Asking Help From A Covert Narcissist

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  • Опубліковано 25 гру 2024

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  • @susanparker9877
    @susanparker9877 20 годин тому +66

    Their help equals' debt. There's always a catch.

  • @litzatedesco1417
    @litzatedesco1417 22 години тому +65

    You are absolutely correct,there’s always a hidden agenda.Much appreciation and blessings to you.

  • @beckyw4300
    @beckyw4300 22 години тому +65

    The knife in the sandwich lol. Its exactly what it feels like.

  • @traceenoelle
    @traceenoelle 18 годин тому +23

    It’s so creepy and terrifying it really makes me sad 💔💔

    • @Pixl8dwhmsy
      @Pixl8dwhmsy 9 годин тому

      Sadly everyone isn't made like us. I will never understand it, but it is a fact that remains.

  • @Cloud-ok1zw
    @Cloud-ok1zw 19 годин тому +18

    100% ACCURATE. I thank you, Danish!

  • @bock12341
    @bock12341 20 годин тому +25

    I can’t express to you how much you are helping so many . I am very grateful for you. What a loving spirit and soul you are 🙏💕

  • @franken-pattern
    @franken-pattern 22 години тому +45

    Everything they do has something awful behind it. Danish is spot on, as usual!

  • @lindafolks
    @lindafolks 17 годин тому +3

    Truth!!
    After you’ve healed and freed yourself from these demons you can laugh at how ridiculously insidious they are!!
    Thank you for your humor!
    I love your expressions!!
    Peace and love Danish!!
    🙏❤️🕊🌟🌹🎶💯⛓️‍💥🌸

  • @divinedesign4247
    @divinedesign4247 15 годин тому +3

    It's absolutely true. 💯 💯 💯

  • @jeremylee6513
    @jeremylee6513 18 годин тому +6

    💯 on point

  • @Cata0110
    @Cata0110 19 годин тому +12

    They are big liers, they offer you something but some how is not real, or only in their convenience.

  • @meherd.kabraji6117
    @meherd.kabraji6117 8 годин тому +3

    Thank you for your efforts in sharing such helpful content.
    They create unnecessary guilt so that you never say No.
    Spot on!

  • @NirupaRishi
    @NirupaRishi 16 годин тому +5

    👍very true, my ex narc offered help but he expected way more. He appeared to be so greedy, manipulative and controlling. 🙏Thank you Danish for exposing such demons.

  • @lindawheeler3479
    @lindawheeler3479 22 години тому +8

    You are the most accurate on you tube. I also listen to David E Clarke. You give the accurate personal account. David tries to get people out by clarifying the Bible. God does not want you in abuse. It's true these people exist.

  • @michelleparker6202
    @michelleparker6202 18 годин тому +6

    So true! It’s absolutely deceptive like baking chocolate 😂 except never a good outcome from them!!

  • @katrinabeethechange
    @katrinabeethechange 21 годину тому +6

    Thank you for this education and demonstration...I pray you are blessed in all ways because of it in Yeshua

  • @renukajaikaran5779
    @renukajaikaran5779 21 годину тому +10

    This describes how all my relatives on both sides treated me from 4 years old until my 53 years I am now. You are spot on Danish as usual. As a child you cannot recognize this because you are unaware of the games adults play. But having life experience as an adult you can spot that deceit from miles away. Its hurtful when its relatives you treated very well to say the least your whole life.

  • @Me_di
    @Me_di 21 годину тому +10

    Oh lordy lord the accuracy of this

  • @shiny7301
    @shiny7301 22 години тому +9

    💯💯💯💯💯💯Spot on again Danish. When I watch your videos I remember this amazing quote from Carl Gustav Jung "The doctor is effective only when he himself is affected. Only the wounded physician heals.” Thanks, God bless you❤🙏🏻

  • @memoryrinehart
    @memoryrinehart 20 годин тому +7

    Its easy to feel intense pity towards them countered by intense anger?
    A relationship of perpetual ambivalence

  • @Mary-lk8eq
    @Mary-lk8eq 15 годин тому +1

    This is unimaginable,as a child. Ive deal with this mess as an adult,& it's very difficult.

  • @createa.googleaccount713
    @createa.googleaccount713 19 годин тому +4

    THANK YOU!!!!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @memoryrinehart
    @memoryrinehart 21 годину тому +4

    I feel it--so don't show much emotion whether positive or negative and you'll be alright...
    You feel the emotions when out of their presence...
    Their rage is fast and furious--you won't know what hit you, and it's usually accompanied with a quick withdrawal, because sadly they're cowards--a cowardly hit n run!

  • @LilySunshine-q1p
    @LilySunshine-q1p 20 годин тому +8

    If he brings you a drink, check for antifreeze. When he says “cheers”, he’s actually saying “die”.

  • @60sGirl123
    @60sGirl123 22 години тому +14

    I find everyone around me to be exhausting now, even if they’re not narcs. How many years can I live as a hermit before that’s abnormal? 🤔.

    • @chris-b
      @chris-b 18 годин тому +3

      Not many. Things will change completely for you for the better. Hang in there until then. Do something that makes you happy.

    • @liseduedue2715
      @liseduedue2715 16 годин тому +2

      Finding people making you exhausted, ?? So true. Because you’re still traumatized! Need rest.
      There s more than 1 N in my presence, so easy to see the same issue… bad words, speech behind your back, steels, making drama, shouts and yells, threatening, lies, blames, cannot make a favor without asking for gratitude the rest of your life ( you’ve already said it clearly, but it’s not enough), if you’re busy or need to rest, they say you’re ego and useless…
      They often take alcohol or drugs.
      You name it….
      So after all this, and no treatment, you rather need rest and silence. Yeah it can take TIME , to find back to yourself

  • @StrawberryCream-l7n
    @StrawberryCream-l7n 22 години тому +5

    😅😂 Yep you got it. Big Ole hidden sharp one too 😂😮 sad but true.

  • @jnks456
    @jnks456 18 годин тому +5

    They help if there's something in it for them..

    • @jnks456
      @jnks456 18 годин тому

      And if their hidden agenda doesn't happen....then they will make up their lies to compensate

  • @sharonparis8916
    @sharonparis8916 20 годин тому +2

    I’m married to I believe a CN what I find interesting is when I go “nuts” on him for some reason he’ll go pick up chic fillet/other things I have mentioned and said months ago that he” ignored” weird to me it’s almost like they intentionally do/say the most annoying stuff and when you blast them it seems as though they either enjoy it or want you to look crazy. Can’t stand them.

  • @BanishedFairyGirl
    @BanishedFairyGirl 15 годин тому +1

    Nice haircut !!! It looks great and yeah im scared to ask my narc in laws for help...

  • @observingsystem
    @observingsystem 40 хвилин тому

    So true. The knife in the sandwich made me laugh and I'll think of that next time I see this phenomenon and hopefully I'll be able to laugh about it. Things like this make a person super self relient and never asking for help. Sometimes it's a good thing, but nobody can do everything alone 100% of the time.

  • @susanotim792
    @susanotim792 6 годин тому

    I’m a victim of all these narcissistic behaviors! I pray for those facing same to get out of it ! It’s disgusting!😢

  • @Angelic102
    @Angelic102 22 години тому +6

    So true so true

  • @madelsigmaempath
    @madelsigmaempath 12 годин тому

    Accurately. I won't ask for her help ever again. She did it to me b4 but never again. Thank u Danish for another eye opener and knowledge u shared us. I will never come back to my old covert narc friend ever again. I felt like a fool & being deceived so much!

  • @bepresent_reflect8
    @bepresent_reflect8 11 годин тому

    I never realized until now how true that is.

  • @hannahb3854
    @hannahb3854 19 годин тому +2

    This is my mother in law, she bought my husband a house and she expects him to have her and her daughter to stay when ever she’s wants (hotel) and expects to know his every move….. it’s beyond toxic and suffocating

  • @FayreeenAarow
    @FayreeenAarow 14 годин тому +1

    Actual if they can hardly do it… the hypocrisy won’t let them… Of course it’s just to pass that for a moment. It has to be in front of somebody else so they’ll look like the good guy.😢.. it’s all fake!!!

  • @irismaxwell5969
    @irismaxwell5969 9 годин тому

    Every word concerning your lecture is true! We must pray for all NARCASSIST!

  • @GetPreparedandReady
    @GetPreparedandReady 13 годин тому

    That knife in between the bread, took me out😂😂😂😂😂😂
    Because that’s what it feels like when receiving help from them

  • @chanellovely2836
    @chanellovely2836 20 годин тому +2

    This is ao true!

  • @dalivo-lh6dr
    @dalivo-lh6dr 22 години тому +5

    Again it happened today my entire so called family levels changes but same

  • @chandrakantha3764
    @chandrakantha3764 5 годин тому

    Right its invisible pain, its like killing you in and out like your going back and forth trauma situations

  • @Prabhunathachari
    @Prabhunathachari 22 години тому +2

    That's why I never asked help from my narc friend he crys on What we have

  • @lisa2000geese
    @lisa2000geese 10 годин тому

    Even if they act like they are helping by offering advice or some item, it is more like an obligation that you should do what they think is best, because if you don't use the advice or gift, they act like you are terrible

  • @timiburke7133
    @timiburke7133 9 годин тому

    It will COST you.. loss value, loss equity, loss relationships, loss of reputation… loss of dignity.

  • @skbarnes2012
    @skbarnes2012 6 годин тому

    Yep,gotta love the emotional blackmail. She always seems to use things she did for me when she doesn’t get the reaction she wants out of me. My mom wants me to be just as miserable as she is. Then I tell her I would’ve never accepted what she offered me if I knew she would hold it against me forever.

  • @smile-fg4cd
    @smile-fg4cd 22 години тому +4

    Hi everything u show is so true my parents were narcissists and I'm still suffering and find every day so hard which country are you in sir?

  • @imanialone015
    @imanialone015 22 години тому +2

    So dammn true

  • @Hanna3471-r9q
    @Hanna3471-r9q 15 годин тому

    Yep. My narc paid for my appointment to see a neurologist for a diagnosis of ms.
    A year later, I caught him cheating and I went to leave and he told me "you owe me"

  • @honeybadgerisme
    @honeybadgerisme 10 годин тому

    😂Best description of most politicians...!

  • @ektaupadhyay903
    @ektaupadhyay903 12 годин тому

    Thank you Danish for helping me join the dots

  • @JF32304
    @JF32304 22 години тому +4

    YYYEEESSS!!!

  • @meowmeow7212
    @meowmeow7212 8 годин тому

    Yup… u very well described my parents.

  • @RS-sv5my
    @RS-sv5my 4 години тому

    The sandwich example 🥪😅🤣so true👍

  • @kky.x
    @kky.x 6 годин тому

    my ex preyed on my vulnerabilities in such an insidious way where he laced his covert abuse behind false reassurance to absolve himself of blame but it was subtly designed to destabalize me and create cognitive dissonance

  • @THB_M888
    @THB_M888 15 годин тому

    That’s my in-laws right there 💯

  • @anithag161
    @anithag161 4 години тому

    Thank you Angel Danish❤

  • @ismailpatel7222
    @ismailpatel7222 19 годин тому +1

    Evil can not fool evil 😅

  • @heneverforesakesme4038
    @heneverforesakesme4038 11 годин тому

    it's ALWAYS transactional in some form.

  • @Magicmalu222
    @Magicmalu222 13 годин тому

    Exactly 💯 💯 💯

  • @emmasuo272
    @emmasuo272 21 годину тому +1

    Thank you danish bhai

  • @memoryrinehart
    @memoryrinehart 21 годину тому +1

    Im still waiting for a request I can say no to...

  • @bwise2rise70
    @bwise2rise70 16 годин тому

    Yes my Neighbor gave me dumb stuff, Like fast food a toy we couldn't fit anywhere in the house. Never asked if I want it. Just Left it at my door. Then said Later date I did this I did that all harsh. What did they want from me my Sweat or SouL. Not gonna happen!!!

  • @sumicv
    @sumicv 20 годин тому

    Exactly my sister

  • @joycetallman1939
    @joycetallman1939 17 годин тому +1

    That’s right

  • @earthelucidator
    @earthelucidator 10 годин тому

    My narcissistic "dad" just blocked me on Christmas for sharing this with him. Truth hurts i suppose.

  • @leefossett5777
    @leefossett5777 14 годин тому

    I keep wondering how many times my narcissistic stepmom thought about getting rid of me while we were growing up. I could literally feel her hatred toward me at times. (I was 4 when she came to be my mom).

  • @robbyphillips5251
    @robbyphillips5251 20 годин тому +1

    This is true

  • @ALULUKEJULIET
    @ALULUKEJULIET 5 годин тому

    Very Very true oooh

  • @INFJ2
    @INFJ2 13 годин тому

    Its always to be 'superior' to you

  • @beverlybuckhorn9168
    @beverlybuckhorn9168 14 годин тому

    So tired of abusers

  • @Goodpik_goodlife
    @Goodpik_goodlife 4 години тому

    Exactly!

  • @monteblazilla7776
    @monteblazilla7776 13 годин тому

    I’ve cut off ppl like it ain’t nothing after my ex narc but my damn mamma mmm, how did you do Darnish, jus how… How did you walk away from your parent for good

  • @jhalak831
    @jhalak831 9 годин тому

    They give bread with poison 😅

  • @notbextley6997
    @notbextley6997 7 годин тому

    They wish it was that easy 🤮

  • @pushpabhatia8972
    @pushpabhatia8972 20 годин тому

    bilkul sahi

  • @sparklyautisticrat
    @sparklyautisticrat 19 годин тому

    Agreed.

  • @Stephani-u7m
    @Stephani-u7m 3 години тому

    This is same as horse training

  • @iippesante4102
    @iippesante4102 12 годин тому

    💯💯

  • @aratii4566
    @aratii4566 19 хвилин тому

    So true

  • @catmartin0713
    @catmartin0713 8 годин тому

    😂😂💯💯💯

  • @wendyg.2664
    @wendyg.2664 19 годин тому

    💯

  • @sinceresong9907
    @sinceresong9907 4 години тому

    ALWAYS

  • @EagleWhistle
    @EagleWhistle 5 годин тому

    🤦🏾‍♀️

  • @kc-000-00
    @kc-000-00 15 годин тому

    Not all maries are born demon but only one is Saint.

  • @aleksandrakettner905
    @aleksandrakettner905 29 хвилин тому

    ☘️

  • @LookUpYourRedemptionDrawsNigh
    @LookUpYourRedemptionDrawsNigh 16 годин тому

    Yep

  • @Yamini-m7z
    @Yamini-m7z 13 годин тому

    But sir your conselling fees is too high. Like 200$ for a session is actually not affordable.

  • @deborahwales1717
    @deborahwales1717 21 годину тому

    Sachrine

  • @note4note804
    @note4note804 7 годин тому

    This is fortune teller garbage, designed to be just vague enough to feel correct. Offer a specific example. Say for instance, a hack UA-camr who pretends to offer advice, but really it's just to keep you insecure and fearful so you'll be compelled to trust them and watch them to guide you.

  • @jennylynfujioka
    @jennylynfujioka 6 хвилин тому

    Bye toxic people

  • @Human-h8t
    @Human-h8t 9 годин тому

    Your video is always been helpful to me.

  • @katrinabeethechange
    @katrinabeethechange 20 годин тому +4

    Thank you for this education and demonstration...I pray you are blessed in all ways because of it in Yeshua