9 Things to Not Take for Granted in Your 20s 🤔

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  • @lavendaire
    @lavendaire  Рік тому +1

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  • @auboy1214
    @auboy1214 4 роки тому +1340

    1. Your health
    2. The fact that you dont have everything figured out
    3. Less responsibilities
    4. More time
    5. Start investing early
    6. Ability to travel
    7. Your friends
    8. Spend time with your parents
    9.your excitement for life

    • @artchic15
      @artchic15 4 роки тому +12

      Aubony's Nook Bless you!

    • @rahafdjo8903
      @rahafdjo8903 4 роки тому +26

      Allow me to add this to the list : Do good that you will be remembered of after your death it's like your signiture in life that said i was present and i contributed to the better of this humanitiy not just selfish me /pray always to be guided to the right path / live the second you have bearing in mind that it could be the last one so don't take your life for granted cz just how you came to it without paying attention you will gt out of it

    • @lucy7574
      @lucy7574 4 роки тому +3

      thank you!!!

  • @mairaveg
    @mairaveg 4 роки тому +486

    Societal pressures are fake, just enjoy being alive

    • @relaxingsouls3361
      @relaxingsouls3361 4 роки тому +4

      I totally agree with you

    • @priscillajimenez27
      @priscillajimenez27 4 роки тому +2

      Exactly

    • @bernadetteg.5777
      @bernadetteg.5777 3 роки тому +3

      this is so true, I'm sick with people trying to better than anyone else and not being better just the idea of being better, being alive and feeling fulfilled in life, for me that's more important

    • @paulamarie7723
      @paulamarie7723 3 роки тому

      So true ❤️ thank you

  • @m.vilaxo
    @m.vilaxo 4 роки тому +357

    “take risks while you’re young” it’s my third time hearing this but I think third time’s the charm. I’m only 20 and I have so much anxiety and worry for the future when it’s the risks that I take NOW are what dictate my future.
    10 years in the future I will look back at this comment and say “THIS is the moment I started creating my future.”
    Thank you for this video! 🧡

    • @OcarinatOfSquids
      @OcarinatOfSquids 4 роки тому +13

      My career and life planning class told me do what you want now don't worry about the future people change their minds and grow their careers so much you can't possibly imagine now what you are going to do later. Jobs are still being created to maybe you gotta create your dream one.

    • @m.vilaxo
      @m.vilaxo 4 роки тому +2

      GlowingWellness this is a great tip! thank you 🙏🏻

    • @daringliving
      @daringliving 4 роки тому +4

      We often need to hear the same reminder over and over again to stick. 🧡 You got this!!

    • @lavendaire
      @lavendaire  4 роки тому +16

      Wishing you the best 👏🏻✨

    • @m.vilaxo
      @m.vilaxo 4 роки тому

      Daring Living - personal growth podcast reminders Thank you ☺️!

  • @krisydays
    @krisydays 4 роки тому +259

    Literally at that early 20s stage when I know I SHOULD be having fun but also lowkey getting pressured to achieve so much. This is such a timely video ❤️

    • @OcarinatOfSquids
      @OcarinatOfSquids 4 роки тому +5

      Something I saw in another video that stuck with me that the backpack travel reminded me of is that when you are young theres less expectations on you. You can live with your parents, do dumb things, struggle, your financial mess ups won't be as bad, you have just yourself to worry about, you can do whatever you want. I say mid 30s is when you should be mostly figured out.

    • @starstuff4654
      @starstuff4654 4 роки тому +2

      yes I'm 19 and I'll make 20 July 11th, 2021

    • @zainabbhatti3855
      @zainabbhatti3855 3 роки тому

      very relatable love :( I'm also i n my early 20s!!

  • @authenticallytrish
    @authenticallytrish 4 роки тому +92

    I’m turning 29 this year, and if I could go back and do my 20’s over, I would focus more on networking with the types of people I wanted to know, making friends, and pursuing my interests. My early 20’s were reaaally dumb. Definitely take more risks!!

  • @janahinrichsen7230
    @janahinrichsen7230 4 роки тому +104

    Spend time with your parents, that one hit me deep. I´m so grateful to have such a loving and trusting relationship with my mum and dad. Now that I´m 26 (they are 64 and 68) I realise that I won´t have them forever and that´s kind of scary. There is really nothing I can´t talk about with them - and that´s rare. Of course there were fights and teenage drama when I was younger. Especially my mum and I used to fight a lot about my life decisions. Now we´ve come to a deeper understanding of one another and love truly unconditionally. She told me: "I just want you to have everything in the world you need to be happy." And that made us both cry so hard

  • @bringthesoul2983
    @bringthesoul2983 4 роки тому +66

    1_ take care of your health 00:52
    2_you don't have everything figured out 02:45
    3_less burdens and responsibilities 04:00
    4_more time and possibilities 05:14
    5_start investing early 05:59
    6_travel and explore 07:28
    7_ stay connected to your friends 10:21
    8_spend more time with your parents 12:16
    9_have zeal and excitement for life 14:27
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    You know! time is money 😊😊❤

  • @F0reverblessed
    @F0reverblessed 4 роки тому +287

    The timing of this video couldn’t be more accurate. The month of January has been full of so much tragedy. With Earthquakes, forest fires, human trafficking and the most recent the passing of Kobe Bryant. It’s safe to say to LIVE IN THE MOMENT!! Tomorrow it’s definitely not promised. Do not take ANYTHING for granted.
    From a self love content creator to another- loved this video and the timing of this topic Aileen! 💜

    • @floris4496
      @floris4496 4 роки тому +1

      Well, so don´t watch the news and live your own life and follow the ´news´ about your friends, family, neighborhood, local community, etc.

    • @F0reverblessed
      @F0reverblessed 4 роки тому +8

      Floris Gommer I think you might’ve missed my point. Live in the moment.. tomorrow isn’t promised. ❤️

    • @瑷阿丽璦
      @瑷阿丽璦 4 роки тому

      This is so true. During finals and the pandemic, my friend died due to a motorcycle accident. This made me realize that things in life like sheltering in place is nothing compared to losing a love one.

    • @F0reverblessed
      @F0reverblessed 4 роки тому

      瑷阿丽璦 Indeed! So sorry for your loss.

  • @nusaornik9541
    @nusaornik9541 4 роки тому +42

    As AVICII said in one of his songs, The Nights: That's when I decided, when I die I wanna be remembered for the life I lived, not the money I made 💕

  • @estherestelle7920
    @estherestelle7920 4 роки тому +38

    30's are awesome! You tend to really come into your own and everything you have been working toward really starts cementing.

  • @lavendaire
    @lavendaire  4 роки тому +307

    This topic was a little different but I'm grateful for the positive response! Pls share this w/ anyone who would appreciate it! 💜
    P.S. Read the description for my deeper thoughts & reminder about life.

    • @iridiansanchez8617
      @iridiansanchez8617 4 роки тому +4

      This touched my heart. I almost cried. I just recently turned 24 and I needed to hear this. ❤️❤️❤️ love how you closed you closed the video

    • @syafiqahghazali9416
      @syafiqahghazali9416 4 роки тому +1

      This is one of my fav videos so far, love you a lot aileen 💖💖

    • @Star-xy2zp
      @Star-xy2zp 4 роки тому +1

      Aileen I know your channel from my 20 ♥️✨Always inspiring 😘Love you 😘😘Life changing ✨🔥

    • @azisummer
      @azisummer 4 роки тому

      I think you should make this kind of videos as your podcast, instead of having guest over. I would prefer to hear stuff like this, and your other UA-cam videos.

    • @nataliemeier8640
      @nataliemeier8640 4 роки тому

      Your Videos are really GOOOD!! You confirm and sum up what I had like ideas but loose a little bit in the way in every Day life..! Thank you and your videos are motivated.! And clear! huge

  • @daringliving
    @daringliving 4 роки тому +86

    Especially in our 20's we sometimes feel frustrated/ lost/ and stuck because we haven't had everything figured out. This video is such a great reminder to have fun in the messiness and dreaming of future right now. After watching this I feel even more certain about my path in Life Coaching, and taking risks and putting myself out there. Thank you so much for this Aileen 🥰💜

  • @sindiandersen2139
    @sindiandersen2139 4 роки тому +349

    *Me in my start adult life.*
    Aileen: In your 20s you have less responsibilities.
    Me in shock: "You have more in the future than now?!"

    • @OcarinatOfSquids
      @OcarinatOfSquids 4 роки тому +12

      You always get more like small child you start preschool then school then middle school then high school then part time jobs then maybe a car with that loan and insurance then college (maybe while working part time or full time) or straight to a ladder climbing job. If you did college maybe you have loans. Then you start to work up the ladder or graduate and get into your dream field. Hopefully you'll have a parter aka another person to look after and the responsibilities to meet their needs. As you work up in your field of ladder you have more responsibilities from being a higher up position plus maybe the debts from before then maybe you buy a house with a mortgage. Then you have a baby... a whole new person to look after and raise. Then maybe you have a second baby. Now you have 3 people to look after and meet the needs of plus any debts and job responsibilities. Babies become kids and have friends over now you also gotta look after someone else's baby. You gotta make sure you all always have what you need. Then the babies become teenagers and that's big and very hard lol. Then they start dating now you also have their partners to look after as well. Your babies' first heartbreaks, their marriage, etc. Then you get grandbabies, gotta worry about retirement did you save enough? Are you in good health? Will your kids look after you? Etc. Then did you do enough in your life? Etc.

    • @OcarinatOfSquids
      @OcarinatOfSquids 4 роки тому +2

      Life is a hustle

    • @chaoticgemini8564
      @chaoticgemini8564 4 роки тому +4

      Thought the same thing until I had a kid at 25... Trust me, you will have more responsibilities. BUT, you will also gain experience and be able to handle them. If you think you can't? Find a Life Coach...
      ...or a Life Coach should make a UA-cam channel. Hmmm... That means I'll have to change my cute little name/avatar though 😫 lol
      But I could help more people... Though that's more responsibility... Which I'm more than capable of handling... Crud. 😵 Guess I should grab a notebook and start planning 🤣 lol
      Need ideas. What do you need help with? Lol

    • @Byay844
      @Byay844 4 роки тому

      ME HAHAHAHA

    • @priscillajimenez27
      @priscillajimenez27 4 роки тому

      I guess like marriage and children

  • @cherylmia
    @cherylmia 4 роки тому +64

    This is so necessary, I am turning 23 in June, sometimes I am so bound up in problems, worries, fears, stresses, school, planning my future and pursuing my dreams that I take a lot of things for granted. This is an excellent reminder.
    Also I started investing last year, I am so happy I am learning more about my finances at this age! Now I just need to travel more.
    Thank you for this because in seven years I will be where you are and I know it sounds like a long time but time does move fast. I am so grateful that I found your channel, you have taught me so much! I love you❤ and will continue to pray for Wilson 💞

  • @Byay844
    @Byay844 4 роки тому +30

    I cried though this whole video for some reason, in happiness, because I needed this. I love you! Thank you!

  • @nicoletterebelle6781
    @nicoletterebelle6781 4 роки тому +34

    I get chills thinking of how blessed I am 💜

    • @503Jessica
      @503Jessica 4 роки тому +4

      Share your happiness with a stranger, your smile will brighten many people’s day♥️♥️

    • @Breonaleonard
      @Breonaleonard 4 роки тому +1

      Me too sis!💙

  • @NobuhleZulu
    @NobuhleZulu 4 роки тому +60

    “You don’t have things figured out” I think this really hit home 😭my contract for my internship is about to end, and I’m so scared so anxious. I just feel so much pressure to have everything together....I forgot I actually have so many options, that I should be taking risks...so that I can reach my biggest potential 😭❤️ wow thank you you just made me feel so much better.

    • @lavendaire
      @lavendaire  4 роки тому +2

      I know the feeling!! don’t stress, you got this 🙏🏼✨ enjoy the openness of life right now!

    • @marbled2816
      @marbled2816 4 роки тому +1

      You've got this!!! Stay strong!!😊💪

  • @ayo_k32
    @ayo_k32 4 роки тому +18

    Thank you for the reminder about parents. I lost my dad when I was 15 years old and now, at 27, there are so many questions I wish I could have asked him. There are so many things I'll never know about him. Every day I think of something new I wish I could ask. I wish I spent more time with him when he was here. Hug your parents today, if you can.

  • @annaherrera3024
    @annaherrera3024 4 роки тому +8

    Definitely it is. The first month of the year taught us a lot of life lessons.
    1. Love the nature( Bush fires, earthquakes, volcanic eruptions)
    2. Love our family ( Kobe Bryant and her daughter’s ttagedy)
    3. Love yourself( Novel Corona Virus Outbreak)
    4. Love others (helping the volcanic eruption and bush gire victims)
    5. Love God ( Prayer and trusting God)

  • @martinanilsson9268
    @martinanilsson9268 4 роки тому +34

    My parents mentally, physically and emotionally abused me from when I was up to 5 til 18 they put me through traumatizing events, my dad sexually harassed me when I was 14 they still belittle me and bully me because they are narcissistic. I don't believe blood is thicker than water. Respect is thicker than water. Like a lady said on one of your early podcast episodes
    I agree with everything else though 😊 I love your channel and podcast because they really do inspire me to improve myself and my life even as a dandelion child who understand what TRUE pain feels like.

    • @lavendaire
      @lavendaire  4 роки тому +14

      I’m so sorry for your experience 💔 we all have a different situation so in your case I totally understand. Yes respect is key 🙏🏼 Grateful you’re here!

    • @nusaornik9541
      @nusaornik9541 4 роки тому +7

      I am sooo sorry for your experience... I can't imagine that happening to anyone it must have been horrible more than anything. I wish you all the best in your life 🙏😭❤ !

    • @aidaozuna
      @aidaozuna 4 роки тому +4

      You’re so strong! ✨

    • @priscillajimenez27
      @priscillajimenez27 4 роки тому +1

      I'd hug you if I could. Every state/country is different regarding time (if the time expired) but don't be afraid to speak up regarding what happened especially if they haven't changed or care about what they did. I'm glad you're inspired, and I pray you will be successful and happy. 🤗💜

  • @grayvofficial
    @grayvofficial 2 роки тому +1

    I am 24 now and I am binge watching your videos. You have a very calming vibe and it reverberates to me. You are amazing !

  • @katie.g.
    @katie.g. 4 роки тому +14

    I just turned 30 and relate to this so much! Turning 30 has really made me stop and reflect on my life up to this point and I'm so excited to see what I can create and attract into my life in this new decade!

  • @Thefitty
    @Thefitty 4 роки тому +15

    *Gratitude is my attitude! Anybody else feel? Thank you, Aileen!*

  • @sheriquiambao8884
    @sheriquiambao8884 4 роки тому +18

    Thank you Aileen! It’s not too late for me and I’m still in 26. Please continue inspiring us. We love you! ❤️

  • @Rayowag
    @Rayowag 4 роки тому +4

    The part you say about parents is so important. I'd also add healing in there, heal your mental health from childhood trauma if there is any. Trauma is stored in the body and the earlier you dig deep into your mind and solve/change stuff, the better. Also learning to forgive. I'm only 21, but currently learning so much about this area of life. If anyone reading this has a bad relationship w their parents or family, work on forgiveness to rid yourself of that burden. Forgiving doesn't mean forgetting.
    Oh, and talk to your family about not just their life but also their health and end-of-life topics. That way you know what decisions to make once they might get very sick (also ask them to make a living will, so you don't have to decide in life-or-death hospital situations).
    And adding to investing early: Insurances. Figure out which ones are truly important and take advantage of how cheap most of them are when you start them in your early 20s. If I wasn't currently studying and without income I would instantly jump on that opportunity.

  • @thelifeinmeempire5383
    @thelifeinmeempire5383 4 роки тому +13

    Aileen, this post makes my eyes water.. I feel like crying right now.
    I have always had this thought in my head about life aging and how our friends, parents and we ourselves are all growing older. And knowing that the only thing that truly matters are our family and friends. I feel like crying cuz at 26 it quit on me as if I'm in 40s because I have not been acceptance of people in my life. Thanks for this video, I needed it for my new life/decade.

  • @paidamoyomutototwa
    @paidamoyomutototwa 4 роки тому +6

    This has changed a lot about my perception of life. I am almost 2 months into my 20th year and I am glad I found this when I did. Thank you so much!!!💕😊

  • @vyphan8911
    @vyphan8911 4 роки тому +8

    Thank you for the advise and impact! You’re a huge inspiration for me. Even though I’m only 17 I fell like my life will have a major shift this year since I will graduate this summer. So the imagination of being in my 20s is both scary and exciting. I think the key to enjoying you’re 20s is to be present and living in the moment~

  • @JessicaenIngles
    @JessicaenIngles 4 роки тому +6

    I sooooooooo love it! I'm turning 28 this year, wow I feel this, life is now let's live it at it's full. Thank you for this amazing video!!

  • @aminaismail5849
    @aminaismail5849 4 роки тому +7

    As a twenty one year old, you have shared something important thank you sis

  • @daphnevalencia3983
    @daphnevalencia3983 4 роки тому +8

    My dad and I always have deep, meaningful conversations when we’re driving long distances

  • @valeriemaldonado1758
    @valeriemaldonado1758 4 роки тому +3

    Loved this video! You have so much wisdom for your age. At 29 I began seeing life differently and making decisions in a new way. I would add that in your 20s try to trust your inner voice more and worry less about outside noise, specifically voices that do not encourage your dreams and goals. Thanks again for all your hard work and inspiration.

  • @erintannehill
    @erintannehill 4 роки тому +6

    One thing I took for granted for a few years was the youth of my skin! It’s so so important to wash and moisturize your face every day and night.

    • @lavendaire
      @lavendaire  4 роки тому +1

      Oh yeah I’m alll about skincare now more than ever

  • @AHuve
    @AHuve 4 роки тому +4

    Wow I just turned 29 this month. I needed this! This resonated with me so much, You’re amazing, thank you for this. Love and light.✨

  • @itskaevee
    @itskaevee 3 роки тому

    At 23 I'm so confused and stagnant right now it's frustrating. This vid was so helpful bc I'm in the process of trying to turn my fears of the unknown/future into excitement and motivation to explore different avenues in life. I've been so sad and stuck 2 whole years after graduating college and I just don't want to be stuck anymore. thanks eileen :)

  • @alliea7546
    @alliea7546 4 роки тому +16

    almost 27 now and wish I knew some of this sooner.
    esp about travel. I've spent the years since college graduation feeling lost and stuck and behind and too tired to do anything about it... if I had thought about things differently or prioritized things other than finding a "big girl" job that I feel aligned with (which I'm still searching for) or if I had thought about what I want out of life before graduation.. I may have had more opportunity/money/time for travel and fun with friends.
    And despite all this I found this video inspiring, it makes me want to find a way to do what I want and not be so single minded. and not be so scared to try things or put myself out there.

    • @samipso
      @samipso 4 роки тому

      No point feeling bad at choices you made then. You made them because of, back then, good reasons.

  • @njokigitau8471
    @njokigitau8471 4 роки тому +7

    Much love from Kenya 🇰🇪.
    This was so enlightening!

  • @annisachasara
    @annisachasara 4 роки тому +20

    Never clicked something so fast before, you really changed my life by all the things and the positivity you've spread in your videos❤️

  • @poojadubey880
    @poojadubey880 4 роки тому +4

    Im 21 and I literally forget to have fun sometimes amidst career pressure . But this video made me feel so fresh and happy. Soo much thankful to her😍

  • @ErikaK
    @ErikaK 4 роки тому +11

    This present moment is all we really have ♡ every little choice you make will have a great impact tomorrow, every little choice we make defines more who we are and the person we're choosing to be. Make it real, make it count, *Live intentionally*
    Aileen my birthday is the 22nd of october!!!! ♡♡♡♡

    • @lavendaire
      @lavendaire  4 роки тому

      😸✨

    • @ErikaK
      @ErikaK 4 роки тому

      @@lavendaire love you!!!!

  • @kimberlyann1022
    @kimberlyann1022 4 роки тому +2

    As a Filipino, my parents would voluntarily tell their stories every time that I complain about something. Btw, this video is really inspiring. Glad I watched it before I become 20.

    • @kishly
      @kishly 4 роки тому

      Haha! I can relate!

  • @kriptonbias9982
    @kriptonbias9982 4 роки тому +7

    It just so calming listening to how Aileen elaborate every point,, thank you so much

  • @fajr18yshai
    @fajr18yshai 4 роки тому +2

    Thank you so much for this. I really needed to hear this. I am a 25 y/o a perfectionist, I had everything planned for each year of my life. Nothing has gone as planned and I am trying to figure out how to cope with it. I'm still trying to figure things out, I know my goal but it's taking time to reach it. I need to chill and learn to live a little..I am literally soaking up everything you've said.

  • @srishtititus657
    @srishtititus657 4 роки тому +1

    Here when you said about travelling when you're young and taking risk....Things like this are something I really do crave for... But what are we supposed to do when some ppl like me, we live in the society... Where parents believe that this age is more about struggle, work hard, sacrificing the fun part and all that(also we're not allowed to travel alone or with anyone without our parents) ... so that when you're older you'll have a Stable job then enjoying with frnds and everything... I really do not understand... It's like we're stuck in the middle!...

  • @nadzlabalangkasi-work5190
    @nadzlabalangkasi-work5190 4 роки тому

    Thank you, I needed those words. I'm scared of starting things I wanted to do things that put excitement and fear on me. I see people who can express they're selves they're words making impact while I am stuck trying to figure out where and how to start. But just like what you've said Just Start! Eventually things will go into place, risk is always present but along the way we'll have some wins and lessons to learned.

  • @daphnevalencia3983
    @daphnevalencia3983 4 роки тому +1

    I’m so grateful that you’re making these videos while I’m in high school because you’re helping me plan to have a better 20’s than most of the older people I know. Also, it makes me want to take advantage of all the time I still have so I’m grateful that I get to learn from you while I’m young so it’s not too much of a struggle figuring my life out. Thank you ❤️

    • @daphnevalencia3983
      @daphnevalencia3983 4 роки тому

      Btw I’m 18 (senior in high school) and I’ve been watching your videos since I was 15 (freshman)

    • @lavendaire
      @lavendaire  4 роки тому +1

      you’re going to live such an amazing life ✨ I wish I had content like this when I was in high school

  • @ivanas442
    @ivanas442 4 роки тому +1

    #2 used to stress me out, not knowing what I was going to do in my life but I realized it's okay not to know. I'm 27 & this is my last semester of college (2yr). I really enjoyed your New Year's Challenge it made me dream bigger than before

    • @lavendaire
      @lavendaire  4 роки тому +1

      so grateful to hear that! congrats on finishing your last semester :)

  • @meimei7549
    @meimei7549 4 роки тому

    I don't know what is it with today. But it seems that the theme I encountered is all about death or dying. I finished reading Tuesdays with Morrie today which is about life lessons from a dying so inspiring professor, and on my to work after lunch I came across a funeral along the road, and now this your vlog. And all the happenings in this month (Australian bushfires, Taal eruption, earthquake in Jamaica, Kobe Bryant's death and his daughter's death as well as the rest of the passengers and Corona virus) this must be the Universe way of telling me that death is just lurking in the corner and that my life is so uncertain. So why not forgive and give love more? Be kind more. Spend more time with my loved ones. Just do good things while I'm still here. I think all these things are saying this to me. Thank you for the wonderful insights 💛

  • @beawilderment
    @beawilderment 4 роки тому

    Ok so I turned 30 this year, so I was a bit afraid to open this video, but I actually ended up being very encouraged by it! At a crossroads in my career, feeling like I need a change, definitely feeling a bit like I'm super late to everything, but feeling grateful that I feel excited about something again, cos nothing is set in stone again, and I still don't have many responsibilities. I'm married but we don't want kids. So I feel freer now actually than when I was single and living at home! Thanks Aileen. Been bingeing your videos through this crisis of self I'm going through.

  • @plannersparkle8352
    @plannersparkle8352 3 роки тому

    I’m 40 , yes health is change definitely . Check up is really important . So I totally understand what you mean . Looking back, my 20s, I was searching my soul , and try interesting things. So I’d love to say , self love, and learning how much the time is sacred. That’s what I want to say ! Stay safe and love you 😍

  • @iamanki_3
    @iamanki_3 4 роки тому

    I am in early 20s ..I am frustrated..stuck.. worrying about future ..but now you give me so much light and inspiration..Thank you dear for sharing your experience and your thoughts.. You enlightened me..

  • @roslynlefin694
    @roslynlefin694 4 роки тому

    I'm turning 30 in February so just a few weeks away and the first point on your video struck a chord with me. I had a stroke when I was 6 months old and as a child and teenager I wasn't as affected by it as much but when I got to my 20's I had a lot of health issues that were a direct consequence of that stroke and it really broke me to see other 20 somethings have this carefree life and I had health, illness and pain constantly on the brain.
    The point about getting to know your parents also touched me deeply. I was 19 when my younger brother very suddenly passed away and that made me realise how little time I might have left with my parents. And what you say is so true-you start seeing them as people with flaws and also with knowledge and experience and they become more like friends.
    Sorry for the long, personal comment but I do agree with this video so much I could not help myself

  • @Linusrn24
    @Linusrn24 4 роки тому

    The part where you need to know and spend time with your parents made me teary eyed.This are all so true.You can never really take those times back.Go cherish and love your time with your parents🤍🤍🤍

  • @nourianoir6488
    @nourianoir6488 Рік тому

    As you always say gratitude is the key into confortable life

  • @lapoppy7680
    @lapoppy7680 4 роки тому +2

    Turning 31 this year and my heart feels for every point of this video.

  • @SimplypaperDIY
    @SimplypaperDIY 4 роки тому

    EVERY SINGLE PERSON IN THEIR 20s NEED TO HEAR THIS!!!! THIS IS SOOOOO AWESOME!!!! ♥♥♥♥♥♥

  • @AlliAsAlways
    @AlliAsAlways 4 роки тому +2

    Wow... I'm 24 and I feel like I saw this video at the most crucial time. THANK YOU, Aileen, for your insight. I'm definitely inspired and motivated.

  • @AHealingPhoenix
    @AHealingPhoenix 4 роки тому +6

    Being older than 20s, I couldn’t agree more!

  • @dula593
    @dula593 2 роки тому

    I am 20 now ... i always depressed about life like what i need to do ...but i started being grateful what i have now and added some good habits to my life.. your channel really helped me to love myself ... so thank you very much and i wish all strength to your success ♥️

  • @annaphung
    @annaphung 4 роки тому +1

    entering 20 this year is so so so incredibly daunting 🥺 thank you for putting my mind and heart at ease to try and be the best I can in my youth 🥰

  • @noor-ul-ains.715
    @noor-ul-ains.715 4 роки тому +1

    I turned 20 in October 2019 and I swear I was looking for something like this because back in my mind I knew that I wanted someone to tell me all this. And you did. Thank you, thank you so much.
    All of the stuff you talked about made so much sense for me, some hit me way too hard. I needed that.
    Thank you so much. ♥️

  • @AdrianaGirdler
    @AdrianaGirdler 4 роки тому

    What a great topic. I sure wish I could have watched a video like this in my 20's;) Wonderful video, Thank you, Cheers!

  • @pratibhagopalakrishna3436
    @pratibhagopalakrishna3436 4 роки тому

    Thank you so much for this video Aileen!! Every point you made struck me because I've been putting off traveling, reconnecting with my friends and parents, and everything else because I don't have a job yet, and this video made me realize that taking risks is good, and you can always find a way to do what you want to do, and to never take things for granted.
    Thank you... I'll stop crying and call my parents because I miss them so much

  • @stacymasha
    @stacymasha 2 роки тому

    This is the most important video i've seen in my life so far. It's like you just gave a summary about life! Its crazy how time really goes by so fast and we get to experience so many things as we grow older towards our dying ages. I do agree with you that its sounds crazy but its the fact about life itself. Am curently 23 and seeing this just gave me a better way to see life and experience it instaed of just being stressed cz of lack of money or experience about life. You just changed my life and i will forever be grateful and remember you for this!
    Thank you Aileen.

  • @azlinaramli4687
    @azlinaramli4687 4 роки тому +5

    Honestly that i have been too srs in life at a very early age,17 i guess and im regreting it now,so i wanna enjoy and so excited about what my future will be.I will exploring everything n and enjoying everything so that i will be less STRESS in my life.TQ so much for these advices❤!

  • @MarielaMerino
    @MarielaMerino 4 роки тому +1

    With all the bad things happening in the world I always think about how fragile life is and to live it the fullest. Thanks for sharing this reminder 💛💛

  • @damie_z
    @damie_z 4 роки тому

    I'm 21 now and I'm so grateful for this video. This is so much helpful for my life. Thank you

  • @nllpatrick
    @nllpatrick 3 роки тому

    why did I watched only now?!✨🤧 I was a year late but, I’m thankful for a youtuber like you. Stay healthy to you and each and every one of us to live our best life💞🙌🏻

  • @MMM-yd5el
    @MMM-yd5el 2 роки тому

    Im 23 and watching ur video each day has become a part of my daily routine ..you are so energetic and peaceful .. ❤️❤️❤️

  • @brina7683
    @brina7683 4 роки тому

    im crying while watching this video, this year is my last teen year. I learned many things from this,, I think I found the angel that God sent to me, it is you. I really need this, thank you

  • @Hartwik
    @Hartwik 4 роки тому

    watching this 8months late i must say this has lessened my anxieties about figuring my life out after I have graduated. Thank you very much.

  • @EverydayEasyChinese
    @EverydayEasyChinese 4 роки тому +1

    All of the points you mentioned ring so true! Love the points on investing in yourself and upskilling early when you have the energy to do so😊

  • @eloisatomas2004
    @eloisatomas2004 4 роки тому

    Thank you for clearing this 😊 I thought I've lost my way in this life because I made some wrong decisions but as you said "take big risks" well, that made me cry so much. I just turned 23 last week and because of what you said I am not afraid anymore to take risks to know who I really am and to do all the things I wanted to do when I was in college. I am very excited to explore what I want and who I wanted to be. Thank you so much ❤😊

  • @fullsun8826
    @fullsun8826 4 роки тому

    been stressed for a few days now and youtube recommended me this video. i'm 22 and a graduate of civil engg last june 2019. i took up teaching units for me to be able to pursue teaching. i started looking for teaching jobs since january and the board exam for teachers was supposed to be last march but this pandemic happened. i've been applying to different schools for 7 months now and on the verge of giving up. it got me thinking that maybe i was wrong that i've chosen the teaching profession since things are going the other way around and most of my batchmates are licensed civil engineers and are working now. but thanks to this video for making me realize that it is okay to take the biggest risks at this age. maybe things are not going well now but who knows. 😅 more power to you and to your youtube channel. keep on inspiring 💗

  • @viana1254
    @viana1254 4 роки тому

    Aileen, you don't look a day over 25. I'm currently 21 and this video is literally exactly what I needed. Thanks for being a constant blessing. Sending you all the love 💜💜💜

  • @dorotas3746
    @dorotas3746 4 роки тому

    Very wise words. I really enjoyed watching this video while drinking my cup of coffee. Though when I reflect on my own life, you mentioned "when you're young, you have energy to do this and that" - well unfortunately I don't have that energy to make an additional effort. Most of the time I would just rather be at home in peace and not leaving my comfort zone, especially now in this quarantine, home is what gives me safety, stability and predictability.

  • @sofiapapaleonidopoulou7040
    @sofiapapaleonidopoulou7040 4 роки тому

    Hi there! I started watching your videos two months before, when I was in a blue mood. Depression!! I am still make efforts to deal with it, but some times I have all these negative feelings that are getting you back. I hope to find the courage and strengh to love myself as I am and to make every hour of the day a good memory!

  • @Fandoms4Life
    @Fandoms4Life 3 роки тому

    The advice about travel is so useful! I want to travel to so many different places, especially with my family and I love seeing the clips of all the different places you've been to!

  • @GirlandTheWord
    @GirlandTheWord 4 роки тому +39

    I was inspired to open a SEP IRA after watching this! 😂Thanks, Aileen!

  • @pattycandle3596
    @pattycandle3596 4 роки тому

    Hello from France ! I love this video. I'm 56 years old and I totally agree with you. And I still feel young with a little more wisdom and more understanding about life. But I steel learn new things and life is still a wonderful journey. Thank you Lavendaire for sharing all this things with us we don't feel alone anymore when things are complicated. 💜

    • @lavendaire
      @lavendaire  4 роки тому +1

      love it :) the learning never ends

  • @rickyjaygomez8031
    @rickyjaygomez8031 4 роки тому

    This is so refreshing Aileen. I am 23 now, and I really value my time. Thanks for reminding me again about this.

  • @detectiveswiftie6874
    @detectiveswiftie6874 4 роки тому +66

    Lavendaire , are you an angel that's stalking me ? How on God's green earth do you post stuff I just needed ?? ❤❤❤❤❤😍

  • @chrisoulalakkas7935
    @chrisoulalakkas7935 4 роки тому

    Don't wait for it to happen, go make it happen.
    Never lose hope. Never lose faith.
    Silence says a lot more than you think.
    Do the best you can with what you have.

  • @isabelletenorio2911
    @isabelletenorio2911 4 роки тому

    I find so great that you take your time to put eng subs. It's really lovely of you, and help us - non english native speakers - to make sure we get the message you are sharing. Thank you.

  • @journalingwithtam
    @journalingwithtam 4 роки тому +2

    Loved this!! Life is like a vapor, here for a little while ❤️ I tell my family and my children, Life and Time is precious and it's out choice to live it in a way that when we look back, we smile and tell ourselves, I really used my time wisely and did what I Loved! Live life to the fullest guys!
    PS: I turned 29 in October as well ❤️

  • @KisuKeKisse
    @KisuKeKisse 2 роки тому

    I am watching it exactly after one year today, I am turning 20 in two days. Thank you for this

  • @nicoleh6428
    @nicoleh6428 4 роки тому

    I had a very exhausting tho I don't call it bad day but mostly filled with negative emotions and thoughts and your video reminded me what I can be thankful for and what opportunities I have. Thank you for making it easier.

  • @whiteserenity
    @whiteserenity 4 роки тому

    Ahhhhhh it's like I'm looking at my future self 😭 thanks Aileen, you've opened my eyes once again. I'm 24 and going to turn 25 this year. I've been stuck in a job that is NOT aligned to my authentic self and have felt sick and depressed for all of 2019 and the beginning of 2020. My 1 year contract will end soon, so I will finally be free to make my life mine once again! I decided that 2020 is MY year to grow and shine again. I want to head towards my dream career and do things that make me happy. ♥️ Thanks Aileen and good luck to you and everyone!!

    • @lavendaire
      @lavendaire  4 роки тому

      sending you strength & love!

  • @nads6086
    @nads6086 4 роки тому

    i will turn 20 this year. this is so timing since im having existential crisis. but im slowly working on having my dream life thanks to you, Aileen!

  • @PrathibaLeo
    @PrathibaLeo 4 роки тому

    Hi Aileen....this past month has been a tumultuous month...i mean tight from the Australian bush fires, the deadly Corona virus and now to the passing of Kobe Bryant,Gigi,the Chester family, Ari the pilot and the Altobelli family...My heart feels so heavy because in the past decade I lost my beloved Dad, my dog of 15 years and my loving Grandpa...i have been reflecting a lot on what had happened and one thing that I can say to everyone out there...LIFE GOES ON..i won't say the pain would subside but we try to live with it and make peace with it...I am 25 now and that's exactly how I have been living for the past 8 years since the passing of my loved ones..For better or for worse I am grateful for all the curveballs that Life has thrown upon me...and this is one piece of a learning that I would like to give everyone...Be grateful each day and every minute and no matter what happens God knows that you can handle it..Thanks for this wonderful video Aileen 😊Hope everyone who is suffering now will find peace soon.....

    • @lavendaire
      @lavendaire  4 роки тому +1

      I know, there’s been so much going on. This is a reminder to be grateful & appreciate life right now!

  • @fraffee
    @fraffee 4 роки тому

    I’ll be halfway through my 20s this April. I’m turning 25 and I am so grateful for this video, Aileen! 😊💖

    • @lavendaire
      @lavendaire  4 роки тому

      Grateful for have you here fraffee!

  • @kimhongjoong5567
    @kimhongjoong5567 4 роки тому

    I'm in my early 20s and I suffer from exactly the same as you did and knowing that is kinda common and changeable is a relieving honestly

  • @heathermyrex9107
    @heathermyrex9107 4 роки тому

    This video was on point! I am in my 30’s and TIME is so important! Always remaining teachable is another!! Thanks for the video!

  • @anjalilamichhane1411
    @anjalilamichhane1411 3 роки тому +1

    I really loved each & every phrases u said in the video. Keeping uploading stuffs like this.Best wishes frm NEPAL 🇳🇵💌

  • @MrX-dl3mh
    @MrX-dl3mh 4 роки тому +5

    Aileen, this has been my mindset for as long as I can remember. Just hearing you talk about it really helps it become more realistic. As a 21 yr old, I've gained so much deep info on life and so grateful that I have the knowledge at a young age. Keep up these gracious videos and stay beautiful 😌💋

  • @casckana
    @casckana 4 роки тому

    I really needed this 😊
    A reminder at 23 is to work harder but take risks and have fun.

  • @fraffee
    @fraffee 4 роки тому

    The part in this video where you talk about spending time with parents...oh man, that’s my favorite piece of advice I’ve ever heard from you. 😊😢❤️

  • @shubhadaphadtare727
    @shubhadaphadtare727 4 роки тому

    Thank you for these lessons. I'm really grateful that I've been following you through years and now got to learn about how to live my 20s. I'm turning 20 in one month and I was anxious and unsure about how it's gonna turn out to be. But because of your wise words I've now gotten a fresh start. Your videos are truly life changing. Thank you once again! 🌻💜

  • @geo5954
    @geo5954 4 роки тому

    I definitely took my health for granted in my 20's.
    I ate whatever, whenever.
    Didn't start caring about my health until I met my wife.
    Now that we have each other, I'm not going to miss a thing.
    This life can be short, so while I'm here.
    I'm going to love her and laugh with her everyday.
    Awesome video fam
    Mamba Mentality:)