Oooh....the frustrations are real!
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- Опубліковано 26 сер 2024
- In this episode I make myself a little vulnerable and open up about a few things that I struggle with. My failures, faults, and frustrations of being a para, a parent, and a person. This episode is a bit more somber than previous ones but I think that it's important to talk about the rough experiences as much as the good because it's the rough that allows us to grow. Just like in life, a lot of times we learn the right way of doing things by doing the wrong. In the gym we learn true self growth, both mentally and physically, by breaking down our muscles and becoming uncomfortable to bring out our truest potential. Similarly, it's the same with chair life, we have to truly understand our weaker parts, mentally and physically, in order to strengthen them and ultimately strengthening self. For anyone hurting or struggling, you aren't alone and if you need an ear to vent to or a person to chat to, go ahead and leave me a message. Thanks for watching and let's take that push forward towards becoming stronger together!
Thanks for sharing with honesty. I can relate even though I’m a female quad 38 yrs but I’m also a mother to one daughter who’s now 21. It’s a hard life to be a parent but our kids only want us to love them and listen to them and accept and nurture and be one on one as much as possible. Create and document your times and memories whether it’s through photos or a journal for them to read later on or these videos. It’ll all be worth it. My daughter still comes to me for help even tho she might not need it but she likes the interaction.
Thanks again Joyce, I know I responded on Facebook, but I'd love to get insight from you as another parent with a disability. I appreciate the kind words
Hey Larry, I just had my 50 year anniversary in a chair.
You did say something that really stuck me personally. I am terrible at not telling my wife when I'm in pain. I'm going to work harder on being more open. Because you are right about it causing you to be short tempered.
Bruce! You aren't old enough to be in the chair 50 years pal! It's great to hear from you and I hope that you and everyone are doing well. I am glad I was able to help. The self evaluating towards self growth is really because I want to be the best friend, father, husband and son as I possibly can. That just means I have to take a hard look at myself, see what I don't like or could work on and find the reason why or how. I'd love to meet up sometime Bruce, I miss being able to catch up. Plus, I'd love for you to see the family.
I’m with you brother however I need to grow so much more, I’m not near close where you are. I question myself every night as my head rest on my pillow. My number one request in my prayers and self talks is to get the strength to continue and not fail as a parent. I ask for forgiveness over and over because I know I’m not perfect and I ask for wisdom because I know my son is judging me as I go on with my day. He definitely keeps me in check many times when my patience is at its limits.
Hey Dayan, thanks for the words buddy. None of us are perfect brother nor will we ever be but we can try to improve each day. I still screw up all the time and there are still times I pull by myself and breakdown but as long as we are actively working towards improvement I think it's pretty solid because even if you only move an inch each day eventually you hit that mile mark. You got this man and if I can help in any way or you need and ear to chat to buddy, do it!
Larry, I feel you on this, I am 37 years in myself in a chair. I usually always tell people no thanks when they ask me if they can help me get in my car or whatever also. I am exhausted at the end of the day. I believe it is so exhausting being in a chair and staying up to speed with everyone at times. I love kids to and love to play etc but just feel exhausted by days end. I believe it is harder for a para to go through the day than someone who is not a para. We have to struggle more and work harder to do the simple things but we do it without complaining because we want to do everything we can to live a normal life.
I know that exhaustion you are talking about buddy. I too get really tired by the end of the day for sure and we do work harder on a regular basis to get the basic things done, no question. If you don't mind me asking, what is your injury or has you chair bound? The one thing that allowed me to have more energy, especially with keeping up with the kids was when I started crossfit and exercise. I mean i still get tired but I am better conditioned to do more for sure. The first couple of weeks were crazy tough but after awhile I started to get used to it and actually my pains and exhaustion lessened. But you definitely hit the nail on the head when it comes to us having to work hard everyday for sure!
larry keeter I was shot at age 11 from kids playing with guns. Standing in the wrong place at the wrong time. I keep going everyday though working and staying positive. We make our own future.
@7:47. Hear you there too. I feel at T-11 I have it so much better than most. People look at me strangely when I say I am fortunate.
@3:08. Beach is a pain trying to wheel with sand... hear you there. With mine (kids), the beach is a combination of the pool and the beach at a place like Ritz-Carlton Cancún. That works much better for me, beach and pool being very close.
Good job homie!
Thanks buddy, long time no chat! How are you doing these days, what's new?