WOW, as a female who has had a marriage destroyed due to porn and almost another relationship ruined! I thought I was the only one in left in the world that thinks this! I am shocked to see that there any REAL men left!! Thank you for your courage and being a role model for REAL MEN!!!
It's nice to see men realizing how bad it is for everything, it's hard for a lot of women to see their partner/husband struggling with this addiction, thank you I'm happy to see men like you it gives me hope🙏
Im starting today!....Day 1, Father, lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. Amen. Wish all of u guys who r reading this the best of wat god has to give u. Love u all. LETS DO THIS!💪💪🖒🖒
MicroGamer 96 Oh no i failed in Day 12😢😢Bt thats alright...as long as you keep trying...u will have victory over sin because of him who loves us all.❤ I wish u all the best bro...and Jesus told me to tell u this..."U can do it!" So y wait?... lets just do this!! :D
Anjun Bandara I think you should stop focusing on it. The more you think about stopping it or what day you are on, you are actually thinking about porn and that's not a going to help you. Try to forget about it by being involved in other things like sports or family at the time you usually tend to watch porn. Hope that's helpful. Good luck😉
I agree with u. watching porn also ruins your relationship with women in the since that you can't even talk to them. you'll just give up and use porn as an excuse not to go talk to a women. thank u so much for this video. day one starts today. :)
+Mr. Amos I ended that streak on my 70th day and then I fell of track for a month until I started nofap again and now i've done 17 days. Stay strong m8
Its sooo nice to see many of you men stepping up to wanting to stop porn addiction. I applaud you! Its not easy...I know. I'm actually doing the female equivalent to the no fap lifestyle. Been going strong for over a month now. You guys can totally do this!
I'm on day 59! and if I can do it anyone can seriously! the first 2 weeks are the hardest, once u make it through that the urges to watch porn will slowly start fading away and they will become less and less intense, after 2 months I can tell u guys that I feel FREE! I'm not a prisoner of porn anymore :D
To all you guys saying you're gonna start this...you are awesome! even of you don't get very far, you took the first step... good luck! you can do it! :)
Wow your right! I did it i passed.. My life CHANGED a lot after STOPPED porn Now im foucsing on studies You have changed my life thank you i subscribed
Seeing as most men watch porn, those who don't wouldn't maintain a normal sex life of those factors even correlate at all. Also one's sex life would be inherently unique and specific to the individual. Who is to say what is normal?
So true dude..im in the stage of addiction..please help me.. I think i lose my self..it effects my personality and social life style..i feel alone and depressed. Depended of addiction..i feel no friends bcause i lost my interest of them and turn into pornography..pray for me.
try it for a few days at a time. I tried 3 day challenges back to back. before long it was 45 days of no fap. I stayed busy, was aware of the triggers and tried to avoid them like a plague. Now its almost effortless to avoid fapping. there will be some withdrawal symptoms when you stop fapping but it's temporary. Good luck.
You can't cut it cold Turkey. Do in increments. Stop for 1 week, noticed the positive effects. Once you see the positive, you will never want to go back.
brother, that is the reason ISLAM banned even to see the other girls except for your wife. brother, learn ISLAM, it will help you a lot to become the happiest person in the world even in poverty. ISLAM will open the door of happiness for you and your family. may ALLAH guide us and protect us.
Right on Stefan. Another huge aspect of the porn issue is the denigration and humiliation of women. Porn is made to feed on power hungry, sexually frustrated men who really get off from "smacking that bi^&%" and treating her like sub-human. Its a total power trip. Furthermore, porn completely distorts what sex really is between male and female energy systems and solely focuses on pleasing the organs - the banging, the sucking, the spanking.. Men see extremely perverted ways of having sex and then pressure their women to perform to that level, which, by the way, is very very unnatural for women to do but they feel pressured to do it because their men sell this crap to them as their fantasies, that "every man needs to experience" to be a happy husband, boyfriend, etc. Its excellent you bring to awareness of your followers.
It is sad that many consider it normal for people, yet look what it has done to me, it lead to toxic relationships out of fantasy. Im thankful I choose to follow God and actually tried to quit porn, I found myself being more productive and having more time for myself. Its really hard to this day but I know that like many of us, we will go through it and come out stronger than ever before.
Porn ruined my relationship. I thought this man and I were going to marry. He was "the one". He just wouldn't stop. It doesn't only hurt you, it hurts the one you "love" and it still kills me inside to think of it. I miss him so much, but I don't miss feeling worthless because he couldn't stop. Any man who watches it should be warned of what will happen. It's their own decision. But it's also their partner's decision to leave because they want porn more than love. In my experience with men who watch porn, they won't stop. They're not bad people. My ex is not a bad man. It's just a vicious thing. I'd rather be alone than feel alone with someone who doesn't want me physically, because of their conditioning.
so true stefan. I am going on a 30 day challenge today that you mentioned here to learn more about my limits and i'll quit forever after the challege. :)
there is something that i have to clarify , If you stopped watching porn then don't imagine porn when you ejaculate or in general , because it's like watching porn but with less dopamin , if you got really thirsty to watch porn then make your goal from ejaculation is to reduce that sexual energy and get you back to your right mind
Keep this question in your brain and think about it before you do any movement in your life. The question is "what then?" That question really helped me overcome lots of issues in my life
+Patrick Motley I beg to differ. MANY MANY girls join the industry and get an std within the first few months. It's shameful and it is a problem. Having as much sex with anyone you want just isn't right while showing the world letting men think "its okay" when in the disgusting reality of it is just flat out wrong and degrading. Not a problem? It is both a problem and an excuse. I swear I just wish I lived in a world where this wasn't even a thing. why do people go that low to get money. Just be a person. Not a cum dumpster. Your watching someone's daughter, someone's grandchild. How can they even watch themselves do this? SMH.
Once I was clean for 150 days.The whole period was the best moment in my life. After one month of living in hell with porn, I restart. This time, I don't have a specific goal. I'll just keep it as my lifestyle, till the death.
my affect was that i became over confident and girls started ditching me and also my relationship with my partner was less intimate. tnks this really helps.
I was a sex worker in the late 90s and early 00s. I was in 3 'scenes/films' in 2004. In the late 90s was a male escort. I feel guilt for having sex with the 19yo girl in one scene, degrading. I feel abused by the women i sleped with. Its destroyed my relationships and self worth. I see these youg girls going into it, some even claiming its feminism. we need to stop it. Christian america has some starange ways but can it not bann porn?
Thanks for this post. I subscribed to make money but recently I have been trying to quit porn also so it is funny timing. A good tip is to focus on something else a lot! Start working out to replace it or whatever hobby you have.
I've watched your other videos and I expected some crass, foul, and obscene talk from this one. But you kept it professional as you could with this subject. Nice refinement.
I'm not for or against Porn, but people really need to start getting their shit together. Stop blaming external things for your internal problems...Addiction can be beaten, but most people are mentally weak that they allow the addiction to rule their life. So much so that I hear a lot of stories of guys losing their jobs because their companies find out that they used company internet for their personal fun time... Seriously people, grow a pair of balls and stop blaming the world for your problems. The world is full of temptations, but it's your job to find out what is beneficial versus what is detrimental to you...
D Hg sex instinct is deep inside of humans. You cant control it. And so cruel to take advaintage of it. Why so many fat people in US? Coz food also our need, we fed up
its my 4th day whenever there is a urge in me i watch this kind of videos. But i can feel the changes in me as i am more confident and i have a clear mind
Anyway I don't think that thing of going on masturbating but with your partner's photos can help. What really clears your mind is the feeling of not needing to masturbate because life and love and relationships are more important to you than just a little moment of pleasure. I certainly don't recommend doing that. Please guys, QUIT objectification in EVERY way.
great video! I agree with everything you had said. porn had a negative effect on me when I was in my early teens. I would watch porn and think to myself "so this is what guys like" porn turned my veiw on relationships and my interactions with men. how you have to be sexier, scream louder, go deeper. but in reality I was abusing myself and my body. years go by I grew older and started to understand who I was and who I wanted to be. so porn has a negative effect on young minds because they don't know better. you got great information for all people!
I think it’s easy to fall into using porn when you feel lonely and feel like you can’t get a relationship. But the more porn you watch the less likely you are to actually get into a real relationship. Porn is infinitely inferior to a romance with a real person, but porn is an easy fix for feeing lonely. Have to just deal with feeling lonely and develop yourself until you can succeed socially to get into a relationship / romance. Sometimes also it’s better to channel your sexual life force energy towards work and self development. Fapping to porn drains your life energy.
I think the only upside to porn or just "dreaming" about beautiful girls, is that it raises your standards. Now, it only raises standards for looks, so it is important to also look at personality. To have a balance. Beautiful+Personality. Other than that, I absolutely agree. Porn kills sex drive with less attractive women and your partner if you have one.
Agree with you! since my husband is living far for sometimes, when I feel desire to do intercourse I will do it on cam with him. I don't look for porn video. If worst come to worst that I need to do by myself I'm imagining my husband when he usually do to me in the intercours. so this is what I try to be loyal in a good way with my husband and honest to the relationship specially in long distence situation.
I've watched lots of porn but I stopped because I think its an easy fix. We should try to fulfil those needs in the real world with real people, it makes us more motivates and better people.
i have these problem with porn for years I want to stop but those pictures brings me down relapse after relapse after another relapse I'm tire of this.
Tip: Study porn-videos more closely - perhaps when you're not aroused. Then it's easy to see that 99% of porn actress are not at all aroused themselves, it's that obvious! And you can also see that many of the guys are just barely aroused, in a situation which in real life would be very sexy. The problem for the guys is of course that they detect the lack of arousal in the female partner. When you realize this I think it will be easier to see "through" the porn illusion: They're not actually having sex at all! The guy is doing advanced masturbating and the woman is going through the motions quite literally. There is no "twosomeness" in porn, just two (or more) people using each other for their own needs. Which, incidentally is the same as in a one-night-stand. So, contemplating these obvious facts will in my experience lead to less arousal when watching porn, since you so easily see the falsity of the "sex". In fact, it becomes more depressing to watch it - seeing two people not really enjoying each other or even being aroused (but pretending (badly) to be of course). At this point, it becomes clear that the your own sexual arousal is something your own brain orchestrates, but only as long as you buy into the illusion. In fact, you can thank your own brain for being able to overlook the obvious signs that were there all along - you want to fool yourself! In the end - the whole porn thing is just that: you fooling yourself. I have occasional relapse, but I never enjoy porn anymore - it turns me off before it turns me on. Therefore I think this tip can actually help. Best of luck.
This is tough, but I do want to try. With our decline in sex and me feeling unattractive to my woman, I've resorted to this and it is affecting me in those manners in which you explained. I refuse to cheat to be fulfilled by another woman. I will give this a try starting today, no porn. I'd hate to build a serious addiction and then when she's finally attracted to me again, I can't get turned on by her. Worse case scenario that I want to avoid.
Hi Stefan. A great choice of a topic. The points that you've made here are really convincing, especially since I can relate to that - both about actually turning your sexual life into reality and increasing your energy levels. Is there a chance of you making a blog on influence of drinking, getting drunk on parties etc. on your physicality, emotional life and general self-developement?
there are, I stopped but still it is a day by day thing...most men are not honest and straight forward, in what they indulge sexually about themselves to their partners for fear of judgement, so they use porn as a way of fulfilling those fantasies and desires. But, in reality there is not a man on earth who would take porn over a real women.
Dude, I feel you, I've almost put a bullet in my head several times because of it. And if I can't stop i think I'll finish the job, but I'm starting again right now.
Hey there Stefan! You mentioned motivation and I believe this is key on the subject. One just can't compare the instantly payback of an ejaculation with the medium and long term payback of things that matter. It's similar to alcohol and drugs. It is hard to compete with such level of primitive pleasure. This way, using any of them might push you away from your goals.
I totally agree with what you're saying and want to quit but still watch it. Any tips on how to break the habit? I've tried before and after a couple days without it, I can't stop thinking about anything else and eventually cave. I'm 21, single, and managed to quit cigarettes and alcohol cold turkey but I feel this bad habit is much harder to break.
A thought...perhaps consider a situation in which porn is beneficial. I understand your points and can agree with you on one or two (I never truly considered how my ability to instantly gratify my 'need' for variety was perhaps negatively affecting what I would bring to a partner), but for a lot of men, porn is a substitute aimed at fixing a sexual incompatibility in the relationship. Both sexual partners in said relationship need and want different thing, not always and not at the same time (thus the compatibility is not paralyzing to the relationship), but still so much so that each partner needs to search outside of the strict monogamy of their sexual expressions to meet that need. I am sex positive, and completely expect that my partner watches porn. Denying the fact, it regardless of gender, would be lying to myself, and hoping that I satisfy the every need of my partner (as a complex, constantly evolving being) over a lifetime, would be foolish. You hit upon a salient point, as time progresses, libidos, appeal, and sexual appetites change. As two separate people, I expect we will change individually, and though still loving deeply and caring for each other, change independently. If it comes down to watching some porn or breaking a marriage due to a strict interpretation of sexual monotonous expression, the marriage is more important. The crux of your argument is that sexually we are supposed to completely satisfy each other. I understand though that my marriage cannot bear such a strong condition, because as we grow, it will be tested, it will wane, and wax. Worth more than my libido is my heart. Again, I agree with you - that consumers of porn need to check their habits, and reassess from time to time. The mechanism through which porn is available purports people to easy and that can be addictive. However, expressions of sexuality are never a perfect match in partnerships. There is no perfect 1. I am hoping for a .9, and going to work my way around the rest. Let's at least agree that it is a complicated issue (infinately so, as billions of people each come with different sexualities), and that it is not all black and white.
That's your right to disagree with me, and I can understand where you are coming from. I disagree - and I just want you to understand perhaps where we differ. I too would like to find the level and kind of love that you describe - one in which that person is my everything - and that our changes in our lives parallel perfectly - where our libidos, our sexual energies, our bodies, our capacities, our demands, our identities - all correspond exactly. However, I am not sure that that level of love, or that kind of partner exists for me, or for everyone out there. May God bless the people that find that - and the people that have it. I pray to God that it too comes my way, one day. However, it is more likely (just statistically speaking) that the person that I end up with will not be a perfect match for me (i.e. not a perfect 1, but rather a .9, or a .8). In that event, I hope to be able to use what tools I can to bring those numbers up as close as possible to a perfect 1. Just consider this for an example. I find a partner that I love immensly - that I cannot imagine living my life without out - one in which we match in 90% of the possible - making us a successful, loving, caring, couple. There is just one issue - we both enjoy sex, and we share 70% of the same thing. If I truly loved my partner, which is better - demanding that the 30% of the sexuality that they enjoy never be allowed again? Not even Eve stayed away from that fruit. I would much rather enjoy the parts of my partner that make us great - and not keep an unfair demand. At least this way, if either one of us became 'addicted' - we have a person that knows us, and loves us, on the other end to coach and council us. I am not espousing that all porn is good, and I will not agree to the fact that porn cannot and has not been mis-used. However, it is a tool, and can be used constructively. I hope to find the 1, but in the case that I don't, and I find the .9, I want us both to be happy. I think that we can both agree to wanting happiness for both us and our partners. Though you may have meant it sarcastically, I do not not - best of luck to you too.
As long as you find a woman that has the same beliefs as you. Porn can be extremely damaging otherwise, and really mess with the intimacy of a relationship. Question though; what would you have done 100 years ago? Porn was not mainstream or very accessible before. That's why I don't understand the it's necessary comment. If it came down to it, would you cheat? In that case, maybe a polygamist relationship would better suit those who need "variety." To each their own, but always make sure your partner is on board and she isn't doing it to just satisfy you.
slh8844 Prior to the advent of modern pornography (as we imagine it today) there were other forms - and there has never been a shortage of outlets for sexual urges. What is the world's oldest profession? That said, it is not nearly as damaging as you state - becuase there is an inherant sexually negative bias in our society, and our thinking relating to things of a sexual nature. At no point would I advocate deliberately lying, or intentionally misleading a spouse - in a way that would cause grave harm. The greatest strength of any relationship is love, the greatest tool - communication. Both would be respected here as well. However, to claim that one partner should be able to expect that the other would, and more foolishly - should completely fulfill them sexually - totally, and throughout the entire course of a relationship, is well - foolish. I stand by my previous statement, I will love, respect, and cherish my partner - if, and/or when I do find that person - but at the same time, I will also use logic to make our lives fulfilling and easier - using tools (and porn can be one of those tools - one, in a vast array of tools) to make our lives better. A tool is not inherantly positive or negative - use of it, though, is. The tool is only as powerful as the person(s) that use it, and so I will, if necessary, use it when the time calls for it. Do I hope to find 'the one' and so never use it - sure! However, it is much more likely that I will find a great one, that understand me and loves me, and who I will not pressure into being 'perfect for me', and so will have to use a tool here and there to make our lives better. Either way, I am hoping and willing to work towards a great life. It's mine, and my choice.
You are right, but with the older forms of gratification, men would have to go out and seek. Not only that, it usually meant cheating on their spouse physically. The accessibility of porn is very recent, which is why it has become more of an addiction. Also, I once again disagree that you shouldn't set up expectations for your partner. People have other expectations such as reproduction, roles in the household, ect. It's okay to set boundaries of you aren't okay with something. I think that men that need more to sexually satisfy themselves should either be in open relationships or polygamist relationships, where once again both partners agree and on the same page. I don't think porn belongs in monogamy, unless the other partner is okay with it. It is very damaging, but men who watch porn will always of course argue against because they are the ones watching it, not the ones on the other side of it. My husband and I both only need each other, and we both agree porn is damaging. Not every male needs it. If you don't want to be "deprived" find a partner with the same beliefs.
thankyou so much, the words you spoke are exactly how I feel with my boyfriend. I know I am pretty but I often feel when we are sexual he is not with me and he is in porn thoughts or thinking of others. it has been a struggle. I wish I could inspire him to want more sexual connection (foreplay too) but he says porn sex is normal and all guys do it and it does not affect his attraction to me. Why do I still feel distrust... Is there any hope?
@@vicxthemw thanks for sharing how you feel about yourself.. she’s gorgeous and has sexual needs too.. all of us women do.. so before you call a stranger ugly and useless make sure you check the mirror.. or at least have a real photo of you, you are a jackass at its finest.
I hit like by the time I reached half of the video. Thanks a lot my friend. Never thought of it that way what the hell are orgies anyway?? Just asking..
Ironic how I just started my 30 day challenge a few days prior to this video being published. I recommend Gary Wilson's book on Porn Addiction which goes into the actual science of why porn is bad for your brain and how desensitization occurs.
porn destroy everyone relationship .some people even after knowing this or even after showing them truth they still think that is true. for some people is sex education !!!!! this video is really helpful .thank you
I get that - however I am thinking about the successful reach of your audience. I do think that you message can (and it is your goal - I am assuming here - and so if I am over reaching, please forgive me for it) and should be directed towards anyone who consumes porn. Admittedly, 'the majority of men watch porn with women in them', but your messages thus far (over the course of your messages here) have not only focused on men - and neither should this message. Substituting 'these women' with 'these actors/performers' would have enlarged the message's reach in that it would not have only targeted men, and would not have only taken umbrage to the 'women' performing in it. I disagree with you, on this message from you - because I view it as sex-negative - but it is one of the only ones that I disagree with in the quantity of content that you have provided us with. I want to (despite me disagreeing with you on this point) see you become more successful, and grow into the powerhouse that I know that you are. I offer that in a case like this though, that you be mindful of the message's delivery in order to maximize the audience - and in a case like this, tailor the message in a more personalized way, given that the subject matter is so very personal and intimate.
I appreciate this video. I have had this mindset for the last 6-7 years. It's good to see that I am not the only one. Trust Stefan and Trust me when I say that 30 days without ejaculation is hard it comes with demons but it increases your energy and as a side effect it makes every interaction with women a little better. Check out "The Way of the Superior Man" by David Deida for more on this subject. It is an amazing book.
Really important topic thanks for posting it Stefan. Tim Ferris in his last random show admitted to watching too much porn and put himself on a 30 day hiatus from watching it, not sure if he stopped watching it all together through. Shortly after that he put out a 30 day NOBNOM challenge, no booze and no masturbation for 30 days. Porn creates a weak mind and an empty soul.
I do watch it once a day...but now I do feel like I should follow what you are saying..it consumes your energy for nothing... CHALLENGE ACCEPTED Stefan
I'm 6 weeks clean! that's the longest I have ever gone. I'm so happy
+Parker Aurand Be strong.
MrTommyknocker thx
+Parker Aurand im proud be strong dont start back
congrats man keep on going.
how u doing
WOW, as a female who has had a marriage destroyed due to porn and almost another relationship ruined! I thought I was the only one in left in the world that thinks this! I am shocked to see that there any REAL men left!! Thank you for your courage and being a role model for REAL MEN!!!
It's nice to see men realizing how bad it is for everything, it's hard for a lot of women to see their partner/husband struggling with this addiction, thank you I'm happy to see men like you it gives me hope🙏
Im starting today!....Day 1, Father, lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. Amen. Wish all of u guys who r reading this the best of wat god has to give u. Love u all. LETS DO THIS!💪💪🖒🖒
same...
+skyfan1524456 Awsme! Its 5 days for me now. Lets do our best! Goodluck to ya! 👐👐👐
Anjun Bandara Did you make it...its okay if you couldn't. Try again. Good luck👍
MicroGamer 96 Oh no i failed in Day 12😢😢Bt thats alright...as long as you keep trying...u will have victory over sin because of him who loves us all.❤ I wish u all the best bro...and Jesus told me to tell u this..."U can do it!" So y wait?... lets just do this!! :D
Anjun Bandara I think you should stop focusing on it. The more you think about stopping it or what day you are on, you are actually thinking about porn and that's not a going to help you. Try to forget about it by being involved in other things like sports or family at the time you usually tend to watch porn. Hope that's helpful. Good luck😉
year and a half - feeling great... so much easier being me
Bless you! Good man right here.
Bless you.
are you more relaxed arround girls?
I agree with u. watching porn also ruins your relationship with women in the since that you can't even talk to them. you'll just give up and use porn as an excuse not to go talk to a women. thank u so much for this video. day one starts today. :)
Day 40 today!
+Sonical1 M Congrats!
+Project Life Mastery Thanks :)
Congratulations
Congratulations. I'm on my third day and it's so hard.
+Mr. Amos I ended that streak on my 70th day and then I fell of track for a month until I started nofap again and now i've done 17 days. Stay strong m8
Its sooo nice to see many of you men stepping up to wanting to stop porn addiction. I applaud you! Its not easy...I know. I'm actually doing the female equivalent to the no fap lifestyle. Been going strong for over a month now. You guys can totally do this!
SIMONE what’s fap?
Don’t speak on something you know nothing about on an issue that in no way relates to you.
@@caststones2547 what do you know about her actually, judging her like this?
I'm on day 59! and if I can do it anyone can seriously! the first 2 weeks are the hardest, once u make it through that the urges to watch porn will slowly start fading away and they will become less and less intense, after 2 months I can tell u guys that I feel FREE! I'm not a prisoner of porn anymore :D
Congrats! Keep it up, thanks for sharing. Will help others that suffer from porn addiction.
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Nah man, Im day 22 now, starting to peek through it.
Everybody is not like you.
To all you guys saying you're gonna start this...you are awesome! even of you don't get very far, you took the first step... good luck! you can do it! :)
Wow your right! I did it i passed.. My life CHANGED a lot after STOPPED porn
Now im foucsing on studies
You have changed my life thank you i subscribed
Thanks dude i dont want this in my life thanks for the speech
Good video Stefan. Men who watch porn have trouble maintaining a normal sex life.
Seeing as most men watch porn, those who don't wouldn't maintain a normal sex life of those factors even correlate at all. Also one's sex life would be inherently unique and specific to the individual. Who is to say what is normal?
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Day 73. Never been this far!
Simon M I’m proud of you! I hope
It’s still going!
Mannn amaZinggg
Days 65 also my highest streak and I keep going never Back to that shit
So true dude..im in the stage of addiction..please help me.. I think i lose my self..it effects my personality and social life style..i feel alone and depressed. Depended of addiction..i feel no friends bcause i lost my interest of them and turn into pornography..pray for me.
+Genesis Soliano Install anti porn software!.
try it for a few days at a time. I tried 3 day challenges back to back. before long it was 45 days of no fap. I stayed busy, was aware of the triggers and tried to avoid them like a plague. Now its almost effortless to avoid fapping. there will be some withdrawal symptoms when you stop fapping but it's temporary. Good luck.
+Marcos Moreno What were your withdrawal symptoms?
You can't cut it cold Turkey. Do in increments. Stop for 1 week, noticed the positive effects. Once you see the positive, you will never want to go back.
brother, that is the reason ISLAM banned even to see the other girls except for your wife. brother, learn ISLAM, it will help you a lot to become the happiest person in the world even in poverty.
ISLAM will open the door of happiness for you and your family.
may ALLAH guide us and protect us.
Right on Stefan. Another huge aspect of the porn issue is the denigration and humiliation of women. Porn is made to feed on power hungry, sexually frustrated men who really get off from "smacking that bi^&%" and treating her like sub-human. Its a total power trip. Furthermore, porn completely distorts what sex really is between male and female energy systems and solely focuses on pleasing the organs - the banging, the sucking, the spanking.. Men see extremely perverted ways of having sex and then pressure their women to perform to that level, which, by the way, is very very unnatural for women to do but they feel pressured to do it because their men sell this crap to them as their fantasies, that "every man needs to experience" to be a happy husband, boyfriend, etc. Its excellent you bring to awareness of your followers.
Excellent point, thanks for sharing this.
I dont understand i watch porn(trying to stop) because i dont get pussy so why would a guy in a relationship watch porn
It is sad that many consider it normal for people, yet look what it has done to me, it lead to toxic relationships out of fantasy. Im thankful I choose to follow God and actually tried to quit porn, I found myself being more productive and having more time for myself. Its really hard to this day but I know that like many of us, we will go through it and come out stronger than ever before.
Porn ruined my relationship. I thought this man and I were going to marry. He was "the one". He just wouldn't stop. It doesn't only hurt you, it hurts the one you "love" and it still kills me inside to think of it. I miss him so much, but I don't miss feeling worthless because he couldn't stop. Any man who watches it should be warned of what will happen. It's their own decision. But it's also their partner's decision to leave because they want porn more than love. In my experience with men who watch porn, they won't stop. They're not bad people. My ex is not a bad man. It's just a vicious thing. I'd rather be alone than feel alone with someone who doesn't want me physically, because of their conditioning.
+Lisa Dueling Lisa i can help u can give your email or skype id so that we can do the same
your skype id
thnks
No iam not thirsty iam loving and fulfilling because I know hot to love, accept and forgive
Thanks
wtf Manny HAHA you need Jesus!
Atticus Declan LOOOL
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so true stefan. I am going on a 30 day challenge today that you mentioned here to learn more about my limits and i'll quit forever after the challege. :)
Holy shit...subscribed. beginning day 1
+olliejay22 Awesome, good luck!
+Project Life Mastery thank you sir!
+olliejay22 same here lol
+Hans Lamda we can do this
+olliejay22 We will do it , together we are stronger and we must succed , if we manage 30 days we can make it for life :D
there is something that i have to clarify , If you stopped watching porn then don't imagine porn when you ejaculate or in general , because it's like watching porn but with less dopamin , if you got really thirsty to watch porn then make your goal from ejaculation is to reduce that sexual energy and get you back to your right mind
I did not expect this video, but good on you for uploading, that was very educational.
Keeping you on your toes! Thought it was a good subject worth sharing about. Have had questions about it from others.
Man, I really wish someone had told what porn would do to my life. I'm 21 now and is a daily struggle in my life.
Now you know... at least you don't have 20+ years of programming like many people do, which can make it harder to change.
Hills Xiang im 23 been addicted since i was 13.it gave me social anxiety,depression and no confidence.try to stay busy you can do it.
Keep this question in your brain and think about it before you do any movement in your life. The question is "what then?" That question really helped me overcome lots of issues in my life
@@thevigilant266 thabks
Inemesit Jacob You're welcome brother
Im starting today 8.4.2016. I have had this addiction since 12 and Im 33 now. Requires some serious rewiring. Wish me luck and same to you all.
I hope you're still going strong bro. i feel your pain.
good luck brother!
Give us an update!
awesome video man! thank you for having the courage to talk about this huge problem that many people have today.
Two words. *FUCKING* INTERNET.
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Zombi_ripper two words. Sunny Leone.
Zombi_ripper yeah man fuck the internet it's harming and destroyed lives.
Without internet you wouldn't have started nofap as you would not had this information.
please god... make more men like this.. please... my relationship because of porn...ugh... it hurts. it really does.
Porn is no problem, just an excuse.
+Patrick Motley I beg to differ. MANY MANY girls join the industry and get an std within the first few months. It's shameful and it is a problem. Having as much sex with anyone you want just isn't right while showing the world letting men think "its okay" when in the disgusting reality of it is just flat out wrong and degrading. Not a problem? It is both a problem and an excuse. I swear I just wish I lived in a world where this wasn't even a thing. why do people go that low to get money. Just be a person. Not a cum dumpster. Your watching someone's daughter, someone's grandchild. How can they even watch themselves do this? SMH.
He's a great guy
No, its cuz you dont put out!!!
@@patrickmotley7496 Porn one of the biggest problem for all humanity.
Once I was clean for 150 days.The whole period was the best moment in my life. After one month of living in hell with porn, I restart. This time, I don't have a specific goal. I'll just keep it as my lifestyle, till the death.
Well rounded speaker; gentlemen and a scholar.
Thanks Ricky!
my affect was that i became over confident and girls started ditching me and also my relationship with my partner was less intimate. tnks this really helps.
And any addiction is bad for you...
That words are so precious. Thanks.
37 days and I feel like a man again, not some grotty pervert
I never was into porn until my abusive ex showed me and wanted me to be like the girls. Now I put on an "act" with every one I'm with
I never had an issue with guys watching porn until I fell in love. Now when he watches it, it makes me feel less attractive and more insecure.
Thank you, this video is so helpful. I'm going the 30 days challenge, in day 4 now. Wish me luck.
goodluck
+Autumnleaf2011 i on day 15 today and had a wet dream
+TheChidiVlog Be strong. And live long and prosper.
good luck, one day at a time.
This shit is breaking my fucking heart. I knew my husband was damaged in the bedroom from this... Dude.. I'm literally sooo depressed now.. omg
I was a sex worker in the late 90s and early 00s. I was in 3 'scenes/films' in 2004. In the late 90s was a male escort.
I feel guilt for having sex with the 19yo girl in one scene, degrading. I feel abused by the women i sleped with. Its destroyed my relationships and self worth.
I see these youg girls going into it, some even claiming its feminism. we need to stop it. Christian america has some starange ways but can it not bann porn?
Benn Yisrael some other countries already banned porn. The USA is a sinful country. We are all boned!
Thanks for this post. I subscribed to make money but recently I have been trying to quit porn also so it is funny timing.
A good tip is to focus on something else a lot! Start working out to replace it or whatever hobby you have.
I've watched your other videos and I expected some crass, foul, and obscene talk from this one. But you kept it professional as you could with this subject. Nice refinement.
Stefan, love your channel bro. This video made me respect you even more than I already did. Good man, keep spreading the word
Start of day 1 for me! Let’s see how this goes 😤
how u going my guy?
I love this video and thank you for explaining it to me. I'm going to explain it to my boyfriend and forward the video to him. ♥️
I'm not for or against Porn, but people really need to start getting their shit together.
Stop blaming external things for your internal problems...Addiction can be beaten, but most people are mentally weak that they allow the addiction to rule their life. So much so that I hear a lot of stories of guys losing their jobs because their companies find out that they used company internet for their personal fun time...
Seriously people, grow a pair of balls and stop blaming the world for your problems. The world is full of temptations, but it's your job to find out what is beneficial versus what is detrimental to you...
D Hg sex instinct is deep inside of humans. You cant control it. And so cruel to take advaintage of it. Why so many fat people in US? Coz food also our need, we fed up
He'll ya.
Pickel pickle rick
So you're not against porn? Can you tell me one benefit of online porn?
its my 4th day whenever there is a urge in me i watch this kind of videos. But i can feel the changes in me as i am more confident and i have a clear mind
Anyway I don't think that thing of going on masturbating but with your partner's photos can help. What really clears your mind is the feeling of not needing to masturbate because life and love and relationships are more important to you than just a little moment of pleasure. I certainly don't recommend doing that. Please guys, QUIT objectification in EVERY way.
great video! I agree with everything you had said. porn had a negative effect on me when I was in my early teens. I would watch porn and think to myself "so this is what guys like" porn turned my veiw on relationships and my interactions with men. how you have to be sexier, scream louder, go deeper. but in reality I was abusing myself and my body. years go by I grew older and started to understand who I was and who I wanted to be. so porn has a negative effect on young minds because they don't know better.
you got great information for all people!
I think it’s easy to fall into using porn when you feel lonely and feel like you can’t get a relationship.
But the more porn you watch the less likely you are to actually get into a real relationship.
Porn is infinitely inferior to a romance with a real person, but porn is an easy fix for feeing lonely. Have to just deal with feeling lonely and develop yourself until you can succeed socially to get into a relationship / romance.
Sometimes also it’s better to channel your sexual life force energy towards work and self development. Fapping to porn drains your life energy.
it's good idea that porn never exist in the website
I think the only upside to porn or just "dreaming" about beautiful girls, is that it raises your standards. Now, it only raises standards for looks, so it is important to also look at personality. To have a balance. Beautiful+Personality. Other than that, I absolutely agree. Porn kills sex drive with less attractive women and your partner if you have one.
Agree with you!
since my husband is living far for sometimes, when I feel desire to do intercourse I will do it on cam with him. I don't look for porn video. If worst come to worst that I need to do by myself I'm imagining my husband when he usually do to me in the intercours.
so this is what I try to be loyal in a good way with my husband and honest to the relationship specially in long distence situation.
You are a wonderful wife !
Your husband is extremely lucky !
Women like you are very rare ! All the respect for you !
Right on the button! Having the right reson why is everything. Thanks, bro!
The same can be said for online dating?
I've watched lots of porn but I stopped because I think its an easy fix. We should try to fulfil those needs in the real world with real people, it makes us more motivates and better people.
i have these problem with porn for years I want to stop but those pictures brings me down relapse after relapse after another relapse I'm tire of this.
Tip: Study porn-videos more closely - perhaps when you're not aroused. Then it's easy to see that 99% of porn actress are not at all aroused themselves, it's that obvious! And you can also see that many of the guys are just barely aroused, in a situation which in real life would be very sexy. The problem for the guys is of course that they detect the lack of arousal in the female partner. When you realize this I think it will be easier to see "through" the porn illusion: They're not actually having sex at all! The guy is doing advanced masturbating and the woman is going through the motions quite literally. There is no "twosomeness" in porn, just two (or more) people using each other for their own needs. Which, incidentally is the same as in a one-night-stand. So, contemplating these obvious facts will in my experience lead to less arousal when watching porn, since you so easily see the falsity of the "sex". In fact, it becomes more depressing to watch it - seeing two people not really enjoying each other or even being aroused (but pretending (badly) to be of course). At this point, it becomes clear that the your own sexual arousal is something your own brain orchestrates, but only as long as you buy into the illusion. In fact, you can thank your own brain for being able to overlook the obvious signs that were there all along - you want to fool yourself! In the end - the whole porn thing is just that: you fooling yourself. I have occasional relapse, but I never enjoy porn anymore - it turns me off before it turns me on. Therefore I think this tip can actually help. Best of luck.
My word to any one who is doing nofap, EVER TRIED EVER FAILED, NO MATTER, TRY AGAIN, FAIL AGAIN, *FAIL BETTER*
totally agree with u, thanks so much for this
its been 5 mins. :(
lol ..
It's been 1 min then watched dis video and did again
Keep strong lol
How did it go
Thank you for your honesty and personal input about this topic. Many people will benefit from this video, if they listen. All the best!
Thank you, I hope so!
This is tough, but I do want to try. With our decline in sex and me feeling unattractive to my woman, I've resorted to this and it is affecting me in those manners in which you explained. I refuse to cheat to be fulfilled by another woman.
I will give this a try starting today, no porn. I'd hate to build a serious addiction and then when she's finally attracted to me again, I can't get turned on by her. Worse case scenario that I want to avoid.
Sooo true! Great video your my mentor! This will help a lot of people! Big fan I love the value!
Thanks Thomas, glad you agree!
Project Life Mastery Ralph Smart just made a video on this topic yesterday, too.
Hi Stefan. A great choice of a topic. The points that you've made here are really convincing, especially since I can relate to that - both about actually turning your sexual life into reality and increasing your energy levels.
Is there a chance of you making a blog on influence of drinking, getting drunk on parties etc. on your physicality, emotional life and general self-developement?
56 DAYS CLEAN
Soon 60.
Great video and good advice
Very well said!
please make more men like this!
there are, I stopped but still it is a day by day thing...most men are not honest and straight forward, in what they indulge sexually about themselves to their partners for fear of judgement, so they use porn as a way of fulfilling those fantasies and desires. But, in reality there is not a man on earth who would take porn over a real women.
Fuck You
So you can make more slave for your ecnomice desire
Excellent advice, man!
thank you for this video!😊
I hate relapsing
i know the feeling. I feel horrible afterwards :(
Especially after a good streak of a couple weeks or months.
Dude, I feel you, I've almost put a bullet in my head several times because of it. And if I can't stop i think I'll finish the job, but I'm starting again right now.
Thanks man....its been a week or so and i havent watched porn i wont ever watch porn again...in my life...
Keep fighting! Thanks for the vid.
Hey there Stefan! You mentioned motivation and I believe this is key on the subject. One just can't compare the instantly payback of an ejaculation with the medium and long term payback of things that matter. It's similar to alcohol and drugs. It is hard to compete with such level of primitive pleasure. This way, using any of them might push you away from your goals.
I totally agree with what you're saying and want to quit but still watch it. Any tips on how to break the habit? I've tried before and after a couple days without it, I can't stop thinking about anything else and eventually cave. I'm 21, single, and managed to quit cigarettes and alcohol cold turkey but I feel this bad habit is much harder to break.
We're on the same page, man.
A thought...perhaps consider a situation in which porn is beneficial. I understand your points and can agree with you on one or two (I never truly considered how my ability to instantly gratify my 'need' for variety was perhaps negatively affecting what I would bring to a partner), but for a lot of men, porn is a substitute aimed at fixing a sexual incompatibility in the relationship. Both sexual partners in said relationship need and want different thing, not always and not at the same time (thus the compatibility is not paralyzing to the relationship), but still so much so that each partner needs to search outside of the strict monogamy of their sexual expressions to meet that need. I am sex positive, and completely expect that my partner watches porn. Denying the fact, it regardless of gender, would be lying to myself, and hoping that I satisfy the every need of my partner (as a complex, constantly evolving being) over a lifetime, would be foolish. You hit upon a salient point, as time progresses, libidos, appeal, and sexual appetites change. As two separate people, I expect we will change individually, and though still loving deeply and caring for each other, change independently. If it comes down to watching some porn or breaking a marriage due to a strict interpretation of sexual monotonous expression, the marriage is more important.
The crux of your argument is that sexually we are supposed to completely satisfy each other. I understand though that my marriage cannot bear such a strong condition, because as we grow, it will be tested, it will wane, and wax. Worth more than my libido is my heart.
Again, I agree with you - that consumers of porn need to check their habits, and reassess from time to time. The mechanism through which porn is available purports people to easy and that can be addictive. However, expressions of sexuality are never a perfect match in partnerships. There is no perfect 1. I am hoping for a .9, and going to work my way around the rest.
Let's at least agree that it is a complicated issue (infinately so, as billions of people each come with different sexualities), and that it is not all black and white.
That's your right to disagree with me, and I can understand where you are coming from. I disagree - and I just want you to understand perhaps where we differ.
I too would like to find the level and kind of love that you describe - one in which that person is my everything - and that our changes in our lives parallel perfectly - where our libidos, our sexual energies, our bodies, our capacities, our demands, our identities - all correspond exactly.
However, I am not sure that that level of love, or that kind of partner exists for me, or for everyone out there. May God bless the people that find that - and the people that have it. I pray to God that it too comes my way, one day. However, it is more likely (just statistically speaking) that the person that I end up with will not be a perfect match for me (i.e. not a perfect 1, but rather a .9, or a .8). In that event, I hope to be able to use what tools I can to bring those numbers up as close as possible to a perfect 1.
Just consider this for an example. I find a partner that I love immensly - that I cannot imagine living my life without out - one in which we match in 90% of the possible - making us a successful, loving, caring, couple. There is just one issue - we both enjoy sex, and we share 70% of the same thing. If I truly loved my partner, which is better - demanding that the 30% of the sexuality that they enjoy never be allowed again? Not even Eve stayed away from that fruit.
I would much rather enjoy the parts of my partner that make us great - and not keep an unfair demand. At least this way, if either one of us became 'addicted' - we have a person that knows us, and loves us, on the other end to coach and council us.
I am not espousing that all porn is good, and I will not agree to the fact that porn cannot and has not been mis-used. However, it is a tool, and can be used constructively.
I hope to find the 1, but in the case that I don't, and I find the .9, I want us both to be happy. I think that we can both agree to wanting happiness for both us and our partners.
Though you may have meant it sarcastically, I do not not - best of luck to you too.
As long as you find a woman that has the same beliefs as you. Porn can be extremely damaging otherwise, and really mess with the intimacy of a relationship. Question though; what would you have done 100 years ago? Porn was not mainstream or very accessible before. That's why I don't understand the it's necessary comment. If it came down to it, would you cheat? In that case, maybe a polygamist relationship would better suit those who need "variety." To each their own, but always make sure your partner is on board and she isn't doing it to just satisfy you.
slh8844 Prior to the advent of modern pornography (as we imagine it today) there were other forms - and there has never been a shortage of outlets for sexual urges. What is the world's oldest profession?
That said, it is not nearly as damaging as you state - becuase there is an inherant sexually negative bias in our society, and our thinking relating to things of a sexual nature.
At no point would I advocate deliberately lying, or intentionally misleading a spouse - in a way that would cause grave harm. The greatest strength of any relationship is love, the greatest tool - communication. Both would be respected here as well.
However, to claim that one partner should be able to expect that the other would, and more foolishly - should completely fulfill them sexually - totally, and throughout the entire course of a relationship, is well - foolish. I stand by my previous statement, I will love, respect, and cherish my partner - if, and/or when I do find that person - but at the same time, I will also use logic to make our lives fulfilling and easier - using tools (and porn can be one of those tools - one, in a vast array of tools) to make our lives better.
A tool is not inherantly positive or negative - use of it, though, is. The tool is only as powerful as the person(s) that use it, and so I will, if necessary, use it when the time calls for it. Do I hope to find 'the one' and so never use it - sure! However, it is much more likely that I will find a great one, that understand me and loves me, and who I will not pressure into being 'perfect for me', and so will have to use a tool here and there to make our lives better. Either way, I am hoping and willing to work towards a great life. It's mine, and my choice.
You are right, but with the older forms of gratification, men would have to go out and seek. Not only that, it usually meant cheating on their spouse physically. The accessibility of porn is very recent, which is why it has become more of an addiction.
Also, I once again disagree that you shouldn't set up expectations for your partner. People have other expectations such as reproduction, roles in the household, ect. It's okay to set boundaries of you aren't okay with something. I think that men that need more to sexually satisfy themselves should either be in open relationships or polygamist relationships, where once again both partners agree and on the same page. I don't think porn belongs in monogamy, unless the other partner is okay with it. It is very damaging, but men who watch porn will always of course argue against because they are the ones watching it, not the ones on the other side of it. My husband and I both only need each other, and we both agree porn is damaging. Not every male needs it. If you don't want to be "deprived" find a partner with the same beliefs.
***** Thank you, and the same to you as well.
thankyou so much, the words you spoke are exactly how I feel with my boyfriend. I know I am pretty but I often feel when we are sexual he is not with me and he is in porn thoughts or thinking of others. it has been a struggle. I wish I could inspire him to want more sexual connection (foreplay too) but he says porn sex is normal and all guys do it and it does not affect his attraction to me. Why do I still feel distrust... Is there any hope?
Beacuse you are ugly and useless
@@vicxthemw thanks for sharing how you feel about yourself.. she’s gorgeous and has sexual needs too.. all of us women do.. so before you call a stranger ugly and useless make sure you check the mirror.. or at least have a real photo of you, you are a jackass at its finest.
Good video Stefan.
I hit like by the time I reached half of the video. Thanks a lot my friend. Never thought of it that way
what the hell are orgies anyway?? Just asking..
don't have girlfriend that's why I'm watching porn
Ironic how I just started my 30 day challenge a few days prior to this video being published. I recommend Gary Wilson's book on Porn Addiction which goes into the actual science of why porn is bad for your brain and how desensitization occurs.
Thanks for sharing, will be helpful for others to check out.
thanks a lot bro for sharing your experience
porn destroy everyone relationship .some people even after knowing this or even after showing them truth they still think that is true. for some people is sex education !!!!! this video is really helpful .thank you
i am going to start today no fap no porn ive been looking for an answer or help thanks for teaching me a lesson
If you use your imagination don’t image porn scenes. Just makes you want to go to the screen
Thank you so much for an awesome lesson.
You keep mentioning partner... what if you are single?? Who am I supposed to imagine?
118 days in still not easy but I’m done don’t want to go through the hell again of first 60-90 days.
I'm only on day 2
I'm on day one again :/
dam nice
thanks man
great video senor! hahah I had no idea when you were gonna stop starting at 2:35 and on..
Glad you enjoyed it!
"These women...a lot of these women...these women!". Umm, not all of us are watching porn with women in them. Just an FYI.
The majority of men watch porn with women in them, so I am appealing to and relating to them in this video.
I get that - however I am thinking about the successful reach of your audience. I do think that you message can (and it is your goal - I am assuming here - and so if I am over reaching, please forgive me for it) and should be directed towards anyone who consumes porn. Admittedly, 'the majority of men watch porn with women in them', but your messages thus far (over the course of your messages here) have not only focused on men - and neither should this message. Substituting 'these women' with 'these actors/performers' would have enlarged the message's reach in that it would not have only targeted men, and would not have only taken umbrage to the 'women' performing in it.
I disagree with you, on this message from you - because I view it as sex-negative - but it is one of the only ones that I disagree with in the quantity of content that you have provided us with. I want to (despite me disagreeing with you on this point) see you become more successful, and grow into the powerhouse that I know that you are. I offer that in a case like this though, that you be mindful of the message's delivery in order to maximize the audience - and in a case like this, tailor the message in a more personalized way, given that the subject matter is so very personal and intimate.
He didn't mention animals either :/
I'm doing the challenge! I'm a week in.
Love your old videos Stefan
Thank you for the support!
Yup... absolutely true.
A dopamine detox is a powerful way for someone to reset their mind and overcome porn addiction - ua-cam.com/video/JycbuFWDWCw/v-deo.html
You're smart bro. I need more friends like you!
I'm starting today
I appreciate this video. I have had this mindset for the last 6-7 years. It's good to see that I am not the only one. Trust Stefan and Trust me when I say that 30 days without ejaculation is hard it comes with demons but it increases your energy and as a side effect it makes every interaction with women a little better. Check out "The Way of the Superior Man" by David Deida for more on this subject. It is an amazing book.
Thanks David. Way Of The Superior Man is an awesome book, I agree!
Thank you Stephen!
Thank you so much for this
+Lizzy Lizzy No problem Lizzy!
Day 30 challenge starts now. Day 1 tomorrow
Really important topic thanks for posting it Stefan. Tim Ferris in his last random show admitted to watching too much porn and put himself on a 30 day hiatus from watching it, not sure if he stopped watching it all together through. Shortly after that he put out a 30 day NOBNOM challenge, no booze and no masturbation for 30 days. Porn creates a weak mind and an empty soul.
Interesting! Thanks for sharing.
Or if you want to be a straight savage practice seamen retention . You’ll be on GOD mode
bro thanks u saved my life
9 days clean. Let’s get it
I do watch it once a day...but now I do feel like I should follow what you are saying..it consumes your energy for nothing... CHALLENGE ACCEPTED Stefan
Akshay Gandhi also you hair loss is is a symptom
Sorry didn't got you
Akshay Gandhi too much masturbation can cause hair loss