I have been working with people with intellectual disabilities and mental health issues for close to twenty years now. All of my clients have have exhibited challenging behaviours of some kind. The attitudes reflected in the comments that you are responding to in this video are one of the biggest reasons it is so difficult for people like my clients to find communities that will accept them. People will often open a space or group to someone with special needs thinking that it will be a magical, heart-warming experience. They don't understand the work it can take for that person to be successful. When things go badly, they ask the person to leave. This happens over and over again. I often think of my clients as gurus. They teach me who I really am. When someone strips away your patience, your feelings of personal safety, your sense of knowing what to do, exhausts your empathy, etc.- who are you in that moment? That is the person you need to work on making a better person. The job is not always that challenging of course, but it sometimes is. It is good to see someone talk about this issue in an open and honest way. Thank you.
I really appreciate this very candid response! I love the part about how people think it’s going to be a magical, heart warming experience when the reality is, so often, it is the test you described that reveals your true character by stripping away our persona.
@@RamseyDewey Another thing you mentioned in the video is parents sending their kids away to homes. These days my work is as much counseling for parents as it is direct work with clients. I feel it is important to mention that in many (perhaps most) cases, this is not the parents choice. Families that have money or access to funding will often be able hold on to their children into adulthood; especially those who have higher functioning children who are capable of semi-independent living. What they don't get to do is stop being parents in any respect. Their kids don't usually move out, very rarely get a job that can sustain them, etc. At some point these parents get old, and are no longer able to take care of them. Sometimes their adult kids can get by in a subsidized housing arrangement with various types of workers coming by to help them out; sometimes they can't. The other possibility is that families don't have the money or access to funding to bring in therapists, or to cover complex medical needs. These families often have their children removed by the state and placed into group homes. There are of course, people with autism and other special needs who none of this applies to, who are able to have jobs and families, and who none of what we are discussing applies to.
I have a friend that asked me if he could stay at my house for a while. In the first hours that he stayed here, I noticed that he became schizophrenic. He was very paranoid, and thought everybody was against him. It was a very hard time. He disappeared for a couple of days and when he came back , he didn't tell me where he was. I tried to get help for him , but he refused to recognize that he had a problem. I had to send him away. It's no easy thing to deal with mentally disabled people. I wish I could have helped my friend.
I’m sorry to hear about your friend. There’s nothing worse than being inside your own prison cell you can’t get out of. Really unfair. I hope we have technology someday that’ll ‘zap’ away these ailments, for them to become as easy to fix as the common cold. I have a friend of mine who has this friend with schizophrenia. He’s been to my flat for a get together, a really awesome! guy. Talent at playing the guitar which I suck at. Super smart. But after a while you start noticing their paranoia. He wasn’t going on and on about it but for a while he spoke about being inside an actual Matrix system. The last I heard of where he is today, I think he’s homeless somewhere out there. I wish only the best for him. I really feel for people like this.
@@RamseyDeweyRamsey I love your content my dude! I'm 33 and I have mild Cerebral Palsy myself but Bruce Lee was the one who sparked my interest in Martial Arts, as the years have gone by and my function has declined somewhat (though I can still walk unaided I can no longer run as I suffer from increasing muscle fatigue, leg pain and muscle contraction), so I'm hoping for surgery soon to improve my function and get back to somewhere where I used to be in life. You have the PERFECT voice for a film trailer voice over artist/audiobook narrator! Love from the UK, Sean 👊🏽🏴
I needed this. I have 3 boys. All born premature. The youngest having the hardest time, being born just barely over 1lbs (500g) and needing oxygen support for the first year of his life. My middle and youngest both could not eat early on and needed to eat through tubes in their stomachs. I struggled with this for years blaming myself, thinking they could never live a normal life. But now after seeing them grow despite everything fills me with so much hope and love, I can't ever truly express how grateful I am for them changing my perspective and putting my fears of failing as a father to rest.
I won't type out what parts of my body are "missing". Sometimes folk assume I'm a homeless drug addict due to the way I look. I'm 42 years clean and sober and I am a good man.
God bless you man. I've been accused of being homeless too because I go to a high class gym and don't have nice clothes or shoes. For a while I didnt have a car and someone took a video of me walking home in eain
I would think one aspect which makes many "healthy" people uncomfortable dealing with "disabled" ones is the brutal and scary realization neither their own "fullness of limbs" nor their "normally working brain" is guaranteed or a given. For me the thought of losing even one of my eyes, a hand, or my legs is almost unbearable, if for the fear of being looked upon and judged by others for the rest of my life only by this disability. In this world we have a tendency to - by default - despise weakness, and to imagine we are weak in some areas w/o having the chance to rectifiy this situation though hard work, can be frightening to the core. This line of thought however is completely messed up and we can learn a great deal of joy and gratefulness from those who (supposedly) have been dealt lemons in life. And for those inner demons every man faces we all need a different kind of medicine anyway... 🙂
I think this is a great example of why it's important for people not to film each other in general. It's always possible a person has a disability or just experienced something traumatic, and nobody online will understand the full depth of what was happening. South Park did an episode on the subject of inclusion without judgement, with Timmy as the vocalist for a metal band, unironically, because people just loved him and his confidence. So encourage people to take part in their own way, but don't record tidbits of events and pass it around for judgement. I had a friend named Jonah who did air guitar and wild vocals at an open mic with a pair of whitey tighties on his head. He got cheered off stage. Legendary
I have this same birth defect, mirrored. My left arm and leg are an inch longer than my right. My mother is the same way. Learning about Bruce Lee's solution helped my own training.
Human beings can overcome any setback under the right circumstances, as evidenced by the channel "Special Books by Special Kids". There are millions of kids with a stronger spirit than most adults on earth. I want the "non-Ableists" to watch some of the more difficult videos on that channel from beginning to end and then tell me to "ignore disability". I am a Bruce Lee fan, but with common sense regarding his fighting ability, helps that I am 35 cm taller than him lol. I didn't know or completely forgot about his injury and leg. Makes me respect the man 4x more. Thank you Ramsey for all your commentaries. I feel they make me a better person. You don't make illogical statements and rarely some that I might slightly argue/add on to, regardless if I agree with them or not. Most importantly you don't spread hate like too many others do.
Wonderful channel, and yet I freely admit I have great difficulty watching some videos. Perhaps it is at least some progress to confess that I am sometimes uncomfortable and I turn away because I am not always prepared to watch the individuals that are interviewed to behold their strength of spirit self. Someday I will overcome that, God willing.
@@jaklumen I am uncomfortable too and I turn away as well, no doubts about it. They are so far away behind the screen and there is almost nothing I can do to help. In real life, it kills me because I can't communicate with a cerebral palsy kid I know. I think it shows empathy, not weakness or malice. I don't think it needs to be overcome, it is a normal feeling, maybe a combination of sadness and helplessness that comes from empathy. It is up to the person to act on it or not, whatever it may be. Nobody likes being helpless. And if you see someone helpless and you can't help them, empathy makes you helpless. To add to that, when people see their spirit they can either feel inspired or attacked in a way. I also want to say nobody is ever truly helpless and you can always do something to help others. Thank you for the comment, made me think :D
I've been watching this channel since it's humble beginnings. Always loved the content. I didn't watch this year and I'm really sorry to hear that you took injuries to your legs that change your life. I love martial arts, I've been a tournament sanda fighter and I left the art behind. Tried to come back and train grappling, but realized how much ego people have and how badly they take loosing it really made me question how martial arts these days is more likely to produce a person who can't defend himself rather than someone who can, because of this fantasy of being the "optimal no BS fighter". "Defend yourself at all times" is not only necessary in the ring. It is necessary on the mats too.
This is by far , the very best video you have ever made. I have cerebral palsy and teach adaptive martial arts to others like myself and even albed bodied people as well. Thank you for this video!
I feel like part of this is about the wording of a comment. A comment that says "I genuinely can't tell if this guy is disabled" could be, as it clearly was, a genuine question. However, it could also mean "I don't think he's disabled but haha he looks like it" - we know it's not that, but on the internet, which is the more common sentiment? Not that it doesn't support the general point either way, but I can certainly see why people would interpret the comment in that 2nd way. It's not them being biased, it's them making a valid interpretation of the comment, based on the wording. That is, of course, based purely on the way it's read in this video. I assume it's an exact quote. That's just about the wording of the comment in context though, the rest...yeah. I guess I don't need to say who I agree with in that debate, I'm subbed here, not wherever that other video is! This is quite a good example of why "woke" became a derogatory term. Defending those who need it, questioning bias and soon; those are good things. Sadly, people see anyone saying anything other than extreme, blind, uninformed positivity and somehow can't accept the nuance or complexity of a topic so they simply become part of the problem. Just stop oil...by making cars sit there burning it...the easiest example to mock. "There's a problem, lets fight the people who could possibly help it, without giving them the time to find out if they are helping or not." In the case of that video, if he wasn't just a jerk, then whoever posted the video was - since they've put that person online to take that abuse. One of the 2 of those people is in the wrong, along with all the people commenting with the abuse, obviously. If someone has no diagnosed disability, but doesn't have a social understanding of that situation, what's the difference? That he would be capable of understanding if someone taught him not to do that, probably. If he doesn't understand that already though, is that entirely his fault? Perhaps, I'm not condoning his actions, but there's always nuance. Edited because I have no (diagnosed or relevant undiagnosed) special needs, I'm just rubbish at typing accurately 😄
You mean how young people no longer know what basic words mean? Eg: they think literally means figuratively, and “genuine” means “disingenuous”? And hot means cold? And dog means cat? And man means woman? And serious mean trivial? And good means evil? And evil means good?
@@RamseyDewey Yes, that's exactly what I mean 😄 I'm not saying it's not ridiculous, but it does appear to be how things are.. I think it's highly likely that some, if not all those responses you got may have been genuinely interpreting your comment as an attack on that person, even if it clearly wasn't. That's entirely on them, I'm simply analysing the potential motive for their reaction.
Ramsey, my son is registered as disabled due to Autism. My wife works in special educational needs, a field she was inspired to pursue because of our son. Her job gives us a deeper understanding of his needs and strengths, helping us appreciate all the more what a brilliant, intelligent, and uniquely loving child he is. Despite the label of disability, we count our blessings every day. If his behavior sometimes makes others feel uncomfortable, that's their problem, not ours. Our son deserves to be treated with the same respect and dignity as anyone else, and we fight daily to make sure he is. His unique view of the world is a gift, and we’re proud to share it, never hide it, just so others feel at ease.
I am not officially diagnosed but more than likely I have ADHD and OCD(not very serious disorders but a disorder non the less) and I thank you for this video. I remember one coworker once told me well don't view that as bad, view it as an advantage. That's why I accepted it and I don't try to hide it anymore, whether is ADHD, OCD, Depression or an Injury from training and man it feels better. The fact that I can thrive and even have some advantage despite this disorders is inspiring. Btw I must admit when I saw that video I didn't think that guy had any disabilities and yeah it makes sense, I just wanted that girl to middle kick him without taking that into consideration. Probably because I tried to symphatize with a fellow martial artist, but also because I have ADHD as well I think the worst thing that can happen is getting interrupted while you are trying to be focused on something. I don't understand how can ADHD make you annoy other people perhaps he wanted to hit the bag as well and didn't have patience to wait, still tho didn't took that into consideration and I probably should've.
I appreciate this so much. Im a diagnosed level 1 (lower support needed) autistic with ADHD and I know firsthand just how weird and uncomfortable people get at that revelation. I either get dismissed or people just start acting weird and distant. This forces me to hide parts of myself, hence the need to “mask.”
I have worked with special needs students and I have two brothers who are intellectually challenged. It’s not usual for someone with special needs to behave in a manner that is not socially acceptable. Not intentionally or with bad intentions. But it is what it is. I have also worked for over 30 years in the fitness industry. And it is very, very common for women who are minding their own business to be “coached” by men. These men have their own reasons for inserting themselves into this persons workout. Usually to pump up their own sense of self or to have an interaction with a female they find attractive. So I understand when people assume it’s the latter situation as it is far more common.
I'll always appreciate you doing the right thing when it comes to the disabled my dad also worked with disabled people as well so in my family it's very important I'll always respect you for that
This was exactly the video I needed to see at exactly the right time. Two nights ago I sustained a pretty severe knee injury that is going to need surgery and will have me out of commission for quite awhile. It's easy for me to slip into despair, but the message here gives me hope. Thanks, coach!
i think the concept of free will becomes to intoxicating for most people "if i can use my pure unwavering power over myself in a "good" way and you do it in a "bad" way i can identify you as a "bad" person, but the brain isn't so simple, mutation degeneration, brain damage, experiences give people negative differences , peoples sense of accomplishment and worth always gets in the way of empathy, when the reality is the prime differences between them and the people they judge is their brains are different, its really easy to jerk ourselves off when we are blessed with neurochemical stability, good brain function that quells our problematic impulses for us without actually having to build up our morals and coping pathways
I have asperg syndrome, during my growing up i had very a hard time around people. Social life was a nightmare, i have no idea of the many times i screwed things up with other people, and other people were also very nasty without me doing nothing, just being quiet and having a weird voice. I have being doing my best to get better, i got on muay thai, it was much more difficult because i just freeze for few seconds, somehow i won a state championship, i also became a writter and radiologist. My life is still hard, but i belive God Yahweh is giving me strengh. Your video made me very emotional.
Today i learned Bruce Lee had asymmetrical leg length and whose fighting stance is a result of that I almost lost my left middle finger from a squat accident. My finger got caught between the barbell and the rack, splitting the finger longitudinally. Fortunately it got sewn back together. I have a scarred middle finger but it’s functional, though a bit uncomfortable to touch with The thought of not having a pristine finger anymore bothers me a lot. But it is what it is God give us strength
I think I’ve seen that video, never bothered to read the comments. There is always someone who has a need to provide unrequested citicism, that is perhaps just an acquired behaviour on their part based on their own self importance or perhaps they have special needs, so tact is always required.
Yo, big guy I appreciate your content for a few years I want to tell that idea of "disposing disable people" will never work Because we are people, and people love to feel supremacy There will never be enough of "disabling" things even after theoretically all people on Earth will be perfectly shaped It's called hypocrisy We just need to live with what we have, everything is important out there And try to never be a jerk, that's just nearly always not nice
i truely wish everyday, that all people would have that level of compassion, for all things, and to just try to better understand the world around us. it would just be nice wouldnt it, if we lived this harsh world together, it wouldnt be so hard.
Thank you for this video Ramsey. I've been learning just how much prejudice can deeply affect someone emotionally and mentally. Recently in the past few months, I befriended a really cool and talented dude who is very neurodivergent and has ADHD, Autism, and Borderline Personality Disorder. He struggles a lot in many social environments because of it, so me and my friends always try to do what we can to make him feel comfortable, safe and understood when he's around us. Big problem is that his family doesn't accept him the way he is, and they don't believe that he has anything like ADHD, Autism or BPD, they just think he's being "dramatic" most of the time, and they refuse to pay for any psychological exams or mental care treatment, because they don't believe its worth paying for "problems that don't exist." Whenever my friend tries to reason with them so that he can get any kind of help, they just shut him down and look the other way. Because of this, my friend feels constantly rejected and helpless at home, and it unfortunately resulted in him suffering severe mental meltdowns periodically and developing impulsive self-harming practices in moments of despair and aguish, which is worsened by his BPD whenever his most negative and self-destructive personality traits take hold of his fragile mental state. Ever since he became closer with me and my friends and we started to discover everything he is going through, we've been trying everything within our power to give him as much support as we can. We've been trying to go out with him as much as possible so that he can have fun and feel like he belongs, and we try to be good listeners whenever he has to get anything off his chest and talk about it. Whenever he goes through a meltdown or wants to harm himself, we try our best to give him reassurance and kindness in order to calm his emotions and defuse his negative thoughts and impulses, and fortunately, we were able to to avoid the worst-case scenario many times already. Unfortunately, his meltdowns seem to only be getting worse, and we know there might come a point where we might not be able to stop him from doing something too drastic if we are too far away to help, so we've already planned an emergency call for medical services directly to his address as an absolute last resort if everything goes to shit. I really hope we'll never have to make that call. People should care more. People should show more love and look out for each other better, even when someone screws up. Because bad stuff happens when they don't. All it takes to make someone's day better is a simple act of kindness. It's that simple.
Bpd is caused by childhood trauma. My guess is that his family are the ones who traumatized him. The family won't acknowledge it bc the world won't. It can be a form of tough love albeit not good for every personality type. He is lucky to have you in his life.
Genesis 32:27 The man asked him, “What is your name?” “Jacob,” he answered. 28 Then the man said, “Your name will no longer be Jacob, but Israel, because you have struggled with God and with humans and have overcome.” I was born with my right ear being completely ineffective, 100% no hearing in my right ear. My left ear compensated. At age 18 my doctor would tell me and my mother that I was hearing, with my left ear, in the Dog range. But here is the catch, I never have and never will be able to know what Stereo sound is. I have ZERO directional hearing. I must rely on my sight most often, even when talking to some, I use visual cues sometimes to decipher what someone says to me when I don't quite catch what they say. Too often I hear this phrase, "You heard me, I didn't stutter." And I am left not knowing what has been said because no one understands that I can't hear. But like the name Israel, we all have struggles to overcome, Life itself is a huge struggle.
Thanks for this video coach! Really got me thinking. I do wonder, you said that there were no disposable human beings. How then do we deal with someone who seems so morally corrupt that nothing we do will ever change them? (Is this related to disability? It could be, I guess, I'm not sure). I'm still a young adult and I've yet to meet people that are truly the lowest of the low, but I notice that I tend to hold grudges. Silent grudges, but still grudges. I can see myself dehumanizing those that seem morally corrupt to me, to the point of wishing severe punishment on them. Of course, I would never do such a thing, but the thought of it appears in my mind. I'm not religious, and most likely will never be, but I do like taking a dive into it every now and then. Thanks
If the worst of the worst isn’t redeemable, neither am I. I have to believe that. I think Jesus said it best, as recorded in Matthew 5: “Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy. But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust. For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? do not even the publicans the same? And if ye salute your brethren only, what do ye more than others? do not even the publicans so? Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.” Religion is what you do. It’s how you live your life. It’s not a set of beliefs in an old traditional story. Your religion is how you live. Everyone is religious. Not everyone’s religion is productive.
Interesting point about that guy having adhd. I have many friends who have adhd, and most would have openly complained about that guy's behaviour. But then i had one friend in my teens who had adhd who absolutely would have acted out like that at the time. I saw him showing off in similar ways from time to time.
I have some difficulties that make life a very different matter for me compared to the average person. When it comes to disabilities which are not immediately apparent, equality and understanding are decades behind. I confess to not having yet watched the video but I saw the subject and wanted to make a post. Perhaps that's a little strange, but I only tend to focus on things much in the evening, so will watch, with full attention, later on. 🙏
I work with people who have disabilities so they can live independently on the community. I agree, there is a strong tendency to sweep them under the rug.
I find a lot of people still whisper "cancer", "special needs", etc., because they're fearful. A lot of times they're the only ones who can be counted on to actually speak up about what they see, so I'll take their observations/suggestions just as seriously. From my experience, the positive attitude/heart they show is typically misunderstood by the fearful (and maybe the jealous). I used to teach "fitness" martial arts and shocked people by tooling a class to include someone who was chair-bound but could still raise their arms and action pretty good head movement. He was happy as hell that he was able to break a sweat, learn to be a difficult target to hit, and strike back (even if it was just on a heavy bag). I wish there were more people with the "let's do our best" attitude than the "only do if you're the best" attitude.
I think one of the biggest factors was the neutral way you worded your observation. You said it yourself: most of the comments were emotional, judgmental. So, it stands to reason that people who read your comment were already primed to see something that was anything but neutral, and depending on their own disposition they would project onto your comment the intention to either make excuses for the dude's behaviour or to make an ableist joke at his expense, because they assumed that you were exaggerating and not really wondering. Contributing to that is probably that most people wouldn't recognise how much the dude's kicking really sucked, so they wouldn't get how it could actually be a serious consideration that he's special needs. But still, the thought that at least some of the sub-commenters felt uncomfortable about being reminded that the dude might actually not be _just_ a jerk motivated by toxic masculinity is not unreasonable either, and you took that as a launching point for a very thoughtful video with an important message, so that's a win in my book. Thanks, mate!
I was an Army Infantryman that deployed to Afghanistan. For those few years in my life, I was, in fact, disposable. I’m not saying this from a place of self-pity or self-loathing. But yes, I’ve been to a place where the value of life, including my own, was so little. It was a dark time, it took nearly a decade to get over it.
It has always deeply disturbed me how often throughout history old men who have never experienced mortal danger have been so ready and willing to send young men to die on their behalf. You are a hero to me, my friend.
It does seem that people with mental Ilness, disabilities and special needs of all kinds are by far the most prejudiced against...it's either: "you look strange or disgusting" or "you're lying I don't see your illness"
It seems for these, even having a loved one with such challenges is not enough for some people. Ramsey Dewey is LDS as I am, so it pains me to say the worst attitudes were the most obvious in my home ward congregation. Parents of kids with autism that could not seem to understand their kids, my autistic son, or autistic me. For 15-20 years, employed ward members could not understand that I was on disability, at least not until my spinal health issues were more obvious. It was usually the younger family men that did not understand, but not always. I could go on, but I won't. My wife and I have attended a neighboring congregation for a little over a year just to get away from the ignorance and even outright abuse.. which is a story unto itself. It is heartbreaking to realize people I think share the some values as I do are nevertheless quite cruel.
@jaklumen prejudice is horrible, as a high functioning autistic man I've been ignorantly called out many many times for "pretending to have something wrong with me" because it's "invisible" by the same people who turn their head away when they see "visible" illnesses, it's double standards nonsense with both standards being wrong, I feel you
@@sincityinfinity6255 yes, but more often than not those who say that they're only staying vigilant to call out fakers end up doing more damage then good
@@martialgeeks you’re most certainly right. It’s a losing situation to even try. It makes the person doing it look negative in a social way. The unfortunate reality is it exists though. I admire your honesty.
Thank you. I see people espousing "progressive ideals" but ignoring this happens right in their backyards and they ignore it, make excuses, or are in denial. Then I see some people think that people can suddenly be undisabled or blame the disabled for their disability etc. I have many disabilities and I am either treated as an infant or do not get help.
I remember I was griping to my uncle, may he rest in peace. I was 27 and had to go through a second cirgury on my ankle. My first I was 17, and had to stay a whole year on crutches, 4 months bedridden. This first cirgury had left me with chronic pain. I was not looking forward to going through it again. My uncle said something dismissive and called me a cripple. Hey f you I'm not a cripple, I replied. You're damn right. You are not. He proceeded to remind me that I was more than just a person witha bad foot. That it didn't define me. That the first didnt stop me and neither would this.I went through the cirgury, the tech was better the second tome around, so was the doctor. I recouped totally in 5 months. I am now nearing 40. Still have chronic pain, but I'm also at my peak. I had two amateur kickboxing fights in the last two years. Lost the first, learned from it and won the second against a more dangerous oponent. I believe we get these chalenges in order to step up to them. They make us better.
John Danaher have a deformed knee but still worked as a bouncer and become a world class submition grappling/mma coach,a perfect example of limitations breed creativity.
The fact that Bruce Lee is sill being talked about today over 50 years after his death makes him the Winner ..... Lee was on another level that not many get to unless your name is President Donald J Trump and my hat is off to both of them for there martial arts skills of Winning ! 👍
In my experience being legally blind, people only respect the disabled if your that one in a million story. That guy that did the impossible even with xyz disability. Man I'm just trying to live a normal life im not trying to umpress you all just to deserve some basic respect
Everybody is treating everybody like a therapist is treating a kid, and a lot of them don't understand the world that we live and its such a hecking cancerous combination. They thing they are doing the right thing, or at least they want the moral high ground but they only slap a shit.
If you suck at games, it can still be challenging 😁 Not everyone plays games for the challenge either, often there's enough challenge elsewhere in life that games are meant to be a relaxing escape, so challenge can just be irritating and stressful. I know you weren't making a serious point, but it popped into my head and it's always worth recording the rare occasions on which that happens 🤣
Society has become this theater were everyone is this shady person, but if you talk about it you are the evil guy. It's like a burglar who insists you call him a saint, while he's emptying your home. And if you call him a criminal, the police arrests you instead of the burglar.
I recently worked in a Special Needs center in China and the lady who ran it told me that over the last few years they've have to move 4 or 5 times. The public complained and harassed the owners of the center because they found the special needs people there to be noisy, inappropriate and generally unpleasant. They now live in a rural, dilapidated, depressing bit of land about an hour from Xi'an. Pushed further and further away from the general public as possible. Just sad really...
yeah, I know quite a lot of my friends have their own physical and mental disabilities. the amount they have to spend on disability aids is criminal for what they get, and people that seem to disregard the impairments they have because it's convenient for them. then there's the people that baby them and not let them have any kind of independence. people moving them in their wheelchairs without asking. I do not let this happen when i'm with them, but it's kinda hard when i'm not there since i'm only one person
I remember 8 years ago, I was exercising at the gym with my headphones on and a woman was looking at me the wrong way because I was a bit too loud with the deadlifts. Mind you, it was on an Olympic platform at Power House gym (the largest dumbbell there is 200lbs) . She complained about it to her trainer and I overheard him say "oh don't mind this guy he's autistic" I did my best in refraining from slapping this guy. To this date, I don't have any mental illnesses, but there IS a prevalent stigma against special needs population. Look at the ADA compliance in America and how many establishments do NOT accommodate to people with disabilities. I had a student with cerebral palsy and I would have to carry him 3 flights of stairs, just to get him to jiujitsu practice. So yes, indifference, ignorance and dispossession for people with disabilities is REAL.
That is crazy I didn't know his left leg was shorter. My left leg is also shorter, and I prefer fighting with my right leg forward! My body also twists easier to the right than to the left. I wouldn't call it a disability though
PREJUDICE AGAINST SLOW, CONCERTED, CONSISTENT WORK , vs. magic pill / philosopher stone radicalism (this is my prediction, i haven't peeped the vid yet lol) ... ok nevermind lol
Hello sir, I have a question: I was sparring kick-boxing with a friend of mine and I connected a medium power straight right hand to his nose when he didn’t see it coming and I dislocated it. Afterwards I apologised profusely and we were talking and he spoke about how it seems that he has an aversion to hurting people ( this was his explanation as to why I wasn’t way more beaten up than he was) I.e. when he saw me standing there he just couldn’t ’let his hands go’ and fight me at his best technical capacity. I clearly do not suffer from a mental block like that as I have always found that I can let my hands go in sparring because the way I see it once you’ve stepped into the ring and touched gloves you’ve agreed to the risk. My question is do you think it’s worrying that in my mind I can be so quick to allow myself to hurt a human being by connecting punches to their face ?
"won't believe how disabled people can behave" I mean it's not really hard to imagine. Imagine proper manners taking a whole lifetime to develop. What if the person isn't even able to fully participate in life? Many normal people leave this world without having learned to adequately behave.
how do all? we're all disabled at birth and usually death. we're all disabled emotionally, [ ie armband after a death ], intellectually and physically to various degrees. we're all disabled of quest till training nullifies imperfections. taztez
Social media posts are terrible at this where a video is opposed by random pages with no context or caption and the comments are regular people being absolutely horrible to people who didn’t choose to be disabled. When did being nice be the wrong choice? I’d like to see some positivity around the world again.
Your perspective is quite nuanced and at times difficult to parse. I don't disagree with anything you said here but at the same time you seem frequently unsympathetic to the difficulties and barriers others may face, frequently telling 'snowflakes' to 'suck it up' and so on. Boo hoo life is hard get a grip etc. Which disabilities are worthy? If a person has, for example, a pathological demand avoidance that makes it hard for them to train however much they may want to what would you advise? How about someone who is overweight and simply can't motivate themselves to get in shape and with no history of physical culture? Such people - the body positive types who are often morbidly obese, in deep denial and who are clearly suffering mentally as well as physically, ill-served by ideological traps they have fallen into. Why don't they deserve sympathy and compassion? Had they been socialised differently and had different influences they may well have been training under you. Despite your own disabilities, differences, however you prefer to quantify them, you do have advantages and yes, privileges, provided by your background. You were set an incredible example by your relatives and learned admirable resiliency and adaptability. They contributed to the way you contextualise the world and your experiences of it. So why do you consider some lazy and weak where others get a pass? Where's the line? I put it to you that certain disadvantages make you uncomfortable too, and you have a tendency to dismiss them in turn because they are antithetical to your own views and experiences.
I am sure I will never get to meet this man in person, but I wish I could. Ramsey is a wonderful person, and I don’t think he’s being disingenuous in this, or any of his videos. I have a disabled twin brother from a TBI, and I totally hear what he’s saying. Thanks, Ramsey, for speaking on this subject. It sounded like you were getting emotional in this video, and I totally get it. God bless you, brother.
Tell me about it, I’m always shocked at the general ignorance and the inability of people to recognize individuals with mental disabilities, people default to wanting to call someone a A-hole, and someone saying “we don’t claim him” is truly abhorrent because mental and physical disabilities are incredibly varied and can present themselves in countless ways.
Amen, Reverend; I'm still sitting in the choir row, but yes indeed, tell me about it. Lived it and I can't ignore it in the least bit. I have fallen outside people's expectations so many times and some get quite upset as such, especially when I point out that I have been "them" as well as "us" and I exist in the middle of their dichotomies.
There is a YT channel that I look at where a man says he has special needs. He obviously does. I do have a problem with the channel because he claims to be teaching valuable martial arts. He wears a black belt. His martial arts skills are terrible, and if you copy what he does and says it will get you hurt, killed, or arrested.
Hi Ramsey. I think there might have been a misunderstanding between you and the folks you were interacting with. Admittedly so-called social justice warriors, especially young people full of self-righteous passion can be incredibly abrasive and intolerant of even the slightest nuance, but it does typically come from a good place. When people call out "ableism", they believe they are standing up for disabled folks, trying to make the point that a disability doesn't devalue you as a person. They like to quote the maxim "you are not your disability", and call disabled folks "differently abled" to emphasize that a disability doesn't make you less, just different . I think the problem comes when people try to pretend like a disability isn't there at all in an effort to treat the disabled person as "normal", instead of just accepting that person as a person and making an effort to be comfortable around and accepting of them, and to see them as more than just a disability. I imagine the girls who were calling you out thought they were protecting the disabled person, but in their zeal folks like that often end up perceiving attacks where there are none, as in your case, and instead they just come across as obnoxious asses.
I agree with you. I just want to add that there are however also those people that appear to come from a good place, i.e. wanting the good for the group they perceive to be mistreated, but who actually come from a bad place, i.e. resenting/hating the group they perceive is mistreating the other group. They don't act out of love but out of hatred. I think everyone knows examples of such people even among family/friends.
@@MIbra96 Point well taken. I totally agree that there are some malicious actors out there who derive some sort of satisfaction from going after people, but in my experience people tend to act from ignorance or misunderstanding most of the time. It's usually an information gap. My dad always drilled the maxim into us: "Don't assume malice when ignorance will do." I try to live by that.
So let me ask you this Sensei. You have talked about his "powerscaling" as if he was just an actor, you talked as his powerscaling as if he was this kung fu god, but i never heard you talk about the middle.What if his kicks, his knowlege of grapling was actually decent and he was sparing agaist resisting oponents and trying to learn as he was preaching.What if he had actual close to peak strenght when it comes to his size?I understand that for this time it would still wouldn't be enought because of suplements, knowlege in powerlifting alone, not to mention mma.How would you see him? I think this is the closest thing to the truth in my humble opinion.
I don't believe bruce is broken and has a fictional amount of abilities ik he used gear to develop a crazy physique i think that's what created the injury since the tendons and ligs dont heal as fast but reading the tao of jkd seeing the involvement of leg locks groin strikes eye pokes literally the modern mma goat jon jones mixed with connor McGregor because connor has that crowd please ability bruce does as well
Yeah, if you run that comment by someone they could have told you how that comment sounded. You had one intent, but your comment was formatted as an insult. Rather than "I honestly can't tell," you could phrase it as "Serious question, this person may have a physical disability or could just be socially awkward?" Take it from a guy with Autism, everyone is somewhere on the spectrum. For me, i know that accepting i had this disability and to what extent was the key to understanding myself and working on skills I realized i lacked. But speaking of supporting people being treated as disposable human beings, i hope you will be as vocal in denying discrimination against trans and other lgbtqa+ people, hispanics, and minorities on the receiving end of police brutality in the years to come.
Come on Ramsey. You are just jealous. You are turning a blind eye to the fact that no one has been able to repeat the feats that Bruce Lee could do. His speed and power were unparalleled. As for stunts, Bruce Lee was a martial artist, not a stuntman. And he didn‘t have to be a stuntman. Those are different things.
@@RamseyDewey I know. But trying to present Bruce Lee as a "martial actor" and almost a disabled Paralympian is ridiculous. He was a very serious martial artist. By the way, you were wrong when you said Bruce Lee had never fought. In his youth he won the Hong Kong schools boxing tournament. Even very early on he had an idea how to fight.
@ Be a serious person and do your due diligence and actually pay attention to what was said instead of making up nonsense like that so you are can argue with strawmen. No. I did not present Bruce Lee as a paralympian. No. I did not say Bruce Lee never fought. I have made several videos on this channel discussing in detail Bruce’s 2 confirmed fights. By the way, he did not win a boxing tournament, he won a single boxing match. Watch my video on the subject, you could learn a lot. I don’t know who you think you are arguing with, but it’s not me.
@@RamseyDewey I haven't seen all the videos on the channel yet. I will check them out. I just heard you refer to Bruce Lee as a "martial actor" which is clearly not the case. I'm not saying he was invincible. Of all modern fighters, I think UFC heavyweights like Emelianenko or Verdum would have a chance against Bruce Lee. Maybe they would even beat him. Without seeing an actual fight we'll never know. But there's no denial Bruce Lee was a very serious martial artist. I'm not trying to cast doubt on your expertise. I agree with you on nearly everything else but not on this one.
I have been working with people with intellectual disabilities and mental health issues for close to twenty years now. All of my clients have have exhibited challenging behaviours of some kind. The attitudes reflected in the comments that you are responding to in this video are one of the biggest reasons it is so difficult for people like my clients to find communities that will accept them. People will often open a space or group to someone with special needs thinking that it will be a magical, heart-warming experience. They don't understand the work it can take for that person to be successful. When things go badly, they ask the person to leave. This happens over and over again.
I often think of my clients as gurus. They teach me who I really am. When someone strips away your patience, your feelings of personal safety, your sense of knowing what to do, exhausts your empathy, etc.- who are you in that moment? That is the person you need to work on making a better person. The job is not always that challenging of course, but it sometimes is. It is good to see someone talk about this issue in an open and honest way. Thank you.
I really appreciate this very candid response! I love the part about how people think it’s going to be a magical, heart warming experience when the reality is, so often, it is the test you described that reveals your true character by stripping away our persona.
@@RamseyDewey Another thing you mentioned in the video is parents sending their kids away to homes. These days my work is as much counseling for parents as it is direct work with clients. I feel it is important to mention that in many (perhaps most) cases, this is not the parents choice. Families that have money or access to funding will often be able hold on to their children into adulthood; especially those who have higher functioning children who are capable of semi-independent living. What they don't get to do is stop being parents in any respect. Their kids don't usually move out, very rarely get a job that can sustain them, etc. At some point these parents get old, and are no longer able to take care of them. Sometimes their adult kids can get by in a subsidized housing arrangement with various types of workers coming by to help them out; sometimes they can't.
The other possibility is that families don't have the money or access to funding to bring in therapists, or to cover complex medical needs. These families often have their children removed by the state and placed into group homes.
There are of course, people with autism and other special needs who none of this applies to, who are able to have jobs and families, and who none of what we are discussing applies to.
I have a friend that asked me if he could stay at my house for a while. In the first hours that he stayed here, I noticed that he became schizophrenic. He was very paranoid, and thought everybody was against him. It was a very hard time. He disappeared for a couple of days and when he came back , he didn't tell me where he was. I tried to get help for him , but he refused to recognize that he had a problem. I had to send him away. It's no easy thing to deal with mentally disabled people. I wish I could have helped my friend.
I’m sorry to hear about your friend. There’s nothing worse than being inside your own prison cell you can’t get out of. Really unfair.
I hope we have technology someday that’ll ‘zap’ away these ailments, for them to become as easy to fix as the common cold.
I have a friend of mine who has this friend with schizophrenia. He’s been to my flat for a get together, a really awesome! guy. Talent at playing the guitar which I suck at. Super smart. But after a while you start noticing their paranoia. He wasn’t going on and on about it but for a while he spoke about being inside an actual Matrix system.
The last I heard of where he is today, I think he’s homeless somewhere out there.
I wish only the best for him. I really feel for people like this.
I had a roommate a lot like that in college. These things are much more common than a lot of people realize.
@@RamseyDeweyRamsey I love your content my dude! I'm 33 and I have mild Cerebral Palsy myself but Bruce Lee was the one who sparked my interest in Martial Arts, as the years have gone by and my function has declined somewhat (though I can still walk unaided I can no longer run as I suffer from increasing muscle fatigue, leg pain and muscle contraction), so I'm hoping for surgery soon to improve my function and get back to somewhere where I used to be in life. You have the PERFECT voice for a film trailer voice over artist/audiobook narrator! Love from the UK,
Sean 👊🏽🏴
I needed this. I have 3 boys. All born premature. The youngest having the hardest time, being born just barely over 1lbs (500g) and needing oxygen support for the first year of his life. My middle and youngest both could not eat early on and needed to eat through tubes in their stomachs.
I struggled with this for years blaming myself, thinking they could never live a normal life. But now after seeing them grow despite everything fills me with so much hope and love, I can't ever truly express how grateful I am for them changing my perspective and putting my fears of failing as a father to rest.
I won't type out what parts of my body are "missing". Sometimes folk assume I'm a homeless drug addict due to the way I look. I'm 42 years clean and sober and I am a good man.
God bless you man. I've been accused of being homeless too because I go to a high class gym and don't have nice clothes or shoes. For a while I didnt have a car and someone took a video of me walking home in eain
Joe Frazier (one of my all time favorites) was blind in one eye and became World Boxing Heavy Weight Champion.
You don’t know Joe Frazier stop lying
@@sincityinfinity6255 ??????
also his left arm was busted since a childhood accident
I would think one aspect which makes many "healthy" people uncomfortable dealing with "disabled" ones is the brutal and scary realization neither their own "fullness of limbs" nor their "normally working brain" is guaranteed or a given. For me the thought of losing even one of my eyes, a hand, or my legs is almost unbearable, if for the fear of being looked upon and judged by others for the rest of my life only by this disability. In this world we have a tendency to - by default - despise weakness, and to imagine we are weak in some areas w/o having the chance to rectifiy this situation though hard work, can be frightening to the core. This line of thought however is completely messed up and we can learn a great deal of joy and gratefulness from those who (supposedly) have been dealt lemons in life. And for those inner demons every man faces we all need a different kind of medicine anyway... 🙂
Yes, prayer and meditation through Jesus
He overcame all of his physical shortcomings. That should be an example for everyone.
To be whole is a blessing, I won't waste it. Thanks Mr. Ramsey
I think this is a great example of why it's important for people not to film each other in general. It's always possible a person has a disability or just experienced something traumatic, and nobody online will understand the full depth of what was happening. South Park did an episode on the subject of inclusion without judgement, with Timmy as the vocalist for a metal band, unironically, because people just loved him and his confidence. So encourage people to take part in their own way, but don't record tidbits of events and pass it around for judgement. I had a friend named Jonah who did air guitar and wild vocals at an open mic with a pair of whitey tighties on his head. He got cheered off stage. Legendary
These rejects. Watch this show for the future lmfaooo00
I have this same birth defect, mirrored. My left arm and leg are an inch longer than my right. My mother is the same way. Learning about Bruce Lee's solution helped my own training.
Praise God, for the meek shall inherit the earth. Love to hear you talk Ramsey, thanks for this.
Thank you, Ramsey. This is something that no one talks about.
Human beings can overcome any setback under the right circumstances, as evidenced by the channel "Special Books by Special Kids". There are millions of kids with a stronger spirit than most adults on earth. I want the "non-Ableists" to watch some of the more difficult videos on that channel from beginning to end and then tell me to "ignore disability".
I am a Bruce Lee fan, but with common sense regarding his fighting ability, helps that I am 35 cm taller than him lol. I didn't know or completely forgot about his injury and leg. Makes me respect the man 4x more.
Thank you Ramsey for all your commentaries. I feel they make me a better person. You don't make illogical statements and rarely some that I might slightly argue/add on to, regardless if I agree with them or not. Most importantly you don't spread hate like too many others do.
Wonderful channel, and yet I freely admit I have great difficulty watching some videos. Perhaps it is at least some progress to confess that I am sometimes uncomfortable and I turn away because I am not always prepared to watch the individuals that are interviewed to behold their strength of spirit self. Someday I will overcome that, God willing.
@@jaklumen I am uncomfortable too and I turn away as well, no doubts about it. They are so far away behind the screen and there is almost nothing I can do to help. In real life, it kills me because I can't communicate with a cerebral palsy kid I know. I think it shows empathy, not weakness or malice. I don't think it needs to be overcome, it is a normal feeling, maybe a combination of sadness and helplessness that comes from empathy. It is up to the person to act on it or not, whatever it may be.
Nobody likes being helpless. And if you see someone helpless and you can't help them, empathy makes you helpless. To add to that, when people see their spirit they can either feel inspired or attacked in a way. I also want to say nobody is ever truly helpless and you can always do something to help others.
Thank you for the comment, made me think :D
I've been watching this channel since it's humble beginnings. Always loved the content. I didn't watch this year and I'm really sorry to hear that you took injuries to your legs that change your life. I love martial arts, I've been a tournament sanda fighter and I left the art behind. Tried to come back and train grappling, but realized how much ego people have and how badly they take loosing it really made me question how martial arts these days is more likely to produce a person who can't defend himself rather than someone who can, because of this fantasy of being the "optimal no BS fighter". "Defend yourself at all times" is not only necessary in the ring. It is necessary on the mats too.
This is by far , the very best video you have ever made. I have cerebral palsy and teach adaptive martial arts to others like myself and even albed bodied people as well. Thank you for this video!
I feel like part of this is about the wording of a comment. A comment that says "I genuinely can't tell if this guy is disabled" could be, as it clearly was, a genuine question. However, it could also mean "I don't think he's disabled but haha he looks like it" - we know it's not that, but on the internet, which is the more common sentiment?
Not that it doesn't support the general point either way, but I can certainly see why people would interpret the comment in that 2nd way. It's not them being biased, it's them making a valid interpretation of the comment, based on the wording. That is, of course, based purely on the way it's read in this video. I assume it's an exact quote.
That's just about the wording of the comment in context though, the rest...yeah. I guess I don't need to say who I agree with in that debate, I'm subbed here, not wherever that other video is!
This is quite a good example of why "woke" became a derogatory term. Defending those who need it, questioning bias and soon; those are good things. Sadly, people see anyone saying anything other than extreme, blind, uninformed positivity and somehow can't accept the nuance or complexity of a topic so they simply become part of the problem. Just stop oil...by making cars sit there burning it...the easiest example to mock. "There's a problem, lets fight the people who could possibly help it, without giving them the time to find out if they are helping or not."
In the case of that video, if he wasn't just a jerk, then whoever posted the video was - since they've put that person online to take that abuse. One of the 2 of those people is in the wrong, along with all the people commenting with the abuse, obviously.
If someone has no diagnosed disability, but doesn't have a social understanding of that situation, what's the difference? That he would be capable of understanding if someone taught him not to do that, probably. If he doesn't understand that already though, is that entirely his fault? Perhaps, I'm not condoning his actions, but there's always nuance.
Edited because I have no (diagnosed or relevant undiagnosed) special needs, I'm just rubbish at typing accurately 😄
You mean how young people no longer know what basic words mean? Eg: they think literally means figuratively, and “genuine” means “disingenuous”? And hot means cold? And dog means cat? And man means woman? And serious mean trivial? And good means evil? And evil means good?
@@RamseyDewey Yes, that's exactly what I mean 😄 I'm not saying it's not ridiculous, but it does appear to be how things are..
I think it's highly likely that some, if not all those responses you got may have been genuinely interpreting your comment as an attack on that person, even if it clearly wasn't. That's entirely on them, I'm simply analysing the potential motive for their reaction.
I grew up around disabled people, never saw them any different from normal people until I saw the wider world.
Ramsey, my son is registered as disabled due to Autism. My wife works in special educational needs, a field she was inspired to pursue because of our son. Her job gives us a deeper understanding of his needs and strengths, helping us appreciate all the more what a brilliant, intelligent, and uniquely loving child he is. Despite the label of disability, we count our blessings every day. If his behavior sometimes makes others feel uncomfortable, that's their problem, not ours. Our son deserves to be treated with the same respect and dignity as anyone else, and we fight daily to make sure he is. His unique view of the world is a gift, and we’re proud to share it, never hide it, just so others feel at ease.
I am not officially diagnosed but more than likely I have ADHD and OCD(not very serious disorders but a disorder non the less) and I thank you for this video. I remember one coworker once told me well don't view that as bad, view it as an advantage. That's why I accepted it and I don't try to hide it anymore, whether is ADHD, OCD, Depression or an Injury from training and man it feels better. The fact that I can thrive and even have some advantage despite this disorders is inspiring. Btw I must admit when I saw that video I didn't think that guy had any disabilities and yeah it makes sense, I just wanted that girl to middle kick him without taking that into consideration. Probably because I tried to symphatize with a fellow martial artist, but also because I have ADHD as well I think the worst thing that can happen is getting interrupted while you are trying to be focused on something. I don't understand how can ADHD make you annoy other people perhaps he wanted to hit the bag as well and didn't have patience to wait, still tho didn't took that into consideration and I probably should've.
I appreciate this so much. Im a diagnosed level 1 (lower support needed) autistic with ADHD and I know firsthand just how weird and uncomfortable people get at that revelation. I either get dismissed or people just start acting weird and distant. This forces me to hide parts of myself, hence the need to “mask.”
At least you don't have a personality disorder
I have worked with special needs students and I have two brothers who are intellectually challenged. It’s not usual for someone with special needs to behave in a manner that is not socially acceptable. Not intentionally or with bad intentions. But it is what it is.
I have also worked for over 30 years in the fitness industry. And it is very, very common for women who are minding their own business to be “coached” by men. These men have their own reasons for inserting themselves into this persons workout. Usually to pump up their own sense of self or to have an interaction with a female they find attractive.
So I understand when people assume it’s the latter situation as it is far more common.
I'll always appreciate you doing the right thing when it comes to the disabled my dad also worked with disabled people as well so in my family it's very important I'll always respect you for that
God bless ya Coach..👍🌹
This was exactly the video I needed to see at exactly the right time. Two nights ago I sustained a pretty severe knee injury that is going to need surgery and will have me out of commission for quite awhile. It's easy for me to slip into despair, but the message here gives me hope. Thanks, coach!
i think the concept of free will becomes to intoxicating for most people "if i can use my pure unwavering power over myself in a "good" way and you do it in a "bad" way i can identify you as a "bad" person, but the brain isn't so simple, mutation degeneration, brain damage, experiences give people negative differences , peoples sense of accomplishment and worth always gets in the way of empathy, when the reality is the prime differences between them and the people they judge is their brains are different, its really easy to jerk ourselves off when we are blessed with neurochemical stability, good brain function that quells our problematic impulses for us without actually having to build up our morals and coping pathways
I have asperg syndrome, during my growing up i had very a hard time around people. Social life was a nightmare, i have no idea of the many times i screwed things up with other people, and other people were also very nasty without me doing nothing, just being quiet and having a weird voice. I have being doing my best to get better, i got on muay thai, it was much more difficult because i just freeze for few seconds, somehow i won a state championship, i also became a writter and radiologist. My life is still hard, but i belive God Yahweh is giving me strengh. Your video made me very emotional.
Today i learned Bruce Lee had asymmetrical leg length and whose fighting stance is a result of that
I almost lost my left middle finger from a squat accident. My finger got caught between the barbell and the rack, splitting the finger longitudinally. Fortunately it got sewn back together. I have a scarred middle finger but it’s functional, though a bit uncomfortable to touch with
The thought of not having a pristine finger anymore bothers me a lot. But it is what it is
God give us strength
I think I’ve seen that video, never bothered to read the comments. There is always someone who has a need to provide unrequested citicism, that is perhaps just an acquired behaviour on their part based on their own self importance or perhaps they have special needs, so tact is always required.
Does anyone know where I can find the mentioned video?
Yo, big guy
I appreciate your content for a few years
I want to tell that idea of "disposing disable people" will never work
Because we are people, and people love to feel supremacy
There will never be enough of "disabling" things even after theoretically all people on Earth will be perfectly shaped
It's called hypocrisy
We just need to live with what we have, everything is important out there
And try to never be a jerk, that's just nearly always not nice
Ramsey……you’re the effing man! We love you dude❤️
As an uncle of a special needs young man..i feel every word you said Ramsey..
Btw i love your shirt.
God bless.
Ramsey, absolutely roasting someone with genuine concern, is on brand.
i truely wish everyday, that all people would have that level of compassion, for all things, and to just try to better understand the world around us. it would just be nice wouldnt it, if we lived this harsh world together, it wouldnt be so hard.
Love the shirt, i am currently playing New Vegas for the first time, also...great video
Thank you for this video Ramsey. I've been learning just how much prejudice can deeply affect someone emotionally and mentally.
Recently in the past few months, I befriended a really cool and talented dude who is very neurodivergent and has ADHD, Autism, and Borderline Personality Disorder. He struggles a lot in many social environments because of it, so me and my friends always try to do what we can to make him feel comfortable, safe and understood when he's around us.
Big problem is that his family doesn't accept him the way he is, and they don't believe that he has anything like ADHD, Autism or BPD, they just think he's being "dramatic" most of the time, and they refuse to pay for any psychological exams or mental care treatment, because they don't believe its worth paying for "problems that don't exist." Whenever my friend tries to reason with them so that he can get any kind of help, they just shut him down and look the other way.
Because of this, my friend feels constantly rejected and helpless at home, and it unfortunately resulted in him suffering severe mental meltdowns periodically and developing impulsive self-harming practices in moments of despair and aguish, which is worsened by his BPD whenever his most negative and self-destructive personality traits take hold of his fragile mental state.
Ever since he became closer with me and my friends and we started to discover everything he is going through, we've been trying everything within our power to give him as much support as we can. We've been trying to go out with him as much as possible so that he can have fun and feel like he belongs, and we try to be good listeners whenever he has to get anything off his chest and talk about it.
Whenever he goes through a meltdown or wants to harm himself, we try our best to give him reassurance and kindness in order to calm his emotions and defuse his negative thoughts and impulses, and fortunately, we were able to to avoid the worst-case scenario many times already.
Unfortunately, his meltdowns seem to only be getting worse, and we know there might come a point where we might not be able to stop him from doing something too drastic if we are too far away to help, so we've already planned an emergency call for medical services directly to his address as an absolute last resort if everything goes to shit.
I really hope we'll never have to make that call.
People should care more. People should show more love and look out for each other better, even when someone screws up. Because bad stuff happens when they don't. All it takes to make someone's day better is a simple act of kindness. It's that simple.
Bpd is caused by childhood trauma. My guess is that his family are the ones who traumatized him.
The family won't acknowledge it bc the world won't. It can be a form of tough love albeit not good for every personality type.
He is lucky to have you in his life.
I for one feel far more inspired by someone who overcame their own flaws than someone who never had any
Genesis 32:27 The man asked him, “What is your name?” “Jacob,” he answered. 28 Then the man said, “Your name will no longer be Jacob, but Israel, because you have struggled with God and with humans and have overcome.”
I was born with my right ear being completely ineffective, 100% no hearing in my right ear. My left ear compensated. At age 18 my doctor would tell me and my mother that I was hearing, with my left ear, in the Dog range. But here is the catch, I never have and never will be able to know what Stereo sound is. I have ZERO directional hearing. I must rely on my sight most often, even when talking to some, I use visual cues sometimes to decipher what someone says to me when I don't quite catch what they say. Too often I hear this phrase, "You heard me, I didn't stutter." And I am left not knowing what has been said because no one understands that I can't hear. But like the name Israel, we all have struggles to overcome, Life itself is a huge struggle.
Thanks for this video coach! Really got me thinking.
I do wonder, you said that there were no disposable human beings. How then do we deal with someone who seems so morally corrupt that nothing we do will ever change them? (Is this related to disability? It could be, I guess, I'm not sure). I'm still a young adult and I've yet to meet people that are truly the lowest of the low, but I notice that I tend to hold grudges. Silent grudges, but still grudges. I can see myself dehumanizing those that seem morally corrupt to me, to the point of wishing severe punishment on them. Of course, I would never do such a thing, but the thought of it appears in my mind. I'm not religious, and most likely will never be, but I do like taking a dive into it every now and then.
Thanks
If the worst of the worst isn’t redeemable, neither am I. I have to believe that.
I think Jesus said it best, as recorded in Matthew 5:
“Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy.
But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;
That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.
For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? do not even the publicans the same?
And if ye salute your brethren only, what do ye more than others? do not even the publicans so?
Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.”
Religion is what you do. It’s how you live your life. It’s not a set of beliefs in an old traditional story. Your religion is how you live.
Everyone is religious. Not everyone’s religion is productive.
Interesting point about that guy having adhd. I have many friends who have adhd, and most would have openly complained about that guy's behaviour. But then i had one friend in my teens who had adhd who absolutely would have acted out like that at the time. I saw him showing off in similar ways from time to time.
fallout really is a great story in the show xd
I have some difficulties that make life a very different matter for me compared to the average person. When it comes to disabilities which are not immediately apparent, equality and understanding are decades behind. I confess to not having yet watched the video but I saw the subject and wanted to make a post. Perhaps that's a little strange, but I only tend to focus on things much in the evening, so will watch, with full attention, later on. 🙏
Yuen Wah is also the landlord from the movie Kung Fu Hustle. I love that movie
I work with people who have disabilities so they can live independently on the community. I agree, there is a strong tendency to sweep them under the rug.
I find a lot of people still whisper "cancer", "special needs", etc., because they're fearful. A lot of times they're the only ones who can be counted on to actually speak up about what they see, so I'll take their observations/suggestions just as seriously. From my experience, the positive attitude/heart they show is typically misunderstood by the fearful (and maybe the jealous). I used to teach "fitness" martial arts and shocked people by tooling a class to include someone who was chair-bound but could still raise their arms and action pretty good head movement. He was happy as hell that he was able to break a sweat, learn to be a difficult target to hit, and strike back (even if it was just on a heavy bag). I wish there were more people with the "let's do our best" attitude than the "only do if you're the best" attitude.
I grew with special needs and I agree with you.
If you were in Greece you know what would happen to you?
I think one of the biggest factors was the neutral way you worded your observation. You said it yourself: most of the comments were emotional, judgmental. So, it stands to reason that people who read your comment were already primed to see something that was anything but neutral, and depending on their own disposition they would project onto your comment the intention to either make excuses for the dude's behaviour or to make an ableist joke at his expense, because they assumed that you were exaggerating and not really wondering. Contributing to that is probably that most people wouldn't recognise how much the dude's kicking really sucked, so they wouldn't get how it could actually be a serious consideration that he's special needs.
But still, the thought that at least some of the sub-commenters felt uncomfortable about being reminded that the dude might actually not be _just_ a jerk motivated by toxic masculinity is not unreasonable either, and you took that as a launching point for a very thoughtful video with an important message, so that's a win in my book. Thanks, mate!
Toxic masculinity is what made this planet great. Not a bunch of feminine men like you running around. Worried about your nails breaking
I was an Army Infantryman that deployed to Afghanistan. For those few years in my life, I was, in fact, disposable. I’m not saying this from a place of self-pity or self-loathing. But yes, I’ve been to a place where the value of life, including my own, was so little. It was a dark time, it took nearly a decade to get over it.
It has always deeply disturbed me how often throughout history old men who have never experienced mortal danger have been so ready and willing to send young men to die on their behalf.
You are a hero to me, my friend.
It does seem that people with mental Ilness, disabilities and special needs of all kinds are by far the most prejudiced against...it's either: "you look strange or disgusting" or "you're lying I don't see your illness"
It seems for these, even having a loved one with such challenges is not enough for some people. Ramsey Dewey is LDS as I am, so it pains me to say the worst attitudes were the most obvious in my home ward congregation. Parents of kids with autism that could not seem to understand their kids, my autistic son, or autistic me. For 15-20 years, employed ward members could not understand that I was on disability, at least not until my spinal health issues were more obvious. It was usually the younger family men that did not understand, but not always. I could go on, but I won't. My wife and I have attended a neighboring congregation for a little over a year just to get away from the ignorance and even outright abuse.. which is a story unto itself. It is heartbreaking to realize people I think share the some values as I do are nevertheless quite cruel.
@jaklumen prejudice is horrible, as a high functioning autistic man I've been ignorantly called out many many times for "pretending to have something wrong with me" because it's "invisible" by the same people who turn their head away when they see "visible" illnesses, it's double standards nonsense with both standards being wrong, I feel you
This is because there is a lot of people claiming mental disabilities but their just looking for attention
@@sincityinfinity6255 yes, but more often than not those who say that they're only staying vigilant to call out fakers end up doing more damage then good
@@martialgeeks you’re most certainly right. It’s a losing situation to even try. It makes the person doing it look negative in a social way. The unfortunate reality is it exists though. I admire your honesty.
Thank you. I see people espousing "progressive ideals" but ignoring this happens right in their backyards and they ignore it, make excuses, or are in denial. Then I see some people think that people can suddenly be undisabled or blame the disabled for their disability etc. I have many disabilities and I am either treated as an infant or do not get help.
I remember I was griping to my uncle, may he rest in peace. I was 27 and had to go through a second cirgury on my ankle. My first I was 17, and had to stay a whole year on crutches, 4 months bedridden. This first cirgury had left me with chronic pain. I was not looking forward to going through it again. My uncle said something dismissive and called me a cripple. Hey f you I'm not a cripple, I replied. You're damn right. You are not. He proceeded to remind me that I was more than just a person witha bad foot. That it didn't define me. That the first didnt stop me and neither would this.I went through the cirgury, the tech was better the second tome around, so was the doctor. I recouped totally in 5 months. I am now nearing 40. Still have chronic pain, but I'm also at my peak. I had two amateur kickboxing fights in the last two years. Lost the first, learned from it and won the second against a more dangerous oponent. I believe we get these chalenges in order to step up to them. They make us better.
Much ❤ for you & yours.
John Danaher have a deformed knee but still worked as a bouncer and become a world class submition grappling/mma coach,a perfect example of limitations breed creativity.
The fact that Bruce Lee is sill being talked about today over 50 years after his death makes him the Winner ..... Lee was on another level that not many get to unless your name is President Donald J Trump and my hat is off to both of them for there martial arts skills of Winning ! 👍
I appreciate the video bro!
I like Big Foot Wallace too . From same reason .
In my experience being legally blind, people only respect the disabled if your that one in a million story. That guy that did the impossible even with xyz disability. Man I'm just trying to live a normal life im not trying to umpress you all just to deserve some basic respect
You would be my lookout!
5:49 I think I know the video you are talking about because I literally saw a similar video with the same comments yesterday. Crazy.
Everybody is treating everybody like a therapist is treating a kid, and a lot of them don't understand the world that we live and its such a hecking cancerous combination.
They thing they are doing the right thing, or at least they want the moral high ground but they only slap a shit.
As a guy who plays all video games on God Mode, Uh...
If you suck at games, it can still be challenging 😁
Not everyone plays games for the challenge either, often there's enough challenge elsewhere in life that games are meant to be a relaxing escape, so challenge can just be irritating and stressful. I know you weren't making a serious point, but it popped into my head and it's always worth recording the rare occasions on which that happens 🤣
Society has become this theater were everyone is this shady person, but if you talk about it you are the evil guy. It's like a burglar who insists you call him a saint, while he's emptying your home. And if you call him a criminal, the police arrests you instead of the burglar.
I recently worked in a Special Needs center in China and the lady who ran it told me that over the last few years they've have to move 4 or 5 times. The public complained and harassed the owners of the center because they found the special needs people there to be noisy, inappropriate and generally unpleasant. They now live in a rural, dilapidated, depressing bit of land about an hour from Xi'an. Pushed further and further away from the general public as possible. Just sad really...
Yeah, and that is a perfect example of the problem as a whole of “out of sight, out of mind”. Bless you for being willing to help!
Bruce Lee was an actor. Arguably the best actor of all time.
When i saw your tshirt for a moment i thought you were going to talk about gamers being the most oppressed minority
yeah, I know quite a lot of my friends have their own physical and mental disabilities.
the amount they have to spend on disability aids is criminal for what they get, and people that seem to disregard the impairments they have because it's convenient for them. then there's the people that baby them and not let them have any kind of independence.
people moving them in their wheelchairs without asking.
I do not let this happen when i'm with them, but it's kinda hard when i'm not there since i'm only one person
I remember 8 years ago, I was exercising at the gym with my headphones on and a woman was looking at me the wrong way because I was a bit too loud with the deadlifts. Mind you, it was on an Olympic platform at Power House gym (the largest dumbbell there is 200lbs) . She complained about it to her trainer and I overheard him say "oh don't mind this guy he's autistic" I did my best in refraining from slapping this guy.
To this date, I don't have any mental illnesses, but there IS a prevalent stigma against special needs population. Look at the ADA compliance in America and how many establishments do NOT accommodate to people with disabilities. I had a student with cerebral palsy and I would have to carry him 3 flights of stairs, just to get him to jiujitsu practice. So yes, indifference, ignorance and dispossession for people with disabilities is REAL.
Hey, whereabouts do you teach MMA in Shanghai? Ill be over there in the summer and im just interested to see how far/close it is to myself
That is crazy I didn't know his left leg was shorter. My left leg is also shorter, and I prefer fighting with my right leg forward! My body also twists easier to the right than to the left. I wouldn't call it a disability though
Ugh... I thought that a stunt double was obvious! Yuen Wah was great! People need to learn to read! LOL
Greeks are the one that showed the world how to read and write. This reject he speaks of and his stunt double would be in the reject pile in Greece
Everyone has a disability
PREJUDICE AGAINST SLOW, CONCERTED, CONSISTENT WORK , vs. magic pill / philosopher stone radicalism
(this is my prediction, i haven't peeped the vid yet lol)
... ok nevermind lol
21:30 literally crying after that clapback
Hey vrother great FNV shirt
Hey Ramsey, do you ever visit Hong Kong? If you ever hold any classes, events, or seminars here, I'm sure a lot of us here would love to come
I have only been to Hong Kong once. I might visit again at the end of December, but I’m not sure yet.
And make fun of the white monkey?
Because that's what you call Caucasians in Asia. Right?
Hello sir, I have a question:
I was sparring kick-boxing with a friend of mine and I connected a medium power straight right hand to his nose when he didn’t see it coming and I dislocated it. Afterwards I apologised profusely and we were talking and he spoke about how it seems that he has an aversion to hurting people ( this was his explanation as to why I wasn’t way more beaten up than he was) I.e. when he saw me standing there he just couldn’t ’let his hands go’ and fight me at his best technical capacity. I clearly do not suffer from a mental block like that as I have always found that I can let my hands go in sparring because the way I see it once you’ve stepped into the ring and touched gloves you’ve agreed to the risk. My question is do you think it’s worrying that in my mind I can be so quick to allow myself to hurt a human being by connecting punches to their face ?
"won't believe how disabled people can behave" I mean it's not really hard to imagine. Imagine proper manners taking a whole lifetime to develop. What if the person isn't even able to fully participate in life? Many normal people leave this world without having learned to adequately behave.
I didn’t know he was disabled. I also get some people perhaps believe chuck boris and Bruce Lee or who ever is invincible.
how do all?
we're all disabled at birth and usually death.
we're all disabled emotionally, [ ie armband after a death ], intellectually and physically to various degrees.
we're all disabled of quest till training nullifies imperfections.
taztez
That's how you neanderthals get born. Greeks are born different. We're gods
Social media posts are terrible at this where a video is opposed by random pages with no context or caption and the comments are regular people being absolutely horrible to people who didn’t choose to be disabled. When did being nice be the wrong choice? I’d like to see some positivity around the world again.
Your perspective is quite nuanced and at times difficult to parse. I don't disagree with anything you said here but at the same time you seem frequently unsympathetic to the difficulties and barriers others may face, frequently telling 'snowflakes' to 'suck it up' and so on. Boo hoo life is hard get a grip etc. Which disabilities are worthy? If a person has, for example, a pathological demand avoidance that makes it hard for them to train however much they may want to what would you advise?
How about someone who is overweight and simply can't motivate themselves to get in shape and with no history of physical culture? Such people - the body positive types who are often morbidly obese, in deep denial and who are clearly suffering mentally as well as physically, ill-served by ideological traps they have fallen into. Why don't they deserve sympathy and compassion? Had they been socialised differently and had different influences they may well have been training under you.
Despite your own disabilities, differences, however you prefer to quantify them, you do have advantages and yes, privileges, provided by your background. You were set an incredible example by your relatives and learned admirable resiliency and adaptability. They contributed to the way you contextualise the world and your experiences of it. So why do you consider some lazy and weak where others get a pass? Where's the line? I put it to you that certain disadvantages make you uncomfortable too, and you have a tendency to dismiss them in turn because they are antithetical to your own views and experiences.
I have never once in my life told “snowflakes” to “suck it up.”
Sorry, I stopped reading right there.
Should have continued @@RamseyDewey
Who cares Go complain to your parents for giving birth to a reject
First cousin marriage is coming to an end in America. All 50 states are going to end first cousin marriage and people like you will not exist anymore
Bravo
Bravo is a Greek word. Now you know
Amen!
I guess only Tom Cruise does his own stunts, and Jackie Chan does most of his stunts.
Michael Jackson was chemically castrated. That song 'Billy Jean' hits different when you realize it can't be his son.
Given your injury, do you regret participating in the usdc? Do blame the event for not having proper medical assistance?
Nice shirt
Agreed 💯%
Cool Shirt
As Jesus said about the blind man is not thier parents sin nor his but to show the glory of the Lord.
Ramsey is the best
I am sure I will never get to meet this man in person, but I wish I could. Ramsey is a wonderful person, and I don’t think he’s being disingenuous in this, or any of his videos. I have a disabled twin brother from a TBI, and I totally hear what he’s saying. Thanks, Ramsey, for speaking on this subject. It sounded like you were getting emotional in this video, and I totally get it. God bless you, brother.
Tell me about it, I’m always shocked at the general ignorance and the inability of people to recognize individuals with mental disabilities, people default to wanting to call someone a A-hole, and someone saying “we don’t claim him” is truly abhorrent because mental and physical disabilities are incredibly varied and can present themselves in countless ways.
Amen, Reverend; I'm still sitting in the choir row, but yes indeed, tell me about it. Lived it and I can't ignore it in the least bit. I have fallen outside people's expectations so many times and some get quite upset as such, especially when I point out that I have been "them" as well as "us" and I exist in the middle of their dichotomies.
In Greece we called it the reject pile
Yes unfortunately Bruce Lee was not the dragonborn of the 1960s and 70s
s bless you!
He didn't sneeze 🤧
There is a YT channel that I look at where a man says he has special needs. He obviously does. I do have a problem with the channel because he claims to be teaching valuable martial arts. He wears a black belt. His martial arts skills are terrible, and if you copy what he does and says it will get you hurt, killed, or arrested.
Hi Ramsey. I think there might have been a misunderstanding between you and the folks you were interacting with. Admittedly so-called social justice warriors, especially young people full of self-righteous passion can be incredibly abrasive and intolerant of even the slightest nuance, but it does typically come from a good place. When people call out "ableism", they believe they are standing up for disabled folks, trying to make the point that a disability doesn't devalue you as a person. They like to quote the maxim "you are not your disability", and call disabled folks "differently abled" to emphasize that a disability doesn't make you less, just different . I think the problem comes when people try to pretend like a disability isn't there at all in an effort to treat the disabled person as "normal", instead of just accepting that person as a person and making an effort to be comfortable around and accepting of them, and to see them as more than just a disability. I imagine the girls who were calling you out thought they were protecting the disabled person, but in their zeal folks like that often end up perceiving attacks where there are none, as in your case, and instead they just come across as obnoxious asses.
I agree with you. I just want to add that there are however also those people that appear to come from a good place, i.e. wanting the good for the group they perceive to be mistreated, but who actually come from a bad place, i.e. resenting/hating the group they perceive is mistreating the other group. They don't act out of love but out of hatred. I think everyone knows examples of such people even among family/friends.
@@MIbra96 Point well taken. I totally agree that there are some malicious actors out there who derive some sort of satisfaction from going after people, but in my experience people tend to act from ignorance or misunderstanding most of the time. It's usually an information gap. My dad always drilled the maxim into us: "Don't assume malice when ignorance will do." I try to live by that.
So let me ask you this Sensei. You have talked about his "powerscaling" as if he was just an actor, you talked as his powerscaling as if he was this kung fu god, but i never heard you talk about the middle.What if his kicks, his knowlege of grapling was actually decent and he was sparing agaist resisting oponents and trying to learn as he was preaching.What if he had actual close to peak strenght when it comes to his size?I understand that for this time it would still wouldn't be enought because of suplements, knowlege in powerlifting alone, not to mention mma.How would you see him?
I think this is the closest thing to the truth in my humble opinion.
I have no idea what you mean by “powerscaling”. I have never even heard that phrase before let alone talked about it.
@RamseyDewey I'm sorry, it's a phrase used to describe when people compare characters in fiction in terms of combat prowess, based on feats.
YO nice shirt. You're beautiful and intelligent.
I don't believe bruce is broken and has a fictional amount of abilities ik he used gear to develop a crazy physique i think that's what created the injury since the tendons and ligs dont heal as fast but reading the tao of jkd seeing the involvement of leg locks groin strikes eye pokes literally the modern mma goat jon jones mixed with connor McGregor because connor has that crowd please ability bruce does as well
He was as fake as Santa Claus
Yeah, if you run that comment by someone they could have told you how that comment sounded. You had one intent, but your comment was formatted as an insult. Rather than "I honestly can't tell," you could phrase it as "Serious question, this person may have a physical disability or could just be socially awkward?"
Take it from a guy with Autism, everyone is somewhere on the spectrum. For me, i know that accepting i had this disability and to what extent was the key to understanding myself and working on skills I realized i lacked.
But speaking of supporting people being treated as disposable human beings, i hope you will be as vocal in denying discrimination against trans and other lgbtqa+ people, hispanics, and minorities on the receiving end of police brutality in the years to come.
No such thing as autism.
Come on Ramsey. You are just jealous. You are turning a blind eye to the fact that no one has been able to repeat the feats that Bruce Lee could do. His speed and power were unparalleled. As for stunts, Bruce Lee was a martial artist, not a stuntman. And he didn‘t have to be a stuntman. Those are different things.
This video is about people with special needs. Pay attention please.
@@RamseyDewey I know. But trying to present Bruce Lee as a "martial actor" and almost a disabled Paralympian is ridiculous. He was a very serious martial artist. By the way, you were wrong when you said Bruce Lee had never fought. In his youth he won the Hong Kong schools boxing tournament. Even very early on he had an idea how to fight.
@ Be a serious person and do your due diligence and actually pay attention to what was said instead of making up nonsense like that so you are can argue with strawmen.
No. I did not present Bruce Lee as a paralympian.
No. I did not say Bruce Lee never fought. I have made several videos on this channel discussing in detail Bruce’s 2 confirmed fights. By the way, he did not win a boxing tournament, he won a single boxing match. Watch my video on the subject, you could learn a lot.
I don’t know who you think you are arguing with, but it’s not me.
@@RamseyDewey I haven't seen all the videos on the channel yet. I will check them out. I just heard you refer to Bruce Lee as a "martial actor" which is clearly not the case. I'm not saying he was invincible. Of all modern fighters, I think UFC heavyweights like Emelianenko or Verdum would have a chance against Bruce Lee. Maybe they would even beat him. Without seeing an actual fight we'll never know. But there's no denial Bruce Lee was a very serious martial artist. I'm not trying to cast doubt on your expertise. I agree with you on nearly everything else but not on this one.
@ Bruce Lee was a martial arts actor. Are you kidding me? That’s what he’s most famous for. Have you never heard of Bruce Lee before???