same haha. Team says "yo dude, u gotta group, or we never finish the game" Jay is like "i'm fine in my own little lane winning the game by MYSELF" team pings "teleport - tryndamere" Jay mutes all pings and continues split push
There is a balance somewhere ;) Do your thing don't gotta change yourself but if you see yourself doing something in life differently work towards it like you do on League. You sound like your having a little bit of a down day today! When I feel like that I always remember there is that ONE person having a day worse than yours and that your situation is easier than theirs. Sometimes you spot someone in your day to day life that needs a pick-me-up too and you can atleast just give them a Smile. (the person who didnt sleep well , the person with a broken down vehicle, chipping in a few bucks for grocerys for someone, holding a door, etc. ) Keep making videos from the heart it shows!
Aww.. That's sweet of you Jay.. Telling us about ur life.. Really inspired me because.. I also feel the same way like you.. I'm not good in socializing with other people.. Cuz they can't relate to me either.. And would rather play games as well .. But man , some forget your awesome and cool.. We're here.. Well im here as a subscriber and as your friend.. Love you man and your content
i understand. Friends = inecessarily awkward moments, spent money, risk to put yourself in a weird situation.... Same thing is happening to me, but i wasn't always like that. I guess something changed. But sometimes you gotta do the effort to go out even if it means stepping out of your comfort zone because you might feel alone and bad thoughts will come into your head. the good things don't usually come to you, you have to go out for them. (i wish i could follow my own advice).
And I'm from Córdoba, Argentina. If I was just a little closer to you, I would invite you a beer, coffee or something, and we would talk about League of Legends... :') Pd.: I'm sorry about my english (if I made a mistake), I speak spanish ._.
Wow this is the most relatable video I’ve ever watched dude. I’m in high school and I do the thing you did with WoW, but with LoL. Asking everyone I know if they play it and then rushing home to play it all night. I struggle making friends as well but I feel I’m getting better. Great video man
"They say humans are social animals, they can't live alone. But you can live pretty well by yourself. I tell ya...instead of feeling alone in a group, It's better to have real solitude all by yourself." - Faye Valentine
Gotta say, I found your channel through the bronze to diamond series (one of the best LoL series I've seen) but the videos like this are what really set you apart from the rest. Just real talk about content that's relatable for much of your subscriber base.
JaySea...thanks a lot for your videos, u are helping a lot all people, I started to watch your videos less than 2 months! And we want to help you too.... Think about when your final day come, will you be proud what you have became? Life is giant, but in a small room....you are burning away seconds of happiness! Greetings from Brazil!
YES!!!!!!!!!!! All of this, yes!!!!!!! Expression, truth, courage, JAY SEA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You're the type of person that I wouldn't care what you're doing, I like you as a PERSON. I'll follow you and support you in whatever you do, thank you for your videos and all the work you put in to your videos and content. I've learned so much from you and I prefer to listen to you in particular due to the level of detail and intelligence you show that far exceeds my own understanding of piecing together experience and results! I'm looking forward to watching your subscriber content grow because you have everything it takes to be a great content provider and already doing it wonderfully.
Very inspirational, I look up to you for the way that you push yourself (exercise, healthy eating, etc.), and I learned from this video that even though I struggle to interact socially, I can still be someone worth being, if you catch my meaning. I thank you for your willingness to put yourself out there, and if you're ever feeling down, just remember that you got 43k people willing to chat :)
XhaeVaeRhin XhaeVaeRhin well yeah maybe go out to eat together, maybe go camping, or to check out a con, but only after having to take extreme preparation mentally to make sure we can handle it. That's the thing is you're social with the gf because you're comfortable around her, not with other people. Sometimes you have things planned and the day comes up and you both decide....hmm never mind.
ugh...maybe i'm different then. i have no trouble socializing, i jus dont feel like it most of the time. sounds a bit extreme IMO, i mean preparing mentally to go out? doesnt a shower or someth sound more reasonable
XhaeVaeRhin XhaeVaeRhin people with extreme social anxiety can't do that so easily, it's an ongoing battle in their head. When they get in a conversation they feel like they're drowning, they have the constant fear of "omg I said the wrong thing", "am I offending them", "they hate me I know it", "they don't even want me here, why did I come", those are just some examples of what it might feel like for someone that has trouble being in social settings. Even what you said could be the case as well, maybe you just don't feel like going out because it's too much effort to deal with people. Or maybe someone has bad experiences in those settings and it makes them feel uneasy. Hope this helps with where I am coming from:).
I understand you bro, I also feel that it is too much effort to maintain a friendship or engage a new one, but talking to people and being open to meeting people, can always open up new ways of thinking and being happy in so many different ways.
Man you are amazing. What I really appreciate on your channel is that you are not one of those cocky ever ironic edgelords. Instead you are nice and kind. And you don't swear. I keep watching the channel even though I'm having a break from LoL.
we love you Jay!! You're changing lives now, you know, making inspirational videos and talking about yourself! And you also provide so much fun and happiness with your league videos
You are good man, dont think anything of it. Be who you are and dont let anybody tell you different. You're awesome, worth it and amazing. Keep living up to your full potential. Peace
I'm a lot the same. I've come to realise I could have a lot more relationships with people but I just can't be bothered. I think when you're an introvert socialising seems to take a lot more energy.
Sounds like me growing up, only advice I'll offer is you do what you love and your passionate about. The right people understand and make the effort. A quote I live by "Those that matter don't mind and those that mind don't matter" There is over 7 billion people on this planet and a lot that have the same interest as you. There is however effort required from both sides, you may not like going out and spending money on dinner so instead have a thing at home where everyone brings a dish etc... Anyway love your vids, easily one of the best instructors that I relate with on UA-cam and have helped me to recognize a lot. Best wishes for the future!
In school i was awkward too, played League since season 2, there wasn't even a BR server, but when league started to become famous (at least in Brasil, and get the own BR server), people started to talk to me about the game, people just came to me to ask for tips and tricks to improve ate the game and climb, people known have the highest elo at school (That low D5 btw that people were like "omg high elo" and i was like "Dude, this elo sucks and i suck too"). When i finished school, i had a little friends that in the end, became real homies. Btw, cheers from Brasil
I love the way you expressed yourself about this. There's a ton of people that rant about it, start hating on life and people, blaming everyone for them not having friends. It's nice to see someone that knows what he is talking about, understands why he doesn't own any, and acknowledges he would like to have some but it would be just too much effort for his personal situation. Just love it dude, hope you get everything you want and deserve.
stop studying and go to a job or do both lel. Quit games already when you have jobs you will make up friends as well just stay away from computer max 1 hour a day. I will never study after high school just go to work ez.
I feel ya bro! I've been lucky to find a group of friends that understand my need to be alone a lot, and they accept that in me. They still ask me places all the time but understand that I won't say yes that often, and they're ok with that, and they don't let that stop them asking me. I like that. We're all different and cope differently, just gotta find the right group of friends that allow us to be who we are :) Love your vids mate, keep em comin :)
@@JaySea I've found those sorts of people as well! I like talking maybe 20% of the time and there's people that will easily overwhelm 80%. It's why we're all different :D it can be hard but I wish you luck in finding any sort of compatibility and companionship you desire.
You got your youtube community, and I understand that that's not the same as real life, but we do root for you as well as your mental health. Cheers from Iowa, USA brother!
Being antisocial becomes and excuse more than a part of your personality over time. I feel as though you have to tough it up and go out there eventually. A lack of experience during childhood makes it harder to comprehend the concept and value of having friends and socializing. While youtube is an amazing outlet for talking and expressing to an audience, friends can be even better.
@@HeyWelcomeToMyWorld Suffering is unavoidable, but you can choose how you take it. You can let build up over time and put it in the fridge until it comes out and takes you apart unadvertedly or you can accept it upright and work to make it as manageable and meaningfull as possible.
Being socially ackward is not being antisocial. Antisocial behaviour is wich causes harm to others or the environment. In any case it would be asocial, wich describes him perfectly as someone who has no drive to engage in social interactions.
@@elvisosmanovic4846 "Semantics" is not a good enough reason to speak unproperly, you may understand what he said but it doesn't mean he is correct. It is, at least in my opinion, of great importance to speak properly and know the meaning of your words as they are a tool to define the world. I'm not saying that he did something bad i was just trying to point out the difference between 2 types of people who have different problems and such. Recognicing that difference is usefull to know how to deal with it.
This vid made you even more likeable to me. I kind of consider you a friend, cause i watch you play, and listen to you about 25 minutes a day, and never get bored. I was almost the same some years back. except i was not overweight, and mainly played offline rpgs. Im still not the talkative type, but im in a position where i can live with it, and do whatever the heck i want.
Thanks for sharing Jay. One helpful thing that a friend told me may help you as well. When you are in those awkward social situations, try to find out what their "World of Warcraft" or League of Legends is. What gets the other person excited to talk about. Then you just ask follow up questions and it generally works out pretty well. :) good luck! By the way, I love your videos!
Usually the answer is they like some boring sports like football or soccer. If they start talking about their favorite soccer teams I will literally have a melt down. I have zero interest in sports or e-sports for that matter :d
Jay Sea oh Jay... :) they may have the same reaction to you if you bring up League. However, there are things you don’t know about soccer and football. There are actually quite a number of similarities between team sports and game like league. A lot of athletes are gamers as well, you may find some common ground if you try. Good luck bud!
Sam Baty ik you might be joking, but i'll say it anyways, you're not 100% right, having some few friends can be really enjoyable. But having a huge amount of friends i think you're right, its over-rated.
lol dude i guess if u really wanted to u could try joining a club or two for which u always had an interest in and then maybe u could make some friends that way. I feel like thinking about how much effort goes into maintaining a friendship is the wrong way to look at it. I feel like a true friendship comes pretty effortlessly. U just have to find someone who u can chill with, trust, talk about anything and everything, basically have a lot of synergy with. Now that I finished that sentence I think finding a really good friend may be hard but, as long as ur meeting new people eventually, I feel like the odds are in your favor. Some one will come along who u mesh well with. No? Idk? Good luck my dude!
Thats right when found the right person i think everything would be good and more effortlessly. :D But i know how he feels its pretty hard to get out of this...
Daniel Zang sure im just basing it off of my own experience with my own best friend. im sure there are other great friendships with less talking and stuff, idk
i think ur life is a lot better than mine bro. keep up the good work and don't worry coz u'll have friends u can rely on eventually. as the saying goes, "there is nothing permanent except change"
Jay! I am busy due to running business and the such and it causes me to also not have friends in the same way you are mentioning here :) I have a few people I keep in touch with, but I don't see them often. You are doing great living your life how you want it and don't worry about the social constructs of society. To create an extraordinary life, you can't do ordinary things like ordinary people :)
I totally understand you, I haven't made a single friend since 2012 and social situations are really awkward for me. As you said, why spend so many effort into someone when I can be alone in home, enjoying my time, without worries about screw thinks up, or stuff like that? I'd rather do that than meet new people. Don't feel so lonely, even if that is what you want. XD Salutes from Chile. P.D: Keep going the good stuff, m8.
What you just described pretty much applies to myself and everyone I know. A good thing to do to maintain friendships is to make group chats and play league together occasionally. Much easier than making lunch plans.
TheRedflamesKnight there is no need to go out to a restaurant. Just buy regular food and eat it with a friend . Simple/improvised plans are the best ones xxxx
I think you just gotta find the right persons to be friends with. I feel really bad when i hear stuff like this. You need to learn how to enjoy a friendship and how it changes you in a positive way. I guess you gotta break that inner wall in you to get out of your room and embrace all of your positive energy. I think you have that but u gotta share it.
Jay Sea no really, it's a common saying for an introvert to get "adopted" by an extrovert or even an extrovert group. I learned this in psychology and in sociology. It's one of the few ways an introvert makes friends.
I like this type of videos, because we can know more the person who is behind the cam. I understand you too, because, I'm a quiet person too. But you know, you look like a good person, that is what it really matters.
Glad i have an anti social friend, we dont even talk at school or in the game, we only invite, the other join and mute each other P.s.: at school we only observe each other like wild animals
Greetings from Poland! I have really bad luck in my rankeds (trolls/afk etc in almost every game, not even joking...), but thanks to you, my friend, last season I was able to tryhard with trynd and make it to gold, even almost to platinum (5 promos to plat), so I broke my curse of being forever silver. Thank you!!!
I never needed to make new friends, I have a childhood friend and as my best friend I have my own sister :) I am happy with life cause whenever I feel bad or stressed, I just turn to Allah and do my prayers and stress disappears like ghost and I am smiling again, Allah blessed me with such an amazing sister that takes cares of me sooooo good xD
Mate only if I could tell you how ruined I was and how much I was screwing myself but my sister guided me sooo good and now when I look back at my life I just Thank Allah for giving me an amazing sister like her, I am really lucky xD But Don't worry Jay Sea, you will find someone :)
It’s so interesting watching videos like this with me being the polar opposite. I’m extremely outgoing and socialise to the point where people I don’t remember come up to me in public and start chatting to me like we are best friends. I find this very interesting to watch. Good video.
Hey mate, I only just watched this and I just wanted to say I'm glad you're living your life happily and I love the content you produce. Literally the only reason I have picked up playing again as opposed to just following the competitive scene. Keep at it mate.
Bro all your subscribers would probably totally be your friend btw, that's why we watch you, you're entertaining, and give us a feeling of not being alone lol. That's why I watch so much UA-cam
It's all good man, you are the only person that can make you happy in life, do whatever makes you happy and live the life you have always wanted! P.S your doing a great job! Keep up the good work and stay positive bro 😀
We all been there Jay, nice for you to open up, to find a place where you can express your thoughts. Good luck m8. BTW you can always change if what you want!
You are awesome, i respect you a lot, mi life is pretty similar, im 17 and i started talking to people a lot more but i still prefer staying in home playing an instrument, doing exercise, watching videos or studing than going out or things like that
I love your youtube content. And props for posting a video like this. You seem like you are quite aware of your "social shortcomings". I know the feeling, seeing as i am quite introverted myself. But I highly recommend you continue putting in effort into your "real life". It's difficult, but it's worth getting through your anxiety. And relax... We are all self-conscious. 💪
Real talk the reason I like you over other UA-camrs is because you're far more real than everyone else, I like finding out more about you, you seem way more like a friend than a youtuber which is kinda funny. Honestly you motivate me lots and give positive vibes, peace!
I love your personality and your videosJay. Your videos actually make me want to wake up in the morning (and gaming as well). I really enjoy RS3 and if you wanted to hangout on any game I would love to chill with you. :) League of Legends Name : Verno78910 I know I am garbage but I'd still chill with you
Hey man surprising video and to learn that. You remind me of someone I know well, big into self improvement and competitive but naturally shy. I’m thinking you’re gonna be quite successful, usually the early traits of a successful person.
You are amazing, my friend. You are so intelligent, genuine and honest. Thank You for being an incredible person. You will never be alone, God is with you. You're the best!😄
I understand you bro I’m more so introverted as well and in a room full of people I wouldn’t try to talk to anyone either unless they talked to me first. But I do have a group of friends that I’m really close with as well as a lot of people I just know and could have a casual conversation with. I mean in highschool I always would just chill with my earphones in listening to music unless I was with my friends at lunch time or someone I knew spoke to me. It’s nice to go out from time to time for me but going out too frequently is sort of tiring for me. Love your vids though bro keep it up.🙂
I'm in my first year of High School right now and I can tell you, I feel EXACTLY like how you felt. I'm struggling with a lot of social anxiety as well, and making friends is impossible for me.
This is so relatable, i have a small group of friends tho and im so scared to lose them because social anxiety would make it impossible for me to find new ones
lol i feel the same way,too much effert to maintain it !!!!!! or i just dont know how to !!!! but i love ur youtoobs,ur good at telling what-how -why and so on....THX Jay
That's also me. I was always introverted, not because i wanted to, but because it was a natural cause for me. I still dont have many friends, just one or two, and they have been there since my childhood. It's possible to learn how not to be socially awkward, or handle your anxiety (trust me, i thought i have a heart attack every time i had to go get groceries, for 4 years straight, not even talking about other stuff). It takes alot of patience, time and pain, but it is possible. You can do it! (sorry for the grammar, not a native speaker).
I totally feel you Jay. I legit used to be like that all the time. Basically I just decided the best way to make friends is to do something that is equally addicting that other people can relate to. Like I chose weightlifting because a lot of the cooler guys at my school did it and I actually ended up making a lot of friends from it. If you do the same I definitely think it will help. I was the same way for runescape and wow btw, now its league.
Well, i am kinda like that. I grew up with a lot of friends but lost connection to pretty much all of them. However, at work people like to hang around me and come over for a little chat and i dont know why since i tend to talk very little. However, i am finding comfort in my little space and i feel happy. I dont question why i am like that. Seems to be working fine :3
Hey Jay, You should know that I am watching your Episodes everyday! And your Gameplays are the media Highlights of my day (Okay I am living in Germany which means we literally don't have "Media Highlights").Just want to tell you, I am loving your content. Just Keep going!!!!
Also introverted and can relate to your story. I met my partner on wow and we now live together and spend our weekends and weeknights playing side by side on our computers. Different games so we don't say much cause were both absorbed in what we do but it's nice to have someone like minded there with no obligation or pressure to talk. Don't give up hope.
Also great job in league and love your vids although I main adc. However I'm nowhere near your level. Just glad I made it out of bronze to silver last weekend!
Also great job in league and love your vids although I main adc. However I'm nowhere near your level. Just glad I made it out of bronze to silver last weekend! It doesn't help that I play ranked while drinking though.
well i didn't knew all of this.. but honestly coming from a large group of friends i can tell u that.. having less friends is actually better.. they have been dragging me down.. making me stay out more then need it.. eat less.. and sleepless nights.. but when i decided to put them away.. and focus on my goals.. i manage to become a better person.. i think is better to keep a barrier between people honestly.. so u shouldn't feel bad about it .. you just need to take a deep breath and look at what u have been accomplished. btw keep up the good work and never forget that u have a fan base and u should do some streaming one day.. or even some costum games with fans.. that way u might find someone that thinks like u and be ur best friend who knows.. until then have a great day and wish u only the best
Legit same sentiment here. I lost all my friends, I’ve always had many, due to not putting in the effort. I really only need 1 good friend I can do nothing and/or everything with to feel happy and socially fulfilled. Whenever someone tries to befriend me (surprisingly happens often) I always tell them I’m a terrible friend and “you don’t want to be friends with me” but it kind of backfires and they try to disprove it or something? Tell someone not to do something they want it more I guess.
Ok first time I commented on one of your videos, I know the ordeal you speak of the inner fight of wanting to just walk up to someone like hey I'm... How you doing ... But although I can visualise it the thought of it makes me sick, tbh I've watched all your videos and never thought u was similar to myself, but dude your a legend and I can't say I'll be your friend cause i don't even know you personally but I wish you all the best and if you can work up the courage to goto pax maybe I can too . Good luck
Dude I sympathize and empathize nearly completely on this one. My #1 priority is always to get home and stay home, and game. That has ALWAYS been my preference over partying or going and doing social things. People drain me, and aren't altogether entertaining enough to keep my attention for long anyways. Although I have a lot of friends I see very little of them, and dont exactly understand why they like me enough to keep making the effort when I don't reciprocate, but they do. Anyways I know this was about you, I just wanted to let ya know there's others out there with the exact same mentality, and I don't personally think it's as unhealthy as people like to portray it as. I find my happiness more in solitude than in the social bubbles of others, I don't see a problem with that.
I love hearing different people's stories, especially if they are relatable. Thats why I made this video. So don't worry about sharing your experiences too
Now we know why you play Tryndamere and split push! :p
lmao
LOOOOOOL
And his right arm is a LOT stronger then his left arm ;)
same haha. Team says "yo dude, u gotta group, or we never finish the game"
Jay is like "i'm fine in my own little lane winning the game by MYSELF"
team pings "teleport - tryndamere"
Jay mutes all pings and continues split push
jay sea has a fun fan base:D
His right arm is ALOT stronger than his left one
Actually not anymore, I quit that half a year ago. Cold turkey mode
This is genius.
How!?!?
omg lololol
wtf how do you live
I'm legit imagining him being a mini Gragas in primary school and belly slamming all the bullies.
Dude why is this shit so funny?
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@@plasmaastronaut chagi souf
Man this video makes me feel so comfortable, I come back to rewatch it every few months
You’re my favorite UA-camr Jay
Wonders yh hes a good guy better than other channels
There is a balance somewhere ;) Do your thing don't gotta change yourself but if you see yourself doing something in life differently work towards it like you do on League.
You sound like your having a little bit of a down day today!
When I feel like that I always remember there is that ONE person having a day worse than yours and that your situation is easier than theirs.
Sometimes you spot someone in your day to day life that needs a pick-me-up too and you can atleast just give them a Smile. (the person who didnt sleep well , the person with a broken down vehicle, chipping in a few bucks for grocerys for someone, holding a door, etc. )
Keep making videos from the heart it shows!
Well said.
Aww.. That's sweet of you Jay.. Telling us about ur life.. Really inspired me because.. I also feel the same way like you.. I'm not good in socializing with other people.. Cuz they can't relate to me either.. And would rather play games as well .. But man , some forget your awesome and cool.. We're here.. Well im here as a subscriber and as your friend.. Love you man and your content
i understand. Friends = inecessarily awkward moments, spent money, risk to put yourself in a weird situation.... Same thing is happening to me, but i wasn't always like that. I guess something changed. But sometimes you gotta do the effort to go out even if it means stepping out of your comfort zone because you might feel alone and bad thoughts will come into your head. the good things don't usually come to you, you have to go out for them. (i wish i could follow my own advice).
I'm from Sydney Australia
Jay Sea No you are from hong kong xDD
And I'm from Córdoba, Argentina. If I was just a little closer to you, I would invite you a beer, coffee or something, and we would talk about League of Legends... :')
Pd.: I'm sorry about my english (if I made a mistake), I speak spanish ._.
Hello from Hungary
a.k.a sydney, australia
Jay Sea I don’t mean to be rude or anything, but your accent doesn’t really sound like a typical Australian accent...
Wow this is the most relatable video I’ve ever watched dude. I’m in high school and I do the thing you did with WoW, but with LoL. Asking everyone I know if they play it and then rushing home to play it all night. I struggle making friends as well but I feel I’m getting better. Great video man
"They say humans are social animals, they can't live alone. But you can live pretty well by yourself. I tell ya...instead of feeling alone in a group, It's better to have real solitude all by yourself." - Faye Valentine
Gotta say, I found your channel through the bronze to diamond series (one of the best LoL series I've seen) but the videos like this are what really set you apart from the rest. Just real talk about content that's relatable for much of your subscriber base.
108k subscribers
108k views
all your friends got your back :3
JaySea...thanks a lot for your videos, u are helping a lot all people, I started to watch your videos less than 2 months!
And we want to help you too.... Think about when your final day come, will you be proud what you have became?
Life is giant, but in a small room....you are burning away seconds of happiness!
Greetings from Brazil!
You got a friend in Sultan. Sultan loves anyone who uses his skin.
;p;
YES!!!!!!!!!!! All of this, yes!!!!!!! Expression, truth, courage, JAY SEA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You're the type of person that I wouldn't care what you're doing, I like you as a PERSON. I'll follow you and support you in whatever you do, thank you for your videos and all the work you put in to your videos and content. I've learned so much from you and I prefer to listen to you in particular due to the level of detail and intelligence you show that far exceeds my own understanding of piecing together experience and results! I'm looking forward to watching your subscriber content grow because you have everything it takes to be a great content provider and already doing it wonderfully.
You have 43K friends
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@@nhyuke fuck you
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@@DuDu-ee8nw not funny.
Very inspirational, I look up to you for the way that you push yourself (exercise, healthy eating, etc.), and I learned from this video that even though I struggle to interact socially, I can still be someone worth being, if you catch my meaning. I thank you for your willingness to put yourself out there, and if you're ever feeling down, just remember that you got 43k people willing to chat :)
I'm your friend! We seem to have very similar interest, best part is when you find an introverted girlfriend you can do nothing together.
LOL the dream
wouldn't you still wanna go out with her sometimes? i mean i'm introverted too and i'd want that
XhaeVaeRhin XhaeVaeRhin well yeah maybe go out to eat together, maybe go camping, or to check out a con, but only after having to take extreme preparation mentally to make sure we can handle it. That's the thing is you're social with the gf because you're comfortable around her, not with other people. Sometimes you have things planned and the day comes up and you both decide....hmm never mind.
ugh...maybe i'm different then. i have no trouble socializing, i jus dont feel like it most of the time. sounds a bit extreme IMO, i mean preparing mentally to go out? doesnt a shower or someth sound more reasonable
XhaeVaeRhin XhaeVaeRhin people with extreme social anxiety can't do that so easily, it's an ongoing battle in their head. When they get in a conversation they feel like they're drowning, they have the constant fear of "omg I said the wrong thing", "am I offending them", "they hate me I know it", "they don't even want me here, why did I come", those are just some examples of what it might feel like for someone that has trouble being in social settings. Even what you said could be the case as well, maybe you just don't feel like going out because it's too much effort to deal with people. Or maybe someone has bad experiences in those settings and it makes them feel uneasy. Hope this helps with where I am coming from:).
I understand you bro, I also feel that it is too much effort to maintain a friendship or engage a new one, but talking to people and being open to meeting people, can always open up new ways of thinking and being happy in so many different ways.
Lol... I remember friends
I don't
Lolllll
Isaac Kim I remember fake friends
Man you are amazing. What I really appreciate on your channel is that you are not one of those cocky ever ironic edgelords. Instead you are nice and kind. And you don't swear.
I keep watching the channel even though I'm having a break from LoL.
we love you Jay!!
You're changing lives now, you know, making inspirational videos and talking about yourself!
And you also provide so much fun and happiness with your league videos
Yeah, he has a discord server - read channel description (:
ooo, thank you!! xD
Wow I really missed that! Somehow saw all the other links but not that one >.
You are good man, dont think anything of it.
Be who you are and dont let anybody tell you different.
You're awesome, worth it and amazing.
Keep living up to your full potential.
Peace
So, you are saying that you are a bronze 5 at making friends? Finally we have something in common :D
Had a Time Like that Too. Dont waste your Time with ppl that want to put you down. Respect to you for that honest Video, jay😘
I'm a lot the same. I've come to realise I could have a lot more relationships with people but I just can't be bothered. I think when you're an introvert socialising seems to take a lot more energy.
Couldn't have said it better myself
It's also hard to socialize when you don't like most people you know :(
Sounds like me growing up, only advice I'll offer is you do what you love and your passionate about. The right people understand and make the effort.
A quote I live by "Those that matter don't mind and those that mind don't matter"
There is over 7 billion people on this planet and a lot that have the same interest as you. There is however effort required from both sides, you may not like going out and spending money on dinner so instead have a thing at home where everyone brings a dish etc...
Anyway love your vids, easily one of the best instructors that I relate with on UA-cam and have helped me to recognize a lot. Best wishes for the future!
In school i was awkward too, played League since season 2, there wasn't even a BR server, but when league started to become famous (at least in Brasil, and get the own BR server), people started to talk to me about the game, people just came to me to ask for tips and tricks to improve ate the game and climb, people known have the highest elo at school (That low D5 btw that people were like "omg high elo" and i was like "Dude, this elo sucks and i suck too").
When i finished school, i had a little friends that in the end, became real homies.
Btw, cheers from Brasil
If only my school had real gamers in them. They all played console/FPS games or were into clubbing and going out a lot.
Jay Sea Lmao and you coudnt talk to then about videogames?
I love the way you expressed yourself about this. There's a ton of people that rant about it, start hating on life and people, blaming everyone for them not having friends. It's nice to see someone that knows what he is talking about, understands why he doesn't own any, and acknowledges he would like to have some but it would be just too much effort for his personal situation. Just love it dude, hope you get everything you want and deserve.
Jay Sea, damn i can relate so much to this. Me playing games in my moms basement at 20yrs old and no friends cause im never social.
zephyra, still studying, prob getting a summer job
Books before Ak's and you'll be fine...
stop studying and go to a job or do both lel. Quit games already when you have jobs you will make up friends as well just stay away from computer max 1 hour a day.
I will never study after high school just go to work ez.
Jinx d5 why quit videogames? to be friends with people like you? No thanks
do you play battlefeild heros?
I feel ya bro! I've been lucky to find a group of friends that understand my need to be alone a lot, and they accept that in me. They still ask me places all the time but understand that I won't say yes that often, and they're ok with that, and they don't let that stop them asking me. I like that. We're all different and cope differently, just gotta find the right group of friends that allow us to be who we are :) Love your vids mate, keep em comin :)
I have no problem with making 90% of the conversation
You'd make a really good friend then :p
@@JaySea I've found those sorts of people as well! I like talking maybe 20% of the time and there's people that will easily overwhelm 80%. It's why we're all different :D it can be hard but I wish you luck in finding any sort of compatibility and companionship you desire.
Where do I find these 90% people?
You got your youtube community, and I understand that that's not the same as real life, but we do root for you as well as your mental health. Cheers from Iowa, USA brother!
Being antisocial becomes and excuse more than a part of your personality over time. I feel as though you have to tough it up and go out there eventually. A lack of experience during childhood makes it harder to comprehend the concept and value of having friends and socializing. While youtube is an amazing outlet for talking and expressing to an audience, friends can be even better.
They can also be a cause of great suffering.
@@HeyWelcomeToMyWorld Suffering is unavoidable, but you can choose how you take it. You can let build up over time and put it in the fridge until it comes out and takes you apart unadvertedly or you can accept it upright and work to make it as manageable and meaningfull as possible.
Being socially ackward is not being antisocial. Antisocial behaviour is wich causes harm to others or the environment. In any case it would be asocial, wich describes him perfectly as someone who has no drive to engage in social interactions.
@@UnNormieCualquiera semantics....we understood what he meant...
@@elvisosmanovic4846 "Semantics" is not a good enough reason to speak unproperly, you may understand what he said but it doesn't mean he is correct. It is, at least in my opinion, of great importance to speak properly and know the meaning of your words as they are a tool to define the world. I'm not saying that he did something bad i was just trying to point out the difference between 2 types of people who have different problems and such. Recognicing that difference is usefull to know how to deal with it.
This vid made you even more likeable to me. I kind of consider you a friend, cause i watch you play, and listen to you about 25 minutes a day, and never get bored. I was almost the same some years back. except i was not overweight, and mainly played offline rpgs. Im still not the talkative type, but im in a position where i can live with it, and do whatever the heck i want.
Thanks for sharing Jay. One helpful thing that a friend told me may help you as well. When you are in those awkward social situations, try to find out what their "World of Warcraft" or League of Legends is. What gets the other person excited to talk about. Then you just ask follow up questions and it generally works out pretty well. :) good luck! By the way, I love your videos!
Usually the answer is they like some boring sports like football or soccer. If they start talking about their favorite soccer teams I will literally have a melt down. I have zero interest in sports or e-sports for that matter :d
Jay Sea oh Jay... :) they may have the same reaction to you if you bring up League. However, there are things you don’t know about soccer and football. There are actually quite a number of similarities between team sports and game like league. A lot of athletes are gamers as well, you may find some common ground if you try. Good luck bud!
Friends are over-rated
Sam Baty for you, yes :)
they are
Sam Baty ik you might be joking, but i'll say it anyways, you're not 100% right, having some few friends can be really enjoyable. But having a huge amount of friends i think you're right, its over-rated.
Neto Félix especially cause most of them if not all are fake friends...
just like Yassuo and Hashinshin
Opening up and talking is the first step homie.
Keep up the grind.
It's a real one
You need a waifu dude
Yes
Jay Sea Can i be your waifu
Akm Stackz Grills only
"golden"... Is that a Zhonyas Hourglass joke? ( ͠° ͟ʖ ͡°)
ecks my *fucking dee* and kill me ree
tsundere punches you in the face*
Being social is exhausting! You’ve got support here my friend!
lol dude i guess if u really wanted to u could try joining a club or two for which u always had an interest in and then maybe u could make some friends that way. I feel like thinking about how much effort goes into maintaining a friendship is the wrong way to look at it. I feel like a true friendship comes pretty effortlessly. U just have to find someone who u can chill with, trust, talk about anything and everything, basically have a lot of synergy with. Now that I finished that sentence I think finding a really good friend may be hard but, as long as ur meeting new people eventually, I feel like the odds are in your favor. Some one will come along who u mesh well with. No? Idk? Good luck my dude!
Thats right when found the right person i think everything would be good and more effortlessly. :D But i know how he feels its pretty hard to get out of this...
what if u dont wanna talk and u just wanna play games..
Daniel Zang I think he wants to but he has social anxiety
Yes. This is good.
Daniel Zang sure im just basing it off of my own experience with my own best friend. im sure there are other great friendships with less talking and stuff, idk
i think ur life is a lot better than mine bro. keep up the good work and don't worry coz u'll have friends u can rely on eventually. as the saying goes, "there is nothing permanent except change"
Hopefully we are good enough for you
Jay! I am busy due to running business and the such and it causes me to also not have friends in the same way you are mentioning here :) I have a few people I keep in touch with, but I don't see them often. You are doing great living your life how you want it and don't worry about the social constructs of society. To create an extraordinary life, you can't do ordinary things like ordinary people :)
Your awesome.
*you're I got u fam
Blqck0ut _ Much love
I totally understand you, I haven't made a single friend since 2012 and social situations are really awkward for me. As you said, why spend so many effort into someone when I can be alone in home, enjoying my time, without worries about screw thinks up, or stuff like that?
I'd rather do that than meet new people.
Don't feel so lonely, even if that is what you want. XD
Salutes from Chile.
P.D: Keep going the good stuff, m8.
Could you do a little video why you shower cold? Like the reasons and what it has changed for you.
Edit: oh and why did you start with it?
I want the same video
Navy Seal training.
duh.
He did say it was for health benefits. I can't remember what though.
ik he said it but he didnt said anything specificly and i wanna know what it has changed for him and why he started it
what about a little video while taking the cold shower
your still easily the most honest,modest and instructive league-tuber i know. if i wasnt poor af,i would donate you monthly jaysea.
"Single btw" 😂 👀
What you just described pretty much applies to myself and everyone I know. A good thing to do to maintain friendships is to make group chats and play league together occasionally. Much easier than making lunch plans.
go out eat food , spent money .. mate :D thats what you do at home.. but instead of eating food home you can eat your food out with someone :D
Maybe if it were a very pretty girl
to be fair, eating at home is a lot cheaper than eating out, at least where i live
TheRedflamesKnight there is no need to go out to a restaurant. Just buy regular food and eat it with a friend . Simple/improvised plans are the best ones xxxx
Jay Sea you could also invite someone you already know to your home. It's how I meet my friends :P
I think you just gotta find the right persons to be friends with. I feel really bad when i hear stuff like this. You need to learn how to enjoy a friendship and how it changes you in a positive way. I guess you gotta break that inner wall in you to get out of your room and embrace all of your positive energy. I think you have that but u gotta share it.
it's ok fren
i'm awk af as well LOL
just have to find the same kind of people who are also kinda waiting to get adopted by an extrovert 🤔🤔
LOL "adopted"
Jay Sea no really, it's a common saying for an introvert to get "adopted" by an extrovert or even an extrovert group. I learned this in psychology and in sociology. It's one of the few ways an introvert makes friends.
i'd sad react to your comment if youtube offered those LOL
get "carried" by a master tier extrovert, lol
Lolhounds can boost you to master tier irl, while you are boost him to master tier in league. lullxd
I like this type of videos, because we can know more the person who is behind the cam. I understand you too, because, I'm a quiet person too. But you know, you look like a good person, that is what it really matters.
Glad i have an anti social friend, we dont even talk at school or in the game, we only invite, the other join and mute each other
P.s.: at school we only observe each other like wild animals
Wtf is that even a friend, sounds like you have a rat or something.
Henrique Rodrigues its our friendship and its great the way it is.
LOL
LMFAP
@@seorwhite3333 hahahahahaah
Greetings from Poland!
I have really bad luck in my rankeds (trolls/afk etc in almost every game, not even joking...), but thanks to you, my friend, last season I was able to tryhard with trynd and make it to gold, even almost to platinum (5 promos to plat), so I broke my curse of being forever silver. Thank you!!!
I never needed to make new friends, I have a childhood friend and as my best friend I have my own sister :) I am happy with life cause whenever I feel bad or stressed, I just turn to Allah and do my prayers and stress disappears like ghost and I am smiling again, Allah blessed me with such an amazing sister that takes cares of me sooooo good xD
I'm not a religious person nor do I have younger siblings. I'm on my own I guess :p
Mate only if I could tell you how ruined I was and how much I was screwing myself but my sister guided me sooo good and now when I look back at my life I just Thank Allah for giving me an amazing sister like her, I am really lucky xD But Don't worry Jay Sea, you will find someone :)
Allah didn't give you shit lel.
Allah is a rapist and child molester.
Where you from you brainwashed little child
It’s so interesting watching videos like this with me being the polar opposite. I’m extremely outgoing and socialise to the point where people I don’t remember come up to me in public and start chatting to me like we are best friends.
I find this very interesting to watch. Good video.
thats pretty op
Fuck off dude.
Still liked your comment tho
Kind of interesting.
Ill have to take you to thailand with me Jay... you will not regret it.
Lets go
Is that place dangerous? Long as I get to keep all my organs
Sounds like organ stealing to me
Hey mate, I only just watched this and I just wanted to say I'm glad you're living your life happily and I love the content you produce. Literally the only reason I have picked up playing again as opposed to just following the competitive scene. Keep at it mate.
Show us your WoW account and give us a gameplay video 💓
Its been inactive for so many years lol. I'd need to buy a subscription
Jay Sea do it :D Would Love to See it
Common Jaysea
Bro all your subscribers would probably totally be your friend btw, that's why we watch you, you're entertaining, and give us a feeling of not being alone lol. That's why I watch so much UA-cam
Last year at pax there was this woman in a Tryndamere cosplay, you could say she made my right arm stronger than my left ;)
lol nice
Probs was a dude sorry.
It's all good man, you are the only person that can make you happy in life, do whatever makes you happy and live the life you have always wanted! P.S your doing a great job! Keep up the good work and stay positive bro 😀
Your personality is similar to mine
Hmmmm you're not a minority btw
We all been there Jay, nice for you to open up, to find a place where you can express your thoughts. Good luck m8. BTW you can always change if what you want!
im now big fat boi but i dont give a fk
Ty for
I'm fat too, but hey i'm going to eate healthy , is for Heath!!
You should ,becouse you will face the consequences after 30!
you are disgrace to Slavs fatty
You are awesome, i respect you a lot, mi life is pretty similar, im 17 and i started talking to people a lot more but i still prefer staying in home playing an instrument, doing exercise, watching videos or studing than going out or things like that
Hey i got a body pillow 2 days ago and theyre awesome. Get one for yourself!
Already got mine before you
owo who tho??
Mines a blank white one, any recommendations? Idk where to buy waifu ones
Jay Sea honestly just google it. Typically ebay works fine, thats where most people get them
Contingent NA :(
I love your youtube content. And props for posting a video like this. You seem like you are quite aware of your "social shortcomings". I know the feeling, seeing as i am quite introverted myself. But I highly recommend you continue putting in effort into your "real life". It's difficult, but it's worth getting through your anxiety. And relax... We are all self-conscious. 💪
😖
Real talk the reason I like you over other UA-camrs is because you're far more real than everyone else, I like finding out more about you, you seem way more like a friend than a youtuber which is kinda funny. Honestly you motivate me lots and give positive vibes, peace!
I love your personality and your videosJay. Your videos actually make me want to wake up in the morning (and gaming as well). I really enjoy RS3 and if you wanted to hangout on any game I would love to chill with you. :) League of Legends Name : Verno78910
I know I am garbage but I'd still chill with you
I’ll be your friend. Thank you for all of your knowledge that you share on UA-cam. It’s helped me a lot.
Whoever dislikes this, is a heartless person!
"And in the end, we were all just humans... drunk on the idea that love, only love, could heal our brokenness"
_-F. Scott Fitzgerald_
0 dislikes lol
Phmnatic Pham guess I'm heartless
Ali Othman lul. Why u doing this?
Interesting. I wonder what type of people would hate JaySea. Bronze? XD
Hey man surprising video and to learn that. You remind me of someone I know well, big into self improvement and competitive but naturally shy. I’m thinking you’re gonna be quite successful, usually the early traits of a successful person.
hey man, better to be silent and thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt. you are awesome man! love the content
You are amazing, my friend. You are so intelligent, genuine and honest. Thank You for being an incredible person.
You will never be alone, God is with you. You're the best!😄
I understand you bro I’m more so introverted as well and in a room full of people I wouldn’t try to talk to anyone either unless they talked to me first. But I do have a group of friends that I’m really close with as well as a lot of people I just know and could have a casual conversation with. I mean in highschool I always would just chill with my earphones in listening to music unless I was with my friends at lunch time or someone I knew spoke to me. It’s nice to go out from time to time for me but going out too frequently is sort of tiring for me. Love your vids though bro keep it up.🙂
I'm in my first year of High School right now and I can tell you, I feel EXACTLY like how you felt. I'm struggling with a lot of social anxiety as well, and making friends is impossible for me.
This is so relatable, i have a small group of friends tho and im so scared to lose them because social anxiety would make it impossible for me to find new ones
lol i feel the same way,too much effert to maintain it !!!!!! or i just dont know how to !!!! but i love ur youtoobs,ur good at telling what-how -why and so on....THX Jay
i relate to this so much, social situations are a pain in the a**
That's also me. I was always introverted, not because i wanted to, but because it was a natural cause for me. I still dont have many friends, just one or two, and they have been there since my childhood. It's possible to learn how not to be socially awkward, or handle your anxiety (trust me, i thought i have a heart attack every time i had to go get groceries, for 4 years straight, not even talking about other stuff). It takes alot of patience, time and pain, but it is possible. You can do it! (sorry for the grammar, not a native speaker).
As a fellow introvert, I FEEL YOU BRO! Don't sweat it man. Good friends don't need constant contact.
I totally feel you Jay. I legit used to be like that all the time. Basically I just decided the best way to make friends is to do something that is equally addicting that other people can relate to. Like I chose weightlifting because a lot of the cooler guys at my school did it and I actually ended up making a lot of friends from it. If you do the same I definitely think it will help. I was the same way for runescape and wow btw, now its league.
Well, i am kinda like that. I grew up with a lot of friends but lost connection to pretty much all of them. However, at work people like to hang around me and come over for a little chat and i dont know why since i tend to talk very little. However, i am finding comfort in my little space and i feel happy. I dont question why i am like that. Seems to be working fine :3
Hey Jay, You should know that I am watching your Episodes everyday! And your Gameplays are the media Highlights of my day (Okay I am living in Germany which means we literally don't have "Media Highlights").Just want to tell you, I am loving your content. Just Keep going!!!!
cheers Matthias
Also introverted and can relate to your story. I met my partner on wow and we now live together and spend our weekends and weeknights playing side by side on our computers. Different games so we don't say much cause were both absorbed in what we do but it's nice to have someone like minded there with no obligation or pressure to talk. Don't give up hope.
Also great job in league and love your vids although I main adc. However I'm nowhere near your level. Just glad I made it out of bronze to silver last weekend!
Also great job in league and love your vids although I main adc. However I'm nowhere near your level. Just glad I made it out of bronze to silver last weekend! It doesn't help that I play ranked while drinking though.
I wish I could find myself a gamer waifeu. One day...
well i didn't knew all of this.. but honestly coming from a large group of friends i can tell u that.. having less friends is actually better.. they have been dragging me down.. making me stay out more then need it.. eat less.. and sleepless nights.. but when i decided to put them away.. and focus on my goals.. i manage to become a better person.. i think is better to keep a barrier between people honestly.. so u shouldn't feel bad about it .. you just need to take a deep breath and look at what u have been accomplished. btw keep up the good work and never forget that u have a fan base and u should do some streaming one day.. or even some costum games with fans.. that way u might find someone that thinks like u and be ur best friend who knows.. until then have a great day and wish u only the best
Dont give up!! find your friends, A real friends always understand your life
Nice to hear some stuff about you:)
I also played vanilla naxx and tbc swp, great fun but too time consuming indeed.
Well this is why it is called growth, Jay Sea. I am dedicated to staying in touch with good people i have met and enjoyed. It is worth it.
Legit same sentiment here. I lost all my friends, I’ve always had many, due to not putting in the effort. I really only need 1 good friend I can do nothing and/or everything with to feel happy and socially fulfilled. Whenever someone tries to befriend me (surprisingly happens often) I always tell them I’m a terrible friend and “you don’t want to be friends with me” but it kind of backfires and they try to disprove it or something? Tell someone not to do something they want it more I guess.
Ok first time I commented on one of your videos, I know the ordeal you speak of the inner fight of wanting to just walk up to someone like hey I'm... How you doing ... But although I can visualise it the thought of it makes me sick, tbh I've watched all your videos and never thought u was similar to myself, but dude your a legend and I can't say I'll be your friend cause i don't even know you personally but I wish you all the best and if you can work up the courage to goto pax maybe I can too . Good luck
Definitely a good chance of me going to pax for sure
Jay Sea then I'll try save up and really try to come and hope to meet you dude we can a really wired awkward non convo lol
I prefer when the other person has more to say, awkward convos are what I already do everyday
You have 43k people who love what you do and who you are man. Big respect
Dude I sympathize and empathize nearly completely on this one. My #1 priority is always to get home and stay home, and game. That has ALWAYS been my preference over partying or going and doing social things. People drain me, and aren't altogether entertaining enough to keep my attention for long anyways.
Although I have a lot of friends I see very little of them, and dont exactly understand why they like me enough to keep making the effort when I don't reciprocate, but they do. Anyways I know this was about you, I just wanted to let ya know there's others out there with the exact same mentality, and I don't personally think it's as unhealthy as people like to portray it as. I find my happiness more in solitude than in the social bubbles of others, I don't see a problem with that.
I love hearing different people's stories, especially if they are relatable. Thats why I made this video. So don't worry about sharing your experiences too
I'm glad you can talk so open about this topic
We love you bro, stay awesome
Be yourself and do whatever you like