I agree with Conner's reasoning because I had a friend that overused the cultural excuse. She would do manipulative things and say it was her culture. It was a very toxic relationship.
It takes persistence. After all, it is a lot more than just finding friendships, and even genuine friendships can be difficult to gain without really putting yourself out there. So don't give up. Of course, it helps to lower your own standards as well, if you aren't good looking, well there are plenty of girls who are about same, or don't care so much if your personality stands out enough that it shines through.
And now I am asking myself what he hoped of the dinner with him, Aki and Joey... did he think he could get home with Connor after that or was he going for „the big kill“? 😅
16:10 yeah I noticed that when I attempted to use Tinder in japan,like you straight up have no fucking idea what they look like aside from some really vague things like hair length and body type. Usually they didn't have a single picture without millions of filters on so you can't even recognize them. Like I shit you not I was going on a date with some girl I met on Tinder and while I was waiting for her some other,completely different girl just approached me in the bar and started speaking english so I simply thought it was her...so I went on a date with her instead and then like couple of hours later we were sitting in an izakaya and I mentioned Tinder at some point and she just said ''Ahh Tinder I never used that but I've heard of it'' and I just started laughing,explained what happened and we just laughed it off and went to an arcade. Probably best date I've ever had with a complete stranger and we ended up having bit of a thing going for the rest of my trip. I have no idea what happened with the actual girl on Tinder.
7:05 They've probably seen this on American shows or movies. Character gets home drunk or tired, doesn't take their shoes off and just collapses bed still with their shoes on.
not like that 40 something yo japanese dude got rude at the end. He was just pushy about his love. "Nice guys" will demand not request from what I've seen, and then get rude and angry when rejected.
Honestly, I think Misako genuinely liked you. The thing about saying "We're only friends, I'll pay my half" is the type of shit I've done on my crushes in the past and I did it to avoid sounding too straight forward or make the other person uncomfortable. I think she still wanted to pay the other half because it's nice but also didn't wanna seem too straight forward. I think the kiss on the neck might have also been due to embarrassment but I could be wrong. Since she didn't know you too well, she might have been afraid it would make you uncomfortable. Since you guys had difficulty talking because of the language barrier, it might have also made her question whether you liked her or not. I have these thoughts myself when it comes to having crushes. Most of the time, I'm doing nothing wrong but my dumbass brain always does it to me
Would it work to state to a Japanese girl ? "I really like you" If you do, of course ! With western woman, obviously no, you just go for the kiss on the lips. But I wonder for Japanese girls ?
I appreciate Japan for what it is naturally, but I'm tired of these naive people who talk about its inhabitants as if they are absolute angels. I once met an arrogant Japanese girl who asked me to stop watching these videos, but I go where I want. she told me that reading my negative comments saddened her but I was telling the truth about her culture. what if we speak their language badly? she refused to admit that her compatriots have many cultural faults! these people have a problem with ego and hypocrisy.
This sounds like a nightmare. I visited Korea (where my mother's from) and I was pretty disappointed in the values my immediate family seem interested in, superficial beauty, title of career, etc. I'm pretty stoked to live in America, haha.
I mean, for many girls here, it's superficial too. The way the guy makes them feel, for example. A lot of girls I know tend to be addicted to the high of the honeymoon stage and whenever that runs out, it's on to the next guy. A good woman seeks genuine love. One where the man is willing to sacrifice his life for her, and where she would be willing to sacrifice her life for him. One where, even if he became paraplegic or vice versa, they would happily stay together and not want to be with anyone else. Those types are rare these days, no matter what country you live in. Many of those type are also desperate for love, which is why they tend to get tricked and abused by their partner who doesn't love them back, and the girl can't help but want to keep trying. It's an incredibly sad situation, and there needs to be more good men to help these types find what they're truly seeking before they end up in an abusive relationship.
One thing to keep in mind with dating apps is that it appears to be a totally different ballpark for men than for women (at least I've been told). My current boyfriend of 2 years spent a whole 3 years on Tinder and while he met some friendly ladies, nothing seemed to work out. One of my male friends is in the middle of a similar situation. The way he described it to me is he thinks in general, guys might have more simple standards (whether loose, or solid) and will go into a date with an open mind to see how things will go, where as women tend to be more strict with their standards and also tend to judge appearance a little more before giving someone a chance (though the intense standards could also be a way of guarding their heart, which is understandable). Of course this is a loose generalization, and these tendencies can go both ways regardless of gender or sexuality. But it was a bit shocking to me because I had matched with my current boyfriend the DAY I installed the app for the first time, along with a couple other guys that were nice. Idk. This is kind of what I had picked up on and talked about in regards to dating apps.
Men outnumber women 9 to 1 on Tinder, so there's that. Which again enables women to be extremely picky and only go for the top 2% guys or whatever. For most guys, dating apps is a horrible experience of constant rejection. How this will affect general mental health in the future one can only imagine. I REALLY fear for this generation growing up in this digital world, it's not looking good.
@@fred6907 Rejection is normal. You have to get used to it and not feel hurt. Just be confident about yourself. I am below average in attractiveness for women. So be sure it's something I had to deal with. :)
"In western culture, I think people don't really care about punctuality" Err... People should stop talking about the West like a whole (even Westerners themselves). There are so many countries and cultures... For example, have you ever been to the Netherlands? If you are 5 minutes late, you missed your appointment.
I posted the same comment on the same video about how by "western guys", they really meant "white guys". And I got roasted in the comments for being racist to the point where I deleted the comment. It feels good to have Connor say the exact same thing I did. It's not racist, it's just the obvious subtext.
Thats because when they hear foreigner their minds go to foreign culture and obviously the biggest influence is american and european. Black America is often associated with Thug Culture exported through hip-hop.
Dude, this is really an amazing video. I've been to Japan for a year in Sendai and people over there was aware that I was new there. They never acted like something I did was a deal breaker. Even table manners, they did not even bother to warn me about that because it was ok(unless I step on table and destroy the dinner). Really, those video about "What Japanese think about XXXXX" is kind of unrealist, I would say. Thank you for your efforts, btw.
If I remember correctly, it's a normal thing in Japan to split the bill in a date, so I think he just misinterpreted what she did? I might be wrong tho idk
And this is like a premise for a yaoi...and we go full circle.CDAWG yaoi irl yaoi read by Cdawg online I have to draw this and add Kermit into it cuz apparently furries are in right now xD
8:20 the left way of using the toilet is actually better for you anatomically speaking, it also reduces the risk of colon cancer, but of course you don’t do that on a public bathroom
I also think it’s because in mainland China squatting in public to use the restroom is common so since a lot of Chinese tourists visit Japan it’s an issue. I think even Disneyland Shanghai had to put up signs near the bushes telling people to instead use the restrooms because it was getting out of control.
😂 I had a bout of insomnia and am watching this instead of sleeping and this was freaking hilarious. I haven't laughed in such a long time so this video was good for me.
It's one thing I always list on my profiles, because I don't like the idea of being unable to feel physical attraction to someone unless they change something (this being a big thing for me, not like I can control it), and later it turns out they're unwilling to, well it's too late. So better to tell them earlier than later. I also prefer if a guy tells me if something I wear or my hairstyle isn't to his liking sooner.
we heard one side of the story. Let tell you hers: her: hey, I don't like beards, do you mind shaving it off? him: **ignores question** her: hey, so, you haven't answered my question, any plans to shave...? him: **ignores question** her: ok, seriously, if you do not want to shave, I prefer not to continue dating HIM: **I-G-N-O-R-E**
I immediately subscribed When he said “let’s change this to white guys not western guys”. I’m black and this guy pulled on a heart string right there haha.
well, better black than arabian for those dudes, eastern asians unanimously hate middle-easterns to the point it gets nazi-esque, not sure if there's a historical reason for that since their cultures most likely had contact with eachother for centuries if not millenia. At least it explains JP's allies in WW2, they were "xenophobing" around with the nazis.
I lived in China for 2 years and Japan for 1 year and I know exactly what you were alluding to with girl 2. I absolutely loved Tokyo and want to visit again soon. New subscriber from London here 👍🏼
@@007psyren Japanese generally do not have beard features in general. So when they meet someone with a beard, they are concerned and do not easily want to associate.
To be fair, there are a lot of white americans who wear shoes in doors. There's also a lot of TV shows (usually sitcoms) where characters wear their shoes while lying on the couch or on their bed. I thought it was just a show cause I grew up in a very multicultural area so everyone takes off their shoes in doors, but trust me..there are people who wear them everywhere indoors 🤮
I’m not joking, I watched a TV show a few weeks ago and the character woke up in full shoes and in street clothes. Me and my girlfriend literally yelled at the screen hahaha.
6:45 The female friends confusion is kind of a cultural thing. Story time: Back in 2014, I went on a homestay trip(basically a 2-week school swap with a Japanese family; short-term exchange student) to a couple of towns in Hokkaido. While I was there, out of the 15 classmates who came to Japan with me, the only 2 people that I knew were girls, so I mostly hung out with them during the downtime. There was a day we were at this big clothing store in Obihiro with some of our Japanese temporary classmates, and about 20 minutes in, the Japanese students' teacher walked up to me and asked "are you sure you don't want to spend more time with the other boys?" in a tone that implied I was kind of in the wrong or something. That indicated to me that Japanese culture isn't very open about platonic male-female friendships. In other words, it might not have been that woman's fault
Agreed. Spoke with multiple men and women in Japan and you just don't cross that gender lines when it comes to friends. It is weird to them. It is kind of like elementary school when your parents made jabs at you saying every girl you hung out with is your girlfirend, except your 18 and they are being serious.
@@bryannothem1505 Hanging out with the opposite gender one on one when not in a relationship is weird as fuck. In a group i can kinda get it but alone in private one on one time between just friends is weird and when someone has this kinda relationship i would not date them.
@@LPAmir If you can't trust your SO to have friends without cheating you probably shouldn't be in a relationship to begin with. Controlling who you can and can't be friends with is on the U.S. National Domestic Abuse Hotline's official list of red flags. Links: www.thehotline.org/2012/09/11/red-flags-of-abuse/ nnedv.org/content/red-flags-of-abuse/
@@quentingivens4 she can be friends with with most people but spending time alone with the opposite gender is a no from me. I dont do that, most of my gf's didnt do that and those who did i broke up with. If you arw fine being played like that by the phrase "he is just a friend" then go on live your life like that. But i wont
@@LPAmir were you cheated on in the past? I know that betrayal can cause trust issues. Not all girls are like that I promise, some just generally get on better with men.
6:43 - No that actually is a cultural difference. It's much rarer for men and women to go out together by themselves if they are not dating in Japan. People tend to either hang out in a bigger group, or just with friends of the same gender. Another common misunderstanding is... if you tell people you are dating someone, or going on dates with someone, but they aren't your girlfriend, they generally get confused and don't understand. Btw when you're telling people you're an Otaku, that generally doesn't mean like "Oh I really like anime and manga". If you just tell someone you are an Otaku, that word has a negative connotation. It's not just someone who really likes something, but someone who has an obsessive interest in something, to the point where it's become a little unhealthy, dysfunctional or anti-social. That is the connotation. As you said in your video, there's a selection bias issue. Most Japanese people aren't using tinder. Most aren't trying to find and date foreign people, most can't speak much English, so you will tend to meet a kind of subset of the population.
I'm sure he probably knows about the otaku thing being a negative term in Japan seeing as he's friends with Joey who has mentioned it on his channel a couple of times. The difference in connotations of dates and dating tho were interesting, very informative! "Group dates" seem way more common in Japan than any country I've lived in.
Out here in the states if you go to just eat lunch with a girl everyone has the shit eating grin from spongebob "You like krabby patties don't you squidward."
I’m not Japanese, but as an Asian I can say that not all of us are comfortable with hanging out with opposite gender, and prefer hanging out in big groups either boys only or girls only. There is no reason why, it’s just that hanging out with the same gender is more comfortable?easier? This is because there is a kind of mindset that males and females can never be friends. They can start of as friends, but will they be able to end off as friends? Isn’t there something more to it? Aren’t you lying that you don’t feel any physical attraction to him/her as a male/female? This is the kind of connotation that is attached to male and female hanging out together ... Sad but true. However, Asians are also gradually becoming more accepting and understanding of male and female hanging out together. And this might be due to the gradual influence we have gotten from western people/culture(?). You know like TV shows and drama, and see that “ohhhh it’s possible for male and female to be friends!”. And I am definitely one of those asians that really think male and female cannot be friends until the influence of the western. :)
dating 800 girls would be a career in itself to be able to just remember anything about anyone as people start to remind you of other similar people quite quickly whether it's looks, personality or whatever. We all know that's a lie. I've known girls that make spreadsheets about all the guys they are currently dating and yes they have no job and schedule dates like meetings at a corporate office. They do treat it like a job. If you ever had a job in a call center with a lot of turnover, you would know the boss is a horrible person that doesn't care about you, same as these people that date like it's their job. They want the best performance from you and to enrich themselves and make themselves richer off your hard work. They don't even make good friends to hang around with.
Man, I would totally strike out when dating in Japan. I'm used to getting really confrontational being sarcastic and catching girls about something they said in a strange way and turning it into something we can both have a laugh at, but I think I would make Japanese girls cry within a minute of our date. Also I have a full beard.
Japanese girls: worriyng about white guys sleeping in their shoes Me, a Russian: getting heartstroke everytime I see people entering the house without taking their shoes off... yeah, kinda...
YEAH YEAH YEAH YEAH it’s frustrating AF Just take them off. Please. We have special shoes, you won’t get dirty, just please, pleeease TAKE THEM OFF P. S. привет от земляка!
everytime I search for my shoes they are in a different place. One day they are in the hallway, another day in my bedroom, or living room, or kitchen, or bathroom. Actually, same with clothes and coats.
I tried using Tinder to try dating in Japan and surprisingly enough I found a really nice girl who actually lives a few hrs outside of Tokyo who told me she liked my beard which once I heard that I was happy since I have a full beard, also she told me she is into video games, anime and manga which sounds to be an Otakus dream and now we have been dating for over a year. So long story short sometimes you can find that unicorn out there.
Personally, for romantic relationships I dont like men with facial hair because it will surely scratch/irritate/tickle my face if we kiss.(I have sensitive skin & a clean freak ok). It could even leave me acne if they're not washing their face often/not washing facial hair area properly. Y'know when you're outdoors with all that dirt and germs that goes with it that is hard to wipe/clean even by using wetwipes? Feel me girls? Get it guys? Even when I was a child, I seldom kiss my father because he has mustache & beard as course as toothbrush bristles LOL so let's say I was traumatized by the idea eversince. But that's just me. There are others who doesnt mind facial hair. Be "you". Dont mold yourself 'too much' for others. There will always be others who'll like you as you are. You might even be thinking of yourself as a garbage but you dont know there is one person or people out there who digs you 500%. (I used to try to fit in starting 12 until I was 20. Im glad I shifted to staying "me" starting 21y/o. Im 26 now. "Living for yourself" is considered a luxury for an Asian. Most "live for others", like being controlled by their parents/relatives even if they're already an adult/married/earning, constantly pleasing the society/friends, pretending to be someone else just to be loved, or being a doll for their spouse, etc). P.S. I found Connor because of 'Nobita from Japan' 😂
7:59 to be fair, she could be talking about the squat toilets... those intimidated the crap out of me when I first moved to Japan, because I had never seen one before, and my asian squat was... subpar
Cynical Kazu - I mean, I could always squat, it’s not hard I agree. But the asian squat is very different, I wasn’t flexible enough for it, I had to practice lol
@@astral2048 apparently there's a thing where white people just genetically have a harder time doing the asian squat. Someone made a video on it. It was weird lmao
@@DORADOBA Here we called them French toilets, as when I grew up the only country we visited that still had these was France. But that was a long time ago. It was sort of nostalgic to see them still in use in Japan.....not that I hated them any less.
and also from personal experience I know a LOT of white people who wear their outdoor shoes to their bedroom and they often sleep in them too. I know zero asians who sleep with shoes, I know maybe around 40ish white men/women who would sleep with sneakers on.
@@erikm5221 I think it depends on the environment and situation, me having an apartment with 0 carpets, usually came from an exhausting night out and just layd in bed with shoes but kept them over the end, took a nap and woke up still with the shoes over the end.🤷🏽♂️
I slept with my shoes on once but only because I was super drunk and about to head home until my friend told me to sleep in his spare room. I woke up disgusted with myself
Mizaki can't say she is dating since maids are supposed to make it seem like they are single and friends with everyone. That's why she gave you those weird signals of being friends vs wanting more
@@ThreadBomb nah its not that, its just in case someone recognizes her, or takes a photo that ends up on 2ch of 'maid of X shop caught in public with foreigner bf' then she gets flamed on twitter and the shop has to fire her.
I'd imagine it's because Japanese people use it for hanging out, not for hookups, as he mentioned in the video. He also mentioned a lot of Japanese people wanting to practice English with him. Any western guy would probably have good success in Japan on Tinder for those reasons.
@@jonnydavis3857 According to who? Sure they're friendly with Caucasians, but they're friendly to all foreigners. Speaking as a black man who has lived in Japan and has experienced the same things as Connor. If you ever plan on visiting Japan, you should throw away that mindset unless you want to end up like that infamous redditor.
@@destituteanddecadent9106 Short story is that some Caucasian guy went to Japan thinking he was gonna get laid left and right because of his ethnicity, only to be ignored by everyone there.
1:36 Cho means butter fly The character in naruto "choji"s name starts with a cho Chojis ability is becoming a butterfly Little things have so much meaning
If this amazes you then you'd be delighted to hear that all Japanese names when read Family Name + First Name have a special meaning, not just in anime but in real life. E.g. Haruno Sakura from Naruto means "Cherry blossoms of Spring".
Meets girl that speaks perfect english: "she said she was looking for long term so that was a no" Meets girl that can barely speak english: "it was great, but i cant see my self long term with someone i cant communicate with"
Case 1: Man is still settling in Japan and unsure of the future, so can't promise long term relationship well worst case he'll have to move back to UK. Case 2: Unknown time frame (whether he has fully settled in Japan), but the problem here is that there is just no realistic future with the girl. You can't expect to have a good time while barely being able to communicate.
Well with the 1st girl it was like people mentioned - he literally got off the plane a week before, doesn't have much experience living in Japan yet and doesn't know how long he will stay there because he isn't even yet properly settled in. So obviously you don't want to commit to a serious long-term relationship given all these facts - unless you are an asshat that will enter a longterm relationship knowing girl's intentions and after a week you would go "Yeaaah, I'm going back to my country, been nice dating you" As for the girl that knew barely any english, there was no future for them due to problems with communication. To summarize: The 1st girl would have an amazing chance if they met AFTER Connor knew more about his future in Japan, properly settled in etc. and thus could commit to long-term relationship
@@bobbywhite5319 As they said, I feel like those are really issues that don't come up until the relationship is getting more serious (i.e. you finally introduce get introduced to their parents/start hanging out regularly with their family, move in together). Obviously this will differ from person to person, but I feel like that stuff often doesn't come up until like a year into the relationship.
The interesting question would be if Connor had asked her why she paid the bill. I.e. If it was similar to new gender norms in western cultures -- "I don't want you to pay for me and make me feel obligated to date you". Because then her initiating a kiss afterwards, and giving a socially polite presumption to tell the server they're 'just friends', makes her twice as cool. Chill, respectful *and* adventurous. Say compared to the other girl who was "Two dates in now, so we on the way to gettin married bro?"
Yep...been there. When you combine overwhelming depression, social anxiety, a reclusive personality, and a horrible voice, even the simple task of making friends is just about impossible for me, especially with how my social circles tend to dissolve. Dating and finding a girlfriend? Yeah, good luck with that me. I've long accepted I'm one of the people who never finds love in their life.
Shadow Ecliptor I feel the same way but you gotta just look to the future and know that opportunities will arise as time goes on. You’ll meet someone through a friend or a job or a family member, dating apps aren’t a joke and though it’s rare people have found true love online after meeting thru those sites. The only time you lose is when you give up hope and stop pushing yourself to be a better person
It's called the Cross-race effect. For countries in Asia, there are rarely any foreigners, for that, I mean black, white, and Hispanic. When I first came to the US, if you showed me a single picture of either Rihanna or Beyonce, I couldn't tell who was who. They looked similar to me at that time. However, when I stayed here for some more years, and meet more different people from different races, I don't have the problem anymore.
Even though I'm Asian-American (Japanese-Chinese), because I was raised on American pop culture from childhood living in USA, I actually also had trouble telling Asian celebrities apart until I got more into Asian (mostly Japanese) pop culture in my late teens, and after that it is easier for me to recognize Asian celebrities (still have trouble with many K-pop celebrities though because of the surgeries).
@@nde1083 Yeah, however, the cross-race effect isn't the only phenomenon. Because of genetical history, some ethnies look more akin to eachother than others. For example, white people, due to millenias of warring and politically defined borders as well as living in the north, have more distinct traits (like redheads, blonds, stuff like that mostly from recessive genes). Asians and blacks... Are the other way around. Due to their dominant gene pool, differences between people have been diminished massively. So white people struggle at differentiating asians/blacks more than asians/blacks struggle with whites.
Yea I started dating after getting out of a 5 year relationship. The filter thing IS REAL in the US... Bruh I mean at this point if your first picture (or all of them) have a filter I pass them up. Wish women would stop with the filters and just let their natural beauty shine.
I have a solution to this shaving beard thing. Just take a picture of you without your beard and if anyone asks you to ever shave your beard, just show them that beardless picture of you. There, easy PS: you rlly shouldn't shave your beard if you don't feel comfortable
@G. S. I mean, you'll just have to shave once. So at least when other people (like idk, your potential partner) asks you to shave you don't really have to shave.
C'mon man, okay this guy should get in youtube rewind he is in every comment section in youtube. like are you trying to get a guiness world record or something.
The Akihabara girl was playing “My neck My back” by Khia in her head. 😂😂 this video is hilarious enjoyed watching it so much 😂😂 in perspective of both Japanese and Foreigner.
As with any language, the ability to use and understand sarcasm requires fluency equivalent to the level of a native speaker. It's not that Japanese people aren't sarcastic, it's just most don't understand English well enough to pick up on it. For example, I have a friend who is Vietnamese who is incredibly sarcastic and roasts me and our other friends all the time. However, when we first met him, he was incredibly quiet and reserved. He was fluent in English, but not to the point where he could pick up on jokes, sarcasm, or slang. Whenever he didn't understand something, we'd explain it to him. Now he's basically fluent in English and takes immense pleasure in roasting us every chance he gets. Apparently, he's the least sarcastic of his Vietnamese friends, but I don't believe him haha
I got some rather strange looks at an izakaya when I told people I'd rather "slam my hand in a car door seventeen times" than to visit Paris again. It made them think I was a crazy masochist, or Paris was worse than literal Hell.
You see being fluent doesn't mean you know the culture. I'm not fluent in English, but I've been living in UK past 8 years and people here are very, very sarcastic(in a good way). People who are fluent, but never had English people to hang out with probably wont understand it, because English have such a unique sarcasm that they somehow manage to hide it :) for example when I see Americans being sarcastic its straight and simple while Brits are very different :)
Not necessarily, certain cultures just don’t use sarcasm as much. Joey the anime man , a half japanese, half australian who’s fluent in English & Japanese made a video about how Japanese basically doesn’t use sarcasm at all.
@you know I am right pp yes but problem here was that she clearly said they were friends but than went for a kiss and that is weird but as for splitting yes its normal to split
Ngl Connor you seem to be such a fun and genuine human to be with, I'm pretty sure these dates just weren't meant to be. It also reminds me of quite a few situations back in korea (white girl I am). I have always worn short hair and I had strangers ask me why I wouldn't let it grow out to look prettier. Cultural differences also in morals at its finest for sure lol. Always enjoying your (virtual) presence and content. Also the beard looks very much fabulous on you. Handsome dude for sure!
"I Made You Kiss My Neck (in the middle of Shibuya)" sounds like a good light novel title.
Amitte Sukku lmao why is this so accurate
Hehe
Nice
True tho
@@TheRealGuywithoutaMustache omg u
Huge video dropping next week weebs, involves Yaoi 👀
Did I hear... Yaoi?!
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Uh, I’m pretty sure sleeping with your shoes on is a universal “Aight, Imma head out,” no matter where you’re from lol.
p e r i o d.
Honestly who does that??
It's movies, movies make white people/americans look like god damn heathens
EVEN SOCKS MAKE ME UNCONFORTABLE TO SLEEP
@@invictuscrown4026 socks are ok actually.
Japanese girl: So why did you want to go out on this date?
Connor: Comedic content
“DATING IN JAPAN”
*Anime boyfriend has entered Chatroom*
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Some Japanese girls probably just wanna make half-white babies.
XD omg yes! I love anime boyfriend xD Connor should try boys love 👀👀👀
XxVampiregirl17xX I wish I could but I can’t get my sorry butt out the house
Nuuuuu!! 😭😭😂😂😂
"i do have chest hair, by the way" like he hasn't stripped down to his underwear for his youtube videos.
mai My exact thoughts! Lol, we definitely know you have chest hair Connor.
Yeah we’ve almost seen it all 😂.
He may have been clarifying to the new people, so they're curious and watch his other videos
In this part I was like, “we know Connor... we know.” While nodding with some regrettable expression but I still support his videos.
*NEIR* *AUTOMATA* *COSPLAY* *FLASHBACK*
“Generalising people, *in general* , is not a good thing.” - Connor, 2020
I have 200IQ
@@CDawgVA youre kinda THHHHIIIICCCC DOE. No wonder u got so many girls
CDawgVA love u 😘
@@dreagerd8248 he'd get guys, too, if he's down for that. He does like the yaoi. 🤔😜😂
@@CDawgVA i want you inside the gay ice skating anime
I agree with Conner's reasoning because I had a friend that overused the cultural excuse.
She would do manipulative things and say it was her culture. It was a very toxic relationship.
He dated more girls in two weeks than I did in 22 years
because he is good looking enough, and you guys arent. simple math.
@@taketheblackpillneo3940 How is that math?
It takes persistence. After all, it is a lot more than just finding friendships, and even genuine friendships can be difficult to gain without really putting yourself out there. So don't give up. Of course, it helps to lower your own standards as well, if you aren't good looking, well there are plenty of girls who are about same, or don't care so much if your personality stands out enough that it shines through.
I'd rather get more longer lasting relationships than dates. I get too many dates that go no where or last for 2-3 months.
Maybe you should try in another country. He said the same "I didn't have luck in UK".
"I just want one night stand" My man was going in for the kill🤣
And now I am asking myself what he hoped of the dinner with him, Aki and Joey... did he think he could get home with Connor after that or was he going for „the big kill“? 😅
phazttraxx1980 nah going in for the kill is when he whips out his meat scepter
last time i was this early cdawg still lived in the uk
funniest stories I've heard in forever. Really makes me want to go to Japan just to experience what happened to you!
Girl: They don't find me attractive
Connor: I FIND YOU ATTRACTIVE *desperated white man*
such a simp
He's a Chad
SIMP
S i m p alert
Ailii Shimizu desperated?
But Connor, you bought yourself a boyfriend on Fiver
But this one approached him, willingly.
@Morgan Smart 🤣
Fiverr*
3 comments moment
Ooooo his internet bf is gonna be crushed
16:10 yeah I noticed that when I attempted to use Tinder in japan,like you straight up have no fucking idea what they look like aside from some really vague things like hair length and body type. Usually they didn't have a single picture without millions of filters on so you can't even recognize them. Like I shit you not I was going on a date with some girl I met on Tinder and while I was waiting for her some other,completely different girl just approached me in the bar and started speaking english so I simply thought it was her...so I went on a date with her instead and then like couple of hours later we were sitting in an izakaya and I mentioned Tinder at some point and she just said ''Ahh Tinder I never used that but I've heard of it'' and I just started laughing,explained what happened and we just laughed it off and went to an arcade. Probably best date I've ever had with a complete stranger and we ended up having bit of a thing going for the rest of my trip.
I have no idea what happened with the actual girl on Tinder.
I feel good for you, but bad for the other girl lol
Hilarous, good for you both!
Tell us what happened with the original girl from tinder, did you ever text her and let her know what happened?
Nice one brother , it prob went the same thing with hol horse but araki decided that a dog would be a better choice
Other girl probably cried lol
7:05 They've probably seen this on American shows or movies. Character gets home drunk or tired, doesn't take their shoes off and just collapses bed still with their shoes on.
He can't get a Nihonjin woman, but he sure can get a 40s age man.
I mean it never hurts to have a backup plan
Nihonjin*
Just like the -yaoi- simulations
日本 (Japan)
日本語 (Nihongo means Japanese language)
Nihonjin／日本人 (Japanese person)
I didn't know an Asian language had a gender
The only thing funnier than us weebs in general, are our relationship statuses. Mine is like No Game No Life season 2. Nonexistent
Well atleast there are people who hope for it to happen
DAMN YOU'RE EVERYWHERE.
@@zero-gj4ql if you see him everywhere then you too are everywhere
Bruh
@just some guy without moustache i feel you
It sounds like Connor had an experience with a "nice guy" in that one email interaction.
OMG LOL
I just spat my drink out 😂. This comment wins today’s internet 😂.
Alana r/niceguy
NiceGuy™ please xD
not like that 40 something yo japanese dude got rude at the end. He was just pushy about his love. "Nice guys" will demand not request from what I've seen, and then get rude and angry when rejected.
Honestly, I think Misako genuinely liked you. The thing about saying "We're only friends, I'll pay my half" is the type of shit I've done on my crushes in the past and I did it to avoid sounding too straight forward or make the other person uncomfortable. I think she still wanted to pay the other half because it's nice but also didn't wanna seem too straight forward. I think the kiss on the neck might have also been due to embarrassment but I could be wrong. Since she didn't know you too well, she might have been afraid it would make you uncomfortable. Since you guys had difficulty talking because of the language barrier, it might have also made her question whether you liked her or not. I have these thoughts myself when it comes to having crushes. Most of the time, I'm doing nothing wrong but my dumbass brain always does it to me
Would it work to state to a Japanese girl ?
"I really like you"
If you do, of course !
With western woman, obviously no, you just go for the kiss on the lips. But I wonder for Japanese girls ?
I appreciate Japan for what it is naturally, but I'm tired of these naive people who talk about its inhabitants as if they are absolute angels. I once met an arrogant Japanese girl who asked me to stop watching these videos, but I go where I want. she told me that reading my negative comments saddened her but I was telling the truth about her culture. what if we speak their language badly? she refused to admit that her compatriots have many cultural faults! these people have a problem with ego and hypocrisy.
"Don't wear full JoJo-Merch to a date." Thanks, Connor.
He says that but what I think he means to say is "if you're a man, don't wear full JoJo-Merch to a date".
Unless your date is a Jojo fan themselves I would say xD
Natschi As if we didn’t know already
My boyfriend was who introduced me to Jojo! It's my favourite now. Got him a Yoshikage tie for Christmas :D
MUDA MUDA MUDA
This sounds like a nightmare. I visited Korea (where my mother's from) and I was pretty disappointed in the values my immediate family seem interested in, superficial beauty, title of career, etc. I'm pretty stoked to live in America, haha.
Bruh
Crue911 Wdym “bruh?”
I mean, for many girls here, it's superficial too. The way the guy makes them feel, for example. A lot of girls I know tend to be addicted to the high of the honeymoon stage and whenever that runs out, it's on to the next guy.
A good woman seeks genuine love. One where the man is willing to sacrifice his life for her, and where she would be willing to sacrifice her life for him. One where, even if he became paraplegic or vice versa, they would happily stay together and not want to be with anyone else.
Those types are rare these days, no matter what country you live in. Many of those type are also desperate for love, which is why they tend to get tricked and abused by their partner who doesn't love them back, and the girl can't help but want to keep trying. It's an incredibly sad situation, and there needs to be more good men to help these types find what they're truly seeking before they end up in an abusive relationship.
hi john hill!!! love you videos crazy to see you here haha
rip im Korean Wish you the Best of Love :D
80% of my dates in Japan actually weren't dates. They just wanted to hang out with a foreign guy
That's also about 80% of my dates in my own country, so...
@@Alias_Anybody 😂
@@Alias_Anybody thats mad you even get dates, never even got one from those dating apps
@@GaMeOvEr12454
I wasn't referring to dating apps, just in general.
@@Alias_Anybody ohh lmao. i just get stares like im an alien ._.
One thing to keep in mind with dating apps is that it appears to be a totally different ballpark for men than for women (at least I've been told). My current boyfriend of 2 years spent a whole 3 years on Tinder and while he met some friendly ladies, nothing seemed to work out. One of my male friends is in the middle of a similar situation. The way he described it to me is he thinks in general, guys might have more simple standards (whether loose, or solid) and will go into a date with an open mind to see how things will go, where as women tend to be more strict with their standards and also tend to judge appearance a little more before giving someone a chance (though the intense standards could also be a way of guarding their heart, which is understandable). Of course this is a loose generalization, and these tendencies can go both ways regardless of gender or sexuality. But it was a bit shocking to me because I had matched with my current boyfriend the DAY I installed the app for the first time, along with a couple other guys that were nice. Idk. This is kind of what I had picked up on and talked about in regards to dating apps.
You can find much better guy if you search more
@@c2225 lol
Men outnumber women 9 to 1 on Tinder, so there's that. Which again enables women to be extremely picky and only go for the top 2% guys or whatever. For most guys, dating apps is a horrible experience of constant rejection. How this will affect general mental health in the future one can only imagine. I REALLY fear for this generation growing up in this digital world, it's not looking good.
@@fred6907 Rejection is normal. You have to get used to it and not feel hurt. Just be confident about yourself.
I am below average in attractiveness for women. So be sure it's something I had to deal with. :)
@@julien5053 "Just be a man, dude!" :D
The last time I was this early Connor was still reading a ton of girlfriend applications.
"In western culture, I think people don't really care about punctuality" Err... People should stop talking about the West like a whole (even Westerners themselves). There are so many countries and cultures... For example, have you ever been to the Netherlands? If you are 5 minutes late, you missed your appointment.
You get here at least ten minutes early or you are too late and we are starting without you
Wow, on the other end of the spectrum, we say 7am so it can hopefully start by 10am.
If you're five minutes late in the Netherlands, you're 10 minutes early for the train
@@zurigheid and are waiting for a bus that doesn't drive in Belgium
@@zurigheid Really? My train always arrived on time in Nijmegen '-'
I posted the same comment on the same video about how by "western guys", they really meant "white guys". And I got roasted in the comments for being racist to the point where I deleted the comment. It feels good to have Connor say the exact same thing I did. It's not racist, it's just the obvious subtext.
Who would want to date a non white?
@@yoshtheknife perhaps a person who isn't a closed minded racist?
@@yoshtheknife somebody who wants to date a Japanese person probably given the pint of this video
Thats because when they hear foreigner their minds go to foreign culture and obviously the biggest influence is american and european.
Black America is often associated with Thug Culture exported through hip-hop.
@@handler8838 I 100% agree with you.
Dude, this is really an amazing video. I've been to Japan for a year in Sendai and people over there was aware that I was new there. They never acted like something I did was a deal breaker. Even table manners, they did not even bother to warn me about that because it was ok(unless I step on table and destroy the dinner). Really, those video about "What Japanese think about XXXXX" is kind of unrealist, I would say. Thank you for your efforts, btw.
Me: *looking at the video title*
Also me: Alright, let’s watch it
That Maid Girl who rejected and kissed Connor at the same date they went on is so confusing. I was like "Mission Failed.. Successfully???"
Windows has failed this task successfully.
Back OK
its like windows dream
If I remember correctly, it's a normal thing in Japan to split the bill in a date, so I think he just misinterpreted what she did? I might be wrong tho idk
@@Glinnor yea and I think it's more polite to introduce your boyfriend as a friend to other people in Japan.
Maybe she was saying she would pay half because she wanted to be friendly?? while not excluding romance. so weird
Homeboy, if you happen to run into that guy again just bounce. He wants them cakes, and will stop at nothing to aquire them.
:0
My first reaction to that story was "He probably just wants to clap dem cheeks".
He watches the videos and knows Connor is thicc
I'm sitting here like...trying to figure out if you're being literal or not LOL
And this is like a premise for a yaoi...and we go full circle.CDAWG yaoi irl yaoi read by Cdawg online I have to draw this and add Kermit into it cuz apparently furries are in right now xD
8:20 the left way of using the toilet is actually better for you anatomically speaking, it also reduces the risk of colon cancer, but of course you don’t do that on a public bathroom
I also think it’s because in mainland China squatting in public to use the restroom is common so since a lot of Chinese tourists visit Japan it’s an issue.
I think even Disneyland Shanghai had to put up signs near the bushes telling people to instead use the restrooms because it was getting out of control.
Connor: “You need to snap your chopsticks vertically so you won’t hit anyone around you”
Me: *snaps chopsticks vertically and hits myself in the face*
Baguettes are nice
*Self Damage 100*
Oof
x'D oof
How do you even snap chopsticks vertically in the first place Dx
@@WoWMyrrh I want to know too. I couldn't find anything about it in my quick Google search
There goes Conner again with his endless thirst
Just like Connor to start seriously thinking about dating when everybody is under self-quarantine
He's been there for months though, and he just said he wouldn't be focusing on dating anytime soon though.
😂 I had a bout of insomnia and am watching this instead of sleeping and this was freaking hilarious. I haven't laughed in such a long time so this video was good for me.
I mean she told you that she hates your beard straight into your face instead of judging you silently.
She told the beard. Connor just happened to be there.
It's one thing I always list on my profiles, because I don't like the idea of being unable to feel physical attraction to someone unless they change something (this being a big thing for me, not like I can control it), and later it turns out they're unwilling to, well it's too late. So better to tell them earlier than later. I also prefer if a guy tells me if something I wear or my hairstyle isn't to his liking sooner.
Hmm my mind just when to "Sure I'll shave it off...Once you start shaving another area that tends to be considered dirty when hairy..."
we heard one side of the story. Let tell you hers:
her: hey, I don't like beards, do you mind shaving it off?
him: **ignores question**
her: hey, so, you haven't answered my question, any plans to shave...?
him: **ignores question**
her: ok, seriously, if you do not want to shave, I prefer not to continue dating
HIM: **I-G-N-O-R-E**
I immediately subscribed When he said “let’s change this to white guys not western guys”. I’m black and this guy pulled on a heart string right there haha.
Press "F" for our fallen brother..
@@Danny_boy_ whys your name polish for "hedgehog"
@@chloroplast8611 Is it? Idk, thats my real name, guess i can watch Sanic fanfic now.
well, better black than arabian for those dudes, eastern asians unanimously hate middle-easterns to the point it gets nazi-esque, not sure if there's a historical reason for that since their cultures most likely had contact with eachother for centuries if not millenia.
At least it explains JP's allies in WW2, they were "xenophobing" around with the nazis.
So...does connor use Grindr?
"Western people don't care about punctuality" me, a German: "STOPP"
Me a slav: what is punctuality?
Had the same thought mate lmao
Thats why japan and Germany got along in WW2
Haaaalt stop
Ehm sry but Germans don't care about punctuality, too.... *hust* DB *hust*
I lived in China for 2 years and Japan for 1 year and I know exactly what you were alluding to with girl 2. I absolutely loved Tokyo and want to visit again soon. New subscriber from London here 👍🏼
Old guys email: "hey buddy"
Me: "aww hes just lonely and wants to make friends"
Old guys email: "i want one night stand with you"
Me: wut
The accuracyyyy
lmao, i was convinced the guy wanted just to chill, you know, and after that line, now, ill be careful in the future !
Lol that's how they get you.
"wot"
I genuinely thought he was just lonely and definitely would've gone for the drinks with the guy...
Good thing CDawg is a fucking psychich
I see the thumbnail and title: Japanese girls won't like him, because of his beard. Lol so spot on.
I've found Chinese girls in the west like the beard
yea, but the first one was Chinese
why dont they like bearda🤔
*beards
@@007psyren Japanese generally do not have beard features in general. So when they meet someone with a beard, they are concerned and do not easily want to associate.
"Western people are not very punctual" confused german noises
punctual like the train AM I RITE? *cries in german*
Heavy exhale through nostrils noises
Haha, punctual, like Deutsche Bahn! Wait...
Wie immer alle die Deutsche Bahn als maß der pünktlichkeit der Deutschen nehmen.
As reliable as German transmissions
Oh wait...
Hanz ze transmission broke
2:50 Excellent point, agreed. The language barrier goes from charming to major obstacle insanely quick
That girl, that said "when they wear shoes to bed" all I'm thinking...he probably a one night stand runner
why did this make me LOL so hard? xD
To be fair, there are a lot of white americans who wear shoes in doors. There's also a lot of TV shows (usually sitcoms) where characters wear their shoes while lying on the couch or on their bed. I thought it was just a show cause I grew up in a very multicultural area so everyone takes off their shoes in doors, but trust me..there are people who wear them everywhere indoors 🤮
@@kamekomiyamora yes thats very true, i do the same, but nobody sleeps with their shoes on
@@jezzza2079 only when they pass out drunk.
I am not kidding when I say my friend sleeps with shoes on like he walks on his bed with shoes on and everything it's gross
I’m not joking, I watched a TV show a few weeks ago and the character woke up in full shoes and in street clothes. Me and my girlfriend literally yelled at the screen hahaha.
Haha I did not expect to see you here PD
Whoahhh Form of Therapy? My two worlds colliding haha.
Wow you're here
Omgggggg pdddd :000
What’s up pd!
6:45
The female friends confusion is kind of a cultural thing.
Story time:
Back in 2014, I went on a homestay trip(basically a 2-week school swap with a Japanese family; short-term exchange student) to a couple of towns in Hokkaido.
While I was there, out of the 15 classmates who came to Japan with me, the only 2 people that I knew were girls, so I mostly hung out with them during the downtime.
There was a day we were at this big clothing store in Obihiro with some of our Japanese temporary classmates, and about 20 minutes in, the Japanese students' teacher walked up to me and asked "are you sure you don't want to spend more time with the other boys?" in a tone that implied I was kind of in the wrong or something.
That indicated to me that Japanese culture isn't very open about platonic male-female friendships.
In other words, it might not have been that woman's fault
Agreed. Spoke with multiple men and women in Japan and you just don't cross that gender lines when it comes to friends. It is weird to them. It is kind of like elementary school when your parents made jabs at you saying every girl you hung out with is your girlfirend, except your 18 and they are being serious.
@@bryannothem1505 Hanging out with the opposite gender one on one when not in a relationship is weird as fuck. In a group i can kinda get it but alone in private one on one time between just friends is weird and when someone has this kinda relationship i would not date them.
@@LPAmir If you can't trust your SO to have friends without cheating you probably shouldn't be in a relationship to begin with. Controlling who you can and can't be friends with is on the U.S. National Domestic Abuse Hotline's official list of red flags.
Links:
www.thehotline.org/2012/09/11/red-flags-of-abuse/
nnedv.org/content/red-flags-of-abuse/
@@quentingivens4 she can be friends with with most people but spending time alone with the opposite gender is a no from me. I dont do that, most of my gf's didnt do that and those who did i broke up with.
If you arw fine being played like that by the phrase "he is just a friend" then go on live your life like that. But i wont
@@LPAmir were you cheated on in the past? I know that betrayal can cause trust issues. Not all girls are like that I promise, some just generally get on better with men.
Much better video than the dating advice ones. I always feel a little preached at after those. :)
"Men wants to be Alone but they don't want to feel Lonely"
-Jimmy Zhang
ゆうと it was actually from Patrice O’Neil
@@ak123jid2 Yes but I got it from Mah boi Jimmy lol
@@ak123jid2 RIP Patrice
I can actually relate to this
"Men want to be alone, but we don't want to be by ourselves" - Patrice O'neal
Oh Connor what have you done my bro, haven't even watched it already scared for you
6:43 - No that actually is a cultural difference. It's much rarer for men and women to go out together by themselves if they are not dating in Japan. People tend to either hang out in a bigger group, or just with friends of the same gender. Another common misunderstanding is... if you tell people you are dating someone, or going on dates with someone, but they aren't your girlfriend, they generally get confused and don't understand.
Btw when you're telling people you're an Otaku, that generally doesn't mean like "Oh I really like anime and manga". If you just tell someone you are an Otaku, that word has a negative connotation. It's not just someone who really likes something, but someone who has an obsessive interest in something, to the point where it's become a little unhealthy, dysfunctional or anti-social. That is the connotation.
As you said in your video, there's a selection bias issue. Most Japanese people aren't using tinder. Most aren't trying to find and date foreign people, most can't speak much English, so you will tend to meet a kind of subset of the population.
I'm sure he probably knows about the otaku thing being a negative term in Japan seeing as he's friends with Joey who has mentioned it on his channel a couple of times. The difference in connotations of dates and dating tho were interesting, very informative! "Group dates" seem way more common in Japan than any country I've lived in.
I mean it is common for group hangouts to occur but I also have many friends in Japan that have opposite sex 1 on 1 hangouts that are purely platonic.
Out here in the states if you go to just eat lunch with a girl everyone has the shit eating grin from spongebob
"You like krabby patties don't you squidward."
I’m not Japanese, but as an Asian I can say that not all of us are comfortable with hanging out with opposite gender, and prefer hanging out in big groups either boys only or girls only. There is no reason why, it’s just that hanging out with the same gender is more comfortable?easier? This is because there is a kind of mindset that males and females can never be friends. They can start of as friends, but will they be able to end off as friends? Isn’t there something more to it? Aren’t you lying that you don’t feel any physical attraction to him/her as a male/female? This is the kind of connotation that is attached to male and female hanging out together ... Sad but true. However, Asians are also gradually becoming more accepting and understanding of male and female hanging out together. And this might be due to the gradual influence we have gotten from western people/culture(?). You know like TV shows and drama, and see that “ohhhh it’s possible for male and female to be friends!”. And I am definitely one of those asians that really think male and female cannot be friends until the influence of the western. :)
it's 2020. Young people here are going out with the opposite gender as friends now more and more.
Connor coming to the Caribbean to visit Mousey is gonna be wild. Girls lose their minds seeing European people. They melt for them
"I don't ever talk about dating much on my channel"
Every waifu in existence: *Press X to doubt intensifies*
Its you again
Are you illuminati
This guy is everywhere
Hello again.
dx
“I don’t talk about dating on my channel”
*flashbacks to the girlfriend applicants*
Does this mean he broke up with John?
most of them care about taking free money... or just don't want to work and just be stay at homewife... either way.. why the fuck you want them...
Plot twist, he's gay
@@campkira Calm down cowboy
Conner: gets paid to read yaoi
Stranger: let's do yaoi things
Conner: *Surprise pikachu face*
Honesty, yes :D
Im sure this has been brought up quite often by now, but you and Kaho would be an awesome couple.
“What should we call this girl?”
*Pulls up Popular Baby Names*
IM WHEEZING 🤣🤣🤣
Comment: "I have dated 800 Asian girls"
Me: Well someone's been binging dating sims
💀
Clever
So basically me.
dating 800 girls would be a career in itself to be able to just remember anything about anyone as people start to remind you of other similar people quite quickly whether it's looks, personality or whatever. We all know that's a lie. I've known girls that make spreadsheets about all the guys they are currently dating and yes they have no job and schedule dates like meetings at a corporate office. They do treat it like a job. If you ever had a job in a call center with a lot of turnover, you would know the boss is a horrible person that doesn't care about you, same as these people that date like it's their job. They want the best performance from you and to enrich themselves and make themselves richer off your hard work. They don't even make good friends to hang around with.
"I'm not good at this talking thing" - says the voice actor.
Voice actors tend to have a script to work with though
Jake Nelson at least we can safely say he is good at the reading thing
Man, I would totally strike out when dating in Japan. I'm used to getting really confrontational being sarcastic and catching girls about something they said in a strange way and turning it into something we can both have a laugh at, but I think I would make Japanese girls cry within a minute of our date. Also I have a full beard.
Japanese girls: worriyng about white guys sleeping in their shoes
Me, a Russian: getting heartstroke everytime I see people entering the house without taking their shoes off... yeah, kinda...
I made a sign
YEAH
YEAH
YEAH
YEAH
it’s frustrating AF
Just take them off. Please. We have special shoes, you won’t get dirty, just please, pleeease TAKE THEM OFF
P. S. привет от земляка!
everytime I search for my shoes they are in a different place. One day they are in the hallway, another day in my bedroom, or living room, or kitchen, or bathroom.
Actually, same with clothes and coats.
So somewhere they really dont take shoes off?
@@DeNisaChan in Russia mostly only doctors can come to house without taking the shoes off. In almost any other cases everyone will do it
I tried using Tinder to try dating in Japan and surprisingly enough I found a really nice girl who actually lives a few hrs outside of Tokyo who told me she liked my beard which once I heard that I was happy since I have a full beard, also she told me she is into video games, anime and manga which sounds to be an Otakus dream and now we have been dating for over a year. So long story short sometimes you can find that unicorn out there.
Yeah, no.
You do be living the dream tho
RedBeardOtaku man good job, I hope I can do the same some day
Lucky man
this is too good to be true, like a fairytale
- Is there any places to eat around here?
+ Yeah, there's a ton around here
- wanna go with me?
Hella smooth
absolute chad
Thinking about using that
*are there
not is there
@@jojomark4946 yeah, i realized i misspelled it like a month ago but at this point I'm not changing it.Thank you tho!
@@alex_likes_games2796 *5 months ago
Personally, for romantic relationships I dont like men with facial hair because it will surely scratch/irritate/tickle my face if we kiss.(I have sensitive skin & a clean freak ok). It could even leave me acne if they're not washing their face often/not washing facial hair area properly. Y'know when you're outdoors with all that dirt and germs that goes with it that is hard to wipe/clean even by using wetwipes? Feel me girls? Get it guys?
Even when I was a child, I seldom kiss my father because he has mustache & beard as course as toothbrush bristles LOL so let's say I was traumatized by the idea eversince.
But that's just me. There are others who doesnt mind facial hair.
Be "you". Dont mold yourself 'too much' for others. There will always be others who'll like you as you are. You might even be thinking of yourself as a garbage but you dont know there is one person or people out there who digs you 500%.
(I used to try to fit in starting 12 until I was 20. Im glad I shifted to staying "me" starting 21y/o. Im 26 now. "Living for yourself" is considered a luxury for an Asian. Most "live for others", like being controlled by their parents/relatives even if they're already an adult/married/earning, constantly pleasing the society/friends, pretending to be someone else just to be loved, or being a doll for their spouse, etc).
P.S. I found Connor because of 'Nobita from Japan' 😂
7:59 to be fair, she could be talking about the squat toilets... those intimidated the crap out of me when I first moved to Japan, because I had never seen one before, and my asian squat was... subpar
It's easy to squat.
Cynical Kazu - I mean, I could always squat, it’s not hard I agree. But the asian squat is very different, I wasn’t flexible enough for it, I had to practice lol
@@astral2048 apparently there's a thing where white people just genetically have a harder time doing the asian squat. Someone made a video on it. It was weird lmao
Yeah where I live we call them Turkish Toilets lol
@@DORADOBA Here we called them French toilets, as when I grew up the only country we visited that still had these was France. But that was a long time ago. It was sort of nostalgic to see them still in use in Japan.....not that I hated them any less.
His dating game isn’t over, it’s just the coronavirus preventing him from meeting newer women. He should meet SoraTheTroll though
If you can't meet newer women, meet older women. Spread the (corona) love.
FELLOW SORA FAN DETECTED
Perfect date with Sora
I don't believe they sell corona's over there.
Sup weebos
Yes ... "I don't like generalizing people in general" -CDawgVA
"That's why I hate myself"
Bro I wish I could find friends as easy as you
This seems like a great perk to have
ok lol nevermind
one night stands with 40 y.o. men are not for me
You could've had a Japanese sugar daddy.
😂
everybody wants a sugar daddy until its time to give daddy some sugar
Literally everyone: "Stay inside no socializing there's a virus"
Connor: "Welp time to find a girlfriend ig"
you realize he has been there for a while now do you? and japan is not under a quarantine as other countries are.
I think the sleeping with shoes on thing comes from western movies and tv series where people often just lay and sit in bed with their shoes on.
and also from personal experience I know a LOT of white people who wear their outdoor shoes to their bedroom and they often sleep in them too. I know zero asians who sleep with shoes, I know maybe around 40ish white men/women who would sleep with sneakers on.
@@wahahabuh im a white american and i cannot comprehend what kind of MAD MAN would wear their outdoor shoes to bed??
@@erikm5221 I think it depends on the environment and situation, me having an apartment with 0 carpets, usually came from an exhausting night out and just layd in bed with shoes but kept them over the end, took a nap and woke up still with the shoes over the end.🤷🏽♂️
I slept with my shoes on once but only because I was super drunk and about to head home until my friend told me to sleep in his spare room. I woke up disgusted with myself
13:40 Nice to know that Connor likes his own comments
Just remember CDawg...
Women are temporarily
Waifus are forever
Waifus can't run away
Waifus can't call the cops on you for the five pounds of meth in your closet.
“I Made You Kiss My Neck (in the Middle of Shibuya)” by Fall Out Boy
Arrrkward Pirate LMAO
LMAOOOOO
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Mizaki can't say she is dating since maids are supposed to make it seem like they are single and friends with everyone. That's why she gave you those weird signals of being friends vs wanting more
With context, that actually makes a lot of sense
@@solitaryadventures9273 yeah-
Did he mention how he met the maid cafe girl? Was that also tinder?
Surely that rule only applies when they are actually at the maid cafe. I don't think working at a maid cafe means you have to take a vow of celibacy.
@@ThreadBomb nah its not that, its just in case someone recognizes her, or takes a photo that ends up on 2ch of 'maid of X shop caught in public with foreigner bf' then she gets flamed on twitter and the shop has to fire her.
I dated a Japanese girl for a few months.
Felt like it was more of a novelty for her than a serious relationship...
"I mean I use Tinder. I have no trouble with it." - Hot White Guy
I'd imagine it's because Japanese people use it for hanging out, not for hookups, as he mentioned in the video. He also mentioned a lot of Japanese people wanting to practice English with him. Any western guy would probably have good success in Japan on Tinder for those reasons.
Most Japanese people are envious of white people.
@@jonnydavis3857 According to who? Sure they're friendly with Caucasians, but they're friendly to all foreigners. Speaking as a black man who has lived in Japan and has experienced the same things as Connor. If you ever plan on visiting Japan, you should throw away that mindset unless you want to end up like that infamous redditor.
@@animerocks2468 what infamous redditor? New to the community.
@@destituteanddecadent9106 Short story is that some Caucasian guy went to Japan thinking he was gonna get laid left and right because of his ethnicity, only to be ignored by everyone there.
1:36
Cho means butter fly
The character in naruto "choji"s name starts with a cho
Chojis ability is becoming a butterfly
Little things have so much meaning
If this amazes you then you'd be delighted to hear that all Japanese names when read Family Name + First Name have a special meaning, not just in anime but in real life. E.g. Haruno Sakura from Naruto means "Cherry blossoms of Spring".
@@astral2048 i wish i had one -_-
Javanese love their name puns.
beautiful
Meets girl that speaks perfect english: "she said she was looking for long term so that was a no"
Meets girl that can barely speak english: "it was great, but i cant see my self long term with someone i cant communicate with"
Does Connor only wanna date his own race or an anime waifu?
??
He doesn't want a long term relationship?
The duality of man.. haha..
Case 1: Man is still settling in Japan and unsure of the future, so can't promise long term relationship well worst case he'll have to move back to UK.
Case 2: Unknown time frame (whether he has fully settled in Japan), but the problem here is that there is just no realistic future with the girl. You can't expect to have a good time while barely being able to communicate.
Well with the 1st girl it was like people mentioned - he literally got off the plane a week before, doesn't have much experience living in Japan yet and doesn't know how long he will stay there because he isn't even yet properly settled in. So obviously you don't want to commit to a serious long-term relationship given all these facts - unless you are an asshat that will enter a longterm relationship knowing girl's intentions and after a week you would go "Yeaaah, I'm going back to my country, been nice dating you"
As for the girl that knew barely any english, there was no future for them due to problems with communication.
To summarize: The 1st girl would have an amazing chance if they met AFTER Connor knew more about his future in Japan, properly settled in etc. and thus could commit to long-term relationship
The first one you told sound like an anime came out of a lightnovel
Pure moment
Connor: "She didn't really speak English well"
Also Connor: "I thought she friendzoned me? Why would she go in for a kiss???"
Christian Bai Feelsbadman hope all’s well with you now
WWSHD i did not know that he was straight 🤯
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Dang, how'd you even get so far with all those dissimilarities? I figured a relationship like that would've never reached past months.
@@bobbywhite5319 As they said, I feel like those are really issues that don't come up until the relationship is getting more serious (i.e. you finally introduce get introduced to their parents/start hanging out regularly with their family, move in together). Obviously this will differ from person to person, but I feel like that stuff often doesn't come up until like a year into the relationship.
The interesting question would be if Connor had asked her why she paid the bill. I.e. If it was similar to new gender norms in western cultures -- "I don't want you to pay for me and make me feel obligated to date you".
Because then her initiating a kiss afterwards, and giving a socially polite presumption to tell the server they're 'just friends', makes her twice as cool. Chill, respectful *and* adventurous. Say compared to the other girl who was "Two dates in now, so we on the way to gettin married bro?"
Me: I want to date a Japanese girl
**Also me**
Never talked to a girl even from my country for more than 5 min
I feel you bro 💔💔
One thing to say for asians is they are definitely waay better behaved.
Yep...been there. When you combine overwhelming depression, social anxiety, a reclusive personality, and a horrible voice, even the simple task of making friends is just about impossible for me, especially with how my social circles tend to dissolve. Dating and finding a girlfriend? Yeah, good luck with that me. I've long accepted I'm one of the people who never finds love in their life.
Shadow Ecliptor I feel the same way but you gotta just look to the future and know that opportunities will arise as time goes on. You’ll meet someone through a friend or a job or a family member, dating apps aren’t a joke and though it’s rare people have found true love online after meeting thru those sites. The only time you lose is when you give up hope and stop pushing yourself to be a better person
Shadow Ecliptor making friends is not a simple task, for people like you and me.
Gold diggers in Japan: want to use you for learning a new language and social status
Gold diggers in America: want money and sex
lmfosjducufu
want money FOR sex*
@ you must be unatractive then
Ur delusional. Gold diggers in japan want the same thing plus a green card m8
Cookies are baking no they just want your money in America
2 year later I would love to see a updated version of this now that you've been here for so long
It's called the Cross-race effect. For countries in Asia, there are rarely any foreigners, for that, I mean black, white, and Hispanic. When I first came to the US, if you showed me a single picture of either Rihanna or Beyonce, I couldn't tell who was who. They looked similar to me at that time. However, when I stayed here for some more years, and meet more different people from different races, I don't have the problem anymore.
Even though I'm Asian-American (Japanese-Chinese), because I was raised on American pop culture from childhood living in USA, I actually also had trouble telling Asian celebrities apart until I got more into Asian (mostly Japanese) pop culture in my late teens, and after that it is easier for me to recognize Asian celebrities (still have trouble with many K-pop celebrities though because of the surgeries).
@@Rizzitriver never heard people say "all Asians look the same". It's the same thing.
@@Necolace brooo very similar situation here man. I def empathize with that and can relate.
@@nde1083 Yeah, however, the cross-race effect isn't the only phenomenon. Because of genetical history, some ethnies look more akin to eachother than others. For example, white people, due to millenias of warring and politically defined borders as well as living in the north, have more distinct traits (like redheads, blonds, stuff like that mostly from recessive genes). Asians and blacks... Are the other way around. Due to their dominant gene pool, differences between people have been diminished massively.
So white people struggle at differentiating asians/blacks more than asians/blacks struggle with whites.
And there are also different races in Africa and the Middle East and even in Europe
They expect you to be more aggressive romantically. And it's not true, I'm a bit of a bitch!
I have never related more to a statement in my life...
Amen
And women wonder where all the good men have gone?
Well you said no thanks to that nice gent when you wanted to date Chad and Tyrone😂
Tbh just follow your instincts i mean i was a little bitch on my first date but i decided to just follow my instincts and everything went well
Connor: So yeah, I've been on a couple dates
**Me still being single and never been on a date before**
Same 🤣
*Pat pat* it's ok if your a single Pringle I am too OwO UwU
Same 🤧
It's ok! I'm sure you'll find someone someday. :3 don't give up!
IMnot HERE - its ok ;__; we have anime wifus and husbandos
Yea I started dating after getting out of a 5 year relationship. The filter thing IS REAL in the US... Bruh I mean at this point if your first picture (or all of them) have a filter I pass them up. Wish women would stop with the filters and just let their natural beauty shine.
last time i was this early i was crying myself to sleep because i wanted to get a call from sebastian.
Stop this 😂
oof
*mood*
I have a solution to this shaving beard thing. Just take a picture of you without your beard and if anyone asks you to ever shave your beard, just show them that beardless picture of you. There, easy
PS: you rlly shouldn't shave your beard if you don't feel comfortable
@G. S. I mean, you'll just have to shave once. So at least when other people (like idk, your potential partner) asks you to shave you don't really have to shave.
G. S. 16 is good
"LIGHT" facial hair looks good on you, CDawg. I don't know about "heavy" facial hair, but you could try to make it "work" 🐱
13:42 can't believe Conner actually likes his own comments on a UA-cam video (he's just like us for real)
i can't get over the fact that a 40 years old Japanese man flirted with you, all the yaoi fantasies bacame true
Yamete....
sup
C'mon man, okay this guy should get in youtube rewind he is in every comment section in youtube. like are you trying to get a guiness world record or something.
Why are u everyone
kudasaii
This is like the 54 times i've seen you on UA-cam today already and it's only 1am over here.
*Nothing but JOJO POSTERS AND MANGA on the background*
"I play videogames and go to the GYM"
And thus, another stereotype has been confirmed.
The Akihabara girl was playing “My neck My back” by Khia in her head. 😂😂 this video is hilarious enjoyed watching it so much 😂😂 in perspective of both Japanese and Foreigner.
As with any language, the ability to use and understand sarcasm requires fluency equivalent to the level of a native speaker. It's not that Japanese people aren't sarcastic, it's just most don't understand English well enough to pick up on it. For example, I have a friend who is Vietnamese who is incredibly sarcastic and roasts me and our other friends all the time. However, when we first met him, he was incredibly quiet and reserved. He was fluent in English, but not to the point where he could pick up on jokes, sarcasm, or slang. Whenever he didn't understand something, we'd explain it to him. Now he's basically fluent in English and takes immense pleasure in roasting us every chance he gets. Apparently, he's the least sarcastic of his Vietnamese friends, but I don't believe him haha
I got some rather strange looks at an izakaya when I told people I'd rather "slam my hand in a car door seventeen times" than to visit Paris again. It made them think I was a crazy masochist, or Paris was worse than literal Hell.
Then why do a bunch of Americans not understand British banter when their English fluency is perfectly fine?
You see being fluent doesn't mean you know the culture. I'm not fluent in English, but I've been living in UK past 8 years and people here are very, very sarcastic(in a good way). People who are fluent, but never had English people to hang out with probably wont understand it, because English have such a unique sarcasm that they somehow manage to hide it :) for example when I see Americans being sarcastic its straight and simple while Brits are very different :)
Kemm Miarvil same as any English language native spoken country :)
Not necessarily, certain cultures just don’t use sarcasm as much.
Joey the anime man , a half japanese, half australian who’s fluent in English & Japanese made a video about how Japanese basically doesn’t use sarcasm at all.
Girl: we’re just friends... we’ll split the check
Also girl: (goes in for the goodbye kiss)
My kinda girl
Actions speak more truth than words!
@@celectrics650 lol right
@you know I am right pp yes but problem here was that she clearly said they were friends but than went for a kiss and that is weird but as for splitting yes its normal to split
This also happens in the US and its confusing as HELL
Who sleeps with shoes on-
I can even sleep with socks tbh-
Pinten Roben Me tooo!
I slept in shoes once after working 25 hours in a 36 hour period.
I'm so uncomfortable in bed, I take my feet off.
Know11 thank you himiko
@@know1195 I like to just bisect the lower half of my body for a better sleeping experience
Ngl Connor you seem to be such a fun and genuine human to be with, I'm pretty sure these dates just weren't meant to be. It also reminds me of quite a few situations back in korea (white girl I am). I have always worn short hair and I had strangers ask me why I wouldn't let it grow out to look prettier. Cultural differences also in morals at its finest for sure lol.
Always enjoying your (virtual) presence and content. Also the beard looks very much fabulous on you. Handsome dude for sure!