It's not your responsibility to take care of another family. You can kick them out! I'm sure that once no family members will provide a place for them to stay, they will get their own place. They continue to act like children because your family keep supporting them. Problems really are with your mom in law and husband who can't say no to Sam. I'm sorry , I love my husband and his family, but there is no way I will allow his siblings to live with me like that. We all work hard, have lives, and have kids we should not have to be stressed and feel bad in our owb homes at the end of the day.
You are brave enough to tell the story. You need to give them the ultimatum. “Get the F out”. If you can’t say it then just shut up and let them live there care free while you suffer. You won’t take anyones advice. Harsh words but better start caring about you and your family first.
Hi sister. I feel so bad for you and your husband. If you don't kick them out, you might get ill or die before you know it due to stress. You guys need to teach them tough love. May God bless you and your family. Please stay strong and wise. 🙏🙏
CIA kom tawm xwb. Yog me pheej hlub ces ntawv yeej nyob li ko rau neej koom xwb os. Cov neeg zoo li ko tsis paub xav hlub leej twg li. Ua zoo tsam koj this ntawv nyiaj saib tuag od.
Every Hmong family has a free loader. I cant stand the OG'S say we have to love eachother no matter what. The kids go to foster care and the parents go wherever.
Omg 😱 hais kom koj tus kwv nkawd xaws qhov quav right now txhob yug me nyuam ntxiv lawm no nawb tsam tab kaum neb thiab naj lod. Yog nkees npaum ntawd ces txhob xav2 sib tsoob no nawb.
Sit down with them, tell them you understand they are struggling and that you will help but give them a time frame/ end date ( 1-2 month etc or however long you are comfortable with) and tell them they must move out by that date. In the meantime, you can offer to help them apply for public housing or find cheap rentals. Maybe they might even have some underlying mental health issues so see if they can get help. They should qualify for a lot of state assistance. You must also set rules and expectations for your home that everyone needs to follow, like contributions to buying food, cleaning expectations etc. If they don't follow those rules then let them know they will have to leave. I know it's frustrating but you won't feel good either If you just kick them out without warning because they probably don't have anywhere to go and those poor children 😢 At the end of the day, if you have to kick them out, you have already done your part so you wont feel guilty. We were always taught to love our siblings/family and help them during hard times but you can't help people who don't help themselves.
OMG! Cas kuv mas yuav pab koj nyuaj siab tiag2 cov neeg zoo li no g paub txaj muag li mas qhov zoo thaum xub pib txhob pub nkag los rau hauv yus lub tsev xwb g li ces koj laj ua neej koj lub siab zoo2 ces thaum kawg ntse yus tus ua niam g pom qab mus cem tab sis kawg cem yus niag txiv tas zog. Ntse yus tseem yuav sib nrauj qees this tej neeg no na.😢😢😢😢
It’s ur house, ur rules!! Next time u & ur husband talk to them & they leave the house for a couple of hours, bag up their belongings & throw it outside & change the locks & don’t open the door when they come back. Simple as that. If the tables were turned & it was u & ur little family that needed a place to stay, I bet u nyab Sam would kick u guys out in a quickness. They’re old enough to get their own place, especially with 3 kids too. H.E.L.L. N.O
Why is it so difficult for nice people to say, "Get the heck out of my house since you contribute NOTHING!"? If you enable them, they will FOREVER be freeloader! The stress will kill you! The free loader brother needs to move his family out or else he needs to divorce the WORTHLESS wife so there's one less mouth to feed! Look, if the free loaders don't care how stressful they are making your life, then forget about treating them like family! You said yourself, you financially CANNOT afford to feed all those extra mouths. Why can't your husband force his brother to contribute a little to cover groceries for his own family since he works?!
I wish some people were considerate of others.. Please help clean after yourself and esp, take care of your own responsibilities.. aka your young kids. To the sis in this story, I feel so sorry for you. I understand how it feels to take care of grown ups and other people's kids. Hope things turn out better for you.
Stop opening the door for them. If your mother in law tells you to be patient, she can take them. Don’t matter how many people live in her house, she should open her door for her struggling son and daughter in law so she knows. Good luck!
Wowo 😂😂😂😂😂 welcome to kuv lub life thiab... next ces yog lawv muaj dab tsi Los lawv yuav need Tham nrog koj tus txiv lawm xwb os lawv tsi need nrog koj Tham os sister aws
All the adults have a family meeting and confront them. For only 1 month, everyone has to share and pass them from house to house. One house per week AND they have to pay rent and food. Everyone helps for ONLY 1 month, and then this stops and they must be out of everyone's house completely. The entire family must come to the meeting. If you don't do this, all the families will break up. This is how you help him and her forcing him and his lazy wife to be adults. Letting them live for free and forever is actually NOT helping them be responsible adults.
Yg liam npaum ko lawm ced ncaws tawm kiag xwb g tag ntshai nws tu siab li os vim nkawv yeej g muaj siab ntsws lawm thiaj coj li ko zoo li tus dev ntau tag ib pliag twb rov los lawm
Yog hais tías lawv cia li nyob los ntawm tub nkees, es tsi kam ua dab ces leej twg los tsi nyiam nawv, tab sis tus tij laus yuav tau hais kom meej rau tus kwv hais tías nyob tsi tau li no, nkawv yuav tsum mus ua hauj lwm los pab them nqe, yog yuav nyob li no xwb saib ces tawm mus nyob lwm lub tsev, los niam tawm nrog lawv mus nyob ua ib yim no xwb.
My youngest brother who is now a 43 year old man, divorced over 11+ years and a dead beat dad to his two boys, lived with me two times and each time he did nothing but freeload off me. He went lived with my older brother and he freeload off them as well. Basically he just got everyone into fights with their spouse and over his laziness and ungratefulness, eventually people end up kicking him out. Now he’s living with his best friend but I’m sure that friendship will sour quick too.
Kavtsij hu police muab ntiab tawm. Neb txhob muab nkawv qhov teeb meem los ua neb qhov. Kavtsij hais koj tus txiv seb yuav ntiab nkawv tawm los cia koj tawm no xwb mas
You need to grow up and tell them no mean no!!! Plus it might be time for your sil side of the family to have a say in it too. They need to tell their daughter to stop being lazy. Also, there is section 8 house for those kind of people to go live in. Next time don't open the door.
My sister in law once stay with me n they were exactly like ur and i had enough of them and told them they got to go . I not going to have a stoke because of them
Tsis yog tim neb tus kwv thiab niam ntxawm, tim nej cov ua tij tsis txawj cob txawj qhia los mas. Cas neb ua tij ho tsis ua kom tawv qhawv kom tawm ces tawm xwb mos, they both have hands and feet.
Nrauj kiag tus niam ntxawm xwb ces neej zoo lawm mas! Sam is your brother, his wife is a random person aka garbage holding Sam back. Xa kiag tus poj niam ces Sam yeej kub siab nrhiav tsev tawm lawm mas
u ua 1 sim nj nyb xwb g txawjplis sawvdaws yv taupab li u pabtau nyobhauv kv tsevlos yj mj tuspuav zooli no & tejzaum nwslub tswvyim khiavqeeb dhau lawmxwb tj yammas yj uadhau cai zg lawm yog g pabces kawg nyj ov publub tsev 6 nyobmam nrhiav num ua tomntej yv zoodua ov tabtxhob tsotseg txog kev qhuabqhia ntxiv nov yg 1 zaj dab ng tusiab heev
All i got to say is stop being nice. People like that wont ever give u a hand. Watch, when its ur turn to live with them because u need help, they will have the courage to kick u guys out. I have a sister-in-law like that…and she was pretty much selfish. Therefore, i say its ur house…u can only do so much…if they dont want to help our and follow and respect ur house rule, let them go..When they leave to work or go to the store, make sure u change ur lock and dont open the door no more. Let them stay outside if they want to stay. This is just too damn lazy and unreliable. If that is me…please..i dont mind u kicking me out and be rude because i definitely deserve it. I need someone to knock some sense into me. And tell ur husband, if he dont support ur decision…u will stop working and he needs to treat u like a Queen…retire mom and wife. Its like if ur husband cannot speak up, he is treating another’s man wife like a Queen and this is definitely not fair for you. Good luck. 🍀
Tim neb ob niam txiv xwb os thaum thib ib mas koj pub tuaj xyuas tau tab sis zaum 2 zaum 3 tim neb ne tseem qhib qhov rooj raucous Noah neeg tub nkeeg thiab ces kawg ua tsov rov xwb tig cov neeg zoo li nkawv lauj tawm mus nyob qab choj xwb os
It's not your responsibility to take care of another family. You can kick them out! I'm sure that once no family members will provide a place for them to stay, they will get their own place. They continue to act like children because your family keep supporting them. Problems really are with your mom in law and husband who can't say no to Sam. I'm sorry , I love my husband and his family, but there is no way I will allow his siblings to live with me like that. We all work hard, have lives, and have kids we should not have to be stressed and feel bad in our owb homes at the end of the day.
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Call the cops tell them you want them out!
You are brave enough to tell the story. You need to give them the ultimatum. “Get the F out”. If you can’t say it then just shut up and let them live there care free while you suffer. You won’t take anyones advice. Harsh words but better start caring about you and your family first.
Hi sister. I feel so bad for you and your husband. If you don't kick them out, you might get ill or die before you know it due to stress. You guys need to teach them tough love. May God bless you and your family. Please stay strong and wise. 🙏🙏
CIA kom tawm xwb. Yog me pheej hlub ces ntawv yeej nyob li ko rau neej koom xwb os. Cov neeg zoo li ko tsis paub xav hlub leej twg li. Ua zoo tsam koj this ntawv nyiaj saib tuag od.
There is program that help people like that
Every Hmong family has a free loader. I cant stand the OG'S say we have to love eachother no matter what. The kids go to foster care and the parents go wherever.
Omg 😱 hais kom koj tus kwv nkawd xaws qhov quav right now txhob yug me nyuam ntxiv lawm no nawb tsam tab kaum neb thiab naj lod. Yog nkees npaum ntawd ces txhob xav2 sib tsoob no nawb.
Sit down with them, tell them you understand they are struggling and that you will help but give them a time frame/ end date ( 1-2 month etc or however long you are comfortable with) and tell them they must move out by that date. In the meantime, you can offer to help them apply for public housing or find cheap rentals. Maybe they might even have some underlying mental health issues so see if they can get help. They should qualify for a lot of state assistance. You must also set rules and expectations for your home that everyone needs to follow, like contributions to buying food, cleaning expectations etc. If they don't follow those rules then let them know they will have to leave. I know it's frustrating but you won't feel good either If you just kick them out without warning because they probably don't have anywhere to go and those poor children 😢 At the end of the day, if you have to kick them out, you have already done your part so you wont feel guilty. We were always taught to love our siblings/family and help them during hard times but you can't help people who don't help themselves.
Cov niag tib tub nkees ce nrog yus nyob ua ntsej muag lag dis yeej tsi nrog yus tu vaj tu tsev li nawb lawv E... Mob taubhaus kawg nkaus li os.
OMG! Cas kuv mas yuav pab koj nyuaj siab tiag2 cov neeg zoo li no g paub txaj muag li mas qhov zoo thaum xub pib txhob pub nkag los rau hauv yus lub tsev xwb g li ces koj laj ua neej koj lub siab zoo2 ces thaum kawg ntse yus tus ua niam g pom qab mus cem tab sis kawg cem yus niag txiv tas zog. Ntse yus tseem yuav sib nrauj qees this tej neeg no na.😢😢😢😢
It’s ur house, ur rules!! Next time u & ur husband talk to them & they leave the house for a couple of hours, bag up their belongings & throw it outside & change the locks & don’t open the door when they come back. Simple as that. If the tables were turned & it was u & ur little family that needed a place to stay, I bet u nyab Sam would kick u guys out in a quickness. They’re old enough to get their own place, especially with 3 kids too. H.E.L.L. N.O
Ntiab dab dab lawm ncaj qha ntiab neej neej Tsis mus CES yog zaj no ntag😅
Neb pheej pab nkawd ces nkawd yeej kawm tsis tau thiab ua rau nkawd tsis psub pab nkawd tus kheej li. Musb nkawd ntiab tawm mus kom nkawd thiaj paub khwv rau nkawd lub neej pem suab
Tus niam ntxawm no tub nkeeg dhau lawm , nws yeej tsis muaj hom phiaj tsis paub nrog luag sib twg nrhiav noj nrhiav hau li
Why is it so difficult for nice people to say, "Get the heck out of my house since you contribute NOTHING!"? If you enable them, they will FOREVER be freeloader! The stress will kill you! The free loader brother needs to move his family out or else he needs to divorce the WORTHLESS wife so there's one less mouth to feed! Look, if the free loaders don't care how stressful they are making your life, then forget about treating them like family! You said yourself, you financially CANNOT afford to feed all those extra mouths. Why can't your husband force his brother to contribute a little to cover groceries for his own family since he works?!
All u can do is tell them to go to shelter place to get help seriously that all..u will be free from all this stress os...
Sit down and be firm with them and give them 30 days to move out, or continue to let them live there and collect rent and food expenses from them.
Wow! Muaj li no thiab lolll😮
Help them to apply for public housing and support.
Coj mus rau neej tsa hais tus niam ntxawm kom txhob tub nceeg yus hais yus tus lawv hais lawv tus.
Neb tus kwv thiab niam ntxawm nkawv tsis yog sib yuav ua neej, yog sib yuav ua neeg xwb thiaj zoo li mos.
I wish some people were considerate of others.. Please help clean after yourself and esp, take care of your own responsibilities.. aka your young kids.
To the sis in this story, I feel so sorry for you. I understand how it feels to take care of grown ups and other people's kids. Hope things turn out better for you.
Stop opening the door for them. If your mother in law tells you to be patient, she can take them. Don’t matter how many people live in her house, she should open her door for her struggling son and daughter in law so she knows. Good luck!
Wowo 😂😂😂😂😂 welcome to kuv lub life thiab... next ces yog lawv muaj dab tsi Los lawv yuav need Tham nrog koj tus txiv lawm xwb os lawv tsi need nrog koj Tham os sister aws
Call social services and they will find a place for them.
All the adults have a family meeting and confront them. For only 1 month, everyone has to share and pass them from house to house. One house per week AND they have to pay rent and food. Everyone helps for ONLY 1 month, and then this stops and they must be out of everyone's house completely. The entire family must come to the meeting. If you don't do this, all the families will break up. This is how you help him and her forcing him and his lazy wife to be adults. Letting them live for free and forever is actually NOT helping them be responsible adults.
Xa kiag rov rau neej tsa xwb mas los yog xav koom lawv kom until you have stroke.
Yg liam npaum ko lawm ced ncaws tawm kiag xwb g tag ntshai nws tu siab li os vim nkawv yeej g muaj siab ntsws lawm thiaj coj li ko zoo li tus dev ntau tag ib pliag twb rov los lawm
Yog hais tías lawv cia li nyob los ntawm tub nkees, es tsi kam ua dab ces leej twg los tsi nyiam nawv, tab sis tus tij laus yuav tau hais kom meej rau tus kwv hais tías nyob tsi tau li no, nkawv yuav tsum mus ua hauj lwm los pab them nqe, yog yuav nyob li no xwb saib ces tawm mus nyob lwm lub tsev, los niam tawm nrog lawv mus nyob ua ib yim no xwb.
My youngest brother who is now a 43 year old man, divorced over 11+ years and a dead beat dad to his two boys, lived with me two times and each time he did nothing but freeload off me. He went lived with my older brother and he freeload off them as well. Basically he just got everyone into fights with their spouse and over his laziness and ungratefulness, eventually people end up kicking him out. Now he’s living with his best friend but I’m sure that friendship will sour quick too.
Zoo li ces laij tawm xwb mas vim yog tub22 nkeeg xwb yeej tsis muaj leej twg yuav yug taus li os es yus nyuaj siab yus tuag ua xwb os.
Muab ncaws tawm tsev xwb
Kavtsij hu police muab ntiab tawm. Neb txhob muab nkawv qhov teeb meem los ua neb qhov. Kavtsij hais koj tus txiv seb yuav ntiab nkawv tawm los cia koj tawm no xwb mas
You need to grow up and tell them no mean no!!! Plus it might be time for your sil side of the family to have a say in it too. They need to tell their daughter to stop being lazy. Also, there is section 8 house for those kind of people to go live in. Next time don't open the door.
My sister in law once stay with me n they were exactly like ur and i had enough of them and told them they got to go . I not going to have a stoke because of them
Tsis yog tim neb tus kwv thiab niam ntxawm, tim nej cov ua tij tsis txawj cob txawj qhia los mas. Cas neb ua tij ho tsis ua kom tawv qhawv kom tawm ces tawm xwb mos, they both have hands and feet.
Nrauj kiag tus niam ntxawm xwb ces neej zoo lawm mas! Sam is your brother, his wife is a random person aka garbage holding Sam back. Xa kiag tus poj niam ces Sam yeej kub siab nrhiav tsev tawm lawm mas
u ua 1 sim nj nyb xwb g txawjplis sawvdaws yv taupab li u pabtau nyobhauv kv tsevlos yj mj tuspuav zooli no & tejzaum nwslub tswvyim khiavqeeb dhau lawmxwb tj yammas yj uadhau cai zg lawm yog g pabces kawg nyj ov publub tsev 6 nyobmam nrhiav num ua tomntej yv zoodua ov tabtxhob tsotseg txog kev qhuabqhia ntxiv nov yg 1 zaj dab ng tusiab heev
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All i got to say is stop being nice. People like that wont ever give u a hand. Watch, when its ur turn to live with them because u need help, they will have the courage to kick u guys out. I have a sister-in-law like that…and she was pretty much selfish. Therefore, i say its ur house…u can only do so much…if they dont want to help our and follow and respect ur house rule, let them go..When they leave to work or go to the store, make sure u change ur lock and dont open the door no more. Let them stay outside if they want to stay. This is just too damn lazy and unreliable. If that is me…please..i dont mind u kicking me out and be rude because i definitely deserve it. I need someone to knock some sense into me. And tell ur husband, if he dont support ur decision…u will stop working and he needs to treat u like a Queen…retire mom and wife. Its like if ur husband cannot speak up, he is treating another’s man wife like a Queen and this is definitely not fair for you. Good luck. 🍀
Tim neb ob niam txiv xwb os thaum thib ib mas koj pub tuaj xyuas tau tab sis zaum 2 zaum 3 tim neb ne tseem qhib qhov rooj raucous Noah neeg tub nkeeg thiab ces kawg ua tsov rov xwb tig cov neeg zoo li nkawv lauj tawm mus nyob qab choj xwb os
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