OP needs to face the fact that her husband probably doesn't satisfy her regardless of her saying that he does. She needs to be single and accept that she's not committed relationship material.
You say your heavy duty 304 past was empty and hollow? If true, why even think about an open marriage? Getting restless are we? Missing the Hershey highway treatment from Chad and Tyrone now? WTF?😢😮
Just shows once again that body count does matter. Women hate to admit it and will never acknowledge this fact, but several studies have shown this to be 100% true. The more partners a woman has, the less she can pair bond with just 1 man.
@johndia5 actually, no, they don't. These studies have shown that men and women pair bond differently, so bodycount doesn't affect men the sane as women. But a woman who has slept with many dudes is the worst option for marriage.
@@dino70253 the studies you’re referring to talks about pair bonding. They obviously do, if you actually read them like the one in 2017 from the University of Regensburg titled “Oxytocin and Social Relationships: From Attachment to Bond Disruption”
Nah. He led her to believe he would be open to it. He pulled a bait-and-switch on her. Getting excited about stories of her old partners and telling her that he wished he could be there to watch. She got sandbagged. I usually side with the husband, but not this time. He brought this on himself.
" He doesn't love me anymore". What the hell did you expect when you told him that you wanted to eff other guys? I'm no rocket scientist but I think I can figure this out.
If the husband has been ashamed of his wife's promiscuous past he could have saved himself many years. Chances are his chance at love has passed him by. Just the rubbish to pick through now.
The risk taken by this couple is astounding. Vicariously getting his thrills by reliving his wife’s promiscuous past is one thing but trying to recreate those feelings by engaging in those same behaviors in real life and time is quite another. She was obviously better equipped to deal with the actuality of reliving her past due to her experience and personality predisposing factors. Her husband talked a good game but obviously had no real idea of what he agreed to and signed up for. This is clear given his reactions and the emotional coma that he slipped into. Use caution when playing with flammable materials. A fire may erupt suddenly and can cause great damage.
S1: Unless you start your relationship as non monogamous then don't expect your partner to be okay with any open relationship talk. You said it yourself, sleeping around makes you feel empty and hollow, and yet you still want to do it? Quit lying, you want to cheat without consequences cause you're married. Be honest and upfront on what you feel. S2: You took a cheater back without fixing the problem, especially if you're still not over it. Leave, and don't look back if you're still triggered by stuff like this cause things like this are always going to set you off.
She’s not lying. Some men have a kink where they are into seeing their wife with other men. His action STRONGLY suggested he was one of those guys…and her story of wanting to lean into this for him is plausible. He is at least 50 percent responsible for this train wreck.
@kellygreenii Yes, she is. I've seen all sorts of stories like this and can easily suss out crap like this. If she wasn't, why is her husband wanting to divorce? If he didn't, he would have been jumping into this with both feet. Quit being delusional like half the people on Reddit. If he wanted it, he would have asked and agreed to the terms she offered instead of being out of the relationship quickly. Cuckholds would have already offered a solution like this because they would have tried it in the first place at least once, and OP states she wanted it to happen, not her husband.
@@KurlanAank18 Some can’t. Some can. This one admitted that she misread the situation. The fact is that she had help, and the conclusion she reached was a reasonable one. Her husband pulled a bait and switch. Accountability is a door that swings both ways. He helped plant the seed in her mind, then got bent out of shape when the idea sprouted. She’s guilty of watering that seed he planted.
We learned as teenagers that what someone says verbally may not be at all what they meant to convey to us. And what we think we heard may be very far from what was said. Sharing sexual fantasies between each other in the privacy of your bedroom is completely different than parading around your now “open” marriage. He is expected to just go along with it knowing he will be miserable and lonely and humiliated in public and particularly in front of other guys. He will eventually shrink into himself and withdraw from the marriage since it is now a source of pain and humiliation rather than love and security. You can’t separate love from sex forever, men especially can’t do this. Men are genetically and socially wired for exclusivity and commitment. Women not so much.
@@009AWB SHE…ASKED…because some men have a kink such that ARE into exactly that sort of thing. Plus he was behaving AS IF he might be into it. If she had just gone and done it, without asking? I’d be calling her out. But she showed him the respect of asking, and trying to see just how deep the rabbit hole went in terms of him enjoying the thought of her with other men. He is free to say “No I can’t handle that in the present”, but he’s being childish getting mad at her for even asking about it given his own behavior. How else is she supposed to figure out if he’s into it or not?!?! He is just as responsible for this mess as she is.
No one wants to tarnish a good harmony with their partner with someone else. These women are not even honest in their stories. :D And no one wants an open marriage when they don't have anyone else in mind. It is natural for the phone to be clean because wanting an open marriage is a planned action. The first thing that comes to the husband's mind is to look at his phone. No one says, "Oh, I saw it in my dream last night, let's open our marriage." 😂
@@oliverjordan695 She jumped on it because his behavior suggested he was into a kink they could both enjoy. His fault for acting in a way that gave that impression.
Lady, you don’t have a marriage, you have a hookup. So just treat it like a hookup. He’s plain weird and you’re made for Tinder. Please don’t have kids.
I was very promiscuous, translation: I rode the rooster roundabout until the wheels fell off. I have absolutely no ability to pair Bond to a single man, and I'm alpha widowed to some Chad whom whenever he decides to take me back, I will leave the man I am with just to do so.
You worded it in a way that you were hoping would fall on your husband if things didn't work out but honestly you wanted the outside sex and if it backfired you could say "I did it for you" 🤣🤣 Tbh if you have a fetish situation that's already working why offer something more extreme? It doesn't sound like he had any issues with what you were already doing. #StopTheCap
you reap what you sow..... you cant turn a 304 into a house wife..... she was run through so much that she can't pair bond...
I would divorce her in a nanosecond.
Ahahaha exactly
It is still weird that the guy received some type of joy listening to her past harlotry.
Why marry someone like her in the first place?
OP needs to face the fact that her husband probably doesn't satisfy her regardless of her saying that he does. She needs to be single and accept that she's not committed relationship material.
You say your heavy duty 304 past was empty and hollow? If true, why even think about an open marriage? Getting restless are we? Missing the Hershey highway treatment from Chad and Tyrone now? WTF?😢😮
@@phillipsinclaire Why is he wanting to hear about her escapades with other men. They are both damaged goods.
If he was the best why would you want any other
Just shows once again that body count does matter. Women hate to admit it and will never acknowledge this fact, but several studies have shown this to be 100% true. The more partners a woman has, the less she can pair bond with just 1 man.
The more hotdogs and fish tacos you eat, the more hotdogs and fish tacos you need.
More than 3 and it's already done...
If you know that your gf is one of the 99% of 304s you have to deal accordingly and never trust or commit..
The same studies say the same for men. Follow Christ brother
@johndia5 actually, no, they don't. These studies have shown that men and women pair bond differently, so bodycount doesn't affect men the sane as women. But a woman who has slept with many dudes is the worst option for marriage.
@@dino70253 the studies you’re referring to talks about pair bonding. They obviously do, if you actually read them like the one in 2017 from the University of Regensburg titled “Oxytocin and Social Relationships: From Attachment to Bond Disruption”
What does she think what happened. Of course he doesn't trust her anymore.
Nah. He led her to believe he would be open to it. He pulled a bait-and-switch on her. Getting excited about stories of her old partners and telling her that he wished he could be there to watch.
She got sandbagged. I usually side with the husband, but not this time. He brought this on himself.
The more hotdogs and fish tacos you eat,
the more hotdogs and fish tacos you need.
Gross
Best comment
Simple and elegant 😂
If she asks, it's over. He can never trust her again.
" He doesn't love me anymore". What the hell did you expect when you told him that you wanted to eff other guys? I'm no rocket scientist but I think I can figure this out.
If the husband has been ashamed of his wife's promiscuous past he could have saved himself many years. Chances are his chance at love has passed him by. Just the rubbish to pick through now.
This is what you get when you separate $ex and love... when $ex just becomes a physical activity, like going to the gym.
story 1: lol this chick of course is a total contradicktion
If the husband made the comments she said he did, he's an idiot too.
@@kpetro1675 Thank you. Agreed. Who wants to hear about what their wife did with other men..and gets turned on by it? 🤢
The risk taken by this couple is astounding. Vicariously getting his thrills by reliving his wife’s promiscuous past is one thing but trying to recreate those feelings by engaging in those same behaviors in real life and time is quite another. She was obviously better equipped to deal with the actuality of reliving her past due to her experience and personality predisposing factors. Her husband talked a good game but obviously had no real idea of what he agreed to and signed up for. This is clear given his reactions and the emotional coma that he slipped into. Use caution when playing with flammable materials. A fire may erupt suddenly and can cause great damage.
Y'ALL ARE TWISTED 😡‼️
3 OCT 2024 THURSDAY
Lighten up Francis. Welcome to the club.
S1: Unless you start your relationship as non monogamous then don't expect your partner to be okay with any open relationship talk. You said it yourself, sleeping around makes you feel empty and hollow, and yet you still want to do it? Quit lying, you want to cheat without consequences cause you're married. Be honest and upfront on what you feel.
S2: You took a cheater back without fixing the problem, especially if you're still not over it. Leave, and don't look back if you're still triggered by stuff like this cause things like this are always going to set you off.
She’s not lying. Some men have a kink where they are into seeing their wife with other men. His action STRONGLY suggested he was one of those guys…and her story of wanting to lean into this for him is plausible.
He is at least 50 percent responsible for this train wreck.
@kellygreenii Yes, she is. I've seen all sorts of stories like this and can easily suss out crap like this. If she wasn't, why is her husband wanting to divorce? If he didn't, he would have been jumping into this with both feet. Quit being delusional like half the people on Reddit. If he wanted it, he would have asked and agreed to the terms she offered instead of being out of the relationship quickly.
Cuckholds would have already offered a solution like this because they would have tried it in the first place at least once, and OP states she wanted it to happen, not her husband.
@@KurlanAank18 Wow. So you think men can’t be hypocrites too? Geez.
@@kellygreenii Wow... you can't think women can't take accountability? Geez.
@@KurlanAank18 Some can’t. Some can. This one admitted that she misread the situation. The fact is that she had help, and the conclusion she reached was a reasonable one.
Her husband pulled a bait and switch. Accountability is a door that swings both ways. He helped plant the seed in her mind, then got bent out of shape when the idea sprouted.
She’s guilty of watering that seed he planted.
We learned as teenagers that what someone says verbally may not be at all what they meant to convey to us. And what we think we heard may be very far from what was said. Sharing sexual fantasies between each other in the privacy of your bedroom is completely different than parading around your now “open” marriage. He is expected to just go along with it knowing he will be miserable and lonely and humiliated in public and particularly in front of other guys. He will eventually shrink into himself and withdraw from the marriage since it is now a source of pain and humiliation rather than love and security. You can’t separate love from sex forever, men especially can’t do this. Men are genetically and socially wired for exclusivity and commitment. Women not so much.
@@009AWB SHE…ASKED…because some men have a kink such that ARE into exactly that sort of thing. Plus he was behaving AS IF he might be into it.
If she had just gone and done it, without asking? I’d be calling her out. But she showed him the respect of asking, and trying to see just how deep the rabbit hole went in terms of him enjoying the thought of her with other men.
He is free to say “No I can’t handle that in the present”, but he’s being childish getting mad at her for even asking about it given his own behavior. How else is she supposed to figure out if he’s into it or not?!?!
He is just as responsible for this mess as she is.
They both sound rather creepy.
He Fd up. He participated in your previous promiscuity. It's a real mess.
No one wants to tarnish a good harmony with their partner with someone else. These women are not even honest in their stories. :D And no one wants an open marriage when they don't have anyone else in mind. It is natural for the phone to be clean because wanting an open marriage is a planned action. The first thing that comes to the husband's mind is to look at his phone. No one says, "Oh, I saw it in my dream last night, let's open our marriage." 😂
1st lady jumped on the idea. That was a problem. Ofc after a burn she said he is the best ever. But not new😂
@@oliverjordan695 She jumped on it because his behavior suggested he was into a kink they could both enjoy. His fault for acting in a way that gave that impression.
Lady, you don’t have a marriage, you have a hookup. So just treat it like a hookup. He’s plain weird and you’re made for Tinder. Please don’t have kids.
I was very promiscuous, translation: I rode the rooster roundabout until the wheels fell off. I have absolutely no ability to pair Bond to a single man, and I'm alpha widowed to some Chad whom whenever he decides to take me back, I will leave the man I am with just to do so.
Dude probably was cheating since he is a cheater … 🤷🏾♂️
Men are territorial. You are his wife, not on the market regardless of how you try to justify it's "just sex".
To late
You worded it in a way that you were hoping would fall on your husband if things didn't work out but honestly you wanted the outside sex and if it backfired you could say "I did it for you" 🤣🤣 Tbh if you have a fetish situation that's already working why offer something more extreme? It doesn't sound like he had any issues with what you were already doing. #StopTheCap
duh