As a teenager in high school, I didn’t believe in dating because I wasn’t mature enough yet but then I had no experience when it came to college. Although going to an all boys prep school didn’t help either but it worked out for the best to keep me out of trouble as a teenager that I would have gotten into as a teenager. I was very rigid in my teenage years about refusing to get into the sex drinking and party culture. But my ultimate failure as a teen was getting hooked into pornography and masturbation during my teen years until the goodness of God freed me last year on Divine Mercy Sunday. My parents were Catholic yes but knew absolutely nothing about Scripture and the catechism and the faith except just go to Mass for worshiping Jesus in the Eucharist.
@@steviemicks7281Are you simply agreeing with what others have said, denying God despite intellectually accepting God exists, or just shrugging a doubt around?🤷♂️
Watching this in my early 20s and I appreciate how you speak to teens as your audience with such gentleness and understanding💗✝️ You’re doing wonderful work🩵🩵
I couldn't agree MORE. I am 23 and discerning marriage right now (with a very holy and good man, thank You Jesus!) but I think that even as a 23 year old I am still growing up, learning, and changing SO much. I cannot imagine dating when I was in HS when I was just trying to get through life and enjoy it with my friends. If I had added boys to the drama I don't think things would've ended well for me. (Also I'm a guest teacher in public schools now so I see teenagers dating all the time and let me tell you, the hurt and the sadness that they go through is intense. I always want to tell them: "just don't date until you're ready to think about marriage!!")
Plz stop telling teens that. Cause it’s wrong. Ppl need to experience romantic relationships that may not end in marriage. Cause “discernment” for real ppl is very important, only ever coming up with “Jesus is the answer,” is harmful and gets us no where.
@@steviemicks7281can you please stop trolling because its not doing you any good if god wasn’t real why would you be trying so hard to disprove him. why does it matter so much to make other people not believe? Because you believe we just randomly were made from nothing?
@@Jaiden46665 oh, the uniformed ignorant religious mind. “Randomly came from nothing.” Not what anyone argues. But plz, explain to me how your sky daddy put us all here?😂😂🤷🏼♂️
@@Jaiden46665 I would like you to be a rational adult who realizes they’ve been duped and sucked into a power structure pretending as religion.🤷🏼♂️😂we can’t always get what we want. I don’t need to “prove something doesn’t exist.” That’s not how arguments work. You need to show that it does exist.
I am so thankful that my parents didn’t allow me to date as a teenager. I was so busy as a college student, that I didn’t date there either. I grew up Catholic but I didn’t truly develop my faith until I graduated from college. I met my husband soon after and we have been happily married for 8 years. Our 3rd date was going to Mass and walking around the ground for 2 hours talking about our relationship with God. My husband was Pentecostal but I told him that I wanted 5 children (open to life) and my children will be raised Catholic. He understood and converted. We always attend Mass together. I am raising 3 girls and one boy and I will have the hard conversations about not dating in high school and just enjoy being a teenager! The teen years are meant to be fun! Going out with friends, studying for exams, participating in extracurricular activities. This is the only time in your life that you can do this! Dating will always be there! I think peer groups matter too! If most of a teen’s friends are dating, that teen will feel pressured, so picking the right friends with similar backgrounds/faith/ morality matters more than anything.
I am a senior, just out of high school and headed to college. I did not ever date in high school, though I knew a girl that I liked and thought about asking out, I knew that there was no point precisely because I couldn't see it going anywhere towards marriage if I asked her out then. Dating should always be ordered towards marriage, but that can be really hard to pull off in high school. Here are some things that help - 1. If neither of you is going to college. Marriage is part of adulthood. If you're not going to college, adulthood is a lot closer. For those going straight into the workforce, high school IS the countdown to adulthood and a time to start dating. But for someone like me, I'm still 4 years away from being marriage material, and that's measuring "bare minimum" as someone who is out of school and gainfully employed full-time. 2. If you're in the same grade and going to the same college and REALLY want to make it work. Some people's spouses are their high school sweethearts, but not often. You've got to be able to make the relationship work, which typically means no splitting for college. Neither of these applied to me. So I didn't date.
Thank goodness i watched it before trying to date (im 16). imma go read my bible and drink water. looks like ill remain forever single for a little longer
I have a question: in adolescence what should I do if I want to get married in the future but I can't desire children? I'm not saying that I will have intimacy before marriage, I just want to understand if in this situation I should give up the idea of getting married.
there's no reason to give up marriage, imo the goal of marriage isnt sex or kids, i don't want kids either, but its more about the intimacy, God creates us to be one and connected physically and not physically so the act itself isnt just about kids, its about intimacy and becoming one
Why is the Theology of the Body Institute leaving the door open to the near occasion of sin? "We don't recommend dating for teens but if you are going to date then...." Why not promote very clearly that dating for anyone who is not actively seeking a spouse is wrong? The Theology of the Body is based on the teleological view of morality. Sex is for having kids and the unity of spouses. Any sex outside of marriage is immoral. Dating is solely for looking for a spouse and teenagers should not be actively looking for spouses. How can Catholics ever think we are going to win back the culture when we are constantly being overly pastoral about topics of sin and morality. Christianity calls us to a different way of life than the world lives. We shouldn't be surprised when the life our Lord calls us to is unpopular with the modern world. The Theology of the Body is such an important and beautiful message of the Christain view of love and sexuality and the world desperately needs it now more than ever. Let's not water it down. God bless!
Hello! Thanks for the honest comment. It's very difficult to be nuanced in a short form video. As in anything we do, we try to find the balance between meeting people where they're at and being firm in the truth about our faith. If you'd like to reach out directly to Elizabeth you can do so @discerningmarriage on Instagram. God bless!
@@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute Thank you for the reply, I truly appreciate it! Again, I don't think this is an issue of nuance. It is simply speaking what is unfortunately hard truths to the modern world. Sex is for creating families (unitive and procreative teloi), full stop. Dating is for finding a spouse, full stop. I am failing to see where the nuance is for this. I fully appreciate the work TOBI is doing and, again, the message of the TOB is exactly what the world so desperately needs right now. I pray that TOBI continues to be successful in its apostolate and continues to bring the full and *clear* message of our Lord's truth to world that so desperately needs it. God bless!
As a teenager in high school, I didn’t believe in dating because I wasn’t mature enough yet but then I had no experience when it came to college. Although going to an all boys prep school didn’t help either but it worked out for the best to keep me out of trouble as a teenager that I would have gotten into as a teenager. I was very rigid in my teenage years about refusing to get into the sex drinking and party culture. But my ultimate failure as a teen was getting hooked into pornography and masturbation during my teen years until the goodness of God freed me last year on Divine Mercy Sunday. My parents were Catholic yes but knew absolutely nothing about Scripture and the catechism and the faith except just go to Mass for worshiping Jesus in the Eucharist.
This sounds a lot like my life except I'm 18
@@gregcashman4579it’s not a coincidence as there are no accidents or coincidences at all with God.
Well…god isn’t real so where do we go from here?
@@steviemicks7281Are you simply agreeing with what others have said, denying God despite intellectually accepting God exists, or just shrugging a doubt around?🤷♂️
@@Justyouraverageguy172 oh I’m going off the evidence dude. Which, for your sky daddy, is none.
I LOVE that unpopular opinion. I would love to understand that when I was teenager ...
Watching this in my early 20s and I appreciate how you speak to teens as your audience with such gentleness and understanding💗✝️ You’re doing wonderful work🩵🩵
Thank you so much for watching and for the positive feedback!
Wish I had this video as a teen! I was so lost. Thank God, the Holy Spirit brought me home.
Welcome home!
I couldn't agree MORE. I am 23 and discerning marriage right now (with a very holy and good man, thank You Jesus!) but I think that even as a 23 year old I am still growing up, learning, and changing SO much. I cannot imagine dating when I was in HS when I was just trying to get through life and enjoy it with my friends. If I had added boys to the drama I don't think things would've ended well for me. (Also I'm a guest teacher in public schools now so I see teenagers dating all the time and let me tell you, the hurt and the sadness that they go through is intense. I always want to tell them: "just don't date until you're ready to think about marriage!!")
Plz stop telling teens that. Cause it’s wrong. Ppl need to experience romantic relationships that may not end in marriage. Cause “discernment” for real ppl is very important, only ever coming up with “Jesus is the answer,” is harmful and gets us no where.
@@steviemicks7281can you please stop trolling because its not doing you any good if god wasn’t real why would you be trying so hard to disprove him. why does it matter so much to make other people not believe? Because you believe we just randomly were made from nothing?
@@Jaiden46665 oh, the uniformed ignorant religious mind. “Randomly came from nothing.” Not what anyone argues. But plz, explain to me how your sky daddy put us all here?😂😂🤷🏼♂️
@@steviemicks7281 I would like you to answer to my first question asking why it matters so much to disprove god’s existence to us Christians.
@@Jaiden46665 I would like you to be a rational adult who realizes they’ve been duped and sucked into a power structure pretending as religion.🤷🏼♂️😂we can’t always get what we want. I don’t need to “prove something doesn’t exist.” That’s not how arguments work. You need to show that it does exist.
I am so thankful that my parents didn’t allow me to date as a teenager. I was so busy as a college student, that I didn’t date there either. I grew up Catholic but I didn’t truly develop my faith until I graduated from college. I met my husband soon after and we have been happily married for 8 years. Our 3rd date was going to Mass and walking around the ground for 2 hours talking about our relationship with God. My husband was Pentecostal but I told him that I wanted 5 children (open to life) and my children will be raised Catholic. He understood and converted. We always attend Mass together.
I am raising 3 girls and one boy and I will have the hard conversations about not dating in high school and just enjoy being a teenager! The teen years are meant to be fun! Going out with friends, studying for exams, participating in extracurricular activities. This is the only time in your life that you can do this! Dating will always be there!
I think peer groups matter too! If most of a teen’s friends are dating, that teen will feel pressured, so picking the right friends with similar backgrounds/faith/ morality matters more than anything.
Sounds like a nutty helicopter parent to me.🤷🏼♂️😂
As a 20 year old, I found this helpful. Thanks!
You're so welcome! God bless you.
Me being a virgin is one of the things am most grateful for ❤thank God 🙏
I WISH I FIGURED THIS OUT 4 YEARS AGO
Thank you for sharing this information online! This is much needed and encouraging!
I am a senior, just out of high school and headed to college. I did not ever date in high school, though I knew a girl that I liked and thought about asking out, I knew that there was no point precisely because I couldn't see it going anywhere towards marriage if I asked her out then. Dating should always be ordered towards marriage, but that can be really hard to pull off in high school. Here are some things that help -
1. If neither of you is going to college. Marriage is part of adulthood. If you're not going to college, adulthood is a lot closer. For those going straight into the workforce, high school IS the countdown to adulthood and a time to start dating. But for someone like me, I'm still 4 years away from being marriage material, and that's measuring "bare minimum" as someone who is out of school and gainfully employed full-time.
2. If you're in the same grade and going to the same college and REALLY want to make it work. Some people's spouses are their high school sweethearts, but not often. You've got to be able to make the relationship work, which typically means no splitting for college.
Neither of these applied to me. So I didn't date.
God bless you for making this video❤
Thank goodness i watched it before trying to date (im 16). imma go read my bible and drink water. looks like ill remain forever single for a little longer
I have a question: in adolescence what should I do if I want to get married in the future but I can't desire children? I'm not saying that I will have intimacy before marriage, I just want to understand if in this situation I should give up the idea of getting married.
Thank you for your comment! Feel free to reach out to Elizabeth directly on Instagram @discerningmarriage. She loves getting questions from viewers.
there's no reason to give up marriage, imo the goal of marriage isnt sex or kids, i don't want kids either, but its more about the intimacy, God creates us to be one and connected physically and not physically so the act itself isnt just about kids, its about intimacy and becoming one
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@@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute thanks.
Why is the Theology of the Body Institute leaving the door open to the near occasion of sin? "We don't recommend dating for teens but if you are going to date then...." Why not promote very clearly that dating for anyone who is not actively seeking a spouse is wrong?
The Theology of the Body is based on the teleological view of morality. Sex is for having kids and the unity of spouses. Any sex outside of marriage is immoral. Dating is solely for looking for a spouse and teenagers should not be actively looking for spouses.
How can Catholics ever think we are going to win back the culture when we are constantly being overly pastoral about topics of sin and morality. Christianity calls us to a different way of life than the world lives. We shouldn't be surprised when the life our Lord calls us to is unpopular with the modern world.
The Theology of the Body is such an important and beautiful message of the Christain view of love and sexuality and the world desperately needs it now more than ever. Let's not water it down. God bless!
Hello! Thanks for the honest comment. It's very difficult to be nuanced in a short form video. As in anything we do, we try to find the balance between meeting people where they're at and being firm in the truth about our faith. If you'd like to reach out directly to Elizabeth you can do so @discerningmarriage on Instagram. God bless!
@@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute Thank you for the reply, I truly appreciate it! Again, I don't think this is an issue of nuance. It is simply speaking what is unfortunately hard truths to the modern world. Sex is for creating families (unitive and procreative teloi), full stop. Dating is for finding a spouse, full stop. I am failing to see where the nuance is for this. I fully appreciate the work TOBI is doing and, again, the message of the TOB is exactly what the world so desperately needs right now. I pray that TOBI continues to be successful in its apostolate and continues to bring the full and *clear* message of our Lord's truth to world that so desperately needs it. God bless!