A lot of people often watch videos but don't listen to what is being said. Many are mistaking religion with Christianity. She stated clearly that she she was following church (religion) instead of focusing on a relationship with God. If you have never felt the pressure to be or so something by religion, tou wouldn't understand what she's saying.
People love to Judge people to quickly...without even knowing things into details..then again some people are worst of but will come out here to condemn others...Stella is an amazing woman and i love her regardless..we all have issues in one way or the way we struggling with...she will overcome with time...
Mr. Teju, You were a huge part of my childhood. I used to watch you on TV every time with my mummy. You usually prostrate for elders on TV. 😅😅 It warms my heart to see you again. You are still as eloquent and inspiring as ever. It was from your show I learned the word "enigma"😅😅. It sounded big to me then. It's such an honour to hear you again ❤
Why do I feel I am the only one that understands what this lady have or might be going through. I am a single mum, 1 failed marriage. Despite being married in the past, I dread marriage so much and people don't know what we go through when we decide to date or give it heart to someone and it goes awry
The late husband you mentioned hete Teju got her nodding, saying yes, yes, yes, she would have still been married to him. Oh, this teared me up now. She must be missing the late husband. Aunty Stella, may God bless you immensely.
Stella you're such an amazing woman,those who are straightforward and stands on their words are never like by the people. Just be strong God will see you through all
Yimu! That's how you people praise nonsense and call the government corrupt on the other hand. Straightforward into another woman's husband's pants abi? Wehdone hype woman of Stella. May you all have the audacity to tell the truth .
Beautiful Stella, I love you so much as an actress and as a person. I pray God's divine will be done in your marriage and in your life. This is so inspiring and I've learnt a lot from this conversation. Good friends don't always end up as good partners.
Religion does not mean you should marry because of church. One should not marry to someone because you are becoming too close and one may be tempted. If that is the case, then the best thing is to set boundaries and give yourselves some space
While I do not side with her on accepting their proposal, it somehow has some kinda truth to it. Often times the church will push ppl to get into marriage their not ready for all in the name of prevention instead of teaching them to set boundaries, knowing the difference between dating, courtship, & marriage responsibilities and duties. But then again can't blame these church elders, pastors, mentors, deacons and deaconesses cos they all need help and are clueless of the counseling they give to their church members. That's why they keep making the same mistakes over & over again...
@@josephineamawiafe9428 that's how the church has thought ppl to do in jumping into marriages to make the church look good. However she has learnt her lesson by admitting they shouldn't have gotten married in the first place
Madam Stella, PLEASE TRUST ME , TELL GOD TO CHOOSE FOR YOU, THIS TIME IT WILL BE THE BEST AND THE LAST ( The one you are are assigned to his assignment and the one assigned to your assignment and see the wonders of God in action IN FAITH). It may sound simple and silly, but try it IN FAITH AND NOT IN EMOTIONS. God bless you.
@@beebeeolu7165my thoughts exactly. These divorces could actually be signs from God for her to remain single and focus on the ministry he has for her.
You know Stella you are just doing what God wanted you to do religion is not God spirituality is God so pursue it with passion and with unconditional love you will surely get there I believe
You clocked her well. Nigerians too sabi play victim and people will still fall for it. You denied someone else’s her happiness and you want to stay happy in that marriage? She’s delusional and must think everybody have forgotten all the story played out. Ps. No one is perfect but she should face her consequences 😠
@@gloriafolato8053 I know right! Once it backfires on them, dey will come up with a touching story. Dey won’t come to rant online when the marriage was sweet🤷♂️. It’s her karma, she should gladly deal with it
@@temmz1814infact I'm laughing at people's comments saying they feel bad for her. Like she is a good actress indeed. This girl has no heart at all. She needs Jesus instead of blaming religion. She should run for cleansing.
seriously there are tears in my eyes,when it goes wrong the first time to get it bk is always difficult. If not for the death of her first husband she wont have gone through all this..😢 when the foundation is destroyed......😢
Only a few people can understand this. I mean spiritually. People are now changing wives and husbands anyhow without knowing that the first wrong step will continue to affect future ones. It is only God that can stop that circle in anyone's life.
There is different between religious and Christian, Christian are Christ like. Marriages are built by mature people. Marriage break because of immaturity. Maturity in marriage is very deep
I am not one to blame women when marriages crash but listening to Stella, I see one of those women whom when they want something or a man they throw away shame and reasoning and just go for what they want desperately then when it blows up in their face they find someone or something to blame. Just see her trying to give a fine speech like she is the victim of the church's misleading. You are too old, wise and exposed for the church to have misled you. You gave in to your flesh! Aunty, there are so many unmarried sisters in their 30s and 40s in the church looking to God for a spouse and still in line with God's will.. they are just there waiting and never compromising. In your case, you already have 2 kids and a flourishing career, REST! Leave men alone first and if you must marry, sincerely wait on God... If truly you are a Christian and have an atom of the fear of God, there is no way you will get entangled with a man who is married or whose ex-wife is still living if he is divorced. Admit you erred to God and man and move on!
You are on point, my advice is for to calm down don't rush into marriage for now. I read how Doris was accusing her of snatching her husband years back, I was surprised that the marriage crashed, she can decide to remain a single mum if she likes is her choice.
So in your life you've never made a mistake that wasn't intentional and yet you found yourself being misunderstood? Don't go taking another person's Panadol for their own headaches, you don't know what happens behind closed doors ooo.
You’ve not been in her shoe. It’s easy to judge others for flaws but, sincerely it’s easier said than done. Moreover, her first husband died, death is not what anyone will wish her spouse. Her second marriage was a rush to satisfy people’s opinion according to her. Finally, she had not come out of her depression state before going into the third marriage. I’m sure that life has taught her a lot of lessons. I credit her for coming out boldly to talk about her past. Trust me, there are scars under that beautiful makeup you’re seeing on her face. She’s yet to recover. God bless you greatly.
This lady is depressed and I dont care if anyone believes it or not. Perfect dressing and beautiful make up cant hide it from those of us who have followed Stella for over 25 years now. The beads and rings in her hands and fingers are pointers to something.
I think the major problem in marriages today is the LOVE itself. Love is greed, Understanding is caring. Learn to find a rich guy instead of wealthy folks. Keep religion, friends and family off before and after you found one. And never let them choose for you.
Give this woman a break. No one is perfect and nobody truly knows her story deep down. We don't live with them. I'm sure she learned from her mistakes and will make better choices in the future.
This interviewer is great at what he does. It's not about being perfect but accountability. Stella, was a grown adult who fell in love because she thought she met her prince charming who wouldn't dare to hurt her. But it was a red flag from the beginning looking at how he treated his ex. She's only selling a "pity me" story now because he humiliated her and want to clean up her image.
Forgive her for what? I didn't hear she did anything wrong to warrant forgiveness & even though she did, it is no new thing with humans to err, and what makes us different from others is our ability to show forth that divine nature of forgiveness.
Person that don't know when rain started rain will not know when it stop, alot of us don't know what went wrong all this years, so we shld leave her alone, no need of dragging her, none is perfect, marriage is a university where no one graduate, in anything we want to do, seek God face and try to hear from him, alot of marriages are under attack.
@blessing,God bless you sister for saying the truth, alot of them commenting here don't know that story that was all over the media, Doris was crying up and down, she enlope with the man to US, we know now.
Stella if you couldn't reveal these things how would others learn from your experience? Reveal to the world why your best friend couldn't be your spouse. We want to learn from you Stella. Reveal everything you know to help others. If not this interview will be meaningless.
It's her life n her choice n her reasons. With wat she has released alot of poeple hv drawn many lessons So she mustn't reveal even her soul to the world for poeple to learn. Those who cant learn from wat she shared might as well consider her story wasnt ment for them. Its not for everybody
Stop being rude. If you are not ready to reveal things don't mention them only talk about things that you are ready to share full informations and keep the rest to yourself. You said the story is not for everyone. Seriously, a story in the internet you classified as not for everyone. Are you serious?
@@chimakalu5195 is English that difficult?. The story she has put up isnt for everyone simply means not every one must be able to draw a lesson from it. Fthhhinkkkkk!!!. By the way speaking of being rude dont u think u asking her to put up all HER story was somehow rude an unsympathetic on your part. A fellow woman finds strength to speak up about her difficult painful past all you can do is ask her for the rest of the story. So you can feed ur itchy ears. Well goan remove the story from her throat
Can see the pain in her eyes. Just to add: Stella didnt have no control over what decisions the ex husband made concerning his child. The man is to be blamed. Why are pepo giving this man a pass. Apparently she didn't know all of it and when she later did she tried to mend things out with the boy's mother. She said she have a cordial relationship with the boy's mother and they used to talk concerning the boy.
Let Stella tell us what transpired btwn her and Doris husband, some commenting here we're still in primary school then, to me u don't have anything agst her but she should ask Doris to forgive her, even if it is the guy that came for her she should have accepted him becos she knows Doris very well and they are from this same Edo state haba
@calistermadukwe7977 I hear you and you are right. They are glossing over that part of getting on with a married man, and they come out and make her to be the victim. Nobody can necessarily force you to do anything. There is no accountability whatsoever. Everyone and everything are being blamed but guilty. I think this is pretentious and no regard to the other person who must have been hurt in the process, we are now pitying the guilty and forgetting the real victim; Doris and her babies. Just because someone came to tell their own narrative or do damage control doesn't mean we can't think critically? I get it. No one is perfect, but imo if they really want to talk candidly, apologise to the family you hurt. Having said all that, the man is more at fault, leaving his family and breaking the convenant of marriage for no apparent reason. He is just jumping from bed to bed, are we going to ignore the fact that something is wrong here?
1. Christianity is not religion, people confuse this. 2. Marriage is hard work, not for everyone who is lighthearted. 3. Religion is the worst enemy of a man or woman’s soul, it manipulates and depresses, it has nothing to do with Christ. 4. Many are not ready for marriage, the biblically defined marriage, which in the standards of today’s society is crazy backwards, yet in reality it holds the key to the most fulfilling and lasting marriage
I love you Stella but please don't blame the church.. you weren't forced to marry him. There were chances that you also loved the idea of being married to him. When you said close friend, did you mean close friends with benefits? (Of course we don't need that detail) and if it were so as stated above, it best to either set boundaries or get married! Trust me, you're a role model! People will want to copy you because they perceive that what you were doing was right. It's the right thing to set good example.
@@JoyFay Obviously you are the one that is deaf and also lack comprehension! Just hear yourself! They forced her... Forced her how? Was she under duress when she accepted the proposal? It shows how gullible you are! She even said that she got carried away with the proposal. Everyone at some point make bad decisions but trying to put the blame on another person instead of taking full responsibility of your action tells a whole lot!
I clearly identify with what Stella is here talking about. I made the same mistake: i married my very best friend at the time and things didn't go as expected. Being best friends with someone of the opposite sex is no guarantee that you'll make a great marriage couple togther.
Religion has pushed more people in dysfunctional marriage that lead to divorce in recent times. Stella Damasus is right by saying the Church played a role. They seeded the idea into their heads that gradually manifested to reality. At the end, its their decision. Thank God, they both knew it was a terrible one and have settled out of it peacefully. I hope Stella Damasus finds peace in her singlehood and take care of her kids. She's a beautiful person in and out
they were adults not some kids who decisions were made for. why blame someone for making a suggestion, same suggestions worked for others. when they finally decided to quit did the church stop them? nobody can force another to do anything its all your decision so face it
My mother is a widow and I know how people view widows especially in Africa and the African church. Just being close to a man even in an uncompromising position, people will begin to talk unbased issues that she's a husband snatcher or a prostitute and so many other nonsense; you blame Stella for running with another woman's husband but you forget that some of these men find their way into vulnerable women's hearts to deceive them moreso that she was heartbroken after loosing her husband, widows in this phase of their lives are fragile and would believe anything on love you promise them that's why they need prayers and constant visits from good friends, not condescending remarks. Understand why they did it from a psychological point of view first, then the spiritual before talking.
Church will ruin a lot of Nigerians. There is something to learn from her experience. Build your own mindset outside the church doctrines. Dont be compelled by the unrealistic expectations of others. News flash, People don't care if you are living a wonderful life. You will have a more fulfilling life if you live by uour own standards. Providing you are not hurting or harming anyone.
Teju welcome back . please madam stella just stop it, don't forget you hurt Doris and nothing you say justify your marrying or snatching her husband. Stop blaming religion because you know the pisition of God.
Pentecostal Marital Cliche 101: Marry your best friend .... lol Most women friend-zone nice men and marry more masculine providers who have less of the feminine friendly traits. Very few women will marry their friend. Friend and Husband are two different roles. Very few men can be both.
So true. I have a friend like that. He has been there for me since 2011. I skipped to hold two relationships that didn't work. I'm married now but both him and I know that if we had had a relationship or we had married, we would have been divorced!!!
Dear Stella, it’s okay to take the blame for things that go wrong. Religion has no role in this, can you both just take responsibility for things that didn’t turn out well and know that sh*t happens?
@chinenyeuchendu29 Do you know religion is chaotic and religion does not equal Godly? Religion and Church have hurt many people in different ways, so when people are hurt by religion or Church they take it as it is God that hurt them. Religion and Jesus are two different clans. Marriage is not meant for everybody has been said but to religion and society, if you are not married, God sees you less as a person and the ultimate goal of life is marriage. She might be right, she might not be. But truly religion has made people have a different aspect of God, their own aspect of what's is good and bad. And it's not 'bout good and bad but 'bout holy and evil. God bless you.
@@psychopyche6047 if you listen to her again, you’ll notice she had more of peer pressure from church folks nothing religious. Such pressures happen in social circles everywhere. Resilience is what Stella needs not something or someone to pass the blame to so she can feel good about her past. In the end not everything is meant to go well anyway.
I don’t think she’s blaming Christianity she’s blaming the religion aspect of things there’s a difference between religion and being a true follower of Christ.
i love Stella, expecially her role in a movie, there's this movie she acted a blind girl along side with RMD i lv the movie so much which i can rememberthe title, come to her marriage problems, some of you womens don't want to admit to the fact that if a marriage works it lys most expecially on the woman, yes we all knew what happened in ur first marriage, may his soul rest in peace, but the second one is he the man that's bad and third one walked away, my dear sister you womens should check yourself, i,m not saying women should be stupid and not standing up for their right, but it's not always abuse like most of you claimed, you ladies should ask yourself, is this not the same man that always saying if not you he will jump in the well, why does he change, what hv i bn doing wrong, all those questions and tried to make amendment, anyway as the saying of elders, there's no perfect marriage, but when is one to three that person needs to check himself or herself, like Teju baby face just said, maybe marriage is not for everyone, just continue taking care of jaiye kids and flenjor when there's need for it
Apologies Stella, friendship has been a great foundation upon which most successful marriages succeed. It is strange that didn't help you in your first marriage. How were you able to ignore th church expecti9n after only 8 months?
SD is really depressed and disappointed in the man but you allowed it all happen. You had the power to avoid it but you were carried away and needed a man by every means.
A lot of people often watch videos but don't listen to what is being said. Many are mistaking religion with Christianity. She stated clearly that she she was following church (religion) instead of focusing on a relationship with God. If you have never felt the pressure to be or so something by religion, tou wouldn't understand what she's saying.
A thousand blessings
Thank you people are quick to condemn without listening.
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You guys aren't serious at all.
People love to Judge people to quickly...without even knowing things into details..then again some people are worst of but will come out here to condemn others...Stella is an amazing woman and i love her regardless..we all have issues in one way or the way we struggling with...she will overcome with time...
That’s one of the reasons I’m not a Christian
Mr. Teju,
You were a huge part of my childhood. I used to watch you on TV every time with my mummy. You usually prostrate for elders on TV.
😅😅
It warms my heart to see you again.
You are still as eloquent and inspiring as ever.
It was from your show I learned the word "enigma"😅😅. It sounded big to me then.
It's such an honour to hear you again ❤
same here I learnt the meaning of ENIGMA from his show when he invited Charlie boy
Me too
Very unfortunate
Stella is such a beautiful person inside out, I love her to pieces! My prayers are with her.
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Why do I feel I am the only one that understands what this lady have or might be going through. I am a single mum, 1 failed marriage. Despite being married in the past, I dread marriage so much and people don't know what we go through when we decide to date or give it heart to someone and it goes awry
So true!
She still looks great after all those troubles in her life.
May God direct her oaths aright in Jesus Name.
That’s what happens when you allow God take care of you. God really wants to use her.
Ever beautiful Stella, God be with you ma 🙏
Hi Stella keep on pushing one day you will meet the right person know body is perfect.
Love her speaking voice, so smooth, deep & soothing
The late husband you mentioned hete Teju got her nodding, saying yes, yes, yes, she would have still been married to him. Oh, this teared me up now. She must be missing the late husband. Aunty Stella, may God bless you immensely.
I subscribed immediately I saw this channel. Your show growing up was one of the things that made me happy 😩😩. Beautiful
Stella you're such an amazing woman,those who are straightforward and stands on their words are never like by the people. Just be strong God will see you through all
Yimu! That's how you people praise nonsense and call the government corrupt on the other hand. Straightforward into another woman's husband's pants abi? Wehdone hype woman of Stella. May you all have the audacity to tell the truth .
Love you Stella❤. Be strong!
Beautiful Stella, I love you so much as an actress and as a person. I pray God's divine will be done in your marriage and in your life. This is so inspiring and I've learnt a lot from this conversation. Good friends don't always end up as good partners.
She looks amazing...love her from Uganda🇺🇬
Awwwww. She’s getting emotional on set . Be strong dear . Life is full of uncertainties ! Especially in marriages . Stay blessed !
Beautiful Stella you will definitely find love again ❤❤❤
Thank God she differentiated religion from Christianity. Really nice 👍
I love Stella.. I love everything about her❤
Some people are meant to remain friends and not lovers
Agreed
All of these are signs you are to be devoted to the worship of God. You deserve the best Stella,Enjoy God!
Teju, you and your old paddy. Nice to see you again.
She's always beautiful ❤️❤️❤️
Religion does not mean you should marry because of church.
One should not marry to someone because you are becoming too close and one may be tempted.
If that is the case, then the best thing is to set boundaries and give yourselves some space
I’m surprised at her reasoning! Blaming church for her own decisions
@@josephineamawiafe9428Me too I don't get it
While I do not side with her on accepting their proposal, it somehow has some kinda truth to it.
Often times the church will push ppl to get into marriage their not ready for all in the name of prevention instead of teaching them to set boundaries, knowing the difference between dating, courtship, & marriage responsibilities and duties.
But then again can't blame these church elders, pastors, mentors, deacons and deaconesses cos they all need help and are clueless of the counseling they give to their church members.
That's why they keep making the same mistakes over & over again...
@@josephineamawiafe9428 that's how the church has thought ppl to do in jumping into marriages to make the church look good.
However she has learnt her lesson by admitting they shouldn't have gotten married in the first place
U are a wonderful interpreter,God bless u.
Wow... Teju baby face is a big man now.
Well done sir
I get you stella God help us.
I love Stella 247.. I missed her movies, with RMD, Emeka Ike, etc. Jaye was her husband as in so sweet... Ah oga Jaye
Stella you are a strong woman
I love and respect this woman so much, and watching these clips just made me respect her even much more!
I love Stella, she's agelessly beautiful and she's intelligent too and nothing can ever change that. Love you mama❤
How did you understand that?
Love you auntie Stella have missed you on tv screen
I missed aunt Stella Damasus big time! Life is mistry
Madam Stella, PLEASE TRUST ME , TELL GOD TO CHOOSE FOR YOU, THIS TIME IT WILL BE THE BEST AND THE LAST ( The one you are are assigned to his assignment and the one assigned to your assignment and see the wonders of God in action IN FAITH). It may sound simple and silly, but try it IN FAITH AND NOT IN EMOTIONS. God bless you.
Choose again kwa. Is anything wrong in remaining single? She's been there, done that. Abeg make she rest.
@@beebeeolu7165my thoughts exactly. These divorces could actually be signs from God for her to remain single and focus on the ministry he has for her.
Love you Stella it will be well
I feel pity for her after all that she said she's been through. But I still love her big shaaa❤❤❤❤❤ Be strong ma'am
Have you heard from the other person to pity her?
@@chimakalu5195 if you know the full story I'm interested then, I want to hear
The gift of God is without repentance, God blessings doesn’t stop anyone from reaping what they sow❤❤❤
What are you saying ?
She knows her brother ,one she gets married the husband will die So the man does not want to die that was why he called the marriage off...shikina
Teju na man you be e get why.I now believe this lady because I see her in your show Teju one ofcthe true voice of the voice✌
Love you Stella ❤❤❤❤❤
You know Stella you are just doing what God wanted you to do religion is not God spirituality is God so pursue it with passion and with unconditional love you will surely get there I believe
Stella is a genius this girl can sell the devil as a saint and folks will believe. Na so dey play!
You clocked her well. Nigerians too sabi play victim and people will still fall for it. You denied someone else’s her happiness and you want to stay happy in that marriage? She’s delusional and must think everybody have forgotten all the story played out. Ps. No one is perfect but she should face her consequences 😠
God bless u. Nigerians and sentiment are 5&6 and ppl know how to get Nigerian's emotion. Na watin government dey take deceive them
@@gloriafolato8053 I know right! Once it backfires on them, dey will come up with a touching story. Dey won’t come to rant online when the marriage was sweet🤷♂️. It’s her karma, she should gladly deal with it
@@temmz1814infact I'm laughing at people's comments saying they feel bad for her. Like she is a good actress indeed. This girl has no heart at all. She needs Jesus instead of blaming religion. She should run for cleansing.
😂😂😂😂😂 easy biko 😂😂😂
Marriage is work. It is the duty of the couple in marriage to work it out.
Thank you
seriously there are tears in my eyes,when it goes wrong the first time to get it bk is always difficult. If not for the death of her first husband she wont have gone through all this..😢
when the foundation is destroyed......😢
Only a few people can understand this. I mean spiritually. People are now changing wives and husbands anyhow without knowing that the first wrong step will continue to affect future ones. It is only God that can stop that circle in anyone's life.
God bless u. Once first marriage failed,hmmm it's only God that can help.May all d departed husbands souls rest in peace
@@salauzainab7072Amen
I love you Stella..
This is how to interview, This guy is good
Thank you
There is different between religious and Christian, Christian are Christ like.
Marriages are built by mature people.
Marriage break because of immaturity.
Maturity in marriage is very deep
She should have said denominations, not religion
Please let love lead. If you need to help her correct her mistakes and heal, please do so unlike condemning her.
I am not one to blame women when marriages crash but listening to Stella, I see one of those women whom when they want something or a man they throw away shame and reasoning and just go for what they want desperately then when it blows up in their face they find someone or something to blame.
Just see her trying to give a fine speech like she is the victim of the church's misleading. You are too old, wise and exposed for the church to have misled you. You gave in to your flesh!
Aunty, there are so many unmarried sisters in their 30s and 40s in the church looking to God for a spouse and still in line with God's will.. they are just there waiting and never compromising.
In your case, you already have 2 kids and a flourishing career, REST! Leave men alone first and if you must marry, sincerely wait on God... If truly you are a Christian and have an atom of the fear of God, there is no way you will get entangled with a man who is married or whose ex-wife is still living if he is divorced.
Admit you erred to God and man and move on!
Very apt. On point.
Who is this ? Abeg rest
You are on point, my advice is for to calm down don't rush into marriage for now. I read how Doris was accusing her of snatching her husband years back, I was surprised that the marriage crashed, she can decide to remain a single mum if she likes is her choice.
I honestly don't feel anything for Stella. My heart only goes to Doris Simon. No hard feelings.
Oh you know the story back then abi, God bless you, honestly I was not expecting her to behave that way, but I believe she has learn a lesson.
So in your life you've never made a mistake that wasn't intentional and yet you found yourself being misunderstood? Don't go taking another person's Panadol for their own headaches, you don't know what happens behind closed doors ooo.
Religion dragged people into relationship troubles
Something is always to blame. Third marriage, naaaa...check yourself Ma. Nothing caused anything except you
Exactly
You’ve not been in her shoe. It’s easy to judge others for flaws but, sincerely it’s easier said than done.
Moreover, her first husband died, death is not what anyone will wish her spouse. Her second marriage was a rush to satisfy people’s opinion according to her. Finally, she had not come out of her depression state before going into the third marriage. I’m sure that life has taught her a lot of lessons. I credit her for coming out boldly to talk about her past. Trust me, there are scars under that beautiful makeup you’re seeing on her face. She’s yet to recover.
God bless you greatly.
She lost her first husband. So, divorced twice
Judge of the world!
She is not supposed to marry another woman husband .... that was the mistake she made. She shouldn’t have at all ... see what the man did to her now
They can use controversy to scatter somebody life
Can totally relate.
Omoo😂😂😂. I was waiting for her response to the last question 💔. Teju, you must post it o abeg 🥺😂
I think she has given enough explanation people should allow her get a break.Its not easy to date and marry as a celebrity .
This lady is depressed and I dont care if anyone believes it or not. Perfect dressing and beautiful make up cant hide it from those of us who have followed Stella for over 25 years now. The beads and rings in her hands and fingers are pointers to something.
No lies detected... I can relate!
Same here,something is wrong somewhere
Shut up pls! “The rings and beads are pointers”????!!!! 🤯
@@Ibochic1don't mind them. This one that has no conscience whatsoever in her heart. Depressed indeed!
@@TOOO951does depression mean ‘no conscience’? 😮
I think the major problem in marriages today is the LOVE itself. Love is greed, Understanding is caring.
Learn to find a rich guy instead of wealthy folks. Keep religion, friends and family off before and after you found one. And never let them choose for you.
Give this woman a break. No one is perfect and nobody truly knows her story deep down. We don't live with them. I'm sure she learned from her mistakes and will make better choices in the future.
Best comment ever. Full of empathy for a fellow human.
This interviewer is great at what he does. It's not about being perfect but accountability. Stella, was a grown adult who fell in love because she thought she met her prince charming who wouldn't dare to hurt her. But it was a red flag from the beginning looking at how he treated his ex. She's only selling a "pity me" story now because he humiliated her and want to clean up her image.
Beautiful Stella love you sis❤
I think it’s time people forgive Stella. She has been through a lot.
Forgive her for what? I didn't hear she did anything wrong to warrant forgiveness & even though she did, it is no new thing with humans to err, and what makes us different from others is our ability to show forth that divine nature of forgiveness.
@@ristarich8249 this message is clearly not for you.
Are you mad???? Forgive her for what????
@ristarich8249 my thoughts exactly
Person that don't know when rain started rain will not know when it stop, alot of us don't know what went wrong all this years, so we shld leave her alone, no need of dragging her, none is perfect, marriage is a university where no one graduate, in anything we want to do, seek God face and try to hear from him, alot of marriages are under attack.
Music playing on the soundtrack is a bit too loud. It was distracting. Oga editor, please make the music lower next time.
I still love her wholesomely
Karma is karma you dont need to sugarcoat anything. We know the truth
@blessing,God bless you sister for saying the truth, alot of them commenting here don't know that story that was all over the media, Doris was crying up and down, she enlope with the man to US, we know now.
Hmmmmmm, online in-laws
In as much as i love Stella excessively, blaming the outcome on religion is seriously a red flag.
Just understand that religion is different from Christianity and spirituality. If you don't know God for yourself, people will mislead you.
@@_Oluwayemisi Exactly! Religion is different from Christianity.
Christianity is a form of religion. Being spiritual is a different thing entirely.
She didn't blame it on religion, she blamed it on being religious instead of being spiritual. There is a big difference.
@@senayon85 Christianity is being spiritual
Where is the full interview??
If only I can get you to do my Preventive Therapy Session @Stelladamasus
Stella if you couldn't reveal these things how would others learn from your experience?
Reveal to the world why your best friend couldn't be your spouse. We want to learn from you Stella. Reveal everything you know to help others. If not this interview will be meaningless.
It's her life n her choice n her reasons. With wat she has released alot of poeple hv drawn many lessons
So she mustn't reveal even her soul to the world for poeple to learn. Those who cant learn from wat she shared might as well consider her story wasnt ment for them. Its not for everybody
Stop being rude. If you are not ready to reveal things don't mention them only talk about things that you are ready to share full informations and keep the rest to yourself. You said the story is not for everyone. Seriously, a story in the internet you classified as not for everyone. Are you serious?
@@chimakalu5195 is English that difficult?. The story she has put up isnt for everyone simply means not every one must be able to draw a lesson from it. Fthhhinkkkkk!!!. By the way speaking of being rude dont u think u asking her to put up all HER story was somehow rude an unsympathetic on your part. A fellow woman finds strength to speak up about her difficult painful past all you can do is ask her for the rest of the story. So you can feed ur itchy ears. Well goan remove the story from her throat
Glad she used the word religion & not Christianity becuase the behaviour of the church she attended then demonstrated the behaviour of Pharisees
The background sound is too high... The microphone is echoing...
Kindly take note. Cheers 🥂
Teju u look good
Can see the pain in her eyes. Just to add:
Stella didnt have no control over what decisions the ex husband made concerning his child. The man is to be blamed. Why are pepo giving this man a pass. Apparently she didn't know all of it and when she later did she tried to mend things out with the boy's mother. She said she have a cordial relationship with the boy's mother and they used to talk concerning the boy.
Pls. Where are the link to the podcast?
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Oh my i feel bad😢😢😢😢😢
The last question was we'll structured and it screams emotional intelligence.
Why do people blame religion in bad marriage.
But you took someone else’s husband or someone else’s husband snatched himself, left his wife to be with you? Why did I miss?
Let Stella tell us what transpired btwn her and Doris husband, some commenting here we're still in primary school then, to me u don't have anything agst her but she should ask Doris to forgive her, even if it is the guy that came for her she should have accepted him becos she knows Doris very well and they are from this same Edo state haba
@calistermadukwe7977 I hear you and you are right.
They are glossing over that part of getting on with a married man, and they come out and make her to be the victim. Nobody can necessarily force you to do anything. There is no accountability whatsoever. Everyone and everything are being blamed but guilty. I think this is pretentious and no regard to the other person who must have been hurt in the process, we are now pitying the guilty and forgetting the real victim; Doris and her babies. Just because someone came to tell their own narrative or do damage control doesn't mean we can't think critically? I get it. No one is perfect, but imo if they really want to talk candidly, apologise to the family you hurt.
Having said all that, the man is more at fault, leaving his family and breaking the convenant of marriage for no apparent reason. He is just jumping from bed to bed, are we going to ignore the fact that something is wrong here?
If you dont have a personal relationship with christ, church will mess up your life and robe you of everything
1. Christianity is not religion, people confuse this.
2. Marriage is hard work, not for everyone who is lighthearted.
3. Religion is the worst enemy of a man or woman’s soul, it manipulates and depresses, it has nothing to do with Christ.
4. Many are not ready for marriage, the biblically defined marriage, which in the standards of today’s society is crazy backwards, yet in reality it holds the key to the most fulfilling and lasting marriage
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I love you Stella but please don't blame the church.. you weren't forced to marry him. There were chances that you also loved the idea of being married to him.
When you said close friend, did you mean close friends with benefits? (Of course we don't need that detail) and if it were so as stated above, it best to either set boundaries or get married!
Trust me, you're a role model! People will want to copy you because they perceive that what you were doing was right.
It's the right thing to set good example.
Are you deaf? She said the church forced them.
@@JoyFay
Obviously you are the one that is deaf and also lack comprehension!
Just hear yourself!
They forced her... Forced her how?
Was she under duress when she accepted the proposal?
It shows how gullible you are!
She even said that she got carried away with the proposal.
Everyone at some point make bad decisions but trying to put the blame on another person instead of taking full responsibility of your action tells a whole lot!
Nobody will be like Jaye in your life again
Finally found your channel teju baby face
I clearly identify with what Stella is here talking about. I made the same mistake: i married my very best friend at the time and things didn't go as expected.
Being best friends with someone of the opposite sex is no guarantee that you'll make a great marriage couple togther.
Sex before marriage is sin. Thank you for the insight into when marriage starts.
Stella got served with the same measure she served Doris. Karma never forgets.
It's not religion fault, it's not church fault, she is yet to understand marriage.
Religion has pushed more people in dysfunctional marriage that lead to divorce in recent times.
Stella Damasus is right by saying the Church played a role. They seeded the idea into their heads that gradually manifested to reality.
At the end, its their decision. Thank God, they both knew it was a terrible one and have settled out of it peacefully.
I hope Stella Damasus finds peace in her singlehood and take care of her kids. She's a beautiful person in and out
they were adults not some kids who decisions were made for. why blame someone for making a suggestion, same suggestions worked for others. when they finally decided to quit did the church stop them? nobody can force another to do anything its all your decision so face it
@@desmondworlanyo4185 hope you read my full text and the part where I said it's their decision at the end!
Stella don't worry! Everyone makes mistakes. This is your own challenge; but it will pass. Pls take heart because, I still love! you
My mother is a widow and I know how people view widows especially in Africa and the African church. Just being close to a man even in an uncompromising position, people will begin to talk unbased issues that she's a husband snatcher or a prostitute and so many other nonsense; you blame Stella for running with another woman's husband but you forget that some of these men find their way into vulnerable women's hearts to deceive them moreso that she was heartbroken after loosing her husband, widows in this phase of their lives are fragile and would believe anything on love you promise them that's why they need prayers and constant visits from good friends, not condescending remarks. Understand why they did it from a psychological point of view first, then the spiritual before talking.
Church will ruin a lot of Nigerians. There is something to learn from her experience. Build your own mindset outside the church doctrines. Dont be compelled by the unrealistic expectations of others. News flash, People don't care if you are living a wonderful life. You will have a more fulfilling life if you live by uour own standards. Providing you are not hurting or harming anyone.
Teju welcome back . please madam stella just stop it, don't forget you hurt Doris and nothing you say justify your marrying or snatching her husband. Stop blaming religion because you know the pisition of God.
Are you telling us now that we married a man who still in his marriage as a good Christian
Pretty lady, bad choices. Its just unfortunate
Pentecostal Marital Cliche 101: Marry your best friend .... lol
Most women friend-zone nice men and marry more masculine providers who have less of the feminine friendly traits. Very few women will marry their friend. Friend and Husband are two different roles. Very few men can be both.
So true. I have a friend like that. He has been there for me since 2011. I skipped to hold two relationships that didn't work. I'm married now but both him and I know that if we had had a relationship or we had married, we would have been divorced!!!
What happened to "marry your best friend" preaching?
@@music2motivation it is a scam
Teju Baby Face!
Dear Stella, it’s okay to take the blame for things that go wrong. Religion has no role in this, can you both just take responsibility for things that didn’t turn out well and know that sh*t happens?
Don’t mind her! Deceiving herself!
@chinenyeuchendu29 Do you know religion is chaotic and religion does not equal Godly? Religion and Church have hurt many people in different ways, so when people are hurt by religion or Church they take it as it is God that hurt them. Religion and Jesus are two different clans. Marriage is not meant for everybody has been said but to religion and society, if you are not married, God sees you less as a person and the ultimate goal of life is marriage. She might be right, she might not be. But truly religion has made people have a different aspect of God, their own aspect of what's is good and bad. And it's not 'bout good and bad but 'bout holy and evil. God bless you.
@@psychopyche6047 if you listen to her again, you’ll notice she had more of peer pressure from church folks nothing religious. Such pressures happen in social circles everywhere. Resilience is what Stella needs not something or someone to pass the blame to so she can feel good about her past. In the end not everything is meant to go well anyway.
I don’t think she’s blaming Christianity she’s blaming the religion aspect of things there’s a difference between religion and being a true follower of Christ.
Why is everyone defending religion.
Any way that is your view but let her speak her truth we ain't her.
When an old woman fall down twice, then it's time to count what she's carrying in her in the basket in her head.
i love Stella, expecially her role in a movie, there's this movie she acted a blind girl along side with RMD i lv the movie so much which i can rememberthe title, come to her marriage problems, some of you womens don't want to admit to the fact that if a marriage works it lys most expecially on the woman, yes we all knew what happened in ur first marriage, may his soul rest in peace, but the second one is he the man that's bad and third one walked away, my dear sister you womens should check yourself, i,m not saying women should be stupid and not standing up for their right, but it's not always abuse like most of you claimed, you ladies should ask yourself, is this not the same man that always saying if not you he will jump in the well, why does he change, what hv i bn doing wrong, all those questions and tried to make amendment, anyway as the saying of elders, there's no perfect marriage, but when is one to three that person needs to check himself or herself, like Teju baby face just said, maybe marriage is not for everyone, just continue taking care of jaiye kids and flenjor when there's need for it
Apologies Stella, friendship has been a great foundation upon which most successful marriages succeed. It is strange that didn't help you in your first marriage. How were you able to ignore th church expecti9n after only 8 months?
SD is really depressed and disappointed in the man but you allowed it all happen. You had the power to avoid it but you were carried away and needed a man by every means.
… and what is the point of this statement? 🤦🏼♀️
I actually no the church bcos I was a member as well. But it's well
Orthodox church?