MY MARRIAGE BROKE AFTER 30 BITTER YEARS. I've learnt that how you deal with pain is all about you

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  • Rev-Dr Penny Njoroge Hsc is a mental health expert. She knows what it is to suffer from depression and losing the will to live 😥😥
    Her marriage ended after 30 bitter years. But her pain didn’t stop her from achieving what she truly loved: education!
    She joined college at the age of 56 in the US. At 76 years, she has a PHD in psychiatry.
    Her message is clear: they may have hurt you but how you react to the pain is all about you🥰🥰🥰😥
    Choose TO LOVE YOU!

КОМЕНТАРІ • 333

  • @Mdalasini
    @Mdalasini Рік тому +76

    I am 40 years old this year, and I grew up in Kibera Laini Saba. I am a graduate. I have hope! I will be better!

    • @charitywanjohi884
      @charitywanjohi884 Рік тому +5

      Wow. The Ghetto Kids Rise To Be Prominent People. Write Your VISION In Capital Letters. Almost Your Age n We Should Hope For Big Things Sister💕💕

    • @ciccoann2311
      @ciccoann2311 Рік тому +2

      Amen

    • @josephinewambugu4803
      @josephinewambugu4803 Рік тому +2

      C🎉 congratulations

    • @Gorgeousij
      @Gorgeousij Рік тому +1

      Go go go the sky is not the limit

  • @kezzybett1142
    @kezzybett1142 Рік тому +32

    I was in a toxic marriage for 7 yrs an i thank God i quit before i ran mad
    Now my babies are grown up, nimekuwa shosh n i thank God very much

  • @janekogi6442
    @janekogi6442 Рік тому +9

    Fulfilling our dreams,also went for diploma at 47,today a master in Jesus name,I am 64 years

  • @marienjerie8874
    @marienjerie8874 Рік тому +35

    The way I have given up at only 26🥺🥺🥺I have changed my mind now.

    • @rosegithiri7383
      @rosegithiri7383 Рік тому +5

      Hugs mom🤗 God is with us cos it's never too late

    • @simongitu7311
      @simongitu7311 Рік тому +4

      You still young don't you ever give up,just believe in yourself!!

    • @flomaish9814
      @flomaish9814 Рік тому

      Take heart, you are sooo young. Please believe us who have seen more sunrises. There’s never a time to give up, and more importantly, with every sunrise, you have a chance to change the trajectory of your life. Pray that Hod to deman your steps, and slowly change one thing at a time, as small as waking up early and getting ready and making your bed…you might not have any plans but your showing Hod that at the mention of one word if He changed your life, you would be ready and responsible to nurture and spread that blessing. I am speaking at 29 but who is God? I got married. Got a good job and hoping to start school next semester. At your age I was in jail. Don’t give up Njeri

  • @marykamau2764
    @marykamau2764 11 місяців тому +4

    Lessons I have learned (1)Do not let any obstacle hinder your dreams.(2)sacrifice for a positive agender pays.(3) Hard work is the only key to success.(4) Submission is good but do it wisely.(5) Education is for us all,regardless of one's age.(6) Always invest in your family because of your old age.Finally but not the least make God your best friend and always learn to forgive even the unforgivable.Thank you mum and Monicah.Mum you are a strong woman and you're going far in Jesus mighty name!

  • @elizabethwanguiwambugu8381
    @elizabethwanguiwambugu8381 Рік тому +22

    Very inspiring story from mum
    You have motivated me ,and you have given me the reason to go back to school ,and i attain my degree and if its Gods will even PHD,i did Form 4 in 1991,i attained grade C in a Provincial High which i joined with 427marks,,but being the first born in a family of 7,in a poor background i never continued with college.before end of this year i will have to join University by Gods grace
    Thanks alot Monica Kagoni for such an encouraging testimony

  • @rosemuthoni8135
    @rosemuthoni8135 Рік тому +14

    I went through emotional abuse for more than 20 years. Today am free but it wasn't easy

  • @marthagichuhi704
    @marthagichuhi704 Рік тому +12

    Ooh my God.. I knew the story but barely half of it . This is my aunt...mama macharia..as we know her.. my heart goes out to you.

  • @nancygitau5268
    @nancygitau5268 Рік тому +43

    I have just come across this interview this morning. Shockingly I went back to school 2 weeks ago to persue my diploma and then degree in my early 40s. I almost gave up but this interview has inspired me.

    • @teresiamaina9573
      @teresiamaina9573 Рік тому +6

      Wow you have inspired me did my degree but no job went back to doing cpa at 30 and felt like giving up but I'll hold my head high

    • @mwangare2337
      @mwangare2337 Рік тому +7

      Very inspiring, watching as I do my application for school abroad, after accepting the end of my marriage as well, in my mid 40s

    • @carolinewambui9010
      @carolinewambui9010 Рік тому +5

      My take away,Married women have your own money.

    • @janemwaniki6810
      @janemwaniki6810 Рік тому +3

      Me too,am soo inspired

    • @njeriWaKinuthiaCA
      @njeriWaKinuthiaCA Рік тому +1

      Keep going gal!!

  • @lucywangari8140
    @lucywangari8140 Рік тому +9

    Kagoni ndirekire form 4 2016 ndina 50years after the death of my husband and I'm still making

    • @MburawaUK
      @MburawaUK Рік тому

      Lucy, it's never late. Don't stop there. Well done 🎉

  • @esther_muiruri
    @esther_muiruri Рік тому +12

    The most important thing I have learnt from her which I have also held on is seeking the blessings of my children from their father. And for that reason I forgave my husband too .

  • @mercymuriuki6578
    @mercymuriuki6578 Рік тому +6

    Thanks Monica for interviewing our mom. Like she said im a great follower of you and we can't wait to see you in America

  • @mercywambui3400
    @mercywambui3400 Рік тому +1

    This is an excellent interview. All form of abuse is urgly and must be stopped. Abusers are merciless and ruthless. Call them out and stop them. Expose the bruises, it's the only way to cure and wellness.

  • @nm-tg1bn
    @nm-tg1bn Рік тому +10

    I love this woman. She's the epitome of strength ❤❤

  • @robinmanga4886
    @robinmanga4886 Рік тому +30

    I left an abusive marriage 10 plus years ago i realised the law of life is greater than the law of marriage

    • @Wanjamburu.23
      @Wanjamburu.23 Рік тому +1

      Absolutely

    • @louiseoluoch
      @louiseoluoch Рік тому

      Well said dear, am also 12yrs out of marriage and the love I have for myself, I can only share with my kids. My focus is my kids, our cats, myself, my work, and our home. Also am grateful to God for his kindness and mercy. ❤❤

    • @ngendonancy8994
      @ngendonancy8994 Рік тому

      Congratulations for chosing peace ✌️

  • @kaari8557
    @kaari8557 Рік тому +4

    Such profound lessons from Rev./ Dr. Penny Njoroge; 1. forgiveness, 2. it's never too late to accomplish dreams, 3. seeking the blessings of God and those He has placed on those seats of honor and blessings, regardless of what we know or think of them!
    May the Lord help us!

  • @mercyk2672
    @mercyk2672 Рік тому +7

    This lady is so inspiring. I can listen to her all day. May God continue to enlarge your boundaries Dr. Penny. Thanks for persevering.

  • @jjjoan100
    @jjjoan100 Рік тому +6

    What an inspiring story! Many women in abusive marriages have been set free today!

  • @wambuinderitu2461
    @wambuinderitu2461 Рік тому +11

    Am 21 yrs old ... Monica am a big fan of metha 😊..what was striking for me from Rev Dr penny is whatever you may have lost or taken away by the devil will surely be repaid heavily by God , all the sacrifices our siblings do for us especially firstborns is worth n God will pay it n lastly is that she acknowledges that life is too short n we are here for a while so we shouldn't be ungrateful for whatever reason ❤❤❤❤

  • @georgeokudo
    @georgeokudo Рік тому +9

    Hi Kagoni, we've been told to come here by Lynn but I don't understand Kikuyu, kindly provide subtitles if possible. Continue doing a good job

  • @wanyagahostrich2443
    @wanyagahostrich2443 Рік тому +5

    If there’s someone who is happy about this interview is madam wakiama 🙏🙏

  • @judithgathuthi5253
    @judithgathuthi5253 Рік тому +5

    God this is what happened to me , after 27 yrs of marriage God help women like me

  • @dzeffahhh
    @dzeffahhh Рік тому +2

    These are the kind of women who should mentor the current so called modern woman. Unfortunately they are very few. She is very sober, realistic

  • @trizahdelightfulgardenbakers
    @trizahdelightfulgardenbakers Рік тому +1

    I already love this woman. I love people who choose to live a better and become better person and not pity themselves. Change and transition is an individual decision. Dr. Penny you are a great inspiration.

  • @fridahblessed9296
    @fridahblessed9296 Рік тому +2

    She looks younger than her age despite going through all the abuse God's grace is sufficient for sure

  • @lillianwaweru5475
    @lillianwaweru5475 Рік тому +2

    Wow....I am just applauding this courageous and beautiful hearted lady. Truly, it takes God to stand up and call out abuse especially in the face of societal judgment. So many are suffering. My personal takeaway is you can rebuild and be restored at any age. I feel encouraged and inspired. I pray for God's love and favor to adorn her and her family in every step ❤

  • @sarahkague4525
    @sarahkague4525 Рік тому +2

    So refreshing and gives a lot of hope. Shosh you are very blessed indeed,at 76 years,you look very young and vibrant. Your knowledge and motivation is admirable

  • @maryparsaloi4808
    @maryparsaloi4808 Рік тому +14

    Dr Penny is such an inspiration. Acknowledging her vulnerbility yet showing her strengths. Lets learn from her.

  • @joycenduta8313
    @joycenduta8313 Рік тому +4

    Very inspirational. I remember its just recently a certain priest was reprimanding women in either Bungoma or Kakamega, one of those two, telling them that they shouldn't complain about their husbands coz they've got 6 more chances to marry and i protested. Why then should we have Holy Matrimony if that's the case? I feel as much as both genders may go through abuse, the society is to blame. This is why; when men cheat, they are validated mostly quoting the bible that David n Solomon had many wives but when a woman wants to leave the same man she is said to be foolish and demishing her own home. Therefore, can we stop with the double standards and solve this problem before the marriage institution becomes extinct. That phrase "GOD HATES DIVORCE" has caused many to endure hell in their marriages silently coz their is no where to run to.

  • @Chings001
    @Chings001 Рік тому +1

    What a powerful powerful story!! I have learnt a lot. Once again I am grateful that my late father treated us well.

  • @annieannie9444
    @annieannie9444 Рік тому

    Thanks mum. You are such an encouragement, a strong pillar and a life couch. Some of ours need to hear this. Thanks ❤❤❤

  • @Lucywanjohi.
    @Lucywanjohi. Рік тому +12

    Your introduction said it all " andika kioneki giaku kihengere-ini na number nene nitondu muthenya umwe wa mithenya nigigakinyanira" every woman should listen to this inspiring story ♥️

  • @II-kn6he
    @II-kn6he Рік тому +1

    Dr. Penny you are so youthful and beautiful. Quite inspiring: intellectually and emotionally.

  • @mercynjeri7127
    @mercynjeri7127 8 місяців тому

    Wow,learnt alot about her,she has not revealed more about her spouse ,what an intelligent woman.She looks younger than her age .kudos mum.

  • @WamboMerci
    @WamboMerci Рік тому +1

    What a Resilient and Marvellous Woman, you are amazing, keep on inspiring 🙌🏿🙏🏾

  • @salomenewsome4188
    @salomenewsome4188 Рік тому +10

    This is my mom's story. My mom's properties were taken from her after 35 years of abuse. My dad was taken by those who look for wababas she sits there consuming my moms sweat and sleeping on my moms bed

    • @rosesarerednotblue8797
      @rosesarerednotblue8797 Рік тому +2

      God will fight for every woman crying coz of mipango ya kando.I know this woman went through this coz a woman somewhere.

  • @esther_muiruri
    @esther_muiruri Рік тому +3

    I thank God for you Rev. You are speaking to me now. May the Lord preserve me and help me to accomplish his purpose

  • @midnightpraizes
    @midnightpraizes Рік тому +2

    I am so encouraged by this story, I have changed my mind set, nothing is impossible, I would like to meet Dr on a personal level. It's amaizing

  • @susankamau9316
    @susankamau9316 Рік тому +1

    Listening to Dr. Penny I see my antie.... Married to a psychopath, going through so much, and she has a good pay

  • @njerij1511
    @njerij1511 Рік тому +1

    A brilliant and inspirational mind there. Pole for what you went through . Your story is a testimony and has strengthened me.

  • @puritymaina8567
    @puritymaina8567 Рік тому +1

    wow, this woman has really inspired me, though in my late thirties with zero resources i can actually study again, God bless you mum.

  • @makenna3j198
    @makenna3j198 Рік тому

    May our CREATOR continually Protect, Provide and Guide Dr Penny. Grant her Inner Peace, everlasting JOY.❤❤❤

  • @charlesnification
    @charlesnification Рік тому +2

    I know this lady & she is full of wisdom,great at events especially women conferences

  • @faithnjuguna-wc7lt
    @faithnjuguna-wc7lt Рік тому +5

    I looked forward to watching the live show but I got held up at work,
    Such an inspirational talk I have been So broken in what I thought was marriage from the man to mother in law but got the freedom and working on my vision so hard, may God remember those who are going through such.

  • @beatricenjunge7312
    @beatricenjunge7312 Рік тому +8

    Ngai wooooi.mimi sikufika hapo but kuna time my xhusband enjoyed me with my salo but nikasema never again.weuh mimi nikikuja metha ya kagoni nitajiiturura although i healed long time ago

  • @modestapparells3802
    @modestapparells3802 Рік тому +1

    Very inspiring story, very strong in spirit. God give you many more years to encourage many hearts that have been heartbroken

  • @carolinemukundi4918
    @carolinemukundi4918 Рік тому +1

    What an inspiring story..I have learnt the power of forgiveness and that God is a God of second chances...

  • @veronicandirangu3637
    @veronicandirangu3637 Рік тому

    That’s very encouraging about forgiveness we should learn from this testimony. God bless Dr Penny.

  • @salamawise
    @salamawise Рік тому

    Blessings to you Monica and Dr. Penny. Am humbled by what God can do in ones life. Dr. Penny is an inspiration to many. Her reference for God encourages me to live for God every day, He never disappoint. Dr. Penny, God loves you. He will keep you to fulfill his purposes in your life. Keep going Monica &Dr. Penny

  • @emmamagdaline3894
    @emmamagdaline3894 Рік тому +1

    Wololo!!! Chinekee! Here I am almost giving up. Thanks Daktari. Back to my drawing board.

  • @gladysnjoroge661
    @gladysnjoroge661 Рік тому +13

    I couldn’t help but shed a tear listening to the struggles Dr.Penny and her family went through to acquire what so many take for granted; education.
    Reminds me of my late grandmother who ran away from her home to get education. Although she didn’t manage to go to school, she ensured that her children & grandchildren get educated.
    Dr. Penny your story inspires us to dream big and to honor the sacrifices made by our loved ones.

    • @wanjiruciru6237
      @wanjiruciru6237 Рік тому

      That's my grandma too.She wanted to study but was forcefully married off to a man almost the age of her Father.She made sure all her kids went to school.Onevof her daughter chose marriage instead of going to university,their relationship was broken because of that.

  • @reginanyawira2134
    @reginanyawira2134 Рік тому +4

    I'm so inspired by Dr. Penny, one day i shall testify in Jesus mighty name.

    • @janekogi6442
      @janekogi6442 Рік тому

      He hates divorce,but marriage is for two,if one rebels,then it's not marriage any more

  • @charitywanjohi884
    @charitywanjohi884 Рік тому +13

    The Sacrifice She Did Is Now Being Paid In Double Portion By God. It Is True That Whatever You Sow Is What You Will Reap. Dr. Penny Much Love❤❤❤❤

  • @karolinekinya7548
    @karolinekinya7548 Рік тому +3

    Waooo! 👏👏👏👏The truth about marriage and why we take long to leave has been let out.....
    Very brilliant lady.... You make me understand my mother, myself and many others.
    Thank you 🙏🙏

  • @tabithamaina5848
    @tabithamaina5848 Рік тому

    Very inspiring story. Thank you Dr.penny for being vulnerable to share your experiences.
    Big lesson I learned is to guard my money as a woman and also support my children in all aspects. They grow fast.
    God bless you Dr. Penny❤

  • @faithwachu5073
    @faithwachu5073 Рік тому

    So inspiring, thank you Monica for the good work

  • @rachelwanjie1704
    @rachelwanjie1704 Рік тому +1

    What a testimony ! May the Lord help us to forgive.
    Rev Dr Penny has a big heart. Live long mummy.

  • @shironene2489
    @shironene2489 Рік тому

    This is a blessed woman..She has lived the word..She has been restored 🎉

  • @marynyaga8522
    @marynyaga8522 Рік тому +1

    Oh Dr penny, I'm also getting healing from church I'm believing that my God is guiding my children to recover

  • @elizkimu3361
    @elizkimu3361 Рік тому

    What a story,very inspiring and educative.Women are great pillars,GOD bless all

  • @eunicenyawira9420
    @eunicenyawira9420 Рік тому +2

    I am inspired by Dr. Penny and kinda relate to her story. Thank you Doc for not giving up and for being real. I am now more than inspired to soldier on.

  • @waridim9249
    @waridim9249 Рік тому +6

    Îî, Monica rûu nî rûgano rwega mûno rûrahe andû aingî mwîhoko kana nî kîrîgîrîro? Mûgeni mwîhorereru ûtarî na matûhûhû. Kîrathimo kûrî ûrîa wothe ûkûmûthikîrîria.👍🏾

  • @shirukogi5996
    @shirukogi5996 Рік тому +1

    This is very educative,I needed to hear this today

  • @florencegachukia5641
    @florencegachukia5641 Рік тому

    Am happy to hear despite everything you are in school no wonder you look young, true books makes one young, congrats keep up the spirit.

  • @carolinekolom5510
    @carolinekolom5510 Рік тому

    Wow. This lady has inspired and challenged me at the sane time. Made some notes. God bless you.

  • @ik2707
    @ik2707 Рік тому +1

    Waaa,what a testimony....may God bless Dr.Penny

  • @janenjerikaringe6502
    @janenjerikaringe6502 Рік тому +2

    God bless you Dr Penny your zeal and determination to pursue God and your dreams is most inspiring. This lessons will stay with me forever. Thank you Kagoni for hosting her. God bless you. ❤

  • @lizzysnest3913
    @lizzysnest3913 Рік тому +1

    An episode full of wisdom. Glory to the Almighty. Tell the righteous that it is well.

  • @parent.single-annendungu
    @parent.single-annendungu Рік тому

    What a powerful interview. I am so encouraged and blessed!

  • @salomemwangi4099
    @salomemwangi4099 Рік тому +2

    Mûtura muoyo ndagaga, I love this

  • @florencekariamuiruri7301
    @florencekariamuiruri7301 Рік тому

    Thanks for this great inspiration

  • @graciewaforester8031
    @graciewaforester8031 Рік тому

    What a blessing what an inspiration you have touched my life in a great way 🙏. Our girl ur doing a great job to our community and this country 👏

  • @auntiepiarants2238
    @auntiepiarants2238 Рік тому +1

    What a wonderful show😢😢 i have learnt alot thanks Monica

  • @gracenjenga9053
    @gracenjenga9053 11 місяців тому

    This story is just but the best. I love her vulnerability. It has come at a time alot is going on in my mind. Thank you Monica. Thank you Dr Penny. With God,it's possible

  • @besensations1838
    @besensations1838 Рік тому +2

    deeply inspired most variable lesson the power of forgiveness

  • @gk-fw9qp
    @gk-fw9qp Рік тому +1

    Thanks...areal therapy for those in pain n agreat lesson about forgiveness for me . thanks more years n grace mum

  • @mwangimwangi5709
    @mwangimwangi5709 Рік тому

    Am truly inspired,thank you Monica for the these story

  • @marywachira3316
    @marywachira3316 Рік тому +1

    Very inspiring
    It takes the hand of God to say enough is enough and leave and move on
    The fear of what people will say has made women hold on in abusive marriage while others are killed or made disabled

  • @cathykinyanjui510
    @cathykinyanjui510 Рік тому

    I love Dr Penny. Such a strong woman

  • @beckymaina8872
    @beckymaina8872 Рік тому

    Wow wow amazing. Great Testimony Great woman. Help me Lord to be a vessel of Honour.

  • @suzannenjogu6455
    @suzannenjogu6455 11 місяців тому

    Fantastic interview.

  • @carolinemathia4579
    @carolinemathia4579 Рік тому +1

    mama you are blessed❤, the gals have found a mother in you, like Ruth did in Naomi. My prayer too..alot of lessons from this talk. Tears when you talk on depotation😢.

  • @verogithieya5839
    @verogithieya5839 Рік тому

    Very inspiring testimony form Dr Penny, you a wonderful woman, a woman of substance
    God bless you

  • @estherchege9074
    @estherchege9074 Рік тому

    So so so amazing i love the passion of this golden gal....i love you doc Penny you are a gem

  • @modestapparells3802
    @modestapparells3802 Рік тому +3

    This is very true. We see red flags in courtship but we ignore, i also was naive and have suffered the consequences

  • @peninahnduta9776
    @peninahnduta9776 Рік тому +1

    Ngarana Dr you are a fascinating woman. Hearing you reminds me that God is never late. You Inspire me. Congratulations❤

  • @antonythiongo6766
    @antonythiongo6766 Рік тому +2

    Very inspiring

  • @RaliaMohamed
    @RaliaMohamed Рік тому

    The heading got me here thank you for talking to me and a million others

  • @Wanjamburu.23
    @Wanjamburu.23 Рік тому

    Devil is such a liar and thief. Such a brilliant hard worker going through this yet so humble. God was working behind the scenes.

  • @jacquelinendungu1086
    @jacquelinendungu1086 Рік тому

    Great and wonderful woman of God to learn from. Thank you mamma

  • @graceolanya7987
    @graceolanya7987 Рік тому

    Very inspiring story and a beautiful woman with a gold heart.watching from London uk..God bless you all.

  • @andrewmacharia
    @andrewmacharia Рік тому +1

    Very interesting inspiration story,sad story

  • @wanjirucaroline8694
    @wanjirucaroline8694 Рік тому +4

    This episode was raw,
    I actually appreciate the vulnerability and coming out to tell her story. It has and will embolden other women who shares her plight.
    You're a light and truly living to the motto 'WALK IN THE LIGHT'

    • @jjkui4535
      @jjkui4535 11 місяців тому

      Yes very raw & authentic

    • @doreenkarimi_254
      @doreenkarimi_254 11 місяців тому

      Yes, walk in the light,everyday.

  • @neatsniper
    @neatsniper Рік тому +1

    There is one thing Dr. penny said and I've always known to be true.. if you have good parents and they tell you don't marry someone please don't marry that person. I've studied so many women in my life who had ok parents, and they refused to heed to their parents' warning/advise. Some of these women are now dead.. Kuna pahali wazazi uona mbali. Thanks dr.penny for sharing your story. Indeed the roots of toxic/abusive marriages have been in Kenya for so long!

  • @nyokabichuna2023
    @nyokabichuna2023 Рік тому +1

    You Have Fought A Good Fight, 🥰 You Are Running Your Race Well.. The LORD God Almighty Honours Those Who Are Humble And Patient..When We WAIT😇 Upon The LORD, He Renews Our Strength For His Purpose.. Thank you Doctor..

  • @janewanjiru2410
    @janewanjiru2410 Рік тому

    Those brains could not have gone to waste. She's too intelligent

  • @janenjoroge9425
    @janenjoroge9425 Рік тому +1

    I can connect with this story soooo well.God is Ebenezer

  • @lucyiburu5588
    @lucyiburu5588 Рік тому +3

    God bless you penny a good mentor to all❤

  • @jenniferkamonjo7126
    @jenniferkamonjo7126 Рік тому

    Waaah.. A very strong lady even spiritually. I needed to listen to this. There is a lot to learn from this session.. I am blessed.

  • @janeweru-oy7ci
    @janeweru-oy7ci Рік тому +1

    Waoooh,what an inspirational story