men are pretty set in reality when it comes to their dating options. women however can go on dating apps and easily attain a certain caliber of men casually - but then think the guy or society is the problem because people don't want to commit to them. the problem isn't that people think the grass is always greener yada yada, the problem is that these women chase out of their league and then try to blame someone else for their poor decisions rooted in a delluded perception of themselves.
This is true, and it goes both ways (for those who do have surplus "options") If _online everything_ didn't exist in my 20s I probably would've "settled" and been in a good relationship, perhaps married by now. She was a great girl too 😮💨
I’m 66, and been married for almost 37 years, and am the father of three children who are now adults. I’m glad I grew up in a time before swipe left or right. Things were much simpler then. I don’t envy today’s young people in the dating scene.
@@aodh5966 well i blame the suitors for blowing smoke up their ass all theses years! When we have balloon asses being filled because suitors lie and say it looks good instead of it feels good would really help! Be honest!
I hear you and not for nothing i could say the same about men! It's really not about male or female is about truth being authentic and love, not having to sample the world to make a decision! Theses people, if they were to find their soul mate they wouldn't notice because their busy with their suitors male or female, feeding the ego, image pride and just flesh! No morals no standards just got to do me! Sad!
I’m interested in hearing your opinion. It seems to me that Men nowadays are so scared, terrified of being rejected, they just don’t want to try ask a woman out. Was it that way when you were dating? Were men as sensitive as today? Were they so paralyzed by the idea of being rejected? I’ve heard stories from stable, married couples. A man could be rejected a couple of times before his now wife accepted going out with him, it took time for him to win her, and it was ok with him. He would make sure she knew he was serious about pursuing her. Men would not give up or cry because a woman didn’t say yes from the first time.
@@asenat79 I dated numerous women before I settled down with my soulmate. Yes, I believe guys in general are overly sensitive to rejection today. When it happened to me, I felt bad for a while, then moved on. Of course when I was dating there was no social media. Nightclubs were where my friends and I went most of the time to “hook up” so to speak. I’ve found being married so long that if one partner is unwilling to compromise, the chances of long-term success are not good.
She described how the relationship will begin and end. Unmarriageable and waste of time and money and she will call cops every time she is angry or more likely drunk. She will abuse her man
Sounds like she is entitled and does not respect herself. If you are not funny, do not have a sense of humor, are a brokie and cannot afford me, then you don’t deserve me. I am a strong and independent man. Drizzle drizzle I wouldn’t want her to be anywhere near me. Ew. Waste of time. Kings deserve better. Drizzle drizzle. Thank me later
Sounds like she is entitled and does not respect herself. If you are not funny, do not have a sense of humor, are a brokie and cannot afford me, then you don’t deserve me. I am a strong and independent man. Drizzle drizzle I wouldn’t want her to be anywhere near me. Ew. Waste of time. Kings deserve better. Drizzle drizzle. Thank me later
This is exactly what Dr. K spoke about. The real reason why dating someone is hard is because they're always avoiding the red flag of their partner instead of dealing with it. Not everyone is perfect!
Definitely. She has the same attitude that many women have these days, that if you approach them randomly you are a creep. I guarantee you though that if you do that and you are a stud, a celebrity or someone that she knows is rich, then you are definitely not being labelled as a creep. We live in such superficial times.
@@newfie-dean5803You guys speak as if you wouldn't be the most arr0gant and shallow people if you had the same popularity as the so-called 'Chads', don't pretend that you will focus on a womans personality over looks if you had the option to attract any model looking woman you wanted. You'd be just as bad as the women you judge, if not, worse and unforgiving.
I think what she was trying to say was "There's no such thing as perfection, but being with someone imperfect and working with the relationship between you two can be very fulfilling and joyful. Even with some bumps along the road." Knowing when to leave is for example, when you're being abused mentally or physically, when your dreams, values or life goals don't match with your partner (one wants a big family, while the other doesn't want kids at all) or when you feel unhappy all the time in a relationship. TLDR; There are highs and lows in every relationship, and it takes skill and courage to know when and for how long to work those tides, and when it's best to leave the surf.
It was very clear what she said, but guys are so blunt and don't understand things. She said: fight for your relationship, don't give up from the first setback, but if you see it's going nowhere, know your limit and leave.
This is the problem. Yall just wanna jump to conclusions and label someone into a box that you made up in your head based on unreasonable judgement. Everyone is just pointing fingers. She is a human being. So are you. Stop acting like she can't have (what YOU perceive to be) flaws. You have them too. But you wanna make yourself feel less insecure by tearing someone down. Practice loving yourself. It pays off I promise.
@bmb4024 Wouldn't a breakup be less likely to happen? They've been vetted by your friends to make sure their not some weirdo and make sure they are employed and know what's their track record when it comes to relationships. You have better odds than taking your chances with an unknown stranger.
I'm 42 I've never been married or had kids. I'm still holding out hope, but as I get older it becomes less of a reality. I see so many people my age married with kids and a family. I just don't know if it's in my destiny.
The truth - what she really means is “There are just not enough 6 foot tall, rich men with a full head of hair that I can brag to my girlfriends about”
Sounds like she is entitled and does not respect herself. If you are not funny, do not have a sense of humor, are a brokie and cannot afford me, then you don’t deserve me. I am a strong and independent man. Drizzle drizzle I wouldn’t want her to be anywhere near me. Ew. Waste of time. Kings deserve better. Drizzle drizzle. Thank me later
They did this to themselves. She is very lonely and wants a man to love and have a family with but she is programmed to hate men especially if she went to college.
Being approached in person creepy? Interesting, I’d definitely prefer that over everything else. I hope men don’t believe that all women “think” the same.
I agree! If you want to meet people, be open minded and meet them wherever you are. The problem comes in where some guys make a bad name for the rest, not taking no for an answer, or even turning downright nasty when she says she's not interested. THAT'S what makes meeting people scary, but realistically, that happens in any environment. Guys, if you want to turn the tide of these women thinking men are creepy... if you hear a guy actually being creepy, be the better man and tell him to chill.
men know that some women don't mind being approached in public, but the chance of getting a very negative reaction is discouraging enough for a lot of men to not bother trying.
Its definitely not creepy if the person approaching has BASIC SOCIAL SKILLS and comes across polite, considerate and confident. Some ppl are just uncomfortable in social settings period too.
Ah yes, because she surely could have had bad experiences with women as an heterosexual girl. A man would have answered "women". It is sad but normal pointing fingers at others
Yeah but no man ever says that or even actually think. It's always the women. Have you ever actually thought why? It's not about vs it's simply about why can't these women be normal human beings with brains & hearts for once? @@Gabry4777
I'm going to be 40 soon and in my 13 years of married life I can say that love needs to help you to compromise and sacrifice. No one is perfect and you will find red flags even if you not looking for one. But above everything, remembering the good memories help you get through the tough times.
I think humans should just ditch concepts like dating, marriage, and pair bonding. I feel like this world would be a much better place without romance than it is with it. It does seem that nearly all fathers and brothers are hoping that their daughters and sisters never date or get married and remain single for the rest of their lives. Romantic relationships seem like a bad thing since there is a lot of dangers when it comes to them. The overprotective father/brother thing is proof that romantic relationships are a bad thing, and this world would be a much better place without them. If someday that the human race ditches the concept of romance and romantic relationships, and got rid of stuff like dating and marriage, fathers and brothers would be happy about it since they wouldn't ever have to worry about their daughters and sisters ever dating if that ever happened.
@icysnow57cold64 I don't so much think it's a matter of ditching concepts. I think hormones and romantic notions are a biological drive inherent in so many people. That's independent of any consideration of intellectual traits.
Meh, she's a typical representative of a modern young woman: endless online swipings and pointless acquaintances are bad, but she also does not meeting people in real life and not giving her number 'cause that "creepy". She definitely doesn't want you to be boring and slow, but you should carefully consider your every word. You have to work hard on your relationships, but not too hard, because there is always a "better option" on tinder.. So rather it's better to be single for me now.
Being approached in a bar is creepy. Why do you think she’s there? Creep. Certainly not to be approached by you. Don’t do it in a park either, or at a gym, or the mall. Just don’t do it. Why? Because it’s creepy. You may never see this person again and it may be your only shot to get her number but don’t approach her. It’s just too creepy.
This is exactly EVERYTHING WRONG with dating. A woman who is unable to take accountability, has unrealistic expectations and brings nothing to the table. Plus she is confused AF.
Going up to a woman who’s obviously in a bar too, is not creepy- it’s how adults used to TALK & INTRODUCE THEMSELVES. This Young woman has a “know it all attitude “ i think it’s a well adjusted man who’s polite & has the guts to make a conversation with a woman - SHE SHOULD be flattered not insulted”
Soooo instead she thinks it’s BETTER online to be asked for a number by an invisible STRANGER? 🙄🙄🙄 Her meet via a friend of a friend is ZERO guarantee of anything successful! And what if you don’t impose on your “friends” or have a circle ⭕️ of friends. Like MOST today having only a few
Wow unrealistic millennial “woman” comes across as a genius - well SHE thinks she is but she’s not realistic other than the online - too many choices RUINING people
I’m 28 already and can’t find any true love or anyone good for my life at all. How depressing it is. I don’t even have any friends. Only ones I talk to very rarely. It’s very lonely.
Try being 40 and in that situation because most of your judgemental peers are married or they're too picky. Only "friend" I have is this one dude who friendzoned me years ago and who is autistic and very socially not nice.
My mom was a virgin when she met my dad....50 yrs married they never once cursed or really ever got mad at each other....mom was model for House of Dior in the 1950's Sweetest person I ever knew. RIP mom and pop
My parents got married when she was 16 and he was 20, in 1960, and she had to divorce her current husband at 16 to marry my dad, and SHE asked him out three times before my dad said yes. Women used to know exactly what they wanted and would WORK to make that happen, women today are lazy. My mom saw what she wanted and made it happen, take notes women. You can be in charge if you choose to, you just USED TO BE great at making what you want look like what men want! You lost that skill, you never learned Seduction, older women neglected to teach you.
@@RobertMorgan so true......My mom never fought with my father they had respect for each other...both Christian but a sense of morality of life. Feminism has taught women you need to be tough. My mom was the epitome of feminine. When she wanted something important from my father and he didn't agree with it she just pouted and told him it was really important for her...my dad would get all huffy....but he never turned her down. She in turn never used it to manipulate him......I thought as a child thats how it goes....when I went out into the world dating, I realised we aren't in Kansas anymore toto. Throughout history men have gone to war for women built magnificent palaces for women and created great wealth for women....yet you cant get your husband to vacuum living room....there is something wrong with this modern women.
It sounds like monogamy is not for her and she just wants to get plowed a lot. Which is great, but she shouldn't be surprised if she then finds herself on the wrong side of 35 and doesn't have a husband. Which may not be a concern for her now, and that's totally cool too. Although as someone married on the wrong side of 35 myself, I have to say I am grateful for the 13 years I have with my lovely wife and our two children.
“ I feel like people don’t want to be in relationship”, she is clearly not talking about some average dude who is actually desperate to get in relationship. I wonder who she is referring to, in that sentence.
There are plenty of guys who don’t really want a relationship they just want someone to take care of them and have sex with them whenever they feel like it. That’s not a relationship.
"Friend of a friend?" Ive been tryin to get my friends to hook me up with their friends for 25 years now!!! Had some successes between 19 and 23 but not at 39!
@@sal2975ideally women talk men into that much younger. Women today are terrible at seduction. It's why they get nothing, real women used to be able to tell men what to do and make them think it was their idea. Modern women are horrible at actual manipulation.
What is so creepy about a guy approaching a girl at the bar thats creepy why is everything considered creepy to women nowadays. if a guy greets you, is that considered creepy to? if a guy approaches you correct and respectfully would that still be considered creepy? What else is a man to do if hes out and about and sees a woman hes attracted to somewhere?
Nobody is meeting future husband or wife material _in a bar 💯._ Why not go for meeting them while shopping for a family member, during a car accident (bittersweet ending 🤔😅😌 🍋 🍫), or bumping into them in the street? Those are more unique/once-in-a-lifetime possibilities than in a dirty, loud, and crime-awaiting place where _nobody_ cares about their *own* livers ☠️🗣️.
I just want to know whats so creepy if a guy approached a girl at a bar or wherever correctly and respectfully I think it all the depends on the approach in my opinion just because a man approaches a girl at a bar doesnt make him creepy men approach women at the bar all the time that doesnt mean he's a creep for doing so that's all I'm saying. It's not about the location your in it's about the interaction you have with someone.
That would be nice if women approached men more frequently but unfortunately that doesnt happen as often as we would like it to. if a man depends on women to approach him first he will be waiting forever for that to happen. a man getting approach by women doesn't happen as easy and as often as for a women to get approach by a man, so when a man sees a woman he likes he gotta take a chance and approach or he may miss out on a good opportunity while it's available or he may miss his chance to talk to you because depending on the situation he doesn't know if he will ever see you again. And as a man we know the chances of a woman approaching us is very slim to none so you could throw that waiting for a girl to approach us first out the window because that is unlikely to happen for the most part. And it's not the approach alone that's creepy it's more so about how he choose to go about approaching you and in what manner he approaches you with.
she's part of the problem going out to a bar or just in general asking a girl out on a ate or getting to know her is not creepy and if they say no then that's okay. but at least give it a try if your interested in dating. its the girls that's the problems being into hookup cultures and wanna play honest men by doing them dirty like we don't want our time waisted and not get catfished
🥺 I don’t know your age, but there are also many lonely females who would like to connect with someone genuine. Try a hobby or let your friends know you would like to connect with someone. I guess if that all fails you could try an app. My friend lost his wife of 30 plus years, and decided to use one. He selected three women, dated each one once to see about chemistry, picked the one of the three he enjoyed the most, and a year later he remarried. It can happen for you. Don’t be too eager, or aggressive. Just let things move naturally…Good luck!
She's contributing to the problem without even realizing it. First off, she's going off a tangent while branding every guy as some sort of braindead idiot and expecting every man to walk up to her in some sort of 'happy' and 'comfortable' setup. This should tell you everything about her level of expectations and toxicity. The worst part? She's not even a prize. Wouldn't turn my head for her on the streets. So many women openly talk about these issues without checking themselves in the mirror first.
It still boils down to whether she finds you "hot" or "ugly"! If she thinks you're hot, it's flirting! If she thinks you're ugly, it's harrassment! 🤣🤣🤣
80 % of women are competing for the top 20% of guys on dating apps, what do you expect the result to be? if average women dated within their means, they wouldn't have that problem but they all want the type of guy who has endless options. women are the gatekeepers of s*x so who is to blame for hookup culture?
I never did hookup or whatever but I don't want a relationship either. I don't think I will have my own children but then if one day I want to, I can still adopt but then I don't think it would be the best for the child to have only 1 parent, idk
I want a relationship but I'm not what the ladies in my city are looking for. You can't negotiate attraction. "But I do this or that or I have this quality or I've got this going for me" none of that matters. Someone either wants you or doesn't and many apparently don't want me in my current state or at all.
She is the problem...😂😂 she doesn't want to take chances. Men have to court you and it won't be with friends of friends all of the time because, loool, she may not be interested😅
@Akshay Upadhye Well exactly. But she is still young, so she feels like she has options. But they will dry up quickly because as us as men age, we learn how to deal with women better and find what we want. She may actually end up lonely and its mad because she is decent looking.
@@FFTsteel this one won't, many with similar think might learn from the comments section here and other similar posts. But 30-40% will still remain and will have to regret
@@Kayash_Kino True. It's a sign of the times. Women like this always think they are special and the rules don't apply. They still need to be able to allow guys to court them. It's there for the ladies to pick up on the signs that can make the guy a great mate. It really isn't that hard. I guess she will be part of the 30-40 year scramble for a decent man.
She'll never know whether the guy at the bar is a great guy because she likely shuts it down before having a chance to find out. Good riddance to her and women who think like her.
Singles biggest problem in modern dating is hard to find the authentic connection especially when they are using the app 😣. In dating, connections really matters otherwise you’ll end up in situationship instead of having a fulfilling relationship.
Divorce is a symptom not a cause. We have to look at the reasons people choose to divorce and see what can be changed there. But even that is an aftermath solution.
100%, most guys have woken up. 2 weeks off paternity leave, working your ass off just to have ends meet, family courts lol, divorce rates etc. become the best version of yourself mentally, physically and financially. The rest follows you
It’s the place. Guys at bars have a slim chance of being seriously interested. Most approach with the intention of hooking-up. It’s like a guy going to a club in LA and thinking the girl he hooked-up with wants a serious relationship just to find out she left in the morning. Where you meet someone can impact the relationship. Not always, but most of the time.
@@tiahnarodriguez3809 I agree the place really impacts. I don’t understand why guys have to be so predatorial. I think the place impacts more on the guys perspective… I would be fine with seriously dating someone I met at the bar if they were the right person.. I’m not a big drinker and I am a freelancer so the chances for me to meet someone at work are slim. I’m also done studying so the bar could be an option for me to meet someone except for guys are predatorial. Most. Innoway, I guess it’s up to us women to show we can be more than a simple hook up . The impression I have is that men always only want a hook up, till we get in their hearts. Suck being single. Also, this woman spits facts
@@BeGioBijoux define predatorial? Women rarely take the initiative so its left up to a guy, and surely a "strong, independent" woman can deal with it if he's proven to be a predator? It takes a lot of courage to walk up to a woman and expose yourself (emotionally), don't confuse opportunities as threats. Have some courage and get to know them.
@@jamesmanoni it is predatorial to use quotes when referring to stron independent women. just like it is predatorial to be married and go to a bar and pretend to be single to pull up women, or to focus only in trying to have sex in stead of estabilishing a meaningful connection to with a woman. but you are clearly not ready to have this coversation. do not fear independent women, try to adapt. you no longer are needed, make an effort to be liked.
@@BeGioBijoux you make absolutely no sense when you say its predatorial to use quotes, its just a dumb excuse to say say I am, and I prefer independant women as they usually know what they want, and as I said have the courage to get to know the person as they may NOT be in a relationship and chatting a girl up at a bar may be the only opportunity they have to meet a woman. This is all in my experience as someone who works alone driving trucks for 12hr days and has little chance to socialize.
Listening to this young woman talk about the "happy medium" between being approached in a bar or meeting online is just so, so sad. I'm probably 15-20 years older than she is, and I remember a time when men and women alike thought it was normal to meet someone who wasn't necessarily in or related to your social circle, when "meeting in a ________" was just one of many dating options. I really feel for Millennials/Gen Z and their issues with relationships, just one of many things that changed post-internet.
Ideally I would like to marry and have children and grow old together Realistically I have trust issues from childhood trauma that I have worked through as best as I can but there will always be this doubt at the back of my mind so I just play it safe
There’s no safe ultimately, we all die in the end. There are no complete certainties; placing trust in something or somebody is always a bit of a gamble. Don’t play it safe till you get old and realise you never dared to live. Oh and best of luck with your healing.
Someone replied sharing their trauma but deleted it. I just want that person to know that I'm sorry for what happened to you and that I'm happy you have a partner who is so caring because loving someone with PTSD can be just as hard sometimes, he's a keeper for sure.x I only added my comment because the lady in the video doesn't mention people with mental health issues who struggle with relationships.
Hard to adopt a partner when you were an adopted child. I've been reminded my whole life, every mirror check, I'm unwanted. No one is choosing me so I hear no different.
As a millennial who has live life before and after technology, this is frustrating. It like I neither fit into that generation nor this generation. I wish I had somebody to fall back to when things get tough, or be a cushion to support them when they have a hard time, and I wish I had somebody willing to navigate life together, but it’s so difficult. The people I meet are either too conservative or wayyyyy too open minded. I don’t fit anywhere. 😢
Having to keep the option to leave in a relationship weakens the foundations. Do your homework before choosing a partner (bars and clubs are worst places to do that) and then commit to make it work. If a dispute arise, take your time before you respond and at times, remain silent and show understanding and then discuss it later when you both are not angry or aggressive. The other half would in his/her sanity realize it sooner and reciprocate with something even better. The problem with relationships today is that people compete rather than manifest, compromise and sacrifice. Strong relationships are build upon the foundations of commitment, unconditional love and sacrifice and not on to split things 50/50 and say a word in response to a word and scream in response to a scream.
One common thing I e noticed amoungtst most of their responses across so many channels is the language of leaving men whereas the man never says leave, but to avoid in the first place. Maybe we should look into to this for a little bit?
Men want to commit, but we only want to commit to a good deal. Not a bad deal. All I see are bad deals, so I remain deal less. If a good deal comes along I'll probably sign it. If that happens. If not, I still win because I'll break the cycle. In the adopted kid of an adopted dad, raised by an adopted dad. I want my own kids or none at all. I'll only have kids with a married wife, or not at all. Either way I win by killing generational trauma.
@@RobertMorgan kid you not, this actually is the reason. Writing a book on it and in youth, when boys approach, it’s usually with a commitment intent. The numbers flip after about 20 or so and I’m trying to look into why.
Listen, lady: "walking up to someone in a bar" is REALLY scary for most guys. That guy walking up to you, knows that he's, statistically, likely about to be rejected in front of EVERYONE. He overcame that fear, because he was that interested in talking to you. You're welcome. "A friend of a friend?" Please. Don't say "online dating is too convenient" and then immediately say "I want my friends to pre-screen dudes for me, and then deliver one." Unreal.
She probably does all the things she's saying people do. She's a cute somewhat young woman; she would/could be in a relationship if she wanted to. She's probably going after/waiting for "mr right" (which really means mr perfect, who doesnt exist). Ultimately she's the one who chooses, hope she figures it out before its too late.
The kind of life where you can do whatever you want to do and spend your money on exactly what you want and go visit the places you want, that life is my true golden standard, I don't think a woman can really compete with that
That's just crap spewed by toxic channels. Do older men oogle hot young actresses? Sure, just like women do over young actors. But quality men who are looking to settle down want to find the right fit as much as women do. When you get mature enough mentally to be open minded, and chuck your "list" of what you want, you find actual love in all types of people/ places.
She's part of the problem in that she said, 'you need to know when to leave'. We want things to be perfect and nothing is. A relationship, any relationship requires work and most people don't want to put in the work. They want to bail at first signs of trouble or turmoil. Life isn't perfect and neither are people. Now I'm not talking about being in an abusive relationship, I'm talking about when life throws things at you or you find out, oh my partner ISN'T perfect. What is being 'too comfortable' mean? Isn't that the goal in a relationship, to be yourself, to be comfortable?
That's depressing that she thinks a guy walking up to her in a bar is creepy and would rather them do it online cause I am assuming lots of women feel the same. She didn't even say they were being creepy other than just approaching a woman and trying to shoot his shot. I mean that's a sad world when just a few years of dating apps can change dating culture and norms so much, damn
Too many people are insufferable. I blame reality TV. Some people watch that shit as if that's how people act in reality and become a toxic mess. Too many people listen to talking heads with no qualifications, speaking on relationship podcasts
She can't describe what's wrong, but she can describe her frustration with the nature of men. This right here, this level of relationship insecurity, where anything you say or do can and will be used against you, to end the relationship you're in, is why I don't want it anymore.
Yessss!! Know when to leave and make that move!! It's a sight fear of mine that someone will hold on just because they are scared to let go rather then because they want the relationship. That benefits no one, don't do it 😂❤ it's a fantastic skill to know when it's time to move on. Hone it.
We have the highest divorce rate of any Country in the World. Men are being taken for everything with child support or alimony. I wouldn't blame them as much as I'd blame the government for making things worst.
I believe the term is called the illusion of options.
It's not good for both sexes to be treating one another like numbers.
men are pretty set in reality when it comes to their dating options. women however can go on dating apps and easily attain a certain caliber of men casually - but then think the guy or society is the problem because people don't want to commit to them.
the problem isn't that people think the grass is always greener yada yada, the problem is that these women chase out of their league and then try to blame someone else for their poor decisions rooted in a delluded perception of themselves.
Yup, The paradox of choice will literally ruin people.
@@luizperez3357100%. It amazes me how women think their dating app experience is any similar to the average man. Female solipcism
This is true, and it goes both ways (for those who do have surplus "options")
If _online everything_ didn't exist in my 20s I probably would've "settled" and been in a good relationship, perhaps married by now. She was a great girl too 😮💨
Its just women projecting their dating lives. The average normie is getting rejected as we speak
I’m 66, and been married for almost 37 years, and am the father of three children who are now adults. I’m glad I grew up in a time before swipe left or right. Things were much simpler then. I don’t envy today’s young people in the dating scene.
The problem is women always have suitors they are entertaining, making women feel like they are way more attractive than they really are
@@aodh5966
well i blame the suitors for blowing smoke up their ass all theses years! When we have balloon asses being filled because suitors lie and say it looks good instead of it feels good would really help! Be honest!
I hear you and not for nothing i could say the same about men! It's really not about male or female is about truth being authentic and love, not having to sample the world to make a decision! Theses people, if they were to find their soul mate they wouldn't notice because their busy with their suitors male or female, feeding the ego, image pride and just flesh! No morals no standards just got to do me! Sad!
I’m interested in hearing your opinion. It seems to me that Men nowadays are so scared, terrified of being rejected, they just don’t want to try ask a woman out. Was it that way when you were dating? Were men as sensitive as today? Were they so paralyzed by the idea of being rejected? I’ve heard stories from stable, married couples. A man could be rejected a couple of times before his now wife accepted going out with him, it took time for him to win her, and it was ok with him. He would make sure she knew he was serious about pursuing her. Men would not give up or cry because a woman didn’t say yes from the first time.
@@asenat79 I dated numerous women before I settled down with my soulmate. Yes, I believe guys in general are overly sensitive to rejection today. When it happened to me, I felt bad for a while, then moved on. Of course when I was dating there was no social media. Nightclubs were where my friends and I went most of the time to “hook up” so to speak. I’ve found being married so long that if one partner is unwilling to compromise, the chances of long-term success are not good.
She needs to take her own advice
She's married, with 4 other boyfriends😮
She described how the relationship will begin and end. Unmarriageable and waste of time and money and she will call cops every time she is angry or more likely drunk. She will abuse her man
Woops she really hurt you hahahaa
@@thesilentknight4554and the husband is gigolo
@@thesilentknight4554She has her pick of divorce rewards
She is EXACTLY what we hate about dating.
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Sounds like she is entitled and does not respect herself. If you are not funny, do not have a sense of humor, are a brokie and cannot afford me, then you don’t deserve me. I am a strong and independent man. Drizzle drizzle
I wouldn’t want her to be anywhere near me. Ew. Waste of time. Kings deserve better. Drizzle drizzle. Thank me later
She says "happy medium" and "just be guys" but doesn't give good or bad examples of either. 💀
"Don't ask me out"
Ok
I'm so sorry
She is a Red Flag.
I'm a Pink Flag
What is pink flag? I am hearing it first time 🤔 @@esmeraldablossom
She’s every flag
if a guy comes up to her in a bar, that's weird? Since when is it creepy to approach in real life? She's creepy
Women are looking for social proof in men..... So a friend of a friend shows that the man is capable of having friends
WTF lol 😂
So their friends should give their approval of them being together...
What can i say, helluva of a start.
Unbelievable!
It's not about red flags. Everyone will always show you red flags. It's about which red flags you are willing to deal with.
Sounds like she is entitled and does not respect herself. If you are not funny, do not have a sense of humor, are a brokie and cannot afford me, then you don’t deserve me. I am a strong and independent man. Drizzle drizzle
I wouldn’t want her to be anywhere near me. Ew. Waste of time. Kings deserve better. Drizzle drizzle. Thank me later
Red flags is just stupid
This is exactly what Dr. K spoke about. The real reason why dating someone is hard is because they're always avoiding the red flag of their partner instead of dealing with it.
Not everyone is perfect!
VVomen just want to date with demigods whilst being not the best of themselves
Yeah, and their tolerance is low, while forgetting they have their own red flags. Guys and girls
The small percentage of men that she finds attractive that she wants dont want to be in a relationship with her. That is what is actually going on.
100%. And as she put it" people don't want to be in a relationship" , yeah CHAD's don't have to commit baby girl.
Definitely. She has the same attitude that many women have these days, that if you approach them randomly you are a creep. I guarantee you though that if you do that and you are a stud, a celebrity or someone that she knows is rich, then you are definitely not being labelled as a creep. We live in such superficial times.
She has 3-4 looks and 8-10 aspirations, a recipe for failure.
Yep. We all just want hot guys. What a shame there isn’t enough of them for us plain janes too (nor them wanting us as gfs).
@@newfie-dean5803You guys speak as if you wouldn't be the most arr0gant and shallow people if you had the same popularity as the so-called 'Chads', don't pretend that you will focus on a womans personality over looks if you had the option to attract any model looking woman you wanted. You'd be just as bad as the women you judge, if not, worse and unforgiving.
Know when to leave. But also try and stay. My brain hurts.
I think what she was trying to say was
"There's no such thing as perfection, but being with someone imperfect and working with the relationship between you two can be very fulfilling and joyful. Even with some bumps along the road."
Knowing when to leave is for example, when you're being abused mentally or physically, when your dreams, values or life goals don't match with your partner (one wants a big family, while the other doesn't want kids at all) or when you feel unhappy all the time in a relationship.
TLDR; There are highs and lows in every relationship, and it takes skill and courage to know when and for how long to work those tides, and when it's best to leave the surf.
It was very clear what she said, but guys are so blunt and don't understand things. She said: fight for your relationship, don't give up from the first setback, but if you see it's going nowhere, know your limit and leave.
It was an incomplete statement, when people do stuff like and they don't explain their selves good. That is a sign of confusion
You have to learn your own standards and limits. It will help with this.
She was pretty clear with that. She means don't leave at the first issue but if things are going bad constantly then leave. Simple
First half, what is the problem
Second half, how she contributes to the problem. 😂
lmao, that’s true😂
100 %
Best comment here !
Hello dear you look attractive to me don't you mind having a chat with me❤
This is the problem. Yall just wanna jump to conclusions and label someone into a box that you made up in your head based on unreasonable judgement. Everyone is just pointing fingers. She is a human being. So are you. Stop acting like she can't have (what YOU perceive to be) flaws. You have them too. But you wanna make yourself feel less insecure by tearing someone down. Practice loving yourself. It pays off I promise.
"Getting approached is creepy"
"Oh ok, so dating Ap-"
"Dating apps are ugh"
😶
She is at a bar....to not meet men.
She seems too spoiled and naggy.
Lol true
What about through a friend of a friend?
@@sal2975it’s not always the most likely and convenient thing especially if a break up happens everything gets awkward
@bmb4024 Wouldn't a breakup be less likely to happen? They've been vetted by your friends to make sure their not some weirdo and make sure they are employed and know what's their track record when it comes to relationships. You have better odds than taking your chances with an unknown stranger.
The dating world is messed up because women think it’s creepy for a guy to ask her for her number at a bar.
Because most of the ones who approach are weird and/or unattractive.
Unfortunately she's very confused
yeah she is a woman, no point in listening to her.
She is a reflection of 98% of American women
Just what i thought
about what
A bit funny that people who didn't understand what she said accuse her of being confused..
I'm 42 I've never been married or had kids. I'm still holding out hope, but as I get older it becomes less of a reality. I see so many people my age married with kids and a family. I just don't know if it's in my destiny.
Focus on your own happiness and be happy with what you got in life! Don’t compare yourself to other people either :.
you man or woman?
Become the best version of yourself mentally, physically and tiny. The rest will follow
@@lex6794 you live alone or with family? Parents? If you don't mind me asking.
@@pokemanlacayou missed his point! 🙄
I enjoyed how nothing important or substantial or helpful was said in this video.
Contradicting herself in every sentence!
Hello dear you look attractive to me I will love to have a chat with you❤
It pisses me off
Yet they want leadership positions lol.
Women are chaos
Treat them accordingly
With respect, calm, logic
☕️
The truth - what she really means is “There are just not enough 6 foot tall, rich men with a full head of hair that I can brag to my girlfriends about”
Hypergamy at it's finest.
She just LITERALLY proved her own points at last.
People want to connect but have no connection.
People don't have people skills no more.
Yes, it is true. I dont have them and I see a whole bunch of people dont have skills either. It is getting worse every new "generation" .
@@Anson120me tooooo 😭 everyone seems to be looking for the perfect specimen its crazy and i dont even know how to talk to people
Sounds like she is entitled and does not respect herself. If you are not funny, do not have a sense of humor, are a brokie and cannot afford me, then you don’t deserve me. I am a strong and independent man. Drizzle drizzle
I wouldn’t want her to be anywhere near me. Ew. Waste of time. Kings deserve better. Drizzle drizzle. Thank me later
They did this to themselves. She is very lonely and wants a man to love and have a family with but she is programmed to hate men especially if she went to college.
@@PhillipFelix-kw3ziShe's a dickhead, stay clear....
What's wrong with a guy coming to you in a bar? I met my man while i was the one who gave him a smile first on the dancefloor
Most likely depends on how attractive the man is
How does she expect to find a partner if she thinks guys approaching her irl is creepy??
Cuffing girls from the bar is crazy
@@Alice45894 unless the guy is Ed Sheeran
@@robertoguerrero4575 Fr. A bar is real life Tinder.
Being approached in person creepy? Interesting, I’d definitely prefer that over everything else. I hope men don’t believe that all women “think” the same.
I agree! If you want to meet people, be open minded and meet them wherever you are. The problem comes in where some guys make a bad name for the rest, not taking no for an answer, or even turning downright nasty when she says she's not interested. THAT'S what makes meeting people scary, but realistically, that happens in any environment. Guys, if you want to turn the tide of these women thinking men are creepy... if you hear a guy actually being creepy, be the better man and tell him to chill.
men know that some women don't mind being approached in public, but the chance of getting a very negative reaction is discouraging enough for a lot of men to not bother trying.
Its definitely not creepy if the person approaching has BASIC SOCIAL SKILLS and comes across polite, considerate and confident. Some ppl are just uncomfortable in social settings period too.
Damned if you do, damned if you don't
I rather have a guy straight walk up to me and talk to me. It's not creepy. Some people are but the the talking itself.
I love how she wanted to talk shit about all guys but couldn't even give 1 example. It's almost like she's the one talking without thinking.
Ah yes, because she surely could have had bad experiences with women as an heterosexual girl.
A man would have answered "women". It is sad but normal pointing fingers at others
Yeah but no man ever says that or even actually think. It's always the women. Have you ever actually thought why? It's not about vs it's simply about why can't these women be normal human beings with brains & hearts for once? @@Gabry4777
@@Gabry4777perhaps she loves the carpetto?
@@Gabry4777Pointing fingers you say? You mean like you just did?
@@professorplums722 or maybe she is part of the 1/3 of women who had been molested during their lives, who knows
I'm going to be 40 soon and in my 13 years of married life I can say that love needs to help you to compromise and sacrifice. No one is perfect and you will find red flags even if you not looking for one. But above everything, remembering the good memories help you get through the tough times.
I think humans should just ditch concepts like dating, marriage, and pair bonding. I feel like this world would be a much better place without romance than it is with it.
It does seem that nearly all fathers and brothers are hoping that their daughters and sisters never date or get married and remain single for the rest of their lives. Romantic relationships seem like a bad thing since there is a lot of dangers when it comes to them.
The overprotective father/brother thing is proof that romantic relationships are a bad thing, and this world would be a much better place without them.
If someday that the human race ditches the concept of romance and romantic relationships, and got rid of stuff like dating and marriage, fathers and brothers would be happy about it since they wouldn't ever have to worry about their daughters and sisters ever dating if that ever happened.
Tribe was replaced by “the family” ….. what are you going to replace family with ????
I can compromise myself without love
@icysnow57cold64 I don't so much think it's a matter of ditching concepts. I think hormones and romantic notions are a biological drive inherent in so many people. That's independent of any consideration of intellectual traits.
@@aminakhmadi9193Keep on with the compo 👍
“Did you think about what you just said or think for 2 sec?”
*The double standards*
like shes scolding her teen .
while also being a child pretending to be a adult.
Must be nice that you have options 😅
Same, I never had actual options(women already showing interest in me/sliding into my DMs, etc) in college 😂
But they don't even like their options.
she was making sense until the last 30 seconds
she’s exactly the type of people who give u confusing moments 24/7 whenever she opens her mouth, now imagine dating her 💀
@Martina *women
@Martina like when women say they'd rather have a man that shows vulnerability but their biology says otherwise
@@alwaysseethinglol i guess continue seething.
@Martina nope, just women
you hate guys but you want a guy, confusing. 😒
She's a misindry
Double Standard 😂
Meh, she's a typical representative of a modern young woman: endless online swipings and pointless acquaintances are bad, but she also does not meeting people in real life and not giving her number 'cause that "creepy". She definitely doesn't want you to be boring and slow, but you should carefully consider your every word. You have to work hard on your relationships, but not too hard, because there is always a "better option" on tinder.. So rather it's better to be single for me now.
It's almost like life and living isn't black and white and it's all nuanced. Damn...
Being approached in a bar is creepy. Why do you think she’s there? Creep. Certainly not to be approached by you. Don’t do it in a park either, or at a gym, or the mall. Just don’t do it. Why? Because it’s creepy. You may never see this person again and it may be your only shot to get her number but don’t approach her. It’s just too creepy.
"Give me an example".
"No."
That's all I need to know.
This is exactly EVERYTHING WRONG with dating. A woman who is unable to take accountability, has unrealistic expectations and brings nothing to the table. Plus she is confused AF.
Only immature. They grow up slow.
Women are part of the problem too...
Anything and everything can be creepy these days 🤯
She didnt say its just men that are the problem?
@@lunaobelia1261 I didn't say SHE said it is just men either did I 🤔?
Going up to a woman who’s obviously in a bar too, is not creepy- it’s how adults used to TALK & INTRODUCE THEMSELVES.
This Young woman has a “know it all attitude “ i think it’s a well adjusted man who’s polite & has the guts to make a conversation with a woman - SHE SHOULD be flattered not insulted”
Soooo instead she thinks it’s BETTER online to be asked for a number by an invisible STRANGER? 🙄🙄🙄
Her meet via a friend of a friend is ZERO guarantee of anything successful!
And what if you don’t impose on your “friends” or have a circle ⭕️ of friends. Like MOST today having only a few
Wow unrealistic millennial “woman” comes across as a genius - well SHE thinks she is but she’s not realistic other than the online - too many choices RUINING people
Let them talk... they always tell on themselves.
Funny how that works lol
I’m 28 already and can’t find any true love or anyone good for my life at all. How depressing it is. I don’t even have any friends. Only ones I talk to very rarely. It’s very lonely.
I just got married a few months ago. It's possible. It was hard to find the right guy. I'm sure he's the right one.
@@RubyMVmistress no you didnt
@@RubyMVmistress have you cheated on him already?
@@Cockmonging What? I won't ever cheat on him. We have a daughter. I'm completely loyal to him.
Try being 40 and in that situation because most of your judgemental peers are married or they're too picky. Only "friend" I have is this one dude who friendzoned me years ago and who is autistic and very socially not nice.
yea she's lost 😂
Same here
She’s in purgatory
Lot of cats in her future.🐱🐈🐱
😂😂😂😂
Cats are great
I hope she is allergic.
I am guy and I have 3 cats.
Her: Did u think what you said 2 second ago?
Also her: Messing up and confused everything
My mom was a virgin when she met my dad....50 yrs married they never once cursed or really ever got mad at each other....mom was model for House of Dior in the 1950's Sweetest person I ever knew. RIP mom and pop
Amazing mom ❤ who's name is she ?
Beautiful, we need more real love stories like that to make the world a better place.
My parents got married when she was 16 and he was 20, in 1960, and she had to divorce her current husband at 16 to marry my dad, and SHE asked him out three times before my dad said yes.
Women used to know exactly what they wanted and would WORK to make that happen, women today are lazy.
My mom saw what she wanted and made it happen, take notes women. You can be in charge if you choose to, you just USED TO BE great at making what you want look like what men want!
You lost that skill, you never learned Seduction, older women neglected to teach you.
@@RobertMorgan so true......My mom never fought with my father they had respect for each other...both Christian but a sense of morality of life. Feminism has taught women you need to be tough. My mom was the epitome of feminine. When she wanted something important from my father and he didn't agree with it she just pouted and told him it was really important for her...my dad would get all huffy....but he never turned her down. She in turn never used it to manipulate him......I thought as a child thats how it goes....when I went out into the world dating, I realised we aren't in Kansas anymore toto. Throughout history men have gone to war for women built magnificent palaces for women and created great wealth for women....yet you cant get your husband to vacuum living room....there is something wrong with this modern women.
All I see here is "blah blah I'm the problem but will never admit it blah blah"
What's creepy about someone asking you for your number
because it was ugly guy asking
She doesnt want lower teir men asking for her number. Only the chad she can find in the corners of a dating app. Probably from another country lmao
If he is creepy, if he is attractive then it's fine.
It sounds like monogamy is not for her and she just wants to get plowed a lot. Which is great, but she shouldn't be surprised if she then finds herself on the wrong side of 35 and doesn't have a husband. Which may not be a concern for her now, and that's totally cool too. Although as someone married on the wrong side of 35 myself, I have to say I am grateful for the 13 years I have with my lovely wife and our two children.
Yawn
I'm lucky I realized this when I was like 27ish. Found a wonderful man and I'm going to do my best til the end.
@@RubyMVmistress no you didnt
No, she doesnt want to be plowed either. She has an ideal prototype in her head and will not settle for anything else. So, looking for Mr. perfect!
“ I feel like people don’t want to be in relationship”, she is clearly not talking about some average dude who is actually desperate to get in relationship. I wonder who she is referring to, in that sentence.
about hot guy who f'd her and left
There are plenty of guys who don’t really want a relationship they just want someone to take care of them and have sex with them whenever they feel like it. That’s not a relationship.
She said she feels so anything said after that can be anything. Feelings are not real and are irrational and involuntary.
Women have their own language, vocabulary. Translated, for her, people means girls such as i. Shallow, immature. There you go!
"Friend of a friend?" Ive been tryin to get my friends to hook me up with their friends for 25 years now!!! Had some successes between 19 and 23 but not at 39!
That's because ideally people should already be married with a family by 39.
@sal2975 The problem is I don't want children I just want to date someone who has and wants to share hobbies. I don't wanna let age slow me down
@@sal2975ideally women talk men into that much younger. Women today are terrible at seduction. It's why they get nothing, real women used to be able to tell men what to do and make them think it was their idea. Modern women are horrible at actual manipulation.
I know it too. 41 here.
Yes, just life is far from ideal.
As a 19 year old single male, things are hard at the moment, I really want a girlfriend, but I haven’t found the right one yet
Get your mind right , body right , money right and your fucking good
Been married for 7 years.. people look at my wife and I like we are crazy when we are just holding hands in public
What is so creepy about a guy approaching a girl at the bar thats creepy why is everything considered creepy to women nowadays. if a guy greets you, is that considered creepy to? if a guy approaches you correct and respectfully would that still be considered creepy? What else is a man to do if hes out and about and sees a woman hes attracted to somewhere?
Nobody is meeting future husband or wife material _in a bar 💯._
Why not go for meeting them while shopping for a family member, during a car accident (bittersweet ending 🤔😅😌 🍋 🍫), or bumping into them in the street? Those are more unique/once-in-a-lifetime possibilities than in a dirty, loud, and crime-awaiting place where _nobody_ cares about their *own* livers ☠️🗣️.
I just want to know whats so creepy if a guy approached a girl at a bar or wherever correctly and respectfully I think it all the depends on the approach in my opinion just because a man approaches a girl at a bar doesnt make him creepy men approach women at the bar all the time that doesnt mean he's a creep for doing so that's all I'm saying. It's not about the location your in it's about the interaction you have with someone.
@@nailahdawkinsserious question. Do women really think they live in a lifetime movie?
It's creepy because it's not a man's job to approach. Women have the most to gain from relationships. Naturally, they should approach.
That would be nice if women approached men more frequently but unfortunately that doesnt happen as often as we would like it to. if a man depends on women to approach him first he will be waiting forever for that to happen. a man getting approach by women doesn't happen as easy and as often as for a women to get approach by a man, so when a man sees a woman he likes he gotta take a chance and approach or he may miss out on a good opportunity while it's available or he may miss his chance to talk to you because depending on the situation he doesn't know if he will ever see you again. And as a man we know the chances of a woman approaching us is very slim to none so you could throw that waiting for a girl to approach us first out the window because that is unlikely to happen for the most part. And it's not the approach alone that's creepy it's more so about how he choose to go about approaching you and in what manner he approaches you with.
she's part of the problem going out to a bar or just in general asking a girl out on a ate or getting to know her is not creepy and if they say no then that's okay. but at least give it a try if your interested in dating. its the girls that's the problems being into hookup cultures and wanna play honest men by doing them dirty like we don't want our time waisted and not get catfished
I can see why she is single
Unfortunately its another Programmed ai by the wonder of society
How do you know she is?
“Figure it out”
Hello dear you look attractive to me I will love to have a chat with you❤
"Gotta work 3 times harder than grandpa, for a woman who ain't even 1/3 the caliber of grandma. These women ain't worth it."
Bingo!
im literally so lonely i just want someone for me. Never dated, never had a gf, never kissed, never held hands etc...
🥺 I don’t know your age, but there are also many lonely females who would like to connect with someone genuine. Try a hobby or let your friends know you would like to connect with someone. I guess if that all fails you could try an app. My friend lost his wife of 30 plus years, and decided to use one. He selected three women, dated each one once to see about chemistry, picked the one of the three he enjoyed the most, and a year later he remarried. It can happen for you. Don’t be too eager, or aggressive. Just let things move naturally…Good luck!
Get yourself an escort, bro.
@@longlivedemocracy756 im 23
She's contributing to the problem without even realizing it. First off, she's going off a tangent while branding every guy as some sort of braindead idiot and expecting every man to walk up to her in some sort of 'happy' and 'comfortable' setup. This should tell you everything about her level of expectations and toxicity. The worst part? She's not even a prize.
Wouldn't turn my head for her on the streets.
So many women openly talk about these issues without checking themselves in the mirror first.
The only time she made sense was when she didn't talk at all.
Asking Someone in a bar isn't creepy, its probably the best and safest way these days.
Really?!
I don’t go to bars...lol
The best is getting in a relationship with someone you actually know or, like the woman said, friend of a friend
It still boils down to whether she finds you "hot" or "ugly"! If she thinks you're hot, it's flirting! If she thinks you're ugly, it's harrassment! 🤣🤣🤣
@@mrconfusion87 That's as spot on an assessment of American or Americanized women as I've ever heard.
I agree the attitude is definitely “I don’t want a relationship.” It’s basically hookups period.
80 % of women are competing for the top 20% of guys on dating apps, what do you expect the result to be?
if average women dated within their means, they wouldn't have that problem but they all want the type of guy who has endless options.
women are the gatekeepers of s*x so who is to blame for hookup culture?
well blame the feminism for the hook up culture haha
@@mayofarat7838 I actually agree with you.
I never did hookup or whatever but I don't want a relationship either. I don't think I will have my own children but then if one day I want to, I can still adopt but then I don't think it would be the best for the child to have only 1 parent, idk
I want a relationship but I'm not what the ladies in my city are looking for. You can't negotiate attraction. "But I do this or that or I have this quality or I've got this going for me" none of that matters. Someone either wants you or doesn't and many apparently don't want me in my current state or at all.
She is the problem...😂😂 she doesn't want to take chances. Men have to court you and it won't be with friends of friends all of the time because, loool, she may not be interested😅
Btw same women want better varierty and surprise characteristics 😂
How will this paradox work
@Akshay Upadhye Well exactly. But she is still young, so she feels like she has options. But they will dry up quickly because as us as men age, we learn how to deal with women better and find what we want. She may actually end up lonely and its mad because she is decent looking.
@@FFTsteel this one won't, many with similar think might learn from the comments section here and other similar posts.
But 30-40% will still remain and will have to regret
@@Kayash_Kino True. It's a sign of the times. Women like this always think they are special and the rules don't apply. They still need to be able to allow guys to court them. It's there for the ladies to pick up on the signs that can make the guy a great mate. It really isn't that hard. I guess she will be part of the 30-40 year scramble for a decent man.
I met a great guy at the bar but that is creepy. I need to meet someone through a friend. So corny!
😂😂
She'll never know whether the guy at the bar is a great guy because she likely shuts it down before having a chance to find out. Good riddance to her and women who think like her.
Good thing for all the boys out there:
As long as you have one friend, you will always be the friend of a friend. 😮
Singles biggest problem in modern dating is hard to find the authentic connection especially when they are using the app 😣. In dating, connections really matters otherwise you’ll end up in situationship instead of having a fulfilling relationship.
How are you doing today
Can you give me an example??
…No
This girl is confused
Approaching her in a public place like a bar is creepy?
Jesus, just leave these women alone, fellas.
Divorce and custody laws are the problem and main reason I see.
Divorce is a symptom not a cause. We have to look at the reasons people choose to divorce and see what can be changed there. But even that is an aftermath solution.
Dating isn't the same of marriage
100%, most guys have woken up. 2 weeks off paternity leave, working your ass off just to have ends meet, family courts lol, divorce rates etc. become the best version of yourself mentally, physically and financially. The rest follows you
@@priscillareviews4847 The reason is simple, women are narcissistic and greedy creatures.
What’s wrong with a guy walking up to you at a bar? I would at least value the fact that he has balls and courage to show he is interested..
It’s the place. Guys at bars have a slim chance of being seriously interested. Most approach with the intention of hooking-up. It’s like a guy going to a club in LA and thinking the girl he hooked-up with wants a serious relationship just to find out she left in the morning. Where you meet someone can impact the relationship. Not always, but most of the time.
@@tiahnarodriguez3809 I agree the place really impacts. I don’t understand why guys have to be so predatorial. I think the place impacts more on the guys perspective… I would be fine with seriously dating someone I met at the bar if they were the right person.. I’m not a big drinker and I am a freelancer so the chances for me to meet someone at work are slim. I’m also done studying so the bar could be an option for me to meet someone except for guys are predatorial. Most.
Innoway, I guess it’s up to us women to show we can be more than a simple hook up . The impression I have is that men always only want a hook up, till we get in their hearts.
Suck being single.
Also, this woman spits facts
@@BeGioBijoux define predatorial? Women rarely take the initiative so its left up to a guy, and surely a "strong, independent" woman can deal with it if he's proven to be a predator? It takes a lot of courage to walk up to a woman and expose yourself (emotionally), don't confuse opportunities as threats. Have some courage and get to know them.
@@jamesmanoni it is predatorial to use quotes when referring to stron independent women. just like it is predatorial to be married and go to a bar and pretend to be single to pull up women, or to focus only in trying to have sex in stead of estabilishing a meaningful connection to with a woman. but you are clearly not ready to have this coversation.
do not fear independent women, try to adapt. you no longer are needed, make an effort to be liked.
@@BeGioBijoux you make absolutely no sense when you say its predatorial to use quotes, its just a dumb excuse to say say I am, and I prefer independant women as they usually know what they want, and as I said have the courage to get to know the person as they may NOT be in a relationship and chatting a girl up at a bar may be the only opportunity they have to meet a woman. This is all in my experience as someone who works alone driving trucks for 12hr days and has little chance to socialize.
Everyone has issues. It is just who bothers you the least.
lol so she offered no solution.
When you date you fail 😂 don't worry you can be yourself. By not being yourself....
"AND BECAUSE LAWLESSNESS WILL BE INCREASED, THE LOVE OF MANY WILL GROW COLD" - Mathew 24:12
Listening to this young woman talk about the "happy medium" between being approached in a bar or meeting online is just so, so sad. I'm probably 15-20 years older than she is, and I remember a time when men and women alike thought it was normal to meet someone who wasn't necessarily in or related to your social circle, when "meeting in a ________" was just one of many dating options. I really feel for Millennials/Gen Z and their issues with relationships, just one of many things that changed post-internet.
She is weird, a total headache.
Oh yes, blame men for everything.
Ideally I would like to marry and have children and grow old together
Realistically I have trust issues from childhood trauma that I have worked through as best as I can but there will always be this doubt at the back of my mind so I just play it safe
There’s no safe ultimately, we all die in the end. There are no complete certainties; placing trust in something or somebody is always a bit of a gamble. Don’t play it safe till you get old and realise you never dared to live. Oh and best of luck with your healing.
@@nicolaskoukoutsis8562your first line was unnecessary and irrelevant to the post.
Someone replied sharing their trauma but deleted it. I just want that person to know that I'm sorry for what happened to you and that I'm happy you have a partner who is so caring because loving someone with PTSD can be just as hard sometimes, he's a keeper for sure.x
I only added my comment because the lady in the video doesn't mention people with mental health issues who struggle with relationships.
Hard to adopt a partner when you were an adopted child. I've been reminded my whole life, every mirror check, I'm unwanted.
No one is choosing me so I hear no different.
Average women rejecting average men is what's happening, leaving both frustrated in the end.
As a millennial who has live life before and after technology, this is frustrating. It like I neither fit into that generation nor this generation. I wish I had somebody to fall back to when things get tough, or be a cushion to support them when they have a hard time, and I wish I had somebody willing to navigate life together, but it’s so difficult. The people I meet are either too conservative or wayyyyy too open minded. I don’t fit anywhere. 😢
Having to keep the option to leave in a relationship weakens the foundations. Do your homework before choosing a partner (bars and clubs are worst places to do that) and then commit to make it work. If a dispute arise, take your time before you respond and at times, remain silent and show understanding and then discuss it later when you both are not angry or aggressive. The other half would in his/her sanity realize it sooner and reciprocate with something even better.
The problem with relationships today is that people compete rather than manifest, compromise and sacrifice. Strong relationships are build upon the foundations of commitment, unconditional love and sacrifice and not on to split things 50/50 and say a word in response to a word and scream in response to a scream.
The reason you cannot find love in today's dating world, is that women answer questions by not answering them.
She has countless options, yet is still single. Really telling.
So if a guy walks up to her that’s considered creepy? This generation is delusional.
Not everybody wants to be in a relationship...With Her!!!
She is so creepy.
That ending made me say, "huh?" 😂😂😂😂😂😂
One common thing I e noticed amoungtst most of their responses across so many channels is the language of leaving men whereas the man never says leave, but to avoid in the first place. Maybe we should look into to this for a little bit?
Men want to commit, but we only want to commit to a good deal. Not a bad deal.
All I see are bad deals, so I remain deal less.
If a good deal comes along I'll probably sign it. If that happens. If not, I still win because I'll break the cycle. In the adopted kid of an adopted dad, raised by an adopted dad.
I want my own kids or none at all. I'll only have kids with a married wife, or not at all. Either way I win by killing generational trauma.
@@RobertMorgan kid you not, this actually is the reason. Writing a book on it and in youth, when boys approach, it’s usually with a commitment intent. The numbers flip after about 20 or so and I’m trying to look into why.
I can't relate to this person at all..
“Being guys” gives the same energy as “boys will be boys”, excusing them of accountability
Friend of a friend but nobody has friends
Listen, lady: "walking up to someone in a bar" is REALLY scary for most guys. That guy walking up to you, knows that he's, statistically, likely about to be rejected in front of EVERYONE. He overcame that fear, because he was that interested in talking to you. You're welcome. "A friend of a friend?" Please. Don't say "online dating is too convenient" and then immediately say "I want my friends to pre-screen dudes for me, and then deliver one." Unreal.
She has huge hands. Lol she said meeting a guy at a bar is creepy 😂😂😂😂😂😂
MAN HANDS (Seinfeld)
😂😂😂
No cap, she could smack the crap out of us!😂
She probably does all the things she's saying people do. She's a cute somewhat young woman; she would/could be in a relationship if she wanted to. She's probably going after/waiting for "mr right" (which really means mr perfect, who doesnt exist). Ultimately she's the one who chooses, hope she figures it out before its too late.
This is why I gave up on women entirely. I'm to the point I avoid them.
The kind of life where you can do whatever you want to do and spend your money on exactly what you want and go visit the places you want, that life is my true golden standard, I don't think a woman can really compete with that
Men want younger hotter women
Women want richer taller men
That's just crap spewed by toxic channels. Do older men oogle hot young actresses? Sure, just like women do over young actors. But quality men who are looking to settle down want to find the right fit as much as women do. When you get mature enough mentally to be open minded, and chuck your "list" of what you want, you find actual love in all types of people/ places.
You’re definitely still a teenager
wrong😊😊
She lost me at the end. Sounds like a personal experience that didn't translate when said out loud
People need to learn to just get off the apps and you will eventually meet someone you can vibe with and simply just love eachother
A lot of oxymoron in her statements 😂.
Everything she said made sense until the end. She is the definition of fickle
This woman made a great point that dating apps turn women into children even more than they already are.
She's part of the problem in that she said, 'you need to know when to leave'. We want things to be perfect and nothing is. A relationship, any relationship requires work and most people don't want to put in the work. They want to bail at first signs of trouble or turmoil. Life isn't perfect and neither are people. Now I'm not talking about being in an abusive relationship, I'm talking about when life throws things at you or you find out, oh my partner ISN'T perfect. What is being 'too comfortable' mean? Isn't that the goal in a relationship, to be yourself, to be comfortable?
That's depressing that she thinks a guy walking up to her in a bar is creepy and would rather them do it online cause I am assuming lots of women feel the same. She didn't even say they were being creepy other than just approaching a woman and trying to shoot his shot. I mean that's a sad world when just a few years of dating apps can change dating culture and norms so much, damn
Too many people are insufferable. I blame reality TV. Some people watch that shit as if that's how people act in reality and become a toxic mess. Too many people listen to talking heads with no qualifications, speaking on relationship podcasts
A happy bride just walked behind them, it’s possible ❤
Wow you are very observant. Had to go back and look
She can't describe what's wrong, but she can describe her frustration with the nature of men.
This right here, this level of relationship insecurity, where anything you say or do can and will be used against you, to end the relationship you're in, is why I don't want it anymore.
Yessss!! Know when to leave and make that move!! It's a sight fear of mine that someone will hold on just because they are scared to let go rather then because they want the relationship. That benefits no one, don't do it 😂❤
it's a fantastic skill to know when it's time to move on. Hone it.
Alot of yall are projecting in these comments 👁️👁️
Pretty hard going to project more than the woman in this clip. She contracted her self not once but twice…in less than a minute!!!
We have the highest divorce rate of any Country in the World. Men are being taken for everything with child support or alimony. I wouldn't blame them as much as I'd blame the government for making things worst.