How to Let Go of Expectations | How to Stop Expecting and Get Rid of Expectation
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- Опубліковано 20 жов 2024
- In this video, I share with you how you can let go of expectations in life!
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What is the height of confidence?
The death of all expectations.
True confidence and fulfillment come when you don’t need anything to heal you.
Those timeless un-healed wounds, that bleed at the slightest of touch.
The suturing of these wounds is what will bring true confidence and happiness.
A point where no failure or success can make or break you.
Expectations are like bubbles waiting to burst.
We think and fantasize our success and hope that will make those deep-rooted issues go away.
But you know if you have ever projected something in the future,
If you fail you feel bad; it bleeds.
If you succeed, you set a new goal; blinded by your unmet fulfillment.
So, both failure and success won’t help you escape this nightmare.
What you have to do is patch your wounds yourself.
Love yourself as you are, regardless of any outcome.
Loving yourself unconditionally is what will get you out of this incessant loop of misery.
You are good enough as you are. You don’t need to achieve something or do something.
I cried after realising how hard I was on myself...
same:(
Me too
Me too. I was expecting unrealistic things about myself. Unrealistic for any human being.
Expectations hurt so much.. They're so disappointing.. They can take you down in moments! This is all caused by perfectionisim...
Let's all go and make mistakes, let's not be perfect... Perfect people do never exist, I'm grateful for this wise man ❣
As a over thinker I’ve finally decided to let go of all the overwhelming thoughts, attaching feelings, and need for validation. This video is awesome
Hey Jaime, so happy that you've made that decision! Glad you enjoyed the video as well. I love to connect with my audience on IG as well so shoot me a DM if you're up for it :) instagram.com/rafaeleliassen/
Something I've learned from personal experience is that HARD WORK allways beats talent. But, however, passion ALLWAYS beats hard work - for if you are truly passionated about something it will be almost impossible for you to quit. But in the end it is obsession that prevails. If you are truly OBSESSED about something, then no power IN THE ENTIRE UNIVERE can stop you from accomplishing your goal. Obsession is immortal, there is no need for expectation, because you are living it day in and day out. IT IS YOU. You simply become what you crave, what YOU ARE OBSESSED ABOUT. Failure will not be an option because the option of GIVING UP will be none-existing.
Thank you for your time.
Captain Trips wow perfect comment! i got killed by such a good comment, defeat ur mind then u can do whatever u wanna achieve
Tanjut Zeytindalı come on dont be so positive jjajajaa something tends to happen us because we call it with our mind either for something good or bad
+Alexander Becerra You didn't get me. I advise you to live with a psychopath for a while if you want to understand what I mean. There are people who does bad things regardless of how much you care about them. Whoever you are in the other side of the world, have a nice day bro :)
I didn't get it too well. To sum it up, you're saying that I am what I am obsessed with in a way?
Ackermaniac Both
wow i have a bad habit of trying to manipulate the results. leaves me disappointed.. especially in romantic relationships... thanks for sharing
I needed to hear this at this exact moment.
I have the opposite of this where I don't do good in things so I don't have others have high expectations of me so the time that I mess up I don't disappoint them or hurt them so I make myself the disappoint so they don't have to be disappointed.
@@tankmassacre8957 Hmmm. From my interpretation, it looks like you still expect others to be disappointed. That's interesting.
Everyone needs to hear this. Stop expecting, you will be so much happier. Thank you for making this!
I'm literally crying while watching this, because since childhood whenever it comes to girls i always expected that they would like me if i would do this or that, but most of the times the opposite happened, rejections. And i learned this thing to not expect anything from anyone but still when you're with someone and you start liking them and things start doing well, you start expecting again that maybe this time it's gonna work, but it doesn't. That's really heartbreaking when you fo everything you can but the only thing you get is disappoinment. Thanks for the video bro, maybe i can fix by mistakes by following your tips this year.
Thank you and glad to help :)
I had the same thing happen with guys... I finally figured out everything I was doing to show I’m a nice girl with a big heart and would be a good partner etc. just made me look desperate and way too available. I stopped expecting them to do certain things and started telling them what I need. If they agree to that expectation then great, if not then I can’t expect them to do that and have to decide if that’s going to work for me. Try not to be attached to the outcome... difficult but still try.
Some of us are burnt out on wackos, some of us are still healing from past trauma, some of us have lost trust in people and have become paranoid. Our experiences shape us as affect how we handle new people
@@kaydykes9916 hey just wanted to ask how did u tell em what u wanted in return. And how do u be the person who doesnt be available.
You guys in this comment/replies section literally nailed my moments, what i passed and my fears. Thank you and let's try to get out of this once and for all ;)
this made me cry . i have realized how much i expect things to happen and they never come the way i wanted it to . thank you !
The way you said that was funny but I swear that's all right!!!! My expectations are killing my vibes.. Sometimes I want to live completely alone in this world bc these expectations and fears have taken over my life completely
My trouble is, I often 'expect' my friends to do or act the way I would in situations but more often than not, they let me down.
Should I lower my expectations or dump my friends?
I’m in the exact same situation but giving up on them is not an option for me bc i love them too much and they are the people who make me feel best but i crave them too much and i feel horrible in their absence
Omg 😥 just dont expect
Dumping people is not a Solution.be able to see what the other person is going through.don't expect too much just accept him the way he is.more expectation more hurt no expectation no hurt
Lower your expectations, would you want them to dump you for letting their unrealistic expectations down?
Lower your expectations and set an example through the way you treat them through Kindness and enjoy the gift of giving. If they don’t want to give back then then it’s always good be open to more friends. If you live this way of feeling complete you also attract people who feel compete and whole, so just be open.
Thank God, I found you.
I'm already teary-eyed on the train atm.
Thanks for this. I needed this.
I know you did not expect me to say thank you but "thanks for this, Rafael. Really... THANKS" 😇
I’m in tears lol I really loved her nd I guess she never really seen that the way I wanted for her to see it. Ur right tho I’m grateful for what I am now nd who I became along the way when I was with her.
Manipulate result! Omg this video is very very very awesome!!!! Please youtube your algorithm is doing good by revomending this video. Man! I love your speech ❤️ thanks for making this video :( love you man!
Your video is a holy grail for me coz just now I got hurt from a expectation. Thanks a lot for awaking me. Thanks again bro.
I am very straight forward in life, felt tired until I found this video.
This is why I always feel depressed when holidays are over, especially Christmas. Because I make expectations of how it should be instead of actually enjoying it in the moment.
To some degree, I feel that way too
Thank You Bro, I needed to hear this. I had so many expectations for myself for the last year and it was draining me mentally. If something didnt go my way I would be angry and always beat myself up about it. I was always trying to be someone I wasn’t and it was fucking with my head and it was ruining my life. So hearing that I was enough meant a-lot bro fr. Great Video!
This vid came at a right time... Thanks Rafael. Your impact will never fade...
I like the way u shake urself when you're speaking
Thank you!
I sent a 2-minute video to my friend and he didn't want to watch it, and now I am watching this because I am extremely pissed because he didnt want to watch it.
I am sorry, thank you for watching! How are things going with you now? Would love to get an update if you see this :)
Listening to your voice and your message has helped to calm me. Thank you.
You're message was simple but very powerful. I don't know how I'm gonna let go of it but I'm gonna try my best. I have always been disappointed when things worked the way I wanted them to, which is like 97%. Just because I had very high expectations for myself and my friends.
Thanks a lot for the video!!!
I gotta start working on this before my whole life starts looking miserable and wasted!!
This was really helpful, I needed to hear this today. Thank you so much for the guidance!
U opened my eyes bro . thank you so much
So happy to help!
1:41 "and there is no salvation", facts were spoken. It's not that trivial bcs there's this guy called Ego that keeps coming
I wanna thank you so much. I was here getting angry and troubled about a date who isn't replying me, it may sounds very stupid, but these expectations about meeting someone new, in a date way, kills me every fucking time, it makes me awful. Seeing this video, I saw you like that type of friend that you goes to get something out of your chest and you go wanting to hear something, and that friends tells you everything you need to listen and not you what you wanna hear, and that's really good, it's a wakeup slap on your face, so thank you! From this moment on I will try my best to not create expectations about someone, and it's okay, maybe something good will happen or not, and it's okay!
Just perfect timing
You are so right. I expect too much from myself... I try to do a lot of "productive" things because I want to make sure that I will be successful in the future (even nothing in the future is truly certain). It's almost like I'm swearing that I'll absolutely hate myself if I fail. If I become a "failure" in the future.
But then it's just too much pressure. And it impacts the quality of my life in the present moment (which is truly certain). So thank you for sharing how important it is to let go of expectations. Thank you for sharing that no matter what happens... that even if I fail or succeed, I'm still a good person.
I honestly needed this seriously
I am so tired of waiting and ending up disappointed because I expected too much I am done. Just live life and let things be.
Man, I just found this video in the right moment. You don't have an idea on how much you've helped me today. I couldn't know why I was feeling this way and finally I feel way relieved. Thank you, god and life bless you.
Glad I could help!
This guy is right you know. If you actually listen. I never thought this but this is my main issue. Expectations set you up for emotional swings. Thanks man
Really happy to help!
Thank you even through watching the video my palpitations went almost away, Thank you GRATITUDE acceptance leting go
You're videos are really helping me to get through my depression . Thank You
This is the only video I ever watched on youtube that made me cry. I really needed to hear this man, thank you so much for making this video.
Thank you for this. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
I found your video by accident. This is a beautiful view with a great message. I still feel empty though. I don’t know if I can accept myself as I am and it feels like the bitter end is near.
That first line what AMAZING!!!!
It is indeed a blessing to stop seeking approval or acceptance of others.
Some of us are so busy trying to fit in and win acceptance, they mould themselves out of their good shapes and into something they'd rather not been...which is sad.
Everybody wants to inspire, but most forget that inspirers do what most others generally don't. They go through and emerge winners bearing battle scars. To be able to give up expecting is truly inspiring because it is easier said than done.
The main thing i feel lack is having noone to listen to me, tell me some comforting words. I just feel so frustrated when i care and help others and i don't get that care in return. I'm certainly sick now and i feel that way way too much right now. It just feel so stuck and I keep tell myself everything will be better after raise yourself to a certain level of success.
Rightly said "expectations leads to disappointment "🙂
Ugh this is beautiful i almost starting crying aha
Your words were really helpful 😌
So humble, heart felt words❤
Great stuff, thank-you. I've watched this three times in the last 24 hours - very reaffirming.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Thank you! You made me cry! It was wery hard for me to watch this video. I still don't think I could let go of my expectations. I will try.
I expect other people to treat me with the same kindness I treat them but they treat me like shit and I can't stand those situations, I cry, hyperventilate, get panic attacks and people think I make drama, while for me it's so exhausting and I also feel ashamed. When you say it's ok it both helps and hurts at the same time cause I don't think I can be that strong if I get mistreated again. I hope one day I will overcome it. Thank you.
You are doing great in your life gurl; if you treat others good that just makes ‘you’ better each and everyday, that makes you a good person. Its not your fault if they treat you like that. They are just they.. and no matter how much we try .. they gonna remain they.. feel pittu for such innocent creatures of god who cant feel grateful when someone treats them good, they are simply so messed up to embrace the good. If you love the way u are.. just keep going😊
Your approached and encouragement is really phenomenal. I could resonate from it. I keep on listening to your message and it gives me strength knowing what you said "If it doesn't go on my way, I will be ok"This is such a great encouragement you mentioned in your video. I l love it! ❤ This gives me wisdom not to expect too much from anyone that I could still be happy and be ok with myself even if I don't get anything what I wanted to friends and family as well as relationship. Thank you for sharing this video ❤
Thanks you
i need to practice this to myself. More often than not i get disappointed because i expect a bit much about a certain situation, on something or someone. i hate the feeling every single time and as a result i stop believing in a lot of things and ending up judging the things that didn’t go my way. Thank you for this video.
You opened my mind sir
im good enough as myself 👍👍👍 thanks
Really worried ND pressurised Was wondering for such kind of thoughts. This feels Soo good
Thanks for being there for us.
Love from India 🇮🇳❤🙌
Good god, this is everything I have ever tried to tell my friends. Everyone around me struggles with this and these messages are what I always tried to tell them, but I was never effective enough. From now on, I'm going to send this video to my friends EVERYTIME they struggle with this.
Thank you!
i love this video. it’s like a good dad or big brother’s pep talk.💪🏽
Thank you so much rafael...... Ive watch this vdo everytime im expecting something and listening to it comfort me... ❤❤❤......
this is what i've been struggling with and i'm glad i found what i've been looking for. great video!
Even though you weren't 'expecting' a good comment on this video
Here's one.
This video is amazing. Loved it 😊
You just fixed my entire life. Thank you.
I really thank you for making this video. I truly needed at this time. I am 23 years old, try to identify the toxic behaviors within myself to heal for me and be a better me. Last night, I realized I set my expectations so high for others and myself. That I constantly kept hurting myself and asking others why am I being 😢 hurt? That it was me the whole time and and took me years to realize. I’m thankful that I did though 😩🙃. Your video spoke so much to me and made me realize, that’s not a trait I want to be consumed in. Follow my channel, hopefully now I can post more looking at life with not so high expectations.
Thanks again 💕
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Can't tell you what I would have done if this vdo wasn't there, this is so much help, it changed my whole thinking, Rafael ,god bless you dude, you are the best
Happy the video helped :D
Thank God, I finally found an answer to myself, because you know, I always expect something and it always turn into frustration because it didn't meet my expectations, so I'm grateful that I watched this video and I learned so much. Thanks for this💕
Man i felt it i felt it....🔥
Thank you this is whats really holding me back in life
This helps a lot. The best video I’ve been looking for. Thank you.
Thank you for this content.
Great video once again ❤ this channel deserves more subscribers!!!
You took me out of a very big life dilemma
Happy I could help
Thus really speaks to me. Very relieving to hear this assurance.
That's great but one thing is saying good things to yourself, another is actually deeply believing that. A lot of these videos are like "start doing this and everything will change" but no one explains how to fill the gap between "this is what I say" and "this is who I am"
Thanks for saving my life
This is what I wanted and needed to hear ❤
I saw your first video and I can see that you have improved yourself in many ways and again thanks for the video
Made me cry.. thanks for the wise words..
These 8mins 37secs made my day! Thankyou :)♥️
underrated channel
Thank you!
We can't control outcome but we can influence it
Thankyou so much man ❤️
You are so original and great
Great video Rafael. Thank you!!!
I'm certain you have/will saved a few lives with this videos. (i wished you made all these videos sooner!!! i've been struggling with the things you mentioned for awhile.) THANK YOU so much Rafael!
i feel thankful that i found this video
This video is so underrated
Thank you so much for making us understand the power of letting go of expectations.
I knew this guy would tell me exactly what I needed to hear I’m so glad I followed my intuition. 👍🏽
Whether or not it goes your way is a sentence I didn't expect to get to empower myself n it feels good. Thank you for the idea of alignment n I appreciate this video.
Thank you so much for the kind words.
I’m literally crying right now. Thank you so much
Thank you so much Rafael. Youre such an amazing person.
Thanks a bunch for this video! I am so grateful for that. I am going to share it
Thank you so much brother I know that came from the heart thank you
You are so welcome
So blessed to hear those words of urs
Happy to be of help
Well, it seems to be okey to have expectations as long as you do not care that much about the outcome. You can have pretty high expectations near impossible unless you think it's the end of the world when the expectation doesn't match the reality.
I am not that kind of person. (maybe I was in the past but I don't remember) Your video is well-constructed for that kind of people, of course. You are doing a pretty good job in sense of self-development. I like most of your video content whether it be of high or low quality. Cheers for all your work! :)
I will be present in the moment and not look in to the future and past as much.
Yes love that!
U deserve more,, i hope ur channel grows
Thanks a lot man 👍🏽
Everyone is a good person nowadays
Much respect bro I'm doing the same
thank you for this 🤍
Needed to hear this thank you 😃
You are so welcome