According to studys there is a massive men loneliness on the rise. Even many men talk about this. So men problems i think. Women lean more toward social and mantain social contacts and many men are not. 🤔
even tho im a male i have noticed that sometimes ppl forget that not all women get friend/boyfriends so easily. So this is a great reminder of that, good vid
As a man, I am at a point in my life where I just want to end it all because the isolation that I struggled with mostly due to my mental illness has been too much. I just want to leave already…
I'd guess somewhere from 40-60% of women easily get friends/boyfriends, meanwhile only the top 1% of men get friend/girlfriends easily. I have no issues acknowledging that some women are lonely. I have issues acting like they are more lonely. I have issues acting like they should get disproportionate care
@@MrRobot-jb5tII can relate. Life does suck. Although, the only thing that keeps me from doing it is the painful sensation of death. We don’t know what the afterlife is truly like. Perhaps it’s worse than the current life we’re in.
Maybe not women and men in general, but an individual man or woman can end this epidemic today by simply turning their phone off (or deleting their dating apps). Some may say this is unrealistic, but it's really not.
@@fernandomachado1728yea bc turning off a phone magically makes all of the friends appear out of thin air who knows all the people you’re connected with are just stuck im there theyll pop out i swear
This is a nice perspective, you usually hear online how men are lonely and women having boyfriends, don't get me wrong men are lonely but loneliness applies to all
Absolutely, loneliness doesn’t discriminate-it’s something anyone can feel, regardless of relationship status or gender. How do you think we can start breaking down those barriers and connect more meaningfully?
Men are very competitive by nature and we expect other men to “man up” and not have this “woe is me” mentality. Instead of empathizing and giving support, they rather shame and blame them for being lonely.
This came at the right time as the majority of my female friends have boyfriends,husbands, partners, and I’ve never had that experience before. And I do get lonely. The older I’m getting the more lonely I’m getting and I feel like I’m always going to be by myself.
It’s completely understandable to feel that way, especially as you see friends in relationships while you’re navigating things solo. Loneliness can be really tough, but remember, your story isn’t over yet, and there’s no set timeline for finding connection. Sometimes, these seasons help us grow closer to ourselves, which can make future relationships even stronger. You’re not alone in this, and there’s always hope for the companionship you’re looking for. 💜
We forge our own path. It’s easy to see friends and family finding partners and all of that, but it’s worth asking yourself if that would really make you happy. I’d put my happiness above others expectations of me 1000%. If you’re not living for yourself, are you even alive? I’m only 22 and I’ve never had a woman in my life, and I get the typical “why haven’t you got a girlfriend yet?” From friends and family, and I don’t care. I’m happy where I’m at. Idk where you’re at, but it’s easy to feel pressured into being in a relationship and people enter relationships for many different reasons. However, at the end of the day the most important question I think you HAVE to ask yourself is, “Will this make me happy?” Good luck to ya 👊
All i can really input is that time is not on your side. Not trying to scare you but once you hit the 40’s, thats pretty much it unless you get incredibly lucky and get a decent divorcee or a rare guy who didnt get picked up and has no overly terrible qualities. My mom is in that dating scene right now and i do not recommend it. Get out to social activities, try different hobbies that people go to. Best of luck
I’ve been feeling more lonely than ever. I hope it ends soon. I’ve always been a perfectionist at heart and though it can be a strength it’s been becoming more of a weakness. I’ve been feeling like I’m in auto pilot because all of these high expectations I’ve been given since my youth; I just need a break.
It sounds like you’re carrying so much on your shoulders. Perfectionism can be exhausting, especially when it feels like it’s never enough. Taking a break could be a real gift to yourself-even a small one to recharge and just be. ❤
@@Psych2go that means a lot thank you. Your videos has given me a lot of insight and also has gotten me through some hard times. Thank you for the work you’re doing 🫂❣️
As a man I’ve been lonely my whole life, been an outcast and people never accepted me, mostly due to my mental illness. At this point, I’m ready to end my life because I honestly don’t feel I belong in this world.
I feel very validated by this video, so thank you very much! I'm a woman, I'm 29 and yes, I feel very lonely. I'm trying to make friends who I can really connect with and create meaningful relationships, but it's not that easy.
@gamegamer9523 I'm studying psychology and trying to make good friends. It's working! Today at class I talked to people I didn't talk that much yet and it was amazing! It's awesome when you find people that like to talk about the same subjects as you! Thank you for your advice!
I’m so glad the video resonated with you! Building meaningful friendships can feel like such a challenge, especially as we get older and life pulls us in different directions. Have you found any activities or spaces that make it easier to meet people who share your values and interests?
@@Psych2go thank you so much for answering me guys!!! ❤️✨ I into college for psychology and I'm making a lot of important connections! I knew that I would find like-minded people in there and it's bringing me so much joy to find people that are interested in the same subjects as me! I was feeling lonely yesterday and then I had a psychology class and then I talked to people I never talked to before, like it was an answer from the universe that I'm not that alone and that finding new friends is possible!!! 🥰❤️✨
Frankly, although I would like to see both genders not have a loneliness problem, male loneliness comes almost exclusively from women while the opposite is not true. Men are the only segment of society who never receive unconditional love. So yea, I'm going to prioritize solving that one first.
@@legogenius1667 Male loneliness comes from themselves. Misogyny is rampant, and why would any woman want to be around that? Fix that problem, and maybe more women will want to be around you. All of my female friends who are dating are genuinely looking for unconditional love. Whereas most of them men I know who are dating are looking for sex first and foremost, and they won't even be upfront with women about that. Or the men think they are in it for unconditional love, but then when they have it they get "bored" or want something else. Moreover, I grew up with my Dad as my only parent, and I literally never experienced unconditional love. Never while I was growing up did I receive a hug or any loving comment. My Dad thought paying the bills meant he was parenting, and besides that we were more or less abandoned. Women are the gender most capable of GIVING unconditional love. Women give unconditional love all of the time, and mostly only get it back from other women. Also, nobody is stopping ya'll from putting in the work to find friends. It's work/effort to make friends and socialize. It doesn't just naturally come to people as you think it might, especially as you get older. The truth is, women are socialized to put in labor to find/maintain community, and men depend on women for it instead of putting in the work themselves.
@jennifermarie3158 The statistics show that you're incorrect. Men have a normally distributed attraction, meaning men tend to think the average woman is averagely attractive, but for women the distribution is skewed such that women only see 1 in 6 men as average or above. The insanity of that last sentence should be self-evident to any rational person. Women will ignore the men that would have been willing to love them, in favor of literal criminals. The top 10% of physically attractive men get attention from all women, while the ugly guys live their whole lives without so much as a compliment or hug, except from their good male friends. The only people on Earth who have ever gone out of their way to be kind or supportive to me have been men. The girls I date or interract with treat me like garbage, and so I'm starting to think I should just spend my time with my male friends instead. But sure, we'll blame all that on misogyny lol. Classic woman, allergic to accountability and quick to belittle.
@legogenius1667 Idk if you can do much if you depend on people you don't know. The first place might be therapy or other relations instead of romantic ones.
Thanks for acknowledging female loneliness. I never feel like I’m good enough to have any kind of relationship to even try. There’s way too much pressure to be perfect in all respects and I feel like a failure of a woman just because I’m not attractive and that no one will ever truly love me, only settle for me at best 😞
I think that both you and the person who responded to you hyperfocus on romanticism and either aren't seeking other relationship types or aren't being mindful enough of the ones you have
"failure of a woman" doesn't make much sense. You can't fail at being a woman, you are a woman. I tend to find that the most beautiful and 'wifey' women are the ones who are happy being themselves, having quirky hobbies that set them apart, being genuinely interested in different topics and people. I think physical beauty is also a strange concept, for myself, I just want a girl who is making active steps towards a healthy lifestyle. Nobody is perfect, if we were the world would be kinda boring. Be your own healthy self! :)
It makes some sense when male loneliness was brought up it was used as a way to critic men and not provide real solution heck some people actually claimed it was because of men's lack of emotionally vulnerability and they made it seem like it was something that wouldn't affect women as much but since that doesn't seem to be the case it's kind of odd to see that group that claimed to be better at relationship and emotional regulation have the same issues even thou those issues when allegedly stemming from inherently male behaviour
kate bush's song running up that hill touches on that. she speaks of the desire to make a deal with god to get men to swap places with women and viceversa, so we can understand each other entirely. obviously this is impossible but it's the big dilemma i believe
The truth is… everyone so consumed by their own struggles that genuine connections are becoming rare. We live in a world where relationships feel more transactional, and it’s hard to bridge that gap. People get so preoccupied with their own issues against the void that reaching out becomes a challenge.
I very much appreciate the disclaimer at the beginning that loneliness is a epedemic that affects both genders. The "us vs them" mentality that's been festering more and more in recent years i feel is a big part of why so many people feel lonely. It's good to have a place that is willing to activily listen to both sides
@@KiallVunMyeret Loneliness is inevitable for both sides honestly. We are all gonna die alone eventually. It depends on the people and their experiences in life or the circumstances that they went through, in order to understand each other.
Timestamps 1). Why are more women feeling lonely 1:13 2). The pressure of perfection 2:39 3). The superwoman syndrome 3:24 4). Changing social norms and expectations 4:12 5). Economic and career pressure 5:18 6). The failings of modern dating 5:54 7). The comparison trap 6:36 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
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People chase connections, thinking they will fill the emptiness in them, yet many find themselves isolated in a crowded world. Whether you are alone or with others, the emptiness remains, indifferent to our attempts at connection.
@@Robert-vk7je Through real life and not through your screen when you can't even be sure if the other person is already going behind your back to text 3 other people. Social media is not genuine connection, but a poor imitation of it.
I always feel isolated as a woman, my friends, family and everyone expect higher things from me.. but at the end ,after i did my best, they just took it from me and start ignoring me :/
That sounds really tough, like you’re giving so much and not getting the same care in return. Have you found anyone who truly appreciates your efforts, or maybe even small ways to start setting some boundaries for yourself?
For me, I'm on the autism spectrum and I struggle with this even though I have friends. I just don't get people and how to connect so easily. So it feels like I'm on an island alone even though I have people who love me. It just hurts. This is a good message, thank you so much ❤
For me I found that ADHD friend are amazing. I hope one day you find a circle of more autistic n adhd friends. I never thought I could. It is amazing. I totally understand how that feels.
In my experience with loneliness, it starts out with the mentality of "I'm better off alone," usually after something happens in your life. This feeling of ostracizing yourself turns into the sad realization of "nobody noticed that i left" or "Did they even notice me in the first place?" It quickly turns into a harsh reality that nobody noticed, so i must've not been important to them. It's rough to realize it at first, but it then becomes numb. You stop hanging out with more and more people that you use to. Your grades fall, your parents ask why they took a nose dive, but your only answer is "idk." The things that were originally fun or meaningful to you stop being so. In my case, i stopped working out, i focused more on binge watching shows that do give me a little joy. You start apologizing for everything, whether you did it or not, i also started smoking weed because it gave me that numb feeling of "i dont have to worry about it right now." I started to feel like i wouldn't mind just going to sleep forever. I wasn't suicidal but i wouldn't have mind if something naturally took me out. I heard the phrase "second hand suicide" and it really stuck to me. idk if i could call it depression but it's definitely something.
I feel you - this remembers me very much of myself. It went uphill when I did what I always dreamt of when I was a kid. The fun part here: Back then I was convinced to not even have a dream - I just did not care about anything really. But this numbness was a result of pushing down all my real emotions for decades. I had to find back this voice inside me that I told so long to shut up, so that I can "function". I know it feels impossible for you to read about that, I remember that... but this voice is still there, somewhere, whispering in another room, with closed doors... but you can find it. And then do what this voice is telling you. Its weird. But this voice knows exactly what to do.
honey.. i feel you on a very deep level. i resonated with you so much.. i hope you are doing okay.. i'm going to that tough phase now as well.. do u wanna be friends??
As a male, I think every single woman deserves to be loved and feel appreciated just as men. We're in this loneliness epidemic together. This is a human problem, not just men or women.
Im not always alone but I feel lonely. No one gets me. No one understands me. Ive tried to be overly kind, overly nice but it got nothing but got me used, mistreated, abused and taken for granted by almost everyone. I struggle with a big mental health issue and few addictions, I just hope and pray that tomorrow will be better. I just hope to find good people, not perfect but good and positive for my mental health. Im a young woman and I have zero friends.😢😢
Thanks for this video! I'm older, in my 60's, and it's always been difficult for men and women to find someone that will take the time and effort to learn about one another and come to really care for one another. There is so much pressure to get to the next level of the relationship, and it's all about getting married, having a family, and moving on. I didn't want to move that fast, wanting to be friends first and maybe something else will grow. But that has meant that I never found anyone. That has taught me, though, that not being in a relationship is much less painful than being in a bad one. These days, it's horrific, what young people are going through, with unbelievable pressure to be perfect all the time. It's invading their every waking hour. As bad as it was for me, it's a 1000x worse now. This has to stop. Thank you for illustrating that so beautifully! We need to slow down and live at a human pace, which isn't light speed, but the experience can be so much richer.
As a lonely guy myself, I'm happy that men's loneliness is being discussed more, but I get tired of seeing other guys constantly act like every woman has a great social life and everything is easy. I think videos like this are good to bring attention to the fact that loneliness can be faced by everyone. I wish people (both men and women) put more effort into viewing each other as humans and supporting each other rather than arguing about who has it worse or who's fault it is all of the time.
sometimes i feel lonely, increasingly so these days. however, as a girl i've never reallly bothered giving it much thought because i only ever hear about male loneliness. the awareness being spread about it is a good thing, however i never hear anything about female loneliness because everyone expects us to already be social butterflies. this is legitimately the first video i've seen on the topic. i feel so heard, thank you
@Psych2go my mom is having a hard time rn I'm trying to do my best I'm lucky to be 18 years old and still be around her. I'm happy not to live too far away just yet
Male mental health gets ignored generally but for loneliness the reason why it got more attention than female loneliness was the idea that male loneliness stems from men's lack of vulnerability, no emotional support and lack of friendships which was not only used to shit on men but to give reason to why women don't feel as lonely and are living more fulfilled lives but now that it's becoming more common, people are making it sound like it's something they went out of their way to ignore and not that it's because people believed that proper emotional regulation and friendships could prevent loneliness and since women were allegedly better at it they are by default less at risk , no one is to blame , just an observation Edit : i still feel empathy for them and its not a zero sum game we should support all but the idea that we simply overlooked it isnt really true it was due to situation
You’ve brought up an important point about how assumptions and stereotypes can shape the conversation around loneliness and mental health. Do you think these perceptions are changing, and could this shift help both men and women find the support they need?
@Psych2go they are changing and hopefully it's going to get better , I hope is fast too however it would be hard to get sympathy especially considering the fact that they were willing to use that loneliness epidemic as a medium to critic male behavior rather than just show empathy and seek solutions
People are too focused on how to connect or why they feel disconnected, but these are just fleeting emotions in a universe that ultimately doesn’t care. Everyone is or will be affected by loneliness, and the stories we tell about it just delay facing the emptiness of life. It really doesn’t matter who is more lonely, as we’re all just existing in a world that lacks real connection.
@@MrRobot-jb5tI you are right that's why I didn't compare it in the first place , I am just against the idea that it was ignore and something taken less seriously by default but rather it was because of how people responded to the complaints of male loneliness
Damn, people are really arguing over which gender has it worse in this comments section. You know people are stupid when they try to one up each other's issues instead of trying to solve them.
I already know men hate us. That’s why they think this topic is a “competition”. I didn’t even know women had this growing issue. I’ve always been lonely for most of my youth anyway
Sad thing is when ever someone share their problem, it turn into a competition and who is more of a victim. We can't just listen and help each other. It's always what about me.
I'll never stop wondering what others go through! Both genders of course! Are other's psychological and emotional challenges as severe as mine? Less challenging or more challenging than mine? Will we ever be totally cured from whatever it is we're going through? It's even anxiety inducing to mention these topics! Oh boy, I hope we all get a happy ending! Last thing, you really made some valid points on this video, and gave some great advice, and provided valuable information to all! Thanks and take care!
I'm a guy but same also the pfp. Yuri!!!!! Unfortunately I feel men are usually more lonely. My reasoning is men are different and stay quiet about their feelings. Many times they are told to be a man dont show emotion. Due to this they (myself included) can feel isolated and cut off. Almost excluded from being allowed to express their feelings and emotions. Maybe I'm completely wrong here but I still wanted to give my 2 cents. Maybe this is why no girl has really showed interest in me. But to all the women out there that are going through a time of loneliness. I hope all goes well for you and hope these feelings can end rather quickly with a few changes in life :)
As a female… Thank you for making this video. I’ve always tried to be an uplifting presence to my male friends and family members. I try my best to let them know i understand because I do… i’ve heard some comments like “No you don’t, it’s different.” When in reality, loneliness is the same. Shout out to all the lonely people. We may feel lonely but here we are. Together in the comments and watching this video. The whole point of this statement was recognition of men and women who go through loneliness. It intended for uplifting others.
It's not the same That's the problem we assume we are equal mentally when the true might differ a lot from reality. For example When women feel alone it is a feeling that people who are in their life make it feel But when men say they are alone (unattractive and normal looking ones) it is true. A feeling that the lack of people or negative vides provoke them.
It sucks, I'm a lonely fella. Truthfully I'm just too busy to actually find love. And it's funny too, I mean hell, I want a relationship, but a part of me is also afraid of it. Maybe it's a fear off being vulnerable, I don't know. Point being, lots feel this way, and though it's rough I'm sure folk like us will be well at the end so long as we can do our best to keep our heads up.
@@socramzetroc1535women can have no friends or loved ones too!!! I have no actual friends and everyone around me seems to think im just a nuisance!!! Can i count as lonely now or will u make up another reason for women to be disqualified from being sad
It is always awesome to view eachother's perspectives on this matter, Since both parties feels almost the same loneliness nowadays and knowing the other side's feelings brings more better awareness to help everyone included.
This is one great video, I've always ever felt lonely even as a kid, I had a hard time connecting with others and keeping up a perfect good girl facade....but recently I've been a bit more open to others, telling them realistic things about myself and honestly I think I made more friends in a few months than I had ever made in years, thank you very much for making this video on this topic.
I lost my close friend to suicide last month and I have been trying to make sense of the world since her passing. She was everything to me, the best out of our group of friends, and she was just brimming of promise and optimism that her taking her own life would be the last thing I'd imagine her doing. After watching this video, it made me aware of some subtle hints she may have exhibited like the failings of modern dating, high expectations, and the pressure of perfection and it made me cry cause I miss her everyday and I wish I wouldve been there for her to comfort her and tell her that I love and care for her. Thank for the video
Thank you. This isn't a war between genders. I've been ridiculed all my life for having acne, had no boyfriend and no friends, yet boys on the internet tell me to quit complaining because "at least I'm a female". Why can't we support each other? The world is a mess as it is already.
everyone has acne. we can't support each other because women pushed men through the cracks and need to be the ones to extend the hand. I already made a whole paragraph why, but its easy to overlook your advantages. The only reason anyone cares about the male loneliness epidemic is because its making men check out of society and so aren't producing and consuming. Its also blamed on men for any random reason like listening to rap or playing video games, among other "reasons". Sure its shallow but you are seen as valuable regardless like an art piece where men are machines who lose purpose on breaking down. That's why there's a compliment gap, women will just get compliments, sure on shallow things but a man remembers those like treasures where the only compliments I've gotten in the last 10 years were dependent on how well I did something. You need to be a soft place for men if you want to change these things. Honestly just start humanizing us again.
@@drewlevy9557 One remembers compliments until one realises they're just as hollow and meaningless as everything else people say when they're trying to get something out of you. Most of the time they either come from a person being extra-nice, or they're a polite way of saying "Back to work, slave!".
Communication is the key. This is something that took me years to understand but also to master. We are alone and isolated because we can't communicate so we can't build bridges, close the gap and develop lasting friendships or romantic relationships. In my desperate attempt to connect with people i ended up learning languages other than my native one and the amount of people out there around the globe that feel lonely, disconnected BUT also willing to connect with others is astounding. Life is already a hard experience but it doesn't need to be an isolated and lonely experience. There is always someone out there that will be more than happy to share this experience with others, you just need to find them.
Man here. This is a great thing to think about. The rise of male loneliness being popularized these days could make women feel like they don't have enough recognition for their own struggles on social media. Male suicide rates are higher, but I recently learned that women are more often diagnosed with mental health problems. I believe that everyone deserves love, so this new, less recognized perspective is probably a good thing to look into. Thanks for the awareness.
I would need to find the study and survey, while male suicide rates are indeed higher this is also due to them being more successful and thus reported; within the same demographics (I believe is was something like 18 - 35 year olds in the U.S.), women actually attempt suicide at a higher rate than their male counterparts however they fail to follow through more often and in turn give themselves more opportunities to seek help in whatever form they need it in. Regardless recognition for the struggles everyone faces needs to be recognized, understood with empathy and remedied in the best way possible.
To some extent. It's not like when you feel extremely paranoid, suspicious, hurt, crying alone, yearning for attention or even getting negative comments even through the own disobedient mind.
Thank you for sharing that; it’s refreshing to hear such empathy across perspectives. Being an introvert often brings a deeper understanding of quiet struggles, and that kind of empathy is exactly what brings us closer as humans. Maybe the reunion starts with conversations like these-where we find common ground and support each other. ❤
What's horrifying is people are raging a war over who is more lonely, men or women. Loneliness is different for women and men, but it's a human problem we should all be invested in solving. Thanks for the video. Bringing attention to loneliness saves lives, and everyone's matters.
Loneliness applies to both men and women, but can manifest in different ways. Likewise we see the same with kids, adults and the elderly. Different sources and reasons apply.
I really appreciate the fact that we're looking at the female perspective of loneliness a little more these days. I think it's important to highlight the fears, needs and societal stresses of both sexes, because it's all too easy to block off the mysterious opposite sex, and assume that they're either the main cause of a big part of our individual loneliness, or they have it better, or that they're not worth reasoning with, because they wouldn't ever understand what it's like. Much love to all my lonely girls, guys, and everyone in-between!!
I'm a man who has only had incredibly bad female role models growing up. As such, I've had a continuous lack of trust for people based off of their gender that I want to fix. This video has helped somewhat. Thank you.
I just want someone to show an interest in me.. I’m tired to be the first to write, the first to ask, the first to make a step. I wanna be appreciated too.
When i feel lonely i remind myself how profoundly lonely in the last years of my previous relationship when i had a partner, and i know I need to create life for myself, being single or in a relationship doesn’t have anything to do with my loneliness.
Me, I somehow keep attracting people who act like they like me, but then talk mean behind my back. And then decide to cut me off abruptly with things I didn't realize were problems because they never talked to be about it, making me second guess all my interactions with them and wondering if I really HAD been the problem. The internalized perfectionism doesn't help.
As a woman I feel lonely just seeing the way someone who called a friends treat me differently to their other friends. Despite saying they see me as a better friend
@@CharlieHeeson your partner is supposed to be one of your better friends. Its more genuine then going for someone on first glance. If they actively looked to know more about you then there’s no harm in it and just set expectations. At that point its on them to accept them or move on. Just be honest
I used to think I was lonely until I started trying to fill the void with people. It was only after being used, abused, and taken advantage of that O realized that I wasn't lonely. Just starved for meaningful connections. Finding a man is easy. Finding a good quality man is darn near impossible. The wrong man help you quickly learn that being alone doesn't mean lonely. Some of the loneliest women I know are married. The loneliest I've ever been was married and in a relationship. Now single, I'm not lonely. Just happily alone. I'd love to find someone to share this happiness with. But, I won't sacrifice my happiness just to be lonely with a man. It's not worth it.
THANK YOU. So many people use the argument of “women have so many options” when tbh a lot of those “easy” options are worse than just being single. Im so sorry u had to go through all those toxic relationships, and i hope u can find a good man. Be picky, be selective. It may take a lot longer but it will be worth it
As a man, I think the reason (or at least one of the reasons) for why female loneliness is just as prevalent as male loneliness is because of how women tend to gossip about a variety of things regardless of if it’s something positive, negative or somewhere in between more often than men. As a result, it’s easy for women to push out women who disagree with them on a number of topics.
As a Man, I would say that everyone is experiencing the same mental struggles. Today's society is so broken and idealistic that you CAN'T fit into Ideal in any way... As a guy a tip for women who struggle with dating men, just be yourself (literally)... Me personally, I like women that are comfortable in their skin, I don't mind and mostly don't even notice these "InPeRfEcTiOnS", you look perfect the way you are
I hope we all can overcome this epidemic. For me it’s odd that both sides are plagued by this. My perspective tells me that societal expectations are probably warped. That’s how you end up with two large pools, even though both could cover large amounts of each other in order to cancel out loneliness.
I have a question for the girls. There's this one girl in my class that always seems lonely. I rarely see her with any other person. She seems like a lovely person, however the girls in my class just don't go talk to her. I tried to approach her and do a little of small talk, but she just kept anwering briefly, although she smiled. So, like, should I just let her be? Am I being a jerk? Everyone else don't seem to care for her, but that doesn't seem right to me. Should I try to be friends with her? If so, how can I do it without seeming weird? Cause being alone truly sucks, no matter what gender, talking from my own experience
You can try talking about things you did in class and after that you can ask her if she wants to be your friend because you saw her being lonely and you think she's a nice person and gives you good vibes
@@yuriality5 I wouldn't justify wanting to be someone's friend in any way shape or form. "I want to be your friend" - end of. If you try to qualify that in any way other than "I like you as a person", it will always feel hollow to the other person.
She probably has been made to feel so insecure that she doubts that you actually have good intentions and want to be her friend. Maybe instead of just saying "hi" make a grander gesture like invite her to sit with you at lunch or hang out after school, and don't be too put off if she is awkward or even unfriendly/guarded at first, because she might think you are just doing it as a prank or something, since other kids can truly be awful to unpopular kids.
I'm not diagnosed with it even though ChatGPT suggests it more than my actual diagnoses of PTSD(which is kinda similar in some aspects) (Yeah. That's how the goddamn psychiatrists in our country are, telling us not to get information from online platforms and not addressing our issues at all blatantly hiding the diagnoses, next time I won't be that polite with him (this Saturday, I'm going there with ......)). somehow, I also have those traits like extreme suspiciousness, fear of being abandoned, the opposite of devaluing? (Because, I really get negative thoughts about those who support me as well sometimes due delusional thinking but somehow, I'm not allowed show them so I'd get much harsher replies.), negative mood swings, intense (unexpressed) anger, hating myself etc.
I think fostering genuine friendships with other women is important. I know it gets harder as you get older, people move away or marry but it does help so much to have that. I personally can't connect with men (who I'm not dating) in the same way and it hasn't worked when I've tried to be friends with them.
Wow thanks for this video I just moved to a new school and it's been really really hard making friends and I still don't have any even though we're like good in the year so I relate a lot
I have been single my entire life and I was seriously interested in 3 women across my 29 years. One at 19, one at 24, one at 26. Each time I was led on, given the “I think you’re nice but” and then the friendship was ended. Years later, the first one reached back out to me but now she had a child with someone else. What’s the point?? I’m not denying loneliness exists. I’m just saying that women need to take some stock of their actions as well.
@ I’m not sure what you mean. Either way, I’ve seen that I don’t meet some criteria that women want me to meet, and they can’t tell me what it is. I’m sorry if it came across as hostile, I just don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t want to feel like someone’s last option.
"women need to take some stock of their actions as well" why should we force ourselves to date someone we arent interested in? also 3 girls rejecting you is not much, do you expect to find a good partner in 3 girls? that is very unlike. if you want a partner who treats you good, shares same values, can communicate and other stuff that are important in relationship, it takes time to find (sadly)
the girl i’m dating used to talk about her loneliness, and how she’s never been with anyone beyond flirting then instant cut off though i haven’t watched this video at all, this already gives rise for me to treat her the best i can and love her with all i have
If she is really going through it instead of putting 'male-female comparisons' just love her she really needs you heal her as much as you can just love her and heal her and make her notice how preety she is , how valuable she is , how cute she is , how smart she is and lastly how precious she is ❤❤ I know many men don't like giving but you seem to be different from them so please just be gentle with her okay 👌
It’s interesting because western society has become highly impulse-pleasure driven where nothing is good enough, but the issue goes deeper than a lack of delayed gratification.
I think I can speak for a good portion of men out there, As a 15 yr old teenager growing up in a world where such things are the norm is challenging, but I want every girl out there to know you don't need to follow the trends and garbage all over the internet. Take me for example, I was raised old fashioned so I have golden morals and values, I don't pay much attention to the unrealistic expectations that the world expects from us. There is someone for everyone, but don't get that twisted for someone who js admires one thing about you or can put up with you, You aline in every way. Much love to everyone ❤
I think there's just a loneliness epidemic that's completely devoid of gender, but gender is part of how we experience this loneliness because gender is a part of how we experience the world.
Why people gotta start a war on who's the loneliest. Both genders have toxic execations, but we all can still act despite of them. We should stop blaming each other for our loneliness and act to solve it
@Jamhael1 maybe... but one can start by realising that everyone's in control of their own life, and that men accusing women and women accusing men only leads to further social gaps. Feeling frustration after bad experiences is normal, but we shouldn't let that feeling turn into generalisations
@susannaseveroni4489 easier said then done - men are avoiding relationships because women had become so INSUFFERABLE that they see any attempt of dating will never move forward, and the sheer number of advantages women had received in education, academics and work, combined with a gigantic political hobby that DEMAND that women must grow AT THE EXPENSE OF MEN by demonizing "masculinity" as some kind of pathological disease, a complete opposition to ANY program that merely hints in helping men's s*icId€ pandemic, and the fact that the situation os men's loneliness is EARLIER than women's by YEARS, only shows that a growing number of 3rd Wave Feminism activists and lobbyists are nothing more then clinically diagnosed narcisists - and I call them that because the main characteristic of narcisists in positions of power is that they DO NOT solve the main problem they promissed they would solve, but in fact they WANT the problem to exist so they can justify their permanence in a position of power.
@Meow-princesss women don't mind, but men do. There is nothing more disappointing in hearing the cries of a man in distress. It is pride, but it's also a need to be strong and independent
@Meow-princesss I don't really care how other men see me, but I'm not particularly emotional anyway. Besides, I've learned how to self medicate anyway and I dive into my hobbies whenever I feel down and that usually perks me up. How about you? How do you deal with matters of loneliness?
@Meow-princesss I know you were speaking generally. Everyone goes through lonely times and learning how to cope with it is half the battle. I sometimes play a game or two as well, but I stay away from team online games especially if I don't know them because they can sometimes make things worse. If it's with friends, it's so much better. I also have a private chat room where my best friend is often there. Are you happy in general?
@Meow-princesss am I what? If you're asking if I have social anxiety, then no I don't. I just don't like dealing with strangers online. Trust me though, you will make at least one friend in the future and someone who understands you. I think that's all we're after is to be understood and appreciated. I'm more than happy to be your friend. Socially speaking, I'm very attentive. I just fade in large groups.
@Meow-princesss xD I would say I'm definitely an adult. It's been a long time since I've been a child. Yes, your comment has shown. Tell me more about your health issues though because I'm curious. Also, being friends is best outside of UA-cam xD
Reminder you can, in fact, talk with the guys and girls that have interests in you and that your friends are honestly the best people to date. Dating is never easy it takes work, so chin up.
Thank you for acknowledging that women experience feelings of isolation, inadequacy and loneliness too. The struggle is real for everyone. #cepv #IMustWin
Loneliness has been a constant battle for me since I was a kid in elementary school because of growing up with disabilities. Didn’t help that I was the only person who had cerebral palsy, ADHD and autism in my environment. Communication was a major challenge for me (still is) and the COVID pandemic has not made it any better.
@@wheeltrouble i think by default we all have some form of standard but i agree sometimes the reason people are lonely is because those standards are too high
@@princessperfectpaws0436 By people you mean the women. They demand 6 ft tall men, with 6 figure income and a house and trust fun and all this nonsense, which is only 1% of the male population, of course you'll be alone if that's your standard.
@princessperfectpaws0436 I agree that there must be standards for friendship. By the same token, there are plenty of people whom my wife and I have offered to invest time in. Even if we make it clear that there is no intent to date or "play", I often get "I'm not wanting to date" followed by ghosting. They pre-reject an overture that was never coming in the first place! That is every bit a choice.
@@wheeltrouble Wait, is this on dating apps or irl though? If it's on a dating app, they might be assuming you're unicorn hunters if it's both of you. Apps are full of unicorn hunters.
@OliviaW-j4p irl. If I'm on a dating app, and a girl assumes I'n trying to date, that's fair. A coworker whom I am trying to hold an offsite business meeting with (because it needs to be away from prying eyes/confidential, but still in a VERY PUBLIC space)? Nah, she just made it to where no guy will ever be around her alone now. It takes a high degree of narcissism to assume everyone is out to date you. When in doubt, ask! How hard is it to go "just friends?"
@ Men and women don’t have life easy. But it’s a fact women get help faster in most situations. If you think men have it easy I can explain why I disagree or you can blindly believe your right
Literally me. Survived a Narcissist with BPD (Borderline) Not my words, my therapist. Me: 34 y.o. Male - can confirm that most (not all) women my age, I've explained it to : dismiss me and/or blame me for her actions. Men: ? (Mostly understanding, but have definitely gotten a few massive douchbag responses before too) My current gf is Gen Z - TOTALLY different experience. She is sooo supportive and understanding right off the rip. I think Gen Z is generally more aware and supportive about domestic abuse and it's end product. I'm lucky ❤️
I don't want to be the one who makes it seem negative, but loneliness is an essential part of life, it is what makes one appreciate happiness and joy. The yin to the yang. The balance of bad so that good can exist etc.
In your opinion, are women more lonelier than men these days?
No.
Not even as a joke xD society instinctively helps women first before men
we are all humans
According to studys there is a massive men loneliness on the rise. Even many men talk about this. So men problems i think. Women lean more toward social and mantain social contacts and many men are not. 🤔
@HanaDamia-v5w And humans without male testicular parts have it better.
even tho im a male
i have noticed that sometimes ppl forget that not all women get friend/boyfriends so easily. So this is a great reminder of that, good vid
Thank you for that reminder. That's absolutely true.
As a man, I am at a point in my life where I just want to end it all because the isolation that I struggled with mostly due to my mental illness has been too much. I just want to leave already…
@@MrRobot-jb5tI please don’t you Matter much more than you would think I know what it’s like to feel small and significant trust me your not
I'd guess somewhere from 40-60% of women easily get friends/boyfriends, meanwhile only the top 1% of men get friend/girlfriends easily.
I have no issues acknowledging that some women are lonely. I have issues acting like they are more lonely. I have issues acting like they should get disproportionate care
@@MrRobot-jb5tII can relate. Life does suck. Although, the only thing that keeps me from doing it is the painful sensation of death. We don’t know what the afterlife is truly like. Perhaps it’s worse than the current life we’re in.
❤ for every lonely person
that means alot tysm
thank you (: here's a ❤️ for you too!
@@هايالقناةفقطتجربة and you get a heart, (I'm on PC I have no emojis sorry)
❤ for every kind person
Back at you❤
I hope one day women and men can get rid of this loneliness epidemic.
I hope everyone's doing well.
Indeed, one day the cycle will be broken
Maybe not women and men in general, but an individual man or woman can end this epidemic today by simply turning their phone off (or deleting their dating apps). Some may say this is unrealistic, but it's really not.
Easy. Women: Approach men. We guys aren't allowed to do so anymore, apparently.
and also non binary transhuman cyborg aliens ❤ you guys also deserve love ❤
@@fernandomachado1728yea bc turning off a phone magically makes all of the friends appear out of thin air who knows
all the people you’re connected with are just stuck im there theyll pop out i swear
This is a nice perspective, you usually hear online how men are lonely and women having boyfriends, don't get me wrong men are lonely but loneliness applies to all
Welcome to a world with social media and dating apps where its to difficult to find a deep connection…
Absolutely, loneliness doesn’t discriminate-it’s something anyone can feel, regardless of relationship status or gender. How do you think we can start breaking down those barriers and connect more meaningfully?
@@Psych2go Make another video about male loneliness. It will also be interesting.
Men are very competitive by nature and we expect other men to “man up” and not have this “woe is me” mentality. Instead of empathizing and giving support, they rather shame and blame them for being lonely.
@@cursedbythedevil8171them apps make you more lonely
This came at the right time as the majority of my female friends have boyfriends,husbands, partners, and I’ve never had that experience before. And I do get lonely. The older I’m getting the more lonely I’m getting and I feel like I’m always going to be by myself.
It’s completely understandable to feel that way, especially as you see friends in relationships while you’re navigating things solo. Loneliness can be really tough, but remember, your story isn’t over yet, and there’s no set timeline for finding connection. Sometimes, these seasons help us grow closer to ourselves, which can make future relationships even stronger. You’re not alone in this, and there’s always hope for the companionship you’re looking for. 💜
We forge our own path. It’s easy to see friends and family finding partners and all of that, but it’s worth asking yourself if that would really make you happy. I’d put my happiness above others expectations of me 1000%. If you’re not living for yourself, are you even alive? I’m only 22 and I’ve never had a woman in my life, and I get the typical “why haven’t you got a girlfriend yet?” From friends and family, and I don’t care. I’m happy where I’m at. Idk where you’re at, but it’s easy to feel pressured into being in a relationship and people enter relationships for many different reasons. However, at the end of the day the most important question I think you HAVE to ask yourself is, “Will this make me happy?”
Good luck to ya 👊
All i can really input is that time is not on your side. Not trying to scare you but once you hit the 40’s, thats pretty much it unless you get incredibly lucky and get a decent divorcee or a rare guy who didnt get picked up and has no overly terrible qualities. My mom is in that dating scene right now and i do not recommend it. Get out to social activities, try different hobbies that people go to. Best of luck
Same
Do you talk to strangers, children, old people? It can change your perspective.
I’ve been feeling more lonely than ever. I hope it ends soon. I’ve always been a perfectionist at heart and though it can be a strength it’s been becoming more of a weakness. I’ve been feeling like I’m in auto pilot because all of these high expectations I’ve been given since my youth; I just need a break.
It sounds like you’re carrying so much on your shoulders. Perfectionism can be exhausting, especially when it feels like it’s never enough. Taking a break could be a real gift to yourself-even a small one to recharge and just be. ❤
@@Psych2go that means a lot thank you. Your videos has given me a lot of insight and also has gotten me through some hard times. Thank you for the work you’re doing 🫂❣️
As a man I’ve been lonely my whole life, been an outcast and people never accepted me, mostly due to my mental illness. At this point, I’m ready to end my life because I honestly don’t feel I belong in this world.
I feel very validated by this video, so thank you very much! I'm a woman, I'm 29 and yes, I feel very lonely. I'm trying to make friends who I can really connect with and create meaningful relationships, but it's not that easy.
Join a club or activity, like Brazilian Jiujitsu.
@gamegamer9523 I'm studying psychology and trying to make good friends. It's working! Today at class I talked to people I didn't talk that much yet and it was amazing! It's awesome when you find people that like to talk about the same subjects as you! Thank you for your advice!
I’m so glad the video resonated with you! Building meaningful friendships can feel like such a challenge, especially as we get older and life pulls us in different directions. Have you found any activities or spaces that make it easier to meet people who share your values and interests?
@@Psych2go thank you so much for answering me guys!!! ❤️✨ I into college for psychology and I'm making a lot of important connections! I knew that I would find like-minded people in there and it's bringing me so much joy to find people that are interested in the same subjects as me! I was feeling lonely yesterday and then I had a psychology class and then I talked to people I never talked to before, like it was an answer from the universe that I'm not that alone and that finding new friends is possible!!! 🥰❤️✨
Stop romanticizing relationships - real life is not a soap opera.
Already knew I was going to see competition in the comments. Loneliness is not a category we should be trying to one up each other in.
I agree! This is a great chance to understand both genders view on loneliness and find empathy to help one another, Not fighting against each other.
Frankly, although I would like to see both genders not have a loneliness problem, male loneliness comes almost exclusively from women while the opposite is not true. Men are the only segment of society who never receive unconditional love. So yea, I'm going to prioritize solving that one first.
@@legogenius1667 Male loneliness comes from themselves. Misogyny is rampant, and why would any woman want to be around that? Fix that problem, and maybe more women will want to be around you. All of my female friends who are dating are genuinely looking for unconditional love. Whereas most of them men I know who are dating are looking for sex first and foremost, and they won't even be upfront with women about that. Or the men think they are in it for unconditional love, but then when they have it they get "bored" or want something else. Moreover, I grew up with my Dad as my only parent, and I literally never experienced unconditional love. Never while I was growing up did I receive a hug or any loving comment. My Dad thought paying the bills meant he was parenting, and besides that we were more or less abandoned. Women are the gender most capable of GIVING unconditional love. Women give unconditional love all of the time, and mostly only get it back from other women.
Also, nobody is stopping ya'll from putting in the work to find friends. It's work/effort to make friends and socialize. It doesn't just naturally come to people as you think it might, especially as you get older. The truth is, women are socialized to put in labor to find/maintain community, and men depend on women for it instead of putting in the work themselves.
@jennifermarie3158 The statistics show that you're incorrect. Men have a normally distributed attraction, meaning men tend to think the average woman is averagely attractive, but for women the distribution is skewed such that women only see 1 in 6 men as average or above. The insanity of that last sentence should be self-evident to any rational person. Women will ignore the men that would have been willing to love them, in favor of literal criminals. The top 10% of physically attractive men get attention from all women, while the ugly guys live their whole lives without so much as a compliment or hug, except from their good male friends. The only people on Earth who have ever gone out of their way to be kind or supportive to me have been men. The girls I date or interract with treat me like garbage, and so I'm starting to think I should just spend my time with my male friends instead. But sure, we'll blame all that on misogyny lol.
Classic woman, allergic to accountability and quick to belittle.
@legogenius1667 Idk if you can do much if you depend on people you don't know. The first place might be therapy or other relations instead of romantic ones.
Thanks for acknowledging female loneliness. I never feel like I’m good enough to have any kind of relationship to even try. There’s way too much pressure to be perfect in all respects and I feel like a failure of a woman just because I’m not attractive and that no one will ever truly love me, only settle for me at best 😞
pretty much described majority of men
@ Yes, I know. I think social media, politics, influencers and p@rn have poisoned our expectations for ourselves and each other.
I think that both you and the person who responded to you hyperfocus on romanticism and either aren't seeking other relationship types or aren't being mindful enough of the ones you have
"failure of a woman" doesn't make much sense. You can't fail at being a woman, you are a woman. I tend to find that the most beautiful and 'wifey' women are the ones who are happy being themselves, having quirky hobbies that set them apart, being genuinely interested in different topics and people. I think physical beauty is also a strange concept, for myself, I just want a girl who is making active steps towards a healthy lifestyle. Nobody is perfect, if we were the world would be kinda boring. Be your own healthy self! :)
I really don’t understand how this is a problem, men are lonely, women are lonely, neither want to be lonely so why aren’t we helping each other?
It makes some sense when male loneliness was brought up it was used as a way to critic men and not provide real solution heck some people actually claimed it was because of men's lack of emotionally vulnerability and they made it seem like it was something that wouldn't affect women as much but since that doesn't seem to be the case it's kind of odd to see that group that claimed to be better at relationship and emotional regulation have the same issues even thou those issues when allegedly stemming from inherently male behaviour
kate bush's song running up that hill touches on that. she speaks of the desire to make a deal with god to get men to swap places with women and viceversa, so we can understand each other entirely. obviously this is impossible but it's the big dilemma i believe
The truth is… everyone so consumed by their own struggles that genuine connections are becoming rare. We live in a world where relationships feel more transactional, and it’s hard to bridge that gap. People get so preoccupied with their own issues against the void that reaching out becomes a challenge.
because women hate men and men are just fucking tired.
i think we are scared
I very much appreciate the disclaimer at the beginning that loneliness is a epedemic that affects both genders.
The "us vs them" mentality that's been festering more and more in recent years i feel is a big part of why so many people feel lonely.
It's good to have a place that is willing to activily listen to both sides
Thank you🎉
@@KiallVunMyeret Loneliness is inevitable for both sides honestly. We are all gonna die alone eventually. It depends on the people and their experiences in life or the circumstances that they went through, in order to understand each other.
Timestamps
1). Why are more women feeling lonely 1:13
2). The pressure of perfection 2:39
3). The superwoman syndrome 3:24
4). Changing social norms and expectations 4:12
5). Economic and career pressure 5:18
6). The failings of modern dating 5:54
7). The comparison trap 6:36
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
It already has timestamps
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
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People chase connections, thinking they will fill the emptiness in them, yet many find themselves isolated in a crowded world. Whether you are alone or with others, the emptiness remains, indifferent to our attempts at connection.
What's your solution to the problem?
@@RedSky8 Deplatform dating sites. All of them.
Humans are social creatures. Connection to other people is a basic human need.
@@Robert-vk7je Through real life and not through your screen when you can't even be sure if the other person is already going behind your back to text 3 other people. Social media is not genuine connection, but a poor imitation of it.
I always feel isolated as a woman, my friends, family and everyone expect higher things from me.. but at the end ,after i did my best, they just took it from me and start ignoring me :/
That sounds really tough, like you’re giving so much and not getting the same care in return. Have you found anyone who truly appreciates your efforts, or maybe even small ways to start setting some boundaries for yourself?
@@Psych2go Only my mom, but i feel like i always disappoint her, thanks for replying !
At least you have friends & family
Im pretty sure my sister feels exactly the same way. You’re not alone. Also, what do you think would help you personally so that I can help her?
all the men, ever: welcome to our "privilege", enjoy your stay. YOU wanted this.
For me, I'm on the autism spectrum and I struggle with this even though I have friends. I just don't get people and how to connect so easily. So it feels like I'm on an island alone even though I have people who love me. It just hurts. This is a good message, thank you so much ❤
For me I found that ADHD friend are amazing. I hope one day you find a circle of more autistic n adhd friends. I never thought I could. It is amazing. I totally understand how that feels.
@laurenh2464 ty ^^
I love hearing the voice of this narrator❤❤. It's so calming
The timing is crazyyyy😭
In my experience with loneliness, it starts out with the mentality of "I'm better off alone," usually after something happens in your life. This feeling of ostracizing yourself turns into the sad realization of "nobody noticed that i left" or "Did they even notice me in the first place?" It quickly turns into a harsh reality that nobody noticed, so i must've not been important to them. It's rough to realize it at first, but it then becomes numb. You stop hanging out with more and more people that you use to. Your grades fall, your parents ask why they took a nose dive, but your only answer is "idk." The things that were originally fun or meaningful to you stop being so. In my case, i stopped working out, i focused more on binge watching shows that do give me a little joy. You start apologizing for everything, whether you did it or not, i also started smoking weed because it gave me that numb feeling of "i dont have to worry about it right now." I started to feel like i wouldn't mind just going to sleep forever. I wasn't suicidal but i wouldn't have mind if something naturally took me out. I heard the phrase "second hand suicide" and it really stuck to me. idk if i could call it depression but it's definitely something.
I wrote quite a bit, sorry about that
@@demonspawn4214you don't have to apologize here. Thank you for sharing, much of this resonated with me. ❤
I feel you - this remembers me very much of myself. It went uphill when I did what I always dreamt of when I was a kid.
The fun part here: Back then I was convinced to not even have a dream - I just did not care about anything really. But this numbness was a result of pushing down all my real emotions for decades.
I had to find back this voice inside me that I told so long to shut up, so that I can "function". I know it feels impossible for you to read about that, I remember that... but this voice is still there, somewhere, whispering in another room, with closed doors... but you can find it. And then do what this voice is telling you. Its weird. But this voice knows exactly what to do.
Funny thing is, that feeling never goes away.
Or if it does, it relapses.
32 and wondering if my 10th or 11th relapse (lost count) will be my last.
honey.. i feel you on a very deep level. i resonated with you so much.. i hope you are doing okay.. i'm going to that tough phase now as well.. do u wanna be friends??
As a male, I think every single woman deserves to be loved and feel appreciated just as men. We're in this loneliness epidemic together. This is a human problem, not just men or women.
Im not always alone but I feel lonely. No one gets me. No one understands me. Ive tried to be overly kind, overly nice but it got nothing but got me used, mistreated, abused and taken for granted by almost everyone. I struggle with a big mental health issue and few addictions, I just hope and pray that tomorrow will be better. I just hope to find good people, not perfect but good and positive for my mental health. Im a young woman and I have zero friends.😢😢
I feel you sister, and I am so tired. At least know you aren't alone in how you feel.❤
@@kenzienoel5439 thanks I appreciate. Hope you’re at peace rn❤️🙏🏾
You are not alone
A woman being nice?????
Sounds like bait to me!
@@Citrusfruits50 thanks ☺️
Thanks for this video! I'm older, in my 60's, and it's always been difficult for men and women to find someone that will take the time and effort to learn about one another and come to really care for one another. There is so much pressure to get to the next level of the relationship, and it's all about getting married, having a family, and moving on. I didn't want to move that fast, wanting to be friends first and maybe something else will grow. But that has meant that I never found anyone. That has taught me, though, that not being in a relationship is much less painful than being in a bad one. These days, it's horrific, what young people are going through, with unbelievable pressure to be perfect all the time. It's invading their every waking hour. As bad as it was for me, it's a 1000x worse now. This has to stop. Thank you for illustrating that so beautifully! We need to slow down and live at a human pace, which isn't light speed, but the experience can be so much richer.
As a lonely guy myself, I'm happy that men's loneliness is being discussed more, but I get tired of seeing other guys constantly act like every woman has a great social life and everything is easy. I think videos like this are good to bring attention to the fact that loneliness can be faced by everyone. I wish people (both men and women) put more effort into viewing each other as humans and supporting each other rather than arguing about who has it worse or who's fault it is all of the time.
sometimes i feel lonely, increasingly so these days. however, as a girl i've never reallly bothered giving it much thought because i only ever hear about male loneliness. the awareness being spread about it is a good thing, however i never hear anything about female loneliness because everyone expects us to already be social butterflies. this is legitimately the first video i've seen on the topic. i feel so heard, thank you
Take care of people around you ❤️
It’s true, a little care can make a big difference. Who’s someone in your life that might need a little extra support today? ❤
@Psych2go my mom is having a hard time rn I'm trying to do my best I'm lucky to be 18 years old and still be around her. I'm happy not to live too far away just yet
@@3040KyloRen It’s clear she’s lucky to have you there for her. Hang in there, and don’t forget to take care of yourself too. ❤
Compared to male loneliness in general, no. Not. Even. Close..
Male mental health gets ignored generally but for loneliness the reason why it got more attention than female loneliness was the idea that male loneliness stems from men's lack of vulnerability, no emotional support and lack of friendships which was not only used to shit on men but to give reason to why women don't feel as lonely and are living more fulfilled lives but now that it's becoming more common, people are making it sound like it's something they went out of their way to ignore and not that it's because people believed that proper emotional regulation and friendships could prevent loneliness and since women were allegedly better at it they are by default less at risk , no one is to blame , just an observation
Edit : i still feel empathy for them and its not a zero sum game we should support all but the idea that we simply overlooked it isnt really true it was due to situation
You’ve brought up an important point about how assumptions and stereotypes can shape the conversation around loneliness and mental health. Do you think these perceptions are changing, and could this shift help both men and women find the support they need?
@Psych2go they are changing and hopefully it's going to get better , I hope is fast too however it would be hard to get sympathy especially considering the fact that they were willing to use that loneliness epidemic as a medium to critic male behavior rather than just show empathy and seek solutions
@@Psych2go thaks for teaching me this so i can have a open mind for deisicion-making and empathy
People are too focused on how to connect or why they feel disconnected, but these are just fleeting emotions in a universe that ultimately doesn’t care. Everyone is or will be affected by loneliness, and the stories we tell about it just delay facing the emptiness of life. It really doesn’t matter who is more lonely, as we’re all just existing in a world that lacks real connection.
@@MrRobot-jb5tI you are right that's why I didn't compare it in the first place , I am just against the idea that it was ignore and something taken less seriously by default but rather it was because of how people responded to the complaints of male loneliness
Damn, people are really arguing over which gender has it worse in this comments section. You know people are stupid when they try to one up each other's issues instead of trying to solve them.
I already know men hate us. That’s why they think this topic is a “competition”. I didn’t even know women had this growing issue. I’ve always been lonely for most of my youth anyway
Thats your problem you think men hate you you are creating this division not men @EtherealSolana
Sad thing is when ever someone share their problem, it turn into a competition and who is more of a victim. We can't just listen and help each other. It's always what about me.
@@EtherealSolana being lonely and having it hard is the one thing we got😂
It's because the problem started with women and the solution is in the women.
I have never felt more understood by a video ❤ Thank you so much!
I'll never stop wondering what others go through! Both genders of course! Are other's psychological and emotional challenges as severe as mine? Less challenging or more challenging than mine? Will we ever be totally cured from whatever it is we're going through? It's even anxiety inducing to mention these topics! Oh boy, I hope we all get a happy ending!
Last thing, you really made some valid points on this video, and gave some great advice, and provided valuable information to all! Thanks and take care!
Love the animations guys, great work 👍
This video was perfectly timed, and made me feel like I wasn’t alone in feeling lonely.
I truly love this channel. Thank you.
We’re so glad it reached you at the right time. You’re definitely not alone, and we’re here with you. ❤
Hiiiii😊
I'm a guy but same also the pfp. Yuri!!!!! Unfortunately I feel men are usually more lonely. My reasoning is men are different and stay quiet about their feelings. Many times they are told to be a man dont show emotion. Due to this they (myself included) can feel isolated and cut off. Almost excluded from being allowed to express their feelings and emotions. Maybe I'm completely wrong here but I still wanted to give my 2 cents. Maybe this is why no girl has really showed interest in me. But to all the women out there that are going through a time of loneliness. I hope all goes well for you and hope these feelings can end rather quickly with a few changes in life :)
I'm so glad the Psych2go channel exists
As a female… Thank you for making this video. I’ve always tried to be an uplifting presence to my male friends and family members. I try my best to let them know i understand because I do… i’ve heard some comments like “No you don’t, it’s different.” When in reality, loneliness is the same. Shout out to all the lonely people. We may feel lonely but here we are. Together in the comments and watching this video.
The whole point of this statement was recognition of men and women who go through loneliness. It intended for uplifting others.
It's not the same
That's the problem
we assume we are equal mentally when the true might differ a lot from reality.
For example
When women feel alone it is a feeling that people who are in their life make it feel
But when men say they are alone (unattractive and normal looking ones) it is true. A feeling that the lack of people or negative vides provoke them.
It sucks, I'm a lonely fella. Truthfully I'm just too busy to actually find love. And it's funny too, I mean hell, I want a relationship, but a part of me is also afraid of it. Maybe it's a fear off being vulnerable, I don't know. Point being, lots feel this way, and though it's rough I'm sure folk like us will be well at the end so long as we can do our best to keep our heads up.
@@socramzetroc1535women can have no friends or loved ones too!!!
I have no actual friends and everyone around me seems to think im just a nuisance!!!
Can i count as lonely now or will u make up another reason for women to be disqualified from being sad
@@timetraveler7well hey ur bein vulnerable for even saying that so im proud of ya
I’m a male but I’m still so lonely and have no irl friends and no one to love me 😢
It is always awesome to view eachother's perspectives on this matter, Since both parties feels almost the same loneliness nowadays and knowing the other side's feelings brings more better awareness to help everyone included.
Thank you so much
It means a lot to me
I feel so much alone it's like the world is fleeting and I'm standing still
Glad to see it's not only me ❤❤❤
I feel bad for every person dealing with these issues
I feel bad for people getting hate just for speaking out
@@TNTz1ooChannel Oh man
Honestly wow efect because you are like REALLY first creator talking about this topic in my social bubble. Big yes for that
And thank you
Shoeonhead about a year ago
This is one great video, I've always ever felt lonely even as a kid, I had a hard time connecting with others and keeping up a perfect good girl facade....but recently I've been a bit more open to others, telling them realistic things about myself and honestly I think I made more friends in a few months than I had ever made in years, thank you very much for making this video on this topic.
I lost my close friend to suicide last month and I have been trying to make sense of the world since her passing. She was everything to me, the best out of our group of friends, and she was just brimming of promise and optimism that her taking her own life would be the last thing I'd imagine her doing. After watching this video, it made me aware of some subtle hints she may have exhibited like the failings of modern dating, high expectations, and the pressure of perfection and it made me cry cause I miss her everyday and I wish I wouldve been there for her to comfort her and tell her that I love and care for her. Thank for the video
We're all lonely, divided, and seeking connection we are actively pushing away.
Thank you. This isn't a war between genders. I've been ridiculed all my life for having acne, had no boyfriend and no friends, yet boys on the internet tell me to quit complaining because "at least I'm a female". Why can't we support each other? The world is a mess as it is already.
REAL!!
everyone has acne. we can't support each other because women pushed men through the cracks and need to be the ones to extend the hand. I already made a whole paragraph why, but its easy to overlook your advantages. The only reason anyone cares about the male loneliness epidemic is because its making men check out of society and so aren't producing and consuming. Its also blamed on men for any random reason like listening to rap or playing video games, among other "reasons". Sure its shallow but you are seen as valuable regardless like an art piece where men are machines who lose purpose on breaking down. That's why there's a compliment gap, women will just get compliments, sure on shallow things but a man remembers those like treasures where the only compliments I've gotten in the last 10 years were dependent on how well I did something. You need to be a soft place for men if you want to change these things. Honestly just start humanizing us again.
@@drewlevy9557 One remembers compliments until one realises they're just as hollow and meaningless as everything else people say when they're trying to get something out of you. Most of the time they either come from a person being extra-nice, or they're a polite way of saying "Back to work, slave!".
literally thank you for uploading this
So glad it reached you-thank you for watching! ❤
Communication is the key. This is something that took me years to understand but also to master. We are alone and isolated because we can't communicate so we can't build bridges, close the gap and develop lasting friendships or romantic relationships.
In my desperate attempt to connect with people i ended up learning languages other than my native one and the amount of people out there around the globe that feel lonely, disconnected BUT also willing to connect with others is astounding.
Life is already a hard experience but it doesn't need to be an isolated and lonely experience. There is always someone out there that will be more than happy to share this experience with others, you just need to find them.
Thank you for making this video. I really need it.
Man here. This is a great thing to think about. The rise of male loneliness being popularized these days could make women feel like they don't have enough recognition for their own struggles on social media. Male suicide rates are higher, but I recently learned that women are more often diagnosed with mental health problems. I believe that everyone deserves love, so this new, less recognized perspective is probably a good thing to look into. Thanks for the awareness.
Women are more likely to seek help thats why women are getting diagnosed more
@@madarah8533 was just about to say this, there's still shame around men seeking help it's so sad
I would need to find the study and survey, while male suicide rates are indeed higher this is also due to them being more successful and thus reported; within the same demographics (I believe is was something like 18 - 35 year olds in the U.S.), women actually attempt suicide at a higher rate than their male counterparts however they fail to follow through more often and in turn give themselves more opportunities to seek help in whatever form they need it in.
Regardless recognition for the struggles everyone faces needs to be recognized, understood with empathy and remedied in the best way possible.
Women's mental problems are often caused by "their romantic life"
All because they can't hold Chad and Tyrone
Thanks for being one of the few people who'd actually stand up for others instead of arguing about who has it worse
Conclusion: We're all lonely
Damn
To some extent. It's not like when you feel extremely paranoid, suspicious, hurt, crying alone, yearning for attention or even getting negative comments even through the own disobedient mind.
yes but men have it worse
@@olivet7499 why the hell is that relevant?
@@hubeb69 because we need to pay attention to the real problem and not to the ones pretend for attention seeking.
As a man myself I am an introvert I feel empathy for both gender How we will be reunited ❤❤
Thank you for sharing that; it’s refreshing to hear such empathy across perspectives. Being an introvert often brings a deeper understanding of quiet struggles, and that kind of empathy is exactly what brings us closer as humans. Maybe the reunion starts with conversations like these-where we find common ground and support each other. ❤
Hey fellow introvert
@neofulcrum5013 Hi
this video literally came in the perfect moment in my life, love you
If your thumbnail is actually you, you have no excuses.
Women like you have a choice to be lonely. Most men don't.
What's horrifying is people are raging a war over who is more lonely, men or women. Loneliness is different for women and men, but it's a human problem we should all be invested in solving. Thanks for the video. Bringing attention to loneliness saves lives, and everyone's matters.
Loneliness applies to both men and women, but can manifest in different ways. Likewise we see the same with kids, adults and the elderly. Different sources and reasons apply.
Nice work with the disclaimer, a little sad that you need one these days.. don't want cancel culture to get you!
Cancel away. I'm used to it. 😢
I really appreciate the fact that we're looking at the female perspective of loneliness a little more these days. I think it's important to highlight the fears, needs and societal stresses of both sexes, because it's all too easy to block off the mysterious opposite sex, and assume that they're either the main cause of a big part of our individual loneliness, or they have it better, or that they're not worth reasoning with, because they wouldn't ever understand what it's like.
Much love to all my lonely girls, guys, and everyone in-between!!
I'm a man who has only had incredibly bad female role models growing up. As such, I've had a continuous lack of trust for people based off of their gender that I want to fix. This video has helped somewhat. Thank you.
Thanks for making this feel good to be understood
Men and women, we’re all lonely.
Exactly.
I just want someone to show an interest in me.. I’m tired to be the first to write, the first to ask, the first to make a step. I wanna be appreciated too.
When i feel lonely i remind myself how profoundly lonely in the last years of my previous relationship when i had a partner, and i know I need to create life for myself, being single or in a relationship doesn’t have anything to do with my loneliness.
I feel for everyone who is lonely - regardless of gender.
Me, I somehow keep attracting people who act like they like me, but then talk mean behind my back. And then decide to cut me off abruptly with things I didn't realize were problems because they never talked to be about it, making me second guess all my interactions with them and wondering if I really HAD been the problem. The internalized perfectionism doesn't help.
As a woman I feel lonely just seeing the way someone who called a friends treat me differently to their other friends. Despite saying they see me as a better friend
true
I relate to this deeply. Its painful.
is it because they see a potential relationship or because they feel they have to walk on ice around you?
@@drewlevy9557 apparently it's because they see a possible relationship
@@CharlieHeeson your partner is supposed to be one of your better friends. Its more genuine then going for someone on first glance. If they actively looked to know more about you then there’s no harm in it and just set expectations. At that point its on them to accept them or move on. Just be honest
good video yet again, I would only add for people to read 'Magnetic Aura' from Talesio helped me a tonnn
I used to think I was lonely until I started trying to fill the void with people. It was only after being used, abused, and taken advantage of that O realized that I wasn't lonely. Just starved for meaningful connections. Finding a man is easy. Finding a good quality man is darn near impossible. The wrong man help you quickly learn that being alone doesn't mean lonely. Some of the loneliest women I know are married. The loneliest I've ever been was married and in a relationship. Now single, I'm not lonely. Just happily alone. I'd love to find someone to share this happiness with. But, I won't sacrifice my happiness just to be lonely with a man. It's not worth it.
THANK YOU. So many people use the argument of “women have so many options” when tbh a lot of those “easy” options are worse than just being single.
Im so sorry u had to go through all those toxic relationships, and i hope u can find a good man. Be picky, be selective. It may take a lot longer but it will be worth it
I relate ❤ Thank you
Preach
There we go again broadly slighting men. Keep being happily alone because you'll just make others feel that way with you.
@drewlevy9557 Respectfully, that is rude and uncalled for
i have noticed that sometimes ppl forget that not all women get friend/boyfriends so easily. So this is a great reminder of that, good vid
Oh my God, every point of this video is so true. 😢 We’re so tired…
As a man, I think the reason (or at least one of the reasons) for why female loneliness is just as prevalent as male loneliness is because of how women tend to gossip about a variety of things regardless of if it’s something positive, negative or somewhere in between more often than men. As a result, it’s easy for women to push out women who disagree with them on a number of topics.
As a Man, I would say that everyone is experiencing the same mental struggles.
Today's society is so broken and idealistic that you CAN'T fit into Ideal in any way...
As a guy a tip for women who struggle with dating men, just be yourself (literally)...
Me personally, I like women that are comfortable in their skin, I don't mind and mostly don't even notice these "InPeRfEcTiOnS", you look perfect the way you are
I feel lonely a lot your videos help me sometimes thanks for helping me a little even though it hurts a lot ❤
You’re not alone, and it means so much to hear that our videos bring you a bit of comfort. Sending you all the love-we’re here with you. ❤
@Psych2go thank you that made me cry knowing you actually found my comment thank you so much ❤️
This is very good! Thank you!
I hope we all can overcome this epidemic. For me it’s odd that both sides are plagued by this. My perspective tells me that societal expectations are probably warped. That’s how you end up with two large pools, even though both could cover large amounts of each other in order to cancel out loneliness.
0:14 HARPY HARE?!?!
OMG.
I have a question for the girls. There's this one girl in my class that always seems lonely. I rarely see her with any other person. She seems like a lovely person, however the girls in my class just don't go talk to her. I tried to approach her and do a little of small talk, but she just kept anwering briefly, although she smiled. So, like, should I just let her be? Am I being a jerk? Everyone else don't seem to care for her, but that doesn't seem right to me. Should I try to be friends with her? If so, how can I do it without seeming weird? Cause being alone truly sucks, no matter what gender, talking from my own experience
You can try talking about things you did in class and after that you can ask her if she wants to be your friend because you saw her being lonely and you think she's a nice person and gives you good vibes
@@yuriality5 I wouldn't justify wanting to be someone's friend in any way shape or form. "I want to be your friend" - end of.
If you try to qualify that in any way other than "I like you as a person", it will always feel hollow to the other person.
She probably has been made to feel so insecure that she doubts that you actually have good intentions and want to be her friend. Maybe instead of just saying "hi" make a grander gesture like invite her to sit with you at lunch or hang out after school, and don't be too put off if she is awkward or even unfriendly/guarded at first, because she might think you are just doing it as a prank or something, since other kids can truly be awful to unpopular kids.
As a guy, we need to really help each other. Both sides.
Awww aman your animations are such sooo relieving and soothing ❤❤❤thank you for supporting our mental wellbeing
The loneliness I feel hurts so much and everyday is a struggle to keep going 😢
I think the rhetoric of loneliness being gender based needs to stop.
I have BPD so I completely understand the feeling of loneliness.
I'm not diagnosed with it even though ChatGPT suggests it more than my actual diagnoses of PTSD(which is kinda similar in some aspects) (Yeah. That's how the goddamn psychiatrists in our country are, telling us not to get information from online platforms and not addressing our issues at all blatantly hiding the diagnoses, next time I won't be that polite with him (this Saturday, I'm going there with ......)). somehow, I also have those traits like extreme suspiciousness, fear of being abandoned, the opposite of devaluing? (Because, I really get negative thoughts about those who support me as well sometimes due delusional thinking but somehow, I'm not allowed show them so I'd get much harsher replies.), negative mood swings, intense (unexpressed) anger, hating myself etc.
Who else watched Shoe0nhead's video on female loneliness?
I think fostering genuine friendships with other women is important. I know it gets harder as you get older, people move away or marry but it does help so much to have that.
I personally can't connect with men (who I'm not dating) in the same way and it hasn't worked when I've tried to be friends with them.
Exactly
Wow thanks for this video I just moved to a new school and it's been really really hard making friends and I still don't have any even though we're like good in the year so I relate a lot
I have been single my entire life and I was seriously interested in 3 women across my 29 years. One at 19, one at 24, one at 26. Each time I was led on, given the “I think you’re nice but” and then the friendship was ended. Years later, the first one reached back out to me but now she had a child with someone else. What’s the point?? I’m not denying loneliness exists. I’m just saying that women need to take some stock of their actions as well.
I don't think it's fair to think someone should suffer because of a connection not connecting on their end in someone else's time...
@ I’m not sure what you mean. Either way, I’ve seen that I don’t meet some criteria that women want me to meet, and they can’t tell me what it is. I’m sorry if it came across as hostile, I just don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t want to feel like someone’s last option.
@@kenzienoel5439Same, don't think it's very productive to make a fuss about it.
"women need to take some stock of their actions as well" why should we force ourselves to date someone we arent interested in? also 3 girls rejecting you is not much, do you expect to find a good partner in 3 girls? that is very unlike. if you want a partner who treats you good, shares same values, can communicate and other stuff that are important in relationship, it takes time to find (sadly)
idk maybe because i have no friends, am an introvert, am shy, have a fear of people, and have social anxiety
the girl i’m dating used to talk about her loneliness, and how she’s never been with anyone beyond flirting then instant cut off
though i haven’t watched this video at all, this already gives rise for me to treat her the best i can and love her with all i have
If she is really going through it instead of putting 'male-female comparisons' just love her she really needs you heal her as much as you can just love her and heal her and make her notice how preety she is , how valuable she is , how cute she is , how smart she is and lastly how precious she is ❤❤ I know many men don't like giving but you seem to be different from them so please just be gentle with her okay 👌
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@@myraarora4809 alr working on that, she lives nearby, so i surprised her with my presence (and my dog)
i’ll give my all for her
It’s interesting because western society has become highly impulse-pleasure driven where nothing is good enough, but the issue goes deeper than a lack of delayed gratification.
I think I can speak for a good portion of men out there, As a 15 yr old teenager growing up in a world where such things are the norm is challenging, but I want every girl out there to know you don't need to follow the trends and garbage all over the internet. Take me for example, I was raised old fashioned so I have golden morals and values, I don't pay much attention to the unrealistic expectations that the world expects from us. There is someone for everyone, but don't get that twisted for someone who js admires one thing about you or can put up with you, You aline in every way. Much love to everyone ❤
This resonated with me so much... Life for me really just feels numb and lonely.
I think there's just a loneliness epidemic that's completely devoid of gender, but gender is part of how we experience this loneliness because gender is a part of how we experience the world.
Why people gotta start a war on who's the loneliest. Both genders have toxic execations, but we all can still act despite of them. We should stop blaming each other for our loneliness and act to solve it
Easier said then done...
@Jamhael1 maybe... but one can start by realising that everyone's in control of their own life, and that men accusing women and women accusing men only leads to further social gaps. Feeling frustration after bad experiences is normal, but we shouldn't let that feeling turn into generalisations
@susannaseveroni4489 easier said then done - men are avoiding relationships because women had become so INSUFFERABLE that they see any attempt of dating will never move forward, and the sheer number of advantages women had received in education, academics and work, combined with a gigantic political hobby that DEMAND that women must grow AT THE EXPENSE OF MEN by demonizing "masculinity" as some kind of pathological disease, a complete opposition to ANY program that merely hints in helping men's s*icId€ pandemic, and the fact that the situation os men's loneliness is EARLIER than women's by YEARS, only shows that a growing number of 3rd Wave Feminism activists and lobbyists are nothing more then clinically diagnosed narcisists - and I call them that because the main characteristic of narcisists in positions of power is that they DO NOT solve the main problem they promissed they would solve, but in fact they WANT the problem to exist so they can justify their permanence in a position of power.
At least for women, it's more socially acceptable to ask for help
@Meow-princesss women don't mind, but men do. There is nothing more disappointing in hearing the cries of a man in distress. It is pride, but it's also a need to be strong and independent
@Meow-princesss I don't really care how other men see me, but I'm not particularly emotional anyway. Besides, I've learned how to self medicate anyway and I dive into my hobbies whenever I feel down and that usually perks me up. How about you? How do you deal with matters of loneliness?
@Meow-princesss I know you were speaking generally. Everyone goes through lonely times and learning how to cope with it is half the battle. I sometimes play a game or two as well, but I stay away from team online games especially if I don't know them because they can sometimes make things worse. If it's with friends, it's so much better. I also have a private chat room where my best friend is often there. Are you happy in general?
@Meow-princesss am I what? If you're asking if I have social anxiety, then no I don't. I just don't like dealing with strangers online. Trust me though, you will make at least one friend in the future and someone who understands you. I think that's all we're after is to be understood and appreciated. I'm more than happy to be your friend. Socially speaking, I'm very attentive. I just fade in large groups.
@Meow-princesss xD I would say I'm definitely an adult. It's been a long time since I've been a child. Yes, your comment has shown. Tell me more about your health issues though because I'm curious. Also, being friends is best outside of UA-cam xD
such an important topic to discuss, thank you
As a female whos never really been in a relationship with any guy, i hope all of us overcome our loneliness soon❤
Am I weird for watching this as a guy trying to understand women more?
Weird away, by all means ^^ it results in more understanding in the world
No 😂
Empowered women do not feel alone. 😂
Reminder you can, in fact, talk with the guys and girls that have interests in you and that your friends are honestly the best people to date. Dating is never easy it takes work, so chin up.
Thank you for acknowledging that women experience feelings of isolation, inadequacy and loneliness too. The struggle is real for everyone. #cepv #IMustWin
Loneliness has been a constant battle for me since I was a kid in elementary school because of growing up with disabilities. Didn’t help that I was the only person who had cerebral palsy, ADHD and autism in my environment. Communication was a major challenge for me (still is) and the COVID pandemic has not made it any better.
Most lonely women are lonely by choice. I have seen more women reject simple friendship based on dating criteria. It's bonkers!
@@wheeltrouble i think by default we all have some form of standard but i agree sometimes the reason people are lonely is because those standards are too high
@@princessperfectpaws0436 By people you mean the women. They demand 6 ft tall men, with 6 figure income and a house and trust fun and all this nonsense, which is only 1% of the male population, of course you'll be alone if that's your standard.
@princessperfectpaws0436 I agree that there must be standards for friendship. By the same token, there are plenty of people whom my wife and I have offered to invest time in. Even if we make it clear that there is no intent to date or "play", I often get "I'm not wanting to date" followed by ghosting. They pre-reject an overture that was never coming in the first place! That is every bit a choice.
@@wheeltrouble Wait, is this on dating apps or irl though? If it's on a dating app, they might be assuming you're unicorn hunters if it's both of you. Apps are full of unicorn hunters.
@OliviaW-j4p irl. If I'm on a dating app, and a girl assumes I'n trying to date, that's fair. A coworker whom I am trying to hold an offsite business meeting with (because it needs to be away from prying eyes/confidential, but still in a VERY PUBLIC space)? Nah, she just made it to where no guy will ever be around her alone now. It takes a high degree of narcissism to assume everyone is out to date you. When in doubt, ask! How hard is it to go "just friends?"
Male loneliness is still a much bigger thing because of society helping women in need much faster. But women still deal with the issue
@ Men and women don’t have life easy. But it’s a fact women get help faster in most situations. If you think men have it easy I can explain why I disagree or you can blindly believe your right
If society helps women much faster then their loneliness isn't an issue, unless it doesn't?
@@portalsevil Helping faster doesn’t mean instantly so in some cases they can go without help for a long time.
Lonely women and men who have been domestically abused are among the statistics that often go underdiscussed. 💔
Literally me.
Survived a Narcissist with BPD (Borderline)
Not my words, my therapist.
Me: 34 y.o. Male - can confirm that most (not all) women my age, I've explained it to : dismiss me and/or blame me for her actions.
Men: ?
(Mostly understanding, but have definitely gotten a few massive douchbag responses before too)
My current gf is Gen Z - TOTALLY different experience. She is sooo supportive and understanding right off the rip.
I think Gen Z is generally more aware and supportive about domestic abuse and it's end product.
I'm lucky ❤️
@Thecak3isalie I'm sorry you had to endure so much. Please take care of yourself ❤️
To put it another way; we're all lonely together.
What an era.
I don't want to be the one who makes it seem negative, but loneliness is an essential part of life, it is what makes one appreciate happiness and joy. The yin to the yang. The balance of bad so that good can exist etc.