I am confused about the three questions. How should I ask them? What did I do wrong? Or what did YOU do wrong? Because he says at the beginning that I should write in the 2nd person (also, btw, in the description of the video it says the third person, which is not what he said in the video). So, basically I write like this in my journal: Today you reacted this way, bla bla. And then? Do I just reflect on those 3 questions? And then I write in the 2nd person "you did this wrong, you did this right and you could try this in the future"? I guess this is how it makes sense...
You can write in second or third person which ever makes you feel more comfortable. Do not write emotional, don't be self critical it is harmful, and don't be either too self appraisal. focus what you did, in what you can control. You can come up even with your own questions. The goal is to show courage when you face fear, to have moderation despite the desire to want more, and to use clearly your reason to guide your actions more deliberately and constructively.
I personally feel that one of the best ways to use a journal is to note PATTERNS of behavior across a spectrum of events, people, and stages of life, notice the triggers and one’s specific reactions, then ask oneself: WHY did this event trigger me? Have I had this same reaction to other events? If so, can I think back to my earlier years and recall how young I was when I first started reacting in this way? Were there any particular events in my childhood upbringing that evoked similar feelings and did this current situation or person trigger feelings in me of anxiety, shame, fear, anger, resentment, or guilt because it/they were going against what I was taught as a child that was acceptable behavior in order to garner love? How does my enneagram personality type play into my feelings around this subject? What is the ROOT cause for my behavior? These types of questions are not philosophical to me-they are psychological. It might also be helpful to think about general topics and explore what one’s feelings and understandings are about them. For instance, one might explore such topics as ‘How do I define success, happiness, integrity, gratitude, (or any other quality) and how congruent is my behavior with what I believe about such qualities? What does it mean to serve? Where do I tend to judge others and what does that judgment feel like internally? Is judgment ever justified? How careful am I to honor and respect the natural world through my actions in my environment? What are the most important elements in leading a meaningful life? What do I hope I will feel on my deathbed when I look back at the contents of my life journey? What life themes seemed to be a recurring thread throughout my life? Where, when and how did my life feel unbalanced In any areas of development? What messages would I give to my younger self? What do I love and dislike the most about my life? What are the things I love best about myself? Can I see how these qualities may actually be defense mechanisms designed to protect my ego?
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I am confused about the three questions. How should I ask them? What did I do wrong? Or what did YOU do wrong? Because he says at the beginning that I should write in the 2nd person (also, btw, in the description of the video it says the third person, which is not what he said in the video).
So, basically I write like this in my journal: Today you reacted this way, bla bla. And then? Do I just reflect on those 3 questions? And then I write in the 2nd person "you did this wrong, you did this right and you could try this in the future"? I guess this is how it makes sense...
You can write in second or third person which ever makes you feel more comfortable. Do not write emotional, don't be self critical it is harmful, and don't be either too self appraisal. focus what you did, in what you can control. You can come up even with your own questions. The goal is to show courage when you face fear, to have moderation despite the desire to want more, and to use clearly your reason to guide your actions more deliberately and constructively.
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I personally feel that one of the best ways to use a journal is to note PATTERNS of behavior across a spectrum of events, people, and stages of life, notice the triggers and one’s specific reactions, then ask oneself: WHY did this event trigger me? Have I had this same reaction to other events? If so, can I think back to my earlier years and recall how young I was when I first started reacting in this way? Were there any particular events in my childhood upbringing that evoked similar feelings and did this current situation or person trigger feelings in me of anxiety, shame, fear, anger, resentment, or guilt because it/they were going against what I was taught as a child that was acceptable behavior in order to garner love? How does my enneagram personality type play into my feelings around this subject? What is the ROOT cause for my behavior? These types of questions are not philosophical to me-they are psychological.
It might also be helpful to think about general topics and explore what one’s feelings and understandings are about them. For instance, one might explore such topics as ‘How do I define success, happiness, integrity, gratitude, (or any other quality) and how congruent is my behavior with what I believe about such qualities? What does it mean to serve? Where do I tend to judge others and what does that judgment feel like internally? Is judgment ever justified? How careful am I to honor and respect the natural world through my actions in my environment? What are the most important elements in leading a meaningful life? What do I hope I will feel on my deathbed when I look back at the contents of my life journey? What life themes seemed to be a recurring thread throughout my life? Where, when and how did my life feel unbalanced In any areas of development? What messages would I give to my younger self? What do I love and dislike the most about my life? What are the things I love best about myself? Can I see how these qualities may actually be defense mechanisms designed to protect my ego?