As somebody who’s part Mexican, I feel comfortable saying that the idea of somebody from Mexico saying they won’t eat food in Japan because I think it’s unclean is absolutely fucking wild to me.
she is a terrible but i got to defend her on this on, 7-10% of all raw fish in the u.s. tested positive for salmonella but saying you won't eat mexican food in mexico i just pure racism.
I thought she was super American and she sounds like it. I feel like she likes the tourist areas of Mexico and her BIL probably lives outside of major cities
@@benji_kayWell, that is in the US. Japan is way stricter with their food regulations especially with sushi. You can't compare Japan to the US about fish handling and preparation 😂😂😂😂
Honestly when I found out she was Mexican I was shocked. As a Mexican, I apologize for the ignorance of that person. Plus, traveling in a different country and figuring it out is half the fun😅
Omg the chat proposal was THE CUTEST!🎉🎉🎉 And your reactions were the absolute sweetest ❤ always enjoyed this pod but yall have really grown on me with your humble and genuine personalities. What a sweet moment to "witness". And how funny to enter back into the story with first sentence referencing "spawn of Satan" 😂 what a total 180 convo shift! Lol!!
My son and now DIL got married in April here in the States and had a wedding reception in Japan beforehand in March, as my DIL is from Japan. I was fortunate to be able to not only attend the reception, but also stay in Japan for 16 days (I work from home and was able to work half days, use PTO, etc. to take an extended vacation). At 45 yrs old, I feel like a late bloomer, as it was my first trip overseas, and even though I had learned some Japanese through Duo Lingo, I did not feel prepared and I knew I would be solo traveling most of the trip, as the kiddos were very busy with wedding prep, etc. I wish I'd had a guide for the days I was on my own. I had a blast and made many a friend/lifetime memory, especially on the days I was on my own. Japan is a magical place and I cannot wait to go back.
I forgot to add that my son's new in laws (can I call them my in laws also?) ARE AMAZING and I was down for every gathering that trip brought. I really don't get how this "friend" managed to ruin a trip to Japan.
I’ve travelled with a few people over the years who have lived very sheltered lives. The discomfort that accompanies being in completely unfamiliar settings and situations all the time doesn’t always have the best effect on one’s personality. It’s hard, and you can never quite look at them the same way again if they go ugly.
This reminded me of two friends who said 4 hours sleep while on out of town vacation is acceptable. Their logic is more time should be spent exploring and enjoying the experience, etc. I'm a person who sleeps 7-8 hours a day and don't function well with less than 6 hours of sleep. For me, out of town vacation should include enjoying the experience, relaxing and having fun. How could I relax and have fun if I'm too tired and lack sleep. I realized I traveled with the wrong set of friends 😁
That friend was treating her friend like a tour guide/travel agent on a trip. Expected her to plan and pay for everything, translate, take her to rural areas, order for her all of food or drinks for her. If she expected this kind of treatment she should have paid someone for it.
When going on a trip with someone always ask the following: 1. what kind of activities/things are you hoping to do? 2. what kind of budget do you have? 3. when do you usually get up? 4. how much walking are you usually doing? 5. Are you happy doing activities on your own? (Very important!) This will help for managing expectations and open up a conversation. I have this one good friend I won‘t be going on holidays with, just because we have different paces. She likes to take breaks every 45 minutes, which drives me up the wazooo as we can‘t get anything done. Doesn‘t mean she is a bad person. I have another friend and we match in terms of travelling styles almost perfectly.Just not in terms of time to get ready. She can just be „let‘s go“ and be out the door in 5 min. I need at least 30 minutes to do anything. So we just agreed that we need to schedule a time before hand so we can individually just do whatever we need to get ready. Let‘s say „out the door by 9“ - I do whatever I need to be able to leave by 9 (i am so slow in the morning) and she goes for a walk, coffeshop and whatnot and we both leave at 9. both are happy. That‘s why Nr. 5 is so important!
I have become increasingly disabled (me/cfs) and have gone from being able to walk some, with repercussions (more sick if I push the envelope) to now needing an electric wheelchair to move outside of the house and need quite a bit of time (like hrs) before I am in any shape to do so I am lucky that I have a few friends who are understanding of my limitations and adapt a lot when travelling with me, while I try to keep in mind how freely I would like to travel if I were abled and afford my friends freedom to do some exploring without being bound by my limitations
I’m Mexican and if I go to Japan or another country in which doesn’t speak English or Spanish, I’ll try to learn their language like the basics so I can communicate or at least ask for help
if youre the only broke one in the friend group, get good at sitting in the middle seat and holding everyones' jackets when they're on the dance floor.
I don't travel much, but a few times my husband and I have gone to Vegas. I'm super happy he's an early sleeper, as soon as he falls asleep I hit the casino. I don't leave the hotel/casino were staying in, but I love those few alone hours each night.
I went to Japan in 2024. I had researched about what was appropriate and what isn't. I already knew tipping was frowned on. I was surprised to find some places had tipping jars, but mostly no tipping allowed.
I feel like it’s turned into a case-by-case thing over the last couple of decades. Most places still won’t do it, but if you’re in a touristy area it’s more likely you’ll see a tip jar
Don't know if someone mentioned it on live, but "Honne" and "Tatemae" are essentially your private face and your mask. Your mask or "tatemae" is how you behave around people such as strangers, coworkers, even relatives or friends. Your private face or "honne" is how you act when you are completely alone or with people you are comfortable being yourself. The easiest way to remember it (at least for me) is honne as in honest due to the similar pronounciation.
I usually do solo trip. I have a friend coming with me this year. I made it very clear that we will do our own things and meet up here and there but not to expect me with them at all so I can leave on a wim, like I usually do, like Laos or Cambodia for a couple of days.
We have a saying in my culture that you don't really know someone till you travel w them. I agree w this completely as travel can bring out both the worst and best in people. You get to see 1st hand how they handle new places, how open they are to experiencing different cultures and POVs, how they treat others w respect, kindness or the opposite racism and narrow-mindedness, and also how they operate under stress as they are catapulted out of their comfort zones and usually have less than ideal sleep and rest. Also no matter what your usual "traveling style" is irrelevant when you are in a place vastly different from your own and for the 1st time, and being rigid will only take away from the adventure and excitement of experiencing this new place and immersing yourself in it. And when you're w others being easy going and open to their ways gives you even more different ways of experiencing things .. shame that OPs friend couldn't see that.
This is a bit different, but over the summer, my family had a family reunion. Half of the family don't plan things out for their trips, and the other half prefer to. I kept asking for a general itinerary of what the family events would be so I could plan the rest of our trip. It was like pulling teeth. And then everyone gave me a hard time because I kept asking. Definitely don't think I'd want to travel with anyone who doesn't prefer to have an idea of what the day will hold. Especially if it's a new place and you want to hit specific places.
Why wouldn’t she wanna do karaoke?? I feel like a foreign country is the place to do it 🤣 No one knows you! And in Japan specifically, they’re too polite to tell you that you suck to your face, especially if you’re clearly just trying to have a good time.
I hate to say this but there is no way she can prevent her ex-best friend from being in her baby’s life unless she can prove she is somehow unfit to be around children. Her being an affair partner is not a reason the courts will allow her to use to stop the ex-best friend from being around the child, especially if the father and her get married. Most states don’t even have fault divorces.
She's right...Like in VRC, group cuddlings p common. like even amongst couples. And its usually the partners inviting others to cuddle...feels weird when you are asked by the single person.. xD;;;
Great story but I do have an irrelevant question and before anyone comes at me for it, I am new here. 3rd video of this channel I’ve seen… but anyway, are these two related?? They look like twins. 😅
I am sorry but if OP2 was vocal in her feelings and boundaries, her husband cannot be that oblivious. No matter the autism (mostly) or his bipolar disorder, if she spoke WORD FOR WORD clearly, he did disrespect her boundaries. OP2 should not excuse his behavior if he understands his actions and only pedals back when the MIL and his ‘role model’ stepdad steps in. If you need to get the in laws for the husband to listen to you, THE SPOUSE, then that’s not a healthy relationship. If they don’t currently have a professional for this like marriage counseling or individual counseling, they do need it because deflecting and ignoring warning signs like this will just make things worse down the line. BFF or someone else in the future.
Sophia is on point, bad behavior can be heightened for some ppl + they cannot be happy on vac. I visited/vacationed w/a BFF to another state 2x + she was a HORROR show both times. 1 was a girls trip where I ended up telling her off + everyone else ended their friendship w/her bc she was so rude + nasty. I tried to salvage the friendship, went on another vac w/her solo a year or so later, she ended up mkg a SCENE so I left “her” hotel room as I threatened. I slept in the rental car + left her there the next morning (she lived in that state). She had previously been on a cruise w/1 of our mutuals, I was supposed to go but had to cancel + it was a nightmare for our mutual. So glad I didn’t go. Some ppl cannot be happy on vacation. Weird but true.
But it's not ur proposal, so why u mad/disappointed? It LITERALLY has NOTHING to do with you. Exceptionally rude to shit on someone's proposal...it was perfect for THEM. Go get some class.
@@JustMyOpinion40Seriously?! Who finds the need to judge someone else’s proposal this hard?! Yes, it might not be everyone’s cup of tea, but obviously they knew their partner would enjoy it! Also, when you see an unnecessarily rude comment like this, click on their pfp to see the other comments on the channel. I swear 9/10 times I do, *all* of the other comments will be negative too. It is so odd, and I always hope that they will be able to have more love and joy in their hearts one day.
Sam and Sophia, your reaction to the proposal was so absolutely adorable 😂
The emotion from Sophia and Sam w the proposal is so sweet and genuine ♥️
As somebody who’s part Mexican, I feel comfortable saying that the idea of somebody from Mexico saying they won’t eat food in Japan because I think it’s unclean is absolutely fucking wild to me.
she is a terrible but i got to defend her on this on, 7-10% of all raw fish in the u.s. tested positive for salmonella but saying you won't eat mexican food in mexico i just pure racism.
I thought she was super American and she sounds like it. I feel like she likes the tourist areas of Mexico and her BIL probably lives outside of major cities
@@benji_kayWell, that is in the US. Japan is way stricter with their food regulations especially with sushi. You can't compare Japan to the US about fish handling and preparation 😂😂😂😂
@@eduardocruz4341everywhere has higher standards than the U.S. 😂😂
Honestly when I found out she was Mexican I was shocked. As a Mexican, I apologize for the ignorance of that person. Plus, traveling in a different country and figuring it out is half the fun😅
Omg the chat proposal was THE CUTEST!🎉🎉🎉 And your reactions were the absolute sweetest ❤ always enjoyed this pod but yall have really grown on me with your humble and genuine personalities. What a sweet moment to "witness".
And how funny to enter back into the story with first sentence referencing "spawn of Satan" 😂 what a total 180 convo shift! Lol!!
I hate when a guy wants a baby, but then doesn’t like the side effects of having it, and dump the woman. Gross
I'm bipolar 1 and autistic, when someone set a boundaries usually they explain the issue, so that's not an excuse.
My son and now DIL got married in April here in the States and had a wedding reception in Japan beforehand in March, as my DIL is from Japan. I was fortunate to be able to not only attend the reception, but also stay in Japan for 16 days (I work from home and was able to work half days, use PTO, etc. to take an extended vacation). At 45 yrs old, I feel like a late bloomer, as it was my first trip overseas, and even though I had learned some Japanese through Duo Lingo, I did not feel prepared and I knew I would be solo traveling most of the trip, as the kiddos were very busy with wedding prep, etc. I wish I'd had a guide for the days I was on my own. I had a blast and made many a friend/lifetime memory, especially on the days I was on my own. Japan is a magical place and I cannot wait to go back.
I forgot to add that my son's new in laws (can I call them my in laws also?) ARE AMAZING and I was down for every gathering that trip brought. I really don't get how this "friend" managed to ruin a trip to Japan.
I’ve travelled with a few people over the years who have lived very sheltered lives. The discomfort that accompanies being in completely unfamiliar settings and situations all the time doesn’t always have the best effect on one’s personality. It’s hard, and you can never quite look at them the same way again if they go ugly.
It never ceases to shock me how many men will cheat on their wives right after she gave birth.
Oooh it's the engagement stream!!! 🎉❤
This reminded me of two friends who said 4 hours sleep while on out of town vacation is acceptable. Their logic is more time should be spent exploring and enjoying the experience, etc. I'm a person who sleeps 7-8 hours a day and don't function well with less than 6 hours of sleep.
For me, out of town vacation should include enjoying the experience, relaxing and having fun. How could I relax and have fun if I'm too tired and lack sleep. I realized I traveled with the wrong set of friends 😁
That friend was treating her friend like a tour guide/travel agent on a trip. Expected her to plan and pay for everything, translate, take her to rural areas, order for her all of food or drinks for her. If she expected this kind of treatment she should have paid someone for it.
When going on a trip with someone always ask the following:
1. what kind of activities/things are you hoping to do?
2. what kind of budget do you have?
3. when do you usually get up?
4. how much walking are you usually doing?
5. Are you happy doing activities on your own? (Very important!)
This will help for managing expectations and open up a conversation.
I have this one good friend I won‘t be going on holidays with, just because we have different paces. She likes to take breaks every 45 minutes, which drives me up the wazooo as we can‘t get anything done. Doesn‘t mean she is a bad person.
I have another friend and we match in terms of travelling styles almost perfectly.Just not in terms of time to get ready. She can just be „let‘s go“ and be out the door in 5 min.
I need at least 30 minutes to do anything. So we just agreed that we need to schedule a time before hand so we can individually just do whatever we need to get ready. Let‘s say „out the door by 9“ - I do whatever I need to be able to leave by 9 (i am so slow in the morning) and she goes for a walk, coffeshop and whatnot and we both leave at 9. both are happy. That‘s why Nr. 5 is so important!
I have become increasingly disabled (me/cfs) and have gone from being able to walk some, with repercussions (more sick if I push the envelope) to now needing an electric wheelchair to move outside of the house and need quite a bit of time (like hrs) before I am in any shape to do so
I am lucky that I have a few friends who are understanding of my limitations and adapt a lot when travelling with me, while I try to keep in mind how freely I would like to travel if I were abled and afford my friends freedom to do some exploring without being bound by my limitations
That proposal was so cute! I wish happy days and many blessings upon them!
I’m Mexican and if I go to Japan or another country in which doesn’t speak English or Spanish, I’ll try to learn their language like the basics so I can communicate or at least ask for help
We don't think Mexican people are ignorant. Just the one in the story is.
And even when that is not doable, we all have these amazing pocket computers with translating powers...
Sophie and Sam are both so sweet!
if youre the only broke one in the friend group, get good at sitting in the middle seat and holding everyones' jackets when they're on the dance floor.
All I want to know is where Sam's sweater is from. Love it.
Bobbie Brooks Women's Orange and Green Jumper, on deppop they are selling it second hand
Really? I like the material and colour combo with the green ribbing but I'm not a fan of the fit on him. Would be better as a hoodie...
Congratulations to the happy couple!!!!
A chat proposal 😮❤ so cute 🥰
OP1's former friend would be the most steriotypical cop ever.
I don't travel much, but a few times my husband and I have gone to Vegas. I'm super happy he's an early sleeper, as soon as he falls asleep I hit the casino. I don't leave the hotel/casino were staying in, but I love those few alone hours each night.
I went to Japan in 2024. I had researched about what was appropriate and what isn't. I already knew tipping was frowned on. I was surprised to find some places had tipping jars, but mostly no tipping allowed.
I feel like it’s turned into a case-by-case thing over the last couple of decades. Most places still won’t do it, but if you’re in a touristy area it’s more likely you’ll see a tip jar
@gigiapollo For the most part, it was in high tourist areas. There were a couple of places in rural areas that had tipping options, but very rare.
I would sign up so fast to an ok dating show
Don't know if someone mentioned it on live, but "Honne" and "Tatemae" are essentially your private face and your mask. Your mask or "tatemae" is how you behave around people such as strangers, coworkers, even relatives or friends. Your private face or "honne" is how you act when you are completely alone or with people you are comfortable being yourself. The easiest way to remember it (at least for me) is honne as in honest due to the similar pronounciation.
I usually do solo trip. I have a friend coming with me this year. I made it very clear that we will do our own things and meet up here and there but not to expect me with them at all so I can leave on a wim, like I usually do, like Laos or Cambodia for a couple of days.
We have a saying in my culture that you don't really know someone till you travel w them. I agree w this completely as travel can bring out both the worst and best in people. You get to see 1st hand how they handle new places, how open they are to experiencing different cultures and POVs, how they treat others w respect, kindness or the opposite racism and narrow-mindedness, and also how they operate under stress as they are catapulted out of their comfort zones and usually have less than ideal sleep and rest.
Also no matter what your usual "traveling style" is irrelevant when you are in a place vastly different from your own and for the 1st time, and being rigid will only take away from the adventure and excitement of experiencing this new place and immersing yourself in it. And when you're w others being easy going and open to their ways gives you even more different ways of experiencing things .. shame that OPs friend couldn't see that.
This is a bit different, but over the summer, my family had a family reunion. Half of the family don't plan things out for their trips, and the other half prefer to. I kept asking for a general itinerary of what the family events would be so I could plan the rest of our trip. It was like pulling teeth. And then everyone gave me a hard time because I kept asking. Definitely don't think I'd want to travel with anyone who doesn't prefer to have an idea of what the day will hold. Especially if it's a new place and you want to hit specific places.
Tell us what the answer to the proposal was please!!
She said yes🥂❤️✌️🌼
The answer was in the video at 30:55
Thank you guys!! I commented way too early hahah very happy for them!
Dried squid tastes amazing! Girl is crazy!
I would only trust one person cuddling with us and she would be on my side.
Happy New Year you guys ❤
Congratulations!
15:44 OMG I LOVE XG AHHHHHHHH
I lived in japan the beaches near tokyo arent great and hardly anything is open at 5am 2 am is mostly bars and food
Why wouldn’t she wanna do karaoke?? I feel like a foreign country is the place to do it 🤣
No one knows you! And in Japan specifically, they’re too polite to tell you that you suck to your face, especially if you’re clearly just trying to have a good time.
I hate to say this but there is no way she can prevent her ex-best friend from being in her baby’s life unless she can prove she is somehow unfit to be around children. Her being an affair partner is not a reason the courts will allow her to use to stop the ex-best friend from being around the child, especially if the father and her get married. Most states don’t even have fault divorces.
Trips are great for losing friends.
Sophia could you give some advise what would be free or closer to free when traveling? Any tips???
I volunteer as tribute 😂😏
DID THEY SAY YES?
Sam pronounced Louboutin correctly lol
Sam!! Dope shirt!!!
Nah they misdiagnosed that dude as autistic while he’s actually a sociopath 😅
XG! OP is an alpha! Yess they are so good! Yall need to check them out! ❤
Theres Luis Viton and Lubiten. May. Have messed up spelling, but oretty sure they are seperate designer lines.
Louis Vuitton and Louboutin. And you're right, different designers x
Yeah ur right, Louis Vuitton and Louboutin are different designers x
Did I miss the engagement answer?
It was a Yes 😊
@ Yay!! Thank you so much for the update!
She's right...Like in VRC, group cuddlings p common. like even amongst couples. And its usually the partners inviting others to cuddle...feels weird when you are asked by the single person.. xD;;;
What is VRC?
Great story but I do have an irrelevant question and before anyone comes at me for it, I am new here. 3rd video of this channel I’ve seen… but anyway, are these two related?? They look like twins. 😅
Yes they are brother and sister.
Everyone else involved in the channel are friends but these two are siblings.
@ thank you!
I am sorry but if OP2 was vocal in her feelings and boundaries, her husband cannot be that oblivious. No matter the autism (mostly) or his bipolar disorder, if she spoke WORD FOR WORD clearly, he did disrespect her boundaries.
OP2 should not excuse his behavior if he understands his actions and only pedals back when the MIL and his ‘role model’ stepdad steps in. If you need to get the in laws for the husband to listen to you, THE SPOUSE, then that’s not a healthy relationship.
If they don’t currently have a professional for this like marriage counseling or individual counseling, they do need it because deflecting and ignoring warning signs like this will just make things worse down the line. BFF or someone else in the future.
I am positive the second story was read before
Maybe they found some new uptade
Are you guys brother and sister y'all look so much alike!
I’m Mexican, I don’t claim her
Sophia is on point, bad behavior can be heightened for some ppl + they cannot be happy on vac. I visited/vacationed w/a BFF to another state 2x + she was a HORROR show both times. 1 was a girls trip where I ended up telling her off + everyone else ended their friendship w/her bc she was so rude + nasty.
I tried to salvage the friendship, went on another vac w/her solo a year or so later, she ended up mkg a SCENE so I left “her” hotel room as I threatened. I slept in the rental car + left her there the next morning (she lived in that state).
She had previously been on a cruise w/1 of our mutuals, I was supposed to go but had to cancel + it was a nightmare for our mutual. So glad I didn’t go. Some ppl cannot be happy on vacation. Weird but true.
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Smelly stinks!!
Girl giving pick me vibes
i cannot imagine a worse proposal than doing it via chat on a podcast. my God.
But it's not ur proposal, so why u mad/disappointed? It LITERALLY has NOTHING to do with you. Exceptionally rude to shit on someone's proposal...it was perfect for THEM. Go get some class.
@JustMyOpinion40 i am neither mad nor disappointed. i am judgmental. hope that helps.
@_xkikix_ yes it deffo helps to know what type of character u are. Easy to avoid next time.
@JustMyOpinion40 womp womp
@@JustMyOpinion40Seriously?! Who finds the need to judge someone else’s proposal this hard?! Yes, it might not be everyone’s cup of tea, but obviously they knew their partner would enjoy it!
Also, when you see an unnecessarily rude comment like this, click on their pfp to see the other comments on the channel. I swear 9/10 times I do, *all* of the other comments will be negative too. It is so odd, and I always hope that they will be able to have more love and joy in their hearts one day.