This was a good topic. A lot of Christians confuse virginity with sexual purity. A person can abstain from sexual intercourse but still engage in perversion.
Yes, and you also see women who lose their 'virginity' (I mean like in the case of assault) and then feel like they've lost their purity, which is so far from the truth. It seems better to focus on purity to help clarify what can/can't be controlled. 🙏
I just want to add there are still plenty of men who honor God with their bodies. My husband waited for me until our wedding night as I did him. He was 28 when we met and 29 when we married. I know several men who live this way as well. There also should be grace for those who repented from sexual sin and are now living in a God honoring way
@@Simonejoy I'm talking about the truly repentant person who was doing things with consenting adults who has actually changed and is not doing any of that anymore. A pedophile is on a completely different level, not that they can't be saved but should be avoided and divorced because what they did is awful and gross and they at the very least should be locked up for life. Repentance means turning from sin not going back to it and thats the kind of men who we can give grace to because some men lived differently before they knew Christ. We should not allow any man into our lives who does not honor God with his body. People can repent and be completely transformed and those are the ones I'm speaking about
@@canelareina3795 yep he waited for me and I waited for him. I was his first girlfriend and he was my first boyfriend. He was everything I and more than I prayed for.
i haven’t finished the video but i want to say the goal is not to find a man that has never been defiled, it’s to find a man that honors God with his life despite who he was in the past. a transformed man will take care of you and be an acceptable spouse
They are out here. I recently ended a relationship with a wonderful man, early thirties, who has never known a woman. Our lives didn't allow for us to grow together at this point, so we parted. My comment is drive the point that these men are out here and looking for marriage.
Yes this is such a good point. Because whether it's sexual sin or other sin, we have ALL sinned one way or another. There will never be a completely sinless partner, so why even try and look for that? Wouldn't you rather have someone strong in the Lord who is able to come to the Lord WHEN he sins? Doesn't that say more about his character than his weaknesses?
Im glad you said this. Hindi is misunderstanding this young lady. Its concerning that Bindi is not comprehending the letter at all!! I'll make a comment to her. This young lady is right on point. I'm a Christian counselor. These are not assumptions from this young, they are reality. Bindi is WAY OFF! Mrs. H
I came to say the EXACT SAME! We ALL have a past life. And some of us came to know God later in life and bear the PERMANENT consequences of that past life..... like CHILDREN. I had a child out of wed lock BEFORE I knew the Lord. And I would have been devastated knowing a Christian man would not consider me as a prospect because I had a child BEFORE I knew the Lord! We have ZERO control over the families we are born into. And mine was NOT saved. I was not raised with Christian values. No one taught me about modesty, or purity or celibacy. You think EVERYBODY does this and you really don't know any better. Sexual promiscuity was the norm in my family among other things. As was having children out of wed lock. Few of the women in my family were married but they ALL have multiple children by multiple men and I was was never raised to question this as abnormal until I became a Christian. By the time I became one I had already had a child of my own. And what's so ironic is that it was through my struggles as a single mother that I heard the call of the Lord in the first place. Looking back, had it NOT been for the humbling that single motherhood brought to me, I'm not so sure I'd be saved today! My husband married me and looked past my situation and I'm grateful that he didn't judge me as some "sinner", unworthy of his time and attention just because I had a kid. Perhaps God is using Bindi to teach the writer and many others a very HARD lesson. Don't discount men because they have kids, or aren't virgin, or are struggling with celibacy especially after living a life of promiscuity before knowing the Lord.
My husband waited for me. I'm the only woman he has ever kissed. I on the other hand did not. I was not raised in church, and I had sex with a high school boyfriend. He very much pressured me into it. I deeply regretted it, and I repented. I remained celibate until I married my husband. I'm so glad that he never held that mistake against me. What he cared about was my repentance and desire to honor God.
Addressing around the 11 minute mark where the writer says "in my age group.." My perspective is that she meant the opposite of what Bindi interpreted it. I took the author to mean that the chances of a man entering into sexual sin increases as he ages and that she feels she's "aged out" of attaining a young sexualy pure man at her age of 26. Just a thought
She should wait on the Lord and not try to do his job while condemning his children. She is also a sinner. Sin is sin in the Bible not just sexual sin.
She’s dishearten by men who are trying to date her, are living in sin and want to sleep with her out of marriage. Such a huge difference falling short vs not living for the lord and living in sin. I know what she’s talking about but I prayed to the Lord about this. He’s hidden me and protected me in so many ways. My life has changed since stop living in sin especially sexual sin. Yes I still struggle in my Christian walk but I understand the importance of keeping your self pure and not to do it. It’s caused so much damaged then good also men who want to do this out of marriage is causing dishonor.
She wasn't saying that young men are sinners and old men are pure. She was saying that it seems to her by the time the men get to her age or beyond, they've all at least dipped their toes in sexual sins. She feels hopeless to find a man because she can really only look to her age group and older at this point for prospects. Did anyone else hear that message or just me?
I heard the same thing dear sister. You are spot on, as evidenced by the snide comment above attempting to undermine your discernment. I just left almost the same comment, before seeing yours.
My heart breaks for the woman asking this question. The dating pool is horrible. Between Red Pill, abortion, homosexuality, and loose sexual woman in addition to society promoting it...it has to be difficult out there. My heart breaks for my daughter who will one day want to be properly courted by a young man.🤔
Exactly !...the girl has a valid point and should have been contened and adviced with utmost love. Not that hard response,so defensive of men as if they re unquestionable beings.
@moniesincere The Redpill is what you get after decades of man-hating for the last 60+ years. Men have spent being falsely branded as oppressors and being told constantly that they're worthless and are not needed, even as they carried and continue to carry the weight of an entire civilization on their backs while every institution is turned against us en masse. After decades of that you might rightly expect that men become more defensive when any faults are pointed out. Women didn't even start to care about men until the Redpill popped up, men started walking away, and modern women's selfish interests were being threatened by it. In the old days a younger man at least had a chance of meeting a nice girl and finding love. Not anymore. Nowadays women look down on all of us like they're cockroaches unless we're rich or old enough to be her dad. Regardless of their upbringing, younger women always give their best years to the bad boys and make us wait years for the scraps. The "traditional women" treat us no better. They casually write us off just because we're not rich or old enough to be her dad. They don't want a good man, they want what they consider to be the top guy. If this were only just a once-off, I'd say ok, fair, no one's perfect. But younger women my own age have already established a pattern of this behavior. The Redpill exposed this. This is why I give no quarter to women's standards. Believe what you will about the Redpill, but being a young man myself, I wouldn't wanna court any woman, traditional or otherwise under such conditions. As far as I'm concerned, traditional women have lost my vote as well. If that makes your daughter's life finding a good husband more difficult, then I sincerely apologize, but until we see a change here, there's just no point in working to be an even better man just to be passed over. It's just a wasted effort.
@@Yanina-ls1gy Men have spent being falsely branded as oppressors and being told constantly that they're worthless and are not needed, even as they carried and continue to carry the weight of an entire civilization on their backs while every institution is turned against us en masse. Many of them spent years paying for the sins of their fathers. After decades of that you might rightly expect that men become more defensive when any faults are pointed out, even if they are valid.
@@Yanina-ls1gy Men have spent decades being falsely branded as oppressors and being told constantly that they're worthless and are not needed, even as they carried and continue to carry the weight of an entire civilization on their backs while every institution is turned against us en masse. Many of them spent years paying for the sins of their fathers. After decades of that you might rightly expect that men become more defensive when any faults are pointed out, even if it happens to be true.
I think the young sister that wrote in is honestly scared of dating in this current society. I’m in my late thirties and I kind of understand where she’s coming from. She just needs a little encouragement and a steer in the right direction (as we all needed at one point or another). 💛
This letter is interesting. I hear many women say they don't see single, Christian men over the age of 25. I'll go on men's channels and they say the same thing. I'm wondering how are we missing each other.
I think it’s because men and women are looking for someone whom they find “attractive”. If the only people we’re willing to entertain are the ones who are nice to look at, then we’re selecting from a very small pool and making everyone else invisible.
@@ALTheFreeMan Yeah I can see that. I wonder if its possible to change what we find attractive. I'd imagine that would be more beneficial for everyone involved.
Well she is right. OUR options ARE few. But God has a plan for our lives and is not limited by others disobedience for their lives and rejecting Him. He can and will provide our needs and cares about our wants too that are good wants. Godly wants.
I grew up in a church and I too suffered from the same self-righteousness and pride as the writer. I really thought I was better than other people because I was a virgin and thus sexually pure. Of course I never considered the fact that I read sexually explicit books and engaged in masturbation to be the sin that it actually is. Once God humbled me and forced me to see myself for who I really am, I had to beg God for forgiveness because I am as much of a sinner as every unbeliever. It is only by the grace of God that I can say I'm now saved. It doesn't make the dating scene any less difficult but it does allow me to stop looking at man as if they are the enemy and complete and utter garbage.
At first I thought you were being hard on her with being prideful and all until you quoted the scripture from Luke. And i think indeed we do end up speaking like Pharisees and not even realising it. I like how you also highlighted that she was fixing her eyes in the wrong place when she complained how her options are limited and not necessarily placing her trust in the Lord’s sovereignty. That is a lesson for me also🙌🏻
I definitely agree! I wish that I could join a group of sisters in the faith that have this level of discernment to even call me out if I’m in sin so we can all get the kingdom of heaven.
@@Syriaaa1 find sisters in Christ in your area. That’s what I did, we actually have a small group of ladies, we currently reading the Bible together with the aim of finishing it and challenging each other to have a biblical worldview on all things pertaining to life.
I would encourage this young woman not only to pray for her future husband but also wise friends both younger and older women that God bring long term into her life who are trustworthy.
One thing that came to me during the video is that we as women are to be found not to seek a husband. Let him find you! But focus on submitting to God in the meantime!
Please pray for my daughter Susana for deliverance from an unhealthy attachment dating relationship that has been going on for 6 years. She has had attempts to get closer to God but the boyfriend gets in the way .
Im a little bit younger than the writer. Most of the young men i know my age are sexually impure. Some are repentant but stuck in a cycle that they can't seem to break. Some are unrepentant and embrace the sin. I am not sure to what extent the former are safe to marry. I have summed it up to be a spiritual problem because of how prevalent it is. Our young men are under attack, and we must intercede for them.
To the writer... My son is 35 and a virgin (also has a good job and owns his own home). He's been offered sex but refused because he's determined to honor God. He's not alone; men like him do exist. I encourage you to remember that God made an army out of dry bones (Ezekiel 37: 1-14); nothing is impossible for Him (Luke 1:37). He can bring you a good man...whether a virgin or a repentant formally sexually immoral person (sometimes God's ways are mysterious). While you wait, pray about and consider if Bindi's remarks apply to you. Also, look for clubs/organizations that are for people dedicated to abstinence. Or start one of your own. Blessings to you. Be encouraged. ❤
All of the “Please Advise” letters are situations with little to no background, so whoever is submitting for advice should be aware that without having a one on one conversation with the Brother or Sister in Christ you’re seeking advice from, and filling all the gaps, automatically the person will fill in the gaps as they understand them. That said, no one that submits a letter should expect that everything will be answered “on the nose”. Regardless, we can all* learn from this topic of Pride and Self Righteousness (as Bindi stated in the beginning of the video). God Bless 🌷
This response was so biblically sound and accurate; I truly enjoyed listening to your insightful responses. God has blessed you with much wisdom my sister in Christ, God bless you and your family 🙏🏽
Hmm.. had some good points for sure, but I interpreted some of the letter a bit different. I think the concern of the author is that many Christian men tend to marry in their early 20s, so she feels like she missed her opportunity to be courted in that age bracket.. I agree with Bindi that she needs to wait on the Lord and not be so prideful that she passes her potential husband by, but her concern about missing the opportunity to marry young was also legitimate.
Hi Bindi Marc, my name Charity Bakutana from Uganda, Africa. I'm a committed and an intentional homemaker. I thank you so much for the great work you are doing in encouraging homemakers to do their best and do it with the heart of serving the LORD. I have learnt so much from you concerning modesty, determination and intentionality as a homemaker. I really miss to watch you share that great wisdom while doing house chores. If it's possible please consider one of these days to do those videos while you're doing house chores. Thank you very much
What we want isnt always what God has for us. The writers focus, to me, is too much on what she sees instead of trusting what God says. The answer is to trust and wait on the Lord.
Thank you. My husband recently told me that he holds the opinion that most or all my physical problems are my own fault. I was humiliated by this, as I know that some of my problems are my fault, but many were not preventable. I thought he understood but he doesn't. He thinks my prolapse and diastasis and pelvic instability--all of which I have worked hard and made great strides to correct--were all my own fault in the first place for not exercising enough. A very strong part of me is seething, wanting to justify myself in strong terms and strident tones. I want to punish him and rebuke him and point out his flaws. But God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble. I need to humble myself under God's mighty hand, that he may raise me up in due time. I need to repent of the things that were my fault (mainly over eating) and repent of my rebellious thoughts toward my husband. Your talk of humility brought me to tears. Thank you.
I’m saying a prayer for you love. You may be hurt and also humble. Your feelings about the harsh message are reasonable. I’m praying that your husband is given a soft heart to see your struggles and to stop condemning you beyond appropriate and loving rebuke. He may rebuke you but he must stay in that position. It is his duty to wash you with the word of God and to live out the examples of how a loving father would support his child or ward.
@@SoFetch0 Thank you. I still struggle with the hope that I will be justified in my husband's sight and vindicated, but that is now between him and God. I need to let go of all that pride and focus on having a clean heart and a right spirit. I do covet your prayers for both of us. Bless you.
This sounds so terribly hurtful. I so agree with the first response to you. I'm praying you remain gentle and gracious with yourself, and that the Lord puts His hand over your union such that you two can support each other the way He desires. Sending you so much live and strength during this time ❤
@kailahm.adefolalu9366 thank you for the Godly encouragement. I am afraid to even talk to most people about this because they will feed the prideful part of me by focusing on how wrong he is. I am so glad to have a community of godly ladies here on this channel. I know everyone catches my vibe ☺️
Hi Bindi Marc, thank you so much for everything you teach and embody. Thank you for letting God use you as His vessel. He used your voice as a tool to transform my mindset on marriage, traditional values, submission, femininity and masculinity. I noticed you haven't posted new content in the past two months. I hope and pray that you are alright, and are just taking a much needed break. We miss you, please come back to us soon.
You know; waiting can be so hard. It’s almost like the moment you decide to wait, you begin to battle with hope and thoughts of whatever it is you are waiting on the lord for can’t be fulfilled. You go through a season of doubts and surprisingly you encounter situations and people that seems to further comfirm the thoughts you are already battling with. Will the lord show up or I will have to settle. This phase is a really hard one. BUT! It is in this phase that you also hold your ground. MY GOD WILL DELIVER ME BUT EVEN IF HE DOESNT DELIVER ME,I WILL NOT BOW. Or else you will give in to these pressing false thoughts that floods your mind , skew you scope and mindset of the opposite gender and finally this will derail you. You might even end up becoming bitter . I know it is hard, extremely hard but your focus shouldn’t be on putting out the flaws in every man tha you’ve encountered or what people have told you about their experiences. Keep pressing unto God when all hope is gone and it’s hard to believe again. It’s quite hard to date properly in this generation.
I understand EXACTLY what the letter is saying and I am not hearing the same thing as Bindi is hearing. Some of this is Terrible advice to this young lady who reach out for compassion. TERRIBLE.
Exactly. But if she gave one of these deviant men a chance and he goes off and cheats it would be her fault cause she knew what she married smh. Can't win for losing.
With all due respect, I think you missed the point of this young lady's letter. People that are married, especially for a while do not understanding the current dating culture right now. Her letter may seem extreme but everything she's observed is happening.
@@NGEVEMUSOLE It honestly sounds like just Fear & limiting beliefs to me, a common trick the Devil uses to prevent people from having a heart filled with Hope, Faith, & Love for God or for other human beings instead. The Devil will exploit Fear as much as he possibly can. I hope the girl that wrote the letter understands in her heart of hearts one day, that God did not give us a spirit of Fear, but of Power, Love, and Self Control. A lot of Gen Z are indeed more secular or many of the ones that call themselves Christian are only Christian in name & non practicing, not Christian in Spirit, Church attendance is down heavily... the issue is when you take 1 rule out from the equation like no pre-marital sex at all period out of the table. Then the math becomes chaotic and it keeps going off into infinite wrong directions like the number of Pi, all of them end up in outer darkness, destruction, death... so you will have Gen Z inventing new things like open relationships, situationships, sneaky links ie all words polyamory or casual sex, the same reasons we know Mormonism & Islam came from the devil & Satan himself. You will have a chaotic landscape where men can just use one women for free & jump onto a new women who has no idea about his past, still treats him well even though he was awful to past women & is even open to want to sexually please him... this is a massive disaster where no one wins, a lot of young girls end up hurt or used by men who don't deserve them & use lies, deceit, hiding all their past affairs with women, and since all women aren't locking sexual intimacy behind wedlock its easier for men to find someone to cheat with or practice adultery with. Its not good for either gender, the men are doomed for all their willful intentional Sin & the young girls end up with closed hearts towards the good men or become bitter & resentful desiring to punish men who may have never been intimate with any women before for the Sins of all the men going out there talking to & flirting with every girl. The men don't realize how much they destroy their own souls & spirits while simultaneously not wanting to marry all of these women as they ironically enough, respect them less for being sexually open... even though they themselves are the ones that created them. This very real dichotomy you can observe amongst millions of young men will make you sick to your core. All of these disgusting evil men curse women so much & use endless derogatory terms for them but they're really just projecting & defining themselves, its like, they subconsciously know how lowly God views them & what fate is in store for them but they blame it all on women! *Clutches pearls, if only she didn't tempt me I wouldn't have fallen so low... I wouldn't be so pathetic and can't respect myself or my own body like this* The sad thing is these young men end up distorting their image of god more and more so even if/when they eventually do get married, they never get to truly experience a more true image of God with a partner that actually loves them for their Spirit instead of just lusting after their flesh & body using it for self gratification but not selflessly wanting to please them. Its the most beautiful thing on this planet when a man can see clearly into your Spirit & Soul, sees the beauty in it & falls in love with you more than anything for it, would do anything for you, grow himself into anyone for you, and truly desires to make you happy & treat you like the Queen you are. All of the lust and false love that people living in darkness are in, goes against the true godly love, their flames that are focused only on self gratification & the eroticism or romantically sexually charged passions often die out too and their divorce chances increases, many children get abandoned since the parent's didn't have that agape love for the children or if the couple stays together the child isn't raised with god's love and has a poor model of being truly loved. Jesus will forgive every & any repentant Sinner regardless all their Sins if they mean it in their heart & truly want a change of heart, all of people's Sin in a lifetime is like a cup of lemonade into an Ocean to God. However it doesn't stop the consequences of happening, consequences are not the same as divine punishment... and as the Bible said, every single man & women will reap what they sowed.
My wife and I have been married for 14 years and i understand the present dating culture. She’s right for the most part and I used to be one of the guys she’s talking about. I apologize if men aren’t supposed to be here. I used to be in it. And by God’s grace, I won’t be returning. Prayerfully the sister is blessed to be able to wait on the LORD and work hard for Him while she is waiting, as Paul states that singles have much opportunity to serve the LORD without having to concern themselves with some of the things we married have to concern ourselves with. Focus on winning souls my sister, as am I and we all should be, for he who wins souls is wise. Proverbs 11:30 1 Cor. 7:25-35 Bless you
As a married person, I absolutely see the current dating culture. It’s awful. That said, I was not a virgin when I got married nor was my husband. God redeemed us. People will have a past. Men will have a past. Women will have a past. Probably a sexually immoral past. I know several godly men, they may not all be “pure” though. What’s important is that they truly repented and are living their lives according to Gods standard now.
So true. I find it's nearly completely useless to take Dating advice (not Marriage advice) from people who met their spouses in college or have not been dating for several years. They usually have NO clue lol
What if the man God has for you is 3yrs younger and fresh out of college and God wants you to meet in a year or two when he’s established financially. Maybe he’s thinking the same thing about women your age and asking God if he’ll have to settle
😊 It sounds like to me, that she was saying young men her age aren't abstaining until marriage, not that the older men are.... But, I understand how it was taken and possibly misunderstood. Overall thanks for your words of wisdom, you are blessed with the gift🙏I'm learning a lot.🙏
I had a women's bible study last night about Proverbs 31. One of the questions was _what does the world say is a virtuous woman vs what the bible says is a virtuous woman._ One of the ladies gave great insight that the world just looks at the sexual purity of a woman and if she's a virgin they count her virtuous. But the bible says a virtuous woman is more than her sexual status, but her character, what she speaks, how she conducts herself, determines her virtuosity. The world looks at the body count, and the bible looks at the heart.
You missed the mark with this one Bindi. You gave a great response…for a different question. The woman in the letter is clearly interested in being with men in her age range so she was referring to being discouraged when it comes to men in her age range approaching her that still engage in sexual sin with no desire to be pure or wait until marriage… I feel like she wanted advice on that. I really believe social media has made dating extremely difficult now so I understand her frustrations, although I am not single. But again, intentions can be mis-construed in “text”.
But the advice is always gonna be the same: wait on the Lord. And why are we always so focused on ourselves and what WE want? What about what God wants for us? Is that not more important? I have read my Bible several times over and I've yet to come across dating. As children of God we don't need to partake in the ways of this world and dating is one of them.
Sister, I am in agreement about almost all that you have said and admire you for it; though, I don’t believe that she hold older men in more esteem, I believe that she is acknowledging that to find a chaste older young man around the age of 26 is hard to believe possible, as it would mean that they have spent a prolonged amount of time in this filthy world and may have fallen into sin.
Amen Bindi. I used to be like this girl- very legalistic and religious. It's a dark place to be. When we're in it- we don't see it but looking back, it is so clearly sinful. God desires mercy; not sacrifice. To the sinner on the cross He said 'today you will be with me in paradise'. God bless you for this brutal honesty. I hope this author feels conviction and shock watching this, but then also experiences grace from God and is brought to her knees before Our King to repent. I also hope that her desires are met and she will see that God is more faithful than she thinks Him to be and blesses her with a strong man of God❤
I needed this too. I’m 23 and before I walked with the Lord I was very wild but now that Christ has saved me it’s been a year and I’ve started having a attitude towards my family because of their open blasphemy and different sinful behavior towards the Lord while claiming to know Christ. I’ve become almost excited for them to experience the wrath of God. I opened up about this to a trusted teacher of the Word and he did inform me that I should be terrified because eternal demise is something we’re unable to even fathom. Thank you for the scriptures because they definitely helped me shift gears in the way I treat them and see myself. Because that was literally me when I was in the world
I'll have to say, your understanding of the word is quite good! You tend to have a training that sees the scriptures you quote, IN context. I'm coming back here to listen to you advise women again. (I don't know you, you just popped up on my screen.)
I understand exactly what she means when she refers to her “age group”. Most of the men she is experiencing around her are men that are most likely not practicing chastity. She’s basically saying that if they haven’t gotten married by now then they must be having sex outside of marriage with someone. Has nothing to do with old(er) men, rather, everything to do with the lack thereof of marriage minded men. I actually want to give this woman her flowers for making it so far with staying pure and waiting to be married. That is truly something to celebrate! Whilst I understand the writer’s sentiments and how frustrating it must be (because I’m going through this too at 33) God gave me a revelation that the more pure you are, the less options you’re going to have. More men are going to go for the low hanging fruit but it’s going to take a special man to get to the top of the tree. Anyone can order from the dollar menu but it’s going to take more of an investment to reserve a table a Ruth’s Chris. In other words, this is a situation of quality over quantity-and I say this humbly! You are more valuable than rubies and God has a special man made just for you! Does he come a dime a dozen? Absolutely not and be glad but just remember Beloved, that all you need is ONE. ☝🏽 The God send! So when God sends him your way, you’ll know it was nothing but God!! Amen? God bless Queen! ❤❤
I am 21. i too have not been properly courted yet. For years i was sad but now through christ i am happy again. Watching advice videos like these from married women have really helped my mental state. My advice as a fellow single is to have faith that God has it worked out, take bindis advice and don't be prideful; and, a big one for me, have other dreams outside of marriage.
I thought the age group mentionings were more of an implication of her age preference for marriage prospects rather than signaling them out for being the only group of men struggling under this sin
It seems like she's saying once someone is my age group or older they have already desecrated themselves because it's extremely difficult to remain sanctified as a man for longer amounts of time because their biological dispositions toward visuals and testosterone peaks (male attributes) and the fact our society is geared toward that you cant escape it and there's not much to keep men accountable and not to mention it's accessible and encouraged in the world.
Also our God has standards that He set, please be careful to not call someone prideful, because they esteem the standards that God set and because they don't mince their words when doing so; that will have us in trouble, because believe our God does not think it okay to walk with our heads down and mince our words for the convenience of other's deflective perceptions, prejudgements and so on.
The Bible does say for us to be equally yoked, if you are a chaste & pure virgin you would be best with another chaste & pure virgin. I agree pride & toxic self righteousness can exist but the vast majority of the time this is not the case, its about having it as a preference but not some mandatory standard & looking down on all other people that aren't virgins as "Sinners" when you're a Sinner as well. The same way some man or women might prefer someone the same race as them, but if you believe its mandatory or look down upon or think people of outside races/ethnicities are somehow less than or would make worse partners you definitely have some inner work to do on your externalized or internalized racism & need to gain a healthier perception of human beings. We as Christians are all one in Christ, we all share in willing to be one with Christ, the only standards we should be looking at are all non superficial or non materialistic ones. Does the person have a beautiful spirit? Does the person have great character? Is the person righteous & god loving or righteous & god fearing? Do they have a good heart & good will towards others? Are they truly kind, trustworthy, honest, sincere, humble/down to earth & in tune with the meaningful things in life? Do they embody other virtues that make their inner light shine more mirroring & reflecting God's image? Do they have a healthy communication style, a secure attachment style & show love to their friends/family/pets? How they treat all others reveals who they really are not how they treat someone they benefit from, this is why trash talking exes or restaurant & retail staff or old teammates is a red flag, the most Christ like people wouldn't even talk poorly about their worst enemies let alone friends or family or acquittances behind their backs. Gossip is a terrible Sin and has endless consequences for fragmenting relationships. Instead of worshipping degeneration & a downward spiral or loving Sin, we should all be focused on rising up to higher virtues & being more like Christ, ascending instead of descending in character & spirit towards selflessness. We should be hating Sin even if we stumble as we're still imperfect creatures be repenting & atoning for the Sins, wanting to have a change of heart about them.
Bindi, with all due respect, you really missed the mark on this one. No pun intended. Her question was about her discouragement with young men her age trying to talk to her while engaging in sexual sin(churched or not) & your answer was about pride & checking herself. Good answer to the wrong question.
She clearly stated 'The answer to your question is WAIT ON GOD'. Then she went on to talk about pride and self righteousness because she could see some of that in the letter.
@@adao2103 Right. I think I acknowledged that part of her answer in another comment. Perhaps I should have said she did not fully answer the question. What else is the author supposed to do while waiting on the Lord? Stay home & read her Bible? Continue to do activities she enjoys where single men are present to put herself in proximity? Settle down at a larger church with more single men & work instead of church hopping? Cultivate a diverse group of Christian friends who may be able to introduce her to a brother, cousin, friend who may be nonblack but right for her? This is what I meant. Too many times we are quick to say “wait on the Lord” w/o also saying what the person should do while waiting.
'What should a person do while waiting on God?'. You continue your life of righteousness! Continue living, working and serving God. She didn't say it because you should be continuing doing what you're called to do as servants of Christ. Just continue living! Waiting isn't just sitting around watching tv. Waiting in the Godly sense isn't the same as waiting in the worldly sense. Waiting on God means He has heard your request, be patient for what you have prayed for and don't rush to try to take back control from God. God has heard you, now go live your life with the faith that God will give to you on HIS time!
First of all…. I detected NO self righteousness or pride in that letter. This woman was expressing a LEGITIMATE CONCERN and she was speaking on what she has observed with her own voice eyes. Of course she continues to state “my age,” because she is RIGHT!! Of course she will focus on men her age because she’s desiring someone close to her age group to marry. You totally missed the point. She is not concerning herself with “old men” Lady whoever you are that submitted this letter….. I feel you and your concerns are legitimate. However, I advise you to wait on God, because there are some men who are living for the Lord and have not defiled themselves. The wait and what you see can be very discouraging, but keep waiting on God, keep praying, and be encouraged.
For me, the statement of "I'm just left with the sinners" gave off prideful energy. We all are sinners. No one is righteous. But I do agree with your point on waiting on God... To the person who wrote that letter. Know that God loves you, and he will grant you what you desire in due time. In the meantime, focus on being humble and giving grace to everyone.❤ Edit: Okay. I read the comments underneath, and i think i should clarify that i agree that she shouldn't marry someone who isn't spiritually connected with God. A man is supposed to lead the home according to scripture, so of course, it would make sense for you to want someone who is also connected to God. But let us not try to separate ourselves or boast about ourselves up like we are not also sinners..The "I'm just left with sinners" *to me* is not coming from a humble heart that understands that she herself is a sinner.
Non virgin men in the church ,are being entitled even by leaders to feel deserving to marry a virgin. And even state that "no virgin no ring",but now a young virgin woman is shamed for holding the same standards and wanting to be equally yoked?. Totally unbiblical. And though we are all sinners,not all PRACTICE sin as a lifestyle.And yaa we should be merciful towards sinners,but not marry the unbelievers. Unequal yoke is refered to as an abomination.
I think she was seeking encouragement, its not easy being single now. We all were once sinners, but now under the cross, we are clean of any sin. Be open to men who WERE in sin, but changed their life for Jesus. ❤
Bindi you did amazing. I am 21 and I used to have this skewed mindset of young men, basically ALL men. That was until I truly began to get into my word, see other Christian men and look at my own sinful nature in ALL aspects. Yet, I definitely understand where she is coming from, must not make generalizations & sweeping statements. What does that mean about us finding a man who we trust to lead us in the Lord? Says Proverbs 18:21 “The tongue has the power of life and death, he those who love it will eat its fruit.” Or just “Death and life are in the power of the tongue.” Like, we must speak favor over our life, must not put a spell on ourselves that there is no good men left for us. Says Ephesians 4:29 “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building up others up according to their needs, that I may benefit those who listen.” Let us pray and speak favor over these people who willingly sin, and those who do not believe in the Lord, let us not condemn them too much as people can do the same for us! Us as Christians have to be mindful of pride creeping up on us like a serpent, we have to stay vigilant because it is not good. There is a reason the Bible emphasizes staying humble. Even more so, I would say a man I am now talking to and getting to know for future marriage prospects is more like Christ than me-AT THE RIPE AGE OF 20! He is a year younger than me and very mature, of course I am too as many have said, I have seen my own walk in life & with the Lord. But, wow he is a dignified man, I wonder how did I meet such a man and how can I become more like him. Isn’t that amazing how we can be inspired even in the midst of our judgments? Quiet beautiful. Anyways, anyone mad or vehemently disagreeing with you may have been convicted and does not want to do the work and look inwards. We all fall short, but we must all learn and grow up, as says 1 Corinthians 13:11 “When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.“
God is so good, and me coming across your page today is a subtle reminder that God cares about us and the details. I was just thinking last night that I haven’t seen any of your videos in a while. I thought that you just weren’t making videos. I couldn’t remember your name, so I couldn’t look you up. And then boom, today while running errands in peace with the Lord, I sat down for lunch and was looking for something to listen to while eating and there you were 😊
She did not say enough to demonstrate that she has a puffed up sense of pride surrounding the fact that she is still a virgin. If she is misguided, hurt, naive or even rushed in writing this letter to you- it doesn't change the fact that she has never formed a sexual covenant with anybody- that is a big deal- and a lot of virgins are being reverse judged on this by a spirit that others have- which aims to bring them down a peg- I have seen this many times. It's best for these dilemmas to be taken straight to God, because He for example knows this girl's true whole heart- you don't and so inadvertently fall into the position of having come at her based on some of your own preconceptions & perhaps misreadings and or misunderstandings. You're very interesting to listen to, butI would say to the young audience rather than be tempted to write into and pour our pearls out to any flawed person (all of us), we need to practice now going straight to God. (I wish to also mention that your response to her repeated mention of homesexuality was fair- I would add that if that kind of thing is meditated on so much, one could end up inviting that into their life- your tongue has power-God designed it that way, so speak into your life what you want, not what you don't want.)
I completely agree! Bindi should have pointed her straight to God especially not knowing what she could mean and her true heart. I’ve learnt that through reading Hannah story, no one understood her and most likely in modern day if she asked someone for their advice instead of God, she would have been told she idolizing having a baby. It’s so important for us to pour our heart to God because he will redirect us and help us xx
Certainly a good lesson and reminder about pride to myself. And every other lesson taught in the video is applicable to a lady somewhere. About the letter, I think she meant she wants to date her age group but not getting what she values. That's why she's 'complaining'. Not that she wants older men. I could have misunderstood but that's truly what I got.
I just finished a short fast the Lord led me into because he revealed to me that I had pride. It’s such a sneaky devil that pride. I'm still jot sure exactly how I was walking in pride but I know if God saw it, it was there somewhere. Pride is one of the hardest thing to see in yourself. That’s why we should always be humbling ourselves just incase. Fasting is one of the ways you can humble yourself. But not to puff up again like, "I fast and others don't" Good word Bindi. We seek righteousness but we should be destroying the slighest form of self righteousness
I've never dated or had a boyfriend before and some of these comments in the video makes me feel like I'll never find a good man in Christ 😭 Thank you for being straightforward and answering honestly to these comments
This is a hard lesson but we all need it!! There should always be a temp check of humility in this walk with God. Let him do the separating, he said let the tares grow up with the wheat. It’s so easy to judge people but we need to be reminded there is only one righteous judge and we have enough dirt to sweep off our on porches trust Gods word he will show you how much you really need him. It’s only by his grace that we are saved!!!! Great teaching young lady very beautiful🙏🏾💜 Gods blessings to you
I thought her question was valid and do not assume she is self righteous. She is a Christian seeking to find a Christian husband. We will know them by their fruit. If a man is living in sexual sin, he is not a fit option for a Christian woman. Now if I man has lived in active sin but since repented and given his life over to the Lord, he can still be a good option for a Christian woman. There is a difference in being a sinner (which we all are), than living in sin which is unrepentant. She is right to not want a man that is living in unrepentant sin. I also don’t think she is saying older men can’t have their issues, she’s just not thinking of them as a potential mate. This came across harsh to me. I wouldn’t want to be called self righteous for wanting to marry a Christian man.
I had to listen to her letter a few times. Desire is one thing, Idolizing Marriage is another. Not only her mindset is limiting and scarcity. There’s no faith here other than the fact she’s sexual pure. It’s more than that, and it sounds like we’ve forgotten that we were all once sinners in some way or form. Just my thoughts, but there’s definitely a hint of pride here.
@@Dominique20 I agree and feel sorry for the young lady that wrote this letter. A lot of assumptions are being made about her character. I think it’s a stretch to assume she’s prideful or self righteous based on this letter.
This reminded me of something that I need to pray about. I have no children, but I wish to be married and have children one day. I had it set in my mind for a long time that I would never date a man with children because of potential “baby mama drama”, but could it really be due to my own pride and self-righteousness? I really need to pray about this; thank you for this video!❤️
I am 36 years old, a Christian and a virgin. I have been asked out, several times throughout the years, but none of the men shared my faith, so I declined. It may seem like I'm being picky, but I believe as a Christian I need to marry a Christian man. The bible says once we are saved, we are no longer sinners and we should be equally yoked. Therefore, I understand this young lady distress when she says all that are left are sinners. While men who are unsaved and even married seem to show genuine interest the single Christian men seem to be sleeping. As a Christian woman, it is imperative that you seek a godly righteous man so that you are equally yoked. It's not about being prideful it's about being equally matched. Overall, while I respect Bindi's wisdom and insight, I think this letter was blown a little out of proportion. When I heard the letter, I heard a young lady who was seeking encouragement that there are righteous men left. That she will indeed find that husband she seeks and that she is not too old to receive her equal in the faith. Also, while I agree that not all young men are sullied, I will say that Christian men are not stepping forward as they should. In the meantime, men who do not serve God are more than willing to show their interest. This needs to change. While, we should not go to church simply to find a mate, it is or should be the perfect place to find one. There are not a lot of avenues to meet other singles your age that are believers. God Bless.
For me, she seemed very stuck on finding a “pure” man. Men can be godly, but have a history of sin. My husband is an incredibly godly man and he was not a virgin when we married. Many of the godly men I know (I’m also in my 30’s, so most I know have lived a life) were not virgins. God redeems. Yes, desire a godly man after Gods own heart. He may not be a virgin though. It’s true that those are in short supply. This letter just really lacked grace and understanding.
Exactly...is a serious concern.But she was dismissed because she is a woman. Men can "have a past",and are not demanded purity. Meanwhile,even non virgin men in the world and the church,feel entitled to a virgin young girl below 23. That s not entitlement it seems. How many virgin christian men would be encouraged to not judge and marry a woman with a high body count?..none!. The double standards are atrocious.
It bothers me when people do this. Take what she wrote at face value and don't assume what she said. She very well could've meant Christians that struggle with sin. A lot of Christians need to stop assuming that because you saved yourself that you are entitled to a spouse that also saved themselves. I've seen plenty of Christians that grew up in sin and are on fire for the lord once they are saved vs Christians that grew up in the faith and "did everything right" and then think they are entitled to God's best just because they weren't out here sinning. Guess what? Your spouse could very well be someone who partook in sexual sin before they were saved.
Good point about age not having to do anything to do with righteousness! After seeing friends both younger and olde than me, date, I’ve noticed they deal with similar issues, mainly with more worldly men
This was a good lesson for me. It goes beyond Bindi responding to the letter. It hits the heart of the single and married. To humble ourselves before the Lord. To look at others as more important than ourselves. This isn't necessarily taught a lot. But pride is in the church, i have to humble myself more. This taught me that. I pray the writer doesn't feel offended, but be closer to God, seek Him more, don't look at others dating or even look for someone to court her but just get close to the Father ❤❤❤
The definition of a sinner: one who *lives in sin* one practices sin. Christ came to save us from our sins. To call us *His righteousness!* Saints of God, or His children. NOT sinners. That title is given to those that are without.
She's right to this degree. Our current situation in society does not lend itself to the IDEAL option of being married early in life so that sexual sin is not at play. The best you can do is find people who have limited their sinful situations. Which is really how we select all people. to be around. Everyone lies, but does a person lie so much they are not trustworthy? So, yes.....if you wait to find a virgin you will be waiting forever and thus open yourself up to temptation and sin. Do you marry a man with 4 kids by 4 different women.....no....just dont. There is a happy medium.
Bindi, the verses you found, or that the Spirit led you to recall, were so spot on throughout the whole video. May I ask if you have techniques for studying, or how do you find these in preparation for these videos? Aside from obviously just spending more time in the Word and familiarizing myself with Scripture, which of course is a life long endeavor. But I would love to be able to recall verses like this that apply so clearly to situations 🤯.
Woman of God you are a terrific teacher. Although this letter gives you all kinds of opportunities 😅 I totally I agree with you Bindi. Also noticed that she assumed why a man divorces or the lack of discernment in a man to choose a wife to be unlikely which is crazy to me considering how deceitful is the heart. I am still getting to know me let alone getting to know the other person! So many wrong things with this letter but I am glad she had the courage to write it to you. I pray she will have the humility to accept correction 🙏🏽 Blessings sister
I didn't hear any assumptions in the letter that was read. I heard a young woman saying that her experience with looking for a suitable man near her age (similar interests, energy, professional stage, etc.) has been that of encountering sexually immoral men. That doesn't necessarily mean she believes older men are less likely to be in sin-- only that her experience thus far makes it seem as though men her age are not appropriate choices for a Godly mate. That being said, wait for God. If He has purposed for this young woman to be a wife and mother, then that man will be available at the right time. God's will and God's time. Those men exist and perhaps this young woman needs to change where and/or how she is seeking.
Not really. There werent 20 righteous in Sodom. Elijah thought he was the only one left who hadn't bent the knee to Baal. God didn't say, "Everyone is equally bad," That wouldn't make sense because God will judge us. God said he reserved 7,000 for himself.
We are all sinners. Sinners saved by grace. A lot of people (especially from certain cultures) have a skewed view and think the ultimate sin is sexual sin.
Not pride ....realistic. We must be equally yoked in ALL aspects and considering the man is who must cover and lead the family,a man who leads his life into deep sin cannot be a husband. We must have godly mercy for sinners,but never marry them as unequal yoke is called an abomination.
We have to remember that when people come to us with their pain and discouragement, we serve them best, not by answering questions, but by answering *people*. What may be a theological exercise for you is a pit of pain and despair for someone else. Don't pelt people with bible verses from your comfortable place; go down into the pit, sit with them, and show them the way out.
I understand the discouagement. I too went thru similar darkness of soul but unfortunately i became weary of well doing and b thru it all away. This brought serious suffering.there are still many reasons to rejoice for the faith victories of virginity.
Im interested to know if she received this message. Because i know id have a hard time receiving this message . But i do agree with what bindi said here . Praying for all us singles 🙏
Thank you for making this video. I am an old virgin myself (30 years old) , and was wondering in things. Not trying fo marry another virgin myself, but, hoping to find another believer. Felt this is a good humility lesson for us virgin folk.
Yall gon learn lol stop coming to this woman of God tryna get your ego stroked. Don't come over here with a finger pointed at somebody else because she sees you and will call you all the way out. Find you something safe to do sugar. Also I think what she was meaning by "Guys my age" was that by the time a man is 26 the chances of him being a virgin are slim to none. I do not personally agree with that but I know it's a common sentiment that if you want a virgin he's gotta be your high school sweetheart and yall waited together and married right out of high school.
Well the word is fallen she’s not perfect so she shouldn’t expect this perfect physically virgin groom. She needs to do some serious self reflection regarding her walk in Christ because she sounds religious but not really re born.
Thanks Bindi I agree with most of your feedback. From experience in my own life... Many men out there are not what they portray to be and I had to learn the hard way by not living in God's will. I was married for 18 years and after my divorce single for 20years with a few relationships inbetween. My ex husband passed away 9 years after our divorce. After experiencing bad relationships, I then went on a year sabbatical and separated myself from socializing with any man. I committed myself to reading the Word and fasting and praying.... There have been temptations but with the help of the Holy Spirit I continued to wait upon the Lord. At the end of my sabbatical, God came through with my perfect partner which is now my husband. Because we both received a Biblical sign from God, we were married witn 3 weeks after we've met. Now after 2 years we are working as independent missionaries for the Kingdom of God. We both love the Lord Jesus Christ. I did not pray for a Christian husband but rather one who loves the Lord. My 2cents in this matter is.... Wait upon the Lord as He knows your beginning and your end and everything inbetween. ❤
Wow, this was a really heated session. But i think Bindi sis, didn't really understand the first part of the letter. I think what she meant was, from her few experiences and her observations, most men in her age group are already defiled and those above have in some way been involved in one sexual sin. But, i think got the second part right. She's self righteous. Calling others sinners isn't godly. Let him who thinks he stands, let him take heed less he falls, the bible admonishes. But i feel this girls frustration, because it's really. I advise that she should trust God and be patient. God has many god fearing sons for his daughters, including her. But needs to repent from self righteousness and work on her misconceptions. Not all men beyond her age group are immoral. There are still god fearing men who are chased. Shalom
I like your comment. However, what part of what she said is self righteous? Is it truly self-righteous or is she desiring others to hold the same standard that she does?
@@sheeshneeshit's self righteous because she has no idea if no one else is holding to that same standard and wrongly assumes that those who were sexually impure can't change through the sanctification of the Holy Spirit. Judging people unfairly without getting to know them first
Good job also pointing her to the Lord in prayer because it doesn't ONLY lead us to a place of realizing how unholy we ourselves are but also a place of remembrance and a reminder to our spiritual eyes about the beauty of holiness (mentioned by King David in the psalms I think it was) cuz she is right. There is a lot of ugliness in this world and you're right that when we are surrounded by the waves as Peter was ...all we see or tend to see is the physical sickness of this life and the world and it can be overwhelming and time with God vitally refreshes our spirit and heart. Both pride and grief can blind us, and it sounds possibly like she may be dealing with both.
11:20 - 12:40 I hope there is a short for this 🙏🏾 I really want to share this with my nephew and on Facebook but you know how people are with short attn spans! 😊
You have such a beautiful face and pushing your hair back in soft curls looks great you look so much younger Thanks for your inner and outer beauty and standing for the truth
This was a good topic. A lot of Christians confuse virginity with sexual purity. A person can abstain from sexual intercourse but still engage in perversion.
Yes, and you also see women who lose their 'virginity' (I mean like in the case of assault) and then feel like they've lost their purity, which is so far from the truth. It seems better to focus on purity to help clarify what can/can't be controlled. 🙏
I'm in full agreement ☝🏾
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I just want to add there are still plenty of men who honor God with their bodies. My husband waited for me until our wedding night as I did him. He was 28 when we met and 29 when we married. I know several men who live this way as well. There also should be grace for those who repented from sexual sin and are now living in a God honoring way
This was so good and made me take a look at my own self righteousness. Thanks
The man I married is a pedophile and is serving time. I divorced him. Some don’t change
@@Simonejoy I'm talking about the truly repentant person who was doing things with consenting adults who has actually changed and is not doing any of that anymore. A pedophile is on a completely different level, not that they can't be saved but should be avoided and divorced because what they did is awful and gross and they at the very least should be locked up for life. Repentance means turning from sin not going back to it and thats the kind of men who we can give grace to because some men lived differently before they knew Christ. We should not allow any man into our lives who does not honor God with his body. People can repent and be completely transformed and those are the ones I'm speaking about
You were virgins?
@@canelareina3795 yep he waited for me and I waited for him. I was his first girlfriend and he was my first boyfriend. He was everything I and more than I prayed for.
i haven’t finished the video but i want to say the goal is not to find a man that has never been defiled, it’s to find a man that honors God with his life despite who he was in the past. a transformed man will take care of you and be an acceptable spouse
They are out here. I recently ended a relationship with a wonderful man, early thirties, who has never known a woman. Our lives didn't allow for us to grow together at this point, so we parted. My comment is drive the point that these men are out here and looking for marriage.
Yes this is such a good point. Because whether it's sexual sin or other sin, we have ALL sinned one way or another. There will never be a completely sinless partner, so why even try and look for that? Wouldn't you rather have someone strong in the Lord who is able to come to the Lord WHEN he sins? Doesn't that say more about his character than his weaknesses?
Im glad you said this. Hindi is misunderstanding this young lady. Its concerning that Bindi is not comprehending the letter at all!!
I'll make a comment to her. This young lady is right on point. I'm a Christian counselor. These are not assumptions from this young, they are reality. Bindi is WAY OFF!
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@@covenantkeypersministry4853you're the one making assumptions. I don't see where Bindi misunderstood the letter. She touched every detail.
I came to say the EXACT SAME! We ALL have a past life. And some of us came to know God later in life and bear the PERMANENT consequences of that past life..... like CHILDREN. I had a child out of wed lock BEFORE I knew the Lord. And I would have been devastated knowing a Christian man would not consider me as a prospect because I had a child BEFORE I knew the Lord! We have ZERO control over the families we are born into. And mine was NOT saved. I was not raised with Christian values. No one taught me about modesty, or purity or celibacy. You think EVERYBODY does this and you really don't know any better. Sexual promiscuity was the norm in my family among other things. As was having children out of wed lock. Few of the women in my family were married but they ALL have multiple children by multiple men and I was was never raised to question this as abnormal until I became a Christian. By the time I became one I had already had a child of my own. And what's so ironic is that it was through my struggles as a single mother that I heard the call of the Lord in the first place. Looking back, had it NOT been for the humbling that single motherhood brought to me, I'm not so sure I'd be saved today!
My husband married me and looked past my situation and I'm grateful that he didn't judge me as some "sinner", unworthy of his time and attention just because I had a kid.
Perhaps God is using Bindi to teach the writer and many others a very HARD lesson. Don't discount men because they have kids, or aren't virgin, or are struggling with celibacy especially after living a life of promiscuity before knowing the Lord.
My husband waited for me. I'm the only woman he has ever kissed. I on the other hand did not. I was not raised in church, and I had sex with a high school boyfriend. He very much pressured me into it. I deeply regretted it, and I repented. I remained celibate until I married my husband. I'm so glad that he never held that mistake against me. What he cared about was my repentance and desire to honor God.
You and your husband sound like a loving couple. I hope to have a marriage like yours one day, based on repentance, faith, and charity. God bless.
Addressing around the 11 minute mark where the writer says "in my age group.."
My perspective is that she meant the opposite of what Bindi interpreted it. I took the author to mean that the chances of a man entering into sexual sin increases as he ages and that she feels she's "aged out" of attaining a young sexualy pure man at her age of 26. Just a thought
She should wait on the Lord and not try to do his job while condemning his children. She is also a sinner. Sin is sin in the Bible not just sexual sin.
Absolutely correct!
She’s dishearten by men who are trying to date her, are living in sin and want to sleep with her out of marriage. Such a huge difference falling short vs not living for the lord and living in sin. I know what she’s talking about but I prayed to the Lord about this. He’s hidden me and protected me in so many ways. My life has changed since stop living in sin especially sexual sin. Yes I still struggle in my Christian walk but I understand the importance of keeping your self pure and not to do it. It’s caused so much damaged then good also men who want to do this out of marriage is causing dishonor.
@@Lianastudioss Yes, this exactly.
I had the same perspective, she is looking to marry someone around her age and believes she won't find someone due to the reasons she wrote in about.
She wasn't saying that young men are sinners and old men are pure. She was saying that it seems to her by the time the men get to her age or beyond, they've all at least dipped their toes in sexual sins. She feels hopeless to find a man because she can really only look to her age group and older at this point for prospects. Did anyone else hear that message or just me?
Just you.
I definitely got the message that you got as well.
I heard the same thing dear sister. You are spot on, as evidenced by the snide comment above attempting to undermine your discernment. I just left almost the same comment, before seeing yours.
I got the same thing. That's exactly what she meant
You are EXACTLY correct. Bendy totally missed all the important points!!!
My heart breaks for the woman asking this question. The dating pool is horrible. Between Red Pill, abortion, homosexuality, and loose sexual woman in addition to society promoting it...it has to be difficult out there. My heart breaks for my daughter who will one day want to be properly courted by a young man.🤔
Exactly !...the girl has a valid point and should have been contened and adviced with utmost love. Not that hard response,so defensive of men as if they re unquestionable beings.
Did you watch the video till the end?
@moniesincere The Redpill is what you get after decades of man-hating for the last 60+ years.
Men have spent being falsely branded as oppressors and being told constantly that they're worthless and are not needed, even as they carried and continue to carry the weight of an entire civilization on their backs while every institution is turned against us en masse. After decades of that you might rightly expect that men become more defensive when any faults are pointed out.
Women didn't even start to care about men until the Redpill popped up, men started walking away, and modern women's selfish interests were being threatened by it.
In the old days a younger man at least had a chance of meeting a nice girl and finding love. Not anymore. Nowadays women look down on all of us like they're cockroaches unless we're rich or old enough to be her dad.
Regardless of their upbringing, younger women always give their best years to the bad boys and make us wait years for the scraps. The "traditional women" treat us no better. They casually write us off just because we're not rich or old enough to be her dad. They don't want a good man, they want what they consider to be the top guy.
If this were only just a once-off, I'd say ok, fair, no one's perfect. But younger women my own age have already established a pattern of this behavior. The Redpill exposed this. This is why I give no quarter to women's standards.
Believe what you will about the Redpill, but being a young man myself, I wouldn't wanna court any woman, traditional or otherwise under such conditions. As far as I'm concerned, traditional women have lost my vote as well. If that makes your daughter's life finding a good husband more difficult, then I sincerely apologize, but until we see a change here, there's just no point in working to be an even better man just to be passed over. It's just a wasted effort.
@@Yanina-ls1gy Men have spent being falsely branded as oppressors and being told constantly that they're worthless and are not needed, even as they carried and continue to carry the weight of an entire civilization on their backs while every institution is turned against us en masse. Many of them spent years paying for the sins of their fathers. After decades of that you might rightly expect that men become more defensive when any faults are pointed out, even if they are valid.
@@Yanina-ls1gy Men have spent decades being falsely branded as oppressors and being told constantly that they're worthless and are not needed, even as they carried and continue to carry the weight of an entire civilization on their backs while every institution is turned against us en masse.
Many of them spent years paying for the sins of their fathers. After decades of that you might rightly expect that men become more defensive when any faults are pointed out, even if it happens to be true.
I think the young sister that wrote in is honestly scared of dating in this current society. I’m in my late thirties and I kind of understand where she’s coming from. She just needs a little encouragement and a steer in the right direction (as we all needed at one point or another). 💛
This letter is interesting. I hear many women say they don't see single, Christian men over the age of 25. I'll go on men's channels and they say the same thing. I'm wondering how are we missing each other.
I think it’s because men and women are looking for someone whom they find “attractive”. If the only people we’re willing to entertain are the ones who are nice to look at, then we’re selecting from a very small pool and making everyone else invisible.
@@ALTheFreeMan Yeah I can see that. I wonder if its possible to change what we find attractive. I'd imagine that would be more beneficial for everyone involved.
@@dahliaherrod4301 Yeah, that’s probably what needs to happen, but i reckon it’s much easier said than done.
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😂😂😂😂 spot on well said.
Well she is right. OUR options ARE few. But God has a plan for our lives and is not limited by others disobedience for their lives and rejecting Him. He can and will provide our needs and cares about our wants too that are good wants. Godly wants.
I grew up in a church and I too suffered from the same self-righteousness and pride as the writer. I really thought I was better than other people because I was a virgin and thus sexually pure.
Of course I never considered the fact that I read sexually explicit books and engaged in masturbation to be the sin that it actually is. Once God humbled me and forced me to see myself for who I really am, I had to beg God for forgiveness because I am as much of a sinner as every unbeliever. It is only by the grace of God that I can say I'm now saved.
It doesn't make the dating scene any less difficult but it does allow me to stop looking at man as if they are the enemy and complete and utter garbage.
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At first I thought you were being hard on her with being prideful and all until you quoted the scripture from Luke. And i think indeed we do end up speaking like Pharisees and not even realising it.
I like how you also highlighted that she was fixing her eyes in the wrong place when she complained how her options are limited and not necessarily placing her trust in the Lord’s sovereignty. That is a lesson for me also🙌🏻
I definitely agree! I wish that I could join a group of sisters in the faith that have this level of discernment to even call me out if I’m in sin so we can all get the kingdom of heaven.
@@Syriaaa1 find sisters in Christ in your area. That’s what I did, we actually have a small group of ladies, we currently reading the Bible together with the aim of finishing it and challenging each other to have a biblical worldview on all things pertaining to life.
I would encourage this young woman not only to pray for her future husband but also wise friends both younger and older women that God bring long term into her life who are trustworthy.
One thing that came to me during the video is that we as women are to be found not to seek a husband. Let him find you! But focus on submitting to God in the meantime!
Bindi, you were put here to keep us women in check! Your fruit is showing sis!! 🙌🏿🔥
Please pray for my daughter Susana for deliverance from an unhealthy attachment dating relationship that has been going on for 6 years. She has had attempts to get closer to God but the boyfriend gets in the way .
I have prayed in Christ Jesus’s name
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Oh no what's wrong?
Your level of discernment here was very keen. Good stuff
Im a little bit younger than the writer. Most of the young men i know my age are sexually impure. Some are repentant but stuck in a cycle that they can't seem to break. Some are unrepentant and embrace the sin. I am not sure to what extent the former are safe to marry.
I have summed it up to be a spiritual problem because of how prevalent it is. Our young men are under attack, and we must intercede for them.
To the writer...
My son is 35 and a virgin (also has a good job and owns his own home). He's been offered sex but refused because he's determined to honor God. He's not alone; men like him do exist. I encourage you to remember that God made an army out of dry bones (Ezekiel 37: 1-14); nothing is impossible for Him (Luke 1:37). He can bring you a good man...whether a virgin or a repentant formally sexually immoral person (sometimes God's ways are mysterious). While you wait, pray about and consider if Bindi's remarks apply to you. Also, look for clubs/organizations that are for people dedicated to abstinence. Or start one of your own. Blessings to you. Be encouraged. ❤
Sure he is 😂😂😂
@@oanaion4899I believe he is
All of the “Please Advise” letters are situations with little to no background, so whoever is submitting for advice should be aware that without having a one on one conversation with the Brother or Sister in Christ you’re seeking advice from, and filling all the gaps, automatically the person will fill in the gaps as they understand them. That said, no one that submits a letter should expect that everything will be answered “on the nose”.
Regardless, we can all* learn from this topic of Pride and Self Righteousness (as Bindi stated in the beginning of the video).
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Love your response! I keep telling myself that God wouldn’t call me to something He wouldn’t provide.
The women outnumber the men in church as well.
This response was so biblically sound and accurate; I truly enjoyed listening to your insightful responses. God has blessed you with much wisdom my sister in Christ, God bless you and your family 🙏🏽
Hmm.. had some good points for sure, but I interpreted some of the letter a bit different. I think the concern of the author is that many Christian men tend to marry in their early 20s, so she feels like she missed her opportunity to be courted in that age bracket.. I agree with Bindi that she needs to wait on the Lord and not be so prideful that she passes her potential husband by, but her concern about missing the opportunity to marry young was also legitimate.
This is true, thank you.
Hi Bindi Marc, my name Charity Bakutana from Uganda, Africa. I'm a committed and an intentional homemaker. I thank you so much for the great work you are doing in encouraging homemakers to do their best and do it with the heart of serving the LORD. I have learnt so much from you concerning modesty, determination and intentionality as a homemaker. I really miss to watch you share that great wisdom while doing house chores.
If it's possible please consider one of these days to do those videos while you're doing house chores.
Thank you very much
I think she was referring to her age group because she wants to marry in her age group.
What we want isnt always what God has for us.
The writers focus, to me, is too much on what she sees instead of trusting what God says. The answer is to trust and wait on the Lord.
Thank you. My husband recently told me that he holds the opinion that most or all my physical problems are my own fault. I was humiliated by this, as I know that some of my problems are my fault, but many were not preventable. I thought he understood but he doesn't. He thinks my prolapse and diastasis and pelvic instability--all of which I have worked hard and made great strides to correct--were all my own fault in the first place for not exercising enough.
A very strong part of me is seething, wanting to justify myself in strong terms and strident tones. I want to punish him and rebuke him and point out his flaws.
But God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble. I need to humble myself under God's mighty hand, that he may raise me up in due time. I need to repent of the things that were my fault (mainly over eating) and repent of my rebellious thoughts toward my husband.
Your talk of humility brought me to tears. Thank you.
I’m saying a prayer for you love. You may be hurt and also humble. Your feelings about the harsh message are reasonable. I’m praying that your husband is given a soft heart to see your struggles and to stop condemning you beyond appropriate and loving rebuke. He may rebuke you but he must stay in that position. It is his duty to wash you with the word of God and to live out the examples of how a loving father would support his child or ward.
@@SoFetch0 Thank you. I still struggle with the hope that I will be justified in my husband's sight and vindicated, but that is now between him and God. I need to let go of all that pride and focus on having a clean heart and a right spirit. I do covet your prayers for both of us. Bless you.
This sounds so terribly hurtful. I so agree with the first response to you. I'm praying you remain gentle and gracious with yourself, and that the Lord puts His hand over your union such that you two can support each other the way He desires. Sending you so much live and strength during this time ❤
@kailahm.adefolalu9366 thank you for the Godly encouragement. I am afraid to even talk to most people about this because they will feed the prideful part of me by focusing on how wrong he is.
I am so glad to have a community of godly ladies here on this channel. I know everyone catches my vibe ☺️
Hi Bindi Marc, thank you so much for everything you teach and embody. Thank you for letting God use you as His vessel. He used your voice as a tool to transform my mindset on marriage, traditional values, submission, femininity and masculinity. I noticed you haven't posted new content in the past two months. I hope and pray that you are alright, and are just taking a much needed break. We miss you, please come back to us soon.
You know; waiting can be so hard. It’s almost like the moment you decide to wait, you begin to battle with hope and thoughts of whatever it is you are waiting on the lord for can’t be fulfilled. You go through a season of doubts and surprisingly you encounter situations and people that seems to further comfirm the thoughts you are already battling with. Will the lord show up or I will have to settle. This phase is a really hard one. BUT! It is in this phase that you also hold your ground. MY GOD WILL DELIVER ME BUT EVEN IF HE DOESNT DELIVER ME,I WILL NOT BOW. Or else you will give in to these pressing false thoughts that floods your mind , skew you scope and mindset of the opposite gender and finally this will derail you. You might even end up becoming bitter . I know it is hard, extremely hard but your focus shouldn’t be on putting out the flaws in every man tha you’ve encountered or what people have told you about their experiences. Keep pressing unto God when all hope is gone and it’s hard to believe again.
It’s quite hard to date properly in this generation.
I understand EXACTLY what the letter is saying and I am not hearing the same thing as Bindi is hearing. Some of this is Terrible advice to this young lady who reach out for compassion. TERRIBLE.
Exactly. But if she gave one of these deviant men a chance and he goes off and cheats it would be her fault cause she knew what she married smh. Can't win for losing.
@@oanaion4899 YES MA'AM, AGREED. Please watch PRINCELLA THE QUEEN MAKER.
With all due respect, I think you missed the point of this young lady's letter. People that are married, especially for a while do not understanding the current dating culture right now. Her letter may seem extreme but everything she's observed is happening.
But if she claims that everyone in her age group is a sinner, then there would be no solution for her. She would have to remain single
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It honestly sounds like just Fear & limiting beliefs to me, a common trick the Devil uses to prevent people from having a heart filled with Hope, Faith, & Love for God or for other human beings instead. The Devil will exploit Fear as much as he possibly can. I hope the girl that wrote the letter understands in her heart of hearts one day, that God did not give us a spirit of Fear, but of Power, Love, and Self Control.
A lot of Gen Z are indeed more secular or many of the ones that call themselves Christian are only Christian in name & non practicing, not Christian in Spirit, Church attendance is down heavily... the issue is when you take 1 rule out from the equation like no pre-marital sex at all period out of the table.
Then the math becomes chaotic and it keeps going off into infinite wrong directions like the number of Pi, all of them end up in outer darkness, destruction, death... so you will have Gen Z inventing new things like open relationships, situationships, sneaky links ie all words polyamory or casual sex, the same reasons we know Mormonism & Islam came from the devil & Satan himself. You will have a chaotic landscape where men can just use one women for free & jump onto a new women who has no idea about his past, still treats him well even though he was awful to past women & is even open to want to sexually please him... this is a massive disaster where no one wins, a lot of young girls end up hurt or used by men who don't deserve them & use lies, deceit, hiding all their past affairs with women, and since all women aren't locking sexual intimacy behind wedlock its easier for men to find someone to cheat with or practice adultery with. Its not good for either gender, the men are doomed for all their willful intentional Sin & the young girls end up with closed hearts towards the good men or become bitter & resentful desiring to punish men who may have never been intimate with any women before for the Sins of all the men going out there talking to & flirting with every girl.
The men don't realize how much they destroy their own souls & spirits while simultaneously not wanting to marry all of these women as they ironically enough, respect them less for being sexually open... even though they themselves are the ones that created them. This very real dichotomy you can observe amongst millions of young men will make you sick to your core. All of these disgusting evil men curse women so much & use endless derogatory terms for them but they're really just projecting & defining themselves, its like, they subconsciously know how lowly God views them & what fate is in store for them but they blame it all on women! *Clutches pearls, if only she didn't tempt me I wouldn't have fallen so low... I wouldn't be so pathetic and can't respect myself or my own body like this*
The sad thing is these young men end up distorting their image of god more and more so even if/when they eventually do get married, they never get to truly experience a more true image of God with a partner that actually loves them for their Spirit instead of just lusting after their flesh & body using it for self gratification but not selflessly wanting to please them. Its the most beautiful thing on this planet when a man can see clearly into your Spirit & Soul, sees the beauty in it & falls in love with you more than anything for it, would do anything for you, grow himself into anyone for you, and truly desires to make you happy & treat you like the Queen you are. All of the lust and false love that people living in darkness are in, goes against the true godly love, their flames that are focused only on self gratification & the eroticism or romantically sexually charged passions often die out too and their divorce chances increases, many children get abandoned since the parent's didn't have that agape love for the children or if the couple stays together the child isn't raised with god's love and has a poor model of being truly loved.
Jesus will forgive every & any repentant Sinner regardless all their Sins if they mean it in their heart & truly want a change of heart, all of people's Sin in a lifetime is like a cup of lemonade into an Ocean to God.
However it doesn't stop the consequences of happening, consequences are not the same as divine punishment... and as the Bible said, every single man & women will reap what they sowed.
My wife and I have been married for 14 years and i understand the present dating culture. She’s right for the most part and I used to be one of the guys she’s talking about. I apologize if men aren’t supposed to be here. I used to be in it. And by God’s grace, I won’t be returning. Prayerfully the sister is blessed to be able to wait on the LORD and work hard for Him while she is waiting, as Paul states that singles have much opportunity to serve the LORD without having to concern themselves with some of the things we married have to concern ourselves with. Focus on winning souls my sister, as am I and we all should be, for he who wins souls is wise.
Proverbs 11:30
1 Cor. 7:25-35
Bless you
As a married person, I absolutely see the current dating culture. It’s awful. That said, I was not a virgin when I got married nor was my husband. God redeemed us.
People will have a past. Men will have a past. Women will have a past. Probably a sexually immoral past. I know several godly men, they may not all be “pure” though. What’s important is that they truly repented and are living their lives according to Gods standard now.
So true. I find it's nearly completely useless to take Dating advice (not Marriage advice) from people who met their spouses in college or have not been dating for several years. They usually have NO clue lol
This is so good girl. Thank you. Glad I looked you up today I've been off UA-cam and haven't heard your biblical wisdom in a few months.
What if the man God has for you is 3yrs younger and fresh out of college and God wants you to meet in a year or two when he’s established financially. Maybe he’s thinking the same thing about women your age and asking God if he’ll have to settle
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Sister Bindi, I believe you discern the letter just as the holy Spirit wanted you to bring out. It's always the heart the attitude!!❤❤❤
😊 It sounds like to me, that she was saying young men her age aren't abstaining until marriage, not that the older men are.... But, I understand how it was taken and possibly misunderstood. Overall thanks for your words of wisdom, you are blessed with the gift🙏I'm learning a lot.🙏
I had a women's bible study last night about Proverbs 31. One of the questions was _what does the world say is a virtuous woman vs what the bible says is a virtuous woman._ One of the ladies gave great insight that the world just looks at the sexual purity of a woman and if she's a virgin they count her virtuous. But the bible says a virtuous woman is more than her sexual status, but her character, what she speaks, how she conducts herself, determines her virtuosity. The world looks at the body count, and the bible looks at the heart.
You missed the mark with this one Bindi. You gave a great response…for a different question. The woman in the letter is clearly interested in being with men in her age range so she was referring to being discouraged when it comes to men in her age range approaching her that still engage in sexual sin with no desire to be pure or wait until marriage… I feel like she wanted advice on that. I really believe social media has made dating extremely difficult now so I understand her frustrations, although I am not single. But again, intentions can be mis-construed in “text”.
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But the advice is always gonna be the same: wait on the Lord.
And why are we always so focused on ourselves and what WE want? What about what God wants for us? Is that not more important?
I have read my Bible several times over and I've yet to come across dating. As children of God we don't need to partake in the ways of this world and dating is one of them.
@@kay20gators12no dating so what instead?
"Growing old makes someone more of what they already are"
That hit me hard for some reason
Sister, I am in agreement about almost all that you have said and admire you for it; though, I don’t believe that she hold older men in more esteem, I believe that she is acknowledging that to find a chaste older young man around the age of 26 is hard to believe possible, as it would mean that they have spent a prolonged amount of time in this filthy world and may have fallen into sin.
That is correct ❤ it was comprehended incorrectly
Amen Bindi. I used to be like this girl- very legalistic and religious. It's a dark place to be. When we're in it- we don't see it but looking back, it is so clearly sinful. God desires mercy; not sacrifice. To the sinner on the cross He said 'today you will be with me in paradise'. God bless you for this brutal honesty. I hope this author feels conviction and shock watching this, but then also experiences grace from God and is brought to her knees before Our King to repent. I also hope that her desires are met and she will see that God is more faithful than she thinks Him to be and blesses her with a strong man of God❤
I needed this too. I’m 23 and before I walked with the Lord I was very wild but now that Christ has saved me it’s been a year and I’ve started having a attitude towards my family because of their open blasphemy and different sinful behavior towards the Lord while claiming to know Christ. I’ve become almost excited for them to experience the wrath of God. I opened up about this to a trusted teacher of the Word and he did inform me that I should be terrified because eternal demise is something we’re unable to even fathom. Thank you for the scriptures because they definitely helped me shift gears in the way I treat them and see myself. Because that was literally me when I was in the world
I'll have to say, your understanding of the word is quite good! You tend to have a training that sees the scriptures you quote, IN context. I'm coming back here to listen to you advise women again. (I don't know you, you just popped up on my screen.)
Bindi Im so grateful for your biblically sound videos - you are always staying real to the truth of God. I thank you my sister ❤
I understand exactly what she means when she refers to her “age group”. Most of the men she is experiencing around her are men that are most likely not practicing chastity. She’s basically saying that if they haven’t gotten married by now then they must be having sex outside of marriage with someone. Has nothing to do with old(er) men, rather, everything to do with the lack thereof of marriage minded men. I actually want to give this woman her flowers for making it so far with staying pure and waiting to be married. That is truly something to celebrate! Whilst I understand the writer’s sentiments and how frustrating it must be (because I’m going through this too at 33) God gave me a revelation that the more pure you are, the less options you’re going to have. More men are going to go for the low hanging fruit but it’s going to take a special man to get to the top of the tree. Anyone can order from the dollar menu but it’s going to take more of an investment to reserve a table a Ruth’s Chris. In other words, this is a situation of quality over quantity-and I say this humbly! You are more valuable than rubies and God has a special man made just for you! Does he come a dime a dozen? Absolutely not and be glad but just remember Beloved, that all you need is ONE. ☝🏽 The God send! So when God sends him your way, you’ll know it was nothing but God!! Amen? God bless Queen! ❤❤
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Beautifully said ❤ Thankyou,very encouraging 😊
I am 21. i too have not been properly courted yet. For years i was sad but now through christ i am happy again. Watching advice videos like these from married women have really helped my mental state. My advice as a fellow single is to have faith that God has it worked out, take bindis advice and don't be prideful; and, a big one for me, have other dreams outside of marriage.
I thought the age group mentionings were more of an implication of her age preference for marriage prospects rather than signaling them out for being the only group of men struggling under this sin
It seems like she's saying once someone is my age group or older they have already desecrated themselves because it's extremely difficult to remain sanctified as a man for longer amounts of time because their biological dispositions toward visuals and testosterone peaks (male attributes) and the fact our society is geared toward that you cant escape it and there's not much to keep men accountable and not to mention it's accessible and encouraged in the world.
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Thank you so much Bindi. I loved the way you handled this. May God give you wisdom everytime.
The bitterness and anger part spoke to me so much…❤
Hope you are doing well Bindi… I miss your videos! They’re much needed.
Also our God has standards that He set, please be careful to not call someone prideful, because they esteem the standards that God set and because they don't mince their words when doing so; that will have us in trouble, because believe our God does not think it okay to walk with our heads down and mince our words for the convenience of other's deflective perceptions, prejudgements and so on.
The Bible does say for us to be equally yoked, if you are a chaste & pure virgin you would be best with another chaste & pure virgin.
I agree pride & toxic self righteousness can exist but the vast majority of the time this is not the case, its about having it as a preference but not some mandatory standard & looking down on all other people that aren't virgins as "Sinners" when you're a Sinner as well.
The same way some man or women might prefer someone the same race as them, but if you believe its mandatory or look down upon or think people of outside races/ethnicities are somehow less than or would make worse partners you definitely have some inner work to do on your externalized or internalized racism & need to gain a healthier perception of human beings.
We as Christians are all one in Christ, we all share in willing to be one with Christ, the only standards we should be looking at are all non superficial or non materialistic ones.
Does the person have a beautiful spirit? Does the person have great character? Is the person righteous & god loving or righteous & god fearing? Do they have a good heart & good will towards others? Are they truly kind, trustworthy, honest, sincere, humble/down to earth & in tune with the meaningful things in life? Do they embody other virtues that make their inner light shine more mirroring & reflecting God's image? Do they have a healthy communication style, a secure attachment style & show love to their friends/family/pets? How they treat all others reveals who they really are not how they treat someone they benefit from, this is why trash talking exes or restaurant & retail staff or old teammates is a red flag, the most Christ like people wouldn't even talk poorly about their worst enemies let alone friends or family or acquittances behind their backs. Gossip is a terrible Sin and has endless consequences for fragmenting relationships.
Instead of worshipping degeneration & a downward spiral or loving Sin, we should all be focused on rising up to higher virtues & being more like Christ, ascending instead of descending in character & spirit towards selflessness. We should be hating Sin even if we stumble as we're still imperfect creatures be repenting & atoning for the Sins, wanting to have a change of heart about them.
Bindi, with all due respect, you really missed the mark on this one. No pun intended. Her question was about her discouragement with young men her age trying to talk to her while engaging in sexual sin(churched or not) & your answer was about pride & checking herself. Good answer to the wrong question.
She clearly stated 'The answer to your question is WAIT ON GOD'. Then she went on to talk about pride and self righteousness because she could see some of that in the letter.
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Right. I think I acknowledged that part of her answer in another comment. Perhaps I should have said she did not fully answer the question. What else is the author supposed to do while waiting on the Lord? Stay home & read her Bible? Continue to do activities she enjoys where single men are present to put herself in proximity? Settle down at a larger church with more single men & work instead of church hopping? Cultivate a diverse group of Christian friends who may be able to introduce her to a brother, cousin, friend who may be nonblack but right for her?
This is what I meant. Too many times we are quick to say “wait on the Lord” w/o also saying what the person should do while waiting.
'What should a person do while waiting on God?'. You continue your life of righteousness! Continue living, working and serving God. She didn't say it because you should be continuing doing what you're called to do as servants of Christ. Just continue living! Waiting isn't just sitting around watching tv. Waiting in the Godly sense isn't the same as waiting in the worldly sense. Waiting on God means He has heard your request, be patient for what you have prayed for and don't rush to try to take back control from God. God has heard you, now go live your life with the faith that God will give to you on HIS time!
Thank you for this, I like what you said about pride and self righteousness and what it says about your proximity to God
I don’t think she was saying old men are chaste. She’s focused on her age group.
100% correct
I understand her problem. If you’re married these days, you’re blessed
First of all…. I detected NO self righteousness or pride in that letter. This woman was expressing a LEGITIMATE CONCERN and she was speaking on what she has observed with her own voice eyes. Of course she continues to state “my age,” because she is RIGHT!! Of course she will focus on men her age because she’s desiring someone close to her age group to marry. You totally missed the point. She is not concerning herself with “old men”
Lady whoever you are that submitted this letter….. I feel you and your concerns are legitimate. However, I advise you to wait on God, because there are some men who are living for the Lord and have not defiled themselves. The wait and what you see can be very discouraging, but keep waiting on God, keep praying, and be encouraged.
I agree.
I detected huge amounts of self righteousness/pride and absolutely no grace or humility in regards to the opposite sex.
For me, the statement of "I'm just left with the sinners" gave off prideful energy. We all are sinners. No one is righteous. But I do agree with your point on waiting on God... To the person who wrote that letter. Know that God loves you, and he will grant you what you desire in due time. In the meantime, focus on being humble and giving grace to everyone.❤
Edit: Okay. I read the comments underneath, and i think i should clarify that i agree that she shouldn't marry someone who isn't spiritually connected with God. A man is supposed to lead the home according to scripture, so of course, it would make sense for you to want someone who is also connected to God. But let us not try to separate ourselves or boast about ourselves up like we are not also sinners..The "I'm just left with sinners" *to me* is not coming from a humble heart that understands that she herself is a sinner.
Non virgin men in the church ,are being entitled even by leaders to feel deserving to marry a virgin. And even state that "no virgin no ring",but now a young virgin woman is shamed for holding the same standards and wanting to be equally yoked?. Totally unbiblical.
And though we are all sinners,not all PRACTICE sin as a lifestyle.And yaa we should be merciful towards sinners,but not marry the unbelievers. Unequal yoke is refered to as an abomination.
I agree! I think Bindi mis-interpreted her letter. It’s hard to give intentions in text
I think she was seeking encouragement, its not easy being single now. We all were once sinners, but now under the cross, we are clean of any sin. Be open to men who WERE in sin, but changed their life for Jesus. ❤
Bindi you did amazing. I am 21 and I used to have this skewed mindset of young men, basically ALL men. That was until I truly began to get into my word, see other Christian men and look at my own sinful nature in ALL aspects. Yet, I definitely understand where she is coming from, must not make generalizations & sweeping statements. What does that mean about us finding a man who we trust to lead us in the Lord? Says Proverbs 18:21 “The tongue has the power of life and death, he those who love it will eat its fruit.” Or just “Death and life are in the power of the tongue.” Like, we must speak favor over our life, must not put a spell on ourselves that there is no good men left for us.
Says Ephesians 4:29 “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building up others up according to their needs, that I may benefit those who listen.” Let us pray and speak favor over these people who willingly sin, and those who do not believe in the Lord, let us not condemn them too much as people can do the same for us! Us as Christians have to be mindful of pride creeping up on us like a serpent, we have to stay vigilant because it is not good. There is a reason the Bible emphasizes staying humble. Even more so, I would say a man I am now talking to and getting to know for future marriage prospects is more like Christ than me-AT THE RIPE AGE OF 20! He is a year younger than me and very mature, of course I am too as many have said, I have seen my own walk in life & with the Lord. But, wow he is a dignified man, I wonder how did I meet such a man and how can I become more like him. Isn’t that amazing how we can be inspired even in the midst of our judgments? Quiet beautiful.
Anyways, anyone mad or vehemently disagreeing with you may have been convicted and does not want to do the work and look inwards. We all fall short, but we must all learn and grow up, as says 1 Corinthians 13:11 “When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.“
God is so good, and me coming across your page today is a subtle reminder that God cares about us and the details. I was just thinking last night that I haven’t seen any of your videos in a while. I thought that you just weren’t making videos. I couldn’t remember your name, so I couldn’t look you up. And then boom, today while running errands in peace with the Lord, I sat down for lunch and was looking for something to listen to while eating and there you were 😊
She did not say enough to demonstrate that she has a puffed up sense of pride surrounding the fact that she is still a virgin. If she is misguided, hurt, naive or even rushed in writing this letter to you- it doesn't change the fact that she has never formed a sexual covenant with anybody- that is a big deal- and a lot of virgins are being reverse judged on this by a spirit that others have- which aims to bring them down a peg- I have seen this many times. It's best for these dilemmas to be taken straight to God, because He for example knows this girl's true whole heart- you don't and so inadvertently fall into the position of having come at her based on some of your own preconceptions & perhaps misreadings and or misunderstandings. You're very interesting to listen to, butI would say to the young audience rather than be tempted to write into and pour our pearls out to any flawed person (all of us), we need to practice now going straight to God. (I wish to also mention that your response to her repeated mention of homesexuality was fair- I would add that if that kind of thing is meditated on so much, one could end up inviting that into their life- your tongue has power-God designed it that way, so speak into your life what you want, not what you don't want.)
I completely agree! Bindi should have pointed her straight to God especially not knowing what she could mean and her true heart. I’ve learnt that through reading Hannah story, no one understood her and most likely in modern day if she asked someone for their advice instead of God, she would have been told she idolizing having a baby. It’s so important for us to pour our heart to God because he will redirect us and help us xx
I agree 100%
Wisely stated Bindi. God bless you
Certainly a good lesson and reminder about pride to myself. And every other lesson taught in the video is applicable to a lady somewhere. About the letter, I think she meant she wants to date her age group but not getting what she values. That's why she's 'complaining'. Not that she wants older men. I could have misunderstood but that's truly what I got.
I just finished a short fast the Lord led me into because he revealed to me that I had pride. It’s such a sneaky devil that pride. I'm still jot sure exactly how I was walking in pride but I know if God saw it, it was there somewhere. Pride is one of the hardest thing to see in yourself. That’s why we should always be humbling ourselves just incase. Fasting is one of the ways you can humble yourself. But not to puff up again like, "I fast and others don't" Good word Bindi. We seek righteousness but we should be destroying the slighest form of self righteousness
I've never dated or had a boyfriend before and some of these comments in the video makes me feel like I'll never find a good man in Christ 😭 Thank you for being straightforward and answering honestly to these comments
LOVE this hairstyle on you.
This is a hard lesson but we all need it!! There should always be a temp check of humility in this walk with God. Let him do the separating, he said let the tares grow up with the wheat. It’s so easy to judge people but we need to be reminded there is only one righteous judge and we have enough dirt to sweep off our on porches trust Gods word he will show you how much you really need him. It’s only by his grace that we are saved!!!! Great teaching young lady very beautiful🙏🏾💜 Gods blessings to you
I thought her question was valid and do not assume she is self righteous. She is a Christian seeking to find a Christian husband. We will know them by their fruit. If a man is living in sexual sin, he is not a fit option for a Christian woman. Now if I man has lived in active sin but since repented and given his life over to the Lord, he can still be a good option for a Christian woman. There is a difference in being a sinner (which we all are), than living in sin which is unrepentant. She is right to not want a man that is living in unrepentant sin. I also don’t think she is saying older men can’t have their issues, she’s just not thinking of them as a potential mate. This came across harsh to me. I wouldn’t want to be called self righteous for wanting to marry a Christian man.
I had to listen to her letter a few times. Desire is one thing, Idolizing Marriage is another. Not only her mindset is limiting and scarcity. There’s no faith here other than the fact she’s sexual pure. It’s more than that, and it sounds like we’ve forgotten that we were all once sinners in some way or form. Just my thoughts, but there’s definitely a hint of pride here.
@@Dominique20 I agree and feel sorry for the young lady that wrote this letter. A lot of assumptions are being made about her character. I think it’s a stretch to assume she’s prideful or self righteous based on this letter.
This reminded me of something that I need to pray about. I have no children, but I wish to be married and have children one day. I had it set in my mind for a long time that I would never date a man with children because of potential “baby mama drama”, but could it really be due to my own pride and self-righteousness? I really need to pray about this; thank you for this video!❤️
I am 36 years old, a Christian and a virgin. I have been asked out, several times throughout the years, but none of the men shared my faith, so I declined. It may seem like I'm being picky, but I believe as a Christian I need to marry a Christian man. The bible says once we are saved, we are no longer sinners and we should be equally yoked. Therefore, I understand this young lady distress when she says all that are left are sinners. While men who are unsaved and even married seem to show genuine interest the single Christian men seem to be sleeping. As a Christian woman, it is imperative that you seek a godly righteous man so that you are equally yoked. It's not about being prideful it's about being equally matched. Overall, while I respect Bindi's wisdom and insight, I think this letter was blown a little out of proportion. When I heard the letter, I heard a young lady who was seeking encouragement that there are righteous men left. That she will indeed find that husband she seeks and that she is not too old to receive her equal in the faith. Also, while I agree that not all young men are sullied, I will say that Christian men are not stepping forward as they should. In the meantime, men who do not serve God are more than willing to show their interest. This needs to change. While, we should not go to church simply to find a mate, it is or should be the perfect place to find one. There are not a lot of avenues to meet other singles your age that are believers. God Bless.
For me, she seemed very stuck on finding a “pure” man.
Men can be godly, but have a history of sin. My husband is an incredibly godly man and he was not a virgin when we married. Many of the godly men I know (I’m also in my 30’s, so most I know have lived a life) were not virgins.
God redeems. Yes, desire a godly man after Gods own heart. He may not be a virgin though. It’s true that those are in short supply. This letter just really lacked grace and understanding.
Exactly...is a serious concern.But she was dismissed because she is a woman. Men can "have a past",and are not demanded purity. Meanwhile,even non virgin men in the world and the church,feel entitled to a virgin young girl below 23. That s not entitlement it seems. How many virgin christian men would be encouraged to not judge and marry a woman with a high body count?..none!.
The double standards are atrocious.
Good response! Thank you I needed to hear it.
I thinks she means she knows she is not be be unequally yoke thats why she refers to unsaved men as sinners. She believes in marrying someone saved
and most likely this saved man will have a past....like all of us
Her concern seemed to be that they were virgins.
It bothers me when people do this. Take what she wrote at face value and don't assume what she said. She very well could've meant Christians that struggle with sin. A lot of Christians need to stop assuming that because you saved yourself that you are entitled to a spouse that also saved themselves. I've seen plenty of Christians that grew up in sin and are on fire for the lord once they are saved vs Christians that grew up in the faith and "did everything right" and then think they are entitled to God's best just because they weren't out here sinning. Guess what? Your spouse could very well be someone who partook in sexual sin before they were saved.
I understand her fears and concerns especially as a single woman. Though I agree her language could be more refined
Good point about age not having to do anything to do with righteousness! After seeing friends both younger and olde than me, date, I’ve noticed they deal with similar issues, mainly with more worldly men
Thank you for this video. This video offers an opportunity to reflect on ourselves, regardless of where we are in life.
This was a good lesson for me. It goes beyond Bindi responding to the letter. It hits the heart of the single and married. To humble ourselves before the Lord. To look at others as more important than ourselves. This isn't necessarily taught a lot. But pride is in the church, i have to humble myself more. This taught me that.
I pray the writer doesn't feel offended, but be closer to God, seek Him more, don't look at others dating or even look for someone to court her but just get close to the Father ❤❤❤
I was so happy at the start of your response. As you were reading I was literally cringing! 😬 The pride was pouring out. Great video as always
Bindi (Joyce) I pray you are OK. Really missing your videos and your godly wisdom. Hope you'll be back on UA-cam soon xxx ❤
“All that there is left are sinners”
Well duh? You mean like yourself? And all of us in the world??
😂 sorry. Funny but true
The definition of a sinner: one who *lives in sin* one practices sin.
Christ came to save us from our sins. To call us *His righteousness!* Saints of God, or His children. NOT sinners.
That title is given to those that are without.
Nope. There is such a thing as sanctification. Sorry not sorry. Children of GOD aren't "sinners".
She's right to this degree. Our current situation in society does not lend itself to the IDEAL option of being married early in life so that sexual sin is not at play. The best you can do is find people who have limited their sinful situations. Which is really how we select all people. to be around. Everyone lies, but does a person lie so much they are not trustworthy? So, yes.....if you wait to find a virgin you will be waiting forever and thus open yourself up to temptation and sin. Do you marry a man with 4 kids by 4 different women.....no....just dont. There is a happy medium.
Bindi, the verses you found, or that the Spirit led you to recall, were so spot on throughout the whole video. May I ask if you have techniques for studying, or how do you find these in preparation for these videos? Aside from obviously just spending more time in the Word and familiarizing myself with Scripture, which of course is a life long endeavor. But I would love to be able to recall verses like this that apply so clearly to situations 🤯.
Woman of God you are a terrific teacher. Although this letter gives you all kinds of opportunities 😅 I totally I agree with you Bindi. Also noticed that she assumed why a man divorces or the lack of discernment in a man to choose a wife to be unlikely which is crazy to me considering how deceitful is the heart. I am still getting to know me let alone getting to know the other person! So many wrong things with this letter but I am glad she had the courage to write it to you. I pray she will have the humility to accept correction 🙏🏽 Blessings sister
I wish people would stop generalizing. There are so many godly men and women in this world.
Wooooow that Luke 18 verse was spot on for this
I didn't hear any assumptions in the letter that was read. I heard a young woman saying that her experience with looking for a suitable man near her age (similar interests, energy, professional stage, etc.) has been that of encountering sexually immoral men. That doesn't necessarily mean she believes older men are less likely to be in sin-- only that her experience thus far makes it seem as though men her age are not appropriate choices for a Godly mate. That being said, wait for God. If He has purposed for this young woman to be a wife and mother, then that man will be available at the right time. God's will and God's time. Those men exist and perhaps this young woman needs to change where and/or how she is seeking.
Where/how would you recommend she seek?
Christian dating websites and possibly other groups. Maybe there's retreats for singles in her Church denomination etc.
Yes, Christian dating sites, church groups, or service activities where she is likely to encounter someone with Christ-like qualities
"all that there is left are sinners" wow the pride in this statement
Not really. There werent 20 righteous in Sodom. Elijah thought he was the only one left who hadn't bent the knee to Baal. God didn't say, "Everyone is equally bad," That wouldn't make sense because God will judge us. God said he reserved 7,000 for himself.
I understand what you are but it seems like you struggle with pride yourself sister repent @@canelareina3795
We are all sinners. Sinners saved by grace. A lot of people (especially from certain cultures) have a skewed view and think the ultimate sin is sexual sin.
Not pride ....realistic. We must be equally yoked in ALL aspects and considering the man is who must cover and lead the family,a man who leads his life into deep sin cannot be a husband.
We must have godly mercy for sinners,but never marry them as unequal yoke is called an abomination.
@@Yanina-ls1gy amen!
We have to remember that when people come to us with their pain and discouragement, we serve them best, not by answering questions, but by answering *people*. What may be a theological exercise for you is a pit of pain and despair for someone else. Don't pelt people with bible verses from your comfortable place; go down into the pit, sit with them, and show them the way out.
Preach.
I truly enjoyed this video. Very informative and I love how you broke down the body and the effects of sexual sins.
I understand the discouagement. I too went thru similar darkness of soul but unfortunately i became weary of well doing and b thru it all away. This brought serious suffering.there are still many reasons to rejoice for the faith victories of virginity.
Im interested to know if she received this message. Because i know id have a hard time receiving this message . But i do agree with what bindi said here . Praying for all us singles 🙏
Thank you for making this video. I am an old virgin myself (30 years old) , and was wondering in things. Not trying fo marry another virgin myself, but, hoping to find another believer. Felt this is a good humility lesson for us virgin folk.
Wisdom was shared here. We also have to watch the spirit of offense. It could also mean that she would consider a younger man.
She didn't make an assumption about older men. You made an inference based on what she said. Good point though.
Yall gon learn lol stop coming to this woman of God tryna get your ego stroked. Don't come over here with a finger pointed at somebody else because she sees you and will call you all the way out. Find you something safe to do sugar. Also I think what she was meaning by "Guys my age" was that by the time a man is 26 the chances of him being a virgin are slim to none. I do not personally agree with that but I know it's a common sentiment that if you want a virgin he's gotta be your high school sweetheart and yall waited together and married right out of high school.
Well the word is fallen she’s not perfect so she shouldn’t expect this perfect physically virgin groom. She needs to do some serious self reflection regarding her walk in Christ because she sounds religious but not really re born.
Is that what this channel has become about? Bindi "calling people all the way out?" Is that what yall want to see nowadays?
We are all sinners sinners show people the same grace god shows you everyday
Thanks Bindi I agree with most of your feedback. From experience in my own life... Many men out there are not what they portray to be and I had to learn the hard way by not living in God's will. I was married for 18 years and after my divorce single for 20years with a few relationships inbetween. My ex husband passed away 9 years after our divorce. After experiencing bad relationships, I then went on a year sabbatical and separated myself from socializing with any man. I committed myself to reading the Word and fasting and praying.... There have been temptations but with the help of the Holy Spirit I continued to wait upon the Lord. At the end of my sabbatical, God came through with my perfect partner which is now my husband. Because we both received a Biblical sign from God, we were married witn 3 weeks after we've met. Now after 2 years we are working as independent missionaries for the Kingdom of God. We both love the Lord Jesus Christ. I did not pray for a Christian husband but rather one who loves the Lord. My 2cents in this matter is.... Wait upon the Lord as He knows your beginning and your end and everything inbetween. ❤
I thoroughly enjoyed this video. ❤
Wow, this was a really heated session. But i think Bindi sis, didn't really understand the first part of the letter. I think what she meant was, from her few experiences and her observations, most men in her age group are already defiled and those above have in some way been involved in one sexual sin.
But, i think got the second part right. She's self righteous. Calling others sinners isn't godly. Let him who thinks he stands, let him take heed less he falls, the bible admonishes.
But i feel this girls frustration, because it's really. I advise that she should trust God and be patient. God has many god fearing sons for his daughters, including her. But needs to repent from self righteousness and work on her misconceptions. Not all men beyond her age group are immoral. There are still god fearing men who are chased.
Shalom
I like your comment. However, what part of what she said is self righteous? Is it truly self-righteous or is she desiring others to hold the same standard that she does?
@@sheeshneeshit's self righteous because she has no idea if no one else is holding to that same standard and wrongly assumes that those who were sexually impure can't change through the sanctification of the Holy Spirit. Judging people unfairly without getting to know them first
The writer of the letter is absolutely right. That’s what is out there.
Good job also pointing her to the Lord in prayer because it doesn't ONLY lead us to a place of realizing how unholy we ourselves are but also a place of remembrance and a reminder to our spiritual eyes about the beauty of holiness (mentioned by King David in the psalms I think it was) cuz she is right. There is a lot of ugliness in this world and you're right that when we are surrounded by the waves as Peter was ...all we see or tend to see is the physical sickness of this life and the world and it can be overwhelming and time with God vitally refreshes our spirit and heart. Both pride and grief can blind us, and it sounds possibly like she may be dealing with both.
11:20 - 12:40 I hope there is a short for this 🙏🏾 I really want to share this with my nephew and on Facebook but you know how people are with short attn spans! 😊
You have such a beautiful face and pushing your hair back in soft curls looks great you look so much younger
Thanks for your inner and outer beauty and standing for the truth