Why Is Sex a Thing?

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  • @besmart
    @besmart  3 роки тому +9232

    As your neighborhood science dad, you knew this day was coming. It's time we had "the talk"… about why sex is even a thing, biologically speaking.

  • @flingflong5853
    @flingflong5853 3 роки тому +27896

    My new pick-up line: " i've got a healthy set of parasite resistant genes, wanna mate?"

    • @aarushikishore1417
      @aarushikishore1417 3 роки тому +370

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @anti-dope9608
      @anti-dope9608 3 роки тому +331

      I am sending this reply to all those who commented on this video. Please tell what is that music at 0:45. I can't sleep without answer. Please help.

    • @leahdragon
      @leahdragon 3 роки тому +111

      @@anti-dope9608 or you could just NOT harass everyone.

    • @anti-dope9608
      @anti-dope9608 3 роки тому +357

      @@leahdragon sorry if you feel this harassment. I just asked for help as a fellow human.

    • @anti-dope9608
      @anti-dope9608 3 роки тому +244

      Yes I tried shazam xenn4 but it seems too short of a clip. But I got answer. It is 1812 overture. Some guy bronk posted in some other comment.
      P.s : I'm sorry Mr. Dragon

  • @bobthegoat7090
    @bobthegoat7090 3 роки тому +12414

    The talk today goes like this:
    "Son we need to talk"
    "Dad we have the internet. I already know"

    • @nishantray3207
      @nishantray3207 3 роки тому +357

      actually i first read about sex in TFIOS in the 4rth grade. and then i found out morre about it. in the internet. ok, nvm

    • @whimsy-chan1188
      @whimsy-chan1188 3 роки тому +224

      Lol this was how the talk worked for millennials getting the talk in the 90's. I'm just gonna go: Explain to me std prevention and birth control options.

    • @thralldumehammer
      @thralldumehammer 3 роки тому +58

      Been there done that lol

    • @lettuce1626
      @lettuce1626 3 роки тому +23

      Truuuuuuu

    • @zuggett
      @zuggett 3 роки тому +14

      I said that lol

  • @Sanguiris
    @Sanguiris Рік тому +4711

    "Sex is twice as costly as no sex"
    Truer words can never be spoken

    • @TeenWithACarrotIDK
      @TeenWithACarrotIDK Рік тому

      I’m going to divide myself instead of partaking in enter-course in the future. Sorry girls, I do reproduction asexually.

    • @aFandøOfLandø
      @aFandøOfLandø Рік тому +101

      Especially for teens

    • @miguelj.5292
      @miguelj.5292 9 місяців тому +26

      @@aFandøOfLandø Especially for middle age divorcees

    • @mr_duckie8882
      @mr_duckie8882 7 місяців тому +6

      Here before it blows up

    • @Terratomere
      @Terratomere 6 місяців тому +2

      @@mr_duckie8882 too early

  • @vzzniko
    @vzzniko Рік тому +1154

    As biologist I'm applauding you for your brilliant explanation and mentioning all important nuances! That's wonderful work! I wish there were more popular science resources like this which do not distort the original idea/concept.

    • @justachameleon253
      @justachameleon253 Рік тому

      Except that not all the information he is giving is accurate. There are not females in the asexual species.

    • @wendy645
      @wendy645 Рік тому +9

      Yes yes yes!!!

    • @mercesletifer52
      @mercesletifer52 9 місяців тому

      both you and this delusional person in video believe in evolution so both of your lives/applauding are irrelevant

    • @sntslilhlpr6601
      @sntslilhlpr6601 8 місяців тому +7

      Agreed. Was brilliantly done and exceeded my expectations.

    • @4124V4TA-SNPCA-x
      @4124V4TA-SNPCA-x 7 місяців тому +7

      It was brilliant but he didn't mention sexual reproduction in prokaryotes and other asexually reproducing species. Horizontal gene transfer also exists is more complex multi cellular eukaryotes but less prevalent that sex makes sense of also a factor.
      But it was indeed brilliantly and concisely presented so hats off!

  • @jumpingcrazybanana
    @jumpingcrazybanana 3 роки тому +7895

    "Species don't stop evolving just because they've succeeded in their environment."
    I love that!

    • @catelynh1020
      @catelynh1020 3 роки тому +187

      Although a lack of environmental pressures can lead to apparent stagnation. Humans as an example, sure, but also a lot of deep sea creatures that basically haven't changed for a millenia

    • @pijn2370
      @pijn2370 3 роки тому +78

      @@catelynh1020 humans have constantly been under environmental pressures, the evolution of light skin for example is one of the recent evolutionary changes that many had

    • @catelynh1020
      @catelynh1020 3 роки тому +160

      @@pijn2370 yes, and no. Let's take bad vision as an example.
      In ancient history, bad vision would generally come late in life, but if you were young and had bad vision, you would be more likely to die younger and not pass your bad eyesight on. As humans got more advanced and developed more tools and created a supportive society structure, the pressures to not have bad eyesight start to go away.
      Now, if your eyesight is pretty bad (say extremely nearsighted), you have the chance to have glasses or surgeries to help correct it. Many of the effects of being nearsighted are minimized or negated. Screens and cameras can take things that are far away and not visible and make it close enough to be focused on. There's also help we build in to our societies for people with poor eyesight, such as audio cues or tactile clues. Something detrimental is not detrimental enough to prevent it from continuing on in other generations.

    • @catelynh1020
      @catelynh1020 3 роки тому +37

      @@pijn2370 i realize i didn't mention light skin in my reply, but i think it'd be a good example as well.
      Light skin is useful in areas where more vitamin d is needed drom the sun. Basically, colder and darker regions on the planet. But people wouldn't necessarily turn *more* white if they move from a warm climate to a cold because we keep ourselves more comfortable with our tools. Sun/uv lamps, vitamin supplements, even tanning salons, would start to negate the lack of sun from the environment.
      In other words, the environmental pressure of cold climates not having as much sun is more or less negated by our technology

    • @giovannifrrri5495
      @giovannifrrri5495 3 роки тому +7

      @@catelynh1020 how would white skin help with vitamin D production?

  • @Alias_Anybody
    @Alias_Anybody 3 роки тому +4492

    Card tricks don't seem to be essential for survival in his environment.

    • @tiyenin
      @tiyenin 3 роки тому +83

      Bananas suffer from a lack of biodiversity. A single deadly mold threatened to decimate the entire cultivated banana population worldwide just a couple of years ago, because every single nanner is identically genetical.

    • @mellie4174
      @mellie4174 3 роки тому +42

      @@tiyenin yes but that didn't happen naturally. This happened because of industrial farming and thier propogation techniques.

    • @Crazmuss
      @Crazmuss 3 роки тому +12

      @@tiyenin well first of all "decimate" means to kill 10%. And there are other sorts of bananas, so everything is fine.

    • @alw2839
      @alw2839 3 роки тому +8

      @@Crazmuss Bitter bananas it's not fine, reeeeeeee. Seriously supermarkets will sell less bannaas, if any at all.

    • @Crazmuss
      @Crazmuss 3 роки тому +5

      @@alw2839 I never tasted bitter banana, altho trying several sorts. In fact some are more sweet that most common ones. Shops will lose some revenue, but this is not a big deal in grand scheme. It is not like our grandchildren will not be able to taste banana.

  • @korliyon2283
    @korliyon2283 3 роки тому +2082

    "Why are you single?"
    "It's complicated"

    • @ASMRJey
      @ASMRJey 3 роки тому +165

      „I just haven’t found an adequate partner to share my winning genes with yet“

    • @em7pug26
      @em7pug26 3 роки тому +5

      @@ASMRJey 🤣

    • @MissCracker
      @MissCracker 3 роки тому +35

      my genes arent parasite resistent

    • @Founderschannel123
      @Founderschannel123 3 роки тому +10

      @@ASMRJey just keep your winning genes okay some people may take advantage of those winning genes😅

    • @suhaneegupta814
      @suhaneegupta814 3 роки тому +12

      "My genes weren't resistant to parasites."

  • @FedericoZampese
    @FedericoZampese Рік тому +502

    "Sex is twice as costly as no sex". I can assure you that the economic, social and business related outcome can be much, much worse than that

  • @CypressKing
    @CypressKing 3 роки тому +19583

    So basically I’m not a genetic failure. Just a winning hand in the wrong game.

    • @CarlosReghis
      @CarlosReghis 3 роки тому +137

      @@Jacob-xs5yu I don’t disagree.

    • @shalvitandel5566
      @shalvitandel5566 3 роки тому +80

      @@Jacob-xs5yu I agree.

    • @brigidscaldron
      @brigidscaldron 3 роки тому +264

      Ya! I wish I had not won the Rheumatology game but I did indeed get a free chronic illness for the rest of my life!
      Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

    • @matheussanthiago9685
      @matheussanthiago9685 3 роки тому +64

      I like to call it ''human evolutionary anachronisms''
      you can use free of charge

    • @eow4317
      @eow4317 3 роки тому +9

      Mood

  • @Sciguy95
    @Sciguy95 3 роки тому +5107

    One good way to think of nature and evolution is that it's not necessarily survival of the "fittest" but instead it's survival of the "good enough." That's why you don't need a "winning hand" of genes, just a set that allows you to survive long enough to reproduce, even if you aren't perfect.

    • @pranavflame
      @pranavflame 3 роки тому +145

      Yep. Even a temporary evolutionary advantage will get passed on

    • @nopenope4502
      @nopenope4502 3 роки тому +154

      @Purple Emerald "Negative traits"... periods, for example.
      Most mammals reabsorb their uterus linings.
      Not us.
      Life's not fair.

    • @nopenope4502
      @nopenope4502 3 роки тому +103

      @Purple Emerald I'm on my period right now and the pain -
      We need so much pain, stress and in some cases risk of death just to have the ABILITY to even be able to have kids in the first place, let alone go through the process of actually being pregnant and giving birth.
      I repeat my statement of life's not fair.
      Our success is... artificial. Take Chernobyl, for example. Nature is THRIVING over there, in a place where we cannot.
      In Chernobyl, it was a case of adapt genetically, or... die.
      Humans can adapt artificially, using technology to protect us (Like the radiation suits people visiting Chernobyl have to wear), but because of that we can't adapt very well physically anymore. Nature, however, can, because it doesn't have radiation suits to protect it.
      Plants and animals that had natural resistance to radiation are doing excellently, passing on genes and breeding generations of radiation-resistant creatures, whereas the ones that didn't probably died and didn't have chance to reproduce.
      I was having this conversation with my family on a 3-hour car journey in the middle of the night yesterday, and we all agreed that humankind is going to die out within the next 500 years, whether it's a war, climate change, a pandemic, a nuclear disaster, or some unpredicted event (Like Yellowstone erupting, though I'm pretty sure that's not due for thousands of years. If it does erupt, there'll be a mass extinction for sure.). It might even be a combination of multiple.
      Knowing humans, we'll have caused our own downfall in some shape or form.
      I'm rambling now so I should post this and go watch a different science video before I start spiralling. I hope your current week is better than mine has been, and that if you are someone who gets periods yours are not too heavy or painful.

    • @thiacari
      @thiacari 3 роки тому +32

      @@nopenope4502 There's some science to avoid period pain. If it's the back-breaking uterus cramping, then use magnesium daily. In a couple of months it will start working. I've used it for 20 years and never any pain - I stopped using it for a year, and I experienced pain for the first time! Ye god I was stupefied, people go through this, for real!
      If it's the hormone-stomach ache thing, I remember it was something else, maybe eating hormone balancing foods like veggies and less hormone pumped milks and meat. The chinese also have a plethora of foods and tips that are meant to prevent period pains.

    • @omnizoom
      @omnizoom 3 роки тому +18

      @Purple Emeraldfun fact, humans being humans are causing these things to get worse, genetically if your mother needed a C section you (if female) or your offspring will much more likely need one too , before most modern medicine, women with those problems either died in child birth or the baby could not be born, this caused that genetic "defect" to not be carried along easily (very low birth rate, no mother to care for child ect ect ) however with the advent of modern medicine more of these mothers have more kids, those kids have a mother that didn't die in childbirth and in turn raised better and have more kids which has led to the need for C sections to rise because our natural filter for that is being circumvented by technology. It may be in like 100 years that natural births are very uncommon because they have become to dangerous.

  • @darkleome5409
    @darkleome5409 3 роки тому +8277

    "Sex is twice as costly as no sex"
    Well, yes, relationships do cost a lot of money

    • @lordtraxroy
      @lordtraxroy 3 роки тому +82

      But starting a relationship is free

    • @darkleome5409
      @darkleome5409 3 роки тому +199

      @@lordtraxroymaybe, but it really depends on many things

    • @doom-driveneap4569
      @doom-driveneap4569 3 роки тому +204

      Money, headaches, worry, stress, trauma just to make some babies bruh 😂😂😂

    • @lordtraxroy
      @lordtraxroy 3 роки тому +17

      @@doom-driveneap4569 true if you f*ckt up once she or he hates or doomed you to death

    • @lightningglovesproductions6484
      @lightningglovesproductions6484 3 роки тому +30

      cost of the rubber, motel, (lube if you require it) sex is costly indeed

  • @Chineseisntalanguageapparently
    @Chineseisntalanguageapparently 11 місяців тому +387

    You’d think the paradox was more like “why do we all like it and do it but it’s also the worst thing ever and no one should talk about it, especially if your family is religious”

    • @Galaxy-o2e
      @Galaxy-o2e 5 місяців тому +39

      I think its because we are emotionally and physically vulnerable during sex

    • @cenentai4013
      @cenentai4013 4 місяці тому +16

      @@Galaxy-o2e sex causes intimacy and bonding
      what about ace ppl tho?

    • @PoorLittleRhubarbLovesMooing
      @PoorLittleRhubarbLovesMooing 4 місяці тому +3

      @@cenentai4013 It's a strange way of doing so

    • @purplealpaca9278
      @purplealpaca9278 4 місяці тому +33

      ​@@cenentai4013
      Well, not all ace people are sex repulsed, but for the ones that are, they just bond and do intamcy in different ways like cuddling and hugging

    • @eraba661
      @eraba661 4 місяці тому +3

      Depends I'm from religious family and its different here and I also teach my siblings about it, its more of a society thing, when I was in 8th class my teacher skipped the chapter but when we got different teacher in 9th-10th she tought it in 10th class as it was a chapter both teachers were religious and were from the same religion but its different through person to person

  • @iForix
    @iForix 3 роки тому +1801

    "Son, we need to talk about sex..."
    "Thanks dad I'm good I watched a UA-cam video"

    • @dont9915
      @dont9915 3 роки тому +44

      It do be like that

    • @turoni314
      @turoni314 3 роки тому +29

      There's always sexplanations

    • @drxeno7816
      @drxeno7816 3 роки тому +2

      @Homie I- what's that ? it's annoying

    • @analogicparadox
      @analogicparadox 3 роки тому +1

      @@drxeno7816 spam bot

    • @daniellanctot6548
      @daniellanctot6548 3 роки тому +4

      That would be the PG-13 version of that annecdote...!

  • @FC-qc8fj
    @FC-qc8fj 3 роки тому +1542

    I like that you mention how science doesn’t have the exact answer to everything. We’re always still learning more about the world

    • @CuongNguyen-sw1eb
      @CuongNguyen-sw1eb 3 роки тому +15

      @Wulfric you'll figure it out scientifically at some point. Just as I figuring out why every girl turns into lesbians the moment I ask them out. That might even be why you have no desire to have sex.

    • @molybdaen11
      @molybdaen11 3 роки тому

      @Wulfric Probably you have not found the right mate yet.
      Or you are genetic perfect to be a support rather then a main?
      Who knows :)

    • @molybdaen11
      @molybdaen11 3 роки тому +1

      @Wulfric Of course it's meant as a joke since I do not know you.
      But they are certain patters in human social life.
      They are like "jobs" people unconscious take if the group is large enough.
      For example there is always somebody who make others laugh, somebody who picks on others, the hero, the sweat heard, the nerd (wich job is to force others to decide on a opinion), the leader, the lover and so on.
      Mains would be the ones wich job is to duck each other and pass they genes.
      Supports are the ones who care for food, security, education, getting information, improving social life or care for the fire.
      In other words: Even if you have no desire to be with other people, does not mean that you can not help our species as a whole.

    • @duskmallow
      @duskmallow 3 роки тому +27

      @Wulfric You might want to look up asexuality! It's when you feel little to no sexual attraction towards any gender. I'm asexual too and it was such a relief to find out that I'm not broken and there are others like me. Not trying to push a label on you of course!

    • @Dinoslay
      @Dinoslay 3 роки тому

      It is however a continuous process of learning. Sooner or later we’ll get there.

  • @vincecomuna
    @vincecomuna 2 роки тому +4293

    Fun fact: being a son of two doctos (one is a gynecologist and the other is a obstetrician) I never really had "the talk".
    They just....treated me like an adult and assumed I was smart enough to understand the proper terms. And surprise surprise, I also became a doctor....a pediatrician. I suppose I'm a hybrid of my parent's academic lives.

    • @couch_philosoph3325
      @couch_philosoph3325 2 роки тому +187

      You really are half of each 😆 i think we do not need a talk if sex ed is taught well on different levels (i never had the talk and was quite well informed i think, we even learned which hormones affect the pill that i have since forgotten).
      My dad is in IT and my mum learned accounting. I study philosophy and work in philosophy. I am the alien

    • @dafaeriequeene
      @dafaeriequeene 2 роки тому +56

      I see you inherited their smugness too

    • @vincecomuna
      @vincecomuna 2 роки тому +45

      @@dafaeriequeene Do I know you?

    • @TillTheLightTakesUs
      @TillTheLightTakesUs 2 роки тому +43

      Fun fact: By being a son of two doctors you already have the winning hand, regardless of your genetic makeup. You can only go down from there.

    • @vincecomuna
      @vincecomuna 2 роки тому +95

      @@TillTheLightTakesUs Not really. I chose to spend my time as a kid/teenager studying hard and preparing myself. Other guys started drinking very early on, skipping classes, fooling aroung. I never drank alcohol, had a disciplined life and put my efforts into studies.
      I didn't get things for free, I earned them.
      I didn't pay for my med school, I got invited.
      It's easy to say I have a confortable life when people don't know all the things I had to let go to achieve my goals. All the residency shifts and all the hours of dedication.

  •  Рік тому +255

    The worst thing about this video is that I did not find it sooner. Great work. You got a new subscriber :D

  • @default632
    @default632 3 роки тому +1520

    Me confessing to my crush:
    "It's not fate. It's evolution."

  • @valeriejones8195
    @valeriejones8195 3 роки тому +1570

    As someone who majored in Genetics with a minor in psychology looking to do genetic counselling 30 years ago. I have to say this is probably the most concise easiest to understand way to explain the concept of genetics and biology driving our genetics to the average person. So kudos to you on this excellent video.

    • @mahadrox
      @mahadrox 3 роки тому +3

      Thankyou

    • @peace606
      @peace606 3 роки тому

      Genetics drive to the average person? Why?

    • @tornadodee148
      @tornadodee148 3 роки тому +2

      well im screwed if this was the easiest: there are some parts I did NOT understand

    • @xSwordLilyx
      @xSwordLilyx 2 роки тому

      What is genetic counselling?

    • @valeriejones8195
      @valeriejones8195 2 роки тому +6

      @@xSwordLilyx Looking at the genetic backgrounds of the parents and determining the probability that any future or currently unborn children the the couple will have a specific % of inheriting two recessive copies of the genes (one from each parent) for various medical conditions, i.e. Hemophilia, Sickle Cell Anemia, Down Syndrome, etc. That way can make in informed choice on whether or not to have children or if already pregnant they know what to expect before the child is born.

  • @DIOsNotDead
    @DIOsNotDead 3 роки тому +5863

    people who had "the talk" in school or at home are probably luckier than many of us living in conservative places where the only way for you to learn is porn and curiously researching it

    • @mh4624
      @mh4624 3 роки тому +311

      Very much agreed brother

    • @monticore1626
      @monticore1626 3 роки тому +340

      In Australia it’s taught in primary school at year 5

    • @michakrzyzanowski8554
      @michakrzyzanowski8554 3 роки тому +144

      idk I've never had it (yet) but that's not a concern because I won't have sex anytime soon XD

    • @Razor-gx2dq
      @Razor-gx2dq 3 роки тому +17

      Yep, as I did

    • @joshuaewalker
      @joshuaewalker 3 роки тому +143

      Even liberal parents avoid "the talk".

  • @luthfimuhammad3068
    @luthfimuhammad3068 Рік тому +56

    3:50 whoever put that subtitle is a man of culture

  • @jjohnston94
    @jjohnston94 3 роки тому +1750

    We never had "the talk". Our "talk" was the ABC After School Special "My Mom's Having a Baby". My mom told my brother and me to watch it, then hightailed it to the grocery store. Never another word.

    • @b.a.r.c.l.a.y9701
      @b.a.r.c.l.a.y9701 3 роки тому +16

      @Homie I- what

    • @Silverxlx
      @Silverxlx 3 роки тому +14

      @Homie I- wtf?

    • @ironsnowflake1076
      @ironsnowflake1076 3 роки тому +7

      @@b.a.r.c.l.a.y9701 dare I hit the link?

    • @Diamondking599
      @Diamondking599 3 роки тому +11

      @@ironsnowflake1076 probably not, it’s just weird music

    • @shilikonki2617
      @shilikonki2617 3 роки тому +30

      Well, the only "the talk" situation my family and I ever had was when we watched "American pie" together...

  • @talkingshark9996
    @talkingshark9996 3 роки тому +2234

    The fact that you were able to make this video not cringe is amazing

    • @lonesome1689
      @lonesome1689 3 роки тому +27

      It was kinda cringe

    • @teagod2_214
      @teagod2_214 3 роки тому +166

      @@lonesome1689 your cringe....

    • @cleverusernamenexttime2779
      @cleverusernamenexttime2779 3 роки тому +17

      I almost lost it at the 'spiky boi, danger noodle ' part. Like this is a science channel please use proper names.

    • @violettvi1485
      @violettvi1485 3 роки тому +88

      @@cleverusernamenexttime2779 why? You don't know what they're called or smt?
      I mean the guy already does a lot of useful work by explaining this stuff and by adding in some jokes that keep your attention on the talk it's even better

    • @cleverusernamenexttime2779
      @cleverusernamenexttime2779 3 роки тому +8

      @@violettvi1485 it's like when grown women use baby talk for attention.
      If you're interesting enough you don't need that garbage.
      I do appreciate this channel and ones like it. It's just slang like that is annoying and sounds dumb to me.

  • @justanothermortal1373
    @justanothermortal1373 3 роки тому +3121

    Joe. I know this may not be worth replying to, but I just want you to know that I've been having an absolutely, undeniably crappy hell of a day and when I saw this new upload, clicked on it, heard you say "hey smart people", it made me feel a little better about myself and my situation. So thank you :)
    Never stop doing what you do.

    • @charliebickerdike3216
      @charliebickerdike3216 3 роки тому +15

      me personally im more interested in answering the questions his videos ask than hearing him call people smart

    • @justanothermortal1373
      @justanothermortal1373 3 роки тому +93

      @@charliebickerdike3216 you do you my friend

    • @lillys9876
      @lillys9876 3 роки тому +15

      Same! I'm always like ''aw..'' when he doesn't start a video with it like in his older ones.

    • @asmrpoke006
      @asmrpoke006 3 роки тому +8

      @@justanothermortal1373 charlie moment

    • @hdebbache2000
      @hdebbache2000 3 роки тому +43

      @@charliebickerdike3216 you missed the point there buddy

  • @lordofbacon1455
    @lordofbacon1455 Рік тому +319

    „I mean, that‘s how we both got here“
    Me who was cloned by the CIA:

    • @turtleburger200
      @turtleburger200 4 місяці тому +8

      Relatable

    • @straymelody5
      @straymelody5 4 місяці тому +5

      I love how this is clearly a joke, but imagine, just imagine that you are actually serious, but no one can ever prove it haha

    • @rgbforever4561
      @rgbforever4561 3 місяці тому

      That pfp😂

  • @Maxarcc
    @Maxarcc 3 роки тому +4130

    This concept of "the talk" is really interesting to me. I come from The Netherlands and this isn't really a thing here. At least, not in mildly progressive families. We just pick up random stuff from lessons in school, friends and family until we have collected enough snippets of information to understand how it works and what it is. I think it works like that because people are generally just open about it, even to kids. At least, my family and my friends' family was.

    • @LesoTheGamerboy
      @LesoTheGamerboy 3 роки тому +442

      I live in finland and i found "the talk" as a weird concept too because i never had it and it just seems so awkward for your parents to explain what sex is to you. Honestly i have no idea where i first learned it, i guess i was just curious as kids are and like you i got snippets of information here and there until i got a general idea what it was and then fully understood it during middle schools sex ed.

    • @Scion141
      @Scion141 3 роки тому +284

      I find that concept weird too. I think "The Talk" is mostly an American thing. In my culture (perhaps even the whole country), we also just pick up random stuff from here and there until we have the whole picture. It's not that it's taboo to talk about it, it's just not a thing

    • @vivientakacs5599
      @vivientakacs5599 3 роки тому +82

      I never had it explained either, I learned from school. I'm from Hungary, lol. Idk if it's the same with everyone else or not here, but I never even heard of "the talk" referred to it at all.

    • @TheRealJetJaguar
      @TheRealJetJaguar 3 роки тому +70

      I'm 13 and from the UK and my parents haven't given me "the talk" i don't know if they ever will, but they don't really need to since i just picked up everything i know from the internet

    • @Mark778.
      @Mark778. 3 роки тому +33

      Im brazilian and i had "the talk", i guess i depends on the family really.

  • @bellhel227
    @bellhel227 3 роки тому +1279

    “Don’t forget to water it” LOL-

  • @arandomcatheehee
    @arandomcatheehee 3 роки тому +1567

    My mom gave me the talk when I started puberty, but I always had a decent idea of how babies start out since I was very small. I'm adopted, and my mom wanted me to never feel like it was hidden from me, so she'd frequently tell me, "You're not from my belly, but that doesn't change how much I love you."
    I basically knew that babies were in "bellies", and that they did not come from supernatural means xd

    • @iw9472
      @iw9472 2 роки тому +121

      Saaame!!! My mom told me that I wasn't from her womb but from her heart. So I guess it wasn't so surprising for me.

    • @lenaramoon4617
      @lenaramoon4617 2 роки тому +68

      that's lovely guys

    • @Chiara_Elena
      @Chiara_Elena 2 роки тому +36

      That is so beautiful!

    • @foekaiser3938
      @foekaiser3938 2 роки тому +29

      That is wholesome!

    • @beepbeep670
      @beepbeep670 2 роки тому +12

      That’s so beautiful, bless you ❤️

  • @mcpaintcraft8709
    @mcpaintcraft8709 2 роки тому +96

    0:48 Don't forget to water it 😂💀

  • @wholeNwon
    @wholeNwon 3 роки тому +662

    OK, seriously for a minute. I was talking with a young (21 yo) man about sex. He initiated the conversation. I soon discovered that he really knew very little about it. Sure, he had a pretty good idea of the basic mechanics and was more or less successful twice, but that was it. He knew very little about venereal diseases, effective contraception (even how to use a condom correctly), the emotional aspects of sex for both partners, etc. He had not been vaccinated against HPV. Well, the list could go on, but you get the point. There's more to "the talk" than anatomy. And there's a lot to becoming a good man that dad will always be proud of.

    • @eoincampbell1584
      @eoincampbell1584 3 роки тому +103

      Yeah sex education in schools needs to be improved across the board.

    • @moralkombat66
      @moralkombat66 3 роки тому +17

      @@eoincampbell1584 some schools don't have it

    • @jimmytimmy3680
      @jimmytimmy3680 3 роки тому +6

      Not everyone is "bright." Seems like you chose unwisely.

    • @anti-dope9608
      @anti-dope9608 3 роки тому +9

      I am sending this reply to all those who commented on this video. Please tell what is that music at 0:45. I can't sleep without answer. Please help.

    • @bronkingrn
      @bronkingrn 3 роки тому +5

      @@anti-dope9608 ua-cam.com/video/GFkHGj4eVqE/v-deo.html at 13:45 ish now shut up

  • @copyrightdragon7244
    @copyrightdragon7244 2 роки тому +877

    I do recall reading something a while back about how liking another person's scent is supposed to be a strong indicator that your immune systems are sufficiently different as to be compatible. Always fascinating to see how these things intertwine. Great video!

    • @hellajellatv9418
      @hellajellatv9418 2 роки тому +81

      What if their personality gives you the shits though lmao
      Edit: Nevermind I was the problem 😂

    • @NiLem98
      @NiLem98 2 роки тому +19

      @@hellajellatv9418 Yeah, had that recently. Trying to get over it now xD

    • @kitsune7229
      @kitsune7229 Рік тому +11

      Thanks!
      I'm gonna use this as a compliment, and leave them so confused, that I could leave without giving them explanation

    • @TheFantazingo
      @TheFantazingo Рік тому +21

      And if you think someone smells bad, you're a bad match. Modern anti-perspirents and perfumes throws off that whole pheromone filter

    • @AnnoyingNewsletters
      @AnnoyingNewsletters Рік тому +35

      It's not just antiperspirant and perfumes causing these problems.
      Hormonal birth control can make a woman more attracted to someone with similar scents as their family because it's tricking their body into thinking that they're pregnant, leading to seeking familial protection.
      Ever see a couple arguing like siblings or parents and children? That could be part of the reason.

  • @hiselbii5326
    @hiselbii5326 3 роки тому +871

    Funfact: Very important genes are "conserved" in the DNA, meaning they are located very close to each other on the chromosome. When the genes are "shuffled" in Meiosis, they will be more likely to stay together and the baby will have all the basic functions to survive. So the shuffling is a lot safer for organims than is sounds.

    • @mroverdose14
      @mroverdose14 3 роки тому +56

      Was just about to say. Introns and Exons during transcription has shown this plus you want to mix two winning hands to have the best combo. This is why we spend to much time is finding the right mates.

    • @ShadowSparksX
      @ShadowSparksX 3 роки тому +19

      You said "Fun Fact". Didn't laugh.

    • @MeesterG
      @MeesterG 3 роки тому +44

      @@ShadowSparksX people don't have to laugh at every fun thing.
      Otherwise sex wouldn't be a fun thing anymore.

    • @Saladassu
      @Saladassu 3 роки тому +4

      does it ever happen that they dont i wonder? by sheer badluck, their genes means they develop without skin for example. though i guess thats just like normal conditions like allergies and that vein of things outside of your control that you're born with

    • @UnchosenMountainBerry
      @UnchosenMountainBerry 3 роки тому +7

      @@ShadowSparksX Most people think sex as fun thing. But they don't laugh having one.
      Or, they do.

  • @moonkey2712
    @moonkey2712 Рік тому +78

    Interesting topic and will explained. the poker metaphor was great to help wrap my mind around what you were saying. Great work

  • @jonasgenova
    @jonasgenova 3 роки тому +632

    Joe: Uses poker to explain
    Me: (who doesn't know the rules or how to play): hmmm... yes of course I get it

    • @Daniela-nq3ig
      @Daniela-nq3ig 3 роки тому +3

      Same lol

    • @harnes64
      @harnes64 3 роки тому +3

      Me and you both.

    • @hittingyouoverthehead
      @hittingyouoverthehead 3 роки тому +11

      Poker is very easy. You should never call first because if you do, someone will always have a better hand and take away all your money.
      At least that's what Hollywood taught me.

    • @harshitjaiswal5529
      @harshitjaiswal5529 3 роки тому

      Lol

  • @diggydog95ify
    @diggydog95ify 3 роки тому +524

    Whenever hear him say "Hey smart people" all my brain thinks is "Hey small people!"

    • @YaBoiMemo313
      @YaBoiMemo313 3 роки тому +9

      Now u made me have the same issue XD

    • @thecalham
      @thecalham 3 роки тому +2

      We are all but small people in comparison

    • @lorrieannesilvey474
      @lorrieannesilvey474 3 роки тому

      @@anti-dope9608, it is a classic piece like Bach. I will look it up.

    • @anti-dope9608
      @anti-dope9608 3 роки тому +1

      @@lorrieannesilvey474 thanks mate. But some guy bronk answered it in some other comment.
      It is 1812 overture.

    • @nicholasneyhart396
      @nicholasneyhart396 3 роки тому

      Most people are.small compared to Joe.

  • @TURBOMIKEIFY
    @TURBOMIKEIFY 3 роки тому +247

    When I had the talk with my dad, he was so upfront and blunt with his terminology- he didn't use any analogies either. That it helped me so much in my sexual endeavors.

    • @sparkysparky999
      @sparkysparky999 3 роки тому +3

      How old were you?

    • @TURBOMIKEIFY
      @TURBOMIKEIFY 3 роки тому +17

      @@sparkysparky999 Adult.

    • @eoincampbell1584
      @eoincampbell1584 3 роки тому +58

      I think that's absolutely the best way to do it.
      I also don't see why parent's wait until their kid is already old enough that they could be having sex (or at least looking up porn and getting misconceptions). Plus the placeholders of storks or finding babies in cabbage patches are just stupid.
      I think best way to go is Adams Family style, as soon as the kid is old enough to understand the explanation you explain it.

    • @j.l.atheprodigy
      @j.l.atheprodigy 3 роки тому +10

      That's good. No beating around the bush...

    • @TheSwauzz
      @TheSwauzz 3 роки тому +10

      @@eoincampbell1584 I don't know about anyone still talking about storks and cabbage patches anymore. I completely forgot about those things.

  • @KydroxHD
    @KydroxHD 2 роки тому +57

    This is the exact video i was looking for when I looked up this title. Thank you sir, this is gold

  • @orangiseng3155
    @orangiseng3155 3 роки тому +4789

    I'm newly married, now I'm going to use this phrase for my wife "hey let's shuffle some genes" *wink

    • @reformedorthodoxmunmanquara
      @reformedorthodoxmunmanquara 3 роки тому +258

      Have fun lmao

    • @Bell-wh4vm
      @Bell-wh4vm 3 роки тому +66

      @@anti-dope9608 Some classical celebration music

    • @rahuln5676
      @rahuln5676 3 роки тому +13

      @@anti-dope9608 ua-cam.com/video/u2W1Wi2U9sQ/v-deo.html Here you go!!

    • @Existingua
      @Existingua 3 роки тому +47

      Technically you are not shuffling genes....um they are already shuffled in your own body and in case of your wife the genes are shuffled since she was a fetus in her mother's womb
      What you are doing during sex is "trying" to combine those shuffled genes to form a zygote
      But well you can say anything you want😂

    • @slkjvlkfsvnlsdfhgdght5447
      @slkjvlkfsvnlsdfhgdght5447 3 роки тому +39

      @@Existingua no, you are shuffling them. recombination also occurs in the fertilized egg

  • @joezcool
    @joezcool 3 роки тому +465

    instructions unclear, I'm now standing next to three identical clones who are fighting over which is the evil one.

    • @spacetechempire510
      @spacetechempire510 3 роки тому +25

      I got ya. Just grab three cups and write good on two and evil on one.

    • @ad-skyobsidion4267
      @ad-skyobsidion4267 3 роки тому +12

      Draw straws

    • @erezsolomon3838
      @erezsolomon3838 3 роки тому +7

      Mad, Rad and Billy are good kids. keep them around and then take them to a cheap rest-or-rant

    • @matheussanthiago9685
      @matheussanthiago9685 3 роки тому +3

      instructions unclear; peepee got stuck in clone number 3, that is clearly evil

    • @garethbaus5471
      @garethbaus5471 3 роки тому +8

      Why can't all 3 be evil?

  • @2760ade
    @2760ade Рік тому +21

    I think your hand of cards analogy is really clever in explaining this so well! It just makes so much sense, without being overly technical!

    • @beansworth5694
      @beansworth5694 11 місяців тому

      It's technically a bad analogy, though. Since if the next hand to win is completely random, taking one hand over your current one has no statistical influence over the outcome- it just makes a bad decision a meaningless one from the hand-to-win's perspective

    • @cameronschyuder9034
      @cameronschyuder9034 8 місяців тому

      @@beansworth5694isn’t there that game problem with the doors and the cars that basically suggests if you get the chance to switch your door, then always switch? I can’t really explain it that well but I’m sure if you search up something like “game problem 3 doors winning car” then the thing will pop up. Edit: it’s called the Monty Hall problem
      What I’m saying is I think probability would disagree with your perspective. Also, if an individual has sex multiple times (or if multiple people have sex), there are multiple more combinations that can be made, making it more likely that at least one of the offspring will survive even if the environment changes, so they can reproduce and so on
      You’re not switching hands once, and it’s not just one person involved either. It’s many card games playing by the same changing rules. Idk. I think the analogy is more accurate than inaccurate since, ofc, not all analogies are perfect, that’s just not possible

  • @syedushherahmad311
    @syedushherahmad311 3 роки тому +602

    Dad: Son, we need to have "the Talk"
    Joe: Sure, ask away dad

  • @dizzytitan8481
    @dizzytitan8481 3 роки тому +581

    Yess! I've read both The Selfish Gene and The Red Queen: sex and the evolution of human nature, and this video basically soft summarized both of them! Love it!

    • @nihilisticalbino
      @nihilisticalbino 3 роки тому +4

      Horrific books 10/10

    • @thehandsomeknight9449
      @thehandsomeknight9449 3 роки тому +5

      @@nihilisticalbino wdym

    • @lastyhopper2792
      @lastyhopper2792 3 роки тому +6

      @@thehandsomeknight9449 he meant terrific probably...
      nvm it doesn't make sense

    • @thehandsomeknight9449
      @thehandsomeknight9449 3 роки тому +2

      @@lastyhopper2792 maybe auto correct if he was typing really fast

    • @FirefulXD
      @FirefulXD 2 роки тому +1

      oooh i've read the ancestor's tale by the same author! incredible book

  • @jedidiahcarmichael5747
    @jedidiahcarmichael5747 2 роки тому +160

    My mom had the "talk" with me VERY early. It was simple: sex makes children. If you have a kid that's 18 years of your life and 3/4 of your allowance to feed, clothe, and shelter that kid; and you BETTER take care of your RESPONSIBILITIES!! I knew the "cost" of sex. She implied it was 2 minutes = 18 years of your life (LOL?). When you look at sex like that you tend to make better, more informed decisions. I am 43 with no kids, never married. For me, the right woman was always a person worth 18+ years of my life. You have no clue how glad I am for the perspective she gave me.

  • @AllytheGumby
    @AllytheGumby 7 місяців тому +1

    This channel is absolutely brilliant! i love how none of it is filled with filler words or roundabout ways of explaining things just to extend the video. there are plentiful, detailed explanations with extensive descriptions of everything, different theories and loose ends for you to try and piece together the parts that science couldnt yet.

  • @tempest_dawn
    @tempest_dawn 3 роки тому +157

    Yeah my parents were so embarrassed about "the talk" that they didn't bother sitting me down to have it until I was already married.

    • @erpmo3326
      @erpmo3326 3 роки тому +29

      How's the s3x? Boring right?
      Purity culture is toxic af

    • @robo-roger7815
      @robo-roger7815 3 роки тому +20

      If it wasn't for the internet, I'm not sure I would know what it was at 21 years old

    • @Catastropheshe
      @Catastropheshe 3 роки тому +1

      🤣🤣🤣

    • @wokery
      @wokery 3 роки тому +1

      LMFAO

    • @princesseville6889
      @princesseville6889 3 роки тому +7

      thats a little late, dont they think?

  • @ih8stuff3
    @ih8stuff3 3 роки тому +56

    "If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together."

  • @m39ap3dr0
    @m39ap3dr0 Рік тому +71

    this is very good. sometimes i feel a lack of epistemological and ontological depth in the communication of science. you explained everything very simply without dumbing it down so much that you actually end up obscuring information or straight up lying.

  • @Kaylakaze
    @Kaylakaze 3 роки тому +277

    I don't remember ever having "the talk." It just seems like something I've always known.

    • @aster2157
      @aster2157 3 роки тому +20

      Same.

    • @derigel9783
      @derigel9783 3 роки тому +30

      My father tryed to talk to me when I was 13-14.
      He came into my room (He never did without reason), and said 'son you have a girlfriend. Lets talk.' And I'm just like 'You are almost 5 years too late for that. I already know everything I want and need to know.'
      When he left, I felt that releave coming from him, for sparing us both for the embarresment.

    • @nehankaranch2149
      @nehankaranch2149 3 роки тому +9

      I was like 9 yrs old at a school camp and we were watching tv when an episode of friends came up and it said sum about 2 charectars tryna have a baby and most people were confused but one guy who knew told us all in our cabin

    • @dr.schuusch9142
      @dr.schuusch9142 3 роки тому +1

      I never had "the talk" too, my brother told me lmao

    • @davegoldspink5354
      @davegoldspink5354 3 роки тому +7

      I never had “the talk” growing up in the 60s and 70s and going to all boys Catholic school my family was absolutely no help and my school teachers always told us when it came to sex if it felt good it was a sin. 😂🤣😂 Am always grateful I discovered porn.

  • @mfn1311
    @mfn1311 3 роки тому +218

    The only thing I could think of is that sex allows for more genetic variations, speeding up the efficiency of evolution by ensuring there are more variations that could have beneficial mutations.
    It seems he came to the same conclusion as well.

    • @zafraz1077
      @zafraz1077 3 роки тому +5

      Or you came to the same conclusion as him. Or maybe that guy that explained the red queen theory. But you still could make another groundbreaking theory though. Heres to hoping.

    • @DLCS-2
      @DLCS-2 3 роки тому +1

      @@zafraz1077 Ted Ed has something like this . The five fingers of evolution. It was published 9 years ago.

    • @MissMiserize
      @MissMiserize 3 роки тому +3

      I also think that the existence of sexual dimorphism in more complex species like mammals or birds allows one species to focus on survival while the other can reproduce. Women being physically weaker than men makes them "more valuable" biologically. Testosterone is what causes muscle mass to develop easily, and too much of it makes women infertile. Human women have a hard enough time giving birth as it is, so you don't bother. The propagation of species is more important than muscle mass, women are strong enough to survive on their own anyway, and if men die sperm is cheap and donors are willing.
      Same with peafowl. Peahens are beautiful in their own right, but peacocks look like a giant bullseye in the wild. If they survive existing to adulthood, they might be worthy of female attention.
      I know that's a *really* abrasive way of looking at it, but women are just DNA trying to clone itself too, so that's reality.

    • @drdingaling
      @drdingaling 3 роки тому

      wow you're sooooo smart

    • @mfn1311
      @mfn1311 3 роки тому +3

      @@drdingaling and you’re sooooo mean. /:

  • @MaartenVanderCruyssen
    @MaartenVanderCruyssen 3 роки тому +78

    I never had 'the talk' with my parents.
    In a lot of European countries it's very normal to have Sex Education in School.
    It teaches young people about the physical aspects of reproduction, but also about sexual relationships, pleasure, orientation, and birth control methods.
    Studies find that Sex Education can reduce: teenage pregnancies, abortions, sexually transmitted infections, irresponsible sexual behavior, sexual intimidation and abusive relationships.
    Disclaimer: I know things are different in the USA. And that's fine.

    • @xinpingdonohoe3978
      @xinpingdonohoe3978 5 місяців тому

      But is it fine that things are different in the US?

  • @leen8430
    @leen8430 Рік тому +31

    At one minute in I already liked, subscribed and commented. You, sir, are unnervingly good.

  • @brandondennis4369
    @brandondennis4369 3 роки тому +111

    "Sex is twice as costly as no sex."
    I felt that.

  • @nealwhaley63
    @nealwhaley63 3 роки тому +506

    My father never had the talk with me. I don’t think he could have. I was in high school and still being ordered to leave the room when nudity was in a film or TV scene. Needless to say, I was on my own.

    • @hazel2343
      @hazel2343 3 роки тому +69

      When a mommy and daddy love each other very much.....

    • @bigbalticbox
      @bigbalticbox 3 роки тому +62

      @@hazel2343 They bake a cake in bed... With each other...

    • @hazel2343
      @hazel2343 3 роки тому +49

      @@bigbalticbox they use lots of eggs...

    • @vivientakacs5599
      @vivientakacs5599 3 роки тому +25

      @@hazel2343 Wait is this really how it goes??? That sounds so confusing 😭

    • @hazel2343
      @hazel2343 3 роки тому +50

      @@vivientakacs5599 you'll understand how to make bed cake when you're older 💕

  • @MrT-2ez
    @MrT-2ez 3 роки тому +677

    Biology's asexual reproduction brings a whole new meaning to virgin Mary

    • @porshiajohnson3018
      @porshiajohnson3018 3 роки тому +27

      That was more of a miracle tbh

    • @violetmushroom6
      @violetmushroom6 3 роки тому +50

      where did the Y chromosome come from? thats the thing, Y chromosome is unique to men

    • @DJKrol-pv8ft
      @DJKrol-pv8ft 3 роки тому +10

      There are some species of snakes that can reproduce a sexually.
      Humans share about 60% of their DNA with reptiles.

    • @ausraptor9602
      @ausraptor9602 3 роки тому +88

      @@DJKrol-pv8ft and we share 50% of dna with bananas, hold on a second lemme just do some photosynthesis

    • @rollinghippo2940
      @rollinghippo2940 3 роки тому +2

      @@ausraptor9602 even if human does have chlorophyl it won't be sufficient enough to sustain energy

  • @nailedii4118
    @nailedii4118 11 місяців тому +31

    "Hey smart people..."
    Okay okay im leaving, shouldn't have come in the first place i understand, sorry.

    • @SiddhantS
      @SiddhantS 4 місяці тому +2

      😂

    • @corgispotter
      @corgispotter 3 місяці тому

      Ya get the eff out of here. Notice how I wrote eff instead of *#*#? Yea it's because I'm smart.
      Just kidding you stay cause I know you are smart.

  • @esshor.
    @esshor. 3 роки тому +253

    My parents never “had the talk” with me. It was something I just came to understand. Whenever my parents door was locked, my whole family knew what was going on

    • @YourCapyFrenBigly_3DPipes1999
      @YourCapyFrenBigly_3DPipes1999 2 роки тому +54

      😂 I'm so frickin thankful that to my knowledge my parents never had sex when I was in the house. Eternally eternally grateful 😂😂

    • @hman6159
      @hman6159 2 роки тому +4

      @@YourCapyFrenBigly_3DPipes1999 lol

    • @jojom.9545
      @jojom.9545 2 роки тому +6

      @@YourCapyFrenBigly_3DPipes1999 so i see, ur a lucky one.
      I sadly didnt have that much luck. Instead i was scared by it multiple Times.

    • @YourCapyFrenBigly_3DPipes1999
      @YourCapyFrenBigly_3DPipes1999 2 роки тому +3

      @@jojom.9545 Oh no 😂😂 I'm sorry to hear that. That is no good.

    • @jojom.9545
      @jojom.9545 2 роки тому +1

      @@YourCapyFrenBigly_3DPipes1999 xD

  • @hungariancountryball2928
    @hungariancountryball2928 3 роки тому +651

    "Are ya winning, son?"
    *The son:Playing minecraft with his online GF*

  • @Meghan2219
    @Meghan2219 3 роки тому +225

    I feel like at school, they waited until we were at peak awkwardness and then decided to give us “the talk”. They gave us deodorant and pads )for the girls). Then, in high school, we had to watch a woman giving birth…school sex Ed was weird and unhelpful.

    • @lyndsaybrown8471
      @lyndsaybrown8471 3 роки тому +16

      Same. We watched the woman giving birth video in 8th grade. It was super awkward for the girls.

    • @garethbaus5471
      @garethbaus5471 3 роки тому +40

      @@keepmehomeplease the basic concepts should probably be explained before the kids are old enough to use them so they can at least have half an idea what their actions can cause and what they can do about it.

    • @DeckerStarWhy
      @DeckerStarWhy 3 роки тому +18

      Did the boys had something to be embarrassed about? Or they just tortured the girls...

    • @bilbobaginutopi2284
      @bilbobaginutopi2284 3 роки тому +30

      @@DeckerStarWhy should have shown prostate examination for the boys xd

    • @DeckerStarWhy
      @DeckerStarWhy 3 роки тому +11

      @@bilbobaginutopi2284 LMAO yeah. Embarrass both if u r gonna do it. 😂

  • @udonnedtonoo
    @udonnedtonoo 5 місяців тому +10

    As an asexual who has never once felt the need to have sex, I read the title and thought, "Hmm, that's a good question." Because honestly, I didn't know for the longest time that "horny" was actually a thing that people felt lmao
    Thank you for the educational video!

    • @zackyep
      @zackyep 3 місяці тому +2

      Wild

  • @georgplaz
    @georgplaz 3 роки тому +150

    I can already see myself explaining this paradox to a friend in the future, remembering only half of the story and having a paradox that doesn't really seem paradoxical.. '^^

  • @LePenseurThinksALOT
    @LePenseurThinksALOT 3 роки тому +370

    "The rules of life's poker game, don't stay the same, from game to game."
    - Joe Hanson

  • @Elomentoplayz
    @Elomentoplayz 3 роки тому +392

    Ah, now I fully understand why Scott the Woz has a strictly no sex policy.

    • @THEBACONATOR20
      @THEBACONATOR20 3 роки тому +12

      @@anti-dope9608 Go forth and return with answers don't disappoint us.

    • @anti-dope9608
      @anti-dope9608 3 роки тому +10

      It is 1812 overture. Some guy bronk in other comment helped me.

    • @_alc.v
      @_alc.v 3 роки тому +9

      quite the happy ending; kudos to you my internet friend

    • @Elomentoplayz
      @Elomentoplayz 3 роки тому +2

      @@anti-dope9608 no

    • @THEBACONATOR20
      @THEBACONATOR20 3 роки тому +3

      @@Elomentoplayz no u

  • @emmettcasey8563
    @emmettcasey8563 2 роки тому +55

    “It’s a total paradox but this is exactly why it happens”💀

    • @Bessux
      @Bessux 9 місяців тому +3

      The skull emoji sure makes you look smart.

  • @rainy619
    @rainy619 3 роки тому +60

    "Sex is twice as expensive as *no* sex"
    Yeah, biologically *AND* financially speaking

  • @vanesslifeygo
    @vanesslifeygo 2 роки тому +115

    Love the parasite bit. The parasites that can be removed from small creatures like crabs or hornets are HUGE from the perspective of those creatures. Imagine such parasites having to be removed form humans. It's the stuff horror movies would feed on.

    • @SpydersByte
      @SpydersByte 8 місяців тому +3

      have you ever seen the Star Trek episode with the parasites that took over the fleet leaders? That was exactly this kind of nightmare fuel lol, especially the last one they blow apart

    • @vanesslifeygo
      @vanesslifeygo 8 місяців тому +1

      @@SpydersByte I bet it's inspired by real life, that's what I've seen parasites inside
      Also there are several parasite Yu-Gi-Oh cards but they haven't been as relevant as other vintage cards

    • @Jebu911
      @Jebu911 7 місяців тому

      @@vanesslifeygo I mean we still can get parasites that are quite huge. Tapeworm can be 10meters (11 yards) long but it mostly just eats your food gives you diarrhea and hangs out inside you for couple of decades.

  • @reja-eliza
    @reja-eliza 2 роки тому +768

    it's quite impressive that you managed to summon the whole asexual community in one comment section. thanks, joe:)

    • @MarZsGD
      @MarZsGD 2 роки тому +24

      yo i’m here🙌

    • @noobio2129
      @noobio2129 Рік тому +7

      Ayyyyyyyyyyy

    • @aligoeswest
      @aligoeswest Рік тому +74

      hahah i read the video title and immediately was like "yeah!! what IS the deal with sex?"

    • @c.c.l3460
      @c.c.l3460 Рік тому +1

      hello👌

    • @mollyhoffman7313
      @mollyhoffman7313 Рік тому +37

      Yeah I was here for that reason too. Never even had a crush. I thought he would talk about why people (and animals) WANT to have sex rather than the evolutionary PURPOSE of sex. I'm glad he didn't though. Most people, when asked THAT question, say "It's our biological urge!" "It strengthens bonds!" Yada yada yada. And more ludicrous bullshit like that. Know what I'm saying?

  • @Fanny_Tomato
    @Fanny_Tomato 10 місяців тому +5

    thanks for the video, it was literally a short iteration of my last ecology-evolution lecture in uni and it´s highly appreciated that i get to review the topic like this hahah

  • @isaacwalters747
    @isaacwalters747 3 роки тому +87

    "self pollinating is perfectly healthy" got me dead 😂😂

    • @Mr.Capitalism
      @Mr.Capitalism 3 роки тому +3

      if only we were self pollinating, like this we can avoid costs

  • @lychee.smiles
    @lychee.smiles 3 роки тому +37

    you're telling me there were over 8 million ways I could have come out of the womb but I came out looking like this -_-

  • @nigerianprincess101
    @nigerianprincess101 3 роки тому +345

    “Bites fish, scaly pals and danger noodles”. Best. Phrase. Ever.

    • @gameboy-nq7je
      @gameboy-nq7je 3 роки тому +5

      wait for people in 30+ years to try to understand it

    • @KOKO-uu7yd
      @KOKO-uu7yd 3 роки тому +5

      @@gameboy-nq7je has it been 30 yrs already? (I'm afraid I don't get it)😞🤷‍♀️

    • @joemyers5302
      @joemyers5302 3 роки тому

      @@KOKO-uu7yd Modern simplified slang for Sharks, Lizards, and Snakes.

  • @deusexmaximum8930
    @deusexmaximum8930 10 місяців тому +9

    How is the sex talk hard? Literally "we started learning about the reproductive system in school today" and go from there

    • @RhythmAddictedState
      @RhythmAddictedState 9 місяців тому +5

      Some kids aren't as lucky with their parents as you were. There are families who don't *really* communicate with each other. Some parents have no clue how to talk about it because of their experiences or their own parents, so they don't know what "normal" is regarding sex. Some parents are conservative. Some parents come from a culture where sex is a touchier subject. Some parents just do the talk wrong because of false beliefs.
      In my case, my parents have always pretended sex doesn't exist. Despite being relatively open, feelings, affection, love and sex are things we never discuss. I don't know if it's because of culture, but they rarely show affection, whether physically or verbally (even as an adult I cringe when I hear someone say "I love you" to their parents). Do you honestly think "the talk" is an easy thing for parents who are like this?

    • @xinpingdonohoe3978
      @xinpingdonohoe3978 5 місяців тому

      Because most people are prudes when it comes to this. They still think that kìds have some kind of unbroken "innосеnсе" for many years. That's a myth at best, and wilful ignorance at worst.

  • @rishabhgoel3861
    @rishabhgoel3861 3 роки тому +135

    I am from India. The only talk we had was awkward pauses when sex scenes came onto movies and everybody suddenly very interested in their phones or even feet xD

  • @nathanharvey8570
    @nathanharvey8570 3 роки тому +618

    Being asexual, I ask myself this pretty regularly.
    But on a more biological note, I wondered about this when I learned that it was technically better to be heterozygous with the sickle cell trait, since it gives malaria resistance. The fact we don't super concretely know has weirdly made my day.

    • @azlyxo
      @azlyxo 2 роки тому +49

      ignoring the biological note, asexual buddies ☝️

    • @rayyyayayyay9796
      @rayyyayayyay9796 2 роки тому +28

      WE STAND TOGETHER!!!
      Besides that, outing yourself as ace while watching this would be the smoothest coming out ever (though they might get the wrong idea...)

    • @centurionl
      @centurionl 2 роки тому +37

      You're not asexual, no human or any mammal is

    • @hihihihi3806
      @hihihihi3806 2 роки тому +8

      @@centurionl Fax

    • @kyradreamer4769
      @kyradreamer4769 2 роки тому +100

      @@centurionl words can have multiple meanings. Ever heard of a homonym? That's basic English. Now, stop trying to be smarter than everyone, it makes you look foolish.

  • @annleytonlord
    @annleytonlord 3 роки тому +106

    Is it just me, or did anyone else just kinda automatically understand what sex is? Like, I don't remember any time someone explained it to me, whether in school or by my parents, where I thought it was something I didn't already know. It sorta just was ingrained in my brain from the start, ig... 🤷🏼‍♀️

  • @TryWithKev
    @TryWithKev Рік тому +7

    What a wonderful explanation, thank you.
    I enjoyed it, especially the humor.

  • @socearo
    @socearo 3 роки тому +166

    "why is sex so common?"
    Me: cries alone in the corner

    • @tr3vk4m
      @tr3vk4m 3 роки тому +7

      PROTIP: There is no sex in the corner; only tears.

    • @Mr.Capitalism
      @Mr.Capitalism 3 роки тому +3

      @@Saw6sont don't worry, am not crying but am in the same corner

    • @Mr.Capitalism
      @Mr.Capitalism 3 роки тому +7

      @@Saw6sont I don't recognize love as an emotion, unless it's family love

    • @DasHeino2010
      @DasHeino2010 3 роки тому +4

      Why most want just sex and no commitment?
      SO SAD!

    • @DasHeino2010
      @DasHeino2010 3 роки тому

      @@Saw6sont Thx for the reminder. Youre absolutely right.

  • @SaidakbarP
    @SaidakbarP 3 роки тому +81

    Short summary (also note for myself):
    You mate to increase genetically diverse population who adapt to a harsh changing environment. Self reproduction can be favorable only in an environment where there is no hostility (only applies to some insects and reptile).

  • @omkakade69
    @omkakade69 3 роки тому +188

    When you realise that he's going to have to do the talk with his son in a few years

    • @anti-dope9608
      @anti-dope9608 3 роки тому +1

      I am sending this reply to all those who commented on this video. Please tell what is that music at 0:45. I can't sleep without answer. Please help.

    • @Perfikt85
      @Perfikt85 3 роки тому +12

      @@anti-dope9608 1812 Overture by Tchaikovsky

    • @abigailchristenson388
      @abigailchristenson388 3 роки тому +4

      He can just be like “son. Heres a video”

    • @Coolyyful
      @Coolyyful 3 роки тому +2

      When you realize you're about to break the cycle. Rise above. Focus on science.

    • @AnonimusQualquer
      @AnonimusQualquer 3 роки тому

      To be fair, his son might have better advantage and knowledge than his friends considering they will probably Have the talk and it will be more than just “don’t do it.”

  • @FizzyToni
    @FizzyToni 10 місяців тому +3

    "Hmm, I wonder why was this video recommended to me? Oh, there is a poker analogy mentioned multiple times during the video, that makes sense."

  • @CalculusDaddy
    @CalculusDaddy 2 роки тому +47

    Imagine the first time it evolved.
    Microbe 1 to microbe 2: *You want to do WHAT to my chromosomes?*

    • @TamalRayMahapatra
      @TamalRayMahapatra 5 місяців тому +6

      Just a little bit of shuffling
      Nothing more😂

  • @Chippin05
    @Chippin05 3 роки тому +118

    Him : Talks about the tradeoffs , advantages and the other complexities of sex
    The comments : WE NEVER HAD THE TALK

    • @mementomori7160
      @mementomori7160 3 роки тому +4

      Is the sex talk really a thing? I never had one, but that may be because my parents divorced when I was still a baby, or something like that

  • @TheBappin
    @TheBappin 3 роки тому +228

    i was skyping with my girlfriend and my mom comes in and suddenly has "the talk" out of no where , was a bit awkward. my mom didnt notice i was on skype, she couldnt see the screen

    • @jackexp
      @jackexp 3 роки тому +22

      That’s rough

    • @trickytreyperfected1482
      @trickytreyperfected1482 3 роки тому +45

      Imagine having a partner before knowing about sex. Couldn't be me.
      No seriously, help, I literally can't find anyone who likes me :(

    • @TheBappin
      @TheBappin 3 роки тому +13

      @@trickytreyperfected1482 lol i know this is a joke comment but i feel i should say i knew all about it before "the talk"

    • @michellewilliams9400
      @michellewilliams9400 3 роки тому

      Lmfao

    • @daniel_rossy_explica
      @daniel_rossy_explica 3 роки тому +2

      Your mom probably already knew.

  • @langohr9613ify
    @langohr9613ify Рік тому +15

    "And sex forces you to shuffle your hand"

  • @BlakeLeasure
    @BlakeLeasure 3 роки тому +103

    Imagine trying to explain this in the 90’s. I’m glad we live in a society where sex can be simplified to not be gross or stigmatized

    • @thoticcusprime9309
      @thoticcusprime9309 3 роки тому +4

      nope. they make it degenerate now and try to force kids into it

    • @oxines6979
      @oxines6979 3 роки тому +5

      @@thoticcusprime9309 indeed, one thing is explaining what is sex and its complexity and an other is showing porn and say: this is sex...
      Sex is a act of reproduction, but they made sex into something "pleasant" as a way of entertainment. This doesn't explain "sex"

    • @N3omatic
      @N3omatic 2 роки тому

      @@thoticcusprime9309 In my school the Staff have been catching kids having.. ya know in the bathrooms.

    • @saschageisler
      @saschageisler 2 роки тому +1

      Who is “we”? Half the world is repressed by religious beliefs about sex.

    • @cutekoala5492
      @cutekoala5492 2 роки тому

      @@saschageisler yeah dude totally that's why there are now 8 billion humans on earth 😑

  • @FRMJD1996
    @FRMJD1996 3 роки тому +160

    Poker Player: "This hand is unbeatable, nothing can stop me now😏"
    Dealer: "And for the next round, we will now be playing Uno☺️"
    Poker Player: "😳I’m Sorry?"
    Dealer: "Good Luck and may the odds be ever in your favor🥰"

  • @ozgekaraoglan3359
    @ozgekaraoglan3359 3 роки тому +347

    "The cost of having males in general." SAME

    • @roughcactus69
      @roughcactus69 3 роки тому +18

      Who hurt you?

    • @sp0ngeb00b7
      @sp0ngeb00b7 3 роки тому +45

      @@roughcactus69 A man

    • @brent4674
      @brent4674 3 роки тому +8

      If 2 woman and 2 man are worth more then 4 woman. Doesn't that mean man are more important then woman?

    • @ozgekaraoglan3359
      @ozgekaraoglan3359 3 роки тому +65

      @@brent4674 no ❤️

    • @brent4674
      @brent4674 3 роки тому +3

      @@ozgekaraoglan3359 lmaaooo

  • @gamerhoodmb2095
    @gamerhoodmb2095 Рік тому +14

    Well, the genes that are being copied to your child aren't random. And there is a lot of biological information that comes from the grendparents and is transferred directly to the newborn.

  • @rubyred186
    @rubyred186 3 роки тому +207

    joe: a lot of us remember when we had "that talk"
    me an indian: the WHAT?????

  • @zhenyamediocris4373
    @zhenyamediocris4373 2 роки тому +87

    Awesome, never thought of this like that but you're totally right. It's really changed my attitude to speaking about sex (in a good way)
    In my environment many say: "you have to have kids as it's your main target to reproduct." And no stuff about this as an art and evolution. An extremely cool video, thanks

    • @CordeliaWagner
      @CordeliaWagner 2 роки тому

      It's not our main target to reproduce.
      We can decide if we want a child. Or not.
      I am childfree, I just don't like children and I give an f about my genes.

  • @eliscanfield3913
    @eliscanfield3913 3 роки тому +147

    My sibs and I never got any specific talk. Mom answered questions when asked and occasionally opined in relavent moments, so we had something of the basics long before we were mortally embarrassed by the discussion. I'm trying to do the same with my own kids.

    • @galli0
      @galli0 3 роки тому +17

      Mum did similar thing, shes a nurse so any questions i had were just answered like any other question, totally made me the person to ask in the school ground about stuff... funny thing is that im asexual 🤣

    • @anti-dope9608
      @anti-dope9608 3 роки тому +1

      I am sending this reply to all those who commented on this video. Please tell what is that music at 0:45. I can't sleep without answer. Please help.

    • @CulturedPotato
      @CulturedPotato 3 роки тому +3

      @@galli0 you can produce clones of yourself like bacteria? Awesome

    • @gyrozeppeli9546
      @gyrozeppeli9546 3 роки тому +3

      I learned basically everything from the internet

    • @galli0
      @galli0 3 роки тому +2

      @@CulturedPotato 😶 ive been asked that one too many times as a serious question, or as the only question and in an invalidating manner that its just not funny. Just never ask someone who's asexual something like that (or a pansexual about pans).

  • @kyril9945
    @kyril9945 10 місяців тому +2

    How did this video stay hidden this long? Great explanation

  • @shyorvalren6151
    @shyorvalren6151 3 роки тому +517

    How to know you have a vastly different main definition of a word: It sounds so weird to hear someone refer to Asexual as reproducing on your own, rather than the lack of sexual attraction.

    • @KCM999
      @KCM999 3 роки тому +141

      What do you mean? All of the other Asexuals can’t clone themselves?

    • @bleckybob
      @bleckybob 3 роки тому +3

      Asexual. Means does not have sex.
      A sexual species don’t have sex to reproduce.
      If you don’t Want to have sex, then you’re just celibate. Not asexual.

    • @shyorvalren6151
      @shyorvalren6151 3 роки тому +84

      @@bleckybob nope, asexuality is a thing, it's the lack of sexual attraction, and it's estimated that about 1% of the population is asexual, which mean roughly 70 million people. i personally know many asexuals, plus myself.

    • @rachelkalthof492
      @rachelkalthof492 3 роки тому +108

      Haha, im asexual, but also super into biolgy, so both definitions are familiar to me.
      Asexual/Asexuality (when applied to humans): The lack of sexual attraction
      Asexual Reproduction: When a species essentially "clones" themsleves as a form of reproduction (lacking meiosis)

    • @templezlo5500
      @templezlo5500 2 роки тому +4

      @@rachelkalthof492 hi! This was actually a question that came up for me in the video. I’m curious about how that works and whether humans do/can perform (for lack of a better word; sounds so wrong tho heh) asexual reproduction. Do you have any info on that you could share w me? If not, totally fine I will brave Google results ha:) (I think my friends have already exposed me to the worst of it anyways…) thanks! Have a great day and stay awesome

  • @sam.mankar
    @sam.mankar 3 роки тому +34

    Me peacefully using phone near family...
    Notification: why is sex a thing?

  • @bellhel227
    @bellhel227 3 роки тому +390

    Lol, I never got “the talk”. I just figured it out on my own - I was 5. I’m asexual anyway 💀

  • @BlueMorningStar
    @BlueMorningStar 4 місяці тому +2

    It makes me sad to think about how relentlessly brutal the natural world is.

  • @mariamanson4998
    @mariamanson4998 3 роки тому +63

    “Bitty fish”, “scaly pals”, “danger noodles” and “antler bois” I love them so much. XD

  • @akshitjain5558
    @akshitjain5558 3 роки тому +58

    It's not fate, it's evolution
    MAKE A DAMN T-SHIRT OUT OF THIS

  • @themoon2232
    @themoon2232 3 роки тому +61

    Apparently “it’s fun” wasn’t the correct answer

    • @angeldude101
      @angeldude101 3 роки тому +16

      I understand that it's supposed to be programmed to be fun to encourage reproduction, but I have a hard time imagining something so gross as actually being fun.

    • @matheussanthiago9685
      @matheussanthiago9685 3 роки тому +19

      @@angeldude101 try to see it like that, everything is gross if you look closely enough

    • @angeldude101
      @angeldude101 3 роки тому +9

      @@matheussanthiago9685 That is fair and I have noticed on multiple occasions.

    • @thoticcusprime9309
      @thoticcusprime9309 3 роки тому +1

      @@angeldude101 what you think doesnt matter, and its not a fact, others dont have to live by your beliefs. thats how religious people do things

    • @angeldude101
      @angeldude101 3 роки тому +13

      @@thoticcusprime9309 Wha... _What?_ Where in my replies did I sound like I was trying to convince anyone of any belief?
      Life in general in known for encouraging reproduction which means that adult fun time is usually inherently pleasurable for most people. I however happen to be sex-repulsed, so while I can understand why others would find it pleasurable, I myself do not. That's just a me thing and I'm fully aware it's not the majority perspective.

  • @A1Avishek
    @A1Avishek 9 місяців тому +2

    That was incredibly illuminating thanks for all the hard thinking and research you put into making these videos!

  • @TheItalianoAssassino
    @TheItalianoAssassino 3 роки тому +38

    "Everything is sex."
    - Robert California