The first family, so glad that they got it together. The eldest granddaughter did a great job in expressing so that the youngest can understand. Be the light that you wanted to see. Blessings to them all.
The second grandmother seems like she's fighting with her daughter when she looks at her grandaughter, which is sad because she's still grieving her child because she probably feels she fell short when raising her so she harping on her grandbaby but she's not her mom the grandmother needs therapy and see her grandbaby for herself and not her mom dang that's got to be an overwhelming situation for both of them
Well yk it's not new , all u gotta do is communicate . I grew up the same way.. Yea yea both r in an unfortunate , typically unnecessary situation but it's for life and u need to have unconditional love in bond cuz life is not a game and it could b over but it's not everyone's in the flesh still has time here so they should milk it. Both parties need to have respect, appreciation, and resilience 💫💯
@ no she isn’t… she’s exhausted… who wants to raise two generations alone with no husband? I don’t; I imagine I’d be just as exhausted but I would have putbthry a$$ in the system before I have to argue with my daughter/grandchild while still raising her mother
The second one’s narcissism is beyond meee. The type to make you suicidal. She gon be crying wondering what she did or said to make her granddaughter put her in a home or to take her own life😭
The first grandmother does not belong on this “gaslighting grandmas” compilation. She was doing her best. She didn’t get loud or anything. It seems like the grandmother has been dealt a tough hand with raising 7 grand babies and it sounds like she has two disabled children as well.
The first story… She’s goooooooorgeous, but that old school love is tough. I know she wants the best for her because she wasn’t obligated to take her in. They are generations apart and they don’t understand each other, I just hope this relationship can be salvaged, because I see the love.
Case #3, Mom wants credit for her good years, but cannot fathom how the absent abandoned years eroded the value of the good years. Mom is back and daughter expect a new person but they have received a fighter. Fighting to stay clean, fighting to get the respect back that was lost and fighting to remain the person in charge when so much has changed the level of respect and authority has eroded with the years that she served away from the girls. This is pain. Mom must stay strong or will abandon the battle and return to the old.😢.
First one grandma is strict but she has a lot of love for her grandbabies.my grandma was just like her.she presses you because she want the best for you.but as strict as she is,she has as much in love for you guys.just know that.love her as long as you have her .I lost mine when i was 16 it was like losing my Mother, because my mom was sick,now I dont have any family left ,and I am alone,I wish she was still her and my mom .hold on
@@jael44598 Exactly because she is acting like she was Mother of the Year for her own child. Talking crazy to the Dad that has BEEN THERE!!!! Smh it's giving that she is still using or not in recovery because she hasn't tried to mend the relationship that SHE as the mother ruined!!!!
The mother showing off for the cameras. She couldn’t take care of the daughter but judging her dad living situation n how she had to get the grandson. Well mom you went got married n didn’t have to be a fkn parent so your finances n all the things you wanted to do, were fkn accomplished. Dad was struggling and you didn’t give a damn bt you taking care of the grandson is the only accomplishment you could actually feel you’re doing right now. She needs to be a bit more appreciative of the father too though.
Right it doesn't but her exspecting her mom to raise her child is wrong too!! I don't want to hear anything about.I was 19 I was 20 with 2 babies and a horrible childhood raised by a dad who Absolutely had no idea what he was doing. He's still doesn't and my kids are grown.
Yes that mother needs a reality check. Her daughter told them that she wasn’t ready to be a parent so of course she’s not a good parent. Mother you DID NOT even raise her so how the hell she supposed to know how to be a mother when she never had one herself! She’s still a motherless little girl who needs a mother herself. Smdh and to judge the father for not having water on and roaches she outta sit her asx down at least he didn’t abandon her you B****! She owes him an apology and much more respect than that. That girl needs parenting classes and therapy. Her mom really acting like she suffering cuz she taking care of her grandson lol she’s upset cuz she has to be the mom fr this time again bcuz her daughter is unfortunately a horrible mother and she can’t use drugs as an excuse. Step up Grandma help your daughter and help your grandson you’re more than capable. And don’t disrespect her dad that’s y’all support group help each other! But push your daughter to grow up bcuz he’s still her child.
4th family: I feel like parents don’t advise their daughters well when they say don’t have an abortion. I understand taking responsibility for your actions however, why are you going to set your kid up to struggle? You mad now because you’re raising your grandchild & your kid is unstable. She TOLD you she wasn’t ready to be a parent. Kids don’t ask to be here & if you can’t take care of them, don’t have them. And I’m saying this as a child of a teen parent who was raised by a grandparent.
I cannot stand the grandma in the second segment. Every time Karamo does a video with her in it I get irritated by that woman’s words, attitude and behavior towards that child. That first one however was just emotional and tugged at my heart. I hope they’re all doing well today
I hate that lady and I don’t even know her. It seems like she resents her late daughter’s behavior and having to raise her kids, and is taking it out on this young lady. My heart breaks for her. I hope she puts her grandmother in a home as soon as she can.
These grandmas are just awful. They expect respect without ever feeling the need to reciprocate that respect. Being older, much older does not mean that you don't respect the younger ones. They grew up in totalitarian homes and don't want to learn how to parent any differently. The harder you are, the more they are going to rebel - it's a vicious circle. That doesn't mean no discipline - far from it - but it has to be done through reasonable dialogue, love and respect.
Well let them rebel on the streets it's not the grandma's responsibility to raise these children. They are doing it out of love. I wouldn't have them smart mouthing and refusing to do chores in my home.
The first grandchild was wild as hell. I started peeping it, but it was 100% confirmed when she said normal teenagers play with guns bc girl what!? Smh.
In the 3rd segment, the mom is basically saying she doesn’t wanna be challenged because she’s “mom”. Ma’am no! You don’t get to escape taking responsibility for your addiction just because you don’t wanna “live in the past.” I’m not gonna act like it’s not hard to take accountability for heavy crimes especially against your children but fr fr that’s too bad. People like her never want to actually say what they did and apologize for it, they may say sorry but never actually say why or even acknowledge the wrong and that’s not cool because sometimes you have to explain to people that you understand their feelings and where you went wrong. Not doing so is just plain selfish.
Doesn’t seem like the first grandma was a bad grandma , why is she in this line up, that lady is overwhelmed with raising her kids and her grandchildren sound like to me
When she said that she couldn’t spend time being a teenager because she have to take care of her mom, uncle, and other family members that didn’t care much for her. Have to instantly be an adult because they couldn’t be more adult of themselves I completely feel her pain. This makes me want to start my own campaign for teenager and young adults dealing with toxic relationships with their own relatives.
Evil??? That's really harsh, she's just old school and doesn't know any other way to be, but she does love her granddaughter and is at least willing to try.
@@mizzmention8555 nah that lady is evil, and one of the issues is that bs is being excused because it’s “old school.” That needs to stop. A lot of my “old school” elders were abusive too and that’s how emotional and mental issues get passed down…because that treatment never changes. It’s sad too. I hope that young lady breaks that pattern.
@@mizzmention8555 my mama never called me or my child out of they name. Cause calling someone you love a bitch!! Is crazy and I’m sorry that’s disrespectful and evil!!
Grandparents shouldn't be raising grandchildren, it's very unfortunate when they are put in that position. It's hard for them to find balance, they are set in their ways, they are either too strict or too lenient.
I could hear the pain of the daughter in the first case of having to care for someone who has not loved, cared, supported or done anything for you. That takes incredible ❤ and maturity to not be angry & bitter at having to give so much to someone that has given you nothing.
The apple don't fall far from the tree in each situation. The second to last mom irritated me, she never raised her daughter, abandoned her and scolding the daughter for doing the same. These generational curses are evident.
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The first thing the second granddaughter says is “you don’t allow me to speak.” The grandma followed up by saying “yes I do!” And then proceeded to interrupt her for the rest of the segment.
The mother with the purple hair has so easily forgotten that she was ABSENT!!! Just because years go by and people get older hurt doesn’t disappear. My mother left me on a porch of a stranger and walked away when I was 11 months old and people often say “ you’re an adult now”…wtf does that mean? That pain is still there, it hasn’t magically disappeared because it has NEVER been addressed regardless of me being an adult….that little girl that was abandoned still lives inside.
1st grandma was just a traditional strict parent. She did her best and what she thought was best. Good job grandma, you brought up sane grandkids admits the challenges of life ❤
That mother that abandoned her daughter needs a reality check. Her daughter told them that she wasn’t ready to be a parent so of course she’s not a good parent. Mother you DID NOT even raise her so how the hell she supposed to know how to be a mother when she never had one herself! She’s still a motherless little girl who needs a mother herself. Smdh and to judge the father for not having water on and roaches she outta sit down at least he didn’t abandon her. She owes him an apology and much more respect than that. That girl needs parenting classes and therapy. Her mom really acting like she suffering cuz she taking care of her grandson lol she’s upset cuz she has to be the mom fr this time again bcuz her daughter is unfortunately a horrible mother and she can’t use drugs as an excuse to abandon them. Step up Grandma help your daughter and help your grandson you’re more than capable. And don’t disrespect her dad that’s y’all support group help each other! But push your daughter to grow up bcuz he’s still her child.
Rite in didn't she call the police on her daughter but acting like she mad but she not cause she wanted the baby in the first place the nerves of her she pissed me off
The problem is several generations of mothers dumping their kids on the grandmother who is in the last half of her own life. When she not their you guys will regret it forever, that pain will follow you through life.
48:29 She left her child she doesnt get to tell a 19 years old who knows she isnt ready to be a mom that she doesn't Yet to make her own decisions as far as keeping the baby or not. At least dad.Was there doing what he needed to do.i was 20 with 2 babies with unstable childhood so NO EXCUSE.BUT I SEE WHERE HER DAUGHTER FEELS LIKE HER " MOTHER" IS USING THIS BABY BOY AND UP ON HER HIGH HORSE!! 50:20 YOU DO OWE HER !! YOU DONT LEAVE YOUR KIDS!! 52:56 She's not ready because she didn't have a mother to teach her.How to be one. 1:10:50 I BELIVE HIM 💯 %
Wait a minute now.. a g e d is hard work too and you can still go to college with a GED. It don't matter with her granddaughter does she just better get a GED or high school diploma cuz both of them will take you where u need to go
How you mad about somebody else treating your granddaughter the right way as a grandmother role model but I’m glad her grandma atleast got the concept and I see her grandma love for her tho
That last mother I feel her pain not to be able to morn your child then to have to take over and not be understood. I pray they get it together ❤️ and strengthen.
If had to tell my mother what the first grandchild said, I would have been deleted right there. Go out with your friends? Where , with who's money? You go out with your family at that age.
@@princessdon6542 It has to be at appropriate hours. Inform where they are going, with whom, what plans they have. If it's someone's house, will an adult be there?Communication is key, and respect curfew.
Right! You are not ENTITLED to hang out time. Tf? That’s a privilege in response to taking care of home & school obligations AND evidence that you make good decisions & can be trusted. Who tf telling they grandma “I’m not doin all dat” in response to being asked to do the dishes??! Ungrateful.
The grandparents don’t realize it but they are causing the grand children to become resentful toward them and that never goes away and is difficult to work through. Grandmothers, please show love to those children with all you do, choose your words carefully and be a loving Godly example. Life and death is in the power of the tongue…what comes out of your mouth has the ability to tear down or build up. These precious grandchildren have been abandoned already n their minds by their own parents. Please find ways to build your relationship in a positive way. Using fear, anger, threats, and slapping and/or hitting NEVER accomplish anything positive. The fact that the girls make good grades tells you that they are responsible young ladies already.
I just reconnected with my 81 year old grandmother for a long time we were estranged due to my father I was encouraged by my boyfriend to reconcile and reconnect with my grandmother and when I finally did I felt so good to finally talk to my grandmother like I said she's 81 and someday she's not going to be here anymore so I wanted to reconnect with her before it was too late she's the only grandmother I have left because I lost my other grandmother when I was 13 to lung cancer
U should of did that on ur own it shouldn't took ur boyfriend to tell u to do that luv cause life to short whateva they did forgiveness is the key 🔐 not saying u have to forget what they did to u but hope everything went well for u in the family
I think this caption is wrong I didn’t see not one bad grandmother or bad grandchild I see a two people from two different generations that have a hard time understanding each other I was raised by grandma and we A LOT OF DOWNS but we also had a lot ups and me knowing my grandmother’s history it’s makes me understand her more and me being a parent now I understand her way more because no one taught me and it don’t come with no manual so I have to grow up and teach myself how to grow but I also have to teach this little person how to grow and from the grandparent side their starting over so their overwhelming I get it but I wish I knew what I knew now because I wouldn’t have done half the things I did. Rest peacefully grandma 🕊️
The last grandmother is hurting. The grandson is afraid, but he didn't seem so hurt. They are both still grieving, but it's been harder on grandmother. She fought the fight to make sure the kids were financially stable, but I still feel there should be something there for her. No exceptions.
4th family: I feel like parents don’t advise their daughters well when they say don’t have an abortion. I understand taking responsibility for your actions however, why are you going to set your kid up to struggle? You mad now because you’re raising your grandchild & your kid is unstable. She TOLD you she wasn’t ready to be a parent. Kids don’t ask to be here & if you can’t take care of them, don’t have them. And I’m saying this as a child of a teen parent who was raised by my grandma
Case # 2. As the police says, you must know where they are, so that they can locate and find them in times of danger. If they disappear with no info of their whereabout, then how can helpers know where to look and where to begin if dangers happen. So you have to ask where they will be to alert anyone who comes to help if danger or harm comes.. If only they understood the tears & fears of what young people can fall into.
I ain't mad at none of these GRANNIES!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Beside calling anyone out their name. NAWH after watching it all I take that BACK some of these heffas TRIFLIN' old or NOT!
First kid just wanna go be fast and is hella entitled 🤷🏾♀️ Granny said hell nawl, I dropped the ball once with ya mama & that won’t be happening again on MY watch ✊🏾
@@Ih8EVERYTHINGaboutYOU but she shouldn't have to take care of her uncle and mother she deserves to be a child she basically had to grow up fast I would wanna go hang out with my friends to if I had to always take care if my mother and uncle im sure she appreciates her grandmother but i feel like that isbt her responsibility
Case #4.. Is the silent scream that T.D. Jake's talks about. "Mom please help me. I know I made a Huge boo boo & I am just not ready and don't know how or what to do, with all of this responsibility. I hear the screams and see the shame of letting her parents down and not being truly prepared for ALL that it takes to be a decent parent.
Second grandmother been dealing with a lot by her children not being able to take care of their children. The cousin said her mom use to have her call her grandmother instead of her mother being a mother to her herself. Clearly granny gets frustrated like hell too. It’s a lot for all of them.
4:10 Grandma is supposed to be the adult here!! She can help yes shes old enough to help out but, She also deserves to be a teenager while she can, They grow up sooo fast !! Grandma needs to get adult help ,NEVER TELL A CHILD YOU HATE THEM,THAT STICKS WITH THEM FOR LIFE EVEN IF SHE WAS JUST SPEAKING OUT OF ANGER AND FRUSTRATION!! 9:03 KIDS ARENT RESPONSIBLE FOR BEING ADULTS
Periodtt in they say people speak the truth in the heat of the moment so I believe she kind of meant what she said that's why they say think before u speak cause words hurt even if u say u didn't mean to say that u was just mad or trying to hurt them but that's not the way
She KEEPS saying "IM MAMA", but her daughter hasn't GOTTEN OVER ALL THE YEARS WHEN SHE WASN'T BEING A MAMA TO HER. Mom wants respect that she SQUANDERED and hasn't YET EARNED AGAIN.
Why was the 2nd grandmother not called out??!! Just because people in her generation let abuse slide when raising children does not mean it is right and she can keep doing it. It's gross to make fun of the shooting comment.
I can see how the grandma is argumentative in the 2nd show. One minute grandma don't want her to respond/talk back, but turn around say she doesn't say anything after I tell her to do something.
A sorry granddaughter. She only cares for herself. I have a granddaughter just like her I have nothing to do with her. She is so disrespectful. I had my son to buy her a brand new SUV. If I never see her again I will be happy. She dresses naked tattoos everywhere, Pearson everywhere.
Karamo I wish you could do a class on. A few seconds after moments of love has ended. The battle of loving another little person that needs what you never got begins. A few seconds after birth it begins, and whether he runs or stays, disappears or comes in and out. You have to be all to that little person beyond what you lived through and endured.
😂😂😂If grandma is taking care of this girl, this girl should be grateful that her grandma is the most responsible of her parents, since the lady should be resting, enjoying her old age, playing bingo, going on cruises, but look how admirable the old lady is, taking care of this demon who does not understand that her parents did not love her and did not take care of her, now she has to know that what grandma says is the law, even if she wants to go with her friends, she can't because if grandma doesn't want her, she is the one who has been in charge of her all this time for her entire life, now she comes out with crocodile tears 🤣
The first grandma was left to raise all of them grandbabies. Grandma needs a break, too. She doesn't have anyone to help her. Her granddaughter has to understand that too. It's not to punish her. She just need some help too.
Case # 3 Mom has battle in prison to survive and stay alive and has been shut down plenty of times by others while inside, but to be shut down, and dismissed on the outside is something she won't crawl & beg for.
You want this baby to respect you when you've admitted and your behavior shows that you DON'T WANT HER! I'd call another woman my grandmother too!!!!!! Boyfriends mother treats her better!!!!!!!
The first family, so glad that they got it together. The eldest granddaughter did a great job in expressing so that the youngest can understand. Be the light that you wanted to see. Blessings to them all.
Agreed, but i wish they acknowledge the abuse though...oldest said she got whoopings, youngest has things being thrown at her...
@@groundzero2088 Woopins? Abuse or a spanking are two different things right ?
@@perfectlyimperfect9129 Not at all…beating you kids is wrong no matter what excuse you want to use.
The second grandmother seems like she's fighting with her daughter when she looks at her grandaughter, which is sad because she's still grieving her child because she probably feels she fell short when raising her so she harping on her grandbaby but she's not her mom the grandmother needs therapy and see her grandbaby for herself and not her mom dang that's got to be an overwhelming situation for both of them
Nah just for the kid
Well yk it's not new , all u gotta do is communicate . I grew up the same way.. Yea yea both r in an unfortunate , typically unnecessary situation but it's for life and u need to have unconditional love in bond cuz life is not a game and it could b over but it's not everyone's in the flesh still has time here so they should milk it. Both parties need to have respect, appreciation, and resilience 💫💯
The second grandmother was so accountable and real
That second grandmother is INSUFFERABLE. GOOD LORD.
She kinda make me laugh though 🤣🤣 “It ain’t went nowhere!” 17:35 🤣🤣
You can see on Karamo’s face that he genuinely loves people and loves the role he gets to play in people’s life.
Second granny narcissistic. Old school narcissism is the worst!
She walked out there like she was going to hurt someone.
All narcissist ALL HORRIBLE TO DEAL WITH
She’s annoying but not a narcissist…
@@blessingsguidance nahh, she definitely only thinks about herself.
@ no she isn’t… she’s exhausted… who wants to raise two generations alone with no husband? I don’t; I imagine I’d be just as exhausted but I would have putbthry a$$ in the system before I have to argue with my daughter/grandchild while still raising her mother
The second one’s narcissism is beyond meee. The type to make you suicidal. She gon be crying wondering what she did or said to make her granddaughter put her in a home or to take her own life😭
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Not even crying. Just trying to play victim
@@bellarose8630 exactly😭
The first grandmother does not belong on this “gaslighting grandmas” compilation. She was doing her best. She didn’t get loud or anything. It seems like the grandmother has been dealt a tough hand with raising 7 grand babies and it sounds like she has two disabled children as well.
@@NurseKayP I completely agree !
Was thinking the same thing
The first story… She’s goooooooorgeous, but that old school love is tough. I know she wants the best for her because she wasn’t obligated to take her in. They are generations apart and they don’t understand each other, I just hope this relationship can be salvaged, because I see the love.
Case #3, Mom wants credit for her good years, but cannot fathom how the absent abandoned years eroded the value of the good years. Mom is back and daughter expect a new person but they have received a fighter. Fighting to stay clean, fighting to get the respect back that was lost and fighting to remain the person in charge when so much has changed the level of respect and authority has eroded with the years that she served away from the girls. This is pain. Mom must stay strong or will abandon the battle and return to the old.😢.
First one grandma is strict but she has a lot of love for her grandbabies.my grandma was just like her.she presses you because she want the best for you.but as strict as she is,she has as much in love for you guys.just know that.love her as long as you have her .I lost mine when i was 16 it was like losing my Mother, because my mom was sick,now I dont have any family left ,and I am alone,I wish she was still her and my mom .hold on
The 4th mom is so defensive when she was the one to abandoned her daughter. You taking care of her son doesn’t erase the fact that you left her
@@jael44598 Exactly because she is acting like she was Mother of the Year for her own child. Talking crazy to the Dad that has BEEN THERE!!!! Smh it's giving that she is still using or not in recovery because she hasn't tried to mend the relationship that SHE as the mother ruined!!!!
The mother showing off for the cameras. She couldn’t take care of the daughter but judging her dad living situation n how she had to get the grandson. Well mom you went got married n didn’t have to be a fkn parent so your finances n all the things you wanted to do, were fkn accomplished. Dad was struggling and you didn’t give a damn bt you taking care of the grandson is the only accomplishment you could actually feel you’re doing right now. She needs to be a bit more appreciative of the father too though.
Right it doesn't but her exspecting her mom to raise her child is wrong too!! I don't want to hear anything about.I was 19 I was 20 with 2 babies and a horrible childhood raised by a dad who Absolutely had no idea what he was doing. He's still doesn't and my kids are grown.
Ppl are calling the 2nd grandma a narcissist but the 2nd Mother seems cold AF
Yes that mother needs a reality check. Her daughter told them that she wasn’t ready to be a parent so of course she’s not a good parent. Mother you DID NOT even raise her so how the hell she supposed to know how to be a mother when she never had one herself! She’s still a motherless little girl who needs a mother herself. Smdh and to judge the father for not having water on and roaches she outta sit her asx down at least he didn’t abandon her you B****! She owes him an apology and much more respect than that. That girl needs parenting classes and therapy. Her mom really acting like she suffering cuz she taking care of her grandson lol she’s upset cuz she has to be the mom fr this time again bcuz her daughter is unfortunately a horrible mother and she can’t use drugs as an excuse. Step up Grandma help your daughter and help your grandson you’re more than capable. And don’t disrespect her dad that’s y’all support group help each other! But push your daughter to grow up bcuz he’s still her child.
4th family: I feel like parents don’t advise their daughters well when they say don’t have an abortion. I understand taking responsibility for your actions however, why are you going to set your kid up to struggle? You mad now because you’re raising your grandchild & your kid is unstable. She TOLD you she wasn’t ready to be a parent. Kids don’t ask to be here & if you can’t take care of them, don’t have them. And I’m saying this as a child of a teen parent who was raised by a grandparent.
The kids in the first video should be lucky to have a grandma like that.
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I cannot stand the grandma in the second segment. Every time Karamo does a video with her in it I get irritated by that woman’s words, attitude and behavior towards that child.
That first one however was just emotional and tugged at my heart. I hope they’re all doing well today
I hate that lady and I don’t even know her. It seems like she resents her late daughter’s behavior and having to raise her kids, and is taking it out on this young lady. My heart breaks for her.
I hope she puts her grandmother in a home as soon as she can.
@@SonnyBlowdro They Should have gone to live with their FATHER!!
@@twosweet4742 ok so you track them down and tell them that.
So she been on the show before
These grandmas are just awful. They expect respect without ever feeling the need to reciprocate that respect. Being older, much older does not mean that you don't respect the younger ones. They grew up in totalitarian homes and don't want to learn how to parent any differently. The harder you are, the more they are going to rebel - it's a vicious circle. That doesn't mean no discipline - far from it - but it has to be done through reasonable dialogue, love and respect.
Beggars cant be choosers. You are correct they should not discipline them. They should put them all in the foster care system. Ungrateful brats!
Well let them rebel on the streets it's not the grandma's responsibility to raise these children. They are doing it out of love. I wouldn't have them smart mouthing and refusing to do chores in my home.
The first grandmother is absolutely NOT a gaslighter. Grandma truly loves her grandchildren. No manipulation whatsoever.
Cherish your grandparents while they’re here because I wish I had my grandparents
This show has taught me how to listen understand ask the right questions and how to communicate with people thank you
The 4th grandma talking alot of mess to have done the same thing to her child.😮
That mother is dealing with herself inside herself, she’s mad at herself for abandoning her own child
Periodtt that's all I'm saying
5:34 “ normal teenagers do that” as a 16-year-old I do not play with guns. Fytb
Exactly!!!! I was like “where?!”
The first grandchild was wild as hell. I started peeping it, but it was 100% confirmed when she said normal teenagers play with guns bc girl what!? Smh.
In the 3rd segment, the mom is basically saying she doesn’t wanna be challenged because she’s “mom”. Ma’am no! You don’t get to escape taking responsibility for your addiction just because you don’t wanna “live in the past.” I’m not gonna act like it’s not hard to take accountability for heavy crimes especially against your children but fr fr that’s too bad. People like her never want to actually say what they did and apologize for it, they may say sorry but never actually say why or even acknowledge the wrong and that’s not cool because sometimes you have to explain to people that you understand their feelings and where you went wrong. Not doing so is just plain selfish.
Doesn’t seem like the first grandma was a bad grandma , why is she in this line up, that lady is overwhelmed with raising her kids and her grandchildren sound like to me
When she said that she couldn’t spend time being a teenager because she have to take care of her mom, uncle, and other family members that didn’t care much for her. Have to instantly be an adult because they couldn’t be more adult of themselves I completely feel her pain. This makes me want to start my own campaign for teenager and young adults dealing with toxic relationships with their own relatives.
Me to if u do lmk I want to have parts in help to
The second grandmother is evil. She isn't loving and draining.
I wouldn't be surprised if the girl becomes estranged.
Evil??? That's really harsh, she's just old school and doesn't know any other way to be, but she does love her granddaughter and is at least willing to try.
@@mizzmention8555 nah that lady is evil, and one of the issues is that bs is being excused because it’s “old school.” That needs to stop. A lot of my “old school” elders were abusive too and that’s how emotional and mental issues get passed down…because that treatment never changes. It’s sad too. I hope that young lady breaks that pattern.
@@SonnyBlowdroI think it’ll change for Zaniah she’s a very smart young lady I hope she goes to college and is a wonderful mother one day 🩷
@@mizzmention8555 my mama never called me or my child out of they name. Cause calling someone you love a bitch!! Is crazy and I’m sorry that’s disrespectful and evil!!
Grandparents shouldn't be raising grandchildren, it's very unfortunate when they are put in that position. It's hard for them to find balance, they are set in their ways, they are either too strict or too lenient.
I could hear the pain of the daughter in the first case of having to care for someone who has not loved, cared, supported or done anything for you. That takes incredible ❤ and maturity to not be angry & bitter at having to give so much to someone that has given you nothing.
Gma in red shirt needs more appreciation 😢❤
If my grandma said those things that she said I would never appreciate her I would never give her anything
The apple don't fall far from the tree in each situation. The second to last mom irritated me, she never raised her daughter, abandoned her and scolding the daughter for doing the same. These generational curses are evident.
I felt for all these grandbabies 😞 that first family gonna be alright 🙏
I pray for everyone who's going through a hard time right now, who's crying behind closed doors, faking a smile everyday, or mentally not feeling like themselves .. better days are coming i promise, just pray it through 💕🇧🇸🇧🇸
Patrice, Is The Most Beautiful Young Lady, I Have Ever Seen And Listened To On This Show. There Should Be A Movie Called, Patrice. She Deserves To Be Happy, After All That She’s Been Through. God Bless Her. So Talented and Gifted💐
The first thing the second granddaughter says is “you don’t allow me to speak.” The grandma followed up by saying “yes I do!” And then proceeded to interrupt her for the rest of the segment.
I thought I was the only one who saw that as if she was jealous or some like ion get this grandparents
ALL OF THESE GRANDMAS DRESSING UP ABUSE AS DISCIPLINE IS DISGRACEFUL!
The mother with the purple hair has so easily forgotten that she was ABSENT!!! Just because years go by and people get older hurt doesn’t disappear. My mother left me on a porch of a stranger and walked away when I was 11 months old and people often say “ you’re an adult now”…wtf does that mean? That pain is still there, it hasn’t magically disappeared because it has NEVER been addressed regardless of me being an adult….that little girl that was abandoned still lives inside.
1st grandma was just a traditional strict parent. She did her best and what she thought was best. Good job grandma, you brought up sane grandkids admits the challenges of life ❤
This is why it's important that STRONG BLACK MEN AKA BLACK FATHERS needs to be in the Households with strong Love and Structures
That mother that abandoned her daughter needs a reality check. Her daughter told them that she wasn’t ready to be a parent so of course she’s not a good parent. Mother you DID NOT even raise her so how the hell she supposed to know how to be a mother when she never had one herself! She’s still a motherless little girl who needs a mother herself. Smdh and to judge the father for not having water on and roaches she outta sit down at least he didn’t abandon her. She owes him an apology and much more respect than that. That girl needs parenting classes and therapy. Her mom really acting like she suffering cuz she taking care of her grandson lol she’s upset cuz she has to be the mom fr this time again bcuz her daughter is unfortunately a horrible mother and she can’t use drugs as an excuse to abandon them. Step up Grandma help your daughter and help your grandson you’re more than capable. And don’t disrespect her dad that’s y’all support group help each other! But push your daughter to grow up bcuz he’s still her child.
Rite in didn't she call the police on her daughter but acting like she mad but she not cause she wanted the baby in the first place the nerves of her she pissed me off
@@TheeGoddessQUEEN The way she held her head down and cried the entire time😢
The problem is several generations of mothers dumping their kids on the grandmother who is in the last half of her own life. When she not their you guys will regret it forever, that pain will follow you through life.
Where are the Fathers in these situations?
😂😂 making more fatherless babies....
@@nottodaylilbaldhead you not wrong! Sadly
IN JAIL OR DEADBEAT, IN THE STREETS DONT GIVE A DAMN. WHAT ELSE IS NEW WITH ALL BLACK MEN? Shit Smoking Weed, selling drugs for Hobby
Wish we could ask them
They gone.
Her grandmother is fowl at the mouth and heart which is probably why her mom was like she was. She just COLD!!😢
48:29 She left her child she doesnt get to tell a 19 years old who knows she isnt ready to be a mom that she doesn't Yet to make her own decisions as far as keeping the baby or not. At least dad.Was there doing what he needed to do.i was 20 with 2 babies with unstable childhood so NO EXCUSE.BUT I SEE WHERE HER DAUGHTER FEELS LIKE HER " MOTHER" IS USING THIS BABY BOY AND UP ON HER HIGH HORSE!! 50:20 YOU DO OWE HER !! YOU DONT LEAVE YOUR KIDS!! 52:56 She's not ready because she didn't have a mother to teach her.How to be one. 1:10:50 I BELIVE HIM 💯 %
That red suit is everything on Karamo
Wait a minute now.. a g e d is hard work too and you can still go to college with a GED. It don't matter with her granddaughter does she just better get a GED or high school diploma cuz both of them will take you where u need to go
OK, the grandmother in the blue she’s horrible. She’s horrible. These kids lost a mother so bad that she lost her daughter, but they lost a mother.
How you mad about somebody else treating your granddaughter the right way as a grandmother role model but I’m glad her grandma atleast got the concept and I see her grandma love for her tho
3rd mom: "I've never abandoned my daughter." Except to drugs!
That last mother I feel her pain not to be able to morn your child then to have to take over and not be understood. I pray they get it together ❤️ and strengthen.
My grandmother was old school! Old school! She would’ve never called me a bech!
The 2nd grandma gonna push that poor girl far far away from her!
Whew! This compilation is heavy. Have your therapist ready.
Black Women are going through Too Much!! Not nearly enough Black Men are Stepping UP to take care of their children and grandchildren!!!
How you gonna say you ain't gonna hurt her... but 3 sentences ago you said you beat the child up!
The last grandma needs to grieve 😢she had me crying
Karamo got me crying on this first story!
If had to tell my mother what the first grandchild said, I would have been deleted right there. Go out with your friends? Where , with who's money? You go out with your family at that age.
Right! Go where? Under who's roof? I feel so much sorry for the grandparents that are placed in the position to raise grandchildren.
@@noreenm5018 and that's ok to you?
that’s kinda weird just because she’s a teenager she can’t hang out with her friends?
@@princessdon6542 It has to be at appropriate hours. Inform where they are going, with whom, what plans they have. If it's someone's house, will an adult be there?Communication is key, and respect curfew.
Right! You are not ENTITLED to hang out time. Tf? That’s a privilege in response to taking care of home & school obligations AND evidence that you make good decisions & can be trusted.
Who tf telling they grandma “I’m not doin all dat” in response to being asked to do the dishes??! Ungrateful.
The grandparents don’t realize it but they are causing the grand children to become resentful toward them and that never goes away and is difficult to work through. Grandmothers, please show love to those children with all you do, choose your words carefully and be a loving Godly example. Life and death is in the power of the tongue…what comes out of your mouth has the ability to tear down or build up. These precious grandchildren have been abandoned already n their minds by their own parents. Please find ways to build your relationship in a positive way. Using fear, anger, threats, and slapping and/or hitting NEVER accomplish anything positive. The fact that the girls make good grades tells you that they are responsible young ladies already.
I just reconnected with my 81 year old grandmother for a long time we were estranged due to my father I was encouraged by my boyfriend to reconcile and reconnect with my grandmother and when I finally did I felt so good to finally talk to my grandmother like I said she's 81 and someday she's not going to be here anymore so I wanted to reconnect with her before it was too late she's the only grandmother I have left because I lost my other grandmother when I was 13 to lung cancer
U should of did that on ur own it shouldn't took ur boyfriend to tell u to do that luv cause life to short whateva they did forgiveness is the key 🔐 not saying u have to forget what they did to u but hope everything went well for u in the family
@hazelmaben you don't know nothing you don't know the story that's why you think that way
I think this caption is wrong I didn’t see not one bad grandmother or bad grandchild I see a two people from two different generations that have a hard time understanding each other I was raised by grandma and we A LOT OF DOWNS but we also had a lot ups and me knowing my grandmother’s history it’s makes me understand her more and me being a parent now I understand her way more because no one taught me and it don’t come with no manual so I have to grow up and teach myself how to grow but I also have to teach this little person how to grow and from the grandparent side their starting over so their overwhelming I get it but I wish I knew what I knew now because I wouldn’t have done half the things I did. Rest peacefully grandma 🕊️
Great job, Grandma!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ It's hard to raise someone's kids after you've raised you own.
Second grandmother "old school is the best way" no the hell its not its why there's generations of abuse and mental and emotional instability
The last grandmother showed us well and her grief is very present and she needs to grieve be cared for and have counseling.
The last grandmother is hurting. The grandson is afraid, but he didn't seem so hurt. They are both still grieving, but it's been harder on grandmother. She fought the fight to make sure the kids were financially stable, but I still feel there should be something there for her. No exceptions.
9:06 🤦🏽♀️ but it’s harder to get a GED than a diploma
No it's not
4th family: I feel like parents don’t advise their daughters well when they say don’t have an abortion. I understand taking responsibility for your actions however, why are you going to set your kid up to struggle? You mad now because you’re raising your grandchild & your kid is unstable. She TOLD you she wasn’t ready to be a parent. Kids don’t ask to be here & if you can’t take care of them, don’t have them. And I’m saying this as a child of a teen parent who was raised by my grandma
Case # 2. As the police says, you must know where they are, so that they can locate and find them in times of danger. If they disappear with no info of their whereabout, then how can helpers know where to look and where to begin if dangers happen. So you have to ask where they will be to alert anyone who comes to help if danger or harm comes.. If only they understood the tears & fears of what young people can fall into.
Ummm excuse me ma’am, I have my GED and went on to get my Bachelor’s & Masters so your opinion on having a GED makes you lazy is not valid 🤦🏽♀️
I got my GED….. no job has ever asked to see proof that I graduated. It’s a yes or no question on the application
Periodtt it's bout the same thing except walking on stage in going to all this different classes smh the nerves of people
That 2nd grandmother is horrible
Evil af
2nd grandma is holding on to some bitterness and she sounds like Nell Carter
Gimme a break😂😂😂
i’m in tears
I ain't mad at none of these GRANNIES!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Beside calling anyone out their name.
NAWH after watching it all I take that BACK some of these heffas TRIFLIN' old or NOT!
First kid just wanna go be fast and is hella entitled 🤷🏾♀️ Granny said hell nawl, I dropped the ball once with ya mama & that won’t be happening again on MY watch ✊🏾
@@Ih8EVERYTHINGaboutYOU but she shouldn't have to take care of her uncle and mother she deserves to be a child she basically had to grow up fast I would wanna go hang out with my friends to if I had to always take care if my mother and uncle im sure she appreciates her grandmother but i feel like that isbt her responsibility
25:24 Karamo: What do you want to happen today?
Grandma: I don’t know what Zaniyah need to do.
I'm sending a hug to Patrice ❤
Case #4.. Is the silent scream that T.D. Jake's talks about. "Mom please help me. I know I made a Huge boo boo & I am just not ready and don't know how or what to do, with all of this responsibility. I hear the screams and see the shame of letting her parents down and not being truly prepared for ALL that it takes to be a decent parent.
Second grandmother been dealing with a lot by her children not being able to take care of their children. The cousin said her mom use to have her call her grandmother instead of her mother being a mother to her herself. Clearly granny gets frustrated like hell too. It’s a lot for all of them.
Case # 1, I bet she is eager and delighted to head to college, it's an escape from non stop care giving.
4:10 Grandma is supposed to be the adult here!! She can help yes shes old enough to help out but, She also deserves to be a teenager while she can, They grow up sooo fast !! Grandma needs to get adult help ,NEVER TELL A CHILD YOU HATE THEM,THAT STICKS WITH THEM FOR LIFE EVEN IF SHE WAS JUST SPEAKING OUT OF ANGER AND FRUSTRATION!! 9:03 KIDS ARENT RESPONSIBLE FOR BEING ADULTS
Periodtt in they say people speak the truth in the heat of the moment so I believe she kind of meant what she said that's why they say think before u speak cause words hurt even if u say u didn't mean to say that u was just mad or trying to hurt them but that's not the way
41:41 you have to be a respectful person to get respect. The Momma needs to grow up!
She KEEPS saying "IM MAMA", but her daughter hasn't GOTTEN OVER ALL THE YEARS WHEN SHE WASN'T BEING A MAMA TO HER. Mom wants respect that she SQUANDERED and hasn't YET EARNED AGAIN.
Why was the 2nd grandmother not called out??!! Just because people in her generation let abuse slide when raising children does not mean it is right and she can keep doing it. It's gross to make fun of the shooting comment.
Lord have mercy 😢key word Mental Health😢prayers for the family 🙏❤️
@@rubyhunter9769 It’s definitely Mental Illness being passed down from grandma to child to grandchild
Mental Health is missing in the Black Communities
Grandma is still going to throw hot sauce bottles when she gets mad she is not about to ask for a hug in its place…I see it in her eyes 😂
😂 the titleee
Good show
Case #4 Momma gets the Games, but is missing that I really need you now, please help me and don't punish & wound me as you help me.
Case #4. I never had my mom, I need her help, maybe the baby can get from her what I never had the privilege to receive.
A wepon is not a toy
the first girl needs to get her life together shes spoiled rotten
I can see how the grandma is argumentative in the 2nd show. One minute grandma don't want her to respond/talk back, but turn around say she doesn't say anything after I tell her to do something.
The 2nd grandma mother is tired.
A sorry granddaughter. She only cares for herself. I have a granddaughter just like her I have nothing to do with her. She is so disrespectful. I had my son to buy her a brand new SUV. If I never see her again I will be happy. She dresses naked tattoos everywhere, Pearson everywhere.
Karamo I wish you could do a class on. A few seconds after moments of love has ended. The battle of loving another little person that needs what you never got begins. A few seconds after birth it begins, and whether he runs or stays, disappears or comes in and out. You have to be all to that little person beyond what you lived through and endured.
😂😂😂If grandma is taking care of this girl, this girl should be grateful that her grandma is the most responsible of her parents, since the lady should be resting, enjoying her old age, playing bingo, going on cruises, but look how admirable the old lady is, taking care of this demon who does not understand that her parents did not love her and did not take care of her, now she has to know that what grandma says is the law, even if she wants to go with her friends, she can't because if grandma doesn't want her, she is the one who has been in charge of her all this time for her entire life, now she comes out with crocodile tears 🤣
The first grandma is good. These kids are something else
What type of person would not automatically give their grandmother money?
The first grandma was left to raise all of them grandbabies. Grandma needs a break, too. She doesn't have anyone to help her. Her granddaughter has to understand that too. It's not to punish her. She just need some help too.
I miss my nanas so much😢they both passed away recently 2023 &2024❤
Old school parenting is obviously not the way.
Case # 3 Mom has battle in prison to survive and stay alive and has been shut down plenty of times by others while inside, but to be shut down, and dismissed on the outside is something she won't crawl & beg for.
You want this baby to respect you when you've admitted and your behavior shows that you DON'T WANT HER! I'd call another woman my grandmother too!!!!!! Boyfriends mother treats her better!!!!!!!
The last grandmother grief is strong