Lonely Men are DANGEROUS Men | The Rise of Lonely, Single Men

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  • @ForHarriet619
    @ForHarriet619  Рік тому +42

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  • @91toinfinity
    @91toinfinity Рік тому +995

    You can be lonely in a relationship. Don't let these couples fool you.

    • @LGnLA
      @LGnLA Рік тому +59

      THIS!!!!💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

    • @stephaniemartin9253
      @stephaniemartin9253 Рік тому +93

      TRUE. I know lots of couples waiting for the other to die-

    • @91toinfinity
      @91toinfinity Рік тому +56

      @@stephaniemartin9253 oh damn, this is dark 😂

    • @Word-Smithy
      @Word-Smithy Рік тому +10

      @@stephaniemartin9253 😂

    • @terrystevens3998
      @terrystevens3998 Рік тому +50

      My husband is so incapable of emotional labor and romance that I divorced him because I was just so lonely married to him. He was raised to go to work and pay bills and that was all it took to be a good man and have a successful marriage. After we got divorced I didn’t move out, he begged me not to go and the kids were a factor so I stayed, we never worked on fixing the issues or trying to fall in love again.. that was 8 years ago. He was too good of a man for me to hate him but it’s just sad that he is perfectly happy in this situation and I don’t care to go seek anyone else or start over but I’m just never fully happy and it’s lonely.

  • @millsykooksy4863
    @millsykooksy4863 Рік тому +114

    MOTHERS STOP CODDLING YOUR SONS!!!!!!! This is a gigantic piece of the puzzle

    • @cyndigooch1162
      @cyndigooch1162 Рік тому +20

      Millsy Kooksy They need to stop ABUSING them as well, which is way more common than people realise and is the cause of a lot of domestic violence! 😥

    • @millsykooksy4863
      @millsykooksy4863 Рік тому +7

      @@cyndigooch1162 totally agree!!

    • @bluesteel1
      @bluesteel1 Рік тому +12

      DADS STOP SPOILING YOUR DAUGHTERS!!!!!!! This is a gigantic piece of the puzzle
      Even though I wrote that, to be fair if I had a daughter I'd probably spoil her. Ah the irony.

    • @ErectkyleDysfunction
      @ErectkyleDysfunction Рік тому +7

      Fathers stop coddling your daughters and calling them princesses.

    • @millsykooksy4863
      @millsykooksy4863 Рік тому +1

      @@bluesteel1 YOU ARE CORRECT! Spoiling your kids doesn't help them....female or male.

  • @gus6905
    @gus6905 Рік тому +2014

    As a gay cis man, it is so frustrating how it appears to be so unbearable to feel “lonely” for straight men, because growing up queer, you are already conditioned to feel this way, and for me, I had no choice but to accept my circumstances and focus on my own self growth. But these straight men think that THEY are suddenly the ones feeling excluded or alienated when they can’t get a date within the next 10 mins of talking to a woman. It is so frustrating it’s laughable.

    • @jasminemoon9965
      @jasminemoon9965 Рік тому +393

      Hit the nail on the head. Plenty of us are lonely but somehow how straight men turn into something only they experience, and an excuse to potentially be violent. It’s wild and annoying

    • @deezname6417
      @deezname6417 Рік тому +133

      I wish I could like this more than once

    • @Kaylakaykay1997
      @Kaylakaykay1997 Рік тому +40

      @@jasminemoon9965 This💯💯💯

    • @jdmmg4904
      @jdmmg4904 Рік тому +12

      @@deezname6417 same:)!

    • @CatHasOpinions734
      @CatHasOpinions734 Рік тому +86

      I think a part of it might also be that we have a lot of societal messaging that there's something wrong with you if you don't have a partner. Granted, everyone gets this to an extent, but sometimes it seems like straight guys get it worse. I have a close friend who was seriously worried that there was something fundamentally wrong with him because he hadn't had that kind of relationship. Turns out, he's actually ace, and is doing fine now, but even with good friends and hobbies and no real intrinsic interest in that kind of relationship, he still went through a really rough time just because of the societal messaging that if you can't achieve this kind of relationship that means there's something wrong with you.

  • @namegirl28
    @namegirl28 Рік тому +1847

    Men are killing women for rejecting them daily all over the world and we keep pretending like they aren’t the most insecure beings on this planet. Stay safe ladies

    • @chocolateprincess8543
      @chocolateprincess8543 Рік тому +84

      Exactly.

    • @spectrestatus7110
      @spectrestatus7110 Рік тому

      Those men are mentally ill men and they are crazy regardless of if they are on a relationship or not.

    • @yvhirkush8485
      @yvhirkush8485 Рік тому

      Men kill men mostly. Yes that happens but I can probably bet that statistic of men on men killings is way higher

    • @ellenhelen700
      @ellenhelen700 Рік тому +98

      I know a girl who got stabbed for not giving a guys number in Saudi but the girl didn’t die

    • @mnoell35
      @mnoell35 Рік тому

      See this is what you ladies get for dating and having offspring with the bad boys. “You get bad kids,who kill you!” Enjoy 🤗

  • @dejamcforre1665
    @dejamcforre1665 Рік тому +1400

    we’re no longer marrying for the sake of survival anymore and men are scrambling because they think the only thing that they need to offer is financial security. I want a PARTNER not a man child who cant even take care of himself on his own! They need to stop threatening us with being single bc Id rather be alone than have a grown ass liability sittin up in my house 🤣

    • @kathleenking47
      @kathleenking47 Рік тому +58

      We haven't done this for 35 years..or more..being more independent..and self reliant
      Women married for closeness
      However, the hip hop rap porn culture RUINED THINGS

    • @biomedlib
      @biomedlib Рік тому +90

      Grown Ass Liability? Well said, Deja👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽😊😊😊😊

    • @kaylaEA_
      @kaylaEA_ Рік тому +76

      @@kathleenking47 this point isn’t given enough credit. Listen to the trap music and you’ll understand the minds of lots of these males. Jay Z was big pumping and Bey was independent but look at them now. It’s like men are stuck in their 20s not wanting to grow and evolve. They want to be players forever (well at least until they decide to settle down so they’ll have a woman to take care of them in their old age).

    • @kathleenking47
      @kathleenking47 Рік тому +16

      @@kaylaEA_ I know ALL ABOUT IT🤨
      Constantly complained about it, with NO MALE VOCALS
      however, BW need to stop listening to it as well
      Stop twerking..
      BW need to take dance lessons for partner dancing
      I wish Bey, told Jay-Z
      TO THE LEFT, YO THE LEFT...
      I miss Motown 😢

    • @dianavivaldi4503
      @dianavivaldi4503 Рік тому +83

      The funny part is that they use that single threating like it was something to be scared of. If anything, being single is amazing.

  • @nemavenus9156
    @nemavenus9156 Рік тому +37

    The manosphere is the reason why a lot of these men are lonely and single

    • @annieareyouok7671
      @annieareyouok7671 Рік тому +18

      The fact they can’t see that is wild. Your seeking comfort in misogynistic community and taking on these extremist views instead of finding a real and tangible women to love you. Your want to harp on some imaginary “modern women” who embodies all the things you hate instead of finding a women (who isn’t perfect and everyone has to live with that even women )and working with her toward a common goal.

    • @nemavenus9156
      @nemavenus9156 Рік тому +2

      @@annieareyouok7671 You do know I am not a man I am woman and I am speaking against the manosphere read my comment before making a comment. My point just went over your head

    • @annieareyouok7671
      @annieareyouok7671 Рік тому +3

      @@nemavenus9156 I was agreeing with you lol

    • @nemavenus9156
      @nemavenus9156 Рік тому +2

      @@annieareyouok7671 Ok no problem

    • @kenos911
      @kenos911 Рік тому +1

      Im not a part of it, actively bash it in fact, and I’m still lonely…

  • @StephaniePerry
    @StephaniePerry Рік тому +205

    Sooo...everything they said to us already done to them? Celie was right. Until they do right by us, everything these men think about gonna crumble.

    • @sketchsmith21
      @sketchsmith21 Рік тому +5

      Pretty much. I love your channel btw!!!

    • @nadas.5643
      @nadas.5643 Рік тому +3

      The accuracy!

    • @kemaratkins1275
      @kemaratkins1275 Рік тому +5

      The guy who did this study also mention that men should be the person they can and young men arent taught how to play their role in a family.

    • @ghostmaker8957
      @ghostmaker8957 Рік тому +2

      We dont need yall like yall dont need us its cool we out 🛫🛫🛫🛫

    • @maybesoormaybenot1586
      @maybesoormaybenot1586 Рік тому +3

      I love this movie. He tried to ruin her but in the end he was sad and lonely.

  • @vivimanchester2541
    @vivimanchester2541 Рік тому +68

    Most of these men on these dating sites are married men. Ijs

    • @Renee_Giovanni
      @Renee_Giovanni 3 місяці тому +2

      And most will pretend they single 💯

  • @aureliegedeon1551
    @aureliegedeon1551 Рік тому +1373

    I think what’s honestly pathetic is you don’t see single women doing this sh*t. You don’t see single women inflicting violence on people who reject them. I honestly don’t know what it’ll take to change the entire male population but I’m tired. Like grow up and work on yourself

    • @helena4440
      @helena4440 Рік тому +249

      Women take it on themselves with eds and self hatred. Men go berserko

    • @ershiafrancois3571
      @ershiafrancois3571 Рік тому +177

      @@helena4440 orrr they work on themselves and heal past traumas

    • @Nihilist_Porcupine
      @Nihilist_Porcupine Рік тому +326

      It's the entitlement. Like they think they've been denied something they're owed when women don't accept abuse and overwork.

    • @somewhat-blue
      @somewhat-blue Рік тому +196

      Internalizing vs externalizing behaviours in a nutshell. Women are more likely to turn pain inwards into self-hatred, anxiety, and depression because of how we’re socialized, and men are more likely to take vulnerability-provoking emotions (pain, loneliness, fear) and turn it into anger, something they can project outwards. It’s sad, because nobody’s like this on purpose - society gives us all these shitty messages, and we often absorb them before we even get the chance to think about them.

    • @meko98743
      @meko98743 Рік тому +51

      I do see communities of lonely women which can only be described as misandrist and there are examples of violence committed by lonely women who resent men, but generally, I think this comes down to toxic gender roles. I think men are more likely to instigate violence, more likely to process emotions through anger, and more likely to feel a sense of entitlement when it comes to dating.

  • @em.415
    @em.415 Рік тому +1268

    At 32 being a single woman, unmarried and childless is so freeing. I work from home and can go surfing whenever I want. I can hang out with friends around LA. About to buy a 1br condo just for me. 😁 If I get to an age where I can no longer have kids and change my mind I will adopt. In 2022 women don’t need to get on any program. Our grandmothers had to put up with men for survival. Fortunately for us it’s optional. Also, I’m privileged enough to live in a state that protects abortion rights.

  • @ashleyrogers1930
    @ashleyrogers1930 Рік тому +78

    Men really think their presence is enough. Like bruh I can get any man to just lay around.

    • @victorsoto4821
      @victorsoto4821 Рік тому +11

      I always thought that applied more to women, especially with how feminism teaches women men ain't shit. Let's face it women have the options and that gets to their heads Hence the grass always appears greener on the other side, thus they end up old and alone, since most are never satisfied and always think they can do better. Hence why the majority of the divorces are initiated by women.

    • @ashleyrogers1930
      @ashleyrogers1930 Рік тому +12

      @@victorsoto4821 Women have options but it doesn't make all of them good options. There are a lot of men that you can get with to lay around the house, but it is slim picking on men who will actually be a partner.

    • @victorsoto4821
      @victorsoto4821 Рік тому +3

      @@ashleyrogers1930 Right, I get what you're coming from but let's not deny the fact a lot of women overlook good guys that can potentially make great partners over very insignificant things. Then a good portion women eventually come to that revelation later in their lives how they're are no good men left, but in reality they turned down probably quite a few good men in their lifetime.

    • @ashleyrogers1930
      @ashleyrogers1930 Рік тому +7

      @@victorsoto4821 I definitely don't deny that. But I believe there is such a thing as a good guy. A great partner is contingent on what you are looking for and where you are trying to go in life, someone that has a similar set of core values as you do. I've seen men call themselves good guys for a myriad of reasons. Because girls don't want to date them they must be a good guy, they take care of their kids so they a good guy, they have a job or don't do XYZ like most men because they are a good guy. People are just people. We are flawed and we all have our f'd up qualities. A great partner is someone who you can take the good with the f'd up qualities.

    • @ashleyrogers1930
      @ashleyrogers1930 Рік тому

      @48ft is 50% success a therapist is able to better help you process and identify your emotions if they are good. Emotional support is being a shoulder to cry on, you may be able to offer surface advice but when people have deeper problems you need more than a shoulder. A severely mentally ill person may also need meds. Additionally, taken into account the fact that we are humans it can be difficult handling someone’s deep rooted emotions for hours on a daily basis.

  • @norikadolmy7274
    @norikadolmy7274 Рік тому +59

    Handmaids tale is becoming closer to a reality every day

  • @DMMA0726
    @DMMA0726 Рік тому +730

    I also did start seeing research papers and articles dropping about the fact that here and now most women in the Western world have a choice, and expect more of men. And instead of men coping with this by...working in their emotional maturity, going to therapy, revisiting their beliefs etc., we're seeing the growth of incels.
    And even outside of whiny people on social media this also plays out with politicians trying to force a return to time where women had to rely on men, etc.

    • @DoraWinifred
      @DoraWinifred Рік тому +137

      I read this in a book called All the Single Ladies: Unmarried Women and the Rise of an Independent Nation by Rebecca Traister.
      Women don’t need men we were forced to as we had no rights to do anything. Now women can do their own thing there will come a long period of decline in relationship and marriage rates and men will be forced to step up.
      In this day and age why tf would I chose to marry or entertain a man who brings me nothing but hardship?? Single life is far easier than relationships women have always got the short straw.

    • @DMMA0726
      @DMMA0726 Рік тому +56

      @@DoraWinifred thanks for the rec Imma check it out! I'm bisexual and always preferred men, and also realized how quickly that preference disappeared when I finally got to a place of financial stability and higher self esteem.
      Very curious to know if that behavior pattern has also risen.

    • @amab1853
      @amab1853 Рік тому +11

      @@DoraWinifred I'll check out the book 📖

    • @Princess-rb9yd
      @Princess-rb9yd Рік тому +58

      Tbh it’s not even that women are expecting more, they’re literally just want the bare minimum. Many women are dying to be in relationships and are incredibly lonely however they are not willing to put up the the abuse their mothers and grandmothers faced. Hell some of them are or have faced abuse for the sake of a man, but left bc it got too much. I know many women despite how “independent” they are secretly want to be a (house) wife and are willing to put up with the more domestic and emotional labor just to be in relationships, but men these days want to it all and make it impossible to date them

    • @LoneWulf278
      @LoneWulf278 Рік тому

      Yes. Politicians will always pander to their base. If their growing base is now incels, then they’ll start pandering to them to win elections. This will have a lot of damaging consequences for women.

  • @helena4440
    @helena4440 Рік тому +1341

    Being single (with zero "fwb"/one night stands) has been the best time of my life 🥰 only gonna date a guy if he meets my standards. The worst thing that can happen is I END UP SINGLE OMG NOOOO lmao laughing my way to the bank to plan my next vacatioooon

  • @tonyktown
    @tonyktown Рік тому +34

    WOW...this subject needs Waaaay more than 12 minutes. I was literally hanging on your every word. Looking forward to more discussion on this topic.

  • @lanzinator4734
    @lanzinator4734 Рік тому +180

    Great point about abortion access. If my absurdly violent grandfather didn't have his wife to use as a "brood mare" (her words) and his 8 kids to terrorize at home he probably would have resorted to domestic terrorism too.

    • @maybesoormaybenot1586
      @maybesoormaybenot1586 Рік тому +35

      I just found out that my maternal grandfather, who died before I was born, had 4 kids with another women who lived just down the road. My Grandmother had 10 kids, pretty much popped one out every 2 years for 20 years straight. Intermingled with the last of their 5 kids he was going down the road and making more babies with another women. What a piece of shit!

    • @lanzinator4734
      @lanzinator4734 Рік тому +20

      @@maybesoormaybenot1586 Jesus, that's so crazy!!! And how can you leave a man when you have that many mouths to feed? They probably had no choice but to stay. Side note: my paternal grandfather was married 8 times....that we know of lol.

  • @jayfab4689
    @jayfab4689 Рік тому +604

    As a nurse, I see countless of men dying single, bitter and alone. No one comes to visit them. We have to search high and low for children who they abandoned as children to bury them or make financial decisions...if they answer.
    Then you have men in their early 50's who refuse doctors and to take care of their bodies. Now they have strokes and diabetes. Then spouses or partners have have to take care of men who cheated, had children outside the relationships and abuse them in their youth vs enjoying retirement.
    Then I watch countless men use women in their prime then drop them for any excuse for younger women.
    No thank you. The risks outweigh the benefits of being with them.

    • @demolitionizer7686
      @demolitionizer7686 Рік тому +24

      Not all men are like that yknow

    • @jayfab4689
      @jayfab4689 Рік тому +149

      @@demolitionizer7686 not enough arent like this

    • @demolitionizer7686
      @demolitionizer7686 Рік тому +31

      @@jayfab4689 maybe women should be better. maybe men will be incetivized to do the same.
      I've been "self improving" for 10 years, what did that get me?
      1 shitty girlfriend who couldn't bother to put in any effort into our "relationship". Man haters get hurt and blame all men. Women will break your heart into a million pieces too, but I'm not allowed to be mad about it. So I'm not.

    • @juratory8876
      @juratory8876 Рік тому +119

      ​​@@demolitionizer7686 Hey, if it don't apply then let it fly instead of getting offended.
      And dude, you're allowed to be upset over being mistreated in a relationship. No one is saying that you aren't. Get over yourself.

    • @jayfab4689
      @jayfab4689 Рік тому +44

      @@demolitionizer7686 First and foremost I apologize for your experience. We should all be working on ourselves for ourselves. Yet the man hater comment presents as an obstacle in continuing an unbiased exchange.

  • @kaylandry3142
    @kaylandry3142 Рік тому +83

    My father treated my mother like she was his child slave. I have always known it is better to be alone than scrape the bottom of the barrel.

  • @MrNotkaren
    @MrNotkaren Рік тому +133

    It's unbelievable to me that 'emotional connection', 'good communication', and 'romance' are qualities women have to look out for in a partner. It's a close tie for 'I want a partner that loves me enough not to beat me or cheat on me'... The bar is set so low that basic human decency IS the prize 😑

    • @alfonzobarber9175
      @alfonzobarber9175 Рік тому +8

      If that was really what women wanted there wouldn’t be a need for the article. You want men that you don’t wanna tell us you want but we know. We’re not stupid. Men have feelings too. Instead of saying fix yourself as an excuse

    • @juratory8876
      @juratory8876 Рік тому +25

      @@alfonzobarber9175 Then how about actually talking to women and asking us about what we want?

    • @alfonzobarber9175
      @alfonzobarber9175 Рік тому

      @@juratory8876 don’t do this. Y’all literally have expectations out of the roof. If you women are so genuine and it’s our fault…why are you ignoring isolating and disrespecting men you think are unattractive.
      He plays video games=loser
      Lives with his parents=loser
      No car=loser
      No house=loser
      Too fat…too skinny…too ugly…
      No friends=loser
      Jalopy/beater=broke boy
      Minimum wage=broke boy
      Needs to be emotionally available
      Needs to protect me
      Needs to take me out on a date
      Can’t be boring
      Muscles Money status
      He’s working on himself = still not enough

    • @fixerrr98
      @fixerrr98 Рік тому +10

      The irony is that most young women will absolutely choose a "toxic, narcissistic man" over a man who is emotionally available, a good communicator, and has similar values.

    • @athenapoe3377
      @athenapoe3377 Рік тому +2

      Most women set the bar too high; he needs to be over 6', have 6 figures, and more than 6". Statsitically speaking, there are not many many who fit those standards. All of my female friends have passed up good men for their crazy ideal. One woman won't date anyone who makes under $200k a year (that's the top 5% of th U.S. pop.). Another one had a laundry list of 50 qualities that a man must have to date her; most were superficial such as he must play guitar, he must be artistic, etc. My third "friend" had a guy who really liked her, but she got upset because he didn't text her for three days (he told her he was camping with his bros that weekend). I stopped talking to them because they are superficial and were constantly making catty remarks because I have a happy marriage.

  • @MichiruEll
    @MichiruEll Рік тому +283

    I feel like men would benefit from more hobbies, especially ones that involve other people. Communities and Friendships can be incredibly helpful to decrease feelings of loneliness.

    • @helena4440
      @helena4440 Рік тому +7

      YESSS

    • @toitman2
      @toitman2 Рік тому +28

      Men don't care of spending time with other men. They just want to have sex. After having sex if they truly want to find a community they would. I don't have a problem with making friends or finding a community. I still feel extremely lonely surrounded by all my friends

    • @rachelmaddowswife8713
      @rachelmaddowswife8713 Рік тому +42

      Yes, thank you! Why is it women are always blamed for the fact that some creepy man out there feels lonely? Why can't other men step up to the plate and offer some community and emotional support?

    • @toitman2
      @toitman2 Рік тому +5

      @@rachelmaddowswife8713 I guess the blame comes from the fact that we are shaped by the people we interact with, (our environment). Men are competitive with other men, we do this because a women likes a strong man. The more a man looses, the creeper he gets. Women have the power to lift up a man and stop him from being creepy. it's unlikely for men to help each other because of the competition. If there wasn't competition then guys would help each other but the only reason we are so competitive is because of women. The only time us men help each other is when our sex drive is satisfied, but not all of us are so fortunate.

    • @misanthropicblackchick6092
      @misanthropicblackchick6092 Рік тому +34

      @@toitman2 Why the hell is it our job to stop you from being creepy tf???

  • @RennLea
    @RennLea Рік тому +35

    I don't know if I commented this before but your video a while back about starting medication was the direct reason why I went ahead and did it. I'm not as young as you are and I waited too long but I was tired of the circle of crazy that ADHD puts you in. I'm currently on a work sabbatical but when I go back I want to present myself as the person who got hired and not this person who over processes information but can't process it fast enough but gets stuck in her own mind but can't focus.
    But anyway I do want to make sure you know and I'm sure you do that your video helped a lot of people who were on the fence like myself. Seeing somebody as brilliant as you are come out and talk about your struggle was incredible.

  • @kittirah4967
    @kittirah4967 Рік тому +225

    Damn, I didn’t want this video to end. 😣 Your content is so validating. YES! Exactly! All of this! But if you tell them any of this they’ll just gaslight you, which is only going to keep women away from them more. Nobody wants to put up with that, not even them!
    Thanks for talking about this Kimberly! You inspire us to confidently talk our educated shit and stand up for ourselves! ✨
    🖤🔥

  • @tmarie69
    @tmarie69 Рік тому +401

    No fr. Anybody who’s spent even 5 mins on any type of social media or read any comments in an article, or even listened in to male dominated discussions knows. Be safe out here y’all. I’m so serious. They sent death threats to the psychologist!

    • @kathleenking47
      @kathleenking47 Рік тому

      Immature men

    • @heathers432
      @heathers432 Рік тому +103

      Men are so depraved. Smh.

    • @user-oc1od5mf9p
      @user-oc1od5mf9p Рік тому +9

      what psychologist👀

    • @kekef3620
      @kekef3620 Рік тому +61

      @@user-oc1od5mf9p the psychologist that wrote the article on lonely single men.

    • @adaezez8378
      @adaezez8378 Рік тому +30

      @@christopherbrown5409 nothing lmao. Read past that and try to comprehend the text in full christopher.

  • @FinntasticMrFox
    @FinntasticMrFox Рік тому +460

    Male isolation is harming so, so many people, and it’s terrifying. I feel like so much communication around this topic is lost because responsibility for this problem is placed on women (generally by those isolated men) simply because heterosexual women are setting healthy standards and boundaries. The solution needs to come from us, from men, supporting each other, but not enabling each other’s anger the way the manosphere does. We need to build an archetype of manhood that teaches those communication and connection skills so many boys and men never develop.
    Thank you for talking about this.

    • @brie1026
      @brie1026 Рік тому +53

      Thank you so much for knowing and saying that the solution has to come from other men! A lot of us women do in fact care that men as a group are hurting, but we have to stay away to preserve our safety, first and foremost. I think it's unfair to both blame women instead of patriarchy, as well as to expect women to do all the emotional labor to help fix men's issues. Women already take on the brunt of emotional labor when dealing with individual men. So I *DO* care, but from a distance, and I've been waiting for the (healed) boys helping (lost) boys. Thank you for doing your part

    • @melb.6024
      @melb.6024 Рік тому +9

      Couldn’t have said it better myself, a major reason this won’t happen tho is ✨homophobia✨

    • @boblotoldo3051
      @boblotoldo3051 Рік тому +12

      Let's start by stopping women guilt tripping us into submission

    • @brie1026
      @brie1026 Рік тому +21

      @@boblotoldo3051 U mean guilt tripping yall into *equality* 😜

    • @helena4440
      @helena4440 Рік тому +17

      @@boblotoldo3051 that's funny because most of these incel types crying about women online usually seem VERY much submissive types

  • @cosmicpesco
    @cosmicpesco Рік тому +394

    I am low key glad to see this because I am fed up with relationships (marriage in particular) being seen as accomplishments

    • @heathers432
      @heathers432 Рік тому +14

      Omg! Me too!!

    • @dianavivaldi4503
      @dianavivaldi4503 Рік тому +65

      I will never understand WHY marriage is seen like the biggest goal in life. They make it look like the big deal and the Door to heaven.

    • @em.415
      @em.415 Рік тому +94

      @@dianavivaldi4503 It’s only promoted as the biggest goal for women. And it’s seen as a gift men give to women after women pulling their arm. Very patriarchal. But if women no longer desire marriage it all falls apart.

    • @charmaineespeut4627
      @charmaineespeut4627 Рік тому +13

      A healthy marriage is an accomplishment because it's difficult to have one now days. Maybe I'm just a hopeless romantic but finding a person that you whole heartedly accept and vice versa out of all the billions of people to choose from and grow together is an accomplishment to me.

    • @annieareyouok7671
      @annieareyouok7671 Рік тому +17

      Getting married isn’t an accomplishment but it is something to be celebrated. Having a healthy, rewarding and lasting marriage is an accomplishment. The divorce rate is 54% the people on the other side of that who are happy, and not just enduring, I’m happy for them.

  • @AmyAnnetteHenion
    @AmyAnnetteHenion Рік тому +81

    I’m single and so at peace. Long ago I adopted the motto, “Become the man you’d want to marry.” It’s helped me keep up a vibrant social life, pursue hobbies, get my finances in order, save for retirement, and pursue nutrition and fitness. If the right man comes into my life, it will be a happy bonus instead of a choice made out of desperation.

    • @aram8458
      @aram8458 Рік тому +3

      The problem here us men don't date men. Also, these days men don't go approach women like you said. Men were always alone in their mind. Women are lonely and depressed. Look at the amount of antidepressants intake in men and women.

    • @simonebrooks202
      @simonebrooks202 Рік тому +5

      ​@@aram8458 focus on the suicide rates...I swear instead of accepting reality men choose to cope instead

    • @aram8458
      @aram8458 Рік тому

      @@simonebrooks202 Reality is Men are less likely to be depressed than women clinically. Women on the other hand have episodes of hormonal changes throughout the year that continously keep them depressed. Period, pregnancy, post partum, menopause everything gives them depression. Feminist propaganda includes that men are weak and are depressed like women is a fake.

    • @aram8458
      @aram8458 Рік тому +1

      @@simonebrooks202 Focus on suicide: Men suicide major factor is financial issues, unemployment. Relationship with women is not a major factor. Most men move on quickly. Another reason is decisiveness in men to commit. Most women mood swings because of their physiology.

    • @aram8458
      @aram8458 Рік тому

      @@simonebrooks202 Most men acts as a therapist for women on a daily basis because of women's physiology. Future versions of sexbot can easily replace women. This argument of strong independent woman is fake. Portraying men need women for normal life is fake. Men already bailout of relationships and will do fine.

  • @AmandaabnamA
    @AmandaabnamA Рік тому +199

    I absolutely agree. I'm thankful because changes need to happen. The energy from the older generation is settle so you're no alone and it's so disappointing that so many incredible rush themselves to an early grave taking care of trash men with the bare minimum going on

    • @TimXDDDD
      @TimXDDDD Рік тому

      Nobody forces people to take care of trash people. If you tolerate abuse because of your "emotional maturity/big kind heart" or because you are "real man", then your are a coward or simply stupid.

    • @em.415
      @em.415 Рік тому +39

      That settle mindset is why so many of them either divorced, or stayed in unhappy marriages.

    • @Grrranola
      @Grrranola Рік тому +6

      @@em.415 yep. That's exactly what happened in my family.

    • @coreyaruecker
      @coreyaruecker Рік тому +1

      Y’all have no clue. All the interesting men in my life are single and lonely. All the men with interesting skills and abilities who dedicate time to a craft and excel at it are lonely. The men who sit on the couch and literally do nothing but work and that, are usually in relationships.
      I can say this though. I would not settle for most women I meet, that’s for damn sure.

  • @YeahIGotNuthin
    @YeahIGotNuthin Рік тому +524

    It’s the entitlement… men really feel like they have the right to take human life just because they hate their own life. It’s really ridiculous!

    • @theadvancedforce1017
      @theadvancedforce1017 Рік тому +30

      Get healing. Don't generalize.

    • @ievolcisum
      @ievolcisum Рік тому

      @@theadvancedforce1017 it's not generalization when statistical data supports the idea that men commit violent crimes at a higher rate then women. Uno reverse, get healing. Eyeglasses and a computer while you're at it. It's very searchable and understood to be universally common sense. There is no Taliban equivalence for women.

    • @YeahIGotNuthin
      @YeahIGotNuthin Рік тому +103

      @@theadvancedforce1017 no, it’s a very real problem that is effecting black women every 4 hours.

    • @theadvancedforce1017
      @theadvancedforce1017 Рік тому

      @@YeahIGotNuthin social media is really turning us against each other. I don't support the guys that you described. As well as other toxic groups such as divestors that spread racism against all blk men. Which isn't right either. Internet can be draining for us a whole.

    • @theadvancedforce1017
      @theadvancedforce1017 Рік тому +10

      @@YeahIGotNuthin Do you think we can last a full week without the internet?

  • @sugarpearl9781
    @sugarpearl9781 Рік тому +43

    I think gender roles for women in relationships have evolved past just cooking, cleaning, child rearing, etc. Now we have jobs, we make our own money, and we can protect and support ourselves. But the gender roles for men haven’t evolved alongside us and they still think we should fall all over ourselves because they have a good job, are in shape, and aren’t abusive (for some of them). And it’s not enough anymore.
    Women have been saying for years we want emotional support, maturity and intelligence and so many men can’t or flat out refuse to deliver and then try to gaslight us on not knowing what we want. It’s exhausting. And now men are lonely and depressed and bitter and are nursing a lot of resentment towards women because marriages and relationships have always benefited them more than us and on some level they know this.

    • @boblotoldo3051
      @boblotoldo3051 Рік тому +5

      Divorce benefits you more*

    • @girlwhomustnotbenamed4139
      @girlwhomustnotbenamed4139 Рік тому +8

      Spot on! I'd just add that any man who feels women should fall over themselves for them for any reason is actually very likely abusive.

    • @sugarpearl9781
      @sugarpearl9781 Рік тому +12

      @@boblotoldo3051 that’s not true for most women. most men aren’t making the kind of money that would be the primary motivation for a divorce.

    • @theironson1043
      @theironson1043 Рік тому +2

      relationships have always been a burden to avg men, there has never really been a huge benefit, unless u can name 1 other than seggs and companionship but the women routinely cut that off arbitrarily, in my experience I had the emotional maturity, support, and intelligence ur talking about but my partner (like most women), was just hypergamous, the more effort I put in the further it pushed her away, the guy who came after me put no effort in and got everything I wanted out of her, modern women don't reward intelligence, emotional maturity and support, that's why they use guys who provide emotional support w/ and will get smashed by emotionally unavailable men. Women reward emotional unavailability, and men who have options its really that simple..
      Men are lonely because the life of a man is hard and involves a lot of rejection and solitude, many times you get ghosted by women who pretend to be interested and ur just suppose t take it, sometimes u get something but then you get rejected shortly after, also males have low social status compared to the women now due to economic changes, which for women is sub optimal for mating

    • @yeelanma9165
      @yeelanma9165 Рік тому +1

      @@sugarpearl9781 most women make 28000 $ per year its just peanut and misandrsist in comment section as if they r something great and mostly men employ them on basis of quotas or reservation

  • @Juiceharlot
    @Juiceharlot Рік тому +301

    Having personal stability and financial safety, keeps women from marriage and unhealthy partnerships. Living alone and being comfortable in my own space. Has left me fulfilled in ways partnering men has never. I have gone on several dates lately where men have expressed that they feel like dating has been harder for them or that there's this loneliness that isn't being fulfilled for them and I can just actively express to these men on these dates that I don't feel that same way that that's not what I'm experiencing I think I'm dating people and when they don't match with me I don't think that it's the end of the world and I don't feel lonely and I'm not on dates to cure myself of loneliness because I have not felt lonely.
    I have amazing friends, a wonderful relationship with my family, good hobbies, and an amazing dog. Men do not have good politics on basic things STILL and don't make good company. They aren't growing and changing. And having my own things allows me to step away from all the situations women before me had to sit on their hands about.

    • @merarieloise
      @merarieloise Рік тому +14

      Shout it from the rooftops 📣

    • @Jenna1394
      @Jenna1394 Рік тому +16

      They don't invest in ANY of their relationships with family or friends, no wonder they're so sensitive and overbearing when it comes to seeking romantic partnerships.

    • @monimuppet6132
      @monimuppet6132 Рік тому +10

      "They don't make good company." Exactly. A married man (it's always the married ones) asked me "If you're not interested in marriage then what about company?" I told him I already have plenty of company. "Well, those are just friends," he says. Yes, and they are amazing company. Some of them really think being male and physically present makes them good company. They're all in this comment section whining about our standards being unrealistically high but that's just because the standard was set by patriarchy and has been in hell all this time. Wanting someone I share actual interests with that genuinely likes being around me, wants to speak to me, do fun things with me, and just grow and discover with me is the basic outline for friendship - but that's just too high a standard apparently. Like you, my ability to financially care for myself has given me so much ability to choose my life's circumstances and sitting under a man JUST for the sake of doing so will never be something I choose. Because, why? All they can offer is "well you'll die alone." OK, copy that 👌🏾.

    • @gailainsley6939
      @gailainsley6939 Рік тому +8

      I agree. I remember when me and a lot of the young women in my circle started getting our own place and making our own money etc. this older woman said ‘oh now it’s going to take even longer for you ladies to want to settle down or find anyone because you won’t need them now’. She meant that now that we all had our stuff together, there is no urgency. Leading to being more picky and selective behaviour when it comes to dating. A lot of young women couple up with guys and get into relationships quickly so they can share rent (the women usually do not realise that this is the case) but a lot of guys admit that’s why they do it. For regular access to intimacy and to have half of the rent split. Those women I believe partner up hoping to get married eventually. Them getting out of their parents house is just a bonus. Also a Brazilian friend of mine told me that in her town, they try to get women married off (or to just have babies) quicker otherwise they become too comfortable and complacent. I was confused at first but now I understand why.

    • @gailainsley6939
      @gailainsley6939 Рік тому +9

      @@monimuppet6132 It’s because by company, they are speaking of pleasure. They cannot get that from friends or animals or hobbies. They get it from whatever sexXx that they may be attracted to. So they don’t understand how women can feel at ease with just having friends or pets around as company. They don’t understand that we just need connection and something to nurture (hence the love of babies, pets and things like plants etc). They don’t get it.

  • @cbpd89
    @cbpd89 Рік тому +25

    I'm grateful.I was raise by a mother with high standards, that's how I ended up with a good dad. Neither of my parents are perfect, but my dad would never threaten or coerce anyone and my mom would never take crap from anyone. It taught me to have high standards and respect myself and others.
    This is the generation where men have got to step up, or they are going to get left behind by the women who won't take it anymore.

  • @Infrazale
    @Infrazale Рік тому +236

    I am a 33 year old, virgin, single man. I have hobbies such as building robots, cooking, and going to church/Bible study. Men need to find happiness outside of women. Not all of us are meant to be chossen for romantic love.

    • @nizarr21
      @nizarr21 Рік тому +44

      So rare to find people with your qualities!

    • @christinag1998
      @christinag1998 Рік тому +18

      Disagree. You have to be willing to be romantic. It’s a choice.

    • @munix9351
      @munix9351 Рік тому

      why are you single??? makes no sense. Thousands of women available.

    • @monimuppet6132
      @monimuppet6132 Рік тому +68

      @@christinag1998 Op is not, in any way that I can see, saying that he has chosen to be unromantic. He is saying he has accepted that romance is not a guarantee and is also elduding to the truth that making a whole half of the population the reason for your singular happiness is unhealthy and unfair. He found happiness within himself, something that can be shared IF a romance ever comes his way. I'm not sure what you're disagreeing with.

    • @las8883
      @las8883 Рік тому +33

      Good for you. More men need to learn to be content with the season of singleness instead of making other ppls lives miserable

  • @erikavaleries
    @erikavaleries Рік тому +521

    This explains incels + other horrible communities that blame women for male loneliness instead of systemic societal issues.

    • @Social_Pugatory
      @Social_Pugatory Рік тому +71

      This! They always point the fingers in the wrong direction (at women) start making podcasts about it but never address the elephant in the room; the systemic issues effecting how we navigate dating, relationships and family building under the constraints of late stage capitalism. Desperately trying to maintain these archaic ideals of “traditional” in heterosexual relationships and gender roles and dynamics in a rapidly changing world is doing a disservice to us all. The tides are changing and many of us are still trying to swim against the current instead of adapting because we’re conditioned to believe this is how things are supposed to go-the natural order of things.

    • @meko98743
      @meko98743 Рік тому +57

      And those communities make it even harder for those men to become less lonely. They prey on men who are insecure or frustrated, which are negative but somewhat understandable emotions in response to repeated failures in dating or socializing, but then radicalize them into a hateful ideology.
      It's a toxic spiral and the men who managed to escape it will tell you as much.

    • @erikavaleries
      @erikavaleries Рік тому +58

      Yes! It's crazy to see young or divorced men buy into this angry mindset. Women are just as lonely but I think we are used to struggling to meet someone safe.

    • @kathleenking47
      @kathleenking47 Рік тому +1

      Incels, aren't properly trained by their parents
      I even know a few over 30, who NEVER got their drivers licenses
      They never learned to drive, since their girlfriends drive them...

    • @dennisrobinson8008
      @dennisrobinson8008 Рік тому

      @@erikavaleries The angry mindset is a trap for man or woman.

  • @noomj3922
    @noomj3922 Рік тому +5

    Loved the mix of this new shorter content style plus your longer conversational videos

  • @Parahelion
    @Parahelion Рік тому +18

    For the men watching this. This is what we call an *echo chamber*

    • @amuroray9115
      @amuroray9115 Рік тому +4

      No shit. Every place is an echo chamber. Same thing with Redpill MGTOW being an echo chamber for impressionable men.

    • @Parahelion
      @Parahelion Рік тому +2

      @@amuroray9115 Either way, I'm right.

    • @amuroray9115
      @amuroray9115 Рік тому +3

      @@Parahelion it’s like saying “the sky is blue.” You’d be right but it’s a waste of time to point it out and it adds nothing

  • @doejohn7548
    @doejohn7548 Рік тому +93

    Lonely men are not lonely by choice
    Lonely Woman are lonely by choice

    • @juanjosoler336
      @juanjosoler336 11 місяців тому +10

      They just don't understand it

    • @missandry2669
      @missandry2669 10 місяців тому +5

      So women choose to be alone then men got it

    • @chuckcollins2349
      @chuckcollins2349 9 місяців тому +2

      Facts

    • @yesrelationthesequel
      @yesrelationthesequel 9 місяців тому +5

      That makes no sense even if you’re conceiving of “lonely” in the most rudimentary way. Explain this hypothesis or stop the whining.

    • @Ri57490
      @Ri57490 9 місяців тому +13

      Single women usually aren't lonely. Women usually put the effort to build bonds with family and friends, and reach out more to keep in contact with others. Men don't put the same amount of effort with their non-romantic relationships, so single men are usually lonely.

  • @bodhisattva2348
    @bodhisattva2348 Рік тому +411

    Men: we're lonely. We want women
    Also men: 25 is too old for me. you hit the wall.

    • @adaezez8378
      @adaezez8378 Рік тому +33

      😂😂😂😂

    • @The_torero
      @The_torero Рік тому +62

      The chickens are well and truly coming home to roost for men. I have very little sympathy.

    • @nemavenus9156
      @nemavenus9156 Рік тому +46

      Bodhisattva Don't forget about the ridiculous weight requirements

    • @Cyrus992
      @Cyrus992 Рік тому +6

      If that was the standard for centuries, why can it be for now as well?

    • @nemavenus9156
      @nemavenus9156 Рік тому +45

      @@Cyrus992 It doesn't need to stay the same it needs to progress with time

  • @AstroBaby91
    @AstroBaby91 11 місяців тому +5

    They blame women for wanting better for themselves. Meanwhile, men never compromise.

  • @ceecollette6708
    @ceecollette6708 Рік тому +20

    I was wondering where I heard that article from...Picky Girl Travels the World did a recent interview called "The Free Black Woman | Unpartnered Unbothered Unchained" where they talked about this. It was such a great conversation...I think she shouted you out too! 💜

  • @deathdragoncat
    @deathdragoncat Рік тому +372

    Yeah I've just come to believe it's not worth dealing with men in the search for a relationship. Women having any kind of standards makes them mad because they only want to have standards for you but not the other way around.

    • @heathers432
      @heathers432 Рік тому +25

      Exactly!

    • @Janna_Ash
      @Janna_Ash Рік тому +1

      Years ago I had an incel boil this down to the need to procreate and keep the human race alive. He basically said that men’s standards are necessary for them to be attracted to a woman, in other words, get their 🍆 hard enough for sex (and get us pregnant). 🙄 But it doesn’t matter if we’re attracted to them or not. Then he had to add in that if women stop giving it up then men will just have to take it…but obviously that’s always been an issue smh.
      If I end up not being with my husband in the future, I’ve already decided I’m staying single. The men are not okay.

    • @CornellG
      @CornellG Рік тому +7

      So are you looking for women instead?

    • @deathdragoncat
      @deathdragoncat Рік тому +36

      @@CornellG Thats..why in the world would you ask that?

    • @CornellG
      @CornellG Рік тому +11

      @@deathdragoncat You said men aren’t worth dealing with. Cool. So are you dealing with women instead or simply deciding to remain single forever?

  • @Nyammings
    @Nyammings Рік тому +336

    Yes. When I first heard about this study the first thought I had is that men solve their problems with violence. So this is absolutely concerning for me. The rise of childfree women, rolling back rove vs wade etc... I also believe that it is all interconnected.

    • @kathleenking47
      @kathleenking47 Рік тому

      What some young women forget:
      Sometimes it's the MAN who pushes abortion on the woman, for her to "keep " him.
      Women used to stay with abusive husbands, and later divorced
      HOWEVER, these days, some silly womrn get beaten by BOYFRIENDS and she still takes him back over and over (until he kills her)
      What's happening now, is the crop of millennials using too much 'feminine energy" which is a turnoff
      Thry dont use any type of chivalry
      They don't know... HOW
      Add PORN in phones to that, along with music...and it's a disaster 🥺😢

    • @osakue2050
      @osakue2050 Рік тому +22

      Fr

    • @annieareyouok7671
      @annieareyouok7671 Рік тому +2

      It is, the birth rate is dropping and there is something called the birth dirth that brings in more racial theory but basically women are foregoing having children until later on in life or not at all. The divorce rate is 54% and most women file because they are unhappy in marriage, and married women die sooner than unmarried women. So you see why these statistics make women lean more toward being single as the happier venture. The government needs more workers, and they want to uphold “family values ” but at the crux of all this is a lot of unhappy women who have to sacrifice in order for the “American Dream” to be made a reality. Also men are not even meeting the bar for healthy relationship standards. I value marriage, I hope to be married some day but if I never find the right man I’ll be more than happy to just have a long term partner and no children.

    • @merarieloise
      @merarieloise Рік тому +18

      It is definitely interconnected.

    • @womanistwoo
      @womanistwoo Рік тому +34

      Mhmm. They need workers for the next generation 🫠

  • @Zikomo7
    @Zikomo7 Рік тому +229

    A lot of men are unpleasant to be around. Boring, unintelligent, not funny, etc. The worst feeling is being lonely in a relationship. Might as well have the house to yourself then

    • @stephaniemartin9253
      @stephaniemartin9253 Рік тому +17

      FACTS

    • @Lasagnadelreyyy
      @Lasagnadelreyyy Рік тому +40

      This. I had to take a break from dating because I felt like I always carried conversation. 🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @Zikomo7
      @Zikomo7 Рік тому +36

      @@Lasagnadelreyyy oof. Been there. And the man will be genuinely shocked that you’re not interested anymore. Being likable is just unheard of to them haha

    • @Word-Smithy
      @Word-Smithy Рік тому +40

      Agreed. They add nothing to my life but irritation and bring out the worst in me.

    • @modalsoul6511
      @modalsoul6511 Рік тому

      I’m gonna play devils advocate here , a lot of women are boooooring, unintelligent, and not funny , that’s an individual thing , that goes for men and women . Women aren’t exempt from that just like men aren’t.

  • @SoulOfTheSouth
    @SoulOfTheSouth Рік тому +11

    Ok so me being single for years makes me a dangerous person. Are you serious? I’ve been single for years but that doesn’t make me dangerous. I think you shouldn’t judge a book by it’s cover.

    • @halocraze9839
      @halocraze9839 Рік тому +4

      Not single but lonely men are dangerous

  • @DonnieMoreland
    @DonnieMoreland Рік тому +216

    Interestingly, what's often left out of this conversation is the culture of grooming which informs so much of what has become incel and incel performance. After Alana ( a name that doesn't get mentioned enough in discussing who's accountable for how arrived here ) coined the phrase in the late 90's, it was co-opted in the early 2010s and a lot of sick cats began employing the same grooming/radicalization tactics as domestic terrorist organizations to elicit the allegiance of children, and vulnerable dudes looking for social supports. No one calls out the similarities and relationships between the likes of Andrew Tate, groups like Stormfront, and groups like ISIS. They all demand the same things and yield the same results. But because hating women is profitable and generates a lot of social currency, we've created an industry around letting who would, in any other context, be considered terrorist propagandists become trivialized as mere sensationalists and "shock jocks".

    • @pisceanbeauty2503
      @pisceanbeauty2503 Рік тому +35

      Gangs, cults, and radical organizations all use the same tactics to recruit people. Prey on vulnerabilities and make people feel accepted and validated in the early stages.

    • @DonnieMoreland
      @DonnieMoreland Рік тому +1

      @@pisceanbeauty2503 To a point, yes. But with the advent of the information age, there has been a bevy of more insidious tactics used by white supremacist orgs., and religious extremists to draw the interests of those groups mentioned. I should've specified the point so thank you for that comment. While gangs might employ celebrity connections to draw interest, their recruitment is much more interpersonal. I bring up those two specific factions (white supremacists and religious extremists) in relationship to incel radicalization/grooming because they all share the same pattern of digital grooming/radicalization tactics (bombastic video production, relating "due" prosperity and identity, along with centralizing terror, or even horrorism as a means of humiliating their "enemies", etc.). Yes, grooming is grooming but where, how and to what degree these boys/men are being groomed has changed a lot in the past two decades.

    • @pisceanbeauty2503
      @pisceanbeauty2503 Рік тому +22

      @@DonnieMoreland Yep, the internet age + social media has made this kind of manipulation easier and more insidious.

    • @em.415
      @em.415 Рік тому +1

      That’s why they try to get girls pregnant as soon as possible. Control.

    • @coreyaruecker
      @coreyaruecker Рік тому

      This is wild. Where the hell do you live? If I walked around my city openly hating women, it would not only not be profitable, it would probably result in homelessness. And I live in a very conservative province in Canada (relative to Canada, still left of the DNC in America)

  • @MarciaMatthews
    @MarciaMatthews Рік тому +111

    Society has evolved, and men must evolve too, and find their place in an equal society.

    • @ke6944
      @ke6944 Рік тому +30

      It's not an equal society. It's an increasing unequal society.

    • @MarciaMatthews
      @MarciaMatthews Рік тому

      @@ke6944 With technology, women can do most jobs men do, but men cannot control reproduction. Try as they might, a woman will find a way to choose the best man for her, and lonely men go wanting.

    • @monimuppet6132
      @monimuppet6132 Рік тому +5

      @@ke6944 It's unequal because people make it so. When enough people grow past believing the circumstances of their birth grant them the right to rule over others (i.e. Believing being born with a certain set of reproductive organs entitles you to subservience from those born with the other set) then the world can move to being more equal. You have to put in the work, everyone. You can't just wait around for civilization to magically BECOME more equal.

    • @namegirl28
      @namegirl28 Рік тому +4

      @@ke6944 do you care about all the inequalities in society?

    • @ke6944
      @ke6944 Рік тому +3

      @@namegirl28 I would love to live in a more equitable society, so yes I do care about social and economical inequalities and how it affects both men and women.

  • @aryanne5012
    @aryanne5012 Рік тому +174

    I wish the doctor who conducted this study, would have delved even deeper into this and examined what the non romantic relationships looked like, and if not having fulfilling relationships outside of romantic intent, also contributes to this loneliness. It's my perception that alot of single women these, are not so put out about being single is because their not lonely. They've taken to curate other relationships that are healthy and fulfilling.

    • @merarieloise
      @merarieloise Рік тому +5

      That’s a very good point

    • @lolabint3411
      @lolabint3411 Рік тому +14

      This is definitely true. It's sad that most men don't always enjoy close friendships with other men that most women often enjoy, where they can be vulnerable with each other etc.

    • @aryanne5012
      @aryanne5012 Рік тому +16

      @@lolabint3411 girl, be hanging around ppl for 50-leven years, and don't none of their intimate thoughts. Haven't even scratched the surface of what makes their "friend" tick. I love meeting men who can confidently admit, that they have a best friend. Not just a homebody. I could be wrong, but it just feels like they know how to develop close bonds, their emotionally available.

    • @pythonjava6228
      @pythonjava6228 Рік тому +12

      Amen. Women are more likely to have intimate friendships with other women.
      Its disappointing when people speak of relationships and loneliness exclusively in the context if romance as if that's the only connection that exists.
      Many lonely men probably dont have good relationships with their families or deep friendships.

  • @editedcritic4354
    @editedcritic4354 Рік тому +21

    I think all in all, this article just proves that men need to be kind to themselves and to each other. They need to figure out appropriate ways to express themselves and navigate around loneliness.
    At the end of the day, it's not a war, we are all humans and we just have to try everyday to be the best people we can. I'm also happy that women aren't settling for mistreatment anymore.

    • @artemis7642
      @artemis7642 Рік тому

      Would you marry a man with good character, values and treats you good but has an average income?

    • @faithalways8537
      @faithalways8537 Рік тому +1

      @@artemis7642 yes

    • @artemis7642
      @artemis7642 Рік тому

      @@faithalways8537 👆wifey

    • @bennyblanco5555
      @bennyblanco5555 8 місяців тому +1

      @@artemis7642 all they do is lie, but go ahead and gamble if you want

    • @artemis7642
      @artemis7642 8 місяців тому +1

      @@bennyblanco5555 we should have some faith in people... If everyone was to think that way nobody would form friends or build relationships.

  • @immawalkingw3087
    @immawalkingw3087 Рік тому +20

    This comment section is full of hate towards men.

    • @orhanemiratlgan9478
      @orhanemiratlgan9478 Рік тому +13

      Not a surprise. Do anything in this world. But do not ever, I mean ever expect empathy from women.

    • @DonTheking
      @DonTheking Рік тому +4

      @@orhanemiratlgan9478 facts

    • @bennyblanco5555
      @bennyblanco5555 8 місяців тому

      They are just children

    • @relrel1996
      @relrel1996 5 місяців тому

      Facts

    • @abor1males
      @abor1males 5 місяців тому +3

      Good

  • @pisceanbeauty2503
    @pisceanbeauty2503 Рік тому +126

    This is a direct result of our social and economic systems failing in tangent with continuing toxic values that have treated women as under the authority of men, and that many men still feel entitled to. It’s harder for everyone to access high paying jobs and education, and women have higher standards as we have been able to enter these spaces on more equitable terms. We’ve also dismantled a lot of the social spaces that people and men in particular used to access for community outside of their romantic relationships: social clubs, sports leagues, community orgs, etc. So mix the social isolation, lack of equal opportunity, and feelings of entitlement together and that can unfortunately lead to bad results.

    • @rainbeauxunicorn5237
      @rainbeauxunicorn5237 Рік тому +15

      Social and economic systems failing has nothing to do with men opting out of being better communicators, being emotionally available, being honest, being self aware, having emotional intelligence and maturity. That’s just a cop out. Since women aren’t relying on them being breadwinners, entitlement is their downfall. Plain and simple.

    • @pisceanbeauty2503
      @pisceanbeauty2503 Рік тому +8

      @@rainbeauxunicorn5237 Those are factors but when you look at these instances of mass violence I think they are tied just as much to men’s anger and frustration over larger societal failures being redirected toward innocent people in the form of violence. I’m not saying it as a cop out or to remove any kind of individual responsibility, but we also can’t avoid these bigger societal factors at play. I also mentioned toxic values also being a factor, which is what you described in your comment.

    • @girlwhomustnotbenamed4139
      @girlwhomustnotbenamed4139 Рік тому +3

      @@pisceanbeauty2503 I think the key is the systemic entitlement that the patriarchal system and its messaging instill in men from day 1. All the difficulties (alienation, job market, economic hardship etc.) are also present in the lives of other demographics but straight men have systemically reacted to the slightest inconvenience or challenge to their wants and desires with agression and violence because what they start out with is a level of entitlement that is unique to their particular demographic. Entitlement is the main societal factor that is behind their violent behaviour, which is why it is the factor that needs to change. They need to understand that the patriarchy is toxic to them as well and opt out of its limiting and destructive narratives. As long as they feel the only identity they have is coming from external validation, while they also feel entitled to this validation, nothing can and will fundamentally change.

    • @steph6109
      @steph6109 Рік тому +2

      The social places don't make a difference. Inadequate men get dumped or never picked up at all.
      What a lack of social places does is increase men's frustrations in being able to access women....but it's the same man who is single for a reason

    • @Non-existent_Creature
      @Non-existent_Creature Рік тому +2

      Funny how women are entitled to tall, rich, male model guys and nobody talks about it.

  • @JJJJ-he8bz
    @JJJJ-he8bz Рік тому +11

    It’s very dangerous to need a woman to make you happy. That gives anyone so much power over you.

  • @simoling
    @simoling Рік тому +1

    So spot on. One of your most eye opening conversations yet.

  • @JPaz-cr8os
    @JPaz-cr8os Рік тому +12

    Looks like single men are the loneliest they have ever been, while single childfree women are the happiest, healthiest they have ever been!

    • @jamelahallsdyer
      @jamelahallsdyer Рік тому +2

      Lmao fr

    • @bennyblanco5555
      @bennyblanco5555 8 місяців тому

      Keep lying to yourselves it’s funny

    • @kwamebrobbey-315
      @kwamebrobbey-315 4 місяці тому

      @@bennyblanco5555 its true though

    • @bennyblanco5555
      @bennyblanco5555 4 місяці тому

      @@kwamebrobbey-315 enjoy the coping i mean, there's nothing else to say. you want to deny reality so have fun

  • @phoenix8125
    @phoenix8125 Рік тому +14

    I think this is wrong but lets be honest men are in a big disadvantage in everything related to relationships, friendships... if only women knew how horrible it feels

  • @bidah007
    @bidah007 Рік тому +137

    Women should invest in creating gated and luxurious neighborhoods For WOMEN ONLY.

    • @slowednreverbbg5175
      @slowednreverbbg5175 Рік тому +20

      pleasee make this happen in my life time 🙏🏼

    • @Word-Smithy
      @Word-Smithy Рік тому +20

      That's considered discrimination and is illegal under federal law unless they could frame it as housing for some kind of special need -- and be prepared to defend it in court.

    • @oaklandsoldier8520
      @oaklandsoldier8520 Рік тому +1

      So, women could build and create their own homes. No need for any male construction or landscaping. Only female police and firefighters. No men are necessary right? You fight and defend for yourself only.

    • @moontears3887
      @moontears3887 Рік тому +23

      Men would try mightily to tear it down, they can’t live without the attention of women.

    • @adventuresociety588
      @adventuresociety588 Рік тому +4

      I’ve been thinking of doing this for years. I plan on doing it too and I can’t wait to make this dream a reality.

  • @heyguidance
    @heyguidance Рік тому +2

    Great topic! You rock, Kimberly ✊🏼

  • @moustik31
    @moustik31 Рік тому +199

    This is one of the reasons, some men prefer young women (in their early 20s). Most of us are so ignorant at this age with little boundaries.
    So, the study was broader than the part highlighted. The part about BW is not surprising for example. But also, Mina Le just made a video about femcels, even if it's more an aesthetic than a movement of ideas.

    • @rounz1
      @rounz1 Рік тому +26

      The first line of your post reminds me of Al Bundy in Married with Children. In one episode he said: 'I'm a man--a real man. A man who loves girls and hates women!"

    • @christopher6060
      @christopher6060 Рік тому +4

      A big fan of Harriet and As a straight cis male I couldn't agree more about everything she has said.
      Based of your comment of older men dating younger girls and the girls being naive I guess that may explain younger men dating less ( not validation of anything else they do). I think the standard set of females in the genz/millennia are fine but just not attainable by their peers of the opposite sex. However that is fine I guess the average 16-27 can no longer be average as they are competing with men that maybe older, more mature, stable etc. But I'm not complaining, both parties are entitled to standard I don't drop my standard nor should someone else in fact I work on myself to meet the standard set my those I desire
      Just a thought

    • @ParisLeShea
      @ParisLeShea Рік тому +10

      @@christopher6060 hoping you meant 18 instead of 16 lol but interesting take

    • @christopher6060
      @christopher6060 Рік тому +2

      @@ParisLeShea what I meant is even for a 16 year old boy a girl his age would rather a 17 year old. A 16 year old girl would date an 18 year old over here peers even though illegal but my point is from a young age a females' peers are no longer of interest and rather someone in general who brings more which is normally older person.

    • @ParisLeShea
      @ParisLeShea Рік тому +21

      @@christopher6060 yes and even then, we are definitely learning that age doesn’t dictate maturity and many women would rather just opt out of dating altogether than date someone older.

  • @williamfagerlund158
    @williamfagerlund158 Рік тому +13

    I wonder what it takes for people to snap out of the childlike mentality of "boys vs girls", and try to see the bigger picture. The disconnect is mutual. There are problems and privileges on both sides of the spectrum, just taking different expressions.

    • @circleinforthecube5170
      @circleinforthecube5170 Рік тому +3

      black and white tribalistic thinking like group vs group is responsible for the majority of human misery

    • @bennyblanco5555
      @bennyblanco5555 8 місяців тому

      Actually, it’s giving them the right to vote which they don’t deserve

  • @chrislyn1868
    @chrislyn1868 Рік тому +29

    It’s just hard to have sympathy. Black women are constantly mocked and made fun of for being the least partnered and lonely, but now all of a sudden we have to read think pieces about lonely men and actually give them empathy when we got none? Idk man.

    • @complete_mad_house179
      @complete_mad_house179 Рік тому +6

      > Is a self proclaimed demographic of people who suffer from Loneliness
      > Doesn't have sympathy for other individuals going through the same thing at an alarming rate
      Maybe this is why you are the "least Partnered."

    • @Souleyme
      @Souleyme Рік тому +4

      @@complete_mad_house179 she’s clearly talking about the toxic men. Don’t worry about her being the least partnered when you might be next with that dumb mindset.

    • @bennyblanco5555
      @bennyblanco5555 8 місяців тому

      Just do your job as a woman and we will want you. It’s very simple.

  • @illuminatibraincontrol
    @illuminatibraincontrol Рік тому +11

    I feel like everyone saying "men just won't go to therapy" are kind of ignoring a very real problem, which is that mental health care in America is simply horrible, many are unable to find a therapist and when one can, it can be very difficult still to find a decent one. I've had friends with psychiatrists and medication shoot themselves. I've had friends and family grow more suicidal through medication that just didn't work for them, with doctors that won't listen. I've had my own therapist look at me blankly, at a loss for how to proceed, before resuming her autopilot. It was one of the times I felt closest to finalization. Additionally, I, and many others, are not given a framework to assess our own mental health. We are too often raised with a dulled emotional upbringing, which you did address, and it can take a long time in these circumstances to realize what's happening, and then even longer to actually successfully acquire proper help.
    I do need therapy. And I want to try again. It's just so hard to find someone who can understand my brand of cPTSD.

  • @arnystalking.3849
    @arnystalking.3849 Рік тому +37

    yep ! i wish every men read Bell Hooks "the power of change : masculinity and love "

    • @SunseedStarchild
      @SunseedStarchild Рік тому

      If only they didn't hate feminists so much, they'd realize some of them worked on their behalf too.

    • @brie1026
      @brie1026 Рік тому +1

      You mean "The Will to Change"? Or is this another bell hooks book?

    • @arnystalking.3849
      @arnystalking.3849 Рік тому +2

      @@brie1026 yes this one ! I read mine in French so I try to re-translate it 😀

    • @brie1026
      @brie1026 Рік тому

      @@arnystalking.3849 Got it

  • @JessieBanana
    @JessieBanana Рік тому +19

    I don’t understand how men can ever proclaim to be “leaders” and heads of household and community when they’re like actual children who can not manage their emotions without women. It’s absurd.

  • @rainbeauxunicorn5237
    @rainbeauxunicorn5237 Рік тому +252

    I call BS on men blaming “loneliness” on their penchant for acting out violently. Women have been dealing with loneliness and mature aged singlehood for centuries. Its not loneliness that the problem. It’s their feelings of entitlement and their disdain for women that pushing them to act out violently. They don’t see us as ppl, as having the right to decline male attention. Straight up misogyny.

    • @charmaineespeut4627
      @charmaineespeut4627 Рік тому +57

      Facts. I have been lonely and never wanted to act out violently because of it. It's definitely entitlement on their end.

    • @girlyp0px
      @girlyp0px Рік тому

      @El Mero Mero you cannot threaten the modern day woman with being single. Men try to scare women with that BS bc in reality THEY need a woman y’all can’t take care of yourselves and you rely on the labor of everyone else around you to do the basic necessities. Also, if you continue to use that type of language towards women, do you really think that’s going to “lure” women into being in relationships with men or

    • @rainbeauxunicorn5237
      @rainbeauxunicorn5237 Рік тому +8

      @El Mero Mero… 💁🏾‍♀️why don’t you hold your breath and wait for that moment? Since your soooo confident.

    • @The_torero
      @The_torero Рік тому +20

      They are also very jealous of the sexual attention women receive too. That's why if they're not unaliving women, they're trying to disfigure them ie by throwing corrosive liquids in women's face to try and ruin their looks. You rarely hear of women carrying out acts like this on men.

    • @bulbasaur1232
      @bulbasaur1232 Рік тому +22

      @El Mero Mero women aren’t like men. Men need women but women don’t need men. Women do very well staying single but the same cannot be said about men. You know this and it hurts you so bad 😂

  • @LadyT0429
    @LadyT0429 Рік тому +2

    This was a whole word!! 🔥🔥🔥

  • @puckman3241
    @puckman3241 Рік тому +90

    Many of us seek community solely to escape the fear of being alone. Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape.”
    ― Bell Hooks

  • @Ebthehousesitter
    @Ebthehousesitter Рік тому +31

    Please lets ALL start paying attention to that first red 🚩flag. I promise there will be more. Stay vigilant ladies!

  • @zziz6137
    @zziz6137 Рік тому +32

    Just because a man is single doesn't mean he's lonely. I am a single man and I am far from lonely. I was lonely more so whenever I was in a relationship.

  • @lewa3910
    @lewa3910 Рік тому +1

    Rlly important discussion that i hope more people consider. Great video

  • @kamariasia
    @kamariasia Рік тому +160

    That is my struggle with my husband of 15 years. We got together young but now that we're in our 30s, what he's offering is just not worth the trouble. Im asking for the basics and he's struggling with that. Smh, they just refuse to evolve.

    • @kamariasia
      @kamariasia Рік тому +36

      @@texasrose31 any advice for me sis? I'm sorry, it is hard. It's sad to love someone and feel like you have no choice but to walk away. For your own sanity. Being single is looking better and better.

    • @laughingshaman1
      @laughingshaman1 Рік тому +24

      You can love him without having to live with him and letting his baggage weigh you down. Life is long maybe there will be a time when you can be together as partners. Or maybe you go on and make a happy life for yourself. You’re worth living happily.

    • @meko98743
      @meko98743 Рік тому +33

      @@kamariasia As a man, my advice is to go to couple's therapy, but if he doesn't want to, or if it doesn't fix, then leave. You said it yourself: he's not worth the trouble, and he's not going to change by himself, and I assume you've already tried to discuss this with him and he's either refused to accept this or has placated you by making empty promises he's failed to fulfil. So he won't change. There are better men (and women, and NBs--not going to assume your sexuality) out there you could be with.

    • @kamariasia
      @kamariasia Рік тому +40

      We have definitely tried counseling. And no, that's not working. We are separated. Have been on and off. I was trying to wait until my girls graduate high school before I filed for divorce but at this point, I'm pretty much living like a single woman anyway so I'm finding that waiting is not the solution.

    • @derinaries
      @derinaries Рік тому +26

      @@kamariasia Get therapy for YOURSELF--enough of "couples therapy." Work on yourself and YOUR goals based on YOUR new life. Youve invested enough time and energy on someone who cannot or will not change/evolve.

  • @quirkyblackenby
    @quirkyblackenby Рік тому +145

    I feel like men also aren’t taught to have and nurture close friendships. It’s very common for (straight cis) men not to have close friends at all and that’s gonna make you so much lonelier. If you’re only gonna get social interaction and connection with a potential girlfriend but you can’t get a girlfriend then you’re gonna be lonely as hell.

    • @Grrranola
      @Grrranola Рік тому +58

      So many of these dudes treat their girlfriend as their entire social system. She's their mom, lover, maid, best friend & therapist rolled into 1!

    • @tam6011
      @tam6011 Рік тому +3

      Well to tbh women were taught either you just did it. You sit on the phone and talk.

    • @KiraDaBeastNY
      @KiraDaBeastNY Рік тому +7

      I mean. Yeah. I'm a cis het dude, but I'm not lonely cause of the friendships I've had, while not all of em are the most open, are better than some I've heard of where if you weep about your troubles to them you get all types of disinterest. Even then, growing up if you and another guy are close you get jeered at for bein gay. A lot of these toxic behaviors being displayed by men is trained into them via socialization. So of course many of em are going to not believe the problem is them and/or the behaviors they display, they've been trained/raised not to think much about it or even go against it lest social repercussions happen.

    • @monimuppet6132
      @monimuppet6132 Рік тому

      @@tam6011 We may not be directly taught but we also aren't discouraged from engaging in natural social behavior. Girls get to keep "playing" with each other much the way all children do when we're pre-school and kindergarten age. But then that gendered garbage starts getting force fed to us and all the sudden that "playing" is no longer masculine and boys' natural social development gets hindered.

    • @tam6011
      @tam6011 Рік тому

      @@monimuppet6132 That’s not true boys play as kids. They ride bikes together, do flips, throw rocks, play sports together, even spend the night.

  • @orangecat999
    @orangecat999 Рік тому +19

    Industrial revolutions are simply modern day warfare among men on an intellectual battlefield instead of a traditional battlefield. In the end, the result is the same: winners take all. It's happening all over the world but at differing paces. Researchers say that as soon as men figured out how to create mass casualties among themselves they began to viciously cull the herd thousands of years ago. And today instead of death from battle, it's death by hyper novelty, addictions, chemicals, etc. And per usual, men draw the battle lines make the rules, and then blame the women. Blame us for what? Oh, we get blamed for choosing winners (hypergamy), choosing losers (thugs and bums), having babies too young (doesn't make good soldiers), having babies too old (ditto), not having enough babies (too few soldiers), having too many babies (quantity vs quality), etc. In the end, it doesn't matter because men are going to do what they do.

    • @boblotoldo3051
      @boblotoldo3051 Рік тому +3

      I'm reading as many comments as I can and just like the manosphere where men take no responsibility for themselves, women here take no responsibility for anything at all neither.

    • @gz5405
      @gz5405 Рік тому +1

      This is an AMAZING take! I do agree with the blame no matter what direction thing but viewing the industrial revolution as another means of violence is so interesting!

  • @surirel4949
    @surirel4949 Рік тому +104

    The older I get the less attracted to men I am. I just don’t have the time or energy to deal with a majority who have no emotional intelligence and poor communication skills. I find more comfort with women.

    • @danielrickel8807
      @danielrickel8807 Рік тому +11

      Translation: the men you find attractive no longer ask you out.

    • @surirel4949
      @surirel4949 Рік тому +13

      @@danielrickel8807 ha! Okay!🙄

    • @xxxmxxwm1564
      @xxxmxxwm1564 Рік тому +11

      Same. I lose interest in them. I mean, I have experienced so many bad things from them that I don’t consider them potential romantic partners. Every time I’m around a man, I fully pay attention whether he wants to hurt me or not.

    • @theblackmonk3153
      @theblackmonk3153 Рік тому +2

      Same with women most are damage and man hating to much of a headache

    • @isabella6075
      @isabella6075 Рік тому +6

      @@theblackmonk3153 You’re name says it all

  • @kitejohnson515
    @kitejohnson515 Рік тому +15

    I had a 50 year old man ask me to cohabitate with him recently mine you I’m in my 20s and I tried to be nice as possible and tell him no and he was like idk if anyone will love me at my age and I’m thinking just get someone your age living with a 50 year old white man is scary like why would he think I would even be interest and he even wants to split bills ! These men are delusional

    • @EspeoniaManga
      @EspeoniaManga Рік тому +2

      A girl in her 20s moving in with a 50 year old man and still having to go 50/50 on bills? 😂 Dude needs a roommate, not a girlfriend

    • @holyempressw8531
      @holyempressw8531 Рік тому

      Lol.....

  • @derinaries
    @derinaries Рік тому +78

    [S]ome men dont realize that theyve done this to themselves.

    • @namegirl28
      @namegirl28 Рік тому +10

      Exactly

    • @brie1026
      @brie1026 Рік тому +14

      And that they also possess the power to become better.

    • @las8883
      @las8883 Рік тому +17

      Yup. Many of them are so unpleasant to be around and mold their personality and values around these manosphere types but somehow can’t see that those very traits are turning people off.

    • @orhanemiratlgan9478
      @orhanemiratlgan9478 Рік тому +3

      Nope. Social media and online dating caused it. It is called as disney effect.

    • @PeteS_1994
      @PeteS_1994 Рік тому +1

      Who has done anything to their selves? We are products of our environment although we also have the power to change

  • @gianelogan7780
    @gianelogan7780 Рік тому +18

    Red pill has caused an increase in hostility towards women. And believing they are the prize. I pray men get the help they need because they are not replaceable in society

    • @boblotoldo3051
      @boblotoldo3051 Рік тому

      It boosts men's self esteem which is absolutely necessary.
      Men's self esteem are on the low because they have no motivation. The more standards they have via the rise of self esteem, the better off they will be because they'll have earned self respect and worth and not be a slave to their impulses, which, right now, they are.
      Experiments have been done where men will even hit on overweight 70 year old women... that tells you everything you need to know.
      There's a lot of aspects of the Red Pill which are beneficial for men.

  • @cyleaseabrook8211
    @cyleaseabrook8211 Рік тому +1

    Luv your channel. Just luv your natural makeup, outfit selections and hair. Keep representing black women well ❤

  • @krista6538
    @krista6538 Рік тому +9

    “What you’re offering is just not worth it for me” THIS.

  • @brooklynnwolfe4968
    @brooklynnwolfe4968 Рік тому +266

    As someone who gets rejected I will say this: NOBODY OWES YOU THEIR ATTENTION. You are not entitled to anyones body or attention. That goes to men and woman,but I am speaking primarily to rejected men. I am tired of seeing woman die because of rejection.

    • @annieareyouok7671
      @annieareyouok7671 Рік тому +44

      I have been rejected too. Women do get rejected, and not by necessarily good looking men either. There was a guy I liked because he was kind and had a calming presence. I’m the opposite, I’m anxious and can be reactionary not in an over the way but I’m definitely not the calming presence. He turned me down. I was sad at first but then thought, “We’re just not a good match.” Not worth killing him over 😅.

    • @sungod1384
      @sungod1384 Рік тому +10

      @@annieareyouok7671 Im a dude. i get rejected a lot. But how i think about it is that. Well for one women will eliminate you for bullshit reasons and its not reflective on me. Try again next time.

    • @Jedilord882
      @Jedilord882 Рік тому +4

      @@sungod1384 or just don’t try at all and realize if you were truly physically attractive they would approach you 😂😂😂

    • @helena4440
      @helena4440 Рік тому +11

      @@sungod1384 and even if the other person has legitimate reasons that sometimes don't even concern us, it's totally fine and natural to be denied a relationship or sex once or twice it should not be made into a big deal

    • @helena4440
      @helena4440 Рік тому +17

      @@Jedilord882 I mean do men usually approach women they deem ugly or like super obese women? Being atttacted to the other person is key in a romantic relationship I think

  • @RTrapp27
    @RTrapp27 Рік тому +4

    That shade of green is gorgeous!

  • @DrewminatiVideos
    @DrewminatiVideos Рік тому +1

    Great presentation of ideas & those paintings are beautiful

  • @calebhamilton8382
    @calebhamilton8382 Рік тому +28

    A child rejected from the village will burn it down

  • @scj3188
    @scj3188 Рік тому +285

    My mom ,who was a single mother, would always say "men are more trouble than they're worth". As a child I kind of dismissed that because I thought she was just being a bitter Betty. Lol how right she was. Thanks for the wisdom mama! 🙏🏾

    • @theironworker781
      @theironworker781 Рік тому +25

      People say the same thing to men about women.

    • @scj3188
      @scj3188 Рік тому +34

      @@theironworker781 Those people tend to be misogynists.🙄

    • @jeacurry1167
      @jeacurry1167 Рік тому +8

      Mama was very insightful just like my mother and grandmother, who used to say, “Don’t get married, or you will see a hard way to go.”

    • @angels.digitaldiary
      @angels.digitaldiary Рік тому +29

      my gran calls men animals, she says( in our mother tongue it sounds less harsh) you can always domesticate a lion but at the end of the day, it is a beast, same with men. I understand the idea but damn😭

    • @j.7021
      @j.7021 Рік тому +1

      @@angels.digitaldiary THIS!!!

  • @American_negroid_woman
    @American_negroid_woman Рік тому +69

    Young women and girls are being groomed into these sexual relationships specifically with older men. I was furious when I picked up my youngest sister from high school and there was an old dude there but he wasn't on a pick up list for the child so he was complaining that security wasn't going to let him sit in the teachers parking and wait until classes were out. I saw him waiting just down the road from the school when we left.smh. it's about to get worse cause they will petition for them to have access to younger and younger girls so they can groom them to take their bs. We should be petitioning legislators to raise the age of consent for all states and include heavy punishment for offenders who sa especially if the victim is a child.

    • @NewBlueTrue
      @NewBlueTrue Рік тому

      It’s interesting you said this because there are pedophiles trying to get pedophilia recognized as a sexually. So, we need to stop this from happening.

    • @xxxmxxwm1564
      @xxxmxxwm1564 Рік тому +15

      I have a 16 year old friend. She’s constantly harassed by older men. They have no limits.

    • @guccipig2782
      @guccipig2782 4 місяці тому

      You won't give those men a chance but concerned because he's looking for a younger girl (of legal age) to satisfy his needs. Sounds like you're unhappy yourself and don't want the next person to find his happiness.

    • @Uwu-fn1js
      @Uwu-fn1js 2 місяці тому

      @@guccipig2782are you alright?im asking fr

    • @Uwu-fn1js
      @Uwu-fn1js 2 місяці тому

      @@guccipig2782finding happiness with teens and children are u alright?

  • @karrey2706
    @karrey2706 Рік тому +23

    They've always taught women "how to keep a man" and never teach men "how to keep a woman." Women no longer NEED to stand crap to keep a man and they still won't tell them how to "meet in the middle" in relationships. This will get worse if men remain tactless.
    What's scary is the possible gender violence increase from instances of breakups and rejection.

    • @isabella6075
      @isabella6075 Рік тому +9

      What I have noticed is men are so obsessed with I need a girlfriend but when they get one they make no effort so woman are fed up

    • @eigelgregossweisse9563
      @eigelgregossweisse9563 9 місяців тому

      Effort? Oh, we gave effort. I had an ex, she was just, non communicative.
      Face it, if the gender violence gets out of hand, it's worth it. We've long dued our consequences.

    • @petervarga7913
      @petervarga7913 3 дні тому

      Don‘t you think everyone would benefit if we all work together with some more empathy and actually avoid that gender violence? It won‘t be nice for anyone…

  • @sprinkles512
    @sprinkles512 Рік тому +11

    White straight male here... I was always told to be conscience about your surroundings and how you treat other people. I feel like other groups of men are not taught this. This self awareness causes so much anxiety and my demographic group. We feel paralyzed when socializing. We dont know how to fix it. We need a lot of help and no one is offering it to us in any way shape or form.

    • @bluesteel1
      @bluesteel1 Рік тому +2

      Dont care about anyone. Because nobody will care about you. Only treasure your family.

    • @Kaledrone
      @Kaledrone Рік тому +5

      What the comment above me said. We are not needed in society anymore, we are irrelevant, as most of the comments here prove. Care only about your family because chances are they are the only one who would care if you live or die, nobody else gives a crap and will just laugh at your problems.
      What men need to do is learn to live in a world that doesn't want them anymore and be fine with it. Live for yourself and your own hobbies, and your family if you have a decent one.

    • @sprinkles512
      @sprinkles512 Рік тому +1

      @@Kaledrone Just a Mom, dad, sis and hopelessly in love with a woman im not sure has the same feelings for me. Life is so hard. She gets pursued by so many men and just has to be there. I have to earn lots of money, have good looks, be funny, creative, tall and intelligent just to get in the door. And thats only the first requirements before the 1st date.

    • @Pindorama1850
      @Pindorama1850 11 місяців тому +1

      @@Kaledrone exactly, nowadays men are all seen as predators or at least potential dangers all the time, society's going more and more pro-women, not that im complaining, to me it's a great thing, it means that my little sister's going to live in a society that appreciates her. I don't care about society anyway, so long as I get the minimal wage that covers me, so long as I get to eat or drink, i'm completely fine with things as is. can't say the same for others though. just like you said, live only for yourself and family, if not for the family, at least yourself.

  • @ericwarren3425
    @ericwarren3425 Рік тому +108

    I appreciate this video so much. As a black man, I've struggled with emotional connection and intimacy when dating. Funny enough I have been in therapy for over a year and never even thought to ask for help to change this. Will be bringing this up when I go back.

    • @byDsign
      @byDsign Рік тому +14

      Good for you! ✅

    • @steff6146
      @steff6146 Рік тому +9

      Excellent work, brother.

    • @Yomel123
      @Yomel123 Рік тому +7

      Good for you

    • @cyndigooch1162
      @cyndigooch1162 Рік тому +2

      Eric Warren Good on you and I wish you all the very best with your future! 😊

    • @cyndigooch1162
      @cyndigooch1162 Рік тому +8

      @oaktree_ That's exactly right and a lot of boys STILL get shamed by parents, including their mothers, for crying, or being vulnerable, which does them a huge disservice!
      It's a fact that MANY women lack empathy as well, as you stated, and it's mainly caused by unhealed childhood trauma wounds.
      I grew up with a father who hated women, due to his own horrendous childhood. He used to say that all girls should be hung at birth, among other things.
      I remember talking about it at a so-called support group once and people laughed, yet it wasn't funny to me and my younger sister as children. 😥

  • @stormyskyz7881
    @stormyskyz7881 Рік тому +7

    Most men say all they want is sex… not a relationship. If I don’t want to be used for sex why be mad at me?

    • @alexlevingston
      @alexlevingston 10 місяців тому

      Situationship

    • @bennyblanco5555
      @bennyblanco5555 8 місяців тому +2

      Because you don’t do your job that you’re supposed to be doing on this earth

    • @alexlevingston
      @alexlevingston 8 місяців тому

      @@bennyblanco5555 Very true. 🙏🏿

    • @bennyblanco5555
      @bennyblanco5555 8 місяців тому +1

      @@alexlevingston it’s amazing brother none of them understand what their biological job is

    • @BloodBornShadowWalker
      @BloodBornShadowWalker 7 днів тому

      Where is this "most"

  • @elizaboquin9269
    @elizaboquin9269 Рік тому +1

    SO SPOT ON!!!!!

  • @fletchong4110
    @fletchong4110 Рік тому +8

    Women will get approached hundreds of times a month as well as have an exponentially better support system in society (women supporting women). Then they will experience SURFACE LEVEL loneliness then hop on the internet and compare their experience (ex: 5 minutes without a text) to a man’s mutidecade stretch of no attention or love or validation from the outside world.
    Blaming the extremely small minority of violent lonely men to belittle the entire realm of genuinely lonely and depressed good guys out there is mind blowing.

  • @parklady4233
    @parklady4233 Рік тому +13

    Generation X may have been the last generation of women who were taught that codependency is love. These men in trouble in a world of women who can validate themselves.

  • @Kilala.6029
    @Kilala.6029 Рік тому

    Great topic! I
    Would love to hear more

  • @davidmotes2171
    @davidmotes2171 Рік тому +15

    As men, we are used to being alone. With all of the factors considered, we see NO benefit and all the risk when getting into relationships. The result will be a severe decline in marriage and birthrates. At this point, we would much rather sit back and watch this civilization collapse than continue down this path.

    • @isabella6075
      @isabella6075 Рік тому +22

      Goodbye

    • @baphometrise7443
      @baphometrise7443 Рік тому

      Research Parthenogenesis in the animal and plant world for starters. Biological women can self-create Life. Look at Nature and how the males are disposed of after donating their genetics since it must be coded that they bring no value to building sustainable and equitable communities.

    • @xxxmxxwm1564
      @xxxmxxwm1564 Рік тому +2

      Yup, bye! Because we ain’t interested in losing careers and education to give birth to more children to keep this stupid and not working system alive.

    • @misanthropicblackchick6092
      @misanthropicblackchick6092 Рік тому +9

      Women are moving on without y'all get over it

    • @Tetzukai
      @Tetzukai Рік тому

      The end of the world as we know it… What could go wrong?…

  • @inthemindofkenzi8294
    @inthemindofkenzi8294 Рік тому +111

    Single man here. For me it’s a choice of abstinence. Plus I’m an introvert and I believe in spiritual ties. The last thing I want to do is attach myself to a negative person thru s@x. I think str8 men have an issue with being alone more than gay men. Gay me know that there’s a great possibility of being alone in old age and adjust according. A good amount of Str8 men don’t value the options and opportunity they have to meet a partner. Now they are single alone and don’t know how to act. Be safe ladies.

    • @meko98743
      @meko98743 Рік тому +31

      I really think for a lot of men, they want to have a girlfriend or sex to prove they're a "real man". And yes, that does come down to toxic msculinity and our broken gender norms, which mock and shame men for being single and especially for being a virgin.
      And some men never mature and realize that the opinions of people who think like that aren't worth it.

    • @kathleenking47
      @kathleenking47 Рік тому +2

      You DO ATTACH thru sex
      You sin against your own body
      1 Corinthians 6:18

    • @Stallion8057
      @Stallion8057 Рік тому +2

      @@meko98743 preach bro.

    • @bdott1538
      @bdott1538 Рік тому +3

      @@kathleenking47 he’s saying he doesn’t want to though.

    • @inthemindofkenzi8294
      @inthemindofkenzi8294 Рік тому +6

      @@kathleenking47 how am I sinning if I'm celibate. Please explain. Also let he who is without sin cast the first stone.... John 8:7

  • @unknown5397
    @unknown5397 Рік тому +12

    There's just no incentive to get into a relationship these days. Personally, I don't see the point of being in a relationship because I don't plan on having children so I don't need a mate to procreate.

  • @fruityliciousk2704
    @fruityliciousk2704 Рік тому +1

    What a great video.

  • @nellyarraiz9255
    @nellyarraiz9255 Рік тому +105

    1. Why are ALWAYS women blamed for men's stupid choices?
    2. Why are these data being picked ONLY from dating apps? Did comen suddenly dissapear from ANY other place?
    3. How come women ending lonely only provokes cat ownership, where as male loneliness is allegedly dangerous for society?

    • @girlwhomustnotbenamed4139
      @girlwhomustnotbenamed4139 Рік тому +17

      Key word: entitlement. I know you know the answers but I think it's extremely important to actually ask and answer these questions, because this is exactly what has been missing so far. An open discussion about how the experience of straight men (loneliness, rejection etc.) is not unique at all, it's their set of reactions (agression and violence) that is, and that it is because the patriarchy has taught them that they are entitled to women's company and even their bodies. As someone else in this comment section wrote: society has evolved and if they want to be able function in it, men need to as well.

    • @sanjeevpatel2674
      @sanjeevpatel2674 Рік тому +4

      1 They’re not.
      2 It’s become more and more prevalent.
      3 because women can’t do anything else.

    • @fakeafricanprince
      @fakeafricanprince Рік тому +7

      1. No one with half a brain says this.
      2. Majority of modern relationship start online. Dating app are a good source for this data.
      3. Frustrated men normally turn to violence.

    • @coreyaruecker
      @coreyaruecker Рік тому +2

      1. Why are men ALWAYS blamed for women’s issues?
      2. Why are men ALWAYS blamed for their own issues?
      3. Why are men ALWAYS blamed for everything wrong in society?

    • @missandry2669
      @missandry2669 8 місяців тому +1

      @@coreyaruecker Your gender created society so cope

  • @uncletruth4529
    @uncletruth4529 Рік тому +12

    The future is too precarious to be stressing over romantic interest. Find love where you can find it with whoever you can find it with. Live life peacefully and let the chips fall where they may

  • @ah-shar-ya2363
    @ah-shar-ya2363 Рік тому +5

    Great topic
    Lately, I have seen so many so-called relationship experts and podcasts that it's ripping us apart more than helping.
    I've seen more comments of men going in on women they don't know. Saying the most disgusting thing that was not about the comment. They are just ready to go in.

  • @rijnvanessen7359
    @rijnvanessen7359 Рік тому +1

    I am glad you people are bringing this up now society should start doing something.

  • @robertneilpalmer
    @robertneilpalmer Рік тому

    BTW: You are vey eloquent and entertaining to watch, all the best.