Girl with my dad 😢 I tried to invite my dad everywhere. I chased him because my dad was in my life when we were young and it makes me so sad and angry at the same time. It’s like he’s not alive but he lives 25 mins away and I could never see him. 😢 He chose drinking then to be in my kids life or ours 😢
i’m a girl and to be completely honest I don’t really like affection. My boyfriend on the other hand loves affection and his love language is physical touch, it’s very hard for me to fulfill that, so I do understand where reece is coming from.
She already said it’s not going to work out between them if that issue don’t get resolved and he dismissed her feelings by not acknowledging what she needs to make it work.
This video was super raw and I loved it. From the disagreements as a couple, to intimacy, and your relationships outside of one another. Appreciate you guys opening up. Especially you Rayleen on your dad - felt. And it’s nice to see other women ‘ok’ with the same thing. ❤ love to your family
even if you guys did/didn’t have kids he could still find a way to be affectionate . having kids has nothing to do with being affectionate . being affectionate is 100% acceptable especially while having kids so you show them how loving their parents are with each other 💯.
100% agree I have 2 kids and it's hard to be intimate besides night time so all day I crave affection and I like to give affection to my partner also and I love to show my kids that it's important and ok to be affectionate even though they hate it but idc 😂
They both should comprise as a team . Your just blaming and pointing out my boy Reece( negative) . You did not even here anything from reece perspective.
Yesss it made me sad when he said that cause when guys say that it’s usually because there getting bored in their relationship. I hope he didn’t mean it in that way
“And we do go on dates, it’s just with kids” and the way you both moved your head back laughing in sync 😭😂 I pray you two get things moving along and right within your relationship love y’all 😭🤍
Wow I applaud you guys for being this raw and I could tell it was genuine not just for views. It makes you guys relatable because this is really what relationships are like
Please show her love you don’t have to be ontop of her but be spontaneous. Random hugs, I love you’s , KISSES , complements. Feeling unloved in a relationship is so draining it really sucks and hurts.
I agree w Jordan …. As a parent, yes it is hard to be affectionate because your attention is to your kids and it consumes you. But….. make your time when you can to cuddle..: but it’s both to put the work not just an expectation from one side.:
Affection is free! Its also very powerful in making someone feel special and loved. Even if you are not a natural it doesnt hurt to try at least once a day to show some sort of affection.
I lost my mom a long time ago but I still need her, I tell everyone you ALWAYS will need your parents. I think in a sense you’re grown so you say you you don’t need your dad but we always will need our parents 🥹 I hope you both heal your relationships with your parents don’t give up 🙏🏼
Wow rayleen I know you said you didn’t want to talk about your dad’s relationship but I’m glad you did. I relate SO much. I’m glad I’m not alone but I’m sorry about that. Cherish the new family you’re creating ❤ God bless
A big lesson I’ve learned is that you have to love your partner NOT in the way you would want to receive love, but in the way THEY receive love. It has to be a mutual thing where he goes out of his way to meet your love language & vice versa so both feel fulfilled. On another note, this video was so real! ❤️
I just want to start off by saying watching this video has made me see you guys in such a relatable way, I absolutely love when I see videos like this because it makes us view things differently in a good way I’ve always loved you guys and supported you guys but hearing all this hits different! Hearing ray talking about family relationship and your personal relationship I’ve gone through the same thing so it’s nice! Love you both and love this video!
These videos are why I will always watch y’all & your family. You’re some of the only YTrs to be REAL. & we so desperately need that. If I wanted fake I would watch TV. I respect y’all so much for being vulnerable bc you never know who will relate & benefit from this. Much love ❤
The affection topic needs to be talked about more between you guys. Affection between parents is so incredibly important. Not only for you guys but for your kids to grow up and see! So they in turn can see that and place it into their love lives as they are older and find that partner. You cannot blame the kids for not having that affection. It trickles down to your guys parents to be honest. My parents growing up were never affection in front of me, I never saw hand holding, hugs, kisses, nothing! But I definitely saw the same issue with my past relationship. Something I’m learning from now. Showing any kind of affection to each other is a great way to show you love them and help form a closer heart. The I love yous are cool or whatever but give each other that affection. It’s important. Make the time and the effort. Your kids will thank you!
I’ll have to disagree with Reece saying you don’t need a dad. I think EVERY one needs a mom/dad no matter what the sex. In my opinion, that’s a little sexiest to even say. Even if you have your step dad, I think it’s ALWAYS important to at least try if your Dad is trying. I’ve had my fair share of mom/dad issues, so this definitely resonated with me. I do agree with Rayleen though about not forcing relationships if it’s not there, no matter WHO you are, family, friends ect. You do have to protect your peace and happiness.
I can relate to you when you mentioned feeling like you had to try hard to have a relationship with your father’s side of the family. It truly sucks seeing all the cousins together and living life without you. As I grow older I am understanding more, and just need to move on. Your family is so cute! I pray your relationship continues to grow and get stronger everyday! ❤
It’s so adorable seeing you guys be parents of 3 so young! Me and my Partner (22years old) have been together for 7 years & we have 3 daughters , so I can relate to this so much 😂
Definetly agree with Rayleen! The affection can’t be one sided all the time cuz then it feels forced gotta show some loveeeee on both sides! As much as possible!
I feel this so much Rayleen !! Not necessarily just about our relationship but in general from some childhood traumas. It’s wild how the anxiety can take over our bodies like that & hold the words back from actually coming out . Thankyou for being so open & talking about some really vulnerable stuff . The internet can be harsh but I think by sharing your experiences it will help a lot of people not feel so alone in their situations ❤
The dad part I agree with both. I just recently decided to finally give up on my relationship with my dad. Because it just wasn’t reciprocated so the part where Reece said “ I’m grown I don’t need a dad anymore I just want a friend now “ & I felt that 100 percent. Loved this video & more raw sit down 🤍
Love love love how super raw this video is! Thank you for being so vulnerable and honest with us! I truly enjoyed watching this and listening to y'all! I feel like I know you both a little more!!
i love this video !! ❤️ i agree with rayleen , when you become a mother you could care less of who wants to have a relationship, when the love / effort is not reciprocated it’s not easy to deal with. all that matters is those around you who are genuine towards you and your family !
This vid made me love you guys even more! I connect to Rayleens situation with her father and especially with becoming a mom this year, it made me look at everything so differently and its so nice to see/hear I am not alone. I love you guys keep it up! ❤️
I loved this video so much. I don’t usually comment but I’ve been watching y’all for years now. It helped me not feel alone on feeling a certain way with certain situations. I wish y’all the best. Y’all are a REAL couple 💕🫶🏻
Agree with rayleen, doesn’t matter the amount of child/ren you have it doesn’t take hrs to take a moment and show any type of affection peck kiss/ hugs / or tell her how great of a mom she is or how appreciative you are for everything she does. Trust it will do a difference doesn’t hurt to try !!
I definitely agree with Ray with the affectionate part it’s very important in a relationship I want a kiss and hug all the time 😂lol I appreciate how raw and honest you guys were with this video! Thank you 🙏🏻
Honesty it is! Foreplay is important in a relationship whether that’s physical affection , dates, gifts , or intentional acts of love. Literally a massage can be foreplay. This keeps the spark. Imagine being in a marriage where the excuse for lack of affection is because of having kids. I agree with Ray we gotta make time it’s also my love language I start to dissconnect from my partner when I’m receiving a simple hug or kiss. These are basics things that keep the relationship going. Gotta prioritize each others needs. Even if you gotta schedule spicy time that works for me as well also gets you excited since you guys planned a set time after a busy day. I have learned men are super physical and need affection they just don’t vocalize it as much as women….they let it build up which isn’t healthy.
I definitely understand rayleen with the affection part .. because I went through that for 4 yrs..& yeah it DID NOT WORK.....it's VERY IMPORTANT to makes your person feel WANTED & LOVED specially in having children...it shows them LOVE & AFFECTION...or what a healthy relationship looks like.....❤️ you can't blame that on being a parent, remember your not ONLY a parent..your a partner,lover too... Bec one yo kids grow up & leave the nest...you will only have your spouse there‼️✨🫀
Okay so, why was I cheesin big time when you FINALLY cleared up if Dida was a name or nickname!? 🤣🤣 I don’t even know if you chose my question or if I was the only one that asked…but I was so happy to finally have that random curiosity answered! Haha, thanks!! 🙏🏼
Man I love you guys! Y'all are my favorite UA-cam couple, you're so real w the videos and I love how y'all are just yourself, hard to find UA-cam couples like that now... and for video ideas maybe like a clothes haul or show us the style you have going on idk lol
I really respect the transparency in these conversations it’s so human and many social media families try to glaze over things. Lots of love to you guys 🫶🏽 keep doing what yall do.
When you just make it about the kids and don’t make time for eachother eventually when the kids get older and move out you two will look at eachother like strangers. Always do the samethings you did to get one another never stop. ❤ keep the romance alive!! 😊 I’m sure since you guys are together All the time it can get hard to really miss eachother but even just leaving a cute sticky note on the bathroom mirror for the other person to wake up to is all it takes. It’s the small things!
I really enjoyed this video so much plz do more of these !!! It really shows me you guys in such a vulnerable way and sees you more than just UA-camrs I watch it feels like I’m having a conversation with close friends ❤
Biggest tip of got from a married couple when I first got married over 11 years ago was to make sure your relationship is solid , put yourself and partner first because your kids grown up and move out etc and you and your partner have to be there for each other for a life time ❤
100% with rayleen on the affection part. If my man ain’t showing me affection/attention i automatically assume something is wrong or he doesn’t love me anymore and that’s where the overthinking starts.
Rayleen I understand you. My dad’s always been in and out of my life. Especially when he got married a couple times. People do tell me “it goes both ways to reach out” it does but I’m almost 27 with two kids and I ALWAYS reached out first. I’m just done trying because he’s my dad he should put me first always or at least his grandkids. Idc if him and I don’t speak. He should just be here for my kids at the end of the day but he’s not so sorry but girl we gotta put us first❤ love yall🩷🩷🩷
Rayleen is right re affection-this has nothing to do with having kids, don't blame kids if u argue or if u lack affection=SMH!! PERIOD. Give her affection daily or someone else will :)
I agree with Rayleen! Yes, kids make it harder to prioritize affection in a relationship with kids BUT you need to make it happen. Rayleen has expressed it and it gets exhausting repeating yourself and eventually you stop caring! Reece, take 2 seconds to just hug her and tell her you love her. It’s really not that hard 💕
Raylene, my Pisces sister - I relate to you so much about you and your dads situation because I feel the exact same way about the relationship I have with my dad. Wishing you love, strength and healing.
She’s telling you Reece! No rudeness at all here, but for real it’s the little things! Just do some random kisses sometimes, or little acts of affection every so often. Wish you two nothing but the best!🤍
I sounded a little one sided there. But either way, you both have to hear one another, and make the changes to make things work that makes you BOTH happy. Even with a house full of kiddos! ❤
Thank you guys for being so real and open because it’s more common than people think, an argumentative stage can be normal when getting to learn each other.
@14:13 ; Rayleen is right! You have to make time. I’ve been with my kids dad since high school & he’s still very affectionate towards me! Sometimes I have to tell him to chill out 😂
A lot of the times we can feel misunderstood as woman. We want the love and affection that we didn't feel growing up or maybe in past relationships. Get to hugging, kissing, and loving on Rayleen Mr. Reece! Love Ya'll
Thank you for being so open with us!! Pleassse work on the affection Reece.. that was the thing that drove me away from my man of 16 years. It’s big for Rayleen so make it a priority ❤️
where you talk about giving affection and love languages I feel like from my own experience of seeing my man have the same feelings as Reece, I get it being overwhelmed and other things on your mind(kids/finances/work/pets/adulting) that being lovey dovey all the time isn’t realistic to expect from this kind of partner but being clear what your love language is and that you still want to receive attention that way even sometimes is being able to be understanding and meet both your needs! Wishing you guys the best and that you each feel validated in your own truth and experience in partnership ❤
I am definitely in Reece's boat on the affection thing. I'm not the best at showing affection to my boyfriend and it's not because I don't love him, I think it's honestly due to how I was raised in a certain sense with the whole "tough love" upbringing. Like I'm not used to so much affection coming from my family so I prefer quality time over physical touch which would be odd coming from a female, I just love spending time with my boyfriend over anything- like just knowing he is next to me makes me the happiest, but ngl sometimes I will look back on a certain time and get in my feelings about not showing as much affection as he would to me, luckily we've communicated our love languages and balance each other out.
Me and my husband have been together for 17 years and he's still affectionate with me, makes me feel so loved, cared for, respected etc❤ if you guys aren't having seggs everyday that's not a good thing, talk to eachother about it!
Reece and I are the same way, "not affectionate enough" but I've been with my husband for 14years and if there's any advice I have for you it's just give in! Give her a quick hug, embrace or kiss and watch how quick her mood changes for the better. It affects your mood also! Just give that a try, even if you're busy or in a mood just give in really fast and I bet your whole relationship changes positively.
I completely get Reece with the affectionate thing. When you have kids, all your attention, energy and focus goes to them, especially if you have more than 1 kid. You barely get time or have the energy for anything else, it becomes difficult, but its not on purpose. You just need to compromise and make time for affection and your relationship, as its important ❤
I just lost my dad a month ago & we haven’t talked in 4/5 years & I miss him so much please forgive & just love your parents … but also he is the father the parent he needs to stick up n chase your relationship with your dad rayleen .. idk y’all’s relationship but putting my dad to rest hurt 💔🕊️🤍🤍
If it's her love language it's going to make her much more happy if you initiate it first throughout the day, if she's always the one doing it it's just not going to be the same. It's like asking a guy to buy you flowers, it's better to be surprised by them knowing he was thinking of you in that moment ☺️
I completely agree with rayleen on the affection thing. It’s so interesting hearing another couple have the same exact conversation i have with my partner. We have a 4 year old together. My partner is not affection and i am, i also feel more confident initiating when im drunk 😅 but girllll i feel you !!!
Love language Issue: Affection/Physical Touch, could it be he views physical touch as "not masculine" or what childhood issues caused him to not show this affection? Rayleen: it's YOUR love language, it could also be the feeling of insecurity when not being shown affection could make you feel like you're not loved from other past issues. Solution: show each other yalls love language and list scenarios. Sometimes, men miss signs and women expect men to read signs. LOL communication helps solve issues/prevent resentments.
I will say maybe like monthly check ins really help. Like between you guys check in with each other and be like how’d it going what can I or what can you do to make things better or it’s been great! Like it’s good to check in with each other it helps communication.
I’m like Reece. I’m not affectionate and my hubby is like Rayleen. Alwaaaaays wanting kisses and hugs and just physical touch in general. But it really is hard to be affectionate when you’re naturally not like that… definitely something I’m working on! I think it’s important to love your partner in their love language.
This was SUCH a good video. Please please please do vids like this more often! Maybe like monthly thing? Idk, but I feel like we learned more about you two in this vid than others Re: the argument, I am definitely more like Jordin and my bf is like Rayleen in terms of wanting physical touch/affection and I do think Rayleen is right. An effort needs to be made to be more affectionate. It’s something im still trying to work on in my own relationship. I’m curious what Jordin’s love language is. 🤔
Consider couple or individual therapy . It will help discover what you need in relationships. As well as past traumas/childhood which will help to understand who you are. 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Ok Reese she told you… Reese never had a girlfriend so remember that you’re gonna have to be the one to make the moves but Reese you gotta put in every effort to make sure she feels loved in your relationship. I love you guys together and I want to see y’all make it to marriage and on to many years to come… stay strong guys do what you have to do👍🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💓💓💓💓🙏🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
I understand what Jordin is saying!!! Sometimes the kids take up my mind 24/7 that I forget to still be an affectionate wife to my husband.. not purposely but my child is always my concern.
She probably has ADHD which is completely normal for / in kids! - and from experience I’d say keep her away from the medication for so , let her be vibrant! 💫 maybe see if she would be interested in joining like dance or gymnastics or something to channel that energy! 💞
no matter what, a man that really loves you and all will go out there way to love on you and make you feel loved even if thats not what hes used too. Love yall💗
Reece is just stressed out right now, but trust me it gets better !! The kids will be easier to take care of in the long run !! So just hug it out ! Lol
Thank you guys all for the feedback and stories we love to read them! ❤️ love yall!
Girl with my dad 😢 I tried to invite my dad everywhere. I chased him because my dad was in my life when we were young and it makes me so sad and angry at the same time. It’s like he’s not alive but he lives 25 mins away and I could never see him.
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He chose drinking then to be in my kids life or ours 😢
I totally agree with Rayleen about the affection thing. It's a big thing for most girls. It makes us feel loved.
Yes understood but you also have to understand Reece . Both should compromise. Your just blaming one person and being one sided
i’m a girl and to be completely honest I don’t really like affection. My boyfriend on the other hand loves affection and his love language is physical touch, it’s very hard for me to fulfill that, so I do understand where reece is coming from.
I agree lol
Ikr and my bf loves physical touch and I'm not overly affectionate either so I make sure to keep that in mind when I'm around him 🤗
She already said it’s not going to work out between them if that issue don’t get resolved and he dismissed her feelings by not acknowledging what she needs to make it work.
This video was super raw and I loved it. From the disagreements as a couple, to intimacy, and your relationships outside of one another. Appreciate you guys opening up. Especially you Rayleen on your dad - felt. And it’s nice to see other women ‘ok’ with the same thing. ❤ love to your family
I know I feel like people understand more and adult talk lol they funny
@@jazmineislas4663 right?!😂😂adult talk for real but I loved it
even if you guys did/didn’t have kids he could still find a way to be affectionate . having kids has nothing to do with being affectionate . being affectionate is 100% acceptable especially while having kids so you show them how loving their parents are with each other 💯.
100% agree I have 2 kids and it's hard to be intimate besides night time so all day I crave affection and I like to give affection to my partner also and I love to show my kids that it's important and ok to be affectionate even though they hate it but idc 😂
Having kids does effect the women or man to be affectionate.
They both should comprise as a team . Your just blaming and pointing out my boy Reece( negative) . You did not even here anything from reece perspective.
Yesss it made me sad when he said that cause when guys say that it’s usually because there getting bored in their relationship. I hope he didn’t mean it in that way
“And we do go on dates, it’s just with kids” and the way you both moved your head back laughing in sync 😭😂 I pray you two get things moving along and right within your relationship love y’all 😭🤍
Wow I applaud you guys for being this raw and I could tell it was genuine not just for views. It makes you guys relatable because this is really what relationships are like
Please show her love you don’t have to be ontop of her but be spontaneous. Random hugs, I love you’s , KISSES , complements. Feeling unloved in a relationship is so draining it really sucks and hurts.
I agree w Jordan …. As a parent, yes it is hard to be affectionate because your attention is to your kids and it consumes you. But….. make your time when you can to cuddle..: but it’s both to put the work not just an expectation from one side.:
Affection is free! Its also very powerful in making someone feel special and loved. Even if you are not a natural it doesnt hurt to try at least once a day to show some sort of affection.
I lost my mom a long time ago but I still need her, I tell everyone you ALWAYS will need your parents. I think in a sense you’re grown so you say you you don’t need your dad but we always will need our parents 🥹 I hope you both heal your relationships with your parents don’t give up 🙏🏼
Wow rayleen I know you said you didn’t want to talk about your dad’s relationship but I’m glad you did. I relate SO much. I’m glad I’m not alone but I’m sorry about that. Cherish the new family you’re creating ❤ God bless
A big lesson I’ve learned is that you have to love your partner NOT in the way you would want to receive love, but in the way THEY receive love. It has to be a mutual thing where he goes out of his way to meet your love language & vice versa so both feel fulfilled. On another note, this video was so real! ❤️
I just want to start off by saying watching this video has made me see you guys in such a relatable way, I absolutely love when I see videos like this because it makes us view things differently in a good way I’ve always loved you guys and supported you guys but hearing all this hits different! Hearing ray talking about family relationship and your personal relationship I’ve gone through the same thing so it’s nice! Love you both and love this video!
These videos are why I will always watch y’all & your family. You’re some of the only YTrs to be REAL. & we so desperately need that. If I wanted fake I would watch TV.
I respect y’all so much for being vulnerable bc you never know who will relate & benefit from this. Much love ❤
Jordin feeling bad for couples who drink and can’t handle their liquor is literally cook and celys
Hey if the shoe fits
The affection topic needs to be talked about more between you guys. Affection between parents is so incredibly important. Not only for you guys but for your kids to grow up and see! So they in turn can see that and place it into their love lives as they are older and find that partner. You cannot blame the kids for not having that affection. It trickles down to your guys parents to be honest. My parents growing up were never affection in front of me, I never saw hand holding, hugs, kisses, nothing! But I definitely saw the same issue with my past relationship. Something I’m learning from now. Showing any kind of affection to each other is a great way to show you love them and help form a closer heart. The I love yous are cool or whatever but give each other that affection. It’s important. Make the time and the effort. Your kids will thank you!
I’ll have to disagree with Reece saying you don’t need a dad. I think EVERY one needs a mom/dad no matter what the sex. In my opinion, that’s a little sexiest to even say. Even if you have your step dad, I think it’s ALWAYS important to at least try if your Dad is trying. I’ve had my fair share of mom/dad issues, so this definitely resonated with me. I do agree with Rayleen though about not forcing relationships if it’s not there, no matter WHO you are, family, friends ect. You do have to protect your peace and happiness.
i really appreciate how honest and personal this video was! thank you both for sharing 🫶🏽
I love and appreciate how honest and raw you guys were in this video!
I can relate to you when you mentioned feeling like you had to try hard to have a relationship with your father’s side of the family. It truly sucks seeing all the cousins together and living life without you. As I grow older I am understanding more, and just need to move on.
Your family is so cute! I pray your relationship continues to grow and get stronger everyday! ❤
It’s so adorable seeing you guys be parents of 3 so young! Me and my Partner (22years old) have been together for 7 years & we have 3 daughters , so I can relate to this so much 😂
27 w 3 kids 💖😭
I love how real and honest this video is ❤️
Definetly agree with Rayleen! The affection can’t be one sided all the time cuz then it feels forced gotta show some loveeeee on both sides! As much as possible!
I feel this so much Rayleen !! Not necessarily just about our relationship but in general from some childhood traumas. It’s wild how the anxiety can take over our bodies like that & hold the words back from actually coming out . Thankyou for being so open & talking about some really vulnerable stuff . The internet can be harsh but I think by sharing your experiences it will help a lot of people not feel so alone in their situations ❤
The dad part I agree with both. I just recently decided to finally give up on my relationship with my dad. Because it just wasn’t reciprocated so the part where Reece said “ I’m grown I don’t need a dad anymore I just want a friend now “ & I felt that 100 percent. Loved this video & more raw sit down 🤍
Love love love how super raw this video is! Thank you for being so vulnerable and honest with us! I truly enjoyed watching this and listening to y'all! I feel like I know you both a little more!!
i love this video !! ❤️ i agree with rayleen , when you become a mother you could care less of who wants to have a relationship, when the love / effort is not reciprocated it’s not easy to deal with. all that matters is those around you who are genuine towards you and your family !
This vid made me love you guys even more! I connect to Rayleens situation with her father and especially with becoming a mom this year, it made me look at everything so differently and its so nice to see/hear I am not alone. I love you guys keep it up! ❤️
I loved this video so much. I don’t usually comment but I’ve been watching y’all for years now. It helped me not feel alone on feeling a certain way with certain situations. I wish y’all the best. Y’all are a REAL couple 💕🫶🏻
Agree with rayleen, doesn’t matter the amount of child/ren you have it doesn’t take hrs to take a moment and show any type of affection peck kiss/ hugs / or tell her how great of a mom she is or how appreciative you are for everything she does. Trust it will do a difference doesn’t hurt to try !!
I definitely agree with Ray with the affectionate part it’s very important in a relationship I want a kiss and hug all the time 😂lol I appreciate how raw and honest you guys were with this video! Thank you 🙏🏻
Honesty it is! Foreplay is important in a relationship whether that’s physical affection , dates, gifts , or intentional acts of love. Literally a massage can be foreplay. This keeps the spark. Imagine being in a marriage where the excuse for lack of affection is because of having kids. I agree with Ray we gotta make time it’s also my love language I start to dissconnect from my partner when I’m receiving a simple hug or kiss. These are basics things that keep the relationship going. Gotta prioritize each others needs. Even if you gotta schedule spicy time that works for me as well also gets you excited since you guys planned a set time after a busy day. I have learned men are super physical and need affection they just don’t vocalize it as much as women….they let it build up which isn’t healthy.
I definitely understand rayleen with the affection part .. because I went through that for 4 yrs..& yeah it DID NOT WORK.....it's VERY IMPORTANT to makes your person feel WANTED & LOVED specially in having children...it shows them LOVE & AFFECTION...or what a healthy relationship looks like.....❤️ you can't blame that on being a parent, remember your not ONLY a parent..your a partner,lover too... Bec one yo kids grow up & leave the nest...you will only have your spouse there‼️✨🫀
Okay so, why was I cheesin big time when you FINALLY cleared up if Dida was a name or nickname!? 🤣🤣 I don’t even know if you chose my question or if I was the only one that asked…but I was so happy to finally have that random curiosity answered! Haha, thanks!! 🙏🏼
I love that he lets you speak while it’s your turn & let’s you explain your side 🫶🏼
Man I love you guys! Y'all are my favorite UA-cam couple, you're so real w the videos and I love how y'all are just yourself, hard to find UA-cam couples like that now... and for video ideas maybe like a clothes haul or show us the style you have going on idk lol
I love how real you guys were with these questions !!
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I really respect the transparency in these conversations it’s so human and many social media families try to glaze over things. Lots of love to you guys 🫶🏽 keep doing what yall do.
When you just make it about the kids and don’t make time for eachother eventually when the kids get older and move out you two will look at eachother like strangers. Always do the samethings you did to get one another never stop. ❤ keep the romance alive!! 😊
I’m sure since you guys are together All the time it can get hard to really miss eachother but even just leaving a cute sticky note on the bathroom mirror for the other person to wake up to is all it takes. It’s the small things!
I really enjoyed this video so much plz do more of these !!! It really shows me you guys in such a vulnerable way and sees you more than just UA-camrs I watch it feels like I’m having a conversation with close friends ❤
Totally agree with Reece, it’s hard to show affection when kids are needy
Showing psychical affection& mentally being connected to your partner is a must, it’s human nature to show love physically
I loved this video, it goes to show how beautiful your relationship truly is!! Thank you for being so vulnerable with us, love y’all 🖤🔒
Biggest tip of got from a married couple when I first got married over 11 years ago was to make sure your relationship is solid , put yourself and partner first because your kids grown up and move out etc and you and your partner have to be there for each other for a life time ❤
100% with rayleen on the affection part. If my man ain’t showing me affection/attention i automatically assume something is wrong or he doesn’t love me anymore and that’s where the overthinking starts.
Rayleen I understand you. My dad’s always been in and out of my life. Especially when he got married a couple times. People do tell me “it goes both ways to reach out” it does but I’m almost 27 with two kids and I ALWAYS reached out first. I’m just done trying because he’s my dad he should put me first always or at least his grandkids. Idc if him and I don’t speak. He should just be here for my kids at the end of the day but he’s not so sorry but girl we gotta put us first❤ love yall🩷🩷🩷
DEFINITELY agree with her on the affection, my hubby and I have 6 kids and we STILL find/make the time to be affectionate. It’s VERY important 😊
This is REAL content. Loved how raw this was.
Rayleen is right re affection-this has nothing to do with having kids, don't blame kids if u argue or if u lack affection=SMH!! PERIOD. Give her affection daily or someone else will :)
That part!
I agree with Rayleen!
Yes, kids make it harder to prioritize affection in a relationship with kids BUT you need to make it happen.
Rayleen has expressed it and it gets exhausting repeating yourself and eventually you stop caring! Reece, take 2 seconds to just hug her and tell her you love her. It’s really not that hard 💕
Raylene, my Pisces sister - I relate to you so much about you and your dads situation because I feel the exact same way about the relationship I have with my dad. Wishing you love, strength and healing.
GIRL YOURE so effortlessly funny aha
RAYLEENNNNN GIRL! YOU LOOK AMAZING ❤
She’s telling you Reece! No rudeness at all here, but for real it’s the little things! Just do some random kisses sometimes, or little acts of affection every so often. Wish you two nothing but the best!🤍
I sounded a little one sided there. But either way, you both have to hear one another, and make the changes to make things work that makes you BOTH happy. Even with a house full of kiddos! ❤
Thank you guys for being so real and open because it’s more common than people think, an argumentative stage can be normal when getting to learn each other.
@14:13 ; Rayleen is right! You have to make time. I’ve been with my kids dad since high school & he’s still very affectionate towards me! Sometimes I have to tell him to chill out 😂
I love how raw this video is!!! ❤️
A lot of the times we can feel misunderstood as woman. We want the love and affection that we didn't feel growing up or maybe in past relationships. Get to hugging, kissing, and loving on Rayleen Mr. Reece! Love Ya'll
Thank you for being so open with us!! Pleassse work on the affection Reece.. that was the thing that drove me away from my man of 16 years. It’s big for Rayleen so make it a priority ❤️
where you talk about giving affection and love languages I feel like from my own experience of seeing my man have the same feelings as Reece, I get it being overwhelmed and other things on your mind(kids/finances/work/pets/adulting) that being lovey dovey all the time isn’t realistic to expect from this kind of partner but being clear what your love language is and that you still want to receive attention that way even sometimes is being able to be understanding and meet both your needs! Wishing you guys the best and that you each feel validated in your own truth and experience in partnership ❤
I am definitely in Reece's boat on the affection thing. I'm not the best at showing affection to my boyfriend and it's not because I don't love him, I think it's honestly due to how I was raised in a certain sense with the whole "tough love" upbringing. Like I'm not used to so much affection coming from my family so I prefer quality time over physical touch which would be odd coming from a female, I just love spending time with my boyfriend over anything- like just knowing he is next to me makes me the happiest, but ngl sometimes I will look back on a certain time and get in my feelings about not showing as much affection as he would to me, luckily we've communicated our love languages and balance each other out.
Me and my husband have been together for 17 years and he's still affectionate with me, makes me feel so loved, cared for, respected etc❤ if you guys aren't having seggs everyday that's not a good thing, talk to eachother about it!
If you’re not having sex every day????? lol are you crazy! 😅 that’s so unrealistic, don’t spread false info like that
Reece and I are the same way, "not affectionate enough" but I've been with my husband for 14years and if there's any advice I have for you it's just give in! Give her a quick hug, embrace or kiss and watch how quick her mood changes for the better. It affects your mood also! Just give that a try, even if you're busy or in a mood just give in really fast and I bet your whole relationship changes positively.
Loveee how real y’all are in this video ❤️❤️
You are totally right Jordan when 2 people drink its more problems more often.
Jordan your awesome.
I completely get Reece with the affectionate thing. When you have kids, all your attention, energy and focus goes to them, especially if you have more than 1 kid. You barely get time or have the energy for anything else, it becomes difficult, but its not on purpose. You just need to compromise and make time for affection and your relationship, as its important ❤
That family question hit so hardddd, thank you for sharing🙏🏽
i’m with rayleen on the being affectionate and being drunk too LOL
Just because something is your Love language doesn’t mean you can go without noticing the way the other person shows love.
You guys are so relatable about the affection part and spark 😂😂😂
love you guys! cant wait to watch
I just lost my dad a month ago & we haven’t talked in 4/5 years & I miss him so much please forgive & just love your parents … but also he is the father the parent he needs to stick up n chase your relationship with your dad rayleen .. idk y’all’s relationship but putting my dad to rest hurt 💔🕊️🤍🤍
ur hair is so prettyyy
If he wanted to he would . Trust me. You make time if you want to.
If it's her love language it's going to make her much more happy if you initiate it first throughout the day, if she's always the one doing it it's just not going to be the same. It's like asking a guy to buy you flowers, it's better to be surprised by them knowing he was thinking of you in that moment ☺️
Best video y’all ever posted !!!
It’s them laughing together while saying with kids 😂😂after and saying “we do go on dates”
Best video yet. You guys are great! Rayleen was triggered tho 😂 more of this content please!
19:27 "we do go on dates" ......"It's just with kids" That head back tilt they did together creased me 😂😂
Rayleen is so ready for some love!!! Reece step it up!!!!!
I completely agree with rayleen on the affection thing. It’s so interesting hearing another couple have the same exact conversation i have with my partner. We have a 4 year old together. My partner is not affection and i am, i also feel more confident initiating when im drunk 😅 but girllll i feel you !!!
Love language Issue: Affection/Physical Touch, could it be he views physical touch as "not masculine" or what childhood issues caused him to not show this affection? Rayleen: it's YOUR love language, it could also be the feeling of insecurity when not being shown affection could make you feel like you're not loved from other past issues. Solution: show each other yalls love language and list scenarios. Sometimes, men miss signs and women expect men to read signs. LOL communication helps solve issues/prevent resentments.
Read minds***
It's sooo FUNNYYY 😂 how u guys get into it haha such a Sagittarius & pisces relationship 💯💯😂
I will say maybe like monthly check ins really help. Like between you guys check in with each other and be like how’d it going what can I or what can you do to make things better or it’s been great! Like it’s good to check in with each other it helps communication.
I’m like Reece. I’m not affectionate and my hubby is like Rayleen. Alwaaaaays wanting kisses and hugs and just physical touch in general. But it really is hard to be affectionate when you’re naturally not like that… definitely something I’m working on! I think it’s important to love your partner in their love language.
This was SUCH a good video. Please please please do vids like this more often! Maybe like monthly thing? Idk, but I feel like we learned more about you two in this vid than others
Re: the argument, I am definitely more like Jordin and my bf is like Rayleen in terms of wanting physical touch/affection and I do think Rayleen is right. An effort needs to be made to be more affectionate. It’s something im still trying to work on in my own relationship. I’m curious what Jordin’s love language is. 🤔
Consider couple or individual therapy . It will help discover what you need in relationships. As well as past traumas/childhood which will help to understand who you are. 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
I love how raw they are.
Loved the honesty + vulnerability 💕
“And we do go on dates… It’s just with kids”😂😂😂literally lol
Rayleen she’s like there’s no spark rn✨😐 lmaoo
Ok Reese she told you… Reese never had a girlfriend so remember that you’re gonna have to be the one to make the moves but Reese you gotta put in every effort to make sure she feels loved in your relationship. I love you guys together and I want to see y’all make it to marriage and on to many years to come… stay strong guys do what you have to do👍🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💓💓💓💓🙏🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
I understand what Jordin is saying!!! Sometimes the kids take up my mind 24/7 that I forget to still be an affectionate wife to my husband.. not purposely but my child is always my concern.
She probably has ADHD which is completely normal for / in kids! - and from experience I’d say keep her away from the medication for so , let her be vibrant! 💫 maybe see if she would be interested in joining like dance or gymnastics or something to channel that energy! 💞
Lol you guys are sooooooo relatable i love this side of y’all so much!!
Love it !! We need more videos like this
Reece made me laugh. “We do go on dates, but with kids” hahahah.
no matter what, a man that really loves you and all will go out there way to love on you and make you feel loved even if thats not what hes used too. Love yall💗
Delete this stupidity. Reece had fathered her kids and gave her one . Reece does love her . 🤣
Rayleen is beautiful and I agree with her about the affectionate part, that's super important❤
I love you guys. You’ve got it figured out- communication and always GROW together. #proudMama
Reece is just stressed out right now, but trust me it gets better !! The kids will be easier to take care of in the long run !! So just hug it out ! Lol