Mark, 100% correct on every point you mentioned. If you recall, I lived in Chiang Mai, invited you and Jen to visit us, married to a thai lady, 22 years age difference, married for 33 years.. Every point you made fits our relationship perfectly, We recently relocated to Las Vegas, if you ever get over this way, you are always welcome to stay with us. Take care, my friend.
I luv it when a jaded western woman complains about a filipina wanting a successful wealthy man. All women want that. The only difference is what they consider wealthy.
My sister is friends with a Filipina woman who met a man at her church and came to America on a visa. She had been to college and was a programmer for HP in the Philippines. This dating didn’t work out as the guy was kind of weird and not treating her right. One of my other family members introduced her to one of their friends and they hit it off and got married about a year or so later. She is now living in Texas and works for Alcon where they started her as a programmer for $90,000 a year. Her husband also works and they go see her family several times a year in the Philippines. You just never know what’s going to happen but you need to be sincere and kind.
The truth is this ! " If an older - retired X- pat has some good money, than he is good marriage material ! Period ! 😅 And the Love will follow, from a poor 20- 25 yr old Filipina from the province's ! Its just A fact. Nothing wrong with that ! :) But if the money ever runs out ? So will the marriage ! 😢
Taking care of the "whole" family. That can get totally out of control. Pinas tend to think you have an unlimited supply of money, and you have never worked a day in your life. Trying to extract all of your money can destroy and a man and leave him in poverty.
I am extremely happy with my filipina Wife, I am 70 and she is 67 but looks 47 and we communicate perfectly... even knows what each other in thoughts and feelings without words ❤❤❤
That whole deal is a non-starter for me. They don't want to leave the Philippines, they want their man to support their family. A big hell no to all that. What a huge poison pill they have.
100 % agree. Marriage in all cases (most/rare that are not) is legal prostitution...no thanks...and I'm a female..married an asshole who abandoned his children TWICE!!! Con artist. But to ever even try that again let alone look for a man to support me...Nope...needy weirdos do this imo....And I'm very happy, lots a friends...not well heeled financially, but I do ok....wouldn't trade that for anything 😶
What happens to marriages in the Philippines when the money goes dry(i.e. medical bills) I think I know the answer: LOVE! I never played drinking games(I don't drink alcohol), but hypothetically speaking I'd be tanked by now if I took a shot every time I heard the word love. Not throwing shade... Too many guys assume women have the same respect for love that men do. Women think about love like a pair of socks: She liked her old socks for a little bit, but she prefers new socks because new things stir-up more emotions within her. A new Judo instructor outplayed old Tom Brady, moral of the story: want loyalty, get a dog instead!
My age appropriate (but 11 years younger than me) was from Cebu. I wanted a traditional value wife and she wanted a good husband. Coming up on 11 years married and it's been good. I don't lie, cheat,or steal. I'm also a non drinker and don't gamble. Faithful as an old hound dog. She takes care of the home and me. She has a part time job just to get out of the house and sends most of her income back to the Philippines to her family. Fine with me.
It's a good video Mark. A few points about it: 1. it's not necessarily the case that couples need to be fluent in a common language, for the relationship to work. It may not work for some, if there are some language issues, but others can overcome this problem. 2. Online relationships, and 'in person' relationships, can be quite different. Online relationships are fraught with problems if a couple put too much stake in this kind of relationship, before a couple get together. And when an online relationship becomes an 'in person' relationship, couples really do need to spend a good slab of time together, before making any major commitment to each other. I would say at least 4 months, but preferably a year, or more. 3. It's true that many Westerners may frown upon older men getting with younger foreign women. But like the idea that men are just after sex, it could also be said that younger foreign women are just after money! Like you were suggesting though: is the older man 'solely' after sex, and is the woman 'solely' after money? And no-one should be jumping to conclusions about a relationship if they don't have any idea of what's really going on. Keep up the great videos 👍. Dave, Perth, Australia.
Thank you for making this so clear. I spend a lot of time in Colombia and people in the USA call the women their "prostitutes" and "golddiggers" yet these same people especially women in the USA say you have to make 6 figures to marry them and a few hundred dollars just for a first date yet they call the foreign women "Golddiggers" 😳 GTFOH 🤣🤣
I understand how some guys just want companionship and don't mind it, but I'm not really interested in dating a single mother. Or at least I should say, it's not my first choice
@@briansaiditsoitmustbetrue4206 That's not true...with all due respect, that's your opinion alone. Some guys have children of their own also, and the women don't mind, and actually kinda of embrace his children. Same thing, vise versa with guys. If you love her, you wouldn't mind.
We’ve taken a couple of cruises in the last year, and many of the men that work in the restaurants and room stewards are from the Philippines, and have been doing it for many years,
Me thinketh with so many podcasts and limited time it's important to keep the., dish at the restaurant tasty and ........concise!@!?😉😃 Love the hat!!!😃
Yes, men like younger women and women definitely want these older guys to have $$$. I would say the more of an age gap, the more $$$ he must have. lol. I've had a couple of good relationships over the years and glad I was smart enough to build my own financial stability and comfortable retirement. Now, a lot of these older guys don't have good finances, can't afford to date or travel.
Sage advice Mark. The key to a successful relationship with a filipina (or anyone for that matter) is ‘communication!’ If you don’t have excellent communication then every thing else (attraction, looks, money, love, etc) eventually is based on nothing. All the best Mark. Look forward to seeing you in a few months. Thanks for sharing.
1. In the West we say; Age before beauty. This is an age old life truth why all over the world, men prefer younger women. 2. In PI they say; Matandang Mayaman Madaling na Mamatay. Old, Rich, Easy to Die. This is an age old truth why PI women prefer some older men.
I have been traveling to Philippines last 10 years and will retire there. I agree with you on every point you made. Thanks for educating everyone on the facts. One last thing.. for some reason they love big noses 😂😂
Great video and very informative. Love has no boundaries and has no age limits. Rather they or 18 or 80 I only wish them Happiness. Great video thanks for sharing 👍🏾!
A older friend was chased by a group of Philipino women when they found out he was single, owned his own home, and had a few dollars. He eventually was entraped by one of them. Cost him dearly, no home, no car, drained bank account. He was warned by numerous friends, but ihgnored their advice. Be very careful , they want what you have. Love you long time. Till your money is all gone.
Regarding the women who want to stay in their country I have more details on that from experience Most latin women in central and South America want to stay in their country because their entire life is there Their family, friends, culture, language and schools and much more If they came to the USA they would be alone lonely and in a brand new country where they may or may not speak the language so they prefer the man from the USA moves to their country! I found out that 95% of women want this This is based on hundreds of dates and meetups and talking to them
Over the years that I do dating sites, I always avoid Philippine-centered sites. Nonetheless,wherever I go, I'm mobbed by zillions of filipinas..Feels like most women from 18-70, are in the dating market 😱 What a clusterf**k.
Hi Mark your topic is very interesting and as Filipino i'd like to share some of the reasons that many OLD 3xpats having a relati9nships with young Filipina ended sour. First many old expats find their partner in a dating apps, facebook and other online flatforms and most of the Filipinas that are in there belongs to a very low tier one many of them are low educations cannot find good jobs and are poor not matured in many things and has financial difficulties to survive.Vast and overwhelming majority of Filinas that are financially independent, college graduates and has stable jobs are not joining that dating apps. Overwhelming of Filipinas with stable income doesn't like to marry old men or go into a relationships ( who would be?) But if there is a chance to befriend an expats they prefer to of their age or maybe older but not too much they don't want to be a widow early.
Nothing you mentioned was unique to Filipina women. Language, stability, communication...it's the same around the world...Germany, S. Korea, Japan, Mexico.
Its interesting they dont are all blind and dont know men in their own culture , when i as a foreigner sees that daily. Its it really lack of understanding ? If a poor girl, sees a poor joy in The Philippines , he cant even provide for him self, so why do the girls think he can provide for her? At se time, she open her legs for him, Do she really think he can provide for a kid/kids ? She has probably siblings friends , neighbours etc in same situation , have kid with local boy as that but their never learn . About dreaming about a older foreognet , if that what they really want to escape poverty . Why on earth go make baby with local boy or boys first ? I have pinoy friends and the Filipino culture has changed . Earlier , there was no big age gap among locals . Just ask Grand parents of your partner ! This has changed with foreigners . Earlier, local man stayed or married that woman he has kid with but this changed with all foreigners coming . The local men knows that many old western men coming to look for young pinays , even with kids . The local men knows their kids will be provided for and get decent education , by this old foreigners .. This is a two way desperation! Thats young girl desperate to find old foreigners to give her and kids a better life. That old foreigners, desperate to find a much younger life partner . Both thing money is equal to love and kindness .They both know that foreigners usually outclass local men financially . Its seems many foreigners , dont have real friendship with local men and just listen to all coming out from the mouth of this girls 🤣
Cheating is a sign of a character flaw, lack of impulse control, lack of emotional control, chaotic mind... or to sum it up - Personality Disorder. Gender is of no importance here.
30 years of living and working in Asia. Way before any of these you tubers thought about Asia… It’s a transaction, and only love if you start the relationship when she has more $$$$ than you. You will marry her and her family’s issues … don’t believe the bullshit. If that’s what you want go for it guys.
Hey Mark, 2 questions. ! Did you leave FB? I friended you earlier and today I could not find you at all? 2. I was looking for you to ask if your neighbor Kevin is okay? We chat alot and I haven't heard back from him in a week now. I know he's in Thailand but he hasn't posted an update either and I'm concerned, thanks.
Mark, 100% correct on every point you mentioned. If you recall, I lived in Chiang Mai, invited you and Jen to visit us, married to a thai lady, 22 years age difference, married for 33 years.. Every point you made fits our relationship perfectly, We recently relocated to Las Vegas, if you ever get over this way, you are always welcome to stay with us. Take care, my friend.
Love is blind, but marriage is an EYE OPENER!!!
I'm stealing that line.
Marriage is a 3 ring circus , first there’s the engagement ring then there’s the wedding ring , then there’s the suffering
Marriage is a funeral with cake 🎉🎂🎁
I luv it when a jaded western woman complains about a filipina wanting a successful wealthy man. All women want that. The only difference is what they consider wealthy.
It's not the 'man of her dream', it the best man/option that she can find.
and help that family - it just gets more and more and then if you say no, you'll be treated differently.
My sister is friends with a Filipina woman who met a man at her church and came to America on a visa. She had been to college and was a programmer for HP in the Philippines. This dating didn’t work out as the guy was kind of weird and not treating her right. One of my other family members introduced her to one of their friends and they hit it off and got married about a year or so later. She is now living in Texas and works for Alcon where they started her as a programmer for $90,000 a year. Her husband also works and they go see her family several times a year in the Philippines. You just never know what’s going to happen but you need to be sincere and kind.
The truth is this ! " If an older - retired X- pat has some good money, than he is good marriage material ! Period ! 😅 And the Love will follow, from a poor 20- 25 yr old Filipina from the province's !
Its just A fact. Nothing wrong with that ! :) But if the money ever runs out ? So will the marriage ! 😢
If you want a Filipina … ignore what people say including family members.. go and do it.
Taking care of the "whole" family. That can get totally out of control. Pinas tend to think you have an unlimited supply of money, and you have never worked a day in your life. Trying to extract all of your money can destroy and a man and leave him in poverty.
Very good analysis. Lots of truth!
In Vietnam it definitely took me a few months to truly understand I was the prize, and gals were chasing me. It's a win - win all around
Keep dreaming buddy
It’s only a win if you don’t get married … 🎉
a pet wallet, congrats???
@@kayakandbikeexploringontar174if you haven't experienced it you don't know
Hide them Benjamins!
I am extremely happy with my filipina Wife, I am 70 and she is 67 but looks 47 and we communicate perfectly... even knows what each other in thoughts and feelings without words ❤❤❤
Cradle snatcher....😅
@@soup-nazi6824Yahh, he did didn't he😂
@@Vietnam_Era_Veteran possibly the only age appropriate marriage in the expat community.
That whole deal is a non-starter for me. They don't want to leave the Philippines, they want their man to support their family. A big hell no to all that. What a huge poison pill they have.
100 % agree. Marriage in all cases (most/rare that are not) is legal prostitution...no thanks...and I'm a female..married an asshole who abandoned his children TWICE!!! Con artist. But to ever even try that again let alone look for a man to support me...Nope...needy weirdos do this imo....And I'm very happy, lots a friends...not well heeled financially, but I do ok....wouldn't trade that for anything 😶
And perhaps extended family. that is the main deal breaker.
The bigger deal breaker is if you bring her back to the US you may have to bring the family back there too and you get to set them up.
What happens to marriages in the Philippines when the money goes dry(i.e. medical bills)
I think I know the answer: LOVE!
I never played drinking games(I don't drink alcohol), but hypothetically speaking I'd be tanked by now if I took a shot every time I heard the word love.
Not throwing shade... Too many guys assume women have the same respect for love that men do. Women think about love like a pair of socks: She liked her old socks for a little bit, but she prefers new socks because new things stir-up more emotions within her. A new Judo instructor outplayed old Tom Brady, moral of the story: want loyalty, get a dog instead!
Yeah true!! 😂
My age appropriate (but 11 years younger than me) was from Cebu. I wanted a traditional value wife and she wanted a good husband. Coming up on 11 years married and it's been good. I don't lie, cheat,or steal. I'm also a non drinker and don't gamble. Faithful as an old hound dog. She takes care of the home and me. She has a part time job just to get out of the house and sends most of her income back to the Philippines to her family. Fine with me.
Saying these women get the man of their dreams--some old foreigner. lol They'll tell guys what they want to hear, and many are easy to fool.
Many also like the white skin.
It's a good video Mark. A few points about it: 1. it's not necessarily the case that couples need to be fluent in a common language, for the relationship to work. It may not work for some, if there are some language issues, but others can overcome this problem. 2. Online relationships, and 'in person' relationships, can be quite different. Online relationships are fraught with problems if a couple put too much stake in this kind of relationship, before a couple get together. And when an online relationship becomes an 'in person' relationship, couples really do need to spend a good slab of time together, before making any major commitment to each other. I would say at least 4 months, but preferably a year, or more. 3. It's true that many Westerners may frown upon older men getting with younger foreign women. But like the idea that men are just after sex, it could also be said that younger foreign women are just after money! Like you were suggesting though: is the older man 'solely' after sex, and is the woman 'solely' after money? And no-one should be jumping to conclusions about a relationship if they don't have any idea of what's really going on. Keep up the great videos 👍. Dave, Perth, Australia.
The old guys want to feel younger that is why they want get much younger "exotic" looking woman. But Filipinas like foreigners because of money.
Don't know, but I would guess there's more disasters than happy endings. Be very very careful and don't rush.
Men are destroyed by reality, not rushing.
Thank you for making this so clear. I spend a lot of time in Colombia and people in the USA call the women their "prostitutes" and "golddiggers" yet these same people especially women in the USA say you have to make 6 figures to marry them and a few hundred dollars just for a first date yet they call the foreign women "Golddiggers" 😳 GTFOH 🤣🤣
I agree 100%,you're good ,your video are good thank you.
I understand how some guys just want companionship and don't mind it, but I'm not really interested in dating a single mother. Or at least I should say, it's not my first choice
Why would you date a single mother.. No single man with an ounce of self-respect would (This is a truth channel...Right)
@@briansaiditsoitmustbetrue4206 That's not true...with all due respect, that's your opinion alone. Some guys have children of their own also, and the women don't mind, and actually kinda of embrace his children. Same thing, vise versa with guys. If you love her, you wouldn't mind.
@@bettywith2girls and this coming from a woman, who wooda thunk it!
Been single in NJ for 19 years . I probably will stay single but if I retire in 2 years and visit The Philippines, I might think about it .
We’ve taken a couple of cruises in the last year, and many of the men that work in the restaurants and room stewards are from the Philippines, and have been doing it for many years,
Me thinketh with so many podcasts and limited time it's important to keep the., dish at the restaurant tasty and
........concise!@!?😉😃
Love the hat!!!😃
Yes, men like younger women and women definitely want these older guys to have $$$. I would say the more of an age gap, the more $$$ he must have. lol. I've had a couple of good relationships over the years and glad I was smart enough to build my own financial stability and comfortable retirement. Now, a lot of these older guys don't have good finances, can't afford to date or travel.
Well done video. Real and to the point.
One of the best videos I have watched.
Mark. My sincere thanks.
I do watch most of your videos.
Sage advice Mark. The key to a successful relationship with a filipina (or anyone for that matter) is ‘communication!’ If you don’t have excellent communication then every thing else (attraction, looks, money, love, etc) eventually is based on nothing. All the best Mark. Look forward to seeing you in a few months. Thanks for sharing.
1. In the West we say; Age before beauty. This is an age old life truth why all over the world, men prefer younger women.
2. In PI they say; Matandang Mayaman Madaling na Mamatay. Old, Rich, Easy to Die. This is an age old truth why PI women prefer some older men.
I have been traveling to Philippines last 10 years and will retire there. I agree with you on every point you made. Thanks for educating everyone on the facts. One last thing.. for some reason they love big noses 😂😂
I didn't know about the big noses
@@everymanhasastory yeah... ask some of the girls what they think about guys with big noses... 😆
56yo, plenty of $$$, if go down this path I would want someone who has no children but wants them (I’ve never married, no kids). How rare is that?
Get married and your $$$ will soon disappear … 😂
Not as rare as you think. I was married once but I have no children and have stayed single for decades.
@@jasonbourne1596 I meant the woman lol
Yeah, you're so right ✅️...what's wrong with that 😊❤ as long as love, espect with each other exists, and of course 😉, money 💰 counts too 😉 ❤❤❤
Great video and very informative. Love has no boundaries and has no age limits. Rather they or 18 or 80 I only wish them Happiness. Great video thanks for sharing 👍🏾!
Romantic “love” is purely a Disney construct … 😂
Use your brain. Wold a young women in your country marry you, a 65 or 56 years old man?
If the asnwer is no, there is your answer.
Why would they???
Really not sure it's a new trend, but yes it's becoming more common.
Great video
Seems likeca very level headed view of the dynamics of relations
A older friend was chased by a group of Philipino women when they found out he was single, owned his own home, and had a few dollars. He eventually was entraped by one of them. Cost him dearly, no home, no car, drained bank account. He was warned by numerous friends, but ihgnored their advice. Be very careful , they want what you have. Love you long time. Till your money is all gone.
Great insight and really spot on .
Great content and video. Well put together. Peace ☮️
Good topic Mark wish you well
Regarding the women who want to stay in their country I have more details on that from experience Most latin women in central and South America want to stay in their country because their entire life is there Their family, friends, culture, language and schools and much more If they came to the USA they would be alone lonely and in a brand new country where they may or may not speak the language so they prefer the man from the USA moves to their country! I found out that 95% of women want this This is based on hundreds of dates and meetups and talking to them
Mark I think the word your looking for is Feminist😅
He’s married = blue pilled. Can’t say it … 😂
Over the years that I do dating sites, I always avoid Philippine-centered sites.
Nonetheless,wherever I go, I'm mobbed by zillions of filipinas..Feels like most women from 18-70, are in the dating market 😱
What a clusterf**k.
Very good point of view
Hi Mark your topic is very interesting and as Filipino i'd like to share some of the reasons that many OLD 3xpats having a relati9nships with young Filipina ended sour. First many old expats find their partner in a dating apps, facebook and other online flatforms and most of the Filipinas that are in there belongs to a very low tier one many of them are low educations cannot find good jobs and are poor not matured in many things and has financial difficulties to survive.Vast and overwhelming majority of Filinas that are financially independent, college graduates and has stable jobs are not joining that dating apps. Overwhelming of Filipinas with stable income doesn't like to marry old men or go into a relationships ( who would be?) But if there is a chance to befriend an expats they prefer to of their age or maybe older but not too much they don't want to be a widow early.
Nothing you mentioned was unique to Filipina women. Language, stability, communication...it's the same around the world...Germany, S. Korea, Japan, Mexico.
pinas speak decent english, most of them.
Great show mark I love my wife & I understand only 30% of what she is saying
probably for the best.
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Its interesting they dont are all blind and dont know men in their own culture , when i as a foreigner sees that daily. Its it really lack of understanding ?
If a poor girl, sees a poor joy in The Philippines , he cant even provide for him self, so why do the girls think he can provide for her?
At se time, she open her legs for him, Do she really think he can provide for a kid/kids ?
She has probably siblings friends , neighbours etc in same situation , have kid with local boy as that but their never learn .
About dreaming about a older foreognet , if that what they really want to escape poverty . Why on earth go make baby with local boy or boys first ?
I have pinoy friends and the Filipino culture has changed .
Earlier , there was no big age gap among locals . Just ask Grand parents of your partner !
This has changed with foreigners .
Earlier, local man stayed or married that woman he has kid with but this changed with all foreigners coming .
The local men knows that many old western men coming to look for young pinays , even with kids . The local men knows their kids will be provided for and get decent education , by this old foreigners ..
This is a two way desperation!
Thats young girl desperate to find old foreigners to give her and kids a better life.
That old foreigners, desperate to find a much younger life partner .
Both thing money is equal to love and kindness .They both know that foreigners usually outclass local men financially .
Its seems many foreigners , dont have real friendship with local men and just listen to all coming out from the mouth of this girls 🤣
I will be in bohol in two weeks. 😅
It’s a wonderful place !! Alona beach is beautiful
Like understand your content
A woman there learning English is a sound financial decision
My Filipino wife says Filipino men are not loyal , they two time
She meet all filipino man.how bout the half children that have been dump.peter scully
Oh, and women never cheat?
Cheating is around 50/50 ..I don't think it is "Gender bias" ..Men and women cheat for different reasons
Cheating is a sign of a character flaw, lack of impulse control, lack of emotional control, chaotic mind... or to sum it up - Personality Disorder. Gender is of no importance here.
@@MishkataPingvin 100% Correct
Cheating is not gender bias.
Bother men and women cheat.
Yeah white man dont cheat
I actually approve of gold digging. Ladies, get what you can. Compete for us higher end guys!! Good luck.
Better than digging for worms.
Rising trend? I thought it was the norm.
All about the dollar...
30 years of living and working in Asia. Way before any of these you tubers thought about Asia… It’s a transaction, and only love if you start the relationship when she has more $$$$ than you. You will marry her and her family’s issues … don’t believe the bullshit. If that’s what you want go for it guys.
POOREST TO THE POOREST PILIPINA CHIOCES TO BE BETTER LIFE
Money
Hey Mark, 2 questions. ! Did you leave FB? I friended you earlier and today I could not find you at all? 2. I was looking for you to ask if your neighbor Kevin is okay? We chat alot and I haven't heard back from him in a week now. I know he's in Thailand but he hasn't posted an update either and I'm concerned, thanks.
Still on FB Kevin is in Thailand
@@everymanhasastory Thanks, he's just been real quiet this week.
They're tired of being bored and poor.
🇦🇺😎👍
Why filipino needs to adjust to foreigners?
Because we have something they need more than anything-cold hard cash 💸 💰 😅
They don't but with Lang it helps
Both need to adjust!