I just turned 50 less than a week ago, never married, no kids. It was almost as if you read my mind when you made that comment at the beginning of the video about "the urgency of time." My whole life has been in Los Angeles, born here and lived the entire time. My only goal in life is to leave this place and I have absolutely no idea how to go about doing it. There is no guarantee of making it to 85 years of age and even if there was, health and economics present limits on what and how one can do things. Going to have to start letting go of a musical instruments collection here very soon which I did about 15 years ago and am still broken hearted about it. Hours are not enough, it would take days to describe the various layers upon layers of miseries in Los Angeles that push people out. One of my deepest of secret fears is that I make it to my 80's to become a decrepit old man STILL in Los Angeles and look back only to see 30+ years of failures in my attempts to secure employment in the right place outside of LA, correctly balance life expenses, and be looking up from my death bed asking God "What happened?" Thank you for this video John. This was a calming video for sure and will give people some good vibes to think about things more objectively.
Thanks John, I have recently gone through a break-up and are feeling directionless & your message is just what I needed to hear, specifically the 'helping people" bit. Cheers.
I got to my breaking point at 59,I asked myself a question what’s most important in life (After health) the answer was time, so I retired . Thanks to me making the decision to stop working for idiots who knew less than me years ago I was in the position to stop working . Never looked back ,now go walking along the beach most days first thing in the morning ,play guitar,learn new subjects and just do what I want when I want ,life is to short not to when you are past fifty….So if you can get off the conveyer belt and do your own thing whatever it is,remember the old saying life is not a dress rehearsal .
So all the big status things of your life were gone and then surprise the wife wants out. Men are with their wives. Women are with the lifestyle the husband provides. If that changes they fall out of 'love'. Good that you are doing what you want. Many men will remain trapped.
I'm 59, almost 60. Recently separated from my wife. I'm struggling a little to know what to do with the next stage in my life. Have a few ideas, and I need a pot of courage to get going. I'm just feeling a bit exhausted from all the relationship issues.
I’m putting up a video today at 11 AM Eastern time that might be ideal for you to watch. It’s about my personal divorce journey, and I hope it provides you with some insights as to where you can find that courage. But you’re right, it requires some courage. don’t be hard on yourself, it’ll come at the right time when you’re ready.
100% it's all about the journey towards goals and not the goal it itself. I am 57 two divorces financially injuring ouch hahaha 😅 I consider myself very lucky staying in same soul sucking career hahaha accounting- CPA in 2008 lost six figure middle management and started at the bottom 18 years of existence age 42 started as an intern with Federal government Great Recession of 2008 not talked about much even though the ripple effect continues 16 years later in housing cost inflation the dead American dream for GenZ, young Milinials, and babyboomers and GenX in lower socioeconomic classes - no one will hire them so glad I stayed with Federal government took me 16 years to get back to same salary I was at in 2008 just before great recession - great blog!!
To play devil's advocate, sometimes when we men lose status and/or money, we can be in dark place and not fun to be around, etc. If that lasts, of course, it can be hard on people close to us. But still, I agree 100%. Instead of being with you in these downtimes, they drop us quick if we don't improve quickly. Like a fighter getting beat up by his corner between rounds instead of having support. It seems we men are supposed to perform all the time. And while it's obviously true for strangers, clients, your work, etc., for people that know us well, friends, family, and even more so, our GF/wife (!), we should have some support! But it is what it is, sadly.
Hi John, every so often I like to remind myself of what life was like before the Internet and to go back to a time when life was more enjoyable. For me, this is revisited by watching any episode of Columbo, I have the box set of all his episodes. I grew up in the 70s and 80s, A great time! 😊
I know exactly what you mean. There was a detective show called Beretta that my dad and I used to watch together. And also silly shows like Chico and the man and the Partridge family. Oh my gosh don’t even get me started. Thanks for reminding me.
@@john-griffin I grew up in England, so I’m not familiar with the shows you mentioned. Up till 1984 we only had three channels on the TV in England. So the viewing was limited. There was a lot more English comedy on TV in those days. We now look back on that time as the golden age of TV. 😀thanks again
The candid manner of your talks is very helpful, even though the nuts and bolts are different, you have a way of talking it out that is relatable. Thank you
Thanks, I think that being out on those walks with my dogs puts me in a good meditative state, and it allows me to relax. In that relaxed state it’s much easier for me to communicate. Thanks very much for your input. I really appreciate it.
Yes, that was quite an educational experience. I’m glad I did it, but I don’t think I would do it again. Maybe now it’s easier when I did it back in 2016. It was a very expensive undertaking. But I’ve learned a lot and I enjoyed the process. Thanks
Yes. Making money is great, but it looses its allure over time. By 50, how to spend your time becomes more important. I am in the same spot - changing to the next level of living. Great thoughts. Very helpful.
Gracias John por tu relato, nuevamente que notablemente similares los acontecimientos y sentimientos que nos atraviesan a las personas no importa donde residan pero si compartiendo los mismos momentos vitales...cordiales saludos
Thanks for your note. I really appreciate the compliment. I think I am just in the right place with the right information and talking to the right people who need to hear it. I’m not very good at bowling. So if this was a channel on bowling, I would not be a very good Host.
I may have just changed the thumbnail I used a different image rather than the one that was there originally. It’s now called the urgency of time from midlife to new life and it has a picture of a sunset
@@travelerman99 thanks. Ironically, yesterday my ex-wife told me that my peaceful nature and communication ability are the gifts I should be sharing with the world. I thought that was nice of her.
I'm 62 limited energy my joy is the most basic things...my spiritual activities is what keeps me alive!!!!
I just turned 50 less than a week ago, never married, no kids. It was almost as if you read my mind when you made that comment at the beginning of the video about "the urgency of time." My whole life has been in Los Angeles, born here and lived the entire time. My only goal in life is to leave this place and I have absolutely no idea how to go about doing it.
There is no guarantee of making it to 85 years of age and even if there was, health and economics present limits on what and how one can do things. Going to have to start letting go of a musical instruments collection here very soon which I did about 15 years ago and am still broken hearted about it. Hours are not enough, it would take days to describe the various layers upon layers of miseries in Los Angeles that push people out.
One of my deepest of secret fears is that I make it to my 80's to become a decrepit old man STILL in Los Angeles and look back only to see 30+ years of failures in my attempts to secure employment in the right place outside of LA, correctly balance life expenses, and be looking up from my death bed asking God "What happened?"
Thank you for this video John. This was a calming video for sure and will give people some good vibes to think about things more objectively.
Thanks John, I have recently gone through a break-up and are feeling directionless & your message is just what I needed to hear, specifically the 'helping people" bit. Cheers.
You are so welcome
I got to my breaking point at 59,I asked myself a question what’s most important in life (After health) the answer was time, so I retired . Thanks to me making the decision to stop working for idiots who knew less than me years ago I was in the position to stop working . Never looked back ,now go walking along the beach most days first thing in the morning ,play guitar,learn new subjects and just do what I want when I want ,life is to short not to when you are past fifty….So if you can get off the conveyer belt and do your own thing whatever it is,remember the old saying life is not a dress rehearsal .
So all the big status things of your life were gone and then surprise the wife wants out.
Men are with their wives. Women are with the lifestyle the husband provides. If that changes they fall out of 'love'.
Good that you are doing what you want. Many men will remain trapped.
Great video!!
Thanks, I’m glad you enjoyed it!
I'm 59, almost 60. Recently separated from my wife. I'm struggling a little to know what to do with the next stage in my life. Have a few ideas, and I need a pot of courage to get going.
I'm just feeling a bit exhausted from all the relationship issues.
Not easy, wish you all the strenght. Breakups suck but they have strong reformative value
I’m putting up a video today at 11 AM Eastern time that might be ideal for you to watch. It’s about my personal divorce journey, and I hope it provides you with some insights as to where you can find that courage. But you’re right, it requires some courage. don’t be hard on yourself, it’ll come at the right time when you’re ready.
100% it's all about the journey towards goals and not the goal it itself. I am 57 two divorces financially injuring ouch hahaha 😅 I consider myself very lucky staying in same soul sucking career hahaha accounting- CPA in 2008 lost six figure middle management and started at the bottom 18 years of existence age 42 started as an intern with Federal government Great Recession of 2008 not talked about much even though the ripple effect continues 16 years later in housing cost inflation the dead American dream for GenZ, young Milinials, and babyboomers and GenX in lower socioeconomic classes - no one will hire them so glad I stayed with Federal government took me 16 years to get back to same salary I was at in 2008 just before great recession - great blog!!
❤👍
The things you own end up owning you.
OF COURSE the wife left when the money dried up. Turns out women don’t love in the same sense men do.
Very true
To play devil's advocate, sometimes when we men lose status and/or money, we can be in dark place and not fun to be around, etc. If that lasts, of course, it can be hard on people close to us. But still, I agree 100%. Instead of being with you in these downtimes, they drop us quick if we don't improve quickly. Like a fighter getting beat up by his corner between rounds instead of having support. It seems we men are supposed to perform all the time. And while it's obviously true for strangers, clients, your work, etc., for people that know us well, friends, family, and even more so, our GF/wife (!), we should have some support! But it is what it is, sadly.
Hi John, every so often I like to remind myself of what life was like before the Internet and to go back to a time when life was more enjoyable. For me, this is revisited by watching any episode of Columbo, I have the box set of all his episodes. I grew up in the 70s and 80s, A great time! 😊
I know exactly what you mean. There was a detective show called Beretta that my dad and I used to watch together. And also silly shows like Chico and the man and the Partridge family. Oh my gosh don’t even get me started. Thanks for reminding me.
@@john-griffin I grew up in England, so I’m not familiar with the shows you mentioned. Up till 1984 we only had three channels on the TV in England. So the viewing was limited. There was a lot more English comedy on TV in those days. We now look back on that time as the golden age of TV. 😀thanks again
Thank you great videos in similar place in life Very helpful
Agree
The candid manner of your talks is very helpful, even though the nuts and bolts are different, you have a way of talking it out that is relatable. Thank you
Thanks, I think that being out on those walks with my dogs puts me in a good meditative state, and it allows me to relax. In that relaxed state it’s much easier for me to communicate. Thanks very much for your input. I really appreciate it.
Thanks for sharing your story!
My pleasure! Thanks
pricelss info, thank you so much for sharing
My pleasure!
Nice job. You are spreading a lot of wisdom. Did you self-publish your books?
Yes, that was quite an educational experience. I’m glad I did it, but I don’t think I would do it again. Maybe now it’s easier when I did it back in 2016. It was a very expensive undertaking. But I’ve learned a lot and I enjoyed the process. Thanks
I did. It was a learning experience. An expensive one.
I'm really grateful for these videos brother! I mean you're out on divorce and have found so much of what you're offering very very beneficial.
Yes. Making money is great, but it looses its allure over time. By 50, how to spend your time becomes more important. I am in the same spot - changing to the next level of living.
Great thoughts. Very helpful.
Thanks, I appreciate your feedback
Great story! Beautiful video
Agree
I sincerely hope your channel blows up! You are doing much needed work, and you do it very well.
I appreciate that!
You got two bundles of love to give belly rubs too!!
They are the best! Thanks
Dude talks a lot for an alone guy with two dogs.
Glad you like it!
Gracias John por tu relato, nuevamente que notablemente similares los acontecimientos y sentimientos que nos atraviesan a las personas no importa donde residan pero si compartiendo los mismos momentos vitales...cordiales saludos
Thanks!
You are a really awrsome person that I would like to meet.
Thanks for your note. I really appreciate the compliment. I think I am just in the right place with the right information and talking to the right people who need to hear it. I’m not very good at bowling. So if this was a channel on bowling, I would not be a very good Host.
good job
i turn 50 soon and im starting anew
Glad you enjoyed the video
@@john-griffin loads to think about there!
can i add, the one thing above all that it takes to achievea dream, is courage. (what do you think?)
Courage and persistence. You can't lose if you don't stop playing!
This is good. Glad this is at least one thing you’re not bitter about…
I'm glad you have seen into my soul! I promise I am not bitter. But, I can understand you might think that. Thanks!
@@john-griffin You’re welcome, sir.
God will help you.
Our Lady Blessed Mary of the Seven Sorrows, Pray for us.
Use as you will any bitter spirit.
@@kbeautician typical snotty shaming comment from the sugar n spice crowd
@@mplundrWho cares. NRL
John, what happened to the video you released on Aug 17th? It disappeared on me while I was writing a comment...
I may have just changed the thumbnail I used a different image rather than the one that was there originally. It’s now called the urgency of time from midlife to new life and it has a picture of a sunset
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The click-through rate was really low so I needed to use an image that had more appeal.
John your story resonated with me. I appreciate your openness and sharing your journey.
@@travelerman99 thanks. Ironically, yesterday my ex-wife told me that my peaceful nature and communication ability are the gifts I should be sharing with the world. I thought that was nice of her.
9:10 onwards is a description of what the Japanese call Ikigai.
That’s really cool, I’ve never heard of that before. I want to check it out thanks.
Good message.
Thanks