When a man sends these types of texts, he's NOT interested!

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  • @frenchcafe7342
    @frenchcafe7342 2 роки тому +1206

    #1 clue he’s not into you is he doesn’t ask questions-especially about you.

    • @rovli816
      @rovli816 2 роки тому +16

      True

    • @faridaaali6170
      @faridaaali6170 Рік тому +6

      What sort of questions

    • @lorir5728
      @lorir5728 Рік тому +24

      True. That goes both ways. Females won't care about asking guys what their hobbies are, family etc

    • @trixi1608
      @trixi1608 Рік тому +59

      @@faridaaali6170 Any questions really, but especially concerning you. It's always a bad sign if a guy only talks about himself or not at all.

    • @quaintlittlethingsonlinesh931
      @quaintlittlethingsonlinesh931 Рік тому +49

      he behaves like someone else’s cat. 😂

  • @sidneyboo9704
    @sidneyboo9704 Рік тому +378

    Ladies, trust your intuition. I know we glorify logical thinking but women's intuition is second to none. If you are watching videos and videos to see if hes interested because you arent sure, he isnt interested.

    • @christinarichie6171
      @christinarichie6171 Рік тому +23

      Intuition is one of the most skill to hone

    • @wisemysticaltree9449
      @wisemysticaltree9449 Рік тому +7

      Don’t trust shit just think logical

    • @thanhtrucnguyen8521
      @thanhtrucnguyen8521 Рік тому +11

      I'm right in that case, thank you a lot for the advice

    • @Siquomb1
      @Siquomb1 Рік тому +6

      Sidney Boo
      Wise words from you!

    • @andersnielsen6044
      @andersnielsen6044 Рік тому +12

      Exactly, so spot on. And the same goes for guys towards women.. If you are in doubt - you should trust your instinkt and intuition. ;)

  • @missbealovesalbert8353
    @missbealovesalbert8353 Рік тому +73

    When someone shows you who they are- believe them.

    • @Cycology_Major
      @Cycology_Major 5 місяців тому +4

      “… believe them the first time.” - Maya Angelou

  • @leahklm7538
    @leahklm7538 2 роки тому +1047

    Many many years ago, I used to flirt with such a guy for a year or so... We never had a proper date. Then he disappeared, and reappeared 6 months later, only to tell me that during our "flirting period" he was seeing another woman. I appreciated his honesty (I deserve a slap) and we got into a relationship (two slaps). That relationship was the worst experience in my life... So a piece of advice here: if someone is willing to play with your feelings, that says a lot about his character and his ethics. You don't deserve any b@st@rd in your life. Just ruuuuunnnn !!!

    • @sfoster4874
      @sfoster4874 Рік тому +30

      LOL! That says it ALL!

    • @PSJ2102
      @PSJ2102 Рік тому +48

      It was also happened to me, the relationship was the worst experienced in my life! I think he is narcissist 🤨😏😠😡

    • @clap-melior8294
      @clap-melior8294 Рік тому +16

      @@errika1485 Take care. Uk what I started hating all men coz of one guy I had seen

    • @lenat6911
      @lenat6911 Рік тому +12

      I had this for 10 years but would refute being married or having a girlfriend. I found out recent he’s married and a priest!

    • @peaceofmindofpeace1650
      @peaceofmindofpeace1650 Рік тому +5

      Amen to that

  • @outroseok
    @outroseok Рік тому +72

    "an automated chat bot would be more engaging" that part is so funny but so true lol

    • @blackwidow6658
      @blackwidow6658 Рік тому +4

      I'm gonna save this one 😂 when a guy wonders why I stopped communicating with him I'm gonna send him this lmao.

  • @audrablue515
    @audrablue515 Рік тому +527

    When we as women have a full life - friends, job, hobbies, travel, family and high self esteem, then these losers don't get a look in and it's easy to shut them down early. If you keep attracting these men or falling for their bullshit or making excuses for their bad behaviour, then you have taken the focus off yourself and need to get yourself back on track with YOU first. A relationship with a man is a good thing, a fun thing but if he thinks he can treat you badly it's because you've forgotten to put yourself first and see yourself as the prize. Men are a dime a dozen. As women it's easy to attract them. But a good man will only be attracted to you if you are good to yourself first.

    • @ugnulanila
      @ugnulanila Рік тому +39

      yes but not all women have friends close,or afford to travel or have a family ,yes in a perfect world we all should have that,but we dont..so they show up..

    • @Memyselfandi20825
      @Memyselfandi20825 Рік тому +13

      @@ugnulanila Facts 💯

    • @peaceofmindofpeace1650
      @peaceofmindofpeace1650 Рік тому

      Even being lonely without an asshole is heavenly compared to being hurt and disrespected by selfish assh.

    • @peaceofmindofpeace1650
      @peaceofmindofpeace1650 Рік тому +11

      You are right about having an inner, safe circle. Also if I have doubts about a guy I tell him about my friend or brother. Just to let them know I'm connected.

    • @rosegardens9701
      @rosegardens9701 Рік тому +4

      @@ugnulanila that is true x

  • @ad6417
    @ad6417 Рік тому +256

    I've been online dating off and on for a couple of years and I've learned a lot of very important lessons. If a man is chatting you up intensely for several days and then he suddenly disappears for several weeks and then circles back around to you... don't start chatting with him again. He wasn't attracted or interested enough in you to begin with which is why he ghosted you and the only reason why he's back is for the ego boost. Your heart will be broken if you try to force a relationship with this guy cuz he just isn't That Into You but he might use you as a placeholder.

  • @LittleOne1111
    @LittleOne1111 Рік тому +134

    If the man cares for you.. he will keep up with conversations that are ongoing...he will remember details. He will notice if you are sad or care if you are tired or sick
    He will call you after a few texts because he will want to hear you...not just read words that have no voice inflection.
    Love this.
    ❤❤

    • @blackbeardsdaughter2613
      @blackbeardsdaughter2613 Рік тому +6

      BRAVO! Yes, the voice is truly important - not just texts. Best wishes to you!

    • @LittleOne1111
      @LittleOne1111 Рік тому

      @@blackbeardsdaughter2613 he'll come around one day ... Or he won't .
      Either why I make my life how I want it and enjoy solitude because solitude is actually a gift :) ty for your reply and 'like'! 🫂🪽

  • @sapphirelane1714
    @sapphirelane1714 Рік тому +327

    I know this video is a few months old, but hope someone who needs this sees it:
    1. Don’t fall for a person who always says they love the way you make THEM feel instead of saying they love YOU.
    2. Don’t fall for a person who only messages you really early in the AM and really late at night, especially if they use the old “oh, I’m suddenly too sleepy to talk. Goodnight.”

    • @allthingsbethie
      @allthingsbethie Рік тому +16

      Needed this. Thank you.

    • @sealife22
      @sealife22 Рік тому +8

      I am on number 2. I missed it when he said number 1 by saying he's so happy

    • @sapphirelane1714
      @sapphirelane1714 Рік тому +22

      I’m glad to see this helped! To elaborate on #2, some people try to use the, “you’re the first thing on my mind when I wake up/last thing on my mind before I fall asleep” lines to make you feel special. They’re usually trying to justify giving you as little time as possible.

    • @averagejane09
      @averagejane09 Рік тому +5

      Number one is a really good flag. Thanks for writing this out.

    • @kanhdahar2
      @kanhdahar2 Рік тому +7

      i met a girl who did that, she would text very late at night, like 2 and 3 in the morning. Why would they do that?

  • @PearlJamAndBiscuits
    @PearlJamAndBiscuits Рік тому +210

    It's fascinating to me how men are so self absorbed that stringing someone along just to feed their ego and wasting the woman's time and possibly hurting her means ZERO to them. I had a ex look me up once, the first thing I said to him was "You just broke up with someone, that's why you're here" and he lied and told me they broke up 8 months prior. I got back together with him and found out later it was just me holding him over until his next fling who he ended up marrying and having children with. Zero regard for uprooting my life and breaking my heart for the 2nd time. I learned a big lesson from that. It told me all I need to know about men. They are by far the most self serving selfish beings on this planet.

    • @SamStone1964
      @SamStone1964 Рік тому +31

      Men aren't the problem. Narcissists are.

    • @TheCakediva08
      @TheCakediva08 Рік тому +16

      I have a similar experience with a childhood boyfriend. pursued me for 10 years. Just to cheat,lie and eventually leave me for prostitutes

    • @margotsesnorio3825
      @margotsesnorio3825 Рік тому +10

      Getting back to a Nonsense ex is like a Cat eating up what does he vomit!😬

    • @Simplythetruthfulone
      @Simplythetruthfulone Рік тому +26

      He will reap what he sowed. The Lord does not take kindly to heartbreakers....

    • @lurklingX
      @lurklingX Рік тому +12

      i know a lot of women do crap like this too. it's messed up. never dip your toe in a rebound, as a rule!

  • @joycebonney9208
    @joycebonney9208 Рік тому +26

    You have described both narcissism and scams!

    • @Kat3111
      @Kat3111 Рік тому

      That's my thought on it too.

  • @joannalopez5447
    @joannalopez5447 Рік тому +59

    Women please don't go chasing any man let him take the lead, when you go looking for that man you find exactly what you're looking for Trouble.

  • @MissChelle857
    @MissChelle857 Рік тому +58

    If a guy texts you all sorts of wild, boastful bs about how supposedly great they are but can’t be decent enough to ask you how your day is, RUN. Don’t walk in the opposite direction. RUN. He has hideous character and can’t even be a friend to himself, much less you. Which isn’t your fault. Don’t let shitty “men” make you think that you don’t deserve to be treated like a human being

    • @Portia620
      @Portia620 Рік тому +6

      That can go the other way with narcissism to they can just be so into you and ask you all the questions about you and then what they’re doing is they’re getting ammunition then they’re gonna marry you really fast and then I’ll be fast to get in a relationship with you in some manner will you sweep you off your feet? Listen to everything you say, the Mr. wonderful you need to watch those types too. I was married one he had a completely different life now he’s married again and he was cheating on her, so you know it is what it is run from the men or women.

    • @marvinpercival4717
      @marvinpercival4717 Рік тому

      I usually rent exensive cars and jewellery and clothing a bag full of fake money with a few 100 50 and 20 on top for a weekend and go clubbing clap few cheeks and ghost they think im rich when im a regular guy .my dad told me women love to feel special all u have to do is play the role and clap cheeks until u well establish then chose a wonan in her early 20 s and pamper her but always keep a side chic just incase things go left i wouldnt end up crying over spilt milk and he a right i get the girls every good simp want without being emotinally involve .sex is basic even animals and insects does it.surprise people need to be in a relationship with all the stress iand responsiblities just to bus a nut crazy plus most women already run through so jus hit and run no need to stay and burn .we born single and will die single inbetween life and death it just a field day.

  • @IevaKambarovaite
    @IevaKambarovaite 2 роки тому +373

    *Some men may be casting their net very widely trying to see what fish they can catch.* And they may be not even single. They just enjoy the attention and the ego boost just like Brian so well articulates in this video.
    You as a woman got a lot of choice. It's easy to start thinking that all men are flaky or like to play games, but there are so many great guys out there.
    I've found that once I changed the way I view myself, I started attracting very different quality men.

    • @ellengrace4609
      @ellengrace4609 2 роки тому +14

      Genuinely curious, how did changing your view attract different men?

    • @IevaKambarovaite
      @IevaKambarovaite 2 роки тому +45

      @@ellengrace4609 I think once I started changing how I view myself, once I started believing that I deserve a man who actually wants to show up and be there for me, when I made a decision that I'll be speaking up when something doesn't feel right, I started attracting quality men.
      Those time wasters will still be casting their net, but now I know better, so I don't go for it.

    • @radhickadudeja5979
      @radhickadudeja5979 2 роки тому

      ​@@ellengrace4609

    • @sandrakasina4203
      @sandrakasina4203 2 роки тому +11

      @@ellengrace4609 ..u got to realize yo worthy and knw wat u want ..above al...make sure u choose to respect yoself....that way u won't validate washy washy feelings

    • @AdairCty
      @AdairCty 2 роки тому +26

      I chatted regularly with a fellow on a dating site for two weeks…great conversations, somewhat in depth, excluding very personal info of course. He tossed compliments my way regarding how refreshing it was to converse with an intelligent woman, etc. He was the initiator in our chats. After a lengthy, “live” conversation (we were both online at the same time), I was sure he’d ask to meet for the first time…over coffee, or ask for my phone #. Nope. In fact, he didn’t contact me for three or four days and then started with the usual how are you, etc. I told him adios…I don’t want an anonymous pen pal. I learned a lesson. In the future, I’ll chat for a week, tops. If there is no mention of wanting to meet, I’m gone. Next! 😂

  • @paulabrasovan2708
    @paulabrasovan2708 Рік тому +24

    He behaves like someone else’s cat… lmao 😂

  • @jasminej6281
    @jasminej6281 2 роки тому +232

    They keep reaching out when they need to be acknowledged that they still feel. Like they still got it. This jerk Keep doing this to me but he's dead to me. If he cared about me he wouldn't be yoyoing with my emotions.

  • @costelloandlizzievolk2233
    @costelloandlizzievolk2233 2 роки тому +83

    This is where I am at with a guy ‘friend’ who stays in touch..no goal and not moving anything forward. Feels like he’s just making conversation and it’s not leading anywhere so I am confused cause I care about him as a friend, we haven’t dated, but don’t know what he wants. 😕🤷🏻‍♀️ I’ve given him time to suggest we see each other again, and nothing, so letting him go and moving forward by myself. Thank you 🙏

    • @laurieparis2203
      @laurieparis2203 Рік тому +20

      Sounds like he wants to be a friend. Just treat him as such!
      No sense in throwing away a friendship just bc they're a man!

  • @Lisajen-h5u
    @Lisajen-h5u 2 роки тому +199

    Thank you Brian. It has been 18 months of flirting etc. and that is as far as it goes. I kept wishing he would ask me out on a date but he never will. Maybe he just likes to have my attention as an ego boost. Either way I am moving on.

    • @jasminej6281
      @jasminej6281 2 роки тому +48

      Girl move on I have been through the same and I hate his guts now. It's all about him and how you make him feel and the ego boost. What about our ego killing our self worth in the process

    • @vp5134
      @vp5134 2 роки тому +25

      Ego boost, absolutely:-(

    • @myhealingjourney7149
      @myhealingjourney7149 2 роки тому +38

      Girl, I can’t even stand 3 months of flirting that’s going nowhere. 18 months is too long.
      These idiots come back when we shut off their supply huh? Hope we have the strength to keep that door shut.

    • @kentyiluminada7676
      @kentyiluminada7676 Рік тому +22

      Definitely all about him having his ego boosted , I’ve been there the most annoying thing! Be really flirty with him then when he feels like replying leave him on read and completely disappear, that’ll do it for his ego 😂

    • @tjradmila
      @tjradmila Рік тому +3

      @@kentyiluminada7676 😂

  • @tinadavis7742
    @tinadavis7742 Рік тому +29

    This sounds like a narcissist. They are the worst people ever.

  • @monikamirowska5365
    @monikamirowska5365 2 роки тому +175

    Brian I just love all your videos ❤️ We women finally have to stop living our imagination and learn how to see man just the way he is for real with no excuses, no giving another chances. If the man isn't the right person we feel it at the begining, just watch his behaviour and listen to your intuition.

  • @disasterpiece6665
    @disasterpiece6665 2 роки тому +100

    Thing is not everyone is the same or does the same things for the same reasons. End of day, it’s simple, if you’re not being treated how you want to be, or you feel you should be, if you are not sure if they are interested or not, that’s already telling you something. Secondly please stop wasting time on needing this type of reassurance or 🤷🏻‍♀️ go enjoy your life, if something is ever going to happen it will anyway! This is just another guy taking up your time, getting what he needs from you, benefitting off you, reinforcing that he needs to tell you all what you honestly all do know, but ppl like this and feeling you need this is the only thing that’s holding you back. Women are smart, strong, capable and not just these saps who are hopeless in love and the rest. Again this is just another form of a man making you think/feel that you need him. Go be awesome, because you all are 🖤

    • @joynichols4002
      @joynichols4002 Рік тому +5

      Amen to all the above.

    • @marvinpercival4717
      @marvinpercival4717 Рік тому

      My x always talking but she love me yet she and her siblings hate each other SMDH.that the problem right there saying love to me but everyone around u see as uncaring and selfish.hyprocrite .

    • @thanhtrucnguyen8521
      @thanhtrucnguyen8521 Рік тому

      Thank you a lot, I'm right in that case but your words awake me

    • @12567NoYouCannot
      @12567NoYouCannot Рік тому +3

      I LOVE it when Women Give Great Advice to other women!! I wish We Ladies would be genuinely kinder to each other at the Work place; or everywhere we go; because men have much Respect for other men; and they don't Attack each other; nor pull each other down! ! MEN respect their own Gender Very Much!! I hope We Ladies can do the Same with Our own gender.

  • @gusmonster59
    @gusmonster59 Рік тому +56

    I don't know how anyone would want to continue a 'relationship' with someone who doesn't return a text, ask questions about you, and can't be bothered to actually call and talk. I don't have time or want to make an effort on someone who makes it a point of 'can't be bothered' or is 'too busy'.

    • @nwokedijenny7101
      @nwokedijenny7101 Рік тому +6

      Exactly

    • @marigolds49
      @marigolds49 Рік тому +6

      Well said--truth

    • @WhoSays8
      @WhoSays8 Рік тому +1

      Seems like a lot of ppl are this pathetic. Just be honest with others.

    • @Silencer796
      @Silencer796 2 місяці тому +1

      I want to see the good in people and not think they are evil, that’s why i fall. I don’t want to fall for people that easily….

  • @corethacox6117
    @corethacox6117 Рік тому +15

    This guy hits every nail on the head. He is good.

  • @LadyLux11
    @LadyLux11 Рік тому +35

    I believe that all situations in this aspect are to be learned from.. if we're attracting men like this we have to see that we need to heal what he's able to hurt within us. So don't just trash it and move on. Look at what he's brought to the surface in you and work on that so you don't have to be with another guy just like him.

  • @AussieGirl235
    @AussieGirl235 Рік тому +23

    The cat description 😂

  • @oliaboniak7963
    @oliaboniak7963 Рік тому +34

    I really wish it was so easy to say "Bye-bye. Next". I rarely fall in love and only with someone I have already spent a lot of time with. It will be hard to move on, but I'll try. Thank you!

    • @trixi1608
      @trixi1608 Рік тому +12

      I rarely fall in love too and additionally hardly anyone seems to ever be interested in me.. 😥

    • @oliaboniak7963
      @oliaboniak7963 Рік тому +3

      @@trixi1608 So true!

    • @vmm5163
      @vmm5163 Рік тому +2

      @@trixi1608 I get men winking and making jokes to make me laugh, flirting, asking if I have a boyfriend. Then when I think one in particular wants to take it further the reaction is always 🤷 where did you get that idea from??? I think I'm picking up wrong signals everywhere ☹️ From now on unless someone asks me out (they never ever do) then I have to believe they don't want me

  • @kateroth7154
    @kateroth7154 2 роки тому +29

    "Well, I hope so for the sake of his bride." Too funny, Brian.

  • @LaburnumAnagyroides
    @LaburnumAnagyroides Рік тому +18

    I watch these videos just to revive my past and think I was right back then 😆

    • @Kat3111
      @Kat3111 Рік тому

      Same here 😂

  • @henrydog5747
    @henrydog5747 2 роки тому +51

    Brian I am a people pleaser Female, He is a Liar & a cheater
    He has a big ego.. I am going to listen to this everyday to remind me if he Liked me , he wouldn’t do what he did .. You help people see the light Brian
    Thank you 🙏🏼 ❤

    • @annnorthover8357
      @annnorthover8357 2 роки тому +3

      @henryDOG. It sounds like your partner may be a narcissist. There are many good sites on UA-cam that can help you decide. If he fits the description RUN!

    • @henrydog5747
      @henrydog5747 2 роки тому +1

      @@annnorthover8357 I don’t need to do anymore research… I am Long gone .

    • @marvinpercival4717
      @marvinpercival4717 Рік тому

      @@annnorthover8357 r she is the narc and he run after feeling her darkness.

  • @GeorgiaAndrea
    @GeorgiaAndrea Рік тому +52

    I am so glad I chose to remain single for the rest of my life.😂

    • @learnngrow565
      @learnngrow565 Рік тому +7

      Because you are intelligent 🤓

    • @TeutonicTribe
      @TeutonicTribe Рік тому +1

      Yet, here you are…

    • @GeorgiaAndrea
      @GeorgiaAndrea Рік тому +5

      @@TeutonicTribe So you’re saying I should limit myself from watching anything that doesn’t got to do with me? What’s your point? You don’t like what I just said? 😁

    • @wendysullivan1909
      @wendysullivan1909 8 місяців тому

      I'm getting there😮

  • @cherylduckworth11
    @cherylduckworth11 Рік тому +29

    Great information. This happened to me he just happened to be bored one night and got a hold of me. But because I thought more of him than he thought of me I thought it meant more than it did. Great video

  • @eileenworth7862
    @eileenworth7862 Рік тому +17

    Funny how the obvious, common sense facts we should perceive for ourselves need to be explained to us. Bottom line, real, sincere connection is fluid, natural, not so difficult.

  • @joywebster2678
    @joywebster2678 Рік тому +25

    Talking to a man who used to work with my late husband though I didn't know him. Happy to chat and reminisce but I wasn't expecting much, but he kept pursuing. He said his wife was still alive but the marriage died years ago. Hmmm. So I suggested meeting for coffee somewhere neutral. He really wanted to come over. No! I looked up his "ex wife's name" and golly she had a hyphenated name with his and didnt work as a law assistant she is a full lawyer who administrated the courts for this whole part of the province. Dug further to see her posted family pics of her husband and grown kids. So next call he admits when confronted yes they still live together. No he doesn't want to date, he wants a "mistress" only. I said No thanks. And I never heard from him again. Guess reminiscing is over!! Men!

    • @keithgriffiths9864
      @keithgriffiths9864 Рік тому

      I hope your husband comes back to haunt this opportunist.

    • @darkoz1692
      @darkoz1692 Рік тому

      Why would you suggest to meet up with a married man?

  • @dave9401
    @dave9401 Рік тому +50

    He sent me a two word text after not talking to me all day. 😒 Think we have our answer 🤣

    • @sealife22
      @sealife22 Рік тому +7

      Why are u laughing. That 🤕 hurts like hell.

    • @Silencer796
      @Silencer796 2 місяці тому

      @@sealife22Laughing the pain off, it does hurt but sometimes you just gotta laugh even though you want to cry

  • @Lisa-ub6zl
    @Lisa-ub6zl Рік тому +24

    I think they do this shit on purpose just to feel important. Games. They never outgrow them.

  • @ibstayfly
    @ibstayfly 2 роки тому +50

    This video showed up in my recommended. Omg thank you so much for this. Makes perfect sense. I've never been in a relationship but when men are interested they come after you. If a guy is interested he will make time, be consistent respond and message periodt
    New subscriber

  • @tammylafave1376
    @tammylafave1376 2 роки тому +48

    I found this very informative. I went out with a guy I guess you could say he was one of my old friends and still is a friend to this day but he like text me every so often and then ghosted me so I understand what you’re saying very well thank you for your information.

    • @ENNARELL
      @ENNARELL Рік тому +14

      Friends don’t ghost you. He isn’t a friend.

  • @ItsSoarTime
    @ItsSoarTime 11 місяців тому +3

    my second time watching this dude and he's cracking me up over this very serious topic. GOTTA SUBSCRIBE!!!! THE HUMOR IS APPRECIATED!!! the lovely accent makes the humor more humorous!!!!!!

  • @brittanyr1456
    @brittanyr1456 Рік тому +16

    This popped up at the right time!! I needed to hear this and thought I already knew this because I FELT IT it, hearing it makes it worse because it sucks that people have to act this way. But it is what it is, I guess

  • @ChefMsTery
    @ChefMsTery 2 роки тому +36

    Thank you Brian. Why I didn't hear this before, this could save me from being heart broken 💔 😂

  • @kentyiluminada7676
    @kentyiluminada7676 Рік тому +52

    Men like that that text you and then have no interest are the most fucking annoying 🙄

  • @carolagab
    @carolagab 5 місяців тому +4

    Just because a guy is talking to you every day doesn't mean you will move forward with this guy.

  • @bakerinthehouse5346
    @bakerinthehouse5346 Рік тому +15

    I busted the last one by not responding to the last one or two or three days by not responding to him. He would panic and ask where I was. I knew he didn't care. He never wanted to speak to me by phone but spoke to his ex every day by phone. Major red flags

  • @kosmic77universe90
    @kosmic77universe90 Рік тому +187

    Use this for any relationship, lover, friend, family, invest in those who invest in you- and ALWAYS REMEMBER: no response IS the response!!!

  • @_Ibarbi._
    @_Ibarbi._ 2 роки тому +30

    Hey Brian, Can you please make a video about how to spot a toxic or Narcissist man 💝🤗

    • @Goawaypleasenow
      @Goawaypleasenow Рік тому +1

      He already has. Go to his channel

    • @overit.4013
      @overit.4013 Рік тому

      They move you really fast. No respect for your boundaries, like will try too push you somehow to do stuff you don't wan't to or don't have the time to from do early on . They will badmouth their ex , pull the victim card, lovebomb you and find out your insecurites and use them against you to gain control. You will soon feel guilty , frustrated and confused. Take a gooood step back, and observe , run quietly . Don't call them out because they will often double down on their tactics. BLOCK. Been there, done that. You will become a shodow of your self. Take care of your self sweatheart. If you feel something is off, it's because it's off. Trust yourself.

  • @solaceagua9755
    @solaceagua9755 Рік тому +15

    Thank you for mentioning about the phases of dating too because a lot of videos don't talk about the phases because my guy doesn't talk much but during the first 3 months of dating he was talking a lot but later, his real self emerged and he's not a big texter but he shows love in other ways. Sometimes it's important to know that because one might think he's not as interested as before and missed the other signs of his affection.

  • @averagejane09
    @averagejane09 Рік тому +27

    I just had a Brian Nox marathon. Thank you for being on point for me tonight. I got a lot out of these videos. Super helpful. Not always something I wanted to hear as I think about my current....entanglement of one year....but definitely helpful. I realize that I have as of lately allowed myself to be taken for granted and disrespected. I have lowered my own value and I need to take that back. Not by telling him but by my choices and actions. This may get us on track or it may end things. And, I am thinking perhaps it should end things. Baby steps. Letting go in stages perhaps.

    • @hannashbelledelosreyes4767
      @hannashbelledelosreyes4767 Рік тому

      How is your relationship?

    • @averagejane09
      @averagejane09 Рік тому +3

      @@hannashbelledelosreyes4767 Thanks for asking. We are seeing longer periods of peace, however, I am coming to the sad realization that I may be dealing with a narcissistic personality style and so try as I might, this will likely not work. I know this is a buzz word right now, but, there is something to it. I have been watching videos on youtube by Dr. Ramani and have learned a lot about the signs. I do take everything with a grain of salt but the puzzle pieces are going together. I wish this was not the case because I really did develop love for this man. Learning why this is so confusing too. This personality style is not consistent. So, they can be really great, punctuated by episodes that are superbly damaging. The can do nice things and then be really awful. He is great, and then when he gets triggered, usually by something small, he gets shaming and blaming and accusatory in such a way that is totally shattering. Then, if I try to talk about it, more either happens or he gaslights me and denies saying anything....then the next day acts like nothing happened. Anyway, it is not going well, but I have learned a lot and am making my way to the exit. All the amazing advice in the world only works on people who want to apply it. This personality style, does not.

    • @hannashbelledelosreyes4767
      @hannashbelledelosreyes4767 Рік тому +1

      @@averagejane09 Make sure that when you decide to let go, communicate all of this to him. No regrets left behind. It takes strength to love and strength to realize when to exit from a toxic cycle. He may change, but do not wait for that to happen. You cannot compromise yourself and your time for a possibility. I wish for you peace of mind and soul, dear friend.

  • @IamwhoIam333
    @IamwhoIam333 Рік тому +49

    Validate me Validate me
    I need to know how special I am. They need a mother type woman. Who will treat his feelings with kid gloves and forget you are an Adult until bedtime.

  • @sarahar616
    @sarahar616 Рік тому +26

    Don’t love someone who treats you ordinary- Oscar Wild

  • @byhislove
    @byhislove Рік тому +13

    LOL this is great, my daughter is having such difficulity w/guys and dating these days. Nothing like it was when I was younger.

    • @Southpaw1001
      @Southpaw1001 Рік тому +1

      Everyone is having difficulty, unless you're in high school or college.

  • @careyf7859
    @careyf7859 Рік тому +24

    I've been watching some of your videos and you are hilarious. Even if all your videos have somehow applied to my sad dating life, you've made me laugh about all of it 🤣🤣

    • @12567NoYouCannot
      @12567NoYouCannot Рік тому

      You got a Laugh from me, while I was reading your comment, but I wanted to say that if that is You in the picture; You are Absolutely Gorgeous and you have to feel and act like a Queen; because You look like One, but with Dignity and Respect for yourself first and then for the other person; if they Criticize You; that means he is Not Worth it!

    • @12567NoYouCannot
      @12567NoYouCannot Рік тому +2

      Ever since I was Young, I met young women who told me; I want a man with Money; but Society always call women who want a Man that could give them a better lifestyle; "Golddiggers" because Society wants women to have Low Self esteem. But when you date losers; then you get Criticized for dating losers and everything bad thing they do to You; Society would say that it's your fault. And the other thing I wanted to say was; Men are Very demanding with the person they Want in their lives; and they want the BEST for them; So Why Not You ??

  • @kimmidojo6102
    @kimmidojo6102 Рік тому +12

    Brian, thank you for your videos. Not only do they have great content, you speak without anger or aggression. You slide in some humor and BAM, you have a great video!! Very pleasurable to listen to ... thank you 😊

  • @sfoster4874
    @sfoster4874 Рік тому +12

    I find your work SO VALUABLE. Thank you!!!

  • @MSmith-qg1oh
    @MSmith-qg1oh Рік тому +10

    The funny thing is I keep seeing videos about this generation of men that are alone and removed from society. A lot of people blame women’s unrealistic expectations (income, height, size, etc). But, every video giving women advice on dealing with men is telling us how to not allow ourselves to be treated like crap. Perhaps height, income and package size have nothing to do with why these men are alone.?!

  • @GlassOwl84
    @GlassOwl84 2 роки тому +19

    I get those signs ALL the time. Thats why I gave up.

  • @arigato22
    @arigato22 2 роки тому +51

    If there's one thing I know, it's uninterested men!!! I get them all the time, so unfortunately, I'm actually good at picking them. Not just on apps, when chatting but when I meet them in real life. Men are creatures of ego; many equate women, dating and sex as a social and ego status. So yes, unfortunately, sometime if they play it too cool, it's only for ego. Many years ago, I learnt it the hard way when I met someone and we really clicked on chatting. Then I realised he was just reaching out to me to vent and it was leading to nothing. It took me over two weeks to realise that and after that I just quit responding as I realised he just wanted to talk about his job etc but never wanted to meet up or do anything. And Brian's comment about the second date is also the same. If a guy doesn't engage in me, I'm not interested anymore because I know they're not interested. Unfortunately I have yet to meet a man who is interested!

    • @faythb2491
      @faythb2491 Рік тому +4

      You and l both sis….. you and l both.

    • @marvinpercival4717
      @marvinpercival4717 Рік тому +3

      R u and interesting person r someone waiting on a man to make u happy

    • @andersnielsen6044
      @andersnielsen6044 Рік тому

      @@marvinpercival4717 The fact that she admits that she keeps attracting these guys - you got your answer already..

  • @asola4567
    @asola4567 2 роки тому +3

    This gentleman, Brian, is absolutely correct…100%!🌟

  • @jessicaperlove4715
    @jessicaperlove4715 Рік тому +7

    Your messages are always informative and straightforward. I appreciate that.

  • @claudiamund-cooper9388
    @claudiamund-cooper9388 Рік тому +2

    Here's how you get a bloke texting: "Have just had a good romp. You, too? " LOL

  • @sewgeekdesigns9113
    @sewgeekdesigns9113 2 роки тому +8

    Mine said I love you but platonically after saying for months he wants to work stuff out…after dating a girl and hiding it… no he just doesn’t have people to listen to him complain…. I’m not allowed to call or come over….

  • @monikavarro2020
    @monikavarro2020 2 роки тому +9

    Why is she sending me this? 🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @x.f.4171
    @x.f.4171 2 роки тому +18

    Brian thnx for a great content! I really enjoyed watching your video and can relate to all spoken scenarios. Unfortunately it is not easy to spot these spoken behaviors if especially you like this guy so your video is really helpful!

  • @stellafraser8351
    @stellafraser8351 2 роки тому +8

    I'm sooo glad I found your channel, Brian. Keeps me strong💪💪xx

  • @jammyjay917
    @jammyjay917 Рік тому +8

    Thank you for this great topic....think us women hold on far too long sadly...

  • @skyvelvet5800
    @skyvelvet5800 4 місяці тому +1

    I like how you make me laugh at the situation and my own efforts whitout making me feel bad but instead feel empowered to trust myself and build myself up, thank you ! just what i needed !
    and yes to the people in the chat, if we are here , it does not matter if he is a good guy ore a bad guy, if he makes you feel like you need to be here , then he is not right for you, hope you all feel as empowerd as i felt after this video, good luck

  • @phindilemhlongo6224
    @phindilemhlongo6224 Рік тому +4

    I’ve been in the similar situation 😂😩 boy I don’t even wants to get into what I went through 😩😂. But really I learned alot about men from this experience. And never will I find my self in that position .

  • @kimfrederick7710
    @kimfrederick7710 2 роки тому +259

    I just told a guy yesterday that contacted me out of the blue yesterday after 2 months to leave me alone. I wasn't into his games and told him I needed consistency. He told me he had to get a new cell phone. I said no you're playing games and I'm not for it good bye

    • @jsunnys1936
      @jsunnys1936 2 роки тому +36

      Good job girl!!

    • @kathleenburns4850
      @kathleenburns4850 2 роки тому +19

      Nice!

    • @SCARLETIC.
      @SCARLETIC. 2 роки тому +30

      Yep, buying a cell phone doesn't take a couple of months. Besides, if he says he didn't have your number, then that's bullshit bcoz if you're important to him then he'll contact you asap

    • @kimfrederick7710
      @kimfrederick7710 2 роки тому +29

      @@SCARLETIC. my thoughts exactly. Buying a cell phone doesn't take 2 month's. Get out of here. I don't have time for your games. NEXT

    • @freeme3853
      @freeme3853 Рік тому +7

      Sounds just like a Pisces I dated a couple years ago I met at the motel we both worked at. He used the I dropped my phone in the pool at work when he disappeared for a week. Then he gave me a line of crap when he ghosted me for a month came back claiming he missed me then one last time I said something in a text and poof he was ghosting me again for good.

  • @lifeinlimbo2186
    @lifeinlimbo2186 Рік тому +1

    I believe in honesty. So,my first clue I text her is,I am NOT interested in you.

  • @tisabanda9497
    @tisabanda9497 2 роки тому +24

    I wish I watched this 2 years ago. It would have saved me a lot of time and heartache. But anyway, it's okay. Am okay now. Out 🚶‍♀️🚶‍♀️

  • @lfcatchall
    @lfcatchall Рік тому +2

    Very good insight. The women will thank you.

  • @kauigirl808
    @kauigirl808 Рік тому +7

    If you don't contact me every day you're not interested. Simple. I'm supposed to be the first thing on his mind when he wakes up. If no good morning message, there's no interest.

    • @marvinpercival4717
      @marvinpercival4717 Рік тому +1

      Puppy love that adult dont do that u need to find urself a teenager.

    • @dr.jenniferma3914
      @dr.jenniferma3914 Рік тому +2

      I agree. You have to be afraid of ME losing interest, and text to make sure I don't. If you don't text daily then I know you're willing to risk losing me.

  • @angiej4865
    @angiej4865 2 роки тому +11

    My Rottweiler loves cuddles actually...

  • @1bonatsos
    @1bonatsos Рік тому +17

    Can you bring up the topic of different individuals sexual predilections and compatibilities particularly in a courtship phase. It just seems nowadays people don't value intimacy in a traditional sense and look at it almost carnally and are not willing to wait to build proper emotional foundations to see if there is emotional compatibility without sex in dating

  • @gabrielaburcea5734
    @gabrielaburcea5734 Рік тому +4

    Dodges questions for a living 🤣

  • @rutchelhsu1381
    @rutchelhsu1381 Рік тому +1

    Very well said again...Long live,Sir!

  • @p37rgm
    @p37rgm 2 роки тому +5

    thank you for this video, appreciative and learning to be cautious.

  • @bcvc3365
    @bcvc3365 Рік тому +2

    I love your humor, Brian 😆 you crack me up sometimes

  • @hannahchristo8214
    @hannahchristo8214 2 роки тому +6

    This guy is funny n knowledgeable

  • @pattyfidei3417
    @pattyfidei3417 Рік тому +4

    Be careful lady’s of the Narcissist

  • @devonslife7970
    @devonslife7970 7 місяців тому +2

    I have less anxiety being single but soooo lonely but I don't think it's worth it anymore 😔💕

    • @janemoore4395
      @janemoore4395 3 місяці тому

      Yes, I got to a point where I didn't want to put any effort, nor energy anymore. I truly love being single and don't miss being in a relationship at all (and I am 58 btw).

  • @gigibtheempress302
    @gigibtheempress302 Рік тому +4

    Well ,bye bissch. See you never 🤣

  • @africangirl189
    @africangirl189 2 роки тому +18

    If am not interested in you I don't expect you to be interested in me too so what matters is " if am not interested" not " if he's interested" 😂😂

    • @marvinpercival4717
      @marvinpercival4717 Рік тому

      I have many women confusr im a ghost king i usually hit and run for the hills a lot of women hate me because im not willing to take them serious the think im a player im not i just got bored after and leave.i

  • @Leaveitalone1382
    @Leaveitalone1382 Рік тому +3

    Taking a huge step back this week. He ghosts for 2 weeks and then makes contact and ghosts 2 weeks and makes contact and I have to stop responding now and it is painful.

  • @WitmanClan
    @WitmanClan Рік тому +2

    Thank you for demystifying ❤

  • @BorsheimArts
    @BorsheimArts Рік тому +36

    I love your videos. This one reminds me of the saying " If you do not know, it means no."

  • @daisydd1709
    @daisydd1709 Рік тому +9

    Some men just want casual sex but u feel they are dating you haha

  • @dr.jenniferma3914
    @dr.jenniferma3914 Рік тому +6

    This man has pursued me. He drove hours to see me twice. When he does text me it's incredibly romantic, talks about wishing I was next to him every night, etc. BUT! I've noticed a pattern of him going a couple days to text. I asked him last time if he's ghosting me and he acted offended that I would even think that. BUT ALAS, here we are on another two days without contact. I can't tell if he's trying to manage our connection because we're sort of long-distance or what. I just know that I don't like not knowing if I'll hear from him or having any security in his consistency. It's a major turn off. I can't even fantasize about "dream guy" because two days makes me wonder if he even likes me at all. I seek a relationship that doesn't create this kind of mystery. I believe that men KNOW this so he must also know that I will lose interest. If that's the choice he wants to makes, so be it. So yeah, I'm out.

    • @Oshiiiiiiiiiiii
      @Oshiiiiiiiiiiii Рік тому +6

      HE could have a double life. Trust your gut. What he is doing sounds like a red flag to me.

    • @harrietthe-spy9240
      @harrietthe-spy9240 Рік тому +6

      There is another lady. Otherwise there wouldn't be any two day gaps. So sorry.

    • @rosegardens9701
      @rosegardens9701 Рік тому +6

      Going 2 days means his not that intrested to be honest so value your self for a guy who can't wait a whole day without speaking all seeing you ❤ & what's a big red flag is that you told him it brothers you & yet he continues to keep doing it which is disrespectful

    • @perpetualplatypussy69
      @perpetualplatypussy69 Рік тому

      Either he lost his hands in a tragic boating accident or he's playing with your heart to go two days without contact. Walk away and release him with love and gratitude for the lesson. You can and will find a better person 🙏♥️

    • @annomega3352
      @annomega3352 14 днів тому

      ​@@rosegardens9701yes, he is not interestee😂

  • @jodiann4234
    @jodiann4234 8 місяців тому

    Thank you, Brian. I really appreciate your videos and get much from them about a man's perspective.

  • @margarethakloots5287
    @margarethakloots5287 2 роки тому +6

    The number 1 motivation is probably money!

  • @ladyjmarie5569
    @ladyjmarie5569 Рік тому +5

    very enlightening, thank you so much!

  • @UKindness4
    @UKindness4 Рік тому +4

    I also apply that to friendships!

  • @hestergreen2031
    @hestergreen2031 Рік тому +1

    Thank you Brian, I can fall claim to all of this. Thank you for these tips. It’s been most helpful.

  • @silviasegura3742
    @silviasegura3742 2 роки тому +2

    Excellent Brian!! Thanks so so so much🙏🙏🙏

  • @jennifermendoza9414
    @jennifermendoza9414 5 місяців тому

    YEP You're TOTALLY RIGHT ‼️

  • @amyludwig8685
    @amyludwig8685 Рік тому +1

    Commenting to support and thank you! 💛

  • @tammy00098
    @tammy00098 Рік тому +8

    I was suppose to go out with a guy but I cancelled and wanted to reschedule. Schedule a meet and greet in the afternoon hours. He scheduled something to do, on the day of our meet up. Night time came and I no longer felt like going out and when he called and said he was done, he was headed home. I said we could reschedule and it's dark. He got smart saying what does being dark out gotta do with anything.( I met him on a dating site and he was driving from his city so thats why I was going for a day time type of meet and greet in a public setting if that makes sense) Well anyways he got upset and caught an attitude. He said it's not his fault things ran past schedule. I said I get it, things happen but still rescheduling is not an issue. So he instantly got off the phone saying I will call you back. He didn't. I didn't hear from him the next day either. So I made up my mind that if a person could get so upset so easily,then he isn't the person for me. His attitude was a turn off. So I made up my mind to be done. I get a text out the blue. Hey. Then you just disappeared. I honestly told him how I felt. He didn't respond or acknowledge anything I said. Come off hot and cold. So I stop responding after that bc I am no longer interested. I told him since he had in attitude I don't know what else to say to him. Ignored what I say and Get another text hey how your day going. I don't say anything. Get another text. GM with the lips emoji...smh.

  • @strawberrymins
    @strawberrymins 2 роки тому +5

    Thank you for the video Brian! Very helpful!

  • @Flaca81
    @Flaca81 8 місяців тому

    "Whatever hook that you will throw, he will bite". That's all the truth I needed.

  • @margarethakloots5287
    @margarethakloots5287 Рік тому +8

    It is better to have a face to face relationship, which will answer all yr questions

    • @ameliaerin1544
      @ameliaerin1544 Рік тому +2

      Those days are gone.🙄🙄🙄

    • @andersnielsen6044
      @andersnielsen6044 Рік тому

      @@ameliaerin1544 Only if you want it that way.. Huge red flag to all men.

  • @enjoy7024
    @enjoy7024 Рік тому

    A lot of wisdom there and I love your sense of humor!