Makena Njeri shares her journey of forgiveness || Unscripted with Grace
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- Опубліковано 8 вер 2024
- From pain to purpose. Christine Makena shares her journey of forgiveness.
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Thank you Christine, Thank you for sharing to some of us it's still hard to come out and share. I totally relate to your story. My dad was diagnosed wit HIV back in 2000 though he was not violent but promiscuous and passed on a year later. I was in class 4 when he passed on and I really didn't understand what was happening. In shags at school other people could mock me and laugh at me and I even hated going to school. Mum could also not face me and tell me that she was also sick though she could go for monthly clinics.A year later I found a document in mum's handbag which had her Hiv status written on. And every day I was scared that I will lose her. I was afraid that when I go to school she will be dead by the time I came back. That made me to cherish every moment with her and remind her to take her meds and to eat a balanced diet even though it was not always available. But thank God because she is a strong woman and He Has kept her so far. fast forward years later and she is still alive and healthy and she even has held my son her grandchild and I can't wait to see what God has still in store for her bcoz He is not yet done with her.
Hugs darling 🤗😘😙
God is faithful in all situations. Glory to Him for preserving your mother all this while. Long live your mama
Long live your mama.
Long live your mama
Wow ! I love your faith. God is still not yet done with her... for sure we serve a true God who is full of Grace and mercy.
Dear Makena,
I am really sorry for everything you had to go through. I am your friend from home and I feel so bad that I looked at you those days and I never understood you. I really would have wanted to know more about you but you were older and I thought.. maybe it was just the age difference.. You never really made friends as much with people even in church. You led us through the youth services.. But now that I know this, everything adds up. Everything. I am so sorry. I wish I knew better I would have visited you..let you sleep at our home even. Just know that our home is your home if you ever feel the need to bring back the good beautiful memories. You are a strong woman Christine. You are a very strong woman. You deserve nothing but all the happiness you ever missed out on. The love.. Everything. You deserve it all Makesh.
2 years later, I am not sure anyone can watch this and not cry while at it!! Sending Makena lots of love.
Ooh Lord Jesus!!!! This is the Makena woiiiii after such a testimony, may be she never healed from inside. Lord have mercy 😭😭😭😭
"The children don't want to see there mother protecting them,they want to see there mother happy". Very true makena
Who am I to judge her sexuality choice.. Be strong Makena❤
Thank you for being a gentle host. You allowed her to tell her story, without sensationalizing it or adding on expressions of shock as other hosts have done. You quietly and gently guided her through, stopping non intrusively when she needed a break & encouraging her to go deeper in the story. Thank you for bringing on such a powerful story of strength and forgiveness.
Sheila Ngumi-Mbugua I agree
Thank you Christine for sharing your story. It so mirrors my own. My dad was a raving alcoholic who beat up my mum from the earliest I could remember. My childhood was a nightmarish one, because any time my father came our mum would definitely take a hit and I was afraid that one day he would kill her. My dad died when I was nine, and on his death certificate the cause of death was listed as HIV. That is when I definitely new that mummy had it as well. So here's the ting, I had spent the past years of my life telling my mother to leave, that we would be alright, that she needs to get away from this monster, but then here he is, dead, and having left mother with a monstrous illness. It took another 5 years for my mother to get on medication, I think she was in denial. Even then, she would skip her meds especially each time she attended these apolistic churches whose pastors would tell her to have faith and she would be healed. So she basically spent her whole life thereafter in hospital. When I was in highschool, I was in a boarding school,and my constant prayer every single night was that he keeps my mum alive and happy. Thank God because she lived for 16 years after my father passed on. On the day that we buried her, neighbours passing by cruelly called our home 'Mucii wa mukingo' meaning 'the home where AIDS reigns'. I wondered if that is what my mums life entailed, constantly hearing endless, cruel gossip about your condition, which your own husband brought to her. Anyway, I have still not forgiven my dad. He is long dead and here I am, very angry at him. May mum's soul rest in peace.
This is me right now! Am so maaad at God!
Hugs dea.shrug off the.naysayers
Your mum was my English teacher for 4 good years, she was such a great and strong woman, my heart hurts to hear she was going through hell back at home and she still managed to handle it to an extend that we always saw a happy ,jovial teacher in her! Your my heroine madam,continue resting with Angels Maa 🙏🙏As for you Tinah,God got you🙏❣❣
Nzungo Junior
My parents divorced five years ago . This got me into depression since I kept it to myself ... Never thought about going through counselling since I was still young and didn't know much about life until mid last year when I broke down and finally went through counselling for three months.... I poured out everything that was weighing me down and the healing process commenced. Today I have a support group which I started early this year in Multimedia University of Kenya ... I reach out to students from broken homes and those who have been through abusive relationships. I encourage everyone going through depression to speak up... Don't die in silence
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The interviewer is 1st off very beautiful and very professional. we got to listen without interuption and unecessary questions. As for Christine, keep the candle burning sister.
so true
She is so eloquent👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️strength is a part of you mamii❤️❤️❤️
Hugs dear one.... My dad was abusive too to my mom and we grew in a very tough home... I hated life cz my mom never talked abt it... I wish msalame i will one day stand and speak my story
Same it applies to we..yenye tulipitia Ni mungu TU..our mom could never talk.
I relate to this story only God knows
I'm so sorry about that. Be strong. God bless you.
This interview made me cry because me and my sisters went through the same thing, especially on the brutality of the father and moving more than 15 times, why are some men like this?? i swore to be the best father my kids will ever get.
Sorry for your experience. May God heal you
This is narcissism... Narcissitic personality disorder... UA-cam it.... You'll be surprised at what you'll find. Its an epidemic!
Your children will be happy to have you for a father
Kafukuswi,
Sometimes I feel I denied my kids a chance to grow up with a father but am encouraged to have made the right choice.
Linet Nyambura,all that is needed is HAPPINESS. Nothing more.Kids are forever innocent and when denied their happiness then that leads to what Makena is facing today.
You made the best choice. Thank you on their behalf
When we were kids, we all admired this family. They looked beautiful. It breaks my heart to hear what the family has gone through. This story reaffirms that we need to do better, we need to be better. I have quickly realised that the world doesn’t want to be fixed, and more so by us. The world asks of us to fix ourselves, to check ourselves and our intentions because most of us reek of toxicity, greed and unkindness and we are drowning this world.
So maybe this world is just fine...we are the ones bleeding it out.
"So may be this world is just fine...we are the ones bleeding it out"
Awesome!
Wow...so damn true!
Absolutely true
Gerald Malik deep!! Love the wisdom and truth herein💜
Hugs Makena((((((()))))))))))..I hope this story talks to all of us, mothers especially, in a deep way. That the best gift we can give to our kids is NOT a father, but a happy, violence-free relationship with that father figure.
Very deep story Makena. Thanks for sharing and well done Grace for bringing us her story.
Makena thank you for your courage. You have touched on an extremely painful subject in Kenya. May we men be wiser and learn to walk away from any form of violence and treat our wives and children with love.
Never judge anyone without digging deeper to their story 😢😢😢😢😢😢u are strong gal makena😢
went to High School with Christine. she was always so jovial I am shocked she was going through all this. I pray she finds peace my dear.
I remember Mrs Mureithi..May she continue resting well
naomy carole yeah she loved visiting her in school. she liked interacting with students also. may she RIP
I knew their Dad..and honestly he wasn't a good man
Gloria Achieng ah I did not know him. like i said she used to mask things so well
@@missdee5718 i knew the family in 2012..i was renting near their home
Watching this in Nov 2020 and I can't stop the tears from flowing 😭. I love you more now Makena.
I cannot believe that I shared so much with Njeri in high school and apparently,we went through the exact same thing,but never told each other. Thanks Njeri.
This moved me to tears, the mum was my hero, I will never forget the day she stood up for me when I was getting bullied in high school. It’s sad she went through all that and had the courage to wear a smile every single day!
My mum should watch this and finally she might leave
I wish it was very easy to move out.
@@sharonkoech6008....at times the difficult moments that one might go through are better than staying around the abusive environment.....due to that environment i cannot stomach men and i don't know how to argue
I hope she does please, if she doesn't she might end up like my mom right now! My family is currently going through the worst of WORST
Never judge ...every person has a story to tell ..
Now I know 😢
Sure I agree with you
Wewe ni shujaa makena.... The greatest gift you gave to your father was forgiveness.. I salute your heroism and faith.
Dzaaaamn! This is so deep especially the "i love you dad but i don't want you to be my father" part,that left me in tears
Wow what a story Makena. Couldnt hold my tears. May the lord help you to heal completely. Big
Up for the campain am sure it will help thousands suffering quietly.
I was in abusive relationship from the 3rd month of marriage to up to until my son was 2 n half years, I moved on and I thank God I healed. Your story is sad
Am happy for you! You're strong
I went through the same growing up my dad beat my mom so much then he stopped drinking when I was 18 then because of Kenyan culture everything is swept under the rug but it came to affect me as a 30 something old woman depression, couldn’t keep a relationship with men. Thank God my hubby found me and loved me through this I get so sad sometimes and anxiety attacks but one day at a time . I moved to the US and honestly forgot about my family. Especially my dad. Yes women leave abusive husbands. And my mom always said she stayed because of us kids doesn’t make sense
....exactly my story, though for me I have never gotten married, anxiety attacks that's so real
Yes, even with my great job at US Embassy I wasn’t financially able so I thought I wanted my kids to continue having that comfortable life in Golden Gate, I was taking them to Riara and Aga Khan Academy! Then I get a work related Green Card and relocated to Washington DC!
After going to night school earned a Diploma in IT and then under graduate through online studies, then MBA and the US Embassy kept my hope alive and kept promoting me in Kenya! In the US, the Americans my former colleagues white and black really have been my SUPPORT system!
Yes PTSD is real and domestic violence in Kenya is very real and the stuff women go through in abusive families is very REAL! Am so sorry Makena for your ordeals!
Am so sorry about your mom! It’s very hard to leave, if my ex didn’t leave I WOULD NEVER HAVE LEFT!
Saw makena trending on twitter. After watching this, I swear I will Never judge anyone
My neighbour and friend Christine, Mrs Mureithi's kids... Remember the moments with you and Kim at Mrs. Mutuas place... I rem meeting you in the lift and felt your situation... Much love sister .
I found this going on on Tv n just sat n listened...Makena keep on keeping on God will continue giving uu strength..
I feel you, being the first born I went through the same n I hated my father todate. I remember one day he threw a jembe at my mum in my presence
I hope you find peace within you. Hugs Ann
My same situation to date
Makena you made me cry because I also grew up with a violent father me being the first born and my two beautiful sisters.I remember we used to hide all the knives in the house before our dad comes home drank just to protect our mum.I also struggled to forgive him but with Gods grace I did..Thanks ,for sharing your story,youve made me strong!God bless you!
Waah I so relate to this story..also grew up in an abusive home and I can tell you it really affected me as a person,my esteem was crushed,I was always quiet,sad,bitter and angry especially when I remember those moments.But God has helped me overcome slowly by slowly..still healing as I live everyday at a time by His Grace!
Christine you are strong and an overcomer having gone through all that.Praying for God's peace,joy and strength over your life.
I have cried waah. May God continually use you to reach those that you need to reach. Thank you for sharing Makena
I'm in tears😢😢it's unfortunate that parents fight in front of their children not knowing how this affects them.
Makena,thanks for sharing and for being so strong..
Grace,thank you for this bring more such guests until people know that children too need their emotions protected.
I could not help but cry. Went through very similar experience for so so so many years. Some events that we even feel embarrassed to discuss. My sisters and I are now ok but still struggling emotionally. Deep wounds that we really struggle to heal from. You have encouraged me, just seeing how strong your are. Thank you for sharing your story.
Story of my Life 😥. I thank God my mum is alive, even though she is hypertensive with one kidney. Thanks Makena, you're a strong woman 💝
This is so so very true...grew up as neighbours and everything Njeri says,is so true. All glory and honour to God that she has come this far...mum is so proud of you today Njeri. Keep blazing on and on and keep the mantle that's your family name high. I'm so proud of you. And take heart,it's the tears and the sorrows of yester years that keeps us grounded in the joys and triumph of today.
Big ups Njeri.
Her name is makena not njeri
@@rosewakariru1075
Makena is her stage name while Njeri is her family name
I love her courage to share her story . Not many can do so for fear of what people will say. I relate deeply. God bless her.
My siblings and I went through similar childhood. I still wake up scared whenever I hear loud voices and banging sounds coz that's what would wake me up as a child. The loud bangs my dad beating my mum...the screams...her blood shot eyes the following morning....Oh Lord😢 there's no healing from this.
@Miss Mumbi hugs
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Hi Makena. I am so sorry for what you went through. I hope you get a wonderful man who will Love, cherish and adore you. May God bring total healing in your life. May God grant you children who will look at you and say, "Yes this is our wonderful mum who is married to our wonderful dad." We love you Makena
I have watched and rewatched this. I admire Makena's courage, I wish I could have even half of it. Thank you for sharing this, it got me closer to another level of understanding of my journey.
Hi Makena this so touching i grew up in an abuse marriage and my mum always encouraged us to pray always love our dad ..it was traumatizing us we would even hide blackest out so that we can have a place to sleep when chased out, we would hide sharp objects to prevent our mum being hurt. Being beaten with thermos on my head there was a time was caned using the stima cable but i remember there is a day i gave out ripe bananas to some casuals who at home and when they saw my dad they hid the pills but they were found i was canned and forced to sleep on cooffe and that was the turning point for my mum. am so proud of what my mum did
Never stay in an abusive marriage for the children,you hurt them some more.
easier said than done. we often forget that a mother (or father, depending on who is being abused) will want to protect you because they fear what the abuser will do to the children. some abusers actually threaten to kill the kids. its such a tricky thing tbh! such a sad story but i hope the system can be tuned to EFFECTIVELY work for victims of domestic abuse. esp in our culture
I agry
@@simplymyra3162 leave with your kids. Do not leave them behind.
Some men are evil if u leave they take the kids or threaten to follow and kill u
I've gone through this walk and I know the feeling. Leaving with an abusive dad who later passed on watching my mum die right before my very own eyes. Watching her health deteriorate day by day. This entire trauma takes a toll on the kids.
My siblings & I are here, just right now
I constantly blamed myself for saying enough is enough of promiscuous marriage, but after listening to your story, i'm so glad i made that decision.
My kids went through a difficult transition but i can gladly say they're happy, healed and no longer traumatised.
Wow wow.... Makena my the Lord give you more grace as you serve him in every capacity in your life.. I loved the story
Thanks Christine fr sharing such a powerful story, may you find peace that this world has never known from our God in heaven
There is a program called ACA or Adult Children of Alcoholics. I saw something about it online. It helps people who grew up in homes where there was alcoholism or some form of traumatizing experience. Some childhood trauma affects people for long periods of time even upto adulthood
Cried the entire time. You're a strong soul no wonder I have a soft spot for you. Bless you 😍
She is a fighter, my dad died when I was 12, I think I have never healed from that, am happy to have watched this
Ghai i have cried like never before...this lady is strong and beautiful.
Have never watched the Unscripted with Msalame but this one, couldn't miss it. Had to listen to this lady and how I wish everyone woman going thro domestic violence can run away for her safety and peace of the children
Makena, i feel you to the bone. I wish i met you in person.
Oh Lord, some of our background experiences.... but thank God we made it through the fire. You are a vessel in God's hands.
The effects of the experiences live on with me but i guess like they say every soldier has wounds to show.....
When you talked about banging of doors.....mehn!!! Every memory in my mind came alive!!
God is with you, He is for you and will always be... make Him your refuge and strength....
You are very beautiful and courageous.
God bless you Makena
Such a touching story,i pray that you will always be surrounded by people that will love you unconditionally..
This story made me cry. I feel her. She's been through alot. I can relate. Great work Msalame!
This is what am gonna do😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭and when am strong enough I will be back to say something one day
Growing in abusive homes is hard...I'm still traumatized to date but hopefully it will get better after listening to your story and knowing im not alone
So strong and courageous, if only I could have even a quarter of that... I have somehow grown in a similar environment. My mum went through emotional and psychological abuse and whenever my dad realised how protective and loving I was to my mum, he could say nasty stuff about her. My mum left home a couple of times and I thank God she did, despite the fact that my brother and I got separated.
I have to say children suffer a lot in abusive marriages and unfortunately all that only projects itself years later, at the least expected season of your life. So for the sake of your children's happiness and yours as well, walk out of an abusive relationship/marriage. Let children have a voice because they see and harbour a lot. They only want to see their parents happy.
Thank you so much Makena for sharing your story. May you reach as many people because there are so many suffering inside due to family backgrounds. May God see you through
Christine was a few years ahead of me in high school, I remember she was always smiling and happy, and brought joy wherever she went. Could have never guessed she was going through this. Thank you for sharing your story, and giving hope to those in similar situations out there. I hope you find peace. All this joy you give to people has to find its way back to you.
You are such a strong woman, all the best in your awareness campaign siz🙏
Never cried this much... thank you Makena for sharing your story. 😭😭💔
Went through the same,only God make us see the next day
I have never experienced fatherly love.Makena we share the same story 😭😭😭
Me too😭😭😭
I think this is what pushed her to be lesbian
This is so heartbreaking... I pray you get the strength to heal and this is a lesson to all women, as soon as it gets violent, get out.
That is me I played a role of a mother when I was supposed to be a child. Am in the process of forgiving my parents and trying to work out my relationship with them.
To every woman out there in an abusive relationship plagued with infidelity. Run very fast. You could be courting death in the name of love and submission.
Already out
Christine am so sorry for what you went through. Thank you for sharing your story. It takes a lot of courage to share all that. Am hoping one day i will share mine. Sending you hugsxxxx
I get Christine 100% my friend is on this road I hope she gets this courage to walk out for her sake🙏 but on my case my parents always fought 24/7 and used disgusting abusive words to each other. The worst fact is that as I walked out going to school I was always worried one of them would be admitted in the hospital and another part being mocked by my neighbors friends. My kids will never have to witness that. I hate it.
I rem how people used to judge me, rejecting me, telling me am weird. Only that they didn't see the tears behind a bubbly smile. I have gone through serious depression twice last year, then when I was at my final breaking point, God brought people who saved my life n walked me through the journey. I can now say that I am free, I have forgiven, I have let go and I am happy. I can't imagine I was chained for the last 22years into my past... I am really happy now... I am free. Yes at times I break down, but I can't compare my today n yesterday. God, thank you for helping me overcome it. How I pray that my small bro will be able to overcome it some day, and that my mum will find happiness n peace some day.... To fellow victims, please know that it is OK not to be okay, it is OK to breakdown, but you have to move on n let go Coz the world will not understand why you do things the way u do them. So, some day you will be okay, IF YOU ARE WILLING N READY TO LET GO. God loves you. 😘😘😘
This is so sad, you are such a strong woman. May God be with you through this journey.
Hugs and love to you Makena! May God always grant you the strength.
Am listening to this now and am like ooh my goodness i thought am the only one with a traumatized past aki may God help the families coz children are the ones who suffer when parents fight
Your mum was my friend and I remember your mum bringing you to Sunday School where I happened to be your teacher. Listening to your story has kind of unearthed my childhood trauma, suffering, pain and depression which I have managed to cover for nearly 5 decades. I wish I could physically hug you but I will definitely look out for you my daughter. Love you and am super proud of you. You are ballsy and have a beautiful, loving and kind soul. ❤️❤️❤️.
I work with victim of domestic violence, and the mother came back in this case because of her children. He knew that if got the children this would make the mother come back to him and he used this. Fortunately, where I work we have support and resources to enable victims of domestic violence to leave safely and we work with all professionals working with the children. In this case, the schools would not have allowed him to pick the children as they were made aware of what has been happening.
Domestic violence impacts on the children emotionally, psychologically, socially and they can be victims themselves of violence. It’s important that the non abusing parent try not to expose her children to violence. I have seen how living with domestic violence affect children in a negative way.
Makena, I say thank you 🙏 and God bless you abundantly. An eye opener indeed.
Strong lady Makena. I saw you back in the day in college and no one would know what you were going through. Sharing your story with the world isn't a cup of tea, am so proud of you and May God lead you to your dreams.
A great story teller,eloquent and beautiful. Am glad you found you....
This has made me sad, I am fighting my tears but I know when I get home I will break down and let it out,, God bless your heart darling.
I struggled with, "I love you mom but I don't want you to be my mom"
My God, this is excruciating! May God give you peace. This is too much 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😭😭😭
Thanks for sharing. me and my siblings have gone through the exact script. both parents are alive though separated. i have forgiven my dad but i hardly talk to him... maybe once in three months. those sickening memories are so fresh like it happened yesterday. sometimes i look at my mum and wonder why she let us grow in a such harsh childhood? what took her so long to leave? but again i thank GOD He has saved her from death in my dads hand as we watched not once nor twice. we would shake with fear as night approached... we could go without dinner not because of lack but because of we feared the nightfall... what would it bring... mom would be beaten till unconscious i rem one night as she slept on the sofa during cold season and (jiko ya makaa) was warming the house dad came and hit her with it on the head and she was asleep i heard her scream just once and she went muum i thought she was dead. so many painful incidences but i thank GOD mom is well today and at least she can sleep soundly at night. my advice to mothers who maybe going through violence in their marriages this affects your children in a very big way. they watch and hate every being of existence please move for the sake of your children safety and sanity.
Wow b blsd makena ur so honest I love ur character... I wish u all the best dear...
I admire your strength..wish you the very best
Talking about it is the first step of healing Christine Makena, be blessed🙏.. my neighbour - Thindigua
Psychologist
@@michaelheery7427 No! Have been there...
@@sandrawanjiku9551 o h i am a kikuyu..
@@michaelheery7427 YOU ARE A NARCISSIST! DESPICABLE MAN ALIVE! GO TO HELL
My heart goes out to Makena and you are strong and will move up to success and happiness purpose
I have cried watching this, but I thank God for your courage Makena. May God continue you to heal you and make you whole and use you to be a voice of hope, faith and encouragement to children and people going through what you went through. Women indeed do go through a lot
Makena, Thank you for sharing your Story.
Forgiveness is not for the offender but for yourself, I wish you the best in your recovery. Asante.
She's such a strong young lady.. I admire your courage Makena. Bless you
Makena, I admire your courage and cried listening to your story. May God hold your hand, surround you with His amazing grace as you become a voice to the voiceless.
Christine am sorry for what you went through but positive side its made you the strong woman you are today. I am a victim of the same till this day and its quite sad.
Grace you should do a series on this I think people need to understand how much kids get affected....
Hi Christine, thank you for sharing your story. I am really sorry about your mom. My story is just a bit related to yours, especially domestic violence. It is not easy to talk about these things but I am so glad you shared. Some of us just had to grow up and be strong and just let it go because, well, that is what is expected of you. It is like, this is normal. And that is so sad. I used to write a lot, because there wasn't really anyone to talk to, and that might have helped me go through life. I thank God for this far. You will be ok. All the best
Sad. Av been struggling to forgive, at some point I get depressed but listening to your story today am encouraged
Sailing in the same boat
Wao........Makena thank you so much sharing your story women has to say no to domestic violence.......and " its ok not to be ok " continue when low speak to someone congrats.......
thanks for sharing your story its so relatable to my life but listening to you Has changed my view of some things
HEY Christine.......sorry my dear friend your hearty smile fades the struggle you went through
comfort after real struggle...... May God Give You Wisdom, Courage and Strength to execute your purpose, You are young and strong, very strong