Husband refuses to give wife any money to spend on groceries and kids [Part 2] | K-DOC
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Sarang met her now-husband when he went to Uzbekistan on business. After 3 years of a long distance relationship, they got married in 2010. Her father actually disapproved of the marriage even until the day of their wedding, but she moved to Korea anyway. Is it everything she'd expected it would be?
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우즈베키스탄 김사랑 Air Date: 2018.7.17
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Now I see why her father had reservations about her marrying this man. He's 13 years older than her and set in his ways. He's not going to change. There is no way 50 dollars can cover expenses for two growing girls. Kids are not cheap! They need clothes, toiletries, etc. God bless this woman.
@Moon Bae He has some money, his parents have access to his finances, he's just actively choosing not to use it on his family. She's providing for their family while he's saving money and putting it away for himself. He's not doing his fair share when it comes to housework or expenses. I would get it more if he was actually the bread winner and providing for the family, but he isn't. He doesn't contribute at all to living expenses even when he can.
@Moon Bae business? but he doesn't show it in show 🤷♀️
Don't defend a disrespectful (because he treats his wife badly), lazy and distrustful man because he didn't want to give his wife his bank account. So where is the trust in the relationship?
I hope that business is real and prosperous because otherwise that marriage will not last.
« Kids aren’t cheap » 100% agree. That’s why Koreans are usually smart and avoid having kids when they’re not financially secure, even if it would include getting married and dating late. And when they do have kids, they usually only get 1, if they’re really cautious, because investing in 1 child’s life is pretty expensive especially if you wanna give him the best things in life, like healthy food, new clothes, and in the futur some particular lessons. You have so many upper middle class couples that choose to have 1 kid, but then you see poor couples that can barely support themselves choosing to have 3-4 children, which is like digging your own grave!
@Moon Bae fuck him man, 50 dollars for groceries and for the kids ?? That's supposed to be HER spending money. She should spend that money for herself because That's her allowance. wtf allowance and groceries money is fucking different
She done this to herself
Reminds me of my ex. We’re both engineers but he made more money than me. When i was pregnant, we’d go grocery shopping & he’d watch me pay for all the diapers & clothes for the baby. He didn’t bother offering. We broke up when i was 5 months pregnant. Fast forward, he never reached out since the day i moved out. I then met my now husband that is the kindest, most generous man I could ever ask for. Sometimes you just gotta dump the trash so you could have a better life.
Girl tell me the red flags that you saw cause there had to be some before you got pregnant
I'm in a stem program havent finished it and my bf is an engi. Still at school. Does the red flags appear early on
@@sylvienguyen1010 vet him girl, really pay attention to his actions and don’t just blindly believe everything he says or turn a blind eye to the little things. When we’re in love we tend to put rose coloured glasses over everything but I promise you it’s better to really vet him than to suffer a lifetime of pain
@@MintRoses247 nope, 0 red flags. He was very generous, paid for all the dates, even ordered food to my home all the time. Even my family didn’t see it coming. To really sum it up, you don’t & will never really truly know someone until something happens to you.
@@justaregularperson8319 So out of no where he just started being a bum towards you and your baby? Sometimes red flags are the ones we ignore, the ones that we don’t even realize were red flags until wayyy later. Most red flags are not obvious things but little things in the the adjectives they use or the way they like to do certain things. I’m sorry that happened to you but I still feel it’s important to truly vet a person before dating them
should be a lesson for many women! no way i would marry a man, move to HIS country, learn to speak his language and raise kids there all while being denied financial support. her father was right to be cautious and this is very telling
She didn't know before hand so its not her fault. He lied to her by breaking his promises.
@@ARS-fn6px exactly, she isn't to blame for him being this way
@@ARS-fn6px Nobody said it was her fault.
@@LiveLoveLaugh102310 it was implied by the OP. OP is just victim-blaming when she was deceived.
I would never marry a man in the first place because I am gay. I feel bad for her. Not all men are like him but she chose a really bad husband.
She left her parents, her country, her friends for this man and this man is treating her like this? What a disappointment.
Yea
Yup, he has her where he wants her and knows she can’t easily go back. He was looking for a second mom and living life without responsibilities. Some guys just don’t grow up, he doesn’t deserve to have her and the kids.
77% women care about guys who dont really care about 'em!
She emigrated to Korea, cares for the children, does all the chores, AND works three jobs to support the family? Meanwhile, he won’t even split expenses with her? What exactly does he contribute?
nothing she should just divorce no point being with a useless person like that he is never going to be better if he is like that at his old fucking age, its like she is taking care of three kids
he is useless, the worst thing is that he treats her badly 🤦🏻♀️
Sperms
This! Exactly! If you do EVERYTHING on your own, why have dead weight dragging you down?
Chinese or Korean guys are like that lol. You ain’t getting flowers on Valentine’s Day.
The wife is better off a single mother, one less mouth to feed!
The fact that this man doesnt even know what illness his daughter has is absurd!
Oh, if she cannot buy clothes now after doing 3 jobs, how is she going to buy them as a single mother ? Duh
@@vivvelsene63 You're acting like the husband pays for her living expenses when he literally contributes NOTHING.
@@vivvelsene63 The husband is there for decoration so how is it any different from being a single mom?
@@lilycha9398 that's the exact thing.. only fools are assuming her life will be better if he is not there
@@vivvelsene63 She'll definitely have more money to save without having to pay for the husband, even probably more time to spend with the kids
Arguing about money in front of kids is never a good idea. Kids are more aware about their surroundings than what adults seem to know
You took me out the words , i cant agree more its really depressing that parents shows this "side" you could say in front of kind, they are not stupids or anything, can sense the ambience as well as the conversation and of course its gonna affect them in a good or bad way. I appreciate the efforts of the mother but even then this kind of mistakes are often made for most of parents.
I think the children should be made aware of the expenses of the parents from a young age so they know not to expect more than their parents can afford to give them.
But of course, these kids are too young to understand.
@@hibu88 But not like that. Kids shouldn’t see their parents fighting over money
Very very true.. i remember lot of what happend around me when i was aged just 3, 4yr old till now.. after 30 years..
feels like they are doing it for the camera , its just like TV shows , people are told to fake arguments and create drama for the sake of the TV series .
This makes me really appreciate my husband. He works, helps around the house, talks over the budget with me and makes sure we have not only our needs but some wants too, and is very active in planning our family together. Every woman who works hard deserves a man who does too.
Amen!
My partner and i do this too, but he is mainly in charge of most of the financial things like the investments, i am looking forward to learning those too soon because he works off shore at times so i'm going to be mostly in charge of our home at its responsibilities
and what do you do?
@@littlecretin-h6j and u also asked him the same thing in the last , u got all triggered for those few words and wrote a paragraph. Even if u bring something to the table it would be fcuked up to live with u r snowflake ass
U got a really decent husband. God bless you! ❤🎉 celebration for that! 😊
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Her dad knew. An older man taking advantage of his daughter. Now we see her completely drained as she raises 3 kids (her husband included).
This dude is so far removed from the realities of what it takes to raise a family. 50 dollars allowance for his wife for her to buy groceries AND shop for the kids and he's still complaining? Dude, household expenses should not be included in allowance. That's all food and necessities to keep the family alive.
I saw the title of the video and got triggered
Totally agree!! How can you call a household expenses as allowance???
@@Cxs1a3 This is not poor shaming or so whatever. He just got no sympathy for his wife. His wife work 2 to 3 jobs, yet he doesn’t help around the house. He is selfish & lazy. He also don’t wanted to give his wife the bank account. He depends his wife on everything yet he doesn’t want to give her his account 🤣🤣 suspicious 🤨
@@Cxs1a3 note that money was his wife's
@@Cxs1a3 Dude, watch the part 3 once it's out. He promised her that he would support her to further her studies once they get married. He literally lied to her and get called out by the host of the show. I have watched the full episode. It has nothing to do with race. Are you against interracial marriage or just racist?
I could never marry a man like this, I would die.
lol, I would rather be a lesbian. 😭
@@solaris5922 same😂💜
@@solaris5922 Another option is to be that eccentric/sassy wine auntie who never married.
@@andreahl3494 I like this idea lol
@@andreahl3494 wow thissss😂😂😂
As a kid who grew up with a father who was really tight with money it stays with you till adulthood. I can't fathom being in a relationship like this at all. It's one of the reasons why I insist on working and being childfree. It is harder on women if you rely on another person for money especially if kids are involved
me too. my dad is a DOCTOR and he’s still a cheap skate. its now one of the qualities i despise most in people. i hope to god i don’t marry someone like that.
@@Fifi-jb3yx My father was the same way with my mother when they were together.
Same. I grew up hearing my family constantly fight about money. It was an everyday thing and even at a really young age, I could see the stress of having kids and what it did to my family as the majority of my family members had children at a young age and for whatever reason, I can not fathom, keep having them even though they already struggle immensely. Now I always worry about money and I do not plan on having children. It only causes pain for both the parents and the children as their parents take their anger and stress out on them.
Same. He promised my mother to take care of her and us children financially, money was tight and she decided to work. Once she earned more than him and took care of responsibilities, he stopped even paying for our education. Wished she’d have left him and enjoy her life.
@@Ffffjjjje aww :( mothers really do a lot to give us kids a better future, I hope she gets to live her life now that (I’m assuming) you and your siblings are older 😊
To those who defend the husband probably hasn't experienced how traumatizing it is to live with this kind of man. 😕
In another excerpt, she tells how her father was against her emigrating to Korea. He passed away 2 years ago and she deeply regrets her decision. She only then noticed how right he was.
Oh that’s so terrible..
Single girls, please don't watch too much K-drama. Life for working class men is not the same like Chaebol life. Just don't have babies too soon, check the financial situations first.
Some parents in laws and husband really don't give the wife allowance because they think the wife as an outsider (other people's daughter), even in other countries.
Exactly 👌🏻
I have dated a Korean man when he was living in my country. While we lived together, he had no drive. Lazy helping with housework. I took charge of everything. He was irresponsible compare to me. When he asked me to move to Korea with him, I refused. Told him love doesn't pay the bills.
True !!! They think that life in the k dramas is the same as real life !! Girls really need to wake up !!! I don’t really understand the fascination with Korean men 🤣🤣.
I feel pity to all those who think whatever is shown in movies are the same in reality
@@onion4464 Because korean dramas always potray extremely rich men or at least middle-high class. The dramas never show the couples having kids.
Asian countries are all about face no way they will potray poverty and struggle.
She's beautiful, smart, speaks Korean, has work, she can leave him. He's dead weight. No man who loves and respects his wife behaves in such an appalling manner.
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It's sad tho that she'll most likely be discriminated upon if she decides to become a Single Mom
She can always stay with him while she finds a sugar daddy.
Agree
Wait. He starts a business and takes out a huge loan to buy a truck and tells her to "cherish" the money she spent on the kids? The money she earned. He starts a new business and his kids don't have food to eat or clothes to wear? (serious eye roll) Shouldn't someone like that be working 24/7 instead of coming home early.
Means he doesnt have workm
Exactly, I was confused on why he made such a big risk with two young children involved knowing that the wife’s income won’t cover everything.
@@solaris5922 because he doesn’t care
Like damn, he should not have kids if he want to spend it to himself and saying that "cherish the money" to his wife. So he really doesn't care about his family.
This man is doing my head in 😭 the respect for his wife is just not there.
Typical korean ajossi ;)
Thats why many koreans want to meet a foreigner bf/husband..
He’s taking her for granted. He’s just asking for a divorce.
I'm shocked cause his giving her the money she made. It's not his money. She worked for that money
@@BlueBabyAkaAj yeah and then his snarky remarks “Go buy everything with $50! Cherish it! 😒”
literally. out of hunger.
Reminds me of my own father. My mum moved to a foreign country for his job's sake. He earned a lot of money, whereas my mum didn't earn enough to pay for all the basics (and she was in a country she didn't speak the language of - she essentially had to restart her life all over again far from her family). He refused to share anything, my mum literally had to beg him to give her enough money for food, clothes etc. I grew fast, as kids do (which means you have to buy clothing often, since the child grows out of it fast). My mum would say "I need money for our child's shoes", and my father would ask "Why?", even though I couldn't walk in my shoes anymore. My father would control absolutely all the expenses. Meanwhile, he would eat out at restaurants by himself, buy himself expensive food, go on holiday by himself, and I barely saw him, to the point I was scared of him because he was like a stranger to me. My mum was left to do all the chores and child-rearing alone, despite working the same amount of hours as my father and earning much less (my father was a manager, my mum was working minimum wage). My father was simply greedy, narcissistic (like, someone with actual NPD), neglectful (on purpose), didn't care about anyone else but himself, manipulated me and my mum. Such people shouldn't be parents. The problem is that they hide their narcissistic traits till they get married. Once they get their spouse isolated, they start doing their evil, narcissistic things. The comments here that go "Omg, I would never marry a man line that!!!" make me laugh. What y'all don't understand is that people like that HIDE their true self before they get married and have kids. They get married and have kids because they love when someone's dependent on them (because that means they can exploit them). Narcissistic people can prey on anyone, especially on vulnerable people who've had toxic families. It's very difficult to avoid this, let alone get out of this. When you see red flags such as excessive money monitoring, RUN, get divorced, or otherwise it'll be too late and the child will get traumatised.
My grandfather is a malignant narc and like you mentioned, he marries and has kids so he can control them and they are perfect supply that can't run away. He has over 17 children from different women and he's over 70 years old. The youngest being 4 years old. He sucks the life out of them and breaks them down one by one. The last two wives married him out of desperation. The later one divorced him and he took her child because he didn't want to pay her for their child's expenses.
I swear, seeing men like these kills any type of attraction I have towards men. My father & uncle are similar to the husband in this video. It's a miracle that I have even 1% of hope for men because it feels likes i've been surrounded by the most disappointing, abusive, toxic, neglectful, selfish of them.
@@BashaerB-h2c God, your grandfather is awful, I'm so sorry about that. The fact that the youngest child is 4 is insane, the age gap between the mum and your grandfather must be huge.
I sort of feel the same about men. The worst thing is that there are so many narc men, I feel like I can't trust anyone. Society enables narc men and it's terrifying. I barely have any male friends and I never let my guard down when talking to men - I won't even talk about forming a *bond* with one.
THIS ON GOD
Thank you for sharing your story
Agree with you
@@RhythmAddictedState I can relate. My maternal grandpa, paternal grandpa, and my dad all cheated on their respectives wives. One of my uncle did not treat his wife well and they seperated (no divorce in my country), not so sure if he cheated too. Another uncle, who likes women, asked his then gf to abort when she got pregnant. One of my aunts has a husband who very religious yet is a freeloader and treats her badly. Another aunt has to serve her husband like a king because he has zero life skills (like he does not know how to microwave food), they also fight a lot. One of my aunts has a husband who is not a great provider, they also fight a lot, btw she's a working mother. One of my cousins took money behind his wife to invest of which it tanked, so she annulled their marriage. Another cousin had a wife who annulled their marriage too, I forgot what caused their rocky marriage.
I only have 1 aunt who had a good husband, he passed early, not even in his 60s.
I don't wanna get married bec the chances of a bad marriage is higher than a good marriage.
My father was exactly like this. And guess what it didn't change one bit. I saw my mother struggle with 2 jobs all her life bearing the financial burden of a family of 4 all by herself. Whenever my dad would make some money he would prioritise himself. He didn't split the bill for electricity, gas or groceries with my mother even once. He would only talk about how he will spend when he starts earning (just like this guy). And tell big tales of how he would "buy me whatever i want" but it was all just for show. When i was old enough i told my mother to leave and start living for herself. It was the best decision she ever made. She chilling in Amsterdam now teaching in uni because it's her passion and not a necessity. The difference it made on her mental and physical health was phenomenal.
Ladies you deserve to be taken care of too. If your partner isn't supporting you LEAVE.
So happy it worked out for your mom and you. So cool she’s teaching in Amsterdam now! I’m originally from there.
your mom is awesome!!
The outcome made me happy. Wishing u and ur mum the best ❤️
Her dad was right to be apprehensive. If she was an only child she probably didn’t need to want for anything
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This poor woman made life so hard on herself by marrying that man. She definitely deserves better.
That's victim blaming. This man is making it hard on her because he won't take care of his responsibilities.
@@Anjaneegaines123 she had a choice didn't she? The worse a person the harder it is to change them. She seems to be the better and more reasonable of the 2 so the advice/chastise is given to her
@@Anjaneegaines123 it’s not victim blaming at all… you’re essentially saying she was forced to marry him? no. she had a choice, it was the wrong choice but she still had a choice
That was on her, she had a choice and she took the worst one
I wish she would find somebody else he is awful ☹️
In this case, it's always okay to leave something that is no longer serving you. Life is already stressful and you do not need the stress that comes with teaching a grown man how to handle his business. It's better to start all over again and leave this clown alone.
You said it all 👏🏽 it's 21st century for Goddess
The problem is the kids, I don't think his family will let her take the kids. And as Mom that's what she's worried about.
@@rosemarie6347 if she and her kids already abroad, there’s nothing they can do anyway
@@rosemarie6347 yes just secretly buy tickets and get the visa and go abroad when he's out without telling them
@ymarrero23 funny cause it seems like they are pretty much growing up without a father right now. He doesn't add much to the family when the wife is doing almost everything, three jobs and house work.
I hate how this show tries to “lighten” this type of toxic situation. I feel so bad for her and her kids. And honestly the culture difference is so apparent that it’s sad. Not everyone can be so strong being in a new environment. 😩
Me too
Wowowowow nothing makes me more grateful that this isn't my life. Imagine when the camera is off...
True having a family and begging for money in different country isn’t something I would be proud of
For your wife to feel the need to have more than one job in a country she is not from on top of a $50 allowance is absurd he is not just cheap but selfish . You can’t buy your kids clothes buy cotton candy is in the budget it’s a no
What if he is actually poor?
Ikr it‘s absolutely ridiculous and disgusting what a failure that dude is and it shocks me how he got married with the way he is! His poor wife suffers and the kids as well! If you are not financially stable don’t get married and don’t have kids. I know for a fact that no Korean woman would have ever married them since being rich and financially stable is extremely important in asian culture! Wo wonder her father didn’t approve of the marriage no one would have. She is dumb and naive as well for trusting people so easily and making kids so easily with someone that is poor.
@@zachcouch8654 don’t get married when you are poor simple as that. It‘s human decency for not wanting to get married when you have no money. Marriage and having kids is a big responsibility and dragging people into your poverty and making them struggle as well is disgusting and selfish.
He could have bought only one cotton candy for them to share
Why is he giving her an allowance of her own money. She should have access to it all. And all their accounts.
As a husband and a father, the guy has to responsible enough, the very least, to provide sufficient grocery money for decent food (because wife cook the food) and the children’s basic necessities such as clothing (because wife look after them).
If I am the wife’s parent I will tell her that her husband is exploiting her. Not only he expects her to pay for her needs herself, he also expects her to support their children herself. Then what is the point for him to be there???
Her financial condition might be the same if not better if she lives with the kids without him!!!
Despicable husband!!!
Exactly!!
Exactly.
I still can't get over how she has 3 jobs to support her and the kids, it's like her husband is just a roommate there. It's sad.
She might as well be a single mom. wtf.
@@LAtttiful well she's technically a single mom now too her husband is literally invisible
Huge red flag there when she asked the husband for the bank account info and he didn’t give it to her.
True dat
I think he gambles 🎰
Thank you. That 's a red flag right? My dad hides even his pay slip from my mum. She's in denial n think's it the norm.
@@lamatmulac6809 what makes you think that
Nah, he's just tryna avoid gold diggas, if anything that's a red flag, she's a gold digga
Reminds me of my family. My mom was a lawyer and my dad is a doctor. My dad made my mom quit her job to look after me and my sister. It sucks how women are forced to quit their jobs after having children and when they don't compile they are labelled as bad mom's. Its so sad to see my mom's hardwork going to waste.
I hate when men complain about how much money is spent on groceries when they dont realize they're the ones that eat most. In fact, men who dont do groceries have no idea how much it costs for them to eat comfortably like, wth. I'm just worried about the kids bc they're gonna grow up being conscious about money and they will not be comfortable asking they're parents about money
"Men" that complain about necessities such as groceries aren't men, they are man-child's that deserve to be single until they man-up and learn to earn enough to eat well. Shame on them.
The guy is a walking red flag 🚩🚩🚩Im so glad the hosts called him out
no Hes not
@@derekford7230 Men like him: we should be the providers, wives are happier when they stay at home. Feminists are lying to themselves and will die as old cat ladies.
Also men like him after marriage: Best I can do is $50
@@derekford7230 shut up
@@crewmatewillthrowthesehand7600 Hes struggling with money aint he
@@derekford7230 and he doesn't show his bank account and live off his wife's 3 jobs while she simultaneously look after the house and kids. You don't need money to look after the space you live in. Nah. My guy scammed her.
He doesn’t want her to work AND he’s cheap af? He got a lot of nerve… deserves to be alone
He should kiss her hands every day for taking care the house the childern and working extra jobs on top of that , unbelievable !
@Moon Bae she works 3 FUCKING JOBS AND TAKES CARE OF THE KIDS, WHAT THE FUCK DOES HE DO ALL HE DOES IS WORK
@Moon Bae she works 3 jobs because her useless husband doesn't even give money to feed the family and buy the most basic items for kids and she has three jobs but still manages time so why can't he do the same
@@Mr_Episode If she works so much , why is she even having to ask Money ? Whats the use in working such useless jobs ?
@@vivvelsene63 she could only afford odd jobs because she needs to take care of the children and house too…
@@vivvelsene63 surely her useless ass husband can give her money thats the least he could do, she provides for the kids and buys the groceries
This reminds me of my childhood so much. If the person you marry doesn’t want to be financially transparent with, run in the other direction because they will never change and you will end up settling. I have a feeling those kids have seen nastier fights than this - they may have toned it down because they were being filmed
She's literally a married single mother. She needs to divorce that good for nothing husband asap.
This is why you listen to your elders, parents and family members when it comes to relationships & marriage. Other people can point out potential problems before you do & they have insight from their own experiences. Love blinds you of the other person's flaws and when reality sets in, it's too late. But still, it's her choice to marry him and as an adult woman, so she should live with the consequences of her choice.
You’re absolutely right!!
Elders cannot choose who your going to have sex with. That's disgusting. They don't have to do it. If your in a bad relationship leave. Hold off on having kids right away.Take your time to get to know each other. Pregnancy can be a trap for both parties. Elders do not have to live in the marriage they create. They have no way of knowing what kind of person your marring they can only know the superficial basics like you. Living together is nothing like actually being married. When and if the marriage goes tits up the only person who will be hurt is you. Listen to advice and do your background checks on a person before you marry.
@@studiohq "Elders cannot choose who your going to have sex with. That's disgusting. They don't have to do it." "Elders do not have to live in the marriage they create."-- where did you get that from? I certainly didn't say those. However, It seems you negatively connote "Elders" automatically with arranged marriages, which in MY culture, elders do NOT do nor do we have arranged marriage. Advise from FAMILY & people who care and love you is better than any advise you get from the internet. We respect our elders in my country for their wisdom & age. Not everyone can live a long life and they have seen mistakes of the past.
My mum told me her dad, elder brother and elder sister was against her marrying my father. My granddad didn't even attend her wedding. I can see why. I guess there are truths n signs to heed when you have others against your marriage. Told her I rather stay single for life than marry someone like that.
Absolutly right. Your family wants you to be happy and live a good life with your partner. And if they dont approve your partner then you should think carefully about your relationship. People can make mistakes but some mistakes can open big wounds
That shit is abusive as fuck and she needs to get her and her kids out there asap
I felt embarrassed to see them arguing like this. It's unhealthy for them and for the kids.
The father is the most embarrassing of all. When the kids grow up, they will learn that their father is terrible.
There is nothing embarrassing about arguing it is a part of life on earth, we are not aliens we are human with a range of emotion that are not just 'warm and fuzzy' it is silly to think otherwise. There is discord between the parents due to their decisions (as happens in countless families) and clearly mom is trying to do the best she can. Blessings to their family.
@@aboriginiblues It's normal to argue. BUT What's embarrassing is they constantly do in front of their kids and in public. That's clearly not okay. If you think otherwise, then you need help.
@@Chalize your opinion. Light arguing in front of children is absolutely acceptable as long as it respectful and models healthy conflict resolution. Who do you think children learn from? It is short sighted to think otherwise.
@@aboriginiblues Cringe 😬. Just stop LOL
I tried to watch more of this to understand this but I couldn’t. I felt so much sympathy and sadness for this woman. It made me cry.
She worked so hard - three jobs. That’s while she’s also being a hands-on parents and wife. Making food and buying the groceries, cleaning the house and educating her children, making sure they’re clean, that they’re fed. I haven’t even started on her. She must have suffered so much. She’ll be rewarded one day - her children will grow and watch this. They’ll see how she suffered. I hope she’s OK. I wish she didn’t have the children in a way so she could easily escape.
😢😢 I agree with you. Wish she didn't go through this nor had children. Now she's in it 4 the long haul.
Most men don't shop 4 food but rather for hardware stuff for cars, garden, or like self-interest hobbies. My older neighbors are like that. Their wives are always shopping, cleaning inside, and cooking 🍽. They don't travel at all and are frugile. The older generation 🙄 just suffer through this. Poor women. They didn't really overall enjoy their marriages 😢😢😢
If ur single, I pray u find a decent man (if he's poor) who shops, cleans, cooks, spends quality time with u, hold meaningful conversations, and travel with u locally or internationally! Those men are a needle in a haystack! 😅
She has a lot of patience that woman is a saint oh my god, that man is really a traditional korean chauvinist and missogine lazy guy, he thinks she is his maid not his wife.
I hope that after this show, the husband realized that what he's doing is actually wrong. I feel bad for the mother. Although this documentary is like 3-4 years ago, I wonder if there are any updates with them?
Haha he is too old and delusional to change. My parents were exactly like this , super stingy and painfully ignorant.
I will make sure they will regret it when they are too old and weak to change after shating their pants. I will make sure they have no sons or daughters to show up at their funeral. I will make sure they will never see their grandchildren.
I wanna know too
Yea thats what I hate about these family cases. Theres never an update so im sure these abusive husbands continue.
What is the husband doing wrong?
@@youngz13o What do you think?
Parents dont know the consequences of arguing about finance infront of their kids. Speaking from experience, I’ve always feel insecure and frugal with money but at the same time i always overspend on things i dont need resulting in bad financial management, something that took me quite a while to learn. This has become a habit because my parents did this ever since I was young. It has impacted my mental health like everytime my parents brought up financial issues and how hard it was to raise children, I felt like I was a burden & their love towards me is conditional
You are right. Growing up my dad squandered all his hard earned money on alcohol so we always struggled for food and things. And now I have money to spend but I never spend on myself . Instead I buy too much for my kids and husband lol. I have started controlling my impulses. My husband is a simple man and he never buys for himself so I buy for him and I love buying things for kids only to realise that they enjoy playing more with me than toys 😅
Your right but also you gotta cut the parents some slack especially her man she works so hard she doesnt have time to hide her kids from her frustrations
With what life has become today it's good you have those habits. Spanding carefree is way worse.
Spot on, I can relate to this completely
YES
Her father's insight was great.
God bless that woman I hope God gives her strength to get her through what she is going through
The more I watch these videos the more I realize that I'm gonna be that one aunt who has no kids and no husband, just sit and drink my juice while everyone complain about their lives🤞 imagine the sacrifices she made just for this in return, sometimes I wish there was a way to see future so that you know what you are getting yourself into. I hope the husband feels bad and realizes that his actions are causing her pain emotionally, mentally and physically 🥺and I hope things gets better for her safe. No person should be going through this whether a woman or a man.
Plus the husband is 13 years older aka she is using all her good year being with someone like that deadweight to later in when her daughters are older she will have to take care of the husband and all in a foreign land
@@gc4161 stop it, I'm crying 😫😫😫 this is too deep I didn't even think about that. Dang I hope she's okay 😫
i am still single i cant imagine the stres of raising kids. and hubby.
@@memchakonthoujam3413 exactly and Hubby cause it's like you are raising another grown human being
@@theunknownseed no i am always unhealthy , sick. I dont want to take responsibity of husband and his family my health come first
I feel really bad for the mother and especially the kids, it's hard enough to talk about finances in front of your children since kids are more aware and they ain't stupid. Of course it's important to teach our children the importance of money, but it shouldn't come to a point where the mother and the kids feel bad about it.
There's lotsa ignorant men out there. The men in my neighborhood from ages 50s to 70s are no different. They think their job is enough to help contribute to the family ignoring all other things like chores.
My mum was earning more than my dad before they got married. She also had a brighter job prospect. She continued working till her 3rd child was born. From there, she quit the workforce to be a stay home mum. I feel angry n hurt for her just thinking about it. My dad only gave a few hundred dollars allowance every month when she had to feed her 4 children plus herself. I rmb her working rly low paying odd jobs that were flexi because she needed to take care of us. All these while my dad stayed out late at night n drinking lots. Now that we are all grown up, he has the audacity to brag of the non existent sacrifices he made for my siblings n I when clearly my mother was the one who sacrificed lots. The scrooge reminds me of my dad. Loves himself more.
Same with me wish my dad die
This!!! Is the case of lot of women. All to satisfy one stupid mans ego
Men like him: we should be the providers, wives are happier when they stay at home. Feminists are lying to themselves and will die as old cat ladies.
Also men like him after marriage: Best I can do is $50
Some ppl just shouldnt (be allowed to) have kids if they want to continue a selfish life... I dont want kids for this reason ^^
i hope he got covid as karma
Her father was right 😭🤚🏾 I would have ran back home into my fathers arms because uh uh. Struggling is not for me 😭
Her father passed away unfortunately and from what she said in the other videos I don't think they had much communication after she got married and moved, it's just so sad
@@gracewaluube3174 oh wow, I do wish the best for her tho. ( I didn’t watch the other videos, but thanks for telling me )
I don't know why she didn't move back home because her father only died before 2 years of this filming
LMAOOO right
@@rojamillerover Sometimes married women are afraid to get a divorce, especially if they have kids already. We cling onto hope that some day the delusional husband will become a sensible person just for the sake of the kids. Staying together and hoping for change sounds like the easier option than going through a whole divorce, having to juggle the kids around and on top of that finding a new husband that is a good person.
Divorce is even taboo in some sexist cultures, the women will always have it worse because her status as a single woman will go down if they assume she’s not a virgin anymore. Even if the girl was married for only three months and is a virgin (no way to prove it), so they usually end up becoming a second wife or a wife to a husband of 20+ years older.
That’s why a huge part of married women in my culture are forced to stay with abusive husbands because they know they won’t get a ‘better’ man after divorce.
I’m from such a culture and I’m terrified that it can happen to me. It’s a disgusting and sad reality
I didn't become financially independent until I was in my late 30's, and I'm still in my 30's. In addition to having purchased my second home and earning 63k on a monthly basis through passive income, I've also achieved three out of five goals. I just hope this inspires someone to realise that it doesn't matter if you don't have any of these things yet, you can start today no matter your age. Change your future by investing! I made a rather big decision by investing in the financial market.
I agree with you and I believe that the secret to financial stability is having the right investment ideas to enable you earn more money, I don’t know who agrees with me but either way I recommend either real estate and stocks..
I’ve been diligently working, saving and contributing towards early retirement and financial freedom, but since covid outbreak, the economy so far has caused my portfolio to underperform, do I keep contributing to my 401k or look at alternative sectors to meet my goals?
@@izagdlife Understanding your financial needs and making effective decisions is very essential. If I could advise you, you should seek the help of a financial advisor. For the record, working with one has been the best for my finances...
@@charlotterayeee How can one find a verifiable financial planner? I would not mind looking up the professional that helped you. I will be retiring in two years and I might need some management on my much larger portfolio. Don't want to take any chances.
@@izagdlife *Mr Gary Mason Brooks* is the licensed advisor I use. Just research the name. You’d find necessary details to work with a correspondence to set up an appointment.
This is why you should never marry a man so much older than you. I've seen it in real life. These men aren't the type that should get married. They want a maid/mother and are completely unprepared for the costs of raising a family.
I'm a 37 year old but stay single because I'm financially unstable. I'm not a bad looking guy and I had few women asking me to married her but I rather be single than drag a woman down and suffer with me. Luckily, my financial is getting better this year and hopefully it continues that way. I will only get married when my future wife don't have to spend a day working or if she chooses to work, that's her choice and I won't take a single dime from her. Wish me luck guy!
Good luck
Good luck!!
You‘re not selfish that‘s amazing! Good luck :)
I hope it turns out well man . you made a good decision .
Why don't you marry a woman who's similar in age, enjoys her job and wants to keep working and supporting herself and the family? You sound like a nice guy and you two could have a happy family. I've been married for 10 years and now I'm a stay-at-home mom, raising my kids. But I got married at 22yo and we were broke students, haha. Still, our best memories come from those days, in our cramped little house :) Either way, I wish you good luck!
If I had that kind of husband, I would just leave!
Leave and go where? She is fooking broke.
Easier said than done... Been there
@@zachcouch8654 She can always go back to her parents. The children are a completely different story however..
@@boysteacher3818
But we don't know if she's close to them
@@zachcouch8654 She's broke thanks to his husband. Do you know whose fault that is? Her husband. If you even defend this man, you don't deserve a wife.
Unfortunately its like this in America too. Some men are financially stingy and expect the woman to do all the housework, care for the children and pay more than half the bills. You ask for money and they act as if you ask them to gove their entire check to charity.
Literally my situation with a jobless gringo stepdad and my Asian filipina mother who works 16 hours a day while my step dad uses my family's money to spend on drugs. You're right.
Women shouldn’t lay with dusty men. Avoid them altogether
You nailed it. I wonder if there's a way to avoid marrying men like them because they're just everywhere.
These jerks can be found in every country unfortunately 😢
@@lilycha9398 we have to never allow them access ever they need to be alone
the mom clearly works incredibly hard to be a provider for not two but three children. she deserves a better husband & partner
It seems like a trend watching these documentaries that alot of the Koreans who get a foreign spouse are mad broke. Then they have kids ontop of it. I would have so much anxiety.
Many countries that have a lot of immigrants do this tho 😂 they keep preaching about how the lifestyle there is hard and how it sucks, to discourage people from going there. Now korea is having a lot of immigrants and foreign students because of K-beauty, kpop and kdrama
EXACTLY! It‘s always ugly and poor Korean dudes who marry foreigners because no Korean woman in their right mind would marry someone like that! They want handsome ans rich men to marry! This guy is absolutely not eligible for that hahahaha
They choose to publish certain story lines. It's all intentional but not all mixed couples have this dynamic in south Korea.
Usually korean man who cant get married with korean girls (usually because they are not in a good economic situation or ‘too ugly) they will find foreign immigrants. Mainly from southeast asia. Because they think if they married with korean old guys, they will live better live. And usually these girls are not demanding like korean girls. And they also good at chores and cooking, also listen well to their husband
@@niania6442 same in Japan.
If I were her father I'd strongly disagree too the way he treated his wife... Geez, there's a limit on being a cheapskate, but at least don't do that to your own family.
He’ ass 🤯🤯. How can he make her pay for everything & not giving her some of his money. They should be paying 50/50. He seem like a lazy person with toxic mindset. He is selfish omg🥶🥶. He doesn’t wanted to give her his account too😡. Such a suspicious. Such irresponsible person.
That’s so embarrassing for him, what kind of man is that..yikes
@@Yararar Hes struggling with money goof ball
@@derekford7230 yeah struggling lying in bed all day whilst his wife is out working all day
@@Yararar didn't he say he had a cold.
@@derekford7230 That the only excused he can come up with. I met so many man like him in my life. I can tell he is lazy & selfish for sure. He just relying on her with everything. He can’t even gave her money for foods. He got no sympathy for his wife & children’s. 🤯🤯
Being a woman, we need to be financial independent, especially in Korean society where women are not being treated fairly compare to men.
It's so crazy that they are documenting this abuse. Best outcome is she leaves him and Korea.
And that’s why folks you don’t just get married financial stability also matters
My question is what is the use of having a husband in the house? 🤢🤬
they can bring the more money in due to gender in the workplace - both parents does
@@tonga05 Men like him: we should be the providers, wives are happier when they stay at home. Feminists are lying to themselves and will die as old cat ladies.
Also men like him after marriage: Best I can do is $50
Without him, she'd still be in Uzbek, which clearly she didn't see a lot of hope there, cuz she left
Yeah. She needs more awareness that she deserves much better than this and she's wasting her time living with this fool. She needs to be told and convinced that she needs to leave asap. Hope she receives more help 🙏🙏🙏
@@kittyhero12 how would she be in a better position if she leaves ? who would she be able to beg for money from ?
this reminds me so much of my dad and how much my mom suffered cuz of his cheap ways, its just horrible and no one should be treated like this I hope something will be resolved I can see how stressful life is for her I hope she can get to leave him asap
My father is still like this and he earns a lot.
Guess most men are like this.
@@mightyobserver12 frr they will never change so its better to get away from them
my father is like that (gives us an equivalent of 10$ a week for groceries, bills, and mind u he earns in 5 digits a month), thankfully my mom left him and she managed to make us finish our studies, no one should be treated this way 😩
@@marshalllee7418 I agree omg im so thankful u got out of this horrible situation 😩💪
Just like my neighbors Grace & Robert. The guy don't go out and especially frugile. 😢
Being trapped in this kind of marriage is literally my idea of hell!
Her husband is very brave to be on this show. I can imagine that any Ahjumma watching this would remember his face and hit him at the back of his head if they see him for being such a despicable father and husband.
Bro this show is k-90 days fiancé 😂
What? How is this 90 day fiancé? That’s a completely different show.
@@rachelcookie321 Yeah is exatcly cause relationship are all toxic cause koreans
@@rachelcookie321 i said k-90 days
Like the korean version
@@babycherry8103 I know you said that but I’m failing to see how it’s like 90 day fiancé at all. That show has a completely different premise and a different feel.
@@rachelcookie321 yeah I'm starting to think the label is used because of the "person from rich country marries poor person in poor country dynamic" eugh....and this dude is mad broke
He must be hiding how bad their financial situation is. He probably doesn't have the money to contribute more.
Maybe … but by hiding it and living off his wife and make it look okay does not solve the problem.
@@sherllytanara244 Oh I'm not justifying his terrible actions, he definitely should be honest with her. Either way the dishonesty is ruining their marriage.
Dude she is his wife and it's his responsibility to share the problems. Like this they both can work together
@@mirroruniverse9331 I agree, I'm not justifying his actions.
He probably does he's just pathetic
This man being this strict on spending is actually stripping away their childhood as well as the precious time they have as a family to be enjoying it. He is not cut out to be a family man at all but rather be a bachelor for life… He lacks a lot of emotional intelligence when it comes to bonding with his children/wife.
Marry in haste. Repent in leisure.
She should have listened to her dad. I’m sure all the 🚩 were there
Definitely.
What a joke of a husband. I hope they are doing better now.
This is why I don't get married or have kids. Even if I'm already expected to at the age of 30, I continue to reject to idea. I'm happy by myself. A husband and kids would only cause me problems.
My mindset
Same same ^^
I feel this is irrelevant to her situation I mean good for you but should You really be speaking ?
@@dw8561 Yes I think applies to a lot of
Women. If you’re not financially responsible or stable then don’t enter a relationship or have kids . It saves a lot of heartbreak.
It is the best state of life for me, being happy for myself and do not feel the need to be absolutely with someone to be happy. I 100% agree with you on that point !
i’m so confused this man really wanted her to quit her jobs but at the same time doesn’t want to give her money to support their family..??
she's such a great mom, works hard! I can't with this guy, he doesn't even deserve her 🙄🙄
let's face it. he broke
Lol man its wack
Yeah...looking for job is not easy
@@teeteeme5752 his wife has like 3... he would find one if he actually cared
@@shecanhavehimfr yes...just being lazy.
@@youngkwak9931 like you
The kids need to learn that they don’t always get what they want just because they want it. Theirs a big difference between wants and needs. When you say no, stick with it. The kids will enjoy it more when they get something also.
I have so many things in mind,but can’t bring up anything to say .m just frustrated imagining if it was my life.
Ladies do not ever pity a man. Don't date him because you feel bad for him. Men would never do that for you if he could have someone else better. Only women do that. Watch him treat you like he's the one who settles for you if you do that
I always complain about my father because he’s a very careless person and comes home late often, stays out drinking or hanging out with his friends but I just realized how lucky I am to have him provide me with all of my needs without even asking, never in my lifetime he has refused me to buy anything I want, he just bought me my first iPhone a few months ago that costed $1300 which is a lot and some people spend 2-3 months with that money and I almost eat out everyday, I have an allowance of $500 every week and he buys expensive shoes and clothes for us and takes us on shopping sprees as well, I’ve been so blind by the rage that I overlooked his efforts of trying to be a good parent by providing the most for me and my siblings and now I feel really grateful and blessed to have him by side, may the almighty give him a long lifetime
Damn you're so lucky. My father can't even afford to eat outside with us, his family. I wish I had a dad like yours.
@@danzelmc girl I know it might be tough but appreciate your dad, it’s not his fault if he can’t afford, one day you will earn enough to fulfill all of your wishes and also your father’s, I’m sure he tries his best to do as much as he can for you and your family, that’s how fathers are, spend good time with him while you can, best of luck
Maybe now you can stop asking for stuff and reduce your allowance since your grateful now.
@@jasonstone2870 I'm planning to move out by next month and get a job, also my father's dream is that I'll get into a good university so keep me in your prayers so that I can repay him
Buying you stuff isn't great if he isn't there for you emotionally. He's just buying your love. That's not a father
They both need to teach their kids the value of money. Its confusing when one parent says no and the other yes so the kids feel like they have power over the parents since they can't agree on anything. They should make sure the kids understand why they can't have everything they ask for. They should both also try and communicate better with each other. There's a whole lot of communication issues on their part regarding everything. Children are easily impressionable and I fear that mom might look like the villain in their eyes and dad the nice one because they're not on the same page.
True. When my kids were small. I do not indulge them on toys (not that i can't afford it). I even say that it is expensive and compare with the equivalent of their favourite food. Usually they can get more food for that amount of money spent on toys. I also don't always buy snacks for them. Now that they are 12 n 14. When they go to stores n look at things they like. They check out the price themselves and say. This is expensive, so its ok not to get it.
Onto of everything he seems ignorant about his kids medical condition. Do you want your daughter to be in pain?
it's like she's a single mom of two... divorce him instead. he's not helping anyway.
its really tough when a woman gets married. sometimes i regret it specially at times when my husband is so lazy and relies on me to do all the household chores even though im pregnant, its really frustrating and tiring that i ended getting sick. and i cannot even rely on my husband to do simple errands. so to all those single ladies out there. dont get married
Same here .im glad im not married to him
I dont know if its true but they say the man's attitude changes after marriage. Is it also true in your situation?
@@CL-gc6pe ya he did change. he acts as if he is my son
I agree. Can't ask them to go 2 minutes for you
@@nikicarrie4071 common Niki don't do this spreading venom everywhere about men
Thank you for showing their family life on TV!!
I got so exhausted watching this. I can't imagine the kids. They must be suffering and so tired already. If i was the mother id divorce and be a single mom with child support or go back to my country. Have some dignity woman!
I couldn't even finish the video. I grew up with a similar father and it brings back all the terrible memories. It makes my blood boil the audacity of these males.
This is frustrating to watch. She should have listened to her father when he was against the marriage. Look at her now! I find the husband really irresponsible.
I'm sorry to be pessimistic but I don't see this relationship lasting even though they've been together for awhile. Unless the husband's new business starts bringing money into the household, the wife is going to tire of this lifestyle. No one can work 3 jobs for years and years on end then come home and do hours and hours of chores without being emotionally, physically and mentally drained. It's no way to live your life.
"Am I spending your money?" Good one there, she's an amazing woman. She might be able to support her kids on her own at this rate
I am from Bangladesh 🇧🇩 I am 18 years old girl. My father always buy me everything whatever i want. He don't refused to me like this Korean father. And I am very lucky and proud myself because our Bangladeshi father lover there daughter.
she needs to get a divorce
and go where?
I believe there is great stigma in SKorea about divorce and prejudice to foreigners. She won't have an easier time divorcing him.
@@derekford7230 To a man who would be more than willing to financially support her and her children, and to stay away from people like you
@@kittyhero12 I'm not a full adult yet goofball
@@kittyhero12 keep dreaming !
Imagine your allowance being the food you put on the table… I guess we are all starving tonight
Being cheap is fine but not for the daily necessities, especially when you have kids.
Cheap is not fine. Being normal and buying luxury on occasions is acceptable. Anything lower than that, and you don't deserve to be married of have kids.
Please don’t settle, get what you deserve ! Nobody should struggle with their kids alone if their partner is there with them, she might as well be alone!
I heard from my uncle who once work in SK,He said that majority of Korean husbands are really cautious in terms of giving money to there wife.It's like if you're a wife then you need to work for your own money while the husbands only give the limited amount for the house expenses.Not all but majority my uncle says
But I bet they're not hesitate to give money to the alcohol and gambling.
@@wixoss9893 I think you have to do more research on South Korea Stalking and Sexual harassment. I remember seeing video from sk about men literally waiting for women to kidnap early Kpop stages
Give you some allowance? I’d give him his marching orders. I give my Korean partner $1500 a month and we have a joint account for food etc, this bloke is a tight ass.
This is why every women should be financially independent
I dont understand why people have many kids when they're not financially stable...
This is why you stay close around your family and culture.
It would be terrible to live with a stingy husband, ( Korean or not…..), stingy or wasteful is a problem….
As the same Korean man, I am ashamed of him
He has the least conscience and is irresponsible
I can see why he's old and hasn't been married for a long time
He should've remained single.
I'm amaze how she didn't raise her voice... her voice is very soft :"(