This is so timely for me. I have been struggling with disciplining myself to follow what God wants me to do. I keep thinking that I will be asked to be a missionary in a foreign country or stand up and give an important speech. No, I am being asked to keep up with the dishes so my husband's life is easier. I'm being asked to iron his shirts so he's happier. I'm being asked to put his needs and happiness before my own. Thanks for putting it into perspective for me!
This is such as an important topic for me. And my phone is always more interesting or i like to read and drink coffee...it is very hard for my not being lazy :-( Thank you for this video!
Did it occur to you that for some the “laziness” is due to your nervous system being in the frozen (dorsal) state due to trauma? The best solution is that case would not be to shame yourself but to get body based therapy such as somatic experiencing, somatic IFS etc to get to the root of the issue. Trust in God but lock your car.
Oh absolutely. But it goes without saying that when you have an illness it is not the same as being lazy. I was and am simply referring to those acting lazy, not those who simply cannot do certain things.
I completely agree, but something i wanted to point out, and that's the husbands role in all of this laziness. So the bible says the man is responsible for everything, and the woman is his companion and helper. This means we help our husband. Ok, so let's look at the shirts. He noticed she wasn't ironing his shirts, but he also failed to say something. How many of us have slipped in our duties, and our husbands said nothing? Im sure it's most of us. When Ahab failed to do this, people died, babies were sacrificed, and god was a little bit angry. So let's go back to this idea of a helper. I know when my children help me, i assign them tasks that i need done, we call these chores. If my children fail to do their chores, my husband or i will remind them. If they still fail, there is discipline. Now im not saying husbands should ground their wives or take away their phones, but discipline can come in the form of having a discussion and the husband teaching his wife, afterall, teaching and learning is a form of discipline. Many men, including this womans husband, fail in this. The husband is to teach his wife, not back down because he is scared she'll bite his head off, an affliction of men in the world of girl power. This is actually a very effeminate thing for a man to do. So let's go back to ahab and jezebel and apply it to ourselves. If our husbands act like ahab, we become like jezebel. We have no direction as a wife, so what do we do? We make our own direction and slowly we come out from under our husbands authority. We make our own ideas about what our homes should be. The home is now ours, and we decide what the home needs. Then maybe we decide what our children need or must have and dont get our husbands approval. Next thing you know, your at target everyday buying home decore, and your kids have 50 activities a week, and everyone is exhausted, and you and your husband stop acting like a husband and wife, you become roomates who have sex once a month. You have now become the man of the house, and your husband is your child. This is actually the number one reason women file for divorce according to a study that came out in june. This is the controlling spirit of jezebel, and also the curse of eve. Your husband has the passive spirit of ahab, and this is the curse of adam. So yes, i commend any woman who realizes she has a problem and does something about it, but as good wives, we must also realizes that, not only are we afflicted with laziness, but our husbands are also afflicted with fear and passive effeminacy. I would suggest you ask questions about your husband not speaking up, assure him you will be submissive, then maybe the two of you read the story of ahab and jezebel and have a discussion about what aspects you see in your marriage and home life.
I totally understand your point of view. In a good, strong and normal marriage I believe a husband should speak up. Which is what my husband would always do. But always in a loving way and focusing on how we can change things for the better. I am having a few videos coming up about marriage and submission actually! So stay tuned😉 In our case it was not my husband being afraid I’ll speak up😉 We have a very healthy and strong marriage. So no, my husband does not have the ‘spirit of ahab’ or I ‘the spirit of Jezebel’. We cannot draw conclusions based on one piece of information that easily😉 At the time I quit ironing his shirts, I was at a very busy time in my life. We talked about how to change that season around and made decisions that allowed me get out of laziness (and business) and back into being a homemaker. It was not a big deal for him and he did not realize it was out of laziness, that is something God convicted me off. This video is about ME choosing laziness at the time (which was not a good decision) it’s not about my husband who said or didn’t say anything. He knew I was busy and thought it was not a big deal. So if it saved me time he didn’t really mind that much. You can watch the ‘how my side hustle almost ruined our family life’ video if you want to know more about that time in our lives.
I want to be very clear, the only time i was talking about you and your husband was the sentence where i was talking about the shirts. The other "you's" were the proverbial "you" meaning you the reader. I apologize if you misunderstood this and thought that " you" meant you and your husband. My writing style has always been to speak directly to the reader, not to the subject. Now then, as far as the shirts, in this instance, you were in the spirit of jezebl, and your husband was in the spirit of ahab. You said you stopped ironing his shirts and didnt think he noticed. Well, you didnt think he noticed because he didnt tell you he noticed right? The laziness that you admit you fell into is a form of control, and him not telling you he noticed his shirts weren't being ironed was passive. Its ok, we are all going to do it because its part of the curse of adam and eve. Im not saying this is a norm in your marriage, so i don't want you to think im condemning your marriage. Im saying for a brief time, this happened. This is why i used this incident as an example. The rest of what i said was meant for the reader, so you means the woman reading my comment, and if she sees these things, she should talk with her husband and go over 1st and 2nd kings. And look, its ok that this happened, it is actually encouraging the way you two handled it, so i dont want you thinking im judging you. Ive been married a very long time, and its happened in my own marriage many, many times, and took years to get control of, which is why im warning people about this. The rest of what i said was for all of us, and how all of us, including me and my husband, can fall into this trap, so we need to be vigilant and stop it in its tracks.
Thank you for clarifying that! I think it’s a great thing if we can actually have an open conversation like this. Thanks for commenting! Ps. Must be me being Dutch that I didn’t get the fact that you used the word ‘you’ in a general meaning, not directly to me.
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Such an inspiration and a good example ^_^ Love from a Catholic, God Bless!😊🙏❤
Thank you!
@@stephanie-algra You're welcome!^_^
This is so timely for me. I have been struggling with disciplining myself to follow what God wants me to do. I keep thinking that I will be asked to be a missionary in a foreign country or stand up and give an important speech. No, I am being asked to keep up with the dishes so my husband's life is easier. I'm being asked to iron his shirts so he's happier. I'm being asked to put his needs and happiness before my own. Thanks for putting it into perspective for me!
Absolutely! And being a homemaker is just as much a ministry as serving in a foreign country is!🙌🏻 You’re doing a great job!
This is such as an important topic for me. And my phone is always more interesting or i like to read and drink coffee...it is very hard for my not being lazy :-(
Thank you for this video!
I can totally relate to this! And I think we all deal with it in some way, so don't feel bad about it! Just focus on changing your habit
I believe what you are referring to is called "instant gratification".🇨🇦♥️
Yes exactly!
Did it occur to you that for some the “laziness” is due to your nervous system being in the frozen (dorsal) state due to trauma? The best solution is that case would not be to shame yourself but to get body based therapy such as somatic experiencing, somatic IFS etc to get to the root of the issue. Trust in God but lock your car.
Oh absolutely. But it goes without saying that when you have an illness it is not the same as being lazy. I was and am simply referring to those acting lazy, not those who simply cannot do certain things.
Ik hou zo van je filmpjes.. heerlijk om naar te luisteren tijdens wasvouwen of bakken ♡
Thanks! 🧡
Inderdaad
I completely agree, but something i wanted to point out, and that's the husbands role in all of this laziness. So the bible says the man is responsible for everything, and the woman is his companion and helper. This means we help our husband. Ok, so let's look at the shirts. He noticed she wasn't ironing his shirts, but he also failed to say something. How many of us have slipped in our duties, and our husbands said nothing? Im sure it's most of us. When Ahab failed to do this, people died, babies were sacrificed, and god was a little bit angry. So let's go back to this idea of a helper. I know when my children help me, i assign them tasks that i need done, we call these chores. If my children fail to do their chores, my husband or i will remind them. If they still fail, there is discipline. Now im not saying husbands should ground their wives or take away their phones, but discipline can come in the form of having a discussion and the husband teaching his wife, afterall, teaching and learning is a form of discipline. Many men, including this womans husband, fail in this. The husband is to teach his wife, not back down because he is scared she'll bite his head off, an affliction of men in the world of girl power. This is actually a very effeminate thing for a man to do. So let's go back to ahab and jezebel and apply it to ourselves. If our husbands act like ahab, we become like jezebel. We have no direction as a wife, so what do we do? We make our own direction and slowly we come out from under our husbands authority. We make our own ideas about what our homes should be. The home is now ours, and we decide what the home needs. Then maybe we decide what our children need or must have and dont get our husbands approval. Next thing you know, your at target everyday buying home decore, and your kids have 50 activities a week, and everyone is exhausted, and you and your husband stop acting like a husband and wife, you become roomates who have sex once a month. You have now become the man of the house, and your husband is your child. This is actually the number one reason women file for divorce according to a study that came out in june. This is the controlling spirit of jezebel, and also the curse of eve. Your husband has the passive spirit of ahab, and this is the curse of adam. So yes, i commend any woman who realizes she has a problem and does something about it, but as good wives, we must also realizes that, not only are we afflicted with laziness, but our husbands are also afflicted with fear and passive effeminacy. I would suggest you ask questions about your husband not speaking up, assure him you will be submissive, then maybe the two of you read the story of ahab and jezebel and have a discussion about what aspects you see in your marriage and home life.
I totally understand your point of view. In a good, strong and normal marriage I believe a husband should speak up. Which is what my husband would always do. But always in a loving way and focusing on how we can change things for the better. I am having a few videos coming up about marriage and submission actually! So stay tuned😉
In our case it was not my husband being afraid I’ll speak up😉 We have a very healthy and strong marriage. So no, my husband does not have the ‘spirit of ahab’ or I ‘the spirit of Jezebel’. We cannot draw conclusions based on one piece of information that easily😉
At the time I quit ironing his shirts, I was at a very busy time in my life. We talked about how to change that season around and made decisions that allowed me get out of laziness (and business) and back into being a homemaker. It was not a big deal for him and he did not realize it was out of laziness, that is something God convicted me off.
This video is about ME choosing laziness at the time (which was not a good decision) it’s not about my husband who said or didn’t say anything. He knew I was busy and thought it was not a big deal. So if it saved me time he didn’t really mind that much.
You can watch the ‘how my side hustle almost ruined our family life’ video if you want to know more about that time in our lives.
I want to be very clear, the only time i was talking about you and your husband was the sentence where i was talking about the shirts. The other "you's" were the proverbial "you" meaning you the reader. I apologize if you misunderstood this and thought that " you" meant you and your husband. My writing style has always been to speak directly to the reader, not to the subject. Now then, as far as the shirts, in this instance, you were in the spirit of jezebl, and your husband was in the spirit of ahab. You said you stopped ironing his shirts and didnt think he noticed. Well, you didnt think he noticed because he didnt tell you he noticed right? The laziness that you admit you fell into is a form of control, and him not telling you he noticed his shirts weren't being ironed was passive. Its ok, we are all going to do it because its part of the curse of adam and eve. Im not saying this is a norm in your marriage, so i don't want you to think im condemning your marriage. Im saying for a brief time, this happened. This is why i used this incident as an example. The rest of what i said was meant for the reader, so you means the woman reading my comment, and if she sees these things, she should talk with her husband and go over 1st and 2nd kings. And look, its ok that this happened, it is actually encouraging the way you two handled it, so i dont want you thinking im judging you. Ive been married a very long time, and its happened in my own marriage many, many times, and took years to get control of, which is why im warning people about this. The rest of what i said was for all of us, and how all of us, including me and my husband, can fall into this trap, so we need to be vigilant and stop it in its tracks.
Thank you for clarifying that! I think it’s a great thing if we can actually have an open conversation like this.
Thanks for commenting!
Ps. Must be me being Dutch that I didn’t get the fact that you used the word ‘you’ in a general meaning, not directly to me.