I don’t exactly feel lonely, but I’ve been having a hard time reconnecting with friends lately-with the pandemic it was so easy to throw myself into everything that I wanted to grow and develop inside myself and spend time with family. Branching back out has been difficult, especially when I’ve spent much of my time trying to develop myself to escape the 9-5. I’ve always felt displaced in traditional work environments-just disconnected. I’m smart, I work hard, so on paper I should “belong” but I’ve never felt like I have-too creative, too skeptical, too “outside the box”. I find your story and channel inspiring! Thank you for just being awesome!
Hey hey I love your nick!! It conjures up a very specific n appealing image in my imagination lol! Anyway thanks for the sweet msg I loved what u share. I kinda hv the same feeling. I really somewhat (n quietly) rejoiced over the pandemic period cos I was so happy alone inside home doing my own creative stuff being in my own world. Such a relief from the hustle bustle of normal life to have that extended introspective period.
I don’t think I feel the need to branch back out though. Is it something you feel u really truly need to do or is it just cos u feel it’s what’s “normal”?
Bear in mind people like u n me may be just outliers cos we crave for different things mentally that others don’t, that may explain why u always feel a lil out at the workplace, but I don’t think also u shd feel that as a disadvantage. I wouldn’t want to be like all of them really, if I asked myself honestly. I like me.
Dear Jean. I'd never commented on anyone posts like I do with yours. I feel like I have many some feelings in common. You're both have wonderful life experiences. I'm an introvert formed by the environment of childhood and family. My childhood was in a village far from crowds, but I was happy with a simple life. Now I live in an urban area that is too crowded, congested and a lot of traffic jams. But I feel lonely. I just feel comfortable with my little family at home. Sometimes, I want to go back to the village. Live simply. With a modest frequency. But here we are, life is simple but simple life isn't easy. We just have to be grateful for all that we have got. Thank you for sharing your feelings and experiences with all of us. Love you both. ❤️❤️❤️
Hi Oom, so true, and thank you for the wise words. In creating the content on this channel I’ve realised so few people understand what u just said - that life can be simple but a simple life isn’t per se easy. I think there’s a growing movement of people moving away from cities back to the rural areas, like from Jakarta to bAli for example, I’ve met quite a few of them now. Maybe u can slowly move towards this idea with your family if it’s what truly suits you. Truly meaningful changes takes time to manifest with slow and steady action. I will be rooting for you!
Living in one of the country in Europe, high salary, busy everyday hussling for money and yet feeling lonely, unhappy but not ungrateful and still longing for inner peace and simple countryside life - a place where I used to and grew back on my childhood days. Love your reflection content, thought this thoughts and feeling of mine is invalid but am not. More power to your channel❤.
the moment I find myself most lonely is when I worked in hustle bustle Jakarta and browsing Facebook to add more friends and updating my status to gain attention... it was the worst phase of my life. I ended up being a people pleaser to those who don't even care about me. one thing I learned, we all must first love ourselves first.
Love that u shared this. TOTALLY get what u went through because I went thru the exact same thing myself sadly. That particular “happening” image about myself I was manufacturing on FB in order to kinda stand out from the crowd n find connection cos I was just so lost amidst all the people. I felt drowned out. And who am I kidding? I ain’t happening I love staying in w friends n family haha
Hi Jean, I am 39 years old Indonesian residing in New York City. I recently discovered your videos on UA-cam, and I find them all to be really motivating and inspirational. I used to believe that having a successful life means having a wonderful career in a large city with good salary, which also means I don't need to save much money, buy whatever I want, and spend my money carelessly without further consideration of my financial situation. Until I was laid off two years ago - Thank God, I get to start over with my life now. Your videos encourage me to consider the long term plan that I need to have for myself and what I truly desire in this life. Actually, I hope to retire in Bali too someday. Thank you once again for all your wonderful videos and I wish you have a wonderful day! :)
Hi Ivone, thank you for this kind and very heartfelt note. It’s interesting to hear your story - brings back memories of my entire 20s! Happy to hear you’ve started over and now forward-looking - it’s never too late, and with consistency n a bit of luck, maybe like us you will be there sooner than you expect perhaps! All the best 😍🌸
Been there done that years ago, so I feel u 😅. What ever inner peace we seek, it's already in all of us, it's not a place nor anything, we just have to know who is inside us and listen. if sadness and happiness are feelings that rightfully yours to manage, like a TV with remote control then it's up to us what we want to watch, until u wish to share it.. Smile and be grateful we are alive and still have the calling from inside of us, don't ignore it.. Cheers
wise words! But i definitely find it easier to maintain my inner peace when i'm in the mountains in Thailand or here in the rural quiet areas of Bali, and i struggled so hard when stuck in the chaos of Tokyo, or Singapore or surrounded by everyone just chasing wealth in Dubai :( must meditate more to build up the inner emotional discipline la!
I like your down to earth comments, you seem to know how to live your life happily and do the things you like without worrying about what the rest of the world is doing. Well done and stay happy always.
Thankful that you are being so sincere, genuine, and honest with you audience!!! Glad that You are a cheerful and inspirational role-model~ *And I am looking forward to the growth of your amazing channel!!!*
thank you! i really appreciate it, as we have sort of a mixed audience on this channel so not everyone loves the slower stuff. But its part of me too! Thank you for loving it.
Love this video Jean! It takes great courage and a leap of faith to do what you did where i think most people including myself is struggling in. The usual path of getting a good education, getting a good job, rising up the ranks and etc just isn’t the only way anymore. It takes awareness i guess as the first step to know what we want and then to move forward with that. Great video once again.
Thank u Mag for this kind msg. I agree. In todays world there are so many ways for each of us to move towards a lifestyle that reflects our truth more than what society preaches, n each of us is different n what we want is also not identical. Can’t be that one mould fits 2 billion of us all right? 🤗😄
Thank you. I truly appreciate your introspective videos over the foodie ones. You have a voice (spiritual) that reaches out to the best parts of my spirit. It’s truly nice to hear your thoughts. Thank you
Oh thank u so much it’s so nice to hear! I love producing the bali life vlogs as well but the thoughtful content is what really appeals to my heart too so I’ve been thinking about returning more to that. A lot of Indonesian friends in this channel don’t enjoy those as much though I’m having a hard time making everyone happy haha
I suppose however I need to keep living my truth n stop being such a people pleaser. But it’s so hard! It’s so drilled into u esp as an Asian female lol
@@JeanVoronkova I enjoy the Bali life blogs also. please don't get me wrong... its specifically the food ones... after a dozen or so... I rather go look at an ocean coast. or a Rice feild, or a Temple or two. Bali food looks Wonderfull, but I am on a diet:)
Totally agree with your perspective regarding relationships in urban environment. I feel that is hard to build real and meaningful relationship because even if you are genuine, this may not be the case from the counterparty. Many people approach others for materials and/or other objective which is not really about the friendship. Some people may even hurt you to get their objective.
yeah very true. I was very disappointed with all my friendships from work. At the end of the day most of them turned out to be circumstantial and transactional relationships when i had invested myself somewhat more sincerely. Ah well. Can't control other people, so just have to accept it and move on.
@@JeanVoronkova - Well said and so true. 👍👍👍👍👍I worked and lived in many different countries (US, Dubai, Thailand, Europe) and in all of these places most people I met and that befriended me were fake. That's the reality of life.
Jean, once again an excellent video. A topic that most aren't comfortable with talking about but so necessary. Ernest Hemingway said, "life breaks us all and in the end we are stronger in the broken places". For me going back into nature has been the best therapy. :) - Philip von wrede
I’m so with you. I’m actually in the concrete jungles of Singapore right now hurtling around underground in the metal bullets of the metro here. Yeah nature rocks! I miss it in Bali already haha but so happy to see my family!
@@JeanVoronkova nature has a way of centering us back, healing us and bringing us to a higher vibration. Enjoy Singapore, I can't wait to make it back to Bali too. I'm still in Thailand, canceled my flight back and its been 3 months already. Keep the great content coming. - Philip von wrede
I live overseas, and earlier this month finally (bc severe lockdowns) was able to visit family in the states. I also saw 2 friends I hadn't seen in 15+ years and one more, 3 years. It was so great, that was the high point, reconnecting recharged my batteries.
thanks Eric3Frog, its just the overwhelming emotions of growing up and being a young adult across Singapore/Japan/Dubai. I did a lot of stupid things out of loneliness, looking back. No regrets, but i do contemplate. I think if i was not so lost in such a big crowd i would have been in a mentally healthier place, like the Balinese youth i see here. They're so wholesome and grounded. Anyway, just sharing my thoughts 🤓
Thank u Dom, so sweet of u. I’m actually at the airport now flying to SG when typing this! Super excited to see friends n family again! Sg vlogs coming up soon! U take care Over there yourself!
Love your very reflective videos, Jean. Thank you. You are so right- loneliness is something we all must deal with to a greater or lesser extent. I think for some, maybe most, it's a challenge never fully conquered but rather a natural consequence of our humanity. In my struggles with loneliness I have found it helpful to avoid the common "tools" for relief such as social media, television or the many other methods to distract oneself. Instead, I acknowledge the feelings and the more intense the loneliness, the greater effort I put into recognizing it and allowing it to be felt. It's counterintuitive, as my natural reaction to any uncomfortable emotion is to avoid it in any way possible. But any form of avoidance only provides transient relief. Using the recognition approach I have found the intensity of my loneliness has become less over time, and there's some real comfort in knowing I have a tool that always works. Meditation also helps deal with any uncomfortable emotion. I think humans are just naturally burdened by loneliness, possibly due to evolution since our distant ancestors were constantly amongst others, for the most part. So, the need for social interaction is natural but these days we are being more and more socially isolated either voluntarily or because society has changed and there's less and less need to be physically close to one another. It's no wonder so many are searching for relief from the anxiety/discomfort associated with loneliness. Best wishes to you and yours on Bali! Oh, and here's a possible topic for a future video- it would be interesting to know how life has been changing over time on Bali, if at all. I know more people are moving there, for example so I am wondering if it is impacting you and the locals, for better or worse?
hi Jeff, thank you for such a thoughtful and detailed comment that's so insightful. I too often avoid confronting my emotions head on. Its just a natural instinct for self protection maybe? but yes you are right, transient relief. it was far more difficult when i was younger, but with age i've started to lean into the loneliness and try practicing acceptance about what the situation is. but its sad to see places like Tokyo where people just shut themselves into their apartments and die in there and don't get discovered for weeks..... says a lot about our state of society today. SM like insta is just poison!
how very true, urban loneliness. have been trying to find a word for the feeling. now that i have my own family, and my oasis that is my home and gardening , i no longer feel this urban loneliness. i no longer need to be with so-called friends and people whom i try hard to fit in and pretends to be one of them. noise, they are now. ultimately, we seek a place and a few we can relates with, and this urban loneliness will disappear on its own. this is a nice and enlightening video, thanks 🙏🏻
I'm a balinese living in Mexico, and I thank you for beautiful and thoughtful contents you posted about your life in Bali, Indonesia. Wish I could live like you guys :) Your vlogs have became my favorite.
You're kidding me - from heaven you go to sewer Mexico!!!!! The world's top criminal enterprise for drugs, slavery and murder!!!!! Mexico has No Government and is run by Terrorist Drug Cartels!!!!! YOU CANNOT WALK THE STREETS IN MEXICO AT ANY TIME!!!!!
Thank u Raka 😍🤗I’m very happy we can bring a bit of home to you overseas in this way. Mexico is such a beautiful and artsy place too u must be living an inspired life
Heya Franklin good to see u! u can do it too with some time and planning! I just filmed today next week's episode and its the details about how we retired early and live in Bali without working. Hope you can tune in and it's helpful for u!
Thank you Ms. Jean for your videos❤ Your voice, your advices, your simplicity, your being honest are so comforting to my soul. Continue to be an inspiration. And I hope I can meet you in person.💞
This really resonates with me. I'm a bit of an introvert, I love quiet and simple things. I see myself living this simple lifestyle somewhere other than where I am now. I've never made friends easily so being alone is not a problem. People find me strange because I don't follow what everyone else accepts as the norm. What holds me back are family obligations and guilt. Otherwise I'd be gone in a heart beat. I can only live through others like you that took the initiative. Be genuine and live your best life.
I went to Jakarta international school back in the late 80s. Bali was a gem back then. Uluwatu was our surf spot. There was literally nothing in Uluwatu. We had to make our way down thru the brush to surf all day. Epic times back then! crazy development now. Bali has forever changed. Way too many tourists now. Overdeveloped. I am forever grateful i got to experience and live in Indonesia back in the 80s and 90s. Bali Dong….Gila bule! Jakarta-Sel.
thank you Jean, I can really relate to your comment about loneliness being the absence of connection and Bali is the only place I feel connected with the universe. Thank yoy for highlighting the importance of mental health. Bali clearly has chosen you, not everyone gets the call. Thank you for a wonderful n meaningful vlog ❤️
heya Teejay good to see you! yes true, Bali for us has that extra spirituality vibe that people like us feel i guess. or perhaps the people here are just so much more in touch with themselves and they have mental space for the people around them and we're just lucky to be able to be here :)
I really admire your strength to be different and to follow your heart. Is it not an easy thing to do especially in today's increasingly materialistic world. Thank you for making such inspiring videos
Hi Jean, I appreciate your perspective, your poise and your ability to share your experiences and life very openly. The video is very well put together, a work of art, thought provoking and engaging . I share a similar feeling of situational loneliness at times, lack of meaningful connections too. Caught up in the loop and habit of urban life I never had thought much about coping and finding solutions for this. Thanks again for posting this and all your videos. 🙏👏🇮🇩
hi stephen, glad i was able to share some ideas that you find worthy of more contemplation :) sometimes we just need people to crystallize in words feelings we haven't been able to put a finger to :) this evening i'm sharing about my path to retirement in Bali about 8 years on from quitting - maybe that'll be of interest to you too :)
you can be in a crowd and yet feel lonely. you can be alone and yet do not feel lonely. Jean, in many ways i feel the same way as you. great to know someone is articulating my thoughts as brilliantly as you
thank you wee tak, its nice to know my thoughts resonated with you out there. Alone definitely does not equate lonesomeness and actually being surrounded by people completely disconnected with me exacerbates the feeling of being like, the last sensitive person on earth sometimes. I'm glad thats mostly in the past for me these days and hope you found yourself a good situation in this aspect too hey
Since I was a little boy. I like being alone, often imagining the life I want. Even when there are many people around me, I prefer to stay silent and daydream or just play alone. I became a loner because of the situation in my family and environment. In my family I felt isolated when my old brother was always treated special, even when I was 6 years old after the birth of my little sister, which my parents really hoped for. I feel more and more left out. So I feel like I always want to go away from home even though I have to live as a bum. But the courage to leave the house was not enough, so I always tried to survive into adulthood to leave the life I didn't want. Then when I grew up and entered married life, the reality of marriege life that I had to build, a simple and happy small family was never achieved. In the end, disappointment and failure always happen in everything, even though I always keep learning and trying to improve myself. Currently I use a lot of time to be alone and try to pay off all kinds of debts that arise from failure and disappointment, while I make a life plan and learn again to step little by little towards my life goals and hope that God will still allow me to live until my hopes come true. However. I always gratefull for everything happen in my life that GOD gave to me. I think you more lucky. And you should gratefull too. Because there other unfortuned people around us.
hi Karya, thanks for sharing your story in such detail. Sorry to hear you've spent most of your life steeped in loneliness. I don't understand the part about debts arising from failure and disappointment though. How does that link up? But despite all of life's challenges, its true that we shd all live life with an attitude of gratitude. I definitely believe in that very strongly and i give thanks everyday for all my blessings.
@Karya Mode Industri - Thanks for sharing some details of your personal situation with us. I can underdstand your situation very well. When parents treat children differently, it creates a void in the child that gets less attention and hence creates other unexpected situations and challenges for that individual in life. There are 3 siblings (myself included) in my family and I am the eldest. I was always a quiet and reserved type of person that kept to myself. My family misunderstood me often because of my quiet nature and even used it against me to hurt me. I am 54 years old and learned my lessons in life. I wish you a lot of courage and hope that your goals will become a reality soon in the future. All the very best to you! 🙏
aloha jean. your messages today reflect my own as my home, too, is on an island in the middle of the pacific ocean. this weekend, I will enjoy the icy-cold river, the summer sun, the trade winds, the ocean scent...summer is just around the corner. happy summer.
Hey Jean , here’s my story. I’m more or less as similar as you. I’m 22 this year and am struggling to connect to people , it’s not i can’t connect or vibe w the right ones or whatever, but it’s just i’m tired of all this small talks w ppl in work alr, all bc i know they won’t be my “ BFF “ so why waste time ? it’s like i’ll force myself to join in js bc ppl will think i’m a loner or whatsoever. There’s no prob in me talking to ppl or vibing, it’s js i feel it’s so meaningless since they won’t be w u forever base on the vibe we talk/connect. I’m happy being alone by myself and that’s what i want but my work requires me to talk to ppl which i kindda dislike ( due to my past ) and that’s why i’ve stoppped all this and j wna be alone. Like i’ll want to move to somewhr rural as well in the future. Personally, bc of my introverted nature, i wouldn’t want to talk to ppl that won’t be w me forever, u get it ahaha. Any advice u can give a young 22yo guy here ? Would love to connect more with u if possible.
I enjoy this kind of video the most from you Jean. You really do a great job and I believe you are able to reach many people. Keep up the wonderful work! 🌱🛡️🌱✨🌞
hey ronald good to see you! this evening i'm sharing about my path to retirement about 8 years on from quitting - maybe that'll be of interest to you too :)
Thanks for the video Jean. Really thought provoking to here more of your journey through life. Not an easy thing to do and you touched on thoughts and feelings many of us have felt. Certainly got me thinking about life, friendships and future direction. Love the weekly Bali fix! Keep up the great videos.
thank you George, i'm very appreciative of the support and the fact that my journey to and in Bali is being followed by you. this evening i'm sharing about my path to retirement in Bali about 8 years on from quitting my former Big Law career.... maybe that'll be of interest to you too :)
Lucky you, the right person has certainly been placed on your path in life. Happily ever together! Other than that I'm glad the loneliness has been soothed by your choice of being in Bali, but its getting crowded by the day. Hopefully you'll still enjoy some little undiscovered corner. I certainly can resonate with what you feel in the whole video. Its surreal, like seeing my younger life summarized in 9 mins. I thought the owl in your garden was really cute, and in the end perched in V's hand? So tame! Got another dog huh? 😃
Haha yeah, actually before V I thought I will end up growing old alone just hopefully w good friends in my life. It felt like fate though if u knew the details of our story. Second time around kinda thing. Btw that owl is actually our neighbor’s pet Sofa! So she’s super tame. She just got confused that day about our houses so she came n hung out w us all day that day lol
Yes, urban loniness is real. So for me, I pray, meditate and sing spiritual songs to connect myself with God daily. It has been wonderful. Connection with people is so superficial nowadays but I am still trying to do so at work. Nice people are hard to come by, at least in my case. Recently I hired a Burmese maid to look after my aging mum. She has had previous employment with another Singaporean family who ill treated her. But I made sure she is comfortable to work for me and well provided for. After a few months, she told me, after me, she wouldn't want to work for another Singaporean family. Her own Burmese friends often shared how hard it is to work for Singapore families. Why do people have to be so mean? Then again, there are good maids and there are also bad maids. I am lucky to have a good maid. I told her, I want her to experience kindness in this world. I find people relationships in Singapore very superficial and artificial. Whether it is at work or outside. People in Singapore generally live in the mind whilst the people in Bali live in the heart. I guess it’s the mindset and the spiritual development of each country. The Singapore mind is overly developed while its spirituality is still very primitive. As for work, I just use it as a mean to provide me financially. I’d wish to be financially free but it’s not easy. I guess I can only do so at 65 when my cpf life starts. As for now, I will work with life balance and get some passive income while just waiting for that time to come. My wants are fewer than most people. Most importantly, I take good care of my health through proper diet and exercises. Mentally and spiritually, I am relying on meditation and prayer.
Gd morning Jean. Thank u again for another informative video. It's seems so peaceful and Serene there. Now that's heaven on earth to me So much chaotic things constantly taking place in these scary times. However so glad your finding your inner happiness and peace.. just have to tap into it.. your videos allow me to relax and unwind . So refreshing. Thank u so much. Pray to visit there one day. God bless and vitali . God bless you.
Hi Richard, thank you for the kind note n good morning to u too! Glad we can spread peace vibes with this video :) I hope u make it over here to visit one day too. Amazing place. Have a lovely week on ur end 🤩🤗
Wow your voice so softly and sound so gentle. May I tell you write the book story about yourself life and moving to 1000 temples and 1000 face’s. Good luck and be happy that is good life. Cheers girl.🥂🥂🥂from LA
Awesome video. That's the island of god healing you. I am Indonesian who used to study and stay in SG for 14 years and now back in Jakarta since 2011. SG life is just too fast paced and stressful for some.
Jean, you're such a Beautiful Person with a Beautiful Life! I enjoy all of your videos! I'm going to make it out there someday! I'll see you out at Karamas! 😊
simple life and surrounded by ordinary balinese people who live religiously harmony with their belief and environments that what Bali so attractive to me... also lots durians 😋, Have a thought to settle there as well in near future.... may see u oneday 😉
yes, you totally hit the nail on the head. Those are exactly the same reasons why we love living here too. It's a different version of Bali to most, but this is the Bali that i treasure. Hope your plans to settle here come through!
Hi Jean that is really amazing and wonderful shared wow very inspiring, I agree in everything you said, simple things mostly make us happy to appreciated things that we don't see in a big city, I admire you guys, thanks for sharing 😀💝
every vidio mrs Jean look nice , couse Penjelasannya local banget .. penjelasan orang asing yg suka indo dgn cara asia / explane with asia way , mkanya vidionya tetap enak n nyaman utk di lihat , hope stay healty n love indo yaa.. ok thx (jimmy s)
Hello Jean 👋 !! Thanks for putting this together and explaining your thought process, very good. You are in the correct place at the correct time 🌴🌊🌊🌊🏝🚶♂️🚶♀️🐕🏡☀️. Us introverts need to speak up, step forward and explain - we are OK - thanks very much 😃👍. This is what we do and how we are !! Cheers, Don
Exactimo Don! The world we operate in just revolves around extroverts really and we r judged mostly by those standards in everything we do. Alternative choices aren’t bad, just different :)
Hey Jean, I love your videos. What is your human design? I feel like you are a projector like me, I totally resonate with everything you say! I also live in Bali and have been here for almost a year. Glad to hear you are enjoying Bali too, Uluwatu is so beautiful, I'd love to move there too :)
ooh what an interesting question! i have come across human design on Google some years back but i don't remember what mine is already. I need to go revisit the concepts! Bali is the best thing that ever happened to me and its all my dreams come true. This is all i want in life haha. As small as that may sound. Yeahh ulu is great! where do u live now? canggu?
@@JeanVoronkova human design is super interesting! I love learning about it. I totally understand and even thinking the grass is greener in a western country isn’t true. Many people are not happy there even though they have what society says they should have like a mortgage and a house! I will totally understand and its not small at all. It’s a big achievement to have the guts to move away from a career like you did to follow your dreams. Not many people will do that unfortunately and they will be angry or sad inside that they didn’t pursue their dreams. I totally admire what you have done! 😊 I live in Canggu just because of the vegan options haha. I love Uluwatu though its like my little getaway place!
🇺🇲 Forever Greatful You are , You have Peace today , stay on Your path it is doing You well ! You share Your Heart so very Sweet an Kind ! Thank You J girl 👧 💓
lol the eternal question! no we are actually early retired, we scraped together enough passive income to sustain our living costs here so we don't have to go get jobs. YT is a nice bonus money wise but its very unreliable so i would personally never count on it for life support. Not my style. Actually i just filmed next week's episode today, about how i retired to live in Bali without working. The dirty details are all in there! Hope you can tune in :) thanks @kaumageran
Lovely video, thanks for sharing. I am considering moving to Bali in September. Currently, I am looking to start my journey in Ubud and explore from there. May I ask the name of the area you are living? Also, do they have high-speed internet available in the villa to support live streaming video for work?
Take a deep mindful breath .. As we grow into adults, we lose contact with this natural body wisdom and the message that deep diaphragmatic breath reinforces in the body and mind - that we are safe. Our thinking, planning, ruminating, reactive brain captures this deep, natural state, and we slip into the high, rapid breath that is “lung breathing.” While quick and somewhat efficient, this shallow breathing can trigger the body’s fight or flight response, sending blood and oxygen to our extremities to help us escape from a threat or stress. We can override this response and return to a parasympathetic state - a place of balance and a state of equanimity - by shifting our breathing deep into our belly. Breathe deeply and allow your belly to expand! Allowing shallow breathing to return to normal. Mindful breathing offers a path that can calm the mind, increase our awareness and understanding & insight .. Find an opportunity to return to the breath - again, and again, and again .. Let your breath be your anchor, your place of refuge and peace. Quieten and still the mind, it's value insurmountable ..
Yeah big city plus lonely has a way of making u feel like it’s totally the end right? I think no matter how, within a small village u r still part of the community there, u feel measured and realised as a person. In big cities I just feel like my identity gets erased in the crowd.
I just found your channel and I must say its very enlightening and thought provoking. I would love to see a video on how you two met! and more so about the yourselves and your family ...etc. I hope that's not to invasive! On an other note, we are retiring next year end of 2023, and would like your thoughts on whether 8 weeks would be sufficient to cover the following places - Vietnam - Thailand - Bali This will be our 1st time in South-East Asia so its all new to us, we are in our early 60's active and youthful still! We have to be in Perth Australia on March 1st 2024 Would you recommend losing one of these places? If so which one? Thank you and keep up the good vibes/ spirits.
Hi Tony, thanks for leaving this note. Very excited for your plans! Happy to share my thoughts based on our own past decade in these 3 places. I spent 8 years in Vn (Vitaly 12) - we loved living in Mui Ne and the whole country in general but bear in mind this is largely cos we are kitesurfers. Vn is also a very acquired taste in my opinion. The first time I visited HCM city I spent 3 days there having an absolute headache from all the noise and chaos and was only too glad to leave, saying I’ll never be back! Funnily enough I ended up spending 8 years there in the end n loving it! But for long term stay, Vietnamese Language is a huge barrier cos it’s really hard to pick up, n ultimately Bali has better waves for us plus a culture we love more - it’s more spiritual, quiet, communal. Hence our final destination is here. But again, that’s from a surf+love Asian food perspective. Out of the 3 Thailand attracts me the least cos it’s not a great surf destination overall but wow the food and people are surely awesome n they got some lovely beaches too. U def shd visit all 3 to decide, but 8 weeks to cover all 3 isn’t really enough to choose one for keeps. Hopefully u can find more time and if u do, def cover these spots : Bali - Canggu, Ubud, Uluwatu, Vietnam - HCM, Nha Trang, Dalat (all v diff feels), and Thailand (Bangkok, Chiangmai). This is just the basic starters to give u a bit of a sense for each country tho n they r all v different types of places! Quite honestly u cd spread ur retirement across the 3 over like 8 years and then u’ll really know which one is ur cup of tea 🤣🤣🤣
So true, the world is so huge n wide yet u can still feel lonely It’s boil down to the people u keep ard u Hence I have ousted hibye friends colleagues n keep mainly to myself I talk about topics I’m interested in n listen if it’s not of my interest Still in a search for meaning in my life
Yeah. Hibye friends r the worst. I’ve had to let go of some old friends from my history because we’ve just grown along such different paths over the years n that’s been very sad for me too. Not used to not really having them in my life anymore but having to accept they really aren’t there in reality either. Hard to find connection in todays world so let’s cherish the ones we have found :)
Hi doc selva! Thanks for tuning in :) VN has a super different energy from Bali in terms of people n place. It’s great to go there if ure seeking adventure and happenings! They’re wonderfully cheerful n noisy n direct n cheeky! Bali my version at least is much more serene n calm n peaceful but it suits me in my current frame of mind haa
Singapore education system does not teach us to slow down & enjoy the finer things in life. We are taught to comply & go with the flow. The system controls us.
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I don’t exactly feel lonely, but I’ve been having a hard time reconnecting with friends lately-with the pandemic it was so easy to throw myself into everything that I wanted to grow and develop inside myself and spend time with family. Branching back out has been difficult, especially when I’ve spent much of my time trying to develop myself to escape the 9-5. I’ve always felt displaced in traditional work environments-just disconnected. I’m smart, I work hard, so on paper I should “belong” but I’ve never felt like I have-too creative, too skeptical, too “outside the box”. I find your story and channel inspiring! Thank you for just being awesome!
Hey hey I love your nick!! It conjures up a very specific n appealing image in my imagination lol! Anyway thanks for the sweet msg I loved what u share. I kinda hv the same feeling. I really somewhat (n quietly) rejoiced over the pandemic period cos I was so happy alone inside home doing my own creative stuff being in my own world. Such a relief from the hustle bustle of normal life to have that extended introspective period.
I don’t think I feel the need to branch back out though. Is it something you feel u really truly need to do or is it just cos u feel it’s what’s “normal”?
Bear in mind people like u n me may be just outliers cos we crave for different things mentally that others don’t, that may explain why u always feel a lil out at the workplace, but I don’t think also u shd feel that as a disadvantage. I wouldn’t want to be like all of them really, if I asked myself honestly. I like me.
Dear Jean.
I'd never commented on anyone posts like I do with yours. I feel like I have many some feelings in common. You're both have wonderful life experiences.
I'm an introvert formed by the environment of childhood and family. My childhood was in a village far from crowds, but I was happy with a simple life. Now I live in an urban area that is too crowded, congested and a lot of traffic jams. But I feel lonely. I just feel comfortable with my little family at home. Sometimes, I want to go back to the village. Live simply. With a modest frequency. But here we are, life is simple but simple life isn't easy. We just have to be grateful for all that we have got.
Thank you for sharing your feelings and experiences with all of us. Love you both. ❤️❤️❤️
Hi Oom, so true, and thank you for the wise words. In creating the content on this channel I’ve realised so few people understand what u just said - that life can be simple but a simple life isn’t per se easy. I think there’s a growing movement of people moving away from cities back to the rural areas, like from Jakarta to bAli for example, I’ve met quite a few of them now. Maybe u can slowly move towards this idea with your family if it’s what truly suits you. Truly meaningful changes takes time to manifest with slow and steady action. I will be rooting for you!
Living in one of the country in Europe, high salary, busy everyday hussling for money and yet feeling lonely, unhappy but not ungrateful and still longing for inner peace and simple countryside life - a place where I used to and grew back on my childhood days. Love your reflection content, thought this thoughts and feeling of mine is invalid but am not. More power to your channel❤.
the moment I find myself most lonely is when I worked in hustle bustle Jakarta and browsing Facebook to add more friends and updating my status to gain attention... it was the worst phase of my life. I ended up being a people pleaser to those who don't even care about me.
one thing I learned, we all must first love ourselves first.
Love that u shared this. TOTALLY get what u went through because I went thru the exact same thing myself sadly. That particular “happening” image about myself I was manufacturing on FB in order to kinda stand out from the crowd n find connection cos I was just so lost amidst all the people. I felt drowned out. And who am I kidding? I ain’t happening I love staying in w friends n family haha
I feel like you just gave me a kind hug. Thank you 🤗.
hey Eric3Frog nice to see you! Thanks for your time to watch my thoughts :) wishing you a lovely Saturday night with good company 🤗.
Hi Jean, I am 39 years old Indonesian residing in New York City. I recently discovered your videos on UA-cam, and I find them all to be really motivating and inspirational. I used to believe that having a successful life means having a wonderful career in a large city with good salary, which also means I don't need to save much money, buy whatever I want, and spend my money carelessly without further consideration of my financial situation. Until I was laid off two years ago - Thank God, I get to start over with my life now. Your videos encourage me to consider the long term plan that I need to have for myself and what I truly desire in this life. Actually, I hope to retire in Bali too someday. Thank you once again for all your wonderful videos and I wish you have a wonderful day! :)
Hi Ivone, thank you for this kind and very heartfelt note. It’s interesting to hear your story - brings back memories of my entire 20s! Happy to hear you’ve started over and now forward-looking - it’s never too late, and with consistency n a bit of luck, maybe like us you will be there sooner than you expect perhaps! All the best 😍🌸
Been there done that years ago, so I feel u 😅. What ever inner peace we seek, it's already in all of us, it's not a place nor anything, we just have to know who is inside us and listen. if sadness and happiness are feelings that rightfully yours to manage, like a TV with remote control then it's up to us what we want to watch, until u wish to share it.. Smile and be grateful we are alive and still have the calling from inside of us, don't ignore it.. Cheers
wise words! But i definitely find it easier to maintain my inner peace when i'm in the mountains in Thailand or here in the rural quiet areas of Bali, and i struggled so hard when stuck in the chaos of Tokyo, or Singapore or surrounded by everyone just chasing wealth in Dubai :( must meditate more to build up the inner emotional discipline la!
I like your down to earth comments, you seem to know how to live your life happily and do the things you like without worrying about what the rest of the world is doing. Well done and stay happy always.
Thankful that you are being so sincere, genuine, and honest with you audience!!!
Glad that You are a cheerful and inspirational role-model~
*And I am looking forward to the growth of your amazing channel!!!*
😸 You got this~
Do your best
Love introspective contents!
thank you! i really appreciate it, as we have sort of a mixed audience on this channel so not everyone loves the slower stuff. But its part of me too! Thank you for loving it.
Love this video Jean! It takes great courage and a leap of faith to do what you did where i think most people including myself is struggling in. The usual path of getting a good education, getting a good job, rising up the ranks and etc just isn’t the only way anymore. It takes awareness i guess as the first step to know what we want and then to move forward with that. Great video once again.
Thank u Mag for this kind msg. I agree. In todays world there are so many ways for each of us to move towards a lifestyle that reflects our truth more than what society preaches, n each of us is different n what we want is also not identical. Can’t be that one mould fits 2 billion of us all right? 🤗😄
Thank you 🙏🏻 dear stay happy ♥️
thank you Butterflies, happy saturday to you too dear
@@JeanVoronkova 💃💜
Thank you. I truly appreciate your introspective videos over the foodie ones. You have a voice (spiritual) that reaches out to the best parts of my spirit. It’s truly nice to hear your thoughts. Thank you
Oh thank u so much it’s so nice to hear! I love producing the bali life vlogs as well but the thoughtful content is what really appeals to my heart too so I’ve been thinking about returning more to that. A lot of Indonesian friends in this channel don’t enjoy those as much though I’m having a hard time making everyone happy haha
I suppose however I need to keep living my truth n stop being such a people pleaser. But it’s so hard! It’s so drilled into u esp as an Asian female lol
@@JeanVoronkova I enjoy the Bali life blogs also. please don't get me wrong... its specifically the food ones... after a dozen or so... I rather go look at an ocean coast. or a Rice feild, or a Temple or two. Bali food looks Wonderfull, but I am on a diet:)
Wow your videos are so full of heart and soul. I relate to you on so many levels. Thank you for sharing with such honesty 💛💛💛
I'm an introvert, sensitive, and a homebody like you! You're an inspiration Jean
wow! Your videos are so good! This video resonated with me so much 💖
Totally agree with your perspective regarding relationships in urban environment. I feel that is hard to build real and meaningful relationship because even if you are genuine, this may not be the case from the counterparty. Many people approach others for materials and/or other objective which is not really about the friendship. Some people may even hurt you to get their objective.
yeah very true. I was very disappointed with all my friendships from work. At the end of the day most of them turned out to be circumstantial and transactional relationships when i had invested myself somewhat more sincerely. Ah well. Can't control other people, so just have to accept it and move on.
@@JeanVoronkova Yup. Same goes for me.
@@JeanVoronkova - Well said and so true. 👍👍👍👍👍I worked and lived in many different countries (US, Dubai, Thailand, Europe) and in all of these places most people I met and that befriended me were fake. That's the reality of life.
Jean, once again an excellent video. A topic that most aren't comfortable with talking about but so necessary. Ernest Hemingway said, "life breaks us all and in the end we are stronger in the broken places". For me going back into nature has been the best therapy. :) - Philip von wrede
I’m so with you. I’m actually in the concrete jungles of Singapore right now hurtling around underground in the metal bullets of the metro here. Yeah nature rocks! I miss it in Bali already haha but so happy to see my family!
@@JeanVoronkova nature has a way of centering us back, healing us and bringing us to a higher vibration. Enjoy Singapore, I can't wait to make it back to Bali too. I'm still in Thailand, canceled my flight back and its been 3 months already. Keep the great content coming. - Philip von wrede
I live overseas, and earlier this month finally (bc severe lockdowns) was able to visit family in the states. I also saw 2 friends I hadn't seen in 15+ years and one more, 3 years. It was so great, that was the high point, reconnecting recharged my batteries.
Yeah I’m super introvert so talking to most ppl leaves me drained. But speaking w old friends n family gives me energy! U must be an intro too :)
Thank you for sharing your peace and joy with us. Bless you.
I love watching your vids and listening to your voice so calm and soothing.
You have a beautiful spirit. Thanks 🙏 for sharing your experiences.
thanks Eric3Frog, its just the overwhelming emotions of growing up and being a young adult across Singapore/Japan/Dubai. I did a lot of stupid things out of loneliness, looking back. No regrets, but i do contemplate. I think if i was not so lost in such a big crowd i would have been in a mentally healthier place, like the Balinese youth i see here. They're so wholesome and grounded. Anyway, just sharing my thoughts 🤓
I'm so glad that you talk about mental health, because that is very important in life. Another great video by you Jean sweetheart.
Thank u Dom, so sweet of u. I’m actually at the airport now flying to SG when typing this! Super excited to see friends n family again! Sg vlogs coming up soon! U take care Over there yourself!
Love your very reflective videos, Jean. Thank you. You are so right- loneliness is something we all must deal with to a greater or lesser extent. I think for some, maybe most, it's a challenge never fully conquered but rather a natural consequence of our humanity. In my struggles with loneliness I have found it helpful to avoid the common "tools" for relief such as social media, television or the many other methods to distract oneself. Instead, I acknowledge the feelings and the more intense the loneliness, the greater effort I put into recognizing it and allowing it to be felt. It's counterintuitive, as my natural reaction to any uncomfortable emotion is to avoid it in any way possible. But any form of avoidance only provides transient relief. Using the recognition approach I have found the intensity of my loneliness has become less over time, and there's some real comfort in knowing I have a tool that always works. Meditation also helps deal with any uncomfortable emotion. I think humans are just naturally burdened by loneliness, possibly due to evolution since our distant ancestors were constantly amongst others, for the most part. So, the need for social interaction is natural but these days we are being more and more socially isolated either voluntarily or because society has changed and there's less and less need to be physically close to one another. It's no wonder so many are searching for relief from the anxiety/discomfort associated with loneliness. Best wishes to you and yours on Bali! Oh, and here's a possible topic for a future video- it would be interesting to know how life has been changing over time on Bali, if at all. I know more people are moving there, for example so I am wondering if it is impacting you and the locals, for better or worse?
hi Jeff, thank you for such a thoughtful and detailed comment that's so insightful. I too often avoid confronting my emotions head on. Its just a natural instinct for self protection maybe? but yes you are right, transient relief. it was far more difficult when i was younger, but with age i've started to lean into the loneliness and try practicing acceptance about what the situation is. but its sad to see places like Tokyo where people just shut themselves into their apartments and die in there and don't get discovered for weeks..... says a lot about our state of society today. SM like insta is just poison!
how very true, urban loneliness. have been trying to find a word for the feeling. now that i have my own family, and my oasis that is my home and gardening , i no longer feel this urban loneliness. i no longer need to be with so-called friends and people whom i try hard to fit in and pretends to be one of them. noise, they are now. ultimately, we seek a place and a few we can relates with, and this urban loneliness will disappear on its own. this is a nice and enlightening video, thanks 🙏🏻
when there's real connection we don't need quantity :) "noise" is a good way to put it :)
I'm a balinese living in Mexico, and I thank you for beautiful and thoughtful contents you posted about your life in Bali, Indonesia. Wish I could live like you guys :) Your vlogs have became my favorite.
You're kidding me - from heaven you go to sewer Mexico!!!!!
The world's top criminal enterprise for drugs, slavery and murder!!!!!
Mexico has No Government and is run by Terrorist Drug Cartels!!!!!
YOU CANNOT WALK THE STREETS IN MEXICO AT ANY TIME!!!!!
Thank u Raka 😍🤗I’m very happy we can bring a bit of home to you overseas in this way. Mexico is such a beautiful and artsy place too u must be living an inspired life
I m so glad to hear you hav a good life without being tied to normal jobs, I wish I would enjoy a similar life years ahead .....
Heya Franklin good to see u! u can do it too with some time and planning! I just filmed today next week's episode and its the details about how we retired early and live in Bali without working. Hope you can tune in and it's helpful for u!
Thank you for sharing😊🙏❤️🌻✨️
I find her voice weirdly calming 😆😆❤️lots of love from Kenya!
Haha thanks! Happy to spread peace vibes!
Beautiful message and video. Thank you!
thanks for your time to watch :)
Thank you Ms. Jean for your videos❤ Your voice, your advices, your simplicity, your being honest are so comforting to my soul. Continue to be an inspiration. And I hope I can meet you in person.💞
You are still young and charming ♡♡
A lot of happiness is coming!
I love your laughter♡♡
Beautiful Video, as usual.. thank you
Thanks for sharing Jean
This really resonates with me. I'm a bit of an introvert, I love quiet and simple things. I see myself living this simple lifestyle somewhere other than where I am now. I've never made friends easily so being alone is not a problem. People find me strange because I don't follow what everyone else accepts as the norm. What holds me back are family obligations and guilt. Otherwise I'd be gone in a heart beat. I can only live through others like you that took the initiative. Be genuine and live your best life.
You look and sound more calm… thats all it matters.
I like what you have done. I am also staying in Asia and peace is priceless.
I went to Jakarta international school back in the late 80s. Bali was a gem back then. Uluwatu was our surf spot. There was literally nothing in Uluwatu. We had to make our way down thru the brush to surf all day. Epic times back then! crazy development now. Bali has forever changed. Way too many tourists now. Overdeveloped. I am forever grateful i got to experience and live in Indonesia back in the 80s and 90s. Bali Dong….Gila bule! Jakarta-Sel.
Very nice self reflection talk with your soothing voice. You are living life as it is meant to be. Enjoy.......... Thanks for this video.
Thank u! Glad the msg resonated 🙏😎😍
thank you Jean, I can really relate to your comment about loneliness being the absence of connection and Bali is the only place I feel connected with the universe. Thank yoy for highlighting the importance of mental health. Bali clearly has chosen you, not everyone gets the call. Thank you for a wonderful n meaningful vlog ❤️
heya Teejay good to see you! yes true, Bali for us has that extra spirituality vibe that people like us feel i guess. or perhaps the people here are just so much more in touch with themselves and they have mental space for the people around them and we're just lucky to be able to be here :)
I really admire your strength to be different and to follow your heart. Is it not an easy thing to do especially in today's increasingly materialistic world. Thank you for making such inspiring videos
Hi Jean, I appreciate your perspective, your poise and your ability to share your experiences and life very openly. The video is very well put together, a work of art, thought provoking and engaging . I share a similar feeling of situational loneliness at times, lack of meaningful connections too. Caught up in the loop and habit of urban life I never had thought much about coping and finding solutions for this. Thanks again for posting this and all your videos. 🙏👏🇮🇩
hi stephen, glad i was able to share some ideas that you find worthy of more contemplation :) sometimes we just need people to crystallize in words feelings we haven't been able to put a finger to :) this evening i'm sharing about my path to retirement in Bali about 8 years on from quitting - maybe that'll be of interest to you too :)
@@JeanVoronkova looking forward to it😀
It’s out an hour ago! Hope u like it!
you can be in a crowd and yet feel lonely. you can be alone and yet do not feel lonely. Jean, in many ways i feel the same way as you. great to know someone is articulating my thoughts as brilliantly as you
thank you wee tak, its nice to know my thoughts resonated with you out there. Alone definitely does not equate lonesomeness and actually being surrounded by people completely disconnected with me exacerbates the feeling of being like, the last sensitive person on earth sometimes. I'm glad thats mostly in the past for me these days and hope you found yourself a good situation in this aspect too hey
@@JeanVoronkova 在你的视频中，我可以感受到你的快乐和安心. 我在你的 Instagram 邮箱中分享了一些有意义的经典歌曲。希望你喜欢.
@@JeanVoronkova totally agree... it is about做回自己, be ourselves and be honest to our hearts. 🙂
Oh… the owl is so cute!!! 🤗
her name is Sofa! She's my neighbor's pet! isn't it amazing? she got lost n hung out in our garden that day 💖
Good sharing, Jean 🙏🙏🙏
thank you Kai Seng! glad you liked it :)
Since I was a little boy. I like being alone, often imagining the life I want.
Even when there are many people around me, I prefer to stay silent and daydream or just play alone.
I became a loner because of the situation in my family and environment.
In my family I felt isolated when my old brother was always treated special, even when I was 6 years old after the birth of my little sister, which my parents really hoped for. I feel more and more left out. So I feel like I always want to go away from home even though I have to live as a bum.
But the courage to leave the house was not enough, so I always tried to survive into adulthood to leave the life I didn't want.
Then when I grew up and entered married life, the reality of marriege life that I had to build, a simple and happy small family was never achieved.
In the end, disappointment and failure always happen in everything, even though I always keep learning and trying to improve myself. Currently I use a lot of time to be alone and try to pay off all kinds of debts that arise from failure and disappointment, while I make a life plan and learn again to step little by little towards my life goals and hope that God will still allow me to live until my hopes come true.
However. I always gratefull for everything happen in my life that GOD gave to me.
I think you more lucky. And you should gratefull too. Because there other unfortuned people around us.
hi Karya, thanks for sharing your story in such detail. Sorry to hear you've spent most of your life steeped in loneliness. I don't understand the part about debts arising from failure and disappointment though. How does that link up? But despite all of life's challenges, its true that we shd all live life with an attitude of gratitude. I definitely believe in that very strongly and i give thanks everyday for all my blessings.
@Karya Mode Industri - Thanks for sharing some details of your personal situation with us. I can underdstand your situation very well. When parents treat children differently, it creates a void in the child that gets less attention and hence creates other unexpected situations and challenges for that individual in life. There are 3 siblings (myself included) in my family and I am the eldest. I was always a quiet and reserved type of person that kept to myself. My family misunderstood me often because of my quiet nature and even used it against me to hurt me. I am 54 years old and learned my lessons in life. I wish you a lot of courage and hope that your goals will become a reality soon in the future. All the very best to you! 🙏
aloha jean. your messages today reflect my own as my home, too, is on an island in the middle of the pacific ocean. this weekend, I will enjoy the icy-cold river, the summer sun, the trade winds, the ocean scent...summer is just around the corner. happy summer.
sounds so wonderful just from your description Rick! wanna go swim in the river and squeal at the cold water already haha
Love your videos. Cant get enough!
thank you Rihas! wishing u a warm and cosy Saturday night!
@@JeanVoronkova likewise, Jean and Vitalli ❤️
Hey Jean , here’s my story. I’m more or less as similar as you. I’m 22 this year and am struggling to connect to people , it’s not i can’t connect or vibe w the right ones or whatever, but it’s just i’m tired of all this small talks w ppl in work alr, all bc i know they won’t be my “ BFF “ so why waste time ? it’s like i’ll force myself to join in js bc ppl will think i’m a loner or whatsoever. There’s no prob in me talking to ppl or vibing, it’s js i feel it’s so meaningless since they won’t be w u forever base on the vibe we talk/connect. I’m happy being alone by myself and that’s what i want but my work requires me to talk to ppl which i kindda dislike ( due to my past ) and that’s why i’ve stoppped all this and j wna be alone. Like i’ll want to move to somewhr rural as well in the future. Personally, bc of my introverted nature, i wouldn’t want to talk to ppl that won’t be w me forever, u get it ahaha. Any advice u can give a young 22yo guy here ? Would love to connect more with u if possible.
Thank you, such an inspiring video !
Hi Andrea, thanks for the note and wishing u a good weekend!
I enjoy this kind of video the most from you Jean. You really do a great job and I believe you are able to reach many people. Keep up the wonderful work! 🌱🛡️🌱✨🌞
Thank you so much Wade you're also so kind!
Thank you Jean. You’ve enlightened me again.
hey ronald good to see you! this evening i'm sharing about my path to retirement about 8 years on from quitting - maybe that'll be of interest to you too :)
Thanks for the video Jean. Really thought provoking to here more of your journey through life. Not an easy thing to do and you touched on thoughts and feelings many of us have felt. Certainly got me thinking about life, friendships and future direction.
Love the weekly Bali fix! Keep up the great videos.
thank you George, i'm very appreciative of the support and the fact that my journey to and in Bali is being followed by you. this evening i'm sharing about my path to retirement in Bali about 8 years on from quitting my former Big Law career.... maybe that'll be of interest to you too :)
you look good and happy, Jean n Vitali.
makasih banyak Aku :) hope your saturday night is warm n cosy 😉
Really a very profound video Jean
Thank u Victor 😍🤩
Great video Jean ! & I definitely agree with your video! 🧡
thanks! nice!
Hey Jean, Thanks for putting this together & explaining your thought process, very good. Well..... i hope someday, we can meet in Bali....🙏
Hi M, thank you! glad the video resonated! wishing u a lovely Saturday!
What an inspiring video,no words to say
Lucky you, the right person has certainly been placed on your path in life. Happily ever together! Other than that I'm glad the loneliness has been soothed by your choice of being in Bali, but its getting crowded by the day. Hopefully you'll still enjoy some little undiscovered corner. I certainly can resonate with what you feel in the whole video. Its surreal, like seeing my younger life summarized in 9 mins. I thought the owl in your garden was really cute, and in the end perched in V's hand? So tame! Got another dog huh? 😃
Haha yeah, actually before V I thought I will end up growing old alone just hopefully w good friends in my life. It felt like fate though if u knew the details of our story. Second time around kinda thing. Btw that owl is actually our neighbor’s pet Sofa! So she’s super tame. She just got confused that day about our houses so she came n hung out w us all day that day lol
Yes, urban loniness is real. So for me, I pray, meditate and sing spiritual songs to connect myself with God daily. It has been wonderful. Connection with people is so superficial nowadays but I am still trying to do so at work. Nice people are hard to come by, at least in my case.
Recently I hired a Burmese maid to look after my aging mum. She has had previous employment with another Singaporean family who ill treated her. But I made sure she is comfortable to work for me and well provided for. After a few months, she told me, after me, she wouldn't want to work for another Singaporean family. Her own Burmese friends often shared how hard it is to work for Singapore families. Why do people have to be so mean? Then again, there are good maids and there are also bad maids. I am lucky to have a good maid. I told her, I want her to experience kindness in this world.
I find people relationships in Singapore very superficial and artificial. Whether it is at work or outside. People in Singapore generally live in the mind whilst the people in Bali live in the heart. I guess it’s the mindset and the spiritual development of each country. The Singapore mind is overly developed while its spirituality is still very primitive.
As for work, I just use it as a mean to provide me financially. I’d wish to be financially free but it’s not easy. I guess I can only do so at 65 when my cpf life starts. As for now, I will work with life balance and get some passive income while just waiting for that time to come. My wants are fewer than most people. Most importantly, I take good care of my health through proper diet and exercises. Mentally and spiritually, I am relying on meditation and prayer.
Thank you 🙏
Thank you Carl :) glad u liked it
This video has calming effect.. 🙏
Glad you think so Dede! makasih!
Gd morning Jean. Thank u again for another informative video. It's seems so peaceful and Serene there. Now that's heaven on earth to me
So much chaotic things constantly taking place in these scary times. However so glad your finding your inner happiness and peace.. just have to tap into it.. your videos allow me to relax and unwind . So refreshing. Thank u so much. Pray to visit there one day. God bless and vitali . God bless you.
Hi Richard, thank you for the kind note n good morning to u too! Glad we can spread peace vibes with this video :) I hope u make it over here to visit one day too. Amazing place. Have a lovely week on ur end 🤩🤗
Thanks for sharing stories friend you are my spirit gbu
thank you Monika, i hope you are having a lovely Saturday night GBU too! 🌹
@@JeanVoronkova we welcome jane Gbu
I just discovered your channel. I think I’m going to move to Bali soon . Thanks 🙏
oh wow! exciting plans! Bali is the best thing to have happened for us, so we're big fans. Hope you will love it as much as we do!
Wow your voice so softly and sound so gentle. May I tell you write the book story about yourself life and moving to 1000 temples and 1000 face’s. Good luck and be happy that is good life. Cheers girl.🥂🥂🥂from LA
Enjoy bali Jean,
Greeting from java 😊
Appreciate this video.
Thank u!
Awesome video. That's the island of god healing you. I am Indonesian who used to study and stay in SG for 14 years and now back in Jakarta since 2011. SG life is just too fast paced and stressful for some.
I can enjoy both city and the village
Your voice is calming like yoga instructor 😌
Thanks!
Jean, you're such a Beautiful Person with a Beautiful Life! I enjoy all of your videos! I'm going to make it out there someday! I'll see you out at Karamas! 😊
thank you Archie so kind of you, n woah i haven't made it to Keramas yet but i will soon hopefully! recently been a lot at Airport Right lol!
simple life and surrounded by ordinary balinese people who live religiously harmony with their belief and environments that what Bali so attractive to me... also lots durians 😋, Have a thought to settle there as well in near future.... may see u oneday 😉
yes, you totally hit the nail on the head. Those are exactly the same reasons why we love living here too. It's a different version of Bali to most, but this is the Bali that i treasure. Hope your plans to settle here come through!
Hi Jean that is really amazing and wonderful shared wow very inspiring, I agree in everything you said, simple things mostly make us happy to appreciated things that we don't see in a big city, I admire you guys, thanks for sharing 😀💝
Hullo SL thanks for dropping by! Hope I’ve been well!
every vidio mrs Jean look nice , couse Penjelasannya local banget .. penjelasan orang asing yg suka indo dgn cara asia / explane with asia way , mkanya vidionya tetap enak n nyaman utk di lihat , hope stay healty n love indo yaa.. ok thx (jimmy s)
ありがとうございます！
Excellent video and channel my friend all the best stay safe and healthy 👌👍👍
Semoga selalu bahagia jane, dimana pun kamu berada 🥰🥰
makasih teman :)
Hello Jean 👋 !! Thanks for putting this together and explaining your thought process, very good. You are in the correct place at the correct time 🌴🌊🌊🌊🏝🚶♂️🚶♀️🐕🏡☀️. Us introverts need to speak up, step forward and explain - we are OK - thanks very much 😃👍. This is what we do and how we are !! Cheers, Don
Exactimo Don! The world we operate in just revolves around extroverts really and we r judged mostly by those standards in everything we do. Alternative choices aren’t bad, just different :)
very meaningful Jean. :)
Thanks Andrew! Hope ure hanging good in Sg!!
Great moves J🙏👍
thanks! makes me feel like i'm dancing haha
Good!
tx!
Hey Jean, I love your videos. What is your human design? I feel like you are a projector like me, I totally resonate with everything you say!
I also live in Bali and have been here for almost a year. Glad to hear you are enjoying Bali too, Uluwatu is so beautiful, I'd love to move there too :)
ooh what an interesting question! i have come across human design on Google some years back but i don't remember what mine is already. I need to go revisit the concepts! Bali is the best thing that ever happened to me and its all my dreams come true. This is all i want in life haha. As small as that may sound. Yeahh ulu is great! where do u live now? canggu?
@@JeanVoronkova human design is super interesting! I love learning about it. I totally understand and even thinking the grass is greener in a western country isn’t true. Many people are not happy there even though they have what society says they should have like a mortgage and a house! I will totally understand and its not small at all. It’s a big achievement to have the guts to move away from a career like you did to follow your dreams. Not many people will do that unfortunately and they will be angry or sad inside that they didn’t pursue their dreams. I totally admire what you have done! 😊 I live in Canggu just because of the vegan options haha. I love Uluwatu though its like my little getaway place!
Yes I can’t wait to tap away from it all honestly
Wow, you just like me.. I found out at later age & not yet find my trully happiness..
Bali is beautiful, but the weather is too hot
Oh it does get really hot in the arvos true but we wake up early n enjoy mornings n evenings n hide at home in afternoons mostly haha
Well said.
🙏🌻🤓😎😍
Awesome video 😎
Thanks!
Halo kak Jean always watching nih 😀👍 kak Jean Stay healthy ya MANTAB keren sehat selalu kalian berdua ❤️
Thank u thank u always for being so kind n supportive XEMOX-lime!!!
🇺🇲 Forever Greatful You are , You have Peace today , stay on Your path it is doing You well ! You share Your Heart so very Sweet an Kind ! Thank You J girl 👧 💓
Hi Jen, may ask you something?
as long as you live in Bali, where do you get your income from? do you work online? or you get paid from UA-cam?
lol the eternal question! no we are actually early retired, we scraped together enough passive income to sustain our living costs here so we don't have to go get jobs. YT is a nice bonus money wise but its very unreliable so i would personally never count on it for life support. Not my style. Actually i just filmed next week's episode today, about how i retired to live in Bali without working. The dirty details are all in there! Hope you can tune in :) thanks @kaumageran
@@JeanVoronkova i am looking forward your next video of how retire in Bali.
Lovely video, thanks for sharing. I am considering moving to Bali in September. Currently, I am looking to start my journey in Ubud and explore from there. May I ask the name of the area you are living? Also, do they have high-speed internet available in the villa to support live streaming video for work?
Heya! We live near Uluwatu! Quiet neighbourhoods abound down south generally. Our internet is quick but iffy on some days!
@@JeanVoronkova thanks! 🙏
Take a deep mindful breath ..
As we grow into adults, we lose contact with this natural body wisdom
and the message that deep diaphragmatic breath
reinforces in the body and mind -
that we are safe.
Our thinking, planning, ruminating,
reactive brain captures this deep, natural state,
and we slip into the high, rapid breath that is “lung breathing.”
While quick and somewhat efficient, this shallow breathing
can trigger the body’s fight or flight response,
sending blood and oxygen to our extremities
to help us escape from a threat or stress.
We can override this response
and return to a parasympathetic state -
a place of balance and a state of equanimity -
by shifting our breathing deep into our belly.
Breathe deeply and allow your belly to expand!
Allowing shallow breathing to return to normal.
Mindful breathing offers a path that can calm the mind,
increase our awareness and understanding & insight ..
Find an opportunity to return to the breath -
again, and again, and again ..
Let your breath be your anchor,
your place of refuge and peace.
Quieten and still the mind,
it's value insurmountable ..
Sage advice. I fall into this without noticing sometimes, so thanks much for the reminder!
I prefer to be lonely in a small village, there is hope, than to be lonely in a big city, hope will be lost.
Yeah big city plus lonely has a way of making u feel like it’s totally the end right? I think no matter how, within a small village u r still part of the community there, u feel measured and realised as a person. In big cities I just feel like my identity gets erased in the crowd.
Love it 😍
Thank u Shawn 🤩🌻
I just found your channel and I must say its very enlightening and thought provoking.
I would love to see a video on how you two met!
and more so about the yourselves and your family ...etc. I hope that's not to invasive!
On an other note, we are retiring next year end of 2023, and would like your thoughts on whether 8 weeks would be sufficient to cover the following places - Vietnam - Thailand - Bali
This will be our 1st time in South-East Asia so its all new to us, we are in our early 60's active and youthful still!
We have to be in Perth Australia on March 1st 2024
Would you recommend losing one of these places? If so which one? Thank you and keep up the good vibes/ spirits.
Hi Tony, thanks for leaving this note. Very excited for your plans! Happy to share my thoughts based on our own past decade in these 3 places. I spent 8 years in Vn (Vitaly 12) - we loved living in Mui Ne and the whole country in general but bear in mind this is largely cos we are kitesurfers. Vn is also a very acquired taste in my opinion. The first time I visited HCM city I spent 3 days there having an absolute headache from all the noise and chaos and was only too glad to leave, saying I’ll never be back! Funnily enough I ended up spending 8 years there in the end n loving it! But for long term stay, Vietnamese Language is a huge barrier cos it’s really hard to pick up, n ultimately Bali has better waves for us plus a culture we love more - it’s more spiritual, quiet, communal. Hence our final destination is here. But again, that’s from a surf+love Asian food perspective. Out of the 3 Thailand attracts me the least cos it’s not a great surf destination overall but wow the food and people are surely awesome n they got some lovely beaches too. U def shd visit all 3 to decide, but 8 weeks to cover all 3 isn’t really enough to choose one for keeps. Hopefully u can find more time and if u do, def cover these spots : Bali - Canggu, Ubud, Uluwatu, Vietnam - HCM, Nha Trang, Dalat (all v diff feels), and Thailand (Bangkok, Chiangmai). This is just the basic starters to give u a bit of a sense for each country tho n they r all v different types of places! Quite honestly u cd spread ur retirement across the 3 over like 8 years and then u’ll really know which one is ur cup of tea 🤣🤣🤣
Anyway hope that helps a bit at least lol
What about medical coverage? How accessible are doctors or medical help available nearby?
So true, the world is so huge n wide yet u can still feel lonely
It’s boil down to the people u keep ard u
Hence I have ousted hibye friends colleagues n keep mainly to myself
I talk about topics I’m interested in n listen if it’s not of my interest
Still in a search for meaning in my life
Yeah. Hibye friends r the worst. I’ve had to let go of some old friends from my history because we’ve just grown along such different paths over the years n that’s been very sad for me too. Not used to not really having them in my life anymore but having to accept they really aren’t there in reality either. Hard to find connection in todays world so let’s cherish the ones we have found :)
hi Jean.
Nice video sharing..
btw..
between Vietnam and Bali..can you comment...cos you were in Vietnam before moving to Bali..
thanks Jean.
Hi doc selva! Thanks for tuning in :) VN has a super different energy from Bali in terms of people n place. It’s great to go there if ure seeking adventure and happenings! They’re wonderfully cheerful n noisy n direct n cheeky! Bali my version at least is much more serene n calm n peaceful but it suits me in my current frame of mind haa
Hi jean do you sell your artwork thank you for your videos I’m enjoying the playlist
Singapore education system does not teach us to slow down & enjoy the finer things in life. We are taught to comply & go with the flow. The system controls us.