He is so right. I woke up in my marriage after so many years. I felt I lost myself pleasing my husband and compromising. When I looked myself I couldnt recognize myself. One day I said enough is enough. I had near death experience and after that I had a spiritual awakening where I felt I was living someone else’s life. Life is too short if you are not yourself in your relationship get out and live life on your own terms.
Such genuine talk... Being mother of 3 daughters... I always think how would I find 3 men .. cz males are no more Men now.. 😢 And yes very true.. parenting is the toughest job in life..
The guest made lots of great points and discussed some very sensitive topics - that takes a lot of guts. These are unfortunate realities of our world, perhaps more disturbing when you hear of it occurring in an Islamic country, but still they exist. One thing I would add regarding marriage is to have a conversation about how you want to raise kids before getting married. Too often people have different views on child rearing which then creates emotional issues for the children.
اردو میں: گفتگو ھوتا ہے یہ ٹاک کیا ہے Ya tw English use kro agr urdu nhi ati or 2no nhi ati tw kch mt likho q k mix kr k 2no languages ka berah garak q krrhi ho😂
یہ سب اس وقت کے نے راہ روی کی داستان ھے جب آپ دین سے دور ہوتے ہیں تو ایسے گناہوں میں مبتلا اور بیچیں رہتے ہیں اسلام قیامت تک کے لیے آیا ہے سکون چاہتے ہو تو اللہ کے بتائے ہوئے راستے پر چلو
U both are good,specially guest talking very well about ground realities & culturel issues in daily married life/ realtionships.Most people are not ever aware of it ,of their own behaviors and desires...
Mard doston main byth aysi aysi wahiyat tips ly ky ata hy Allah ki pnah , aik tu ap ny khud btaya ky chik chik kr rhi hy , bound kr do , and according to my experience, mera husband jab aik adh din doston main guzar ky ata hy blky apni amman ky saath bhi aik din mery bghyr guzar kyta hy, usko wapis patri py lany ky liey mujhy poory 6 months mehnat krni prhti hy , woh bhi no 1 sy , mard bychary ko tu pta hi nheen ky aurat ki dukhti rag konsi hy, yeh tu uski mnhoos maan saary zmany ko chuba ky bythi hoi usko bv ki dukhti rag dhoond ky pkrhati hy , ky isko dbao , phir cheekain niklain gi iski , one day off , with friends or his mother ,without wife , a big no no
I like the podcast a LOT! If I start typing about my views about it, UA-cam would not allow it because of its length. I hope everyone finds their right match as marriage is a beautiful relationship however I just couldnt 😊 I never tried,happy to be single. Have complete faith in ALLAH and follow Almighty totally. Whether you are doing higher studies or working,getting married at an early age of your life has great benefits.
Wife sharing r swapping in pakistan isnnot a new issue ...read the novels by Shaukat Saddiqui who uncovered the topic about early years of pakistan ...early 1950s....plx share the email id of the guest..thanks
مجھ تو لگتا ہے کہ میاں بیوی کا رشتہ اللہ تعالئ نے بہت پیارا بنایا ہے۰ جسں کے نتیجے میں ایک خاندان تشکیل پاتا ہے۰دل میں خوف خدا نہ ہو چاہے وہ جو مرضی کرتے پھریں ۰معزرت کے ساتھ آجکل کے مرد سست ہو گئے۰ اس لیے کمانے والی عورت پسند کرتے ہیں۰ لیکن اس کی عزت تو کر لو۰ بلکہ بیوی کا شکرگزار بنو کہ وہ آپ کی مدد کر رہی ہے۰ہم سمجھتے ہیں کہ مغرب میں مادر پدر آذادی ہے۰ وہاں پر سب خوش ہیں۰ لیکن ایسا نہیں ہے۰ بلکہ مغرب میں زیادہ ڈیپریشن ہے۰ ایک اصول یاد رکھیں۰ جو اللہ کہ نظام سے بغاوت کرتا ہے ۰ وہ نقصان ہی ازٹھاتا ہے
V tru v tru our men not only ruioned BRILLIANT PERSON AND THEN THESE MEN RUIONED CHILDREN TOO JUST LIEING TO THEM WHEN CHILDREN ASK WHY OUR MOTHER IS NOT WORKING WHILE OTHERS SAME PROFESSION SAME AS OUR MOTHER R WORKING . YES YES YOUR EACH WORD IS TRUE EVEN PARRENTS SAY AFTER CHILDREN YOU HAVE TO LIVE F YOUR CHILDREN . MAY B NEXT GENERATION WILL NOT ASSCEPT THIS .
Guest is full of people exposures So his memory card is full with incidents No consistency & no stick to the point conversation!! One big & on going issue Is Narcissism in PK community a lot !! Simple solution Just b simple & follow the Sunnah & Seerah of our beloved Prophet puh’s Criteria of picking spouses!!
ایکدوسرے کو کنٹرول کیے بغیر اپنی اپنی زمہ داریاں پوری کرنا اپنی زمہ داری کا احساس کرنا کامیاب شادی کی ضمانت ہے اور شادی سے پہلے کی لائف آسان ہوتی ہے شادی کے بعد عورت مرد دونوں کو خود کو تھوڑا بہت خود کوتبدیل کرنا پڑتا ہے کیونکہ شوہر کتنا بھی اچھا ہو مگر وہ باپ کی طرح آپ کا بچپنا برداشت نہیں کر سکتا
@@saimamajeed2691 1920 mai aauratain apnay haqoq nai jante thi na inte taleem yafta thi unkay parents shadi kardainay ke bad apnay ghar ky darwazy band kardaity thy unhe khawateen nay apne anay wale nasal specially larkeyon ko taleem dewaye aur independent keya apna ghar bana seekhaya per mard ajj bhi 1920 mai rehrahay hain apne ana ke wajja sy na taleelmi maidan mai agay aye nai duniyawe mamlat mai per ab aurtain kafi aagay agaye hain zaher hai ajj ek independent larke jo ghar aur bhar dono daikh rahe ho wo kyun tolerate karay gee joint family system ko ya ek low educated mard ko jo internationally be fail hoon
@@zhassanraza6079 1920 mai aauratain apnay haqoq nai jante thi na inte taleem yafta thi unkay parents shadi kardainay ke bad apnay ghar ky darwazy band kardaity thy unhe khawateen nay apne anay wale nasal specially larkeyon ko taleem dewaye aur independent keya apna ghar bana seekhaya per mard ajj bhi 1920 mai rehrahay hain apne ana ke wajja sy na taleelmi maidan mai agay aye nai duniyawe mamlat mai per ab aurtain kafi aagay agaye hain zaher hai ajj ek independent larke jo ghar aur bhar dono daikh rahe ho wo kyun tolerate karay gee joint family system ko ya ek low educated mard ko jo internationally be fail hoon
Great sir,yaha yhi bola jata hai shohr ko khush rkho us ki Khushi Dekho ,wife ki pasnd na pasnd uski Khushi koi ehmiyaat ni krti,phir wife in ko model chahie 😂
He is RIGHT RIGHT RIGHT .EVEN PEOPLE GET AFTER BEAUTIFUL GIRL POOR MARRIED A D PUSH THEM TO DO THIS F CAMERA AND DIRTY S... MOVIES THST HAD BEEN SO COMMON LAST COUPLE OF YEARS ABD EVEN BIG ASSEMBLY CHILDREN ALSO BIG NAME HAD BEEN INVOLVED .BUT DURING PM IMRAN ALL WAS MOSTLY STOPPED NOW AGAIN IS SAME ESPECIALLY IN ALL BIG CITIES OF PAKISTAN ALL IS AGAIN GOING VVVV IN A HIGH SCALE GOOD INFORMATIONS
Bhai g agar ap ko deen ka knowledge hay to khawa wo larka hu ya larki to kabhi bhi worse situation nahi ae gi.... Deen se dori har problem ki base hay..
mujhay sumhaj nai ate ye broke man ko he gold digger la dar kyun lagata hai kuch bandiyan deserve bhi karte hain like drs engineer phd CA acca larkeyaan wo kuin lower py compromise karain unke parents ka time energy paisa laga hai ek baite ko dr banay ka kaya desi mard will return there investment on her of wo larke ko ghar beetha hai ???plz agar asa hai u can't afford gold digger or gals with standards kisi yatem khanay ke lawaris larke sy shadi karo wo karege kidmat massi bannkar
On most of the points the guest speaker is talking nonsense.he isn't a psychologist nor a religious scholar but giving illogical and fake analysis about different situations. Running a marriage Beaurue is a different task and understanding the marriage institution is another task
deen mai tu joint family system bhi allowed nai hai shadi ky laiye mard ko independent educated well qualified or stable hona chaye desi man are majority baglol yahan tu Arabic world mai ajj bhi larka he shadi sy pehlay saman e shadi karta hai ghar sy laikar car tak Pakistani mard kaya offer karty hain warna arbon mai aj bhi asa mard shadi nai karta who can't afford
Yahan uae mai Pakistani guys are dating ca drs engineer gals, but when it comes to 6 choose a total massi types woman, which is most of the time staying with his parents back in county act like servants and child carrier they are living with him for money then these guys are complaining that what i did and keep discussing there exs
This is all rubbish you are talking about marriage. This is because of these reasons that divorce rate is increasing. Be practical. Marriage is all about compromises otherwise don’t get married
Do you want to see more videos on relationship problems?
Agar ap ka kabhi aisay logon sy interaction hua hai to apna experience share karain.
Match agency ka kia number ha
I want to have number of this match maker
How to contact him
How can we contact him
@Sunodigital do you have any contacts no?
He is so right. I woke up in my marriage after so many years. I felt I lost myself pleasing my husband and compromising. When I looked myself I couldnt recognize myself. One day I said enough is enough. I had near death experience and after that I had a spiritual awakening where I felt I was living someone else’s life. Life is too short if you are not yourself in your relationship get out and live life on your own terms.
"Enough is enough"??? be careful with your negative thoughts. Don't let them ruin your Life.
Such genuine talk... Being mother of 3 daughters... I always think how would I find 3 men .. cz males are no more Men now.. 😢
And yes very true.. parenting is the toughest job in life..
This guest is absolutely interesting n intalligent.
The guest made lots of great points and discussed some very sensitive topics - that takes a lot of guts. These are unfortunate realities of our world, perhaps more disturbing when you hear of it occurring in an Islamic country, but still they exist.
One thing I would add regarding marriage is to have a conversation about how you want to raise kids before getting married. Too often people have different views on child rearing which then creates emotional issues for the children.
Very open n bold discussion...Thanks to God that atleast Pakistanis have started talking on such topics that were/are considered Taboos
Amazing talk! The guy is way above intellectually than his age.
مجھے آپ کی باتیں بہت حقیقت پسندانہ لگیں ہیں اور باتوں۔ میں بہت وزن ہے ۔ سلامت رہیں آمین ۔
A fact based dialogue. The guest is talking very sensibly.
Wow , such an eye opening video , What a great talk , loving the way he is explaining everything in detail , bravo
Very sensible aware ness of our Society Norms n problems
And flexible way of making relationships with vision n giving Space
What is the name of This Gentleman? Very informative and well groomed personality ...his views are so intense in this young age ... Masha Allah ❤
Aglab from Rukhsat
Log is bndy py hi rshta aplly krnachty hn
Zabardast podcast . I learned so many things thanks for sharing reality .
بہت اچھی ٹاک ہے۔
اردو میں:
گفتگو ھوتا ہے یہ ٹاک کیا ہے
Ya tw English use kro agr urdu nhi ati or 2no nhi ati tw kch mt likho q k mix kr k 2no languages ka berah garak q krrhi ho😂
This is “The best” podcast ever. True and dark realities.
We need such kind of talk on all topics… great show
Very genuine and fact based info given by the guest👌good job
Great show. Very enlightening
Very sensible debate, much needed in today’s world
Guest is very intelligent and intellectual person
Excellent !!!!!!
On the Spot podcast!!!
Ur conversation about marriage very informative & bitter true reality.its a very tough job for parents & lots of families r involved in this matter 😮
This conversation is eye awakening for woman
Good question and well explained answers.
Good
Fabulous interview ❤❤
Great discussion
Very surprised to watered this conversation we have to learn from it😮
یہ سب اس وقت کے نے راہ روی کی داستان ھے جب آپ دین سے دور ہوتے ہیں تو ایسے گناہوں میں مبتلا اور بیچیں رہتے ہیں
اسلام قیامت تک کے لیے آیا ہے سکون چاہتے ہو تو اللہ کے بتائے ہوئے راستے پر چلو
❤❤❤❤Very Good comment Point.
Totally agreed.
Heart touching😢😢😢
What great points this guest is making. So refreshing. I wanna marry him! lol 💕
الله أكبرﷻ سبحان الله مُحَمَّدﷺﷺﷺﷺ ماشاءاللہ جزاك اللهُ 😢🎉🎉🎉😢
Beautifull Analysis.
Very informative podcast
What a great video👏👏👏
Excellent analysis
Great true words
Very interesting and intelligent
Informative & Food for thought
Well said
You are telling the truth...
I am 💯agree with this statement to give breathe to partner.
Bohat scenesable baatain karrahe hain ap, ❤ appreciate it
Podcast best hai per thumbnail bekaar hai...
very well said❤
U both are good,specially guest talking very well about ground realities & culturel issues in daily married life/ realtionships.Most people are not ever aware of it ,of their own behaviors and desires...
Mard doston main byth aysi aysi wahiyat tips ly ky ata hy Allah ki pnah , aik tu ap ny khud btaya ky chik chik kr rhi hy , bound kr do , and according to my experience, mera husband jab aik adh din doston main guzar ky ata hy blky apni amman ky saath bhi aik din mery bghyr guzar kyta hy, usko wapis patri py lany ky liey mujhy poory 6 months mehnat krni prhti hy , woh bhi no 1 sy , mard bychary ko tu pta hi nheen ky aurat ki dukhti rag konsi hy, yeh tu uski mnhoos maan saary zmany ko chuba ky bythi hoi usko bv ki dukhti rag dhoond ky pkrhati hy , ky isko dbao , phir cheekain niklain gi iski , one day off , with friends or his mother ,without wife , a big no no
App Kia kehnay chahtay Hain?
waise dukhti rag hoti konsi hy?
@ dukhti rag , aurat ki dukhti rag aurat ko pta hoti hy, mardon ki dukhti rag ka tu khair sabko pta hy,
This guy is just a gentleman😊😊
I like the podcast a LOT!
If I start typing about my views about it, UA-cam would not allow it because of its length.
I hope everyone finds their right match as marriage is a beautiful relationship however I just couldnt 😊
I never tried,happy to be single.
Have complete faith in ALLAH and follow Almighty totally.
Whether you are doing higher studies or working,getting married at an early age of your life has great benefits.
💯 sach ha
Proud of our city
Thank you so so much sir inviting him ❤❤❤
Quite sensible...
Wife sharing r swapping in pakistan isnnot a new issue ...read the novels by Shaukat Saddiqui who uncovered the topic about early years of pakistan ...early 1950s....plx share the email id of the guest..thanks
Best thought nice very informative
مجھ تو لگتا ہے کہ میاں بیوی کا رشتہ اللہ تعالئ نے بہت پیارا بنایا ہے۰ جسں کے نتیجے میں ایک خاندان تشکیل پاتا ہے۰دل میں خوف خدا نہ ہو چاہے وہ جو مرضی کرتے پھریں ۰معزرت کے ساتھ آجکل کے مرد سست ہو گئے۰ اس لیے کمانے والی عورت پسند کرتے ہیں۰ لیکن اس کی عزت تو کر لو۰ بلکہ بیوی کا شکرگزار بنو کہ وہ آپ کی مدد کر رہی ہے۰ہم سمجھتے ہیں کہ مغرب میں مادر پدر آذادی ہے۰ وہاں پر سب خوش ہیں۰ لیکن ایسا نہیں ہے۰ بلکہ مغرب میں زیادہ ڈیپریشن ہے۰ ایک اصول یاد رکھیں۰ جو اللہ کہ نظام سے بغاوت کرتا ہے ۰ وہ نقصان ہی ازٹھاتا ہے
V tru v tru our men not only ruioned BRILLIANT PERSON AND THEN THESE MEN RUIONED CHILDREN TOO JUST LIEING TO THEM WHEN CHILDREN ASK WHY OUR MOTHER IS NOT WORKING WHILE OTHERS SAME PROFESSION SAME AS OUR MOTHER R WORKING .
YES YES YOUR EACH WORD IS TRUE
EVEN PARRENTS SAY AFTER CHILDREN YOU HAVE TO LIVE F YOUR CHILDREN . MAY B NEXT GENERATION WILL NOT ASSCEPT THIS .
This is actually happening in our society...every single word is so true and sad
A big renown man died by the side of girl friend by her side due to viagra.
Very true
You nailed it bro
Let's do a podcast
Guest is full of people exposures
So his memory card is full with incidents
No consistency & no stick to the point conversation!!
One big & on going issue
Is Narcissism in PK community a lot !!
Simple solution
Just b simple & follow the Sunnah & Seerah of our beloved Prophet puh’s Criteria of picking spouses!!
Provide time line
What is the name of the, age and marital status of this guest?
As y sow y will reap and children knows vvvv well v true
Aghlab sher… such an amazing and thought provoking talk! ❤ know you from #ccj !
ایکدوسرے کو کنٹرول کیے بغیر اپنی اپنی زمہ داریاں پوری کرنا اپنی زمہ داری کا احساس کرنا کامیاب شادی کی ضمانت ہے اور شادی سے پہلے کی لائف آسان ہوتی ہے شادی کے بعد عورت مرد دونوں کو خود کو تھوڑا بہت خود کوتبدیل کرنا پڑتا ہے کیونکہ شوہر کتنا بھی اچھا ہو مگر وہ باپ کی طرح آپ کا بچپنا برداشت نہیں کر سکتا
😂😂😂😂
Veeeeery true
@@saimamajeed2691
Tu apne baitiyon ky sath kaisy sahe chalty hain
@@saimamajeed2691 1920 mai aauratain apnay haqoq nai jante thi na inte taleem yafta thi unkay parents shadi kardainay ke bad apnay ghar ky darwazy band kardaity thy unhe khawateen nay apne anay wale nasal specially larkeyon ko taleem dewaye aur independent keya apna ghar bana seekhaya per mard ajj bhi 1920 mai rehrahay hain apne ana ke wajja sy na taleelmi maidan mai agay aye nai duniyawe mamlat mai per ab aurtain kafi aagay agaye hain zaher hai ajj ek independent larke jo ghar aur bhar dono daikh rahe ho wo kyun tolerate karay gee joint family system ko ya ek low educated mard ko jo internationally be fail hoon
@@zhassanraza6079
1920 mai aauratain apnay haqoq nai jante thi na inte taleem yafta thi unkay parents shadi kardainay ke bad apnay ghar ky darwazy band kardaity thy unhe khawateen nay apne anay wale nasal specially larkeyon ko taleem dewaye aur independent keya apna ghar bana seekhaya per mard ajj bhi 1920 mai rehrahay hain apne ana ke wajja sy na taleelmi maidan mai agay aye nai duniyawe mamlat mai per ab aurtain kafi aagay agaye hain zaher hai ajj ek independent larke jo ghar aur bhar dono daikh rahe ho wo kyun tolerate karay gee joint family system ko ya ek low educated mard ko jo internationally be fail hoon
Look at host😂😂
A marriage bureau guy must know shaadi is an unnatural setup. 😂 But he won't tell you this fact. 😅
Husbands always tried to control their wives even they told them on their face just follow me 😢
Provide time stamp
V also little baghlol. U broke our heart
Can I please get the name and number of this guests match making agency?
Great sir,yaha yhi bola jata hai shohr ko khush rkho us ki Khushi Dekho ,wife ki pasnd na pasnd uski Khushi koi ehmiyaat ni krti,phir wife in ko model chahie 😂
He is RIGHT RIGHT RIGHT .EVEN PEOPLE GET AFTER BEAUTIFUL GIRL POOR MARRIED A D PUSH THEM TO DO THIS F CAMERA AND DIRTY S... MOVIES THST HAD BEEN SO COMMON LAST COUPLE OF YEARS ABD EVEN BIG ASSEMBLY CHILDREN ALSO BIG NAME HAD BEEN INVOLVED .BUT DURING PM IMRAN ALL WAS MOSTLY STOPPED NOW AGAIN IS SAME ESPECIALLY IN ALL BIG CITIES OF PAKISTAN ALL IS AGAIN GOING VVVV IN A HIGH SCALE GOOD INFORMATIONS
Match agency ka number kia ha
Do share if you get?
Bro,I have a question.Did you use someone's else voice for the guest?
No.
@@sunodigital Ok
Coz the resemblance in tones and voice is amazing.
Quran se doori ki ye bemariyan hein
Guest is very confused .....and needs counseling over religious aspects ......
Ky naam is bande ka?
Na hi kro shadi. Itnay syapay touba . 😅
Fact and reality based and parents should take positive steps in this behalf .they just choose partner of their kids not intrested in thier mind set .
Why ur parents are choosing for u why ur not selecting for u and married
brother r u from lahore as you hav a mentally of lahore pandoo people
Should have part II of this.
now the new generation moms are doing the same with girls not asking them to do house work or even clean their room or the house.
Bhai g agar ap ko deen ka knowledge hay to khawa wo larka hu ya larki to kabhi bhi worse situation nahi ae gi....
Deen se dori har problem ki base hay..
mujhay sumhaj nai ate ye broke man ko he gold digger la dar kyun lagata hai kuch bandiyan deserve bhi karte hain like drs engineer phd CA acca larkeyaan wo kuin lower py compromise karain unke parents ka time energy paisa laga hai ek baite ko dr banay ka kaya desi mard will return there investment on her of wo larke ko ghar beetha hai ???plz agar asa hai u can't afford gold digger or gals with standards kisi yatem khanay ke lawaris larke sy shadi karo wo karege kidmat massi bannkar
Guest is v sensible. Is he married? 😅
😅😅😅😅
G,hozoori wali wife chahie bs
Is ko phr bulaein plz 🙏
no marriage is perfect every day we had to work but from punjab where u coming its all about women and to use and abuse andmen here is misogynistic
Achota topic
Itny samjhdar bandy ki shadi bhi agar problum ka shikar hoi to ,,program to fir ,,war,, hi gya na🤣
On most of the points the guest speaker is talking nonsense.he isn't a psychologist nor a religious scholar but giving illogical and fake analysis about different situations. Running a marriage Beaurue is a different task and understanding the marriage institution is another task
Islam ke according aurat ke money aurat ke he Rahe ge,us pe mard ka koe haq nhe ha..
Compromise agr ek dosre k galti p nahi kregy tu ek dosre k sar per tor dege apke baty achy lagty hai bit practical nahi
تین شادی والے کا رشتہ نہ کراؤ، اگلے کی زندگی خراب نہ کرؤ،حلال رشتہ نہی نبھائیں گے حرام کرلیں گے
He is a child. He will take like 2 decades to get mature
Come on
It’s a fact, if you want proof take examples from west and the success rates in west.
deen mai tu joint family system bhi allowed nai hai shadi ky laiye mard ko independent educated well qualified or stable hona chaye desi man are majority baglol yahan tu Arabic world mai ajj bhi larka he shadi sy pehlay saman e shadi karta hai ghar sy laikar car tak Pakistani mard kaya offer karty hain warna arbon mai aj bhi asa mard shadi nai karta who can't afford
Yahan uae mai Pakistani guys are dating ca drs engineer gals, but when it comes to 6 choose a total massi types woman, which is most of the time staying with his parents back in county act like servants and child carrier they are living with him for money then these guys are complaining that what i did and keep discussing there exs
Please talk in easy language every one can not understand your words.
Ye larka Kon hy muje to akhir tak ye he pata ni chala
Matchmaker. And also he does podcast on taboo topics . His Channel name (Rukhsat official) you can check out that.
This is all rubbish you are talking about marriage. This is because of these reasons that divorce rate is increasing. Be practical. Marriage is all about compromises otherwise don’t get married
Dr sahiba do u have any connection with Gujrat Pakistan?
It is really hard to accept reality. And I smelled it in your comments Dr. Shabana.