You are not my responsibility, my kids are - Themba: My Inked World | S1 | Mzansi Magic | Episode 01
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- Опубліковано 6 вер 2024
- Life after Big Brother has been rather tricky for Themba especially when it comes to his love life. Nqobile, the mother of his children feels like she was done dirty after finding out that he's now in a relationship with Mphowabadimo after everything she has done for him but he needs her to understand that he'll always be there and supportive to his children.
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I get where she's coming from. It seems she was down for him for a long time when he wasn't at his best. She still loves him but broke up with him because he wasn't being the partner she needed him to be. The minute life gets better for him he changes and becomes the man she wished he could have been to her. It's very hurtful watching a man who mistreated you treat another woman the way you begged him to treat you. I don't think she's being malicious or trying to get him back, she is just really hurt that she's not reaping the benefits of being patient with him for so long.
True
True,,,, she is hurt,, broken, she needs to heal,,, i feel for her
"Always treat your next exactly how your ex always wanted to be treated.." those are some profound words.
Therapy is there for that ,this guy doesn't owe her anything except taking care of his kids
@@alainkouablan508 ay-ke awukahle wena ukuphapha i therapy yani🙄✋️
Girls like Nqobile are the reason I will NEVER ride or die for a broke dude, he will leave you when life gets better for him.
They always do, ke sono maan
That's true
💯 I've been there and they leave without hesitate, so don't be build it girl.
But she's the one who left him mos. 🤷🏾♀️
lol she dumped him, why is she hurt, or maybe she thought he won't be anything without him, she must heal and move on.
We have said many times stop being Bob the Builder it always ends in tears 99% of the time.
They don't listen. I will never build anyone. If you can't even build yourself lol why should I?
also when you help someone you do that out of the goodness of your heart and the fact that you love them, not to gain something in the long run especially when you are just a gf or baby mama. haibo abo Bob the Builder must just take it in and understand that you build cause you love not cause you want something in return or don't build at all ke
We all learn the hard way sis, kinzima
She did not build him what are you talking about?
@@khanyisilekaleni9112 she did. She just said she was there for him 9 years
Eishhhh....the pain in her voice 😢the sooner she accepts and makes peace with the new changes she'll heal
Bro 🥹😭
She held him down, it's not gonna be easy 😭😭😭
Yhooo the hurt in hee eyes🥹💔😖
I am sure she never hurt any guy who really wanted her and she never used one who was going all out on her. As people, we hurt each other, I think people must just be honest with themselves and accept that, even when we proclaim love and feelings for one another, it all boils down to our own individual gains and we look for our own benefits ourselves. People get hurt because of their own heads. Almost everyone is going to let you down one way or another
Its giving Acrimony vibes💔
You’re in my thoughts - that true 😁💔
True shm💔
🤞🏾
You just shared what is on my mind
It is, if I'm not mistaken he was financially dependent on her for 8 years 💔💔
Yoh. She sowed the seed but never got to reap. She's literally watching another woman get everything she worked so hard for. 💔
Mmh that is true n I feel her pain shame
@Tsoseletso...i hear you🙏🏽. But I wish everyone could understand that people are not projects. When you support and love someone, it's because you chose to not because you expected something in return. Truth of the matter is we all have to learn that we are all here for our individual purposes. Themba was a kid and still needs to grow, but he wore old men's shoes... Made kids while being a boy. And now he is getting all the mental health help he can get to become better for his life goals, and I think we all have to do that. Themba was not a project to be seeded only to be reaped... NO ONE IS. That's where we ALL need to get it CORRECT.. OTHERWISE WE WILL KEEP GETTING MENTALY DESTROYED🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
What makes you think Mpho is reaping anything from Themba? Let me refresh your memory baby girl won 2 million from the competition and she can very much survive without Themba she has her own fame and money so she's reaping nothing. Stop condoning toxicity and bitterness it's not pretty, she should focus on co parenting and if she needs from Themba she must ask kahle and stop feeling like she's entitled cause she's not.
@@hashtagmadeinheaven 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
@Omiyo July very true, and those types never change, ur right
Lol 😂 moral of the story don't build a man 🤣
You guys build men? 😂 😂 😂 Wow!
Danko
Women too
Bob the builder belongs ebuilder’s warehouse bakithi😂😢
Amen
I feel sorry for this young lady. I wish she can heal from and let go. She will find someone and be happy again
My heart bleeds for her, for the fact that he knows he's done her wrong, but still wants to be angry when she expresses herself.
She shouldn't feel entitled with what he does with his cash. He does not owe her anything but his children
That’s a man for you
He told her he is gonna be the man he is now and she didn't believe him hence the anger! I see Acrimony here
@@ntsikayomzimagxaka6048 Why would you say that when he himself said he understands why she feels entitled. He said he's done her bad and she's been down for him throughout...
She must move on. But that will only happen once she's healed. Themba must just be patient and respectful to the mother of his kids that has probably stopped her entire life playing mom/ dad financially whilst he went from skirt to skirt.
Again, we can never fully know what's what 🤷
@@pholematasane7195 it doesn't matter what a liar tells you. By the time the liar has changed, would u still want them? If this was a woman you also would've left.
I get where nqobile is coming from shes hurt n wounded n now shes labelled a bitter baby mama
Until Mpho goes through the same with him
@@myopinion195 And she will
@My opinion and she will, watch the space
@@lady_goldza_fx definitely
@@tsholofelohuma7496 definitely
I pray for healing for Nqobile it is hard to raise kids in such an environment 😢
If there’s nothing wrong with Mpho’s relationship with Themba, her mom wouldn’t be hurt by her pregnancy. I’ll leave it there
There's nothing wrong with collecting baby mamas you're not married to? Lol
There is nothing compared to reality, praying for her to heal and find her way to continue 🙏
Yhoo the pain hle is too deep, I feel for her but praying she comes okay
Themba you will swallow these words one day, this is life
Struu
He will, liyofika ilanga and he will remember who went down for him.
This lady looks like Mpho wa badimo 🙆🏽♀️🙆🏽♀️🙆🏽♀️I see now
I feel bad for Mpho for involving herself in this relationship/mess.
@@lifetings4304 she didn't know if she knew I don't think she would have agreed to this
Themba was looking for an escape for his emotions to this girl n she saw the one that reminds him of her
@@annaseemole1374 please now...why did she not "consult" before ajola naye, in my opinion they were supposed to be together for just in the big brother house.
@@lifetings4304 no she might have consulted but didn't understand the reply or maybe "fame "got in her head or they showed her the baby mama who looks like her n thought she is the one
We don't know,let's not dwell too much on people's business
@@annaseemole1374 I like you, that's funny by the way🤣🤣🤣 thank you.
This situation is complicated because we as the viewers don't know how deep their relationship is. And we don't know what their saying to each other behind the scenes. So we can say she's entitled but also we don't know kutsi what Themba is saying to her that we we don't get to hear. Which might be why she feels entitled to this. But aii aretsi 🤷🏾♀️
She said he made promises to her. So she's not entitled, he made a promise.
I know how she feels 😢she will get over it one day, Themba really broke her and now he is treating someone better than he used to treat her but ke maybe she was was not what Themba was looking
Honestly she broke herself by allowing the guy to treat her the way he did.
The least this guy could do is to apologise to this gal, for what she put her through instead of throwing this "you left me" in her face as if she left him for nothing, and the current gal is no exception she'll feel the heat at some point, he gives me narcissistic vibes.
Someone said "that person you busy secrifising for will one day look you in the eye and say I never asked you, and they will be right" 🤢🤢
Themba did this woman dirty 💔🥺 she's hurting
Too much dirty but umhlaba knows how to humble umuntu, time is the healer.
I hear her mna😢. Dust yourself and focus on you baby girl.. this is why I'd rather perish than ngiwondle indoda🚮.
I get she’s hurt. But Themba has a point . She’s not he’s responsibility indeed the kids are. How do you take care of someone ongasajoli naye. Maybe the way he said it was wrong but it’s the truth
She is the mother of he’s kids. He is actually obligated to take care of her one way or another
@@jontellie No his not, his responsibility is with his kids not her. She needs 2 let go of the past & move on with her life.
@jontellie it is not his responsibility to take care of her. They are not together. His responsibility is towards his kids.
Baby mama has every right to ask for support
From the start i never believed that Themba loves mpho. As much as she shouldn't feel entlitled as we say. But reality we can't expect her to shake emotions and not expect to be treated right. Its human nature
Nqobile is broken guys💔
He's gonna want to come back to her, I pray that when that time comes, she's fully healed and in a happy place.
As woman we hurt our self for staying even it is worse and hoping for the best, Nqobile must move on even married couples gt divorce
Bakithi it's important to prioritize yourself in every situation... Uma ungasathandwa move on
This woman is hurt.💔
I saw that too, I am praying for her to be better🙏
"I was a Cheaterrrr"🤣🤣🤣🤣🤦🏿♂️
True😢
Thats a lesson not to help man when they are down...once they all good they forget where they came from
I understand her fully....ncese sis you will be okay😓
This woman really regret living this guy, but also mad at the same time because he's a cheater.
That is why it is important to do things for people from the bottom of ur heart and because you want to without expecting anything in return! Now ukhala ngaboo “after everything I did for you”. He does not owe her anything sadly.
I think she was doing everything for him as the father of her kids hoping that he’ll also have her back. Not necessarily because they have to date or anything but unfortunately it didn’t work
I agree 100% ,in life to avoid disappointments give or do things without expecting anything back. That way you avoid getting hurt.
It's impossible, nobody just do right from the bottom of their hearts, we all invest into something so that we can benefit, it's human nature, why would u wanna build a house that you're not planning to move into? It's life, it's sad, we shud accept and move on
@@tsholofelohuma7496 very profound thank you. You’re very right
I think my sister must heal first and accept the breakup. So that she can also move on with her life, otherwise soon she gonna use kids to hurt Themba. She's still in love with her baby daddy but he moved on u can see it that she still need his attention. Forgive Themba my sister for ur own sake and ur babies please 🙏🙏
I am glad Themba is taking care of his kids. Sweety needs to move on, he is not coming back to her. She is hurt and I hope she finds peace and healing. Themba did her wrong in the past though😬😬
Yeah he did do her dirty.
Exactly
Yeah, hopefully she learnt her lesson on not sacrificing so much for a man
I hope she heals, because to tell the truth most of us have loved and been cheated on but this behaviour of hers won’t take her anywhere.
Exactly..she needs to focus that energy on healing..she has no control over him and she must one day accept that..the sooner the better for her own state of mind
Lonto Themba has a type! Nqobile looks like Mpho on her diary session.
Nqobile is a baddie. She will get a good man and Themba is a really inconsiderate man. He loves the fame and himself.
What does Nqobile want? She dumped the guy but still want benefits of a girlfriend, she must move on with her life
She wants you
@@zanelesambo7725 I am available, pass the message please
Broke up 2 years already and she's still mad. Iyo
@@robatantse438 and in that 2 years she prioritised him as the father of her kids and gave him accommodation at her place…
@@myopinion195 I hear you, but even so in this life you being there for a person does not guarantee that the very same person will be there for you when the tables turn. It's a hard pill to swallow but to avoid going crazy, try to move on and be a better you. Themba has always cheated on her and went against all he promised her. She should accept, as hard as it is. She deserves better, someone who will prioritize her without her even begging for it.
Her explaining herself is making things worse. Her explaining how he should communicate won’t work💔💔
I love Nqobile ❤️ Baby girl phuma kuye Lo, uzokukhumbula
She asked nicely please help me move. If he didn't want to he should have just said so instead of opening a can of worms for her. I feel he is still in disbelief that she left him for cheating.
She still loves him shem...Whatever Themba is doing with Mpho is a game he is being strategic,wait until he achieves what he wants he will be treating her same way he is doing his baby mom
My sentiments exactly
Hmmm..can't wait to see how things unfold because there's layers and layers to this.
This girl is impossible very impossible ,how must she prioritize her when Themba is seeing someone really
Prioratise her how bangasa joli
.. I laughed when she said let's put the kids aside prioritize me Njani kengoku 🤦♀️😂
He must prioritize her uhlala nabantwana baka Themba mos...
@@cebolenkosizulu4808 no he must prioritize his kids who live with her not her... Whats gonna happen the day she moves on and gets married must Themba still prioritize her like they are still together?
She z jelouse phela for Mpho wabadimo
Sis co parenting means prioritizing each other
@@Nombulelo_ace no babes it means whatever you do it should be for the benefit of the kids not the parent, I understand him helping her move to a new place because his kids will also live there, but to tell one parent to put the kids aside and emotionally focus on you for whatever reason, is very unreasonable. Themba can help for the benefit of his kids but she is not entitled to his time and resources for her gain anymore. She will understand this the day she let's go and gets into another relationship but right now she's still hurt and trying hard to hold on to how it once was
Moving on takes time and lashing out is the only way to freeing herself one day she will be free from expectations she has for this person.
She’s hurting and you can see it in her eyes. It’s so painful
I get where she's coming from, but it doesn't change the fact that she feels entitled. She needs to accept and understand that he is not obligated to helping her unless it's beneficial to the kids. Okwabo kuphelile there's no "remember ", "after everything I've done for you " , he's with someone else now...
Shame I feel her hurt. Been there done that. I hope she finds peace
if you broke up with someone, that person is no longer your responsibility. seems like these girl still loves Themba. baby mama drama
Shame she must really move on and not just say it. It's over , he used you just accept it and live with it!
I believe Themba still loves her and he will start cheating on Mpho eventually a leopard doesn't change its spot it's still too soon and you see the man's true colours once you have a child with him , he's still gonna cheat
Thank you. My sentiments exactly
Exactly 💯
Wow , and you were right 😳
This woman is broken
Mpho is really ignoring all the red flags
I really feel sorry for her
She’s still going to cry
Themba still needs to grow up
A repeat is bound to happen.
@Rendani I agree with you, this Themba has a lot of growing up to do, he is failing to acknowledge that when he was down and out he depended on her now when she only just wants him to prioritise her not because she wants him but because she was there for him, he jumps and say you are not my responsibility njani sana because Njobile prioritized him too even though he was not her responsibility, he jumps and say I will not date you as if Nqobile said she wanted to date him... Kuningi okusezovela I feel sorry for Mpho
And he won’t grow up
I said the same thing
You can see he's enjoying this and he knows she was there for him... That's why I want men as ready made as they can be, men have sooo much audacity.
So true yoh!
He is showing off trying to embarrass her
So true sis. Building a man doesn't work shame
@@leratohadebe4938 women too
Very true, it shows that he hasn't changed at all, he's arrogant
Nqobile uyazi sola unqobile uvusa ubuhlungu bakhe nqobile move on , ufuna ukumoshela uthemba manje haibo
It's sad to see how much money has changed Themba and not in a good way
I pray I am not the woman who will be down for a guy for years and then after his breakthrough he gets another... Jerr may I be not that woman 💔💔💔
I dont get how this girl is angry...themba is supporting the kids but she wants to be supported hau?for what?as long as themba is taking care of kids that's enough I think she s jealous themba is inna relationship
At least she's part of the show so she gets paid. I think it's enough. We should stop having babies with men who aren't willing to make marriage commitments for us.
You can't expect your ex to be your ride or die especially if he has moved on for 2 years. Why would you expect ex to prioritize you? Yoh
Ladies….never ever give husband privileges and priority to a mere boyfriend!
There’s soooo many good men out there!
Yoh hle give me a list of the good guys😢
Ifike kanjani iconversation from the kids to amarelationship? Clearly boy'2 have unresolved issues
“Prioritize me!” from an ex and especially a baby mama is crazy! Prioritize you how when he’s in a relationship with someone else?? Heal and move on sis, two years yonke??!
Kids are his priority haybo...not her
For your peace baby girl, for your mental health and your kids, leave him alone mommy
Themba love both of these ladies trust me Kasi boy this one 🕜
This is hurtful to watch honestly 😢
Lool that's men for you ke sana , the minute u stay during hard times he will definitely leave you when he has made it . 😂😂relationship yako Magazine
It's how you treat him during the hardship. It looks like he tolerated her.
Advice: don't order your man around like he is a kid, 'sit down I want to talk to you'.
This is so sad. I can imagine the pain she must be going through
I hope she won’t end up hating him and be spiteful , I feel her pain though😢 Maybe she needs closure
Honestly.
She needs to get boyfriend. She says she is over him but you need he needs to priorities her .She needs to heal from the broke up.
Nami that just confused me... I smell drama for all of Thabangs future relationships she will likely make them mesrable
She feels betrayed.
Themba has a lot of baggage.
I get that your guys love mpho and themba but i really don't like that mpho is involved with a man who has so much going on.
@Lebogang Lebea 😔💔
Eyy. And Nqobile probably feels how she feels coz they were still dealing with each other in the 2 years they broke up. If the boundaries were set and respected in that 2 years, she would have healed already.
@Monachopsis love my girl down but i have no hope on uGuy shame. By the time the season end, others will see too coz now bazothi we're jealous
Mpho is going to see flames with this guy. She’s even lying when she said Themba wanted a child. She thought Themba would be completely hers if she gives him a child. It’s gonna get very ugly
@Lebogang Lebea my sentiments exactly
@@TarCarNey true
Nqobile needs to move on. He owes her nothing, they aren't together. If she did things for him, she must just take the "L".
She's too entitled, my guy please take care of your kids not her. She must move on and get herself together.
Oh i pray she find love again Aman who will love and respect her the way she deserve 💔
Karma is real just wait ND see
Thats the sad part! It never misses the address! he did not handle the situation well and became arrogant about it!
Let go and let God sisi. Do it for yourself. Self love and acceptance is best.❤
“yama catalogue”
I laughed so much when I heard her saying that😂😂
The fact that he's proud of being a cheater bores me honestly
Is not easy like u think
ay sometimes i feel bad, than i remember they are getting paid. they have options to edit or cut certain scenes before we see. Money is a strict master but we have choices everytime.
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Girls like Nqobile bayangdina. Why forgive a man who comes to say "i was a cheater" and then come here want us to feel sorry for u.
Sorry miss perfect,its her mistake to learn from and I didn’t hear her asking for any sympathy.
She obviously forgave him because she believed in him
I get her. But they must be very careful and not let these tv production producers use and exploit them. Nqobile, if you can't afford a Therapist, go to church and also pray about this.
Maybe he was getting a monthly allowance from her, hence she feels entitled
Ya neh, amadoda. Ubona ngiwasaba nje! Ngizalele umuntu mese engenza nje. Uhm, ai bandla!
They still love each other 🤞🏽
That is not love. That is a hurt woman. And that is a man who doesn't care about how hurt she is.
Ugirl is securing her bag. This is obviously scripted but still worth me grabbing a bowl or 2 of pop's
I feel this part was real, she is really hurt
The tone of her voice tells pain. I don't think it's a script
There is no way this is scripted😏.
The pain in her voice and eyes this is reality, themba is now the man she wanted him to be 💔
What's scripted about this??
This guy is being rubbish to this lady,who is evidently a beautiful soul.He is clouded by the money he has now and bro he thinks that South Africans will stand with him as he treats this lady like trash bra he better think again money will run out and his girl might leave him and this lady will find someone who'll treat her the way she deserves...Nqobile is not even being nasty with him but just asks that she gets looked after naye just as she looked after him.
Seems like he tolerated her in the past hoping for a better attitude.
She is used to ordering him around and controlling the conversation like he is a kid.
She broke up with him because he was cheating. Obviously he will do it to mpho
Why he treating her like this? If baby mama talks too much, let them mos when u were nyobaring u didn't mind and you will always owe your baby mama cause besides money, she raising the kids while the father is a visitor, he won't handle these kids on a daily and the work that comes with it. So respect the moms folks. As a man, you will always owe her, the burden isn't easy and getting a new man isn't easy while a man can easily get a woman
I feel her pain 😭
He is gonna get hurt when she moves on
I liked Themba better on Big Brother....I hope uNqobile finds healing.
This boy is honest he was cheating, the relationship ended 2 years ago, he prioritises the kids and he’s in a relationship with someone🤷🏽♂️facts
Kuzolunga nana, u r a woman and God gave us a gift that is strength...ne
He anger is what he feeds on .This type you don't show emotions to .Just be blank expect nothing from them.
I hope she finds someone who will be down for her 💯. Some men 😳🙄
I pray she heals
I think they'll get back together one day
He still love her bt ke usaba ukulahlekelwa ama millions
When he wants to come back, she won’t have time for him. Hee love for him will be gone. It’s not easy to watch a person you love love someone else and treating you like you never mattered. That on its own hurt her and will give her enough courage to never want him again
This are all wishes! Reality is he loves and the new girlfriend and vice versa! She should move on and stop giving us acrimony vibes!
It will be definitly too late for Themba
@@pholematasane7195 that's what we think
It's not entitlement shem. I hear her but keh some people are ungrateful! UNGRATEFUL
Sister must forget about the life she had with Temba, kudlulile. It wasn't meant to be, he was not his real match. Its unfortunate that TEMBA owes her FOKOL. PRIORITY IS NO LONGER HER
She is still angry with him. They broke up 2 years ago. He’s priority are he’s kids not take care of her personal needs unless there was an agreement between the 2