Story 4: I will say the wife considered the husband from the beginning by stating she only wanted an upgrade if it was for both of them. She already knew she wouldn't leave his side under any circumstances because of his fears. He left her without hesitation and then whined when he hurt her feelings. What he did was rude and you just can't expect people to not react when you don't treat them with the same consideration they had for you. She reacted to his lack of matching how she went into the situation already considering him. His energy didn't match and it hurt. I'd tell him that.
I feel like they are forgetting that the husband on the airplane doesn’t fly a lot and he has never experienced first class and she has. So it makes sense him wanting to experience it and if I as a wife that travels a lot and has experienced first class several times then why wouldn’t I be happy he experiences it? And now, also depending on the couple situation we don’t know if the husband provides to get in other aspects like i would be happy to let my husband in the first class if it was his first time if he takes good care of you in other aspects and in the house. That being said , I think the wife could’ve been like hey honey I don’t think is a good idea you get nervous when we fly and I won’t be able to conform you when you get anxious
@@SweetJeessyeah but he used her points without asking if it was ok with her. Like, I'm not stealing from my partner just so I can have a new experience, that's bonkers. And she was willing to let it go but then he guilt tripped her about it. Also it's their honeymoon, like you get married and immediately abandon your wife over a plane ride?
@@SweetJeessThe problem is that they aren't together? If they are just recently married and in love, wouldn't they want to always be by each other's side? I wouldn't even want to leave a friend by themself.
@@SweetJeess I'm forgetting nothing. I'm not so dense I forgot any details of a few minutes long story. I don't fly a lot. I've never experienced first class. I would never ever choose to do it by leaving my partner on our honeymoon and using their money and points to do it. It's irrelevant because it's a main character syndrome move on his part, and no partner should have to point it out. His bad behavior due to only thinking of himself isn't an argument to his pov. These are my expectations for people I would be in a partnership with. If others have lower standards or expectations that's on them. But I wouldn't lower mine nor do I think this wife should.
Overfeeding like that is animal abuse!!! I get it that technically the person should listen to the rules of the parent, but-deciding not to abuse an animal is always the right decision
Absolutely!! If I was them I'd be trying to figure out if I could get ownership of the cat for its wellbeing. Animals like that end up surrendered at shelters every day at this point. It's sad and infuriating that the friend can't see what they're doing wrong
I wish they had taken the cat to the vet for evaluation and for a weight loss plan. I do have to say though, as soon as I heard how much food was accessible to the cat at all times I knew the owner was in the wrong.
Its neglect not abuse, she's not purposely physically harming the animal she's just neglectful of the health and food consumption. Definitely still not a good thing cuz that cat was probably going to have a heart attack soon. I can understand why the owner was mad the friend Wasnt Free feeding cuz i also believe in letting my cats eat when they feel hungry but also need to include wet food for health and they will eat less hard food cuz they rather have the wet food so their diet stays in check. Instead of going behind her back and changing it drastically i think the fiend should've taken Cat to the vet and get proof of diet change needed and show the owner and tell her that they will make changes to the diet referred from the doctor until she takes the cat back and if she neglects his health again they will call them in for animal neglect to remove it and take the cat in themselves. Or maybe like tell her exactly why what's wrong so she can understand indtead of being salty and upset cuz ur not respecting her wished of assuming you would do what she asked exactly
@@petalchild idk this might be a hot take and is my personal opinion, but i read the post on reddit before this and to me it came off as kind of agressive on her part as well. I understand her frustration because it's their honeymoon he was just thinking about himself at that moment, and I don't disagree with telling him to kick rocks when when he came to her like "why didn't you support me", but using language like "he abandoned me" and "you should've thought about that before you left me alone" i just don't think it helps the situation lol (it was a 4 hour flight and they were both on the same plane, "abandoning" is a lil too much), and maybe that's because I don't see the big deal about sitting in different seats on a flight, i mean that's the least interesting thing i'm probably gonna do during my _honeymoon_ so yeah i don't see the reason to be so upset about it. And I agree he shouldn't have just spent her flight points just like that, i don't think that was what bothered OP the most tho, it was the fact that he wanted to flight coach and she didn't want him to bc she wanted them to fly together. I think she should've expressed that morer firmly instead of feeling like she had to say yes because there was people waiting (who cares if they stop the line for a minute tbh that happens all the time) and maybe that set the tone for the rest of the issue. (like i also understand being defensive if my partner starts snapping back at me for something i thought they had agreed with before). Overall maybe this didn't need to become a big thing and hopefully they were able to talk and make up, otherwise they're just gonna keep arguing like that during their honeymoon and is it rlly worth it? idk.
As someone who works in an ER i knew immediately it was testicular torsion which is absolutely a medical emergency. His delivery about the situation was the problem
Not only that, but why would he assume his gf would drive him to the hospital if she was out drinking all night? He should have just called an ambulance right away.
Yeah, he needed to be clear on exactly how much pain he was in. To her, it could have sounded like a joke. Although pain makes you incoherent, so it was an innocent mistake on both parts
@@tanyastacy-haws993 It might have been an honest mistake on her part, but an unforgivable one nonetheless (at least imo). If I was in his position and my partner let me down like that when I was in a dire situation, I would never be able to trust them again. She didn't even show the least bit of concern. If I had a partner that called me multiple times and communicated to me that he needed to get to the hospital, I would immediately go and help him, even if it sounds ridiculous. Her lack of action and her straight up ignoring his calls and even blocking him is what gets me. It wouldn't have hurt her to answer her phone or walk the 5 minute walk to check up on her partner.
@@shelbylynn7399okay this is a very good point. He’s def not the asshole and I disagree it’s his fault because of how he communicated it. Your partner should care and be available if you’re in pain or need assistance and reach out wtf. Howeverrrr, yeah if she’s at the club, she would obviously be drinking and shouldn’t be driving him regardless, no? I assume he wasn’t thinking straight due to the pain though. Def should’ve taken the ambulance, though I assume he’s somewhere where you pay for that out of pocket. Stupid you have to put your health aside due to not being able to afford emergency services in some places.
Story 6: If you’re discussing getting engaged or buying a home together, you should also sharing large financial decisions with your partner and determine what’s considered a large financial decision (is it over $1,000 or over $10,000 for example). I would not be comfortable moving forward with marriage or home buying with anyone who says “Well technically you have no right to ask, it’s my money!” That would be a major red flag.
I agree completely. Plus who doesn't tell their best friend/SO if they are making a large money decision? They don't need permission, but they usually benefit from getting a second opinion from someone they trust. If he was worried about judgement, he needed to consider whether he was doing something he might not be proud of or if he is with someone who would blow up if they spoke about large financial decisions
Not just the decision, but REFUSING to tell how much debt he has and why, and is he still accruing more debt. What is his plan to pay back? Will he truly join her plan in saving for a home? If he has child payments and health issues or anything, he should just tell it.
In story 3 I feel like everyone’s skipping over the fact that he straight up said “something is wrong” and “I have to go to the hospital” like.. he didn’t come out the gate saying “my balls hurt” 💀
It reminded me of one of those "missing 'missing reason'" episodes. It was really weird he was specifically not invited to the birthday party and had such strong feelings about clubbing, even if it is a place 5 minutes away and with his gf. And why did they not have a way to communicate emergencies to each other before one happens? The way she reacted so strongly by even blocking him makes me think he has been really controlling before. Either way, that would suck a lot to be him in the story, and it is good that his surgery was successful
This was exactly my thought. As soon as you read the word “Hospital” go see what’s wrong. If it ends up being nothing, laugh later. But once the word hospital is thrown out, instantly treat it as if it could be the real thing. Pick up the phone and talk through it is the bare minimum. For real.
@@Jakebrand11208 he literally did? What are you saying? I think you misread my comment I’m saying that he explained himself just fine before mentioning his balls.
Story 3 - I once found my brother having a non responsive seizure (no body jolts just not responding) and I panicked. I called my mum on repeat untill she answered (5 ish times). I told her what was happening and she said hang up and call an ambulance. Then I did. She got home just before they arrived and she went woth him in the ambulance. He was later diagnosed with a brain tumor and is now 100% fine. Scariest moment of my life. When you or someone you love is in trouble you reach out to family or loved ones first. They help ground you.
@@aracelyaguirre18 That's not true at all, it's just this weird myth that loads of people are totally convinced of. I've never paid any interest and my score is 802. Paying the whole balance off before it's due is always best.
Last story: I think the fact that he lied about where the $ came from is a big deal. I don’t think it’s 50k total. I think he lied about the bonus. It’s too much of a coincidence that both things (bonus & 401k) were $25k each. It is a big red flag for OP.
In the second story, Kate sounds insecure that OP can communicate with the mother in-law better than she can. So she would get jealous and view it as OP trying to win her over. She projected her insecurities about the cultural/language barriers onto OP. If she doesn’t feel secure in her relationship she needs to deal with that in therapy or with her fiancé instead of talking shit about OP.
Story 6: living together for 10 years they aren’t “just dating” they are defacto. Not to mention you are discussing getting married and buying a house. If he can’t discuss financial matters now it’s only going to get worse.
I don’t think I have ever commented on a video before, but I heard the first story and I just NEEDED to comment. I run a non-profit cat rescue in Michigan for special needs cats, and one of the specialties we focus on is weight loss for extremely large cats. Here’s my hot take, based on my 20 years of experience in animal rescue (my parents started our rescue when I was 8, I’m 29 now and director of our rescue) 1. Weight loss in cats MUST. BE. VET. LED. I cannot express this enough. Yes it is important they lose weight when they’re that big, BUT if cats loose weight too fast they can have severe kidney and liver issues. If we cut too many calories on them, it can be detrimental to their health. It has to be GRADUAL and that’s why it NEEDS to be vet led! I don’t agree with the fact that this person didn’t consult a vet. 2. Gravity bowl feeders are not recommended. And that is why Juno got to be so large. So I agree with taking away the gravity bowl feeder. Anything beyond this should have been vet led. 3. The laws in America for animal ownership are kind of gray, and here’s what I mean by that. If you are caring for a cat, most states will therefore say the cat belongs to you. Example: feeding strays? If the The state gets involved for some reason, in most cases they will tell you that you are the cats caretaker so you’re responsible. This makes it dicey when it comes to leaving your cat in somebodies care long term. If you leave your cat in your friends care long term (I consider longer that 4 weeks long term) and they have the cat in their home and are responsible for the cat? They can take you to court for the ownership of the cat, and they will most likely win. In 20 years of animal welfare, that is how I have seen these situations go. The only way I’ve seen it not go that way is when you put the cat up at a boarding facility. “Rehoming” your cat, even temporarily, grays the lines of cat ownership in almost all US states. So when her friend said “listen it’s my cat…” the law would kind of disagree with that, saying she abandon her cat for a year with this person and they care for Juno better so Juno is their cat now. At my rescue, I’m not even allowed to temporarily house cats for people. If you bring your cat to my rescue (any rescue in the state of Michigan) you’re required to legally surrender it to us. And then it is our animal to place back up for adoption and rehome. And if you do surrender your pet, we cannot adopt that animal back to you. We’re not allowed to have animals in our care that aren’t signed into our care, so I couldn’t just keep your cat without you surrendering it to me. That’s why we must do stray holds on found animals, giving the owner time to come back before it’s declared legally ours to rehome. (In Michigan the stray hold time is 7 days.) So what I’m trying to say is: -Juno’s diet needed to be vet led. And if you’re going to help your pet lose weight, it needs to be vet led. -don’t use gravity feeders -don’t leave your pet long term in anyone’s care and expect to get them back.
Yes. Very informative comment!! That was my first thought. I was thinking about what I would do in her position and I would definitely take the cat to the vet to get it on a specific healthy diet. I think with the friend that was right and it's incredibly unfortunate the owner is going to continue to abuse her cat
Do you find that wet food is better for cats than dry food? My cats only eat dry food but I recently have been wondering if making the switch would be more beneficial for them.
You know, everytime you have a guest on,it makes me remember how out of touch with social media i am. "You probably already recognize their voice" nope... Don't even recognize the names...🤣🤣 oops
@@electricwizardmf yeah thats fair, a lot are from tik tok i think, which im not on often lol There's only one guest i legit didn't like at all and still haven't finished the episode, so im not saying i hate the guests, i just dont know them🤣🤣🤣
The ball guy one: I know the thought was she’d come home but if she’s already been drinking.. she wouldn’t have been able to drive him to the hospital?
The way I interpreted it was that it was still fairly early in the night. But you make a great point. I think it’s more so the fact that she ignored his emergency. She just needed to be there for him.
i agree, but to expand on this: she's drunk. he's not thinking clearly because he's in pain and SHE'S not thinking clearly because she's DRUNK and at 22, it's not surprising that she might assume he was exaggerating or pranking her or such my friends and i have sent each other "I'm dying" just because we're in a little more pain than usual SO MANY TIMES
@@tortillachips3911 personally, I feel when one is drunk, their true secret sober emotions come out. If my partner had an emergency while I’m drunk, I’d make it a point to stumble out quickly. The fact she had no care feels like she doesn’t give a shit frankly
@imp6916 i mean, im pretty sure thats a myth about the "teue self" thing, but regardless, they should break up. he's not going to be able to get over this for YEARS
Story 6 - as someone who lives in a country where marriage isn’t as important I completely understand why she is upset. My partner and I will never marry, we live together, own a house together and if he did something like this without talking to me I would be furious.
Being together for so long, without marriage your lives still have a lot of legal ties. It’s wild that they were talking about it as if they had only been dating for a couple years not a decade.
what we also need to keep in mind is our weight and their weight are not equal a couple pounds is like putting on about 10 their joints can't take it, so keeping them at a healthy weight is so very Important
Yes! My mom’s cat put on 2 extra pounds over time and she couldn’t get her to lose weight but could tell she was uncomfortable. I worked at Petsmart so she asked me to talk to someone about it. She needed more protein and is a healthy weight now. She’s big boned, so still looks bigger but she can jump all the way up her tower, she doesn’t beg for food all the time, and she purrs much more often. Feeding cats properly is so imperative to their health!
If I am babysitting, and the parents ask me to use an abusive technique, there is no way in hell I would follow their directions. And I might even lie and tell the parents I will so that they don't find a bad babysitting that is willing to enact the abusive directions
About the question "why call your S.O before calling 911", I worked in an Emergency Response Centre for one of those senior alert buttons. We were taught that when they request 911 be called for them, that afterwards, we also contact there personal emergency contacts bc they will normally arrive first. Alot of times seniors live so so close to there family too, which was a factor, but mainly bc your family is going to beat the ambulance 80% of the time.
I haven’t finished listening so this might be addressed but For story 4 I think the guy was completely in the wrong because it was their HONEYMOON. They’ve JUST gotten married and he’s already leaving her? Using HER points after she told the first agent AND the agent that approached them she’d only want the upgrade if it was available for them both? Weirdo behavior
Story 3: she should’ve checked on him but I do see the “my balls hurt” not feeling urgent, but he also said I need to go to the hospital. Blocking him was out of pocket. The bracelet in a chip bag sounds like she wants to go out and he doesn’t want to or wants her to stay in and he hides a bracelet or jewelry she’s trying to put on in a chip bag to delay her going out. Which would be annoying but it’s not on par with saying I need to go to the hospital my balls hurt. Story 4: she specifically said she didn’t want the upgrade if it wasn’t for both of them. He should’ve listened to her.
Yeah, I'm not sure why but the dude does give off this clingy attention seeking victim playing vibe. I bet the gf was just so done with it and wanted to enjoy one night to herself instead of him demanding all attention.
Story 3: There's a lot of updates and comments now on Reddit, the club where she was is literally a 5min walk from their place. It's wild she didn't check on him. He also posted pictures of the text convo and he said a lot more, it was obvious he was in distress. He also apparently never texted or called for her to come home when she was out with her friends before.:(
Story 3 is actually insane. You ALWAYS should answer a call from your partner if you’re out because you never know if it’s an emergency. Especially if followed up by a text that says “I need to go to the hospital”. Literally I had this happen where my partner was weightlifting at home and dislocated his shoulder and tore his ligament. I was working from home that day but in our office so I didn’t hear anything except a yell for my name, but I ignored it since I thought he just needed something stupid. But then I heard him yell again louder this time and I knew something was wrong because he wouldn’t be interrupting me during work if it wasn’t something urgent. I saw him on the ground holding his arm looking like he was about to pass out and I rushed him to the hospital. You NEVER should ignore your partner ever.
For the ball story: Yes he told her his balls hurt, but he also said that he needs to go to the hospital now. So not sure how you ignore that. I’d dump anyone who ignored my pleas to take me to the hospital. Horrible person!
Story 4 : In our flight back from our honeymoon, I was offered an upgrade and not my husband. I refused. That's the only thing to do, it's the damn honeymoon!!!
I struggle a lot with the 3rd story. My abusive ex did that allll the time when I went out. Saying she was having a panic attack or didn’t feel good so I HAD to come home this second. It wasn’t sometimes, it was allll the time I went out without her. She was controlling in other ways that others didn’t/couldn’t see. Not saying OP is doing that to her but there’s always another side of the coin. Maybe he has done this before a few times before and it was nothing, but this time it was serious. Stories like this just always make me second guess everything because of my experience 💕
100% this was my first thought too, I feel like there's some major details being left out by him because why would her first thought would be to block him. That's going from 1 to 100 so fast for seemingly no reason? Nahhh. Sounds fishy to me.
For story 5, I feel like I've heard similar situations to this so many times from Reddit and one of my thoughts is; why are people obsessed with bombarding? The person who was wronged initially to do something they don't want to do? What is her presence at the wedding going to do and why do they care about it? Why want that type of drama or that type of energy at the wedding? I feel like those people are sick in the head trying to force someone to do something she doesn't want to
I have heard other stories like this like you said, so I tried to take a deep dive into it. I think there are different reasons for different people in each story, but I think a big one is anxiety when a situation is still "up in the air". If they are waiting to see if OP will show up at the wedding and how that will go, they are imagining terrible scenarios in their head and feeling anxious. When they are telling OP to get over it, they feel a bit of control in the outcome rather than being at the mercy of OP's actions that are still undecided. In this story, it is likely the parents also feel guilt for keeping Taylor's secret and causing some of OP's pain. They are asking OP to act like everything is fine so that they aren't confronted by her negative feelings that they have contributed to.
Testicular torsion is no joke! It happened to my husband 8 months into us dating and I never doubted him or his pain. I rushed him to the ER immediately and he had emergency surgery. I never once left his side until I was forced to by my MIL. This happened 9 years ago and he’s terrified of it happening again but it shouldn’t since he had surgery to prevent it 🤞🏽
13:35 I didn’t hear any mention of consulting with a veterinarian regarding the chonk KitKat!! That’s where it should have started, BEFORE making any changes to her baby’s diet!!! 🐈⬛ 🐈
He sent 'my balls hurt' to a woman hours into a night out clubbing and drinking and expected her to know he was being serious? Once she found out she was super apologetic and understood completely, it's not like she belittled his feelings knowingly. And yeah her immediately calling it games and blocking him tells me he's done something similar before and from her drunk perspective she was just setting a boundary with a bf giving her an unserious scenario. Regardless of her intentions or the details though, his trust is still damaged. Imo it's fixable via therapy and communication
i also would want to hear her side. i have had guys and know of guys that dislike their gf being out so they will make things up for her to come home. maybe she thought it was one of those times but its all speculation
Thank you! This is how I was feeling. A) "my balls hurt" doesn't sound serious. He really could have explained it better, like he did in the post b) maybe she has a reason to believe he's fucking around or being dramatic. Maybe he's a clinger/controlling and she just wanted to practice boundaries while out with her best friend. I also have an inherent bias when it comes to (cis) men though. I'm always a little suspicious. Honestly though, he might be doing her a favour if he breaks up with her. She sounds like she might be checked out of the relationship based on the annoyed reactions to him calling. I imagine if he typically left her alone when she went out then him suddenly calling this time would be a signal that something was wrong.
I’m sorry do your boyfriends/ partners just randomly text you that their balls hurt after trying to call you multiple times and texting and you find it not serious? The least she could’ve fucking done was answer the damn phone especially if she loved him. Sounds like maybe you would do the same thing to your partner?
@@ZestyAsh if she was out grocery shopping I'm sure she would've picked up the first ring, heard the genuine pain in his voice, and come home. Context is everything 🤷♀️ And yeah if I was drunk, surrounded by my besties at a birthday party, in a nightclub, knew my partner was a prankster and he sent me something so funny I'd assume it was a joke too and not answer much lol idk why so many seem to think they'd magically know how serious the issue was
I decided on this episode to try listening to the podcast on Spotify for the first time (instead of watching it on UA-cam) but all the talk about the kitty and I was like damn now I got to watch it to see the fluffer. This was not the episode to go audio only… you got to see that precious face! ❤😻
Story 3, He should have given more context via text. Of course she’s not going to answer the phone, she’s in a club & probably drinking. Also, “pop over & check on him,” since when is going in & out of the club so easy? On another note, I don’t understand people who call their friends when they need an ambulance. Unless the friend is an EMT, call for actual help. If you’re in dire crisis, don’t put that on them!
its about the same reason why the emergency people ask if you have someone to drive you to the hospital, there is a chance that they'll take too long because a number of reasons (main one being that there is no one available to come at the time). It took 3 hours for the ambulance to get to my house when it's an 30 min drive when my father was suffering from the same condition as OP, he is lucky to still have his balls.
1. Ambulances are crazy expensive and not always covered by insurance. 2. There are limited numbers of Ambulances so one might not have even been available. 3. How much more context did she need than multiple texts and calls begging her to help. Honestly anyone who thinks this way is a shit person. Playing would've, should've, could've? I bet in an emergency you'd be no better. It's the victim blaming for me.
I mean he said he needed to go to a hospital in the text, and he was in an excruciating amount of pain that only allowed him to give just the bare minimum information. He's not typing full symptoms out in text, and I bet you wouldn't be able to do the same. Also, he could have absolutely given her more context if she had ANSWERED the phone after he called multiple times. She probably wouldn't have been able to drive, but like even at my drunkest I would never blow off anyone I love/care about, let alone a boyfriend of 5 years. After 2 calls from anyone I'm thinking its dire.
@@mywatchdoesmath4669she definitely should have picked up the phone, the only reason I can think is if it was too loud for her to hear the phone so she wanted a text. But if I saw my loved one calling that much I definitely would have gone home if that was the case. I would be so worried! I’ve never had a SO, but if my roommate was calling that many times I would pick up the phone! And she’s supposed to love this person!
The cute cat is so wonderfully distracting 💖 My cat is 14 now but she could jump from the ground to the top of the fridge. She can still jump the counter to the top of the fridge. We don’t keep plants up there anymore.
Story 4: Husband is TA. she EARNED those flight points from all the travel she is required to do for her work! Then she finally gets enough points to qualify for an upgrade and he just swoops in and takes it from her??? On their honeymoon, no less? She could have just as easily done that to him. After all, they were HER points. But clearly, she'd never even consider doing something like that (presumably, because she's a decent person). So not only does he take her upgrade, but he does it on their honeymoon, then he guilt trips her for not comforting him by text the whole time on the flight? Dude, he needs to be returned to sender!
she didn't do it because she flies business all the time, she talked about that in the comments. I don't agree with the husband but I also don't agree with her either, personally because i don't see having to flight next to your partner as a very serious issue. And then she goes to say "he abandoned me. he ditched me and left me alone" you're both on the same plane.. it was a 4 hr flight. And then, after being defensive on the plane and guilt tripping him for taking the upgrade, she's upset that he's guilt tripping?? both of them acted poorly imo i would hate to start my honeymoon like that
@@chipsjalapeno_ its their honeymoon, she wanted to be with the man that she just got married to lmao? but he selfishly took her points to get a better situation and leave her, knowing he has flight anxiety then came back to cry about not being by her side.
@@ladieslovecj i didn’t justify him. I don’t agree with his actions either, and i would’ve been upset as well. She’s asking if she was the AH for her actions, i say yeah a lil
The chip bag prank is very Winston Bishop coded lmao! (and if the gf thought the ball hurting were a prank that would be the "going to far" Winston Bishop prank 🤣)
I was trying to figure out what they even meant by that, and one commenter says they think he would take a bracelet that she wants to wear out to an event and hide it in a chip bag to delay her leaving for the night
I am faced with the fact that I have been starved for a THT episode considering my phone showed this to me IMMEDIATELY Also: A RAGDOLL KITTY OMIGOSH IM SO HAPPY TO BE HERE
The ball story: we don’t know how often he tries to convince her to not hang out with her friends or how often he cuts her nights short. All he said was “my balls hurt” doesn’t sound serious at all. The fact she showed up as soon as she realized what happened, stayed with him, and apologized profusely shows that she cares. This isn’t your typical narc who blames the person. But he can dump for whatever reason he wants, I just don’t think the gf is completely in the wrong
I was thinking the same thing!! Why was he specifically not invited to the party? And he had weird undertones when saying he hates clubbing and all associated with it. I bet he calls and needs something from his gf often while he is out. And who answers a call in a club? Speech to text is as easy as speaking on the phone, and he could call a bunch of times after that if she didn't read the text. She reacted like anyone with a slightly controlling bf would in that situation. They didn't seem to go through the story from her pov and find the missing "missing reasons".
The boyfriend didn't only say his balls hurt, he also said somethings wrong and he needs to go to the hospital. Also the actual reddit story has a lot of updates and clarifications such as telling us he never had a problem with her going out before, nor has he ever pranked her with scares like that ever before. Would you abandon your partner like that without as much as a call? Mind you she could even quickly walk there since it's a literal 5 minute walk
@@clairer342you're assuming too much. The boyfriend didn't only say his balls hurt, he also said somethings wrong and he needs to go to the hospital. Also the actual reddit story has a lot of updates and clarifications such as telling us he never had a problem with her going out before, nor has he ever pranked her with scares like that ever before
This is this best episode ever!!! Thank you. I always listen on Spotify but HAD to watch for Junie. Lately I’ve binged listened to old episodes and have officially listened to every episode of two hot takes❤️ this is my favorite podcast
it is always funny to me when Morgan is introducing someone and is like implying that everyone should know them without question, but it is someone that I have literally never heard of
i remember in the beginning of the year you said you were going to try to shine the light on organizations. you have a very large following on tiktok, a link could go a long way. please talk about Gaza
Story 1- I honestly didn't know free-feeding was so controversial! I do it with my 2 cats and dog and they're perfectly healthy. A bowl lasts them the full day.
I think it depends on the pet and owner. My family has free fed all own pets with little issue. Some pets will just eat constantly. Pets who get fat from free feeding come from owners who refill the bowl constantly.
As a lifelong dedicated animal person, and a"pet care professional" the last almost 10 years, best interest of the animal comes first. Even if the humans don't want to hear it or agree 💯❤😺
This is my first time seeing Alyssa outside of tiktoks and I just wanna say I'm pretty sure I just fell a little bit in love haha. She seems so sweet and I love her laugh, plus I relate to the cat obsession on a deep level lol. Will definitely be following her stuff from now on and would love to see her on the show again !! 🥰
The second to last story, I would hate to be married to a guy only because I got pregnant. He’s only marrying her because of that in fear of not seeing his child, I would never force someone to marry me nor force them out of our child’s life. That marriage will start off as a lie
Story 6 - they have both made joint financial goals that they are holding each other accountable for making progress towards, and that makes what he does with his money her business. She doesn't have a right to stop him from doing that with his money, but him choosing to do that is definitely a violation of their agreements, even if only in spirit. In her place, I would be extremely disturbed.
Love this podcast and the stories but the guest this time is just constantly gasping into the mic. With headphones on usually I fall asleep to your podcast but this is so uncomfortable 😂 i have mild synesthesia and repetitive noises are grating after a couple times. But love y'all lol maybe I'll listen on my tv instead
SAME. It's nothing against the guest, she sounds sweet but I'm having trouble finishing the episode because of the breathiness straight into the mic. Like, hello misohonia I didn't know I had 😂
@@catream1Yea update, it's much easier to listen to out loud! I think for me it was the volume difference from speaking to breathy laughter in my ears while I was dead tired + synesthesia issues. Love her, the kitty, and her reactions though! I feel bad since lots of people are giving her grief, but I mean using volume protectors seems like an easy solution 🤷🏻♀️
Story 3: does OP have a history of trying to ‘ruin her night’? Does he have a tendency to be controlling when she goes out? If so that’s a boy who cried wolf situation. If not then he is justified in ending it.
Story 3: she's an AH for blocking her boyfriend when he said he needed to go to the hospital. BUT, what stuck out to me is how she said "i thought you were just trying to ruin our night". Sounds like he may have a history of trying to derail her plans when hes not included in them. 😬 Which then may have resulted in her being like "nope! Not tonight buddy its my best friend's birthday!" Which in that case is understandable. 🤷🏼♀️
Kitty! Love that your guests kow have sidekicks, Morgan! I've had cats all my life and pride myself on being a very responsible cat owner. Like your guest said, cats aren't supposed to be very overweight. They're meant to be agile; able to roam the house, climb, and play. They're meant to have muscles, not fat. If you're free feeding your (omg INDOOR) cat, yeah, it is abuse.
The hospital one, a whole part that’s looked over is that she’s at the club. Even if she’s 5 minutes away she’s probably drinking and drunk. Hence the lack of reaction to her boyfriend. Another part of where she was assuming that he was trying to ruin the night . He probably doesn’t like her going out and does try to stop her from going out. Something along those lines. I feel like there are key things and responses from the gf that’s looked over.
Story 6: my husband and I dated for 6 years before we got married. To this day we do not combine our Financials. If he ever did something like this (no matter when in our relationship) I would be incredibly hurt by him especially the "it's not your money comment" we may have separate Financials but we are a TEAM and anything over 200.00 is discussed. If they agreed upon this life style in my opinion, she has every reason to be angry. There could be so many reasons they chose not to be married, but clearly, they are living as partners, and in this decision, he chose to be an individual, not a partner.
The airplane story: I believe it would really depend on the couple. What bugs me is the lack of communication when making the decision he just accepted it instead of talking with her privately for a minute and seeing if it was OK with her.
My childhood cats were free fed.... and lean, energetic and healthy. I never ever would have left food out if they had been obese. That is absolutely neglect.
For the sixth story I've got to disagree with you guys. If they've been together for that long, living together and financially supporting each other, then she has every right to be angry. Not only could they be common law married(If they live in certain states in the US. I'm not sure about other countries.) but they are planning a future together. Taking your retirement money out like that is a huge financial decision. He clearly doesn't see her opinions as valuable if he didn't think he needed to mention something like that. That is definitely going to transfer into other parts of their marriage. You don't get the privilege of having a life partner when you don't include your partner in life decisions.
Not gonna lie. And I feel horrible for saying this, but I couldn’t handle this episode with the constant laughing giggling and chuckling at random things😣 I had to skip parts
I've been with my bf for years and his mom is an immigrant who doesn't speak English very well. Rather than say "oh well, guess we won't ever be able to communicate" I'm trying to learn her language. I don't look down on her for not speaking English. I don't speak her language either. If u really care about ur significant other, u care about ur family and the most basic for of respect is being able to communicate.
Firstly the guest today is super sweet! Story 1 - the fact that the cats mum saw the difference in her cat and was still mad is bonkers. Story 2 - the poor women done everything she can to give the couple space. the bride to be should've learnt her h2b mother language and then she would've been able to get involved with the mum more rather than judging the friend 😬
Kate sounds like one of those weirdo Karens that get upset when they hear someone speaking a different language. I started typing out the comment right before they said something similar. 🤦♀️
51:22 I listen to that story on a different podcast and he had some point included that he did give the girlfriend more context he said things to her like please help something is seriously wrong and I need to go to the hospital. I’m using talk to text so hopefully this message makes sense .
Story 6: he didn’t get a bonus… he lied and cashed out his 401k. And if you’re planning house, kids, marriage and actively saving for those things you need to consult even if you’re not married.
The thing about the fourth story, I don’t think he’s the asshole for wanting to sit in business class but it’s the fact that it’s their honeymoon, if it was any other trip maybe I’d be like “ok he’s not the asshole” but because it’s their honeymoon, like yall just got married and your just gonna leave her, yall should want to be together, like what, also i just know that if my partner did this to me and then brought me half a breakfast, I’d feel so patronized, especially if he asked “are you ignoring me”, im not saying he was being patronizing but i know I personally would feel patronized cause it’s kinda like “are you only bringing me this because you want me to talk to you, to help you through your anxiety” i just think he really didn’t consider her feelings at all and especially because it was their honeymoon
My husband had testicular torsion, and had to be taken to the hospital via ambulance (during covid) he lost one because they didn't get him to surgery in time.
Does anyone want to go to the THT shows tonight in Milwaukee? I have an extra tocket
Omg that is so nice!!!
UM YES!!
This is so awesome of you! I hope you and whomever you go with tonight have an amazing time tonight! ❤
OMG ME!!!
wait what time
I actually didn't know who this woman and her cat were, but they must be protected at all costs i love them.
I’ve seen her on TikTok once or twice, but this episode def made me want to follow her she’s so sweet
Hahahaha same. I grew so attached just listening. Haven’t even seen the cat yet but I love her 😂
This!!!❤❤
Literally so wholesome!!! :')
Idk who she is either but I went and found her on TikTok and followed her 😂
Story 4: I will say the wife considered the husband from the beginning by stating she only wanted an upgrade if it was for both of them. She already knew she wouldn't leave his side under any circumstances because of his fears. He left her without hesitation and then whined when he hurt her feelings. What he did was rude and you just can't expect people to not react when you don't treat them with the same consideration they had for you. She reacted to his lack of matching how she went into the situation already considering him. His energy didn't match and it hurt. I'd tell him that.
I feel like they are forgetting that the husband on the airplane doesn’t fly a lot and he has never experienced first class and she has. So it makes sense him wanting to experience it and if I as a wife that travels a lot and has experienced first class several times then why wouldn’t I be happy he experiences it? And now, also depending on the couple situation we don’t know if the husband provides to get in other aspects like i would be happy to let my husband in the first class if it was his first time if he takes good care of you in other aspects and in the house. That being said , I think the wife could’ve been like hey honey I don’t think is a good idea you get nervous when we fly and I won’t be able to conform you when you get anxious
Plus she was even willing to let it go after the flight, but then he guilt tripped her! He should have counted his blessings and let it go as well.
@@SweetJeessyeah but he used her points without asking if it was ok with her. Like, I'm not stealing from my partner just so I can have a new experience, that's bonkers.
And she was willing to let it go but then he guilt tripped her about it. Also it's their honeymoon, like you get married and immediately abandon your wife over a plane ride?
@@SweetJeessThe problem is that they aren't together? If they are just recently married and in love, wouldn't they want to always be by each other's side? I wouldn't even want to leave a friend by themself.
@@SweetJeess I'm forgetting nothing. I'm not so dense I forgot any details of a few minutes long story. I don't fly a lot. I've never experienced first class. I would never ever choose to do it by leaving my partner on our honeymoon and using their money and points to do it. It's irrelevant because it's a main character syndrome move on his part, and no partner should have to point it out. His bad behavior due to only thinking of himself isn't an argument to his pov.
These are my expectations for people I would be in a partnership with. If others have lower standards or expectations that's on them. But I wouldn't lower mine nor do I think this wife should.
Overfeeding like that is animal abuse!!! I get it that technically the person should listen to the rules of the parent, but-deciding not to abuse an animal is always the right decision
Absolutely!! If I was them I'd be trying to figure out if I could get ownership of the cat for its wellbeing. Animals like that end up surrendered at shelters every day at this point. It's sad and infuriating that the friend can't see what they're doing wrong
100%
The cat not being able to jump on a couch, it’s heavy breathing which for a cat is nuts.
I wish they had taken the cat to the vet for evaluation and for a weight loss plan. I do have to say though, as soon as I heard how much food was accessible to the cat at all times I knew the owner was in the wrong.
Its neglect not abuse, she's not purposely physically harming the animal she's just neglectful of the health and food consumption. Definitely still not a good thing cuz that cat was probably going to have a heart attack soon. I can understand why the owner was mad the friend Wasnt Free feeding cuz i also believe in letting my cats eat when they feel hungry but also need to include wet food for health and they will eat less hard food cuz they rather have the wet food so their diet stays in check. Instead of going behind her back and changing it drastically i think the fiend should've taken Cat to the vet and get proof of diet change needed and show the owner and tell her that they will make changes to the diet referred from the doctor until she takes the cat back and if she neglects his health again they will call them in for animal neglect to remove it and take the cat in themselves. Or maybe like tell her exactly why what's wrong so she can understand indtead of being salty and upset cuz ur not respecting her wished of assuming you would do what she asked exactly
No assholes in story 4?! It's their HONEYMOON! They're married for literally 2 seconds and he's already being selfish.
right? i can't believe they said no assholes. i thought that was an obvious NTA. the husband was being a child.
@@lowkeylola88 she was also being very rude and standoffish from the get go, so i understand the veredict
@@chipsjalapeno_ How so?
@@petalchild idk this might be a hot take and is my personal opinion, but i read the post on reddit before this and to me it came off as kind of agressive on her part as well. I understand her frustration because it's their honeymoon he was just thinking about himself at that moment, and I don't disagree with telling him to kick rocks when when he came to her like "why didn't you support me", but using language like "he abandoned me" and "you should've thought about that before you left me alone" i just don't think it helps the situation lol (it was a 4 hour flight and they were both on the same plane, "abandoning" is a lil too much), and maybe that's because I don't see the big deal about sitting in different seats on a flight, i mean that's the least interesting thing i'm probably gonna do during my _honeymoon_ so yeah i don't see the reason to be so upset about it.
And I agree he shouldn't have just spent her flight points just like that, i don't think that was what bothered OP the most tho, it was the fact that he wanted to flight coach and she didn't want him to bc she wanted them to fly together. I think she should've expressed that morer firmly instead of feeling like she had to say yes because there was people waiting (who cares if they stop the line for a minute tbh that happens all the time) and maybe that set the tone for the rest of the issue. (like i also understand being defensive if my partner starts snapping back at me for something i thought they had agreed with before).
Overall maybe this didn't need to become a big thing and hopefully they were able to talk and make up, otherwise they're just gonna keep arguing like that during their honeymoon and is it rlly worth it? idk.
As someone who works in an ER i knew immediately it was testicular torsion which is absolutely a medical emergency. His delivery about the situation was the problem
Not only that, but why would he assume his gf would drive him to the hospital if she was out drinking all night? He should have just called an ambulance right away.
Yeah, he needed to be clear on exactly how much pain he was in. To her, it could have sounded like a joke. Although pain makes you incoherent, so it was an innocent mistake on both parts
@@shelbylynn7399I agree, it probably wasn’t safe for her to drive.
@@tanyastacy-haws993 It might have been an honest mistake on her part, but an unforgivable one nonetheless (at least imo). If I was in his position and my partner let me down like that when I was in a dire situation, I would never be able to trust them again. She didn't even show the least bit of concern. If I had a partner that called me multiple times and communicated to me that he needed to get to the hospital, I would immediately go and help him, even if it sounds ridiculous. Her lack of action and her straight up ignoring his calls and even blocking him is what gets me. It wouldn't have hurt her to answer her phone or walk the 5 minute walk to check up on her partner.
@@shelbylynn7399okay this is a very good point. He’s def not the asshole and I disagree it’s his fault because of how he communicated it. Your partner should care and be available if you’re in pain or need assistance and reach out wtf. Howeverrrr, yeah if she’s at the club, she would obviously be drinking and shouldn’t be driving him regardless, no? I assume he wasn’t thinking straight due to the pain though. Def should’ve taken the ambulance, though I assume he’s somewhere where you pay for that out of pocket. Stupid you have to put your health aside due to not being able to afford emergency services in some places.
Story 6: If you’re discussing getting engaged or buying a home together, you should also sharing large financial decisions with your partner and determine what’s considered a large financial decision (is it over $1,000 or over $10,000 for example).
I would not be comfortable moving forward with marriage or home buying with anyone who says “Well technically you have no right to ask, it’s my money!” That would be a major red flag.
Plus they’ve been together 12 years. That’s common law in come places.
I agree completely. Plus who doesn't tell their best friend/SO if they are making a large money decision? They don't need permission, but they usually benefit from getting a second opinion from someone they trust. If he was worried about judgement, he needed to consider whether he was doing something he might not be proud of or if he is with someone who would blow up if they spoke about large financial decisions
Not just the decision, but REFUSING to tell how much debt he has and why, and is he still accruing more debt. What is his plan to pay back? Will he truly join her plan in saving for a home?
If he has child payments and health issues or anything, he should just tell it.
In story 3 I feel like everyone’s skipping over the fact that he straight up said “something is wrong” and “I have to go to the hospital” like.. he didn’t come out the gate saying “my balls hurt” 💀
It reminded me of one of those "missing 'missing reason'" episodes. It was really weird he was specifically not invited to the birthday party and had such strong feelings about clubbing, even if it is a place 5 minutes away and with his gf. And why did they not have a way to communicate emergencies to each other before one happens? The way she reacted so strongly by even blocking him makes me think he has been really controlling before. Either way, that would suck a lot to be him in the story, and it is good that his surgery was successful
You actually think he was going to talk rationally 😂
This was exactly my thought. As soon as you read the word “Hospital” go see what’s wrong. If it ends up being nothing, laugh later. But once the word hospital is thrown out, instantly treat it as if it could be the real thing. Pick up the phone and talk through it is the bare minimum. For real.
@@Jakebrand11208 he literally did? What are you saying? I think you misread my comment I’m saying that he explained himself just fine before mentioning his balls.
@@GirHelloKitty00 agreed. I’d always say better safe than sorry when it comes to what could possibly be a serious medical issue
Story 3 - I once found my brother having a non responsive seizure (no body jolts just not responding) and I panicked. I called my mum on repeat untill she answered (5 ish times). I told her what was happening and she said hang up and call an ambulance.
Then I did. She got home just before they arrived and she went woth him in the ambulance.
He was later diagnosed with a brain tumor and is now 100% fine.
Scariest moment of my life.
When you or someone you love is in trouble you reach out to family or loved ones first. They help ground you.
i love how morgan is like “it’s a great hack if you pay off your credit card bill every month” like it’s not a hack , that’s just how it works 😭
And actually you’re suppose to let yourself pay a little interest for the credit to built up 😭
@@aracelyaguirre18I’ve never paid interest and my credit score goes up every month
@@aracelyaguirre18 That's not true at all, it's just this weird myth that loads of people are totally convinced of. I've never paid any interest and my score is 802. Paying the whole balance off before it's due is always best.
@@aracelyaguirre18I have always paid mine off every month - never have had pay interest. My credit score is great.
Last story: I think the fact that he lied about where the $ came from is a big deal. I don’t think it’s 50k total. I think he lied about the bonus. It’s too much of a coincidence that both things (bonus & 401k) were $25k each. It is a big red flag for OP.
Yeah the way I heard it I thought he lied about getting a bonus in the first place and just used the 401k money to pay off the debt
@@BernadinoBinch that’s what I got from it too.
In the second story, Kate sounds insecure that OP can communicate with the mother in-law better than she can. So she would get jealous and view it as OP trying to win her over. She projected her insecurities about the cultural/language barriers onto OP. If she doesn’t feel secure in her relationship she needs to deal with that in therapy or with her fiancé instead of talking shit about OP.
Story 6: living together for 10 years they aren’t “just dating” they are defacto. Not to mention you are discussing getting married and buying a house. If he can’t discuss financial matters now it’s only going to get worse.
Thank you! Idk how they didn't see that 😕
I don’t think I have ever commented on a video before, but I heard the first story and I just NEEDED to comment.
I run a non-profit cat rescue in Michigan for special needs cats, and one of the specialties we focus on is weight loss for extremely large cats. Here’s my hot take, based on my 20 years of experience in animal rescue (my parents started our rescue when I was 8, I’m 29 now and director of our rescue)
1. Weight loss in cats MUST. BE. VET. LED. I cannot express this enough. Yes it is important they lose weight when they’re that big, BUT if cats loose weight too fast they can have severe kidney and liver issues. If we cut too many calories on them, it can be detrimental to their health. It has to be GRADUAL and that’s why it NEEDS to be vet led! I don’t agree with the fact that this person didn’t consult a vet.
2. Gravity bowl feeders are not recommended. And that is why Juno got to be so large. So I agree with taking away the gravity bowl feeder. Anything beyond this should have been vet led.
3. The laws in America for animal ownership are kind of gray, and here’s what I mean by that. If you are caring for a cat, most states will therefore say the cat belongs to you. Example: feeding strays? If the The state gets involved for some reason, in most cases they will tell you that you are the cats caretaker so you’re responsible. This makes it dicey when it comes to leaving your cat in somebodies care long term. If you leave your cat in your friends care long term (I consider longer that 4 weeks long term) and they have the cat in their home and are responsible for the cat? They can take you to court for the ownership of the cat, and they will most likely win. In 20 years of animal welfare, that is how I have seen these situations go. The only way I’ve seen it not go that way is when you put the cat up at a boarding facility. “Rehoming” your cat, even temporarily, grays the lines of cat ownership in almost all US states. So when her friend said “listen it’s my cat…” the law would kind of disagree with that, saying she abandon her cat for a year with this person and they care for Juno better so Juno is their cat now.
At my rescue, I’m not even allowed to temporarily house cats for people. If you bring your cat to my rescue (any rescue in the state of Michigan) you’re required to legally surrender it to us. And then it is our animal to place back up for adoption and rehome. And if you do surrender your pet, we cannot adopt that animal back to you. We’re not allowed to have animals in our care that aren’t signed into our care, so I couldn’t just keep your cat without you surrendering it to me. That’s why we must do stray holds on found animals, giving the owner time to come back before it’s declared legally ours to rehome. (In Michigan the stray hold time is 7 days.)
So what I’m trying to say is:
-Juno’s diet needed to be vet led. And if you’re going to help your pet lose weight, it needs to be vet led.
-don’t use gravity feeders
-don’t leave your pet long term in anyone’s care and expect to get them back.
Yes. Very informative comment!! That was my first thought. I was thinking about what I would do in her position and I would definitely take the cat to the vet to get it on a specific healthy diet. I think with the friend that was right and it's incredibly unfortunate the owner is going to continue to abuse her cat
This comment deserves more likes!
Do you find that wet food is better for cats than dry food? My cats only eat dry food but I recently have been wondering if making the switch would be more beneficial for them.
Love the cat! The owner is way too giggly lol sorry
@@buibear88the best is a mix of wet and dry. Wet food helps with hydration, but dry food is good for their teeth. So just mix them together.
You know, everytime you have a guest on,it makes me remember how out of touch with social media i am. "You probably already recognize their voice" nope... Don't even recognize the names...🤣🤣 oops
I found your comment 😊
@@RaynbowUnicorn227 good job🤣🤣🤣
Same. I’ve only known the guest like twice at this point.
To be fair I’m chronically online and still did not know who she was
@@electricwizardmf yeah thats fair, a lot are from tik tok i think, which im not on often lol There's only one guest i legit didn't like at all and still haven't finished the episode, so im not saying i hate the guests, i just dont know them🤣🤣🤣
The ball guy one: I know the thought was she’d come home but if she’s already been drinking.. she wouldn’t have been able to drive him to the hospital?
The way I interpreted it was that it was still fairly early in the night. But you make a great point. I think it’s more so the fact that she ignored his emergency. She just needed to be there for him.
And also if she had been drinking “my balls hurt” seems like a really dorky come on… I’d think he was horny 😂
i agree, but to expand on this: she's drunk. he's not thinking clearly because he's in pain and SHE'S not thinking clearly because she's DRUNK
and at 22, it's not surprising that she might assume he was exaggerating or pranking her or such
my friends and i have sent each other "I'm dying" just because we're in a little more pain than usual SO MANY TIMES
@@tortillachips3911 personally, I feel when one is drunk, their true secret sober emotions come out. If my partner had an emergency while I’m drunk, I’d make it a point to stumble out quickly. The fact she had no care feels like she doesn’t give a shit frankly
@imp6916 i mean, im pretty sure thats a myth about the "teue self" thing, but regardless, they should break up. he's not going to be able to get over this for YEARS
Story 6 - as someone who lives in a country where marriage isn’t as important I completely understand why she is upset. My partner and I will never marry, we live together, own a house together and if he did something like this without talking to me I would be furious.
Being together for so long, without marriage your lives still have a lot of legal ties. It’s wild that they were talking about it as if they had only been dating for a couple years not a decade.
Blocking your bf is crazy
I love when Morgan reads “mum” in an accent whenever the story says mum lol
This gorl laughs a lot
Morgan knows damn well that she’d freak out on Justin if he pulled that on their honeymoon flight.
what we also need to keep in mind is our weight and their weight are not equal a couple pounds is like putting on about 10 their joints can't take it, so keeping them at a healthy weight is so very Important
thank you for saying this! i was looking for somone to say this. the friend is completely unreasonable.
Yes! My mom’s cat put on 2 extra pounds over time and she couldn’t get her to lose weight but could tell she was uncomfortable. I worked at Petsmart so she asked me to talk to someone about it.
She needed more protein and is a healthy weight now. She’s big boned, so still looks bigger but she can jump all the way up her tower, she doesn’t beg for food all the time, and she purrs much more often.
Feeding cats properly is so imperative to their health!
If I am babysitting, and the parents ask me to use an abusive technique, there is no way in hell I would follow their directions. And I might even lie and tell the parents I will so that they don't find a bad babysitting that is willing to enact the abusive directions
About the question "why call your S.O before calling 911", I worked in an Emergency Response Centre for one of those senior alert buttons. We were taught that when they request 911 be called for them, that afterwards, we also contact there personal emergency contacts bc they will normally arrive first. Alot of times seniors live so so close to there family too, which was a factor, but mainly bc your family is going to beat the ambulance 80% of the time.
Seeing Junie in the studio has made my entire month lol. She is the cutest!
I haven’t finished listening so this might be addressed but For story 4 I think the guy was completely in the wrong because it was their HONEYMOON. They’ve JUST gotten married and he’s already leaving her? Using HER points after she told the first agent AND the agent that approached them she’d only want the upgrade if it was available for them both? Weirdo behavior
“Open his mail” Morgan no that’s a crime😭😭😭💀💀💀
Story 3: she should’ve checked on him but I do see the “my balls hurt” not feeling urgent, but he also said I need to go to the hospital. Blocking him was out of pocket.
The bracelet in a chip bag sounds like she wants to go out and he doesn’t want to or wants her to stay in and he hides a bracelet or jewelry she’s trying to put on in a chip bag to delay her going out. Which would be annoying but it’s not on par with saying I need to go to the hospital my balls hurt.
Story 4: she specifically said she didn’t want the upgrade if it wasn’t for both of them. He should’ve listened to her.
Yeah, I'm not sure why but the dude does give off this clingy attention seeking victim playing vibe. I bet the gf was just so done with it and wanted to enjoy one night to herself instead of him demanding all attention.
Story 3: There's a lot of updates and comments now on Reddit, the club where she was is literally a 5min walk from their place. It's wild she didn't check on him. He also posted pictures of the text convo and he said a lot more, it was obvious he was in distress. He also apparently never texted or called for her to come home when she was out with her friends before.:(
@@LysandreGagne gotta go check it out
@@Lallydooya the fact he thought a drunk girl at the club would be able to take him to the hospital is still bizarre to me idk
Story 3 is actually insane. You ALWAYS should answer a call from your partner if you’re out because you never know if it’s an emergency. Especially if followed up by a text that says “I need to go to the hospital”.
Literally I had this happen where my partner was weightlifting at home and dislocated his shoulder and tore his ligament. I was working from home that day but in our office so I didn’t hear anything except a yell for my name, but I ignored it since I thought he just needed something stupid. But then I heard him yell again louder this time and I knew something was wrong because he wouldn’t be interrupting me during work if it wasn’t something urgent.
I saw him on the ground holding his arm looking like he was about to pass out and I rushed him to the hospital. You NEVER should ignore your partner ever.
For the ball story:
Yes he told her his balls hurt, but he also said that he needs to go to the hospital now. So not sure how you ignore that. I’d dump anyone who ignored my pleas to take me to the hospital. Horrible person!
Story 4 : In our flight back from our honeymoon, I was offered an upgrade and not my husband. I refused. That's the only thing to do, it's the damn honeymoon!!!
This girl said women have all great relationships with all their girlfriends with so much confidence! 😂😂😂😂😂
I struggle a lot with the 3rd story. My abusive ex did that allll the time when I went out. Saying she was having a panic attack or didn’t feel good so I HAD to come home this second. It wasn’t sometimes, it was allll the time I went out without her. She was controlling in other ways that others didn’t/couldn’t see. Not saying OP is doing that to her but there’s always another side of the coin. Maybe he has done this before a few times before and it was nothing, but this time it was serious. Stories like this just always make me second guess everything because of my experience 💕
Yesss my sister's fiance is like this
100% this was my first thought too, I feel like there's some major details being left out by him because why would her first thought would be to block him. That's going from 1 to 100 so fast for seemingly no reason? Nahhh. Sounds fishy to me.
For story 5, I feel like I've heard similar situations to this so many times from Reddit and one of my thoughts is; why are people obsessed with bombarding? The person who was wronged initially to do something they don't want to do? What is her presence at the wedding going to do and why do they care about it? Why want that type of drama or that type of energy at the wedding? I feel like those people are sick in the head trying to force someone to do something she doesn't want to
I have heard other stories like this like you said, so I tried to take a deep dive into it. I think there are different reasons for different people in each story, but I think a big one is anxiety when a situation is still "up in the air". If they are waiting to see if OP will show up at the wedding and how that will go, they are imagining terrible scenarios in their head and feeling anxious. When they are telling OP to get over it, they feel a bit of control in the outcome rather than being at the mercy of OP's actions that are still undecided.
In this story, it is likely the parents also feel guilt for keeping Taylor's secret and causing some of OP's pain. They are asking OP to act like everything is fine so that they aren't confronted by her negative feelings that they have contributed to.
Testicular torsion is no joke! It happened to my husband 8 months into us dating and I never doubted him or his pain. I rushed him to the ER immediately and he had emergency surgery. I never once left his side until I was forced to by my MIL. This happened 9 years ago and he’s terrified of it happening again but it shouldn’t since he had surgery to prevent it 🤞🏽
“RAW MEAT” I’m laughing so hard. My high butt would mess up “FRESH MEAT” tooo 😂😂😂
13:35 I didn’t hear any mention of consulting with a veterinarian regarding the chonk KitKat!! That’s where it should have started, BEFORE making any changes to her baby’s diet!!! 🐈⬛ 🐈
Story 4: any other vacation it’d be fine but the honeymoon???!! He’ll no
He sent 'my balls hurt' to a woman hours into a night out clubbing and drinking and expected her to know he was being serious? Once she found out she was super apologetic and understood completely, it's not like she belittled his feelings knowingly. And yeah her immediately calling it games and blocking him tells me he's done something similar before and from her drunk perspective she was just setting a boundary with a bf giving her an unserious scenario. Regardless of her intentions or the details though, his trust is still damaged. Imo it's fixable via therapy and communication
Exactly!!
i also would want to hear her side. i have had guys and know of guys that dislike their gf being out so they will make things up for her to come home. maybe she thought it was one of those times but its all speculation
Thank you! This is how I was feeling. A) "my balls hurt" doesn't sound serious. He really could have explained it better, like he did in the post b) maybe she has a reason to believe he's fucking around or being dramatic. Maybe he's a clinger/controlling and she just wanted to practice boundaries while out with her best friend. I also have an inherent bias when it comes to (cis) men though. I'm always a little suspicious.
Honestly though, he might be doing her a favour if he breaks up with her. She sounds like she might be checked out of the relationship based on the annoyed reactions to him calling. I imagine if he typically left her alone when she went out then him suddenly calling this time would be a signal that something was wrong.
I’m sorry do your boyfriends/ partners just randomly text you that their balls hurt after trying to call you multiple times and texting and you find it not serious? The least she could’ve fucking done was answer the damn phone especially if she loved him. Sounds like maybe you would do the same thing to your partner?
@@ZestyAsh if she was out grocery shopping I'm sure she would've picked up the first ring, heard the genuine pain in his voice, and come home. Context is everything 🤷♀️
And yeah if I was drunk, surrounded by my besties at a birthday party, in a nightclub, knew my partner was a prankster and he sent me something so funny I'd assume it was a joke too and not answer much lol idk why so many seem to think they'd magically know how serious the issue was
That description of quora and googling a question is 100% accurate
I decided on this episode to try listening to the podcast on Spotify for the first time (instead of watching it on UA-cam) but all the talk about the kitty and I was like damn now I got to watch it to see the fluffer. This was not the episode to go audio only… you got to see that precious face! ❤😻
Loved her view on we always plan a wedding but never plan for certain situations we might ourselves in when married!
I LOVE JUNIE AND ALYSSA!!! This is a crossover I didn’t expect to see but I’m absolutely loving it 💚💚
If my bf texted me “my balls hurt” id at least be like “what do you mean??????”
She’s giving me sweet stoner vibes and I love her 🥹🤣
Attending a wedding is always optional.
Story 3, He should have given more context via text. Of course she’s not going to answer the phone, she’s in a club & probably drinking. Also, “pop over & check on him,” since when is going in & out of the club so easy?
On another note, I don’t understand people who call their friends when they need an ambulance. Unless the friend is an EMT, call for actual help. If you’re in dire crisis, don’t put that on them!
its about the same reason why the emergency people ask if you have someone to drive you to the hospital, there is a chance that they'll take too long because a number of reasons (main one being that there is no one available to come at the time). It took 3 hours for the ambulance to get to my house when it's an 30 min drive when my father was suffering from the same condition as OP, he is lucky to still have his balls.
1. Ambulances are crazy expensive and not always covered by insurance.
2. There are limited numbers of Ambulances so one might not have even been available.
3. How much more context did she need than multiple texts and calls begging her to help.
Honestly anyone who thinks this way is a shit person. Playing would've, should've, could've? I bet in an emergency you'd be no better. It's the victim blaming for me.
I mean he said he needed to go to a hospital in the text, and he was in an excruciating amount of pain that only allowed him to give just the bare minimum information. He's not typing full symptoms out in text, and I bet you wouldn't be able to do the same. Also, he could have absolutely given her more context if she had ANSWERED the phone after he called multiple times.
She probably wouldn't have been able to drive, but like even at my drunkest I would never blow off anyone I love/care about, let alone a boyfriend of 5 years. After 2 calls from anyone I'm thinking its dire.
@@mywatchdoesmath4669she definitely should have picked up the phone, the only reason I can think is if it was too loud for her to hear the phone so she wanted a text. But if I saw my loved one calling that much I definitely would have gone home if that was the case. I would be so worried!
I’ve never had a SO, but if my roommate was calling that many times I would pick up the phone! And she’s supposed to love this person!
@@BleuchuCakebut she was drunk and wouldn’t have been able to take him anyway
yeaaahhh like if your animal is overweight and can’t do anything then you owe it to the cat to give it a better quality of life
Lyss has been one of my favorite influencers for so long and I was so excited to see this episode 🥹
The cute cat is so wonderfully distracting 💖 My cat is 14 now but she could jump from the ground to the top of the fridge. She can still jump the counter to the top of the fridge. We don’t keep plants up there anymore.
Where’s the new episode Morgan😢 my room needs a deep clean and this podcast is my motivation
feltttt!😂😩
For everyone asking where the new episode is, one of Morgans ponys has been sick! Between that and the Milwaukee show, that is why it is delyaed (:
thank you for this!
Absolutely LOVING all the guests on the show!!! Literally screamed when I saw you had Charlotte Dobre and now LyssieLooLoo & Juni!!!! SO CUTE!!!
Story 4: Husband is TA. she EARNED those flight points from all the travel she is required to do for her work! Then she finally gets enough points to qualify for an upgrade and he just swoops in and takes it from her??? On their honeymoon, no less?
She could have just as easily done that to him. After all, they were HER points. But clearly, she'd never even consider doing something like that (presumably, because she's a decent person).
So not only does he take her upgrade, but he does it on their honeymoon, then he guilt trips her for not comforting him by text the whole time on the flight?
Dude, he needs to be returned to sender!
she didn't do it because she flies business all the time, she talked about that in the comments. I don't agree with the husband but I also don't agree with her either, personally because i don't see having to flight next to your partner as a very serious issue. And then she goes to say "he abandoned me. he ditched me and left me alone" you're both on the same plane.. it was a 4 hr flight. And then, after being defensive on the plane and guilt tripping him for taking the upgrade, she's upset that he's guilt tripping?? both of them acted poorly imo i would hate to start my honeymoon like that
@@chipsjalapeno_ its their honeymoon, she wanted to be with the man that she just got married to lmao? but he selfishly took her points to get a better situation and leave her, knowing he has flight anxiety then came back to cry about not being by her side.
@@ladieslovecj i didn’t justify him. I don’t agree with his actions either, and i would’ve been upset as well. She’s asking if she was the AH for her actions, i say yeah a lil
The chip bag prank is very Winston Bishop coded lmao! (and if the gf thought the ball hurting were a prank that would be the "going to far" Winston Bishop prank 🤣)
I was trying to figure out what they even meant by that, and one commenter says they think he would take a bracelet that she wants to wear out to an event and hide it in a chip bag to delay her leaving for the night
I am faced with the fact that I have been starved for a THT episode considering my phone showed this to me IMMEDIATELY
Also: A RAGDOLL KITTY OMIGOSH IM SO HAPPY TO BE HERE
Story 5: I would show up in my best dress with beautiful hair and make up, waiting for the best moment to be petty
Give a wink to a groomsman too
The ball story: we don’t know how often he tries to convince her to not hang out with her friends or how often he cuts her nights short. All he said was “my balls hurt” doesn’t sound serious at all.
The fact she showed up as soon as she realized what happened, stayed with him, and apologized profusely shows that she cares. This isn’t your typical narc who blames the person. But he can dump for whatever reason he wants, I just don’t think the gf is completely in the wrong
I was thinking the same thing!! Why was he specifically not invited to the party? And he had weird undertones when saying he hates clubbing and all associated with it. I bet he calls and needs something from his gf often while he is out. And who answers a call in a club? Speech to text is as easy as speaking on the phone, and he could call a bunch of times after that if she didn't read the text. She reacted like anyone with a slightly controlling bf would in that situation. They didn't seem to go through the story from her pov and find the missing "missing reasons".
@@clairer342so it’s ok to abandon and block 😂
@@Jakebrand11208 abandon is a weird way to put it, and a temporary block isn’t hard to undo in an hour or a day later 👍
The boyfriend didn't only say his balls hurt, he also said somethings wrong and he needs to go to the hospital.
Also the actual reddit story has a lot of updates and clarifications such as telling us he never had a problem with her going out before, nor has he ever pranked her with scares like that ever before.
Would you abandon your partner like that without as much as a call? Mind you she could even quickly walk there since it's a literal 5 minute walk
@@clairer342you're assuming too much.
The boyfriend didn't only say his balls hurt, he also said somethings wrong and he needs to go to the hospital.
Also the actual reddit story has a lot of updates and clarifications such as telling us he never had a problem with her going out before, nor has he ever pranked her with scares like that ever before
This is this best episode ever!!! Thank you. I always listen on Spotify but HAD to watch for Junie. Lately I’ve binged listened to old episodes and have officially listened to every episode of two hot takes❤️ this is my favorite podcast
it is always funny to me when Morgan is introducing someone and is like implying that everyone should know them without question, but it is someone that I have literally never heard of
i remember in the beginning of the year you said you were going to try to shine the light on organizations. you have a very large following on tiktok, a link could go a long way. please talk about Gaza
she has
Ong the cat in this whole episode is soo cute probably one of my top fav episodes 😂❤
Story 1- I honestly didn't know free-feeding was so controversial! I do it with my 2 cats and dog and they're perfectly healthy. A bowl lasts them the full day.
I think it depends on the pet and owner. My family has free fed all own pets with little issue. Some pets will just eat constantly. Pets who get fat from free feeding come from owners who refill the bowl constantly.
As a lifelong dedicated animal person, and a"pet care professional" the last almost 10 years, best interest of the animal comes first. Even if the humans don't want to hear it or agree 💯❤😺
This is my first time seeing Alyssa outside of tiktoks and I just wanna say I'm pretty sure I just fell a little bit in love haha. She seems so sweet and I love her laugh, plus I relate to the cat obsession on a deep level lol. Will definitely be following her stuff from now on and would love to see her on the show again !! 🥰
im not sure if I watched your videos out of order of course, but when you said fiancee , I got so happy!!!! congrats to you both.
“Plan the marriage not the wedding” love that
I kind of love the ads now cause I can see Morgan’s “no makeup makeup” before and after. Because makeup is fun! Morgan you look great 👍 😊
The second to last story, I would hate to be married to a guy only because I got pregnant. He’s only marrying her because of that in fear of not seeing his child, I would never force someone to marry me nor force them out of our child’s life. That marriage will start off as a lie
I LOVE Junie! She’s literally the chillest cat ever
LITTLE KITTY FLUFFBALL OMG ATOLE THE SHOW
Story 6 - they have both made joint financial goals that they are holding each other accountable for making progress towards, and that makes what he does with his money her business. She doesn't have a right to stop him from doing that with his money, but him choosing to do that is definitely a violation of their agreements, even if only in spirit. In her place, I would be extremely disturbed.
Love this podcast and the stories but the guest this time is just constantly gasping into the mic. With headphones on usually I fall asleep to your podcast but this is so uncomfortable 😂 i have mild synesthesia and repetitive noises are grating after a couple times. But love y'all lol maybe I'll listen on my tv instead
SAME. It's nothing against the guest, she sounds sweet but I'm having trouble finishing the episode because of the breathiness straight into the mic. Like, hello misohonia I didn't know I had 😂
@@catream1Yea update, it's much easier to listen to out loud! I think for me it was the volume difference from speaking to breathy laughter in my ears while I was dead tired + synesthesia issues. Love her, the kitty, and her reactions though! I feel bad since lots of people are giving her grief, but I mean using volume protectors seems like an easy solution 🤷🏻♀️
Story 3: does OP have a history of trying to ‘ruin her night’? Does he have a tendency to be controlling when she goes out? If so that’s a boy who cried wolf situation. If not then he is justified in ending it.
Story 3: she's an AH for blocking her boyfriend when he said he needed to go to the hospital. BUT, what stuck out to me is how she said "i thought you were just trying to ruin our night". Sounds like he may have a history of trying to derail her plans when hes not included in them. 😬
Which then may have resulted in her being like "nope! Not tonight buddy its my best friend's birthday!"
Which in that case is understandable. 🤷🏼♀️
Kitty! Love that your guests kow have sidekicks, Morgan!
I've had cats all my life and pride myself on being a very responsible cat owner. Like your guest said, cats aren't supposed to be very overweight.
They're meant to be agile; able to roam the house, climb, and play. They're meant to have muscles, not fat. If you're free feeding your (omg INDOOR) cat, yeah, it is abuse.
The hospital one, a whole part that’s looked over is that she’s at the club. Even if she’s 5 minutes away she’s probably drinking and drunk. Hence the lack of reaction to her boyfriend.
Another part of where she was assuming that he was trying to ruin the night . He probably doesn’t like her going out and does try to stop her from going out. Something along those lines. I feel like there are key things and responses from the gf that’s looked over.
Story 6: my husband and I dated for 6 years before we got married. To this day we do not combine our Financials. If he ever did something like this (no matter when in our relationship) I would be incredibly hurt by him especially the "it's not your money comment" we may have separate Financials but we are a TEAM and anything over 200.00 is discussed. If they agreed upon this life style in my opinion, she has every reason to be angry. There could be so many reasons they chose not to be married, but clearly, they are living as partners, and in this decision, he chose to be an individual, not a partner.
The airplane story: I believe it would really depend on the couple. What bugs me is the lack of communication when making the decision he just accepted it instead of talking with her privately for a minute and seeing if it was OK with her.
14k+ children gone!
#AllEyesonRafa! #Blockout2024
Let kitty stay in the studio!!! She’s so happy there.
My childhood cats were free fed.... and lean, energetic and healthy. I never ever would have left food out if they had been obese. That is absolutely neglect.
For the sixth story I've got to disagree with you guys. If they've been together for that long, living together and financially supporting each other, then she has every right to be angry. Not only could they be common law married(If they live in certain states in the US. I'm not sure about other countries.) but they are planning a future together. Taking your retirement money out like that is a huge financial decision. He clearly doesn't see her opinions as valuable if he didn't think he needed to mention something like that. That is definitely going to transfer into other parts of their marriage. You don't get the privilege of having a life partner when you don't include your partner in life decisions.
Not gonna lie. And I feel horrible for saying this, but I couldn’t handle this episode with the constant laughing giggling and chuckling at random things😣 I had to skip parts
You should feel horrible. Leave her alone ✋🏼 she’s a cutie pie. What did that do for you to say that?
u hate happiness and that’s your problem!
i would’ve kept this comment to urself that’s kinda mean :(
Girl I felt the same and I don’t give a flying fuck if it’s rude. 😂
oh my god kittie and morgan??? love this duo ❤️❤️❤️
“I don’t know how like, the debt part of that works but…”
OH MY GOD CAN I PLEASE LIVE A LIFE WHERE I CAN SAY THAT??
Todays guest was the best ever! So cute and great opinions shes top notch! The human was pretty good too 😸
I've been with my bf for years and his mom is an immigrant who doesn't speak English very well. Rather than say "oh well, guess we won't ever be able to communicate" I'm trying to learn her language. I don't look down on her for not speaking English. I don't speak her language either. If u really care about ur significant other, u care about ur family and the most basic for of respect is being able to communicate.
Firstly the guest today is super sweet!
Story 1 - the fact that the cats mum saw the difference in her cat and was still mad is bonkers.
Story 2 - the poor women done everything she can to give the couple space. the bride to be should've learnt her h2b mother language and then she would've been able to get involved with the mum more rather than judging the friend 😬
I need an episode with sustenance and a good guest.
Fr I don’t really rock with this guest.
i couldn’t listen to their conversations bc of her constant giggling 😭
@@1directionanddomoluv yesss her laughing at her own jokes ughh
Could have just had the cat as a guest 😅
That is a life lost.... he's only got 8 lives left. Morgan is hilarious
Kate sounds like one of those weirdo Karens that get upset when they hear someone speaking a different language. I started typing out the comment right before they said something similar. 🤦♀️
Your human guest is so delightful and I love both of your reactions to the ct. 😍😊😊
i have been waiting for this episode i was so worried when there wasnt one yesturday
THE SCREAM I SCRUMPT AT JUST THE THUMBNAIL
story 3 i would break up with her for simply blocking me and not answering the phone while at the club is crazy
51:22 I listen to that story on a different podcast and he had some point included that he did give the girlfriend more context he said things to her like please help something is seriously wrong and I need to go to the hospital. I’m using talk to text so hopefully this message makes sense
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A CAT NAMED CONCRETE IM SO EXCITED FOR THIS EPISODE LMAO
Story 6: he didn’t get a bonus… he lied and cashed out his 401k. And if you’re planning house, kids, marriage and actively saving for those things you need to consult even if you’re not married.
The thing about the fourth story, I don’t think he’s the asshole for wanting to sit in business class but it’s the fact that it’s their honeymoon, if it was any other trip maybe I’d be like “ok he’s not the asshole” but because it’s their honeymoon, like yall just got married and your just gonna leave her, yall should want to be together, like what, also i just know that if my partner did this to me and then brought me half a breakfast, I’d feel so patronized, especially if he asked “are you ignoring me”, im not saying he was being patronizing but i know I personally would feel patronized cause it’s kinda like “are you only bringing me this because you want me to talk to you, to help you through your anxiety” i just think he really didn’t consider her feelings at all and especially because it was their honeymoon
I agree.
My husband had testicular torsion, and had to be taken to the hospital via ambulance (during covid) he lost one because they didn't get him to surgery in time.
does the girl need an asthma pump? like omfg😭