I value your channel more than you will ever know. Thank for the time you put into it, it is by far my favorite channel on UA-cam. I have learned so much from watching you the last few years and I appreciate your wisdom! Anyways just wanted to let you know you are very appreciated ❤
I can't thank you enough for such a lovely comment. That just means so much to me. Thank you!!!! And I hope this is a wonderful year for you! Love and thanks.
My first thing of the morning is coffee and spending time in the word of God! I'm very bless and my day goes well I do make sure I do what's most important. I believe it is prioritize your life and that helps you to monotask. Thank you for your video.
What you are talking about is exactly the practice of mindfulness. Immersing yourself in one thing at a time. It's so much better for our mental health and overall well being. One of my favorite tasks is washing dishes by hand in winter because it's so comforting! Thank you for discussing it!
Melissa, you have no idea how much I needed this video today. I am going to try mono tasking! I find myself jumping from one task to another without ever feeling I’ve completed anything. Thank you!
My Mother always drilled into me growing-up "if it's worth doing than do it right" this pertained to helping her around the house, schoolwork etc. but what it actually did to me was I grew-up obsessive about doing things my house had to be perfect, my children perfect, everything needed to be perfect until my husband told me do it as best you can it doesn't have to be perfect it took a long time to break the perfect cycle! I love your you tube videos Melissa!
I love this so much. An attitude of gratitude is vital for peace and contentment. Slowing down, focusing on each task, helps develop calm. I’m 65 and raised 4 sons, homeschooling for 8 years. I found “urgency” to be the enemy of peace and order. Thank you for sharing this important message. We now have 10 grandchildren and it still applies. ❤️
It really is vital for happiness isn't it? And I just had to declutter my mind and my daily routine. Honestly, I wasn't getting as much done because I got discouraged. Oh you are sooo blessed with those babies. Thank you so much.
Melissa, I'm kind of loving your bangs! Softening and feminine. When you had them clipped back I thought they were shorter. But they are working for you! xo Diane
Simple things in life are so important… yes, I couldn’t agree with you more!! It’s so easy to miss the real beauty and simplicity of life. Sounds corny but I try to take in nature everyday. The squirrels, birds, gorgeous sunrises and sunsets. You’re very wise Melissa I love listening to you. ❤
I tell you the truth, entering my 70's, I just don't to waste moments and not really feel them. It doesn't sound corny to me. It sounds wonderful. Thank you, Maria! Love, Melissa
You are only one of two channels that I allow for notifications (I.e. the bell). Sure, I subscribe to others, but your videos just simply make me smile and I look forward to them 😊
I've always called mono-tasking doing whatever you're doing with intention. When I'm setting the table, I place each napkin carefully and mindfully. I got away from it after my husband passed away; I was too scattered and afraid. I'm getting back to it lately, and having you talk about it was a lovely reinforcement for me. Thank you, Melissa. I love the videos where you just talk to us. I feel like I'm sitting with a dear, dear friend. Much love to you and Doug.
Melissa…once again you’ve inspired me and corrected me and made the day better. I cannot wait to implement this more. You describe me to a T! I also have painful health issue flares and what you described hits home. All this advice I already know is true and is effective…but it’s so easy to forget it and get busy “multitasking” and feeling confused. Confusing is the exact right way to describe it. Thank you!
Thank you so much for this. I know a lot of it is the world we live in and sometimes we have to be busy. I am hoping I can be present in things I do more instead of trying to go on to the next thing. I do better and finish and feel proud instead of feeling frustrated. I appreciate it!
WOW!!! This is a very profound video!!! I love the message of realizing exactly where you are in the moment. It is so easily overlooked. I feel that it grounds us to actually realize in the moment, this is my life. By the way, you are so beautiful and youthful. 70 never looked so good, that is for sure!!!
Oh thank you so much for that!!! It took me a bit to realize what had changed in me and why I felt confused and frustrated. I realized I was jumping from one thing to another and then would just give up and at the end of the day I would feel like a failure. You are so kind. Thank you.
Melissa you are right about this. It is so hard to get distracted or to just give up for one reason or another! One thing at a time if at all possible is really the only way to appreciate your home, your surroundings. Thank you for this important reminder! 😊♥️
It really is easy to just give up and I was doing that. It's why I wasn't doing as many videos. Something was come up and I would throw up my hands and not do the video. But I'm really trying to change that. Thank you Anne!
This is so true for me as well. When I get overwhelmed by a task or even sonnething I enjoy doing such as sewing or crocheting I find myself not finishing at all. I have to focus on one thing at a time, and have never been a multitasker. I used to feel bad about myself for not being able to handle more than one task at a time. However, the older I have gotten, the more I realize I need to enjoy stopping and looking around and enjoying my family. Thank you for the reminder.
I am the same way. And I always made it a point not to start another knitting project before I finished the current one. And I think some people can do many things at once - I just can't myself. Yes, I realize the same thing about enjoying my family too. It passes too fast. Thank you!
Melissa I did exactly that today…I didn’t realize it had a name but I monotasked today! I had my whole place that needed cleaning but today I picked 4 things to accomplish and I only progressed to the next task once I finished the first one!! I organized my purses in my closet. I had so many sitting out from the holidays and they needed their stuffing put back inside each one so I stuffed them and then placed them neatly on my closet shelf. My boots need organizing too but that wasn’t on my list for today! Inext did my laundry which included my bed sheets. I rested in between my loads and took pleasure in sitting on my sofa with my dog! Once my sheets came out of the dryer I made up my bed and vacuumed my way out of my primary bedroom and I quickly vacuumed my other floors as I made my way to my broom closet! I got my four things done one at a time and I feel so good about my day!! I’m especially proud of my organized purses 😊 #monotasking
I find it really sad when you see moms taking their children out for a walk in their strollers and the mother is busy talking on the phone rather than paying attention to their child
Oh thank you, Cassandra! That is so sweet. And I hear you. I wasn't getting much done and would feel like I had wasted the day and would promise myself to do better the next day. It was frustrating.
Thank you for doing this video, it's just what I needed to hear. I am guilty of over complicating my life by constantly starting and not finishing tasks. Groceries and house cleaning is right at the top. It can take me 3 days to prepare a grocery list and meal plan. It's ridiculous! Thank you for bringing me back to earth! I love your channel thank you for the lovely content God bless you!
What an important subject to talk about. To be honest, I can't remember the last time I really and truly concentrated on what as was doing and appreciated that I could do it, and do it well. Thank you so very much for giving me something truly important to think about. Love listening to you and your bits of wisdom.
I love everything you said in this video!Living in the moment with a grateful attitude and praising God for all our blessings is the most important thing we can do.😊
Oh my, multitasking is my problem. I start one thing and stop and do another You just saved me a few therapy sessions. I am going to try monotasking. I didn't notice your neck. I was admiring your beautiful eyes. 😊
I used to have a busy life certainly taking care of both my sick husband and my senior kitty that was ill. And I had a good size house. Now that I live in this little tiny apartment 800 square-foot by myself, my life is not busy. It’s boring. I still clean. I’m always going to be a clean freak but other than that I don’t have much to do anymore. If I were healthy, I’d go get a part-time job, but my health is not good. My RA is advancing and my back is bad so basically I don’t have much to do anymore. I used to pet sit for my neighbor when they went away but now they moved and I don’t have that anymore. Your bangs are growing in nicely. Mine are finally starting to grow, but for a long time, I honestly looked like Buster Brown.😊
I looked like Buster Brown, too. You have had so much happen to you recently and you have inspired me actually with your attitude. When we text you are such an easy person to talk to and you crack me up. And I just want to tell you how much I appreciate that. I wish I was more help to you because you've done so much for me. Just remember that I love you and I thank you!
Excellent video. Good reminder to live mindfully. Btw. You weren’t rambling. You spoke thoughtfully and thoroughly. Looking forward to more videos like this ❤️
I so identify with everything you’re saying 🩷. Now at 67 I’m applying these things and appreciating the simple mono tasking more and more. Living in the Moment family enjoyment thankfulness for the smallest thing. Honestly, there was so much sad in your video that I can not even put it all in a comment but thank you and just know that by what you just shared is probably blessing many right now and it sure is blessing me and it’s just confirmation more and more for me from the Lord to live this way and to appreciate all that he has given us and this is the way to live life so thankful so blessed and thank you so much for your channel. I have been watching you for a few years and I’ve never commented. God bless you and yours love, Lesley.💖
I love you rambling I could listen all day. This is so true, the run up to Xmas I was running around doing this then that then realising I'd forgotten something so had to sort that out I got everything done then xmas morning started to feel poorly. Only today my mind was thinking about this that and the other in the end I ended up with a headache feeling miserable, and clothes pulled out everywhere because I'm preparing for a funeral and a little holiday. If I'd just concentrated on 1 task at a time I would have achieved so much more your absolutely right xxxx
I am so very sorry about the funeral. I do think a lot of it is the times we live in and so much being thrown at us. I finally just had to stop and figure out what was wrong with me. I really hope I can be more purposeful in my life. Thanks, Ann!
This speaks to me sooo much!! Especially when speaking about grandkids and feeling like I need to do the same things you listed, snowman, sled, hot chocolate, etc.. I do enjoy all these moments with them but it’s like I’m “checking the boxes” and thinking about the next thing during the moment of the previous…worrying if I’m going to have time to fit it all in. In reality, yes they enjoy it but I think they also just like spending time no matter what we do..as do I. This is definitely something I’m working on and it’s nice to know other brains out there work like mine 😂Thanks for this video! ❤
Yes! Checking the boxes of what a modern grandmother should do. Or a traditional grandmother. And really the best gift we can give them is to be present with them. I tell them about how I grew up and how I raised their parents and it seems to be just as important as that hot chocolate or that snowman. We need to make a pact to give ourselves grace. Thank you and much love!
I was like you….when I was young and having my children, I also planned one task at a time! I also was so happy with life and enjoyed all the small stuff! I chose to stay home with my kids and the world made me feel like I was wasting my time! People would say…”oh, I couldn’t stay home all the time. I’d be so bored!” So when my youngest started school, I got a job. I gave in and became this overworked mother….life filled with business and chaos like everyone around me! I was never really happy but I worked until retirement! I’m 75 now and once again enjoying the simple, gentle life that I really always wanted! Thank you for sharing your story..I felt like your sister! Lol
It’s great you already figured this out. It took me until retirement to realize that all we ever have are the moments in each day and really enjoy it. You’re so loved🥰❤️🥰
Greetings Melissa! I love this topic! I call it present moment awareness. The thing that distracts me is usually my inner self criticism and negative rumination about how I screw everything up. I know this sounds pathetic, but there ya go! I really want to be more present moment oriented, so I hope you will bring it up again sometime. I loved that quiet video you did one time too. Thanks for being you, Melissa. Love and blessings ♥️🙏
That is such a nice saying - present moment awareness. Oh my gosh, you are reading my mind! I have such self criticism and I don't know why we do that. I sure do thank you and love you dearly. 💋💋💋
My “monotask” is doing a crossword puzzle or reading a book. I can’t do anything other than what I’m solving or reading. That’s carried over into other areas in my life. I realized it’s a form of mediation for me.
Great thought-provoking video Melissa. I'm sure I don't mono-task all the time but as an adult I’ve always been grateful and appreciate what I have because I was raised without so much. I think I make on the spur decisions most of the time about finishing a specific task but then sometimes I have fun trying to see how much I can get done and I jump from task to task. But I think the main thing I've learned since my retirement is that if nothing gets done it’s not the end of the world lol. Love ya..p🌷🌿
That is true that it isn't the end of the world if nothing gets done! I had gotten to the point where I put way too much on myself. My life should have been simple, but I was making it more complicated and I couldn't understand why. I sure do appreciate this. ! Take care Patti and thank you!I
Hi Melissa ❤ I know you said you were not happy with your bangs, believe me I've been there, but I think the way you've styled them looks really good on you 😊 As far as monotasking goes im all for it. I'm 57 and find my energy levels dropping so ... yes efficiency is important and just maybe prioritizing better for myself. I use sticky notes to help keep me focused on projects. I dropped IG to minimize online stuff. I feel much better about it all. Thanks for sharing ! ❤❤❤❤❤
Oh that is so kind of you, Dee. Thankfully, they grew enough to start guiding them to behave. lol. It was touch and go there for a while. lol. Oh my gosh, yes on the energy levels and I'll add I keep feeling pulled on so many directions when I try to get everything done at once. I like sticky notes. I have reminders for myself and when I finish a task I go to the next one. It makes me feel more peaceful. Love ya and thanks so much!
Thank you for this. It's important. The last I heard, actual multitasking is not possible for human beings anyway. Task switching is something we all have to do from time to time. I just hope people will stop trying to task switch between their children and their phones. Please, if you have an opportunity to spend time with your child, put your phone away.
@@sweettexast2894 I think some people can do it a lot better than others. I don’t think I can do it very well because my mind gets too distracted if that makes sense. But you’re like my daughter she can do 1 million things at the same time and do them all well. Thank you and take care.
Hi Melissa, I loved this video. I sat and watched while eating my lunch. This is such good advice. I tend to get overwhelmed too and so doing one task at a time creates calm instead of chaos. I'm going to share this with my husband. He is a great mono tasker. I told him he will love this video. xo love, Karen
Oh Karen I hear you and overwhelmed is a good way to describe it. And then I get down on myself because I have accomplished nothing and I'm discouraged. I sure appreciate you. Stay safe and much love!
Great Video Melissa. I am about your age. I found that when I baked something while still trying to do other things or thinking about things that needed one, I would usually mess up my baking by forgetting something. Now, I have slowed down. If I don’t get my to do list done, I will do them the next day or another day. Thanks for reminding all of us. What scares me is seeing young mothers talking on the phone while driving. Thanks Melissa ❤❤❤
Hi Melissa! I have been following you for a while and I really like your videos and how you share your everyday life with us. I like all your videos but this one was really one of the best you have done. There are so many wise words and so important things to think about. I wish you all the best and you are truly an inspiration to us women 🤗 Best regards from Charlotta in Sweden
Charlotta, thank you so very much. I just didn't like the way I was feeling and I wanted to say out loud what I thought the problem was. Oh Sweden!!! I have been doing a deep dive into videos from Finland and Norway and looking at Sweden next. I thank you so much!
I NEEDED this more than you will ever know! I have been so down and constantly try to multi task an end up getting almost nothing done. I use to mono task an now am going to try my hardest to get back to it and try to enjoy again! 🎉 You just sent me a blessing at one of my most trying times and I appreciate you so much! ❤
Oh Brenda, do I ever feel you!!! I have been trying to get way too much done at one time, and what happened was I got nothing done. And this is especially true with my channel. We have got to give ourselves some grace. Thank you and much love!
I don't do Facebook or Instagram or tic-toc. I don't even have a smart phone. It eliminates so much junk. Unusual, I know. But it can be done :) I wouldn't change it for the world. I've learned that the simpler I make my life the closer I come to God. 💙💗
Melissa this talk made me think about how I want to be more present and enjoy each task at hand It was practically therapy because I felt a weight lifted off of me while listening to you explain this concept TY 😊
Hi Melissa, I think everyone needed to hear this. We all need to slow down. Everything is so rushed! I’m looking forward to retirement in a couple of years so I will have time for just that. Thanks for the reminder and the video!
Thank you, Sharon. It just all seems like it's racing past doesn't it? And it gets confusing and I always feel too torn in many directions. Happy New Year and thank you so much.
Many people think they can do multitasking. I find not everything gets done right. I think you get overwhelmed & nothing gets done. I say do one thing & do it right. Something will suffer when you try to multitask. You have the right attitude. Much love, Lucy
I just can't do it, Lucy, and I don't think I ever could. I get so confused and then I get discouraged and then I give up and then I beat myself up and tell myself I'm a failure. It's a vicious cycle I have to break. Love you!
I never comment but this one I had to. I needed to hear this. I've always seemed to be overwhelmed with wanting everything to be perfect. It's good to hear someone else is trying so hard.
Wonderful message Melissa! If I multitask too much I get anxiety! It has become necessary in my life to monotask so I avoid making myself ill! Yes to a 50 years of skincare video! How fun to see what you may have used as a young woman and then perhaps a 30-something and a 50 something woman etc! Have a wonderful new year! I will be right here with every video!! ❤❤
Oh my goodness I hear you and I feel this, too. I get anxious and I start procrastinating and don't get anything done. Yes I want to talk about what I used at each phase of my life and it hasn't been that many changes. lol. Happy new Year and thank you!
Hi Melissa.❤ Loving your hair. You look beautiful as always. You don't look a day over 50! ❤ As an adult, I've always been a multi-tasker. I thought I had to be, to keep up with everything going on in my life. Now I've had Chronic Fatigue Syndrome for the past 7 years, so have been forced to slow down completely to the point of mostly being bed-bound. I've had to learn a whole new way of living. I hope one day I recover and that I'll live as you've described, which would be much more sustainable. ❤ God bless you and your followers. Jo (NZ) ❤
You are so sweet! Thank you! Yes, I think we feel we all have to multi-task or we aren't accomplishing anything. But some of us just can't do that. It's too confusing and we just can't function as well. I am so sorry about the CFS. It's a tough disease to have. Thank you and Much love.
Hi Melissa - I really enjoyed this video and want to get into the Mono-tasking life style. Also, I too turn 70 this year (in just a few days the 23rd pf this month) and while age is said to be just a number - this number (70) is a bit harder to get my head around. I still think I'm about 40 - haha!!! You are beautiful today as you always are!! Thanks for always giving us honest and trueful video content - you and MEllen are my two favorite women on UA-cam. Sending you hugs my sweet friend... Deb :-)
As women in the world today we have so many responsibilities and expectations. I agree that we don't stop and smell the roses and I believe it ends up harming us and our quality of life. It is gratitude and we have so much to be grateful for. Prayers to all those who have lost their homes in the fires. ❤
You are one wise woman. I've always known it and when I see you have left a comment, I know I'm going to enjoy it and get a lot out of it. And this is no exception. Yes we sure have so much to be grateful for. Love to you and thank you!
What you are describing about being absorbed in the tasks is called "flow" and there is a whole academic theory called Flow Theory that covers this! If you are interested, there is a TED Talk by a professor called Mihalyi Csikszentmihalyi about it.
Melissa that was a wonderful video we do too much rushing to get everything done! You just reminded us we need to live our life while it's happening think about what we're doing and just do that nothing else! That was such a wonderful conversation that we so desperately need as we get older because we cannot do the things we used to do when we were young it's impossible it just wears us down 😢 Thank you for that wonderful conversation that we all needed to hear especially the mature women who have been rushing and doing everything all their lives take care my friend💖 Hope all is well with you and your family God bless❤❤
I tell you, Rose, I get so down on myself when I have my mind going in too many directions. And then I just give up and feel awful about myself because I've accomplished nothing. And it makes me so tired. I thank you and I hope you are doing well. Much love!
It's hard isn't it? When you said being critical of yourself, I knew what you meant. And I do think slowing down might help us some and give us a sense of accomplishment. Thank you!
Hi sweetheart! 💐 You look beautiful with your bangs. Thank you for this most sensitive and helpful video. Melissa would you please share with me a link for the body lotion you spoke of in prior videos? I really need this for my arms and legs....they are getting dry and crepy 😢. JESUS bless and keep you dear heart. 💐🕊✨️✝️
You look great for almost 70! I am 57 and would love to know what your skin care routine is! I have never been on HRT and I know hormones, specifically estrogen, does wonders to keep the skin youthful and producing collagen. Was thinking about estrogen cream for facial use. I’ll need to research that one though. I always enjoy watching your videos. You have such a sparkling personality!
Melissa you’re beautiful inside and out. Thank you for this video on mono tasking I never thought of it before!! But I realized that I do better with this method as well. Off topic, but I can’t believe you’re going to be 70. I know it’s personal, but May I ask if you have had any plastic surgery or injectables etc? You don’t have to tell me if you don’t want to of course but you look simply amazing and at least 12-15 years younger than your age. Love your channel. ❤
Melissa I turned 70 last spring. I didn't like it much. So I decided i'm not going to be 70😂, I'm just going to be 69/68. You know you don't feel 70. Me neither. We can be whatever age we want to be. L o l🎉❤
i have always multitaskee but now i find i want to mini talk bc i get distracted so radón y i forcé myself to keep my mind and body on one thing ay a time
Well, you have given me a lot to think about. I know I’m blessed but I have let bad memories of my mom take over my mind. I guess because she passed away this past summer. I can’t shed a tear because it didn’t feel like loss. But I’m going to try to be better. Thank you for doing this you’ve probably helped more people than you know. I always learn something from you.💜
I value your channel more than you will ever know. Thank for the time you put into it, it is by far my favorite channel on UA-cam. I have learned so much from watching you the last few years and I appreciate your wisdom! Anyways just wanted to let you know you are very appreciated ❤
I can't thank you enough for such a lovely comment. That just means so much to me. Thank you!!!! And I hope this is a wonderful year for you! Love and thanks.
My first thing of the morning is coffee and spending time in the word of God! I'm very bless and my day goes well I do make sure I do what's most important. I believe it is prioritize your life and that helps you to monotask. Thank you for your video.
What you are talking about is exactly the practice of mindfulness. Immersing yourself in one thing at a time. It's so much better for our mental health and overall well being. One of my favorite tasks is washing dishes by hand in winter because it's so comforting! Thank you for discussing it!
Melissa, you have no idea how much I needed this video today. I am going to try mono tasking! I find myself jumping from one task to another without ever feeling I’ve completed anything. Thank you!
Oh thank you! I am just finding I get more confused if my mind is jumping as I get older. Thank you Linda and take care!
My Mother always drilled into me growing-up "if it's worth doing than do it right" this pertained to helping her around the house, schoolwork etc. but what it actually did to me was I grew-up obsessive about doing things my house had to be perfect, my children perfect, everything needed to be perfect until my husband told me do it as best you can it doesn't have to be perfect it took a long time to break the perfect cycle! I love your you tube videos Melissa!
My mom said the same thing. She died when she was forty nine, but remember so many things she told me. ❤❤❤
I love this so much. An attitude of gratitude is vital for peace and contentment. Slowing down, focusing on each task, helps develop calm. I’m 65 and raised 4 sons, homeschooling for 8 years. I found “urgency” to be the enemy of peace and order. Thank you for sharing this important message. We now have 10 grandchildren and it still applies. ❤️
It really is vital for happiness isn't it? And I just had to declutter my mind and my daily routine. Honestly, I wasn't getting as much done because I got discouraged. Oh you are sooo blessed with those babies. Thank you so much.
Melissa, I'm kind of loving your bangs! Softening and feminine. When you had them clipped back I thought they were shorter. But they are working for you! xo Diane
Thanks Diane! They were much shorter and have finally grown!!!
Simple things in life are so important… yes, I couldn’t agree with you more!! It’s so easy to miss the real beauty and simplicity of life. Sounds corny but I try to take in nature everyday. The squirrels, birds, gorgeous sunrises and sunsets. You’re very wise Melissa I love listening to you. ❤
I tell you the truth, entering my 70's, I just don't to waste moments and not really feel them. It doesn't sound corny to me. It sounds wonderful. Thank you, Maria! Love, Melissa
You are only one of two channels that I allow for notifications (I.e. the bell). Sure, I subscribe to others, but your videos just simply make me smile and I look forward to them 😊
Oh that is soooo sweet of you. Thank you more than I can say!
Monotasking is like a form of meditation. Thank you Melissa for reminding me of that❤
I've always called mono-tasking doing whatever you're doing with intention. When I'm setting the table, I place each napkin carefully and mindfully. I got away from it after my husband passed away; I was too scattered and afraid. I'm getting back to it lately, and having you talk about it was a lovely reinforcement for me.
Thank you, Melissa. I love the videos where you just talk to us. I feel like I'm sitting with a dear, dear friend. Much love to you and Doug.
Melissa…once again you’ve inspired me and corrected me and made the day better. I cannot wait to implement this more. You describe me to a T! I also have painful health issue flares and what you described hits home. All this advice I already know is true and is effective…but it’s so easy to forget it and get busy “multitasking” and feeling confused. Confusing is the exact right way to describe it. Thank you!
Thank you so much for this. I know a lot of it is the world we live in and sometimes we have to be busy. I am hoping I can be present in things I do more instead of trying to go on to the next thing. I do better and finish and feel proud instead of feeling frustrated. I appreciate it!
I enjoy the rambling videos. Blessings, Melissa.
aw, thank you! I can ramble with the best of them. hahahah.
WOW!!! This is a very profound video!!! I love the message of realizing exactly where you are in the moment. It is so easily overlooked. I feel that it grounds us to actually realize in the moment, this is my life. By the way, you are so beautiful and youthful. 70 never looked so good, that is for sure!!!
Oh thank you so much for that!!! It took me a bit to realize what had changed in me and why I felt confused and frustrated. I realized I was jumping from one thing to another and then would just give up and at the end of the day I would feel like a failure. You are so kind. Thank you.
Thank you Melissa love chat videos , one can only watch so many makeup videos, and chat helps us to know more about who you are .
GOD bless 🙏🏻💕
Melissa you are right about this. It is so hard to get distracted or to just give up for one reason or another! One thing at a time if at all possible is really the only way to appreciate your home, your surroundings.
Thank you for this important reminder! 😊♥️
It really is easy to just give up and I was doing that. It's why I wasn't doing as many videos. Something was come up and I would throw up my hands and not do the video. But I'm really trying to change that. Thank you Anne!
@ You are welcome!
This is so true for me as well. When I get overwhelmed by a task or even sonnething I enjoy doing such as sewing or crocheting I find myself not finishing at all. I have to focus on one thing at a time, and have never been a multitasker. I used to feel bad about myself for not being able to handle more than one task at a time. However, the older I have gotten, the more I realize I need to enjoy stopping and looking around and enjoying my family. Thank you for the reminder.
I am the same way. And I always made it a point not to start another knitting project before I finished the current one. And I think some people can do many things at once - I just can't myself. Yes, I realize the same thing about enjoying my family too. It passes too fast. Thank you!
Fabulous message! Thank you so much for this reminder. You are a beautiful person ❤
awww, thank you Stacey! I sure appreciate it.
Your bangs are framing your Face very nicely sometimes I even take them and part Them on the other side😊
awww, thank you, Connie! Take care and Happy new Year!
Thanks for doing this.
I appreciate you being here for us !
Lena, I am the one that is grateful to all of you. I sure feel blessed. Thank you!
So true the turtle wins the race. 🐢 You are fortunate to have a wonderful experience in rearing your children.
Melissa I did exactly that today…I didn’t realize it had a name but I monotasked today! I had my whole place that needed cleaning but today I picked 4 things to accomplish and I only progressed to the next task once I finished the first one!! I organized my purses in my closet. I had so many sitting out from the holidays and they needed their stuffing put back inside each one so I stuffed them and then placed them neatly on my closet shelf. My boots need organizing too but that wasn’t on my list for today! Inext did my laundry which included my bed sheets. I rested in between my loads and took pleasure in sitting on my sofa with my dog! Once my sheets came out of the dryer I made up my bed and vacuumed my way out of my primary bedroom and I quickly vacuumed my other floors as I made my way to my broom closet! I got my four things done one at a time and I feel so good about my day!! I’m especially proud of my organized purses 😊 #monotasking
I find it really sad when you see moms taking their children out for a walk in their strollers and the mother is busy talking on the phone rather than paying attention to their child
I agree. Every time I take my grandkids to the park, I see moms scrolling their phones while their kids are dying for attention. 😢
I have to mono task to be good at anything. It is so much more enjoyable. I love your channel.
Oh thank you, Cassandra! That is so sweet. And I hear you. I wasn't getting much done and would feel like I had wasted the day and would promise myself to do better the next day. It was frustrating.
Thank you for doing this video, it's just what I needed to hear. I am guilty of over complicating my life by constantly starting and not finishing tasks. Groceries and house cleaning is right at the top. It can take me 3 days to prepare a grocery list and meal plan. It's ridiculous! Thank you for bringing me back to earth! I love your channel thank you for the lovely content God bless you!
Perfect timing on this video topic for me personally. Thank you.
Me too!
I sure do appreciate it!
@@brendawheeler5377 Thanks, Brenda!
What an important subject to talk about. To be honest, I can't remember the last time I really and truly concentrated on what as was doing and appreciated that I could do it, and do it well. Thank you so very much for giving me something truly important to think about. Love listening to you and your bits of wisdom.
Thank you Melissa! I needed the reminder. Mindfulness is so important ❤
I love everything you said in this video!Living in the moment with a grateful attitude and praising God for all our blessings is the most important thing we can do.😊
Oh my, multitasking is my problem. I start one thing and stop and do another You just saved me a few therapy sessions. I am going to try monotasking. I didn't notice your neck. I was admiring your beautiful eyes. 😊
I used to have a busy life certainly taking care of both my sick husband and my senior kitty that was ill. And I had a good size house. Now that I live in this little tiny apartment 800 square-foot by myself, my life is not busy. It’s boring. I still clean. I’m always going to be a clean freak but other than that I don’t have much to do anymore. If I were healthy, I’d go get a part-time job, but my health is not good. My RA is advancing and my back is bad so basically I don’t have much to do anymore. I used to pet sit for my neighbor when they went away but now they moved and I don’t have that anymore. Your bangs are growing in nicely. Mine are finally starting to grow, but for a long time, I honestly looked like Buster Brown.😊
I looked like Buster Brown, too. You have had so much happen to you recently and you have inspired me actually with your attitude. When we text you are such an easy person to talk to and you crack me up. And I just want to tell you how much I appreciate that. I wish I was more help to you because you've done so much for me. Just remember that I love you and I thank you!
@ aww Melissa I just love you. You’re so kind and you make me laugh too. You’ve been a huge help to me💞😘
Excellent video. Good reminder to live mindfully. Btw. You weren’t rambling. You spoke thoughtfully and thoroughly. Looking forward to more videos like this ❤️
I so identify with everything you’re saying 🩷. Now at 67 I’m applying these things and appreciating the simple mono tasking more and more. Living in the Moment family enjoyment thankfulness for the smallest thing. Honestly, there was so much sad in your video that I can not even put it all in a comment but thank you and just know that by what you just shared is probably blessing many right now and it sure is blessing me and it’s just confirmation more and more for me from the Lord to live this way and to appreciate all that he has given us and this is the way to live life so thankful so blessed and thank you so much for your channel. I have been watching you for a few years and I’ve never commented. God bless you and yours love, Lesley.💖
I love you rambling I could listen all day. This is so true, the run up to Xmas I was running around doing this then that then realising I'd forgotten something so had to sort that out I got everything done then xmas morning started to feel poorly. Only today my mind was thinking about this that and the other in the end I ended up with a headache feeling miserable, and clothes pulled out everywhere because I'm preparing for a funeral and a little holiday. If I'd just concentrated on 1 task at a time I would have achieved so much more your absolutely right xxxx
I am so very sorry about the funeral. I do think a lot of it is the times we live in and so much being thrown at us. I finally just had to stop and figure out what was wrong with me. I really hope I can be more purposeful in my life. Thanks, Ann!
@Melissa55 Ah thank you hunny. Yes we definitely have a lot thrown at us lol xxx
You look beautiful!
Your bangs are beautiful!
Thank you so much for sharing!
This speaks to me sooo much!! Especially when speaking about grandkids and feeling like I need to do the same things you listed, snowman, sled, hot chocolate, etc.. I do enjoy all these moments with them but it’s like I’m “checking the boxes” and thinking about the next thing during the moment of the previous…worrying if I’m going to have time to fit it all in. In reality, yes they enjoy it but I think they also just like spending time no matter what we do..as do I. This is definitely something I’m working on and it’s nice to know other brains out there work like mine 😂Thanks for this video! ❤
Yes! Checking the boxes of what a modern grandmother should do. Or a traditional grandmother. And really the best gift we can give them is to be present with them. I tell them about how I grew up and how I raised their parents and it seems to be just as important as that hot chocolate or that snowman. We need to make a pact to give ourselves grace. Thank you and much love!
A very informative & introspective video, Melissa! I really enjoyed it & I learned! Thank you!🥰
You are wise and such a joy Melissa ❤.
I was like you….when I was young and having my children, I also planned one task at a time! I also was so happy with life and enjoyed all the small stuff! I chose to stay home with my kids and the world made me feel like I was wasting my time! People would say…”oh, I couldn’t stay home all the time. I’d be so bored!” So when my youngest started school, I got a job. I gave in and became this overworked mother….life filled with business and chaos like everyone around me! I was never really happy but I worked until retirement! I’m 75 now and once again enjoying the simple, gentle life that I really always wanted! Thank you for sharing your story..I felt like your sister! Lol
I’m watching. Blessing Melissa. ❤
I so appreciate it!
You are such a joy. Thank you for this video so much.
I love love your bangs.
Oh thank you! They have finally grown out! lol
Amen! Yes, I am so much happier when I can live this way.
I am too. Let's try to do it this year.
It’s great you already figured this out. It took me until retirement to realize that all we ever have are the moments in each day and really enjoy it. You’re so loved🥰❤️🥰
Oh my goodness, Trisha. That is so true. All we ever have are the moments in each day. That really hits me. Thank you!
Greetings Melissa! I love this topic! I call it present moment awareness. The thing that distracts me is usually my inner self criticism and negative rumination about how I screw everything up. I know this sounds pathetic, but there ya go! I really want to be more present moment oriented, so I hope you will bring it up again sometime. I loved that quiet video you did one time too. Thanks for being you, Melissa. Love and blessings ♥️🙏
That is such a nice saying - present moment awareness. Oh my gosh, you are reading my mind! I have such self criticism and I don't know why we do that. I sure do thank you and love you dearly. 💋💋💋
My “monotask” is doing a crossword puzzle or reading a book. I can’t do anything other than what I’m solving or reading. That’s carried over into other areas in my life. I realized it’s a form of mediation for me.
Great thought-provoking video Melissa. I'm sure I don't mono-task all the time but as an adult I’ve always been grateful and appreciate what I have because I was raised without so much. I think I make on the spur decisions most of the time about finishing a specific task but then sometimes I have fun trying to see how much I can get done and I jump from task to task. But I think the main thing I've learned since my retirement is that if nothing gets done it’s not the end of the world lol. Love ya..p🌷🌿
That is true that it isn't the end of the world if nothing gets done! I had gotten to the point where I put way too much on myself. My life should have been simple, but I was making it more complicated and I couldn't understand why. I sure do appreciate this. ! Take care Patti and thank you!I
I needed to hear this Melissa, thank you.
Felt like we sat on your couch and had a chat about life. Thank you.
Enjoyed your video !! Love your hair , you are beautiful inside and outside.
I like the bangs! Thx for the video- great reminder
I sure appreciate it, Jennifer!
Hi Melissa ❤ I know you said you were not happy with your bangs, believe me I've been there, but I think the way you've styled them looks really good on you 😊
As far as monotasking goes im all for it. I'm 57 and find my energy levels dropping so ... yes efficiency is important and just maybe prioritizing better for myself. I use sticky notes to help keep me focused on projects. I dropped IG to minimize online stuff. I feel much better about it all. Thanks for sharing ! ❤❤❤❤❤
Oh that is so kind of you, Dee. Thankfully, they grew enough to start guiding them to behave. lol. It was touch and go there for a while. lol. Oh my gosh, yes on the energy levels and I'll add I keep feeling pulled on so many directions when I try to get everything done at once. I like sticky notes. I have reminders for myself and when I finish a task I go to the next one. It makes me feel more peaceful. Love ya and thanks so much!
Thank you so much Melissa....this video is very helpful to me!!!!
Thank you for this. It's important. The last I heard, actual multitasking is not possible for human beings anyway. Task switching is something we all have to do from time to time. I just hope people will stop trying to task switch between their children and their phones. Please, if you have an opportunity to spend time with your child, put your phone away.
I do it every single day for my job and have for decades. However, when it comes to family and friends. No.
@@sweettexast2894 I think some people can do it a lot better than others. I don’t think I can do it very well because my mind gets too distracted if that makes sense. But you’re like my daughter she can do 1 million things at the same time and do them all well. Thank you and take care.
I do however like washing dishes while the microwave is cooking something😊
Excellent advice and ideas. I’ve been thinking about the same things. ❤
Thank you! I really hope I can stick with this.
Hi Melissa, I loved this video. I sat and watched while eating my lunch. This is such good advice. I tend to get overwhelmed too and so doing one task at a time creates calm instead of chaos. I'm going to share this with my husband. He is a great mono tasker. I told him he will love this video. xo love, Karen
Oh Karen I hear you and overwhelmed is a good way to describe it. And then I get down on myself because I have accomplished nothing and I'm discouraged. I sure appreciate you. Stay safe and much love!
When you focus on one task at a time you do it well. Multi tasking things are done half fast in some cases.
Amen! Amen! I've been saying this for YEARS! I'll be sharing this video for sure. Thank you for this. xoxoxo
Oh thank you so much, Leslie! And girl it's good to see you! Many thanks.
Great Video Melissa. I am about your age. I found that when I baked something while still trying to do other things or thinking about things that needed one, I would usually mess up my baking by forgetting something. Now, I have slowed down. If I don’t get my to do list done, I will do them the next day or another day. Thanks for reminding all of us. What scares me is seeing young mothers talking on the phone while driving. Thanks Melissa ❤❤❤
Hi Melissa! I have been following you for a while and I really like your videos and how you share your everyday life with us. I like all your videos but this one was really one of the best you have done. There are so many wise words and so important things to think about. I wish you all the best and you are truly an inspiration to us women 🤗 Best regards from Charlotta in Sweden
Charlotta, thank you so very much. I just didn't like the way I was feeling and I wanted to say out loud what I thought the problem was. Oh Sweden!!! I have been doing a deep dive into videos from Finland and Norway and looking at Sweden next. I thank you so much!
Melissa I think this is with beauty. It’s important to keep yourself looking good & especially being clean & smelling lovely, but it’s not everything!
I NEEDED this more than you will ever know! I have been so down and constantly try to multi task an end up getting almost nothing done. I use to mono task an now am going to try my hardest to get back to it and try to enjoy again! 🎉 You just sent me a blessing at one of my most trying times and I appreciate you so much! ❤
Oh Brenda, do I ever feel you!!! I have been trying to get way too much done at one time, and what happened was I got nothing done. And this is especially true with my channel. We have got to give ourselves some grace. Thank you and much love!
@Melissa55 🤗❤️
I don't do Facebook or Instagram or tic-toc. I don't even have a smart phone. It eliminates so much junk. Unusual, I know. But it can be done :) I wouldn't change it for the world. I've learned that the simpler I make my life the closer I come to God. 💙💗
I did the same. It's liberating and gives you time to read books!!!
Melissa this talk made me think about how I want to be more present and enjoy each task at hand
It was practically therapy because I felt a weight lifted off of me while listening to you explain this concept TY 😊
Oh that is so kind of you to say that. I kind of needed to say it out loud to hold myself accountable. I appreciate it!
So grateful for you Melissa!! 💕
Hi Melissa, I think everyone needed to hear this. We all need to slow down. Everything is so rushed! I’m looking forward to retirement in a couple of years so I will have time for just that. Thanks for the reminder and the video!
Thank you, Sharon. It just all seems like it's racing past doesn't it? And it gets confusing and I always feel too torn in many directions. Happy New Year and thank you so much.
Many people think they can do multitasking. I find not everything gets done right. I think you get overwhelmed & nothing gets done. I say do one thing & do it right. Something will suffer when you try to multitask. You have the right attitude. Much love, Lucy
I just can't do it, Lucy, and I don't think I ever could. I get so confused and then I get discouraged and then I give up and then I beat myself up and tell myself I'm a failure. It's a vicious cycle I have to break. Love you!
Thanks for your insight ❤ it’s so true we need to mono task often 😊
Thank you, Cristina. I sure know I had to change some things. I had gotten away from the things I had done in the past. I appreciate it.
I'm going to try this!❤
I never comment but this one I had to. I needed to hear this. I've always seemed to be overwhelmed with wanting everything to be perfect. It's good to hear someone else is trying so hard.
Thank you, Carol. I have been so overwhelmed recently and then got so discouraged. I sure appreciate you commenting. Much love! Melissa
Wonderful message Melissa! If I multitask too much I get anxiety! It has become necessary in my life to monotask so I avoid making myself ill! Yes to a 50 years of skincare video! How fun to see what you may have used as a young woman and then perhaps a 30-something and a 50 something woman etc! Have a wonderful new year! I will be right here with every video!! ❤❤
Oh my goodness I hear you and I feel this, too. I get anxious and I start procrastinating and don't get anything done. Yes I want to talk about what I used at each phase of my life and it hasn't been that many changes. lol. Happy new Year and thank you!
Hi Melissa.❤ Loving your hair. You look beautiful as always. You don't look a day over 50! ❤ As an adult, I've always been a multi-tasker. I thought I had to be, to keep up with everything going on in my life. Now I've had Chronic Fatigue Syndrome for the past 7 years, so have been forced to slow down completely to the point of mostly being bed-bound. I've had to learn a whole new way of living. I hope one day I recover and that I'll live as you've described, which would be much more sustainable. ❤ God bless you and your followers. Jo (NZ) ❤
You are so sweet! Thank you! Yes, I think we feel we all have to multi-task or we aren't accomplishing anything. But some of us just can't do that. It's too confusing and we just can't function as well. I am so sorry about the CFS. It's a tough disease to have. Thank you and Much love.
Hi Melissa - I really enjoyed this video and want to get into the Mono-tasking life style. Also, I too turn 70 this year (in just a few days the 23rd pf this month) and while age is said to be just a number - this number (70) is a bit harder to get my head around. I still think I'm about 40 - haha!!! You are beautiful today as you always are!! Thanks for always giving us honest and trueful video content - you and MEllen are my two favorite women on UA-cam. Sending you hugs my sweet friend... Deb :-)
This video is right on time! I needed this today. 💕
Thank you! And honestly I needed to declare it out loud for myself. So I just made yall listen. lol. I appreciate it!
Thanks for the reminder especially as we age we need to appreciate ever moment and be mentally present good or not so good.
Thanks, Sandy and I sure need to be reminded a lot! Thank you!
I don't do tik tok I tried its just not mee. Love you I Mono tasked I never knew I did. I had days for everything. Hey Olliver. And Doug ❤❤❤xxx 🐶🐾🐾
yes please do a skin care video! U have the most beautiful skin-- can't believe u r the age u say!!
As women in the world today we have so many responsibilities and expectations. I agree that we don't stop and smell the roses and I believe it ends up harming us and our quality of life. It is gratitude and we have so much to be grateful for. Prayers to all those who have lost their homes in the fires. ❤
You are one wise woman. I've always known it and when I see you have left a comment, I know I'm going to enjoy it and get a lot out of it. And this is no exception. Yes we sure have so much to be grateful for. Love to you and thank you!
I so wish we were neighbors - you are the sweetest, loveliest lady I know.
Oh that is sooo sweet! Thank you!
Bravo, Bravo!!!!
Much love from Texas.
awww, thanks, Janice!!! Take care and much love!
I so enjoyed this video beautiful Melissa!🌹 looking stunning as always!🥰 love & hugs Deb x❤❤❤
aw, Deb, love you lots. And thank you!
This was really helpful!!! Thank you!!❤
Great video! I find myself multitasking way too much.
What you are describing about being absorbed in the tasks is called "flow" and there is a whole academic theory called Flow Theory that covers this! If you are interested, there is a TED Talk by a professor called Mihalyi Csikszentmihalyi about it.
Melissa that was a wonderful video we do too much rushing to get everything done! You just reminded us we need to live our life while it's happening think about what we're doing and just do that nothing else! That was such a wonderful conversation that we so desperately need as we get older because we cannot do the things we used to do when we were young it's impossible it just wears us down 😢 Thank you for that wonderful conversation that we all needed to hear especially the mature women who have been rushing and doing everything all their lives take care my friend💖 Hope all is well with you and your family God bless❤❤
I tell you, Rose, I get so down on myself when I have my mind going in too many directions. And then I just give up and feel awful about myself because I've accomplished nothing. And it makes me so tired. I thank you and I hope you are doing well. Much love!
Very good advice!! I will definitely try to stop being so critical of myself when I don’t get my list of multiple things done. ❤
It's hard isn't it? When you said being critical of yourself, I knew what you meant. And I do think slowing down might help us some and give us a sense of accomplishment. Thank you!
Hi sweetheart! 💐 You look beautiful with your bangs. Thank you for this most sensitive and helpful video. Melissa would you please share with me a link for the body lotion you spoke of in prior videos? I really need this for my arms and legs....they are getting dry and crepy 😢. JESUS bless and keep you dear heart. 💐🕊✨️✝️
Good advice
Thank you for this video ..
I sure do appreciate you, Carrie!
You remind me so much of the beautiful Christy Brinkley only natural… ❤
You look great for almost 70! I am 57 and would love to know what your skin care routine is! I have never been on HRT and I know hormones, specifically estrogen, does wonders to keep the skin youthful and producing collagen. Was thinking about estrogen cream for facial use. I’ll need to research that one though. I always enjoy watching your videos. You have such a sparkling personality!
Melissa you’re beautiful inside and out. Thank you for this video on mono tasking I never thought of it before!! But I realized that I do better with this method as well. Off topic, but I can’t believe you’re going to be 70. I know it’s personal, but May I ask if you have had any plastic surgery or injectables etc? You don’t have to tell me if you don’t want to of course but you look simply amazing and at least 12-15 years younger than your age. Love your channel. ❤
Melissa I turned 70 last spring. I didn't like it much. So I decided i'm not going to be 70😂, I'm just going to be 69/68. You know you don't feel 70. Me neither. We can be whatever age we want to be. L o l🎉❤
It's all a game? 😲🤯
i have always multitaskee but now i find i want to mini talk bc i get distracted so radón y i forcé myself to keep my mind and body on one thing ay a time
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Well, you have given me a lot to think about. I know I’m blessed but I have let bad memories of my mom take over my mind. I guess because she passed away this past summer. I can’t shed a tear because it didn’t feel like loss. But I’m going to try to be better. Thank you for doing this you’ve probably helped more people than you know. I always learn something from you.💜
Good advice 🩵💛🙏🏻👍🏻