“normal girls come home during summer” normal girls also don’t have to put up with their sibling calling them a bitch, getting mad at them for being busy, or demanding they accept a (likely halfhearted) apology
Luckily what it reminded *me* of was just "crazy?, I was crazy once...", I'd hope that no one has to go through that bullsh|t but I know that's not possible, so I'll wish for people to be able to get out of those situations
Pro-tip: My parents used to call me 50 times a night when I went out with friends. I didn't pick up because I would either leave my phone at home or turn off the sound. Long story short, I fixed the problem by calling them after I got home in the middle of the night. When they didn't pick up right away, I kept calling until they did. They would complain and then I'd say: "You called so many times, I assumed it was an emergency!😇" The number of calls tapered off *real* quick once I started doing that.😂😂😂
@@sandwichqueen You misunderstood what I wrote. They weren't being reasonable, they just got tired of being woken up in the middle of the night. Also, this obviously happened while I was already an adult and living on my own.
Conversion therapy still exists today. The worst part is it was based on caveman like understanding of psychology. It doesn't work and often leads to self terminatio.
And the high self ending rate is literally used to claim being gay / trans is a mental illness because why else should somebody want to do that? (it surely can't have anything to do with the trauma and abuse those conversion therapies exert on mostly children... Naaah.)
Also, Lovaas was one of the "experts" who helped invent gay conversion therapy. Lovaas is also known as the "Father of ABA." The same systems that we use to "cure" queer people of their queerness have a terrifying amount of parallels to what we treat as the industry standard for autistic people. ABA therapists also very much enforce heteronormative behaviors in their "patients" as well. Many autistic people who have been through ABA have said that their healthy expressions of gender and sexuality are suppressed and punished and that they are pushed to behave in a way that is expected of their assigned gender at birth.
“Your father is crying because of you!!!” is another good one - yeah, like I do not cry because of them constantly, every single day, for decades 🎉🎉🎉 (my father was studying the so-called “resocialisation”, he and my mother would implement a lot of prison-alike behaviours and punishments (mostly the illict ones) - funny enough, my family was earning money on pe*****ile content with me on the pictures (ofc never online, always physically so no evidence is available), while my grandmother was/is a local politician (my mother’s mother), and my father was a policeman, a teacher and a social worker 🎉). Nowadays it makes me laugh (just because of how absurd the whole situation is, and the absurd is a huge part of humour), but only because I have left the country and cut all the ties with my family, as the decent members deceased… Ofc a heavy portion of my family is Catholic (whenever it suits them tho). Funny enough, the biggest physical abuser was my mother…
That student with the abusive family...I fell so bad for her. I'm honestly surprised those psychos didn't have the dog put down out of spite. Grateful the pup wasn't a casualty of that insanity.
Tbh as long as they hope the girl comes back for the dog i think they will keep it as a lever to try and control her, so as long as they try that crap the dog will probably live. But yeah, i think too that it will be put down or given away when they realize she wont play that game anymore as the "ultimate punishment".
The adult child who cuts off their insane parent does not regret it. They grieve the reality of the situation, but they don't regret cutting them off. My narcissistic mother shuffled off the mortal coil 15 years ago and I haven't missed her a day since. I'm glad I never have to speak to her ever again. Her memory is never mentioned by anybody in the family except to recount some delusionally bats*** thing she did/said. These "parents" face nothing but the solitude they deserve. If you're considering going no-contact with a toxic parent, please know you are on the right path towards the peace that's been denied to you for so long.
I didn't come out to my parents until I was over 18. Still got my college funds cut off(tuition/books, I paid for everything else). My mom told me that if I was under 18, her and my father would send me to a conversion camp. Had that ever happened, I can't imagine how much more damage that would have caused. Funny thing was listening to my mom talk about unconditional love and how I could "tell them anything ". For some young LGBTQ+ kids, my advice is to keep it quiet until you are an adult. It's sad but safer for some. Then at 18, fly your flag🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
My parents said the same thing, and I wasn't sure if I could believe them, since they are very religious Mormons. Thankfully they came to terms with it. I hope yours do too.
was planning on staying closeted until me and my boyfriend got married (in about 4 or 5 years) but i was basically forced to come out a while ago, and predictably i got grounded and havent been able to talk to my bf for the past month. its really taking a toll on me :(
my only advice is to just stay closeted for safety, then when you're older and if your parents still plan to give you money, etc for stuff then you leech off of them for as long as you can and as long as you want. If they are to the point of being willing to kick out a kid or send them through some kind of traumatic experience just for their queerness, then no, they do not deserve their normal livelihoods because they'd be so willing to ruin the livelihood of a *child*.
My friend's parents made him sign a contract promising not to date any guys while at college, and if he did, they'd cut him off. He just did it anyways.
My father's mom was an insane parent, who abused him a lot (after a while we cut ties with her). When she died, the hospital staff said "We knew something was wrong because she started saying "please" and "thank you"".
Well that's clearly a sign that an insane parent is reaching the bitter end of life. Doing and saying things they never would. Just like cat reverting back to kitten behavior before it's about to die.
When I was living at home in my mid-20s my father had backed me against a wall, and I had huddled for max self-defence options, he smashed a mandolin to bit on something directly in front of my face. He seemingly thought that would stop me from thinking his tantrum was funny. “…that was *yours* 🤨 “ he’d owned it since the 1970s. But then I was the one who played it, because he lost feeling and dexterity in one finger when I was in high school. coincidentally, I’m sure, that was when he started acting like my playing and buying guitars was a total waste of time. I got pretty good. I distinctly remember when I was 17 I brought home an audio mixer I got for super cheap. “Heh. You need that like you need another hole in your head.” I went on to do audio mixing for friends any my band for a decade and then semi-pro live for another. …I could go on. He was always jealous of things he wanted to do, and I could, and would try to stop me from enjoying it, if not do it. “How do you start this cross-cut saw, again?” “Here, let me do it” *ruins hundred dollars of wood I was half through working with, walks away silently in thinly-veiled embarrassment* Got on my case any time I bought guitar stuff (guitarists do that. It’s called GAS. Gear Acquisition Syndrome. highly contagious and incurable). He built a massive, well-equipped woodworking setup. He NEVER got any good at woodworking. I can build furniture with a tape measure, a pencil, tools and zero plans. Well, plans become useful if I’m building more than one. I could go on. My mother is a whole other can of worms…
My dad once smashed my phone and threw it out the car window when I was young because I forgot to talk to my theater teacher about college opportunies. He claimed to have reminded me every morning on the way to school, but that was a lie.
I went through 5 phones when I lived with my mom because she broke them all in her rage. I learned to hide phones from her, and I got REALLY good at Oscar winning acting at the drop of a dime.
I'm never ready for Insane Parents videos, but at least Click takes some of the horror away. Also yikesey yikeso, "look what you made me do" is THE most classic abuser line. I hope that kid is okay.
4:40 Yes that is a saying in the most classiest of British language translation "You should do the adult naughtiness with a man to really annoy your dad"
I have worked in neuropsychology for pediatric patients for almost 3 years now, and a lot of kids that come in have parents exactly like these ones. I have had a few parents bring their child in (below the age of 1), asking me what I can do because they are not ‘behaving’ how they (parents) want them too. Majority of parents that I meet, say they started to ‘discipline’ their child as early as 2 months because they wouldn’t stop crying, wouldn’t listen, kept screeching, didn’t eat and even pooped too much.
19:06 For anyone wanting additional context, this man thinks that, because his 4 MONTH OLD SON cries for attention and food, he is a sinner and must be disciplined. I watched the entire thread in real time. It never got cleared up what the punishment was, but it was so disgusting to watch it all unfold.
That reminded me of another post where a woman said, "My boyfriend hits my 2 year old when he cries to make him stop, but that just makes him cry more. I feel bad about it, but should I do something about it?" There's only so much head-shaking I can do before my neck detaches.
When I was wrongly institutionalized (the people in charge admitted their staff fucked up, but I was never compensated or anything), there was this dude who admitted himself for believing in higher powers. Genuinely pleasant guy, knowledgeable about religion, easily the most sane person you ever met. But he also thought that being religious is a mental illness. It took the doctors 3 days to convince him he was fine and get him to leave. I really wish more people had that level of concern for their mental and emotional stability.
1:49 "Now look at what you've made me do." That's the language of an abusive person. That kid needs to get out of that house as soon as they can and never look back.
"Ooh, look what you made me do Look what you made me do Look what you just made me do Look what you just made me do I don't trust nobody and nobody trusts me!"
That's right! As long as I haven't made a substantiated threat to destroy your life or that of someone you love in order to get you to do something *I wanted* you to do, I haven't made you do anything!
18:54 so, this kind of thing can be traced to "To Train Up A Child". It was released in 1994 and was a wildly popular book in Southern Baptist churches. It encouraged physical striking children and infants with objects for infractions as small as nipping during breast feeding. It also endorsed things like withholding food and pouring cold water on them as punishment. It's been linked to at least two deaths.
It’s far more widespread than just southern Baptists. It is especially popular with many conservative Christian sects. FLDS, conventional Mormons, quivverful and other sects that have high beliefs in purity before marriage, victim blaming females, “traditional families” with the subservient wife. Ruby Frankes sister was known to do blanket training, Ruby herself did a LOT of the methods, particular with control of food and bodily automobile. the duggars actually use to speak at conventions where that “train up a child” book cultivated a vast following. It’s the foundation behind IBLP.
Unfortunately, when you cut ties with someone, these self-righteous people who approach you with the "you'll regret it when he/she is no longer here" kind of bs are extremely common and damaging. Cutting ties is painful and hard, they just make it worse and when they are family members, you may even need to cut ties with them as well.
About that story where the sister was on the mom's side and ganging up on the younger siblings with her. I know it seems weird for the one sibling to join in with the abusive parent, but its not as uncommon as you may think. For example, my mother used to be physically and mentally abusive to me as a child. She treated me so poorly and my youngest sister always took her side. At the time, I didn't understand how she could see the way I was being treated and still be on Mom's side. As I got older, I kinda figured out what was going on. When a parent treats your sibling poorly, but has always treated you very well, it's easy to believe it's the siblings fault and that they must deserve it. It can't be the parent being unreasonable because they never treat you that way. And this parent, who has always been kind and loving towards you is constantly telling you how bad your sibling is and all the reasons they deserve to be treated the way they are, especially when it starts at a young age, it's easy to just take them at their word. I think part of it could be survival instinct as well. Seeing how the other sibling is treated for every minor infraction and wanting to avoid it yourself, siding with the parent, and even participating can be a self preservation thing as well. There are many reasons this can happen. Luckily, as we all got older, my mother got some help and a better situation and eventually apologized and we are all on good terms now. And my younger sister realized what had happened and also apologized for her part, even though I hadn't blamed her in a long time. Sounds like in this situation, the parent never stopped and the sibling never realized who the real problem was. Now that the sibling is an adult, she is responsible for her own actions and the way she treats people. But it makes me sad because siblings shouldn't be turned against each other like that. This got rambley, sorry, hope I made the point clear.
Exactly. One child is “the Golden Child” who can do no wrong (because they do whatever the abusive parent wants), and the other is “the scapegoat” who is essentially the family’s whipping boy. The REAL “fun” comes when the parent switches them constantly, pitting them against each other for the position of Golden Child. Those families are VERY sick…
This reminds me of a somewhat famous abuse case in Texas. A girl was horribly abused by her entire family. One day, she 'accidentally' left her video camera on when her dad came in an abused her. You could hear her mother in the background agreeing with the father (a local judge). She kept the recording of it and released it during an election year, trying to show the judge's true personality. Everyone came after her family and she later defended her mother, claiming her mother (and the entire family) was essentially brainwashed by her father and felt if they didn't join in, then they would be the next target. So they literally abused her for their own survival. The mother eventually escaped the situation and realized what she had done and apologized to her daughter. Not sure what happened afterwards. But sometimes, you need to realize that they other family members might only be doing it because they are scared of the consequences if they don't.
"I've been in college, I know you don't have class" I am a Software Development major who has classes online and thus my schedule is whatever I want it to be as long as everything is turned in by Sunday. The reverse side of that is that I have a friend in med school who's schedule is so packed with in-person classes that I won't hear from them for weeks and then they just suddenly appear again and we chat like we just saw each other that morning 💀 Just because one person's schedule is a certain way doesn't mean everyone else's is the exact same way. I refuse to believe that sister has been to college with that type of behavior
Hell, even in polytechnic, I had classes that last all the way to 9pm, and it's not unusual to see people camp overnight just for the facilities available for their specific work. 😅
Where I'm at, the schedule is different from week to week, and can always change at the last minute. Just because you have my schedule for one week doesn't mean you have it for the next, and from year to year, well, it's even less the case! Point is: everybody has a different schedule, and just because you didn't have class at 9, doesn't mean it's the same for everyone. So, yes, I agree, there is no way she actually went to college (or at least, I refuse to believe it as well).
Not only that it is just stupid. Just take your kids phone/computer away as a punishment instead of destroying it . That or if they really don’t want the kid to have whose things anymore…maybe I don’t know …..sell them , instead of braking them and wasting money?!
Idk if it constitutes child abuse, but it certainly is vandalism/destruction of the child's property and very much NOT a parent's right! If a parent gives the child a phone for them to use it at their discretion, that's called a gift and the fact the parents paid for it doesn't give them any right to it, since permanently giving up ownership to something you purchased for nothing in return is the literal definition of a gift. The parents CAN restrict their underage child's use of it, including temporarily take it away, but they can't take it away indefinitely. So no selling it, throwing away or destroying it without the child's consent, because it's the child's property!
Pubs do not have age restrictions as they are not "bars." A Public House is open to everyone, serves food from a kitchen, and is licensed more like a restaurant. At least in Canada and the UK.
Right. Even in the US if they serve food kids are allowed in. We used to go the bar in our town for sodas because it was attached to the arcade (1980s). We were allowed in because they also had a kitchen that served fries and burger type meals to both the bar and arcade.
I'd add that a UK person under 18 can't legally buy alcohol in a pub but can drink it if bought by someone over 18. E.g. 10 year old me being bought half a cider by my dad on holiday as a treat to make me feel grown up. 😁 Landlord's discretion though - you can't get your toddler p*ssed unless you can find a publican who's willing! LOL.
Some pubs in Australia allow kids, some don't, it depends on what state you're in, if there's gambling facilities, if it's currently serving food, etc.
I would get the gay emotional support demon, but since I live with my dad until I'm 18, he'd get angry at me for having it because he's homophobic. I thankfully have the glow in the dark one coming soon.
My mom legit kicked me out because I wouldn't go with her to Sweden just so my sister could buy a freaking coat. Made it very clear I was NOT allowed back. She'd then harass whoever let me crash at their place and threatened to call the cops on them for kidnapping, so they threw me out too...mind you I was still not allowed back home, she just didn't want me to crash anywhere else. So I spent my Friday and Saturday sleeping at a train station, until I could go back to boarding school Sunday...Oh and they didn't even go to Sweden to get that goddamn coat, she and her BF had too much fun sitting at home making sure I had zero shelter for one goddamn 2 days. Edit: The trip was strictly because my mom wanted to save money on a coat my sister wanted(Denmark and Sweden use different currency), and I've been stuck at the worst boarding school for god knows how long, I am not spending a weekend in a car, just because my mom hates spending money, ignoring the money that goes to gas for her dumb car.
The thing that always gets me with the apologies in this subreddit is that the insane parent says it not because they mean it, but so they can continue hurting their kids because in their eyes the verbal forgiveness makes it "okay" to do something horrible again. If anyone out there needs to hear this: You don't have to forgive a crappy person for their equally crappy behavior. They hurt YOU, not the other way around. Stay safe, know that you're lovable, and don't be hard on yourself for wanting to set boundaries 💜
Precisely! It has to be more than lip-service! A book I would recommend is “How Can I Forgive You?” by Janis Abrahams Spring. It gives very good examples of false apologies and genuine ones.
18:11 In highschool, my grandma would tease me because she thought I was (gasp) a lesbian. I'm not. Here's the clear signs she noticed: 1. I liked wearing guys basketball shorts because they're super comfy. 2. I loved Axe, and used the shower gel. 3. I hung out with both guys and girls. 4. I didn't like super girly stuff. I'm happily married to my husband and we're expecting our 2nd kid. Shocking, but a tomboy isn't always the same as a lesbian.
@@LibraryofAcousticMagic3240 because that generation got literally BEAT into upholding those stupid norms by their parents and grandparents ... so now they dotn even udnerstand the concept of gender and sexua lorientation ... thats why most of them totally enrage over stuff like Trans people ..... either they dont understand and dont like that ... or they get mad cause they themself could never live the way they wanted to be
Yeah that kinda bothers me. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t hate or anything, but it’s annoying when there’s a feminine man or masculine woman and they’re automatically seen as gay or trans. Like Susie from deltarune. I was mildly disappointed that she and Noelle seem to be a potential couple but Susie is still one of my favorites in the game.
Congrats on a happy marriage. May it last forever. My sister "read" me wrong too. She walked away from the family because she didn't want me near her future kids, ... and everybody else in the family loved me forever. Hope you and your grandmother worked out a better solution.
In the early 2000's, my mom took my CD walkman in the middle of the night into the garage, wrapped it a towel, and smashed it to pieces with a hammer. I guess some things don't changed BUT it's deranged to smash a friggin cell phone.
@@desperadox7565 that would do literally nothing, unfortunately 🙃 especially in the early 2000's. Edit: Parents could and still can do shit like this and won't ever be punished for it
@@desperadox7565 in America at least cps doesn't do shit. It's a joke really. When they DO punish someone it's someone who doesn't deserve it. Foster system is the same. Our government doesn't care about its kids
@@janemiettinen5176 I'm pretty sure it's illegal everywhere in the States to call emergency services for frivolous reasons, which I guess counts as a Karen law. You'd be surprised how many people call 911 asking for rides to the liquor store.
@@lordpumpkinhead265 Or when their McFries arent hot enough. One was having (serious, murder or manslaughter) warrants on him, but he still thought calling 911 was a good idea.. while perfectly sober too! Some people just amaze me with their lack of wits. Even without the warrants, how did he thought it was going to end up? Cops forcing the McD to give him new, hot fries? I dont think so.
My parents never really cared much about me. My mother left when I was 7. My father put me in foster care for 3 years, and even afterwards, he just never was emotionally available. What I'm trying to say is, man, compared to the lunacy from this subreddit, I got fking lucky with my parents!
Here's hoping you someday find a family that wants you. My first therapist had a plaque that said, "It's never too late to have a happy childhood." She was unhelpful, but that plaque still carries me, thirty years later.
@@intercat4907 I did. My best friend's family sort of adopted me. Not legally, but I'm invited to birthdays of extended family, Christmas etc., and they basically treat me as one of their own
Listening to this video makes me realize completely leaving my family was the right choice. These insane parent communications are such a reminder of why I had to leave. For anyone who has toxic family or parents, you do not owe them anything! You DO NOT have to stay around them if they're being this toxic, your life is your own don't let them ruin it like they did their own lives. Stay strong
This. Speaking as a parent, kids don't owe their parents anything. If your parents fed you, housed you, paid for your needs, looked after you, loved you, all the good things .. that's what parents are supposed to do and that's what they signed up to when they chose to have a kid. You don't owe them anything just because they did what they were supposed to do! You didn't ask to be born. Your parents brought you into the world without your consent. Whatever consequences come from that choice, that's on your parents, not you, and they owe you all the support they can give you through whatever life throws your way. If you're at high risk of being abused or discriminated against because of LGBT+ identity, neurodivergence, disability, or any other factor, it's your parents' job to do whatever they can to support and shield you from harm. If you're at high risk of never owning your own home because you were born in a time when previous generations had already rigged the economy against you, then it's your parents' job to help you with that any way they can.
@@tealkerberus748how do you give consent to be born when you at the time didn't even exist? Oh wait, you can't. But the sentiment you preach is important. If your parents raised you properly, what you do with your life is for you to decide. Nobody else. You. Whether good or bad, that's on you. But only you should decide your fate beyond that point.
i will always internally thank the click for his r/insaneparents videos, he's the reason i realized that my home life wasn't really normal so i could make steps to stay safe
@@Tugar_Dumkin eh, i'm still stuck here due to how bad the housing market is, but it isn't nearly as bad as it was before and now i'm planning ahead to make sure i don't stay here any longer than i need to
@@txstargazerjilly6605 I read a book by Dave Barrey about child raising and he said to feed an infant correctly you need to smear it on their chin where they will inexplicably absorb it into their bodies. If you try to put it in their mouth, they will immediately spit it back up all over their face where they can absorb it properly.
Ugh, passwords. Our parents initially had our passwords for some things "just in case" (we were stupid and brainwashed). And they had my sister's bank password because she didn't update it when she turned 18. Well not right away. But then she changed it for some reason, and the *very next day* our egg donor called her freaking out that her account had been hacked, but when she called the bank to report it they wouldn't even talk to her. That's when my sister learned she'd been logging in almost every day to check what my sister was getting up to. Needless to say when I turned 18 about a year after that my bank password was changed immediately.
At 18 minutes ish, you're referring to conversion therapy. In the US, practicing that will get your license revoked, though unlicensed people happily charge parents thousands of dollars to do it on the grey market. It is outlawed entirely in my state. One program that does conversion therapy flat out told parents "your child has a 50% chance of succeeding in our program (becoming straight and cis) and a 50% chance of unaliving themselves before the end. Dead is better than a gay child."
You now that if you write the time of the video like this "minute:seconds" it becomes blue and anyones who that clicks it gets to that part of the video? It really helps 18:08
It's amazing how many of these insane family members flip the meaning of "blood and water" to mean family is more important than friends. When the actual phrase is "blood of the covenant is greater than the water of womb"; the exact opposite meaning forged friendship is more valuable than the family you're born into.
@@GretchZit didn’t “come later”. It is literally the entire phrase. People shortened it because it was a common phrase that people knew without context. Now people leave it off because they don’t know the context (we are culturally far removed from its origins) and want to use their ignorance to manipulate others. Your response is funny tho
@@kissit012 Hey so a quick google search reveals that the shorter phrase is older and the longer phrase only appeared later. The shorter phrase is first seen in writing in the 12th century and the longer phrase appears to have first cropped up in writing in the 20th century, sources cite the 1990's and 2000s. So @GretchZ is correct, the idea that the longer phrase is older is a bit of historical fiction similar to the idea of vikings wearing horns on their helmets, popular but unsubstantiated
Remember that if a parent destroys property that you paid for, you can take them to small claims court where you don't need legal representation. Just present the evidence of them admitting they destroyed it and they have to pay you back.
You know I got someone literally telling today "if love is love then water is water why don't you drink toilet water" and I literally bluescreened for a whole minute then replied "I feel like I'm in a Click video goddamn" because I'd seen that argument on here before. They were not expecting that response I think but I was laughing my head off. That's how I'm going to respond to homophobes from now on that was great.
I mean, toilet water is *literally* the same water as tap water. It's only by mixing with the toilet rim stone, potential leftovers from a weak flush and dirt&bacteria,l that settled in the bowl that it becomes yucky und unhealthy to drink. But if you drink out of the cistern, you're probably fine. So, it's just a false analogy, that's all. Like, I wouldn't kiss a gay guy who has active flu either. The problem is the flu part, not that he's a gay guy, just like the actual problem in that analogy isn't the water itself, but the contamination due to the container it's in and what else is in that container.
@@LRM12o8 " just like the actual problem in that analogy isn't the water itself, but the contamination due to the container it's in and what else is in that container." Almost as if some love can be poisoned by other factors even if it started out fine...
About the conversion therapy parent: I assume that the misgendered child is non-binary because the OP refers to them as their "sibling" (a gender-neutral term) and with they/them pronouns.
@@kissit012that's a fair point. If I were in a similar situation I'm not letting my abusive parents who'd most likely read the story on the Internet know who I'm talking about for their safety. I'd find a way to refer to that sibling in a manner to share the story asking for advice to help save them from that situation in a way the abusers who could also read it won't figure it out and make things worse
I was a little confused about that myself. At first i thought the sibling was a gay trans man, but then the mother mentioned them “making out with girls”, and it’d be kinda weird if the sibling was a gay trans woman and the mother somehow respected their pronouns but didn’t respect their orientation. Perhaps it’s a nonbinary person attracted to women. No matter the specifics, the mother sucks and i hope the sibling somehow got help.
And seing how hard it would be for the mother to respect the pronouns but not the orientation (like another person in the comments said), yeah, yro'ue probably right
"You have to respect me!" Dear Sir or Madam, 1) respect is earned by those who deserve it, 2) it goes both ways. You smashing your kids phone won't earn you your kid's respect. It also shows that you are neither respecting your kid, nor their possessions. "This is unacceptable behavior." I agree. Destroying something after you worked hard for it and gifted it to somebody else is definitely unacceptable behavior.
@girl1213 more specifically, they think it's a given that THEY automatically deserve everyone else's respect, while they themselves can treat anyone else as trashy as they please.
You know, sometimes I worry about if I'm being a good parent to my kid or not... Then I look at submissions to subreddits like this one and think, "Okay, naturally I could do better about some things, but overall I'm actually doing a pretty good job!"
Hey, at least you're reflecting and putting active effort to improve yourself and your kids. Something that sadly *CAN'T* be said about any of the parents in these posts or on the subreddit.
Any parent is responsible for providing shelter, food, clothing, education, etc. for their kids. If someone reads this and have been told that they should be grateful for that, you're being manipulated. That is your parents' obligation to you, and NOT something special that you're beholden to them for. They chose the job of parent, so don't let them rope you into anything. And remember: even animals take care of their young to the point where their offspring is old enough to survive on their own.
Im 70s kid, sometimes I really miss the good old landline times. We just werent available at all times and there wasnt anything someone could do about it. Life was better in that regard, when you were out with friends, you got to live in the moment much more.
@@janemiettinen5176 YES! People think because we have mobile devices that we have no reason to engage. I grew up in the 80s so I remember the rotary phones and all.
My biofam was traumatic, toxic AF. I am always very suspicious when a business claims to treat me like family, because then I'm going to get manipulated and abused. I totally support anyone going no contact with their biofam.
"Shag a lad rotten" is indeed slang in England. Source: I am Welsh. I've lived in London for a few years and regularly visit having moved back to Wales.
The mother blaming her children for her other child's death reminds me of the story where a woman accidently suffocated her child and then blamed it on vaccines. It was on a documentary on how the anti-vax community works.
Wow. Just wow. I have no words for how utterly disturbing that is. To deflect the blame for murdering your own child by mistake on the medical industry is beyond disgusting. BY MISTAKE. How? Just how? How does that happen?
@@jaytrashwade1-1 Basically what they think happened was while they were sleeping the mother rolled and didn't realize she was crushing her child's airway. The experts concluded the mother made a sad, terrible accident.
@@sweetsea3607There was a movie like that where a woman did the same thing and snapped from the guilt and trauma-she became a babysitter (probably with the intent of kidnapping the kids she looked after) and later tried to kill them.
@@jaytrashwade1-1 *checks regional map* I think I know that… I’m saying it’s funny how some people use it as a figure of speech, even in America, (where I’m from, if my snark didn’t make it obvious enough) but it’s also a temperature that people mean _literally_
21:29 Oh, she's a Jehova's Witness. That explains a lot. Strictly speaking, I don't think she's even supposed to contact her daughter at all. Standards are slipping. _shakes head_
They may not have left the church, just the mom's house, so they wouldn't need to be shunned. Though if they're living together unmarried, it's hard to imagine they're still full-fledged JWs.
Ahhhh R/Insaneparents, Click. Whenever you do this Subreddit it's such a Comfort, having my Parents treat me like a Child even though I'm 20 is difficult, my Mother saying stuff like _"You are an Uncultivated child"_ and my Father saying _"Your Mother does everything for you and gets nothing in return, just abuse"_ and still being unable to Transition due to my Situation... Trapped with no Control of my life, this Subreddit really helps, it helps me realise I'm not crazy, so thank you Cliccy Wiccy^^ ❤ 7:26 Ah yes... Sounds like my Parents 25:18 _"You're being unreasonable"_ Geez this also just sounds like my Family
That sounds like an awful situation to be stuck in; I hope things improve for you and you can get TF out of there and be who you truly are without people treating you badly for it.
@BlueTressym It is horrible, I want to get out, and I'm trying, I'm reaching out, but I'm missing out on alot of stuff. 1 example is I wanna support my favourite Content Creators but I can't access Twitch, Patreon, Twitter, or anything... I can't get any Merch, I can't even get Discord or Reddit, My Gmail is under my Deadname plus I don't know the passwords, trying to change Gmails and that's hard to... Thank you for realising that this Situation is bad, I need to get out
9:11 This seriously sounds like the poster confronted (or disclosed) some sort of abuse by another family member and the rest of the family is denying it and defending the perpetrator. I've seen it many times. Some families just don't want to know and hate the victim for telling.
Funnily enough once the facade is broken, the desperation of the rest of the family to hide the problem makes it only *more visible.* Sooner or later, they won't be able to hide it any longer. The necessity of maintaining the facade is what makes the situation the most dangerous, as you never know how far the rest of the family is willing to go to ensure the "Perfect Family Portrait" remains Perfect®
@crowdemon_archives as a gay man, it is crazy to me how how pride is both the root of many a evil and the answer to accepting myself and freeing myself from oppressive social beliefs and prejudices. Why aren't there different names for those two very different things? I don't think the pride that is knowing you are a decent person the way you are no matter what others say and the pride that tells you you can't admit any wrong because of how that might make you look in the eyes of others are even remotely related or similar emotions, they're polar opposites! 🤔
Wholesome squishy cat update for traumatised beans. Squishy cat has a cushion on a coffe table in front of the TV, where she will sit and watch her hooman play video games on the PS4. Sometimes she will loaf, and other times she will roll, and sometimes she is eepy, but she is always soft and squishy.
How does that work? Wouldn't it be better to feed the plushies marshmallows and cotton candy? That way they grow bigger and softer, not to mention sweeter and nicer. Ok, that sounds creepy out loud now that I think about it. Ignore everything I just said. But don't starve the plushies, that's just cruel.
@@jaytrashwade1-1 Why not both? Shrimp and cotton candy. Shrimp cotton candy. Delicious. The shrimp was a pretty obscure game reference lol, it was pretty random
Shrimp cotton candy sounds disturbingly delicious. I need a little help developing a plushie balanced diet.... I so far got marshmallows, cotton candy, chocolate, cheesecake, steak, shrimp, fish sticks, chicken nuggets, Mac and cheese, scrambled eggs, bacon, and Coca-Cola.... And I'm guessing the game reference was Splatoon wasn't it?
@@jaytrashwade1-1 That's some good choices for plushy development! What I'd suggest is a little bit of human blood. Not for any specific reason, of course! Nah, it's a little indie game called Voices of the Void. It's like Signal Simulator but more insane and horror-based. There are alien catgirls that like shrimp, and you can feed the plushy of their leader shrimp and she grows. I sound insane.
My mom was very abUsive and narcissistic. She would throw my phone AT me but it always misses and breaks against the wall, She's terrible at aiming. I was SA'd and she blamed me and even let my assaulter LIVE with her. So every time I'm forced to visit her I call a friend to come get me. She gets mad every time.
This works very well with economies where parents receive allowances from the government for raising kids. You give a basic allowance to everyone so nobody starves, but parents who want to get paid more need to be more qualified. Do your annual parenting skills continuing education, get higher pay for your parenting.
@@tealkerberus748that is the most brilliant plan I've ever heard. Probably the easiest to implement too. Though I'm personally afraid I'd fail that course.... Too easily distracted. ADHD and autism can make simple existence unnecessarily complicated. My advice is don't have kids if you have a difficult time making your own life not a living nightmare. Your own problems can find a way to transfer themselves to the kids.
In Germany 8ish hours first aid classes is a mandatory part of obtaining a driver's license and many jobs require regular refreshers. I personally think these classes need to be publicly available without charge but wouldn't want to hold cost of living support hostage over them. There are some classes/coaching available for parents trough the Jugendamt but it's regionally dependant and inconsistent Kids also get to stay with CPS whenever they want (motivating some parents to get better)
I don't support the idea of a license because minorities' applications would conveniently get lost. I think schools and doctors do a pretty good job of catching abuse but for homeschooling families, it's way too easy for the kids to fall through the cracks so I think they should get mandatory regular doctor visits, proctored state tests so their mom can't take them, and one-on-one interviews with a case worker. My family did isolated K-12 homeschool and thought the government was after us and moved to the middle of nowhere and there were times when we were malnourished, medically neglected (like being left with untreated asthma for 6 months and becoming hypoxemic), and letting the house get down to 40 degrees F (4.4 C) and our parents acknowledged how bad it was and talked about how they'd get in trouble if anyone found out how we lived and filed false homeschooling records to pretend that we were doing classes and coached us on what to say to case workers (and also hinted at planning to shoot them if they tried to take us).
Most people are blind to what it does! It converts people into--> potentially suicidal and self hating pices of sh*t! *sips drink in the sunset* Ah! This world is beautiful!
7:36 This sounds exactly like my mother. I’m 16 and just moved in with my grandma (my mother agreed to and allowed me to). Ever since, she’s been trying to guilt trip and gaslight me into wanting to come back. I wanted to leave because of the way she was treating me and she’s just continuing to do the same thing she’s always done, and then she’s surprised when I don’t want to come around.
"Laddies, Lasses, and.... Lassos?" as in the rope? Anything you say, Click. And, may I say, I love your editor's interruptions. If the MIL at 21:09 is an active JW and her child is moving in with someone before marriage, the usual reaction would be shunning. Must be that the kid was never baptized - that's the only loophole I can think of. Otherwise, she's bluffing, because shacking up with someone without marrying them is a disfellowshipping offense, meaning your parents MUST shun you, or risk disfellowshipping themselves. That means no contact, so no following and harassing.
Oh, I can see a way OP of that story can weaponize that information to protect themselves. Report their mother to the police and the church.... Easy way to get rid of the problem.
Wow, I never thought JWs disfellowship practice had an upside to it, but it can totally stop abusive parents from reaching out and harassing their children after they tore themselves free from their parents! 🤯
@@jaytrashwade1-1 it's an interesting thought, but, if the OP is disfellowshipped, no Elder will speak to them about anything but how they might get re-instated (basically, sit at the back of the Kingdom Hall for anywhere from six months to a couple years while your family and friends still ignore you, and your every action is monitored closely and you grovel to the Elders assigned to your case while they treat you like.... ) well, let's just say it would be better and quicker to go to the police, because no one from the Kingdom Hall (they don't call it a church) will be any help. Ever. If they were never baptized (and so won't be shunned or disfellowshiped), then it becomes a case of the Elders not helping because they don't go against their own on the side of someone "worldly." However, behind the closed doors of the Kingdom Hall, that MIL would be 'marked' - that is, viewed as a potential source of sin and trouble and treated like a pariah. Any privileges she had - and women don't have many - will be taken away. That's why I was so puzzled by this, MIL must have joined later in life so that her children aren't baptized or part of the congregation, otherwise, she would shun them before ever threatening any harassment or stalking. But you're right; OP could and should go to the police.
@Nukie144 yeah, going to a family gathering with that family must be hell. they sound like they're gonna chain you to a radiator or some shit and read you sermons until one of you withers away
I still find the idea that 'family should come first' being the most important thing to people is fascinating dumb you can't just abuse people or be entitled to stuff just because "we're family". it is morally wrong and messed up coming from some personal experience
And it only ever goes one way: Most people who say this expect the children to unconditionally obey their parents and make the parents look good to others, but they see no problem with parents publicly embarrassing their kid or completely abandoning them when they don't turn out the way the parents/society wants them to. Like when they come out as queer or non-religious in a queerphobic/strictly religious society/neighborhood, they'll ostracize their kid instead of supporting them, fighting for their right to be who they are and protecting them from harassment by strangers who disagree with the kid's way of life. "Family comes first" suddenly means nothing to those people when the neighbors _might_ gossip and shake their head... 🤬
The "therapy" you're wondering about at around the 18:00 mark is called "conversion therapy" and it's illegal in quite a good many countries, complete with criminal penalties in some of them.
In regards to 24:19, American English often overstates things, so while 100 degrees isn't unreasonable in some places, it may still be an exaggeration. If someone says "its freezing" in place of cold or very cold, that too is an overstating. In contrast, British English, from my understanding, prefers understating. American English also tends to use numbers like a dozen, hundred, and thousand just to express "more than we could count at a glance." Languages are a lot deeper than people tend to give it credit for, most don't notice the complexities because they are used to it.
21:47 "Kingdom Hall" is all I had to hear TBH. Jehovah's witnesses are fkin' crazy. One of my best friends growing up was raised in that cult as a queer kid and to this day I'm grateful to my parents for letting him be himself at our place.
"Look what you made me do!!" Me: *Nam flashbacks* "Rage." "Loud sounds." "Broken laptop." "Body of said laptop flailed in face." Excuse me while I go grab my Emotional Support Demon plush and snuggle it for awhile.
reminded me of the time my "dad" smashed all the custom lego builds me and my sister had because he would walk into her room in the mornings and step on the legos
@@drakonsnakeohmyigawd- tho this has nothing to do with your comment, once my dad spent the whole (or probably half (?) ) the night building a Lego building (then I lost it)
@@kathyhite9662 yes. And Mango. And every variant of Mango and Emotional Support Demon. And another 100 assorted plushies. After getting all versions of Mango and Emotional Support Demon the remaining 100 plushies are student's choice.
i relate to the mother smashing the phone one... as a child my stepdad took away all electronics but i outsmarted him and took my ipad back, only playing after bedtime. the psychotic manchild got so mad at this that when he caught me he smashed it countless times in a fit of rage
Do you know the best thing about smartphones, do not disturb mode and you can even customise exceptions. I hope OP can make of use of this and that wonderful block button.
Entitled parents : I miss you * to show the neighbourhood what happy a family we are, please act as your status, stay silent, smile, I will take notes of your mistakes and I will punish you once the doors are closed*
it's startingg to get to the point where when he says "Blorp" I'm like "Wow, another one? Common name" then I process what's on screen 26:41 this one caught me off-gaurd
My eyes went so wide when you talked about them sending PHYSICAL LETTERS to your house. Yikes. I've had something which (to me) felt almost like the equivalent. Where I'm from NOBODY sends a text message (it's too expensive), we just use WhatsApp or some other service. So text messages are just OTPs, app notifications you signed up for and business cold smses from some service or other that got your number. So I've twice blocked people who chose to message me VIA TEXT specifically BECAUSE they were blocked on every social media site and messaging app. That felt violent, and as I said, in my country that's WEIRD behaviour, like, an unheard-of way of contacting someone since the early noughties. OK, I admit it's not as unsettling as someone knowing your physical address and purposely contacting you there. But still, the intention and them doing it KNOWING they're blocked and that there's no POSSIBLE way you want to hear from them and then taking measures to get around it and finding options they reckon you're unlikely to have thought of... Yeah that's just... yikes. That's awful.
Blocking does express that you want no contact with someone, so if they circumvent it it sucks a lot. It is definitely overstepping, and depending on the circunstance also harassing
The college kid getting texts from her abusive mom hits home. My mom beat me, usually for no reason, sometimes as "discipline". When I turned 18 and started telling people what happened my mom was telling everyone I was lying. And I recently found out the reason my two younger sisters never contacted me was because my mom told them they weren't allowed to talk to me. Sadly the story doesn't have a happy ending. I ended up not being able to find a place to work or live so ended up moving back in with my mom and sisters. I did end up getting married, but due to financial issues we live with my mom. And she hasn't really changed at all. She doesn't hit me anymore but she is still mentally abusive to me. Recently I found I have autism and ADHD so am in therapy to try and figure that out and get help finding a way to make an income to move out. My biggest issue is my youngest sister has cerebral palsy and needs a care giver and my mom has been using me as a live in care giver only paying me $50 every two weeks when she gets paid. I have already looked into trying to find her a home to move into but all of them around here are terrible places, and I don't know how they are open.
This sounds awful. What a crappy situation. And the fact that you have to take care of your sibling. I say, don’t take any crap from your mom. That woman doesn’t deserve your respect. I also have ADHD so I can imagine that must be hard to deal with if unmedicated (if your mother is still as critical as she was than I can imagine she won’t take an attention disorder for an explanation of forgetting things very seriously). Be yourself, deny abuse, and hold on until things get better. Best of luck!
I find it a funny name for a group. One of the top Ten Commandments is “don’t use *Gd’s name*’s name frivolously”. Like, Jews (🙋♀️) don’t say it at all. We use a word that translates to “The Lord” (if you look at a bible, that’s a fill in for the Tetragrammaton), and even then we only use that in liturgical practice. Well, traditionally. Left-leaning circles say it more. We say “Hashem” which is Hebrew for “The Name”. So it’s ancient self-censorship nickname. That’s not how it’s pronounced anyway. We don’t know exactly how, but at the least there’s no “j” in Hebrew. It’s a leftover from the early English translations being based on German translations (of Latin translations of Greek and Hebrew). Just thought it was funny. And I ramble.
Jah-hoe-vah Still a cult, but I feel more pity for the thousands of children abused. They touch more kids than the Catholic Church and REFUSE to report it because "we only go by the rules of God" disgusting behavior... But not all of them are bad
@@GretchZ They think Jehova(h) is Gods name as every person God deserves to be adressed by his name. So they use it in prayers, in literature to adress him, and by bearing witness about his glory. They aren't afraid to use his name in a apropriate manner. And poor Clicky doesn't have any idea how bat shit crazy these people can get. If the girl woman had been closer to her family, her mother most likley would have threatend with the exact oposite as in going no contact, not even saying hello when passing on the street.
“normal girls come home during summer”
normal girls also don’t have to put up with their sibling calling them a bitch, getting mad at them for being busy, or demanding they accept a (likely halfhearted) apology
Guess I'm not normal. I always went to visit my cousin in the summer bc we were besties.
Likely zero hearted.
If the relationship with your cousin is that way then you definitely are not part of the majority 😅 @Nakia11798
Not even half-hearted, an empty apology
@@ShadowEclipse777 empty apology? It's a Schrodinger apology. It doesn't exist yet it does for convenience.
'You want to see crazy?' reminds me of 'I'll give you something to cry about!' Manipulative, toxic, and does nothing but make things worse.
Lol yea
"You want to see crazy?" Bro, if you get as crazy as you're implying, you're very likely to get arrested
Yep, normally both are said by the same type of people.
Coming from experience, my mom used to say both
@@Me-jx1mo Well, I hope that you're doing better now! :)
Luckily what it reminded *me* of was just "crazy?, I was crazy once...", I'd hope that no one has to go through that bullsh|t but I know that's not possible, so I'll wish for people to be able to get out of those situations
For your plushie problem:
Put them all in a pile in a corner of your house, and then you can just swim into the plushie dimension
Non-clip into the plushie rooms
This, like Scrooge McDuck or whatever that character's English name is
P-Space, the cousin to L-Space.
Great idea, mini plushie pit
omg what if people made like a spiritual plushy dimension so we all just put stuffies into it
Pro-tip: My parents used to call me 50 times a night when I went out with friends. I didn't pick up because I would either leave my phone at home or turn off the sound. Long story short, I fixed the problem by calling them after I got home in the middle of the night. When they didn't pick up right away, I kept calling until they did. They would complain and then I'd say: "You called so many times, I assumed it was an emergency!😇" The number of calls tapered off *real* quick once I started doing that.😂😂😂
Ooh, nice bit of malicious compliance! I approve!
Bravo! 👏👏👏
Unfortunately that means your parents are reasonable. Some parents unfortunately use the excuse that's it's okay for them because they are an adult.
@@sandwichqueen
You misunderstood what I wrote. They weren't being reasonable, they just got tired of being woken up in the middle of the night. Also, this obviously happened while I was already an adult and living on my own.
smooth!
Conversion therapy still exists today. The worst part is it was based on caveman like understanding of psychology. It doesn't work and often leads to self terminatio.
And the high self ending rate is literally used to claim being gay / trans is a mental illness because why else should somebody want to do that? (it surely can't have anything to do with the trauma and abuse those conversion therapies exert on mostly children... Naaah.)
Guess for some parents self termination is more acceptable than being LGBTQ!
I'm sorry that YOU and people around you had crap therapists but mine literally saved my life!
Also, Lovaas was one of the "experts" who helped invent gay conversion therapy. Lovaas is also known as the "Father of ABA."
The same systems that we use to "cure" queer people of their queerness have a terrifying amount of parallels to what we treat as the industry standard for autistic people.
ABA therapists also very much enforce heteronormative behaviors in their "patients" as well. Many autistic people who have been through ABA have said that their healthy expressions of gender and sexuality are suppressed and punished and that they are pushed to behave in a way that is expected of their assigned gender at birth.
That's sad
"Look at what you made me do!"
Literally every domestic abuser ever.
These people aren’t Taylor Swift- they can’t get away with saying that.
@@pyxilate and the song is CLEARLY satire anyway
“Your father is crying because of you!!!” is another good one - yeah, like I do not cry because of them constantly, every single day, for decades 🎉🎉🎉 (my father was studying the so-called “resocialisation”, he and my mother would implement a lot of prison-alike behaviours and punishments (mostly the illict ones) - funny enough, my family was earning money on pe*****ile content with me on the pictures (ofc never online, always physically so no evidence is available), while my grandmother was/is a local politician (my mother’s mother), and my father was a policeman, a teacher and a social worker 🎉). Nowadays it makes me laugh (just because of how absurd the whole situation is, and the absurd is a huge part of humour), but only because I have left the country and cut all the ties with my family, as the decent members deceased… Ofc a heavy portion of my family is Catholic (whenever it suits them tho). Funny enough, the biggest physical abuser was my mother…
Most religion is a social requirement. not a show of moral/Ethical Character@@zuzannanowicka6348
That student with the abusive family...I fell so bad for her. I'm honestly surprised those psychos didn't have the dog put down out of spite. Grateful the pup wasn't a casualty of that insanity.
That's exactly what I was thinking, when the word dog came out, I got so worried hoping to not heart him say die or dead... 🤯
@@Framokamc for real. Small favor in a sad story...
Tbh as long as they hope the girl comes back for the dog i think they will keep it as a lever to try and control her, so as long as they try that crap the dog will probably live. But yeah, i think too that it will be put down or given away when they realize she wont play that game anymore as the "ultimate punishment".
@@Wolfspirat I really hope that doesn't happen
It shouldn't even be legal to do that
The adult child who cuts off their insane parent does not regret it. They grieve the reality of the situation, but they don't regret cutting them off. My narcissistic mother shuffled off the mortal coil 15 years ago and I haven't missed her a day since. I'm glad I never have to speak to her ever again. Her memory is never mentioned by anybody in the family except to recount some delusionally bats*** thing she did/said.
These "parents" face nothing but the solitude they deserve.
If you're considering going no-contact with a toxic parent, please know you are on the right path towards the peace that's been denied to you for so long.
I didn't come out to my parents until I was over 18. Still got my college funds cut off(tuition/books, I paid for everything else). My mom told me that if I was under 18, her and my father would send me to a conversion camp. Had that ever happened, I can't imagine how much more damage that would have caused. Funny thing was listening to my mom talk about unconditional love and how I could "tell them anything ". For some young LGBTQ+ kids, my advice is to keep it quiet until you are an adult. It's sad but safer for some. Then at 18, fly your flag🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
My parents said the same thing, and I wasn't sure if I could believe them, since they are very religious Mormons. Thankfully they came to terms with it. I hope yours do too.
was planning on staying closeted until me and my boyfriend got married (in about 4 or 5 years) but i was basically forced to come out a while ago, and predictably i got grounded and havent been able to talk to my bf for the past month. its really taking a toll on me :(
Staying safe is so important.. good luck to everyone in the rough situations..❤
my only advice is to just stay closeted for safety, then when you're older and if your parents still plan to give you money, etc for stuff then you leech off of them for as long as you can and as long as you want. If they are to the point of being willing to kick out a kid or send them through some kind of traumatic experience just for their queerness, then no, they do not deserve their normal livelihoods because they'd be so willing to ruin the livelihood of a *child*.
My friend's parents made him sign a contract promising not to date any guys while at college, and if he did, they'd cut him off. He just did it anyways.
My father's mom was an insane parent, who abused him a lot (after a while we cut ties with her). When she died, the hospital staff said "We knew something was wrong because she started saying "please" and "thank you"".
Well that's clearly a sign that an insane parent is reaching the bitter end of life. Doing and saying things they never would. Just like cat reverting back to kitten behavior before it's about to die.
“i worked hard for that phone” *proceeds to destroy phone*
interesting thought process (or lack thereof)
When I was living at home in my mid-20s my father had backed me against a wall, and I had huddled for max self-defence options, he smashed a mandolin to bit on something directly in front of my face. He seemingly thought that would stop me from thinking his tantrum was funny.
“…that was *yours* 🤨 “ he’d owned it since the 1970s.
But then I was the one who played it, because he lost feeling and dexterity in one finger when I was in high school.
coincidentally, I’m sure, that was when he started acting like my playing and buying guitars was a total waste of time. I got pretty good.
I distinctly remember when I was 17 I brought home an audio mixer I got for super cheap.
“Heh. You need that like you need another hole in your head.”
I went on to do audio mixing for friends any my band for a decade and then semi-pro live for another.
…I could go on. He was always jealous of things he wanted to do, and I could, and would try to stop me from enjoying it, if not do it.
“How do you start this cross-cut saw, again?”
“Here, let me do it” *ruins hundred dollars of wood I was half through working with, walks away silently in thinly-veiled embarrassment*
Got on my case any time I bought guitar stuff (guitarists do that. It’s called GAS. Gear Acquisition Syndrome. highly contagious and incurable).
He built a massive, well-equipped woodworking setup. He NEVER got any good at woodworking.
I can build furniture with a tape measure, a pencil, tools and zero plans. Well, plans become useful if I’m building more than one.
I could go on.
My mother is a whole other can of worms…
My mom said that all the time when she took my phone- The funny thing is, she didn't work at all for it. My dad did.
My dad once smashed my phone and threw it out the car window when I was young because I forgot to talk to my theater teacher about college opportunies. He claimed to have reminded me every morning on the way to school, but that was a lie.
I went through 5 phones when I lived with my mom because she broke them all in her rage. I learned to hide phones from her, and I got REALLY good at Oscar winning acting at the drop of a dime.
I'm never ready for Insane Parents videos, but at least Click takes some of the horror away.
Also yikesey yikeso, "look what you made me do" is THE most classic abuser line. I hope that kid is okay.
I feel like I could have wrote this. Woken up in the middle of the night, destroys things, and look what you made you do.
@@thatslamejehlI'm sorry, I hope you're alright.
Click is very funni
with every "insane parents" video i realize more and more how normal my parents are.
Im sorry for everybody suffering insane parents.
*Has little to no correlation* "LOOK AT WHAT YOU MADE ME DO"
4:40 Yes that is a saying in the most classiest of British language
translation "You should do the adult naughtiness with a man to really annoy your dad"
O
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XD
Isn't there a song with the lyrics:
"so I locked him in a shed and then I f*cked my best friend"
'him' reffering to the singers dad?
Bri'ish
THANK YOU- I couldn’t be sure because I’ve never heard someone say that lmao
lmao my dad is homophobic i cant wait to see his reaction when i get married to my boyfriend
I have worked in neuropsychology for pediatric patients for almost 3 years now, and a lot of kids that come in have parents exactly like these ones. I have had a few parents bring their child in (below the age of 1), asking me what I can do because they are not ‘behaving’ how they (parents) want them too. Majority of parents that I meet, say they started to ‘discipline’ their child as early as 2 months because they wouldn’t stop crying, wouldn’t listen, kept screeching, didn’t eat and even pooped too much.
Not all adults should be allowed to have kids, I’m TELLING you.
Good lord wtf
wow
19:06
For anyone wanting additional context, this man thinks that, because his 4 MONTH OLD SON cries for attention and food, he is a sinner and must be disciplined. I watched the entire thread in real time. It never got cleared up what the punishment was, but it was so disgusting to watch it all unfold.
did somebody call cps?
That reminded me of another post where a woman said, "My boyfriend hits my 2 year old when he cries to make him stop, but that just makes him cry more. I feel bad about it, but should I do something about it?" There's only so much head-shaking I can do before my neck detaches.
@@Amethystarthat goes beyond head shaking, my head’s spinning so fast I feel like it’s going to unscrew
When I was wrongly institutionalized (the people in charge admitted their staff fucked up, but I was never compensated or anything), there was this dude who admitted himself for believing in higher powers.
Genuinely pleasant guy, knowledgeable about religion, easily the most sane person you ever met. But he also thought that being religious is a mental illness. It took the doctors 3 days to convince him he was fine and get him to leave.
I really wish more people had that level of concern for their mental and emotional stability.
24:16 32 Fahrenheit = 0 Celsius. The mom stranded OP when it’s freezing. That’s such a shitty thing to do
If I were OP I would so have had the cops take me home...
32 For Zero
That's how I am going to remember it from now on.
Yea really. Damn
@@Ramsey276oneand 212 for 100
@@Ramsey276one 32°F = freezing. 212°F = boiling. 98°F(ish) = normal humay body temperature. 100°F = slight fever.
1:49 "Now look at what you've made me do." That's the language of an abusive person. That kid needs to get out of that house as soon as they can and never look back.
I remember learning about this from Tangled.
"Ooh, look what you made me do
Look what you made me do
Look what you just made me do
Look what you just made me do
I don't trust nobody and nobody trusts me!"
That's right! As long as I haven't made a substantiated threat to destroy your life or that of someone you love in order to get you to do something *I wanted* you to do, I haven't made you do anything!
I'll be the actress staring in your bad dreams.s@@vexjazzyfox
Im a buff guy and today i tried a full face makeup look, complete with eyeliner.
I look GAWGEOUS
I bet you look wonderful without too.😘
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Reject femboy - become fem-MAN!
@@RuthBhmand And even moreso with it
Awesome 😎
18:54 so, this kind of thing can be traced to "To Train Up A Child". It was released in 1994 and was a wildly popular book in Southern Baptist churches. It encouraged physical striking children and infants with objects for infractions as small as nipping during breast feeding. It also endorsed things like withholding food and pouring cold water on them as punishment. It's been linked to at least two deaths.
Holy shit this is so many levels of fucked.
@@Trashgriffin the worst part is, that's not even the most awful scandal to come out the southern baptist church.
It’s far more widespread than just southern Baptists. It is especially popular with many conservative Christian sects. FLDS, conventional Mormons, quivverful and other sects that have high beliefs in purity before marriage, victim blaming females, “traditional families” with the subservient wife.
Ruby Frankes sister was known to do blanket training, Ruby herself did a LOT of the methods, particular with control of food and bodily automobile. the duggars actually use to speak at conventions where that “train up a child” book cultivated a vast following. It’s the foundation behind IBLP.
So freaking abusive.
Unfortunately, when you cut ties with someone, these self-righteous people who approach you with the "you'll regret it when he/she is no longer here" kind of bs are extremely common and damaging. Cutting ties is painful and hard, they just make it worse and when they are family members, you may even need to cut ties with them as well.
About that story where the sister was on the mom's side and ganging up on the younger siblings with her. I know it seems weird for the one sibling to join in with the abusive parent, but its not as uncommon as you may think. For example, my mother used to be physically and mentally abusive to me as a child. She treated me so poorly and my youngest sister always took her side. At the time, I didn't understand how she could see the way I was being treated and still be on Mom's side. As I got older, I kinda figured out what was going on. When a parent treats your sibling poorly, but has always treated you very well, it's easy to believe it's the siblings fault and that they must deserve it. It can't be the parent being unreasonable because they never treat you that way. And this parent, who has always been kind and loving towards you is constantly telling you how bad your sibling is and all the reasons they deserve to be treated the way they are, especially when it starts at a young age, it's easy to just take them at their word. I think part of it could be survival instinct as well. Seeing how the other sibling is treated for every minor infraction and wanting to avoid it yourself, siding with the parent, and even participating can be a self preservation thing as well. There are many reasons this can happen. Luckily, as we all got older, my mother got some help and a better situation and eventually apologized and we are all on good terms now. And my younger sister realized what had happened and also apologized for her part, even though I hadn't blamed her in a long time. Sounds like in this situation, the parent never stopped and the sibling never realized who the real problem was. Now that the sibling is an adult, she is responsible for her own actions and the way she treats people. But it makes me sad because siblings shouldn't be turned against each other like that. This got rambley, sorry, hope I made the point clear.
Exactly. One child is “the Golden Child” who can do no wrong (because they do whatever the abusive parent wants), and the other is “the scapegoat” who is essentially the family’s whipping boy.
The REAL “fun” comes when the parent switches them constantly, pitting them against each other for the position of Golden Child. Those families are VERY sick…
My sister is in her fifties and she still believes my mother's take that I'm demonic. Sometimes all you can do is walk away.
This is a great place to ramble. Best wishes for all future success and happiness.
This reminds me of a somewhat famous abuse case in Texas. A girl was horribly abused by her entire family. One day, she 'accidentally' left her video camera on when her dad came in an abused her. You could hear her mother in the background agreeing with the father (a local judge). She kept the recording of it and released it during an election year, trying to show the judge's true personality. Everyone came after her family and she later defended her mother, claiming her mother (and the entire family) was essentially brainwashed by her father and felt if they didn't join in, then they would be the next target. So they literally abused her for their own survival. The mother eventually escaped the situation and realized what she had done and apologized to her daughter. Not sure what happened afterwards. But sometimes, you need to realize that they other family members might only be doing it because they are scared of the consequences if they don't.
@@celestialstar6450That’s exactly what’s happening with my family, And Jesus Christ Does It Suck
She Hulk? Na. Something more dangerous. More evil. Far more powerful. *Mama Hulk*
That's basically what a Hippopotamus with a calf is
Mama Hulk puts Maestro to shame.
Why does Mama hulk Sound kinda badass 😮
She Hulk? Sodium.
Ya think Hulk is scary. Well, moms are always scarier than their children
"I've been in college, I know you don't have class" I am a Software Development major who has classes online and thus my schedule is whatever I want it to be as long as everything is turned in by Sunday. The reverse side of that is that I have a friend in med school who's schedule is so packed with in-person classes that I won't hear from them for weeks and then they just suddenly appear again and we chat like we just saw each other that morning 💀
Just because one person's schedule is a certain way doesn't mean everyone else's is the exact same way.
I refuse to believe that sister has been to college with that type of behavior
Hell, even in polytechnic, I had classes that last all the way to 9pm, and it's not unusual to see people camp overnight just for the facilities available for their specific work. 😅
Where I'm at, the schedule is different from week to week, and can always change at the last minute. Just because you have my schedule for one week doesn't mean you have it for the next, and from year to year, well, it's even less the case!
Point is: everybody has a different schedule, and just because you didn't have class at 9, doesn't mean it's the same for everyone.
So, yes, I agree, there is no way she actually went to college (or at least, I refuse to believe it as well).
Destroying your kids property even if you payed for it IS CHILD ABUSE. Yes you are unhinged, yes you are a bad parent and YES you are in the wrong!
my dad threatened to shoot my phone with a 12 gauge because i have a boyfriend (im gay and my parents are queerphobic)
@@AlqhemyAI would actually like to see that just because I’ve never seen a phone shot with 12 gauge. On an inert phone of course
Not only that it is just stupid. Just take your kids phone/computer away as a punishment instead of destroying it . That or if they really don’t want the kid to have whose things anymore…maybe I don’t know …..sell them , instead of braking them and wasting money?!
For something as idiotic as simply changing a password because you want privacy on your own device??? 💀@@taylortonkin2258
Idk if it constitutes child abuse, but it certainly is vandalism/destruction of the child's property and very much NOT a parent's right!
If a parent gives the child a phone for them to use it at their discretion, that's called a gift and the fact the parents paid for it doesn't give them any right to it, since permanently giving up ownership to something you purchased for nothing in return is the literal definition of a gift.
The parents CAN restrict their underage child's use of it, including temporarily take it away, but they can't take it away indefinitely. So no selling it, throwing away or destroying it without the child's consent, because it's the child's property!
Pubs do not have age restrictions as they are not "bars." A Public House is open to everyone, serves food from a kitchen, and is licensed more like a restaurant.
At least in Canada and the UK.
Right. Even in the US if they serve food kids are allowed in. We used to go the bar in our town for sodas because it was attached to the arcade (1980s). We were allowed in because they also had a kitchen that served fries and burger type meals to both the bar and arcade.
In Germany, they're adult only as you can smoke there, but those are not common establishments
I'd add that a UK person under 18 can't legally buy alcohol in a pub but can drink it if bought by someone over 18.
E.g. 10 year old me being bought half a cider by my dad on holiday as a treat to make me feel grown up. 😁
Landlord's discretion though - you can't get your toddler p*ssed unless you can find a publican who's willing! LOL.
Pups are the same way in the USA
Some pubs in Australia allow kids, some don't, it depends on what state you're in, if there's gambling facilities, if it's currently serving food, etc.
I would get the gay emotional support demon, but since I live with my dad until I'm 18, he'd get angry at me for having it because he's homophobic. I thankfully have the glow in the dark one coming soon.
Buy one and give a little hat to hide the horns. Secret support 😘
Just put it in the closet...
🤭 sorry for that
good luck, hope you dont have much time left until you can get the hell out of there. We believe in you!
@@LissaDIY omg, baduum tss!! 😂 🥁
@@LissaDIYwe all love puns
4:45 no. it’s british slang for:
bro. at this point you should just go at it super hard with a man just to make your dad mad
My mom legit kicked me out because I wouldn't go with her to Sweden just so my sister could buy a freaking coat. Made it very clear I was NOT allowed back. She'd then harass whoever let me crash at their place and threatened to call the cops on them for kidnapping, so they threw me out too...mind you I was still not allowed back home, she just didn't want me to crash anywhere else. So I spent my Friday and Saturday sleeping at a train station, until I could go back to boarding school Sunday...Oh and they didn't even go to Sweden to get that goddamn coat, she and her BF had too much fun sitting at home making sure I had zero shelter for one goddamn 2 days.
Edit: The trip was strictly because my mom wanted to save money on a coat my sister wanted(Denmark and Sweden use different currency), and I've been stuck at the worst boarding school for god knows how long, I am not spending a weekend in a car, just because my mom hates spending money, ignoring the money that goes to gas for her dumb car.
Wow, kicking someone out and then making it so they can't stay anywhere else is just plain evil.
Bro… if anything it might as well be a good thing if she’s that dumb. Imagine how badly she’d endanger you as her child lol
I was the start like: " But? Why Sweden is GRRRRRREAT!" then I was like "Oh okay I got you"
edit: nvm yt on mobile just being stupid
@@cevatkokbudak6414 was this dude killed mid sentence?!
The thing that always gets me with the apologies in this subreddit is that the insane parent says it not because they mean it, but so they can continue hurting their kids because in their eyes the verbal forgiveness makes it "okay" to do something horrible again. If anyone out there needs to hear this: You don't have to forgive a crappy person for their equally crappy behavior. They hurt YOU, not the other way around. Stay safe, know that you're lovable, and don't be hard on yourself for wanting to set boundaries 💜
Precisely! It has to be more than lip-service! A book I would recommend is “How Can I Forgive You?” by Janis Abrahams Spring. It gives very good examples of false apologies and genuine ones.
It's safe to say all insane parents apologies are what I like to call a Schrodinger apology. It's non-existent yet exists for the sake of convenience.
18:11
In highschool, my grandma would tease me because she thought I was (gasp) a lesbian. I'm not.
Here's the clear signs she noticed:
1. I liked wearing guys basketball shorts because they're super comfy.
2. I loved Axe, and used the shower gel.
3. I hung out with both guys and girls.
4. I didn't like super girly stuff.
I'm happily married to my husband and we're expecting our 2nd kid. Shocking, but a tomboy isn't always the same as a lesbian.
gender expression and s*xual orientation just aren`t the same. why is this so hard to understand?
@@LibraryofAcousticMagic3240 Because the "Gay Agenda"
@@LibraryofAcousticMagic3240 because that generation got literally BEAT into upholding those stupid norms by their parents and grandparents ... so now they dotn even udnerstand the concept of gender and sexua lorientation ... thats why most of them totally enrage over stuff like Trans people ..... either they dont understand and dont like that ... or they get mad cause they themself could never live the way they wanted to be
Yeah that kinda bothers me. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t hate or anything, but it’s annoying when there’s a feminine man or masculine woman and they’re automatically seen as gay or trans. Like Susie from deltarune. I was mildly disappointed that she and Noelle seem to be a potential couple but Susie is still one of my favorites in the game.
Congrats on a happy marriage. May it last forever. My sister "read" me wrong too. She walked away from the family because she didn't want me near her future kids, ... and everybody else in the family loved me forever. Hope you and your grandmother worked out a better solution.
In the early 2000's, my mom took my CD walkman in the middle of the night into the garage, wrapped it a towel, and smashed it to pieces with a hammer. I guess some things don't changed BUT it's deranged to smash a friggin cell phone.
That sounds like something my childhood friend's mother would have done because of "devil music"
I'd have called CPS because parents who act like this, need to be watched.
@@desperadox7565 that would do literally nothing, unfortunately 🙃 especially in the early 2000's.
Edit: Parents could and still can do shit like this and won't ever be punished for it
@@eliskaneugebauer5338Are you German? Because here CPS would at least try to help. Children have rights too.
@@desperadox7565 in America at least cps doesn't do shit. It's a joke really. When they DO punish someone it's someone who doesn't deserve it. Foster system is the same. Our government doesn't care about its kids
The only thing more insane than these parents is the fact that THE EMOTIONAL SUPPORT DEMON IS NOW PERMANENTLY IN STOC-
Lol yea
Lol
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This is truly wild, and awesome 🎉
Let's make it more unhinged: petition Click to make an emotional support angel companion plushie as a friend for Mango and Emotional Support Demon.
23:27 idk about the rest of the world, but in the US knowingly filing a false police report is a crime.
Fine? There better be a fine!!
Yep
I know some states already have Karen-laws, California is only one I can remember, but theres others.
@@janemiettinen5176 I'm pretty sure it's illegal everywhere in the States to call emergency services for frivolous reasons, which I guess counts as a Karen law. You'd be surprised how many people call 911 asking for rides to the liquor store.
@@lordpumpkinhead265 Or when their McFries arent hot enough. One was having (serious, murder or manslaughter) warrants on him, but he still thought calling 911 was a good idea.. while perfectly sober too! Some people just amaze me with their lack of wits. Even without the warrants, how did he thought it was going to end up? Cops forcing the McD to give him new, hot fries? I dont think so.
My parents never really cared much about me. My mother left when I was 7. My father put me in foster care for 3 years, and even afterwards, he just never was emotionally available.
What I'm trying to say is, man, compared to the lunacy from this subreddit, I got fking lucky with my parents!
They're still insane though
@@creepergoboom2943 Insane? Yes, but they got out of OPs life pretty quickly which is more than most of these insane parents.
Here's hoping you someday find a family that wants you. My first therapist had a plaque that said, "It's never too late to have a happy childhood." She was unhelpful, but that plaque still carries me, thirty years later.
@@intercat4907 I did. My best friend's family sort of adopted me. Not legally, but I'm invited to birthdays of extended family, Christmas etc., and they basically treat me as one of their own
Listening to this video makes me realize completely leaving my family was the right choice. These insane parent communications are such a reminder of why I had to leave.
For anyone who has toxic family or parents, you do not owe them anything! You DO NOT have to stay around them if they're being this toxic, your life is your own don't let them ruin it like they did their own lives.
Stay strong
This. Speaking as a parent, kids don't owe their parents anything. If your parents fed you, housed you, paid for your needs, looked after you, loved you, all the good things .. that's what parents are supposed to do and that's what they signed up to when they chose to have a kid. You don't owe them anything just because they did what they were supposed to do!
You didn't ask to be born. Your parents brought you into the world without your consent. Whatever consequences come from that choice, that's on your parents, not you, and they owe you all the support they can give you through whatever life throws your way. If you're at high risk of being abused or discriminated against because of LGBT+ identity, neurodivergence, disability, or any other factor, it's your parents' job to do whatever they can to support and shield you from harm. If you're at high risk of never owning your own home because you were born in a time when previous generations had already rigged the economy against you, then it's your parents' job to help you with that any way they can.
Glad you are here.
@@tealkerberus748how do you give consent to be born when you at the time didn't even exist? Oh wait, you can't. But the sentiment you preach is important. If your parents raised you properly, what you do with your life is for you to decide. Nobody else. You. Whether good or bad, that's on you. But only you should decide your fate beyond that point.
oh god that title is cursed
SWEET HOME ALABAMA
It’s obviously like Hulk Smash but also…
A "hulk smash" reference gone wrong.
Obviously it’s to play Super Smash Bros with your mother
what if I ate the title
i will always internally thank the click for his r/insaneparents videos, he's the reason i realized that my home life wasn't really normal so i could make steps to stay safe
love hearing that
I hope you’re okay
@@Tugar_Dumkin eh, i'm still stuck here due to how bad the housing market is, but it isn't nearly as bad as it was before and now i'm planning ahead to make sure i don't stay here any longer than i need to
I hope you get all your important documents and have a good support network for when you need to flee.
@@valpet4944 thanks, i hope i do, too, and thankfully i have some of the documents i need right now
Calling a baby a potato that eats sleeps and poops is the funniest thing.
Also that they eat with their whole face. I’ve never heard it put like that, but yes, that’s exactly what they do! Lmao
@@txstargazerjilly6605 I´m 62 and had 4 kids, and I second that!
That's pretty accurate of infants 😂
@@txstargazerjilly6605 I read a book by Dave Barrey about child raising and he said to feed an infant correctly you need to smear it on their chin where they will inexplicably absorb it into their bodies. If you try to put it in their mouth, they will immediately spit it back up all over their face where they can absorb it properly.
I single-grandparented the noisiest potato in history. We both survived. But there was a while where French fries looked good ...
5:55 this is how my mother acts and then is all surprised Pikachu face when we have no desire to come over and visit for anything anymore...
This is why my dad is in my phone as "spawn point". Shout out to the person who first made the joke.
I just have my parents saved as their names
That's actually funny. I'm tempted to laugh, but I feel it'd be improper to do so.
@@jaytrashwade1-1 improper is my way. Feel free to be improper. 🤣
the most important part of an apology is to be apologetic
action over words
Yep
True
Ugh, passwords. Our parents initially had our passwords for some things "just in case" (we were stupid and brainwashed). And they had my sister's bank password because she didn't update it when she turned 18. Well not right away. But then she changed it for some reason, and the *very next day* our egg donor called her freaking out that her account had been hacked, but when she called the bank to report it they wouldn't even talk to her. That's when my sister learned she'd been logging in almost every day to check what my sister was getting up to. Needless to say when I turned 18 about a year after that my bank password was changed immediately.
20:57 as soon as Kingdom Hall was mentioned, I knew exactly where this one was heading. Poor souls, congrats on escaping some of that cult
At 18 minutes ish, you're referring to conversion therapy. In the US, practicing that will get your license revoked, though unlicensed people happily charge parents thousands of dollars to do it on the grey market. It is outlawed entirely in my state. One program that does conversion therapy flat out told parents "your child has a 50% chance of succeeding in our program (becoming straight and cis) and a 50% chance of unaliving themselves before the end. Dead is better than a gay child."
You now that if you write the time of the video like this "minute:seconds" it becomes blue and anyones who that clicks it gets to that part of the video? It really helps
18:08
@@tpfoxCastro I didn;'t know that! That''s a super useful feature though. Thanks for the tip!
We'll show our child Christ's love! 🤮🤬🤮🤬🤮🤬
@@sarah_757Nahhh bro didn’t read the fucking comment
It's amazing how many of these insane family members flip the meaning of "blood and water" to mean family is more important than friends. When the actual phrase is "blood of the covenant is greater than the water of womb"; the exact opposite meaning forged friendship is more valuable than the family you're born into.
The latter came later, actually.
It’s just a toxic phrase.
Just say “yeah, it’s sticky and gross” in reply.
@@GretchZit didn’t “come later”. It is literally the entire phrase. People shortened it because it was a common phrase that people knew without context. Now people leave it off because they don’t know the context (we are culturally far removed from its origins) and want to use their ignorance to manipulate others.
Your response is funny tho
@@kissit012 Hey so a quick google search reveals that the shorter phrase is older and the longer phrase only appeared later. The shorter phrase is first seen in writing in the 12th century and the longer phrase appears to have first cropped up in writing in the 20th century, sources cite the 1990's and 2000s. So @GretchZ is correct, the idea that the longer phrase is older is a bit of historical fiction similar to the idea of vikings wearing horns on their helmets, popular but unsubstantiated
Remember that if a parent destroys property that you paid for, you can take them to small claims court where you don't need legal representation. Just present the evidence of them admitting they destroyed it and they have to pay you back.
You know I got someone literally telling today "if love is love then water is water why don't you drink toilet water" and I literally bluescreened for a whole minute then replied "I feel like I'm in a Click video goddamn" because I'd seen that argument on here before. They were not expecting that response I think but I was laughing my head off. That's how I'm going to respond to homophobes from now on that was great.
I mean, toilet water is *literally* the same water as tap water.
It's only by mixing with the toilet rim stone, potential leftovers from a weak flush and dirt&bacteria,l that settled in the bowl that it becomes yucky und unhealthy to drink. But if you drink out of the cistern, you're probably fine.
So, it's just a false analogy, that's all. Like, I wouldn't kiss a gay guy who has active flu either. The problem is the flu part, not that he's a gay guy, just like the actual problem in that analogy isn't the water itself, but the contamination due to the container it's in and what else is in that container.
@@LRM12o8 " just like the actual problem in that analogy isn't the water itself, but the contamination due to the container it's in and what else is in that container." Almost as if some love can be poisoned by other factors even if it started out fine...
@@LRM12o8Oh my god
About the conversion therapy parent: I assume that the misgendered child is non-binary because the OP refers to them as their "sibling" (a gender-neutral term) and with they/them pronouns.
They could also just be protecting their identity with gender neutral terms
@@kissit012that's a fair point. If I were in a similar situation I'm not letting my abusive parents who'd most likely read the story on the Internet know who I'm talking about for their safety. I'd find a way to refer to that sibling in a manner to share the story asking for advice to help save them from that situation in a way the abusers who could also read it won't figure it out and make things worse
I was a little confused about that myself. At first i thought the sibling was a gay trans man, but then the mother mentioned them “making out with girls”, and it’d be kinda weird if the sibling was a gay trans woman and the mother somehow respected their pronouns but didn’t respect their orientation. Perhaps it’s a nonbinary person attracted to women. No matter the specifics, the mother sucks and i hope the sibling somehow got help.
And seing how hard it would be for the mother to respect the pronouns but not the orientation (like another person in the comments said), yeah, yro'ue probably right
@4:00 Mr. 20 Missed Calls seems like the same type of person that would complain that “kids these days are chained to their phones”
"You have to respect me!"
Dear Sir or Madam, 1) respect is earned by those who deserve it, 2) it goes both ways.
You smashing your kids phone won't earn you your kid's respect. It also shows that you are neither respecting your kid, nor their possessions.
"This is unacceptable behavior." I agree. Destroying something after you worked hard for it and gifted it to somebody else is definitely unacceptable behavior.
Well that's the thing about abusers: they truly do think respect is just a given
Respect simply doesn't exist with abusers.
@girl1213 more specifically, they think it's a given that THEY automatically deserve everyone else's respect, while they themselves can treat anyone else as trashy as they please.
As a British person, I can confirm "shag a lad rotten" is something we would say. 😄
The "rotten" part is what gets to me...
XD
Once I heard an english guy (in video) explain the eastern london slang, this sounds very similar to that.
@@mati.benapezo XD
And something we do 😉
Can a good laddo or lassie translate please?
You know, sometimes I worry about if I'm being a good parent to my kid or not... Then I look at submissions to subreddits like this one and think, "Okay, naturally I could do better about some things, but overall I'm actually doing a pretty good job!"
Hey, at least you're reflecting and putting active effort to improve yourself and your kids. Something that sadly *CAN'T* be said about any of the parents in these posts or on the subreddit.
These subreddits definitely made me grateful for my perfectly "boring" family life lol
Watching insane parents reminds me that yes, my parent may be a bit insane, but these parents are far more evil.
They can still be bad enough.
But if it helps you to get through.
Any parent is responsible for providing shelter, food, clothing, education, etc. for their kids. If someone reads this and have been told that they should be grateful for that, you're being manipulated. That is your parents' obligation to you, and NOT something special that you're beholden to them for. They chose the job of parent, so don't let them rope you into anything. And remember: even animals take care of their young to the point where their offspring is old enough to survive on their own.
Good point. Harp seal mothers raise their kids on that obligation for 12 days then leave to either die or survive on their own.
@@JWildberry Well... Not sea turtles, lol. But, yeah I completely agree with you.
10:15 "You'll come home" right there my patience would have broken with a simple "make me"
Regular reminder that you're all awesome, beautiful and valid little beans, just the way you are ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 Love you all ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
I love seeing this comment on like- every video :)
@@Lupus9272And I love writing it every time, in the hopes it cheers up at least one person 💜
True!!!
❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵
@@nathryl03It certainly did for me😊
Thank you! You're awesome too!
seeing those miss calls reminded how my mom caused me to develop generalized anxiety disorder
Im 70s kid, sometimes I really miss the good old landline times. We just werent available at all times and there wasnt anything someone could do about it. Life was better in that regard, when you were out with friends, you got to live in the moment much more.
@@janemiettinen5176 YES! People think because we have mobile devices that we have no reason to engage. I grew up in the 80s so I remember the rotary phones and all.
My biofam was traumatic, toxic AF. I am always very suspicious when a business claims to treat me like family, because then I'm going to get manipulated and abused. I totally support anyone going no contact with their biofam.
"Shag a lad rotten" is indeed slang in England.
Source: I am Welsh. I've lived in London for a few years and regularly visit having moved back to Wales.
21:25
"Kingdom Hall". Well, nice to know the flavor of culty crazy we're dealing with.
Yep the JW’s
The mother blaming her children for her other child's death reminds me of the story where a woman accidently suffocated her child and then blamed it on vaccines. It was on a documentary on how the anti-vax community works.
Wow. Just wow. I have no words for how utterly disturbing that is. To deflect the blame for murdering your own child by mistake on the medical industry is beyond disgusting. BY MISTAKE. How? Just how? How does that happen?
@@jaytrashwade1-1 Basically what they think happened was while they were sleeping the mother rolled and didn't realize she was crushing her child's airway. The experts concluded the mother made a sad, terrible accident.
@@sweetsea3607There was a movie like that where a woman did the same thing and snapped from the guilt and trauma-she became a babysitter (probably with the intent of kidnapping the kids she looked after) and later tried to kill them.
I _love_ the imperial system. "It's a hundred degrees outside" is used both as a figure of speech, AND as a literal measurement of the temperature.
Let me get a calculator.... 100°F isn't as hot as you think... 212°F is water boiling point....
@@jaytrashwade1-1 *checks regional map* I think I know that…
I’m saying it’s funny how some people use it as a figure of speech, even in America, (where I’m from, if my snark didn’t make it obvious enough) but it’s also a temperature that people mean _literally_
For a hopefully helpful reference point 100°F is a low fever. Not hospital worthy (that's 104 or higher) but it's bed rest and fluids.
Rule of thumb I use:
°F is relative to people, °C is relative to water.
@@Green24152 yup.
21:29 Oh, she's a Jehova's Witness. That explains a lot. Strictly speaking, I don't think she's even supposed to contact her daughter at all. Standards are slipping. _shakes head_
They may not have left the church, just the mom's house, so they wouldn't need to be shunned. Though if they're living together unmarried, it's hard to imagine they're still full-fledged JWs.
What I think is happening here is that OP may not be baptized, that can allow her mother to make all that mess and still "talk" to them
Ahhhh R/Insaneparents, Click. Whenever you do this Subreddit it's such a Comfort, having my Parents treat me like a Child even though I'm 20 is difficult, my Mother saying stuff like _"You are an Uncultivated child"_ and my Father saying _"Your Mother does everything for you and gets nothing in return, just abuse"_ and still being unable to Transition due to my Situation... Trapped with no Control of my life, this Subreddit really helps, it helps me realise I'm not crazy, so thank you Cliccy Wiccy^^ ❤
7:26
Ah yes... Sounds like my Parents
25:18
_"You're being unreasonable"_ Geez this also just sounds like my Family
That sounds like an awful situation to be stuck in; I hope things improve for you and you can get TF out of there and be who you truly are without people treating you badly for it.
@BlueTressym It is horrible, I want to get out, and I'm trying, I'm reaching out, but I'm missing out on alot of stuff. 1 example is I wanna support my favourite Content Creators but I can't access Twitch, Patreon, Twitter, or anything... I can't get any Merch, I can't even get Discord or Reddit, My Gmail is under my Deadname plus I don't know the passwords, trying to change Gmails and that's hard to...
Thank you for realising that this Situation is bad, I need to get out
Maybe not a license to parent, but a comprehensive, mandatory class in high school would negate soooooo much damage
for reasonable people, yes
These insane people, a class would do nothing.
9:11 This seriously sounds like the poster confronted (or disclosed) some sort of abuse by another family member and the rest of the family is denying it and defending the perpetrator. I've seen it many times. Some families just don't want to know and hate the victim for telling.
"Don't ruin the Perfect Family Portrait with your *actual injury splatter* it's not nice!"
Funnily enough once the facade is broken, the desperation of the rest of the family to hide the problem makes it only *more visible.* Sooner or later, they won't be able to hide it any longer. The necessity of maintaining the facade is what makes the situation the most dangerous, as you never know how far the rest of the family is willing to go to ensure the "Perfect Family Portrait" remains Perfect®
@@jaytrashwade1-1 pride is a hell of a drug, isn't it?
@@crowdemon_archivesit really is, and an extremely addictive one. 99.98% addiction rate at that.
@crowdemon_archives as a gay man, it is crazy to me how how pride is both the root of many a evil and the answer to accepting myself and freeing myself from oppressive social beliefs and prejudices. Why aren't there different names for those two very different things?
I don't think the pride that is knowing you are a decent person the way you are no matter what others say and the pride that tells you you can't admit any wrong because of how that might make you look in the eyes of others are even remotely related or similar emotions, they're polar opposites! 🤔
Wholesome squishy cat update for traumatised beans.
Squishy cat has a cushion on a coffe table in front of the TV, where she will sit and watch her hooman play video games on the PS4. Sometimes she will loaf, and other times she will roll, and sometimes she is eepy, but she is always soft and squishy.
For your plushie problem:
Feed them shrimp. It will appease them. but they will grow so they'll take up more space
How does that work? Wouldn't it be better to feed the plushies marshmallows and cotton candy? That way they grow bigger and softer, not to mention sweeter and nicer. Ok, that sounds creepy out loud now that I think about it. Ignore everything I just said. But don't starve the plushies, that's just cruel.
@@jaytrashwade1-1 Why not both? Shrimp and cotton candy. Shrimp cotton candy. Delicious.
The shrimp was a pretty obscure game reference lol, it was pretty random
Shrimp cotton candy sounds disturbingly delicious. I need a little help developing a plushie balanced diet.... I so far got marshmallows, cotton candy, chocolate, cheesecake, steak, shrimp, fish sticks, chicken nuggets, Mac and cheese, scrambled eggs, bacon, and Coca-Cola.... And I'm guessing the game reference was Splatoon wasn't it?
@@jaytrashwade1-1 That's some good choices for plushy development! What I'd suggest is a little bit of human blood. Not for any specific reason, of course!
Nah, it's a little indie game called Voices of the Void. It's like Signal Simulator but more insane and horror-based.
There are alien catgirls that like shrimp, and you can feed the plushy of their leader shrimp and she grows. I sound insane.
@@EddieNoon you do sound insane. That sounds fun though.
My mom was very abUsive and narcissistic. She would throw my phone AT me but it always misses and breaks against the wall, She's terrible at aiming. I was SA'd and she blamed me and even let my assaulter LIVE with her. So every time I'm forced to visit her I call a friend to come get me. She gets mad every time.
Thanks! Whenever I'm having a crap day I can count on the click
Maybe not a license but a mandatory course? First aid, common myths, how to NOT be abusive. Y'know, all the good stuff.
This works very well with economies where parents receive allowances from the government for raising kids. You give a basic allowance to everyone so nobody starves, but parents who want to get paid more need to be more qualified. Do your annual parenting skills continuing education, get higher pay for your parenting.
@@tealkerberus748that is the most brilliant plan I've ever heard. Probably the easiest to implement too. Though I'm personally afraid I'd fail that course.... Too easily distracted. ADHD and autism can make simple existence unnecessarily complicated. My advice is don't have kids if you have a difficult time making your own life not a living nightmare. Your own problems can find a way to transfer themselves to the kids.
@@tealkerberus748 That's such good motivation!
In Germany 8ish hours first aid classes is a mandatory part of obtaining a driver's license and many jobs require regular refreshers.
I personally think these classes need to be publicly available without charge but wouldn't want to hold cost of living support hostage over them.
There are some classes/coaching available for parents trough the Jugendamt but it's regionally dependant and inconsistent
Kids also get to stay with CPS whenever they want (motivating some parents to get better)
I don't support the idea of a license because minorities' applications would conveniently get lost. I think schools and doctors do a pretty good job of catching abuse but for homeschooling families, it's way too easy for the kids to fall through the cracks so I think they should get mandatory regular doctor visits, proctored state tests so their mom can't take them, and one-on-one interviews with a case worker. My family did isolated K-12 homeschool and thought the government was after us and moved to the middle of nowhere and there were times when we were malnourished, medically neglected (like being left with untreated asthma for 6 months and becoming hypoxemic), and letting the house get down to 40 degrees F (4.4 C) and our parents acknowledged how bad it was and talked about how they'd get in trouble if anyone found out how we lived and filed false homeschooling records to pretend that we were doing classes and coached us on what to say to case workers (and also hinted at planning to shoot them if they tried to take us).
18:55 - the father beats his four month old kid for crying too loudly.
He should go to jail
18:10 It's called "conversion therapy".
Most people are blind to what it does! It converts people into--> potentially suicidal and self hating pices of sh*t!
*sips drink in the sunset*
Ah! This world is beautiful!
Should be called "conversion torture" though, cause that's what it really is...
To make the story of the stranded person even worse: the comments figured out through the OP’s bio that they’re 15 years old
:'( that's just freaking terrible
Shoulda called the police, geez!
7:36 This sounds exactly like my mother. I’m 16 and just moved in with my grandma (my mother agreed to and allowed me to). Ever since, she’s been trying to guilt trip and gaslight me into wanting to come back. I wanted to leave because of the way she was treating me and she’s just continuing to do the same thing she’s always done, and then she’s surprised when I don’t want to come around.
- I am the one who gave birth to you!
-Yes mum and whos fault is it that I have to suffer the pain of existence? Should I really be grateful for that?
"Laddies, Lasses, and.... Lassos?" as in the rope? Anything you say, Click.
And, may I say, I love your editor's interruptions.
If the MIL at 21:09 is an active JW and her child is moving in with someone before marriage, the usual reaction would be shunning. Must be that the kid was never baptized - that's the only loophole I can think of. Otherwise, she's bluffing, because shacking up with someone without marrying them is a disfellowshipping offense, meaning your parents MUST shun you, or risk disfellowshipping themselves. That means no contact, so no following and harassing.
Oh, I can see a way OP of that story can weaponize that information to protect themselves. Report their mother to the police and the church.... Easy way to get rid of the problem.
Wow, I never thought JWs disfellowship practice had an upside to it, but it can totally stop abusive parents from reaching out and harassing their children after they tore themselves free from their parents! 🤯
@@jaytrashwade1-1 it's an interesting thought, but, if the OP is disfellowshipped, no Elder will speak to them about anything but how they might get re-instated (basically, sit at the back of the Kingdom Hall for anywhere from six months to a couple years while your family and friends still ignore you, and your every action is monitored closely and you grovel to the Elders assigned to your case while they treat you like.... ) well, let's just say it would be better and quicker to go to the police, because no one from the Kingdom Hall (they don't call it a church) will be any help. Ever.
If they were never baptized (and so won't be shunned or disfellowshiped), then it becomes a case of the Elders not helping because they don't go against their own on the side of someone "worldly." However, behind the closed doors of the Kingdom Hall, that MIL would be 'marked' - that is, viewed as a potential source of sin and trouble and treated like a pariah. Any privileges she had - and women don't have many - will be taken away.
That's why I was so puzzled by this, MIL must have joined later in life so that her children aren't baptized or part of the congregation, otherwise, she would shun them before ever threatening any harassment or stalking.
But you're right; OP could and should go to the police.
@@spikeoramathon Oh my god, that's horrifying. How are cults even legal?
I hate the fact that the second I heard "kingdom hall" I immediately went "Oh they're jehovah witnesses, that's not surprising"
I first thought about LOTR! Then it hit me: Something even more unreal! With more orks!
Same 💀
Yep, and "Watchtower". Unfortunately, Click's hope that the rest of the family may be less brainwashed might be misplaced
@Nukie144 yeah, going to a family gathering with that family must be hell. they sound like they're gonna chain you to a radiator or some shit and read you sermons until one of you withers away
I strangely hope the church elders convince that MIL to shun the couple, rather than endorse her insane plan
I still find the idea that 'family should come first' being the most important thing to people is fascinating dumb
you can't just abuse people or be entitled to stuff just because "we're family". it is morally wrong and messed up
coming from some personal experience
And it only ever goes one way:
Most people who say this expect the children to unconditionally obey their parents and make the parents look good to others, but they see no problem with parents publicly embarrassing their kid or completely abandoning them when they don't turn out the way the parents/society wants them to.
Like when they come out as queer or non-religious in a queerphobic/strictly religious society/neighborhood, they'll ostracize their kid instead of supporting them, fighting for their right to be who they are and protecting them from harassment by strangers who disagree with the kid's way of life.
"Family comes first" suddenly means nothing to those people when the neighbors _might_ gossip and shake their head... 🤬
"Look at what you me do" is entry level gas lighting
0:12 THE LORAX🤨
please nooooo
I AM THE CLICK
I SPEEK FOR THE GAYS
Whatever the rest
Of the quote is
LORAX CLICK REAL NOT CLICKBAIT!?!?!?!?!?
I am the Lorax, I speak for the trees, and today, they are speaking Vietnamese
Are we getting a bingo card for this subreddit soon.
He has a few videos that have insane parent bingo. I think he did one just last week😊
The "therapy" you're wondering about at around the 18:00 mark is called "conversion therapy" and it's illegal in quite a good many countries, complete with criminal penalties in some of them.
Norman Oklahoma in 2021 finally banned conversion therapy.
In regards to 24:19, American English often overstates things, so while 100 degrees isn't unreasonable in some places, it may still be an exaggeration. If someone says "its freezing" in place of cold or very cold, that too is an overstating. In contrast, British English, from my understanding, prefers understating. American English also tends to use numbers like a dozen, hundred, and thousand just to express "more than we could count at a glance." Languages are a lot deeper than people tend to give it credit for, most don't notice the complexities because they are used to it.
21:47 "Kingdom Hall" is all I had to hear TBH. Jehovah's witnesses are fkin' crazy. One of my best friends growing up was raised in that cult as a queer kid and to this day I'm grateful to my parents for letting him be himself at our place.
"Look what you made me do!!"
Me: *Nam flashbacks* "Rage." "Loud sounds." "Broken laptop." "Body of said laptop flailed in face." Excuse me while I go grab my Emotional Support Demon plush and snuggle it for awhile.
🫂🫂🫂
reminded me of the time my "dad" smashed all the custom lego builds me and my sister had because he would walk into her room in the mornings and step on the legos
@@drakonsnakeholy shit
I hope you and your sister are far away from your biological dad
@@drakonsnakeohmyigawd- tho this has nothing to do with your comment, once my dad spent the whole (or probably half (?) ) the night building a Lego building (then I lost it)
I have, in fact, not done my homework
As someone who's been out of school for a couple years now I was surprised to hear that I had homework
What is the punishment for not doing it? Having to get a Support Demon?
@@kathyhite9662 yes. And Mango. And every variant of Mango and Emotional Support Demon. And another 100 assorted plushies. After getting all versions of Mango and Emotional Support Demon the remaining 100 plushies are student's choice.
Reminder, every child deserves parents, not every parent deserves children.
22:41 “Jehovah witnesses” oh yeah, the crazy here makes sense
i relate to the mother smashing the phone one... as a child my stepdad took away all electronics but i outsmarted him and took my ipad back, only playing after bedtime. the psychotic manchild got so mad at this that when he caught me he smashed it countless times in a fit of rage
I may have trauma
It’s always a good day when Click posts
EXACTLY
I have to admire the OP from 8:00. If I were in their shoes I would just turn off my phone for the rest of the class and ignore the sister.
Do you know the best thing about smartphones, do not disturb mode and you can even customise exceptions. I hope OP can make of use of this and that wonderful block button.
That title "Mommy Smash" really would be on a different subreddit without the emoji
Entitled parents: you are a terrible person and i don't want to see you again.
Also entitled parents: why won't you come back i miss you
Entitled parents: I need my emotional support punching bag
🤮
No. I'm gone. You got what you wanted. You wanted me out of your lives. It's too late to take it back now.
@girl1213 if only they meant an actual punching bag, as in the bag-shaped, inanimate object made for punching... 😥
Entitled parents : I miss you * to show the neighbourhood what happy a family we are, please act as your status, stay silent, smile, I will take notes of your mistakes and I will punish you once the doors are closed*
it's startingg to get to the point where when he says "Blorp" I'm like "Wow, another one? Common name" then I process what's on screen
26:41 this one caught me off-gaurd
My eyes went so wide when you talked about them sending PHYSICAL LETTERS to your house. Yikes. I've had something which (to me) felt almost like the equivalent.
Where I'm from NOBODY sends a text message (it's too expensive), we just use WhatsApp or some other service. So text messages are just OTPs, app notifications you signed up for and business cold smses from some service or other that got your number.
So I've twice blocked people who chose to message me VIA TEXT specifically BECAUSE they were blocked on every social media site and messaging app. That felt violent, and as I said, in my country that's WEIRD behaviour, like, an unheard-of way of contacting someone since the early noughties.
OK, I admit it's not as unsettling as someone knowing your physical address and purposely contacting you there. But still, the intention and them doing it KNOWING they're blocked and that there's no POSSIBLE way you want to hear from them and then taking measures to get around it and finding options they reckon you're unlikely to have thought of... Yeah that's just... yikes. That's awful.
Blocking does express that you want no contact with someone, so if they circumvent it it sucks a lot. It is definitely overstepping, and depending on the circunstance also harassing
The college kid getting texts from her abusive mom hits home. My mom beat me, usually for no reason, sometimes as "discipline". When I turned 18 and started telling people what happened my mom was telling everyone I was lying. And I recently found out the reason my two younger sisters never contacted me was because my mom told them they weren't allowed to talk to me.
Sadly the story doesn't have a happy ending. I ended up not being able to find a place to work or live so ended up moving back in with my mom and sisters. I did end up getting married, but due to financial issues we live with my mom. And she hasn't really changed at all. She doesn't hit me anymore but she is still mentally abusive to me. Recently I found I have autism and ADHD so am in therapy to try and figure that out and get help finding a way to make an income to move out. My biggest issue is my youngest sister has cerebral palsy and needs a care giver and my mom has been using me as a live in care giver only paying me $50 every two weeks when she gets paid. I have already looked into trying to find her a home to move into but all of them around here are terrible places, and I don't know how they are open.
This sounds awful. What a crappy situation. And the fact that you have to take care of your sibling. I say, don’t take any crap from your mom. That woman doesn’t deserve your respect. I also have ADHD so I can imagine that must be hard to deal with if unmedicated (if your mother is still as critical as she was than I can imagine she won’t take an attention disorder for an explanation of forgetting things very seriously). Be yourself, deny abuse, and hold on until things get better. Best of luck!
22:44 Yep. Jehovah’s Witnesses. The “Kingdom Hall” is their cult compound.
I find it a funny name for a group.
One of the top Ten Commandments is “don’t use *Gd’s name*’s name frivolously”.
Like, Jews (🙋♀️) don’t say it at all.
We use a word that translates to “The Lord” (if you look at a bible, that’s a fill in for the Tetragrammaton), and even then we only use that in liturgical practice. Well, traditionally. Left-leaning circles say it more.
We say “Hashem” which is Hebrew for “The Name”. So it’s ancient self-censorship nickname.
That’s not how it’s pronounced anyway. We don’t know exactly how, but at the least there’s no “j” in Hebrew. It’s a leftover from the early English translations being based on German translations (of Latin translations of Greek and Hebrew).
Just thought it was funny. And I ramble.
Like Mar-A-Lago is the Trumper´s cult compound?
Jah-hoe-vah
Still a cult, but I feel more pity for the thousands of children abused. They touch more kids than the Catholic Church and REFUSE to report it because "we only go by the rules of God" disgusting behavior... But not all of them are bad
@@GretchZWhen you say there’s no “J” in Hebrew, do you mean there isn’t a letter in the Hebrew lexicon that translates to “J”?
@@GretchZ They think Jehova(h) is Gods name as every person God deserves to be adressed by his name.
So they use it in prayers, in literature to adress him, and by bearing witness about his glory. They aren't afraid to use his name in a apropriate manner.
And poor Clicky doesn't have any idea how bat shit crazy these people can get. If the girl woman had been closer to her family, her mother most likley would have threatend with the exact oposite as in going no contact, not even saying hello when passing on the street.
7:17 "aggy"
WAIT
Vaggie?!
It makes sense NOW!
22:58 I was raised JW and can confirm that I know these type of people
Telltale Atheist has some STORIES as an ex JW
@@Nakia11798 yeah! I follow several exjw Channels