Caesarean Section vs Natural Birth: Our Birth Stories with Jen Chae!
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- Опубліковано 26 вер 2024
- We all hope giving birth goes exactly how we want it to - whether that's with a natural birth, water birth, or even a caesarean section. But that's not always what happens. We brought in our friend and fellow UA-camr Jen Chae ("From Head to Toe") to share what really happened when we gave birth! We got REAL!
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Loved hearing women share positive experiences with c-section, since I feel like c-sections are often much-maligned/pitied by people who haven't had one. I had a scheduled c-section at 39.5 weeks bc my daughter was frank breech and I had partial placenta previa. After the spinal wore off, only needed ibuprofen for a couple days. Got to do skin to skin immediately, milk came in right on time. Came home and did stairs, walks, pooping, no problem. No painful sex or incontinence issues postpartum. If you're scheduled for a c-section, you need not fear or feel less than.
Lauren Potter Agreed! Thanks for sharing.
I feel like sexually I was ready earlier then I thought
I dont want ny tummy cut open ifni have the choice....the scarring ugh
@@akosua8779 Maybe you wont get the chance. The scarring is far prettier than a dead baby. Or a dead you.
@@akosua8779 trust me getting a cesarean scar is far more preferable then a vaginal scar - cesareans (for me anyway) was a way way quicker recovery - and those first steps away from your baby's grave are utterly traumatic
Tearing is more scary to think about than having a Cesarean.
Ooh not for me. I tore in my first birth but it was fine.. no pain at all. C-Section is much scarier to me.
Look up the surgical process... You'll change your mind 🥴.
The three of them look absolutely gorgeous! Can’t believe they actually had babies in the first place
Blerta Bytyqi Being a mom does that to you! Mom=beautiful!
Thank you! ☺️
Well, becoming a mom doesn’t mean you will turn into a dead piece of meat you know...
I don't understand that logic, how does having a child make you any less beautiful?
It's amazing to hear stories about the moms being forgotten about in the US. It's so different than Japan! I just had my first baby in Japan (although I'm American) and after the birth you stay in the hospital for at least 3 days and your doctor comes to check on your recovery before you are released to go home. The nurses also check your healing twice a day! A midwife from your clinic comes to your house to check on you after one week and you come in to the clinic one month postpartum to check on your recovery and the baby. I also could message my doctor at any point if there were problems with recovery.There's so much more aftercare here than in the US!
Wow this makes me feel so so grateful to be giving birth in the UK!! We have a health visitor visit you at home the next day after going home and several more times after that. That is standard. And it's free!
I live in d US Pennsylvania to be specific, I had a c-section. After I went home I got 3 nurse visits at home it was amazing to have such good service. St Mary’s Hospital 😘
In Norway too
I had that here in nc usa
Midwife at home visits are pretty standard after birth in Europe. I had 6, as every woman does here in Slovenia.
Its not free its covered by health care paid for by taxes.
I really appreciate how honest all these women were. People don’t talk about how difficult birth and bringing a baby home is. They also acknowledged how Mama is semi-ignored and all the attention goes to baby, but that’s when mama needs the most support and attention. Great video, so glad you ladies shared😊
I watched Jen's video when it came out, but her story just so resonates with me. It's disgusting how we as the mothers become chopped liver the second we have our babies. I was on hospital bed rest for 30 days before hand and was literally hardly allowed to go to the bathroom alone. It was the worst, but after I gave birth I didn't see a nurse or doctor for 18 hours and then was sent home. Mind you, I was not like in the sticks. I was at the largest birth hospital in Southern California! I also had to go back to urgent care 2 days after and had a D&C 7 weeks later for a retained placenta that my perinatologist left inside! Every time I hear other stories like this I have so much compassion for the mom's this happens to and so much disgust for the state of postpartum healthcare.
Laura's Natural Life So sorry to hear that! I’m glad you’re ok.
There is so little support for moms post-birth here and everyone wonders why post-partum depression is so common.
When I was young I had a family member die from a uterus infection after giving birth. Her husband took her to thier local ER which blow her off and sent her home telling her everything was fine, that she just gave birth and that what was causing her so many issues. The next day her husband took her too the next closest ER that was 45 mins away but by the time he got her there it was too late and she passed away shortly after they got to the ER. the only good thing that come from her death was that a year after her death her 9 year old son was diagnosed with a brain tumor and the family was able to use the money thier got from the first ER for sending her home and killing her to pay for her son's cancer treatment which they would not have been able to pay for otherwises.
you should not have been treated that way. You are a hero and should be treated with the utmost respect (as ALL mothers should be treated).
Sorry to hear you had to go through that ! 😭
Six months after I delivered, while I waited at the OBs office, I came across an article in the cosmo. It was an eye opener. it was an exhaustive list of very common post birth conditions that people don’t talk about or even acknowledge. One of those was pain in the vaginal area post birth and painful sex. I had been suffering from that after birth and sex was torture. My OB was so dismissive of my concerns and told me I just need a glass of wine before sex and thought it was all in my head. Ofcourse I trusted her and believed her and it wasn’t until I read the article that I realized I wasn’t crazy. I started seeing a pelvic health and rehab center. After 5 sessions of trigger point therapy, stretching exercises, I was completely cured!!! I was so disappointed in my OB because honestly, I don’t look for post partum advice in cosmo, heck I don’t even read cosmo. If I hadn’t come across that article, I would have still been in extreme pain
Sara T
Thanks for sharing, Sara. This will help someone.
Glad you came across that cosmo & decided to share your experience here! Hopefully it helps others going through similar situations!
I cried listening to Jen because I also had a vaginal birth and tore. My recovery took about a month so I could feel somewhat “normal” again. Loved hearing your stories ladies!
Mayra Delgado So sorry to hear that! 😭
What is Jen’s lipstick 💄????? Love it!!!!!
My first birth was a nightmare - the second was wonderful! For my second, I stayed home as long as possible because I was worried that medical intervention would cause me to need a c-section again. I had the baby in triage right after I arrived at the hospital and it went perfectly. Best day ever.
AnastasiaRuby I hope this happens to me I had a c section with my second I feel worthless terrible awful angry and sad
Thank you ladies for sharing your birth stories! I just gave birth to my first baby and the whole labor and delivery lasted about 5 hours (vaginal). When I was pregnant, I watched so many birth vlogs and mentally prepared myself for the worst.. i was Terrified of giving birth and pain. I kept telling myself that if I'm lucky I'll have an "average" kind of labor and delivery. However, I was veryy lucky. Felt my water break at 3 am, then started to feel contractions. Got to the hospital in 30 minutes and once they checked me in, then checked me i was already 7 cm dilated. Got epidural at 6 am and waited for my labor to progress and for some other stuff. Doctor told me to start pushing at 7:30 am and by 8:02 my son was out! My recovery also felt like it went pretty smoothly. My son is almost 2 months now! The nurses thought that this was my 2nd or 3rd time giving birth
Love how honest and real this video is! Thank you for sharing ladies! xx
I️ work on a high risk labor and delivery unit in Syracuse NY. It’s a crazy experience for both patient and nurse.. these babies take a lot out of us! Thanks for sharing
Ally Switzer I’m sure it’s a lot of work! I was SO GRATEFUL for the nurses at the hospital. They made everything about my time there better.
Girls start to take 1 teaspoon on olive oil everyday 2 months before your due date. Also, apply oil on your private area everyday 2 monts before your due date as well. Many moms even apply inside. It helps prevent tearing.
Seriously? But isn't olive oil hot I mean it might cause premature delivery or something
Yulia350
I also heard rosehip oil ( applied to your perineum) works for this purpose too.
@@zikrakhan503 room temperature? Not sure about 2 months?
You guys make me feel so seen, not alone, and not judged❤️❤️❤️❤️ thank you 🥹
The after care in Europe is much beter! I live in the Netherlands now and here you get 8 days of a day nurse coming to your home helping with the baby and checking on mom. They will even do laundry if you can't anymore. The midwife comes to your house to check on you also!
Amazing! Here in Sweden we don't have anything like that but it's still way better than America, from what I've heard. :/
Wow! That is amazing. I’m so glad to hear that and hope someday the US will be this progressive.
I love that.
Wow sounds amazing!
Oh my goodness, I am so grateful for your story Jen. I thought I was the only one who had such a terrible afterbirth experience. So many people were telling me just go for a walk, you need to get up and walk around. I couldn't sit, I could only lie on one side. It was rough.It made breastfeeding really difficult onto of it already being super difficult to feed my baby. I didn't heal properly and ended up in the hospital for 4 days because I had an infection, -10 days after giving birth. My experience made me see how much people forget about moms and that sometimes moms need time to heal and theres so much pressure to take care of your baby and you are just expected to have to do it all. When you go into any kind of surgery there is recovery time but for some reason birth doesn't count. Thank you ladies for sharing!
I think for all those expectant mothers out there, remember - the care provider is there for you. YOU call the shots. Be strong, and stand your ground, the care providers cannot do anything legally without your consent.
I think I was really blessed that my nurses were pregnant and nice to me and understood my pain level alot of prayers too
I loved hearing Jen’s story! Thanks fo watching everyone!
Susan Yara I love your outfit ! So comfy but chic 😍😍
I am 4' 11" and 90 pounds soaking wet too. Being too small was one of my greatest fears during my first pregnancy too. I then learned that there is no reason for a healthy woman to be afraid. There are many variations of normal. I had to kids completely naturally without incident 7lbs 14ozs, and 8lbs, 5 oz. So far and I am currently pregnant with my third child. The important thing to remember is that your body is stretchy and pliable especially during pregnancy when the hormone relaxin does its magic and makes your joints and ligaments more flexible. Your tissues soften and your bones separate. Also important to remember that baby has a moveable head! It molds to the shape it needs to be to fit. I psyched myself out so much too before I realized that we were designed to give birth as women perfectly suited even if we are small!! 😉😁
I needed this tonight. I’m 29 weeks and starting to panic about giving birth. I was the girl who passed out while touring the maternity unit last week. Thanks for sharing ladies!
I am so glad you shared your birth stories! I have 6 children; although, I never had a c-section, I did have many good and bad things happen. As a mom, I would do it all over again, to have the beautiful children, I have.
I was blessed to be in the labor and birthing room with my second daughter! It was exciting and stressful, to watch my daughter go through labor was so painful, for me. I would have gladly switched places with her. But, knowing I had gone through the process 6 different times; I was able to calm her down and talk her through some of the anxiety and fear, that she was having. Something else, I am so close to this particular grandchild; I do have 11 other grandchildren, and I don't play favorites with anyone. But, we have this bond, I don't know if it is because I was there during the whole labor, delivery, and her hospital stay; but we are very close.
Thank you for your stories; reminiscing was such a joy, the baby that came from it. ❤❤❤❤
Susan King Wow, 6 children and 11 grandchildren. That's pretty much something I aspire to be able saying (so far I'm 30 with two little ones though, so it's far off :p). And amazing that you got to be there at your grandchild's birth! That must have been such a powerful experience too!
I like to tell other expectant moms picking the right health care provider is really key in having the birth you want. And to not left fear over take you.
previously i got labour pain for 12 hours nd then shifted to opration theater for c section cnt tell u wht i feel omg really great respect for all the mothers after all tht....
yeah I work on a dairy farm and we're still doing checks 2 weeks after a cow gives birth for infections it's so lame that a person gets sent 24hrs after birth home
I want to write here for all those women that are pregnant. Guys, what you hear in this video maybe somebody's story but it doesn't have to be yours! I had a natural unmedicated delivery, contractions for 10 h at home and 2 h labor in the hospital with my sister and a midwife. It was amazing, truly, not amazing like a elegant ball or party or your wedding day, but amazing like you feel GOOD, you feel powerful, you feel soooo satisfied that nothing can compare to it. I'm so glad my daughter and my sister have me in their life to tell them MY story and encourage them to not be scared of birth. And btw I didn't take any softeners and going to the toilet was no problem at all, so that's not a rule either!
natascia8888
I was with you right up to
Glad to read you had a great experience! Sounds like my birth plan that didn’t happen! Haha
Omg the bathroom after a c section made me glad I didn’t have to push. I wanted to die!
I feel you on that!
The medical establishment for birthing is a business! It really is true that doctors treat birthing as an illness while midwives treat it as natural and healthy. I have had an induced, epidural and episiotomy birth with nurses and doctors as well as a completely natural, non- medicated water birth with midwives (still in hospital as it was our preference). My second born was a big baby too: 8lbs, 1oz and 21 1/4 inches tall. My births were not comparable whatsoever!!! Night and day difference. I am 100% in favour of midwifery care.
I don’t think 8lbs 1 oz is big. I was told that, by the book, any baby heavier than 8 lbs 13 oz is considered large and must undergo additional testing.
I decided to go with miswide care
Thanks a lot for this video!
After having a very healthy pregnancy, I recently had an emergency cesarean after 36 hours of the water bag bursting. Nothing prepared me for that ordeal and I was mentally and physically quite broken. But video sharings such as this is very healing!
I really loved hearing these stories. I also think it's important to say that if you do have an ideal birth it's okay to be happy with it and proud. I remember I felt like I was supposed to have a traumatic experience or some kind of crazy story but I have been very fortunate and I had amazing births. I used to feel uncomfortable talking about it with other moms because they always had horror stories, and I didn't want to seem rude. We all end up with our beautiful babies so every birth story is perfect in its own way.
I love listening to your stories and love how open you are, I wish more people were open and honest like you. I am a first time mom and have not had much of a help and was really depressed and scared about the birth plans. But listening to your stories definitely makes me feel less lonely and set my expectations right. Watching your videos are so informative. I definitely feel more informed.
Love your channel, girls!
Anna Kania So glad it all went well! 🤗
Your English is great! I wouldn't even know English isn't your native language had you not said anything!
My sister in law labor was for an hr and push 3 times. In the other hand I was in the hospital for 5 days didn’t eat for 4 days and push for like 3 hrs and had such a bad recovery that it took about 2 months to walk normal and long period and sit on my bottom. Baby also had some medical problem which put more stress on me. So thankful that I feel more normal now and baby is going great. It gets easy day by day.
Girl I feel you. I got induced and finally had my baby 30 hours later (via csection). OMG. never again. I was so hungry that was honestly awful. I'm totally scheduling a csection next time, no vbac for me.
Also avoid pitosin if possible. Lots of you tubers have shared that :)
I tore for my first born but labor was easy his weight was 8lbs 1oz he is now a happy 8 year old. I how ever didnt tore for my second but labor was very hard his weight was 6 lbs 3 oz he came out sunny side up cord wrapped around him 3 times and born blue which was very scary lucky hes doing fine and is happy health 2 month old! Thanks for the up load
Such a great video! You ladies are all amazing! Love you guys and thanks for making this video!
I enjoyed hearing about your birth stories! I loved both my births! I had 2 water births with a midwife (who is actually a friend) at a birth unit next to a hospital. Both were crazy and beautiful! My son was born after 10 hours of labor, started with contractions and ended with about 2 hours of pushing. I was discharged about 24 hours after the birth but we spent another 5 days in hospital because my son had an infection. My daughter was born after 4.5 hours of labor, started with my water breaking and ended with about 3 pushes and she was out. I was discharged on the same day, I gave birth at 7:26 am and we left the hospital at about 4 pm. Both were intense but nothing I could not handle. I did not have any interventions. I did have second degree tearing both times but luckily recovered well. I would not have it any other way!
My vaginal birth was traumatizing . It took me 3 months to heal physically and 6 mo the to heal mentally . I cried everytime when I talked about it . This time I’m pregnant again , I will opt for c section
Had two unmedicated home births. The first one took longer to recover, and the second came out at 10am and by 5pm I was talking to neighbors on my front porch. Such a quick recovery with the second and both natural unmedicated. However, I did not tear with either mainly because midwives are a lot more patient through the pushing process.
Omg. Please go to a birth center because usually a good postnatal follow up is standard. My nurse drove to my HOME to check on me and baby and answered any questions I had. I even got like 2 calls during the next month!
Ugh! I wish you guys made this video before I had my first born! And I wish I had watched sooner. I went through the same thing Susan did. With all the research I had done only a tiny percentage of me was prepared to have a c-section. Now I’m 6 months pregnant with my second 14 months later. Doctors say I could try to do vaginal birth but since I had a c-section a little over a year ago their is a tiny risk of a uterine rupture. And I definitely don’t want that to happen. I had no clue what to do until now. Thank you Sharzad for sharing your story which has now helped me decide! Now I’m going to definitely schedule a c-section. Even with my second pregnancy I’m still learning new things! You guys are awesome! 👍
So Jen from head to toe aside from your doctor and nurse where is your family i.e your mother who can tell you about her experienced on having baby and on how to know if it's you are ok or not? I know our Doctors are the professional but still we fallow our guts when we know something is not right. I'm 40weeks right now expecting my first one and I talk to my mom almost everyday to get some ideas and the good and the bad. But good stories ladies def catch my attention. Def a good video to watch specially for us ladies who is mom and becoming a mom.
This was so great to hear! Very informative for first time moms!
Am so lucky I had my son in the England. I had home visits from the midwife for 6weeks and got checked to make sure I was healing properly.
I love you guys for being so candid ☺
Shahrzad i miss you being on TMV alot gurl so glad that i found this channel..
Hugs for you all 😍
This was my experience. I had a vaginal birth developed a undetected hematoma and I am 19 months postpartum and still trying to heal. I am also currently 36 weeks pregnant. It's so true there is literally no after care for mothers unless the believe you have something seriously wrong. I couldn't sit down with out pain for 9 months.
Thank you ladies for sharing your stories, I having my second child and plan on having a c section and feel better about after watching this videos
I got emotional because you reminded me my first birth. À part from the pain I went through I became very depressed. But I'm happy you shared this with us.
I got induced five days after my due date, was able to get an epidural, and was able to give birth vaginaly. Very grateful for that. I also was cut, so I didn't tear. They did sew me back up, and I ended up popping a stitch, and it got infected.... it sucked so much.
My first birth was vaginal, and it was so fast, traumatic, and unbelievably painful that I had nightmares for months. A year later I was pregnant with my second, and I could not fathom the pain of pushing another baby out, and begged for a c-section. My doctor did not agree to it and I gave birth vaginally again. The second went smoother but if we ever have a third baby I am finding a doctor who will give me an elective c-section. The pain and pressure of a baby ripping it's way out of you is horrific. Third baby scheduled c-section all the way.
Jen is absolutely lovely! Subscribing to her right away! Thank you for introducing us to her!
There was SO much in this video that I would have loved to talk to you about. :) I loved the video! I'm just gonna mention some random things that I started thinking about. :)
The whole going number two after birth was weird for me the second time around (don't really remember the first to be honest). The first time I went to the bathroom after having him was fine. I was so worried, but it was fine. BUT. After that it all went downhill. For weeks I was in so much pain every time. I was on and off of stool softeners and I was constantly worrying about my stomach hurting because I really just couldn't go to the bathroom for days. This was the absolute worst part of recovery for me. Next time I will totally be more prepared. :p
In Sweden everyone pretty much goes to 42 weeks before being induced, unless there's something specific about the pregnancy. Also you can't do an elective c-section here. The doctor has to feel like there is a medical reason to approve it.
Sharzad, you're getting funnier by the day. I just LOVE you. 😍 "Still gained all the weight though." 😂 You kill me!
The Raven's Nest I hear the restroom is the hardest for most! I’m so glad my friends warned me.
I feel like one of the lucky few women that was induced and delivered vaginally. But it wasn’t without issues! I had MAJOR tearing, and the stitches after with no more epidural or pain meds was AWFUL! But I feel so blessed to have not had a c-section. The birthing industry in the US is completely messed up! It’s so sad!
Luv Ur experiences...three birds....oh my god I laughed so.much listening the birth experiences u been through .... truly ....I am going to b a mom soon ....iam seriously lovin it
Sharzad is so funny.
I just found this channels OMG they have just became my favorite you tubers.
Connie Nyapule Thank you so much!
I love the girl in the middle her lipstick is fire
When she said she was hungry and had to push I felt her. Had had my last meal at 4pm on the day and was in hopsital from 7pm on a CTG all night until 1am the next day. By the time my husband sent food for me when I told him I haven't eaten I was in active labour at 2am. The midwife was kind enough to give me water so that helped me buy I honestly pushed through the strength from God there haha, my body had none.
Also, 24 hours was a lot for being discharged. I gave birth at 2:30 am and got discharged before 12pm that same day
Great episode
Omg THANKYOU!!!
im american living in Australia. It is normal here (universal health care) and in the UK for a midwife to be a part of the birth. Ive only seen a midwife this whole time and I have loved it. It is part of the public hospital system. It not that its a hippie eastern thing, I feel like in the states we think the OB knows best but seeing how other countries handle womens health and birth has really opened up my eyes.
I was actually shocked at how painful postpartum wasn't, I had heard all of these horror stories of all these tears and I was sure post partum was going to be worse than labor, but in reality my post partum was painless, literally I had 0 out of 10 pain immediately after birth until I popped a stitch (from not being careful because it was painless) several days later and even with a popped stitched it was only when I peed that it stung and the pain was maybe a 1 or 2 out of 10. I was beyond shocked! Who knew PP could seriously be so painless!
I was in the hospital for 3 days but they didnt monitor me and I'm so grateful they didnt, the hospital stay was actually enjoyable! I had great food I just had brought to me 3 times a day! They checked my blood pressure once a day and that was it.
Such a great group of mamas! I could listen to you three all day! :)
I have given birth to 7 babies by vag. birth including an 11lber and never tore. My next and last birth (this March) is going to be a C-Section because they found I have a Thoracic Aortic Aneurysm. I was given a choice of being frozen and having a forcep/vacuum birth or giving birth by C-Section. C-Section seems safest for baby. I have had three epidural births, four totally pain killer free births and numerous inductions. Pitocin has never given me problems, other then maybe BP issues. Nice to see positive C-Section stories.
My first and second pregnancies were totally opposite. I had 2nd degree tearing with my first and fell in the hospital after having my baby. We switched doctors and hospitals and had a wonderful experience. My doctor was on top of everything and so were the nurses. No tearing with my second. I think there needs to be a big change in how doctors and hospitals treat labor and delivery.
And you women dont exactly seem poor ..yet you (esp Jen) had this shoddy experience (cant imagine what its like for poorer Americans)
Here in France there is an obligatory 4/5 day hospital stay after giving birth.
And not only is there an obligatory ob/gyn follow-up for the mother after a few weeks, but the mother has govt sponsored 'perennial eduation' given by a midwife.
Poorer Americans have it the best. They don’t get a bill in the mail because their babies are born on Medicaid. Fifty percent of babies in America are born on Medicaid (welfare). It is the middle-income Americans who have the worst experience - most get a $7,000+ bill in the mail after birth (after paying insurance premiums all year). And when their baby gets sick they have to determine if it is worth the $150 to bring him to urgent care. If the sickness is at night expect $300-$600 just to walk into the Emergency Room. The poor do not pay anything, and thus, have it the best (they do not have to balance or calculate need vs financial risk).
Jessica Paiva “poorer americans” have it the best? Wow are you actually thinking about what your saying smh...the type of person you are is clear 🤢...there are other expenses besides medical that make it difficult for “poorer” Americans...you sound snotty and the empathy you lack is frightening get it together!
Just watching this I am 4 months pregnant and from day one I was like I want a c-section so I can schedule it a bit better. I am due May 5 my Moms birthday who passed away in 2006 was born May 9 and I would love my daughter to be born the same day but i wouldn’t mind if she is born May 4th either
Omg, idk what crazy, busy hospitals these ladies gave birth in but im glad that wasnt my hospital! Every experience, w all my children i had excellent care from dedicated and compassionate doctors, nurses, other hospital staff. Felt very pampered and always left a long thank u note. Feel sorry for any mom who doesnt get special treatment bcuz we definitely should after all that hard work 😋
Sharzad is a good story teller
You all look gorgeous! I love this series!
Great video!!! Thank you! I can relate most to Jen's story. Postpartum recovery was absolutely horrid.
This so needs more likes 👍👍👍 sharing it x
I suppose I’m tat unicorn mom w/ no issue... I had my kids young, my first at 19 and my labor was fast or faster than most 1st time moms. Went in at 11 pm & delivered 11:45 am I did have an epidural. I only needed 2 stitches with my first. After tat my other two came fairly quickly w/ no real issue to me or them, no tearing, and with each birth the labor & delivery got shorter w/ no complications... they were all vaginal and each kid was about 2 yrs apart. my husband & midwife said I was a natural baby producer. I think it’s my mom’s genetics really she had 14 of us 🤷♀️ The only regret is tat I didn’t know laboring on my back plus getting an epidural wld cuz me to hav lower bac pain to this day. Thank goodness I discover pelvic training exercises which has helped so much!
in canada (quebec), after mom and baby are discharged from the hospital, they get a nurse visit the week after and another one in the second week
How do you girls have sooooo white teeth? What did you do to them? 🤔🤔🤔
Jen, I felt a bit like that when doing IVF. i was feeling like a recipient, all was about the baby and i was just a recipient no one cared about
I had a similar vaginal delivery and I was in pain for about 2 months. Only given Tylenol or advil
In the UK we can be in the hospital for as little as 5 hours after giving birth, I’m 41 weeks today, trying a second sweep tomorrow and if nothing happens I’m being induced Sunday. I’m glad I found this video tho as it has helped settle some thoughts!
How to deal with belly fat after c sec? I had a c sec april 10
Is there any tips for that? Please help😔
You ladies are lovely! Thanks for sharing!
Thank you! This video is perfect.
I feel awful Jen had to suffer and no one had checked up on her! I work in a hospital (not in labor and delivery or a maternity floor) but have known lots of women who have had babies there and they ALWAYS receive a call a couple of days after leaving specifically to check up on mom. In fact that’s how it is on all the floors. You would think all hospitals would take that kind of initiative, but I guess it’s just business 😕
when I had my first baby I was diagnosed with preeclampsia so I was supposed to be induced on a Tuesday. the Sunday before I was supposed to be induced I went to the hospital to get checked becuz i was a first time mom and I felt like I needed to be monitored. I found out I was 2 centimeters dilated I went home and rested. Sunday night I woke up from really sharp pains and we went to the hospital and I was at 3-4 centimeters dilated I cant remember exactly but I stayed over night and they induced me at 6 in the morning Monday. when they started me on pitocin my contractions started hurting really bad really fast and I told my mom I want the epidural already and she suggested I get the pain medicine they offered me first and see if that helps and I slept threw my whole labor my labor was 5 1/2 hrs. I barely remember waking up when the nurses would check how much I dilated. I didn't get an epidural. I was pushing for like 15 mins becuz the nurse that was in the room before the dr kept telling me to not push and she was trying to hold my baby back becuz his head was already out and she didn't want him to be born yet not til the dr arrived and when the dr got to the room he didn't want me to push becuz he didn't want me to tear and I kept pushing. I felt like I needed to push so I pushed. I tore and for me the worse pain I had was when I got stitches. by Wednesday I was getting ready to go home and I was walking around making sure I had everything and the nurse that came in so I can sign papers to leave was so surprised I was walking around. I couldn't breastfeed my baby in the hospital becuz i couldn't get him in a good position to feed becuz i had my IV in my arm I had a blood pressure monitor on the other arm. my baby was bottle feed and once my sister had called the nurses in the front and asked for more formula and they thought she was the adopted mother becuz i was 17 when I had him. I went home Wednesday and Thursday morning my milk had came in and the baby latched on right away and I was balling my eyes out saying I did it I did it and I was so happy. when my sister went back to work she was telling ppl my sister is the boss she made it look so easy. I am currently 10 weeks pregnant with my 2nd baby and I hope this labor and delivery is like my 1st but I'll be happy as long as my baby is here happy and healthy.
I can so relate to this. I also had a really bad tear and didn't get checked by my doctor until 7 weeks after delivery because of a holiday. I went to urgent Care prior to my appointment and was out on antibiotics for an abscess. Now 3 months pp and 3 rounds of antibiotics later I'm facing two surgeries because the OB doctors (I saw 5) failed to recognize the real problem.
Jen that’s so sad that that happened to you. As others have said it is very different in the UK. A midwife will come everyday (if you need them to) after birth and then after 2 weeks you get handed over to the health visitors who come and visit once or twice and then you go and see them whenever you need to. Getting support after the birth is so important. My girl had a tongue tie and was having trouble feeding. I would not have know what to do without a lot of help in that first week. I also got an infection and had to go for an emergency appointment when she was 5 days old, and take antibiotics, so I feel for you. It’s horrible. X
I love your makeup Susan! So pretty!!! ☺️❤️
You guys are soooo beautiful and Thanks for being honest, I’m a mom,”just one daughter” and I never wanted a “natural birth “ I always wanted a c section,” for selfish reasons,”yes, I said it “ don’t attack me moms but I did not want to ruin my vagina.. Nope, and I don’t regret my c section..
I’m 5ft and weighed 112 prior to pregnancy, up until three days ago they didn’t think me delivering would be an issue until they did the ultrasound😅 he’s almost 9lbs and I have very narrow hips and a small frame in general. They’re concerned he would get fractures with his large sized shoulders and abdomen. Soooo they’re planning on taking him Monday for c section. I have some health conditions too that they’ve weighed in. This is my first baby btw💝
24 hours is really enough for "natural" birth! :)
Wow Susan what’s the lipstick that youre wearing? So pretty😍
A new study has shown induction does not increase risk of c section, and in fact may reduce that risk. In addition, although it would be nice for everyone to have a natural labor process, there is also no scientific evidence that suggest waiting to go into natural labor is more beneficial than getting induced at a prespecified time. I opted to get induced on my due date for that reason and I am glad I did. My baby was 7 lb 15 oz and had I waited longer, I probably would have ended up getting a c-section. All this data is new, but I hope you can update y our video to reflect what is recommended from the scientific and medical community. Thanks!
It was true about induction i was that when i when delivered my first daughter its so hard no eating until you deliver you baby and its so hungry i was in labor 6 am until 3 :16 pm only water they give me. First baby was so hard after delivery i couldn’t pee they put tube on my vagy so i can pee , and tgey give me poo softener it was hard and hurt 😢
Thanks for sharing!
I had a lot of goals. I wanted a completely natural, at home, water birth. I had a BAD pregnancy. Was nauseous up until birth, was diagnosed with preeclampsia, so I had to transfer from my midwife to a midwife at a hospital. And because I got diagnosed with preeclampsia, they had to induce me. Which I was NOT happy about. Thankfully, they never gave me pitocin. Instead they gave me this pill, which I had to take every 4 hours, and that gently got my body ready. I was told it could take up to 3 days for me to give birth. But within 24 hrs, my body started to go into harder labor. My incredible nurse massages my back (I had really bad back labor) and while she was doing that, my water broke! Immediately after I went into active labor, and I got to be in a hot tub (they wouldn’t let me do a water birth).
Only after an hr and a half from my water breaking, I gave birth, and only pushed 3 times within 5 min.
Most people say, your first birth will always be the hardest, and super long.
But my labor wasn’t horrible, Super fast, and pushing was also great.
I did have the gas mask though, which I HIGHLY recommend! It takes the pain away while not having to have an epidural!
I've had 2 c sections with a 3rd due Nov 12th. My first was because she was breach. They tried to flip her (without meds) ob used his first and basically tried to move the baby from the outside. My mom said he was pushing so hard he was shaking. It was so uncomfortable I honestly wasn't sure it was worth it. Then they realised she had dropped and he couldn't move her. 🤦 anyway, lol, so after that trama they said they couldn't send me home because they had put to much stress on her. So they had to take her right then. Didn't plan on all that of course. Never went into labor though so that was cool. The recovery wasn't to bad. It was uncomfortable but I drove myself home from the hospital and apparently everyone was shocked by this...it just didn't hurt as much as I thought it would. I also am very use to pain though with always having issues with my periods, having migraines, and back problems. It just didnt bother me anymore than the normal discomforts. I went back to work 2 weeks later. I was a janator at the time and was on my hands and knees my first day back cleaning the floor. No pain meds. Yeah, it wasn't like I felt amazing but it wasn't to bad.
My 2nd was a bit different. It was planned bc they don't do vbacks at my ob. So everything went smooth. However, it was 11 months after my last one...so it didn't seem fully recovered maybe 🤷 (the 2nd was a bit of an accident...lol) so recovery was harder. Getting out of bed was pretty painful. Thank god my baby was a good sleeper. She'd sleep from 7pm to 6am. Her sister not so much...got up every 2 to 3 hours the first year of her life almost every night 😭 anyway, I asked for pain meds that time around and my OB acted like I was a druggy. I went back to school a few days after leaving the hospital. I was lucky, I got to take her to class with me. She was a good baby. But I had to park 3 blocks away from the building and then the elevator was broke of course...so her in the carseat and my bag up 2 floors without pain meds because I did ask for those until my follow up. I thought about skipping school the rest of the week. But i didnt it.
I'm hoping this one is easier. This pregnancy has been a bit difficult. I've lost 30lbs so far and have yet to gain any. I've been very sick. But he's growing fine and my OB isn't to worried because he's fine, lol. I'm not but you know...doesn't really matter, lol. Where my other scars are hurts often and its uncomfortable. So far I'd say the more c sections the harder it gets...or so for me that seems to be the case. This is the last one though.
Good luck and I hope all goes well.
@@HerHealthyHome Thank you ❤
Thank you sooo much for sharing!
Thank u guys!
Omg I was laughing so hard about the fart walk 😂😂😂
22:47 we got a great meme here 😂