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Amit ji sir se request he ki ve sabhi age group ke liye ek college ya guidance consultant college banave Jisme har age group ko kya karna he vo bataya jae Jese school me class 1 se class 12 hoti he Ese hi apke college me Age group 10-15 Age group 16-19 Age group 20-26 Age group 27-32 Age group 33-40 Age group 41-50 Age group 51-60 Age group above 60 In sabhi ka alag alag couse ho jisse youngster ko kese rahna he Or jo old age he unhe unka kese ho ki vo bimar he to fir vo kya kaha kese karna he vo bhi ek jinmedari he to kese ham jimmedari bhi kare unka kaam bhi naa ruke Kyoki happiness sabhi ko milni chahiye Old age ko bhi care or love mile iske liye kya kare Or kuch spiritual bhi ho
Amit ji se request he ki ek esa college banae jaha har age group ke liye class ho Age group 15-20 Age group 21-25 Age group 26-30 Age group 31-35 Age group 35-40 Age group 41-50 Age group 50-60 Age group 60 above Sabhi course ki fees ho But college ho to thik ho Old age vale parents ya jo kam age ke he or bimar he to unki seva kese hogi jisse vo bhi khush rahe or couple ko bhi khush rahne de Or pre marriage ka ek compulsory couse ho ho couple ko karna bahut jaruri ho jisme govt. Ki taraf se ho ki shadi ke pahle ye course karna bahut jaruri ho Govt. Approved ho Or couple ke family ke liye bhi ek course ho ladke ke family or ladki ki family In dono family ko kya karna he kya nhi karna vo bataya jae Plz. Open your college plz. 🙏🏻
Amit ji se request he ki ek esa college banae jaha har age group ke liye class ho Age group 15-20 Age group 21-25 Age group 26-30 Age group 31-35 Age group 35-40 Age group 41-50 Age group 50-60 Age group 60 above Sabhi course ki fees ho But college ho to thik ho Old age vale parents ya jo kam age ke he or bimar he to unki seva kese hogi jisse vo bhi khush rahe or couple ko bhi khush rahne de Or pre marriage ka ek compulsory couse ho ho couple ko karna bahut jaruri ho jisme govt. Ki taraf se ho ki shadi ke pahle ye course karna bahut jaruri ho Govt. Approved ho Or couple ke family ke liye bhi ek course ho ladke ke family or ladki ki family In dono family ko kya karna he kya nhi karna vo bataya jae Plz. Open your college plz. 🙏🏻
Bahut Sahi Shadi ki 7 vows kisine dhang se padhi hain? Sara wakt bas shadi k taiyari, gifts,len-den , make up, pre wedding photo shoots, honey moon in foreign countries...kya ye shadi hai? Especially North India should retrospect. We conveniently forget pehle jab bachche k shadi Kara do jati thi buddhe 4 dham jate the, ghoomne nahi rehne. JOINT FAMILY KA KOI PRAVDHAN NAHI THA!
Married 35 years ago and dealt exactly with in-laws and husband like this! I separated both my sons as soon as they got married! Now if they fight, cook, not cook, sleep-in whatever they do, I never interfere. Their life is non of my business. It’s theirs! I just want peace in my own life now! I’m still working. I want to travel and focus on myself and my health! My husband doesn’t like the new me 🧐 but that is his problem not mine. I’ll be happy to live by myself! I actually want a divorce now!!! Too tired of being treated like a lower class citizen all my life!
@ Yes, I am truly grateful for this life! There are so many others who are less fortunate, so I thank God every day for everything I have. There's no point dwelling on what could have been!
This is not husband wife relation where they don’t share each other problems and happiness with each other. From your statement it seems you will be never happy because you will be always lone.
My father and mother were as such.. My father refused to forget the mistakes done by my mothers side during their marriage 45 years back ..Only death stopped their hatred for each other..😢The one who is living still carries that animosity even now..I will ensure, I do not turn like this with my spouse
Same as my problem. Inke parents include his brother and sister in law kuch bhi kre sab maaf. Mai kuch sahi bhi kh du to wo bhi bardast nhi. In parivaar ke kuch bhi mere aur mere bachcho ke sath kuch bhi suluck kre unhe kuch fark nhi padta.😢😢 mere bachche apne man ki koi baat aaj tk nhi kh sake apne man ki jabki mere bete ki shadi bhi ho gyi hai.😢
My humble request to all my brothers...Get away from marriage...let girls survive themselves....and stand alone..If you get divorce once or twice..you will loose your mental health...It will be difficult for you to survive
I cannot express in words how greatly this issue is explained and the reality it revealed. Women of old age want the new women to bare the same pain what they faced. I took the stand and lost the whole family by taking stand for right but im still proud to do that even after loosing the family's agreement. I stand with them for all their need but lost their emotional support.
Bollywood romantic movies have made Indians very dreamy-eyed about their marriage. They are very eager to get married. Dear fellow Gen-Zers, India is not Switzerland, as is shown in Bollywood romantic sequences. Life is getting too hard, work is getting too exploitative, air is getting too toxic. Please think before undertaking huge responsibilities such as marrying and having kids.
Some other issues are too Most People don't have Hobby because of Education System 🇬🇧 📚 So they don't enjoy there life by this - Sports, Dance, Music, Singing, Art, etc If there Job / Business is of choice then it doesn't matter that much but if they are doing job / business because of money they that human being need some hobby for enjoyment Like playing sports, singing, playing some kind of musical instrument, etc If this is not possible daily then they should do it atleast once in a week Government is changing this system with NEP & some other initiatives but it will take 5 - 10 years more & It will benefit those who will study from it not that one who are already passed out
@@wowser2153How can a woman grab father inlaw’s house? Bahu has no right on Father Inlaw’s property. Even in inheritance, the property goes to the son or grandson, not the daughter Inlaw.
@ don’t act all naive. When son gets fathers house, sons wife gets equal rights on the house. Because wife has rights on husbands inherited house. If bahu has no rights on the house , does she pay rent to father in law or her husband?
Frankly, women in the 1950 to 1960’s married for economic reasons. It was like getting into a job, without choice of resignation. Then set in corruption of values. Very few lifted themselves spiritually and worked at their marriage
“Family Which You Come From is less Important Than Family You Create“ Ultimate Quote Sir… Jitna Sunne Me Simple, Usse Bhi Zyada High Value… Garma-Garam Shire Ki Tarah Pet aur Dimag me Bhi Chala Gaya…
My mother in law and jethani were also problem creators 27 yrs back. Properties were purchased in the name of jethani. I was a working woman and they did not keep a maid and wanted my salary. She asked me to prepare saag after 4 days. She also asked me not to start a family till two years. Every minute was a torture. We separated from joint family but their intervention continued. My mother in law did not take care of my child when I had to go to my office and my child was put in a creche. Now after 28 yrs, we are not even on talking terms. ..very true Sir. Your solution is a good one
Jethani ke name property uske atte hi na kari hogi Kuch to jethani ne us ghar ke liye kiya hoga Saas ki kamiya nikalne se pahle khud ko bhi dekhna chahiye Koi bhi saas bahu me fark naa krti Bahu fark kr skti h
Mere maa baap hamesha sasural se alag rahe. Mere grandparents bhi bahut sweet nature ke the. Dadi to bahut hi kind hearted thi. Isiliye mere parents ki shadi acchi chali. Koi outside interference nahi.
@@commanderofkesariyaknights nonsense. Sab insaan hain aur adhiktar log selfish hote hain. Mere dadaji bhale hi bahu bete mein interefere nshi karte hon par daadi ke saath bahut bura saluk karte the.
I think women want acknowledgment from their husbands. Also, beautifully said by Mr. Sangwan- Family you (both partners) create is more important than the family you come from.
Marriage = Honeytrap to Enjoy Whole life on Men's Income 🤑. Marriage = Biggest Scam of 21st Century. Dear Men, Don't Marry to a Jobless Financial Burden.
@@minakumari1515 no you are wrong he is right apki real family jo aap bana raho vo apka spouse ke saath vo apki previous family se jyada important hai
मै आपके रामबाण उपाय से सहमत हूं, ज्यादा मीन मेख, कमियां निकालने से ही हर रिश्ता खराब होता है, बिना मांगे किसी को भी सलाह न दे ,बहू बेटे को / बेटी दामाद को उनकी इच्छानुसार घर चलाने दे 🙏🙏
Ladki ijjat Karti Hai Lekin saasu Man Ka Har chij mein rokana thokna bhi Bura Hai yah nahin pahnana hi nahin khana hi nahin Pina yahan nahin baithana vahan nahin baithana are bahula rahe ho ki naukrani La rahe ho
" the family you create is more important then the family you come from ..." and both parent's family should appreciate ...... is the brahma Astra of all marital problems if people understand your point...... more then the GREAT thought .....hats off.....i don;t have words to praise your wisdom , i have come more close to you n your thoughts........
Am going to be practical in writing this. For all the men... Stop discussing abt ur wife with anyone in this world. For all the women...stop comparing ur husband with other's husband. In this transition period do not get married if u r not ready mentally to accept what comes after marriage. Women still will be expected to bring a glass of water when guests arrive and husband is also sitting in front of them. Even if u r earning more than him. Even if u r paying all the bills. If u r ok doing this..go get married. If u want to just enjoy life how it comes..do not get married. Coz burden on women is more than men. 1. U want to do ur career. 2. U want to nurture ur babies. 3. U want to nurture ur husband. 4. U want to nurture ur husband's parents. 5. U fall sick..u have to nurture urself. Nobody else is going to nurture u when u need the most. 6. U want to be higher than ur collegues. 8. U want ur children to be higher than other's children for which u only have to put in hardwork. Coz ur husband will not sit with kids and teach them how to improve in handwriting drawing painting recitation and sports etc etc Sto when will u enjoy or even live ur OWN life.? For god sake do not marry... Unka vansh badhana hai isliye woh shaadi chahte hai.. Kya apka ko vansh nahi hona chahiye? Aap bacha paida karogi ..aur vansh uska? Us bacche ka naam ..apke husband ka Credit pura husband ko milega... Kaam sab aap karogi Ghanta kuch milega apko. Ladka fail hua toh taane apko marenge log..husband ko nahi . Par agar 1st ayen toh bolenge..arrre yeh xyz(husband) ka naam leke bolenge ki bahut intelligent baccha hai usi suresh) ka..aisa nahi bolenge ki (Neelima) ka beta ya beti intelligent hai. Naam mein kuch bhi dalein hai example ke liye. Apko credit hi nahi chahiye toh kar lo shaadi aur lutne do unko. Aap apne careet pe dhyaan denge..tab apka bhi naam forbes ke list mein aa sakta hai...par sirf bacche hi palenge toh..husband ke vansh ka naam badhaoge khud ka kuch bhi nahi. Aapka ghata hai Uska kuch naho jata😁
My dadi is unhappy in his marriage teen betey hai my father big brother sara taamjham merey mother father par .yaha tak merey or father ke bich bhi ana i dont ever feel connected to my father because of this dominating grandmother .i dont call this love or respect for elders. Bas purani kahaniya suno ke hamne bahut sahan kiya ! No art no cultur no knowledge no nothing nd the lady getting superior place of no reason just because of her age . Each word said in an interview is hundred percent right. When elders are not happy in their marriage life they ruin whole family even joint family also get tarnish
@@ABDULRASHEED-d6f कम से कम दो तीन बार माफ़ करें, बस उसके बाद भी कोई नहीं समझता तो उससे दूर होने में ही भलाई है कब तक अपने आत्मसम्मान को गिराकर झुकता रहेगा
I lived with inlaws for 20 years. I was very good at cooking...but my mother in law everyday each time spending comment..each time going through mental pain...finally ended in 2018 when she passed away. So my advice is everyone should live independently so that both youngsters and seniors both will have responsibilities and manage their own things
Very rightly said.....ye mama's boy ka concept jo bataya h....vo aaj bi chal rha h Kai societies mein....aur isilie India mei bete chaiye logon ko....kyunki betiyon ko to na padhana h...aur vo paraya dhan....aur bete kamake khilaye chahe kidney bechni pade
arey yaar mama boy papa boy actually possession to parents k paas hi rehna hai baccha to unhi ka hai..orphan thodi hai..joru ka gulam b boys k ego ko hurt krta hai..ya to boy sbka hai aur nhi to kisi ka nhi😂😂😂😂 ....do you consider mama's boy opposed to boy's mama as same feeling.....in my pov..mama's boy is insulting term..there should be some other word for these tyoe of boys
After marriage a couple’s main responsibility is toward each other and the kids they decide to bring to this world. But that doesn’t mean you don’t take care of the parents. Parents expecting round the clock-maid and nurse is also not possible.
@bindumalhotra4762 yes u r ryt ..rather than getting free(free them from responsibilities ) .unhone apno zi dagi tumahre kiye khapaa dii ab to unhe chen se rehne do....parents in law are more getting more busy than ever..my experience ...neighbours use to socialise with us and when their children got married and both of them are working..the parents are bringing up their gradson/daughter..they are bringing up the child of their children and this is not right...daughter in laws enjyoing offices and the bahu part is given to mother in law saas
Human experience is non-linear. In the west, I find most unstable people are those who didn’t have a bad experience ever in life. Even bad experiences are required for stable society. This inordinate focus on happiness is what is ruining everything. There is no end to the pursuit of happiness.
@@sonamagrawal12 Ever heard the word Balance? There must be a balance of good experiences and bad experiences. Good experiences usually make us happy for a day or two, but bad experiences linger in our subconscious. Indian families have gave bad, sad experiences to the women for years with no balance of happiness.
My mother was using me for so long to get her revenge from everyone in my family. She also has several properties on her name but she is still revengeful.
Good you have understood this early. Most men realise when it is too late. In our society, a woman exercises her power through the son. “Rukja, shaam ko mere bête ko aane de, Tujhe pitwaoongi” Is a very old line they give to the Bahu. In the evening, a very aggravating story is presented to the son when he comes back from work. Then Mama’s boys immediately take it out on the wife. Eventually, the couple’s relationship suffers. If a divorce happens, the son is left alone to deal with legal proceedings.
@Dillikidastaan absolute truth u said.... it's more true than sun n moon . When son has to face anything in life ,he has to manage alone . May b divorce ,his financial updowns ,his disease ,his childcare. He has to face alone . But while he is dealing with his wife . All of these ppl cum together n tell him what to do
This beta problem is very deep. Hamari bhabhi jisko kisi ne atyachar nahi kiya, na maayke na sasuraal. Par use beta hai to wo padhi likhi ghawaar beti waalo ke upar dhauss jamati hai.
कोर्ट के वकील भी बहुत हद तक जिम्मेदार है परिवार तोड़ने में। कोर्ट में जब दोनों पति पत्नी में समझौता हो जाता है तो कोर्ट से बाहर जाते ही वकील पता नहीं क्या सिखाते है वो फिर साथ रहने से मना कर देते हैं। पारिवारिक मुकदमो में वकीलों की दखलंदाजी नहीं होनी चाहिए।
Pagl ho gye ho kya. Vakilon ko paise issi baat ke diye jate hai unka Kam hai ye vo nahi krenge or savdhaan nahi krenge to or kon krega. Or ager apne pyare parivar may vakilon ki dakhlandaji nahi jati to unhe hire na kre👍
@@aditi21mehtaNahi but what he says it's a fact. I've working in Court as a Steno and continuously transferred to various Branches. Vakil bohot hi neech hote h. Like I'll give you an example ; Once there was a divorce hearing was going on. And both of the parties decided to stop that case then and there in order to give their child a normal childhood. But both of the Vakils interfered and in the end they got divorced. Child's custody was given to the mother. A week later, the lady murdered her kid and ate him up. I was so disgusted by that I beat both of them up and got transferred to a Muslim Personal Law Board. Where things are completely different. Here the women was beaten to pulp and her child miscarried was begging for divorce but Neither the officials nor the Members(Her's and Boys') refused to do so. After her repeated pleading for divorce,she jumped on the road colliding with a car. Her parents refused to claim her body. After some hassle,we handed over her body to her 10 year old son. And he did La-illa(Funeral Ceremony) without any Adult's guidance just the him and Maulvi Sahab.Just think about that father and this son. Now Try to understand my point without any biasness. And this is happening on the mass scale. Due to greed of some people, Whole society everybody has to suffer. Society laws can't be biased/rigid otherwise there'll be a revolt and total collapse of the Society. It'll be total utter chaos. A chaos that you me or even these so called Judges can't be be able to handle. Is that what you want? No. These Rich and powerful folks are already set their foot on US and Europe. Their kids have that much of resources to start a new life. And we don't. So rather than brushing issues under the carpet, discuss it. These so called rich folks can be compared as General Bajwa of Pakistan.
In vakeelon ki bhi to aapas me nahi banti hogi doosre ki shaadi kaise bachne denge. Jaldi compromise hokar kaise rafa dapha ho jayege to inko poochhega kaun. Ladke bahut ke maamle me na maa baap ko interfere karna chahiye na hi saas sasur ko. Apni buddhi se suljhaane Deni chahiye apni problems. Ladke ki income achhi hai to saas ko ye nahi samajhna chahiye murga mil gaya halal karne to jaise Atul case me hua. Shaadi se pahle hi ladki ko ya ladke ko apne gun avgun ladki ya ladke ko bata dena chahiye jissi baad me divorce ki naubat na aaye. Baaki podcast was informative. 👌
Yeh sach kaha....bahu cases me couple ka samjhauta ho sakta hai yan fir bina chichhaledar k alag ho sakte hai but lawyers baat ko complicate karte hain taaki zyada fees le sakein 😢
Thank God I had best happy parents in my life. Their 50 year marriage never reduced their love for each other! She married my father only age of thirteen when he was 18 . We all siblings love our parent too much though the are not with us❤🙏🌹🙏🥰🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Oh dear uncle ji, namaste ! Aapke paas zero information hai judiciary ka ..ya fir aap ek beti k papa hai...I will ask a very simple question "IF A WIFE CHEATS OR LETS SAY IF THE WIFE IS ABUSIVE IN NATURE, WHAT LAW OR SECTION DOES A MAN HAVE TO PROTECT HIMSELF FROM PAYING ALIMONY AFTER HIS CRIMINAL WIFE DOES SEVERAL FALSE CASES ON THE POOR HUSBAND WHEN THE HUSBAND FILES FOR DIVORCE." OPEN CHALLENGE TO YOU UNCLE ...JUST GIVE ONE SINGLE LAW USING WHICH HE CAN PROTECT HIMSELF . CAN YOU ANSWER THIS? I DONT UNDERSTAND WHY DON'T YOU FAMOUS UA-camRS RAISE YOUR VOICE AGAINST THE COMPLETELY BIASED LAW SYSTEM WE HAVE CURRENTLY WHICH IS COMPLETELY ANTI-MEN. Ek single law nahi hai to protect ourselves if we want to leave our cheating wife or a bad wife who is violent in nature or narcissistic and all those things? Marriage rates are going to fall drastically going forward no man will want to marry this way -_-
That wasn't the point of this podcast. Laws won't change for at least this term of Modi government. WTF will you do till then? Shall we stop marriage and start a population collapse? Use your brain if you have one. UA-camrs can't do shit because the supreme court has given several decisions in favour of female spouses. We can keep crying all we want but the Modi government will not go against the women. Our only chance is the 2029 election.
Wonderful analysis ,as always by amit sir. Great fan of him .i'm 56 yrs old & also m-in -law . I agree in each & every aspect of relatioships with amit sir. Meri bahu aur m frd ki tarah rakhte hai apne relation ko aur uska credit dono ko hi jata h. Koi bhi relationship dono taraf se effort ho tabhi healthy ho sakti h. Last 2 min ki advice bahut achchhi lagi . M bhi apni life m zaroor apply karoongi
Am going to be practical in writing this. For all the men... Stop discussing abt ur wife with anyone in this world. For all the women...stop comparing ur husband with other's husband. In this transition period do not get married if u r not ready mentally to accept what comes after marriage. Women still will be expected to bring a glass of water when guests arrive and husband is also sitting in front of them. Even if u r earning more than him. Even if u r paying all the bills. If u r ok doing this..go get married. If u want to just enjoy life how it comes..do not get married. Coz burden on women is more than men. 1. U want to do ur career. 2. U want to nurture ur babies. 3. U want to nurture ur husband. 4. U want to nurture ur husband's parents. 5. U fall sick..u have to nurture urself. Nobody else is going to nurture u when u need the most. 6. U want to be higher than ur collegues. 8. U want ur children to be higher than other's children for which u only have to put in hardwork. Coz ur husband will not sit with kids and teach them how to improve in handwriting drawing painting recitation and sports etc etc Sto when will u enjoy or even live ur OWN life.? For god sake do not marry... Unka vansh badhana hai isliye woh shaadi chahte hai.. Kya apka ko vansh nahi hona chahiye? Aap bacha paida karogi ..aur vansh uska? Us bacche ka naam ..apke husband ka Credit pura husband ko milega... Kaam sab aap karogi Ghanta kuch milega apko. Ladka fail hua toh taane apko marenge log..husband ko nahi . Par agar 1st ayen toh bolenge..arrre yeh xyz(husband) ka naam leke bolenge ki bahut intelligent baccha hai usi suresh) ka..aisa nahi bolenge ki (Neelima) ka beta ya beti intelligent hai. Naam mein kuch bhi dalein hai example ke liye. Apko credit hi nahi chahiye toh kar lo shaadi aur lutne do unko. Aap apne careet pe dhyaan denge..tab apka bhi naam forbes ke list mein aa sakta hai...par sirf bacche hi palenge toh..husband ke vansh ka naam badhaoge khud ka kuch bhi nahi. Aapka ghata hai Uska kuch naho jata😁
@@av1421not 18, but 25 is ok. Between 18 to 25 it needs to gradually reduce and post 25 it needs to be minimal and relationship like adults where it is less authority driven and more mutual respect driven.
Then these parents transfer the entire expectation of their happiness and well-being on the children. Abey jab khud saari zindagi khush nahi reh sake, to baccha kya karlega? Aur kalesh karne aur karwane ki adat bhi nahi jaati hain. Saari toxicity Beta-Bahu par daal dete hain.
One has to be reasonable! Your personal values should be noble. We are not perfect. We all have our faults and good and bad habits. One has to choose whether you xan live with, tolerate or compromise with the habits of your partner. If there is violence, please separate immediately.
अगर लोगों की जिंदगी बचानी है तो तलाक को आसान और सस्ता बनाना बहुत जरूरी है । अब कोई 7 जन्म वाले रिश्ते नहीं होते । शादी करो पर अगर आपस में न बने तो अलग हो जाओ।
Bilkul sahi bhai hamare yaha divorce ko leke itna haytaubaa macha rehta hai upar se ye law easily divorce nhi deta jaldi divorce ho jaaye to sabki jindagi aasan ho jaaye.
@DevrajKumar-kg3oo जी बिल्कुल । सारी ब्लैकमेलिंग और दुख और सफरिंग का कारण ही शादियों से आजीवन रहने की अपेक्षा है । विदेशों में भी तो कई जीवन साथी आते है। हमने न जाने क्या हव्वा बना रखा है कि शादी टूट जाएगी तो न जाने कौन सा पहाड़ टूट पड़ेगा । टॉक्सिक रिश्ते में रहने से अच्छा है उसको खत्म करो और नए साथी के साथ रहो ।
@loveislove9211 Yes bro saari pareshaani yahi jab rishte bojh ban jaaye to kyo unko jhele, sabke liye yahi sahi divorce ho jana chahe purush ho ya stree.
एक बात कोई नही बताएगा कि लडकी इंजीनियर, डॉक्टर और उच्च शिक्षित है तो हर महीने आने वाली उसकी लाखों हजारों की सैलरी शादी होने के बाद मिलना बंद ना हो इसलिए आज बहुत सी लड़कियों के माता पिता लड़कियों की शादी होने ही नहीं देते.
@@aishabavani8789 बेटा उपर वीडियो में जिस competition के बारे मे बताया है कि अगर लड़का पत्नी को कुछ करने नहीं देगा तो पत्नी भी लड़के को कुछ काम करने नहीं देगी. आप भी उसी competition की उपज है और जो लड़कियां ऐसे competition पर उतर आती है वो कितनी भी तपस्या कर ले घर गृहस्थी करने के लायक नहीं होती. NCRB के रिकॉर्ड के हिसाब से शादीशुदा कपल्स में औरतों से ज्यादा आत्महत्या मर्द करते है. क्योंकि उनकी पत्नियां आप की तरह competition लेकर आती है
A wonderful and in-depth discussion with humor on a very important social issue, with factual and practical solutions. Thank you very much to both of you. Everyone must watch this.
I not just completely agree with the speaker, I am glad to hear such unbiased views. The topic is important and also leading to societal sadness. The best conversation on the subject
Fantastic man.... thought provoking practical approach.... अमितजी जैसे समाज सुधारक की बहोत जरुरत है ....गुरुजी आप भारत का happiness index 10x कर सकते हो....
@@yushpithat this is not about comparing with men. If nature has given females hardship then men too have been given hardship by society. It’s easy to bend a male child according to our requirements and females after going through this heinous cycle ends up doing the same thing to their own male child. Second thing they were offended was when I said mothers are very much responsible for what they teach their male child. So they were like father needs to tell their male child how to behave like a gentleman man. And when I said we should not be concentrating on changing them but changing ourselves, like if your husband is doing domestic violence in front of your children(and yes I know wives do domestic violence too) then it’s your duty how you counteract on it. Your actions will convey that no females will like such kind of behaviour. But noooooo…even if WE are giving birth, it’s males duty. Females are queen and males are commanders of a great army. That simple logic is going beyond their brain. But wait we need to be like males. Now us are robots now. Good saying…mahila hi mahila ki dushman hai.
Probably also sister of the groom = effectively बुवा, i.e. sister of father/father in law when we extend this relation to the previous generation, bitching about her nephew/niece/son/daughter-in-law through her brother.
Aajkal ladkiyo ko bhi ladko jitni hi padhai karni padhti hai.wo bhi poore din padhti hai.wo kaha se grah karya mai daksh kaise ho sakti hai.unko time nahi diya jata bas 1st day se master chef,mba in home management ho,aisi expectations hoti hai.
Who tried to break my marriage 1. Mother in law. She demanded divorce and mentally harassed me for 13 years 2. Brother in law who supported her . 3. But My husband, is always there by my side. That's why i didn't fill in any case against them.
my mother -in-law has tortured me from the day i lost my job . Jbh tk job thi vo achhi thi fir uske bad se rude hogayi tauntas dowry ko lekar start hogye .shadi ko 1 sal bhi nhi hua he or abh divorce tak bat a rhi he .... sirf mil ki wjh se ... and my husband doesnt see this .
Try to make ur husband on your side... be diplomatic.. try to show him reality. Ase bnn jao k husband tum pr depend ho jae.. bs tumhare siva dikhe na usko kuch
@@Rhthcvye jo aap gyan de rhey h ye real life mai applicable nhi h kuki reality bilkul alag h kuch ldka k liye unke maa devi hoti h ab chhey aap kuch bhi kar lo kitna hi seva kar lo kuch kr lo jis din aap apne rights ki baat krogy uske dusre din aap court mai khade hongy
@siri6059 I understand m facing same issues.. my frnds faced same. But sm of my friends really played diplomatic.. even my cousin who's husband didn't even like to stay her parents house for 4 hrs is Ghar jmai after 6 years of marriage. she played well.. what is have learnt seva krni ni bs dikhawa krna.. pinhole Kiya vhi set hai
@@ADARSHKUMAR-xm8rototally biased interview.. according to him boy and his mother are culprit.. but cases samne samne jo aa rhe hain kuch discuss nhi 😂😂
Am going to be practical in writing this. For all the men... Stop discussing abt ur wife with anyone in this world. For all the women...stop comparing ur husband with other's husband. In this transition period do not get married if u r not ready mentally to accept what comes after marriage. Women still will be expected to bring a glass of water when guests arrive and husband is also sitting in front of them. Even if u r earning more than him. Even if u r paying all the bills. If u r ok doing this..go get married. If u want to just enjoy life how it comes..do not get married. Coz burden on women is more than men. 1. U want to do ur career. 2. U want to nurture ur babies. 3. U want to nurture ur husband. 4. U want to nurture ur husband's parents. 5. U fall sick..u have to nurture urself. Nobody else is going to nurture u when u need the most. 6. U want to be higher than ur collegues. 8. U want ur children to be higher than other's children for which u only have to put in hardwork. Coz ur husband will not sit with kids and teach them how to improve in handwriting drawing painting recitation and sports etc etc Sto when will u enjoy or even live ur OWN life.? For god sake do not marry... Unka vansh badhana hai isliye woh shaadi chahte hai.. Kya apka ko vansh nahi hona chahiye? Aap bacha paida karogi ..aur vansh uska? Us bacche ka naam ..apke husband ka Credit pura husband ko milega... Kaam sab aap karogi Ghanta kuch milega apko. Ladka fail hua toh taane apko marenge log..husband ko nahi . Par agar 1st ayen toh bolenge..arrre yeh xyz(husband) ka naam leke bolenge ki bahut intelligent baccha hai usi suresh) ka..aisa nahi bolenge ki (Neelima) ka beta ya beti intelligent hai. Naam mein kuch bhi dalein hai example ke liye. Apko credit hi nahi chahiye toh kar lo shaadi aur lutne do unko. Aap apne careet pe dhyaan denge..tab apka bhi naam forbes ke list mein aa sakta hai...par sirf bacche hi palenge toh..husband ke vansh ka naam badhaoge khud ka kuch bhi nahi. Aapka ghata hai Uska kuch naho jata😁
I also left my husband bcoz of my in-laws....their continuous interference ruined my life... my husband was not that bad...he was insisted to do everything according to his parents.... finally i had to quit..
Dear Sir, thank you Amitji. Very good program. Your experience is showing the correct situation in our society. I feel, the boy and girl have to go out together before marriage, exchange ideas, wishes and all what is important for them. In a few meetings one can find out, if you like each other. It is hard work, but very important. Another effective point ist to leave the couple 1 year for themselves, as Amitji said. For intimacy, privacy ( at least for a short time) is the key. Also, to take responsibility for oneself and partner should be the main aim for both the male and female partners.
Sharing wedding expenses equally between the two families will make parents of the groom think twice before harassing the bride. And presenting a booklet on alimony to the boy’s parentsIf so they know how complicated it can get.
Vanprastashram was the solution earlier...kitne generation ke senior citizens ghar pe bheed lagaa ke baith te hai. Kisi ko kuch naa chodnaa hai! Senior citizens rights maang ke yaa darr dikhake saara kuch le lete hai... respect n money n ego pampering bhi
No darling. Mere parivar me abhi 16 members he. Dada ji k bad dadi hi sare kam kaaj sambhalti he. Vahi sarve sarva he. Ham sab unki respect krte he. Family me vivad hone pr dadi chacha tau koi bhi 10 minute me solve kr dete he. Sabhi apni apni life se satisfy he. Pados samaj me sab jagah joint family valo ko ijjat milti he. Kisi ki pange lene ya ladne ki himmat nahi hoti he. 2 tarikh ko ghar ka pura mahine ka saman aa jata he. Kisi ka kam koi bhi kr deta he. Family me depression tension dur dur tk kisi member me nahi he.
Joint family is an equaliser, where the resources of hard working people is given to undeserving people . Whenever society becomes poor , families become joint families for survival.
When my mother in laws use to verbally torture me and say I am your mother in law, I can say anything to you, my husband use to defend his mother saying ' kal ko teri bahu ayegi to tu use ni sunaegi kya?' As if hum bahu isliye hi lekar ate hai Taki use suna sake...😔 How do people get such pathetic mentality? And still I listened to her for 15 plus years after my marriage to save my marriage though on my face she use to say 'bahu pyari nahi ho sakti jitni betiya pyari hoti hai' And this is after my mother in law got separated with her family from her in laws just 3 years after her marriage... 😢😢 I literally cried watching this....
In my opinion marriage only stays on appreciation from both the sides. If wife is a housewife don’t say she’s always enjoying at home but appreciate her efforts. Same way appreciate efforts of boy also. If both are working then efforts shall be appreciated in a balance way.
Amit Sangwanji human cause, marriage cause aur manavata ki taraf se bol rahey hain. Thank you bhaaisaab abhitak marital institution ka koi substitute nahi hai. Very balanced view point🎉🎉
बहुत सारे marriage घरवालो के कारण तुटते है..रिश्तेदारोकी वजह से तुटता है..जो पती पत्नी प्यारसे रहते है तो कोई रिश्तेदार घरवाले खुश नही होते.शादी तुडवानेमे कोई कसर नही छोडते..पहले तो लडकीको परेशान करते है,बाद मे लडकेको परेशान करते है.. पती पत्नीमे रिश्ता ठिक नही तो divorce समज सकते है..मगर रिश्तेदारोसे परेशान होकर लोग divorce नही लेता दूनियाछोडने की सोच रखता है.. शादी दो लोगोकी होती है उन्हे अलक करने वालोसे divorce लेनेकी पेशकश कानुन मे होनी चाहीए थी ग
Nanad - Husband ki sister ka naam is list me kyon nahi hai ?? Bahut zyada kalesh is rishtey se aata hai - nanad chahe kunwari ho ya shaadi shuda. Yeh kalesh zindagi bhar ka sir dard hai.......aur uske bachche bhi
I'm sorry your life is so sad. I'm someone's sister too, and I don't interfere with my brother and his family (his wife and child). They don't interfere in the business of my family (my husband and me). My in-laws or parents also don't interfere. They let us take decisions as we wish. Ofcourse, they are there for us when we need them, and vise versa but we all have very clear boundaries.
Bull's eye. Ekdum correct. Ab laga teer nishane pe.......nanad ke baare me uski bhabhi se poocho.....saas ko bhadkaane me bhi isika bahut bada hath Hota hai
Apne jo salary ki bat ki ap ye b to dekhiye ladke apne se3-4 sal choti ladkiyo se shadi krte hai to package to unka jyada hoga hi..same package chaiye to same age vali ladki se shadi krna chaiye..ha apne 30k 3 lakh jo bola vo bht bada difference hai par age experience en sab k sath salary badhta b hai vo b consider kijiye
Very beautiful video....the end was the highlight "The family which you come from is less important than the family which you create" , simply awesome !!
His take on people who choose to stay single or are divroced and dont wish to remarry is very short-sighted, simplistic, and flawed. His opinion on divorcees is colored by a patriarchal mindset and assumes everyone is running after social status, and money. Truth is there a lot of people out there who fall in the above categories out of choice and are independent, self sufficient enough to take care of themeselves and secure their future by making the right financial, emotional, professional, and spiritual choices.
@Namrata766 thanks for reading my comment and yes you are right that such people aren't the majority. However, these people aren't actually looking for a partner or another person. If they meet someone, great. If not, they are perfectly okay doing their own thing 🙏🦋🌟
I beg to differ, you have actually voiced out lot of points, will try to give me take on them separately 1) Ppl on staying Single ==> This does not come from a higher Order Thinking, mostly it's some trauma that the person has witnessed, bad marriages happening in front of them to their family members (or) friend etc.. Ppl 99% look for a partner in life, we are drawn to have that inherently, instinctively 2) Divorced ==> Where to begin, but mostly persons responsible are Husband's Mother and family members and Wife's Mother and Family members This is purely INDIAN Context, not comparing to Western lifestyle/Culture Since a Divorced person has a lot of trauma from that experience and Indian judiciary makes it impossible to divorce without lot of Monetary, Physical, Emotional spend - by the time a Man (or) Woman comes out of Divorce from india, they are too emotionally spent to try and remarry again Not sure where the patriarchal mindset he brought BUT in reality 95% of population is driven by social status and money You might be the exception but what he mentioned is prevalent and amplified with Insta,FB , influencers etc...
Subject is about marrital discord, reasons and solutions for the society at large. If one is happy in the present circumstances it great. However, some times later the same person may find or seek a partner. If no expectations, life is great. Enjoy, best wishes. By the way ,there are few people with that clarity of thought 😊😊😊
Am going to be practical in writing this. For all the men... Stop discussing abt ur wife with anyone in this world. For all the women...stop comparing ur husband with other's husband. In this transition period do not get married if u r not ready mentally to accept what comes after marriage. Women still will be expected to bring a glass of water when guests arrive and husband is also sitting in front of them. Even if u r earning more than him. Even if u r paying all the bills. If u r ok doing this..go get married. If u want to just enjoy life how it comes..do not get married. Coz burden on women is more than men. 1. U want to do ur career. 2. U want to nurture ur babies. 3. U want to nurture ur husband. 4. U want to nurture ur husband's parents. 5. U fall sick..u have to nurture urself. Nobody else is going to nurture u when u need the most. 6. U want to be higher than ur collegues. 8. U want ur children to be higher than other's children for which u only have to put in hardwork. Coz ur husband will not sit with kids and teach them how to improve in handwriting drawing painting recitation and sports etc etc Sto when will u enjoy or even live ur OWN life.? For god sake do not marry... Unka vansh badhana hai isliye woh shaadi chahte hai.. Kya apka ko vansh nahi hona chahiye? Aap bacha paida karogi ..aur vansh uska? Us bacche ka naam ..apke husband ka Credit pura husband ko milega... Kaam sab aap karogi Ghanta kuch milega apko. Ladka fail hua toh taane apko marenge log..husband ko nahi . Par agar 1st ayen toh bolenge..arrre yeh xyz(husband) ka naam leke bolenge ki bahut intelligent baccha hai usi suresh) ka..aisa nahi bolenge ki (Neelima) ka beta ya beti intelligent hai. Naam mein kuch bhi dalein hai example ke liye. Apko credit hi nahi chahiye toh kar lo shaadi aur lutne do unko. Aap apne careet pe dhyaan denge..tab apka bhi naam forbes ke list mein aa sakta hai...par sirf bacche hi palenge toh..husband ke vansh ka naam badhaoge khud ka kuch bhi nahi. Aapka ghata hai Uska kuch naho jata😁
मैंने अतुल सुभाष का पूरा (1 घंटा 22 मिनट लंबा) आखिरी वीडियो देखा। जब वह बोल रहे थे, तो मेरे कई पुरुष मित्रों और सहकर्मियों के चेहरे उनके चेहरे पर दिखाई दे रहे थे। वे मित्र और सहकर्मी जो बदसूरत तलाक़ से गुज़रे हैं या वैवाहिक कोर्ट-केस में फंसे हुए हैं या विषाक्त विवाह में फंसे हुए हैं। इन सभी पुरुषों के लिए दुर्व्यवहार और उत्पीड़न के पैटर्न कितने समान रहे हैं! अविवाहित जीवन एक ख़ुशहाल जीवन है। वर्तमान भारतीय कानूनों के तहत पुरुषों के लिए शादी करने का कोई मतलब नहीं है।
Atul subhas ki puri video phir se dekh lo yha v uski khud ki maa ne hi uski biwi k pregnancy me bhut nautanki kri thi par usko dikha hi nhi Usne 3 sal phle diye paise jise usne wapas v le liya tha uski bat kri 3 sal phle uski biwi jb o bacche ko breast feed krwa rhi thi tb nhati thi ya nhi uski bat kri Aaj agar uski maa ne ye sb nautanki nhi kri hoti toh o zinda hota bhut sare ladke aaj khud ki maa ki wajah se depression me hai and hai uske bap ne bola hai interview me chote kpde phnti thi banglore me us se uski maa ko diebities ho gya wah re parents Mujhe dukh hai usne sucide ki but aapki maa ki life aur biwi ki life ek nhi hoti hai Maa bap ki jimmedari lo jaise unhone aapki li bahu kya phnti hai kya khati hai ye sb couple ko apne me decide Krna chahiye
13:45 some fathers are also like this... I don't have mother-in-law but my father-in-law never let me feel her absence. Bina matlab ki ladai karate rehte h meri and mere husband ki. Same is with my brother-in-law and sister-in-law.
रिश्ते टूटने का सबसे बड़ा कारण हर व्यक्ति के अंदर का अहम् चाहे पति पत्नी हो , सास बहू, ननद भाभी, भाई भाई, जब रिश्तों में एक दूसरे के लिए सम्मान, अपनापन और आराम से एक दूसरे की बात को समझेंगे तब कभी झगड़ा नहीं होगा 🙏🙏
Marriage is only adjustment between all. I don’t believe what he is saying. Everyone is driving its shop whether court or lawyers or any other media influencer
Mere sath Jo vyavhar hua hai main use hisab se kah rahi hun sasural mein jimmedaar Hoti hai sans nanand aur devar bhi hota hai FIR uske bad bahanoi a jata hai devrani a jaati hai vah bhi colour failati hai bich mein man Hoti hai SAS Aurangabad Aag lagati hai
Amit ji se request he ki ek esa college banae jaha har age group ke liye class ho Age group 15-20 Age group 21-25 Age group 26-30 Age group 31-35 Age group 35-40 Age group 41-50 Age group 50-60 Age group 60 above Sabhi course ki fees ho But college ho to thik ho Old age vale parents ya jo kam age ke he or bimar he to unki seva kese hogi jisse vo bhi khush rahe or couple ko bhi khush rahne de Or pre marriage ka ek compulsory couse ho ho couple ko karna bahut jaruri ho jisme govt. Ki taraf se ho ki shadi ke pahle ye course karna bahut jaruri ho Govt. Approved ho Or couple ke family ke liye bhi ek course ho ladke ke family or ladki ki family In dono family ko kya karna he kya nhi karna vo bataya jae Plz. Open your college plz. 🙏🏻
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Amit ji sir se request he ki ve sabhi age group ke liye ek college ya guidance consultant college banave
Jisme har age group ko kya karna he vo bataya jae
Jese school me class 1 se class 12 hoti he
Ese hi apke college me
Age group 10-15
Age group 16-19
Age group 20-26
Age group 27-32
Age group 33-40
Age group 41-50
Age group 51-60
Age group above 60
In sabhi ka alag alag couse ho jisse youngster ko kese rahna he
Or jo old age he unhe unka kese ho ki vo bimar he to fir vo kya kaha kese karna he vo bhi ek jinmedari he to kese ham jimmedari bhi kare unka kaam bhi naa ruke
Kyoki happiness sabhi ko milni chahiye
Old age ko bhi care or love mile iske liye kya kare
Or kuch spiritual bhi ho
Amit ji se request he ki ek esa college banae jaha har age group ke liye class ho
Age group 15-20
Age group 21-25
Age group 26-30
Age group 31-35
Age group 35-40
Age group 41-50
Age group 50-60
Age group 60 above
Sabhi course ki fees ho
But college ho to thik ho
Old age vale parents ya jo kam age ke he or bimar he to unki seva kese hogi jisse vo bhi khush rahe or couple ko bhi khush rahne de
Or pre marriage ka ek compulsory couse ho ho couple ko karna bahut jaruri ho jisme govt. Ki taraf se ho ki shadi ke pahle ye course karna bahut jaruri ho
Govt. Approved ho
Or couple ke family ke liye bhi ek course ho ladke ke family or ladki ki family
In dono family ko kya karna he kya nhi karna vo bataya jae
Plz. Open your college plz. 🙏🏻
Amit ji se request he ki ek esa college banae jaha har age group ke liye class ho
Age group 15-20
Age group 21-25
Age group 26-30
Age group 31-35
Age group 35-40
Age group 41-50
Age group 50-60
Age group 60 above
Sabhi course ki fees ho
But college ho to thik ho
Old age vale parents ya jo kam age ke he or bimar he to unki seva kese hogi jisse vo bhi khush rahe or couple ko bhi khush rahne de
Or pre marriage ka ek compulsory couse ho ho couple ko karna bahut jaruri ho jisme govt. Ki taraf se ho ki shadi ke pahle ye course karna bahut jaruri ho
Govt. Approved ho
Or couple ke family ke liye bhi ek course ho ladke ke family or ladki ki family
In dono family ko kya karna he kya nhi karna vo bataya jae
Plz. Open your college plz. 🙏🏻
Bahut Sahi Shadi ki 7 vows kisine dhang se padhi hain? Sara wakt bas shadi k taiyari, gifts,len-den , make up, pre wedding photo shoots, honey moon in foreign countries...kya ye shadi hai? Especially North India should retrospect.
We conveniently forget pehle jab bachche k shadi Kara do jati thi buddhe 4 dham jate the, ghoomne nahi rehne.
JOINT FAMILY KA KOI PRAVDHAN NAHI THA!
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Married 35 years ago and dealt exactly with in-laws and husband like this! I separated both my sons as soon as they got married! Now if they fight, cook, not cook, sleep-in whatever they do, I never interfere. Their life is non of my business. It’s theirs! I just want peace in my own life now!
I’m still working. I want to travel and focus on myself and my health! My husband doesn’t like the new me 🧐 but that is his problem not mine. I’ll be happy to live by myself! I actually want a divorce now!!! Too tired of being treated like a lower class citizen all my life!
😊 be happy and love yourself 💕 is most important 🙏
@ Yes, I am truly grateful for this life! There are so many others who are less fortunate, so I thank God every day for everything I have. There's no point dwelling on what could have been!
Best of luck
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This is not husband wife relation where they don’t share each other problems and happiness with each other. From your statement it seems you will be never happy because you will be always lone.
My father and mother were as such.. My father refused to forget the mistakes done by my mothers side during their marriage 45 years back ..Only death stopped their hatred for each other..😢The one who is living still carries that animosity even now..I will ensure, I do not turn like this with my spouse
hope you are be happy in your marriage.
These are wrong marriages only. May you get a good match with good family❤
I wish you a happy and healthy life. A lot of blessings
I hope you are blessed
Same as my problem. Inke parents include his brother and sister in law kuch bhi kre sab maaf. Mai kuch sahi bhi kh du to wo bhi bardast nhi. In parivaar ke kuch bhi mere aur mere bachcho ke sath kuch bhi suluck kre unhe kuch fark nhi padta.😢😢 mere bachche apne man ki koi baat aaj tk nhi kh sake apne man ki jabki mere bete ki shadi bhi ho gyi hai.😢
I think 4th woman is sister in law...who takes extra interest in other's marriage instead of her marriage and ignites fire in her brother's marriage!
Yes...very much
no its nirmala sitaraman
What about two brothers
Brother in law also
My sisters and mother ruined my life.
Now my marriage will survive. I never saw this marriage thing with this new angle. Parents are real problem 100%.
Unrealistic expectations,ego with each other ,communication, help and stand for each other
My humble request to all my brothers...Get away from marriage...let girls survive themselves....and stand alone..If you get divorce once or twice..you will loose your mental health...It will be difficult for you to survive
This is bullshit u should read read about American devorce rate they don't live with their parents
@@priteshredkar6108they will survive just fine, mamma’s boys won’t be able to!
Ladke k muh se ye sun kar laga chalo koi to mature hai😂😂
I cannot express in words how greatly this issue is explained and the reality it revealed. Women of old age want the new women to bare the same pain what they faced. I took the stand and lost the whole family by taking stand for right but im still proud to do that even after loosing the family's agreement. I stand with them for all their need but lost their emotional support.
No budhha couple is happy... very true
Why do you think youngsters are trying to escape from North India to foreign countries? Or at least to the South.
@@Dillikidastaansouth is shit....they are here for jobs only else south is shit....the environment there is complete crap
This person forgot he is also buddha😂😂
Buddhe to khush hai.jawan dukhi hai.
यह बुड्ढा अपना अनुभव बता रहा है।😂
Bollywood romantic movies have made Indians very dreamy-eyed about their marriage. They are very eager to get married.
Dear fellow Gen-Zers, India is not Switzerland, as is shown in Bollywood romantic sequences. Life is getting too hard, work is getting too exploitative, air is getting too toxic. Please think before undertaking huge responsibilities such as marrying and having kids.
And your mother father is not ours so don't expect any sewa
@@Raythelightlife don’t expect to grab father in laws house and property without any seva
Some other issues are too
Most People don't have Hobby because of Education System 🇬🇧 📚
So they don't enjoy there life by this - Sports, Dance, Music, Singing, Art, etc
If there Job / Business is of choice then it doesn't matter that much but if they are doing job / business because of money they that human being need some hobby for enjoyment
Like playing sports, singing, playing some kind of musical instrument, etc
If this is not possible daily then they should do it atleast once in a week
Government is changing this system with NEP & some other initiatives but it will take 5 - 10 years more
& It will benefit those who will study from it not that one who are already passed out
@@wowser2153How can a woman grab father inlaw’s house? Bahu has no right on Father Inlaw’s property. Even in inheritance, the property goes to the son or grandson, not the daughter Inlaw.
@ don’t act all naive. When son gets fathers house, sons wife gets equal rights on the house. Because wife has rights on husbands inherited house. If bahu has no rights on the house , does she pay rent to father in law or her husband?
I can hear him all day , such an accurate observer of the society 🫡🫡🫡🫡, kudos Mr. Sangwan !!!!
+1
BEWARE!!!!
He is a gaslighter
Man ,, this man is gem!! He has summed up everything so accurately!!
@@deekshakumari94101) ladki ka bf
2) ladki ki past
3) uska broken seal
4) ladke ki extra marital affairs
Ye chaar lok shadi tod dete hai 😅
Frankly, women in the 1950 to 1960’s married for economic reasons. It was like getting into a job, without choice of resignation. Then set in corruption of values. Very few lifted themselves spiritually and worked at their marriage
“Family Which You Come From is less Important Than Family You Create“
Ultimate Quote Sir… Jitna Sunne Me Simple, Usse Bhi Zyada High Value…
Garma-Garam Shire Ki Tarah Pet aur Dimag me Bhi Chala Gaya…
My mother in law and jethani were also problem creators 27 yrs back. Properties were purchased in the name of jethani. I was a working woman and they did not keep a maid and wanted my salary. She asked me to prepare saag after 4 days. She also asked me not to start a family till two years. Every minute was a torture. We separated from joint family but their intervention continued. My mother in law did not take care of my child when I had to go to my office and my child was put in a creche. Now after 28 yrs, we are not even on talking terms. ..very true Sir.
Your solution is a good one
Jethani ke name property uske atte hi na kari hogi
Kuch to jethani ne us ghar ke liye kiya hoga
Saas ki kamiya nikalne se pahle khud ko bhi dekhna chahiye
Koi bhi saas bahu me fark naa krti
Bahu fark kr skti h
Jitni saal jethani sath rahi utne din ap bhi rah leti to ,apke name bhi property pakka ho jati
Why will she tolerate nonsense and exploitation for whole life?@@ranashealthtips6430
Same… wife’s. Mother is a daayan in my life
How is your thinking towards your daughter in law😅
Mere maa baap hamesha sasural se alag rahe. Mere grandparents bhi bahut sweet nature ke the. Dadi to bahut hi kind hearted thi. Isiliye mere parents ki shadi acchi chali. Koi outside interference nahi.
Perfect❤❤
Sabke dada dadi acche hote hai, this haryanivi buddha is projecting hard
@@commanderofkesariyaknights nonsense. Sab insaan hain aur adhiktar log selfish hote hain. Mere dadaji bhale hi bahu bete mein interefere nshi karte hon par daadi ke saath bahut bura saluk karte the.
गुड😊👌💐👍हरहर महादेव
@commanderofkesariyak😮सबके नही होते😂। दादा दादी तक अचे है । दूसरों को तो परेशान करते हो।तो। हमने तो देखा है। nights
I think women want acknowledgment from their husbands.
Also, beautifully said by Mr. Sangwan- Family you (both partners) create is more important than the family you come from.
It's a basic human need. As kids, our sense of accomplishment and failure comes from how our parents acknowledged us.
Both families are important....he is wrong there
All three families are imp
Lagta hai aap kisi ki mother in law ho@@minakumari1515
Marriage = Honeytrap to Enjoy Whole life on Men's Income 🤑. Marriage = Biggest Scam of 21st Century. Dear Men, Don't Marry to a Jobless Financial Burden.
@@minakumari1515 no you are wrong he is right apki real family jo aap bana raho vo apka spouse ke saath vo apki previous family se jyada important hai
मै आपके रामबाण उपाय से सहमत हूं, ज्यादा मीन मेख, कमियां निकालने से ही हर रिश्ता खराब होता है, बिना मांगे किसी को भी सलाह न दे ,बहू बेटे को / बेटी दामाद को उनकी इच्छानुसार घर चलाने दे 🙏🙏
उन को कौन रोक रहा है आज कल हर बच्चा अपनी इच्छा अनुसार ही जीवन जीता हैं पर जब लड़की शादी कर के ससुराल आती हैं उस को भी सास ससुर की इज़्ज़त करनी चाहिए
Ladki ijjat Karti Hai Lekin saasu Man Ka Har chij mein rokana thokna bhi Bura Hai yah nahin pahnana hi nahin khana hi nahin Pina yahan nahin baithana vahan nahin baithana are bahula rahe ho ki naukrani La rahe ho
" the family you create is more important then the family you come from ..." and both parent's family should appreciate ...... is the brahma Astra of all marital problems if people understand your point...... more then the GREAT thought .....hats off.....i don;t have words to praise your wisdom , i have come more close to you n your thoughts........
Am going to be practical in writing this.
For all the men... Stop discussing abt ur wife with anyone in this world.
For all the women...stop comparing ur husband with other's husband.
In this transition period do not get married if u r not ready mentally to accept what comes after marriage.
Women still will be expected to bring a glass of water when guests arrive and husband is also sitting in front of them.
Even if u r earning more than him.
Even if u r paying all the bills.
If u r ok doing this..go get married.
If u want to just enjoy life how it comes..do not get married.
Coz burden on women is more than men.
1. U want to do ur career.
2. U want to nurture ur babies.
3. U want to nurture ur husband.
4. U want to nurture ur husband's parents.
5. U fall sick..u have to nurture urself.
Nobody else is going to nurture u when u need the most.
6. U want to be higher than ur collegues.
8. U want ur children to be higher than other's children for which u only have to put in hardwork.
Coz ur husband will not sit with kids and teach them how to improve in handwriting drawing painting recitation and sports etc etc
Sto when will u enjoy or even live ur OWN life.?
For god sake do not marry...
Unka vansh badhana hai isliye woh shaadi chahte hai..
Kya apka ko vansh nahi hona chahiye?
Aap bacha paida karogi ..aur vansh uska?
Us bacche ka naam ..apke husband ka
Credit pura husband ko milega...
Kaam sab aap karogi
Ghanta kuch milega apko.
Ladka fail hua toh taane apko marenge log..husband ko nahi .
Par agar 1st ayen toh bolenge..arrre yeh xyz(husband) ka naam leke bolenge ki bahut intelligent baccha hai usi suresh) ka..aisa nahi bolenge ki (Neelima) ka beta ya beti intelligent hai.
Naam mein kuch bhi dalein hai example ke liye.
Apko credit hi nahi chahiye toh kar lo shaadi aur lutne do unko.
Aap apne careet pe dhyaan denge..tab apka bhi naam forbes ke list mein aa sakta hai...par sirf bacche hi palenge toh..husband ke vansh ka naam badhaoge khud ka kuch bhi nahi.
Aapka ghata hai
Uska kuch naho jata😁
Arey main to keh raha huin ki ulka gira do
Sare problem khatam@@Vegetarian99
@@Vegetarian99 Wow this is something nice 👍🏼
this should be trending on youtube . india needs to see this . heck this should play on 26 January before parade
Haha
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The reason behind all this is the thinking of our society that we can change spouse but can't change our parents n siblings
And the ever rising expectations, notwithstanding what we have there to offer on the table
once married, forget siblings and respect parents, thats it ! only then married life can develop over a period of time !
My dadi is unhappy in his marriage teen betey hai my father big brother sara taamjham merey mother father par .yaha tak merey or father ke bich bhi ana i dont ever feel connected to my father because of this dominating grandmother .i dont call this love or respect for elders. Bas purani kahaniya suno ke hamne bahut sahan kiya ! No art no cultur no knowledge no nothing nd the lady getting superior place of no reason just because of her age . Each word said in an interview is hundred percent right. When elders are not happy in their marriage life they ruin whole family even joint family also get tarnish
Agree bahan I think koi bhi married life brbad hone me ladke ke ghar walo ka sabse bada haanth hai
अपनी दादी का सम्मान करों, कल जब वे नहीं रहेंगी तब तुम्हें बहुत पछतावा होगा, दादी का होना भाग्य की बात है। 😊
Kuch chize ek time per hi samajh me ati he …Let your old age come before that you wont understand 🙏
Mere dadi was also unhappy by his wif8 torture
"अपने Life partner को माफ करके देखिए" गजब का जादू होगा
Amit जी की हर बात 💯💯💯💯%सही है 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Maaf kare ne walle bujdil khte ye log maine ye sab kare ke deka hai aur unke bhen no us ko chada kar ladte hai
@@ABDULRASHEED-d6f कम से कम दो तीन बार माफ़ करें, बस उसके बाद भी कोई नहीं समझता तो उससे दूर होने में ही भलाई है कब तक अपने आत्मसम्मान को गिराकर झुकता रहेगा
I lived with inlaws for 20 years. I was very good at cooking...but my mother in law everyday each time spending comment..each time going through mental pain...finally ended in 2018 when she passed away. So my advice is everyone should live independently so that both youngsters and seniors both will have responsibilities and manage their own things
This man is calling out as it should be. No bs.
Namaskar to guruji.
Such a fiery episode. I have been a regular follower of Amit ji and the way he had exposed the hypocrisy of middle class is superb
Very rightly said.....ye mama's boy ka concept jo bataya h....vo aaj bi chal rha h Kai societies mein....aur isilie India mei bete chaiye logon ko....kyunki betiyon ko to na padhana h...aur vo paraya dhan....aur bete kamake khilaye chahe kidney bechni pade
arey yaar mama boy papa boy actually possession to parents k paas hi rehna hai baccha to unhi ka hai..orphan thodi hai..joru ka gulam b boys k ego ko hurt krta hai..ya to boy sbka hai aur nhi to kisi ka nhi😂😂😂😂 ....do you consider mama's boy opposed to boy's mama as same feeling.....in my pov..mama's boy is insulting term..there should be some other word for these tyoe of boys
After marriage a couple’s main responsibility is toward each other and the kids they decide to bring to this world. But that doesn’t mean you don’t take care of the parents. Parents expecting round the clock-maid and nurse is also not possible.
These days mothers serving daughter in-laws more.Girls should be guided properly
@bindumalhotra4762 yes u r ryt ..rather than getting free(free them from responsibilities ) .unhone apno zi dagi tumahre kiye khapaa dii ab to unhe chen se rehne do....parents in law are more getting more busy than ever..my experience ...neighbours use to socialise with us and when their children got married and both of them are working..the parents are bringing up their gradson/daughter..they are bringing up the child of their children and this is not right...daughter in laws enjyoing offices and the bahu part is given to mother in law saas
Enjoying means what? Do men Enjoy in office? Children belong to both. Dono paale. Why women should sacrifice career?
Human experience is non-linear. In the west, I find most unstable people are those who didn’t have a bad experience ever in life. Even bad experiences are required for stable society.
This inordinate focus on happiness is what is ruining everything. There is no end to the pursuit of happiness.
@@sonamagrawal12
Ever heard the word Balance?
There must be a balance of good experiences and bad experiences.
Good experiences usually make us happy for a day or two, but bad experiences linger in our subconscious.
Indian families have gave bad, sad experiences to the women for years with no balance of happiness.
Why is this man so relevant, 90 % log inke jaisa smjhdar h, bas implement nahi kar paate
A real matured talk.. A real good podcast!
My mother was using me for so long to get her revenge from everyone in my family. She also has several properties on her name but she is still revengeful.
Good you have understood this early. Most men realise when it is too late.
In our society, a woman exercises her power through the son. “Rukja, shaam ko mere bête ko aane de, Tujhe pitwaoongi” Is a very old line they give to the Bahu. In the evening, a very aggravating story is presented to the son when he comes back from work. Then Mama’s boys immediately take it out on the wife. Eventually, the couple’s relationship suffers. If a divorce happens, the son is left alone to deal with legal proceedings.
@Dillikidastaan absolute truth u said.... it's more true than sun n moon .
When son has to face anything in life ,he has to manage alone . May b divorce ,his financial updowns ,his disease ,his childcare. He has to face alone .
But while he is dealing with his wife .
All of these ppl cum together n tell him what to do
Trust a women but not Blindly...
This beta problem is very deep. Hamari bhabhi jisko kisi ne atyachar nahi kiya, na maayke na sasuraal. Par use beta hai to wo padhi likhi ghawaar beti waalo ke upar dhauss jamati hai.
@@BharatS7749 Societal issue hain Bhai, yeh samaj ka structure bolta hain ki Beta hain to tum Maharani ho. Internalise kar liya hain aapki Bhabhi ne.
कोर्ट के वकील भी बहुत हद तक जिम्मेदार है परिवार तोड़ने में। कोर्ट में जब दोनों पति पत्नी में समझौता हो जाता है तो कोर्ट से बाहर जाते ही वकील पता नहीं क्या सिखाते है वो फिर साथ रहने से मना कर देते हैं। पारिवारिक मुकदमो में वकीलों की दखलंदाजी नहीं होनी चाहिए।
80% दोषी मां बाप होते है जो अपनी औलाद का घर तोड़ते है
Pagl ho gye ho kya. Vakilon ko paise issi baat ke diye jate hai unka Kam hai ye vo nahi krenge or savdhaan nahi krenge to or kon krega.
Or ager apne pyare parivar may vakilon ki dakhlandaji nahi jati to unhe hire na kre👍
@@aditi21mehtaNahi but what he says it's a fact. I've working in Court as a Steno and continuously transferred to various Branches. Vakil bohot hi neech hote h. Like I'll give you an example ; Once there was a divorce hearing was going on. And both of the parties decided to stop that case then and there in order to give their child a normal childhood. But both of the Vakils interfered and in the end they got divorced. Child's custody was given to the mother. A week later, the lady murdered her kid and ate him up. I was so disgusted by that I beat both of them up and got transferred to a Muslim Personal Law Board. Where things are completely different. Here the women was beaten to pulp and her child miscarried was begging for divorce but Neither the officials nor the Members(Her's and Boys') refused to do so. After her repeated pleading for divorce,she jumped on the road colliding with a car. Her parents refused to claim her body. After some hassle,we handed over her body to her 10 year old son. And he did La-illa(Funeral Ceremony) without any Adult's guidance just the him and Maulvi Sahab.Just think about that father and this son.
Now Try to understand my point without any biasness. And this is happening on the mass scale.
Due to greed of some people, Whole society everybody has to suffer. Society laws can't be biased/rigid otherwise there'll be a revolt and total collapse of the Society. It'll be total utter chaos. A chaos that you me or even these so called Judges can't be be able to handle. Is that what you want? No. These Rich and powerful folks are already set their foot on US and Europe. Their kids have that much of resources to start a new life. And we don't. So rather than brushing issues under the carpet, discuss it. These so called rich folks can be compared as General Bajwa of Pakistan.
In vakeelon ki bhi to aapas me nahi banti hogi doosre ki shaadi kaise bachne denge. Jaldi compromise hokar kaise rafa dapha ho jayege to inko poochhega kaun. Ladke bahut ke maamle me na maa baap ko interfere karna chahiye na hi saas sasur ko. Apni buddhi se suljhaane Deni chahiye apni problems. Ladke ki income achhi hai to saas ko ye nahi samajhna chahiye murga mil gaya halal karne to jaise Atul case me hua. Shaadi se pahle hi ladki ko ya ladke ko apne gun avgun ladki ya ladke ko bata dena chahiye jissi baad me divorce ki naubat na aaye. Baaki podcast was informative. 👌
Yeh sach kaha....bahu cases me couple ka samjhauta ho sakta hai yan fir bina chichhaledar k alag ho sakte hai but lawyers baat ko complicate karte hain taaki zyada fees le sakein 😢
Thank God I had best happy parents in my life. Their 50 year marriage never reduced their love for each other! She married my father only age of thirteen when he was 18 . We all siblings love our parent too much though the are not with us❤🙏🌹🙏🥰🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Oh dear uncle ji, namaste ! Aapke paas zero information hai judiciary ka ..ya fir aap ek beti k papa hai...I will ask a very simple question "IF A WIFE CHEATS OR LETS SAY IF THE WIFE IS ABUSIVE IN NATURE, WHAT LAW OR SECTION DOES A MAN HAVE TO PROTECT HIMSELF FROM PAYING ALIMONY AFTER HIS CRIMINAL WIFE DOES SEVERAL FALSE CASES ON THE POOR HUSBAND WHEN THE HUSBAND FILES FOR DIVORCE."
OPEN CHALLENGE TO YOU UNCLE ...JUST GIVE ONE SINGLE LAW USING WHICH HE CAN PROTECT HIMSELF .
CAN YOU ANSWER THIS? I DONT UNDERSTAND WHY DON'T YOU FAMOUS UA-camRS RAISE YOUR VOICE AGAINST THE COMPLETELY BIASED LAW SYSTEM WE HAVE CURRENTLY WHICH IS COMPLETELY ANTI-MEN. Ek single law nahi hai to protect ourselves if we want to leave our cheating wife or a bad wife who is violent in nature or narcissistic and all those things? Marriage rates are going to fall drastically going forward no man will want to marry this way -_-
True
This oldie just blabbers, nothing else!
That wasn't the point of this podcast. Laws won't change for at least this term of Modi government. WTF will you do till then? Shall we stop marriage and start a population collapse? Use your brain if you have one.
UA-camrs can't do shit because the supreme court has given several decisions in favour of female spouses. We can keep crying all we want but the Modi government will not go against the women. Our only chance is the 2029 election.
Wonderful analysis ,as always by amit sir. Great fan of him .i'm 56 yrs old & also m-in -law . I agree in each & every aspect of relatioships with amit sir. Meri bahu aur m frd ki tarah rakhte hai apne relation ko aur uska credit dono ko hi jata h. Koi bhi relationship dono taraf se effort ho tabhi healthy ho sakti h. Last 2 min ki advice bahut achchhi lagi . M bhi apni life m zaroor apply karoongi
Am going to be practical in writing this.
For all the men... Stop discussing abt ur wife with anyone in this world.
For all the women...stop comparing ur husband with other's husband.
In this transition period do not get married if u r not ready mentally to accept what comes after marriage.
Women still will be expected to bring a glass of water when guests arrive and husband is also sitting in front of them.
Even if u r earning more than him.
Even if u r paying all the bills.
If u r ok doing this..go get married.
If u want to just enjoy life how it comes..do not get married.
Coz burden on women is more than men.
1. U want to do ur career.
2. U want to nurture ur babies.
3. U want to nurture ur husband.
4. U want to nurture ur husband's parents.
5. U fall sick..u have to nurture urself.
Nobody else is going to nurture u when u need the most.
6. U want to be higher than ur collegues.
8. U want ur children to be higher than other's children for which u only have to put in hardwork.
Coz ur husband will not sit with kids and teach them how to improve in handwriting drawing painting recitation and sports etc etc
Sto when will u enjoy or even live ur OWN life.?
For god sake do not marry...
Unka vansh badhana hai isliye woh shaadi chahte hai..
Kya apka ko vansh nahi hona chahiye?
Aap bacha paida karogi ..aur vansh uska?
Us bacche ka naam ..apke husband ka
Credit pura husband ko milega...
Kaam sab aap karogi
Ghanta kuch milega apko.
Ladka fail hua toh taane apko marenge log..husband ko nahi .
Par agar 1st ayen toh bolenge..arrre yeh xyz(husband) ka naam leke bolenge ki bahut intelligent baccha hai usi suresh) ka..aisa nahi bolenge ki (Neelima) ka beta ya beti intelligent hai.
Naam mein kuch bhi dalein hai example ke liye.
Apko credit hi nahi chahiye toh kar lo shaadi aur lutne do unko.
Aap apne careet pe dhyaan denge..tab apka bhi naam forbes ke list mein aa sakta hai...par sirf bacche hi palenge toh..husband ke vansh ka naam badhaoge khud ka kuch bhi nahi.
Aapka ghata hai
Uska kuch naho jata😁
Very true @@Vegetarian99
Parents of both girl and boy play a major role and become intrusive in the couple's relationship
Ram Ban is also: After kid is 18, you are NO LONGER a parent. You are only a mother and father. Parenting HAS TO STOP at 18!!!
And also boy's sisters.
@@av1421not 18, but 25 is ok. Between 18 to 25 it needs to gradually reduce and post 25 it needs to be minimal and relationship like adults where it is less authority driven and more mutual respect driven.
अगर विवाहित जोड़ा आपस में मिलजुल कर रहने के लिए दृढ़ हो तो तीसरे बंदे का दखल रिशता नहीं तुड़वा सकता।
@@positivethoughts8461 tisra bnda ma bap ho to krwa hi dete h.
Hum divorce karne ke liye nahi dhoondte hai ladka ladki..!
Par in-laws dakhal deke tudwa hi dete hai shaadi… Mine is an example…!
Right. Divorce ke peechhe hamesha kisi parent ka hi haath hota hai.
पति पत्नी दोनों के परिवार से दूर रहना पड़ेगा तब सम्भव है
In India shadi 2 family me hoti h😂😂
This gentleman has gained one of the highest regards from me. India needs his way of perception to stop marital debacle
Sir has helped me with marriage and property consultation. It was very effective
Amit Sangwan is a very well explained person and very good family consultant.😊
lol. He is a publicity-hungry person. He is always seeking expanding his consulting business.
@@LiuChan-d5o and why shall he not think about that? He is trying to solve a problem, isn't he?
My parents are extremely bad couple I I ever experienced. He is 100% right.
Then these parents transfer the entire expectation of their happiness and well-being on the children. Abey jab khud saari zindagi khush nahi reh sake, to baccha kya karlega? Aur kalesh karne aur karwane ki adat bhi nahi jaati hain. Saari toxicity Beta-Bahu par daal dete hain.
Meri mummy bhi papa ko bikul psnd nhi krti hai pr jhel rhi bs Meri n Meri sis ki shaadi hone tak hi bas
Same here
Dont take money from them
@@DillikidastaanYes yes.. totally agreed
One has to be reasonable! Your personal values should be noble. We are not perfect. We all have our faults and good and bad habits. One has to choose whether you xan live with, tolerate or compromise with the habits of your partner.
If there is violence, please separate immediately.
Very accurate analysis of Indian marriage and society !Totally respect his opinion.
I found this podcast to be an excellent resource on marriage, offering a well-balanced perspective on marital challenges. Thank you.
अगर लोगों की जिंदगी बचानी है तो तलाक को आसान और सस्ता बनाना बहुत जरूरी है ।
अब कोई 7 जन्म वाले रिश्ते नहीं होते । शादी करो पर अगर आपस में न बने तो अलग हो जाओ।
Bilkul sahi bhai hamare yaha divorce ko leke itna haytaubaa macha rehta hai upar se ye law easily divorce nhi deta jaldi divorce ho jaaye to sabki jindagi aasan ho jaaye.
@DevrajKumar-kg3oo जी बिल्कुल । सारी ब्लैकमेलिंग और दुख और सफरिंग का कारण ही शादियों से आजीवन रहने की अपेक्षा है । विदेशों में भी तो कई जीवन साथी आते है।
हमने न जाने क्या हव्वा बना रखा है कि शादी टूट जाएगी तो न जाने कौन सा पहाड़ टूट पड़ेगा । टॉक्सिक रिश्ते में रहने से अच्छा है उसको खत्म करो और नए साथी के साथ रहो ।
@loveislove9211 Yes bro saari pareshaani yahi jab rishte bojh ban jaaye to kyo unko jhele, sabke liye yahi sahi divorce ho jana chahe purush ho ya stree.
No. No divorce.
Court ki koi bhi Faisla Mahina 2 mahine mein de dena chahie to public hairan Nahin hue
He has touched all problems which either break marriage or one spouse suffers and bows to atrocities as there is no escape
एक बात कोई नही बताएगा कि लडकी इंजीनियर, डॉक्टर और उच्च शिक्षित है तो हर महीने आने वाली उसकी लाखों हजारों की सैलरी शादी होने के बाद मिलना बंद ना हो इसलिए आज बहुत सी लड़कियों के माता पिता लड़कियों की शादी होने ही नहीं देते.
ये कटु सत्य है
Very true aur agar shadi ho jaye to Ghar tudwane ki koshish karte hain.
To boys k parents bhu usko alag nahi rehne dete. Unka bhi vesa hi hai.
@@aishabavani8789 बेटा उपर वीडियो में जिस competition के बारे मे बताया है कि अगर लड़का पत्नी को कुछ करने नहीं देगा तो पत्नी भी लड़के को कुछ काम करने नहीं देगी. आप भी उसी competition की उपज है और जो लड़कियां ऐसे competition पर उतर आती है वो कितनी भी तपस्या कर ले घर गृहस्थी करने के लायक नहीं होती. NCRB के रिकॉर्ड के हिसाब से शादीशुदा कपल्स में औरतों से ज्यादा आत्महत्या मर्द करते है. क्योंकि उनकी पत्नियां आप की तरह competition लेकर आती है
Aisa bhi hota hai ???
A wonderful and in-depth discussion with humor on a very important social issue, with factual and practical solutions. Thank you very much to both of you. Everyone must watch this.
I not just completely agree with the speaker, I am glad to hear such unbiased views. The topic is important and also leading to societal sadness. The best conversation on the subject
मेरा भी बेटा अब शादी लायक है मैं उसकी सफल मैरिज लाइफ चाहती हु इसलिए देख रही हु 😊
Shadi matlab kya?
iski baton mein mat ana anti ye keh ke nikal lega iska kya jana hai
@@vaibhawcachha???kya galat bool rahe hain wo???App kyaa sahi boleahe hai?
Amazing ❤
He is absolutely right
SangwanJi is an expert in everything. He's cool so I'll tune in here
I heard half the podcast. Real practical advise and totally lived up to the billing. Thanks Guruji and Arihantbhai for putting this together 👌
He is not happy at least
@@RoseSharma-nk4ui unhappiness with the status quo is good
बहुत ही बढिया संवाद समाज के लिये ।
हर व्यक्ति को इसे सुनना व समझना चाहिये ।
Excellent podcast, you gave detailed information on marriage and family. Really enjoyed your sense of humor too.
Fantastic man.... thought provoking practical approach.... अमितजी जैसे समाज सुधारक की बहोत जरुरत है ....गुरुजी आप भारत का happiness index 10x कर सकते हो....
Climax is just mind blowing and Crystal clear. AMIT JI JUST ROCKS. YOU ARE THE BEST.
I went to a girl’s school and said the same thing in a workshop. So many got offended 😂
What exactly did you say😂
And what points were they offended by?
What exactly did you say hehe
Ma’am, please don’t get married. You won’t be able to be happy 😃
@@yushpithat this is not about comparing with men. If nature has given females hardship then men too have been given hardship by society. It’s easy to bend a male child according to our requirements and females after going through this heinous cycle ends up doing the same thing to their own male child. Second thing they were offended was when I said mothers are very much responsible for what they teach their male child. So they were like father needs to tell their male child how to behave like a gentleman man. And when I said we should not be concentrating on changing them but changing ourselves, like if your husband is doing domestic violence in front of your children(and yes I know wives do domestic violence too) then it’s your duty how you counteract on it. Your actions will convey that no females will like such kind of behaviour. But noooooo…even if WE are giving birth, it’s males duty. Females are queen and males are commanders of a great army. That simple logic is going beyond their brain. But wait we need to be like males. Now us are robots now. Good saying…mahila hi mahila ki dushman hai.
4th women kon hai 😅
Nirmala ka naam koi nahi lega 😅
😂😂
@@sahilverma9113 Maa-fee mangani padegi
Haha😂
Probably also sister of the groom = effectively बुवा, i.e. sister of father/father in law when we extend this relation to the previous generation, bitching about her nephew/niece/son/daughter-in-law through her brother.
Now I got it😂😂
There's a reason why Sangwanji is the best!!! Thank you for bringing this podcast.
आपके चैनल को साधुवाद, सदा संतुलित दृष्टिकोण वाला पॉडकास्ट देते हैं ! आज के गेस्ट ने भारतीय समाज की सड़ान्ध को सटीक बताया है !
Guruji Amit Sangwan is No.1 Clarity giver of youth
में तो अमित जी का बड़ा प्रशंसक हूँ। बहुत ही प्रभावशाली व्यक्तित्व है इनका ।
Lmao pahadi hoke iss haryanivi edgy uncle ka fan
@@commanderofkesariyaknights Regionalism apni jeb mei rkh.
Aajkal ladkiyo ko bhi ladko jitni hi padhai karni padhti hai.wo bhi poore din padhti hai.wo kaha se grah karya mai daksh kaise ho sakti hai.unko time nahi diya jata bas 1st day se master chef,mba in home management ho,aisi expectations hoti hai.
Sab kuch karne pe bhi in laws ka kalesh
Mat karo padhai
@@shrishri8898 aap bhi kahan hi padd rhe hai paglait.
Itni Padhai ke baad bhi 90% Ladkiya jobless hai 😂, Ladke Kuch bhi karke Kamaakar toh laate hai, ladkiya Naa toh Ghar kaa kaam karti hai aur naa hi paise kamaati hai😂
@@ketunky3056 accha to usko paida ru dega kya 😂. Har jagh mu marne aa jate
Who tried to break my marriage 1. Mother in law. She demanded divorce and mentally harassed me for 13 years
2. Brother in law who supported her .
3. But My husband, is always there by my side. That's why i didn't fill in any case against them.
Ram Ban is also: After kid is 18, you are NO LONGER a parent. You are only a mother and father. Parenting HAS TO STOP at 18!!!
Excellent reporting by decent anchor n panelist I salute you for transparent presentation and dareing n drastic analysis
my mother -in-law has tortured me from the day i lost my job . Jbh tk job thi vo achhi thi fir uske bad se rude hogayi tauntas dowry ko lekar start hogye .shadi ko 1 sal bhi nhi hua he or abh divorce tak bat a rhi he .... sirf mil ki wjh se ... and my husband doesnt see this .
Same happening with me my mother in-law and father in-law both are like a snake ,greedy they want dowry and my husband is also involve
Try to make ur husband on your side... be diplomatic.. try to show him reality. Ase bnn jao k husband tum pr depend ho jae.. bs tumhare siva dikhe na usko kuch
@@Rhthcvye jo aap gyan de rhey h ye real life mai applicable nhi h kuki reality bilkul alag h kuch ldka k liye unke maa devi hoti h ab chhey aap kuch bhi kar lo kitna hi seva kar lo kuch kr lo jis din aap apne rights ki baat krogy uske dusre din aap court mai khade hongy
@siri6059 I understand m facing same issues.. my frnds faced same. But sm of my friends really played diplomatic.. even my cousin who's husband didn't even like to stay her parents house for 4 hrs is Ghar jmai after 6 years of marriage. she played well.. what is have learnt seva krni ni bs dikhawa krna.. pinhole Kiya vhi set hai
@@siri6059सही
Finally a sensible MAN
No. He gave example of northern part of India and biased view.
@@ADARSHKUMAR-xm8ro from north indian perspective it not biased
@SBH3356 he put all things in a single frame.
@@ADARSHKUMAR-xm8rototally biased interview.. according to him boy and his mother are culprit.. but cases samne samne jo aa rhe hain kuch discuss nhi 😂😂
Am going to be practical in writing this.
For all the men... Stop discussing abt ur wife with anyone in this world.
For all the women...stop comparing ur husband with other's husband.
In this transition period do not get married if u r not ready mentally to accept what comes after marriage.
Women still will be expected to bring a glass of water when guests arrive and husband is also sitting in front of them.
Even if u r earning more than him.
Even if u r paying all the bills.
If u r ok doing this..go get married.
If u want to just enjoy life how it comes..do not get married.
Coz burden on women is more than men.
1. U want to do ur career.
2. U want to nurture ur babies.
3. U want to nurture ur husband.
4. U want to nurture ur husband's parents.
5. U fall sick..u have to nurture urself.
Nobody else is going to nurture u when u need the most.
6. U want to be higher than ur collegues.
8. U want ur children to be higher than other's children for which u only have to put in hardwork.
Coz ur husband will not sit with kids and teach them how to improve in handwriting drawing painting recitation and sports etc etc
Sto when will u enjoy or even live ur OWN life.?
For god sake do not marry...
Unka vansh badhana hai isliye woh shaadi chahte hai..
Kya apka ko vansh nahi hona chahiye?
Aap bacha paida karogi ..aur vansh uska?
Us bacche ka naam ..apke husband ka
Credit pura husband ko milega...
Kaam sab aap karogi
Ghanta kuch milega apko.
Ladka fail hua toh taane apko marenge log..husband ko nahi .
Par agar 1st ayen toh bolenge..arrre yeh xyz(husband) ka naam leke bolenge ki bahut intelligent baccha hai usi suresh) ka..aisa nahi bolenge ki (Neelima) ka beta ya beti intelligent hai.
Naam mein kuch bhi dalein hai example ke liye.
Apko credit hi nahi chahiye toh kar lo shaadi aur lutne do unko.
Aap apne careet pe dhyaan denge..tab apka bhi naam forbes ke list mein aa sakta hai...par sirf bacche hi palenge toh..husband ke vansh ka naam badhaoge khud ka kuch bhi nahi.
Aapka ghata hai
Uska kuch naho jata😁
I also left my husband bcoz of my in-laws....their continuous interference ruined my life... my husband was not that bad...he was insisted to do everything according to his parents.... finally i had to quit..
Really?
Very balanced one really, Dr Sangwan is for betterment of relations not for or against any gender. Kudos to you Sir ❤
Dear Sir, thank you Amitji. Very good program. Your experience is showing the correct situation in our society.
I feel, the boy and girl have to go out together before marriage, exchange ideas, wishes and all what is important for them. In a few meetings one can find out, if you like each other.
It is hard work, but very important.
Another effective point ist to leave the couple 1 year for themselves, as Amitji said.
For intimacy, privacy ( at least for a short time) is the key. Also, to take responsibility for oneself and partner should be the main aim for both the male and female partners.
Simply brilliant. Excellent podcast.
You are right, Sir. I agree totally with your prospective .
its sad even after 2020 lockdowns men , women, mama"s raja beta and papa ki pari have not learnt basic survival skills(cooking cleaning etc )🤔🤔
It is more mama’s raja beta who doesn’t know anything
You Please don’t marry. Don’t spoil life of anyone. You are strong independent women, you dont need to marry.
Ram Ban is also: After kid is 18, you are NO LONGER a parent. You are only a mother and father. Parenting HAS TO STOP at 18!!!
@@sweetys3266 these days girls are no less.
Sharing wedding expenses equally between the two families will make parents of the groom think twice before harassing the bride.
And presenting a booklet on alimony to the boy’s parentsIf so they know how complicated it can get.
Sar ji aap itne samajhdari ki baat karte hain aur Itni practical maja a jata hai aapki baat sunkar aap sach mein Guruji Hain
Dark reality presented in a comical way!!!
Vanprastashram was the solution earlier...kitne generation ke senior citizens ghar pe bheed lagaa ke baith te hai. Kisi ko kuch naa chodnaa hai! Senior citizens rights maang ke yaa darr dikhake saara kuch le lete hai... respect n money n ego pampering bhi
I agree with him. The Great Indian Joint Family of the past is the biggest scam.
No darling.
Mere parivar me abhi 16 members he. Dada ji k bad dadi hi sare kam kaaj sambhalti he. Vahi sarve sarva he. Ham sab unki respect krte he. Family me vivad hone pr dadi chacha tau koi bhi 10 minute me solve kr dete he. Sabhi apni apni life se satisfy he. Pados samaj me sab jagah joint family valo ko ijjat milti he. Kisi ki pange lene ya ladne ki himmat nahi hoti he.
2 tarikh ko ghar ka pura mahine ka saman aa jata he. Kisi ka kam koi bhi kr deta he. Family me depression tension dur dur tk kisi member me nahi he.
ghatoge to katoge
Ram Ban is also: After kid is 18, you are NO LONGER a parent. You are only a mother and father. Parenting HAS TO STOP at 18!!!
@@indian-f5d Joint family is a blessing if the in laws are good and supporting...
But if they are not then it's a curse
Your family is 1 in a 1000
Joint family is an equaliser, where the resources of hard working people is given to undeserving people . Whenever society becomes poor , families become joint families for survival.
यहां तक की ऐसी मां बाप भी है अपने बच्चों के सामने हिरण्यकश्यप की तरह खुद को भगवान होने का परिभाषित करते हैं !
When my mother in laws use to verbally torture me and say I am your mother in law, I can say anything to you, my husband use to defend his mother saying ' kal ko teri bahu ayegi to tu use ni sunaegi kya?' As if hum bahu isliye hi lekar ate hai Taki use suna sake...😔
How do people get such pathetic mentality? And still I listened to her for 15 plus years after my marriage to save my marriage though on my face she use to say 'bahu pyari nahi ho sakti jitni betiya pyari hoti hai'
And this is after my mother in law got separated with her family from her in laws just 3 years after her marriage...
😢😢
I literally cried watching this....
Bhai this is a Masterpiece! Very precious video
Yes.... sacrifice is the most emotionally used blackmailing word used by father and mother
मै इन गुरुजी की बहुत बड़ी fan हुं, इनका सारा ज्ञान सुनती हुं और बहुत कुछ सीखने को मिलता है ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏
In my opinion marriage only stays on appreciation from both the sides. If wife is a housewife don’t say she’s always enjoying at home but appreciate her efforts. Same way appreciate efforts of boy also. If both are working then efforts shall be appreciated in a balance way.
Amit Sangwanji human cause, marriage cause aur manavata ki taraf se bol rahey hain.
Thank you bhaaisaab abhitak marital institution ka koi substitute nahi hai.
Very balanced view point🎉🎉
I wish people of your age have this level of wisdom ❤ love and best wishes Mr Sangwan
बहुत सारे marriage घरवालो के कारण तुटते है..रिश्तेदारोकी वजह से तुटता है..जो पती पत्नी प्यारसे रहते है तो कोई रिश्तेदार घरवाले खुश नही होते.शादी तुडवानेमे कोई कसर नही छोडते..पहले तो लडकीको परेशान करते है,बाद मे लडकेको परेशान करते है..
पती पत्नीमे रिश्ता ठिक नही तो divorce समज सकते है..मगर रिश्तेदारोसे परेशान होकर लोग divorce नही लेता दूनियाछोडने की सोच रखता है.. शादी दो लोगोकी होती है उन्हे अलक करने वालोसे divorce लेनेकी पेशकश कानुन मे होनी चाहीए थी
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Nanad - Husband ki sister ka naam is list me kyon nahi hai ?? Bahut zyada kalesh is rishtey se aata hai - nanad chahe kunwari ho ya shaadi shuda. Yeh kalesh zindagi bhar ka sir dard hai.......aur uske bachche bhi
Exactly true
Ekdum correct
Absolutely
I'm sorry your life is so sad. I'm someone's sister too, and I don't interfere with my brother and his family (his wife and child). They don't interfere in the business of my family (my husband and me). My in-laws or parents also don't interfere. They let us take decisions as we wish. Ofcourse, they are there for us when we need them, and vise versa but we all have very clear boundaries.
Bull's eye. Ekdum correct. Ab laga teer nishane pe.......nanad ke baare me uski bhabhi se poocho.....saas ko bhadkaane me bhi isika bahut bada hath Hota hai
Apne jo salary ki bat ki ap ye b to dekhiye ladke apne se3-4 sal choti ladkiyo se shadi krte hai to package to unka jyada hoga hi..same package chaiye to same age vali ladki se shadi krna chaiye..ha apne 30k 3 lakh jo bola vo bht bada difference hai par age experience en sab k sath salary badhta b hai vo b consider kijiye
Always a delight hearing Sangwan ji, never a dull a moment
Thanks for this conversation. He is very interesting, innovative and practical..
Very beautiful video....the end was the highlight "The family which you come from is less important than the family which you create" , simply awesome !!
His take on people who choose to stay single or are divroced and dont wish to remarry is very short-sighted, simplistic, and flawed. His opinion on divorcees is colored by a patriarchal mindset and assumes everyone is running after social status, and money. Truth is there a lot of people out there who fall in the above categories out of choice and are independent, self sufficient enough to take care of themeselves and secure their future by making the right financial, emotional, professional, and spiritual choices.
I agree. But there are very few such self aware people and it's difficult for them to find a like minded partner.
@Namrata766 thanks for reading my comment and yes you are right that such people aren't the majority. However, these people aren't actually looking for a partner or another person. If they meet someone, great. If not, they are perfectly okay doing their own thing 🙏🦋🌟
I beg to differ, you have actually voiced out lot of points, will try to give me take on them separately
1) Ppl on staying Single ==> This does not come from a higher Order Thinking, mostly it's some trauma that the person has witnessed, bad marriages happening in front of them to their family members (or) friend etc..
Ppl 99% look for a partner in life, we are drawn to have that inherently, instinctively
2) Divorced ==> Where to begin, but mostly persons responsible are Husband's Mother and family members and Wife's Mother and Family members
This is purely INDIAN Context, not comparing to Western lifestyle/Culture
Since a Divorced person has a lot of trauma from that experience and Indian judiciary makes it impossible to divorce without lot of Monetary, Physical, Emotional spend - by the time a Man (or) Woman comes out of Divorce from india, they are too emotionally spent to try and remarry again
Not sure where the patriarchal mindset he brought BUT in reality 95% of population is driven by social status and money
You might be the exception but what he mentioned is prevalent and amplified with Insta,FB , influencers etc...
Patriarchy is fancy and most misused word
Subject is about marrital discord, reasons and solutions for the society at large. If one is happy in the present circumstances it great. However, some times later the same person may find or seek a partner. If no expectations, life is great. Enjoy, best wishes. By the way ,there are few people with that clarity of thought 😊😊😊
Am going to be practical in writing this.
For all the men... Stop discussing abt ur wife with anyone in this world.
For all the women...stop comparing ur husband with other's husband.
In this transition period do not get married if u r not ready mentally to accept what comes after marriage.
Women still will be expected to bring a glass of water when guests arrive and husband is also sitting in front of them.
Even if u r earning more than him.
Even if u r paying all the bills.
If u r ok doing this..go get married.
If u want to just enjoy life how it comes..do not get married.
Coz burden on women is more than men.
1. U want to do ur career.
2. U want to nurture ur babies.
3. U want to nurture ur husband.
4. U want to nurture ur husband's parents.
5. U fall sick..u have to nurture urself.
Nobody else is going to nurture u when u need the most.
6. U want to be higher than ur collegues.
8. U want ur children to be higher than other's children for which u only have to put in hardwork.
Coz ur husband will not sit with kids and teach them how to improve in handwriting drawing painting recitation and sports etc etc
Sto when will u enjoy or even live ur OWN life.?
For god sake do not marry...
Unka vansh badhana hai isliye woh shaadi chahte hai..
Kya apka ko vansh nahi hona chahiye?
Aap bacha paida karogi ..aur vansh uska?
Us bacche ka naam ..apke husband ka
Credit pura husband ko milega...
Kaam sab aap karogi
Ghanta kuch milega apko.
Ladka fail hua toh taane apko marenge log..husband ko nahi .
Par agar 1st ayen toh bolenge..arrre yeh xyz(husband) ka naam leke bolenge ki bahut intelligent baccha hai usi suresh) ka..aisa nahi bolenge ki (Neelima) ka beta ya beti intelligent hai.
Naam mein kuch bhi dalein hai example ke liye.
Apko credit hi nahi chahiye toh kar lo shaadi aur lutne do unko.
Aap apne careet pe dhyaan denge..tab apka bhi naam forbes ke list mein aa sakta hai...par sirf bacche hi palenge toh..husband ke vansh ka naam badhaoge khud ka kuch bhi nahi.
Aapka ghata hai
Uska kuch naho jata😁
Amit ji at his best ..
Got lot of clarity from him
मैंने अतुल सुभाष का पूरा (1 घंटा 22 मिनट लंबा) आखिरी वीडियो देखा। जब वह बोल रहे थे, तो मेरे कई पुरुष मित्रों और सहकर्मियों के चेहरे उनके चेहरे पर दिखाई दे रहे थे। वे मित्र और सहकर्मी जो बदसूरत तलाक़ से गुज़रे हैं या वैवाहिक कोर्ट-केस में फंसे हुए हैं या विषाक्त विवाह में फंसे हुए हैं। इन सभी पुरुषों के लिए दुर्व्यवहार और उत्पीड़न के पैटर्न कितने समान रहे हैं!
अविवाहित जीवन एक ख़ुशहाल जीवन है। वर्तमान भारतीय कानूनों के तहत पुरुषों के लिए शादी करने का कोई मतलब नहीं है।
Atul subhas ki puri video phir se dekh lo yha v uski khud ki maa ne hi uski biwi k pregnancy me bhut nautanki kri thi par usko dikha hi nhi
Usne 3 sal phle diye paise jise usne wapas v le liya tha uski bat kri
3 sal phle uski biwi jb o bacche ko breast feed krwa rhi thi tb nhati thi ya nhi uski bat kri
Aaj agar uski maa ne ye sb nautanki nhi kri hoti toh o zinda hota bhut sare ladke aaj khud ki maa ki wajah se depression me hai and hai uske bap ne bola hai interview me chote kpde phnti thi banglore me us se uski maa ko diebities ho gya wah re parents
Mujhe dukh hai usne sucide ki but aapki maa ki life aur biwi ki life ek nhi hoti hai
Maa bap ki jimmedari lo jaise unhone aapki li bahu kya phnti hai kya khati hai ye sb couple ko apne me decide Krna chahiye
13:45 some fathers are also like this... I don't have mother-in-law but my father-in-law never let me feel her absence. Bina matlab ki ladai karate rehte h meri and mere husband ki. Same is with my brother-in-law and sister-in-law.
Agree
Aisa kya karte hai sasur ?
At last someone is here to speak about the corruption in our society! Congratulations Sir!
रिश्ते टूटने का सबसे बड़ा कारण हर व्यक्ति के अंदर का अहम् चाहे पति पत्नी हो , सास बहू, ननद भाभी, भाई भाई, जब रिश्तों में एक दूसरे के लिए सम्मान, अपनापन और आराम से एक दूसरे की बात को समझेंगे तब कभी झगड़ा नहीं होगा 🙏🙏
Marriage is only adjustment between all. I don’t believe what he is saying. Everyone is driving its shop whether court or lawyers or any other media influencer
Mere sath Jo vyavhar hua hai main use hisab se kah rahi hun sasural mein jimmedaar Hoti hai sans nanand aur devar bhi hota hai FIR uske bad bahanoi a jata hai devrani a jaati hai vah bhi colour failati hai bich mein man Hoti hai SAS Aurangabad Aag lagati hai
Superb podcast, Amit sangwan is best. Must watch for all family members.
Such a beautiful podcast and amazingly beautiful conclusion ❤
Amit ji se request he ki ek esa college banae jaha har age group ke liye class ho
Age group 15-20
Age group 21-25
Age group 26-30
Age group 31-35
Age group 35-40
Age group 41-50
Age group 50-60
Age group 60 above
Sabhi course ki fees ho
But college ho to thik ho
Old age vale parents ya jo kam age ke he or bimar he to unki seva kese hogi jisse vo bhi khush rahe or couple ko bhi khush rahne de
Or pre marriage ka ek compulsory couse ho ho couple ko karna bahut jaruri ho jisme govt. Ki taraf se ho ki shadi ke pahle ye course karna bahut jaruri ho
Govt. Approved ho
Or couple ke family ke liye bhi ek course ho ladke ke family or ladki ki family
In dono family ko kya karna he kya nhi karna vo bataya jae
Plz. Open your college plz. 🙏🏻
Very pertinent comment 👍👍👍👍
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He sells his course u can buy that
Pls do one on Narayan Murthy, India
Indian Labour laws, work-life balance & happiness Index with this man ! Whole India needs to know
Indian couples need to see this..