@@benlotus2703 and if you believe the philosophy of true detective that time is a flat circle we'll live the same life over and over again in an infinite loop, terrifying thought.
For those commenting that this doesn't seem like an example of a sad life, you have to understand the clip in the context of the show. Leading up to this episode, we mostly saw both characters living very interesting lives by comparison. Marty had a family, Rust was a former undercover NARC and was obsessed with what he felt was an unresolved major multiple kidnapping/homicides case. When juxtaposed to this scene, you can see there is an emptiness in both men now as they live lives with much less purpose than they had before.
@Roadhouse Bohdi Again, in the context of the show, that's not how THESE characters felt. That may be your personal preference, but the show makes it quite clear that both characters are not in good places compared to their lives 10 years earlier.
snuke37 Do you really think Rust truly missed anything from his past? Most of what he did look back on in those many quiet moments of reflection probably only brought him pain. Rust definitely didn’t have any problem getting company if he tried. Point was he was happier not trying and probably focused most of his mind on some way to eventually crack the case open. He was a true detective, always had been and now his life was so completely barebones that he didn’t have to pretend otherwise or let anything that wasn’t important to him get in the way of his stability and moonlighting as an investigator. Same goes for Marty. Yes he probably preferred his life beforehand but also had a lot of the same feeling looking back on his mistakes and knew it was only himself and his weakness that led him there and if that’s where he led himself he couldn’t really complain, couldn’t really do anything but embrace it. He spent so much time pretending he was nothing like Rust until he ended up in the same boat, only Rust saw it coming and buckled himself in sooner. Marty could’ve probably worked and worked and worked and gave it time and more time and maybe got Maggie and the girls back to some extent but he was content. Rust lost his family by chance and you can argue Marty lost his through hubris. Yes it’s a sad acceptance nobody denies that, but in many ways there’s something vastly more realistic with them actually coming to a somber peace about their ultimate situation.
You are partly right. It also represents a time in their lives absent of chaos and conflict. An opportunity for deep self-contemplation, reflection and growth. Of ordering their thoughts and emotions. Coming to grips with their past. It is sad... but it is a necessary process.
@@hafirenggayudain real life Marty get’s a new wife. Then cheats on her to and the same happen’s again. At the end this type get’s addicted to sex workers also at old age. A toxic , but not uncommon type of man
I live alone like these 2.I am 69, Viet Vet, decent VA pension, ex cop, 5 kids. Separated 20 odd years ago never seen her since, kids drifted away to their mother. They have great lives. All you wish for is that your kids are healthy and happy even if they don't contact you anymore. I live in a country town left the city, watch the game, dinner in the mornings for breakfast and see all the local old guys like me and the waitresses and get my bit of social chat and human contact. . 2 dogs, build model boats and surf the net. Living alone doesn't mean being lonely. People get that mixed up. I know married people with people all around them yet they are lonely. I am not. When I lived in the city alone I felt totally anonymous and inconsequential. In a country town your not, and your noticed and people know you and wave or say hi and sort of all keep an eye on each other. Best thing that ever happened was the internet. I can see anything I want and get to read all you guys and your comments and smile, get pissed, type responses and communicate. That is healthy. You have to learn to be alone, takes time to know how, but when your there its fine. Having a dog or 2 or a cat or a pet is also the secret. Gives you a responsibility and a reason for the day, and its something alive in the house with you that needs seeing to and looking after and in return it loves you. Women? There are many many great ladies out there and I know one or 2 lol, who, like me, just like a friend with benefits now and then, nothing more, and a thrown in home cooked roast dinner occasionally. when they need a little man help around the house now and then. Life is good. :-)
hello sir i am 24 ,my dad died last year,it hit me very hard,because he loved me like crazy , im a final year nursing student in europe ,my mom lives in india,my goal is to finish my course ,geta job and bring my mom here ...whatdo you feel about my approach ? and about women im ina relationship with a very beautiful girl...but it scares me that i will end up alone.im just very confused ..and i often get dreams with my dad in it
Very good response to the video. I enjoyed reading your post. I'm 35 about to be 36 and I think I'm where you are at. I work and go home. Nothing crazy like before. I also don't have a wife and I can actually say I'm ok with that. Work people are enough of human contact I need at the moment. Anyway just wanted to say I liked reading your post.
You give me hope. About to get divorced. I was scared as hell but I’m at peace with it. Going to follow through as a dad with my 2 daughters and dedicate myself to them and their sense of well being, feeling safe and loved. I envy you. You know who you are. I’m almost there. I hope to find peace in being on my own. Leave the chaos behind. Become the person I use to be. My friends tell me that divorce is a relief. Thank you for furthering my belief that there’s life at the end of this tunnel. Truly, thank you.
“Once you reach a certain age you know who you are. Now i live in a little room out in the country behind a bar, i work four nights a week and in between i drink. And there aint anyone there to stop me. I know who i am.”
Nowadays with this whores who want to be kim kardashian , jobs that pay you shit n demand full time of your life.That life of Rust smells a champion to me.
I think it echoed him eating pasta made by his wife in front of the TV with his family around him in a previous episode. He probably could have eaten that meal at the table with them, but he might have been out drinking or with Beth. So eventually he lost the family.
that is what makes it connect to us. kinda remind me of Cooper from interstallar, you leave your family because you love them, you want to save them, but leaving them keeps you away from showing them love. it feels so unfair to you, but deep inside, you know you are doing the right thing.
Sometimes a life of peace and calm is the best one can hope for. Because, as Robin Williams said: "The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone."
Marty's case is also worse because he's not used to that loner life as Rust is. Other than the cop badassery, they're both very relatable characters and that's another reason why season 1 is so special. The "I wish i erased my memory to experience it for the first time" type.
That was me at age 25. I don't mind it, given the alternative is engaging a society that I think is mostly evil. I just cannot compromise my principles, so very few people meet my standards.
To me the most profound part is Woody's reaction to the frozen dinner. You can sense his reaction to the stale and unappealing aspect of eating a processed meal and missing the *real thing* when he came home to a freshly prepared meal from a woman he use to love.
I'm as introverted as anyone I've ever met, so that life suits me fairly well. A rewarding job, although it is death-haunted, then a quiet home with a friendly and only occasionally meowing cat.
JiggyWatt looks good because you’re not living it. I guarantee you a life that simple and boring will make you depressed within months. Not to mention rust is an alcoholic, that directly messes with your brain chemistry to cause depression and anxiety
I think most people are missing the point. It’s sad for Marty, not Rust. Rust ha what he wants, peace and booze and nobody to stop him from being in his own head, he realized long ago he didn’t want the conventional life and he’s happy the way he is. Marty on the other hand wants to sit at a kitchen table and eat dinner with his family. He lost what he had.
Exactly. Well said. Being alone after losing everything is bad and it is worst if you like to have family around you. It's heartbreaking for Marty but keyboard warriors believe being alone is great
Mart actually looks chill, he's no longer the self proclaimed wild coyote with no ground below his feet, and Rust seems like he hasn't changed at all, he knew who he was before he quit, time has only changed his appearance.
I think Marty's isolation helped him gain some perspective on the sanctity of family and it ultimately made him wiser. It's sad that he had to strip himself of everything he loved in order to learn that, but sometimes that's what it takes to change someone.
@@jananilcolonoscopu4034 well she was desperate because Marty betrayed her too many times. What she did was awful, but its safe to say Marty fucked it all up
The first season of True Detective was just a real treat especially for those of us that were lucky to catch it on the radar when it first popped up. It was equal parts crime procedural/character study/psychological thriller and it worked really well. It was a daring formula to have one director and one writer for all eight episodes but it paid off immensely because it all gelled together, it really felt like an eight hour movie cut up episodically for easier, more enjoyable consumption. It made me want to watch it again to catch nuances and better understanding of the characters and story.
They almost never show the reality of living alone past 40 in shows. Smaller social circle, friends have moved or they're much more busy. Usually these shows pretend there's always sth cool happening, but in really it's a lot of lonely moments. No wonder people stay in bad relationships.
Marty is a family man and is clearly uncomfortable with his post-40 divorced lifestyle. Rusty, on the other hand, is living his hell's paradise, in a complete balance with solitude.
The music at 0:38 makes it 100x better. It’s so eerie and unsettling to see how far one of our protagonists has fallen. I always link this back to Marty’s monologue about inattention, and this scene just drives home his mistakes. Love season 1
It’s worth noting that Harrelson’s character earned this life. He was married to a gorgeous woman and had two great kids and a nice home, and he threw it all away because he couldn’t find a way of compartmentalizing that WASN’T cheating on his wife.
In Rusts defense, it’s understandable why he’s that way considering his history with his daughter. Marty was practically handed everything great and he wasted it
@@billymanziel5666 well yes, but its because his whole life was ruined by tragedy and he doesnt really want to rebuild it. Hence him saying "I know who I am".
genius storytelling, you get so much perspective of a character when you see them bored, going through the other 23 hours that aren’t usually encapsulated in television dramas
Know what mate? If you still have a phone, a couch and money for fast food, there is a pretty good chance to become pretty happy with some relatively minor changes.
That’s pretty much a cops life after a few years. Between the PTSD, the long hours, the shit pay, the destroyed personal life and the stupid policies that make the job harder than it needs to be; you just burn out and pretty much do this for the rest of your life. You stop living and simply exist. Happened to my dad, happened to all his friends, and it happens to the rookies who came in thinking they’d be the ones to change that. It’s a soul killer job. Even if you only last a decade doing it this is what you can look forward too. My God what a brilliant show. The writer clearly did his research on PTSD and the effects it has. Most of the time it’s very subtle and causes you to isolate from others. It isn’t always crying and flashbacks. Most of the time it’s this. Isolation and closing up around anyone who tries to come close. I grew up around this and it’s freaky to see this on screen portrayed so well. My hats off to the writer and both actors. Bravo
This is my favorite scene in TD1. It has nothing to do with the case at hand, but I love how it cuts away to just showing how they live their lives on a daily basis. I didn't think it was sad at all, but it really humanizes and shows their characters, it shows they are aren't 1 dimensional super heroes, but regular normal humans like the rest of us. Its a good change of pace from constant action and the constant forward moving of other shows.
It’s honestly quite crazy how this show not only resonated with me more than any other I have seen, but that it actually changed me as a person and had me evolve into the person I am today.
Due to genetic cardiac hypertrophy, I died and was resurrected at the age of 36. Then again at the age of 48. But there are people on this earth in wheelchairs, so I count myself lucky that I can still walk and work normally, but I just can't do cardio work at the gym.
That's a generalization. There's men who can't be alone. They too seek validation and attention. They search out the company of a woman to boost their self esteem.
@@Jay890307 How many of said men have actually been alone and experienced it for what it is, pros and cons? Men in actuality need purpose. That most often manifests in a family. I don't see these characters' love lives benefiting much form the conclusion of the series, but I could easily see a renewed zest for life and drive to move on with such a specter from the past (somewhat) settled.
@@jmass4207 Pros and cons decided I have lived alone for about a year now all by myself no dog no cat nothing but me. If I had more money to get out of an expensive CA apartment, and could afford more things to enjoy my hobbies more etc. It is the best life for a man, better than chasing tail and watching your money fall out of your pocket all your life going towards some k u n t s stomach. That shit is pathetic.
@@lowsi3153 No need to convince me lol, ain't no woman living on my dole till death do us part unless children are involved. And believe that isn't happening unless serious standards have been met. I won't be party to bringing humans into this mess otherwise.
I feel like this is where I’m headed in life honestly. There’s so much loneliness in the world. Loneliness and repetition, just going to work, eating, sleeping then doing it all again the next day. Not having anything or anyone special. Just a life in the background of the universe. Fading away and being forgotten by everyone you loved.
that is the whole human race, we are all born alone, and will die alone. Emptiness for all eternity. Void. The earth could vanish and universe would keep going on like nothing happened.
@@manuelmateo3392 I did. I’m at Berkeley right now. I have friends and am currently enjoying a nice sandwich and coffee. I have somewhat turned it around. I feel good.
There was a time where I wanted to be more ignorant but honestly, I think knowing, truly knowing who own is and what one desires, there is a power in that for ones own life that is hard, even impossible to match.
The saddest scene to me was when Marty was talking about how the future is behind him, like it's always been behind him as scenes of him and his family are shown
Small beer bottles. It's not hard liquor. What is it about Protestant cultures that thinks a bag of small beer bottles is (for better or worse) impressive?
So, this will sound weird but hear me out. If you want purpose, I recommend politics. It’s like an endless game of constant problems that keeps you on your toes, even though the tone is rough and it’s rigged from the start. But maybe there is more to it. Watch "little dark age" memes about different civilizations. Their intros are sometimes a bit odd but there is a reason why nationalism is so popular all across the globe. It’s gives people a purpose, a meaning, an identity and a community. But trust me, the true meaning of life is not important as it doesn’t exist, what’s important is to be able to create a meaning or to find one that fits yours. It can be a simple as to make a good dinner or to literally try to change the entire world. But meaning is actually also something that we take too philosophical a lot of the time. Being alone makes you sad if you are not content with your life ( for instance, no girlfriend even though you want a romantic relationship or a boring job or something else, can be bigger, can be smaller ) but as a result, what you need is usually not simply a purpose. You just need to find out what makes you happy and then try all in your power to get it. I am assuming a lot here but I had a lot of time to think about my life and the lives of others and being without a purpose is almost always symptomatic for people who are not… Whole. We lack something or someone and deep inside of us, that makes us think that we actually need something to look forward to but I don’t think we do, what we really need is to either accept or change our life until we like living it on a basic level. Being alone is only fine if you are happy with being alone and most people aren’t. But again - not because they lack a higher purpose or even a goal but because they haven’t reached much more human basic stuff. You know these pyramids about things we need to be happy? Google Abraham Maslow. I get what you are trying to say when you bring up purpose because I used to frame it the same way but I think, I ( like you are probably now ) was wrong because I thought that I needed this thing to motivate me when all I really needed was stuff. Maybe, because I already knew what I wanted to do with my life ( to be happy as an actual goal ) and am pretty much just trying to get to this goal in the easiest way that is available to me. But I think we actually all just want to be happy. Well, some exceptions are always there but you get what I am trying to say, right?
@@ATX-js1to Occasionally. But it’s also often times fun as hell and to me, it never gets old. Also, if you neglect it, others do it for you and why you do not want that is explained quickly with a just two names that will ring a bell for many people, Hitler & Stalin. So when you live in a democratic national and do not involve yourself with politics, some people say that this is fine and dandy. And while there may be good reasons, the reality of it is that ultimately, if certain people value their freedom so little, others will come and take it away.
Living alone can be really peaceful with the right mind-set. Lol I used to worry that I would end up like that when I was a little younger, but over the past few years I've learned to appreciate the plus side to that and now its gotten to where I even prefer living alone.
Watched the first season yesterday after a gap of 10 years. Never imagined I would live this scene in my life. Hopefully things will change because a man should never give up.
Rust was always a loner. Not necessarily lonely but a loner. Pessimistic, critical, tended to drive people away or wear them down. "Now I live in a little room, out in the country behind a bar. Work four nights, in between I drink. I know who I am. After all these years there's some victory in that." Marty had a family, a teenage sweetheart he married and two daughters. There definitely was love. And laughter. He went as far as to observe (about Rust), "beyond a certain age a man without a family can be a bad thing." But then he threw it all away. He lied and cheated and got caught. Then he lied and cheated and got caught again. His wife slept with his partner to get back at him. And he lost them both. All these years later he ends up exactly like Rust. But Rust was always a loner. Marty, I suspect is lonely. Hence the title.
I’m 29 and work 2 jobs and moved somewhere away from my friends I grew up with on purpose to be alone. I got used to liking being alone. At least for a while. I feel you can’t truly know yourself and what you really want until you learn to be alone. I have a cat now like you said to have another living thing with me that I’m responsible for. The older I get the more I realize that dealing with another human takes a lot of effort and what’s the point of doing that unless you really love them. Anyways thanks for sharing. Hope you’re enjoying your life. God bless.
I mis this I don't know why id miss this but that feeling that feeling when i first watch this..cant go back again afraid i might lose my life over how much feeling this season gave me man...
Rust always lived the "simple life" in some way, always to himself and not very social. Marty's life does a complete 180 and ends up becoming lonely and depressed. Such a great series, fantastic acting from both actors.
I am away from my home I am 22 most of the people in my age finished studying and they are now working I live a quiet life .Not seeing anyone right now. I like to read books and play video games I sleep early it helps me concentrate in the day I kinda like this life .it's predictable safe For anyone who reads this I hope the life you want and appreciate
@@emmaloneBiker I quit porn and video games altogether and my life has improved tremendously. I am an introvert with friends I don't really count to be my friends, so I'm pretty much alone all the time besides my family. It does get very lonely and sad at times, but it helps to do the things I love, like reading, watching something interesting, cycling, jogging, learning to cook. I had a trauma roughly 5 years ago that I've since been recovering from (psychological) and am therefore unprepared to settle down and have a relationship, as I don't know what I want, but the thing that helped me most recently was figuring out what I don't want, which is to continue this unhealthy cycle of porn>video games>netflix>sleeping late = waking up late>junk food. It's a long way ahead of me and I still have many things to sort out, but it's definitely a good start and I would recommend it. Good luck man :) *EDIT* I am 22 as well btw and haven't studied anything yet, only worked on many jobs I got fired from and am now unemployed at my parents.
I'm 56 but I still know exactly what it was like under 25 cos I wrote it all down at the time. The one lesson: bad habits can be outgrown ... and on the same theme don't waste your time on people with messy lives.
@@iangpark sometimes it takes a bit of time ... so people should set realistic, non-miraculous goals (and not just for investments :-) ..... e.g. I gave up smoking by counting the cigarettes... the last year of that, I was down to 27 in seven months... then it was over.
@Mitsi Grabblerberg is your family still alive ? because if it is you are not fully lonely And for the friends you really shouldn't beat yourself because you will always make new friends Just look for people that you share something with Oh and by the way remember "Your sanity relies on people but not your happiness"
This is my life. And honestly, it's not that sad. What's sad to me is two people who force themselves to be together and miserable because they're afraid of being alone.
I used to work with a lot of guys who were unhappy in their relationships and it was kinda sad looking at them. We used to work in a different country so were working like a month and then we stayed like for a week at home. Those men were happy when we finally went working and they didn't have to be with their families. Drinking alcohol every day, cheating on their wives etc. Really don't see a point to have a family if you live like that.
@@vlcince I don’t see it either but at the same time, I also don’t see the point in not at least occasionally trying to find some company, be it romantically or just socially. Living alone is… Lonely. There are people who like being extremely isolated but there is a reason why so many societies punish prisoners with isolated cells. I lived alone and together with people and while not all together was good or preferable to being alone, some of it was so much better that I am still trying to get back to it every day. Most people don’t need much to live good life’s but there are some things nearly all of us need, at least from time to time. Like, a good, old fashioned hug. Seriously. Wouldn’t want to miss it.
@@vlcince maybe they weren't happy because they couldn't be a man and take the uncomfortable step of leaving their wives, instead choosing to cheat. Living in deceit, trying to have their cake and eat it too.
I enjoy life better being on my own and with just a couple close friends. I figured that out during the rona. It doesn’t feel “lonely”, it feels right. Natural, I couldn’t explain to an extrovert or an introvert pretending to be an extrovert.
It’s wild when you realize how quickly a scene like this can materialize in your own life. I’m in my mid twenties, live alone now as I moved for work after school. I was a college athlete, long term gf at the time, etc. The scene depicting Marty as he works, goes home, surfs a dating website without any real intention, drinks a beer watching tv, and then presumably does it all again the next day is strangely reminiscent of my life now. The odd thing is I don’t consider myself to be unhappy. It’s not like I sit there and wonder where it all went wrong or something. It’s just strange. What I do wonder is how universal that experience is, and how does one go about shaking up that cycle? Who knows. Maybe I’ll find out soon.
@@vedikapapita pretty well tbh…moved in to a new place with a couple roommates. New job again for the better this time. I guess I did find out soon lol
One gave it up, took it for granted. The other lost it all, wasn't their choice, and refuses to forgive whatever it is he thinks took that life away. The lesson is: that's life, and you do have a choice on how you deal with it
For all the people complaining about the ''sad'' framing: It's the title of this video that marks it as such. The original scene doesn't imply sadness or happiness. It just shows you as is. Yes, the music is a bit melancholic, but to me it holds a neutral beauty as its own. The viewer interprets different emotions to this scene. Thats why this show (and scene) is so fucking brilliant
@@Gallboynarossan They're talking. Rust has Marty and Marty has Rust. And they're tangled up in this unfinished business both understand needs to be resolved before they can move on. This scene only reinforces the saying. No man is an island.
@@FoxMonkey-xw5yf That's the big irony - have you ever asked why men put aside those things? They sacrifice their emotional security so that their children can instead have emotional security - and once that has been achieved they, in turn, receive emotional security. They give up their childhood so that they can regain their childhood.
“I can be hard to live with…You know, I don't mean to, but I can be critical. And sometimes I think I'm just not good for people, you know, that it's not good for them to be around me. You know, I wear 'em down, you know, they…they get unhappy.” “Yeah, I think the job does that to a lot of guys. Changes you. Some guys just notice, that's all…” “Well I can't say the job made me this way. More like me being this way made me right for the job. And I used to think about it more, but you know, you reach a certain age, you know who you are. Now I live in a little room out in the country, behind a bar. Work 4 nights a week; in between, I drink. And there ain't nobody there to stop me. I know who I am. And after all these years, there's…there's a victory in that.”
I never wanted to live alone, but man, 40 is creeping up on me, no wife, no family. I can't say I enjoy it or I'm at peace with it, but I háve been alone for so long now, I kinda don't event know how to be anything else. I was in love a few times, didn't work out long term, and I don't want to settle down with someone just out of necessity. I just hate this idea still. An ex gf is getting a divorce after 10 years of marriage, her husband she chose over me is leaving her, and she is so desperate, she so hates the idea of finding someone new at this age, now she wants me. But I just can't do it even though I too feel too old to meet someone new, I just don't like the idea of being someone's backdoor. And the images in this scene terrify me even though I realize I'm heading this exact way.
I feel you brother I’m in the same boat. I refuse to be another woman’s second option. Couldn’t live with myself if I became that. The only thing I got going for me is that I almost never feel lonely despite being alone most of the time. Just hang in there and find things to pass the time.
Wow, good eye. I never noticed that though I've seen this whole season four times. I guess Marty has always been a liar, to everyone around him, and worse, to himself. Great show.
If theres one simple thing i can speak to as a comforting part of my routine after about 5 years of solo living, it is cooking. Cook my dear friends. If you love your solitude, theres something about eating piping hot food everyday that you made by your own self. For us solo men, it is God tucking us away for the night with a decent meal and a peaceful mind. In a world thats increasingly chaotic, this truly is a blessing.
In the context of the show, I think that this montage basically represents what their entire lives were leading up to, and this lifestyle is the logical conclusion to it. Cohle’s life was over before the show even started, and Marty’s life was heading that direction with his troubled marriage and the general dysfunction of his family life. Both these guys surrounded themselves with dead people and the solitary lives that they live now is pretty much just them living with ghosts. Cohle lives with the ghosts of his ex-wife and dead daughter, and Marty has to think about his broken marriage and family every time he’s home alone. But most significant is the fact that both of them have to live with the knowledge that they still hadn’t solved those murder cases even after all those years, and frankly, that’s why the ending of this show was so satisfying.
What a fucking great show (The first season should exist as a mini TV series and should not be connected to anything that came after). I watched it twice over in the space of a few weeks and I'm going to watch it again, over and over, i just know it. The depths that it takes you into evil and darkness, all to give you that gorgeous, simple, emotional ending. What integrity and what an impact this show has. One of the best things ever filmed in the history of cinema.
I watched this 7 years ago and thought “how sad” now I’m living it
It's magic, eh ?
Time flies I watched this in 2014 when it came out now it's 2021.
@@karldilkington8802 Days run away like wild horses over the Hills
@@benlotus2703 and if you believe the philosophy of true detective that time is a flat circle we'll live the same life over and over again in an infinite loop, terrifying thought.
Me too, how amazing… Had it all, lost it all. Now I’m trying to recover still.
For those commenting that this doesn't seem like an example of a sad life, you have to understand the clip in the context of the show. Leading up to this episode, we mostly saw both characters living very interesting lives by comparison.
Marty had a family, Rust was a former undercover NARC and was obsessed with what he felt was an unresolved major multiple kidnapping/homicides case.
When juxtaposed to this scene, you can see there is an emptiness in both men now as they live lives with much less purpose than they had before.
snuke37 you nailed it.
@Roadhouse Bohdi Again, in the context of the show, that's not how THESE characters felt. That may be your personal preference, but the show makes it quite clear that both characters are not in good places compared to their lives 10 years earlier.
snuke37 Do you really think Rust truly missed anything from his past? Most of what he did look back on in those many quiet moments of reflection probably only brought him pain. Rust definitely didn’t have any problem getting company if he tried. Point was he was happier not trying and probably focused most of his mind on some way to eventually crack the case open. He was a true detective, always had been and now his life was so completely barebones that he didn’t have to pretend otherwise or let anything that wasn’t important to him get in the way of his stability and moonlighting as an investigator. Same goes for Marty. Yes he probably preferred his life beforehand but also had a lot of the same feeling looking back on his mistakes and knew it was only himself and his weakness that led him there and if that’s where he led himself he couldn’t really complain, couldn’t really do anything but embrace it. He spent so much time pretending he was nothing like Rust until he ended up in the same boat, only Rust saw it coming and buckled himself in sooner. Marty could’ve probably worked and worked and worked and gave it time and more time and maybe got Maggie and the girls back to some extent but he was content. Rust lost his family by chance and you can argue Marty lost his through hubris. Yes it’s a sad acceptance nobody denies that, but in many ways there’s something vastly more realistic with them actually coming to a somber peace about their ultimate situation.
Lol "seems like a good life, you play fortnight as late as you want..".
You are partly right. It also represents a time in their lives absent of chaos and conflict. An opportunity for deep self-contemplation, reflection and growth. Of ordering their thoughts and emotions. Coming to grips with their past.
It is sad... but it is a necessary process.
It's important to neither despise nor romanticize the life that's depicted here.
Everybody sleeping on the wisest guy in this comment section
Kinda hard to romanticize it.
@@PatrickPierceBateman you’d be surprised the extent to which lonely desperate men can lie to themselves.
@@jasonmesser5772 It's a survival mechanism.
Well said.
It's not the loneliness, it's the emptiness.
Rusty seems more content with his emptiness, or probably more used to it than Marty
@@hafirenggayuda He just knew it was there. Doesn't mean he's a fan.
@@hafirenggayudain real life Marty get’s a new wife. Then cheats on her to and the same happen’s again. At the end this type get’s addicted to sex workers also at old age. A toxic , but not uncommon type of man
@@hafirenggayudamy theory is that he just accepts it,
that's deep man, thank you. Makes even more sense if you know the two characters in their life "before" this part.
Their friendship is finally building, it's actually heartwarming
I live alone like these 2.I am 69, Viet Vet, decent VA pension, ex cop, 5 kids. Separated 20 odd years ago never seen her since, kids drifted away to their mother. They have great lives. All you wish for is that your kids are healthy and happy even if they don't contact you anymore. I live in a country town left the city, watch the game, dinner in the mornings for breakfast and see all the local old guys like me and the waitresses and get my bit of social chat and human contact. . 2 dogs, build model boats and surf the net. Living alone doesn't mean being lonely. People get that mixed up. I know married people with people all around them yet they are lonely. I am not. When I lived in the city alone I felt totally anonymous and inconsequential. In a country town your not, and your noticed and people know you and wave or say hi and sort of all keep an eye on each other. Best thing that ever happened was the internet. I can see anything I want and get to read all you guys and your comments and smile, get pissed, type responses and communicate. That is healthy. You have to learn to be alone, takes time to know how, but when your there its fine. Having a dog or 2 or a cat or a pet is also the secret. Gives you a responsibility and a reason for the day, and its something alive in the house with you that needs seeing to and looking after and in return it loves you. Women? There are many many great ladies out there and I know one or 2 lol, who, like me, just like a friend with benefits now and then, nothing more, and a thrown in home cooked roast dinner occasionally. when they need a little man help around the house now and then. Life is good. :-)
hello sir i am 24 ,my dad died last year,it hit me very hard,because he loved me like crazy , im a final year nursing student in europe ,my mom lives in india,my goal is to finish my course ,geta job and bring my mom here ...whatdo you feel about my approach ? and about women im ina relationship with a very beautiful girl...but it scares me that i will end up alone.im just very confused ..and i often get dreams with my dad in it
Very good response to the video. I enjoyed reading your post. I'm 35 about to be 36 and I think I'm where you are at. I work and go home. Nothing crazy like before. I also don't have a wife and I can actually say I'm ok with that. Work people are enough of human contact I need at the moment. Anyway just wanted to say I liked reading your post.
You give me hope. About to get divorced. I was scared as hell but I’m at peace with it. Going to follow through as a dad with my 2 daughters and dedicate myself to them and their sense of well being, feeling safe and loved.
I envy you. You know who you are. I’m almost there. I hope to find peace in being on my own. Leave the chaos behind. Become the person I use to be.
My friends tell me that divorce is a relief. Thank you for furthering my belief that there’s life at the end of this tunnel. Truly, thank you.
great story. thanks for sharing
This was very heartwarming to read and I think you have a very special life.
“Once you reach a certain age you know who you are. Now i live in a little room out in the country behind a bar, i work four nights a week and in between i drink. And there aint anyone there to stop me. I know who i am.”
Nowadays with this whores who want to be kim kardashian , jobs that pay you shit n demand full time of your life.That life of Rust smells a champion to me.
@@RodrigoBassoM1986 just buy a revolver..it'll save you time
Past a certain age, a man without a family can be a bad thing.
know who I am. And after all these years, there’s a victory in that.
@@RodrigoBassoM1986 you sound dumb.
"Saddest montage ever"... This is pretty much my life.
Ha ha I was just thinking, that's just a real life montage.
Dude, same
Me too brother
So . . . When's the next happy hour?
LOL dude dont' say that i don't need to go on youtube and see someone that has the same life as me
What's weird is I felt more sadness for Marty eating a shitty TV dinner alone than almost anything else.
Same
Correct. Sad
Same man. Nobody should be spending their nights like that
Shit I bet that was the best part of his day tho lol
I think it echoed him eating pasta made by his wife in front of the TV with his family around him in a previous episode. He probably could have eaten that meal at the table with them, but he might have been out drinking or with Beth. So eventually he lost the family.
That montage is an accurate depiction of the average UA-cam commenter's future
haha good one
MrJacktheGC123 its my life at 40bro. Better really
Present, FTW. As Rust says, there's a Victory in that.
"No girlfriend. I go to work, go home"
@@knightstormbringer No wife, happy life!
It's not sad. It's reality.
Therefore, reality is sad. If we keep looking into it from our fantasy worlds of course ;)
Reality Is sadness
that is what makes it connect to us. kinda remind me of Cooper from interstallar, you leave your family because you love them, you want to save them, but leaving them keeps you away from showing them love.
it feels so unfair to you, but deep inside, you know you are doing the right thing.
reality can be sad
Fucking-a.
Sometimes a life of peace and calm is the best one can hope for. Because, as Robin Williams said: "The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone."
admtech69 preach!
Marty is fucking miserable, though. That's the point. He yearns for more and misses his family. Hence, the online dating sequence...
Marty's case is also worse because he's not used to that loner life as Rust is. Other than the cop badassery, they're both very relatable characters and that's another reason why season 1 is so special. The "I wish i erased my memory to experience it for the first time" type.
So relatable that it hurts.😥
"Sometimes a life of peace and calm is the best one can hope for."
Yes. Comfortably Numb FTW!
That's the single life once you past 40.
Not so bad, unless one is an extrovert. I'm as introverted as anyone I've ever met, so that life suits me fairly well.
30 if you're female.
Torgo1969 ur so fucking introverted yet u keep telling every single person who comments about ur life
+askaka I'm getting better...
That was me at age 25. I don't mind it, given the alternative is engaging a society that I think is mostly evil. I just cannot compromise my principles, so very few people meet my standards.
To me the most profound part is Woody's reaction to the frozen dinner. You can sense his reaction to the stale and unappealing aspect of eating a processed meal and missing the *real thing* when he came home to a freshly prepared meal from a woman he use to love.
nobody's stopping him from ordering in and cooking something delicious himself
@@minotaur55thats very true. However big difference when you can sit down with a family and eat a home cooked meal.
@@minotaur55 go back to r/twox
Knowing Woody, it’s just the eating meat part - which is surprising considering there’s no meat.
He reacted the same way to that TV dinner as he did to that baby in the microwave. Same look of absolute disgust. 😂
"We have no Great War. No Great Depression. Our Great War’s a spiritual war… our Great Depression is our lives" ― Chuck Palahniuk, Fight Club
Our great depression is Coronavirus, so it will be its consequences.
everything happening this year plays a part of that movie, masterpiece
@@shanewalsh620 shut the fuck up
I am the way, the truth and the life.
- JC -
One of my favorite lines from any book.
To be fair, I think Rust is doing alright. Simple life of beer, smokes, and reading a book as the sun sets.
That's the life I want for me, actually.
I'm as introverted as anyone I've ever met, so that life suits me fairly well. A rewarding job, although it is death-haunted, then a quiet home with a friendly and only occasionally meowing cat.
JiggyWatt looks good because you’re not living it. I guarantee you a life that simple and boring will make you depressed within months. Not to mention rust is an alcoholic, that directly messes with your brain chemistry to cause depression and anxiety
I've spent 3 months in Scotland just smoking and drinking at my window while reading, it's not a healthy nor a cool life
+Jb Lnds Cut out the drinking and smoking and life improves immensely. Witness Trump and Putin and their healthy lifestyles.
I think most people are missing the point.
It’s sad for Marty, not Rust.
Rust ha what he wants, peace and booze and nobody to stop him from being in his own head, he realized long ago he didn’t want the conventional life and he’s happy the way he is.
Marty on the other hand wants to sit at a kitchen table and eat dinner with his family. He lost what he had.
Exactly. Well said. Being alone after losing everything is bad and it is worst if you like to have family around you. It's heartbreaking for Marty but keyboard warriors believe being alone is great
Pranesh Chhajed
Trust me being alone it's not great, it fucking sucks. We all need love.
Unknown user some people aren’t meant for love. Some need quarantine, detachment from the human race. Because people are better off without them
Mart actually looks chill, he's no longer the self proclaimed wild coyote with no ground below his feet, and Rust seems like he hasn't changed at all, he knew who he was before he quit, time has only changed his appearance.
The best talent in this life is knowing what you really want.
I think Marty's isolation helped him gain some perspective on the sanctity of family and it ultimately made him wiser. It's sad that he had to strip himself of everything he loved in order to learn that, but sometimes that's what it takes to change someone.
Cullen Cochran I'm curious about Rust's behaviour when he had a family.
Propably softer but he would still be realistic in things.
@@simon709 I know who I respect more
R u stupid?
He should of kept it in his pants. I got no sympathy for cheaters. Especially asshole cops that throw their weight around.
What Marty taught me: never cheat, because you only get one Maggie
If you're lucky to get a decent,honest ,caring and loyal woman in today's times that is...Very very rare these days...very very rare.
Maggie had issues too. What she did to Rust was reprehensible; she and Marty deserved each other
@@jananilcolonoscopu4034 well she was desperate because Marty betrayed her too many times. What she did was awful, but its safe to say Marty fucked it all up
@@jananilcolonoscopu4034 Cheating twice? He deserved it.
Who wants a Maggie that would fuck your partner?
Job ,car, home, beer, and casual conversation with a co worker..... Paradise
This scene smacked me so hard. It was like I was watching footage of my dad's real life.
the existence of most post-relationship men.
The first season of True Detective was just a real treat especially for those of us that were lucky to catch it on the radar when it first popped up. It was equal parts crime procedural/character study/psychological thriller and it worked really well. It was a daring formula to have one director and one writer for all eight episodes but it paid off immensely because it all gelled together, it really felt like an eight hour movie cut up episodically for easier, more enjoyable consumption. It made me want to watch it again to catch nuances and better understanding of the characters and story.
I love this scene, what makes True Detective so thoughtful, reflective and relatable
i remember watching this at the time and thinking "damn that the realest thing ive ever seen on TV" 🤣🤣🤣
They almost never show the reality of living alone past 40 in shows. Smaller social circle, friends have moved or they're much more busy. Usually these shows pretend there's always sth cool happening, but in really it's a lot of lonely moments. No wonder people stay in bad relationships.
I go home, what you do? I go home :/
So i go home
Go home issac
Marty is a family man and is clearly uncomfortable with his post-40 divorced lifestyle. Rusty, on the other hand, is living his hell's paradise, in a complete balance with solitude.
What about paradise's hell, like T-Rex chasing Adam and Eve, in Christopher Moltisanti's thought experiment ?
Good comment Wils
Exactly complete balance in soltitude
Hell's Paradise, I like that
That was one of the greatest shows of all time
The music at 0:38 makes it 100x better. It’s so eerie and unsettling to see how far one of our protagonists has fallen. I always link this back to Marty’s monologue about inattention, and this scene just drives home his mistakes. Love season 1
i love it, do you know which song it is?
@@nerdinvader6740 Its an unreleased OST: ua-cam.com/video/INYV0QsqRYk/v-deo.html
i also want to know…
It’s worth noting that Harrelson’s character earned this life. He was married to a gorgeous woman and had two great kids and a nice home, and he threw it all away because he couldn’t find a way of compartmentalizing that WASN’T cheating on his wife.
She did moan alot
You could say the same thing about rust. He had the chance to have a life with the woman he was set up with but he pushes her and everyone else away.
In Rusts defense, it’s understandable why he’s that way considering his history with his daughter. Marty was practically handed everything great and he wasted it
@@billymanziel5666 well yes, but its because his whole life was ruined by tragedy and he doesnt really want to rebuild it. Hence him saying "I know who I am".
@@thetruththewayandthelife803😅 yes yes she did
marty cringing when taking a bite of the frozen food is so relatable
genius storytelling, you get so much perspective of a character when you see them bored, going through the other 23 hours that aren’t usually encapsulated in television dramas
Not entirely new.
Our Great War is a Spiritual One.
Our Great Depression, is Our Lives.
"Wow.... yeah that is pretty sad" as I type this on my phone while laying on my couch after just have eaten Wendy's
Wendy’s nuts lol
Know what mate? If you still have a phone, a couch and money for fast food, there is a pretty good chance to become pretty happy with some relatively minor changes.
That’s pretty much a cops life after a few years. Between the PTSD, the long hours, the shit pay, the destroyed personal life and the stupid policies that make the job harder than it needs to be; you just burn out and pretty much do this for the rest of your life. You stop living and simply exist. Happened to my dad, happened to all his friends, and it happens to the rookies who came in thinking they’d be the ones to change that. It’s a soul killer job. Even if you only last a decade doing it this is what you can look forward too.
My God what a brilliant show. The writer clearly did his research on PTSD and the effects it has. Most of the time it’s very subtle and causes you to isolate from others. It isn’t always crying and flashbacks. Most of the time it’s this. Isolation and closing up around anyone who tries to come close. I grew up around this and it’s freaky to see this on screen portrayed so well. My hats off to the writer and both actors. Bravo
The consequences of Marty's infidelity and his inability to seperate his work from family life.
And Rust's inability to let go of the case they left behind in '95. At least when he was with the cops he could work the case with more resources
They seem to lead pretty chill lives. Being content is better than seeming happy.
This is my favorite scene in TD1. It has nothing to do with the case at hand, but I love how it cuts away to just showing how they live their lives on a daily basis. I didn't think it was sad at all, but it really humanizes and shows their characters, it shows they are aren't 1 dimensional super heroes, but regular normal humans like the rest of us. Its a good change of pace from constant action and the constant forward moving of other shows.
The honesty in place between these two characters on full display in this clip. Wonderful acting. Near perfect.
It really is one of the best short series ever made. Perfect from start to finish.
"Saddest" This is the life of 90% of the people out there. That is life.
Lol 90%. Quit being a drama queen
Real human bean
And a real hero
JJJ it’s such a great movie and as a danish I so proud over Nicolas Windings Refn.. 😃🇩🇰
Eggsplain please?
@@seekn.destroy4064 the film Drive
@@MUFFINHEAD1985 who's in that?
I just wanted to take a second to say how good it was to see my fellow brothers dealing with the same things and handling it one way or the other.
This series is amazing. I love how truly different Marty was back in 95 as opposed to now eating TV dinners alone.
It’s honestly quite crazy how this show not only resonated with me more than any other I have seen, but that it actually changed me as a person and had me evolve into the person I am today.
This is just how life ends up for some of us lucky ones
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Sarcasm
Actually I think you can't call it sarcasm if people die from cancer at age 30-40. So it's really about lucky ones.
Due to genetic cardiac hypertrophy, I died and was resurrected at the age of 36. Then again at the age of 48. But there are people on this earth in wheelchairs, so I count myself lucky that I can still walk and work normally, but I just can't do cardio work at the gym.
@@Torgo1969 how was it? I mean... you went 2 times into unconsciousness/nothingness right? Then came back? Hope you're ok now.
As Rust said about men, 'we know what we want, and we don't mind being alone'.
Not men like Marty.
That's a generalization. There's men who can't be alone. They too seek validation and attention. They search out the company of a woman to boost their self esteem.
@@Jay890307 How many of said men have actually been alone and experienced it for what it is, pros and cons? Men in actuality need purpose. That most often manifests in a family. I don't see these characters' love lives benefiting much form the conclusion of the series, but I could easily see a renewed zest for life and drive to move on with such a specter from the past (somewhat) settled.
@@jmass4207 Pros and cons decided I have lived alone for about a year now all by myself no dog no cat nothing but me. If I had more money to get out of an expensive CA apartment, and could afford more things to enjoy my hobbies more etc. It is the best life for a man, better than chasing tail and watching your money fall out of your pocket all your life going towards some k u n t s stomach. That shit is pathetic.
@@lowsi3153 No need to convince me lol, ain't no woman living on my dole till death do us part unless children are involved. And believe that isn't happening unless serious standards have been met. I won't be party to bringing humans into this mess otherwise.
I feel like this is where I’m headed in life honestly. There’s so much loneliness in the world. Loneliness and repetition, just going to work, eating, sleeping then doing it all again the next day. Not having anything or anyone special. Just a life in the background of the universe. Fading away and being forgotten by everyone you loved.
that is the whole human race, we are all born alone, and will die alone. Emptiness for all eternity. Void. The earth could vanish and universe would keep going on like nothing happened.
Well, change it.
@@manuelmateo3392 😂 how's your fantasy world
That's the way it goes.
@@manuelmateo3392 I did. I’m at Berkeley right now. I have friends and am currently enjoying a nice sandwich and coffee. I have somewhat turned it around. I feel good.
I know who I am. After all these years, there's a... there's a victory in that.
There was a time where I wanted to be more ignorant but honestly, I think knowing, truly knowing who own is and what one desires, there is a power in that for ones own life that is hard, even impossible to match.
The saddest scene to me was when Marty was talking about how the future is behind him, like it's always been behind him as scenes of him and his family are shown
Love the fact that Rust is throwing away an industrial bag filled with beer bottles.
who hasn't been there? lol
Small beer bottles. It's not hard liquor. What is it about Protestant cultures that thinks a bag of small beer bottles is (for better or worse) impressive?
@@HandleGF Protestant culture? What the hell are you raving about?
@@georgeaye7535 Cultures, not "culture" but, to be fair, I forgot the holy Buckfast for the likes of you ;-)
@@HandleGFsheesh, you get your kicks out of attacking total strangers? crack on lad
Very interesting that Marty is watching the searchers!
True Detective S1 is the realest thing ive ever watched.. What a show.
dude it’s been five years since i’ve seen this show and i still think about this scene. that’s how fucking sad it is lmao.
The sad thing about life is not having a purpose. Being alone is just fine.
So, this will sound weird but hear me out.
If you want purpose, I recommend politics. It’s like an endless game of constant problems that keeps you on your toes, even though the tone is rough and it’s rigged from the start.
But maybe there is more to it.
Watch "little dark age" memes about different civilizations.
Their intros are sometimes a bit odd but there is a reason why nationalism is so popular all across the globe. It’s gives people a purpose, a meaning, an identity and a community.
But trust me, the true meaning of life is not important as it doesn’t exist, what’s important is to be able to create a meaning or to find one that fits yours.
It can be a simple as to make a good dinner or to literally try to change the entire world. But meaning is actually also something that we take too philosophical a lot of the time.
Being alone makes you sad if you are not content with your life ( for instance, no girlfriend even though you want a romantic relationship or a boring job or something else, can be bigger, can be smaller ) but as a result, what you need is usually not simply a purpose.
You just need to find out what makes you happy and then try all in your power to get it.
I am assuming a lot here but I had a lot of time to think about my life and the lives of others and being without a purpose is almost always symptomatic for people who are not… Whole. We lack something or someone and deep inside of us, that makes us think that we actually need something to look forward to but I don’t think we do, what we really need is to either accept or change our life until we like living it on a basic level.
Being alone is only fine if you are happy with being alone and most people aren’t. But again - not because they lack a higher purpose or even a goal but because they haven’t reached much more human basic stuff. You know these pyramids about things we need to be happy?
Google Abraham Maslow. I get what you are trying to say when you bring up purpose because I used to frame it the same way but I think, I ( like you are probably now ) was wrong because I thought that I needed this thing to motivate me when all I really needed was stuff. Maybe, because I already knew what I wanted to do with my life ( to be happy as an actual goal ) and am pretty much just trying to get to this goal in the easiest way that is available to me.
But I think we actually all just want to be happy. Well, some exceptions are always there but you get what I am trying to say, right?
@@Arcaryon politics is a bunch of bullshit
@@ATX-js1to Occasionally. But it’s also often times fun as hell and to me, it never gets old. Also, if you neglect it, others do it for you and why you do not want that is explained quickly with a just two names that will ring a bell for many people, Hitler & Stalin.
So when you live in a democratic national and do not involve yourself with politics, some people say that this is fine and dandy.
And while there may be good reasons, the reality of it is that ultimately, if certain people value their freedom so little, others will come and take it away.
Living alone can be really peaceful with the right mind-set. Lol I used to worry that I would end up like that when I was a little younger, but over the past few years I've learned to appreciate the plus side to that and now its gotten to where I even prefer living alone.
Alone doesn't mean lonely. People confuse those words. Some people just want to.. yeah.. be left alone. Creepy.. yes.. but..
@@azynkron
It's not creepy...
Whichever lol I don't live alone anymore though. Nothing wrong with living alone...all's I was trying to say.
You coped with it, then.
Let a man walk alone. Without any care or worries. Like an elephant in the forest.
the clinking of those empty bottles in the trash bag hit home
This is my life now, it’s taught me Family is everything because family is the only thing that has meaning.
This scene resonates with so many people cause its a reality for majority of men. Life just becomes a sea of misery past a certain point
Watched the first season yesterday after a gap of 10 years. Never imagined I would live this scene in my life. Hopefully things will change because a man should never give up.
Rust was always a loner. Not necessarily lonely but a loner. Pessimistic, critical, tended to drive people away or wear them down.
"Now I live in a little room, out in the country behind a bar. Work four nights, in between I drink. I know who I am. After all these years there's some victory in that."
Marty had a family, a teenage sweetheart he married and two daughters. There definitely was love. And laughter. He went as far as to observe (about Rust), "beyond a certain age a man without a family can be a bad thing."
But then he threw it all away. He lied and cheated and got caught. Then he lied and cheated and got caught again. His wife slept with his partner to get back at him. And he lost them both.
All these years later he ends up exactly like Rust.
But Rust was always a loner. Marty, I suspect is lonely.
Hence the title.
I’m 29 and work 2 jobs and moved somewhere away from my friends I grew up with on purpose to be alone. I got used to liking being alone. At least for a while. I feel you can’t truly know yourself and what you really want until you learn to be alone. I have a cat now like you said to have another living thing with me that I’m responsible for. The older I get the more I realize that dealing with another human takes a lot of effort and what’s the point of doing that unless you really love them. Anyways thanks for sharing. Hope you’re enjoying your life. God bless.
I mis this
I don't know why id miss this but that feeling that feeling when i first watch this..cant go back again afraid i might lose my life over how much feeling this season gave me man...
50% of men live like this and the other 50% wish they did
Rust always lived the "simple life" in some way, always to himself and not very social. Marty's life does a complete 180 and ends up becoming lonely and depressed. Such a great series, fantastic acting from both actors.
Literally watching this while a hungry man cooks in the microwave, a bourbon and ice and a documentary to watch. By myself. Jesus.
I actually love watching this. It feels like I’m not the only one.
I am away from my home I am 22 most of the people in my age finished studying and they are now working
I live a quiet life .Not seeing anyone right now.
I like to read books and play video games I sleep early it helps me concentrate in the day
I kinda like this life .it's predictable safe
For anyone who reads this I hope the life you want and appreciate
@@iangpark I'm curious, how getting rid of videogames helped you?
I'm asking because im 22 and i am considering quit them too.
@@emmaloneBiker I quit porn and video games altogether and my life has improved tremendously. I am an introvert with friends I don't really count to be my friends, so I'm pretty much alone all the time besides my family. It does get very lonely and sad at times, but it helps to do the things I love, like reading, watching something interesting, cycling, jogging, learning to cook.
I had a trauma roughly 5 years ago that I've since been recovering from (psychological) and am therefore unprepared to settle down and have a relationship, as I don't know what I want, but the thing that helped me most recently was figuring out what I don't want, which is to continue this unhealthy cycle of porn>video games>netflix>sleeping late = waking up late>junk food.
It's a long way ahead of me and I still have many things to sort out, but it's definitely a good start and I would recommend it.
Good luck man :)
*EDIT* I am 22 as well btw and haven't studied anything yet, only worked on many jobs I got fired from and am now unemployed at my parents.
I'm 56 but I still know exactly what it was like under 25 cos I wrote it all down at the time. The one lesson: bad habits can be outgrown ... and on the same theme don't waste your time on people with messy lives.
@@iangpark sometimes it takes a bit of time ... so people should set realistic, non-miraculous goals (and not just for investments :-) ..... e.g. I gave up smoking by counting the cigarettes... the last year of that, I was down to 27 in seven months... then it was over.
@Mitsi Grabblerberg is your family still alive ? because if it is you are not fully lonely
And for the friends you really shouldn't beat yourself because you will always make new friends
Just look for people that you share something with
Oh and by the way remember
"Your sanity relies on people but not your happiness"
For any middle aged divorced guy, this hits home.
Sad? I'm here watching YT by myself every day.
This is my life. And honestly, it's not that sad. What's sad to me is two people who force themselves to be together and miserable because they're afraid of being alone.
I used to work with a lot of guys who were unhappy in their relationships and it was kinda sad looking at them.
We used to work in a different country so were working like a month and then we stayed like for a week at home.
Those men were happy when we finally went working and they didn't have to be with their families. Drinking alcohol every day, cheating on their wives etc.
Really don't see a point to have a family if you live like that.
@@vlcince Agreed.
@@vlcince I don’t see it either but at the same time, I also don’t see the point in not at least occasionally trying to find some company, be it romantically or just socially.
Living alone is… Lonely.
There are people who like being extremely isolated but there is a reason why so many societies punish prisoners with isolated cells.
I lived alone and together with people and while not all together was good or preferable to being alone, some of it was so much better that I am still trying to get back to it every day.
Most people don’t need much to live good life’s but there are some things nearly all of us need, at least from time to time.
Like, a good, old fashioned hug. Seriously. Wouldn’t want to miss it.
@@vlcince maybe they weren't happy because they couldn't be a man and take the uncomfortable step of leaving their wives, instead choosing to cheat. Living in deceit, trying to have their cake and eat it too.
I enjoy life better being on my own and with just a couple close friends. I figured that out during the rona. It doesn’t feel “lonely”, it feels right. Natural, I couldn’t explain to an extrovert or an introvert pretending to be an extrovert.
It’s wild when you realize how quickly a scene like this can materialize in your own life.
I’m in my mid twenties, live alone now as I moved for work after school. I was a college athlete, long term gf at the time, etc. The scene depicting Marty as he works, goes home, surfs a dating website without any real intention, drinks a beer watching tv, and then presumably does it all again the next day is strangely reminiscent of my life now.
The odd thing is I don’t consider myself to be unhappy. It’s not like I sit there and wonder where it all went wrong or something. It’s just strange. What I do wonder is how universal that experience is, and how does one go about shaking up that cycle? Who knows. Maybe I’ll find out soon.
How's life going on mate ?
@@vedikapapita pretty well tbh…moved in to a new place with a couple roommates. New job again for the better this time. I guess I did find out soon lol
@@jlop6822 Hahaha Damn...Enjoy your life bro
Hang in there, brother (not saying you aren't though.) New adventures await you...@@jlop6822
Cause you have youthfullness
Here after recently finishing season 4. Nothing will ever come close to this
One gave it up, took it for granted.
The other lost it all, wasn't their choice, and refuses to forgive whatever it is he thinks took that life away.
The lesson is: that's life, and you do have a choice on how you deal with it
That few seconds at the end is all I want, just sat by a lake or beach completely alone having a cold one 🤗
For all the people complaining about the ''sad'' framing: It's the title of this video that marks it as such. The original scene doesn't imply sadness or happiness. It just shows you as is. Yes, the music is a bit melancholic, but to me it holds a neutral beauty as its own. The viewer interprets different emotions to this scene. Thats why this show (and scene) is so fucking brilliant
A man is an island
Bacons Strip haha exactly. It's actually the exact opposite of the saying
Gallboynarossan the correct saying is "no man is a peepee poopoo"
@Bacons Strip this scene proves otherwise though
@@Gallboynarossan They're talking. Rust has Marty and Marty has Rust. And they're tangled up in this unfinished business both understand needs to be resolved before they can move on. This scene only reinforces the saying. No man is an island.
@@TheElMuffin well when you say it like that
Priceless scene. Love that series 9.9/10
Remember all those dreams you had when you was a kid, all those hopes?
"When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I set aside childish ways."
@@FoxMonkey-xw5yf That's the big irony - have you ever asked why men put aside those things? They sacrifice their emotional security so that their children can instead have emotional security - and once that has been achieved they, in turn, receive emotional security. They give up their childhood so that they can regain their childhood.
I still have them at 23, they never went away!
“The child is grown. The dream is gone.”
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I don't really keep up with television but this season 1 of true detective was unbelievably good. Incredible 👌
“I can be hard to live with…You know, I don't mean to, but I can be critical. And sometimes I think I'm just not good for people, you know, that it's not good for them to be around me. You know, I wear 'em down, you know, they…they get unhappy.”
“Yeah, I think the job does that to a lot of guys. Changes you. Some guys just notice, that's all…”
“Well I can't say the job made me this way. More like me being this way made me right for the job. And I used to think about it more, but you know, you reach a certain age, you know who you are. Now I live in a little room out in the country, behind a bar. Work 4 nights a week; in between, I drink. And there ain't nobody there to stop me.
I know who I am. And after all these years, there's…there's a victory in that.”
lol soon this will be me
shock lol this is my already
Good luck and have fun alone dude haha
Don't mask it with humour
aye u good?
You alive?
I never wanted to live alone, but man, 40 is creeping up on me, no wife, no family. I can't say I enjoy it or I'm at peace with it, but I háve been alone for so long now, I kinda don't event know how to be anything else.
I was in love a few times, didn't work out long term, and I don't want to settle down with someone just out of necessity. I just hate this idea still. An ex gf is getting a divorce after 10 years of marriage, her husband she chose over me is leaving her, and she is so desperate, she so hates the idea of finding someone new at this age, now she wants me. But I just can't do it even though I too feel too old to meet someone new, I just don't like the idea of being someone's backdoor.
And the images in this scene terrify me even though I realize I'm heading this exact way.
I feel you brother I’m in the same boat. I refuse to be another woman’s second option. Couldn’t live with myself if I became that. The only thing I got going for me is that I almost never feel lonely despite being alone most of the time. Just hang in there and find things to pass the time.
Eh.
If he left her, I'm sure he had a good reason to do so...
"The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation."
-Henry David Thoreau
*Married with children and this looks like paradise to me haha*
what if your children were taken away from you? would this still look like paradise?
Maybe do something about it
Still one of the best tv shows I've seen to this day
Hope? Hope is a rope ...
Mike Larkin «Harness your hopes»
This describes many men nowadays. There is a certain peace living like this.
I don't think woody is sad. He got a scene with alexandra daddario in this show
@ScarfaceRampage i actually like the name fart box. Hehe
Hahahaha this is the funniest comment exchange on UA-cam. Hahaha
Did you see his face when he was eating the frozen meal??? He hates his whole life in that moment gahahah
That was a body double, Alexandra's thingies aren't that big
I'd rather see a duck waddle about then her.
If Rust has books (the kind of books Rust would like) then he is far from being alone.
Lol when Marty takes a bite of his TV dinner his face tells us that the meal is awful. Of course it is
haha! so good
Marty in the bar: "I had not tried a drop of alcohol until I talked to you"
Proceeds to drink the whole montage.
Wow, good eye. I never noticed that though I've seen this whole season four times. I guess Marty has always been a liar, to everyone around him, and worse, to himself. Great show.
If theres one simple thing i can speak to as a comforting part of my routine after about 5 years of solo living, it is cooking. Cook my dear friends. If you love your solitude, theres something about eating piping hot food everyday that you made by your own self. For us solo men, it is God tucking us away for the night with a decent meal and a peaceful mind. In a world thats increasingly chaotic, this truly is a blessing.
In the context of the show, I think that this montage basically represents what their entire lives were leading up to, and this lifestyle is the logical conclusion to it. Cohle’s life was over before the show even started, and Marty’s life was heading that direction with his troubled marriage and the general dysfunction of his family life. Both these guys surrounded themselves with dead people and the solitary lives that they live now is pretty much just them living with ghosts. Cohle lives with the ghosts of his ex-wife and dead daughter, and Marty has to think about his broken marriage and family every time he’s home alone. But most significant is the fact that both of them have to live with the knowledge that they still hadn’t solved those murder cases even after all those years, and frankly, that’s why the ending of this show was so satisfying.
A lot of people would trade their lives for this. Sometimes peace and quiet is nice, without drama.
This is not life after 40, this is... ...just life.
BEST scene ! People, music created a gloomy, desperate atmosphere
Me in 5 years.
Will be back to confirm it.
each day you are closer to your dream
@@yuktasingh7766 not anymore :)
@@elmo4672 Fuck you. Happy for you.
What a fucking great show (The first season should exist as a mini TV series and should not be connected to anything that came after). I watched it twice over in the space of a few weeks and I'm going to watch it again, over and over, i just know it. The depths that it takes you into evil and darkness, all to give you that gorgeous, simple, emotional ending. What integrity and what an impact this show has. One of the best things ever filmed in the history of cinema.