"I'm Not A Feminist..."
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- Опубліковано 15 чер 2024
- Today we're discussing why, in 2023, we still need Feminism, why intersectional feminism is important and inequalities that women face all over the world.
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0:00 Intro
5:00 What is Intersectional Feminism?
29:00 Feminism Around The World
37:34 Child Marriage
40:38 FGM
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if you have had a sexual experience with a partner without being forced to marry said partner? thank a feminist.
And that (like many other results of feminism) goes both ways!
Oh and not being sold like an object to your husband by your father. That part too in marriage
I love women and that men's feminism is most important ❤️
i dont thank feminism or the sexual revolution for slag and whore culture
Also if you have the basic right to be able to STAY SINGLE, and have ZERO CHILD, thank feminism.
I dont get women spitting all over their own rights!
Makes NO sense.
Wish more men would also FINALLY realise that it benefits THEM TOO.
We shouldn't take our rights for granted, because when we do, we start losing them
yes that's true ... real women are loosing there rights to men who claim to be women. for example it is becoming more common for men to be competing against women in female-only sports. This is completely unfair. male athletes who claim to be women are now competing with women in female sports. this is a volition of women's rights and equal competition. it is an insult. the main goal of 'feminism' should be for women to stand there ground against trans extremism. trans women will never be women. Until society can acknowledge this, biological women will continue to loose their rights to men who claim to be women. the misogyny couldn't get any worse...
@@appleswithpeanutbutter609what's your take on Sharazad Ali on Feminism & it's role on the fatherless issue?, I believe that a child isn't just enough in becoming successful though a paycheck, but also being morally developed by a fatger or father like figure, I believe in an anti separated liberal feminism that male & female sees each other eye to eye & willing to understand & cooperate besides the circumstances, & that the government can not substitute the role of a protective & caring father.
I hate it so much when people are like "you're emotionally invested in this to have a rational discussion". I agree that rational discussion is very important but to say that emotional investment negates rational discussion is just wrong. Yes, sometimes emotional investment can cloud your judgement but in certain circumstances it can also inform your judgement. I, as a queer woman in a third world country am emotionally invested in women's rights, human rights, and queer rights all over the globe. My emotional investment in the topic is what motivates me to learn more and be more understanding to the experiences of not just women and queer people but also other marginalized people.
Word. I was very disappointed to hear that the Cosmic Sceptic acted like that because I've seen some of his videos on other subjects and I liked them very much. I hope he changes his attitude in this matter. Also the argument that a woman can't possibly be objective in a matter pertaining to women's rights is ridiculous: logically you could apply it to every other issue and state that people affected by it are not qualified to speak about it objectively. By that virtue race minorities shouldn't be involved in discussions about racism, poor people shouldn't be involved in discussions about economic inequality, parents shouldn't be involved in discussions about child-rearing conditions etc. Being completely detached from an issue doesn't necessarily make you more objective about it, sometimes it just makes you blind to the full realities of it.
It is ridiculous to expect to not be invested in sth that has huge implications and impacts on your Life and health. But it's quite Common in some spaces to place so much emphasis on emotional detachment, that any topic that stirs a Response is immediately dismissed as "too emotional". Which is funny considering that the same people usually get Mad when i poke at sth that THEYRE invested in, and suddenly theyre allowed to get mad.
I had a bunch of discussions with my dad where i was "too emotional" (speaking with emphasis) about a topic concerning women, but He would almost scream at me when i made a general Statement about white middleclass men (think: "aaah, yes, we are ALL evil!" Which i never Said in that entire conversation btw, i was talking about structural issues that He, as a White middleclass Guy, wouldnt notice. Not about mens supposed evilness). Funny how that Anger was justified but my emotional Investment never is.
Also even if you dont show emotion, they still pull it. Because caring, because empathy, in their eyes? Thats weakness.
Its stupid
Yeah I have no idea how you can have a productive, meaningful debate without having some semblance of emotional investment/passion. Morals are whats right and wrong, meaning considering all positive & negative implications, which obviously includes emotions.
Men are overreacting as much, and feel as much, but it is lied about and proved as "manliness" when they have their emotional outbursts.....
as someone living in the middle east, i find it so odd when people say they dont need feminism. if there are women out there that prefer that type of lifestyle, fine, but it baffles me when they say that they don't need it. it was only a few years ago that women got the rights to drive in Saudi. girls and women in Iran are still suffering. there's this whole other part of the world that gets looked over and that's so behind on its equal rights that they don't even want to acknowledge it. boggles the mind and disheartening.
I am from middle east too.I am from Turkey.What is your race and where are you from?Of course if you don't mind answering.
@@ingweking8748 i live in the UAE! Thankfully here it's not too bad, but i can't say that about every household. people here are open--minded and the government is a lot more open compared to other countries, but in other places...i can't say the same. even mercy-kiIIings are still prevalant in some parts of Asia/Middle East.
@@tardybloomer Turkey is pretty good too I think Turkish woman are luckier than other middle eastern woman because we had a leader like Atatürk back then.I don't really consider myself as opressed honestly of course I have some issues but I am generally fine.
Much like people like Blaire White and Candace Owen's, it's not that they believe women don't need feminism, it's that they want to be accepted by the oppressors.
So many women who say they don't need feminism only focus on the places that are more progressive and allow them to enjoy the privileges while completely ignore the other places that are behind. It's so US centric it's fucking ridiculous
All women benefit from feminism. Not recognizing it shows ignorance and privilege. You can't ride the rails of feminism then claim its bad. That's hypocrisy.
Yes we absolutely do need it in 2023 and onward. Feminism must always be maintained.
The rights and freedoms Feminism fought for in the past can be quickly extinguished.
I'm second wave feminist, I've witnessed and lived the changes.
Young women these days think it's always been like their lives now. They really need to be educated in this .
Precisely! It's like saying we don't need to fight for democracy and civil liberties anymore because we already got all that stuff back in the 60s. Freedom is a process and can never be finished.
Everyone, literally everyone, benefits from feminism. It’s pressuring an outdated system to actually progress, that benefits everyone.
yes, but men lose their privilege, and this is the ideology that women like YDHB have been brainwashed by. She isn't concerned about women, just that she won't be part of the in crowd.
Modern day feminism is bad. Also, male privilege isn’t a thing
@@boglenight1551 No one benefits from Feminism. 😆 Lol
I’ve had that exact kind of abortion conversation happen. I remember being like 15 on a trip, and one night while sitting with a couple guys, one of them just out of the blue asked if we wanted to discuss whether abortion should be allowed. (Mind you, I was the only one with a uterus in that group) he litterally said the reason he wanted to discuss it was because he felt so smart and mature having that kind of conversation completely impartially/unemotionally. And I remember trying to engage with them, but every time I spoke there would be eyerolls and muttered ‘here we go’s’ and it was extremely obvious they wanted me to get emotional so they could dismiss me entirely. And at that point I realized they didn’t want to actually think critically about it or potentially have their minds changed. They just wanted to have a ‘fun’ thought experiment that could forget about the second they stopped talking about it because those hypotheticals would never affect them, in order to feel oh so mature about them selves. And because of that, I, and anyone else with a uterus, would never actually be truly allowed into their conversations because they didn’t want to hear personal points or experiences. They wanted it to be a completely detached from reality mind teaser.
Disgusting. Childish. Etc.
Exactly what I expect from men-child.
Everything to FEEL superior and FEEL they can never be wrong.
It sounds like you would just as easily dismiss another person with a uterus who came to a different conclusion from you
@@mo.ka.9661 I’m not sure where you got that idea of me from my comment, because I have no problem engaging in debates with people with different opinions, my problem in that comment was that these people didn’t want to hear the opinions of the people who are actually affected. They just wanted a funny little haha thought experiment you can forget about the second they were done speaking on it. My problem isn’t people with different opinions, it’s with shutting the people who are actually affected by these conversations out of the discussion.
You should've called them emotional. Imagine their reaction.
We need more feminists like you Rachel.I really appreciate your videos as an exmuslim women living in Turkey.
Erdogan’s doing everything he possibly can to be the opposite of Ataturk-he’s trying to drag Turkey back a literal century
We don’t
@@tvscreen8397 Ok
@@tvscreen8397Yeah. We don't... need people like you.
@@tvscreen8397shut up
Isn't that wild? You would think as time moves forward, we would stop needing feminism... but instead the opposite is proving true.
We'll never stop needing feminism, because it's just a synonym for equality and justice.
Yeaaaaa... Its cuz Men and TERFs are really weird about gender and gender equality
It’s like saying you don’t need egalitarianism because all the major nations are (allegedly) democratic and you don’t need scientific progress because everyone has a smartphone.
Indolence about these things is precisely how you lose them.
The issue is that you can treat the term feminism in this case like the term 'racial equality'. You don't end up needing less racial equality if things become more equal. Unless you're referring to feminism as the movement. In which case, you might be able to argue that BLM would be less necessary as we became more equal. In which case I would agree. The main distinction is that, in reality, things are not equal. Some rights may have been protected, but racism and sexism didn't magically go away. They permeate culture and affect a lot of things. Just because gay marriage is legal now doesn't mean LGBTQ+ people aren't being heavily discriminated against. Just because black POC can vote and have some protections, the systemic and interpersonal discrimination they face still pervade society. Things don't just get better in such a short period. Conservatives still want me dead.
Fake news but I am a man so this is not a issue to me
Feminism is essential for all of us. I was always aware of misogyny and gender discrimination since I was AFAB but since I transitioned 8 years ago at 39 and am now assumed to be a cis man, I can say it's worse than I thought. People are more free with their sexism when talking to a man. "You know what I mean..."
Keep up the good fight and thank you for your content.
As a straight dude, there’s few things I hold more casual disdain for than straight dudes
Which is probably why I’m straight, dude 😂
@@warlordofbritannia I feel you, I am a bisexual woman but I prefer to date bisexual men over straight because it's often a safer bet.
@@TheStarsAlly
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Just want to thank you for your inclusive language -- sometimes I feel like I have to deny my own gender when I talk about misogyny I experience. Am I woman? No. But I do look like one, and that changes how the world interacts with me
I was just talking to my husband about this! I don’t feel like womanhood informs the way I view myself if I were in a bubble, but it absolutely does as I understand my experience in the world and interacting with others
REAL. Especially as a black queer afab, I experience alot of mysogyny AND mysogynoir (black mysogyny) and those are completely different types of mysogyny. I feel afraid of talking about my connection to feminism, but I know I have a voice.
@@mickeycurrence4456 ‘black queer afab’, so many labels for what reason??
@TV Screen because theyre descriptors. you quite literally have the same amount of descriptors that could be used for you. im sure that you are some race, im sure that youre either queer or straight, and im sure you were born either male or female.
@@lurachr i 100% agree but please remember intersex people exist and not everyone is "born male or female"
typically intersex people are assigned one or the other, but it doesn't mean thats what they are - just what they're assigned
I live in Poland, the fear of pregnancy is real 😢 there are organisation that can help you get the pill but I'm scared I might discover it too late and not be able to take it. btw fortunately medicating yourself in that way is not criminalised (yet) but anyone who helps you is at risk, one man was sent to prison because he admitted somewhere that he bought the pill for his girlfriend...
Is sterilisation available for those who seek it? Here in Russia abortion is legal but sterilisation is illegal until 35 years old or if you have 2+ kids. So if they ban abortion, it will be super bad for women here
@@KateeAngel it's 100% illegal here so we're proper fucked :')
Just don't have sex with men. Easy.
@@KateeAngelIt is not legal unless you really need it because of health reasons or you already have couple of kids and don't want more.
If you are a 20+ woman and want to be sterilized you have to seek it abroad.
Such an interesting video, The way I look at Feminism is, Feminism is the health diet the world needs, sounds strange but what I mean is - you go to the doctors and the doctor says - you are need to change your life style to prevent yourself from being very ill - so you change your diet, you start walking, you give up smoking and alcohol… etc then you get healthy and now the odd slice of cake, the odd glass of wine is manageable.
The world needs to make changes - to become healthy, it needs feminism until it doesn’t, until the world become a safe space for all, and the more people say we don’t need it, the more they prove we do.
WOW I didn't realise Cosmic Skeptic held viewpoints like that! Absolutely disgusting and a complete lack of disregard for a woman's bodily autonomy and a complete lack of empathy also.
yeah I was really disappointed to hear that he talked this way because I've seen some of his videos on other subjects, often interacting with other people (men), and I really liked them. I really hope he becomes more empathetic about this.
That surprised me as well. Dismissing her because she has personal stakes stood out to me as very non-logical, and also rude and cruel. Doesn't the fallacy of origins show that arguments should be judged by their own merits and not by who said them? I would have thought he'd understand such a thing. Plus humans have emotion and there is no such thing as being emotionally disconnected and only purely logical about something. To imply otherwise is myopic. Emotion and logic aren't inherently at odds either. You could have an emotional feeling something is morally right and also have sound and logical reasons for believing so as well. Being emotional about something doesn't mean you are wrong or not also logical about it. Hope he reflects on such things and realizes the foolishness of arguments, and also treats his fellow creators (Rachel Oates in this case) better instead of dismissing them for their sex.
Btw you would think the people most affected by the proposed laws would be the ones we should consider their opinions the most on? Obviously they could be either wrong or right, I am speaking from a democratic perspective.
@@alyssahansen1400 "humans have emotion and there is no such thing as being emotionally disconnected and only purely logical about something. Emotion and logic aren't inherently at odds either. You could have an emotional feeling something is morally right and also have sound and logical reasons for believing so. Being emotional about something doesn't mean you are wrong or not logical about it." --> This! You put it so well!
I feel the same way, just went and unsubscribed from him.
Unfortunately women haven’t had their rights supported for very long, all things considered. We like to think of ourselves as being super progressive and modern but humans have been essentially the same for the last 300k years. Feminism has only been a main-stream idea for the last 100ish years, barely a drop in the bucket. We as a species will be fighting this fight for a very long time, but it’s an important fight and it’ll be worth it.
Yeah, it's a struggle that will go on indefinitely. So how can somebody assume we're "done"? Like really?
For that matter, attempts at implementing egalitarianism only go back about 400 years. Clearly, we still have a fair bit of work to do.
It’s actually gone back and forth over many generations and many cultures. There’s been progressivism and there’s been pushback. Major pushback.
That things were always one way until recently is a conservative lie pushed on us to make their position “natural” and time-tested when it’s nothing of the sort.
But if anything this back and forth only demonstrates the need to stick by the ideals of feminism and egalitarianism and all of that because if we don’t then there are people who can and will push all the way back.
For who u got ur rights if u life in a 1st world country
@@weelebaseknowles4410 nope
Imo people who sound like that woman are generally more closed-minded/ conservative thinkers who do not easily empathize with experiences different from their own. 😑🙄
Because empathy is the opposite pf thinking
It’s wild to hear women here in the US say they don’t need feminism a year after Roe v. Wade was overturned, as if our federal right to not be forced into motherhood (often leading to a lifetime of being legally beholden to the baby’s father) was not a direct product of feminism. You think you don’t need feminism because YOU’RE TAKING IT FOR GRANTED
Bro I was a men’s rights activist type, mainly I was a stupid teenage boy, a few years ago when I started watching your channel. You put me on the right path and now I’m probably more leftist than you lol. Thanks Rachel you’re doing allahs work.
“Right path” my guy a male feminist is literally the exact opposite of the right path. You’re a sad pathetic excuse of a man if you really think bootlicking radical feminism is ever gonna get you laid.
So proud of your growth man :)
So why do you oppose men's rights now?
@@christopherbrown5409 I dont
@@christopherbrown5409 I oppose men’s wrongs
I live in a conservative country and I had this talk with a friend who told me after a long winded discussion about women's rights. " I get to go to university and my father allows me a lot of liberties, I don't know why I should care about feminism or that other women don't go to university because their fathers chose to not let them go. " This brain rot festers when a person lacks perspective and has an inflated sense of self-importance.
what's your take on Sharazad Ali on Feminism & it's role on the fatherless issue?, I believe that a child isn't just enough in becoming successful though a paycheck, but also being morally developed by a father or father like figure, I believe in an anti separated liberal feminism that male & female sees each other eye to eye & willing to understand & cooperate besides the circumstances, & that the government can not substitute the role of a protective & caring father.
When I came out, (trans man and queer) I lost so many feminists friends who told me I was a "traitor to your true gender" and I lived with a roommate that constantly scrutinized my masculinity and made horrendous transphobic jokes, outing me to drunk men who were coming over all the time, and everytime I'd say something about it hed tell me "if you want to be a man you'll learn how to take a joke" we are, as trans guys, asked to constantly perform our masculinity in a traditional way or be treated as imposters, and it's scary and mentally draining, I'm still scared after three years on testosterone to go to the restroom because of the times I was a joke outside the stall and being scared of being beaten up by cis men. We all need feminism. Toxic masculinity is ripping us apart.
I'm so sorry you've had to experience that. It's interesting that almost all marginalised groups are affected negatively by toxic masculinity. The manosphere is accepting of no-one, it's just a tool to encourage people to be worse to other human beings. It's not a coincidenence that many gay men who live in isolated communities often feel safer around women, but lesbians also feel safer around women, and generally speaking most trans people unless they are faced with a trans exclusionary "feminist" group. These days most TERFs side with misogynistic movements anyway, I don't believe they were ever real feminists to begin with. No true feminist would marginalise a trans man.
Rachel thank you so much for doing this video … it taught me a lot about how yes women do still need feminism …
I am a CIS Het male and many of my friends are feminists of all kinds ….
I know they have struggled because of their sexuality and views ….
Your video has helped me understand why Feminism must carry on…
Thank you Rachel and I look forward to the next video …
You are male* not Cis het
@@tvscreen8397
He can be all three. A cis (not trans basically) het (heterosexual as in straight) male.
@@kellycowley3535 cis is not a real thing, it’s just male
@@tvscreen8397 oh no, my masculinity is in danger because someone described themselves in a way I don’t like
@@Paigewe your comment makes no sense
14:57 Cosmic Skeptic/Alex O'Connor was a sorta surprise revelation, but not so much with the fact his rehtoric style mirrors that of Hitchens' style.
I fully agree with your stance.
Morally and practically, abortions should, of course, be legal.
It's amazing how he tried to characterise you as "hysterical."
As soon as these types of "men" are faced with the tables turned, they fold like a wet noodle and show their hypocrisy.
The oldy but goldy from men I swear.
Woman is disagreeing with me? She must be hysterical!
And so many men refuse, not lack, they refuse to exercise empathy towards people who aren't like them. (Read, they're often not cishet men)
Cishet men feel entitled to afab bodies and reproductive organs. And oh they loathe it when we take back agency. Its sick.
He always seemed extremely arrogant and condescending. No wonder he acted that way with Rachel.
Yeah, my sister's got some weird issues with the term feminism, she will not believe me that it's not some weird female superiority cult? She's also one of them "there's no more discrimination against women" people. I don't even know what to do with any of that.
You could start by recommending this channel to her maybe if you think she might be open to it?
"I don't need feminism" is what people say when they've been getting their information from misogynists and other people who resent how being a good person takes constant effort whereas they want easy answers.
What about woman against feminism?
@@Killerwhale760 Same as the kind of people I described. Also really concerning that they would fight against their best interests.
@@SnakeMan448 Im a woman and im against modern feminism
@@SnakeMan448 How are woman oppressed? The jury is on their side if she falsely accuses a man of rape, which is more common. The females on tiktok and twitter can hate men. If a boy gets groomed, only a few will defend him. Woman can have jobs, education, health etc.. and there are a few mens selective services.
@@SnakeMan448 if you get falsely accused by a woman and lost all your jobs, what will you do, will you still be on the womans side or not? Feminism before is not the same as today
I find it extra odd when people who say "we don't need feminism anymore" want to have kids because having kids really shows how much feminist activism is still needed. Look at access to parental leave and affordable childcare or setbacks in the workforce when people have kids (skipped over for promotions because your boss thinks you could take maternity leave at any point in time, or being denied employment because of a working gap for child care or not being hired.) And how many women say the don't need to a feminist and then are stressed out when their male SO doesn't do equal work around the house or with childcare?
Also, kids don't just understand equality magically. So many girls and boys are bullied everyday by other kids whose parents just assumed their kids would not tease other kids based on sexist ideas like making fun of a boy for like "girls things" and vice versa. And to this day girls are even made fun of for liking girly things because of sexism that says girly things are silly!
smh
pregnant women and early mothers shouldnt have a job or career. they should not take demanding jobs. babies are often neglected by modern feminist mothers. the role of the mother is to care for the baby..
@@patriciabradnorismakingpudding Define neglect. You are aware that children have a father and also extended family. Having a child cared for by the father, grandparents, aunts or in kindergarden is not neglect. There is no "magic" that makes the mother a better care taker than any other willing adult.
You are just showing how important feminism still is. Too many people still seem to believe that there is something that means that only mothers can care for their child.
Also, I hope that if you are against mothers working, you are for providing total live funding through the government to all women who ever became mothers. Otherwise you are advocating for child poverty, which would be actual child neglect.
@@barbarareichart267 the economic policies need to change to support all new mothers . no mother should be forced to work in order to provide the basic needs for herself and her baby. Sadly i can see no future in which any government will ever care about motherhood. This is why marriage is such a good thing. A woman needs a man to help her in life. The support, love and kindness from a good husband is something every mother needs in order to bring up a child. There is no better person for a child than a mother. this is the basic laws of nature. in the animal kingdom the baby will always cling to its mother. the maternal, instinctual bond between a mother and a baby is the magic of nature. some can call this magic but really it's just biology. feminism is broken because it fails to understand basic biological principals.
@@patriciabradnorismakingpudding
I am happy that you agree that economic stability is important for children. You already recognized that some governments are not really great at that. The US is especially horrible in that department. In western europe it is much more protected to stay home with your child. But mostly for one maybe two years.
Your conclusion is, that while the support by the state is limited, the support of a husband will work out great, and so moms do not need a job. I strongly disagree. That decision is fine for maybe up to 3 years, but staying out of the job for longer for women and their children is highly risky.
1. In case of medical issues (or death) of the sole breadwinner, the whole family income is lost and their partner has been out of the job market for so long, it will be nearly impossible to make up for it.
2. Marriages often do not last forever. In case of divorce, women might run into huge problems. Some men just do not pay child support in that case. And finding a job can become nearly impossible. Let alone one that pays well.
3. If there is a huge difference in power within a relationship that unfortunately often leads to abuse, as the disadvantage partner has no/little means to fight back. I would count one person earning all the money the other person needs to live as one such situation. There is statistical evidence to back it up.
4. Women are 80% of people who are hit by poverty in their old age. The major reason for that is not working during large parts of their lives. Children are not the guarantor of a care free old live many people hope they could be.
Now to your other point:
Comparison to nature is fun, but ultimately really useless in telling us about the "natural" role of mothers.
Even within mammals there are amazing mothers (e. g. elephants), but also horrible ones (rabbits, black bears, panda bears). The second group often leaves their children alone for most of the time or outright kills them, if there are too many. So talking about nature in this context, is really not the good point you think it is.
When we look at our closest relatives in fact they often have some kind of "daycare" system. Children are raised by the community. When we look into how likely it was for women to die when giving birth, it is highly likely that this is the "natural" way humans raised their children. So, if we want to go natures route, having grandparents and other adults involved might actually be the more natural way to raise children.
@@barbarareichart267 mothers are the most important person in a child's life. then the father is the next important and then grandparents and relatives. but the person who spends the most time with a child from birth is the mother. This is why women give birth the babies and why men do not. the baby is closest to its mother. this is basic fact.
Great video Rachel! I’ve identified as a feminist for years, but this comprehensive explanation on intersectionality opened my eyes to even more issues!
Honestly, child marriage is another good example of making it illegal doesn't make it non-existent, it just moves it underground. My country has made child marriage illegal since I believe 1960s and the legal age of marriage is 20 for both. Still, my country has so many young kids, boys and girls alike, married before they reach 18 and sometimes when they are a literal child. I know so many of my friends whose friends have been married at 16 or 18 or as soon as they turn 20. There have been instances on the news where children younger than 10 are being married to each other. It's not hard to imagine how many cases of child marriage have gone unreported when some still manage to make headlines.
And while child marriage affects both the boy and the girl, the girl has to suffer more as she is made to leave school in most cases and do household chores and tend to her husband and in-laws. So many get pregnant so young. And repeatedly. And the cycle continues.
Also, I apologize for my cis-heteronormative language but these kids are neither allowed to explore their gender nor their sexuality as far as I know. And parents are not going to wed their son with a boy or their daughter with a girl. So yeah.
Its definitely both an issue that needs to be tackled both from a social and legal perspective
Law: make it illegal
Social: make it so that girls arent seen as objects who exist purely for male consumption and child making (and more Im sure but that tends to be the biggest cause)
Just a question, this marrying off young kids any way linked to religion? If it is... its gonna be wayyy harder to educate people on not to it...
@@G.D.G. It is, at least to an extent. Now, I cannot say if that practice is significant in scripture or if it's just people being misogynists as we are not pressured or even encouraged to read scriptures that much. But, the religious aspect is that parents are believed to ascend to heaven if their daughter is married off before she gets her first period. There's also the social aspect where people consider daughters worthless because "she'll go to her husband's house anyway" and so, raising and educating her is considered a waste. Men here (not all, but a lot) also don't want a wife who has got a higher education or earns more than him so parents marry off their daughters earlier because that means she'll get married for sure. If dowry is still prevalent in that place, men also ask for more dowry the more the woman is educated. So marrying off the girl at a very young age means less financial burden for the parents and a more malleable daughter-in-law for the in-laws.
As far as I can see, while some people will be motivated to give their daughters for child marriage due to religious reasons, I think social and cultural aspects play a bigger role here. Most people here are less "this is what the scriptures say" and more "this is what has been done for ages" or "what will others think if I do this". The last one is a valid fear though as people have been ostracized for going out of societal norms and that is basically torture when you're poor and have to rely on the people of your village for everything.
@@elvingearmasterirma7241 Yeah, definitely.
@@elvingearmasterirma7241what's your take on Sharazad Ali on Feminism & it's role on the fatherless issue?, I believe that a child isn't just enough in becoming successful though a paycheck, but also being morally developed by a father or father like figure, I believe in an anti separated liberal feminism that male & female sees each other eye to eye & willing to understand & cooperate besides the circumstances, & that the government can not substitute the role of a protective & caring father.
Oh dang 😭 back when I was first becoming an atheist, some of the people I watched were you, Dear Mr Atheist, Genetically Modified Skeptic, and yes, Cosmic Skeptic.
The last two look and sound pretty similar so I get them mixed up sometimes, but I’m shocked that Cosmic Skeptic would be like that 🥲 but I guess I shouldn’t be surprised. I’d you don’t know someone, you don’t *know* someone :/
if you want more atheist channel recs i recommend friendly atheist and telltale athiest :)
what's your take on Sharazad Ali on Feminism & it's role on the fatherless issue?, I believe that a child isn't just enough in becoming successful though a paycheck, but also being morally developed by a fatger or father like figure, I believe in an anti separated liberal feminism that male & female sees each other eye to eye & willing to understand & cooperate besides the circumstances, & that the government can not substitute the role of a protective & caring father.
This feels a little odd to say, but: thank you for the disturbing video, it was an awful experience. But it was a *good* awful experience, because these kinds of awful things like child marriage and FGM need to be talked about. Thank you for doing this difficult work and speaking of these things. It's all very important and I'm very proud of you.
It might be good in future to also mention surgeries on intersex infants when you're taking the time to mention male circumcision in the context of genital mutilations that aren't the focus of the section. Then again, circumcision is more often brought up in whataboutisms, so the specific mention may have been wise, and also I might be talking out of my ass because I'm woefully uneducated on intersex experiences.
Apologies if I'm overstepping my bounds as a random commenter and I hope this part of the comment doesn't take away from the fact that it was a truly excellent video that was very well put together. I wouldn't have even noticed the unfortunate camera crash if you hadn't mentioned it, as even the section where you were trying to reconstruct that half hour on the fly was delivered well. Thank you once again for doing the research into these difficult subjects.
what's your take on Sharazad Ali on Feminism & it's role on the fatherless issue?, I believe that a child isn't just enough in becoming successful though a paycheck, but also being morally developed by a fatger or father like figure, I believe in an anti separated liberal feminism that male & female sees each other eye to eye & willing to understand & cooperate besides the circumstances, & that the government can not substitute the role of a protective & caring father.
When I was growing up, I thought that feminism was just common sense. Maybe that’s because my parents are good people. But idk, I expected more people to be compassionate and believe in equal rights for everyone. That illusion broke for me in my first year of high school. Our health teacher asked what we thought feminism was, and most people agreed that it was “angry, blue-haired girls screaming about everything being offensive”. The teacher corrected them, talking about the history of feminism, how it’s needed in other countries still, etc. But I
heard some boys make “triggered feminist” jokes about that teacher for the rest of the year. Ever since then, I’ve been seeing ignorance and dismissal of very important issues since it doesn’t affect them, so it doesn’t matter. I live in Texas, and the amount of people saying that they’re glad for the abortion ban is terrifying. One girl even said to me, if people need an abortion, just go to another state or put it up for adoption. Maybe those are valid options for her. Not everyone is so privileged, different circumstances exist and they can’t seem to acknowledge them
my father was not circumcised so i don't know why my mother had my brother circumcised. i've known about FGM since the '70s. it's so much worse for the girls, but it's not good for boys, either. the results are terrible all the way to women not being able to give birth naturally due to heavy scar tissue. culture be damned when it harms their very own children.
when i was about 7 my parents took in a foster baby. a little boy we called luke. mom and i went to the doctor when he got circumcised and i heard him screaming and knew right then that i would NEVER do that to any son of mine.
this. FGM is horrible but I don't see the same energy for male circumcision, it's so normalised in western countries it's unreal, especially that the reason is still the same as FGM, which is "muh tradition".
@@dreambrush7251 western countries you mean usa, i don't think it happens in most European countries.
@@anna.owo. I used to study in UK and had a jewish guy in my class. He was interested in me for a while and he thought that it would be a good way to flirt by telling me that he's circumcised. Me coming from an Eastern European country I found it soooooo weird that he felt the need to proudly say that and i was kinda taken aback. And because I didn't really hold back my disgust that parents do this to their babies, he kinda kept doubling down on "it looks better! i can clean it better!" and just kinda was in this stage of "i am ok with it! i truly am!". I don't know, I just don't like the idea of doing this stuff to your new born children unless there's an actual medical reason to do so.
I dont want children but if I somehow end up with a child. And keep them.
I wont ever let them go through FGM or MGM. Its assault. Its sexual assault lets be honest here.
Just no.
Quick googling says in Europe about 5-10% of boys are circumcised, so yes, from western countries only America has it normalized. In Africa and America about half of the boys are circumcised. In Asia it doesn't really happen either I think, except maybe in areas with bigger Muslim populations. Circumcising of boys is mainly a thing in Islam and Judaism.
Less energy for boys' circumcision is probably mix of "respecting the culture" and it not being as harmful as the girls' version. Of course some % of boys get complications, leading to their genitals being destroyed in the process, or the boy dying, and unnecessary pain, but if the surgery is successful, there are really no lasting downsides to it.
It mostly comes down to freedom of choice/concent, and the unnecessary risk, while girl's version is just plain barbaric, and always leaves lasting harm. I think in a way, FGM deserves a bit more energy put into it. Of course I'm not saying that we shouldn't try to ban non-medical MGM too, just that I can understand why people would put more energy into FGM.
I have considered myself a feminist for years now. The internet exposed me to feminism and I haven't looked back since. Still, it is great to watch/listen to such well-researched videos on topics I knew about but not as well. I hope this video reaches many other young and old men, women and non-binary people because I wholeheartedly believe that we need more people like you and videos like this which are showing the reality as it is in the midst of the lies perpetuated by some morally abhorrent people.
Saying we don't need Feminism is like saying because you don't experience poverty then looking at a homeless person and saying they aren't poor. Or like Saying you don't experience racism so it doesn't exist.
Some ppl need to check their privilege.
Many with Autism who struggle with food may struggle with chewing because of problems with coordination.
Good point many autistic people have a texture issue too.
Sorry to be so blunt, but I'm chronically ill and have disabling food aversion and I still eat a mostly plant based diet, because once you see what the living cost of that food is, the suffering involved - I would throw up thinking about it when I'm tucking in too
@@toreason8146 I think you shouldn't be vegan
@@toreason8146 good for you i guess but should others suffer to be like you? A good vegan diet is privilege, poor people are the biggest consumers of fast food, are you gonna cook a satisfying healthy meal for the autistic kid of a single mom? I don't think so, so let people eat what they can and don't flex your eating habits.
@@toreason8146 ... Okay but sensory issues are about the texture making you physically recoil/gag
Not because of the suffering?? Its something that we cannot avoid unless we avoid that food.
To be a little crude about abortion: No uterus, no opinion!
The only exception should be for doctors. Men should never be able to control women's bodies.
It was physically hurtful to hear about FGM I already knew most of it, but it was horrible.
Thank you for doing this, Rachel. You really are something special.
I do have an option. I think the government should stay out making these health issues.
If you done want me vote, just say so.
I don’t think that first bit makes a good slogan: People who couldn’t potentially need to get an abortion also live in the same society and will have opinions no matter what you say. The experiences of people who have been in that position should be amplified and taken into account when people are forming their opinions.
Most of what I think are the better arguments for the availability of abortions and against genital mutilation are about bodily autonomy. No one no matter their gender, position in society, relationship to the individual etc should be able to limit or impinge on your bodily autonomy without extremely good reason.
@@glenecollins Well said.
@@glenecollins That’s the beautiful thing about abortion access. If you don’t like it, you don’t have to get one.
@@mellifluous_victoria that seems like a fairly awful thing to say when almost all of the women who get one are forced into getting one by circumstance and of those women are pretty unhappy about being put in that position. Especially when in a lot of cases the baby is wanted but has to be aborted due to disease.
Honestly if I were in Alex's shoes I would probably resort to making similar arguments to "win" the debate. Thank you for making me realize the importance of being compassionate towards debate opponents.
what's your take on Sharazad Ali on Feminism & it's role on the fatherless issue?, I believe that a child isn't just enough in becoming successful though a paycheck, but also being morally developed by a fatger or father like figure, I believe in an anti separated liberal feminism that male & female sees each other eye to eye & willing to understand & cooperate besides the circumstances, & that the government can not substitute the role of a protective & caring father.
I love that you're so vocal about needing to be AGAINST the bad stuff, not just supportive of the good stuff. If you're passive, that's a bigot who's getting no pushback somewhere who now thinks their actions and beliefs are acceptable. We only affect change by being vocal, mobilizing, getting our hands dirty, and being loudly against bigotry and oppression.
Thank you for speaking out, Rachel. To add some updates to what you said about Poland:
1) last year we had the lowest natural growth rate since WW2. Of course there are many reasons for it and the law that has banned abortions in cases of foetal malformations etc is not the only one, but it certainly doesn't help. Many women are saying that because of that they're much more afraid of getting pregnant than before, even if they would like to have children (a friend of mine was in a very much wanted pregnancy but she ended up having to get an abortion in the Netherlands because the foetus was so malformed).
2) Even in cases where abortion is technically legal, ie. rape or danger to the woman's life, it's often hard to obtain (especially in rape cases: many doctors will use the "conscience clause" to refuse an abortion and the person has to look for help in other hospitals or sometimes cities. Also, I can only assume that it's not enough to simply say you've been raped, you'd probably have to have it reported to the police etc., which can sometimes be impossible or add to the trauma)
3) recently the office of a female ob-gyn who openly said that she helped women get abortions (before the ban) was raided and all her patients' records were confiscated
4) the head of the ruling party that voted the ban in - an old single man who, as far as it is known, has never been in a relationship with a woman - has publicly stated, not too long ago, that the reason we now have a low level of births is because young women "like to get drunk".
5) a pharmacist called the police on a (male) customer who was trying to purchase a large dose of a drug for his sick horse. The reason? The drug can work as an abortifacient. The man was arrested until the matter was cleared up.
6) a woman was just sentenced to 30 hours of public work monthly for 8 months because she helped another woman get an abortion pill (it is legal for a pregnant woman to self-administer a pill like that, but it is not legal to HELP a pregnant woman in obtaining abortion). The authorities were informed by the ex-partner of the pregnant woman (she didn't want to keep the pregnancy because he had abused her and she was afraid that having a child will make it more difficult to leave him).
Ah, the good old law of unintended consequences. Trying to artificially boost birth rates leading to lower rates? I’m shocked, shocked!
Why, it’s almost as if you can’t force people to have babies when they don’t want to have babies!
F disgusting....
Meanwhile crazies women say we dont nees feminism anymore.
And men pretend they are the real victims and women are taking over the world....
So, so delusional.
This needs to be shown to every major right wing figure on the planet
Why? Most of them are out after 2 minutes. To be frank, I'm 15 minutes in, and it really isn't that compelling.
what's your take on Sharazad Ali on Feminism & it's role on the fatherless issue?, I believe that a child isn't just enough in becoming successful though a paycheck, but also being morally developed by a fatger or father like figure, I believe in an anti separated liberal feminism that male & female sees each other eye to eye & willing to understand & cooperate besides the circumstances, & that the government can not substitute the role of a protective & caring father.
anytime a worldwide issue is addressed, people seem to think if it doesn’t affect them then it doesn’t exist. like why is that? is it intentional or are they just stupid lmao-
i feel like to deal with these people you have to know why they think that way. if they do it out of hate, no one is gonna convince them otherwise. i don’t even think i’m that intelligent, but i seriously couldn’t believe that people can be so dense. i thought they were doing it on purpose 💀
what's your take on Sharazad Ali on Feminism & it's role on the fatherless issue?, I believe that a child isn't just enough in becoming successful though a paycheck, but also being morally developed by a father or father like figure, I believe in an anti separated liberal feminism that male & female sees each other eye to eye & willing to understand & cooperate besides the circumstances, & that the government can not substitute the role of a protective & caring father.
It's really lovely that that superstar cricket team is willing to speak up for women and against FGM, but it's also very sad that this is such a dangerous, traumatic practice and it's only being listened to when powerful men are speaking about it.
"I don't know how to explain to you that you should care about other people."
Thank you for discussing FGM. I've never known anyone who has undergone the procedure but it is something that is a major concern of mine. What really infuriates me is that just about everyone I have spoken to about it regardless of gender dismiss it, telling me it is no big deal. It is a horrific practice, especially in the ways it is carried out such as the circumstance you have described.
The US population debated Clinton / Trump because the idea of a woman in charge was considered perverted. We’re probably always going to need some kind of feminism.
I dont know why it'd be perverted... they make no F sense.
I'm actually sobbing, it just got harder and harder to listen to as it went on. I had to pause when it got to FGM. It brought me to tears. I cannot get over it. I physically gagged and grabbed my lower stomach and shook. I wanted to leave my body and grab and hold her. I can't imagine the horrors. I cannot breathe that this is real, it is literal hell on Earth. Disgustingly dark.
Thank you Rachel for mentioning the situation in Poland, my homeland. Polish government has been gradually tightening up the abortion laws for many years. In 2020, the law has been introduced, that made it illegal to terminate the pregnancy even if the fetus/baby has a severe and permanent disability, or an incurable and life-threatening disease. That caused massive anti-government protests in the entire country, that were the biggest ones since the end of the People's Republic in 1989, some even say they were the biggest in the entire history of Poland. I can confirm, I was there and honestly, I've never seen so many people in one place. After two weeks of protests, police started to arrest the protestors, chase the people who wanted to leave the protests and generally speaking use violence. And all this effort, after 1.5 months of everyday protests (and a couple of days in 2021, after a break), for nothing.
As you said, the new law caused many innocent pregnant women to lose their lives in situations, which initially weren't even that dangerous. Their families were left without the mothers, the wifes, the daughters... How do you explain those orphaned children that their mommy will never come home? How will they feel when they grow up and learn that their mothers' deaths weren't an unfortunate accident, but were deliberately inflicted by the government and could be easily prevented?
Anti-choice people use the word "baby" instead of "fetus" intentionally for emotional manipulation, but I'm gonna do the same. In the cases I've just mentioned these fetuses are the babies. Their families wanted them and couldn't wait to welcome these new little humans in their homes. Humans, that live and feel. And from the very beginning, their dignity is forcefully taken away and they are sentenced to a short life of debilitating pain and suffering, that never stops. And the ones that inflict that suffering are living comfortable life with their friends and families, have money and everything they ever wanted in the very same moment. I can't comprehend, how dare they? How can they look every morning in the mirror and be ok with who they are?
I was very lucky to be privilaged enough to leave Poland and migrate to an actually civilised country. But my heart breaks when I think about all my fellow countrywomen, who couldn't get out of that mess. Having their laws violated is always awful, but it's even worse when you are stuck in a place, where the health system, education and social benefits are a sad joke, but there's never a problem with the money for the church, propaganda and raising politicians' salaries. Some people say that Poland is a country made of shit and cardboard, and I think it's a really good way to sum up everything that's going on there.
I hope that people talk more about the situation in Poland, so there's less people who think that feminism isn't needed anymore. They need to finally open their eyes and see the tragedy that happens just in front of them.
Hi from a fellow participant of those protests, and you're right - I have never seen anything on that scale in Poland.
And oh, one more thing: even though the protests didn't help to revert the law, I do think that they have done a lot to change attitudes. Abortion is finally something that's being openly talked about, to the point where the main opposition party under Tusk is now putting it as an electoral issue - something they didn't and would never have done 10 years ago. The crazier ideas the likes of Kaja Godek come up with, the more the majority public opinion, especially young people, swings to a pro-choice stance.
Beautiful video rachel so shocking that many parts are still practicing female genital mutilation even the the united states love you rachel we need more feminists likeyou in the world
terf :)
@@gremlin623 who are you calling a terf
@@gremlin623 how were they a terf?
@@gremlin623 What?
@@gremlin623 that’s a bit of an assumption
I listened through the FGM part. I already knew about it, but every time I am reminded it exists I feel so so sick... You are definitely right, more people should be aware and campaigning against it.
what's your take on Sharazad Ali on Feminism & it's role on the fatherless issue?, I believe that a child isn't just enough in becoming successful though a paycheck, but also being morally developed by a father or father like figure, I believe in an anti separated liberal feminism that male & female sees each other eye to eye & willing to understand & cooperate besides the circumstances, & that the government can not substitute the role of a protective & caring father.
Thanks for talking about these issues, Rachel! Looking forward to more in this series. :)
Rachel I love you so much you are such an amazing trans ally I’ve loved watching you grow and learn more about us so much, unfortunately as a trans person in America this video is way too real for me and even just hearing basic support is moving me to tears but anyway I’m just commenting this to let you know that I think you’re amazing. I’ve been stealth by choice for a while now in my real life but now having to be stealth cus it might get me killed if I wasn’t has been bringing me so much anxiety. Trans people are in a genocide and even in our own community people want to focus on things that don’t matter. Conservatives make up scenarios that have never and will never happen (because a man pretending to be a woman to molest children is not a trans woman) to distract from how people are calling for us to be wiped out from existence. How people are trying to use eugenics about us. How Canada has literally opened refugee status for trans people from America. All their made up “what if this happened” is just to justify themselves when they kill us. Whether directly or indirectly every single transphobe is a murderer. Every transphobe has blood on their hands. Every transphobe has metaphorically or literally held a gun to someone’s head, tied someone’s noose, pushed pills down someone’s throat, etc. feminism is just as important to trans people as it is to every single other person it is meant to help, and hearing a cis person actually support us is not something I have heard in *months*. So yeah thank you for once again confirming your status of my favorite youtuber and I rlly hope you see this comment so you can know how much impact you had on at least one trans person
People who can look at the world right now and say we don't need feminism are insane. The fact that in 2023 we're still debating whether or not women should have the right to their own body and to have abortions unencumbered should be evidence enough that we need it, but I guess some of these conservative/religious women just hate having rights that feminists have fought so hard for ://
My ex, before he transitioned from FtM, we regularly got stopped trying to go to the women's bathroom. I look high femme and he looked like a guy, even before he started testosterone. I couldn't imagine him trying to navigate this today without being transitioned. No one clocks him.
Love that you’re doing this!
amazing video, great as always
Thank you for talking about all of this. It’s so vitally important. I’m looking forward to the rest of the series!
thank you for making this video! looking forward to more ❤
Thank you so much for talking about this and making it a series even, going really deep into the subject and explaining possible solutions besides spreading awareness. Thank you so much Rachel
Great work Rachel. I've been watching your videos for years but this one feels special to me.
Men NEED to hear these things and NEED to be feminists. As a bisexual polish man (who's also a feminist and have identified as such for years, but came out about a year ago as bi after years of 'bicuriousity') it is horrifying to witness the lack of empathy and understanding both for women's rights and LGBTQ+ community in Poland. I'm very fortunate to have wonderful women in my closest family (my mom and sister) who are open advocates for women's rights and LGBTQ+, however my 'further family' - aunts, cousins and so on - are very much against it.
The biggest advocates for 'pro-life' in Poland are women. The leader of 'Ordo Iuris' is a woman. A lot of women (both young and old) are openly anti-feminist and anti-LGBTQ+. It's deeply saddening and I'm not sure if this deep-seeded culture of systemic sexism and misogyny will ever change here. I'm not even going to address the transphobic angle of 'traditional values' in Poland, because I don't feel knowledgeable enough in that field.
One more thing - I never got into the topic of FGM, but after this video I've ordered myself an english copy of Wardere's book - and I can't wait to read it.
To all women fighting - keep up your work and stay strong.
lqgbt rights are not the same as women's rights. trans women are not women. trans women are biological men who have severe hormonal disorders.
what's your take on Sharazad Ali on Feminism & it's role on the fatherless issue?, I believe that a child isn't just enough in becoming successful though a paycheck, but also being morally developed by a father or father like figure, I believe in an anti separated liberal feminism that male & female sees each other eye to eye & willing to understand & cooperate besides the circumstances, & that the government can not substitute the role of a protective & caring father.
this video is so well done, thank you ♥ it's an incredibly difficult topic but it's so, so important to talk about
Thank you SO MUCH for your google docs with the names of the books and organizations you referenced :) I def want to read Cut by Hibo Wardere, Hood Feminism by Mikki Kendall, and Transgressive by Rachel Anne Williams
I just found your channel yesterday and I am in love! Binge watching all of your videos. Love your energy❤
Unrelated: I love your outfit. Also, watching you stim and fidget with your pillow and lights and stuff was very soothing to me. Cheers.
Imagine realizing that just because you aren't oppressed or discriminated against doesn't mean that everyone shares that experience.
It's crazy, right? What are the odds that billions of women from all the cultures and countries in the world would have different experiences than you?
Who’da thunk it?
So racism and sexism are okay because it doesn't affect everyone in the same way?
When these women say they don't need feminism you can tell how self centered and privileged they are. Having that much tattoos and wearing that kind of clothes come here in my country and people will call you sl*t. At the same time these people are themselves affected by sexism so they think what's they have is too much.
I from India and here even there are some educated women who come from progressive family telling people that how feminism is good and they are not feminist but they believe in gender equality. The irony here is these women come from privilege family background and are daddy's girl mostly and they can't say they are feminist because lots of man can't stand that and they just love to be loved by everyone else so they choose to say they are not feminist.
Another reason is that feminist talk about core problem and how it had affected our society specially women which these people don't like to talk about because their loved ones also had did that ( you know their dear dad had done some of these things to their mother in the early stage of marriage and they can't stand that).
I love your video on this and you brought up points I had not been considering. I feel like my eyes were just opened to how much further Feminism need to reach. Some of the information, such as the three r**p shelters in Honduras, two of them doubling as brothels, just shows how needed gender equality. I think America's such as myself just forget that just because have made changes to how women are treated dose not mean things are fixed because its not about just us. It's about everyone that suffers because of gender inequity. I host don't even know what to say at this point I'm just shaken but I now know what needs to be done, or at have a better understanding of how much further we have to go.
Rachel, you are as wise as you are adorable.
One of the major issues facing women and society today is the issue of women wielding power - political, economic, and social. Women have sometimes had great social power in the past, but they were left out of political and economic power. Today women are bank presidents, lawyers, police women, doctors, and politicians. I've encountered a few women who did not want to be in the workforce. There have been countries that have had female heads of state - England, India, Israel, and Pakistan. Violence against women is one issue that has moved to the forefront of the feminist movement. That is probably the most pressing issues for women today.
you are so well spoken, i love learning more through your videos, thank you!
Hey, I am glad you mentioned that child marriage happens and is legal in some areas of the US, not just non western countries.
Sounds like Alex needs to read "A Modest Proposal."
There’s nothing like a plate of Irish babies to break one’s fast and remain willfully ignorant of societal inequity
Thank you for this video. It must have been a huge amount of research that’s gone into this. I’ll check out some of the authors you’ve mentioned and see what they have to say first hand.
I am so glad that you included "feminism is equality for EVERYBODY." So many times I've had debates turned into arguments by men, and women who are brainwashed by people like Tate, Pearlythings, the other "red pill/blue pill" people out there who invite people on to their show under false pretences, then proceed to destroy anything they say if it's at all related to feminism.
Yes, misandry exists alongside misogyny - no-one is disputing that, but women across the world are still oppressed far more than men, and this is why we need feminism. To prove that everyone can be respected and on equal footing with each other, regardless of gender, appearance, capability etc.
The only exception I have to this, is criminals who commit horrendous acts. They're scum of the earth.
You'd be hard pressed to say women are generally worse off than men in the USA. Everything that kills you kills men more than women. But it's "our personal choice" so the statistics are LYING to you, there's no issue here. Suicide, homelessness, OD/addiction, isolation, prison, violent crime, etc. all male dominated issues. Women get more shelters, more education, etc. the standard of living bell curve for women is much narrower than the one for men. Men occupy the top and bottom of income, but the difference is most wealthy men have families, so they bring a woman up with them, financially at least. While poor men are single, so women don't suffer along side them at the same rate as they prosper. Which is fine, it's choice and free will, nothing to get in the way of. But let's not pretend that women are getting shafted more so than men in the USA.
Misandry is not a reall thing, and is not an issue, like misogny is.
You are truly amazing for making this video. Amazing research, I love the depth - you went the distance. Much love from one feminist to another!
This is so so important!!!
Can't wait for more videos in this series.
Even though I knew most of the stuff mentioned in this video it still hurt a lot to listen to! I’m so sad for the women and girls experiencing such horrible things and really really hope we’re able to help stop this from happening one day!
Alex O'Connor not wanting women to get abortions because of the ethical implications and then quitting veganism (an ethical cause he has defended a lot) because he has some gastrointestinal issues. Sure mate, women can't refuse to bring forth an unwanted baby but because your stomach hurts you do get to participate in unethical behavior. Too emotionally implicated my ass 😂
That's exactly what I was thinking lmao
If Alex O'Connor was an actual philosopher and not a pseudo-intellectual fraud, he'd realise that veganism is a much more logically based ethical belief than banning abortion - for *most* people (obviously there are exceptions), eating plant-based will cause a lot less suffering and health problems for humans than forced pregnancy/birth. Alex is probably quite well off, he could easily have sought medical advice and help to make his plant-based diet work for him.
@@celerysucks4016 "... logically based ethical belief than banning abortion" all the facts and logic are on the side of pro-choice. So called "pro-life", or in actuality anti-woman/forced birthers, have nothing but appeal to emotions that boil down to nothing but that laughable "Think of the children" meme from "The Simpsons" but unironically.
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Like what facts and logic?
"Anti-woman" sounds like an emotional insult to me
@@mo.ka.9661 Nope, that is an accurate description of Forced Birthers.
This is so important, thank you👏👏
As a survivor of male genital mutilation (MGM, more commonly referred to as male circumcision), I appreciated that you mentioned that any form of genital mutilation is unethical and would like to see a follow-up video where you discuss it specifically. MGM is equivalent to level 4 FGM at the very least (if not level 3).
No form of permanent, irreversible bodily modification should be forced on a minor, unless there is an urgent and VALID medical need.
Unfortunately, in the United States, MGM is not only widely practiced by the Jewish and Muslim communities under the shield of religious freedom and cultural tradition, but the medical community (which makes bank performing the insurance-covered procedure and then selling the “donated,” stem-cell-rich tissue to the highest bidder) falsely paints it as medically beneficial, minimally painless and unaffecting sexual function (none of which is true).
Because of this medical complicity, if you’re AMAB in the United States, you’re likely going to be mutilated within days or even hours of birth, regardless of your religion or culture. Most Americans, for a variety of terrible reasons, just consider MGM “the thing to do.” As a survivor (who also happens to be Jewish), that institutionalized enthusiasm for cruelty makes me physically ill.
What happens to your sexual function was it affected? MGM is not as bad as FGM , but do you have ED or phimosis after circumcision?
This is a very good and informative video. I will try to share it with some people I know it could help. Thank you for your great work.
Thanks!
Thank you!!
As a white woman, I’ve been sexually harassed walking down the street, sexually assaulted on a tube, and now I’m disabled I find I can’t say something to a dr and they will totally ignore me, yet if my ex-husband said it, they’d listen straight away. Oppression exists for every woman, the gender pay gap and the glass ceiling for one. However, other women in different communities and parts of the world experience oppression in a totally different way. It means thinking of their experiences, understanding them, understanding their beliefs and culture.
I have full on rights in every spot in my life, especially since im more "aggressive" in getting what I want. I need feminism more then anything, for my sisters in less progressive countries. If any women in this world doesnt have the same freedom as me - my fights not done.
I'm just hearing about fgm now and I literally started crying. Thank you for telling me about this and I wna buy "hood feminism" and read the other feminist books mentioned.
It's so sad to hear my country, Honduras, stand out this way, and although things have gotten a bit better and more action is getting asked from our first female president, there's so much left to do.
Thanks so much for this video.
Hi I am from Turkey.I am really happy to see woman from other countries.
I live in Canada and at my old job I got told that a woman's purpose in life is to have kids all the time. I was told my a city official at a job fair that he doesnt hire young women because they will want to get married and have kids. Inequality still exists in the west 😂 women literally dont have control over their bodies in the US
neither do guys??
Hi Rachel,
I'm really excited for your new series.
Please talk about women in Iran too and be our voice.❤
Women life freedom
Hey Rachel! I know you said that you are going to expand and talk about more topics later but I wanted to ask you to talk about how the masculine perspective is still so predominant in every society and in the way international sociopolitical dynamics are still looked at through the mindset of men and their perspective, even as women take on politcal positions they are still persuing a masculinistic ideas of whow the world should be organized.
10:14 thank you for bringing this up. a lot of people ignore the struggles of trans masculine people when it comes to feminism. it can be dysphoria inducing as a trans man to acknowledge that you are also affected by misogyny in some way. to any other transmascs out there reading this, experiencing misogyny doesn't make you a woman.
I really like your sweater!
Of course the stated goal of feminism is to "help women". However, I think too many people forget how much feminism would help men as well. Many MRA (men's rights activists, who are usually anti-feminist) talking points are things about how men are more likely to be incarcerated, serve longer sentences, suffer workplace injuries, and are less likely to win child custody suits than women are. But they don't realize that these things are the direct result of patriarchal policies and prejudices. Feminism helps men too!
Feminists have no interest in helping men. This entire hour long video ignores mens issues, completely. Xeno-gender is a higher priority than the male suicide rate. Absolutely absurd. From a utilitarian perspective, the death and violence men face is far more pressing than any issue 0.01% of the population could face.
But who keep reinforcing those patriarchal policies and prejudices? Both sexes, specifically feminists by reinforcing the harmful stereotypes that men are the oppressors as well as shaming them for being vulnerable by gaslighting them to believe they are “privileged” whenever they speak out about their issues. Plus, feminists have no intention of making the laws gender mutual as they are really about punishing men while giving leniency towards women.
this is such an important video, parts are so hard to hear which i think highlights why this is so important.
Thank you!
The STEM field (particularly engineering) is EXTREMELY dominated by men, and most women who enter engineering quit within 5 years. Much higher rates than any other career field.
I had a moment reading Bell Hooks' "The Will to Change". That helped make a big connection between feminism and masculinity/ men. I already supported feminist values, but didn't know those extended in to "hey, maybe men can be vulnerable and human cause, ya know, they are".
Genuinely the hardest thing I've ever had to listen to. I was aware of FGM as a practice, but I never knew the extent or scope. It's easy to think something is bad in the abstract but hearing it described in detail made me so ill it became a little harder to focus on driving. Just horrible. Thanks for the insight. I'm not sure why the issue isn't discussed more
Heart breaking, powerful, necessary. I KNEW you were going to AO. I unsubscribed to him after that video.
It's been said before, but I really appreciate your inclusive language as a transmasc guy. It makes me very happy that you acknowledge that we still face misogyny because of how society views us. This video was great as always, keep it up!! 💖💖💖
Thank you.
I wish you would reconsider posting the video with that debate about abortion you mentioned here. I would love to see it.
The woman at the start said she has never been disadvantaged like she's never held keys in her hand while walking alone at night.