According to studys there is a massive men loneliness on the rise. Even many men talk about this. So men problems i think. Women lean more toward social and mantain social contacts and many men are not. 🤔
even tho im a male i have noticed that sometimes ppl forget that not all women get friend/boyfriends so easily. So this is a great reminder of that, good vid
As a man, I am at a point in my life where I just want to end it all because the isolation that I struggled with mostly due to my mental illness has been too much. I just want to leave already…
I'd guess somewhere from 40-60% of women easily get friends/boyfriends, meanwhile only the top 1% of men get friend/girlfriends easily. I have no issues acknowledging that some women are lonely. I have issues acting like they are more lonely. I have issues acting like they should get disproportionate care
@@CodeDusq1I can relate. Life does suck. Although, the only thing that keeps me from doing it is the painful sensation of death. We don’t know what the afterlife is truly like. Perhaps it’s worse than the current life we’re in.
Maybe not women and men in general, but an individual man or woman can end this epidemic today by simply turning their phone off (or deleting their dating apps). Some may say this is unrealistic, but it's really not.
@@fernandomachado1728yea bc turning off a phone magically makes all of the friends appear out of thin air who knows all the people you’re connected with are just stuck im there theyll pop out i swear
This is a nice perspective, you usually hear online how men are lonely and women having boyfriends, don't get me wrong men are lonely but loneliness applies to all
Absolutely, loneliness doesn’t discriminate-it’s something anyone can feel, regardless of relationship status or gender. How do you think we can start breaking down those barriers and connect more meaningfully?
Men are very competitive by nature and we expect other men to “man up” and not have this “woe is me” mentality. Instead of empathizing and giving support, they rather shame and blame them for being lonely.
This came at the right time as the majority of my female friends have boyfriends,husbands, partners, and I’ve never had that experience before. And I do get lonely. The older I’m getting the more lonely I’m getting and I feel like I’m always going to be by myself.
It’s completely understandable to feel that way, especially as you see friends in relationships while you’re navigating things solo. Loneliness can be really tough, but remember, your story isn’t over yet, and there’s no set timeline for finding connection. Sometimes, these seasons help us grow closer to ourselves, which can make future relationships even stronger. You’re not alone in this, and there’s always hope for the companionship you’re looking for. 💜
We forge our own path. It’s easy to see friends and family finding partners and all of that, but it’s worth asking yourself if that would really make you happy. I’d put my happiness above others expectations of me 1000%. If you’re not living for yourself, are you even alive? I’m only 22 and I’ve never had a woman in my life, and I get the typical “why haven’t you got a girlfriend yet?” From friends and family, and I don’t care. I’m happy where I’m at. Idk where you’re at, but it’s easy to feel pressured into being in a relationship and people enter relationships for many different reasons. However, at the end of the day the most important question I think you HAVE to ask yourself is, “Will this make me happy?” Good luck to ya 👊
All i can really input is that time is not on your side. Not trying to scare you but once you hit the 40’s, thats pretty much it unless you get incredibly lucky and get a decent divorcee or a rare guy who didnt get picked up and has no overly terrible qualities. My mom is in that dating scene right now and i do not recommend it. Get out to social activities, try different hobbies that people go to. Best of luck
I’ve been feeling more lonely than ever. I hope it ends soon. I’ve always been a perfectionist at heart and though it can be a strength it’s been becoming more of a weakness. I’ve been feeling like I’m in auto pilot because all of these high expectations I’ve been given since my youth; I just need a break.
It sounds like you’re carrying so much on your shoulders. Perfectionism can be exhausting, especially when it feels like it’s never enough. Taking a break could be a real gift to yourself-even a small one to recharge and just be. ❤
@@Psych2go that means a lot thank you. Your videos has given me a lot of insight and also has gotten me through some hard times. Thank you for the work you’re doing 🫂❣️
As a man I’ve been lonely my whole life, been an outcast and people never accepted me, mostly due to my mental illness. At this point, I’m ready to end my life because I honestly don’t feel I belong in this world.
In my experience with loneliness, it starts out with the mentality of "I'm better off alone," usually after something happens in your life. This feeling of ostracizing yourself turns into the sad realization of "nobody noticed that i left" or "Did they even notice me in the first place?" It quickly turns into a harsh reality that nobody noticed, so i must've not been important to them. It's rough to realize it at first, but it then becomes numb. You stop hanging out with more and more people that you use to. Your grades fall, your parents ask why they took a nose dive, but your only answer is "idk." The things that were originally fun or meaningful to you stop being so. In my case, i stopped working out, i focused more on binge watching shows that do give me a little joy. You start apologizing for everything, whether you did it or not, i also started smoking weed because it gave me that numb feeling of "i dont have to worry about it right now." I started to feel like i wouldn't mind just going to sleep forever. I wasn't suicidal but i wouldn't have mind if something naturally took me out. I heard the phrase "second hand suicide" and it really stuck to me. idk if i could call it depression but it's definitely something.
I feel you - this remembers me very much of myself. It went uphill when I did what I always dreamt of when I was a kid. The fun part here: Back then I was convinced to not even have a dream - I just did not care about anything really. But this numbness was a result of pushing down all my real emotions for decades. I had to find back this voice inside me that I told so long to shut up, so that I can "function". I know it feels impossible for you to read about that, I remember that... but this voice is still there, somewhere, whispering in another room, with closed doors... but you can find it. And then do what this voice is telling you. Its weird. But this voice knows exactly what to do.
honey.. i feel you on a very deep level. i resonated with you so much.. i hope you are doing okay.. i'm going to that tough phase now as well.. do u wanna be friends??
It makes some sense when male loneliness was brought up it was used as a way to critic men and not provide real solution heck some people actually claimed it was because of men's lack of emotionally vulnerability and they made it seem like it was something that wouldn't affect women as much but since that doesn't seem to be the case it's kind of odd to see that group that claimed to be better at relationship and emotional regulation have the same issues even thou those issues when allegedly stemming from inherently male behaviour
kate bush's song running up that hill touches on that. she speaks of the desire to make a deal with god to get men to swap places with women and viceversa, so we can understand each other entirely. obviously this is impossible but it's the big dilemma i believe
The truth is… everyone so consumed by their own struggles that genuine connections are becoming rare. We live in a world where relationships feel more transactional, and it’s hard to bridge that gap. People get so preoccupied with their own issues against the void that reaching out becomes a challenge.
Frankly, although I would like to see both genders not have a loneliness problem, male loneliness comes almost exclusively from women while the opposite is not true. Men are the only segment of society who never receive unconditional love. So yea, I'm going to prioritize solving that one first.
@@legogenius1667 Male loneliness comes from themselves. Misogyny is rampant, and why would any woman want to be around that? Fix that problem, and maybe more women will want to be around you. All of my female friends who are dating are genuinely looking for unconditional love. Whereas most of them men I know who are dating are looking for sex first and foremost, and they won't even be upfront with women about that. Or the men think they are in it for unconditional love, but then when they have it they get "bored" or want something else. Moreover, I grew up with my Dad as my only parent, and I literally never experienced unconditional love. Never while I was growing up did I receive a hug or any loving comment. My Dad thought paying the bills meant he was parenting, and besides that we were more or less abandoned. Women are the gender most capable of GIVING unconditional love. Women give unconditional love all of the time, and mostly only get it back from other women. Also, nobody is stopping ya'll from putting in the work to find friends. It's work/effort to make friends and socialize. It doesn't just naturally come to people as you think it might, especially as you get older. The truth is, women are socialized to put in labor to find/maintain community, and men depend on women for it instead of putting in the work themselves.
@jennifermarie3158 The statistics show that you're incorrect. Men have a normally distributed attraction, meaning men tend to think the average woman is averagely attractive, but for women the distribution is skewed such that women only see 1 in 6 men as average or above. The insanity of that last sentence should be self-evident to any rational person. Women will ignore the men that would have been willing to love them, in favor of literal criminals. The top 10% of physically attractive men get attention from all women, while the ugly guys live their whole lives without so much as a compliment or hug, except from their good male friends. The only people on Earth who have ever gone out of their way to be kind or supportive to me have been men. The girls I date or interract with treat me like garbage, and so I'm starting to think I should just spend my time with my male friends instead. But sure, we'll blame all that on misogyny lol. Classic woman, allergic to accountability and quick to belittle.
@legogenius1667 Idk if you can do much if you depend on people you don't know. The first place might be therapy or other relations instead of romantic ones.
Male mental health gets ignored generally but for loneliness the reason why it got more attention than female loneliness was the idea that male loneliness stems from men's lack of vulnerability, no emotional support and lack of friendships which was not only used to shit on men but to give reason to why women don't feel as lonely and are living more fulfilled lives but now that it's becoming more common, people are making it sound like it's something they went out of their way to ignore and not that it's because people believed that proper emotional regulation and friendships could prevent loneliness and since women were allegedly better at it they are by default less at risk , no one is to blame , just an observation Edit : i still feel empathy for them and its not a zero sum game we should support all but the idea that we simply overlooked it isnt really true it was due to situation
You’ve brought up an important point about how assumptions and stereotypes can shape the conversation around loneliness and mental health. Do you think these perceptions are changing, and could this shift help both men and women find the support they need?
@Psych2go they are changing and hopefully it's going to get better , I hope is fast too however it would be hard to get sympathy especially considering the fact that they were willing to use that loneliness epidemic as a medium to critic male behavior rather than just show empathy and seek solutions
People are too focused on how to connect or why they feel disconnected, but these are just fleeting emotions in a universe that ultimately doesn’t care. Everyone is or will be affected by loneliness, and the stories we tell about it just delay facing the emptiness of life. It really doesn’t matter who is more lonely, as we’re all just existing in a world that lacks real connection.
@@CodeDusq1 you are right that's why I didn't compare it in the first place , I am just against the idea that it was ignore and something taken less seriously by default but rather it was because of how people responded to the complaints of male loneliness
Timestamps 1). Why are more women feeling lonely 1:13 2). The pressure of perfection 2:39 3). The superwoman syndrome 3:24 4). Changing social norms and expectations 4:12 5). Economic and career pressure 5:18 6). The failings of modern dating 5:54 7). The comparison trap 6:36 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
People chase connections, thinking they will fill the emptiness in them, yet many find themselves isolated in a crowded world. Whether you are alone or with others, the emptiness remains, indifferent to our attempts at connection.
@@Robert-vk7je Through real life and not through your screen when you can't even be sure if the other person is already going behind your back to text 3 other people. Social media is not genuine connection, but a poor imitation of it.
@@RedSky8 same view as op of the comment. You need to fill that void first with your own inner energy. Then add social connectedness on the top, if you lose it, you are back to 0 but not minus 100, therefore it's not that bad. We try to fill the void with peoples validation and it backfires over and over again.
As a lonely guy myself, I'm happy that men's loneliness is being discussed more, but I get tired of seeing other guys constantly act like every woman has a great social life and everything is easy. I think videos like this are good to bring attention to the fact that loneliness can be faced by everyone. I wish people (both men and women) put more effort into viewing each other as humans and supporting each other rather than arguing about who has it worse or who's fault it is all of the time.
Ngl that intro had me triggered. Like its so bad that people are only talking about male loneliness. We are just celebrating because society is FINALLY talking about it. Its so popular because men have been ignored for so long, its only thanks to the internet that we are finally able to talk about it. Men are less likely to have support groups. That depiction of how unfullfilling dating apps are for women felt so unaware. Imagine being able to easily experience dates and hook ups. Even the opportunity to be catfished. Unless you are the top 1% of men, you will get absolutely nothing. This is backed by research data. THAT is isolation. And society villifying men, and masculinity is alienating. There is a reason why male suicide dwarves female suicide.. In fact, the leading cause of death in men below 50...is suicide.
How about you take inspiration from women and you know... do something for your look to be considered more attractive, you can use some cosmetics for your face even as a men. Get a haircut, clothes, etc. And I'm pretty sure women make families with more than just 1% of guys or you wouldn't even exist.😂
The "opportunity" to be catfished? Not all attention is good attention, some of it can be more harmful than a lot of people realize. And not all women even receive attention just because they're women automatically.
I fealt a bit triggered as well. Then again, women being lonely does not take away from guys being lonely. I can try to understand the view point. This is a good sign that society isn't right and something needs to change.
@@infoblox5359 i mean... Something is better then nothing. Men in general don't get much of anyting but women in general do get much. Even if there are smaller grupes that doesn't get much its still in general way much then men
Damn, people are really arguing over which gender has it worse in this comments section. You know people are stupid when they try to one up each other's issues instead of trying to solve them.
I already know men hate us. That’s why they think this topic is a “competition”. I didn’t even know women had this growing issue. I’ve always been lonely for most of my youth anyway
Sad thing is when ever someone share their problem, it turn into a competition and who is more of a victim. We can't just listen and help each other. It's always what about me.
I always feel isolated as a woman, my friends, family and everyone expect higher things from me.. but at the end ,after i did my best, they just took it from me and start ignoring me :/
That sounds really tough, like you’re giving so much and not getting the same care in return. Have you found anyone who truly appreciates your efforts, or maybe even small ways to start setting some boundaries for yourself?
For me, I'm on the autism spectrum and I struggle with this even though I have friends. I just don't get people and how to connect so easily. So it feels like I'm on an island alone even though I have people who love me. It just hurts. This is a good message, thank you so much ❤
For me I found that ADHD friend are amazing. I hope one day you find a circle of more autistic n adhd friends. I never thought I could. It is amazing. I totally understand how that feels.
I very much appreciate the disclaimer at the beginning that loneliness is a epedemic that affects both genders. The "us vs them" mentality that's been festering more and more in recent years i feel is a big part of why so many people feel lonely. It's good to have a place that is willing to activily listen to both sides
@@KiallVunMyeret Loneliness is inevitable for both sides honestly. We are all gonna die alone eventually. It depends on the people and their experiences in life or the circumstances that they went through, in order to understand each other.
Im not always alone but I feel lonely. No one gets me. No one understands me. Ive tried to be overly kind, overly nice but it got nothing but got me used, mistreated, abused and taken for granted by almost everyone. I struggle with a big mental health issue and few addictions, I just hope and pray that tomorrow will be better. I just hope to find good people, not perfect but good and positive for my mental health. Im a young woman and I have zero friends.😢😢
6:12 funny how a video about female loneliness shows a woman casually rejecting dozens of potential boyfriends while crying about being lonely. That's the difference between female and male loneliness Female loneliness - I have dozens of men irl and thousands of men online in dating apps who would love to date me, but they are not good enough for me because they are not THE Chad. I'm so lonely Male loneliness - I have 0 potential dating candidates, 0 matches on dating apps, 0 women irl.
Because sometimes there is only one person in the entire literal Universe you want to spend your life with, the other people may be great, but they aren't the one you love, nobody can be replaced and the person you love most is equally irreplaceable. You may have a billion different options, but no person can substitute the person you love most, and if you can't find them, regardless of how many other people are out there, you're going to feel that loneliness in the deepest part of your very being.
@@r-giireactions2235 Well, in that case this female loneliness epidemic is a self-made problem then, isn't it. If women want a specific type of fairytale knight to sweep them off their feet and choose to reject "lesser" candidates, that's on them. Not every woman can have that top 1% high value man. I'm pretty sure men will on average "settle" (bad word here but I hope you know what I mean) for much less than women will. That's why many men get rejected - in the eyes of women they're simply not "good enough". This leads to men being lonely and women too, since most women aren't "good enough" either in the eyes of high value men. It doesn't help that women perceive average looking men as looking very much below average (there have even been studies conducted on that topic). Edit: Which is not something that women are at fault, btw. It's simply something that's encoded in their way of thinking and perceiving men.
Try searching for Discord servers for lonely men... None. And NONE for MGTOW. Men's support is non-existent. Only over last few years has it been getting just a little attention on UA-cam.
@@Pentazoid111 I promise. All girls and women have support easily accessible, even if a handful don't get it without effort, the access is easy. Men don't.
@@Pentazoid111 Society in general isn't receptive to many people's issues. People are expected to be a certain way, to look a certain way, to act a certain way, to accomplish certain things, to believe certain things, etc. If you're not living the "right" way, a large portion of humanity sees you as lesser.
Thanks for this video! I'm older, in my 60's, and it's always been difficult for men and women to find someone that will take the time and effort to learn about one another and come to really care for one another. There is so much pressure to get to the next level of the relationship, and it's all about getting married, having a family, and moving on. I didn't want to move that fast, wanting to be friends first and maybe something else will grow. But that has meant that I never found anyone. That has taught me, though, that not being in a relationship is much less painful than being in a bad one. These days, it's horrific, what young people are going through, with unbelievable pressure to be perfect all the time. It's invading their every waking hour. As bad as it was for me, it's a 1000x worse now. This has to stop. Thank you for illustrating that so beautifully! We need to slow down and live at a human pace, which isn't light speed, but the experience can be so much richer.
Man here. This is a great thing to think about. The rise of male loneliness being popularized these days could make women feel like they don't have enough recognition for their own struggles on social media. Male suicide rates are higher, but I recently learned that women are more often diagnosed with mental health problems. I believe that everyone deserves love, so this new, less recognized perspective is probably a good thing to look into. Thanks for the awareness.
I would need to find the study and survey, while male suicide rates are indeed higher this is also due to them being more successful and thus reported; within the same demographics (I believe is was something like 18 - 35 year olds in the U.S.), women actually attempt suicide at a higher rate than their male counterparts however they fail to follow through more often and in turn give themselves more opportunities to seek help in whatever form they need it in. Regardless recognition for the struggles everyone faces needs to be recognized, understood with empathy and remedied in the best way possible.
I feel very validated by this video, so thank you very much! I'm a woman, I'm 29 and yes, I feel very lonely. I'm trying to make friends who I can really connect with and create meaningful relationships, but it's not that easy.
@gamegamer9523 I'm studying psychology and trying to make good friends. It's working! Today at class I talked to people I didn't talk that much yet and it was amazing! It's awesome when you find people that like to talk about the same subjects as you! Thank you for your advice!
I’m so glad the video resonated with you! Building meaningful friendships can feel like such a challenge, especially as we get older and life pulls us in different directions. Have you found any activities or spaces that make it easier to meet people who share your values and interests?
@@Psych2go thank you so much for answering me guys!!! ❤️✨ I into college for psychology and I'm making a lot of important connections! I knew that I would find like-minded people in there and it's bringing me so much joy to find people that are interested in the same subjects as me! I was feeling lonely yesterday and then I had a psychology class and then I talked to people I never talked to before, like it was an answer from the universe that I'm not that alone and that finding new friends is possible!!! 🥰❤️✨
As an ugly woman with autism, it is absolutely a problem. I've been lonely my whole life, even made fun of for it over my looks. Thank you for this video because not every woman has a lot of friends or even a BF.
Thank you. This isn't a war between genders. I've been ridiculed all my life for having acne, had no boyfriend and no friends, yet boys on the internet tell me to quit complaining because "at least I'm a female". Why can't we support each other? The world is a mess as it is already.
everyone has acne. we can't support each other because women pushed men through the cracks and need to be the ones to extend the hand. I already made a whole paragraph why, but its easy to overlook your advantages. The only reason anyone cares about the male loneliness epidemic is because its making men check out of society and so aren't producing and consuming. Its also blamed on men for any random reason like listening to rap or playing video games, among other "reasons". Sure its shallow but you are seen as valuable regardless like an art piece where men are machines who lose purpose on breaking down. That's why there's a compliment gap, women will just get compliments, sure on shallow things but a man remembers those like treasures where the only compliments I've gotten in the last 10 years were dependent on how well I did something. You need to be a soft place for men if you want to change these things. Honestly just start humanizing us again.
@@drewlevy9557 One remembers compliments until one realises they're just as hollow and meaningless as everything else people say when they're trying to get something out of you. Most of the time they either come from a person being extra-nice, or they're a polite way of saying "Back to work, slave!".
@@drewlevy9557 How does 'women extending a hand' will fix the issue when it's mostly filthy rich men that get the most profit out of a society that treats 'men as machines who lose purpose on breaking down'? Divide and conquer is the name of the game and it's not women that are going to save you guys from it. It's not women profiting out of your suffering, my guy.
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
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To some extent. It's not like when you feel extremely paranoid, suspicious, hurt, crying alone, yearning for attention or even getting negative comments even through the own disobedient mind.
As a woman I feel lonely just seeing the way someone who called a friends treat me differently to their other friends. Despite saying they see me as a better friend
@@CharlieHeeson your partner is supposed to be one of your better friends. Its more genuine then going for someone on first glance. If they actively looked to know more about you then there’s no harm in it and just set expectations. At that point its on them to accept them or move on. Just be honest
As a female… Thank you for making this video. I’ve always tried to be an uplifting presence to my male friends and family members. I try my best to let them know i understand because I do… i’ve heard some comments like “No you don’t, it’s different.” When in reality, loneliness is the same. Shout out to all the lonely people. We may feel lonely but here we are. Together in the comments and watching this video. The whole point of this statement was recognition of men and women who go through loneliness. It intended for uplifting others.
It's not the same That's the problem we assume we are equal mentally when the true might differ a lot from reality. For example When women feel alone it is a feeling that people who are in their life make it feel But when men say they are alone (unattractive and normal looking ones) it is true. A feeling that the lack of people or negative vides provoke them.
It sucks, I'm a lonely fella. Truthfully I'm just too busy to actually find love. And it's funny too, I mean hell, I want a relationship, but a part of me is also afraid of it. Maybe it's a fear off being vulnerable, I don't know. Point being, lots feel this way, and though it's rough I'm sure folk like us will be well at the end so long as we can do our best to keep our heads up.
@@socramzetroc1535women can have no friends or loved ones too!!! I have no actual friends and everyone around me seems to think im just a nuisance!!! Can i count as lonely now or will u make up another reason for women to be disqualified from being sad
Thanks for acknowledging female loneliness. I never feel like I’m good enough to have any kind of relationship to even try. There’s way too much pressure to be perfect in all respects and I feel like a failure of a woman just because I’m not attractive and that no one will ever truly love me, only settle for me at best 😞
I think that both you and the person who responded to you hyperfocus on romanticism and either aren't seeking other relationship types or aren't being mindful enough of the ones you have
"failure of a woman" doesn't make much sense. You can't fail at being a woman, you are a woman. I tend to find that the most beautiful and 'wifey' women are the ones who are happy being themselves, having quirky hobbies that set them apart, being genuinely interested in different topics and people. I think physical beauty is also a strange concept, for myself, I just want a girl who is making active steps towards a healthy lifestyle. Nobody is perfect, if we were the world would be kinda boring. Be your own healthy self! :)
I'm a guy but same also the pfp. Yuri!!!!! Unfortunately I feel men are usually more lonely. My reasoning is men are different and stay quiet about their feelings. Many times they are told to be a man dont show emotion. Due to this they (myself included) can feel isolated and cut off. Almost excluded from being allowed to express their feelings and emotions. Maybe I'm completely wrong here but I still wanted to give my 2 cents. Maybe this is why no girl has really showed interest in me. But to all the women out there that are going through a time of loneliness. I hope all goes well for you and hope these feelings can end rather quickly with a few changes in life :)
Loneliness applies to both men and women, but can manifest in different ways. Likewise we see the same with kids, adults and the elderly. Different sources and reasons apply.
I just want someone to show an interest in me.. I’m tired to be the first to write, the first to ask, the first to make a step. I wanna be appreciated too.
I used to think I was lonely until I started trying to fill the void with people. It was only after being used, abused, and taken advantage of that O realized that I wasn't lonely. Just starved for meaningful connections. Finding a man is easy. Finding a good quality man is darn near impossible. The wrong man help you quickly learn that being alone doesn't mean lonely. Some of the loneliest women I know are married. The loneliest I've ever been was married and in a relationship. Now single, I'm not lonely. Just happily alone. I'd love to find someone to share this happiness with. But, I won't sacrifice my happiness just to be lonely with a man. It's not worth it.
THANK YOU. So many people use the argument of “women have so many options” when tbh a lot of those “easy” options are worse than just being single. Im so sorry u had to go through all those toxic relationships, and i hope u can find a good man. Be picky, be selective. It may take a lot longer but it will be worth it
What I don't understand is WHY women go so far for beauty standards. Unless they're chasing the Chads (generic ultra attractive rich guys), guys generally aren't looking for girls that cake on the make up or get fillers or surgical enhancements and women that use a lot of filters and editing in their photos tend to get ghosted a lot. Heck for most normal guys, the only requirements they really have for appearance is don't be morbidly obese. Like, if you hate dealing with the beauty standards, then just... don't play the game. Honestly I find its more women doing this to each other and themselves than men doing it to them
Thank you for sharing that; it’s refreshing to hear such empathy across perspectives. Being an introvert often brings a deeper understanding of quiet struggles, and that kind of empathy is exactly what brings us closer as humans. Maybe the reunion starts with conversations like these-where we find common ground and support each other. ❤
@Psych2go my mom is having a hard time rn I'm trying to do my best I'm lucky to be 18 years old and still be around her. I'm happy not to live too far away just yet
6:00 lonely yet literally going through multiple flings... If you have had dozens of guys, why expect the next in line to put in said "effort, time and commitment" if he could be just as expendable?
this video is so stupid. Women's "loneliness" is completely voluntary, and self-inflicted. They prefer multiple flings with the few hottest guys they can reach, rather than settle with normal men, who would love them because they see normal men as beneath them. The only real issue that Western women face is their own greediness
It is interesting seeing how loneliness affects men and women differently. From what I noticed women tend to feel like they are constantly under a microscope, while men tend to feel completely invisible. Polar opposite experiences that both lead to different flavors of isolation.
I'm gonna say the same thing women said when we got told men are 8 in 10 suicides and deaths of despair, there's a male loneliness crisis, and we're 4 in 5 homeless people: HAVE YOU TRIED BEING A BETTER PERSON? MAYBE YOU WOULDN'T BE SO LONELY IF YOU WERE A BETTER PERSON.
Shhhh, it's okay. Quantified results indicating a gendered problem is only good when it's not a male issue. Obviously the woman who is having problems balancing life, work and family (the superwoman) and the ones feeling abused by the current dating market (that just isn't providing a high enough calibre of men) is clearly exactly as important as the male issue where the men have 0 friends and 0 relationships to the point where a word indicating that is the worst insult that you can be labelled with, one with both social and legal ramifications as that group is going on to 'extremism' and the women appear to be going on to 'being a cat mama'. Exactly the same .
as a man, sorry, but I don‘t get it. Isn’t going up to a guy you like and asking him out literally all you need to do to immediately fix this issue? Chances are ridiculously high the guy you’re interested in has never had someone have a crush on him and will snap at the offer, so what’s holding you back other than being shy? I don’t mean to be disrespectful, really, but I just cannot wrap my head around this.
@Meow-princesss relationships are a thing I never could attain in my life, so yes, they’re the first thing I think about when we’re talking about loneliness. Thanks for generalizing though. And this attitude is precisely why you’re lonely. You can ask out literally anyone after as much getting to know one another as you wish, but here you are acting like I suggested to approach a complete stranger while also assuming the worst in everyone you meet.
@@pinktrutle1490 It isn’t, but frankly, I think it’s safe to say finding friends is a ridiculously whole lot easier than finding love. It literally happens by default so long as you don’t actively keep to yourself throughout life.
Communication is the key. This is something that took me years to understand but also to master. We are alone and isolated because we can't communicate so we can't build bridges, close the gap and develop lasting friendships or romantic relationships. In my desperate attempt to connect with people i ended up learning languages other than my native one and the amount of people out there around the globe that feel lonely, disconnected BUT also willing to connect with others is astounding. Life is already a hard experience but it doesn't need to be an isolated and lonely experience. There is always someone out there that will be more than happy to share this experience with others, you just need to find them.
I'm a man who has only had incredibly bad female role models growing up. As such, I've had a continuous lack of trust for people based off of their gender that I want to fix. This video has helped somewhat. Thank you.
As a man, I think the reason (or at least one of the reasons) for why female loneliness is just as prevalent as male loneliness is because of how women tend to gossip about a variety of things regardless of if it’s something positive, negative or somewhere in between more often than men. As a result, it’s easy for women to push out women who disagree with them on a number of topics.
This is so true, as a man I have noticed all of these glamorous women on instagram, but I also notice that none of them look legitimately happy. They either have a sad face or that angry face. It's so sad just be real people
Due to "changes in societal expectations and traditional gender roles". Why can't you say what that actually is in reality? FEMINISM. Yes, men & women are getting lonely, but let's cut the bullshit on how we got here.
Feminism did not cause any divide it just gave human rights to women Its probably due to the extreme side that many people misuse and the video is super wrong about that one having to do completely with traditional stuff. Feminism is about giving women a choice they can easily be homemakers if they wanted to. Have a great day ahead sir 💙!
@mariagracie-c1m And it seems when given the choice, that majority of women chose not to be homemakers and wives, but chose to hook up with only certain men, then regret it and want to make a home later, but those men won't want them at that stage of their life. And they wonder why they're so lonely. Traditionalism saved our society, lets be honest, gave men a reason to provide and protect women and gave women safety and protection under male leadership, now women took the leadership role and are the breadwinners of society, men are sitting at home while they do that and the women are depressed as hell. This isn't working.
@JBerry-ec7ck Nope, I wouldn't be happy, at least. All men ever do is make me 100x more depressed, and also I'm lesbian. If I had to be forced to be with a man knowing I have no love for that individual I'd probably jump off a bridge first chance I get. It's not as simple as "haha women are all this way and men are all this way", people are shades of grey. Some women are happy having the freedom of choice, and some men are happy not having to protect a woman or whatever bullshit you're spewing. Some men would easily abuse a woman if given the chance, while some women would abuse the man. Some men are gay, other women are lesbian; it's all a mess. And forcing women not to have rights anymore isn't going to fix every problem because then there's going to be other, bigger problems and etc.
In my opinion as a young man, we should not hide feelings and put on masks to show off. Men don’t need to try to appear stoic, as true stoicism is not toughness, but acceptance. Women should not feel the need to compete or look perfect-no one is. What we see on social media is NOT the norm-that’s why it is appealing. We are social animals and crave interaction and relationships. This is not weakness. We are all just people at the end of the day, looking for companionship, be it friendships, relationships, we all just want to belong.
I'll never stop wondering what others go through! Both genders of course! Are other's psychological and emotional challenges as severe as mine? Less challenging or more challenging than mine? Will we ever be totally cured from whatever it is we're going through? It's even anxiety inducing to mention these topics! Oh boy, I hope we all get a happy ending! Last thing, you really made some valid points on this video, and gave some great advice, and provided valuable information to all! Thanks and take care!
Isn’t it ironic that this video is so helpful, yet so few of the people who need to see it would even willingly watch it? Even if they did, it can’t help the people in need to find and connect with others to help fill in that loneliness gap. I definitely agree with the intent behind this video and the message it’s supporting; unfortunately I also see the realistic side of things. Videos like this aren’t making a difference. In this world where people are so obsessed with their screens; we can’t even reach out to each other through them in a genuine manner.
As a male, I think every single woman deserves to be loved and feel appreciated just as men. We're in this loneliness epidemic together. This is a human problem, not just men or women.
Why people gotta start a war on who's the loneliest. Both genders have toxic execations, but we all can still act despite of them. We should stop blaming each other for our loneliness and act to solve it
@Jamhael1 maybe... but one can start by realising that everyone's in control of their own life, and that men accusing women and women accusing men only leads to further social gaps. Feeling frustration after bad experiences is normal, but we shouldn't let that feeling turn into generalisations
@susannaseveroni4489 easier said then done - men are avoiding relationships because women had become so INSUFFERABLE that they see any attempt of dating will never move forward, and the sheer number of advantages women had received in education, academics and work, combined with a gigantic political hobby that DEMAND that women must grow AT THE EXPENSE OF MEN by demonizing "masculinity" as some kind of pathological disease, a complete opposition to ANY program that merely hints in helping men's s*icId€ pandemic, and the fact that the situation os men's loneliness is EARLIER than women's by YEARS, only shows that a growing number of 3rd Wave Feminism activists and lobbyists are nothing more then clinically diagnosed narcisists - and I call them that because the main characteristic of narcisists in positions of power is that they DO NOT solve the main problem they promissed they would solve, but in fact they WANT the problem to exist so they can justify their permanence in a position of power.
00:27 usually it's the male problems that are completely ignored by society or the man is blamed for the problem and told to man up. Practically nobody tries to fix the core problems if it's a mens problem. usually if it's a women's problem society jumps at the chance to try to fix it. It's almost refreshing to see the reversed situation.
People only start to "care" about men's problems when they realise those problems pose a threat to them somehow. Economically, for example. Too little. Too late.
LMAO You are delusional. Be gone incel. Ya'll are just narcissistic; you don't even see the way that all of society centers you. You are the default gender.
It is always awesome to view eachother's perspectives on this matter, Since both parties feels almost the same loneliness nowadays and knowing the other side's feelings brings more better awareness to help everyone included.
I very much feel like social media is ruining society as a whole and at a very alarming rate. I'd like to see a social experiment where everyone just stops using social media for a year and see what that does, to see if we can still live normally or if we are just screwed.
Bro no offense but you watch to much redpill content. Not every women wants men who are giants and being in a relationship doesnt automatically NOT make you lonely dont go about thinking only men can be lonely. Have a great day 💙!
Honestly at the end of the day it shouldn't even be adressed as male or female but loneliness in general. We live in a bizzare world and a chaotic age. There are so many people nowadays and there are so many ways to connect and yet due to the way the human society exists as of now people seem to be lonelier than ever.
After living in Europe, I can say that it's really an American thing in particular. Because America is a car centric society with a sever lack of third-places, it's easy to end up lonely because you have to actually go out of your way to interact with people. So people give up and live online. This is much less so in many European countries. This is true especially for adults. Adults in America go to work, come home, watch TV, and then complain about being tired all of the time. Europeans have much better work life balance, and on any given Fri-Sat you will see as many 35-60 year olds out going out socializing in pubs as you do young adults.
When i feel lonely i remind myself how profoundly lonely in the last years of my previous relationship when i had a partner, and i know I need to create life for myself, being single or in a relationship doesn’t have anything to do with my loneliness.
Women are usually more social, they have more friends in average, they get a partner more easily in general, thats why we dont talk about female loneliness, because is less frequent. I understand they have their own issues, but words have a meaning, you suffer because social media generate unrealistic expectations?? Ok, but how is that related with feeling "lonely"?? Lonely is when you dont have friends or a partner, is not about feeling insecure about your body or when you feel stressed about family/job balance.
I no longer care, I put myself out their and been rejected each time ... Why should I care... Live the life as a incel and stay that way....just like me, just like many men I stopped caring.
@@veronicamangozjebka803 I don't know about all that,, or what else you would call it but I speak for myself to say I am a INFP-T personality and largely consider my time and effort others just to be taken advantage of. I care for everybody, race and both genders. It's not per-say the gender i'm blaming, it's what the person / people have become. I am surrounded by those demanding high standards... 6 digit income, 6 pack, 6+ inch, just anything better then what one has to offer with effort. Many will crave for the best of the best and leave anything less then that to dust. So be it. 38 years and going, I can live with that in peace now.... Am I upset, yeah why wouldn't I be but at least I can move on.
@@veronicamangozjebka803 I'm 21 and essentially an incel too. The word incel is just an involuntary celibate. We also know we aren't ever going to get a romantic relationship, or be loved or desired as the attractive 20% of men, so we don't care and we gave up.
@@omegabkg Of all of the women I know in relationships, literally none of them are with guys who have 6 digit income, 6 packs, 6+inch or any of the stuff you mention. There are plenty of women who like progressive men. There are plenty of women who like charisma. There are plenty of women who like nerdy guys. It's true that the hottest women are going to pair with the hottest men, whether those two groups actually make each other happiest or not. But there are plenty of average people in both genders. If you have not found a partner yet, it's not because ALL women only want Chads, and you'll have to cope with that reality. It's true that most people (men and women) originally go based of initial physical attraction, so for average looking men and women, the truth is they need to find a way to show their personality and positive traits beyond initial reactions. Here's one thing that's true though. Women work to stay light and social and positive, and men who come across angry, bitter, or misogynistic put us off, and we sense that stuff really easily. So you will have to get rid of the negativity to match with someone.
@jennifermarie3158 ...At the time of writing this I was bitter and angry obviously. I'm pretty average in weight height and appearance. I do have insecurities that range from the past and present. I try not to let that define who I am, I used to be more extrovert till I was pushed into being introvert by both mom and bullies. My biggest flaw was not being able to take initiative in asking someone out, second to that was feeling judged as that's one of my biggest fears put on me. When I do loosen up or funny enough when I'm talking to someone casually then it's like there was never a problem from the start. However the attempts I have made has somehow lined up with entitled women wanting to know my status, how much I make or own or only wanting a one night stand which I don't care for. I'm fine living as a virgin, it sucks but I value that. My kindness is often taken advantage of, of cons would been naive or gullible..I've been working on that but it leaves me bitter and less likely to trust others. I'm open minded and free flow most of the time...I don't wanna ramble on but thats some icing on the cake. I can't deny that I'm getting upset and bitter whenever I see other couples or someone buying flowers, stuff for their lover. That hurts me emotionally seeing others happy even though I'm happy for them at the same time. Sigh I'm late for work gtg.
I think it's important to note that when you say "society's high expectations of women" you really mean "other women's expectations of women" because men would rather you all just be mothers than have all these women fill all these "boss babe" roles in addition
watching this as a man just made me realize that it's the same feeling of inadequacy and hopelessness, the fear of needing to perform and the wish to be accepted without performing. It's hilarious that we all suffer from this and yet focus on BS like what gender have it harder or whatever. Just throw your phones into the bin, they didn't really serve us well. Social media is a trap that leaded us here.
This is one great video, I've always ever felt lonely even as a kid, I had a hard time connecting with others and keeping up a perfect good girl facade....but recently I've been a bit more open to others, telling them realistic things about myself and honestly I think I made more friends in a few months than I had ever made in years, thank you very much for making this video on this topic.
I have a question for the girls. There's this one girl in my class that always seems lonely. I rarely see her with any other person. She seems like a lovely person, however the girls in my class just don't go talk to her. I tried to approach her and do a little of small talk, but she just kept anwering briefly, although she smiled. So, like, should I just let her be? Am I being a jerk? Everyone else don't seem to care for her, but that doesn't seem right to me. Should I try to be friends with her? If so, how can I do it without seeming weird? Cause being alone truly sucks, no matter what gender, talking from my own experience
You can try talking about things you did in class and after that you can ask her if she wants to be your friend because you saw her being lonely and you think she's a nice person and gives you good vibes
@@yuriality5 I wouldn't justify wanting to be someone's friend in any way shape or form. "I want to be your friend" - end of. If you try to qualify that in any way other than "I like you as a person", it will always feel hollow to the other person.
She probably has been made to feel so insecure that she doubts that you actually have good intentions and want to be her friend. Maybe instead of just saying "hi" make a grander gesture like invite her to sit with you at lunch or hang out after school, and don't be too put off if she is awkward or even unfriendly/guarded at first, because she might think you are just doing it as a prank or something, since other kids can truly be awful to unpopular kids.
Personally, I think that the best way to start making friends with a socially-anxious person is to just smile and say 'Hi' to them when you see them. Some shy people get uncomfortable with big friendly gestures, especially if they don't know you yet, so I advise starting off by simply acknowledging them positively in small ways over a long period of time. Start with smiling at them and saying short sentences they don't have to answer to if they don't want to. Things like "I like your shirt" "It's hot today." "See you around" . Showing that you just see and acknowledge someone over a long period of time can make a big difference, and they might slowly become comfortable with talking more.
the girl i’m dating used to talk about her loneliness, and how she’s never been with anyone beyond flirting then instant cut off though i haven’t watched this video at all, this already gives rise for me to treat her the best i can and love her with all i have
If she is really going through it instead of putting 'male-female comparisons' just love her she really needs you heal her as much as you can just love her and heal her and make her notice how preety she is , how valuable she is , how cute she is , how smart she is and lastly how precious she is ❤❤ I know many men don't like giving but you seem to be different from them so please just be gentle with her okay 👌
It’s interesting because western society has become highly impulse-pleasure driven where nothing is good enough, but the issue goes deeper than a lack of delayed gratification.
I feel like men and women are literally fighting about whose life is generally more difficult. It makes me sad. It seems that both genders face very unfair expectations. Both deserve to be seen in their own spotlight. However, in these comments, I notice that one person cannot talk about loneliness for one gender without someone else comparing it with the other. It's like many of us are trying to be reasonable, but topics like this cannot be spoken about without hurting someone else's feelings
I really appreciate the fact that we're looking at the female perspective of loneliness a little more these days. I think it's important to highlight the fears, needs and societal stresses of both sexes, because it's all too easy to block off the mysterious opposite sex, and assume that they're either the main cause of a big part of our individual loneliness, or they have it better, or that they're not worth reasoning with, because they wouldn't ever understand what it's like. Much love to all my lonely girls, guys, and everyone in-between!!
I hope we all can overcome this epidemic. For me it’s odd that both sides are plagued by this. My perspective tells me that societal expectations are probably warped. That’s how you end up with two large pools, even though both could cover large amounts of each other in order to cancel out loneliness.
As a Man, I would say that everyone is experiencing the same mental struggles. Today's society is so broken and idealistic that you CAN'T fit into Ideal in any way... As a guy a tip for women who struggle with dating men, just be yourself (literally)... Me personally, I like women that are comfortable in their skin, I don't mind and mostly don't even notice these "InPeRfEcTiOnS", you look perfect the way you are
The sad part is that if all these lonely guys and all these lonely girls just started hanging out together instead of trying to come up with ways theyre worse off than the other online, they wouldnt be so lonely.
I felt validated. I am on a grind these past couple of years to escape an environment that I didnt want to be a part of. It is progress sure, but when I look around and see other people connecting, I just feel gloomy. I know life is not going to be the same for the next couple of years. It is a relief to know that other people are also going through the same struggles. It is going to get better, eventually.💙
Well, Just to be 100% transparent as well, you have no idea what you are talking about. If you are not a woman and do not live their experience, then you have no authority to say what their experience is.
@@DLCOrganization Genuine question. Why are you even watching this video anyway? Clearly, you don't like women or want their perspective. If it annoys you that much that women are talking about loneliness specific to them, then why not go to a video about loneliness specific to men?
@@Music-kt4si -- There is one on this very channel which makes a pretty good case. And I thank you for proving my point further with your presumptuous ad hominems. MY question is. . . why are you trolling and being disingenuous? Have you ever _TRIED_ to engage with a man on a heartfelt, empathic level? Try asking a serious question for once. You might be surprised at the result.
I have been single my entire life and I was seriously interested in 3 women across my 29 years. One at 19, one at 24, one at 26. Each time I was led on, given the “I think you’re nice but” and then the friendship was ended. Years later, the first one reached back out to me but now she had a child with someone else. What’s the point?? I’m not denying loneliness exists. I’m just saying that women need to take some stock of their actions as well.
@ I’m not sure what you mean. Either way, I’ve seen that I don’t meet some criteria that women want me to meet, and they can’t tell me what it is. I’m sorry if it came across as hostile, I just don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t want to feel like someone’s last option.
"women need to take some stock of their actions as well" why should we force ourselves to date someone we arent interested in? also 3 girls rejecting you is not much, do you expect to find a good partner in 3 girls? that is very unlike. if you want a partner who treats you good, shares same values, can communicate and other stuff that are important in relationship, it takes time to find (sadly)
@@silver_grunge9007 no one said anything about forcing yourself to be with someone you don't like. Also it's understandable to build some level of resentment if every experience you've had has been negative. It's just human. No one bats an eye when girls say that men are thrash because they had some bad experiences in the past...
What's horrifying is people are raging a war over who is more lonely, men or women. Loneliness is different for women and men, but it's a human problem we should all be invested in solving. Thanks for the video. Bringing attention to loneliness saves lives, and everyone's matters.
@ Men and women don’t have life easy. But it’s a fact women get help faster in most situations. If you think men have it easy I can explain why I disagree or you can blindly believe your right
In your opinion, are women more lonelier than men these days?
No.
Not even as a joke xD society instinctively helps women first before men
we are all humans
According to studys there is a massive men loneliness on the rise. Even many men talk about this. So men problems i think. Women lean more toward social and mantain social contacts and many men are not. 🤔
@HanaDamia-v5w And humans without male testicular parts have it better.
even tho im a male
i have noticed that sometimes ppl forget that not all women get friend/boyfriends so easily. So this is a great reminder of that, good vid
Thank you for that reminder. That's absolutely true.
As a man, I am at a point in my life where I just want to end it all because the isolation that I struggled with mostly due to my mental illness has been too much. I just want to leave already…
@@CodeDusq1 please don’t you Matter much more than you would think I know what it’s like to feel small and significant trust me your not
I'd guess somewhere from 40-60% of women easily get friends/boyfriends, meanwhile only the top 1% of men get friend/girlfriends easily.
I have no issues acknowledging that some women are lonely. I have issues acting like they are more lonely. I have issues acting like they should get disproportionate care
@@CodeDusq1I can relate. Life does suck. Although, the only thing that keeps me from doing it is the painful sensation of death. We don’t know what the afterlife is truly like. Perhaps it’s worse than the current life we’re in.
I hope one day women and men can get rid of this loneliness epidemic.
I hope everyone's doing well.
Indeed, one day the cycle will be broken
Maybe not women and men in general, but an individual man or woman can end this epidemic today by simply turning their phone off (or deleting their dating apps). Some may say this is unrealistic, but it's really not.
Easy. Women: Approach men. We guys aren't allowed to do so anymore, apparently.
and also non binary transhuman cyborg aliens ❤ you guys also deserve love ❤
@@fernandomachado1728yea bc turning off a phone magically makes all of the friends appear out of thin air who knows
all the people you’re connected with are just stuck im there theyll pop out i swear
This is a nice perspective, you usually hear online how men are lonely and women having boyfriends, don't get me wrong men are lonely but loneliness applies to all
Welcome to a world with social media and dating apps where its to difficult to find a deep connection…
Absolutely, loneliness doesn’t discriminate-it’s something anyone can feel, regardless of relationship status or gender. How do you think we can start breaking down those barriers and connect more meaningfully?
@@Psych2go Make another video about male loneliness. It will also be interesting.
Men are very competitive by nature and we expect other men to “man up” and not have this “woe is me” mentality. Instead of empathizing and giving support, they rather shame and blame them for being lonely.
@@cursedbythedevil8171them apps make you more lonely
❤ for every lonely person
that means alot tysm
thank you (: here's a ❤️ for you too!
@@هايالقناةفقطتجربة and you get a heart, (I'm on PC I have no emojis sorry)
❤ for every kind person
Back at you❤
This came at the right time as the majority of my female friends have boyfriends,husbands, partners, and I’ve never had that experience before. And I do get lonely. The older I’m getting the more lonely I’m getting and I feel like I’m always going to be by myself.
It’s completely understandable to feel that way, especially as you see friends in relationships while you’re navigating things solo. Loneliness can be really tough, but remember, your story isn’t over yet, and there’s no set timeline for finding connection. Sometimes, these seasons help us grow closer to ourselves, which can make future relationships even stronger. You’re not alone in this, and there’s always hope for the companionship you’re looking for. 💜
We forge our own path. It’s easy to see friends and family finding partners and all of that, but it’s worth asking yourself if that would really make you happy. I’d put my happiness above others expectations of me 1000%. If you’re not living for yourself, are you even alive? I’m only 22 and I’ve never had a woman in my life, and I get the typical “why haven’t you got a girlfriend yet?” From friends and family, and I don’t care. I’m happy where I’m at. Idk where you’re at, but it’s easy to feel pressured into being in a relationship and people enter relationships for many different reasons. However, at the end of the day the most important question I think you HAVE to ask yourself is, “Will this make me happy?”
Good luck to ya 👊
All i can really input is that time is not on your side. Not trying to scare you but once you hit the 40’s, thats pretty much it unless you get incredibly lucky and get a decent divorcee or a rare guy who didnt get picked up and has no overly terrible qualities. My mom is in that dating scene right now and i do not recommend it. Get out to social activities, try different hobbies that people go to. Best of luck
Same
Do you talk to strangers, children, old people? It can change your perspective.
I’ve been feeling more lonely than ever. I hope it ends soon. I’ve always been a perfectionist at heart and though it can be a strength it’s been becoming more of a weakness. I’ve been feeling like I’m in auto pilot because all of these high expectations I’ve been given since my youth; I just need a break.
It sounds like you’re carrying so much on your shoulders. Perfectionism can be exhausting, especially when it feels like it’s never enough. Taking a break could be a real gift to yourself-even a small one to recharge and just be. ❤
@@Psych2go that means a lot thank you. Your videos has given me a lot of insight and also has gotten me through some hard times. Thank you for the work you’re doing 🫂❣️
As a man I’ve been lonely my whole life, been an outcast and people never accepted me, mostly due to my mental illness. At this point, I’m ready to end my life because I honestly don’t feel I belong in this world.
I hope it gets worse.
In my experience with loneliness, it starts out with the mentality of "I'm better off alone," usually after something happens in your life. This feeling of ostracizing yourself turns into the sad realization of "nobody noticed that i left" or "Did they even notice me in the first place?" It quickly turns into a harsh reality that nobody noticed, so i must've not been important to them. It's rough to realize it at first, but it then becomes numb. You stop hanging out with more and more people that you use to. Your grades fall, your parents ask why they took a nose dive, but your only answer is "idk." The things that were originally fun or meaningful to you stop being so. In my case, i stopped working out, i focused more on binge watching shows that do give me a little joy. You start apologizing for everything, whether you did it or not, i also started smoking weed because it gave me that numb feeling of "i dont have to worry about it right now." I started to feel like i wouldn't mind just going to sleep forever. I wasn't suicidal but i wouldn't have mind if something naturally took me out. I heard the phrase "second hand suicide" and it really stuck to me. idk if i could call it depression but it's definitely something.
I wrote quite a bit, sorry about that
@@demonspawn4214you don't have to apologize here. Thank you for sharing, much of this resonated with me. ❤
I feel you - this remembers me very much of myself. It went uphill when I did what I always dreamt of when I was a kid.
The fun part here: Back then I was convinced to not even have a dream - I just did not care about anything really. But this numbness was a result of pushing down all my real emotions for decades.
I had to find back this voice inside me that I told so long to shut up, so that I can "function". I know it feels impossible for you to read about that, I remember that... but this voice is still there, somewhere, whispering in another room, with closed doors... but you can find it. And then do what this voice is telling you. Its weird. But this voice knows exactly what to do.
Funny thing is, that feeling never goes away.
Or if it does, it relapses.
32 and wondering if my 10th or 11th relapse (lost count) will be my last.
honey.. i feel you on a very deep level. i resonated with you so much.. i hope you are doing okay.. i'm going to that tough phase now as well.. do u wanna be friends??
I really don’t understand how this is a problem, men are lonely, women are lonely, neither want to be lonely so why aren’t we helping each other?
It makes some sense when male loneliness was brought up it was used as a way to critic men and not provide real solution heck some people actually claimed it was because of men's lack of emotionally vulnerability and they made it seem like it was something that wouldn't affect women as much but since that doesn't seem to be the case it's kind of odd to see that group that claimed to be better at relationship and emotional regulation have the same issues even thou those issues when allegedly stemming from inherently male behaviour
kate bush's song running up that hill touches on that. she speaks of the desire to make a deal with god to get men to swap places with women and viceversa, so we can understand each other entirely. obviously this is impossible but it's the big dilemma i believe
The truth is… everyone so consumed by their own struggles that genuine connections are becoming rare. We live in a world where relationships feel more transactional, and it’s hard to bridge that gap. People get so preoccupied with their own issues against the void that reaching out becomes a challenge.
because women hate men and men are just fucking tired.
i think we are scared
Already knew I was going to see competition in the comments. Loneliness is not a category we should be trying to one up each other in.
I agree! This is a great chance to understand both genders view on loneliness and find empathy to help one another, Not fighting against each other.
Frankly, although I would like to see both genders not have a loneliness problem, male loneliness comes almost exclusively from women while the opposite is not true. Men are the only segment of society who never receive unconditional love. So yea, I'm going to prioritize solving that one first.
@@legogenius1667 Male loneliness comes from themselves. Misogyny is rampant, and why would any woman want to be around that? Fix that problem, and maybe more women will want to be around you. All of my female friends who are dating are genuinely looking for unconditional love. Whereas most of them men I know who are dating are looking for sex first and foremost, and they won't even be upfront with women about that. Or the men think they are in it for unconditional love, but then when they have it they get "bored" or want something else. Moreover, I grew up with my Dad as my only parent, and I literally never experienced unconditional love. Never while I was growing up did I receive a hug or any loving comment. My Dad thought paying the bills meant he was parenting, and besides that we were more or less abandoned. Women are the gender most capable of GIVING unconditional love. Women give unconditional love all of the time, and mostly only get it back from other women.
Also, nobody is stopping ya'll from putting in the work to find friends. It's work/effort to make friends and socialize. It doesn't just naturally come to people as you think it might, especially as you get older. The truth is, women are socialized to put in labor to find/maintain community, and men depend on women for it instead of putting in the work themselves.
@jennifermarie3158 The statistics show that you're incorrect. Men have a normally distributed attraction, meaning men tend to think the average woman is averagely attractive, but for women the distribution is skewed such that women only see 1 in 6 men as average or above. The insanity of that last sentence should be self-evident to any rational person. Women will ignore the men that would have been willing to love them, in favor of literal criminals. The top 10% of physically attractive men get attention from all women, while the ugly guys live their whole lives without so much as a compliment or hug, except from their good male friends. The only people on Earth who have ever gone out of their way to be kind or supportive to me have been men. The girls I date or interract with treat me like garbage, and so I'm starting to think I should just spend my time with my male friends instead. But sure, we'll blame all that on misogyny lol.
Classic woman, allergic to accountability and quick to belittle.
@legogenius1667 Idk if you can do much if you depend on people you don't know. The first place might be therapy or other relations instead of romantic ones.
Male mental health gets ignored generally but for loneliness the reason why it got more attention than female loneliness was the idea that male loneliness stems from men's lack of vulnerability, no emotional support and lack of friendships which was not only used to shit on men but to give reason to why women don't feel as lonely and are living more fulfilled lives but now that it's becoming more common, people are making it sound like it's something they went out of their way to ignore and not that it's because people believed that proper emotional regulation and friendships could prevent loneliness and since women were allegedly better at it they are by default less at risk , no one is to blame , just an observation
Edit : i still feel empathy for them and its not a zero sum game we should support all but the idea that we simply overlooked it isnt really true it was due to situation
You’ve brought up an important point about how assumptions and stereotypes can shape the conversation around loneliness and mental health. Do you think these perceptions are changing, and could this shift help both men and women find the support they need?
@Psych2go they are changing and hopefully it's going to get better , I hope is fast too however it would be hard to get sympathy especially considering the fact that they were willing to use that loneliness epidemic as a medium to critic male behavior rather than just show empathy and seek solutions
@@Psych2go thaks for teaching me this so i can have a open mind for deisicion-making and empathy
People are too focused on how to connect or why they feel disconnected, but these are just fleeting emotions in a universe that ultimately doesn’t care. Everyone is or will be affected by loneliness, and the stories we tell about it just delay facing the emptiness of life. It really doesn’t matter who is more lonely, as we’re all just existing in a world that lacks real connection.
@@CodeDusq1 you are right that's why I didn't compare it in the first place , I am just against the idea that it was ignore and something taken less seriously by default but rather it was because of how people responded to the complaints of male loneliness
Timestamps
1). Why are more women feeling lonely 1:13
2). The pressure of perfection 2:39
3). The superwoman syndrome 3:24
4). Changing social norms and expectations 4:12
5). Economic and career pressure 5:18
6). The failings of modern dating 5:54
7). The comparison trap 6:36
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
It already has timestamps
People chase connections, thinking they will fill the emptiness in them, yet many find themselves isolated in a crowded world. Whether you are alone or with others, the emptiness remains, indifferent to our attempts at connection.
What's your solution to the problem?
@@RedSky8 Deplatform dating sites. All of them.
Humans are social creatures. Connection to other people is a basic human need.
@@Robert-vk7je Through real life and not through your screen when you can't even be sure if the other person is already going behind your back to text 3 other people. Social media is not genuine connection, but a poor imitation of it.
@@RedSky8 same view as op of the comment. You need to fill that void first with your own inner energy. Then add social connectedness on the top, if you lose it, you are back to 0 but not minus 100, therefore it's not that bad. We try to fill the void with peoples validation and it backfires over and over again.
As a lonely guy myself, I'm happy that men's loneliness is being discussed more, but I get tired of seeing other guys constantly act like every woman has a great social life and everything is easy. I think videos like this are good to bring attention to the fact that loneliness can be faced by everyone. I wish people (both men and women) put more effort into viewing each other as humans and supporting each other rather than arguing about who has it worse or who's fault it is all of the time.
Women have amazing lives and love is always there for them, life on easymode.
@@rimiserk8277 relativly+bias+depends+noone asked
@@rimiserk8277because of people like you live isn't easy
@@rimiserk8277also why did you click on this video? was it just to hate on women?
@@Nathan-do3we women are voluntarily lonely... Men are not...
Ngl that intro had me triggered. Like its so bad that people are only talking about male loneliness. We are just celebrating because society is FINALLY talking about it. Its so popular because men have been ignored for so long, its only thanks to the internet that we are finally able to talk about it.
Men are less likely to have support groups. That depiction of how unfullfilling dating apps are for women felt so unaware. Imagine being able to easily experience dates and hook ups. Even the opportunity to be catfished. Unless you are the top 1% of men, you will get absolutely nothing. This is backed by research data. THAT is isolation. And society villifying men, and masculinity is alienating.
There is a reason why male suicide dwarves female suicide..
In fact, the leading cause of death in men below 50...is suicide.
This comment should be pinned.
How about you take inspiration from women and you know... do something for your look to be considered more attractive, you can use some cosmetics for your face even as a men. Get a haircut, clothes, etc.
And I'm pretty sure women make families with more than just 1% of guys or you wouldn't even exist.😂
The "opportunity" to be catfished?
Not all attention is good attention, some of it can be more harmful than a lot of people realize. And not all women even receive attention just because they're women automatically.
I fealt a bit triggered as well. Then again, women being lonely does not take away from guys being lonely. I can try to understand the view point. This is a good sign that society isn't right and something needs to change.
@@infoblox5359 i mean...
Something is better then nothing.
Men in general don't get much of anyting
but women in general do get much.
Even if there are smaller grupes that doesn't get much its still in general way much then men
Damn, people are really arguing over which gender has it worse in this comments section. You know people are stupid when they try to one up each other's issues instead of trying to solve them.
I already know men hate us. That’s why they think this topic is a “competition”. I didn’t even know women had this growing issue. I’ve always been lonely for most of my youth anyway
Thats your problem you think men hate you you are creating this division not men @EtherealSolana
Sad thing is when ever someone share their problem, it turn into a competition and who is more of a victim. We can't just listen and help each other. It's always what about me.
@@EtherealSolana being lonely and having it hard is the one thing we got😂
It's because the problem started with women and the solution is in the women.
I always feel isolated as a woman, my friends, family and everyone expect higher things from me.. but at the end ,after i did my best, they just took it from me and start ignoring me :/
That sounds really tough, like you’re giving so much and not getting the same care in return. Have you found anyone who truly appreciates your efforts, or maybe even small ways to start setting some boundaries for yourself?
@@Psych2go Only my mom, but i feel like i always disappoint her, thanks for replying !
At least you have friends & family
Im pretty sure my sister feels exactly the same way. You’re not alone. Also, what do you think would help you personally so that I can help her?
all the men, ever: welcome to our "privilege", enjoy your stay. YOU wanted this.
For me, I'm on the autism spectrum and I struggle with this even though I have friends. I just don't get people and how to connect so easily. So it feels like I'm on an island alone even though I have people who love me. It just hurts. This is a good message, thank you so much ❤
For me I found that ADHD friend are amazing. I hope one day you find a circle of more autistic n adhd friends. I never thought I could. It is amazing. I totally understand how that feels.
@laurenh2464 ty ^^
Use your ADHD with your curiosity. Ask questions, be curious about other people!
Asking questions is the easiest to connect with people! You got this.
I very much appreciate the disclaimer at the beginning that loneliness is a epedemic that affects both genders.
The "us vs them" mentality that's been festering more and more in recent years i feel is a big part of why so many people feel lonely.
It's good to have a place that is willing to activily listen to both sides
Thank you🎉
@@KiallVunMyeret Loneliness is inevitable for both sides honestly. We are all gonna die alone eventually. It depends on the people and their experiences in life or the circumstances that they went through, in order to understand each other.
it didn't start in recent years though. I noticed this already starting back in 2013
@@hihosh1 It started back in the 1820's and has gotten worse, decade after decade.
Im not always alone but I feel lonely. No one gets me. No one understands me. Ive tried to be overly kind, overly nice but it got nothing but got me used, mistreated, abused and taken for granted by almost everyone. I struggle with a big mental health issue and few addictions, I just hope and pray that tomorrow will be better. I just hope to find good people, not perfect but good and positive for my mental health. Im a young woman and I have zero friends.😢😢
I feel you sister, and I am so tired. At least know you aren't alone in how you feel.❤
@@kenzienoel5439 thanks I appreciate. Hope you’re at peace rn❤️🙏🏾
You are not alone
A woman being nice?????
Sounds like bait to me!
@@Shoppingisfun245 thanks ☺️
6:12 funny how a video about female loneliness shows a woman casually rejecting dozens of potential boyfriends while crying about being lonely. That's the difference between female and male loneliness
Female loneliness - I have dozens of men irl and thousands of men online in dating apps who would love to date me, but they are not good enough for me because they are not THE Chad. I'm so lonely
Male loneliness - I have 0 potential dating candidates, 0 matches on dating apps, 0 women irl.
Skill issue😊
exactly.
Because sometimes there is only one person in the entire literal Universe you want to spend your life with, the other people may be great, but they aren't the one you love, nobody can be replaced and the person you love most is equally irreplaceable. You may have a billion different options, but no person can substitute the person you love most, and if you can't find them, regardless of how many other people are out there, you're going to feel that loneliness in the deepest part of your very being.
@@r-giireactions2235 Well, in that case this female loneliness epidemic is a self-made problem then, isn't it. If women want a specific type of fairytale knight to sweep them off their feet and choose to reject "lesser" candidates, that's on them. Not every woman can have that top 1% high value man. I'm pretty sure men will on average "settle" (bad word here but I hope you know what I mean) for much less than women will. That's why many men get rejected - in the eyes of women they're simply not "good enough". This leads to men being lonely and women too, since most women aren't "good enough" either in the eyes of high value men. It doesn't help that women perceive average looking men as looking very much below average (there have even been studies conducted on that topic). Edit: Which is not something that women are at fault, btw. It's simply something that's encoded in their way of thinking and perceiving men.
@@r-giireactions2235 But then it isn't an issue via absence, it is an issue because you are being picky. Sadly, that can only be pointed at them.
Woman: I'm lonely.
*tons of support appears out of thin air*
Man: I'm lonely.
*not even crikets start to chirping*
not every woman receives support
and truth be told many of thd males who are lonely surround themselves with males who are not receptive to their issues
Try searching for Discord servers for lonely men... None. And NONE for MGTOW. Men's support is non-existent. Only over last few years has it been getting just a little attention on UA-cam.
@@Pentazoid111 I promise. All girls and women have support easily accessible, even if a handful don't get it without effort, the access is easy. Men don't.
@@Pentazoid111 Society in general isn't receptive to many people's issues. People are expected to be a certain way, to look a certain way, to act a certain way, to accomplish certain things, to believe certain things, etc. If you're not living the "right" way, a large portion of humanity sees you as lesser.
Thanks for this video! I'm older, in my 60's, and it's always been difficult for men and women to find someone that will take the time and effort to learn about one another and come to really care for one another. There is so much pressure to get to the next level of the relationship, and it's all about getting married, having a family, and moving on. I didn't want to move that fast, wanting to be friends first and maybe something else will grow. But that has meant that I never found anyone. That has taught me, though, that not being in a relationship is much less painful than being in a bad one. These days, it's horrific, what young people are going through, with unbelievable pressure to be perfect all the time. It's invading their every waking hour. As bad as it was for me, it's a 1000x worse now. This has to stop. Thank you for illustrating that so beautifully! We need to slow down and live at a human pace, which isn't light speed, but the experience can be so much richer.
Man here. This is a great thing to think about. The rise of male loneliness being popularized these days could make women feel like they don't have enough recognition for their own struggles on social media. Male suicide rates are higher, but I recently learned that women are more often diagnosed with mental health problems. I believe that everyone deserves love, so this new, less recognized perspective is probably a good thing to look into. Thanks for the awareness.
Women are more likely to seek help thats why women are getting diagnosed more
@@madarah8533 was just about to say this, there's still shame around men seeking help it's so sad
I would need to find the study and survey, while male suicide rates are indeed higher this is also due to them being more successful and thus reported; within the same demographics (I believe is was something like 18 - 35 year olds in the U.S.), women actually attempt suicide at a higher rate than their male counterparts however they fail to follow through more often and in turn give themselves more opportunities to seek help in whatever form they need it in.
Regardless recognition for the struggles everyone faces needs to be recognized, understood with empathy and remedied in the best way possible.
Women's mental problems are often caused by "their romantic life"
All because they can't hold Chad and Tyrone
Thanks for being one of the few people who'd actually stand up for others instead of arguing about who has it worse
I feel very validated by this video, so thank you very much! I'm a woman, I'm 29 and yes, I feel very lonely. I'm trying to make friends who I can really connect with and create meaningful relationships, but it's not that easy.
Join a club or activity, like Brazilian Jiujitsu.
@gamegamer9523 I'm studying psychology and trying to make good friends. It's working! Today at class I talked to people I didn't talk that much yet and it was amazing! It's awesome when you find people that like to talk about the same subjects as you! Thank you for your advice!
I’m so glad the video resonated with you! Building meaningful friendships can feel like such a challenge, especially as we get older and life pulls us in different directions. Have you found any activities or spaces that make it easier to meet people who share your values and interests?
@@Psych2go thank you so much for answering me guys!!! ❤️✨ I into college for psychology and I'm making a lot of important connections! I knew that I would find like-minded people in there and it's bringing me so much joy to find people that are interested in the same subjects as me! I was feeling lonely yesterday and then I had a psychology class and then I talked to people I never talked to before, like it was an answer from the universe that I'm not that alone and that finding new friends is possible!!! 🥰❤️✨
Stop romanticizing relationships - real life is not a soap opera.
As an ugly woman with autism, it is absolutely a problem. I've been lonely my whole life, even made fun of for it over my looks. Thank you for this video because not every woman has a lot of friends or even a BF.
Thank you. This isn't a war between genders. I've been ridiculed all my life for having acne, had no boyfriend and no friends, yet boys on the internet tell me to quit complaining because "at least I'm a female". Why can't we support each other? The world is a mess as it is already.
REAL!!
everyone has acne. we can't support each other because women pushed men through the cracks and need to be the ones to extend the hand. I already made a whole paragraph why, but its easy to overlook your advantages. The only reason anyone cares about the male loneliness epidemic is because its making men check out of society and so aren't producing and consuming. Its also blamed on men for any random reason like listening to rap or playing video games, among other "reasons". Sure its shallow but you are seen as valuable regardless like an art piece where men are machines who lose purpose on breaking down. That's why there's a compliment gap, women will just get compliments, sure on shallow things but a man remembers those like treasures where the only compliments I've gotten in the last 10 years were dependent on how well I did something. You need to be a soft place for men if you want to change these things. Honestly just start humanizing us again.
@@drewlevy9557 One remembers compliments until one realises they're just as hollow and meaningless as everything else people say when they're trying to get something out of you. Most of the time they either come from a person being extra-nice, or they're a polite way of saying "Back to work, slave!".
Wow, you have real problems lol
Two people around 26 years old I know have cancer and I was homeless for a while.
Quit crying
@@drewlevy9557 How does 'women extending a hand' will fix the issue when it's mostly filthy rich men that get the most profit out of a society that treats 'men as machines who lose purpose on breaking down'? Divide and conquer is the name of the game and it's not women that are going to save you guys from it. It's not women profiting out of your suffering, my guy.
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
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Conclusion: We're all lonely
Damn
To some extent. It's not like when you feel extremely paranoid, suspicious, hurt, crying alone, yearning for attention or even getting negative comments even through the own disobedient mind.
yes but men have it worse
@@olivet7499 why the hell is that relevant?
@@hubeb69 because we need to pay attention to the real problem and not to the ones pretend for attention seeking.
Yeah, but imagine a lot of lonely people together. They are lonely no longer, time to make a difference and quit social media
We're all lonely, divided, and seeking connection we are actively pushing away.
As a woman I feel lonely just seeing the way someone who called a friends treat me differently to their other friends. Despite saying they see me as a better friend
true
I relate to this deeply. Its painful.
is it because they see a potential relationship or because they feel they have to walk on ice around you?
@@drewlevy9557 apparently it's because they see a possible relationship
@@CharlieHeeson your partner is supposed to be one of your better friends. Its more genuine then going for someone on first glance. If they actively looked to know more about you then there’s no harm in it and just set expectations. At that point its on them to accept them or move on. Just be honest
As a female… Thank you for making this video. I’ve always tried to be an uplifting presence to my male friends and family members. I try my best to let them know i understand because I do… i’ve heard some comments like “No you don’t, it’s different.” When in reality, loneliness is the same. Shout out to all the lonely people. We may feel lonely but here we are. Together in the comments and watching this video.
The whole point of this statement was recognition of men and women who go through loneliness. It intended for uplifting others.
It's not the same
That's the problem
we assume we are equal mentally when the true might differ a lot from reality.
For example
When women feel alone it is a feeling that people who are in their life make it feel
But when men say they are alone (unattractive and normal looking ones) it is true. A feeling that the lack of people or negative vides provoke them.
It sucks, I'm a lonely fella. Truthfully I'm just too busy to actually find love. And it's funny too, I mean hell, I want a relationship, but a part of me is also afraid of it. Maybe it's a fear off being vulnerable, I don't know. Point being, lots feel this way, and though it's rough I'm sure folk like us will be well at the end so long as we can do our best to keep our heads up.
@@socramzetroc1535women can have no friends or loved ones too!!!
I have no actual friends and everyone around me seems to think im just a nuisance!!!
Can i count as lonely now or will u make up another reason for women to be disqualified from being sad
@@timetraveler7well hey ur bein vulnerable for even saying that so im proud of ya
I’m a male but I’m still so lonely and have no irl friends and no one to love me 😢
I love hearing the voice of this narrator❤❤. It's so calming
Asmr ahh voice
Thanks for acknowledging female loneliness. I never feel like I’m good enough to have any kind of relationship to even try. There’s way too much pressure to be perfect in all respects and I feel like a failure of a woman just because I’m not attractive and that no one will ever truly love me, only settle for me at best 😞
pretty much described majority of men
@ Yes, I know. I think social media, politics, influencers and p@rn have poisoned our expectations for ourselves and each other.
I think that both you and the person who responded to you hyperfocus on romanticism and either aren't seeking other relationship types or aren't being mindful enough of the ones you have
"failure of a woman" doesn't make much sense. You can't fail at being a woman, you are a woman. I tend to find that the most beautiful and 'wifey' women are the ones who are happy being themselves, having quirky hobbies that set them apart, being genuinely interested in different topics and people. I think physical beauty is also a strange concept, for myself, I just want a girl who is making active steps towards a healthy lifestyle. Nobody is perfect, if we were the world would be kinda boring. Be your own healthy self! :)
The only way were going to do this is if we work together. Youre not a failure.
This video was perfectly timed, and made me feel like I wasn’t alone in feeling lonely.
I truly love this channel. Thank you.
We’re so glad it reached you at the right time. You’re definitely not alone, and we’re here with you. ❤
Hiiiii😊
I'm a guy but same also the pfp. Yuri!!!!! Unfortunately I feel men are usually more lonely. My reasoning is men are different and stay quiet about their feelings. Many times they are told to be a man dont show emotion. Due to this they (myself included) can feel isolated and cut off. Almost excluded from being allowed to express their feelings and emotions. Maybe I'm completely wrong here but I still wanted to give my 2 cents. Maybe this is why no girl has really showed interest in me. But to all the women out there that are going through a time of loneliness. I hope all goes well for you and hope these feelings can end rather quickly with a few changes in life :)
I'm so glad the Psych2go channel exists
Loneliness applies to both men and women, but can manifest in different ways. Likewise we see the same with kids, adults and the elderly. Different sources and reasons apply.
I just want someone to show an interest in me.. I’m tired to be the first to write, the first to ask, the first to make a step. I wanna be appreciated too.
I used to think I was lonely until I started trying to fill the void with people. It was only after being used, abused, and taken advantage of that O realized that I wasn't lonely. Just starved for meaningful connections. Finding a man is easy. Finding a good quality man is darn near impossible. The wrong man help you quickly learn that being alone doesn't mean lonely. Some of the loneliest women I know are married. The loneliest I've ever been was married and in a relationship. Now single, I'm not lonely. Just happily alone. I'd love to find someone to share this happiness with. But, I won't sacrifice my happiness just to be lonely with a man. It's not worth it.
THANK YOU. So many people use the argument of “women have so many options” when tbh a lot of those “easy” options are worse than just being single.
Im so sorry u had to go through all those toxic relationships, and i hope u can find a good man. Be picky, be selective. It may take a lot longer but it will be worth it
I relate ❤ Thank you
Preach
There we go again broadly slighting men. Keep being happily alone because you'll just make others feel that way with you.
@drewlevy9557 Respectfully, that is rude and uncalled for
What I don't understand is WHY women go so far for beauty standards. Unless they're chasing the Chads (generic ultra attractive rich guys), guys generally aren't looking for girls that cake on the make up or get fillers or surgical enhancements and women that use a lot of filters and editing in their photos tend to get ghosted a lot. Heck for most normal guys, the only requirements they really have for appearance is don't be morbidly obese. Like, if you hate dealing with the beauty standards, then just... don't play the game. Honestly I find its more women doing this to each other and themselves than men doing it to them
It's projection. Women only want the best of the best, therefore they think men do as well so they cake themselves up with makeup.
There nothing women hates more than being with an average man.
Because pretty much all modern women are chasing Chad. Just a fact, I don't make the rules.
Literally why else would they be doing it then?? Are you saying that half of the population is stupid or delusional?
As a man myself I am an introvert I feel empathy for both gender How we will be reunited ❤❤
Thank you for sharing that; it’s refreshing to hear such empathy across perspectives. Being an introvert often brings a deeper understanding of quiet struggles, and that kind of empathy is exactly what brings us closer as humans. Maybe the reunion starts with conversations like these-where we find common ground and support each other. ❤
Hey fellow introvert
@neofulcrum5013 Hi
Take care of people around you ❤️
It’s true, a little care can make a big difference. Who’s someone in your life that might need a little extra support today? ❤
@Psych2go my mom is having a hard time rn I'm trying to do my best I'm lucky to be 18 years old and still be around her. I'm happy not to live too far away just yet
@@3040KyloRen It’s clear she’s lucky to have you there for her. Hang in there, and don’t forget to take care of yourself too. ❤
I feel for everyone who is lonely - regardless of gender.
6:00 lonely yet literally going through multiple flings... If you have had dozens of guys, why expect the next in line to put in said "effort, time and commitment" if he could be just as expendable?
this video is so stupid. Women's "loneliness" is completely voluntary, and self-inflicted. They prefer multiple flings with the few hottest guys they can reach, rather than settle with normal men, who would love them because they see normal men as beneath them.
The only real issue that Western women face is their own greediness
It is interesting seeing how loneliness affects men and women differently. From what I noticed women tend to feel like they are constantly under a microscope, while men tend to feel completely invisible. Polar opposite experiences that both lead to different flavors of isolation.
Women dont experience loneliness in their lives.
Different flavors of isolation? I want the passion fruit flavor.
I feel bad for every person dealing with these issues
I feel bad for people getting hate just for speaking out
@@TNTz1ooChannel Oh man
The timing is crazyyyy😭
it's not, people will always struggle, no matter the time
The difference is that women can get chad while men who are born under 6ft might as well be 6ft underground.
Nah you've been talking to the wrong women then, not everyone is super obsessed with height and if they are you've dodged a bullet
@@nokimet7398 cuckold.
I'm gonna say the same thing women said when we got told men are 8 in 10 suicides and deaths of despair, there's a male loneliness crisis, and we're 4 in 5 homeless people: HAVE YOU TRIED BEING A BETTER PERSON? MAYBE YOU WOULDN'T BE SO LONELY IF YOU WERE A BETTER PERSON.
Shhhh, it's okay. Quantified results indicating a gendered problem is only good when it's not a male issue. Obviously the woman who is having problems balancing life, work and family (the superwoman) and the ones feeling abused by the current dating market (that just isn't providing a high enough calibre of men) is clearly exactly as important as the male issue where the men have 0 friends and 0 relationships to the point where a word indicating that is the worst insult that you can be labelled with, one with both social and legal ramifications as that group is going on to 'extremism' and the women appear to be going on to 'being a cat mama'. Exactly the same .
I’m glad you covered this topic!
Welcome to the party ladies. These male/female loneliness videos are actually kind of helpful cus it lets us know that we can find each other, right?
No, I prefer being alone over you. I actually prefer another woman over you. Nobody is entitled to affection.
as a man, sorry, but I don‘t get it. Isn’t going up to a guy you like and asking him out literally all you need to do to immediately fix this issue? Chances are ridiculously high the guy you’re interested in has never had someone have a crush on him and will snap at the offer, so what’s holding you back other than being shy? I don’t mean to be disrespectful, really, but I just cannot wrap my head around this.
I have no friends and I'm a woman. How is this a solution to my problem?
@Meow-princesss relationships are a thing I never could attain in my life, so yes, they’re the first thing I think about when we’re talking about loneliness. Thanks for generalizing though. And this attitude is precisely why you’re lonely. You can ask out literally anyone after as much getting to know one another as you wish, but here you are acting like I suggested to approach a complete stranger while also assuming the worst in everyone you meet.
@@Coffee-espresso1606 "Male privilege" and gender quotas are main stream terms and guide lines, so idk wtf you’re talking about here
@@pinktrutle1490 It isn’t, but frankly, I think it’s safe to say finding friends is a ridiculously whole lot easier than finding love. It literally happens by default so long as you don’t actively keep to yourself throughout life.
NO such thing as single or a lonely woman.
Says only not woman
Prove it bro
@@infoblox5359 Make a female profile on dating apps
Even though Im a male, I think the issue of loneliness is equally severe for both sides
Communication is the key. This is something that took me years to understand but also to master. We are alone and isolated because we can't communicate so we can't build bridges, close the gap and develop lasting friendships or romantic relationships.
In my desperate attempt to connect with people i ended up learning languages other than my native one and the amount of people out there around the globe that feel lonely, disconnected BUT also willing to connect with others is astounding.
Life is already a hard experience but it doesn't need to be an isolated and lonely experience. There is always someone out there that will be more than happy to share this experience with others, you just need to find them.
Thanks for the matching disclaimers on male and female loneliness.
I'm a man who has only had incredibly bad female role models growing up. As such, I've had a continuous lack of trust for people based off of their gender that I want to fix. This video has helped somewhat. Thank you.
this video literally came in the perfect moment in my life, love you
If your thumbnail is actually you, you have no excuses.
Women like you have a choice to be lonely. Most men don't.
As a man, I think the reason (or at least one of the reasons) for why female loneliness is just as prevalent as male loneliness is because of how women tend to gossip about a variety of things regardless of if it’s something positive, negative or somewhere in between more often than men. As a result, it’s easy for women to push out women who disagree with them on a number of topics.
i have noticed that sometimes ppl forget that not all women get friend/boyfriends so easily. So this is a great reminder of that, good vid
This is so true, as a man I have noticed all of these glamorous women on instagram, but I also notice that none of them look legitimately happy. They either have a sad face or that angry face. It's so sad just be real people
Due to "changes in societal expectations and traditional gender roles".
Why can't you say what that actually is in reality?
FEMINISM.
Yes, men & women are getting lonely, but let's cut the bullshit on how we got here.
Feminism did not cause any divide it just gave human rights to women Its probably due to the extreme side that many people misuse and the video is super wrong about that one having to do completely with traditional stuff. Feminism is about giving women a choice they can easily be homemakers if they wanted to. Have a great day ahead sir 💙!
@mariagracie-c1m And it seems when given the choice, that majority of women chose not to be homemakers and wives, but chose to hook up with only certain men, then regret it and want to make a home later, but those men won't want them at that stage of their life. And they wonder why they're so lonely. Traditionalism saved our society, lets be honest, gave men a reason to provide and protect women and gave women safety and protection under male leadership, now women took the leadership role and are the breadwinners of society, men are sitting at home while they do that and the women are depressed as hell. This isn't working.
@JBerry-ec7ck
Nope, I wouldn't be happy, at least. All men ever do is make me 100x more depressed, and also I'm lesbian. If I had to be forced to be with a man knowing I have no love for that individual I'd probably jump off a bridge first chance I get. It's not as simple as "haha women are all this way and men are all this way", people are shades of grey. Some women are happy having the freedom of choice, and some men are happy not having to protect a woman or whatever bullshit you're spewing. Some men would easily abuse a woman if given the chance, while some women would abuse the man. Some men are gay, other women are lesbian; it's all a mess. And forcing women not to have rights anymore isn't going to fix every problem because then there's going to be other, bigger problems and etc.
In my opinion as a young man, we should not hide feelings and put on masks to show off. Men don’t need to try to appear stoic, as true stoicism is not toughness, but acceptance. Women should not feel the need to compete or look perfect-no one is. What we see on social media is NOT the norm-that’s why it is appealing. We are social animals and crave interaction and relationships. This is not weakness. We are all just people at the end of the day, looking for companionship, be it friendships, relationships, we all just want to belong.
I'll never stop wondering what others go through! Both genders of course! Are other's psychological and emotional challenges as severe as mine? Less challenging or more challenging than mine? Will we ever be totally cured from whatever it is we're going through? It's even anxiety inducing to mention these topics! Oh boy, I hope we all get a happy ending!
Last thing, you really made some valid points on this video, and gave some great advice, and provided valuable information to all! Thanks and take care!
Isn’t it ironic that this video is so helpful, yet so few of the people who need to see it would even willingly watch it? Even if they did, it can’t help the people in need to find and connect with others to help fill in that loneliness gap. I definitely agree with the intent behind this video and the message it’s supporting; unfortunately I also see the realistic side of things. Videos like this aren’t making a difference. In this world where people are so obsessed with their screens; we can’t even reach out to each other through them in a genuine manner.
Nice work with the disclaimer, a little sad that you need one these days.. don't want cancel culture to get you!
Cancel away. I'm used to it. 😢
As a male, I think every single woman deserves to be loved and feel appreciated just as men. We're in this loneliness epidemic together. This is a human problem, not just men or women.
Its so funny not a single person writed down the same comment on male one 😊
@Efeoyunda31so that they get attacked?
@@yhiontop i dont remember
Why people gotta start a war on who's the loneliest. Both genders have toxic execations, but we all can still act despite of them. We should stop blaming each other for our loneliness and act to solve it
Easier said then done...
@Jamhael1 maybe... but one can start by realising that everyone's in control of their own life, and that men accusing women and women accusing men only leads to further social gaps. Feeling frustration after bad experiences is normal, but we shouldn't let that feeling turn into generalisations
@susannaseveroni4489 easier said then done - men are avoiding relationships because women had become so INSUFFERABLE that they see any attempt of dating will never move forward, and the sheer number of advantages women had received in education, academics and work, combined with a gigantic political hobby that DEMAND that women must grow AT THE EXPENSE OF MEN by demonizing "masculinity" as some kind of pathological disease, a complete opposition to ANY program that merely hints in helping men's s*icId€ pandemic, and the fact that the situation os men's loneliness is EARLIER than women's by YEARS, only shows that a growing number of 3rd Wave Feminism activists and lobbyists are nothing more then clinically diagnosed narcisists - and I call them that because the main characteristic of narcisists in positions of power is that they DO NOT solve the main problem they promissed they would solve, but in fact they WANT the problem to exist so they can justify their permanence in a position of power.
00:27 usually it's the male problems that are completely ignored by society or the man is blamed for the problem and told to man up. Practically nobody tries to fix the core problems if it's a mens problem. usually if it's a women's problem society jumps at the chance to try to fix it. It's almost refreshing to see the reversed situation.
People only start to "care" about men's problems when they realise those problems pose a threat to them somehow. Economically, for example.
Too little. Too late.
LMAO You are delusional. Be gone incel. Ya'll are just narcissistic; you don't even see the way that all of society centers you. You are the default gender.
It is always awesome to view eachother's perspectives on this matter, Since both parties feels almost the same loneliness nowadays and knowing the other side's feelings brings more better awareness to help everyone included.
I very much feel like social media is ruining society as a whole and at a very alarming rate. I'd like to see a social experiment where everyone just stops using social media for a year and see what that does, to see if we can still live normally or if we are just screwed.
Oh no! Women can’t get their desirable 6 foot, 6 figure income, 6 pack man! What is going on guys?! >:(
Bro no offense but you watch to much redpill content. Not every women wants men who are giants and being in a relationship doesnt automatically NOT make you lonely dont go about thinking only men can be lonely. Have a great day 💙!
@mariagracie-c1mit’s the black pill dimwit
Delusional
Umm yes they do. It’s literally the hardest thing to be alone as a woman. They do it to themselves
Honestly at the end of the day it shouldn't even be adressed as male or female but loneliness in general. We live in a bizzare world and a chaotic age. There are so many people nowadays and there are so many ways to connect and yet due to the way the human society exists as of now people seem to be lonelier than ever.
After living in Europe, I can say that it's really an American thing in particular. Because America is a car centric society with a sever lack of third-places, it's easy to end up lonely because you have to actually go out of your way to interact with people. So people give up and live online. This is much less so in many European countries. This is true especially for adults. Adults in America go to work, come home, watch TV, and then complain about being tired all of the time. Europeans have much better work life balance, and on any given Fri-Sat you will see as many 35-60 year olds out going out socializing in pubs as you do young adults.
idk maybe because i have no friends, am an introvert, am shy, have a fear of people, and have social anxiety
When i feel lonely i remind myself how profoundly lonely in the last years of my previous relationship when i had a partner, and i know I need to create life for myself, being single or in a relationship doesn’t have anything to do with my loneliness.
Thank you so much
It means a lot to me
I feel so much alone it's like the world is fleeting and I'm standing still
Glad to see it's not only me ❤❤❤
Women are usually more social, they have more friends in average, they get a partner more easily in general, thats why we dont talk about female loneliness, because is less frequent. I understand they have their own issues, but words have a meaning, you suffer because social media generate unrealistic expectations?? Ok, but how is that related with feeling "lonely"?? Lonely is when you dont have friends or a partner, is not about feeling insecure about your body or when you feel stressed about family/job balance.
I no longer care, I put myself out their and been rejected each time ... Why should I care... Live the life as a incel and stay that way....just like me, just like many men I stopped caring.
Incel isn't someone who doesn't care. It's someone who has no respect and basic decency for others, mainly for women.
@@veronicamangozjebka803 I don't know about all that,, or what else you would call it but I speak for myself to say I am a INFP-T personality and largely consider my time and effort others just to be taken advantage of. I care for everybody, race and both genders. It's not per-say the gender i'm blaming, it's what the person / people have become. I am surrounded by those demanding high standards... 6 digit income, 6 pack, 6+ inch, just anything better then what one has to offer with effort. Many will crave for the best of the best and leave anything less then that to dust. So be it. 38 years and going, I can live with that in peace now.... Am I upset, yeah why wouldn't I be but at least I can move on.
@@veronicamangozjebka803 I'm 21 and essentially an incel too. The word incel is just an involuntary celibate. We also know we aren't ever going to get a romantic relationship, or be loved or desired as the attractive 20% of men, so we don't care and we gave up.
@@omegabkg Of all of the women I know in relationships, literally none of them are with guys who have 6 digit income, 6 packs, 6+inch or any of the stuff you mention. There are plenty of women who like progressive men. There are plenty of women who like charisma. There are plenty of women who like nerdy guys. It's true that the hottest women are going to pair with the hottest men, whether those two groups actually make each other happiest or not. But there are plenty of average people in both genders. If you have not found a partner yet, it's not because ALL women only want Chads, and you'll have to cope with that reality. It's true that most people (men and women) originally go based of initial physical attraction, so for average looking men and women, the truth is they need to find a way to show their personality and positive traits beyond initial reactions.
Here's one thing that's true though. Women work to stay light and social and positive, and men who come across angry, bitter, or misogynistic put us off, and we sense that stuff really easily. So you will have to get rid of the negativity to match with someone.
@jennifermarie3158 ...At the time of writing this I was bitter and angry obviously. I'm pretty average in weight height and appearance. I do have insecurities that range from the past and present. I try not to let that define who I am, I used to be more extrovert till I was pushed into being introvert by both mom and bullies. My biggest flaw was not being able to take initiative in asking someone out, second to that was feeling judged as that's one of my biggest fears put on me. When I do loosen up or funny enough when I'm talking to someone casually then it's like there was never a problem from the start. However the attempts I have made has somehow lined up with entitled women wanting to know my status, how much I make or own or only wanting a one night stand which I don't care for. I'm fine living as a virgin, it sucks but I value that. My kindness is often taken advantage of, of cons would been naive or gullible..I've been working on that but it leaves me bitter and less likely to trust others. I'm open minded and free flow most of the time...I don't wanna ramble on but thats some icing on the cake. I can't deny that I'm getting upset and bitter whenever I see other couples or someone buying flowers, stuff for their lover. That hurts me emotionally seeing others happy even though I'm happy for them at the same time. Sigh I'm late for work gtg.
I think it's important to note that when you say "society's high expectations of women" you really mean "other women's expectations of women" because men would rather you all just be mothers than have all these women fill all these "boss babe" roles in addition
They won't talk about this, but it's the truth. Women were happier when they were fulfilling the natural role that only they can perform.
watching this as a man just made me realize that it's the same feeling of inadequacy and hopelessness, the fear of needing to perform and the wish to be accepted without performing. It's hilarious that we all suffer from this and yet focus on BS like what gender have it harder or whatever. Just throw your phones into the bin, they didn't really serve us well. Social media is a trap that leaded us here.
Fax but men still have it harder dating
This is one great video, I've always ever felt lonely even as a kid, I had a hard time connecting with others and keeping up a perfect good girl facade....but recently I've been a bit more open to others, telling them realistic things about myself and honestly I think I made more friends in a few months than I had ever made in years, thank you very much for making this video on this topic.
literally thank you for uploading this
So glad it reached you-thank you for watching! ❤
I have a question for the girls. There's this one girl in my class that always seems lonely. I rarely see her with any other person. She seems like a lovely person, however the girls in my class just don't go talk to her. I tried to approach her and do a little of small talk, but she just kept anwering briefly, although she smiled. So, like, should I just let her be? Am I being a jerk? Everyone else don't seem to care for her, but that doesn't seem right to me. Should I try to be friends with her? If so, how can I do it without seeming weird? Cause being alone truly sucks, no matter what gender, talking from my own experience
You can try talking about things you did in class and after that you can ask her if she wants to be your friend because you saw her being lonely and you think she's a nice person and gives you good vibes
@@yuriality5 I wouldn't justify wanting to be someone's friend in any way shape or form. "I want to be your friend" - end of.
If you try to qualify that in any way other than "I like you as a person", it will always feel hollow to the other person.
She probably has been made to feel so insecure that she doubts that you actually have good intentions and want to be her friend. Maybe instead of just saying "hi" make a grander gesture like invite her to sit with you at lunch or hang out after school, and don't be too put off if she is awkward or even unfriendly/guarded at first, because she might think you are just doing it as a prank or something, since other kids can truly be awful to unpopular kids.
Personally, I think that the best way to start making friends with a socially-anxious person is to just smile and say 'Hi' to them when you see them. Some shy people get uncomfortable with big friendly gestures, especially if they don't know you yet, so I advise starting off by simply acknowledging them positively in small ways over a long period of time. Start with smiling at them and saying short sentences they don't have to answer to if they don't want to. Things like "I like your shirt" "It's hot today." "See you around" . Showing that you just see and acknowledge someone over a long period of time can make a big difference, and they might slowly become comfortable with talking more.
the girl i’m dating used to talk about her loneliness, and how she’s never been with anyone beyond flirting then instant cut off
though i haven’t watched this video at all, this already gives rise for me to treat her the best i can and love her with all i have
If she is really going through it instead of putting 'male-female comparisons' just love her she really needs you heal her as much as you can just love her and heal her and make her notice how preety she is , how valuable she is , how cute she is , how smart she is and lastly how precious she is ❤❤ I know many men don't like giving but you seem to be different from them so please just be gentle with her okay 👌
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@@myraarora4809 alr working on that, she lives nearby, so i surprised her with my presence (and my dog)
i’ll give my all for her
It’s interesting because western society has become highly impulse-pleasure driven where nothing is good enough, but the issue goes deeper than a lack of delayed gratification.
I have never felt more understood by a video ❤ Thank you so much!
I feel like men and women are literally fighting about whose life is generally more difficult. It makes me sad. It seems that both genders face very unfair expectations. Both deserve to be seen in their own spotlight. However, in these comments, I notice that one person cannot talk about loneliness for one gender without someone else comparing it with the other. It's like many of us are trying to be reasonable, but topics like this cannot be spoken about without hurting someone else's feelings
I really appreciate the fact that we're looking at the female perspective of loneliness a little more these days. I think it's important to highlight the fears, needs and societal stresses of both sexes, because it's all too easy to block off the mysterious opposite sex, and assume that they're either the main cause of a big part of our individual loneliness, or they have it better, or that they're not worth reasoning with, because they wouldn't ever understand what it's like.
Much love to all my lonely girls, guys, and everyone in-between!!
Reason #1 “The pressure of perfection” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I hope we all can overcome this epidemic. For me it’s odd that both sides are plagued by this. My perspective tells me that societal expectations are probably warped. That’s how you end up with two large pools, even though both could cover large amounts of each other in order to cancel out loneliness.
I’m lonely.
I hope we all find people we can feel comfortable with
As a Man, I would say that everyone is experiencing the same mental struggles.
Today's society is so broken and idealistic that you CAN'T fit into Ideal in any way...
As a guy a tip for women who struggle with dating men, just be yourself (literally)...
Me personally, I like women that are comfortable in their skin, I don't mind and mostly don't even notice these "InPeRfEcTiOnS", you look perfect the way you are
Honestly wow efect because you are like REALLY first creator talking about this topic in my social bubble. Big yes for that
And thank you
Shoeonhead about a year ago
As a female whos never really been in a relationship with any guy, i hope all of us overcome our loneliness soon❤
I'm hopeful that if enough people come together and talk about loneliness like this the problem will take care of itself 😅
The sad part is that if all these lonely guys and all these lonely girls just started hanging out together instead of trying to come up with ways theyre worse off than the other online, they wouldnt be so lonely.
I felt validated. I am on a grind these past couple of years to escape an environment that I didnt want to be a part of. It is progress sure, but when I look around and see other people connecting, I just feel gloomy.
I know life is not going to be the same for the next couple of years. It is a relief to know that other people are also going through the same struggles.
It is going to get better, eventually.💙
Just to be 100% transparent,
the average female will NEVER know what it's like to be _lonely._ Like. . . _NEVER!_
Well, Just to be 100% transparent as well, you have no idea what you are talking about. If you are not a woman and do not live their experience, then you have no authority to say what their experience is.
So you're acknowledging that SOME women do know what's it’s like to be truly lonely. Got it.
@@Music-kt4si -- Whatever makes you feel better about yourself.
@@DLCOrganization Genuine question. Why are you even watching this video anyway? Clearly, you don't like women or want their perspective. If it annoys you that much that women are talking about loneliness specific to them, then why not go to a video about loneliness specific to men?
@@Music-kt4si -- There is one on this very channel which makes a pretty good case.
And I thank you for proving my point further with your presumptuous ad hominems.
MY question is. . . why are you trolling and being disingenuous?
Have you ever _TRIED_ to engage with a man on a heartfelt, empathic level?
Try asking a serious question for once. You might be surprised at the result.
Love the animations guys, great work 👍
I have been single my entire life and I was seriously interested in 3 women across my 29 years. One at 19, one at 24, one at 26. Each time I was led on, given the “I think you’re nice but” and then the friendship was ended. Years later, the first one reached back out to me but now she had a child with someone else. What’s the point?? I’m not denying loneliness exists. I’m just saying that women need to take some stock of their actions as well.
I don't think it's fair to think someone should suffer because of a connection not connecting on their end in someone else's time...
@ I’m not sure what you mean. Either way, I’ve seen that I don’t meet some criteria that women want me to meet, and they can’t tell me what it is. I’m sorry if it came across as hostile, I just don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t want to feel like someone’s last option.
@@kenzienoel5439Same, don't think it's very productive to make a fuss about it.
"women need to take some stock of their actions as well" why should we force ourselves to date someone we arent interested in? also 3 girls rejecting you is not much, do you expect to find a good partner in 3 girls? that is very unlike. if you want a partner who treats you good, shares same values, can communicate and other stuff that are important in relationship, it takes time to find (sadly)
@@silver_grunge9007 no one said anything about forcing yourself to be with someone you don't like. Also it's understandable to build some level of resentment if every experience you've had has been negative. It's just human. No one bats an eye when girls say that men are thrash because they had some bad experiences in the past...
To put it another way; we're all lonely together.
What an era.
What's horrifying is people are raging a war over who is more lonely, men or women. Loneliness is different for women and men, but it's a human problem we should all be invested in solving. Thanks for the video. Bringing attention to loneliness saves lives, and everyone's matters.
True, it's a human problem but we don't have the resources to tackle both, so one has to be left in the dust.
Male loneliness is still a much bigger thing because of society helping women in need much faster. But women still deal with the issue
@ Men and women don’t have life easy. But it’s a fact women get help faster in most situations. If you think men have it easy I can explain why I disagree or you can blindly believe your right
If society helps women much faster then their loneliness isn't an issue, unless it doesn't?
@@Fadi5000 Helping faster doesn’t mean instantly so in some cases they can go without help for a long time.
That's true. It's more traditionally socially acceptable for women to express their loneliness than it is for men.