How to nail your interview: 1. Avoid eye contact at all costs 2. Rest your feet on the interviewers desk to assert dominance 3. Wait for 20 seconds staring at them before answering to a question 4. Walk out of the room calmly after refusing to take the job
getting detached from reality made me the most confident person ive ever known lol, the key is not caring guys, your fears controlling you, if you overcome them then your anxiety is gone.. everyone is too invested in their own life, they dont care if your hair's not that good
I can vouch for this. In my younger days I used to not give 2 shits what somebody would think about me if I said this or did that, I just didn't care and every conversation/interaction I had with anyone just felt good and satisfying. These days I'm clouded by social anxiety and it's hard to enjoy being out and around people because I constantly think about how the other person is going to view me but coming across this video is reconnecting me with my past philosophy of not giving 2 shits and I have to say it feels good and thats how I know not caring really works lol. Care about what matters to you, not to them, that is the key.
@@prodmarquese Yes and no. Because even if you have no fears there is a difference in appearing confident and being arrogant. Whilist I do understand your point what someone like Don does is project confidence while not needing to be confident himself if that makes sense. There are subtle moviments you can do that swing a conversation in your favor and for someone with Don's knowledge he knows what clients want and needs.
How do you detach from reality? Imagine you are to give a presentation in front of 100 people and you are nervous and anxious as hell, your heart is beating fast, at that situation how would you do that?
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1. Sit relaxed and a little lean back that makes people come out to you. 2. Be non-reactive, and react less at times when handling pressure. 3. Speak slowly and use pauses correctly. 4. You will be okay no matter what.
She broke up with me. I told her I was grateful for the good times we shared. No begging, no pleading, go and be well. Moved on. Did us both a BIG favor. 😂
To help yourself feel fine even in heated situations: "zoom out" a bit and imagine all the life that happens around you and realize how little you mean in all that, there is nothing that's going to hurt you
Alan watts explained that quite well, " you must understand we come out of this World, not into it. Therefore we are part of the natural World like the animals, the trees and the waves of the ocean and the clouds. Now have have you ever seen a cloud that was too big or too small? Have you ever seen a cloud move in the wrong direction? The same goes for humans, in zen practice you are thought to regard yourself as a cloud moveing along in the skies..."
Realizing that no matter what happens, I'll be okay, is exactly how I survived my childhood. I used to stress so much then after so many dramatic plot twists, I realized if I survived all that, I will survive whatever else comes my way and that's when I stopped stressing as much. I hadn't really connected it with confidence before but I can see the connection now. Interesting. 🤔
Same here. I am the only one who is not afraid to speak up, regardless of their position. After you collect your guts to stand up to your parents, you have no fear standing up to anyone :)
As a practicing attorney, I often remind myself to pause while speaking with a judge or a jury. It creates suspense. But more importantly, it actually allows me to hear my own thoughts and feel my feelings. Pausing also gives the other person time to process everything I just said. I would add that confidence is a two-way street. I find that if I practice active listening when I speak with people and really make space for them, they open up and we then mutually instill confidence in one another. Confidence doesn’t always have to be a competition.
I’m an accountant and I do this when I need to process information. It’s not an act. I need to pause to think about how to consult and problem solve. Confidence comes from faith that things will work out fine. Every problem can be solved. I love the idea of slowing down to think.
With Confidence it is also to remind yourself that everyone is going through things, everyone is up in their own heads worrying about themselves. Once you realise this it is so easy to walk around with ease and assured in who you are. Everyone is human. With any scenario that scares you, ask yourself the simple question ‘What is the worst outcome that can happen from this situation’, usually it isn’t half as bad as we make it out to be! Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real. Challenge yourself everyday and you will step into a Confident Person. All the love and incredible video, Thank you x
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It's about balancing when to be open and when not to be. You don't want to be telling the wrong people your weak points, but you also don't want to be a bottle that looks perfect but shatters after some time, because of the pressure it's holding. Recently I've not been balancing it properly. I've been too focused on saying the perfect thing. I've not been patient, I've been wanting instant confidence. This is cause I want to feel the same confidence I did in the past.
stealing someone else's personality and life? Wack! You'll end up like Edward Norton's character at the end of The Italian Job movie from 2003- A no originality, unconfident, LOSER that can't decide who they Actually are.
Don is not confident because he drinks. That is just pure nonsense. He is confident because he does not actually care about most of the things that shape other people. He does not care about money in the way other people does, he does not care what others think and above all he is willing to just try. Everybody knows a Don Draper. That does not mean he is a good person morality is something different.
Don Draper's confidence comes from the fact that he is a character in a TV show, and he is only written into scenes where he is, and can be, confident.
That whole.. Im going to be fine is what really does it.. And the no ducks given that comes out of rock bottom is what makes people relentlessly unegotistically authentic in every interaction..and relaxed biddy language.. That's confidence.. And it's unique to everyone.. Best to find your own rather than copy anyone partly.. Just comes off as creepy and untrustworthy.
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We need this curriculum in today's schools & make it mandatory for all students unfortunately this is something schools never teach us & as a 25 Yr old I can vouch for all adults when I say your degrees, grades & education doesn't matter if you're not able to express yourself. Until you're confident in you own skin you can never be successful.Period..!
nooo dons drapes his hand because hes confident broo he feels comfortable with himself and his environment brooo you gotta hear me out bro it’s nota cuz his last names draper brooooooo
Internal confidence can also be called *SELF-ESTEEM* - Ultimately, it boils down to mastering your own psychology and understanding that you have unlimited powers
VariableVision Absolutely! confidence isn’t something someone always radiates, it fluctuates, not everyone always feel amazing every second of every day, Don Draper definitely has had confidence at some point in his life, and may be feeling that exact way right now, it’s something you cultivate that takes time, so your answer is a bit obvious, sometimes you feel confident, sometimes not, everyone has had confidence at one point in their life
If ones self-esteem is based on the believe that one has unlimited powers, one will at some point fail and then be forced to question it. This is far from mastering ones psychology I guess... Knowing ones limits, being confident about the potentual one has and honest about all of it seems like self-esteem that is way more natural. Just my thougt on it tho..
@@Infinite_exhilaration Don Draper definitely had confidence. But I would argue his self destructive behaviour (alcoholism, serial cheating on his wife, constant lying) is rather a sign of lack of self esteem. One should not confuse self esteem with confidence. One runs much deeper and the other is more superficial and ego-centric.
VariableVision I’m a contradiction because I agree and disagree with you. You should never mix self esteem with confidence, however... people’s behavior, it changes over time, take Robert Downey Jr by example, his life was going essentially nowhere, and he made a decision to completely change the course of his life, and arguably kick started the MCU. Now... I’m not talking that big of a change, but he could of been known for binge drinking 4 months ago, and has that stigma, but 3 weeks ago, without us knowing, he made the decision to stop drinking, or drink less and less, so... it’s very difficult in my opinion to judge someone on their past behavior when change is just one decision away, and your argument may be people don’t change, and it’s a possibility like most people they are basing that statement from their own personal experience. Today he could of made a decision to change everything around. The truth is we don’t know. It’s the same as having a best friend always hung out in Highschool, you graduated, moved to a different state, visited him 3 years later, you can be a completely different person, so much so he doesn’t even recognize you
Besides what is going on under your own roof and that of your loved ones, treat life as a game and everything will be all right. That includes the position that everything will be okay no matter what. If you implement this concept, you will never get nervous, anxious, fidgety. You will be in control of yourself and the situation you are in and you won’t be afraid to put people in their place (nicely or not sometimes) when they get out of line. The world will be your oyster and the world will get out of your way of making things happen.
This is what I’ve been saying for years. Once you fall into that mindset of everything is NOT going to be ok, you literally become this. Thank you... finally someone understands what I’ve been saying.
also gotta say, the 4th tip really hits home. Specifically, love the line "...and you may begin to even look forward to the situations that stressed you out"
Today, in hopes of attracting attention from my crush, I made several jokes in class and everyone laughed including the teacher! Thanks for giving me confidence. I'm still getting there...
Taking pauses in between answering questions and making statements, then making eye contact is a hell of a powerful thing I learned. A must read is The Alabaster Girl.
No she didn't. She exhaled her cigarette smoke into his mouth. Watch that scene where he says "My name is Don." She does not exhale the smoke, but goes straight for his mouth. She is a femme fatale. It is written all over her face. Don is a sucker.
I was struggling with social anxiety for a while. I went to therapy, got it fixed, and now I've been doing these things without even knowing the "theory" behind it. It just came naturally. Old friends of mine say I'm a completely different person. And I can see it. It's really strange.
@@nykhilsandhu Honestly, fake it till you make it. Act confident even though you aren't and eventually the confidence will come to you. Also, I think a good exercise for conversation is talking to strangers online. Just talk with them. Your anxiety will basically disappear because of the anonymity. That depends on the seed of your anxiety too though. Listen, I'm not an expert. I highly suggest going to a therapist. But you have to talk freely. Don't hold anything back. And the therapist isn't there to fix your problems, he/she's there to walk you through all of this. Make you realize what's wrong with you, where it started and give you tips on how to change yourself to be better.
Yes sir that's old time medicine right there ain't no stress balls ordered from the therapist at two sessions a week but hey whatever works for you that's what counts no matter what era your from
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That's why post secondary education is important. You can go into a test not knowing what the hell it's about, fail, and it has no impact on anyone but yourself.
Good points raised but remember that this is a trained, professional actor, not naturally as shown in the movies. To be this type of confident takes a great deal more than just trying, doing or acting, but becoming that character in every way. Keep that in mind when trying, faking, doing or acting a part in front of others when such a character isn't your own natural self in everyday normal life.
I have theory about actors... not all, but some. They get so good at becoming (acting) another person they may be tempted to identify as that character in real life. And they get so good at the character that they lose themselves... sometimes intentionally. This could cause much anxiety and suffering. I'm sure we'll never really know but it might explain why in spite of fame and fortune some are secretly very unhappy people
*EVERYONE* was waiting for this one! 1. His relaxed body language 2. Don is non-reactive. 3. He doesn’t try to convince other people. 4. The belief that he will be okay, no matter what.
I've closed deals for $30,000 in the first semester selling software. I am a newb in sales talk but as I soon I take risk of trying and improving in communication I've learned and be confident to the product that I'm selling, all the embarrassment and mistakes is worth it I've learned new things in life.
No one actually acts like that in real life, and if they did, they’d be laughed at. People’s problem is that they don’t realize that life is nothing like “movies” Everyone’s so fake, everyone’s playing a character, imitating and repeating something they saw somewhere. Be confident in your authenticity, stop trying so hard, everyone can see through it, and the fact you don’t realize that is why you fail to garner respect from the people that matter.
we can all learn a thing or two ...evrybdy knows its impossible and will be weird in real life , but some aspects can be learned or tweaked to suit each ones style
The truth is somewhere inbetween. The reason it works in movies is because the tone is fixed, and all the characters are interacting within a fixed dynamic. BUT you can set (or reset) the tone of a conversation, or the mood in a room, if you know how to read it and respond *within* it's contextual limits. If you're "authentically" jumpy and nervous, you'll create a jumpy and nervous dynamic. Get 2 or 3 people to follow suit, and you've created a jumpy and nervous culture. The same is true in reverse. In other words, write your own movie.
u not a great one u wouldn't get it lol it's not about being a character, it's being who you are to the fullest extent. Great characters are made from and image of great people, not vice versa. you got it twisted lol
I watched this video a few years back and I forgot that after I applied the steps it completely changed how everyone around me viewed me seemingly overnight props to this channel
If a meeting goes badly...I walk away knowing that I'm going to be at my next opportunity soon enough. Putting too much importance on any sale is a mistake. The game is "Volume of Opportunity."
How to be confident: 1. Relaxed body language, moving freely around -standing shoulder width apart -relaxing arm on a the top of a chair -subconciously signaling others have to work for your attention -selective eye contact(situation, person) 2. Being non-reactive -being silent under pressure helps you to think the situation 3. Not trying to convince other people -frame yourself as a equal partner -willing to get rid potraying yourself confident 4. Believing I will be ok -doing things you wouldn't be okay (stepping out of comfort zone) - telling the truth even it gets you lose something - stop worrying someone else will reject because you will never reject yourself
I almost cryed at the group circle scene. Even though I've never watched that movie you made me empethize with the main character and actually feel what he felt. Amazing story telling
When you keep your word to your self you gain the mindset of knowing and trusting yourself to act /“react” as necessary in any situation, bc your body and intuition go based on how you carry yourself, and then life is more intriguing bc your body trusts your mind and vise versa so you just “do it”
Here's a study guide: 1) relaxed body language; spread yourself out; move freely around 2) people have to work for my attention; selective eye contact; piercing eye contact when earned 3) be non-reactive; pause and choose best possible options 4) don't try to convince other people; treat others as your equal; be willing to walk away, calmly 5) BELIEVE that no matter what happens, everything will turn out fine
1, Be relaxed 2. Selective eye contact 3. Don't fidget or react 4. Stay silent under pressure and let yourself take time to respond - time feels faster when you're stressed 5. Share your interest but walk away if it is not reciprocated 6. Believe that no matter what you do (socially), you will be okay (internal confidence)
@@mastyer0fReality I discovered this after my first read-through of The Upanishads. Something finally clicked and I stopped viewing the world and my experience through a lens of emotion and learned to accept all situations for what they are.
This video... I’ve seen quite a few of yours. This one really hit home for me and confidence felt and projected has not been an issue for me for decades. Well done
I'm sure it does buddy. But in the end that sounds like an excuse. An excuse that's easy to make and that I want to make. But you know what? Excuses are only gonna hurt us. I'm done living through excuses. Join me
@pim nas Why is it ridiculous? Some things haven't changed since the 60s and you can do some things even without being super handsome and having an expensive suit.
That's not the point. Don Draper is a perfect example *because* he's a character in a show. He is able to be more charismatic than a normal person would, so he's perfect for study.
So actors just pretend they are important people or somethings unimportant people, your victim number 3 that is on scene for less than 2 seconds almost getting run over by a car. Director: Car didn't come close enough we got to do a retake, is that really a way to live maybe being a stuntman isn't so great
Just be yourself. Be true to yourself and true to others. The most happy and confident people I met lives the most humble life in the villages of India. They may not have a fancy job, education or any lucrative career but they are content with themselves.
I never heard of this Draper character, but I definitely agree with that 30% figure. We do rush our own responses in fear that too much of a pause will lose our audience, but when we're the audience, we're never that demanding of the speaker.
Omar El Daouk Ragnar was always the smartest man in the room and thus he felt secure, as visionaries often are. He was a thinker among barbarians and saw value in others and was ahead a few steps.
Thank you so much I really needed this, I was just rejected and was so scared to go to school because I knew that people would confront me about it but again thank you so much!
that's right but don't get it twisted, going into investments like crypto currency/real estate or buying Assets that appreciates should be at the top list of everyone now then see how ecstatic you will be in days or months time for the decision you made today.
That's very taught full of you because I'm into some crypto investments now and it's really profitable, but will recommend you to do a background check up to ensure you're investing in a solid foundation source, to avoid blowing your account, An alternative seek guidance from some pro trader's and more to avoid loses of funds.
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Check your sources. Behaviour like Don's is only for the boss. Being too comfortable around superiours shows disrespect. Using body language that says"me has biiig territory" will infuriate superiors and alienate business partners. It is only benficial for you to get women or to discourage adversaries.
I joined an executive meeting on video one time. And you could tell the most senior person in the room cause they were the most spread out. And the most senior was so relaxed that he looked like he was uncomfortably slouching down in his chair to a point it looked unprofessional. So much posturing in the corporate world. We’re still all animals an the end of the day.
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TheOgGhost The guy said “How mastering each level can take you from being nervous to completely confident in any situation”. So it’s not just for meeting new people, it’s for any given situation.
Recently, I was accused of a crime I did not commit and arrested. Now, months later, Iam out of custody, and drowning in court drama and stress of having to defend my story of events. I realized the same thing this video points out: No matter what, I will be okay when this is all over. I may not get everything back that I want, but in the end there are two possible outcomes of my case. I could be convicted, but that doesn't matter, because I will be a better person afterwards. I could and hope to be aquitted, and that doesn't matter either, because I will still make myself a better person afterwards. The situation and the result do not matter. The only thing that ever matters is the belief that you're going to bounce back from it.
I think what we consider charisma in this video is dangerously close to toxic masculinity and the feeling of being untouchable, emotionally unreachable and hard
Look at social situations as an opportunity to show yourself and others how much you love yourself and the world. Be Honest, happy, aloof and care free. You've got nothing to prove.
Not really. Graham Stephan explained how he was a millionaire and still had no confidence. If all your confidence comes from money then it's easy to take it all away. Real confidence comes from within.
You'd believe that will help and whilst it might be true, it's not the kind of confidence you'd expect it to be. If you are a shy, non-confident guy, having lots of money is not going to magically make you confident and out-going.
Sophia Bogard lol what? I don’t think anyone who got to become president was not confident. He’s one of the most powerful people in the world, I’m sure he’s not insecure.
"You'll stop worrying that someone will reject you because you'll never reject yourself." That is brilliant! Well done!!!
Indeed I agree💯. They said that "Don't be the first person to say no to yourself"
"Who do you believe in? I believe in me.. I love me"- SGP
Love this
your IQ must be negative
Who cares about rejection
Its way more important to become youre best authentic self
How to nail your interview:
1. Avoid eye contact at all costs
2. Rest your feet on the interviewers desk to assert dominance
3. Wait for 20 seconds staring at them before answering to a question
4. Walk out of the room calmly after refusing to take the job
dont forgot to cry
I laughed so hard 😂😂😂 im dying here man
Hahahaha
5. Light up a cigarette indoors and smoke.
@@MrRiveting hahahahahaha
Expectations: Don Draper
Reality: Michael Scott
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fkn underrated..
100% accurate
Michael Scarn!
Threat level midnight
"Believing that no matter what happens you’re going to be ok" is an incredibly liberating
idea. I love this
I always tell myself, "No one is going to kill you if (I fail/can't pay a bill/etc.).
it is basically stoicism bro
getting detached from reality made me the most confident person ive ever known lol, the key is not caring guys, your fears controlling you, if you overcome them then your anxiety is gone.. everyone is too invested in their own life, they dont care if your hair's not that good
I can vouch for this. In my younger days I used to not give 2 shits what somebody would think about me if I said this or did that, I just didn't care and every conversation/interaction I had with anyone just felt good and satisfying. These days I'm clouded by social anxiety and it's hard to enjoy being out and around people because I constantly think about how the other person is going to view me but coming across this video is reconnecting me with my past philosophy of not giving 2 shits and I have to say it feels good and thats how I know not caring really works lol. Care about what matters to you, not to them, that is the key.
@@Anthony-dw3jb Exactly, once you have control over your fears, you'll have no limits
@@prodmarquese Yes and no. Because even if you have no fears there is a difference in appearing confident and being arrogant. Whilist I do understand your point what someone like Don does is project confidence while not needing to be confident himself if that makes sense. There are subtle moviments you can do that swing a conversation in your favor and for someone with Don's knowledge he knows what clients want and needs.
How do you detach from reality? Imagine you are to give a presentation in front of 100 people and you are nervous and anxious as hell, your heart is beating fast, at that situation how would you do that?
@@sarthaknagar6349 the second you greet the audience. Right than and there you focus on what your are presenting and not on the audience itself
True confidence can only be achieved via lightning McQueen crocs
Notice: no other clothing can be worn or it won’t work
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A, er...friend was looking for some. Where would I, er he, get those?
Crispyyy
Epic gamer moment
“Would you like your receipt?”
*20 second pause
“no.-I-I mean yes”
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1. Sit relaxed and a little lean back that makes people come out to you.
2. Be non-reactive, and react less at times when handling pressure.
3. Speak slowly and use pauses correctly.
4. You will be okay no matter what.
She broke up with me. I told her I was grateful for the good times we shared. No begging, no pleading, go and be well. Moved on. Did us both a BIG favor. 😂
"do you want fries with that?"
*20 second pause*
"yes"
(i had to think fast)
hehehe
that would be a fckn alpha move i reckon
LMAO
LMAO
Watched this with my dog
Now he’s giving speeches about confidence.
You could say he's now...
Top Dog.
Guess you could call him a dawg now
@@brodemfamalam7178 guess you can call him snoop dog😂😂😂😂
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Second in command to snowball
Believing that no matter what happens you’re going to be fine anyway is always a great mindset to have
Exactly!!
You made my day sir !!
Sean Lunny that’s could be true but could also be really bad
I tell myself this everyday and I genuinely believe everything will workout
To help yourself feel fine even in heated situations: "zoom out" a bit and imagine all the life that happens around you and realize how little you mean in all that, there is nothing that's going to hurt you
Alan watts explained that quite well, " you must understand we come out of this World, not into it. Therefore we are part of the natural World like the animals, the trees and the waves of the ocean and the clouds. Now have have you ever seen a cloud that was too big or too small? Have you ever seen a cloud move in the wrong direction? The same goes for humans, in zen practice you are thought to regard yourself as a cloud moveing along in the skies..."
Realizing that no matter what happens, I'll be okay, is exactly how I survived my childhood. I used to stress so much then after so many dramatic plot twists, I realized if I survived all that, I will survive whatever else comes my way and that's when I stopped stressing as much. I hadn't really connected it with confidence before but I can see the connection now. Interesting. 🤔
Same here. I am the only one who is not afraid to speak up, regardless of their position. After you collect your guts to stand up to your parents, you have no fear standing up to anyone :)
Truth.
Uf
In the end, most people wont survive. 🙂
So sorry to hear what happened to you. But have faith in yourself, you are strong and capable. You have survived. You will survive. Peace.
"My name is Don" what a great pickup line, I'll definitely use it!
My name is Bond, James Bond
@@dogguyful my name is Don, Don Don
@@petezah4597 Hahaha 😂
Don Dada on the down low
@@petezah4597 Tava aqui no baile escutando aquele som
As a practicing attorney, I often remind myself to pause while speaking with a judge or a jury.
It creates suspense. But more importantly, it actually allows me to hear my own thoughts and feel my feelings.
Pausing also gives the other person time to process everything I just said.
I would add that confidence is a two-way street.
I find that if I practice active listening when I speak with people and really make space for them, they open up and we then mutually instill confidence in one another.
Confidence doesn’t always have to be a competition.
i m in Law school.. i will start practicing your way
Amazing advice
you're an attorney shut up
I’m an accountant and I do this when I need to process information. It’s not an act. I need to pause to think about how to consult and problem solve.
Confidence comes from faith that things will work out fine. Every problem can be solved.
I love the idea of slowing down to think.
With Confidence it is also to remind yourself that everyone is going through things, everyone is up in their own heads worrying about themselves. Once you realise this it is so easy to walk around with ease and assured in who you are. Everyone is human. With any scenario that scares you, ask yourself the simple question ‘What is the worst outcome that can happen from this situation’, usually it isn’t half as bad as we make it out to be! Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real. Challenge yourself everyday and you will step into a Confident Person. All the love and incredible video, Thank you x
That was everything in a nutshell - spot on, I think.
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It's about balancing when to be open and when not to be. You don't want to be telling the wrong people your weak points, but you also don't want to be a bottle that looks perfect but shatters after some time, because of the pressure it's holding.
Recently I've not been balancing it properly. I've been too focused on saying the perfect thing. I've not been patient, I've been wanting instant confidence. This is cause I want to feel the same confidence I did in the past.
How to be confident
Step 1: steal someone else’s personality and life
Alex
Step1: migrate
Step 2: steal someone else’s personality and life
Not funny. Dudes actually do this crap
Rey Joson
Step three: Profit.
He isn't talking about his personality at all. This is all about behavior. How mature successful men behave.
stealing someone else's personality and life? Wack!
You'll end up like Edward Norton's character at the end of The Italian Job movie from 2003-
A no originality, unconfident, LOSER that can't decide who they Actually are.
Let’s be real here, most of Don’s confidence comes from the fact that he drinks so much. Drunk people are just more confident no matter what.
Because they arent constantly worrying about consequences and living in the moment
Yep. No matter what there's always a drink to cure what ails ya.
If only it were that easy
Don is not confident because he drinks. That is just pure nonsense. He is confident because he does not actually care about most of the things that shape other people.
He does not care about money in the way other people does, he does not care what others think and above all he is willing to just try.
Everybody knows a Don Draper. That does not mean he is a good person morality is something different.
Don Draper's confidence comes from the fact that he is a character in a TV show, and he is only written into scenes where he is, and can be, confident.
“It's not the load that breaks you down, it's the way you carry it.”
― Lou Holtz
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you gotta hit rock bottom first before truly being confident
Been there, I wish that on everyone who wants to become their greatest self! The darker the weather, the better the man!
Sh.sudaysi.quraan.baqara.
Hitting rock bottom doesn't make you confident it makes you ruthless.
That whole.. Im going to be fine is what really does it.. And the no ducks given that comes out of rock bottom is what makes people relentlessly unegotistically authentic in every interaction..and relaxed biddy language.. That's confidence.. And it's unique to everyone.. Best to find your own rather than copy anyone partly.. Just comes off as creepy and untrustworthy.
how do I hit rock bottom
Being brought up in a loving and supportive environment and being physically attractive are the most important contributors to confidence.
What if I told u that even with those 2 things u could still not be confident 🤔
Definitely wrong answer
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We need this curriculum in today's schools & make it mandatory for all students unfortunately this is something schools never teach us & as a 25 Yr old I can vouch for all adults when I say your degrees, grades & education doesn't matter if you're not able to express yourself. Until you're confident in you own skin you can never be successful.Period..!
The only reason he drapes his hand over the adjacent chair so often is because his name is Don Draper and I cannot be convinced otherwise
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 best comment ever on any video in the world
ah man, English joke, I don't get it
@@TheDoomer666 you speak very good England sir
nooo dons drapes his hand because hes confident broo he feels comfortable with himself and his environment brooo you gotta hear me out bro it’s nota cuz his last names draper brooooooo
@@darksunrise37 it’s a joke-
Internal confidence can also be called *SELF-ESTEEM*
- Ultimately, it boils down to mastering your own psychology and understanding that you have unlimited powers
Don Draper had self esteem? You sure?
VariableVision Absolutely! confidence isn’t something someone always radiates, it fluctuates, not everyone always feel amazing every second of every day, Don Draper definitely has had confidence at some point in his life, and may be feeling that exact way right now, it’s something you cultivate that takes time, so your answer is a bit obvious, sometimes you feel confident, sometimes not, everyone has had confidence at one point in their life
If ones self-esteem is based on the believe that one has unlimited powers, one will at some point fail and then be forced to question it. This is far from mastering ones psychology I guess...
Knowing ones limits, being confident about the potentual one has and honest about all of it seems like self-esteem that is way more natural. Just my thougt on it tho..
@@Infinite_exhilaration Don Draper definitely had confidence. But I would argue his self destructive behaviour (alcoholism, serial cheating on his wife, constant lying) is rather a sign of lack of self esteem. One should not confuse self esteem with confidence. One runs much deeper and the other is more superficial and ego-centric.
VariableVision I’m a contradiction because I agree and disagree with you. You should never mix self esteem with confidence, however... people’s behavior, it changes over time, take Robert Downey Jr by example, his life was going essentially nowhere, and he made a decision to completely change the course of his life, and arguably kick started the MCU. Now... I’m not talking that big of a change, but he could of been known for binge drinking 4 months ago, and has that stigma, but 3 weeks ago, without us knowing, he made the decision to stop drinking, or drink less and less, so... it’s very difficult in my opinion to judge someone on their past behavior when change is just one decision away, and your argument may be people don’t change, and it’s a possibility like most people they are basing that statement from their own personal experience. Today he could of made a decision to change everything around. The truth is we don’t know. It’s the same as having a best friend always hung out in Highschool, you graduated, moved to a different state, visited him 3 years later, you can be a completely different person, so much so he doesn’t even recognize you
Besides what is going on under your own roof and that of your loved ones, treat life as a game and everything will be all right. That includes the position that everything will be okay no matter what. If you implement this concept, you will never get nervous, anxious, fidgety. You will be in control of yourself and the situation you are in and you won’t be afraid to put people in their place (nicely or not sometimes) when they get out of line. The world will be your oyster and the world will get out of your way of making things happen.
This is what I’ve been saying for years. Once you fall into that mindset of everything is NOT going to be ok, you literally become this. Thank you... finally someone understands what I’ve been saying.
also gotta say, the 4th tip really hits home. Specifically, love the line "...and you may begin to even look forward to the situations that stressed you out"
Today, in hopes of attracting attention from my crush, I made several jokes in class and everyone laughed including the teacher! Thanks for giving me confidence. I'm still getting there...
Proud of you bro and dont be afraid to get rejected
Building self-confidence will change your life.
Have an amazing day.
100% truth
You can't change your life, it only happens once.
No, YOU have an amazing day.
@@TheAbrahamHD Shut up dummy!
No
Taking pauses in between answering questions and making statements, then making eye contact is a hell of a powerful thing I learned. A must read is The Alabaster Girl.
I did that 4 or 6 times and yeh
It's something powerful even it gives you NRJ and thoughts to add later in your conversations
Jon Hamm lit someone on fire in college at a frat house
Confidence is a feeling, it's an emotion, it's thought. It's always internal.
"External confidence" as you put it, that is by definition a facade.
Or maybe a projection of internal confidence ?
fake it till you make it applies. If you act confident then eventually you will become confident, as long as it's for the right reasons.
Every day is another chance to get stronger, to eat better, to live healthier, and to be the best version of you. Grant C
2:24
Don: My name is Don
Girl: inserts tongue in mouth
thats how you do it
That's what fiction is FOR, so people can see what they CAN'T HAVE IN REAL LIFE.
@@kenburns4547 Fiction ? Happened to me twice !
No she didn't. She exhaled her cigarette smoke into his mouth. Watch that scene where he says "My name is Don." She does not exhale the smoke, but goes straight for his mouth. She is a femme fatale. It is written all over her face. Don is a sucker.
@@Bostonite1985 she's sharing lung cancer
I was struggling with social anxiety for a while. I went to therapy, got it fixed, and now I've been doing these things without even knowing the "theory" behind it. It just came naturally. Old friends of mine say I'm a completely different person. And I can see it. It's really strange.
what did u do to get over your anxiety, may i ask?
@@nykhilsandhu Medication, therapy and someone who was very close to me. That last one was the most important part.
@@Randommmmm204 thanks mate, got any tips that I can implement now?
@@nykhilsandhu Honestly, fake it till you make it. Act confident even though you aren't and eventually the confidence will come to you. Also, I think a good exercise for conversation is talking to strangers online. Just talk with them. Your anxiety will basically disappear because of the anonymity. That depends on the seed of your anxiety too though. Listen, I'm not an expert. I highly suggest going to a therapist. But you have to talk freely. Don't hold anything back. And the therapist isn't there to fix your problems, he/she's there to walk you through all of this. Make you realize what's wrong with you, where it started and give you tips on how to change yourself to be better.
@@Randommmmm204 thank you so much mate, really appreciate your help :)
True confidence it's just being yourself in any situation and speaking your mind when needed
There’s a reason alcohol is called liquid courage.
😂😂 spot on
Yes sir that's old time medicine right there ain't no stress balls ordered from the therapist at two sessions a week but hey whatever works for you that's what counts no matter what era your from
One drink ain't enough Jack you better make it three
Fixing problems builds your personality. Alcohol destroys it.
It's also called liquid jackass
This is the only self-improvement channel which I genuinely feel like I'm being provided real value...not just some fake advice to start buying into a cult following like so many other self-help channels. Been following this channel since way before 1 mil subs and I'm really happy to see how much this channel has grown.
Watch some of Alex Becker's videos trust
Learning how to control emotion under pressure is a priceless life skill not only for confidence!! 💖💖
I am confident when I go to quiz without studying, knowing that it's just a day that would pass and be forgotten
no it is not...
That's why post secondary education is important. You can go into a test not knowing what the hell it's about, fail, and it has no impact on anyone but yourself.
This video was so powerful, I'm going to save it and come back to it anytime I feel unconfident. There shouldn't be a reason not to feel confident.
Good points raised but remember that this is a trained, professional actor, not naturally as shown in the movies. To be this type of confident takes a great deal more than just trying, doing or acting, but becoming that character in every way. Keep that in mind when trying, faking, doing or acting a part in front of others when such a character isn't your own natural self in everyday normal life.
Jon Hamm is a great actor. I saw him cooking on a talk show. He doesn’t walk, move, or gesture like Don Draper at all! He’s a totally different type.
I have theory about actors... not all, but some. They get so good at becoming (acting) another person they may be tempted to identify as that character in real life. And they get so good at the character that they lose themselves... sometimes intentionally. This could cause much anxiety and suffering. I'm sure we'll never really know but it might explain why in spite of fame and fortune some are secretly very unhappy people
@@awakentruth1116 ...that's a very good point.
*EVERYONE* was waiting for this one!
1. His relaxed body language
2. Don is non-reactive.
3. He doesn’t try to convince other people.
4. The belief that he will be okay, no matter what.
I was manspreading on the bus to act more confident and I ended up getting slapped again.
That’s so selfish, how dare you not leave space for the people next to you, you don’t own the bus man
Zip up your flies next time.
Manspreading? You mean having balls?
Alphas don't offend a women's mating instincts. Beta's are percieved as falsely advertising when manspreading.
Weren't manspreading enough
I've closed deals for $30,000 in the first semester selling software. I am a newb in sales talk but as I soon I take risk of trying and improving in communication I've learned and be confident to the product that I'm selling, all the embarrassment and mistakes is worth it I've learned new things in life.
No one actually acts like that in real life, and if they did, they’d be laughed at. People’s problem is that they don’t realize that life is nothing like “movies”
Everyone’s so fake, everyone’s playing a character, imitating and repeating something they saw somewhere. Be confident in your authenticity, stop trying so hard, everyone can see through it, and the fact you don’t realize that is why you fail to garner respect from the people that matter.
we can all learn a thing or two ...evrybdy knows its impossible and will be weird in real life , but some aspects can be learned or tweaked to suit each ones style
That's the word right there, AUTHENTICITY.
The truth is somewhere inbetween. The reason it works in movies is because the tone is fixed, and all the characters are interacting within a fixed dynamic. BUT you can set (or reset) the tone of a conversation, or the mood in a room, if you know how to read it and respond *within* it's contextual limits. If you're "authentically" jumpy and nervous, you'll create a jumpy and nervous dynamic. Get 2 or 3 people to follow suit, and you've created a jumpy and nervous culture. The same is true in reverse.
In other words, write your own movie.
u not a great one u wouldn't get it lol it's not about being a character, it's being who you are to the fullest extent. Great characters are made from and image of great people, not vice versa. you got it twisted lol
fake it til you make it 😵😏
Only finished Mad Men last week, Don Draper/Jon Hamm is definitely one of those men you wish you were.
I'm about to end season 4 soon. Had to stop at 7:31 because I felt like spoilers were about to start. Its a great show. This coincidence...
It’s kinda funny because the whole point is that even he isn’t Don Draper...
@@HaHaHaLMFAOtv I guess it doesn't matter. Because we are analysing his personality, and his personality is impressive in my opinion.
@Buttrape Bill are you missing the Jon Hamm bit in my comment? Jesus Christ.
@Buttrape Bill Yeah, but aside from all that, he is really cool. ;)
I watched this video a few years back and I forgot that after I applied the steps it completely changed how everyone around me viewed me seemingly overnight props to this channel
You reach true confidence by letting everything go.
I can't do that 😢
Yeah ❤
@@Hisherly u CAN DO IT
Be like Buddha
@@tinockovietea2470 Jesus
Been watching the show and I wrote down one of my favorite quotes from him
“Our worst fears lie in anticipation”
Anticipation has the habit to set you up
You've been set up by this 11 minute ad
Fears, Lies and Anticipation are the two chief weapons of the inquisition ... Our three chief weapons are ...
You should write down the quotes that Jon Hamm made when they asked him about the time he lit someone on fire in college for a Fraternity initiation.
A masterpiece . The “tips” i got for advertising for my business are endless.
How to be confident in any situation: Don’t be broke.
Good looking is number 1
@@arfanzufar5148 Money is number one, I've seen ugly rich f*boys with things most attractive men couldn't have
Haha not so.
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If a meeting goes badly...I walk away knowing that I'm going to be at my next opportunity soon enough. Putting too much importance on any sale is a mistake. The game is "Volume of Opportunity."
How to be confident:
1. Relaxed body language, moving freely around
-standing shoulder width apart
-relaxing arm on a the top of a chair
-subconciously signaling others
have to work for your attention
-selective eye contact(situation,
person)
2. Being non-reactive
-being silent under pressure helps
you to think the situation
3. Not trying to convince other people
-frame yourself as a equal partner
-willing to get rid potraying yourself
confident
4. Believing I will be ok
-doing things you wouldn't be okay
(stepping out of comfort zone)
- telling the truth even it gets you
lose something
- stop worrying someone else will
reject because you will never
reject yourself
I'm quite comfortable with myself and I'm not really bothered by others. I do these naturally.
When you grind hard , confidence comes within!
I almost cryed at the group circle scene. Even though I've never watched that movie you made me empethize with the main character and actually feel what he felt. Amazing story telling
Also have never seen the movie, but that short fragment with him crying is really well put together, almost shed a tear myself.. masterful
“You stop worrying that someone else will reject you when you know you will never reject yourself”
When you keep your word to your self you gain the mindset of knowing and trusting yourself to act /“react” as necessary in any situation, bc your body and intuition go based on how you carry yourself, and then life is more intriguing bc your body trusts your mind and vise versa so you just “do it”
Here's a study guide:
1) relaxed body language; spread yourself out; move freely around
2) people have to work for my attention; selective eye contact; piercing eye contact when earned
3) be non-reactive; pause and choose best possible options
4) don't try to convince other people; treat others as your equal; be willing to walk away, calmly
5) BELIEVE that no matter what happens, everything will turn out fine
Last time i tried to sit relaxed and a shoe flies hit my head followed by my dad voice "watch your manner boi"
This is by far the best in the series cause it doesn't look to change anyone just tell them to own it
Dude. Mad men is one of my favorite shows. Love that you did this analysis with Don.
1, Be relaxed
2. Selective eye contact
3. Don't fidget or react
4. Stay silent under pressure and let yourself take time to respond - time feels faster when you're stressed
5. Share your interest but walk away if it is not reciprocated
6. Believe that no matter what you do (socially), you will be okay (internal confidence)
Low reactivity is called Stoicism - which is a very old philosophy that still rings true today
Being non reactive is one of the best things I've learned. I never react. I just be.
@@mastyer0fReality I discovered this after my first read-through of The Upanishads. Something finally clicked and I stopped viewing the world and my experience through a lens of emotion and learned to accept all situations for what they are.
@@mastyer0fReality do you BE reactive?
when it comes to self confidence I think harvey specter would be a perfect example
Tip #2 : Be non-reactive
Person : *your mom’s dead*
“Well that might not be the best thing”
lmao
@@livewireOrourke jocko willink: GOOD
Camus nailed this one.
Björg Erla “I knew this was coming, does BLANK know? I want to console Blank.”
Omfg I said something like that a week ago when my grandma died
This video... I’ve seen quite a few of yours. This one really hit home for me and confidence felt and projected has not been an issue for me for decades. Well done
This is the first video on this channel I've seen. I just hope I don't forget to implement the tips!
It helps when you have a team of writers, a director, makeup, special lighting, and retakes.
I'm sure it does buddy.
But in the end that sounds like an excuse.
An excuse that's easy to make and that I want to make. But you know what? Excuses are only gonna hurt us. I'm done living through excuses. Join me
Fact
@pim nas Why is it ridiculous? Some things haven't changed since the 60s and you can do some things even without being super handsome and having an expensive suit.
That's not the point. Don Draper is a perfect example *because* he's a character in a show. He is able to be more charismatic than a normal person would, so he's perfect for study.
So actors just pretend they are important people or somethings unimportant people, your victim number 3 that is on scene for less than 2 seconds almost getting run over by a car. Director: Car didn't come close enough we got to do a retake, is that really a way to live maybe being a stuntman isn't so great
“like him or hate him, he’s speakin straight facts😔”
Just be yourself.
Be true to yourself and true to others.
The most happy and confident people I met lives the most humble life in the villages of India. They may not have a fancy job, education or any lucrative career but they are content with themselves.
I sat asymmetrically and my boss fired me. Thank you for the video.
😭😂🤣🤣🤣😁
It's been several years since I've watched Mad Men. I think I'm due for a weekend binge.
The best part pf all pf this is that he is an actor and is doing all of this cause of studying people like this, what a performance
>Selective eye contact.
>Pause before speaking more often.
Interesting points!
I never heard of this Draper character, but I definitely agree with that 30% figure.
We do rush our own responses in fear that too much of a pause will lose our audience, but when we're the audience, we're never that demanding of the speaker.
i feel ilke my voice is deep af whenever i hear this dude
Please analyze Ragnar Lothbrok from Vikings , easily the most charismatic yet calm character in any series
Omar El Daouk Ragnar was always the smartest man in the room and thus he felt secure, as visionaries often are. He was a thinker among barbarians and saw value in others and was ahead a few steps.
It’s crazy how simple stuff like this is but the way we were programmed growing up made shot like this never go through my head
Thank you so much I really needed this, I was just rejected and was so scared to go to school because I knew that people would confront me about it but again thank you so much!
You have to pay price to action. You have to sacrifice something to get something.
that's right but don't get it twisted, going into investments like crypto currency/real estate or buying Assets that appreciates should be at the top list of everyone now then see how ecstatic you will be in days or months time for the decision you made today.
Sounds good because I'm already thinking of going Into crypto currency investment soon, heard is really profitable with investors now .
That's very taught full of you because I'm into some crypto investments now and it's really profitable, but will recommend you to do a background check up to ensure you're investing in a solid foundation source, to avoid blowing your account, An alternative seek guidance from some pro trader's and more to avoid loses of funds.
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I am aspergers. I appreciate these videos much. Thank you.
Check your sources. Behaviour like Don's is only for the boss. Being too comfortable around superiours shows disrespect. Using body language that says"me has biiig territory" will infuriate superiors and alienate business partners. It is only benficial for you to get women or to discourage adversaries.
Can't believe i just willingly watched 11min long ad
hahahaha
Depressing
Yeah that man soap commercial got me like that.
LMAO
Empowerment and confidence comes from knowing yourself ,for the bad and the good and understanding that you are in charge of what you take from these.
One time I spoke with my deep tough guy voice, and all the bad guys ran off.
Thanks for these videos man!
I've been showing them to my new Area 51 alien friends
😁😁😁😁😁😁
I joined an executive meeting on video one time. And you could tell the most senior person in the room cause they were the most spread out. And the most senior was so relaxed that he looked like he was uncomfortably slouching down in his chair to a point it looked unprofessional. So much posturing in the corporate world. We’re still all animals an the end of the day.
I want to wake one morning and find out that my portfolio is $500,000. I know it’s possible.
This is really depending on your investment curve, just invest wisely
Plan your investment with good portfolio manager and I can assure you that in few months your account will be more than your dream.
Do you know anyone that can help? I’d really appreciate if you can share your broker contact info?
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I really don’t understand how all this work but I invested with Mr David Harrison , a top notched forex trader that gives me profits every week or should I call it 7 days
My heartbeat start beating fast when i even have to say a word “Hi”
Dead
It would be interesting to see Aubrey Plaza's charisma breakdown in one of your next videos.
I have a feeling UA-cam will recommend my channel as a recommended video after this🤓
Tried doing it this week and my mom smacked me… At least I got her attention 🤣
Lmao
If u a dude get out of the house away from mom
_mulberrymure_ 😂😂😂
you dont do it to your family only people you just meet..
TheOgGhost The guy said “How mastering each level can take you from being nervous to completely confident in any situation”. So it’s not just for meeting new people, it’s for any given situation.
Would anyone else love to see a Tommy Shelby analysis from Peaky Blinders? Hes self-assuredness is amazing lol
Eman S is that show any good?
In my opinion it's a very entertaining show, especially if you enjoy gangsta/mafia content
Every failure and rejections is a lesson. Instead of suffering reflect and learn from it
Recently, I was accused of a crime I did not commit and arrested. Now, months later, Iam out of custody, and drowning in court drama and stress of having to defend my story of events. I realized the same thing this video points out: No matter what, I will be okay when this is all over. I may not get everything back that I want, but in the end there are two possible outcomes of my case. I could be convicted, but that doesn't matter, because I will be a better person afterwards. I could and hope to be aquitted, and that doesn't matter either, because I will still make myself a better person afterwards. The situation and the result do not matter. The only thing that ever matters is the belief that you're going to bounce back from it.
I think what we consider charisma in this video is dangerously close to toxic masculinity and the feeling of being untouchable, emotionally unreachable and hard
Martin Menendez that’s how battles are won brother
Lmao toxic masculinity isn’t a real term. It’s made up sjw crap
somebody attended gender studies
Look at social situations as an opportunity to show yourself and others how much you love yourself and the world. Be Honest, happy, aloof and care free. You've got nothing to prove.
"My name is Don"
Instantly seduces
Somehow, when he says that, he's also subliminally saying, "and I'm the man (you've been hoping for)"
What happened to your face?
@@honkytonk4465 That's a Richard Nixon mask
Damn, ive just started smoking weed and i learned this through weed's self introspection and im finally happy to come across such a video
Similar to Harvey in Suits.
Judging by the likes on this video it looks like I won't be getting much eye contact from strangers for a while
How to be confident in any situation: having a LOT of money in your bank account.
Not really. Graham Stephan explained how he was a millionaire and still had no confidence. If all your confidence comes from money then it's easy to take it all away. Real confidence comes from within.
Tell that to Donald Trump. One of the most insecure people in existence
You'd believe that will help and whilst it might be true, it's not the kind of confidence you'd expect it to be. If you are a shy, non-confident guy, having lots of money is not going to magically make you confident and out-going.
Sophia Bogard lol what? I don’t think anyone who got to become president was not confident. He’s one of the most powerful people in the world, I’m sure he’s not insecure.
Also be tall, handsome and live in the 60s.