the smart and good people will treat you for who you are, not by how you look. Judging someone by their look is an animalistic instinct. The real deal is learning to become a human. Never forget that all disadavtages come with advantages.
Thanks for uplifting words ...idk why i feel like you're talking to me lol ❤
*"In other news depression levels increased by 100% after this video"*
There was this one time when I was in high school during Valentine’s Day, this kid in my chemistry class brought a flower and he went around asking the girls in class if they wanted the flower and they rejected him until he got to me and he just looked at me and looked away and then asked the girl sitting next to me if she wanted the flower, I was the only girl he didn’t ask if I wanted the flower.
Sending you a hug, that was horrible of him
**Me who never got a flower from anyone** I see you.... 🫂🫂🫂
Ooooof, something exactly like this happened to me in fifth grade and affected my self-esteem issues forever
When I was in middle school, a guy that was a grade above me said "eww disgusting" when I was just looking at him (I never have a crush on him btw) and his friend make some weird suggestions idk, and up until now I still keep thinking about it, and him being in the same highschool as me and had a crush on my cousin (she's really gorgeous) didn't help me any better. And now my coworkers keep asking me for favours and said this "pls, I'll call you pretty if you want to do it" they keep saying that shit a hundred times and everytime they say it I just feel like crying. But then again this one coworker of mine is really heartless sometimes, she once said that she dreamed about me only wearing the same clothes for work and I knew she make fun of me because I'm broke and i really do only have a few decent clothes, so I told my mother about it and then my father brought me to a clothes store and asked me to pick some. I only choose one because I know we're tight on money. Sometimes I just keep asking myself why I'm keep on alive.
Yo same, this girl had a dare to ask out every guy and when it came to me, she was so disgusted and gave up om that dare. Awful feeling mate, I get ya.
If someone says you're ugly...
That doesn’t mean ur ugly
@@posintabook597 I held hands with your grandma consensually
@@mikethompson1653 so true! I’ve been called ugly by women a bunch of times.
They could just say it to try and hurt you
@@JesusLizarragaJrand yet you call yourself ugly.
Well I always thought that was the case with me when I was younger (and well now as well).
This pretty much solidified itself with the following experience:
I reached the end of my school day and was about to head home when I met my friend before leaving and we started to talk.
Then after some time I heard the voice of a girl behind me trying to get my friends attention while we conversed and I looked back to see who it was.
In that moment she saw my face and went „Eww“.
To this day I am upset….
at myself for not finding a good comeback.
I would of just looked back, do an eye brow raise and say Ewww louder
@@Tob_JJJJ🤣
as someone who used to be chubby, with acnes and bad teeth and lack of flattering styling (in terms of hair & clothes, may i add that i was also horrible at makeup) through my entire teenage years and only had a glow up now in my early 20s, i still genuinely cannot tell that if somebody shows interest in me, if that's actually genuine or are they just joking but i used to get hit on as a joke back then too. and obviously i see myself as prettier now cuz only i know the differences that changed, but i'm still not a 100% sure if i'm on that level of fitting into the beauty standards yet so i can be treated better. cuz the truth is that looking appealing definitely gets you more ahead in life, if i'm being honest that's the entire reason i wanted/want to look better. cuz i was getting too tired of ppl whispering about me when i pass by or just being rejective despite of me acting nice & approachable. in an ideal world, we wouldn't have to worry about these things so much...
You single then??
How did u change. I'm 17 and i hate mself
@@benson3287Why?
@@musafirghayrmaeruf1 why wat
@@benson3287 Why do you hate yourself?
My brothers and sisters
We're all ugly, The best we can do is be healthy. They can call us ugly but they can't call us out of shape. Who needs beauty when you can run circles around someone? When you actually feel energetic when you wake? Eventually your actions will prove your value. There's no reason to get down and you dont have to get a six pack... we'll all be skeletons in the ground one day so lets enjoy what we do and push forward. Right?
Word up man. Eat well, sleep well, do Sport and the self confidence will come with it.
Absolutely true ❤❤
Hopemaxxing FTW!!
Try being short
This is the biggest copium I ever heard... 😅
1:36 THIS WAS ME. I had horrible acne until I was 25, it which point it finally subsided (mostly). Literally, I started getting attention from women almost right away. It was legitimately disorienting to have women interested in me to that degree after basically being told (implicitly and explicitly) that I was ugly for most of my life.
Please, could you tell me how you got rid of acne?
Drop the routine friend
@@Warpsmith-Perfide I tried a lot of things from my teens into my mid 20's. Every cleanser, pill, or treatment you can imagine. There's a lot of marketed solutions out there, but nothing really worked for me beyond simply minimizing the effects. I wish I had better advice for you, but acne mostly passes with time. For most people it's late teens. I had to wait nearly a decade longer than that.
@@Warpsmith-Perfide After having acne for 8 years, the thing that worked best for me was the medication "Isotretonoin". I had really bad acne and after taking the pill for a year starting 2022 It was way less extreme. While it didn´t get rid of it, It made the acne less deep and less visible. If you don´t have any other option left to try please ask your doctor about it. But please be careful, since the medication takes a toll on ones mental health and has many other side effects.
@@jeffreyferreira3811I’m 22 still struggling with acne and scars man. I pray to god it goes away one day
You learn as a kid growing up when all your crushes reject you but your peers succeed
The worst part is when you have genuine interest in someone, and they are the one to ask you out, just for it to turn into a joke between her friends, so she leaves you because they're hurting her for it. Feels way too shitty. Single women keep other women single.
That sucks.
But nah, toxic and unhappy Women keep other happy Women single... not just all of the single ones 😂
Bad people influence other people to get down to their level.
@@alphamail8974 oil up in 5 minutes
If she was interested in you, she'd never let them joke about you and she'd be with you. In the end adults are making the decisions for themselves. She didn't want you. Her decision has nothing to do with others.
Your friend says “you can get a girlfriend” then the whole squad starts laughing.
Ha, that is brutal!
@@wildfire_ you need better friends 🫂
Some of them are just signs of bad self steem, not necesarly being ugly
Bad "self steem"? What is that? Do you need to keep it in the fridge? Is it a medical condition? Is it contagious?
Dont need to cope if u relate to these man. Lifes unfair. Deal wit it.
It's so easy for attractive (or at least not-ugly) people to criticize others' lack of confidence because they're utterly oblivious to their own privilege. Newsflash: it's hard to build and sustain and confidence in yourself when all you're met with is rejection after rejection
@@luciuskonigs2317why does everything have to be a cope for you guys?
@@burstingturtlethey are jealous lol , want all peope to relate with their situation
No matter how much you try, cannot ever seem to take a decent profile picture lmao
If possible invest in a professional photoshoot.
I am obese (still working out but it will take some time)
I was fortunate to have a close friend that is a professional photographer and he gave me a good deal.
Granted it took about 30 minutes.
However the results were amazing!
And there was no photoshop trickery.
A good camera, good lighting and a person that knows what he is doing make a real difference!
And by the time you're done, your Recently Deleted has an extra 40 pics 🤣
They all need a hug
True, and positive reinforcement.
Gave a picture of myself to an indirect friend of mine, actual friend of my sister, who claims what she knows a couple of women who are looking for a relationship. I am sure that the moment thewy saw me all of them probably went "eww."
I know I am not attractive, I have actually been called a creep just for staring blankly, lost in my own thoughts. Receesing hair, and forehead that possibly looks like it could be used as an emergency bottle opener. I stopped caring after a while.
By the way, even my parents tell me that I am attractive. I told them how much BS that really is, I could look like a Cronenberg creature and I would still be called "hsndsome."
Damn man.... I feel u
I'm lil bit bigger than others in my younger days and I don't make a contact or making a sign of attracted to woman bcs people making fun of me since I was child. Then...everyone suspecting I wasn't attracted to woman or homo .
I am sorry for you man, I relate with the nobody sitting next to me one. At least family tells you that you are handsome even if they don't mean it, they just wanna make u feel better which is precious
@@vectorsahel5420 I honestly deflect such compliments from family because I know that it is a lie.
This is a copied comment from another UA-cam video, I already saw it
@@animee323nah i'm pretty sure parents mean what they say when they call you handsome (from their perspective at least)
I smiled from the heart then a kid asked me why I was so ugly.
real, like you know for sure if you are ugly 🥰
I have always been the ugly girl in my crowd. Growing up I had no friends and was constantly made fun of my my brother's friends, and family members. My own dad has commented on me being ugly numerous times. I've known all my life that I am ugly, and accepted it. If I look at myself vs literally every single other woman I can find anywhere, the difference is shocking. For some reason, I have a massive frame, I mean larger bone structure than most men in my family. Huge hands, massive feet (size 12 shoes), developed a deep, masculine voice at a young age to go with it all. Get mistaken for a man or troon on the phone all the time to the point I avoid that at all cost. Used to be fat as hell but found out about intermittent fasting/keto and lost a ton of weight and look thin now but still huge. That made things look almost worse in some ways because now the weird proportions stand out a lot, and boobs got way smaller.
Honest to god sometimes though, very rarely a man will take interest and say something about me being pretty to them. Theres this weird thing I have where I know I am so disgusting that it genuinely upsets me when they say it because I have this thought in my head like "holy shit you are messed up to like THAT, you crazy fuck". Then I feel bad because I wonder if they were really serious or not.
Hope your doing OK, the fact that your own dad called you ugly is horrendous, I was really big growing up so all my family members used to call me fat all the time to the point where I got used to it. The point is just love yourself for who you are, hating yourself won't do anything, because even though you may not like your appearance I'm sure you have a gorgeous personality, and if a man only wants you for your looks then that's them. Take care!
I'd defo asked you to a date if you were into girls. Also your dad is an ahole. Hope you're doing good. I wish you all the best.
hopw you are doing well
I kinda relate to you, l am girl and have a deep voice and super tall , taller than most boysʕ´• ᴥ•̥`ʔ
Watching yourself in mirror and realizing how mid you are is still one of the worst experience a person can have (If you thought you were decent).
When people tell you that personality matters more than looks
This is the first perfect score I've gotten on anything in my life! Wow, is this what not failing feels like, gosh it's nice to feel something other than sadness for a second. A person could get used to this feeling, but I'm sure I won't 🥰💯
another one is getting compliments from old people, i get that all the time, but when i approached 24 girls my age, all of them rejected me
Yeah if you can't attract people around your age group then you know you have it rough.
When you say "Aight look, I gotta step up, I'm ugly" to your friends and they comfort you instead of laughing at your statement, you just got yourself some good evidence.
To me it's the fact people my age rarely ever hit on me in my late teens/early adulthood, it was mostly old predatory men. Guys my age would use me to get to my friends.
It’s also luck related don’t need to compare yourself with others
does it really have to be guys to make every first move?
@@donaldbiden636 when I make the first move they never take me seriously or just avoid me
@@posintabook597 then I have bad luck... and I am also very ugly
@@maffieduran try making the first move on guys in your league
When they look at you with disgust when you remove your mask.
This is why i cant remove my cap for now..
same, i wish i could stop wearing mask someday and be confident
Don't wear masks, i would never cover my face, Don't like seeing me? Look away
0:20 based. Women constantly do this.
It's kind of wrong though. I'm one of the people who would tell them to stop it bc I genuinely think they are beautiful. Telling them they are just fishing for likes/compliments is just rude especially if you know them personally.
@@derrygorldefinitely is mean to say someone's fishing or denying then insecurity js bc their pretty, but at least it's a way to test if you're ugly or not 😭
@@calawendy a better confirmation would be an empty comments section or people leaving laughing emojis and agreeing 😅💀
@@derrygorl HELP 😭
@@derrygorl It's going to be wrong to a degree. The point is it comes off deceptive most the time.
The “friend zone”. Loaded term, but if you hit it off with single people of the opposite gender but they don’t see you as potential bf/gf material, you’re not hot.
Not true. There are many reasons one can land in the friend zone. Being unattractive is only one of them. Sure, if you're a 10/10, you won't land there, but that doesn't mean every person is in the friend zone because of looks. Also many women will not even be friends with ugly guys, or at the very least have a cut off. It's creep (1-3/4) friend (4-6/7), interesting personality (7-9)
@@manuelp7472 the question is "what's a clear sign?" not "what is indisputable proof?". If you're always a BFF, never a BF, it might be your looks.
Yes, true, you might have a personality that they like as a friend but don't find attractive in a partner, but if you were physically attractive, a lot of people will find a way to rationalize how you're actually the perfect match for them.
People will go from "we have so much in common" to "well, opposites attract I guess" in a heartbeat.
I find my friends attractive but I am not interested in dating them because we are not compatible. Simple as that
@@abba9265 you're at least a bit compatible, or you wouldn't be friends.
Yeah , the friend zone is for guys who do everything right but being attractive.
Think about it. If you were an asshole , interesting with nothing going on in your life , you would be ghosted not friend zone.
The friend zone is when the only problem you have is being short/ugly.
Men don't do that shit but all women I know have a phone full of guys they friend zoned , it is crazy
when COVID was over and we weren't required to wear masks anymore a girl in my class told me she had a huge crush on me back when I was still wearing one
This video gives off the same energy as an ASPCA commercial. 😅
Hahaha laughing at this
Back in school, the girls in my class made a list of the prettiest, to the ugliest boys, in that class we were 10 boys for 13 girls something like that.
I arrived last, the ugliest. I'm pretty sure my grades dropped until the end of my scholarship after this, I would just go home and play video games instead of homework.
I'm sure the reason my grades dropped isn't only because of this but, I still remember that story as an insane turning point and a realization that yep, I ain't the main character
Sorry to read that you've made this experience... But why tf would you even do such a dumbass list? Girls 💅...
You still can be the main villain
@@ChristianoxD bro I don't want to be the main villain, I'm already ugly I don't want to be a psychopath too
@@ChristianoxD role of the main villain is taken by that girl who made the list:D
@@monsieur9520 Being the main villain is more fun though. Don't have to stick to rules as much
How about when you go out with your boys and they all get talked to except you 💀
Ehh unless they're gay, i dont think they care about ur looks, as long as u have interesting things to talk about they'll talk with u
@@thedude5120the fuck kind of cope is this
It doesn't mean anything
@@anthonyfernandez82 I think he meant guys talking to guys but OP probably meant girls talking to guys lol
Im not that bad looking, but I know for a fact that because of my acne (getting better), my attractiveness gets cut down by more than half.
Same here bro, I'm my face is nice and my body Is naturally fit but my acne kills me. I'm 19 and still struggle with it.
Same, bro. I'm 19 and struggle with acne. Fortunately, I'm taking retinoid pills. I recommend you to visit dermatologist, we still can make it ✊@@mavi3348
@@mavi3348 bro I feel you, nutrition doesn't really help. Or at least, I have to limit it so crazy, that I can't enjoy eating bruh. What triggers your acne?
funnilly enough, the second last one might just be you putting yourself down, it did not say the person showing interest was just joking, but that YOU convinced yourself that that is the case
Usually the reason people think that way is because it has happened to them in the past
By the wording, i tought someone else would convince you that it is a dare.
But if you believe it, there's nothing else we can do
@@skulisoul not necessarily, "being convinced" don't necessarily mean you are in the process of being convinced, it may also mean that you already ARE convinced of that. English is a bit confusing in that regard. But anyway, if it was the case where someone is trying to put your hopes down, that wouldn't be any proof you're ugly, just that you have very VERY crappy friends
Bruh
You're gaslighting
@@melo_maniac_studio i am literally explaining how in that situation YOU would be the one gaslighting yourself, but the amount of people i've seen lately who don't seem to get the concept of gaslight would make me believe a further discussion would be fruitless
The social media comments one (with the old men and family being the only commenters) is so fucking true
When you walk by some ladies and hear them say behind your back "he was ugly".
Ha, that is always messed up but true.
Ohhhh that is brutal. I'm sorry bro 😂
Last summer i was laying on the beach minding my own business and suddenly felt that someone is looking at me. I looked back and it was two girls. 30 seconds later they hastily got up and moved where i can't see them. Bitches thought i was a creep or something 😂 it's fun.
What can you do, it gets fun after a while😁
In my personal experience I used to work in a nursing home when I was a lot younger and going to school. A lot of the elderly woman would tell me how handsome I was and ask if I was married. Girls my age would never say such things. Figured if only lonely old women found me attractive I’m most definitely ugly.
They may also tell you that just as a means of compliment. Old ladies typically tell my mother that I'm beautiful, but that doesn't mean I'm beautiful.
I don't know
I've been told things given compilments on my looks and even have been called handsome by random people
But me personally i look at myself in the mirror and just have an overwhelming feeling of disgust and animosity even
Idk
i honestly think im average looking. some people think im attractive, some people dont. it'll go as high as someone wanting me and as low as someone blocking me
You're a lucky brother 👍
you're no average then. Women don't want average dudes
Asked a guy on the street for directions. I smiled. Just smiled. Didn't hit on him at all. He looked at me, stopped talking, turned around and walked away. All while muttering to himself:
"Do I really look that desperate?"
Wt!!
I don’t think this means you’re unattractive at all
Also i’m a 5’4 guy, skinny, wear glasses. I occasionally get laughed at by people in public (usually women) and women stare at me in disgust, or avoid/ignore me. People in general, not just women, don’t respect you or care about you, or ridicule you. It’s over.
Is your mom short?
Gee, this is sub human treatment. Sucks you had to go through that man.
Did UA-cam just call me ugly with this rec
What made me realize I was unattractive? Have you ever heard of mirrors. One look in that bad boy and I automatically knew that I was most likely going to die alone.
My fight or flight kicks in every time I see myself in one
my girlfriend (now ex) of 6 years said she never found me all that attractive and I was at best a high 2 or a low 3 on a scale of 1 to 10
lol your iq is very low
They’re doing that to fuck with you btw
Women only date up so I guess she was a 1 outta 10, lol.
She prolly said that to hurt you when yall broke up
@@kunka592she just settled for an oofy-doofy
I can’t even tell if I’m pretty or ugly because of all the mixed signals I get. I’ve never been hit on and I’m almost 16, which is still young, but I’m seriously concerned that I may be ugly. But then again my female friends treat me like I’m pretty. I’ve been told I come off as intimidating and I never have shown interest in guys, so I wonder if that has something to do with it. Or maybe it’s the fact I’m 5’6 and always wear dark makeup. At the end of the day I’m convinced I appeal much more to girls.
Oh my god same
Lol same, but I also don't meet/talk to many guys so...
Ur still young, it will be clearer in ur. 20s
It doesn't matter either way. There's no need to preoccupy yourself with it. Cliché but just be yourself, make yourself look how you want to look, don't change yourself for any perceived idea that society might have about what's pretty and what isn't. Getting to a point where you don't give a shit about what people think either way is best. Having been through my teens that's what I'd say.
Still very young. At 33, i STILL dont know and i never asked. But this probably means im not ugly but not attractive either.
25, never been in a relationship still virgin. I guess this is clear enough 😂
Younger, same, not ugly tought. Are you even searching/searched for relationship? Im not because, i dont care that much as of now, but did people got grossed out by you or something?
Not true, you could be average looking, like solid 4 or 5 and still end up in a situation like this just by being socially awkward or anxious
That is simply incorrect , exposure to social events and extroversion are more important that looks, if you look good but you don’t mix in and have some type or conservative personality you ain’t getting any
@@svedskybezdomovec1382or by simply not chasing women, you don’t need to be autistic to not have a gf , most guys are single
@@posintabook597My situation is bit different. I love social events and I try to attend as much as activities that clubs do in my college, but I have a silent and observer type of personality so nearly no one notices me and I talk with few people. I also have lots of interests like science, movies, geography, history and my girl friends like me for being a cultured nerd. But I don't think that any girl would want to date me
1:37 sadly it does not matter what I do I keep thinking this and that is what I hate about finding someone or even making friends, you can NEVER be sure and that is the biggest reason why I am so asocial.
When you got more responses on the dating app BEFORE you added pictures to your profile.
Why would anyone even swipe right on you without photos though lmao
@@keifer7813 Apparently they won't regardless...
it sucks being ugly. not only are you not worthy of love you’re not worthy of empathy or even basic respect. at least my cat loves me, when she passes away i’m probably gonna self delete soon after
Get another cat.
I assume you love and appreciate your kitty?
If so, do that. It's good for you and for the cat.
Cats are great, and they deserve great people.
Be a great person for another cat, your current cat would approve, I'm sure.
Hey don't do that, life really fucking sucks and it isn't because you're ugly I swear. Like even if you are ugly bro there's so much suffering around. Struggle my ninja, struggle
I'm really sorry you feel that way
Real
Please don't do that, there's things in this life worth living for, we learn to endure this moments,I am a woman and I ended up in here somewhere so just hang in there, self-deletion is not the way.
If you haven’t tried this, set up your camera and record yourself talking. Talk to the camera directly for a few minutes about any topic. Then watch it back. You’ll see it. I did this and realized how ugly and socially awkward I am and how bad I am at talking 😂💀.
"The only compliment you get is that you're funny"💀🙏 literally me
When only Mom tells you you're handsome or when you talk to a girl and her answers to your questions are only "Yes", "No", "Mhm" and she continues to show you're not interesting for her by doing stuff like sitting on UA-cam in middle of a conversation.
Been there, saw that.
Maybe don't bother people who are clearly not looking for a conversation? That has more to do with being socially oblivious or downright obnoxious than it does your appearance
@sirpancherto she wanted that conversation and was more active during texting phase. If she didn't want - she could've told me about it and I would've said "Fine, that's it then. Have a nice day", but she preferred to leave me with this "hope" before taking it on the spot
@sirpancherto Use your words then, bruh
If your handsome its flirting
If your ugly its creepy
Im ugly so i just keep to myself, i cant even imagine being approached by someone.
Iam sorry.
I never understood that either
This one resonates with me definitely. I’ve been referred to as creepy by others before. Maybe it’s my sinister look, clumsy social skills, or just ugly.🤷🏻♂️
well that was depressing...sometimes i wish everyone just looked the same
it's so sad that some people will struggle their entire lives with being lonely just bc of how they look 😞
That would be equally bad if not worse
Hey Slavic princess wanna be my girl
@@Baryccyon fine maybe not everyone looking exactly the same but there definitely shouldn't be so much variation in physical attractiveness across the human population
Suddenly communist
@@slavicprincess
That’s crazy. Human nature will find deferences in those small variations we still have a perception of who is ugly and who is pretty.
A real experience :
It was when I was 10-12 y/0. My father's office had arranged a picnic and my older cousin tagged along with my family.she is beautiful,according to society's standard.on the way back ppl Were waiting for all the buses to arrive outside the picnic resort. Me and my, we were standing side by side when suddenly a child came and asked me "who is she to you?" (pointing to my cousin) and I replied, "she's my sister" and the child was like "how can she be ur sister,she's pretty but you are not"
I kid you not that i was hurt and stunned at the same time.on the way back I managed not to cry.
"Nobody ever sits next to you unless all the other seats are taken"
Heck, my crush didn't even want to do that. She just moved someone's seat just to not sit next to me. My male friends don't mind sitting though.
How is she still your crush
@@LemonDani It's very one-sided. As she doesn't even want to talk with me, the only social interaction with her are occasional greetings and high fives. That love is now left to rot.
P.S. however she talks to her male friends that treat her bad
They are probably 8/10s, right? @@windestruct
@@user-wn8sp5ki9e It'd be logical but no. I'm very sure they are uglier than me. Just taller and raised bad enough to kick or punch her. She sometimes hugs them too. When I wanted one too, she just backed off and offered a high five instead. It's not like we had bad contact. We talked much over text, because she was busy talking to her (mostly female) friends. She was nice over the phone and we could maintain good conversations. Showing some interest. And it's not like I was bad or anything. It's her who showed signs of no interest like short (sometimes even unworded) responses, not giving a high five or just going away from me when I'm near. For no good reason. Now the contact is cut and I'm not asking her anything, because I know she has no interest in me.
half of these apply to me yet the other half are the exact opposite of my situation, i am left even more confused than before
Basic internet generalisations oversimplifications and stereotypes
0:21 no bc this is SHOCKINGLY true
Jesus didnt expect a r/askreddit video to hit this hard
For real
Genetics.
Thanks for watching.
I am so unattractive girls in my school LITERALLY REFUSE to sit with me no matter how friendly I am. All I wanted is to be friendly...
Oof. You know it's rough when they don't even want to give you a chance to be next to them just because of your looks.
Iam so nice people think Iam annoying. Iam so unattractive when a boy tells me he likes me I think he’s joking.
Your not along I feel you
Watching this video made me realise how bad it's in some countries,glad my society doesn't care much about appearance,i mean ofc they care but not to the point that people treat you badly or that you don't find friends
As someone who grew up fat and ugly, and was bullied for it, this is very true. I didn't realise when I had my "glow up" and I was extremely alarmed when people started treating me so differently. I just couldn't wrap my head around it.
I went from the only compliments I recieved being "you're so funny" or "you're so smart" to a *whole* lot about my looks. At first I thought people were just being assholes and messing with me, and I became even more insecure, before I finally realised it wasn't the case.
One particular thing is that I have really big, wide eyes. When I was ugly, people told me I looked like a bug, or that I looked creepy. Now I get told I have "doe eyes" or that my big eyes are adorable, and my wide-eyed appearance makes me look sweet,
In terms of customer service, I went from being ignored by staff, to people being overtly sweet to me, recommending me foods/drinks, making conversation, complimenting me and informing me random things about drink sizes so I didn't get scammed lmao.
People just started liking me a whole lot more in general. You get treated wayyy better if you're attractive. Pretty privilege is *very* real, and my every day life is a lot better now that I have it.
People not saying thank you and not saying you’re welcome when you say thank you. This is king
I haven't heard of that one, but yeah that's a bit crazy as it should be common to do that.
No matter what people say, the truth is that the first thing a person see's on you is your looks, no matter how many times people say that looks doesnt matter they will always be judge by there appearance first, thats just my opinion though and im sure there are people who treat all human being the same way they treat others
People first judge by appearance and it MIGHT slowly fade away but it depends from person to person
@@potatomine6678 true, my exact point
When its hard to tell if someone is being sarcastic or not about looks
Back when I was in school, there was a girl who always ended up paired with me for activities. She would always make a fuss every time we had to work together. I still remember her reaction when the whole class was forced to bring a gift for Valentine's Day. I should note that I'm not an extroverted person and rarely interacted with her, so I don't know why she disliked me so much...
Man, I just wanted to study. It's been five years, and the few memories I have of high school are always negative regarding my appearance.
1:35 I wouldn't say that's a sign of being ugly, more a sign of thinking you're ugly, but who knows I'm ugly and I think this
Getting this video recommended is a very clear sign that I'm unattractive.
the good news is, the more you grow up and people around you grow up the less people care about how you look when it comes to regular social interaction. people will like you if you're good to just get along with. doesn't apply to dating tho, there looks will always matter to a very large degree.
teenage years and adolescence are by far the worst time in life for ugly people
people just become more polite. It always matters. Your whole life is determined by how you look
there is a "halo effect" where people assume you're a good person with a fun life and treat you more charitably if you're attractive. It can affect you socially and professionally throughout a lot of your life, unfortunately.
Anecdotally, it definitely seems more pronounced in youth though.
People do not magically lose their unconscious bias once they become adults.
@@uranusuranus144yep like maybe 90% of people more biased for looks when young. When they grow up they will become less biased. Oh yeah... like maybe 5% and the rest will be still biased.
@@FloppaTheBasedno it's not. You can earn A LOT of money, and no one will give a s about your appearance.
When I'm with my friends and people come up to us they don't even look at me... not a single glance. They only talk to my friends
It's really easy to tell if they use reddit and go on subreddits like these