The TRUTH about the RED PILL: what to expect on the path to understanding

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  • @psychacks
    @psychacks  Рік тому +204

    Time to talk about the red pill. For the purposes of this discussion, I'm defining the red pill as a set of knowledge and know-how pertaining to men's place in society and to intersexual dynamics, in particular. In many respects, the red pill can be likened to a spiritual transformation, in that -- having undergone it -- the person is no longer who he once was. In light of this, I'm going to offer two teachings that -- while originally rooted in spirituality -- are usefully applicable to the red pill. My argument is that, ultimately, the red pill exists to facilitate fulfilling relationships.
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    • @anisenkrill6179
      @anisenkrill6179 Рік тому +10

      Thanks Orion. This video had to be made.

    • @andrewphillips969
      @andrewphillips969 Рік тому +11

      Is the red pill stuck in your throat if you are only mad at your ex wife? Women are not the enemy, but my ex wife is, lol

    • @lrt14174
      @lrt14174 Рік тому

      Great video Orion! Unfortunately most people are still swallowing and digesting the pill so they won't understand the meaning of your words. And if the pill is or gets stuck in their "spiritual" throat it will cause frustration, suffering and great pain and fear.. and they will hate you even more...

    • @brettgarandza683
      @brettgarandza683 Рік тому

      I emailed you, Dr. Taraban.

    • @zvishineweather8962
      @zvishineweather8962 Рік тому +2

      @@andrewphillips969yes, Bro, until you let go of your anger & accept reality, as it is.

  • @jcnlaw
    @jcnlaw Рік тому +1993

    Experienced divorce attorney here. Great synopsis of taking the red pill. Another key takeaway I would like to add if I may: if you are a young man, focus on becoming the very best version of yourself. Attract, do NOT pursue. It will make a huge difference in how you engage with women and they perceive and treat you. Stay safe out there!

    • @capricetony
      @capricetony Рік тому +50

      Jonathan I really enjoy your content and chats with Richard Cooper 👍

    • @jcnlaw
      @jcnlaw Рік тому +30

      @@capricetony Thank you very much! I appreciate your comment.

    • @dandel1985
      @dandel1985 Рік тому +6

      Hey there Mr Esquire!

    • @TheKarlslok
      @TheKarlslok Рік тому +53

      Isnt the attractive man, just any man useful to women? Why put a target on your back by being attractive? Sure you get to have sex, but that is risky these days, she may get pregnant.... But sure for those men capable of sleeping with women who finds you attractive and wants to catch you, without getting feelings for her, may eat the cake and keep it... But my experience is that most men cant handle a women pretending to love him with a passion, and behaving perfectly, without getting feelings for her in return. As Richard Cooper says, she should have the "burning desire" for him, but once she has he is easily fooled by it.... thinking she is the unicorn that will not stab him in the back. But there are no unicorns out there no matter how much we men want it to be.

    • @marriagecausesdivorce7540
      @marriagecausesdivorce7540 Рік тому +51

      @@TheKarlslok I think Jonathan is saying focus on being the best version of yourself for you and your own purposes (not for a woman). I don't think Jonathan is saying marry, co-habitat or have kids with women (unless you are prepared to take that risk of being financially and emotionally ruined after a few years).

  • @NickRedstar
    @NickRedstar Рік тому +498

    You said it. The red pill isn’t about changing the world. It’s about changing yourself and accepting the world as it is.

    • @cosmicprison9819
      @cosmicprison9819 Рік тому +21

      I’m fine with people accepting the world as it is. I’m not fine with people glorifying the world as it is.

    • @in.edieudonnesworld3167
      @in.edieudonnesworld3167 Рік тому

      ​@@cosmicprison9819powerful reply

    • @Fredjoe5
      @Fredjoe5 11 місяців тому +6

      @@cosmicprison9819 I'm always more concerned with people telling us the way it should be.

    • @clarencepsaila4743
      @clarencepsaila4743 11 місяців тому

      but how is the world? the world as it seems to you and this video is very different from the world I know.....

    • @Fredjoe5
      @Fredjoe5 11 місяців тому +1

      @@clarencepsaila4743 And which one is correct? Probably the world of this video.

  • @Dub636
    @Dub636 Рік тому +508

    The world needs more content like this. Intelligent, thoughtful, balanced, sensible, and accurate

    • @jasongravely7217
      @jasongravely7217 Рік тому +11

      Almost Every video this guy makes is succinct and beautifully delivered. Very impressive.

    • @ztvsmart
      @ztvsmart 11 місяців тому

      We need more man like Orion. And content take care of itself.

    • @nightmareTomek
      @nightmareTomek 11 місяців тому +2

      I think you're forgetting "DUMB". I'm binge-watching him today, a few videos have good messages, but most are just dumb, and way too long for their dumbness.
      Just let me point you to what he said at 8:30, so you can really envision the stupidity of that what you're praising here.
      "Eventually your red pill days will be characterized by relationships with women. Everything is completely different and yet nothing has changed. ... Women will be part of our lives in one way or another. In a way the red pill allows to have relationships with women in a way that makes sense for the particular individuals involved. Women are not the enemy."
      And then envision divorce r4pe. How men can lose everything, job, house, children, to a woman who became a bit unhappy and is full of spite towards her ex husband because in her eyes he's at fault she has to divorce.
      And Orion is saying a bunch of nothing, or that no matter our knowledge nothing will change and what is happening is going to be ignored. How is that not stupid?
      No, actually women's behavior is abnormally destructive and needs to be addressed and fixed, the way you'd try to correct a bad behavior of a child. Divorce r4pes need to stop, PERIOD. Many other things need to stop as well. The red pill points this out, there's no stupid enlightment in this, it's knowledge that can either be used or ignored, and he talks about it like it can only be ignored. And that's from someone with a psychology profession. Aboslutely idiotic!
      Think it through.

    • @1chumley1
      @1chumley1 11 місяців тому

      Red Pill means enlightenment. Anyone who claims enlightenment is usually trying to push more "truth." For a fee. You can trip the attraction switches of women by learning pick up methods, but it takes vigilance and work if you want a healthy family. Or you can be a sleasy pick-up artist the rest of your life.

    • @eQuariuz
      @eQuariuz 9 місяців тому

      ​@@nightmareTomek It could be interpreted as, since women are going to be in your life one way or another, in general,
      RP wisdom now enables men to deal with them as they are.
      The new way of dealing with them (due to gaining RP wisdom) is the ("everything is different"), which is to say that men may stop marrying the westernized woman for example. Yet, in general, female behavior is still the same ("nothing has changed").
      Women are still going to trick off their youth and virginity-fertility to a small % of typical type guys while ignoring guys on her own level, and then, after she's aged out of the sexual marketplace, attempt to lock down a beta-provider sucker on her level.
      Of course that Beta provider has been exposed to RP wisdom, and so we circle back to the "Everything is different", in which case the western woman succeeds less and less often over time with her innate strategy.
      I will way this though, I do see that there are a good number of the "Purple Pilled" guys who are attracted to vanilla RP content. They use terms like "balanced, sensible", because they haven't, imo, really come to terms with female nature. I call these the BDSD "Button Down Shirt Dater" guys. These are some of the guys attracted to the female content creator's dating expert channels as well.

  • @bdgregorybd
    @bdgregorybd Рік тому +139

    I started my red pill journey in my mid 20’s. I became fully red pill aware in my late 20’s and looking back I think I discovered the red pill at the perfect time. I can confidently say that I am a better partner and am in the best relationship of my life so far because of my red pill understanding. The red pill changes lives for the better and in some cases saves lives

    • @markuchiha7737
      @markuchiha7737 9 місяців тому +3

      Did you get the high value wife

  • @davidlawson4281
    @davidlawson4281 Рік тому +220

    I took the red pill about 4 years ago, and like many, it was the result of trauma from a relationship. The pill got stuck far several years. Only after a visit with my priest was I able to swallow it, and now has transformed my view of inter gender dynamics. This was a good discussion with an excellent analogy. When it comes to women, ignore what they say in favor of what they do, which will oft times reveal the clearest picture of them as a person.

    • @hondahirny
      @hondahirny Рік тому +26

      Preach, my brother ❤
      I tell my son this as well as it applies to everyone. Talk is cheap. Actions take effort.
      It’s also why it’s important to go through hard times with a loved one before you sign on the dotted line. Love is easy when times are good. Get sick or lose a job. You will then find out their true selves.

    • @JamesLee-hy9bx
      @JamesLee-hy9bx Рік тому +3

      Wow. THAT is the point.

    • @davidlawson4281
      @davidlawson4281 Рік тому +2

      @@JamesLee-hy9bx Thanks for pointing that out.

    • @brianmolstad1255
      @brianmolstad1255 Рік тому +2

      Interesting that a red pill priest enlightened you. Congrats.

    • @davidlawson4281
      @davidlawson4281 Рік тому +4

      @@brianmolstad1255 Not exactly. I had been learning about female characteristics for several years. He just, unknowingly, helped it sink in.

  • @cliffpostell508
    @cliffpostell508 Рік тому +284

    It's called red pill rage. It's definitely a part of the process, but you have to get through it to complete the process.

    • @mgtowski395
      @mgtowski395 Рік тому +9

      Coined by Sandman

    • @my-rocket
      @my-rocket Рік тому +6

      @@mgtowski395 whatever happened to the Sandman?

    • @mgtowski395
      @mgtowski395 Рік тому +7

      @@my-rocket He's around.

    • @mgtowski395
      @mgtowski395 Рік тому

      @@user-nz8vf1wl3z Cheeeeeeeeeeers!

    • @masterblaster1502
      @masterblaster1502 Рік тому

      There is no rage when one is fully RP'd. The rage is only experienced by purple and blue pillers who are experiencing cognitive dissonance.

  • @G.Charles73
    @G.Charles73 Рік тому +319

    Along with Red Pill 'rage' is Red Pill 'regret'; coming into the red pill thought processes and realities later in life, and regretting your past actions (i.e. marriage, etc.). This is often too big of a mental hurdle for men to get past. The anger and compunction they feel for a 'life lost' makes them almost worse than if they would have never 'swallowed' the Red Pill at all.
    The saying ignorance is bliss certainly is significant as it applies to the Red Pill.

    • @capricetony
      @capricetony Рік тому +37

      I myself have a hard time forgiving myself and look back and seen how I could be a better man then, I see the shortcomings in my 11 year relationship (my part) and feel bad for how I was. But it took me a long time, I was 43/44 now I am 48. It’s alot better but it’s an ongoing process.

    • @travis3430
      @travis3430 Рік тому +56

      Spot on. You feel silly for believing the lies:
      Beauty is in the eye of the beholder
      There's someone for everyone
      Personality matters more than looks
      When a woman says 'you're too nice'...not realising the translation: 'i don't find you attractive enough & I don't think other women find you attractive either... but I don't want to come out & say this as it makes me sound abit cruel, so I'll say this as a virtue signal that I'm a nice woman really.
      There's loads of them
      Someone should do a redpill phrase translator. A small self help book for men 🤣

    • @qua7771
      @qua7771 Рік тому +36

      The hardest part for me is knowing that the way things are cannot be fixed. That is, not until everyone gets onboard. The current blue pill narrative is by design. The laws are rigged against us. I used to idealize relationships, which is always a recipe for disappointment. We need to live life on life's terms. What's popular isn't usually right, and what's right usually isn't popular. Living clean, and truthful can be isolating. Oh well.

    • @dahliafiend
      @dahliafiend Рік тому

      Unless you marry a woman who gives you an unwanted education

    • @G.Charles73
      @G.Charles73 Рік тому +9

      @@travis3430 'Womanese' by Donovan Sharpe....

  • @hikari9433
    @hikari9433 Рік тому +629

    I like to think that redpill knowledge is not about putting all women in the same bag, it’s about learning to identify and deal with the bad ones.

    • @OneNiftyBoi
      @OneNiftyBoi Рік тому +84

      Not only women, but human nature. Basically, Evolutionary biology, psychology and even philosophy.

    • @KD400_
      @KD400_ Рік тому +43

      Technically they are in the same bag but u have to recognize which ones r good or bad

    • @wavybump
      @wavybump Рік тому +21

      Nawalt? 🤔

    • @travis3430
      @travis3430 Рік тому +33

      Everyone goes through different degrees of red pill rage & for different lengths of time.
      It's important to recognise that it's simply human nature with evolution mixed in.
      If i suddenly had loads of women messaging, asking me out online, blowing smoke up my ass, I'd get quite entitled & picky too probably, it's natural I suppose.
      Also, men are more driven by sex than women for the most part. That's why women get more attention, especially online. Example: A 9/10 man would smash 💥 a 5/10 woman based solely on looks, but it's wouldn't happen the other way around. The only way it'd happen would be if the man had social status / was rich 🤣.
      Also, once a man stops being useful / able to provide, suddenly lost his looks / status Vs the woman's looks / social level, the woman will probably bail...if the negative social stigma, she'd receive by bailing she could handle. Women are pretty much hardwired to seek out the best possible partner they can in order to produce the best situation /start in life for the children.

    • @alejandrodelgado5829
      @alejandrodelgado5829 Рік тому +4

      ​@@wavybump he is a intelectual simp. Sorry english is not my language

  • @SukhoiGC
    @SukhoiGC Рік тому +157

    Red Pill stuck in your throat = red pill rage.
    Beautiful and concise explanation of the red pill as a whole. Very good 🤙🏾

    • @renaldsunset
      @renaldsunset Рік тому

      Exactly ! Not accepting reality for what is is and giving up = mgtow

    • @masterblaster1502
      @masterblaster1502 Рік тому

      It's really purple pill rage. The RP has no rage, just understanding and acceptance of reality. Only blu3 pill/purple pillers rage. They demononize the RP because they don't want even a single man waking up to the grift/slav3ry of gynocentric clovvn vvorld.

  • @daveboise_2222
    @daveboise_2222 Рік тому +42

    After two years on my red pill journey I've finally started dating again without anger. I had no idea I went through the process you just described. Thanks for showing me what I couldn't see in myself.

  • @omnipotentone5628
    @omnipotentone5628 Рік тому +258

    Some advice for those who have just swallowed the red pill. When I realized how women saw my "nice guy" behavior after taking the red pill as desperate, needy, clingy, and terribly unattractive, I felt incredibly embarrassed and angry at myself (red pill rage). What I have found that has helped me through this is to cut off contact, as much as possible, to those women with which I displayed this behavior, and concentrate solely on my own self improvement and hobby interests. It still hurts, but it's getting better.

    • @omnipotentone5628
      @omnipotentone5628 Рік тому +44

      @Anthony Manzio Breaking the spell of the blue pill dispels the Disney BS when dealing with woman. The red pill rage will subside, and life gets better. There is more to life than giving validation to women. Women can still be part of your life, but you'll have both eyes open going forward and what their true nature is. Don't put them on a pedestal, you are the prize my friend, work on being the best version of yourself you can be, and eventually everything will fall into place.

    • @francoisthibeaux-brignoles8399
      @francoisthibeaux-brignoles8399 Рік тому +35

      Why would the women who saw the good sides of you as "unattractive" even deserve so much space in your soul? I understand what you mean by feeling embarrassed, but please remember that you did nothing wrong. You didn't abuse or seriously hurt anyone to be so embarrassed about your actions. Take this from a 56 year old.

    • @RR.LL.3B
      @RR.LL.3B Рік тому +3

      @@omnipotentone5628so men are the prize not women ? Is this not hypercritical as people laugh when women say they are the prize ( rightly so )

    • @nickelsworth7097
      @nickelsworth7097 Рік тому +14

      Men hold the keys to the relationship... If it happens or not. Women hold the keys to sex. Which one is more powerful? If you say sex, you're weak and you need to study more.

    • @DamianSzajnowski
      @DamianSzajnowski Рік тому +1

      ​@@anthonymanzio8325living is the point of living

  • @robertfindley921
    @robertfindley921 Рік тому +138

    I appreciate what you are trying to do. I failed miserably for years under the false pretenses of the blue pill, then gave up and walked away. This was long before MGTOW, red pill, etc. I formed my own understanding based on my experiences and observations, which later I learned matched the black/red pill. Now I had terminology. But most importantly, I learned to focus on myself and be happy alone. It was a multi-year journey.

  • @joaquin67
    @joaquin67 Рік тому +124

    It took awhile to accept it, but the hardest part was trying to redirect my energy/focus away from women. After I learned more about women, I realized that becoming the best version of myself (fitness, competence, and financial) will not only work in my own benefit of being a happy and masculine man, but it also tends to be what women will find most attractive. It almost feels selfish to need to be focused on myself, but it actually is what will enable me to help others.
    Fortunately I wasn't 100% "Blue Pill". My first taste of "Red Pill' was in my early 20s (now 31) when I lost weight and gained some muscle (fitness), women were suddenly more attracted to me. I also knew being broke sucked, but I was 50/50 on that one -- I worked hard to get an engineering degree (financial) but just now aiming to increase my salary. My lack of understanding women (competence) was the hardest part to swallow, but better understanding both sexes helped a lot.
    Also, I had to find specific "Red Pill" content because so much of it is so negative and angry. I like your content, it's more relaxed and well-put.

    • @cestlavie5713
      @cestlavie5713 Рік тому +5

      An amazing Red Pill content on UA-cam is Coach Greg Adams Free Agent Lifestyle. Informative & Funny and comes on 2x a day.

    • @renaldsunset
      @renaldsunset Рік тому +5

      @@cestlavie5713Nah AMS aka Alpha Male Strategies is funnier but also way more accepting of female nature

    • @renaldsunset
      @renaldsunset Рік тому +1

      @joacquin67 Impressive journey my brother you can be proud of yourself 🙌🏽

    • @masterblaster1502
      @masterblaster1502 Рік тому

      Be glad that you are one of the 1% of men with the intellect to see the blu3 pill conditioning and rise above it. 99% of western males are still fully indoctrinated and conditioned to be a good little plantation beta. Accepting the truth (RP) is not something many are capable of.

    • @joaquin67
      @joaquin67 Рік тому +4

      @Anthony Manzio One point is to procreate (according to Mother Nature) but the other point is to create your own purpose, no matter how big or small.

  • @Vahn421
    @Vahn421 10 місяців тому +11

    "Getting angry at reality indicates a lack of acceptance about reality."
    I unerstand why you say this, but ultimately it's not always true. In fact, sometimes the opposite is often true. Sometimes getting angry at reality is precisely what we need in order to change it, assuming we CAN change it. Sometimes getting angry at reality is Absudrist defiance and some of us are content to be there. Having said that, on this particular topic on Red Pill and female nature, I agree the sooner we get past the anger phase, the better off we are.

  • @stevehancock7925
    @stevehancock7925 Рік тому +124

    I'm almost 58 and I only started down the RP journey about 10 years ago after my dad passed away. Feeling much better about it now. I think guys who have sisters have a leg up on the awareness aspect, which my brother and I never had.

    • @allthatjazz641
      @allthatjazz641 Рік тому +12

      @@willhogtieyou4752 I hear you, once had a girlfriend whos ability to believe her own BS was at a whole nother level, their need to fit in or be accepted, or conform over rides their own matrix.

    • @my-rocket
      @my-rocket Рік тому +24

      I hear you brother. I’m 58 also. Mom was the only female in the household. She was also a narcissist. But that didn’t really make her that different. I realize too late that she ruled with anger and gaslighting.
      Dad passed 22 years ago. I realize he didn’t know what he didn’t know, and he couldn’t teach us what he didn’t know.
      The two most important lessons: everything you’ve been told about the world is a lie, you still have to except and live in that world.
      Chopwood.
      Carry water.

    • @SupremeCannon1965
      @SupremeCannon1965 Рік тому +10

      Almost 58 myself, and oldest of three brothers. Also RP'd about a decade. Having a sister definitely would have helped; seeing those dynamics play out up close would have definitely helped to demolish the pedestal decades earlier.

    • @computerhelpcc
      @computerhelpcc Рік тому +6

      I have a sister and she isn’t helpful, was not helpful, and was/is a poisonous attitude problem. Condolences to her ex, who is among the many decent men, divorced against their will, for no major offenses or deficiencies, by triangle-shaped gals with a delusional sense of importance and entitlement. Has not been a prob for me but I am sympathetic.

    • @swisscheese412
      @swisscheese412 Рік тому +5

      Grew up with three sisters. It was awesome. I met all there friends and some of them quite hot. I witnessed female nature at an Early age. I was never shocked when women act cray cray. For me it's just another tuesday. I think my sisters and my mom Red pilled me without even knowing. I also never got divorce graped because i never married. Life is good 😁

  • @JSteelers
    @JSteelers Рік тому +109

    I found your channel a week ago and your content is so amazing. I’m a short Indian male that has been studying to become a doctor and I have found myself in the middle of struggling to swallow the red pill after my girlfriend of two years broke up with me out of the blue. I’ve since learned to decouple my self-worth from the value of woman to finally love myself and commit to the path of becoming a physician. Your videos help me understand the value that I have so I can continue to build it for future relationships.

    • @pambain9415
      @pambain9415 Рік тому +4

      I am rooting for you.

    • @zuibeckpulezon6431
      @zuibeckpulezon6431 Рік тому +9

      It wasn't OUT OF THE BLUE...you was just blind to the signs

    • @daleva187goligo
      @daleva187goligo Рік тому

      what? short? get outta here, indians are always tall, I live amongst many east indians and the guys are all 5'9 and above, a lot of them are over 6 ft, it's a tall race, on par with whitey

    • @MrDavidLiao
      @MrDavidLiao Рік тому +2

      Stay strong brother

    • @ClayWeblogistics
      @ClayWeblogistics Рік тому +2

      You are of value even if no woman loves you! How many lives can you make better through your journey and life. Your life can be a shining example of worth while achievement.

  • @Antediluvian137
    @Antediluvian137 Рік тому +48

    You might've just saved some lives with this one. The parallel you draw between "taking the red pill" and "_trying_ to achieve enlightenment" is absolutely spot on.
    A lot of people get lost with the red pill, because it unsteadies their foundation, and doesn't come with instructions for what to make of it.
    What you say is very true that getting stuck halfway on the journey is the least favorable of the outcomes. Integrating newfound knowledge is a critical step. So the reminder to complete the journey, if one should choose to start it, is probably one of the best things I've heard on this channel, and there have been lots of those!
    Thank you for your work, really some of the best practical psychology content on UA-cam.

    • @forgottenfuryan
      @forgottenfuryan Рік тому

      125 self deletions a day, 80% being divorced but this guy is saving lives?

  • @dwightbrown
    @dwightbrown Рік тому +93

    You have articulated The Red Pill succinctly.
    Understanding women and our relationships with them can lead some of us to finally get to a point where they are no longer your 'raison d'etre' and that reality can bring a tremendous level of peace quiet and freedom to a man.

    • @gwho
      @gwho Рік тому

      No, he articulated the dynamics of taking the red pill, not the red pill per se.
      Make one claim or truth that red pill says that he repeated.

    • @ScramTek
      @ScramTek Рік тому

      @@gwho
      “..that red pill says..”
      The red pill has no sayings per se. It points out that our societies and the programming we received are built on lies. All it asks is that you accept uncomfortable truths and reject comfortable lies.
      There’s no ideology, ethos or structure to it. Utility is everything. Do what is objectively right for your life, regardless of what others might think.
      Cognitive dissonance will occur whenever and wherever you lack acceptance.

    • @OfficialWendyWhittle
      @OfficialWendyWhittle Рік тому

      ​@@carlyk_When you realize that everyone is just you pushed out, there is nothing outside of yourself and all is merely a reflection of our internal self, it makes it much easier to detach from external attachments.

  • @Queenbg1
    @Queenbg1 Рік тому +9

    I think I'm in the same position.
    As I remember I always was a simp. How it could be different - I was raised without father figure and my father either missing or was doormat for my mother (very egocentric person).
    I knew my wife from the school - she was my school crush, but it happens that we always are unable to meet in the middle: either she has a boyfriend or live/study far away, or it was me.
    One day, when we are still very young, I heard that she got married and has a kid from some guy. I was heartbroken, but somehow accepted it and try to move on. It this moment I liked very much, but I did not know she will be my wife.
    Few years later, she realized that the guys is a total trash and she divorced him. Then I decided to act and to fulfill my school dream - to be with her.
    I fight a lot to be with her, swallowing a lot of rejections and negative experience and ignoring some of my principles (if you choose somebody, you choose also the consequences coming from him), but finally got her. The simp dream became reality. Now we got 2 more kids and kind of happy life.
    Then, one day the "red pill" videos started to fill my youtube content and I started to watch them. Then I realize what a simp I was and how many sacrifices I did just for the sake to be with the one I wanted - even ignore totally my principles and dignity at some point. Do not get me wrong - my wife is a great person and she loves me (her way) and made me happy. And she is very happy with our lifestyle. But still, she lacked the ability to recognize me as a man back then when I was in her friend zone, discipline to wait to be more mature before making the "husband" decision and awareness to understand what she actually got from life even when she made all the wrong choices. She got all her dreams came through. However, during our relationship my love to her always blinds me for these circumstances and I accepted everything as a gift. She was a gift for me and I was grateful for it. I adopted her son and raised it as mine, although he was a symbol of everything that makes me feel deep pain and heartbroken because of her past choices and and her actions towards me, towards life and even towards herself.
    Few months ago, after a insignificant fight between us I did start to lose it and all these facts started to piss me off. I cannot longer live with the idea that I made so many sacrifices for her, just to be with somebody I like, when she got everything she ever dreamed of without any sacrifice in return. Suddenly, I realized that actually the whole time I WAS the gift for her, not the opposite.
    Maaan, I went through a very deep emotional breakdown: depression, existential crisis, dwelling in the past, confusion, suicidal thoughts, etc. This state is kind of going on even today. On one hand - I still love her, on the other - I do not want to be the simp anymore and think that I deserve a lot of appreciation and even a better destiny. I feel I deserve somebody for whom I also will be a dream and it will be mutual, not to be a second choice, acceptable alternative, nice guy at the end of the queue or simp replacement. I think, I reach the point where the pill is stucked in my throat: I cannot longer accept her past and what she did to me, but also cannot let the old life go so easily. As we know: you cannot push orders to your heart and I still believe to some extend she is the one for me (although there is no way to know for sure).
    Now, we are temporarily separated in a way for me to clarify what to do: divorce and pursuit of better destiny eventually with some other partner in the future OR somehow to accept the life with its injustices and imbalances, just to go on with my family as it was before. First choice gives me a chance to start fresh, but attached to my old life because of our kids and no guarantee I'll find something better. The second one gives me an opportunity to live some form of happy life (if it is possible at this point), but always to questioning my dignity, manliness and right to have a wife that will recognize me, want me and make the necessary sacrifices to be with me - the way I believe the real, mutual, reciprocal love should work.
    This state is the worst thing I have even been in my life! Not to know what to do and what is right - stucked in this limbo..
    Really hard 50/50 choice...
    Sorry, for the broken English: not a natural English speaker and also write under a lot of emotions.

    • @Tushar_Talwar_09
      @Tushar_Talwar_09 Рік тому +2

      Women live life in the easy mode.
      I think It's mainly jealousy that you had to work for everything you have while for her it was handed on a silver platter.
      It is what it is.

    • @zemm9003
      @zemm9003 8 місяців тому

      If you're having all these thoughts at this point it is very unlikely you will be able to go back to how you were before. You can go back to her but find lovers for yourself. This way you get the best of both worlds.

  • @lilbroomstick7914
    @lilbroomstick7914 Рік тому +50

    RP truths have given me tangible motivation to improve my fashion, physique, and work effort. But one thing I will say is I wish I knew these truths before I left undergrad. I didn't have a good dating life in undergrad and I couldn't really understand why but now I understand TRP I understood what I was doing wrong. Now I'm an adult and its really hard to find likeminded people im attracted to in every day life working. Sure I do a lot better on the dates and in the DMs today than I did in college when I do find myself engaged in them, but I was younger with more time and more people around me in everyday life I was actually interested in. Better dating opportunities to be honest. I think the biggest pain of TRP is you usually discover it after when you actually needed it. And yea its great you can carry forward that knowledge in life, but I left a lot of trauma behind me so now im strongly considering hiring a male therapist and learning compassion for my uneducated past self and the past I cannot change.

    • @thenewbohemian5779
      @thenewbohemian5779 Рік тому +7

      this hits hard. I graduated about four years ago. I was in a fraternity, had a ton options simply as a result, and so was never comital. I didn't realize it was the noncommittal attitude and air of indifference which was enticing. I never found TRP until about a year ago. This was after trying to rekindle a relationship with one of those ladies from college who I had a particular penchant for. Well, guess what? I soy boyed myself, and came across as a limp dick as I no longer exuded that same attitude, especially after lockdowns and the pandemic (I was pretty lonely at the time). If I had TRP I probably would have left her as fast she left me, as I now see the flags. C'est la Vie.

    • @raminrouchi202
      @raminrouchi202 Місяць тому

      Yes we have been taught ....deliberately that looks don't matter if you're a man and to behave like a SIMP. Being a girl's friend in the hope that she will like you is like women giving sex hoping the guy will like them.
      Women and men both like sex for the same reasons and they appreciate physical charms just as men do.

  • @patmagic3301
    @patmagic3301 Рік тому +15

    Interesting. I think I experienced this recently. My first real introduction to hypergamy came back into my circle after 25 years. Friend saw her at a party. They told me she didn’t look good and carried a narc attitude. I hadn’t given her a second thought for 20 years but suddenly, post red pill, I was angry at myself for the attention I payed her at the end. On a complete fluke, my Friends and I ended up finding out about her wedding reception (less than a year after our 5 year relationship) and we decided to crash it. I was only there for about 10 minutes. Her husband, who I knew, came up to me and I shook his hand and said congratulations, you did it. He said nothing and I walked out. That was 1992. A year ago the same friend told me they were divorced. I knew what she was and I knew exactly where she’d end up but I should have never looked back after she left me on a beach in Mexico and threw herself at him. Life 🤷‍♂️

  • @OneNiftyBoi
    @OneNiftyBoi Рік тому +115

    This is quicky becoming my favourite Psychology/Philosophy channel. Very level-headed explanation of the RP.

  • @coolcat5798
    @coolcat5798 Рік тому +24

    We young and restless guys need men like u we're hated by society and are disposable keep it up chief

  • @JJL-ns3ts
    @JJL-ns3ts Рік тому +4

    Orion, I recently posted a comment on one of your shorts videos: "This(the red pill) isn't depressing in the least. It's truth, and while it's a tough pill to swallow, after it's been swallowed and digested, the healing can begin. Thank you, Orion! You're a top tier therapist."
    The next day(3/28/23), you posted this video. What a coincidence! Thinking about the analogies and metaphors you present, I proceeded to weep like a child at the realization of the lost sense of self from seeking enlightenment and truth. I just want to say thank you. Your channel has helped me immensely.

  • @my-rocket
    @my-rocket Рік тому +47

    This is exactly the message I needed at this point in my life. Interestingly enough, there wasn’t anything new, but it was everything I needed to hear again. Anyone who takes the red pill sets off on a treacherous journey. There aren’t any stops along the way. I am not done yet. There isn’t much still left to learn. Mostly about myself and my mistakes.
    Thank you for this message.

  • @felipeminelli2045
    @felipeminelli2045 Рік тому +276

    Great talk! Its not about being anti woman but being pro men 👏

    • @Mike80528
      @Mike80528 Рік тому +31

      @@williambmii Exactly. Reality isn't pro anyone or anything. It simply is the way things are.

    • @soccom8341576
      @soccom8341576 Рік тому

      ​@@Mike80528 Reality is not fair.
      Reality is pro someone and anti someone, at any given time.
      "Reality" can be changed. Slavery was the norm. Should it be the norm? Hell no.
      Chances are, you would have been a slave or had a hard and tragic life, born in those times.
      The Red Pill is a paradigm shift towards a more moral society.

    • @greendude0420
      @greendude0420 Рік тому +4

      We’re angry, because like my dad, we don’t fully understand yet, and for most of us we’ll never have the full picture but that’s fine with me

    • @felipeminelli2045
      @felipeminelli2045 Рік тому +13

      @@greendude0420 If you are angry about it you should swallow the whole pill, its normal to be angry at some point but not to remain angry forever

    • @themarathoncontinues4211
      @themarathoncontinues4211 Рік тому

      @@williambmii while I agree that we should accept it and move on, some of this isn’t nature bro.
      A lot of the bs going on is nurture, talk to your dad and grandpa. If they are observant, they’ll tell u how Hollywood/mass media conditioned women to create a lot of the problems we see today.
      Same thing happened to the men

  • @MrPatspp
    @MrPatspp Рік тому +10

    After more than a year watching almost daily red pill videos I started to accept that I was in the red pill rage where I felt it personal against women for being how they are but after all this time I just noticed this is the first RP video I watch in over a month. At the same time I noticed that I started comprehending the women in my life and not blaming them. I have my plans, my life, my career and path of preference and if they don't opt in then they're out.

  • @pambain9415
    @pambain9415 Рік тому +124

    As a female, who evidently has been living under a rock most of my life, I have never heard of this red pill, blue pill concept. Listening to this and viewing the comments I did not know that men are so traumatized by females and relationships. I read comments that some men state that once they lose weight, exercise and focus on bettering themselves, they attract women. Well, women do the same. To me it is all about working toward being your best self. If a relationship presents itself, great. But no relationship can be lasting until you have the best relationship with yourself.

    • @foreverseethe
      @foreverseethe Рік тому +39

      Hi, Pam. It sounds like you have a superficial understanding of The Red Pill. It's not only about bettering yourself. It's also understanding your role in society. Hence, it's fundamentally unfeasible for women to "do the same thing as a man" in order to have a satisfying relationship with a man.

    • @mangakasaide2166
      @mangakasaide2166 Рік тому +9

      Its sad to think you're in the same boat as us

    • @HKashaf
      @HKashaf Рік тому +3

      I encourage you to read " Beta male revolution" by Allen Roger Currie.

    • @eddie-ni5ox
      @eddie-ni5ox Рік тому +14

      lol, losing weight and looking better isnt even 1% of TRP, 80% is the lies, all the lies we were told, lots and lots of lies. Another very important thing, relationships are like game theory; 0 sum where the state always wins at the end even with no divorce and plenty of grand children.

    • @mangakasaide2166
      @mangakasaide2166 Рік тому

      @@HKashaf just finished reading, gained a lot of perspective. Thx MN.

  • @KJ-pu8dw
    @KJ-pu8dw Рік тому +6

    Swollowing the Red Pill is the difference between chopping wood for others, and chopping wood for yourself.

  • @ohlangeni
    @ohlangeni Рік тому +11

    The anger comes from the realization that you have been deceived as a boy and young man by society to hinder your male-hood or fully live and appreciate your life as a masculine man. For example; books, magazines, TV programmes, your mother, aunt and sisters all say that women want a man who is kind, sensitive, understanding, generous, loyal and has sense of humor. You grow up, you become exactly that: but women reject you for guys who do not respect them, are nonchalant about relationships/commitment, who cheat, and are domineering, and rough on the edges; the Alpha males. They failed to tell us the truth about female nature: that women want a guy who is tall, masculine, and does not put them in the pedestal.
    Once you swallow the Red Pill, you realize these things. You feel deceived, hence the anger.
    Ultimately, you should not be angry at reality. The other problem is that women actively campaign, shaming men away from the Red Pill.

  • @MrRubyElf
    @MrRubyElf Рік тому +51

    Love this take. It actually reminds me of learning music theory. People feel like learning music theory will somehow ruin the experience they have with music because it "demystifies" what music is. On the contrary, learning music theory enhances my relationship with music.
    Love your videos!

    • @thecurrentmoment
      @thecurrentmoment Рік тому +7

      At the same time, your tastes in music can change once you understand it, which can be quite unsettling for some people - they no longer enjoy what they used to. A change is not bad though, you just have to get used to enjoying different things than you used to.

    • @danielhuelsman76
      @danielhuelsman76 Рік тому +1

      I think there's an old term for that called "measuring the marigolds".

    • @supremelordoftheuniverse5449
      @supremelordoftheuniverse5449 Рік тому +1

      Nice analogy

  • @cutsbyelvis
    @cutsbyelvis Рік тому +91

    The new wave of content creators with integrity and nuanced perspective is refreshing. I’m a long time watcher and I appreciate your work. But this video officially turned me into a fan. Whatever your goals are, I’m rooting for you man.

    • @gwho
      @gwho Рік тому

      He's an actual PhD.

    • @darbyohara
      @darbyohara 10 місяців тому

      How do you know they have integrity?

  • @jhouser972
    @jhouser972 Рік тому +11

    After getting red-pilled years ago, I wasn't mad at women necessary but mainly myself for not seeing it sooner.
    I was also angry at Disney, cartoons, and TV shows, for all the white knight BS that brainwashed me as a kid! Lol.

    • @paul66990
      @paul66990 7 місяців тому

      Hollywood has disguised the destructive tendencies of the "fairer" s*x.

    • @Cherry-on-top-6
      @Cherry-on-top-6 Місяць тому

      As a woman, I can say the same things. I appreciate knowing the truth.

  • @lightinferno4490
    @lightinferno4490 10 місяців тому +1

    This guy is very good at explaining complex concepts in a clear, concise manner. A rare gift.

  • @jafoot7559
    @jafoot7559 Рік тому +6

    Great summation! I’ve felt for awhile now that constantly consuming red pill content is a signal that the red pill is “stuck in your throat”. I call it anger porn because there is a self righteousness that comes with being validated by the red pill and watching red pill is just self indulgent. I am very thank for this perspective.

  • @TheVigilante777
    @TheVigilante777 Рік тому +3

    One year ago, was the first time that I heard about Red Pill mindset; since then, I've embrace it and transform my life 180. I could say I am a new man since then. Now I have the power to put women in their place when they are trying to pull their BS with me...anyone!

  • @redpilllense7125
    @redpilllense7125 11 місяців тому +2

    Just found your channel as a 50yr old male who was red pilled at 42. Divorce opened my eyes to the gynocentric world I live in. Thank you for this valuable content, just subscribed.

  • @anisenkrill6179
    @anisenkrill6179 Рік тому +3

    "Unplugging men from the matrix is dirty work" - Rollo

  • @carlmiller8138
    @carlmiller8138 11 місяців тому +1

    Learned about the red pill 6 years ago. The pill was stuck in my throat a ling time, then 2 years ago I came to the rational that the pil was about self improvement without outside interference. And see the sign to guide my responses and actions.
    It can be true enlightenment
    I'm not there yet bet can see a much bigger light.

  • @cezannealves6926
    @cezannealves6926 Рік тому +14

    I was needing that today. That reflection on the pill stuck in your throat because you realized it but refuses to accept is true for many pills in life, not just sexual dynamics. And I've just realized that I'm choking on quite some pills lately. Thank you!
    Also, if you see this by any chance, your work here is great. You not only see with absolute clarity the underlying dynamics driving people that most, including the actors, seem blind to, but also models and present them in a brilliant way. And there's no one else on that level. Your really are the best on the topic, and you are helping many people and will help many more.
    I remember the last generation had only the PUAs to help them work through this stuff. And despite not being so great of a theory and a somewhat underground movement, its godfathers are still recognized, and many ideas permeated the common sense of people who never heard of it.
    You on the other hand are synthesizing the red pill society needs so much in a much more lucid, eloquent and mainstream formulation.
    Your work here will be seminal in shaping the social thought of an entire generation and influencing many more.

  • @foodmonsterweightloss5886
    @foodmonsterweightloss5886 Рік тому

    One of the best explanationa and most healthy perspective on becoming an integrated Red Pill happy man. My journey: Blue Pill married for decades. Divorced. Disaster dating. Red Pill introduction. Red Pill Rage. Red Pill Acceptance. Enjoyed dating. In a long term Red Pill relationship.

  • @P46430
    @P46430 Рік тому +6

    Best video EVER on the full red pill journey. Too many podcasts get fixated on a particular step along the process

  • @JRed41
    @JRed41 7 місяців тому +1

    Doc, you are a gifted communicator to say the least. This is the best explanation of what the RedPill is and how to accept the process. I love the Biblical analogy to Saul of Tarsus on the Demascus road to enlightenment. It's been said that God works through people. I believe God is working through you to answer a lot of prayers for understanding and direction in their relationship challenges. The Bible (Proverbs) say, "A man's gift shall make rook for him and place him among great men." Well, Doc you are on the path of greatness all the while helping many see the Light, Thanks for sharing your "gift".

  • @adifferentway1327
    @adifferentway1327 Рік тому +4

    Hi. I'm a real Zen student for decades. Those two stories you mention in this episode ate both from Zen. I can say that you use them both in an absolutely correct sense. You have wonderful insight, my friend. Thank you for your videos:)

  • @vidard9863
    @vidard9863 Рік тому +9

    Red pill in abstract is the *painful* truth about (subject). As a result red pill tends to appear negative, because it always deals with the painful part first, and working around to living with that understanding takes time

  • @Patrick-i7f
    @Patrick-i7f Рік тому +7

    Wooody Allen said. '"marriage is legalized prostitution.". I am a 100 percent red pill and I have got a happy life. No wife a happy life.

  • @sumosam1980
    @sumosam1980 7 місяців тому +1

    "where there is anger, there is not yet understanding." from 5:45 mark in video above. Beautiful!

  • @DtroytDave
    @DtroytDave Рік тому +3

    9:51-10:17 PURE GOLD
    This is a game you gotta play so while reading the rule book will definitely cause anguish about previous blunders (especially if it was a dissolved marriage with kids) it will allow you to create a much better strategy for all future moves in the game. Fortunately for us men, how much better do we look to a previous opponent/partner when we ACTUALLY KNOW how to play? Im now 4 years into the psychology of required male dominance in a fulfilling relationship and im happier than ive ever been. Im in the stage of leading my exes emotions when i see her briefly to get/drop off my daughter. Last week, she was so upset she didn't even say goodbye. Ive become extremely nonchalant and difficult to please in any interaction since we know that everything is a test after overemoting. The funny thing is while i don't really know, i know she'll attempt to reconnect and im having so much fun in the meantime. There was a point i was disgruntled with understanding the rules but now that ive seen success, I LOVE THE GAME! Hang in the gents... either she will be back or a new, better option will. Its literally a win/win for us men.

  • @ivanpetricevic3893
    @ivanpetricevic3893 Рік тому +1

    I've been on a spiritual path for 9 years. Thousands of hours of asanas are behind me. I've read A LOT. But, I've never encountered someone from the west who explains spiritual path and it's consequences on the practitioner so brutally accurate like Orion. If you start, better finnish. Nothing is more true than that. Absolutely love his content. I envy him how smoothly he explains cold hard truths about women and staying calm and understanding about it no matter how brutal it is. Thank you my man.

  • @farhidahmed4473
    @farhidahmed4473 Рік тому +9

    A must needed video for a lot of young guys out here.

  • @naro7877
    @naro7877 Рік тому +1

    Bro I’m 30 years old i have came a long way in my development and listened to many people on UA-cam and in life, and your videos are by far the most transformative.

  • @fronttowardenemy9994
    @fronttowardenemy9994 Рік тому +7

    The red pill rage comes from the loss of time and resources men feel because of the lies society/family/religion fed them. When you followed all the so-called 'rules' in good faith and still find yourself being burnt, it's hard not to be angry. But there is no point being angry at females, any more than there is being angry at a barking dog. They are just doing what they do.
    My rage was more directed at the lack of honesty from those whom I trusted for life advice/direction in my youth. I wish I had have had honest red pill content as a young man as my life would be completely different now and I urge all men to spread the word.
    You can either love women, or understand them, but not both.

    • @mikeoms
      @mikeoms 2 місяці тому +2

      Agree. 20 years of my life have been wasted learning some very hard lessons. If only there had been some proper role models during my youth that could have at least pointed in the right direction… not pointing you down the path of misery.

    • @Cherry-on-top-6
      @Cherry-on-top-6 Місяць тому

      As a woman, I can say the exact thing. Interesting huh?!?

  • @jlcarlson9203
    @jlcarlson9203 Рік тому +12

    Women seem wicked when you're unwanted.
    The Doors.

  • @JonGarrett001
    @JonGarrett001 Рік тому +36

    I think your advice is very good overall. The only part that seems off to me is at the end when you said "I enjoy fulfilling effortless relationships with women" which seems like bit of an impossibility since most things, if not all, are hardly effortless with women these days. 😅

    • @dr.jenniferma3914
      @dr.jenniferma3914 Рік тому +3

      He seems to have found the answer.

    • @incogniftoar3943
      @incogniftoar3943 Рік тому

      When you're a king, everyone will voluntarily gravitates towards you. Red pilled person are usually selfish, only focusing to become more powerful king, so in retrospect it is indeed getting easier and easier to keep women around.

    • @alejmc
      @alejmc Рік тому +3

      You are absolutely right on that. Reading the previous comment above, maybe he actually means that he enjoys exactly that, “fulfilling and effortless”.
      If it isn’t fulfilling no enjoyment
      If it isn’t effortless, hence struggles and pains ridden, no enjoyment
      If no enjoyment, no worth pursuing that.
      “Put your efforts on what you mean to enjoy” is the message

    • @Law19157
      @Law19157 Рік тому +4

      Depends entirely on what you're looking for, how you vet for it and where to look.

    • @Volkbrecht
      @Volkbrecht Рік тому +3

      What confuses me is the plural. He always sounds as if he is drawing from a rather large number of experiences, but this in itself would mean that his advice is not all that trustworthy. Because, let's be real here, as much fun as screwing around can be, you tend to get better and more regular sex and and a generally more relaxed life in a good long-term relationship.

  • @Dehvine_
    @Dehvine_ 27 днів тому

    I have to say even before getting red pilled and facing other thought processes that I posses I always knew whether consciously or subconsciously that the only way is forward and I joke about it everyday that I shouldn't have fell down the rabbit hole of deeper thought but simultaneously I know that stopping hurts more than the initial step into ones metamorphosis and life is all about choosing your battles and battles can be reduced to suffering and in that realized suffering is inevitable, and coincidentally when faced with this paradigm the realization of inheriting ones suffering can offset the suffering intrinsic to living albeit not eternally and the burden lifted off your shoulders from facing ones suffering and the suffering provided by the world from living is what to aim for since the burden will always be prevalent and part of that burden can be dealt with and part of that burden cant, so to remove the excess baggage of ones existence is the only feasible answer if you desire to fulfill life's only objective which is to keep living and any rejection of this can only lead to the burden of suffering intrinsic to life complied with the individuals suffering intrinsic to individuals experiences in live can only lead to the destruction of oneself

  • @skiptomylou011
    @skiptomylou011 Рік тому +8

    I don't care for the blue pill or red pill name of social dynamics, but I understand them. It took me a while, and it hurt like hell due to my little boy thinking.
    As you said, the sooner you accept reality for what it is and use it to your favor -- the better. It's not going to change, so why not play by those rules instead of wishing things weren't this way?
    Also this is in essence a way to become a better, more masculine and attractive man. So whether women agree with it or not, it's to their benefit as well.

  • @banished6481
    @banished6481 Рік тому +3

    After years of things not working out in relationships, I find myself in this spiritual journey now. I think I'm reaching the point of acceptance, which to me means reaching the point where I can be alone and be happy.

  • @ryanporter1819
    @ryanporter1819 Рік тому +6

    For me, being red pill allowed me to gain a tremendous amount of self respect while not putting women on a pedestal, and seeing them as sugar and spice and creatures who deeply love and are loyal. I see women as human, not better than my male counterparts and just as conniving and harmful (even more than my male counterparts).

  • @christopherrussey1487
    @christopherrussey1487 6 місяців тому +1

    Extremely well said. It at least opens men's eyes up to realizing that they shouldn't stay in the enraged phase that much of the red pill content will only encourage you to stay in. There are definitely painful truths there. But your heart and perspective have to be oriented right to grow into maturity. I'll share what helped me.
    1) Taking full responsibility for my bad choices that i made in ignorance instead of redirecting anger to women who are also often just as ignorant or more so if the process.
    2) Have grace. If we were born with their same biology, impulses, challenges, etc, we'd likely do exactly what they do and choose versa. We both were dealt a deck we didn't ask for, the world didn't adequately prepare us for, and are making the best of it.
    3) Be grateful of the journey and growth process and not just the destination. Don't just focus on how many life choices you've screwed up in ignorance. Appreciate the mental growth you have earned the process of going through the passions. You're a better man because of it. Lifting weights comes with passions, but that's the evidence that growth is happening.
    4) Realize that trying to hold onto your romanticized delusion was like trying to fit a square peg into a round hole and frustrating yourself. Be relieved that you're freed from that process.
    5) Stop stewing over what could have been and focus on building your best future with the information you have.
    6) Operate in love instead of hate. We're all victims of our ignorance. Hate only makes things worse. Love is the only way to possibly bring more people into reality. A lot of red pill creators can't reach women because they haven't found a loving way to speak their message. And women will pick up on your lack of love from a mile away even before you realize it. If you can't do it, then you have more room to grow, learn, and empathize.
    7) Be okay with people choosing not to "see the light." You can take people to the water, but you can't make them drink. We refused to drink at points in our lives and suffered the consequences of it. But our destiny was our choice and we earned the fruits or lack thereof from it. Allow people to go through their journey their own way and be at peace with them not agreeing with you point for point.
    8) As a man, it's clear how this understanding serves us and our journey. But women are wired with a different path and journey through life. Be humble and appreciate that the learning that i need at the conclusion of my journey isn't what thru may particularly need for their journey. Don't battle with them too make sure they follow your journey of understanding. They have a different game that they have to play and there may be diminishing rewards for them in focusing too much energy on what we need to understand as leaders in our portion of the journey.

  • @avve9001
    @avve9001 Рік тому +4

    Red pill taught me to not be a clingy, simping nice guy who is emotionally attached to girls. It also taught me to self-improve, have an abundance mindset, have a purpose in life (that is not my girl) and to walk away from girls who are disrespecting me. These are definitely changes that will make me a better partner in future relationships and that's why the red pill is a win-win for both genders. Only girls who want to exploit or control men should dislike the red pill.

  • @The-DAWG957
    @The-DAWG957 Рік тому +21

    With understanding comes great pain and confusion. Sometimes too much information either brings you sorrow or it brings you confusion rage and hatred. Other times it will bring peace. But atleast you can understand how too goo forward.

    • @masterblaster1502
      @masterblaster1502 Рік тому +1

      Cognitive dissonance. All part of the process of unplugging from BP soyciety.

  • @rdptll
    @rdptll Рік тому +21

    An important topic for sure. If you are a man who doesn't make much money, it doesn't matter if you've accepted reality or not, you still will be ignored by women. Some men are better off growing out of women and relationships....not out of anger but out of necessity and reality. Women are expensive...Some men can't afford it.

    • @jdobfs
      @jdobfs Рік тому +11

      This is not true. It's not just about money. It's about being the full package. I'm top 3% financially, but I'm far less than average in looks. I might as well be invisible most of the time. You blame what you think is the most impossible to achieve, but to me the impossible to achieve is different than yours.

    • @JB-kx9bx
      @JB-kx9bx Рік тому +3

      ​@@jdobfs Same for me. When I do have interactions with women they dont even do me the courtesy of straight up rejection so I can move on. Almost always end up ghosted.

    • @dwightbrown
      @dwightbrown Рік тому +6

      The affordability of women isn't just money. As Coach Greg Adams says... a man must protect his M.E.A.T.
      What is your M.E.A.T?
      It is your
      Money
      Energy
      Attention
      Time
      Women are consumers of these in varying degrees and you have to be discerning in what you will give them.

    • @Nadox15
      @Nadox15 Рік тому +4

      Its funny I started to cold approach women in 2020/2021 and approached during this year 1000+ women (I was writing my thesis so I had plenty of time + corona xD). I saw all the comments back then and still how a lot of (I am from europe) men say "money is important blabla". I really dont know HOW money would have helped me those situations NOT AT ALL. I got rejected from left to right and vice versa (I am 190cm tall, arabe/german, fit body, average face). I had some success but I had to put in so much effort. I know I could have done better (I was sometimes really nervous etc.) but again, I dont know how 10 $ on my bank account or 20.000.000 $ would have changed my approaches.
      The only think I can think of is, that you probably are a bit more confident because you had huge success. I am pretty sure money can help you a lot of you can establish some kind of connection but within the first 1-2 minutes of the conversation (that are the most crucial I would say) it does not help much for the average women. Of course you could buy a rolex etc. but you will probably attract the wrong type of women.

    • @uhnborhn5032
      @uhnborhn5032 Рік тому +2

      attracting woman has nothing to do with understanding reality, and everything to do with catering your life to what woman value.
      tread carefully

  • @marcouimet9498
    @marcouimet9498 Рік тому +6

    your channel is unvaluable, thanks so much for sharing your wisdom, it really helps to shed light in a nuanced way about dynamics I've been struggling with my entire adult life. I feel like I've been through all the dans stages of first being groomed as a soft man (in some ways) by society, only to get stomped on and then get angry and bitter, to try again, and get stomped on, etc. The pill is only now, in my early 40's, sinking down and starting to integrate. I like that you talk about a peaceful and functionning world view at the end since most commentator, granted they don't have your background, almost never go this far, perhaps except Sarah Dawn Moore. Anyways, thanks a lot for your work, its been helping me a lot.

  • @hgfw9295
    @hgfw9295 Рік тому +6

    I sometimes feel like Eastern men and women lived by the rp standards always. So rp really means coming back to mother earth nature for the western society.

  • @jamesmoore5630
    @jamesmoore5630 Місяць тому

    I agree with you as I am 63, and I started out as an Oblate Monk, and I am transitioning to a world without Christians. I realized when I left the church that this was a 63 year long movement towards enlightenment. I am single as well.

  • @artomatica
    @artomatica Рік тому +3

    >because if you start the process but don't finish it you will be worse of
    Can relate, sometimes I wish I have not started with the work on myself, the road is full of pain, but there is no road back.
    The only way is in progress because the alternative is much worse. The biggest pain is to know the truth and not to change.

  • @stephensharper4312
    @stephensharper4312 Рік тому +2

    Red Pill was THE most important piece of my total transformation in my early 30s. Only point of disagreement is that understanding and acceptance are two different steps, at least in my philosophy. I see what you mean though.

  • @carl_aryee
    @carl_aryee Рік тому +10

    The manosphere needs a guy like you tbh, you’ve been doing really great work

  • @fuzzyfizzix
    @fuzzyfizzix 2 місяці тому

    "It's better to not start, but if you have started it's best to finish." - Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche

  • @bob1380bob
    @bob1380bob Рік тому +5

    So about a year ago I started having heart palputations. It would happen once every month or so, and I didn’t think nothing of it. But then it started increasing in frequency to like twice a week. Finally saw my doctor about it and she found nothing wrong with me. She assured me that it wasn’t dangerous and then asked if I had been more stessed or worried lately. Since palputations are usually a symptom of that… And that’s when I realized I had actually been choking pretty hard on something…
    I decreased my consumption of red pill content and when I did watch it I didn’t let it make me so upset.
    And lo and behold I immediately stopped having heart palputations! And my general mood improved.
    The journey is not over but I think I’m over the worst 😂.
    It has been rough, but I actually feel proud and thankful to myself for having eradicated the SIMP in me and for having improved the relationships with the women in my life.

    • @capricetony
      @capricetony Рік тому

      You must take the Journey in small steps, no going back once started.

  • @ПётрПроценко-б3к

    Around 18 years ago when I was 20 my classmate was teaching me about pickup and NLP he described everything almost right having read so many books all the right ideas including that one that you call the truth of the "red pill". But one thing forgot to mention specifically is that it was about healthy relationship and not about what people think when they hear the word "pickup", like some very Immortal young man seducing lots of women just for the sake of it. So I did indeed understand what he meant by me becoming another person after this study of the subject, but I had misinterpreted at it as me having to become a jerk eventually. So I didn't start 18 years ago. And now I'm 38 years old bachelor, well preserved by the way, fit to a degree, but with the experience in dating like that of an 18 years old.

  • @glennbeard7219
    @glennbeard7219 Рік тому +11

    Thanks so much for the enlightenment. I’m 71 and just learning this. This should be taught to all young adults although that would mean the death of romance. One concept that I find helpful to quell the rage is the understanding that women are the way they are because of evolution. Evolutionary psychology teaches us that these genetically ingrained traits were for most of human history necessary for the survival of the woman and her offspring. Unfortunately it also means that you can’t change them. You just have to adapt

  • @jimjohnson394
    @jimjohnson394 8 місяців тому

    I went down the rabbit hole about 2016, of a year, I was infatuated with the material. It was a rough time with out marriage as I was purging all the lies that society told me and replacing it with harsh truths. Seeing all the talk about how women were caused me to become distrustful and resentful of my wife. And then it happened, I saw that although the world teaches lies, our family doesn't have to be that way. In time, I learned how to incorporate red pill truths into our life at home and strengthen our marriage from that. Took me about 18 months to go through the red pill rage, but I'm better on the other end for it and our marriage is stronger than ever.

  • @techsir8866
    @techsir8866 Рік тому +7

    Have never realized until lately that what seperates me from most of the other people in my life is that i seek after enlightenment. Your input on this one Doc has also helped me with my current day. The information you provide is of very high value. As it relates to myself, I believe from what you have said, the red pill is about 3/4 of the way down. Need to improve more and accept things in life for what they are.

  • @JR41N3
    @JR41N3 Рік тому +2

    I was angry for a while after I left my ex-wife. I was bitter. I won't go into the details because my story is not unique. Now I've accepted that life is what it is, women are how they are. No amount of anger and bitterness is going to change that. I've also realized that I have a lot of self work to do before I will feel comfortable pursuing relationships again. I'm working hard to become the best version of myself before I bother, although I do still start conversations with women regularly to stay in practice lol.

  • @Batosai11489
    @Batosai11489 Рік тому +9

    This is one of the best short discussions about the red pill I've heard. It reminds me of the idea that you shouldn't mistake cynicism for wisdom.

  • @viniciusmorais8931
    @viniciusmorais8931 Рік тому +1

    Way to hit the nail in the head! I too got to a point of believing I'd be better off alone because of the "vicious" nature of the "modern woman". But as you've so elegantly pointed out, I was only halfway through my journey. Now, I see women, as David Deida described, as beings of feminine energy and in what it seemed a sudden change of scenarios, I'm now able to enjoy their company and navigate their complex mindset without burning myself or resenting them in the process. Making a woman feel like one has been some of the best experiences I've ever had and it's all thanks to embarking into the "red pill" journey and dabbing in the black pill philosophy just so I could realize who I didn't want to become.

    • @viniciusmorais8931
      @viniciusmorais8931 Рік тому +1

      @@MarceloHenriqueAlmeida As if anything new was to be taken seriously. Without the such "old school" literature it'd be very hard to navigate the chaotic world of gender studies, men's mental health, social standing and duties. Take as reference Napoleon Hill and Dale Carnegies books. Old as time, still very relevant this day and age.
      PS: To compound on Deidas work, I highly recommend you read "As a man thinketh"

  • @RTFLDGR
    @RTFLDGR Рік тому +4

    6 years MGTOW monk-mode. My non-work time belongs to me alone now. My personal life is fully in my control for the first time in my life. My time is quiet, non-dramatic and satisfying to me. My costs are cut into a fraction of what they used to be (with women and children). @ times I get lonely, then forget about it. Redpill is truth. MGTOW is freedom.

  • @ClinicianwithaMission-TinaGuid
    @ClinicianwithaMission-TinaGuid 2 місяці тому

    Truth is shared in this episode 🙏🏽. I have swallowed the red pill and began to accept what I cannot change about reality. Every day I am more aware of my thoughts and choose actions based on my values. I have invested in my physical and mental health and am told I look 20 years younger due to this self love and acceptance of the ways of the sexual market place. Thank you Orion for sharing your gifts of knowledge and wisdom with us all 🤗.

  • @buckydewit
    @buckydewit Рік тому +8

    I think your analysis applies to the whole process of life, not only men/women relationships. Specially the part that once on a journey of enlightment better go all the way because one might end up stuck in the middle, and that would be truly hard. Thanks and congratulations

  • @johnnyvo9313
    @johnnyvo9313 Рік тому +2

    I took the red pill 8 years ago, and comparatively where I was then as a man to where I am now is night and day. However, it has come at a cost, for instance I am now to cynical when it comes to women and judgemental as well. I need to dial it back a bit in order to fully intergrate the red pill into my personality. This was a great video and I can tell it will help with my journey, the goal of not being angry is a great one, cheers!

    • @jamesdotson1080
      @jamesdotson1080 Рік тому +3

      Judging someone based on their actions and character is an absolute necessity for being able to make sure only high quality people are allowed into your life. On a societal level not holding people accountable and the do whatever you want mentality are both huge problems for the western world today.

  • @CrashLarue
    @CrashLarue Рік тому

    Knowledge comes first, then understanding, finally wisdom, the application of the 2.

  • @KidIndia
    @KidIndia Рік тому +8

    Thankyou for making this video. I made notes on this because I really needed to write down everything you were saying. I feel like I'm half way and I'm genuinely in a lot of pain. It seems like the world is having a great time while i'm internally struggling with my old and new personality and societal expectations.

  • @JimKittell6486
    @JimKittell6486 Рік тому

    This is by far the best description of The Red Pill I've seen.

  • @viralload7086
    @viralload7086 Рік тому +5

    actual psychiatrists talking about red pill now what a time to be alive!

    • @dr.jenniferma3914
      @dr.jenniferma3914 Рік тому

      He's a psychologist.

    • @dwdwone
      @dwdwone Рік тому

      Psychologists I believe but nevertheless true in spirit.

    • @forgottenfuryan
      @forgottenfuryan Рік тому +2

      They all take feminist training wake up

  • @jewelintherough3840
    @jewelintherough3840 8 місяців тому

    It’s awesome that you keep the spiritual realm open based on a variety of belief systems but I do thoroughly enjoy your biblical references.

  • @greymatters14
    @greymatters14 Рік тому +5

    In my experience, the anger/disappointment stage has to be passed through. No way around it. It’s a process.
    Edit: Typo

  • @andrewjones5795
    @andrewjones5795 8 місяців тому +1

    You have no idea how much I needed to hear this. It's made me realise that I'm at that incomplete stage. It hasn't made me angry, just miserable that I've seen the depressing truth. I realise what I need to do. Focus on myself- health, career, wellbeing.

    • @jimjohnson394
      @jimjohnson394 8 місяців тому +1

      Took me about 18 months to go through the RP rage phase. It put a real strain on our marriage. That was in 2016, today, our marriage is better than ever, and my wife is mentioning listening to softball RP content like Matt Walsh and Jordan Petersen.

    • @andrewjones5795
      @andrewjones5795 8 місяців тому

      @@jimjohnson394 Thank you so much for this comment. It gives me hope. Since my comment I've rejoined the gym and been 4 days per week. I hope I'm approaching the end.
      How do you accept the truth and have any respect for your wife though? I'm struggling with it.

    • @jimjohnson394
      @jimjohnson394 8 місяців тому +1

      I have respect for my wife because I know who she is and I can contrast her with the stereotypical modern woman. Modern society is doing what it is doing because we have been subjected to the blue pill ideas for so long that men and women will live the lie and not understand the natural consequences until it is too late. Do you honestly think modern women would behave like the do if they understood that it will probably end with them alone?

    • @andrewjones5795
      @andrewjones5795 8 місяців тому

      @@jimjohnson394 I really don't know what they think. I've definitely been opened up to the idea that they don't think sex outside of commitment is shameful or degrading. And this makes me lose respect for them. I had some conversations with my wife and found that before me she'd given sex to guys who made very little investment. This makes me feel like a chump as I've realised she isn't quite the woman I bought into.

  • @AdrienMelody
    @AdrienMelody Рік тому +11

    Thank you for giving us such a practical and optimistic alternative to the self-defeating redpill narrative. Your content has been enormously encouraging and enlightening to me.

  • @anatriellociucci1224
    @anatriellociucci1224 4 місяці тому

    Very interesting. I took the pill 10 years ago. I had broker up but was enlighted by self improvement. I went solo travelling, practiced many sports until i felt my nature. What i was meant to be and how i wanted my life to be. I now have a healthy relationship. The last step would be moving away from a large city- Rome- and find a suitable lifestyle. I'm still an animal, habitat matters. Apparently i'm a Sigma, which makes the red pill "easy to swallow". These toughts were in me in my 20s already

  • @blueboytv9191
    @blueboytv9191 Рік тому +59

    I think this is the best overview of the RedPill I have ever heard. Rollo Tomassi would approve.
    Also, yes, I can honestly say I too am still choking on the red pill.

    • @robinpickett7618
      @robinpickett7618 Рік тому +10

      It’s a bitter pill but as with so much medicine, it’s worth it. You’ll get there buddy, took me years.

    • @EriPages
      @EriPages Рік тому +7

      With a name like, "blue boy", can you really be surprised you're still choking on your redpilling?

    • @blueboytv9191
      @blueboytv9191 Рік тому +1

      @@EriPages What would be your recommendation?

    • @anisenkrill6179
      @anisenkrill6179 Рік тому +7

      Last week Rollo said he'd never heard of Orion. But I agree, Rollo would like this explanation for it's accuracy. And Rollo's main concern is accuracy.

    • @EriPages
      @EriPages Рік тому

      @blueboytv9191 my suggestion is quit being a b!tĉh and accept reality for what it is,
      Then use that acceptance of redpill reality to enjoy yourself making yourself a better person FOR yourself and future wife & future children.
      Simple.

  • @jaspajones7045
    @jaspajones7045 10 місяців тому +1

    I took the red pill. Showed me truth about women’s ways. It’s also explained previous relationships that failed not due to me. I hope young men smarten up.

  • @hugoh7302
    @hugoh7302 Рік тому +12

    you are spot on with the Red Pill. You have to internalize the Red Pill, in order for it to be put into practice on your day to day.
    Once you see it, you won't go back.

  • @sebastianoquendo8257
    @sebastianoquendo8257 Рік тому +1

    It couldn't be better explained!! Thank you doc. I took the journey many years ago, relationshipwise and mainly the spiritual one, after a 5 years depression. I have come through all the stages you explained on this video. Finally, acceptance, and yet nothing, in terms of reality, has changed: just my personal transformation and acceptance of how truly the world, people and their circumstances and interactions are and really work. Nobody change, unless they are fed up with their current situation, and yet the option is not for everyone, changing is a long painful journey.

  • @ethanjensen7967
    @ethanjensen7967 Рік тому +4

    This is great. I feel like I'm coming out of that middle stage of having the pill half swallowed right now. And you have helped with that

  • @jerrybruckhart9134
    @jerrybruckhart9134 Рік тому

    I am a 57 year old life long happy bachelor, and deeply red pill, it takes A LOT to impress me when it comes to a red pill take, but you good Sir have done just that, thank you!

    • @jerrybruckhart9134
      @jerrybruckhart9134 Рік тому

      @Anthony Manzio Excuse me? No idea what that even means?

    • @jerrybruckhart9134
      @jerrybruckhart9134 Рік тому

      @Anthony Manzio Okay, still not exactly sure, do you mean you think your purpose is to serve/attach to a woman or you CAN'T be a man? If yes, that is called gynocentrism, and it is BULL SHIT. YOU decide what a man is, not society, random women, or your family, YOU! If you would like to learn about a life you never imagined could exist, go to u-tube, Look up Paul Elam and Karen Straughan, they can show you that whole new world.

  • @alpha.sapien
    @alpha.sapien Рік тому +3

    Big facts in this episode. I've tried to explain this to many of my more angry red pill/MGTOW friends over the years -- we can't expect/judge women on not being men, not thinking like us or valuing what we value in a mate anymore than I'd blame a giraffe for only doing/wanting giraffe things.

    • @alpha.sapien
      @alpha.sapien Рік тому +1

      Carry on the good work sir 👏

    • @alpha.sapien
      @alpha.sapien Рік тому

      That said, Western society's Matrix women of today are mostly trash and need an awakening of their own 💯

  • @rollingtinfist
    @rollingtinfist Рік тому +2

    Excellent coverage on the Red Pill. Eight years after taking and integrating the Red Pill, this video is spot on. And yes, Red Pill Rage, is supposed to be a stage. Unfortunately, some men get stuck there, because it can’t be skipped but must be worked through.

  • @performancepotential
    @performancepotential Рік тому +3

    This was an incredible breakdown. Especially the part about enlightenment. If you are still angry about some of the concepts that you’ve come to understand about ‘red pill’ then you need to continue your journey of understanding. And what you fellas will see, is that you need to have a true understanding of yourself and why some of these truths are so triggering