I’d rather this than her be abusive, but she does need to work on properly discipling her son because his behavior is only going to get worse. You don’t need to beat or scream at your kids to teach them properly. But you shouldn’t just let them do whatever either.
@Texaslifi understand because I have a four and a half year old son but I cannot change my parenting I wish I had parenting skills but I am who I am we run of love and respect 👌💕 I'm aware that doesn't always work for a toddler but like I said I can't change I am who I am.. I grew up neglected and not cared for I over compensate now but I only use the word over compensate while texting you I am just me 🤷 much love 💕e98
When Lawrence said he doesn't have the patience for that shit I felt it. And when Lilly said all she felt like she's done was raise babies since 16. Wtf did she think her life was gonna be like when you have kids so young or have them period.
And what did he think being a dad was going to be? She may have a lot to learn as a parent, but she is putting in the effort and trying her best. He just dismisses the kids and chooses not to do anything. Reality check even when you are the sole provider parenting doesn't end just because you work full time. They both need to learn and grow as parents not just lilly.
Not sure if your a parent but, I got exactly what he meant as a parent but, I do sympathize with them both because becoming a mom shouldn't mean the end of your life all together or a parent in general. It's just what you make of it.
Something my mother used to say to me before i started really disciplining my kids is. "Of course you love your children. But you also have to discipline them, or else when they grow up, it'll be way too late, and they won't listen or respect you." And in some cases, raise their hand to you, i.e. hit you.
@@christengardner1466It’s still gentle but it’s firm. Come pick up these chips you dumped all over the floor. Natural consequences. And explaining things to your kids. To see another is to teach another. Kids have to be taught to know there’s a time and place and that my feelings and actions are MY responsibility. It’s so complex but it’s not wrong. You don’t be firm and gentle but be permissive they won’t listen to anything you say by the time they hit their middle school years.
U have to put ur foot down when it comes to your kids believe me as a parent of now adults. It will come to bite you later on. If you don’t discipline your children then you don’t love them. ❤
Mom stay out of it!! They will learn from their mistakes just like you did! That’s too much energy to speak into everything they do! Some things! Forget that dang gentle parenting! Be firm and loving! How hard is that!
Spare the rod spoil the child. A lot of people think that means physical punishment… it means punishment period there are consequences for negative actions.. children need to learn that at a young age or they’re being set up for failure. Especially the little boy he’s going to grow up and be perceived as a black man, self control needs to be taught for his protection. And yes I am a black woman raising a multicultural child.
I don’t think the new age parenting is necessarily the problem. It’s that nobody’s in agreement. He’s a hard ass and she’s a push over. And it’s even worse when you consider there’s a kid who’s not his in the mix.
Wow, she needs to get stern quick, smart. The boy is jumping on lounges, spitting apple juice all over the car, whacking kitchen units. Climbing on the kitchen table. Is it your home or the playground? Your son doesn't seem to know how to behave appropriately.
I really hope they realize that public school teachers will not put up with that behavior. Throwing themselves in the floor, hitting, kicking, screaming will not be tolerated in school.
So you saying that this young lady stays home and doesn't drive, she basically still a teenager,she needs to listen to her mother and grow up,and get out there and get her driver's license and put the boy in pre k and get a job.that fiance of her's you can tell wasn't ready for no child.,he doesn't have the patience.🤦
@@rebeccadavila6603 I’m sorry but she’s being a stay at home mom to two kids… taking care of kids and a home is a job and it’s harder than a 9 to 5 a lot of times.
Doesn't have, didn't want, not ready for all that they did this backwards had kids trying to grow up with them. Should have been way further this no back bone parenting, Mom talk's to 22 yo in a baby voice to 🙃 No adult guidance start adulting 😮 to patient, they don't learn with endless chances, kids need boundaries thrive with boundaries, New free range parenting 🤦🏽 these kids have no basis to behave.
They need to get that boy some help , he out of control , the daddy just sit there rubbing his head all day like he tired …don’t seem like he even do much . The mom does a lot of work . They should’ve took him to a park to let all that energy out
So she has 2 kids, no jobs, no license so no means to leave the house and no one in her support system seems to build her up or be on her side they all seem to tear her down, pick her apart and blame her for everything. This literally seems like the perfect victim to control. I pray I’m wrong but I’ve worked with so many DV agencies this is not sitting right with me
honestly the girl and here moms parenting should both be critiqued. The daughter is raising her kids gently like they are here siblings or like they are best friends. The daughter said that here mother is her best friend. That's not right. You as a mom are not there to be on the same level as your kids, you are above and beyond them. Your job is not to be al buddy buddy, but to actually parent and raise them so they grow up to be decent humans. By raising them so gently, you are just going to teach then that they can boss you around. As they grow up, they will keep doing what they want. That is probably why the daughter got pregnant so young, because she was raised to be friends with her mother and to feel like she had control over her mom, so she could do whatever she wanted.
@AdryannaWatkins-ic4nn So? A lot of people have a business. But my point was that it seems she probably won't ever go anywhere or do anything... like most people. Stay in the same town all their life and do nothing else.
@@rinabitoni3746 dude ur so dumb she has her own business and now lives somewhere else so obviously she’s doing shit with her life😂plus she lives in a damn near mansion
Im 25, had my son at 22. Im always told he is one of the best toddlers anyones ever seen. He is very well mannered and he cleans up after himself even if he accidentally spills alittle water. ( I didn’t use gentle parenting.) I am loving, nurturing and firm. He knows his place and i know mine. But he is sooo happy!!❤️
How much of that is personality though? My daughter was born just naturally very compliant and “easy”. I don’t think she ever had a single tantrum. I never had to discipline her very much and it was gentle parenting all the way. Now many years later I have a son and he is wild and crazy. Tantrums every day. With him I do discipline him and I parent him completely different (MORE discipline) but you would never tell if you compared kids. But that is because their personalities are different.
Yeah i do agree. Im not sure how my second is going to behave lol. Hopefully similar but if not then well.. no gentle parenting over here im not like super harsh though lol but i dont let them run all over me
@@Ooziem I think maybe the term gentle parenting gets misused. I’m firm too but I also try to explain to him and help him understand instead of just going straight to physical discipline or yelling.
I'm 28, pregnant, and no license. I didn't have the luxury that most of you did of having parents teach you to drive or get you a car. And then when I was older I've been in two severe accidents causing trauma. Driving causes panic attacks. So does you driving make you that much more superior. There's reasons people don't drive and being critical over something you don't understand is just sad
@@cloeshay87ptsd is one thing but you’re 28. Grow up, be and adult, and do what You’re supposed to do. You can’t blame your parents for everything your entire life.
What the hell did she think having a kid at 16? Yes raising a kid is everyday all day, you spread your legs and got pregnant so yeah raising a kid for the next 18+ years is all you'll do. Grow up and get your license and a job. Try actually being a parent, your treating your kids like their your siblings and your not the mom. You let your kids do whatever whenever, they don't even know what NO means.
I agree she needs to try a new method to parenting but if that’s what they choose is for her to be a stay at home mom to make it easier on them and they can afford it fine I understand why it’s taken so long to get a license but her mom’s right she needs to focus on her a bit more so she can help herself and the kids she needs to learn gentle parenting doesn’t mean never saying no it’s about being responsive and still teaching your kids right from wrong while giving discipline where it’s needed and LJ definitely needs it
Yes….its definitely all her fault for “spreading” her legs…….the dude had absolutely nothing to do with it all right? It’s all her fault……you need to grow the F up!!!! Educate yourself before you go blasting someone!!!
Some people get over stimulation...autism can be as factor. I'm low end but I also like quiet while focusing. Her being a new driver, no sound or low sound is pretty normal even if she doesn't have autism, etc...
Once her mom came in the scene I understand why she’s being a bit more “permissive” or “gentle” with her kids. But dad needs to step it up and provide the discipline when he sees mom is struggling.
watching this and reading these comments is why i think people should date in their own race... pretty sure, the dad doesn't have the patience to deal with their son because he lacks discipline. his mom literally lets him do whatever he wants, he doesn't listen/follow directions, and he's disrespectful. both parents have to be on board with "gentle parenting". and in most cases, there's no "gentle parenting" in black households. so i can understand his fustration with their son. heck, even her mom thinks their kids are out of control and doesn't agree with her style of parenting.
or people could just learn how to properly raise kids. authoritarian parenting is just as big a flop as permissive. they both make adults with lots and lots of issues.
And this is why lily is a relaxed mum 'relaxed ' is a good wird by the way And ypyr mum calling ypu a kud thats ohr rageous Bet you was cooped up as a kid 😔 Not doing the same with your own 🤗🌹💕
Kids need routine they need consequences for actions they need to be corrected you can't just let your kids do whatever you want or they're going to make your life miserable she clearly doesn't care what her mom thinks if she became apparent at 16 years old this is so scripted😂
@bdsm-w9u So you're triggered bc you are also not husband material and probably a bad father too and are therefore feeling personally attacked by my true statement? You can always spot the silly misogynistic males when they use the term feminist as an insult. Of course I think women should have the same rights as men. Only really shitty people think otherwise. It's ironic that you are yelling boo hope at me when it's you who are emotional here.. clearly upset by my words. 😆😆😆Go get a snack little dude, you'll feel better.
When she said “ugh baby brothers” was so cute haha
She seems really patient and a better mom than many. Lawrence on the other hand. Something about him seems troublesome
I have always thought that too!
I’d rather this than her be abusive, but she does need to work on properly discipling her son because his behavior is only going to get worse. You don’t need to beat or scream at your kids to teach them properly. But you shouldn’t just let them do whatever either.
@Texaslifi understand because I have a four and a half year old son but I cannot change my parenting I wish I had parenting skills but I am who I am we run of love and respect 👌💕 I'm aware that doesn't always work for a toddler but like I said I can't change I am who I am.. I grew up neglected and not cared for I over compensate now but I only use the word over compensate while texting you
I am just me 🤷 much love 💕e98
@@CharmaineForrest-jh9fi, no judgment, but you could take some parenting classes to help you. Children thrive in structure.❤
Dad is a walking red flag 😂
Yes 👏🏼
He sucks aha
So is her parenting 😂😂 she making shit hard for the both of them
He is just with her for the show and moneys once the money is gone- so is he. 👋 thag girl is very immature and should not have children
@@Day1lamb her being immature is the reason she had kids 🤣
you are not gentle parenting babe, you are permissive parenting.
They need parenting classes
I’ll definitely need those before I start having kids in the future
and the dad is no help.
Even if he tried she would shut him down.She clearly stated it's his role to make the money.
Nah, she needs to stop letting that little boy run her house! Be a damn parent and gentle parent correctly
Man Lawrence was such a green flag at first and now he's the complete opposite 😬😬😬
Came here to comment this
He was never a green flag. He needs to go through anger management or something.
Lawrence was NEVER a green flag. I haven’t seen it.
Idk maybe y'all watched a different show than I did lmfaooo but in the beginning he was the definition of a green flag, a total gentleman.
I don't know I felt even in the beginning he was a red flag ❤
When Lawrence said he doesn't have the patience for that shit I felt it. And when Lilly said all she felt like she's done was raise babies since 16. Wtf did she think her life was gonna be like when you have kids so young or have them period.
He shouldn’t have had kids then.. 🙄 and it’s hard when your man is impatient and thinks he knows it all but don’t know shit.
And what did he think being a dad was going to be? She may have a lot to learn as a parent, but she is putting in the effort and trying her best. He just dismisses the kids and chooses not to do anything. Reality check even when you are the sole provider parenting doesn't end just because you work full time. They both need to learn and grow as parents not just lilly.
So you can sympathize with Lawrence but Lilly can go kick rocks?? 🙄 yeah sounds about right
Not sure if your a parent but, I got exactly what he meant as a parent but, I do sympathize with them both because becoming a mom shouldn't mean the end of your life all together or a parent in general. It's just what you make of it.
Something my mother used to say to me before i started really disciplining my kids is. "Of course you love your children. But you also have to discipline them, or else when they grow up, it'll be way too late, and they won't listen or respect you." And in some cases, raise their hand to you, i.e. hit you.
Agreed. I try my best to do gentle parenting but, my mom sometimes just let me know sometimes kids aren't so gentle lml😂😂
@@christengardner1466It’s still gentle but it’s firm. Come pick up these chips you dumped all over the floor. Natural consequences. And explaining things to your kids. To see another is to teach another. Kids have to be taught to know there’s a time and place and that my feelings and actions are MY responsibility. It’s so complex but it’s not wrong. You don’t be firm and gentle but be permissive they won’t listen to anything you say by the time they hit their middle school years.
U have to put ur foot down when it comes to your kids believe me as a parent of now adults. It will come to bite you later on. If you don’t discipline your children then you don’t love them. ❤
Mom stay out of it!! They will learn from their mistakes just like you did! That’s too much energy to speak into everything they do! Some things! Forget that dang gentle parenting! Be firm and loving! How hard is that!
Spare the rod spoil the child. A lot of people think that means physical punishment… it means punishment period there are consequences for negative actions.. children need to learn that at a young age or they’re being set up for failure. Especially the little boy he’s going to grow up and be perceived as a black man, self control needs to be taught for his protection. And yes I am a black woman raising a multicultural child.
They just need to communicate on their parenting plan they come from two different families and backgrounds
LOL when he said “when i get to touching on her and stuff he’s always like MOM BOOOOB!”
LMFAOOO
I don’t think the new age parenting is necessarily the problem. It’s that nobody’s in agreement. He’s a hard ass and she’s a push over. And it’s even worse when you consider there’s a kid who’s not his in the mix.
“we cant have that, youll crash!”😭
How is she going to tell her mom that it’s okay for her son to spit apple juice in her car 😳 Lilly is way too entitled.
The dad scares me. I hope this relationship doesn’t turn physical
Wow, she needs to get stern quick, smart. The boy is jumping on lounges, spitting apple juice all over the car, whacking kitchen units. Climbing on the kitchen table. Is it your home or the playground? Your son doesn't seem to know how to behave appropriately.
I foresee a divorce
Doesn't take a psychic when most marriages end in divorce genius. 😂😂😂😂😂
@@sfletch3042 thank you for not being sarcastic and rude.
I think a lot of women confuse gentle parenting with NO parenting and just letting the child run wild cause it’s easier 🙄🙄🙄
All these people including grandma are toxic.
He probably don’t want to get married at this point
That’s why you get married before having children
@@JayJayTravels been married first doesn’t solve nth.
This new age parenting 🤦
I have a one and half year old boy and he listens better than that kid. At this point you gotta let the “gentle” parent act go
I really hope they realize that public school teachers will not put up with that behavior. Throwing themselves in the floor, hitting, kicking, screaming will not be tolerated in school.
So you saying that this young lady stays home and doesn't drive, she basically still a teenager,she needs to listen to her mother and grow up,and get out there and get her driver's license and put the boy in pre k and get a job.that fiance of her's you can tell wasn't ready for no child.,he doesn't have the patience.🤦
@@rebeccadavila6603 I’m sorry but she’s being a stay at home mom to two kids… taking care of kids and a home is a job and it’s harder than a 9 to 5 a lot of times.
Not really @@kimberlyskye2024
Doesn't have, didn't want, not ready for all that they did this backwards had kids trying to grow up with them. Should have been way further this no back bone parenting, Mom talk's to 22 yo in a baby voice to 🙃 No adult guidance start adulting 😮 to patient, they don't learn with endless chances, kids need boundaries thrive with boundaries, New free range parenting 🤦🏽 these kids have no basis to behave.
As someone who is also breastfeeding a two year old this is so real 2:45
She’s confusing “gentle parenting” with “permissive parenting” 😅
damn dad needs to say i got this and take LJ for the weekend while lily goes somewhere else so LJ doesnt have a choice
They need to get that boy some help , he out of control , the daddy just sit there rubbing his head all day like he tired …don’t seem like he even do much . The mom does a lot of work . They should’ve took him to a park to let all that energy out
So she has 2 kids, no jobs, no license so no means to leave the house and no one in her support system seems to build her up or be on her side they all seem to tear her down, pick her apart and blame her for everything. This literally seems like the perfect victim to control. I pray I’m wrong but I’ve worked with so many DV agencies this is not sitting right with me
Kids need discipline, structure and guidance. Gentle parenting don’t work. Smh not saying beat them but have some structure. I couldn’t do it
honestly the girl and here moms parenting should both be critiqued.
The daughter is raising her kids gently like they are here siblings or like they are best friends. The daughter said that here mother is her best friend. That's not right.
You as a mom are not there to be on the same level as your kids, you are above and beyond them. Your job is not to be al buddy buddy, but to actually parent and raise them so they grow up to be decent humans.
By raising them so gently, you are just going to teach then that they can boss you around. As they grow up, they will keep doing what they want.
That is probably why the daughter got pregnant so young, because she was raised to be friends with her mother and to feel like she had control over her mom, so she could do whatever she wanted.
Dad seems super fun and bubbly
😂😂😂😂😂
Kid is a brat
These children are monsters, but definitely not their fault.
I love how baby girl says baby brothers❤
That's pretty sad.. she's probably not going to do much else with her life. Smh
i mean now she has her own business 🤷♀️
@AdryannaWatkins-ic4nn So? A lot of people have a business. But my point was that it seems she probably won't ever go anywhere or do anything... like most people. Stay in the same town all their life and do nothing else.
@@rinabitoni3746 dude ur so dumb she has her own business and now lives somewhere else so obviously she’s doing shit with her life😂plus she lives in a damn near mansion
I'm so glad LJ is acting up for Lawrence after the agro he gave Aleeya when she was his age 😂
This 😂😂😂
Im 25, had my son at 22. Im always told he is one of the best toddlers anyones ever seen. He is very well mannered and he cleans up after himself even if he accidentally spills alittle water. ( I didn’t use gentle parenting.) I am loving, nurturing and firm. He knows his place and i know mine. But he is sooo happy!!❤️
How much of that is personality though? My daughter was born just naturally very compliant and “easy”. I don’t think she ever had a single tantrum. I never had to discipline her very much and it was gentle parenting all the way. Now many years later I have a son and he is wild and crazy. Tantrums every day. With him I do discipline him and I parent him completely different (MORE discipline) but you would never tell if you compared kids. But that is because their personalities are different.
Yeah i do agree. Im not sure how my second is going to behave lol. Hopefully similar but if not then well.. no gentle parenting over here im not like super harsh though lol but i dont let them run all over me
@@Ooziem yeah I had to reevaluate everything with this one 😂 and he’s not even 2 yet!
@@Ooziem I think maybe the term gentle parenting gets misused. I’m firm too but I also try to explain to him and help him understand instead of just going straight to physical discipline or yelling.
@ oh yeah ! I understand. Maybe people ( including me ) dont know what gentle parenting really is lol. I don’t yell or hit either.
lord 22 -- 2 kids and no license 🙈
I'm 28, pregnant, and no license. I didn't have the luxury that most of you did of having parents teach you to drive or get you a car. And then when I was older I've been in two severe accidents causing trauma. Driving causes panic attacks. So does you driving make you that much more superior. There's reasons people don't drive and being critical over something you don't understand is just sad
@@cloeshay87ptsd is one thing but you’re 28. Grow up, be and adult, and do what
You’re supposed to do. You can’t blame your parents for everything your entire life.
Keep your legs closed.
real
Yeah no, this type of stuff would not slide in my house hold…
Jesus Christ the way her 2 year year old is strapped in … no jacket in the car 😵💫😵💫😵💫
Aaliyah’s side eye 😂😂 2:05
What the hell did she think having a kid at 16? Yes raising a kid is everyday all day, you spread your legs and got pregnant so yeah raising a kid for the next 18+ years is all you'll do. Grow up and get your license and a job. Try actually being a parent, your treating your kids like their your siblings and your not the mom. You let your kids do whatever whenever, they don't even know what NO means.
I agree she needs to try a new method to parenting but if that’s what they choose is for her to be a stay at home mom to make it easier on them and they can afford it fine I understand why it’s taken so long to get a license but her mom’s right she needs to focus on her a bit more so she can help herself and the kids she needs to learn gentle parenting doesn’t mean never saying no it’s about being responsive and still teaching your kids right from wrong while giving discipline where it’s needed and LJ definitely needs it
Yes….its definitely all her fault for “spreading” her legs…….the dude had absolutely nothing to do with it all right? It’s all her fault……you need to grow the F up!!!! Educate yourself before you go blasting someone!!!
Give the kid head phones with the tablet
Omg spitting the apple juice in the car is wild. He is old enough to know better than that.
Cooking microwave bacon is only a weekend thing 😮
This is a wreck lmfaoooo
Kids need discipline general parenting dosnt work.
Ohh that guy … run girl run
7:48 that high pitch “hay” is anger inducing
She’s a really good mom
Why can’t he play with a tablet while she drives? Is she that bad at driving
Some people get over stimulation...autism can be as factor. I'm low end but I also like quiet while focusing. Her being a new driver, no sound or low sound is pretty normal even if she doesn't have autism, etc...
She’s a new driver so I imagine it’s distracting/hard to focus on the road
I’m sorry but her husband needs to grow up.He is not a partner in their relationship he is a burden
She's a child barely raising children with a hotheaded husband.
Aliyah is the cutest
Stop making a joke of it and raise your kid. Wow.
People ok to make babies but not getting married. You kids are backwards these days 😂
I get big sister vibes not mommy vibes
Once her mom came in the scene I understand why she’s being a bit more “permissive” or “gentle” with her kids. But dad needs to step it up and provide the discipline when he sees mom is struggling.
Ofc the toddler is an ipad kid😒😒😒 stop giving your kids ipads. Its lazy.
Dad has a really bad attitude no love gross
Mom needs to be firmer
What the baby tablet got to do with her driving?
That's not gentle parenting, it's permissive parenting. Which is effectively NOT parenting lol
LJ is a no . 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
This is how entitled narcissistic adults are created. 👎
Terrible parenting
Why does it look like that little boy is in a seatbelt? He’s way too small for that!
Permissive parenting is not gentle parenting.
Only has a driving permit wtf lol
He's such a crybaby and a loser as a father.
Lawrence is gonna end up with anger issues
always trust your moms instincts
Mentally that dad is 14 😂😂
22 with no energy
Caribbean parents watching this like 😭
That kid is a complete brat!
Is she's gonna marry him, she in for a whole marriage of being a married single parent
Im sorry that little boy needs home training and a stern role model or you will lose control. I don't trust your skills .
Did she really put the ring on herself
He was supposed to do that
But i end up getting the shi end if LMFAOOO
Lmao she looks just like her mom. She needs to invest in her education or something while she’s raising her kids
watching this and reading these comments is why i think people should date in their own race... pretty sure, the dad doesn't have the patience to deal with their son because he lacks discipline. his mom literally lets him do whatever he wants, he doesn't listen/follow directions, and he's disrespectful. both parents have to be on board with "gentle parenting". and in most cases, there's no "gentle parenting" in black households. so i can understand his fustration with their son. heck, even her mom thinks their kids are out of control and doesn't agree with her style of parenting.
or people could just learn how to properly raise kids. authoritarian parenting is just as big a flop as permissive. they both make adults with lots and lots of issues.
Rosalind Flat
Why does Lilly look so different???
Also she breastfed too long second one
I wonder where Aaliyah’s dad is
What a brat
And this is why lily is a relaxed mum 'relaxed ' is a good wird by the way
And ypyr mum calling ypu a kud thats ohr rageous
Bet you was cooped up as a kid 😔
Not doing the same with your own 🤗🌹💕
Kids need routine they need consequences for actions they need to be corrected you can't just let your kids do whatever you want or they're going to make your life miserable she clearly doesn't care what her mom thinks if she became apparent at 16 years old this is so scripted😂
Exactly
Brats
THE "DAD" is a kid. He is a large baby like most men. Moms need WIVES😂😂😂😂
BOO HOO FEMINIST! HE IS BEING A FATHER!
@bdsm-w9u So you're triggered bc you are also not husband material and probably a bad father too and are therefore feeling personally attacked by my true statement? You can always spot the silly misogynistic males when they use the term feminist as an insult. Of course I think women should have the same rights as men. Only really shitty people think otherwise. It's ironic that you are yelling boo hope at me when it's you who are emotional here.. clearly upset by my words. 😆😆😆Go get a snack little dude, you'll feel better.
So wait is it dat her mum wanted her to b a baby mama forever or am I missing something
Breastfeeding a boy that old is just weirddddd
2nd