Why WOMEN are DIFFICULT in relationships
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This is an easy one. Women are difficult in relationships when they don't perceive you to be their best option. Much better to sort for women who feel lucky to be there, and/or to level up your game.
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"Go where you're celebrated, not where you're tolerated."
Yes go here your celebrated The Philippines
@@jdbjoshua Man, I'm really one mouse click away lol 🖱+ ✈+ 🇵🇭 lol.
It’s crazy because the girl I’m dating makes me feel kinda celebrated. Though I’m still wary of her,
That’s EXACTLY what ALL WOMEN should do!! Get away from misogynistic little entitled boys of all ages for good! Well said! 😄😄😄
Get a dog. Much more fun.
I heard a pimp say the same thing: "Go with the girl that likes you not the girl you like" His reasons were pretty much the same as yours.
Seen that same short.
And will you or her be happy in that relationship?😐
Go with the girl who likes you: but for what?! So I can drool over the girls I am actually attracted to?
Well, how about, the guy is not interested?
Just because she likes you doesn't mean you're her best option and doesn't mean she'll pursue you. You have to be the best option in her eyes.
If a girl makes your life difficult in any way, remove her from your life immediately.
Also try and find those signs out early on, I thought the first 5 months were perfect and then she became a monster for the next 9 (yes, it took that long for me to leave, now I get why people don't just get out of abusive relationships)
@@joshuaafcutler7348 most underrated comment
💯 % true
As Chris Rock said: "Have you ever out the corner of your eye caught your wife looking at you and not saying anything? She is looking at you as her second choice. She is thinking about the man who got away. That's the man she wanted."
And become gay
Us men don't want difficult or challenging women. it becomes too chaotic. i think a lot of us men want peace of mind and not chaos.
A lot of us women want the same :)
@@Sarafara7 peace of mind that isn't linked to weekly material goods hon.
@@zadokprime4831 excuse me?
More like piece of 🍑Mindful and 🚫chaos
@SaraFara We must go out into a chaotic world in order to earn resources and provide for women. We bring order to the chaos.
But coming home to chaos makes men feel unbridled and homeless. Chaos is everywhere. Out-of-order women belong on the streets.
It goes back to the saying, "the juice really isn't worth the squeeze." Always value those who value you.
Honestly, when u put it like that, makes me ask myself and others.. how easy is it to find another creamer and squirter in one?? 🤔🤔🤔
@@lemilomuro4498 quite frankly, they're dime a dozen. Find one who adds value to your life as opposed to being a liability. Once you can narrow your scope and focus on the more substantial matters, the rest will be easier.
My ex was exactly like that. I made a poor choice. I learned my lessons. Bettered myself and now my current partner is simply awesome!
For now.
@The_Kirk_Lazarus pessimism is a sad path to go down (not attacking you or anything btw)
Partner?....Your the leader-not a partner. I see where things went wrong
She CAN do better than myself. Much better. She can find a better fool than myself. And I wish her the best 👌.
I love it when guys pat themselves on the back and try to elevate themselves for doing what should always be a default action; denying garbage women that they were never supposed to take seriously to begin with. And “no thanks” is a way healthier way to see it all, than to be spiteful and passive-aggressive. The only guy that takes joy in denying a woman, is a guy that rarely gets to do it.
@chrisstone2506 did you just passive aggressively put down passive aggressiveness?
@@andre1987eph she will never find another me. Nor get the love i gave her.
Yes, the moment a woman starts complaining about everything, including trivial things, it means that she thinks that she can do better than you. It might be on your first date, or 20 years into your marriage. If it's your first date, you may use it as motivation to improve yourself so that she cannot do better than you, or just move on. A friends wife started complaining about everything he did. He found out that she was having an affair with a coworker. (Now, a wife can have an affair with a coworker without complaining, because she sees the affair as just fun, not an opportunity to do better than her husband whom she still loves deeply. Surprising, but true.) Whether you decide to divorce your wife or try to keep her, the actions that you should take are the same. Start getting yourself ready to date on the open market. Slim down, lift weights, run, get fashionable clothing, improve your social skills, improve your income. This may demonstrate to her that she cannot do better than you, and she stops complaining. If not, and you divorce her, then you are ready to date on the open market. Remember, the only relationship security is being able to get the next one.
If the writing is on the wall,and divorce is en route, don’t forget to also lose all your liquid assets in a newly found gambling addiction 6-12 months prior 😂🙌
Or being able to enjoy your life without one. It’s like the old business adage: Any time you find yourself in a situation where you are unwilling to get up from the (bargaining) table and leave? You are negotiating from a position of weakness.
Eff that. Move on and keep to yourself. Women have you over a barrel at all times. No marriage. No dating. No cohabitation. No procreation. No servitude. No white knighting. No simping.
@@mwxtodd here here we will re evaluate the situation in 10 years
@@Jaco059 It will not change in 10 years. I have two young sons and I will tell them that if they resolve to marry, plan on an exit.
Average young women regularly getting attention and sex from men who wouldn’t settle down with them is a strong contributing factor to these women’s future unhappiness with men they had to settle for.
1000 percent facts!!!
True
Women want control not happiness, they will end old and alone and angry and unhappy.
They hate you because you are the one they didn't want but had to accept
If she is acting like this she has already made up her mind that she can do better, dump her and move on. She is either already found another guy she likes or is actively looking.,
This is why you don't get with women who have been around too much.
Take my word for it, it's NOT just the ones who have been around too much
All women are like that
Women's enthusiasm is not a constant. It responds to environmental cues.
@Vanessa C By “environmental cues” do you mean her relative degree of perceived happiness? If so I agree.
... it's temporarily opportunistic, and usually blurredly multi-conditional. nothing to waste m.e.a.t. for on trial to trigger.
@@east5871If all her friends are upset with their partner, she will be upset with you.
Noone's enthusiasm Is constant, but playing games on your partner in order to get what you want is childish and most likely It will leave both parties unsatisfied
Heavily influenced by culture. Enter the classic bait and switch, starter husband's society and culture disproportionately pander to women at the expense of men. There's a reason women are increasingly going to be single and unmarried. Simply not worth risking anymore in today's current environment
No matter what the fuck I watch on UA-cam it always breaks my heart. Men are going through so much shit these days.
We all are and sadly my devout catholic wife doesn’t think her phone sex issue with a stranger she said she thought was me is ok and that was our first year of marriage. PS she gives the host out at church which I refuse to attend
@@ricvanwinkle1665 Sorry to hear. Stay strong and do your own thing.
Life sounds So hard for men
Men, it sounds as though you all get the short straw in 'life' you have to contend with All the hard bits..And, earn a living
I've saying this for years, if a woman does what Redpillers call "fecal tests" and if she's easy to fall out of love she never really loved you to begin with. Also, women who have commitment issues are their own personality type and the moment you realise this you should probably look for someone else.
100% fecal tests (good one) are just nature's way of letting you know she's not really interested. That does not mean you can't still get in her pants. But it does mean she will end up being a waste of your time.
I'm 60 and at this point I don't put with ANY BS. The first sign of it and I walk. No Vajaja is worth it.
you never confront women on their bullshit?
@@dontreadmyname4396 it's mostly useless because it's rare that they reflect on their behavior and actively try to improve themselves.
It's no coincidence that self-improvement messages are generally directed to men and not women.
Overall, if she's difficult, better to leave her and move on with your life.
@@Hollowed2wiz what if i strongly feel she is lying to me? for example i asked her if she was okay doing me a favor a month ago, she said "i can but not right now" i waited, then i asked her again 2 weeks later and she said "sorry i forgot" and i asked when then, she said "hmmm maybe soon, i gtg now, bye!" and waited 1 more week, i asked again today "hey are u really forgetting or you dont want to do it? please be honest answering, if you are really just forgetting we should try to get it done the next time we talk or you will keep forgetting" she said "yes i forget, lots of things in my mind" and i didnt insist after that and we talked about other stuff
i am wondering what do i do now.. do i ask her later tonight if "can we do it now before the day ends?" or something? i really feel she dont wanna do it or is lazy or something, but i specifically asked her if she dont wanna do it to be honest about it, and she kept saying she forgetting
Same here 58.
@@dontreadmyname4396what did you ask her to do? Sounds like she’s just stringing you alone bro. I’d just do it myself at that point. She sounds like she doesn’t respect you not reciprocate. You can try to get her to, but it’s likely a losing battle. 😊
What’s worse is the woman who believes she “can do better” but isn’t going to go find better. She’s just going to stay around and make the guy’s life a living hell to exact her revenge or she forces the guy to make the decision to end it so she can be the victim on 14 different social media sites.
Cut her and let her test the market. If she fails and realizes that you were treating her decently enough with regards to being fair to her and reasonable in resource giving, though checking her on her shit tests, she will likely return, or try to return. You can take her back, but that should mostly be for, using the words of AMS, "she is going to have to S a whole lot of D!"
They all believe they "can do better." Most cannot.
Your description of difficult is the precise description of my ex-husband after he became successful financially. Now, I am happily married for the second time. He is still alone, regretful. Anything I could do differently to prevent such development of our relationship, still trying to understand? Becoming difficult is not female only prerogative. Please, concider that.
My ex husband was a sweetheart guy. Then he got financially successful, became a arrogant @hole. That's why he's an ex.
True 100% got to know this after my gf ended our 4 year relationship. The truth hurts
4 years was a nice journey still
it hurts at first but then after the transformation of self it's priceless.
Imagine the outcry if men did these things to women because they felt they could do better.
You are so right. Dedication and loyalty are qualities only mature people have. 🙏❤️
we know all that. The problem is that the women with whom we could have effortless relationships are not the women who get us hard. In that case, it's better to stay alone.
👏I'll clap for that because it's finally some real honesty from a man.
And she's not necessarily an unattractive woman,just not our type😅
'Anything else is a job'. BOOM. Spot on. I've never had such bad relationships - though some were like that at the end before the breakup. What some men tolerate is crazy to me. I think some do like the misery.
I think it's more that society conditions us to take more than we should.
You need to understand - we love our children and would go through any amount of pain to be with them...
No, not all men love their children. Some make out that they earn zero so they don't have to contribute to the growing up assistance of the children they jointly made. This was learned through Experience @@cyrusp100
I learned this one the hard way, but I did avoid getting married. We as men tend to want to “fix” problems, but in this particular case, it’s better to cut your losses. In hindsight, my situation is amusing. Her family loved me, and questioned why she would act so difficult for no apparent reason.
"... Anything less is a job." 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Taraban: _”The trick is finding a woman who’s enthusiastic about being in a relationship.”
Good one, Taraban. The _PROBLEM_ is these women can easily be *Covert Narcissists* who *LOVE-BOMB* their victims just long enough to rope the man in, then pull back, breadcrumbing him into submission. The OTHER problem is that women are *MASTERS* at *SHARING NOTES* with each other. Even the SMARTEST man will find himself two or three steps behind the SISTERHOOD of WOMEN who are coaching each other on female dominance and revenge.
this is not true... this is for men who are simping and or arent high value enough for her to see herself as one of your NUMEROUS OPTIONS.. if you are high value enough, women dont think of playing these games cos they know you can cut them off immediately and do move to someone else who is PROBABLY BETTER THAN HER.. build yourself and have options
@@jeffreynyarko1154 no they don’t believe you will cut them off. That’s how highly they think of themselves. Also in the moment they can be cold, and so might not care that you cut them off until a week or 2 later. But if they have options they may go astray during that time or have already lined them up, once they start feeling your value because you haven’t returned and realize the new option isn’t what they thought, they will try to return. Effectively blowing up the relationship because now they can’t ever come back. A legit male would never take them back.
When Shaggy starts giving dating advices.
ZOINKS!!!
LOL!!!!!
I was thinking the exact same thing! Great comment 😂
That's funny.
He's only using 1% of his power 😎
dfkm lol, dude spits game though
Social media - the great thief of joy.
The only problem is: the woman who are enthusiastic to you doesn’t turn you on , and it’s human nature to chase people who are better than us( no matter they pretend to be or true)
I know a few women who always thought they "deserve better". They are either still single in their late forties or had to settle for someone who was simply available and was looking to settle as well
Relationships are only for having kids,it's the only bond connecting you both,other than that it's just rubbing up against each other with no bond and no future
They all think that no matter how good u are, if eve can eat the apple by listening to the devil (sisterhood) over God or her man she’s a liability. A good feminine trusting caring woman can get a man who will do everything in his power to see she’s protected.
You forgot to mention that there are trillions of people with serious attachment issues that cause demanding, claiming, agression and more just because they're afraid of losing you and want to cut the relationship off before they get hurt from you first
If she was married to Elvis circa 1957 she'd still think she could do better eventually. Let's not forget it was Priscilla that filed for divorce. A womans general disposition, despite social media portrayals, is general unhappiness with the occasional good day. Most of the time they don't want to be happy and have an almost instintcual contradictory nature, on the one hand, an almost sociopathic need to serve her perceived best interests and an equal self destructive need to destroy anything that might cause sustainable happiness.
Elvis was controlling and started screwing Priscilla at 15. If you let a woman feel like she's choosing, she'll always come back to you.
@@joyandpeacefullaughter5307 do you think she'd let any man do that at 15? She chose him!
@@joyandpeacefullaughter5307 That is not true.
Priscilla destroyed Elvis's life and after his death let some of the men she was dating take turns on her young daughter.
She put everybody in an early grave.
This entire comment section is an overload of truth and self awareness…
Summary: women are agents of CHAOS
Depends what you mean by demanding. Some men really do need to step up and become better people. More cooperative, more generous, more thoughtful & considerate, more educated, Etc. Some guys really do nothing besides let you live in their house and maybe split the grocery bill with you. No romance, no thoughtfulness, when you have trouble they dont come help you instead they say figure it out, they dont clean after themselves, they could care less about your feelings and your family,etc etc
Women initiate 70% of all abuse/far more controlling/control freaks/emotionally manipulative and abusive towards men/women initiate 90% of divorces and even though men still are 99% of household breadwinners women control 80% of spending power which means men are still giving their all. Women are severely lacking yet demanding everything.
@@tedoymisojos Exactly! God bless you for the common sense that you just shared in here.
Delusion is dangerous in life. Pride is a cardinal sin, and Humility is a must for a fulfilling life.
Remember: She's not yours.
It's just your turn.
I was recently pursued by one who wasn’t my first choice, but you’re right - the experience is much much better when they’re simply keen vs. when I’m trying to win them over.
I’ve learnt to not aim for the top girl, because the top girl is generally impossible to please (and will generally exhibit the behaviours you mentioned).
He has another video where he explains that relationships usually work best when the man is the adored (the prize) and the woman is the adorer (looking up to him as the prize she wants to win. This is because women want an emotional experience in a relationship. And being in the position of adorer a man that she sees as a prize to her gives her that emotional experience she wants in a relationship.
I couldn't agree more. I saw the longer video and it is on point.
Life is so much better when you're with a girl who actually likes you lol
It’s hilarious how all women think they deserve better and still end up single 😅😂
If you COULD do better, don't you think you WOULD have done better? God women are the sh!ts
All women end up single? In what Universe do you live? 😂
@@goldenparachute392 Not all.But mostly in today's era.
Most young men are single. Most young women are not. That's the statistic.
It's hilarious how statistics show that 60+% of men are single today and only 30+% of women are 😅😂
I became difficult when it became clear to me that my husband didn't want kids and he was just being a grown up child and wasting my time. Don't assume women become dissatisfied for no reason. We all have things we want to accomplish in life.
That seems like something you should talk about before marriage..
Typical woman answer, it's never their fault.
Men don't care about women's accomplishments because at the end of the day even a rich, succesful woman will expect her man to pay and provide, your value depends on what value you bring to his life, peace, purity, youth, a child bearing healthy physical body, anything other than that is just a feminist scam sold to women.
1: if having kids is a life goal of yours, you should have ensured that he also wanted kids before marrying him.
2: If your husband is causing problems in the marriage, just becoming difficult in response is not the proper way to deal with. You have to try and talk about it and deal with it in a constructive manner and if he won't work with you on that, then you have to starting considering the pros and cons of staying in the marriage vs leaving.
3: he didn't say women become difficult for no reason. He gave specific reasons why women become difficult. You're gaslighting on that one.
This might be the best advice yet. I couldn’t agree more.
Yeah you're correct!
Lesson is to always keep your girl on her toes. The casual neg and insult nerver hurt anyone, make her unhappy for a day. Keep her happy for a lifetime.
Honestly,it's sad that it's true😅
Ask her "are you on your period or something?" Works every time.
My woman is 58; I think she'd actually laugh if I said that
I am on the point of giving up, why bother anymore... It is just too damn difficult!
Same here, how you doin?
@@sweetsmakemeshredded3672 I want to try it one time, and try it good! If that fails, I'll never talk to any woman again.
Same
Come on man. Did you think you'd find some kind of perfect soulmate, first couple of tries? It can takes years to find an excellent match. You take tons of Ls, you move on and learn from them. Giving up is for pussies. I wish you the best!
@@alexandrodl1371 Sounds like wishful thinking, if they all suck then why do you think one of them would not?
This matches what Rich Cooper says. They need to have Burning Desire for you. They need to believe you are their best option.
Same is true with a man! So stop looking for a “trophy” woman. Consider weighing everything. I mean not just her beauty outside but inside as well.
I’m a woman. And I think I’m difficult not because I think I could do better. It’s because I think he had better. Dr Taraban, I like your blunt straight forward style of talking and I know your channel is aimed at mostly men. But it would be awesome to see more content giving advice to women like myself.
I want to be a better partner but I am also very stubborn and feel I need someone to make all of this make sense for me in a realistic manner. Too much advice out there for women I feel is aimed at making us feel we are superior or better but that doesn’t work for me.
I want something to click, make rational sense. I’m more of a red pill person but I also want to be able to know “okay so life, sucks, what can I do about it? How can I see things in a positive way without having to delude myself?”
My ex wife and her sisters said the same thing. "We can't help it, you men have to educate us and teach us what's right." I listened and divorced my wife (after 4 years of hell) she is now on the streets because there is no better place for a woman like that to learn. The brothers-in-law didn't listen and are still living in this hell.
@@MrOsmanu I'm sorry to hear you had hell? What did she do?
There will always be nuances and different circumstances for why people say or behave the way they do. It's not always the same reason all around.
Some people truly want to learn and others don't and just say it with no emphasis behind it.
For me I just kept telling my partners that they could do better. I didn't realize it was driving them away by being honest when I told them I thought their past partners were prettier, etc. Now I know not to always question why a guy chose to be with me. Because that can get annoying
@@Ladeliciadelinda Every man is at war within himself. Just because he's quiet doesn't mean a man doesn't have feelings. I now even assume that a man has more feelings than a woman but can control them better. When you tell a man, be the way I want you to be. Then he understands that you want someone else. And that means war for him. Well, I wish you insight and success in your future.
@@MrOsmanu thanks for the insights. We are all human so of course we all have feelings and emotions. As for me I have low self esteem so I often think I'm not attractive or funny enough. Thats my own insecurity though
@@Ladeliciadelinda You don't need to, I've seen your videos and you're a beautiful woman. However, you don't need to hear that from anyone but your husband. Good luck.
Most women believe that they can do better. While they can usually have sex with "better" it's extremely rare that any of them can have a long term relationship with better.
Sometimes I do things that might make me look “difficult “ because I like the guy SO MUCH that I don’t want HIM to think I’m too eager or easy to win over, I try to be a challenge a little bit because I’ve been told that’s what keeps a man interested. It’s always a fine line we walk between showing too much interest and scaring him off, or showing too little and having him think we don’t like him. And, every man is different so I can never learn to do it the right way 🤦🏼♀️
You are playing games with the man. Don't be surprised when he starts playing games with you in return.
The majority of guys really aren't that complicated. I think you're overthinking things. We constantly have competition and conflict in our lives, especially the workplace.
The LAST thing we need is coming home to a difficult woman. If you feel affectionate, then show him! Go for it! I wouldn't worry about showing too much interest. Unlike for women, attention and interest is not something men experience on the regular.
... well, I've written off mind-phuqeries by xx.s in total. no f.o.m.o. - eg on any 'assumable' positives - left. let alone their 'love'.
You're not a chellenge with Chad.
Just be kind, work out and affectionate.
My last ex was difficult and demanding because she thought she could do better. He used to to me her exes were C-suite executives and I’d remind her that she couldn’t keep any of them, she was just a carousel ride. In the end I outgrew her and left her on the street. Now I’m with a wonderful woman who adores me and has the most enthusiasm I’ve ever experienced.
You get 100 points for looking like Captain Kirk. Nice outfit.
Wow, there is some resemblance there. Haha!
Actually, he kinda reminded me of Shaggy 😄
How is he gonna look like Kirk AND Shaggy simultaneously? 😅😂
Like Christ Rock said, "It's because you're not her first choice."
Problem is, nobody is the first choice of that arrogant 304.
Damn, commitment starts to make them think they can do better. Thats why their demands increase.
Before commitment my ex = cleaning house, laundry folded, dinner served, sex all the time, loving and caring.
After commitment = tantrums, nagging, demands, decrease in sex, distance, disrespectful, breakup.
Also could have just ran it's course..she got to know you by then and didn't really like you
@@janetomes you could be onto something.
This was really good. Thank you!
tom Brady couldn't even keep his wife happy
That's what happens, when you marry a woman, that has more money than you. Tom Brady had no business marrying that type of woman.
Will Smith, too.
@@SKBottom
Smith’s problem was his attempts to please her. Jada is classic alpha widow and she settled for Will. Will on paper is awesome but his mental point of origin is her not himself. Hopefully, you’ve seen the clip of Will with Mark Ruffalo, Samuel L Jackson, and others A list actors he explains what drives him to do everything he does is to prevent being cheated on. His first girlfriend cheated on him.
@@2bituser569 I've seen it.
Normally, I'm skeptical about therapy and I think society over uses it as a crutch, but I really think Will could use a few sessions with a red pill, man oriented therapist.
Elon Musk, Bill Gates, Jeff Bezos, average American man. I give up, American women are just not worth the effort.
If she is any of these.... *_Ditch her! No questions asked!_*
This one is easy: reflect. If she acts this way to you, just act that way back to her. If she’s distant, you become distant. Easy. She usually comes around. When you get really good at mental games you can be the one who initiates it and only does it temporarily. What I do is I ignore, then after maybe a couple of minutes I ask her “ok how did that make you feel? Do you understand what it is like to be on the receiving end of that behavior? Do you want to do that to me or anyone else ever again?” She’ll understand that you’re not there to take her shit at that point, and that you know your stuff. Easily turn disrespect around. One thing in my personal relationship that happened early on was when I’d try to hold her hand she’d pull it away from me after a couple seconds. “My hands are sweaty” she’d say. Absolute bullshit and I knew it. So here’s what I did. The next time she went to hold my hand, I did the exact same thing to her. “My hand hurts from (insert bullshit activity that could plausibly injure your hand).” Of course she had a hurt look on her face when I said this (not like me when she did the same thing to me. I felt bad but didn’t show it because I know to never show weakness to a woman). I looked her in the eyes and said “do you understand how it makes me feel when you do that to me?” She nodded and said “I understand.” Let’s just say,.. she never pulls her hand away from mine anymore. In fact later on she doubled down on the intimacy 😏 but I can’t put those details down here 😂. Anyways hope you guys learned something take care and stay sharp.
In my experience difficulty in women is caused by difficulty in their upbringing and parenting.
This is the TRUTH. As a man, you are going to be up against her childhood. Was it difficult or nurturing?
@@davidking42086 Which poses a question: Do I, as a female with difficult childhood and complicated family dynamics, have to be punished by a man in him leaving me and giving up on me only because I had it tough in the past resulting in my fear of abandonment while all I long for is love, care and affection that I haven't been given?
This is what the dating coaches don’t want u to know crazy thanks man
🎯💯 the state of mind she is in is such that she is expressing no feelings for you, she is just in a state of mind such as those who are playing with game of chess. She just wants to see how much she can control you and get out of you. She had no feelings at all.
In other words she is a sociopathic narc
This is a brilliant advice, Doc. Well summarised.
She does all of these things, but insists that she needs me and doesn't know what she'd do without me. I've always felt that she she would be happier with someone else, and there have been friends she's way more enthusiastic about than me, and that she would constantly talk about, and/or to.
FACTS!
This is the reason why we're quickly converting to 'passport bros'...women from other countries are more enthusiastic about relationships...I appreciate the good Doc!
Thanks, Shaggy
I told my girl that she can do a lot better and she should not limit herself to me
😂
You are the man ! Amazing phsychologist👏🏻
i think the key takeaway here is enthusiasm, as you mentioned. find a woman who genuinely wants to spend time with you, looks forward to seeing you and hearing from you, and appreciates your company. It's also important to be the kind of man who deserves that kind of enthusiasm, as well. Finding a woman who is enthusiastic as being with you should bring out some enthusiasm in you as well, for her 😁
This of course is discounting the fact that a female partner may have developmental, psychiatric, physiological,PTSD, substance abuse,character and or educational issues.
The specific individuals feminine psychology, or personality constellation is best checked by referring to a complete history of that individual.
A female individuals most likely pattern of behaviour will simply mirror their past behaviours.
A leopard does not change its spots.
Isn't it interesting how we have to talk about this stuff day in and day out and 50,000 channels on UA-cam talk about this stuff, and yet marriage has gone down down down down down the hill.
So we raise raise raise fences, fences, parameters, boundaries… Instead of tolerating compromise.
I'm with you, doctor, when you said, the word is sacrifice, instead of compromise in this regard, so let's replace my word with sacrifice. Instead of sacrificing, people are demanding more and more use of boundaries.
To summarize: She settled and you’re not her first choice. Probably not even the runner up.
Orion lowkey looks like Shaggy 🤣
Just act like you are not impressed, don't need her that much, and don't put her on a pedestal or inflate her ego, meanwhile, date other girls and focus on yourself, trust me, she'll come out of them delusions really fast.
If you treat her like a celebrity, she'll treat you like a fan.
Become the celebrity and the groupies will line up.
"Don't let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner." - Neil McCauley - Heat
Almost all married men are their women's fans and she the celebrity. If you refuse to treat the woman as a celebrity, she doesn't want anything to do with you.
@@EE12CSVT Treating women like simps forces them to look at you as a supplicator from a superior position. You lost the game before you started.
there are no incentives for a man to get married especially in the west, so in a sense you’re right cause men risk a lot more than women in marriage. What you’re saying is a modern western perspective though. It is why the rest of the world is laughing at the west and why men of the west would rather travel abroad to find women than to stay. Within heterosexual relationship dynamics, there is a leader and a follower.
I believe the man should be the only driver to his own vehicle, going on a journey to his destination that will take the rest of his life. She is just the latest passenger he picked up. If she adds value to the experience, he might stop and get them ice cream, or take the scenic route to make her happy. He might even alter the destination if her suggestion inspires him, but never give her the wheel and he should kick anyone out that is more negative than positive to the mission.
u are very right true
Thanks!
All of this applies to jobs too
I hate that he’s right. I grew up in domestic violence with an abusive father. I was scared of men and choosed for a long time weak and nice guys. I was in my job more successful than my expartners and I think I was more attractive than my partners. Even if I didn’t wanted it, I started to attack my partner verbally and emotional. I was not satisfied and tried to make myself more weak and more nice to adore them and worked on their careers. Now they are successful but I’m in debts and my career is down.
Healing takes time.
@@sylvias.3380 That is heartbreaking. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry that you went through all that. I'm so sorry. I wish you complete healing. 😔
Nailed it
A sure way and fail-proof approach to all of this is always be the chooser.
For women, it's easy 'coz generally they don't need to build value to be in this position.
But for men, until such time you manage to put yourself in that position, the chooser, you'll always lose.
Be the chooser.
Most women fall into the I'm way too good for you category and don't make you feel good.
This works both ways...
Quit deflecting with "works both ways" bs.
If she's anything other than Addicted to your presence it's best to start planning your Exit. You better believe she is whether you wanna believe it or Not. Being Difficult, Or Demanding is the 1st stage of Monkey branching for women. It's there way of hoping you'll move on so she doesn't have to make the decision of leaving you risking violence. Do yourself a favor & move on 1st, know your value & demonstrate your value by finding someone else that enjoys it. If nothing else it will really stick in her craw that you didn't Need her & found someone else. Don't kid yourself, at the point your picking up on her signals, she's already interviewed your Replacement!!!
u gotta write a book sir. we will read them
We cannot stay consistently happy with ANYONE. Hate to break it to you.
The average blueballer doesn’t have endless options to select from
The truth. Listen in lads
And if you consistently try to score women who reject you, then either up your game or realise you are also delusional about what you can get
They difficult because they love DRAMA. It creates things to get a thrill. My wife is difficult and I ain’t bothered…I learned to ignore her which creates more drama 😂
Thank you
So basically, the vast majority of them. No wonder men are avoiding the marriage snare.
The reason is most women are delusional. Low value women don't deserve mid or high level men but they think they do and get pissed when they don't get what they want.
Marriage happens if a woman wants it, men don't have a choice to deny marriage as women are the gatekeepers of relationships and men are always demanding it.
@@-haclong2366 I disagree. Women benefit far more from marriage than men, giving men a lower incentive to get married in the first place and more leverage to negotiate the contract.
@Hac Long. With all due respect, i think you got it twisted sir. Women are the gate keepers of seggs, while men are the gatekeepers of marriage.
I got asked and both my Dad and best friend said No.
Yeah that relationship crashed after that and I'm better for it
I use the same philosophy in business, “Keep the customers happy that want to be happy”.
This is accurate. For me the difference is anger v/s frustration. 9/10 times If I’m angry with you I care, and that’s a good thing. But if I’m frustrated or worse, annoyed, that’s a whole different situation. Truly the beginning of the end!
Traduciendo comportamientos...muy bueno
This man is saving lives with this knowledge
Not always so, could be trauma, borderline personality disorder, addiction, not a proper match, etc.
This advice is great. If you know you are being good to the woman, but she is not reciprocrating, she is not appreciative, she is not respectful, and she is not putting effort to please you, that means the relationship is in trouble because her hypergamist mind no longer thinks you are the best deal she can have.
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Man exchanges goods for services. Woman exchanges her services for goods. This is almost exactly like an employer to employee relationship. Man provides and protects and woman respects and serves. It is in the nature of employee to seek more pay for less work. Don't let her do it. It is in the nature of employer to seek paying less for more work. There is a silent battle between employee and employer. If you don't recognize this silent battle you will get clobbered. I have seen teachers behave like students with their students and they constantly get taken advantage of. It is the same thing here. Ask yourself, what can I do to not get taken advantage of by my employee. It sounds like a dumb question but the answer applies to women too, that is if you are the breadwinner and she is the dependent. If your relationship is the opposite, you are the woman.
IMO, women just are who they are. It doesn't matter who their BF is. If they're ungrateful & bitchy, they will be that no matter who they're with.